I'm halfway through your video, but I couldn't wait to tell you how much I love what you're saying about "self-help" books and programs. These unrealistic messages turn my hope and gratitude into sorrow and loneliness. As my great senator once said, "People tell you to pull yourself by your bootstraps, but first you've got to have the boots!" I'm 68 and living in a senior building. It will never be smooth, but I believe we're here to walk each other home. I first heard that quote from you! ❤
Hello Caroline!!!! I felt the same way until I realized, good advice perhaps isnt good for everybody!!!! We all perhaps should write our own rules... love to you and yours and happy weekend!!! xxoo Susan & Desi
This episode was such a great message. I hope people hear it that need to. Don't read this self-help stuff and take it to heart without being a critical thinker and seeing if it rings true for your life. I worked pretty hard my whole life and put money away, saved for retirement, and tried to prepare for old age when I stopped working. I've always scrimped and saved and cut corners and thrifted. Suddenly, I'm 70 and was let go of my job 2 years ago. And that was fine. I'm fine because I prepared. But the funny thing is, it took me while to wake up and realize I'm retired now. This is it! This is what I saved for and worked for my whole life. It is OK to use the money I scrimped to put away all these years! It is wonderful thing to give yourself permission to enjoy things and spend a little. To get up and plan your day however you want. It is definitely a very different perspective than even 5 years ago. This next decade is mine...and if I'm lucky I might get 2 decades. But, we don't know and I look around and see people's health fail in one way or another. This is it. This is my time now and I'm trying not to waste a day!
My Dad came to live with me (I was a widow) four years before his death at almost 90 years old. One day while we were having breakfast and his British tea I told him what a wonderful Dad he had been to all of his four kids. He remarked how could I thank him? Oh Debbie he said, We were so poor. I told him I had never thought of us as poor. Not ever. He was a door to door milkman for 32 years and in the summers he would take us one at a time on his route. It was so very exciting because we knocked on an unlocked door of his customer and said loud enough to hear "Milkman", then entered and opened the refrigerator, rearranged items and placed the glass milk bottles inside. So exciting! Later he told me that I never felt poor because my wonderful sweet mother sewed everything that we wore, with the exception of undies and socks and bras. He totally knew and was acknowledging the beautiful and valuable gift my mother had. We would giggle as kids and say she was a "sew-aholic" because she spent so many hours happy as a lark in front of her sewing machine.That morning I hoped that I expressed myself clear enough to let my precious Dad know how valuable he was as a man and as a father. Those four years were so great because for the first time in my life I was an "only" child and had all his attention. It's very important for me to remember the past, my most important memories are a gift to me daily at 74 years old. God Bless you, and all your dear subscribers. Love from Debbie and Dexter-Dog 🐕 my sweet tiny rescued Chihuahua 🐶 companion living a quiet crafty life 🏠in southern California. 👍👍🐰🤓💌🙋🧑🦽🙏🐾💞⛵💕🤸🐥❤️
@@debbiechaney6607You are a treasure! You lifted my spirits so much tonight when it was really needed. Your gratitude and loving care for your father and your childhood is such a rarity these days! Thank you for sharing that with us. At 67, I too understand parents who were born in the depression and learned to make do. My dear mom who is still with me at 93 taught me to sew at 12 and I have such fond memories of her making clothing for us. Blessings to you from a fellow southern Californian!
I woke up feeling. Lonely and neglected!! Im 70 and was feeling alittle anxious as well. I drove off and decided i was going to get a pedicure and pamper myself! The massage chair was so relaxing to me as i soaked my feet in warm water! I was happy getting my nails cut and i enjoyed picking out a flashy color. Went back home and put on my new colored rhinestone sandals. And met 20 other church members for lunch out. I felt proud when some noticed my new sandals and polish. I had been depressed and decided getting out of the house was good therapy. Its just little things in life that are precious
I went for a special pamper massage the other day too, to pick up my spirits. I'd like to try doing that more often to take care of myself. Thank you for sharing ❤
Thank you Susan! I honestly don’t think I ever received anything in regards to advice that has helped me, but my mother at 64, while dying from Lymphoma, apologized to me for all the times she put cleaning the house as a higher priority than spending time with my brother and me. I have taken what she said and put it in action. If my daughter wants to go to lunch, I drop everything and go. I do get frustrated at times about not having a picture perfect house and then my mother speaks to me and I remember that in the end, my daughter will remember our laughter, but she will not remember if my floor was waxed.
I agree with Maya Angelo. I suffered with depression, very severe. I tried everything therapy, acupuncture, diet, exercise.....but what brought me out was music. I'm so thankful. I had a great day with my 95 year old dad, he was MY DAD today...not agitated and upset.💜 It was the best day ever. SIMPLE JOYS ARE HOLY.
You are so right Susan regarding Nobody’s Coming. So glad you brought that up. Turning 65 and very dismayed that most all the gurus are teaching about how to be successful and I am so done with that! I have been retired since 58 but still trying to piece it all together. It is not your choice about depression as I know. It is usually for good reason. I was depressed after my 29 year old son died. It was definitely not a choice.
@@mkbrown3902 This makes my heart smile. If depression was a choice, who would choose it? It has been “ suggested” to me by assorted family and friends that I can let go of this affliction. I am not holding on to depression, it is holding on to me.
I once heard this saying… “When you’re happy you enjoy the melody, but when you’re broken you understand the lyrics “ At 66 I now understand the lyrics.
While I believe in being self-aware and reflective, the trap of constantly striving to improve oneself can actually leave us feeling dissatisfied and discontented with who we are. The constant pursuit of self-improvement can lead to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and a lack of self-acceptance. We need balance in all things and that is what I think you so beautifully bring to the proverbial table. Thank you for being you Susan❣️🤗
And, now, neuroscience research proves that writing down the fears, worries, concerns, resentments and then releasing them all to the Divine to Heal, Remove, Manage .. Then spend time in prayer, meditation, quiet, etc. This transforms the worries out of your body and the part of the brain that worries repeatedly which causes the anxiety. This heals the nervous system. 🌺 Peace, Love , Healing
How wonderful to see so many people here who trust the Lord! I too give Him all the praise. I am 82 and without Jesus I would be lost but with Him I am Saved and look forward to seeing Him some day. Thank you Jesus for all you've done.
Jesus makes me stronger everyday. Reading my Bible and prayer journaling has been my help for years and years. Believing that God has a plan for me is the best way I can know that I will be ok no mater what. I don’t and have never read a self help book. I am truly happy. God is so very faithful.
The Lord is my strength too through all the dark and lonely times. I thank Him for those He put into my life too. Our prayers are heard, He listens. He gives us His word to help us get through this life.
Many Christians, it seems to me, are so caught up in the here and now that you would think they plan to stay here forever. They are often bemoaning their circumstances, praying fervently to have better ones. Not accepting that trouble is always going to come, people you love will die, the government will create chaos out of peace, the rain will fall and your basement will flood ; it’s always something. What I so appreciate about your comment to Susan is that you shared a truth about the best way to be at peace and have joy in your life no matter what. Trust God. This world has so many wonderful things to offer. This world has so many ugly , miserable, difficult situations to thrust into our lives. “ This we know, God works for good to those who love him, who are called according to his purpose “ Romans 8:28. There you go! This world is not our final destination. Hold on, it’s going to be a bumpy ride.
Amen. I will soon be 71 and I am not searching for anything. I have lived long enough and know where my strength in life comes from, my Lord and Savior, Jesus. I would not listen to a word Toni Robbins had to say. I am a chronic pain survivor and I practice gratitude each and every day. I am alive despite my pain. I fight every day just to get out of bed each morning. I am content and happy that I am still alive. You are correct, our God is indeed faithful. God bless.
My mother used to say “stand up straight, put your shoulders back and act like you are going somewhere “. Sometimes when I was scared or unsure I remembered this advice and it carried me through ❤
1) Be kind. 2) Courtesy costs nothing. Both were softly spoken to a little girl by her grandmother. She loved me and was the candle 🕯️ of my childhood. Wishing you all a kind week. 💛
Sometimes I feel like I don’t fit in when people talk about how important their relationship was with their grandmothers. Both of mine had passed before I was born. Same with one grandfather. I only knew one and he passed when I was about 6 years old. Since I was divorced in 1996 after 24 years of marriage I was too busy trying to stay afloat-always managed to pay the rent and bills by working 3 jobs. So after being laid off from a job I worked for 7 years I took early retirement 3 years later. Somehow I survived and it took me until I was 70 to finally realize God had always been by my side. He has been my protector and is always there for me through good and bad times. Things have happened that I thought I could never get through but I’m still here:). I am so blessed and thankful everyday. I’m very happy and no longer worry like I used to. I can only hope He will forgive me for taking so long to realize His Love and Grace. It’s something you can’t explain until it happens. Until it’s my time I try to do as much as I can to do good for others. I have met people who were so much worse off than me but always had their faith in our Heavenly Father and many have been so blessed-so blessed I can now understand why🙏🙏👍♥️♥️♥️
I think your grandmother must have known mine because that is exactly the relationship I had with mine. She helped raise me and was such a huge part of my life. I was so lucky to have grown up old school. XXXX
Hi Susan.. the best advice I got is when my first marriage at 19 went astray. The social worker said if I allowed negative behaviors in my spouse by not speaking up, it's like saying, it's okay. I was naive, poor self Esteem and probably a little afraid of him. He was abusive at times. On our 4th anniversary I finally had the guts to say I'm too young to be miserable and you don't seem happy so let's end the marriage. Many lessons I learned from then on.
I had much the same experience as yours. I am grateful for the ability to earn a comfortable living; the courage and resources to leave and start anew; and "lessons learned".
Yes they are and all their lessons lie in front of them just like I remember at my 19 yrs of age....and now I know the meaning of Life. They had very wise answers.
I have listen to both Mel Robbins and Anthony Robbins. I have enjoyed much of it, but I must say at the age of 70, everything sounds different. My memories and much of the past are very precious to me, much like holding gold in my hands.I have watched my mother and father pass away and many that I love pass away. It makes what is valuable to me very different. Thanks for being you!❤
The best advice I've heard is that you can only control you. You have little say in how others are going to react...which also means, don't do things to purposely upset others. But if they are determined to be in a grumpy mood, overly competitive, whatever negative thing they like to hang onto, you can't stop them. Be happy on your own. Blessings to you and Desi from Midas and me.
Mel Robbins & Tony Robbins have their place in this world, as do you with your channel. Take the good & leave the rest behind. Different personalities & delivery of their message that they want to deliver. And different audiences for what is to be delivered that day in the video. And, yes I agree with you that at different stages of our lives we believe & want to hear different messages. One size doesn't fit all!
