Is It Smarter Not To Help Others At Work?

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  • Опубліковано 25 лис 2024

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  • @NeetCode
    @NeetCode Рік тому +172

    Really interesting video Steve, i agree that keeping multiple career options open is smart. Btw i really love the overall video aesthetic (pacing, music, lighting, editing style)

  • @kimchi2093
    @kimchi2093 Рік тому +105

    One issue I’ve found with engineers retiring early using UA-cam is that…they kind of run out of things to talk about. They either switch to skits or they switch the topic they talk about entirely so that it’s no longer about working as a developer. What’s your plan for content should you decide to go into YT full time?

    • @ricen0odle
      @ricen0odle Рік тому +37

      sounds like TechLead

    • @jmanindahizouse
      @jmanindahizouse Рік тому

      @@ricen0odlehow to become a tech UA-camr (as a MILLIONAIRE)

    • @lenk172
      @lenk172 Рік тому +13

      To be fair, it never seems to be someone who's been in the industry that long. At least not as long as Steve has been.

    • @kimchi2093
      @kimchi2093 Рік тому +25

      If he quits his job, there’s a chance his information and reliability can get stale. For example, although Ali Abdaal is succeeding right now, honestly I believe his decision to quit being a doctor was a bad one since he no longer has a moat that holds him superior to other channels. He’s just another of many productivity gurus now. I truly believe that’s why his content has been switching over to business a lot more these days.
      But I agree, his experience is definitely one aspect that separates Steve from the rest. Still, it’s risky as there’s not a lot of precedent in the tech space that he can emulate if that makes sense. I do agree that he’s in a better position than all the other tech youtubers though.

    • @Neonb88
      @Neonb88 Рік тому +1

      I feel like the biggest issue would be the hit to his salary and whatever he's passing along to his kids
      Plus he's such a productive engineer, seems like a waste. So few good senior engineers out there helping society, and we'd lose another
      But of course it's his life, and whatever he wants to do is what he'll end up doing ❤🎉

  • @shairuno
    @shairuno Рік тому +11

    I found mentoring is rewarding. I have made enough money, so helping a junior engineer to get to another level makes me feel good.

  • @tedm8492
    @tedm8492 Рік тому +3

    I have found that teaching or helping others has greatly helped me in my career as I teaching is itself the best teacher. Also when you help others, they will be willing to help you out in the future too.

  • @bobbyadamson2333
    @bobbyadamson2333 Рік тому +4

    Obviously help people. Just be a chill person and help your team. So so whack to deliberately not help unless the person/team particularly toxic. Totally agree, if the job has that culture, I'd get out of there fast.

  • @AsianVideoGamer
    @AsianVideoGamer Рік тому +3

    Ive helped everyone that asked for help, i never get promoted but i never get let go. Always got someone giving me great feedbacks on my performance. My manager trusts me and recognizes my efforts. Overall I haven't gotten backstabbed but it's not like i got rewarded either

  • @emudojo
    @emudojo Рік тому +7

    Something I've learned over the last few years, as a contractor never trust anyone, never help anyone specially former employees.... at the end of the day no one will vote you off the chopping block.... contractors are disposable, so do you best to be the very best you....

    • @curiously-cinnamon
      @curiously-cinnamon Рік тому

      Could you elaborate on this please? I'm curious.

    • @megabyte01
      @megabyte01 Рік тому +1

      I've been both an employee and a contractor in my career. I've seen a lot of managers treat contractors like second class citizens at companies even though they work just as hard as their employee teammates and usually earn their team's trust and respect.
      I've also seen contractors fail at their tasks for several reasons:
      - the problem was intractable or even unsolvable with the institutional constraints.
      - the contractors were never given the same information or consideration as the employee developers.
      - the contractors knew they were on the chopping block from the start and their hearts just weren't in it, professionalism be damned. (A little optimism goes a long way, but there are limits)

  • @KevinNaughtonJr
    @KevinNaughtonJr Рік тому +24

    "be the world's worst criminal" that had my dying great vid Steve 😂

  • @danielbulgarelli935
    @danielbulgarelli935 Рік тому +2

    This is probably a newsletter question:
    You were saying how you read 1-4 hours a day… can you talk about resources that you like? Maybe answer the question with a short/medium sized list of your favorite content resources. Additionally, a systematic search for the best resources. For example, i realized that I need to dive deep into SQL to exceed at my position. How should I search for the right resources? It’s hard to know the key concepts to learn and the new trends emerging before you are an expert. How do you evaluate the expertise of content creators?