I am alone.Totally alone. Old friends, family, and recently, my husband, all gone. No kids or grandkids or nieces or nephews. "It takes a long time to grow an old friend." And I am nearly out of time. The "no one is coming" phrase just drums in my mind. While I reach out to others, the opposite isn't forthcoming...I do think adequate money is very important to be able to live decently and keep my pets safe. I can never retire voluntarily...thx for reading, kind strangers.
I, too, have lost 20 people since 2018, all of them tragically. My daughter was brainwashed into hating me by my mother before she died, and she sabotaged my relationship with my father. My mother died a bitter scrooge. I had my father back after that for 4 years before dementia killed him. But, I keep reaching out. I want to be like Susan, raw, real, and carrying on.
I went to a book club at a library with my Mom this week. We had been trying to “get into” this club for weeks and weeks. I could not figure this out, I would ask for the book and they would actually make excuses. So I finally said, put me and my Mom down for book club this week, we will be there and walked off, kind of annoyed. We show up and as people were arriving I began to understand the stall tactics. There were only women in this book club, the oldest was 96 years old, then 94, then 93, then 90, some in the 80’s, some in their 70’s, and I was the youngest at 56 years old. My Mom at 84 years old was in the medium age range! We get our snacks, it began, the first question asked was, who read the book? Not even 1/3 of the club raised their hands. The woman in charge, age 82, talked about the book for about 10 minutes and the rest of the time these women talked with each other while they ate their snacks. I had a 90 year old woman beside me, she tells me her current situation, all about her grandkids, that she does quite well on her own and drove herself there! She tells me, we all drive ourselves, even 96 year old Sylvia, nobody tells us what to do. She asks me what I do for a living and I told her, well right now I am living with my Mother after the death of my Father, I am not sure I am doing much actually, she does quite well on her own. She tells me, well you let her do that and that is important, but the kindest gift is that you are living with her and making sure she is okay, nobody in my family does that for me so bless you because that is an incredible gift for her because I know it brings her peace. I almost cried, most people do not understand my choice to live with my Mother during this part of her life but this incredible 90 year old woman knew immediately. It was the best hour of the week and there wasn’t much book clubbing going on? 😂 We got the book for next month, Book 1 of the Jack Reacher series. 🤔 😂 My Mom and I both had a great time and are going back next month. But I really think the Library was protecting these special women. I get it now. And me and Mom are in the club because they all said, cannot wait to see you next month! 💕
Thank you for sharing your experience at the book club. It really spoke to me. Happy ‘reading’😉as you and your Mom continue attending those special get togethers!
@@sandracox3024 Thank you! The really funny thing was the reason I tried so hard to get us into that book club is because Annie (my Mom) said, you have got to get us in the club for those snacks! 😂 I replied, Annie Mae, you are not starving! She replied, Well, no, but snacks are important. 😂 😂
I love the Hemingway quote. My son owns a business and I wrote it down for him to make me a shirt. "We are all broken, That's how the light gets in". So true and such a beautiful quote. Blessings Little Poet.
When we plant a seed rain seals the soil tight around it until the soil's surface heats up on warm spring days. At it reaches its trigger temperature the seed sprouts quickly and the earth's warmth causes the soil surface to crack. A tiny bit of light and carbon dioxide reaches down past the soil's surface to cause a leaf to be stimulated and then that leaf rises from a tightly folded mass of white sprout to turn to a pale green stem. As that sprout unfolds to produce its first leaf it straightens its spine and lifts the crust of earth weighing 1000 times its weight like a muscular weight lifter, a miracle of life that doesn't stop until it's produced its flower, its fruit, produced its seed, weathered through fall's unpredictability and winter's freeze to scatter its bountiful seed upon the earth for the next generation. Plants are small miracles of life we can watch unfold, if we slow down and watch.
I remember watching Warren Zevon on David Letterman show when he revealed he had lung cancer. Dave asked him what he knew about life and he said he knew we're supposed to enjoy every sandwich.
Some sandwiches CANNOT be enjoyed. There can be a LOT of suffering in this valley of tears. And people can feel powerless to change their circumstances, that there is no way out. But there is. It is God. Talk to Him. Ask Him to prove to you that He loves you. Ask Him every day. The Holy Bible says: "Ask and you shall receive. Seek and you shall find. Knock and it shall be opened unto you."
Wow, I'm 77 and just had heart surgery. You sure nailed it! No one is coming. I am recuperating and have plans for getting outdoors and walking this spring. I can't do yard York so flowers are limited. I try to make inside my home as relaxing and comforting as possible. While there are many things I can't do, I have taken up drawing. I love that it gives me something to do. Just stay active.
Thank you. I was just thinking the same about self-help. I saw something today to answer self-help questions and the questionnaire only went to age 55. This life has been recreated to reject seniors and bow down to young people. I encourage young people to respect and first learn from seniors rather than self-help videos. Thats right Susan, life is short and wisdom comes from those who have lived it.
I listen and watch the Family of the late Suzanne Somers and before she passed away she left us with this: IT'S NOT WHO YOU ARE OR WHAT YOU DO... IT'S ABOUT WHO YOU LOVE AND WHO LOVES YOU!❤
Suzanne was a conundrum. She was very into alternative health and she got about a hundred different shots or vitamin supplements every single day to keep her body in superb functioning capacity and yet she got the vaccine for covid and that's what caused her turbocharged cancer to take her life. Strange she fell for the hype on that. I fell for it but I wasn't as immersed as she in alternative health and too the fear Factor kicked in because that's what they used to manipulate the entire world. She feared dying. I guess it does make sense that she got it because she had a lot of fear in her about growing old and her body not functioning like a 30-year-old which is what she preferred. She definitely had a good run for her money though. Her husband definitely loved her and I think her son grew to love her as well and she had friends I believe, more or less. I actually have a lot of her books and read them but I just don't believe one should always try to be physically like one is 30 years old. Frankly I'm about her age and I looked better than her, without all the shots and all the supplements on a daily basis and all the thousands spent to defy the aging process. . But each to his or her own.
For 20 years I’ve scrapbooked and it’s a craft that celebrates the past and the present. The present, however, becomes the past. I get so much joy remembering the past, raising my kids, helping to raise my stepkids and enjoying every moment with my grandson. Without those photos we would forget so many wonderful moments. The trick is not to get maudlin about what was but to embrace all the wonder. It’s also important to embrace the age you are as that’s something you just can’t change. Each age has its blessings as well as challenges. Enjoy as often as you can (How did I get to be 73? :) )
Susan there aren't enough words and I'm not as good at words as you are to say how much you have helped women and men anyone that listens to your channel I believe everyone knows of the little poet I think I watched you at the beginning You're so knowledgeable that I can't even say the words properly I'm 75 lived with depression anxiety and I am so blessed to have someone like you that helps us more than any Tony Robinson you don't know how much help you are to thousands of human beings that watch your videos that are breathtaking the scenery the thoughts the poetry The pictures the words you say to comfort us May God bless you You care about your family and you also care lovingly about your UA-cam family May God bless you and hold you in his arms and protect you forever all my love❤❤❤❤❤
@@LittlePoetoh God yes Susan I'm a widow I still have severe depression and pretty bad anxiety I don't even leave my house but once every 3 months it sounds like I see my kids all the time but I never see my kids The son that I live with is the only one I see and he gets home late at night from working so hard but other than that sometimes they don't even text me Yes I feel lonely with my children that I would give my life a hundred times over and over for One of my children is in severe incurable disease The oldest one is 57 it never leaves my mind I'm terrified the phone will ring in the middle of the night and that she's back in the hospital and no one can help her and the son that I live with works until he drops I feel so lonely sometimes because I spent my whole life just like you living for my husband and my children nothing mattered about me didn't give a darn about my skin care and all this ridiculous stuff it was just their health and now I don't even get much of a visit but the oldest is so ill that I live in horror Love you Susan dear God I wish I lived close to you I'm positive we could be the best of friends Love you forever I love Natalie so much she's the one that made me halfway famous I had 18 subscribers and oh Carol same thing and you you all have helped this old lady lol really through it God holds a place for you You're an angel in disguise as the song would say Love you
Hello from Ontario Canada Susan and Desi, well another home run , I loved when you touched on the memory of your Grandfather, I like when you discuss different ways of think of life and I so agree when I was 19 to now that I’m am 69 my goals, my hopes and fears have all shifted. Each week you give me food for thought, but at 19 you are looking to the future and at 69 I hope for a future, I hope to see my only son perform in a Broadway Play, to be a grandmother, to stay mentally sound and physically healthy. Susan I love my garden and to touch and work the earth is so rewarding, I use to love clothes and now I love plants and flowers, again we shift, we each are individuals, some days it’s hard to stay happy, I get sad, and have anxiety, but you touch my heart when you said you did it alone and so have I, I’ve started over just like you, we may not be an island, but I like the independence I have accomplished and found, well I’ve gone on long enough, but again I hope you realize how much you are appreciated and love by people you may never meet, thank you and God bless, until next Saturday night, have a beautiful week❤️🇨🇦🇺🇸❤️🍀🌱☘️💐🪴
Aunt Susan thank for discussing important issues with us . Honestly all of us have painful memories or difficult experiences during different stages from our lives . As Arabic lady subscriber to several British and American UA-cam channels. I found out best solution for beating anxiety is considered UA-cam channels as open universities and google is library. Iam always keeping notebooks and pen beside me because Iam not native speaker learn new vocabularies and new information, make friendship with such Wonderful people as you , learning skills benefiting me in my life .
Susan there is a piece of advice that my grandmother gave me once.. If your man has left someone for you he will eventually leave you for someone else!!!! As you mature you realize those are very true words of wisdom
I'm nearly 70 now and have my own personal self help experiences that nobody else has. Self help is an industry I guess, but it's not a one size fits all for sure. Your pale green blouse is beautiful on you!
Children today have grown up with 9/11, school shootings and pure fear. They are in a technology world with all the answers at their fingertips. IMO- I think we had a better childhood yet, children today just can’t understand why I would not trade. ❤
Thank you for this. I am almost 67 and today is the 4 yr anniversary of the loss of my husband of 43 yrs. Also went to watch the demolition of my childhood home on the main street of my small town. SO many memories flooding right now. I am taking Elkart Tolle's course The Power of Now. It's a very old coarse and I had never heard of it. But it is timeless. He is also on UA-cam. Everyone have a wonderful weekend! God Bless!
I subscribe to Eckhart Tolle and read his book The Power of Now years ago! I listened to 3 of talks in succession today bec I needed the wisdom right now! I will be 69 in a couple of weeks and our needs change, don’t they?! Have a good week 👍
I have never been truly alone. All my life (at least since l was six) l knew l was walking with God. The vagaries and trials and tribulations used to get in the way, but in retirement He alwsys seems mere steps away. If l have a problem and need a solution l ask for help and it comes, sometimes in the most unexpected way. Other times He reminds me, you're strong, you're smart...you've got this. Wishing you, Desi, and my fellow commenters a great week. A Samedi.
Hello Susan & Desi! It was great seeing you & Hal. I started watching you right after you adopted Desi. I loved how you decorated your 1 bdrm apt & what you shared. You made plans moved to your 2 bdrm apt even still made banana bread for your old neighbor who had issues felt jilted & was mean. You saved & made plans. You did accomplish a lot & are near your son and his precious family ❤. Tony Robbins came from nothing working as a teen to help his mother started working & giving to others. What he shares isn't going to help me in my 70s except that he says gratefulness & giving to others is key. By the grace of God I'm still here. Am so grateful for life, love and my family. My youngest grandchildren are the age of those girls in college and are working hard. No money is only good to take care of needs but is also needed to help others. I hope we all can be kind, give & be grateful but also turn our hearts to God. If there's an eternity which I believe there is our time here is short; keep looking up and turn your hearts to God. ✝️
The psychological warfare being perpetrated on the global population is OFF THE CHARTS. Being aware of this is the 1st step to contending with the ramifications.
Yes...and in the Bible there is a cure for all your problems...God created you so her knows how and when to fix you ...just trust and believe in him...🙏...😊😊😊❤❤❤
At night I like to open the Holy Bible to where it will fall, and I read from there wherever my eyes fall, and there is always something there. This writing always speaks to my heart. I think a bit on what I read and then turn off the light. Wonderful way to head into sleep!
I’m divorced and have been for 24 years. Luckily I have family, great friends and my dogs. I do have moments of loneliness but it doesn’t last. I foster dogs and keep busy. I love the story of your grandfather. I like it when something triggers memories of family times. ❤
To me, it's "all things in balance"-- 'Living' in the past is not the same thing as Remembering the past. Remembering can be comforting and pleasant; or hurtful and debilitating... depending on the memory that is focused upon. Balance-- always in balance. Don't cease to Remember, but Don't "LIVE" there and Miss the present and the hope of the Future. Just my opinion-- from a 54 year old 😊
My 100-year-old dad died three weeks ago. He loved collecting sayings and words of wisdom. His favorite that he told practically everyone he met was, “Be good to yourself!” He was a very wise man❤️
I'm sorry for your loss. What a Blessing from God to have your Dad for so many years. His words are true. I think I need to start doing that for myself. Very wise words. God Bless You sending you a BIG HUG from West Virginia.
ONE DAY AT A TIME ! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ none of us know what the future holds! Be thankful, be grateful for what you have, and appreciate it and be mindful of it❤
I was 70 in the hospital with a major heart attack, on my 70th birthday! Single and all alone…. It’s been 10 years, and still no soulmates by my side.. yea, no one is coming… but I’m out there trying to experience all that I can.. to speak to others, reaching out..
Thanks for your thoughts. You are so right. For someone who will soon be 80, I think the most important thing is kindness, both giving and receiving. Our world today is so busy and self-absorbing. Just a kind smile from someone in the aisle at Walmart can make your day!
One of your videos showed up in my feed last week. It arrived as a true gift. My 60th birthday was a month ago. I love being 60. I went into the birthday with delight that I have had every experience that I ever wanted. (Yes there is a lovely stack of experiences I didn't want.) But to have lived 60 years on earth. To have had this long of a shot is a joy. As I told friends and family. Everything from here on is extra sprinkles and candles. Your channel radiates that. However, my life is also in relationship transition. It has been for the past couple of years, but it has reached a point where two kids who once were passionate about each other, are now living in separate homes. We keep in touch because we have kids we love. It's been a new road, and not everyday that joyful, get up and go thing. Last night, as I drove home solo, to my house, I had a thought from you about getting up, and going onward. To fill me life with things I am interested in. With that I booked 4 different lunch, brunch meet up days with friends and family. Made arrangements to enjoy Mother's Day with my oldest. This afternoon my neighbor mentioned her chorale group was performing tomorrow. I am planning on doing that. I read a book this morning. I watched this happy video tonight. Right now, your advice is spot on for me. Your beautiful created videos add to your message. Thank you.
In my mid twenties, I asked a man around my age what he thought the meaning of life was and how he thought it related to him. The question stunned him and then resulted in a very interesting conversation and long lasting friendship. He sadly passed away a few years ago, but it’s one of the most memorable conversations I’ve ever had.
When I was in my early 40’s snd my mom was in her late 70’s she said “ they say these are the golden years but there’s nothing golden about them. You are living the golden years so enjoy every minute.” I didn’t really pay attention to what she said. Norton in my early 70’s and I get it. I wish I could tell her.
I loved everything you said Susan ❤ Anyone who deals with depression knows it’s not a mood anyone chooses. Depression is such an awful place to be no one chooses to be depressed! This weeks post is powerful. Love You ❤
They don't gear their programs to over 65 because we are irrelevant, and yet we continue to be the fasestt growing population. But if they acknowledge that, they will have to acknowledge that they too, are aging. Money is overrated, but it pays the rent or mortgage and puts food on the table. I did all the self help stuff in my 30s. I'm too busy making peace with my aging body, my saggy skin, and still feeling relevant as an aging dancer/artist. All while I continue to look for supplemental income and cultivate a relationship with a good friend. I have a master plan at 68. but sometimes it seems overwhelming.
You have made a very good point about aging. Often "it takes one to know one"; and there is a strong fear of aging in the North American culture. If the self-help "experts" have no strong experiences with the elderly, and feel that they need to show themselves as "vibrant, current" , they will not have much practical advice for the elderly. At age 84 and as a former Al -Anon member, I value one of its slogans, which applies to so much in life :"Take what you like, and leave the rest".
One of the best sayings I ever heard was something my friend said to me when I was going through a very painful divorce. She said you aren't GOING to get through this, you ARE getting through this. Something about that rang profound for me that the healing was not off in the future it was something I had already taken some steps on the road to and I just had to continue walking forward to get through it. That was a real comfort to me and something I have brought to mind when I have had other life challenges.
I find comfort & joy watching my old favorite shows like Dallas, Dynasty, Beverly Hills 90210 & Melrose Place, to name a few. I don’t go with the stop looking back & living in the past. It’s s part of my history & actually I think tv shows were better back then compared to today.
I can't remember a particular piece of advice I got when very young. But as a teen my mother started to tell me to not wear my heart on my sleeve when it came to men. And she also told me to never chase after them, but to let them pursue me. I never forgot that and did follow her advice. As far as the past goes, our memories are of the past. Our past made us by living and learning. My favorite music which can make my day is from the music I lived through as a child. Because my parents played Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin etc. Today I just love Sinatra! And the 70's was my music era and those songs take me back to my happy times of youth. I don't live today in the past, but I look fondly on it and I think the past interjects itself into who we are. love Desi's tie!
When I was in my early 50s, my office husband told me it seemed I had found the secret to happiness and he wanted to know what it was. "It's a choice," I said. I just turned 67 last week and it's not that simple anymore. The big losses pile up, health issues rear their ugly heads, and money--not wealth--is an ever-present consideration when you're on a fixed income. It all does come down to love in the end and I find comfort in that. I've had more than my fair share of it and continue to have it. What I really yearn for these days more than happiness is peace of mind. With all that's happening in the world these days, I might have to go live in a cave somewhere to get that. lol
I totally depend on Jesus and my faith, love your show and you are so right , my journey was in 020 and I had emergency surgery amidst Covid and the love of my life for 42 years died of Covid while I was recovering and I had a son and a daughter and after burying him in January , my only son died in April, so you are right I can’t get up and say well I am good today, I am 78 and alone quite a bit so people with self help advise can not tell me anything, thank you so much for your show it does lift me up.
The best advice I was given was by my father: you are no better than anyone else and no one is better than you!! That has stuck with me forever and I have found myself saying it over and over. I’m 70
I'm 76. I've gotten good advice from this site from time to time. This was the 1st video that I felt was so wrong. I find that life really is as happy as one decides it is by choosing to recognize how strong and fearless we can be. Too many of gals in my age group & even younger feel sorry for themselves, fear everything, & give up. I'm not so sure about Tony Robbins, but Mel seems right on with truths that really do fit any age. I believe us "old folks" need to stop looking at what we lost instead of what we have left or even gained. For me, an attitude of gratitude simply works.
The best advise I have ever received was from a woman I worked with. I was 28 and told I needed a hysterectomy and she realized how much it upset me. She gently told me; at any moment in life - this too shall pass! Troubles are temporary and fleeting, before you know it will be behind you. I remind myself of her words when I am feeling troubled and it does help.
I'm 67 and have listened to Mel Robbins for years she's challenged me to travel and to deal with panic attacks , just got back from Texas traveling alone thanks to Mel Robbins. Not sure how much you read or studied her podcasts but most of her self help is free. Don't rule out the professionals they do know what their talking about.
TY. I talk with Jesus every morning before I get out of my bed and ask him to direct my steps throughout the day. He is full of surprises and meets my need for the day. The meaning of life is to allow him to grow me into his likeness. I'm 71, living in a senior complex and having the time of my life. Bless you.
I got some very sage advice from an older lady I worked with many, many years ago; she said to me, “Carol, when you are old and sitting in your rocking chair on your front porch, you won’t look back and think of how beautiful your white sheets looked, or how clean and spotless your home was. You are going to look back and think of all the precious memories you created with your children, friends and family.” That stuck with me and from that point on, I concentrated on making memories instead of worrying about how clean my towels and sheets were and if my sheets were ironed (yes, I’m of the age where our mother’s ironed the sheets and tea towels).
Hi Susan, I enjoyed your video tonight and, as usual, always look forward to a new one. I thought I would post it on Facebook so people who may not be familiar with you might view it. You certainly have added so much to my life and I wanted to share you with other folks who may not have discovered you. I am 83 and you always add so much to my otherwise dull life. I am alone and have been for many years now. I do okay, but I do have my moments of loneliness. You are a lifesaver and someone I look forward to seeing every weekend.
Susan, The color green you are wearing is your color. My mother told me this when I was a teenager - You cannot make all the mistakes yourself, you need to learn from others mistakes. She was a very woman and I miss her every day!!
I always say to young ladies ... " enjoy your youth wisely..... time goes by soooo fast. The person inside is still there.... but the body change..... " hugs to that gangsta from me. Hilda
My father told me "boring is better" when I was a young lady & it made me so mad. I thought he was trying to hold me back in all ways and maybe he was. Today, I like it because I've found that I enjoy many things that might typically be thought of as boring. Additionally, the exciting is fun, but doesn't last & often leaves scarring behind. It's like they say, "there is no free ride". Thanks for being so thoughtful.