  • @head0fmob
    @head0fmob Рік тому +1

    if you help your colleague make sure you note down what was the topic, how you introduce the solution to the colleague and note if they find it useful. During yearly review, bring up those point. Even better, ask your colleague to write comment to his ticket that you came in and help clarify the ticket solution. This helped me a lot. Your colleague will also then more willing to help you. Win win for everyone.

  • @aznstride4325
    @aznstride4325 Рік тому +3

    Hi uncle Steve, I’m an L4 in Amazon and I’m so discourage.
    The L5’s around me seem to be too smart and it’s intimidating to be around then during discussions.
    I just don’t feel I’m that smart; I’m not exploding with ideas like they are. I feel like a small fish in this big pond & everyone sees it. I think I blame my lack of intense focus, or maybe passion for the type of work I do. If I only really really loved it, I’d be as competitive as them right. (I guess that’s my excuse). All the high performing people I talked to, told me they’re highly motivated. I don’t think pure discipline works as well in intellectual endeavors - it’s hard to be creative and intelligent about something you’re not interested/curious about. Would you agree

    • @shairuno
      @shairuno Рік тому

      I totally agree. People who love what they are doing, can spend extra hours to craft their skills and knowledge daily. They will pay more attention to the details, partly because their curiosity and the fun of building things. If you don’t like what you are doing, you might want to pivot yourself to the role that is more fit to you.

    • @megabyte01
      @megabyte01 Рік тому

      If you made it to L4, perhaps you should give yourself some credit. That took a lot of time and effort.
      Instead, ask yourself if you are working too hard without enough to show for it? Burnout sucks and it sneaks up on one, speaking from experience.
      Try learning how the L5s got their promotions. Try asking for some time off to put what the L5s tell you into motion. If you're afraid to take time off, that's a sign that you need to consider some changes.

  • @veliaguethe3613
    @veliaguethe3613 Рік тому +1

    I have two questions as follows: 1. after good two hours and half interview do you send a email to thank then? how long should i wait? 2. what does it mean what they says " I will call you back in a couple days"?

  • @moart87
    @moart87 Рік тому +11

    You should be helpful, but it should be transparent and you need to get the credit for it.

  • @JohnFarrellDev
    @JohnFarrellDev Рік тому +3

    3:05 is interesting, I agree etically with don't lie but I think some people who are less ethically inclined could easily up make great stories and benefit their career.

  • @mdell-t4655
    @mdell-t4655 Рік тому +2

    I think there’s a balance. Give them enough help that they move forward, but not too much help that you waste your time (and maybe even your money)

  • @theguypersondude
    @theguypersondude Рік тому +1

    I appreciate these more general conversations Steve.
    As an IT Support Associate working at a Robotics Site, some of these videos don't hit home yet because I still have a long way to go to reach your level of understanding, but any and all wisdom you give in these videos are certainly appreciated.

  • @anangryasian
    @anangryasian Рік тому +3

    Does the traditional wisdom of switching companies every 2 years still apply to FAANG comanies if you want to optmize salary (especially for hardware engineering)? For example where else would a hardware engineer at Apple go? Other than a brief blip during the pandemic, Apple already pays more than all other hardware divisions at companies such as Google, Meta, Snap, Microsoft, etc.

  • @leapnlarry
    @leapnlarry Рік тому +1

    Im retired now, looking for my encore career, but i would have loved some of this advice during my big boy career. Larry

  • @johnashley41
    @johnashley41 Рік тому +4

    You really are the mentor we need. Thanks for all the help Steve!