Cherish the memories, your grandfather was with you. The memories are our life, they make us who we are. Take "self help" books and people with a grain of salt. Enjoy your week Susan & Desi 🌺
Susan, thank you for much for sharing with us! The best advice I ever heard about life is “to live until you die.” This means to keep doing what you love to do and spend time with others as much as you can. Turn off the TV and computer once in awhile and seek the company of other people. I am 73 and work in a childcare center. I cannot tell you the joy I feel three days a week when I go in and work with the babies and toddlers! Their smiles are genuine when they see me and I am in the moment when I am with them. This keeps me from living too much in the past and getting melancholy. My friend who is older has worked in an animal shelter for many years and it has kept her young, too! Keep giving of yourself while there is breath in your body! My mother , when in hospice, encouraged her aides and nurses daily. She refused to focus on dying but, instead, smiled and had an encouraging word for them! Live and give until you die!
The best advice I ever received...I was young expecting my first child and just moved into a new home. An old gentleman introduced himself and before leaving he said to me, can I give you a piece of advice that I was told as a young Dad? Of course, I was excited to hear it...he said, "no baby is born bad, it's how you love them and raise them that sets their future". I took my job of raising my children a little more seriously that day. My children haven't been perfect but I have been proud to be their mom!!
Hi Susan, l am not afraid of living alone, some of my sisters have told me for years that I should be doing what they do, but like l tell them, l don't need them to tell me what to do, l told my oldest sister, that l am in control of my own life, and like I told her no one should be telling anyone what to do, she was telling me to get on with my life, and that l should be out there and dating again, but I told her it's only been 2 years since I lost my husband, and like l told her, l am happy with my life, the way l want to live my own life, she soon said fine, l have been given life helping from my family, but my oldest brother told them to leave me alone, and he told them she is happy with her life, l have been married 2 times, and I don't want another husband, l hope you Desi have a wonderful new week, hugsssss ❤❤❤
Best advice from Buddhism: Choose a path with heart. Live with compassion. No need for fear. Advice I try to live up to: Go forward fearlessly. Live by my true values and don't be ashamed to love, give, and talk such living up!
My best advice from my Mother when it felt as if my life was so hard, and I might not make it through... She said, "I've been living a long time, been through so many hard times, but Somehow, things always seem to work out, and I am still here." ... My conclusion; ...and indeed she was correct. All things work out somehow. Best advice from my Mother. 🌹 "All things work out for good, to those who are called according to His purpose." Romans 8:28 Amen. God bless your week ahead! Another favorite life advice: "When someone shows you WHO THEY ARE, BELIEVE THEM." -Maya Angelo * I Don't care for her poetry or politics but she was correct on this one matter. *Don't make excuses for them, or give them another chance to be who you want them to be, they NEVER WILL BE THAT PERSON. 💯 "Don't try to change them into who you think they are, THEY ARE NOT!!!"
I'm 61 and I appreciate your message. Those self-help gurus are for young entrepreneurs. I still enjoy listening to them once in awhile, however, I am in a different place in life and I keep that in mind. I have different needs and goals today in contrast to my younger self. I enjoyed this video and your honest conversation.
Hello Susan, you may find this post a bit unexpected coming from "an older than you" guy who is nearing 76 years young! I must say that you're videos are impressively inspiring and so refreshing even for a MAN, who is getting ready to launch himself into a journey of self awareness. Much of what you talk about applies to men as well in that one must first be comfortable in one's own skin, if one is to be successful in seeking out enlightenment. That journey begins in a couple of months. I want to thank you for lifting my spirits and re-igniting the fire, that has up to now, been smouldering, for what seems an eternity. I'll be leaving my home base for what certainly will be a journey of a lifetime. My life changed last Mother's Day, when my wife passed away. Perhaps this is my journey to find answers to questions I continue to struggle with. By the way, I'll be traveling in a home on wheels (solar powered Pro Master high top") that has NO boundaries. My golf clubs and Kayak will accompany me! Take care and keep inspiring. My handle is: "On the Road A Ken".
One piece of advice I received was “you can’t change another person you can only change how you react to them”. That advice helped me deal with difficult personality traits both personally and professionally, and to accept people for who they are as a person.
I couldn't have had a better start to my day than watching this video. For some unknown reason, I woke with 'free-floating' anxiety, then heard Gerry Marsden singing You'll Never Walk Alone and I burst into tears. I was overcome by a sadness I couldn't understand. I'm 73, in good health. I have a cute little home. I have wonderful children and grandchildren, who I see often and who love me and have all inherited the 'family sense of humour' . I have a small group of incredible friends who I know will always be there for me. I even have my own Desi - except she's Daisy. And yet, sometimes I'm hit with a feeling of depression or sadness. Who knows where it's coming from? Sometimes I do, other times it's a complete mystery. One thing I DON'T need is a self help guru spouting slogans like 'it's up to you whether or not you're depressed'. Your video reminded me of that. I drank my morning coffee, snuggled with Daisy and nodded to everything you said - and now I'm feeling much better and will tackle a few things I've been meaning to get done - with a smile on my face. As Gerry sang 'you'll never walk alone'. Enjoy your week! So my advice? 'WALK ON...'
💕‘No one is coming!. Feels like that most the time for me since widowhood . I feel totally alone at 72. I’m not. Just feels like it. Thank you! Finally, sound reason in a generation of ‘pull yourself up by your own bootstraps’ self help nonsense. Thank you💕
I believe it is so important to have the gift of gratitude- even if it is for difficult times......because everything we face is a lesson in the classroom that is our life.
O my little poet my little fingers can’t type fast enough to tell you how spot on you are. I’m so saddened by the once size fits all advice. Especially now when I’m trying to find my way through my 60’s and beyond. Watching your videos turns all that “once size fit all advice” upside down shakes it up and tosses it out the window. You are incredibly tuned in to us over 60 sweeties. I’m slowly accepting my age and you are helping me on my journey. Gods Blessings to you and your family ❤
I listen to you talk, and I get so into what you are saying, just as if I were sitting in church listening to a minister. You draw me in, and I am hanging on every word, listening to your wisdom, and I love it!! I love you so much that I never want time to end, I want your videos to go on for hours. Thank you Susan for giving of yourself, your time, your advice, and your love to us. 🙏❤️
Really good topic today! I enjoyed and agree with your perspective. I’ve been married a long time; we have lived all over the place! Best advice: Bloom where you are planted.
I saw your video on my smart tv. I truly agree regarding motivational speakers or life coaches who are not our contemporaries can offer us advice when they haven’t experienced life as we have. As seniors in our younger years we went through unrequited loves and thought we would die. But, now we laugh and think how foolish to give my heart to someone who doesn’t love me. As seniors we came to several crossroads roads and whatever crossing we chose being good or bad made us stronger. We are sages seasoned with wisdom, prudence and good judgment and have lived life
I am smiling at your video and I remember asking my grandmother why she kept the pictures of the staged models on the picture frames she had bought and not some of the family, she turned around and looked at me and replied "because they are better looking" 🤣🤣haha thank you for your Video dear Susan
O my goodness. Same here about the mint green 💚 blouse. I love it too. I knew i loved your channel and I'm a Thrifter. Love when you show your thrift stores. Love your channel Susan . And absolutely love Desi. Happy Saturday everyone. Moving on down the Road 🎈
I'm halfway through your video, but I couldn't wait to tell you how much I love what you're saying about "self-help" books and programs. These unrealistic messages turn my hope and gratitude into sorrow and loneliness. As my great senator once said, "People tell you to pull yourself by your bootstraps, but first you've got to have the boots!" I'm 68 and living in a senior building. It will never be smooth, but I believe we're here to walk each other home. I first heard that quote from you! ❤
Hello Caroline!!!! I felt the same way until I realized, good advice perhaps isnt good for everybody!!!! We all perhaps should write our own rules... love to you and yours and happy weekend!!! xxoo Susan & Desi
Mam please share Anti aging routine, help me
This episode was such a great message. I hope people hear it that need to. Don't read this self-help stuff and take it to heart without being a critical thinker and seeing if it rings true for your life. I worked pretty hard my whole life and put money away, saved for retirement, and tried to prepare for old age when I stopped working. I've always scrimped and saved and cut corners and thrifted. Suddenly, I'm 70 and was let go of my job 2 years ago. And that was fine. I'm fine because I prepared. But the funny thing is, it took me while to wake up and realize I'm retired now. This is it! This is what I saved for and worked for my whole life. It is OK to use the money I scrimped to put away all these years! It is wonderful thing to give yourself permission to enjoy things and spend a little. To get up and plan your day however you want. It is definitely a very different perspective than even 5 years ago. This next decade is mine...and if I'm lucky I might get 2 decades. But, we don't know and I look around and see people's health fail in one way or another. This is it. This is my time now and I'm trying not to waste a day!
My Dad came to live with me (I was a widow) four years before his death at almost 90 years old. One day while we were having breakfast and his British tea I told him what a wonderful Dad he had been to all of his four kids. He remarked how could I thank him? Oh Debbie he said, We were so poor. I told him I had never thought of us as poor. Not ever. He was a door to door milkman for 32 years and in the summers he would take us one at a time on his route. It was so very exciting because we knocked on an unlocked door of his customer and said loud enough to hear "Milkman", then entered and opened the refrigerator, rearranged items and placed the glass milk bottles inside. So exciting! Later he told me that I never felt poor because my wonderful sweet mother sewed everything that we wore, with the exception of undies and socks and bras. He totally knew and was acknowledging the beautiful and valuable gift my mother had. We would giggle as kids and say she was a "sew-aholic" because she spent so many hours happy as a lark in front of her sewing machine.That morning I hoped that I expressed myself clear enough to let my precious Dad know how valuable he was as a man and as a father. Those four years were so great because for the first time in my life I was an "only" child and had all his attention. It's very important for me to remember the past, my most important memories are a gift to me daily at 74 years old. God Bless you, and all your dear subscribers. Love from Debbie and Dexter-Dog 🐕 my sweet tiny rescued Chihuahua 🐶 companion living a quiet crafty life 🏠in southern California. 👍👍🐰🤓💌🙋🧑🦽🙏🐾💞⛵💕🤸🐥❤️
@@debbiechaney6607You are a treasure! You lifted my spirits so much tonight when it was really needed. Your gratitude and loving care for your father and your childhood is such a rarity these days! Thank you for sharing that with us. At 67, I too understand parents who were born in the depression and learned to make do. My dear mom who is still with me at 93 taught me to sew at 12 and I have such fond memories of her making clothing for us. Blessings to you from a fellow southern Californian!
I woke up feeling. Lonely and neglected!! Im 70 and was feeling alittle anxious as well. I drove off and decided i was going to get a pedicure and pamper myself! The massage chair was so relaxing to me as i soaked my feet in warm water! I was happy getting my nails cut and i enjoyed picking out a flashy color. Went back home and put on my new colored rhinestone sandals. And met 20 other church members for lunch out. I felt proud when some noticed my new sandals and polish. I had been depressed and decided getting out of the house was good therapy. Its just little things in life that are precious
Beautiful Susan!!!
I went for a special pamper massage the other day too, to pick up my spirits. I'd like to try doing that more often to take care of myself. Thank you for sharing ❤
I try to pleased myself by buying flowers, nice perfumes and not to think so much about past ...
Good for you Susan! Bravo girlfriend!
Yes, often it’s the small things in life that bring joy…♥️
Thank you Susan! I honestly don’t think I ever received anything in regards to advice that has helped me, but my mother at 64, while dying from Lymphoma, apologized to me for all the times she put cleaning the house as a higher priority than spending time with my brother and me. I have taken what she said and put it in action. If my daughter wants to go to lunch, I drop everything and go. I do get frustrated at times about not having a picture perfect house and then my mother speaks to me and I remember that in the end, my daughter will remember our laughter, but she will not remember if my floor was waxed.
My mother lived to be 96 years old. She often said "God has always taken care of me".
Amen! Me as well
Amen…me too…and always will…♥️
Amen!!
Your beloved mother was very wise. God has always taken care of me as well, especially during painful times.
I agree with Maya Angelo. I suffered with depression, very severe. I tried everything therapy, acupuncture, diet, exercise.....but what brought me out was music. I'm so thankful. I had a great day with my 95 year old dad, he was MY DAD today...not agitated and upset.💜 It was the best day ever. SIMPLE JOYS ARE HOLY.
You are so right Susan regarding Nobody’s Coming. So glad you brought that up. Turning 65 and very dismayed that most all the gurus are teaching about how to be successful and I am so done with that! I have been retired since 58 but still trying to piece it all together. It is not your choice about depression as I know. It is usually for good reason. I was depressed after my 29 year old son died. It was definitely not a choice.
So grateful you bring up what is revel ant for us older women. Thank you ❤
@@AyaSmith-rb2hp depression definitely is not a choice!
@@mkbrown3902 This makes my heart smile. If depression was a choice, who would choose it? It has been “ suggested” to me by assorted family and friends that I can let go of this affliction. I am not holding on to depression, it is holding on to me.
@@AyaSmith-rb2hpI’m truly sorry for the loss of your son. My son is 39-he’s so good to me. I will pray for him and you🙏♥️
I once heard this saying…
“When you’re happy you enjoy the melody, but when you’re broken you understand the lyrics “ At 66 I now understand the lyrics.
"You will heal again"🕊️💋🙏🕊️💋🕊️🙏💋🕊️🙏
Wow, I'm with you. I understand the lyrics..................................
The words the words…..
While I believe in being self-aware and reflective, the trap of constantly striving to improve oneself can actually leave us feeling dissatisfied and discontented with who we are. The constant pursuit of self-improvement can lead to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and a lack of self-acceptance.
We need balance in all things and that is what I think you so beautifully bring to the proverbial table. Thank you for being you Susan❣️🤗
Yes she does! 😊
Beautifully expressed.
Well said! Thank you!
100% AGREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GOOD VIDEO!!! You nailed this girl! Love your perspective, it’s so relative for the majority of us! Thanks!
This was so needed today. As a 67 year old woman, I'm experiencing this a lot. Thank you for your words❤
I am going through a lot too. I wish you well, I really do. From one struggling to another, I send you the biggest hug.
Give everything to GOD and let Him Handle The Consequences, Im 80 and this is the best thing you will ever do
❤❤❤Truth!🕊
And, now, neuroscience research proves that writing down the fears, worries, concerns, resentments and then releasing them all to the Divine to Heal, Remove, Manage .. Then spend time in prayer, meditation, quiet, etc. This transforms the worries out of your body and the part of the brain that worries repeatedly which causes the anxiety. This heals the nervous system. 🌺 Peace, Love , Healing
He is trustworthy ❤
How wonderful to see so many people here who trust the Lord! I too give Him all the praise.
I am 82 and without Jesus I would be lost but with Him I am Saved and look forward to seeing Him some day. Thank you Jesus for all you've done.
May God bless you dearest
It's wonderful to see in this dark world!!!
Truly our only hope!
Jesus makes me stronger everyday. Reading my Bible and prayer journaling has been my help for years and years. Believing that God has a plan for me is the best way I can know that I will be ok no mater what. I don’t and have never read a self help book. I am truly happy. God is so very faithful.
Amen
The Lord is my strength too through all the dark and lonely times. I thank Him for those He put into my life too. Our prayers are heard, He listens. He gives us His word to help us get through this life.
Amen
Many Christians, it seems to me, are so caught up in the here and now that you would think they plan to stay here forever. They are often bemoaning their circumstances, praying fervently to have better ones. Not accepting that trouble is always going to come, people you love will die, the government will create chaos out of peace, the rain will fall and your basement will flood ; it’s always something. What I so appreciate about your comment to Susan is that you shared a truth about the best way to be at peace and have joy in your life no matter what. Trust God. This world has so many wonderful things to offer. This world has so many ugly , miserable, difficult situations to thrust into our lives. “ This we know, God works for good to those who love him, who are called according to his purpose “ Romans 8:28. There you go! This world is not our final destination. Hold on, it’s going to be a bumpy ride.
Amen. I will soon be 71 and I am not searching for anything. I have lived long enough and know where my strength in life comes from, my Lord and Savior, Jesus. I would not listen to a word Toni Robbins had to say. I am a chronic pain survivor and I practice gratitude each and every day. I am alive despite my pain. I fight every day just to get out of bed each morning. I am content and happy that I am still alive. You are correct, our God is indeed faithful. God bless.
My mother used to say “stand up straight, put your shoulders back and act like you are going somewhere “. Sometimes when I was scared or unsure I remembered this advice and it carried me through ❤
oh gosh, you bring back memories!!!
1) Be kind. 2) Courtesy costs nothing. Both were softly spoken to a little girl by her grandmother. She loved me and was the candle 🕯️ of my childhood. Wishing you all a kind week. 💛
I like how you describe your grandmother. Mine was a 'candle' too. What a nice way to remember. Thank you!
Sometimes I feel like I don’t fit in when people talk about how important their relationship was with their grandmothers. Both of mine had passed before I was born. Same with one grandfather. I only knew one and he passed when I was about 6 years old. Since I was divorced in 1996 after 24 years of marriage I was too busy trying to stay afloat-always managed to pay the rent and bills by working 3 jobs. So after being laid off from a job I worked for 7 years I took early retirement 3 years later. Somehow I survived and it took me until I was 70 to finally realize God had always been by my side. He has been my protector and is always there for me through good and bad times. Things have happened that I thought I could never get through but I’m still here:). I am so blessed and thankful everyday. I’m very happy and no longer worry like I used to. I can only hope He will forgive me for taking so long to realize His Love and Grace. It’s something you can’t explain until it happens. Until it’s my time I try to do as much as I can to do good for others. I have met people who were so much worse off than me but always had their faith in our Heavenly Father and many have been so blessed-so blessed I can now understand why🙏🙏👍♥️♥️♥️
what a beautiful thing to say about your Grandmother.❤
I think your grandmother must have known mine because that is exactly the relationship I had with mine. She helped raise me and was such a huge part of my life. I was so lucky to have grown up old school. XXXX
Hi Susan.. the best advice I got is when my first marriage at 19 went astray. The social worker said if I allowed negative behaviors in my spouse by not speaking up, it's like saying, it's okay. I was naive, poor self Esteem and probably a little afraid of him. He was abusive at times. On our 4th anniversary I finally had the guts to say I'm too young to be miserable and you don't seem happy so let's end the marriage. Many lessons I learned from then on.
I had much the same experience as yours. I am grateful for the ability to earn a comfortable living; the courage and resources to leave and start anew; and "lessons learned".
Those 3 girls are precious & beautiful!! Thank you for sharing them with us!! They are beginning in a very different difficult world!! 🦋🦋
Yes they are and all their lessons lie in front of them just like I remember at my 19 yrs of age....and now I know the meaning of Life. They had very wise answers.
I have listen to both Mel Robbins and Anthony Robbins. I have enjoyed much of it, but I must say at the age of 70, everything sounds different. My memories and much of the past are very precious to me, much like holding gold in my hands.I have watched my mother and father pass away and many that I love pass away. It makes what is valuable to me very different. Thanks for being you!❤
Kindness is free! Give it to others and it will return to you❤️
You brighten up my evening. I enjoy my memories. Have a blessed week.❤
@@susanschuck8124that’s beautiful ❤
The best advice I've heard is that you can only control you. You have little say in how others are going to react...which also means, don't do things to purposely upset others. But if they are determined to be in a grumpy mood, overly competitive, whatever negative thing they like to hang onto, you can't stop them. Be happy on your own. Blessings to you and Desi from Midas and me.
I was impressed to see those young girls not on their cell phones, and happy to engage in a conversation with you about the meaning of life.
Mel Robbins & Tony Robbins have their place in this world, as do you with your channel. Take the good & leave the rest behind. Different personalities & delivery of their message that they want to deliver. And different audiences for what is to be delivered that day in the video. And, yes I agree with you that at different stages of our lives we believe & want to hear different messages. One size doesn't fit all!
I am alone.Totally alone. Old friends, family, and recently, my husband, all gone. No kids or grandkids or nieces or nephews. "It takes a long time to grow an old friend." And I am nearly out of time. The "no one is coming" phrase just drums in my mind. While I reach out to others, the opposite isn't forthcoming...I do think adequate money is very important to be able to live decently and keep my pets safe. I can never retire voluntarily...thx for reading, kind strangers.
God Bless you-💝💝💝🙏🕊⚘️⚘️⚘️
I, too, have lost 20 people since 2018, all of them tragically. My daughter was brainwashed into hating me by my mother before she died, and she sabotaged my relationship with my father. My mother died a bitter scrooge. I had my father back after that for 4 years before dementia killed him. But, I keep reaching out. I want to be like Susan, raw, real, and carrying on.
I went to a book club at a library with my Mom this week. We had been trying to “get into” this club for weeks and weeks. I could not figure this out, I would ask for the book and they would actually make excuses. So I finally said, put me and my Mom down for book club this week, we will be there and walked off, kind of annoyed. We show up and as people were arriving I began to understand the stall tactics. There were only women in this book club, the oldest was 96 years old, then 94, then 93, then 90, some in the 80’s, some in their 70’s, and I was the youngest at 56 years old. My Mom at 84 years old was in the medium age range! We get our snacks, it began, the first question asked was, who read the book? Not even 1/3 of the club raised their hands. The woman in charge, age 82, talked about the book for about 10 minutes and the rest of the time these women talked with each other while they ate their snacks. I had a 90 year old woman beside me, she tells me her current situation, all about her grandkids, that she does quite well on her own and drove herself there! She tells me, we all drive ourselves, even 96 year old Sylvia, nobody tells us what to do. She asks me what I do for a living and I told her, well right now I am living with my Mother after the death of my Father, I am not sure I am doing much actually, she does quite well on her own. She tells me, well you let her do that and that is important, but the kindest gift is that you are living with her and making sure she is okay, nobody in my family does that for me so bless you because that is an incredible gift for her because I know it brings her peace. I almost cried, most people do not understand my choice to live with my Mother during this part of her life but this incredible 90 year old woman knew immediately. It was the best hour of the week and there wasn’t much book clubbing going on? 😂 We got the book for next month, Book 1 of the Jack Reacher series. 🤔 😂 My Mom and I both had a great time and are going back next month. But I really think the Library was protecting these special women. I get it now. And me and Mom are in the club because they all said, cannot wait to see you next month! 💕
This is an awesome story.
@@mtnshelby7059 thank you! It was a pretty awesome hour. Very impactful! 💕
Thank you for sharing your experience at the book club.
It really spoke to me. Happy ‘reading’😉as you and your Mom continue attending those special get togethers!
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Thank you! The really funny thing was the reason I tried so hard to get us into that book club is because Annie (my Mom) said, you have got to get us in the club for those snacks! 😂 I replied, Annie Mae, you are not starving! She replied, Well, no, but snacks are important. 😂 😂
@@terrilabeth
Such a beautiful story! ❤
I love the Hemingway quote. My son owns a business and I wrote it down for him to make me a shirt. "We are all broken, That's how the light gets in". So true and such a beautiful quote. Blessings Little Poet.
When we plant a seed rain seals the soil tight around it until the soil's surface heats up on warm spring days. At it reaches its trigger temperature the seed sprouts quickly and the earth's warmth causes the soil surface to crack. A tiny bit of light and carbon dioxide reaches down past the soil's surface to cause a leaf to be stimulated and then that leaf rises from a tightly folded mass of white sprout to turn to a pale green stem. As that sprout unfolds to produce its first leaf it straightens its spine and lifts the crust of earth weighing 1000 times its weight like a muscular weight lifter, a miracle of life that doesn't stop until it's produced its flower, its fruit, produced its seed, weathered through fall's unpredictability and winter's freeze to scatter its bountiful seed upon the earth for the next generation. Plants are small miracles of life we can watch unfold, if we slow down and watch.
I love that as well. Great thought.
My Dad always said “if you don’t look after yourself…no one else will”.
Smart man!
"Wise words"🤗🤗🤗
I so look forward to Saturday to see you and Desi.
Me too!
I remember watching Warren Zevon on David Letterman show when he revealed he had lung cancer. Dave asked him what he knew about life and he said he knew we're supposed to enjoy every sandwich.
Some sandwiches CANNOT be enjoyed. There can be a LOT of suffering in this valley of tears. And people can feel powerless to change their circumstances, that there is no way out. But there is. It is God. Talk to Him. Ask Him to prove to you that He loves you. Ask Him every day. The Holy Bible says: "Ask and you shall receive. Seek and you shall find. Knock and it shall be opened unto you."
Wow, I'm 77 and just had heart surgery. You sure nailed it! No one is coming. I am recuperating and have plans for getting outdoors and walking this spring. I can't do yard York so flowers are limited. I try to make inside my home as relaxing and comforting as possible. While there are many things I can't do, I have taken up drawing. I love that it gives me something to do. Just stay active.
All the best to you Barbara and God be with you in your healing. You seem on the road to recovery already.
Thank you. I was just thinking the same about self-help. I saw something today to answer self-help questions and the questionnaire only went to age 55. This life has been recreated to reject seniors and bow down to young people. I encourage young people to respect and first learn from seniors rather than self-help videos. Thats right Susan, life is short and wisdom comes from those who have lived it.
That is so insulting that the questionnaire finished at 55! Wow, did its creator really have a Masters or Doctorate degree? Unreal...
“ I do not want to be the richest person in the cemetery” my dad used to say. In other words, enjoy your life and your hard work today
I listen and watch the Family of the late Suzanne Somers and before she passed away she left us with this: IT'S NOT WHO YOU ARE OR WHAT YOU DO...
IT'S ABOUT WHO YOU LOVE AND WHO LOVES YOU!❤
I listen to them too. 💕
Suzanne was a conundrum. She was very into alternative health and she got about a hundred different shots or vitamin supplements every single day to keep her body in superb functioning capacity and yet she got the vaccine for covid and that's what caused her turbocharged cancer to take her life. Strange she fell for the hype on that. I fell for it but I wasn't as immersed as she in alternative health and too the fear Factor kicked in because that's what they used to manipulate the entire world. She feared dying. I guess it does make sense that she got it because she had a lot of fear in her about growing old and her body not functioning like a 30-year-old which is what she preferred.
She definitely had a good run for her money though. Her husband definitely loved her and I think her son grew to love her as well and she had friends I believe, more or less.
I actually have a lot of her books and read them but I just don't believe one should always try to be physically like one is 30 years old. Frankly I'm about her age and I looked better than her, without all the shots and all the supplements on a daily basis and all the thousands spent to defy the aging process. . But each to his or her own.
@@LadyBug1967I didn’t know she had taken the jab. The fall down the stairs took a big toll on her body too.
I watch them as well. We all still miss her so much.
@@LadyBug1967 - Suzanne Somers had had breast cancer way before Covid, so, unless you're her doctor, don't be saying what took her life.
For 20 years I’ve scrapbooked and it’s a craft that celebrates the past and the present. The present, however, becomes the past. I get so much joy remembering the past, raising my kids, helping to raise my stepkids and enjoying every moment with my grandson. Without those photos we would forget so many wonderful moments. The trick is not to get maudlin about what was but to embrace all the wonder. It’s also important to embrace the age you are as that’s something you just can’t change. Each age has its blessings as well as challenges. Enjoy as often as you can (How did I get to be 73? :) )
Susan there aren't enough words and I'm not as good at words as you are to say how much you have helped women and men anyone that listens to your channel I believe everyone knows of the little poet I think I watched you at the beginning You're so knowledgeable that I can't even say the words properly I'm 75 lived with depression anxiety and I am so blessed to have someone like you that helps us more than any Tony Robinson you don't know how much help you are to thousands of human beings that watch your videos that are breathtaking the scenery the thoughts the poetry The pictures the words you say to comfort us May God bless you You care about your family and you also care lovingly about your UA-cam family May God bless you and hold you in his arms and protect you forever all my love❤❤❤❤❤
Love you! Have you ever had that feeling on aniety that makes you suddenly feel alone? Without family or friend?
@@LittlePoetoh God yes Susan I'm a widow I still have severe depression and pretty bad anxiety I don't even leave my house but once every 3 months it sounds like I see my kids all the time but I never see my kids The son that I live with is the only one I see and he gets home late at night from working so hard but other than that sometimes they don't even text me Yes I feel lonely with my children that I would give my life a hundred times over and over for One of my children is in severe incurable disease The oldest one is 57 it never leaves my mind I'm terrified the phone will ring in the middle of the night and that she's back in the hospital and no one can help her and the son that I live with works until he drops I feel so lonely sometimes because I spent my whole life just like you living for my husband and my children nothing mattered about me didn't give a darn about my skin care and all this ridiculous stuff it was just their health and now I don't even get much of a visit but the oldest is so ill that I live in horror Love you Susan dear God I wish I lived close to you I'm positive we could be the best of friends Love you forever I love Natalie so much she's the one that made me halfway famous I had 18 subscribers and oh Carol same thing and you you all have helped this old lady lol really through it God holds a place for you You're an angel in disguise as the song would say Love you
Totally agree! I love Susan and Desi!❤
Hello from Ontario Canada Susan and Desi, well another home run , I loved when you touched on the memory of your Grandfather, I like when you discuss different ways of think of life and I so agree when I was 19 to now that I’m am 69 my goals, my hopes and fears have all shifted. Each week you give me food for thought, but at 19 you are looking to the future and at 69 I hope for a future, I hope to see my only son perform in a Broadway Play, to be a grandmother, to stay mentally sound and physically healthy. Susan I love my garden and to touch and work the earth is so rewarding, I use to love clothes and now I love plants and flowers, again we shift, we each are individuals, some days it’s hard to stay happy, I get sad, and have anxiety, but you touch my heart when you said you did it alone and so have I, I’ve started over just like you, we may not be an island, but I like the independence I have accomplished and found, well I’ve gone on long enough, but again I hope you realize how much you are appreciated and love by people you may never meet, thank you and God bless, until next Saturday night, have a beautiful week❤️🇨🇦🇺🇸❤️🍀🌱☘️💐🪴
You are So Beautiful and You bring Peace. ❤😊
Aunt Susan thank for discussing important issues with us . Honestly all of us have painful memories or difficult experiences during different stages from our lives . As Arabic lady subscriber to several British and American UA-cam channels. I found out best solution for beating anxiety is considered UA-cam channels as open universities and google is library. Iam always keeping notebooks and pen beside me because Iam not native speaker learn new vocabularies and new information, make friendship with such Wonderful people as you , learning skills benefiting me in my life .
Love your upbeat attitude! Isn’t this community wonderful?!😊
You are inspiring. You are wise to be moving your life forward in such a positive way!
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👍
Thank you! I wish you the best possible in your life.
God bless you Khatoon!!!
I’m not afraid of living alone. I want to share my life with someone.
Ann here, don't compare yourself to anyone. You have your own life to walk , just keep walking
Susan there is a piece of advice that my grandmother gave me once..
If your man has left someone for you he will eventually leave you for someone else!!!! As you mature you realize those are very true words of wisdom
Very true
Yes absolutely. Or he marries someone younger to take care of him when he's old!
I'm nearly 70 now and have my own personal self help experiences that nobody else has. Self help is an industry I guess, but it's not a one size fits all for sure. Your pale green blouse is beautiful on you!
Children today have grown up with 9/11, school shootings and pure fear. They are in a technology world with all the answers at their fingertips. IMO- I think we had a better childhood yet, children today just can’t understand why I would not trade. ❤
good points...
Yes you do have good points ❤
But, in the real world, they do not have all the answers. They just think they do!
Come on, people now
Smile on your brother
Everybody get together
Try to love one another right now
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Thank you for this.
I am almost 67 and today is the 4 yr anniversary of the loss of my husband of 43 yrs. Also went to watch the demolition of my childhood home on the main street of my small town. SO many memories flooding right now.
I am taking Elkart Tolle's course The Power of Now. It's a very old coarse and I had never heard of it. But it is timeless. He is also on UA-cam.
Everyone have a wonderful weekend!
God Bless!
I subscribe to Eckhart Tolle and read his book The Power of Now years ago! I listened to 3 of talks in succession today bec I needed the wisdom right now! I will be 69 in a couple of weeks and our needs change, don’t they?! Have a good week 👍
He is a charlatan. If you really want help read God's Word. The Holy Bible.
Eckhart Tolle has enriched my life! ❤ 77 years young here...
He is a false teacher. Be very careful who you listen to! Read, the Bible now that's, the help we all need! 💕💗
Yes, I appreciate Eckhart Tolle and listen to him daily . He is quite funny sometimes which I enjoy. I also pray everyday.
I have never been truly alone. All my life (at least since l was six) l knew l was walking with God. The vagaries and trials and tribulations used to get in the way, but in retirement He alwsys seems mere steps away. If l have a problem and need a solution l ask for help and it comes, sometimes in the most unexpected way. Other times He reminds me, you're strong, you're smart...you've got this. Wishing you, Desi, and my fellow commenters a great week. A Samedi.
Hello Susan & Desi! It was great seeing you & Hal. I started watching you right after you adopted Desi. I loved how you decorated your 1 bdrm apt & what you shared. You made plans moved to your 2 bdrm apt even still made banana bread for your old neighbor who had issues felt jilted & was mean. You saved & made plans. You did accomplish a lot & are near your son and his precious family ❤. Tony Robbins came from nothing working as a teen to help his mother started working & giving to others. What he shares isn't going to help me in my 70s except that he says gratefulness & giving to others is key. By the grace of God I'm still here. Am so grateful for life, love and my family. My youngest grandchildren are the age of those girls in college and are working hard. No money is only good to take care of needs but is also needed to help others. I hope we all can be kind, give & be grateful but also turn our hearts to God. If there's an eternity which I believe there is our time here is short; keep looking up and turn your hearts to God. ✝️
The psychological warfare being perpetrated on the global population is OFF THE CHARTS. Being aware of this is the 1st step to contending with the ramifications.
The Bible is the best self help book!
Amen
I agree❤
Yes...and in the Bible there is a cure for all your problems...God created you so her knows how and when to fix you ...just trust and believe in him...🙏...😊😊😊❤❤❤
At night I like to open the Holy Bible to where it will fall, and I read from there wherever my eyes fall, and there is always something there. This writing always speaks to my heart. I think a bit on what I read and then turn off the light. Wonderful way to head into sleep!
I’m divorced and have been for 24 years. Luckily I have family, great friends and my dogs. I do have moments of loneliness but it doesn’t last. I foster dogs and keep busy. I love the story of your grandfather. I like it when something triggers memories of family times. ❤
To me, it's "all things in balance"--
'Living' in the past is not the same thing as Remembering the past. Remembering can be comforting and pleasant; or hurtful and debilitating... depending on the memory that is focused upon.
Balance-- always in balance.
Don't cease to Remember, but Don't "LIVE" there and Miss the present and the hope of the Future.
Just my opinion-- from a 54 year old 😊
Beautifully said.
@@lindafrazier8092 (thank you 🙂)
The Present is the gift of NOW.
My 100-year-old dad died three weeks ago. He loved collecting sayings and words of wisdom. His favorite that he told practically everyone he met was, “Be good to yourself!” He was a very wise man❤️
I'm sorry for your loss. What a Blessing from God to have your Dad for so many years. His words are true. I think I need to start doing that for myself. Very wise words. God Bless You sending you a BIG HUG from West Virginia.
@@maryfarley3148 Thank you so much❤️
"Very wise words...hugs to you" 🕊️🕯️🕊️🕯️🕊️🕯️
Im very sorry for the.loss of your precious Daddy.😢❤️🙏
@@dianaschoen4485 Thank you so much❤️
ONE DAY AT A TIME ! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ none of us know what the future holds! Be thankful, be grateful for what you have, and appreciate it and be mindful of it❤
I was 70 in the hospital with a major heart attack, on my 70th birthday! Single and all alone…. It’s been 10 years, and still no soulmates by my side.. yea, no one is coming… but I’m out there trying to experience all that I can.. to speak to others, reaching out..
I'm so sorry, I understand as I am alone after a divorce at 70. It is my major anxiety. I wish the Best for you and for a friendship in your life. 🌷
It's amazing how strong we are as older single women. Glad you survived the scary heart attack when you were 70.
Surprise! I’m moving to Israel this fall! So excited! I’ll turn 80, hopefully, living in Jerusalem ❤️
@@BARBIEJA4ANDI I am so happy for you. Wow.
Thanks for your thoughts. You are so right. For someone who will soon be 80, I think the most important thing is kindness, both giving and receiving. Our world today is so busy and self-absorbing. Just a kind smile from someone in the aisle at Walmart can make your day!
One of your videos showed up in my feed last week. It arrived as a true gift. My 60th birthday was a month ago. I love being 60. I went into the birthday with delight that I have had every experience that I ever wanted. (Yes there is a lovely stack of experiences I didn't want.) But to have lived 60 years on earth. To have had this long of a shot is a joy. As I told friends and family. Everything from here on is extra sprinkles and candles. Your channel radiates that.
However, my life is also in relationship transition. It has been for the past couple of years, but it has reached a point where two kids who once were passionate about each other, are now living in separate homes. We keep in touch because we have kids we love. It's been a new road, and not everyday that joyful, get up and go thing. Last night, as I drove home solo, to my house, I had a thought from you about getting up, and going onward. To fill me life with things I am interested in. With that I booked 4 different lunch, brunch meet up days with friends and family. Made arrangements to enjoy Mother's Day with my oldest. This afternoon my neighbor mentioned her chorale group was performing tomorrow. I am planning on doing that. I read a book this morning. I watched this happy video tonight.
Right now, your advice is spot on for me. Your beautiful created videos add to your message. Thank you.
In my mid twenties, I asked a man around my age what he thought the meaning of life was and how he thought it related to him. The question stunned him and then resulted in a very interesting conversation and long lasting friendship. He sadly passed away a few years ago, but it’s one of the most memorable conversations I’ve ever had.
When I was in my early 40’s snd my mom was in her late 70’s she said “ they say these are the golden years but there’s nothing golden about them. You are living the golden years so enjoy every minute.” I didn’t really pay attention to what she said. Norton in my early 70’s and I get it. I wish I could tell her.
Thank you for telling US. I believe your mom knows
I loved everything you said Susan ❤
Anyone who deals with depression knows it’s not a mood anyone chooses.
Depression is such an awful place to be no one chooses to be depressed!
This weeks post is powerful. Love You ❤
They don't gear their programs to over 65 because we are irrelevant, and yet we continue to be the fasestt growing population. But if they acknowledge that, they will have to acknowledge that they too, are aging.
Money is overrated, but it pays the rent or mortgage and puts food on the table. I did all the self help stuff in my 30s. I'm too busy making peace with my aging body, my saggy skin, and still feeling relevant as an aging dancer/artist. All while I continue to look for supplemental income and cultivate a relationship with a good friend. I have a master plan at 68. but sometimes it seems overwhelming.
You have made a very good point about aging. Often "it takes one to know one"; and there is a strong fear of aging in the North American culture. If the self-help "experts" have no strong experiences with the elderly, and feel that they need to show themselves as "vibrant, current" , they will not have much practical advice for the elderly. At age 84 and as a former Al -Anon member, I value one of its slogans, which applies to so much in life :"Take what you like, and leave the rest".
@@barbarakelly1916 not to mention that the elderly are not valued in our society, as they are in many other cultures.
One of the best sayings I ever heard was something my friend said to me when I was going through a very painful divorce. She said you aren't GOING to get through this, you ARE getting through this. Something about that rang profound for me that the healing was not off in the future it was something I had already taken some steps on the road to and I just had to continue walking forward to get through it. That was a real comfort to me and something I have brought to mind when I have had other life challenges.
Love your videos Susan for so many reasons..
I'm 71 going on 15 and I like it that way!!💕
77 going on 18
73 going on 17 ❤
I find comfort & joy watching my old favorite shows like Dallas, Dynasty, Beverly Hills 90210 & Melrose Place, to name a few. I don’t go with the stop looking back & living in the past. It’s s part of my history & actually I think tv shows were better back then compared to today.
I can't remember a particular piece of advice I got when very young. But as a teen my mother started to tell me to not wear my heart on my sleeve when it came to men. And she also told me to never chase after them, but to let them pursue me. I never forgot that and did follow her advice. As far as the past goes, our memories are of the past. Our past made us by living and learning. My favorite music which can make my day is from the music I lived through as a child. Because my parents played Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin etc. Today I just love Sinatra! And the 70's was my music era and those songs take me back to my happy times of youth. I don't live today in the past, but I look fondly on it and I think the past interjects itself into who we are. love Desi's tie!
When I was in my early 50s, my office husband told me it seemed I had found the secret to happiness and he wanted to know what it was. "It's a choice," I said. I just turned 67 last week and it's not that simple anymore. The big losses pile up, health issues rear their ugly heads, and money--not wealth--is an ever-present consideration when you're on a fixed income. It all does come down to love in the end and I find comfort in that. I've had more than my fair share of it and continue to have it. What I really yearn for these days more than happiness is peace of mind. With all that's happening in the world these days, I might have to go live in a cave somewhere to get that. lol
Agree! Im a fellow Michigander (Flat Rock).😊
I totally depend on Jesus and my faith, love your show and you are so right , my journey was in 020 and I had emergency surgery amidst Covid and the love of my life for 42 years died of Covid while I was recovering and I had a son and a daughter and after burying him in January , my only son died in April, so you are right I can’t get up and say well I am good today, I am 78 and alone quite a bit so people with self help advise can not tell me anything, thank you so much for your show it does lift me up.
The best advice I was given was by my father: you are no better than anyone else and no one is better than you!! That has stuck with me forever and I have found myself saying it over and over. I’m 70
Hi Marla🌹🌹
How are you doing?
I'm 76. I've gotten good advice from this site from time to time. This was the 1st video that I felt was so wrong. I find that life really is as happy as one decides it is by choosing to recognize how strong and fearless we can be. Too many of gals in my age group & even younger feel sorry for themselves, fear everything, & give up. I'm not so sure about Tony Robbins, but Mel seems right on with truths that really do fit any age. I believe us "old folks" need to stop looking at what we lost instead of what we have left or even gained. For me, an attitude of gratitude simply works.
The best advise I have ever received was from a woman I worked with. I was 28 and told I needed a hysterectomy and she realized how much it upset me. She gently told me; at any moment in life - this too shall pass! Troubles are temporary and fleeting, before you know it will be behind you. I remind myself of her words when I am feeling troubled and it does help.
Thank for your sweet and encouraging words. I love your videos. The mint green blouse is beautiful on you. Desi is a joy.
I'm 67 and have listened to Mel Robbins for years she's challenged me to travel and to deal with panic attacks , just got back from Texas traveling alone thanks to Mel Robbins. Not sure how much you read or studied her podcasts but most of her self help is free. Don't rule out the professionals they do know what their talking about.
Hi Nancy🌹🌹
How are you doing?
TY. I talk with Jesus every morning before I get out of my bed and ask him to direct my steps throughout the day. He is full of surprises and meets my need for the day. The meaning of life is to allow him to grow me into his likeness. I'm 71, living in a senior complex and having the time of my life. Bless you.
I try to send love and kindness to everybody that came my way.......I'm a friendly person....much love and greetings from Brakpan South Africa 🌈💛🧡🙋🇿🇦
I got some very sage advice from an older lady I worked with many, many years ago; she said to me, “Carol, when you are old and sitting in your rocking chair on your front porch, you won’t look back and think of how beautiful your white sheets looked, or how clean and spotless your home was. You are going to look back and think of all the precious memories you created with your children, friends and family.” That stuck with me and from that point on, I concentrated on making memories instead of worrying about how clean my towels and sheets were and if my sheets were ironed (yes, I’m of the age where our mother’s ironed the sheets and tea towels).
Hi Susan, I enjoyed your video tonight and, as usual, always look forward to a new one. I thought I would post it on Facebook so people who may not be familiar with you might view it. You certainly have added so much to my life and I wanted to share you with other folks who may not have discovered you. I am 83 and you always add so much to my otherwise dull life. I am alone and have been for many years now. I do okay, but I do have my moments of loneliness. You are a lifesaver and someone I look forward to seeing every weekend.
I really enjoy her channel too!
Susan, The color green you are wearing is your color. My mother told me this when I was a teenager - You cannot make all the mistakes yourself, you need to learn from others mistakes. She was a very woman and I miss her every day!!
I always say to young ladies ... " enjoy your youth wisely..... time goes by soooo fast. The person inside is still there.... but the body change..... " hugs to that gangsta from me. Hilda
My father told me "boring is better" when I was a young lady & it made me so mad. I thought he was trying to hold me back in all ways and maybe he was. Today, I like it because I've found that I enjoy many things that might typically be thought of as boring. Additionally, the exciting is fun, but doesn't last & often leaves scarring behind. It's like they say, "there is no free ride". Thanks for being so thoughtful.
Cherish the memories, your grandfather was with you. The memories are our life, they make us who we are. Take "self help" books and people with a grain of salt. Enjoy your week Susan & Desi 🌺
Right on, I hear you. I am 65 soon & I listen to alpha wave music helps entire body, mind & stress.
Me too❤
Yes, I do also.
Susan, thank you for much for sharing with us! The best advice I ever heard about life is “to live until you die.” This means to keep doing what you love to do and spend time with others as much as you can. Turn off the TV and computer once in awhile and seek the company of other people. I am 73 and work in a childcare center. I cannot tell you the joy I feel three days a week when I go in and work with the babies and toddlers! Their smiles are genuine when they see me and I am in the moment when I am with them. This keeps me from living too much in the past and getting melancholy. My friend who is older has worked in an animal shelter for many years and it has kept her young, too! Keep giving of yourself while there is breath in your body! My mother , when in hospice, encouraged her aides and nurses daily. She refused to focus on dying but, instead, smiled and had an encouraging word for them! Live and give until you die!
The best advice I ever received...I was young expecting my first child and just moved into a new home. An old gentleman introduced himself and before leaving he said to me, can I give you a piece of advice that I was told as a young Dad? Of course, I was excited to hear it...he said, "no baby is born bad, it's how you love them and raise them that sets their future". I took my job of raising my children a little more seriously that day. My children haven't been perfect but I have been proud to be their mom!!
Hi Susan, l am not afraid of living alone, some of my sisters have told me for years that I should be doing what they do, but like l tell them, l don't need them to tell me what to do, l told my oldest sister, that l am in control of my own life, and like I told her no one should be telling anyone what to do, she was telling me to get on with my life, and that l should be out there and dating again, but I told her it's only been 2 years since I lost my husband, and like l told her, l am happy with my life, the way l want to live my own life, she soon said fine, l have been given life helping from my family, but my oldest brother told them to leave me alone, and he told them she is happy with her life, l have been married 2 times, and I don't want another husband, l hope you Desi have a wonderful new week, hugsssss ❤❤❤
Best advice from Buddhism: Choose a path with heart. Live with compassion. No need for fear. Advice I try to live up to: Go forward fearlessly. Live by my true values and don't be ashamed to love, give, and talk such living up!
My best advice from my Mother when it felt as if my life was so hard, and I might not make it through... She said, "I've been living a long time, been through so many hard times, but Somehow, things always seem to work out, and I am still here."
... My conclusion; ...and indeed she was correct. All things work out somehow.
Best advice from my Mother. 🌹
"All things work out for good, to those who are called according to His purpose."
Romans 8:28
Amen. God bless your week ahead!
Another favorite life advice:
"When someone
shows you
WHO THEY ARE,
BELIEVE THEM."
-Maya Angelo
* I Don't care for her poetry or politics but she was correct on this one matter.
*Don't make excuses for them, or give them another chance to be who you want them to be, they NEVER WILL BE THAT PERSON. 💯
"Don't try to change them into who you think they are, THEY ARE NOT!!!"
Your videos always give me hope. I feel like you are my beautiful close friend. So beautiful inside and outside.
I'm 61 and I appreciate your message. Those self-help gurus are for young entrepreneurs. I still enjoy listening to them once in awhile, however, I am in a different place in life and I keep that in mind. I have different needs and goals today in contrast to my younger self. I enjoyed this video and your honest conversation.
Hello Susan, you may find this post a bit unexpected coming from "an older than you" guy who is nearing 76 years young! I must say that you're videos are impressively inspiring and so refreshing even for a MAN, who is getting ready to launch himself into a journey of self awareness. Much of what you talk about applies to men as well in that one must first be comfortable in one's own skin, if one is to be successful in seeking out enlightenment. That journey begins in a couple of months. I want to thank you for lifting my spirits and re-igniting the fire, that has up to now, been smouldering, for what seems an eternity. I'll be leaving my home base for what certainly will be a journey of a lifetime. My life changed last Mother's Day, when my wife passed away. Perhaps this is my journey to find answers to questions I continue to struggle with. By the way, I'll be traveling in a home on wheels (solar powered Pro Master high top") that has NO boundaries. My golf clubs and Kayak will accompany me! Take care and keep inspiring. My handle is: "On the Road A Ken".
Yes, nobody's coming. I'm a survivor and yes mostly on my own. It's difficult, but I do the best I can to survive.
One piece of advice I received was “you can’t change another person you can only change how you react to them”. That advice helped me deal with difficult personality traits both personally and professionally, and to accept people for who they are as a person.
I couldn't have had a better start to my day than watching this video. For some unknown reason, I woke with 'free-floating' anxiety, then heard Gerry Marsden singing You'll Never Walk Alone and I burst into tears. I was overcome by a sadness I couldn't understand. I'm 73, in good health. I have a cute little home. I have wonderful children and grandchildren, who I see often and who love me and have all inherited the 'family sense of humour' . I have a small group of incredible friends who I know will always be there for me. I even have my own Desi - except she's Daisy. And yet, sometimes I'm hit with a feeling of depression or sadness. Who knows where it's coming from? Sometimes I do, other times it's a complete mystery. One thing I DON'T need is a self help guru spouting slogans like 'it's up to you whether or not you're depressed'. Your video reminded me of that. I drank my morning coffee, snuggled with Daisy and nodded to everything you said - and now I'm feeling much better and will tackle a few things I've been meaning to get done - with a smile on my face. As Gerry sang 'you'll never walk alone'. Enjoy your week!
So my advice? 'WALK ON...'
💕‘No one is coming!. Feels like that most the time for me since widowhood . I feel totally alone at 72. I’m not. Just feels like it. Thank you! Finally, sound reason in a generation of ‘pull yourself up by your own bootstraps’ self help nonsense. Thank you💕
So very TRUE!!!
Two things: that pale green top (&earrings) radiate so beautifully on you, & well done debunking some of the self-help bs
You are so kind! Happy Monday!!!
I believe it is so important to have the gift of gratitude- even if it is for difficult times......because everything we face is a lesson in the classroom that is our life.
O my little poet my little fingers can’t type fast enough to tell you how spot on you are. I’m so saddened by the once size fits all advice. Especially now when I’m trying to find my way through my 60’s and beyond. Watching your videos turns
all that “once size fit all advice” upside down shakes it up and tosses it out the window. You are incredibly tuned in to us over 60 sweeties. I’m slowly accepting my age and you are helping me on my journey. Gods Blessings to you and your family ❤
"Make your own kind of music.Sing your own kind of song" Desi's wisest advice given freely. Thankyou Desi!
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I listen to you talk, and I get so into what you are saying, just as if I were sitting in church listening to a minister. You draw me in, and I am hanging on every word, listening to your wisdom, and I love it!! I love you so much that I never want time to end, I want your videos to go on for hours. Thank you Susan for giving of yourself, your time, your advice, and your love to us. 🙏❤️
Really good topic today! I enjoyed and agree with your perspective.
I’ve been married a long time; we have lived all over the place! Best advice: Bloom where you are planted.
That color is beautiful on you! Pretty all the time!
😊 you are so blessed Susan 😇 ❤ to live a long lifetime. Most of my friends have passed before 30 or 45.
I saw your video on my smart tv. I truly agree regarding motivational speakers or life coaches who are not our contemporaries can offer us advice when they haven’t experienced life as we have. As seniors in our younger years we went through unrequited loves and thought we would die. But, now we laugh and think how foolish to give my heart to someone who doesn’t love me. As seniors we came to several crossroads roads and whatever crossing we chose being good or bad made us stronger. We are sages seasoned with wisdom, prudence and good judgment and have lived life
So good to see you and Desi! Thanks for always making my day!❤❤ I agree!
I am smiling at your video and I remember asking my grandmother why she kept the pictures of the staged models on the picture frames she had bought and not some of the family, she turned around and looked at me and replied "because they are better looking" 🤣🤣haha thank you for your Video dear Susan
omg!!! That is a hoot!!!
O my goodness. Same here about the mint green 💚 blouse. I love it too. I knew i loved your channel and I'm a Thrifter. Love when you show your thrift stores. Love your channel Susan . And absolutely love Desi. Happy Saturday everyone. Moving on down the Road 🎈