  • @StriderMKz
    @StriderMKz Рік тому +8

    Thanks for the quality content! I really appreciate how empathetic you are when answering questions.

  • @3DWithLairdWT
    @3DWithLairdWT Рік тому +4

    I've found your channel to be invaluable to becoming a more effective leader and team member at work. Thank you for taking your time to share your experience and knowledge!

  • @diegogomez87108
    @diegogomez87108 Рік тому +7

    I haven’t watched the video, but of course not. Be with others like you would like them to be with you

    • @pedrocunha4322
      @pedrocunha4322 Рік тому +2

      i agree but theres individuals that what they look for is not a help but you doing the job for them, and the more you do the more this slackers lay back and do nothing. but i agree you should help your team mates

  • @vinkalmann
    @vinkalmann Рік тому +3

    The DJ comparison to work was money! Subscribed.

  • @JasonGoodison
    @JasonGoodison Рік тому +1

    Great vid as always!

  • @TheMoMoEdits
    @TheMoMoEdits Рік тому +2

    The fact that this video has to be made is really just an indication of how people act in bad faith at many companies, Amazon included. Now you have to talk about it to prove to bad faith devs that they’re not that smart at optimizing their career or output.

  • @aaronscirocco5967
    @aaronscirocco5967 Рік тому +16

    A question for the next video: Is there a point where technical ability is no longer the bottleneck?

    • @ZM-dm3jg
      @ZM-dm3jg Рік тому +6

      That's such a naive and easy question.. of course that's the case. Anything above mid-level developer is no longer about technical ability, it's primarily about people-skills, leadership, managing a team, mentorship, relationships with stakeholders, understanding the big-picture of the business context and so on and so on.

    • @samgould8567
      @samgould8567 Рік тому

      ⁠​⁠@@ZM-dm3jgThe most competent and hardcore engineers constantly seek out more difficult technical challenges that force them to improve their hard skills. Most people are not interested in maintaining such a lifestyle for their entire career and instead use their accumulated knowledge and wisdom (or their ability to convince others of such traits) to become managers. Nothing wrong with either choice but to say that technical ability as a bottleneck completely vanishes at some point really depends on the person and situation. In my role, both soft skills and hard skills are required, but people only listen to me because I keep up with bleeding edge tech that is difficult to learn and use.

  • @DLlovefood
    @DLlovefood Рік тому

    Great advice Steve! if the company's culture is toxic, just get another job. Don't compromise your integrity for a company; otherwise, you will start to lose more and more of yourself. Also, being able to show that your are knowledgeable and be able to help or tutor other people is a trait of a good leader. Management eventually will recognize that and promotion may come.

  • @modolief
    @modolief Рік тому +6

    predatory capitalism so eloquently and amorally explained
    thanks

    • @egor.okhterov
      @egor.okhterov Рік тому

      Something feels wrong about all of that. Can't find the right words but I would expect a government or maybe a law firm to operate this cold :)

  • @amochswohntet99
    @amochswohntet99 Рік тому +4

    I once had a very annoying coworker who sometimes would spend hours on end BSing with a friend on the phone, in an otherwise quiet workspace. She had a super friendly attitude at all times towards everyone. Towards the later months of my employment at the company she asked me for a favor, to put in a technical ticket to have the light above her cubicle fixed, her excuse for why she couldn't do it was that she was about to go on leave for two weeks and wouldn't be able to follow up with the tech guys when they arrived to change the bulb. I assumed that she thought that because she's so nice that I would do that favor. I said "sure I'll do it", and then I just never did it, and when she asked me about it two weeks later I said "oh shoot, I forgot, sorry".
    The moral of this story is that, sometimes people who are nice are actually just manipulative and will try to get you to help them on THEIR work and THEIR problems.

  • @Waterbirdbob
    @Waterbirdbob 10 місяців тому

    It's always good to teach everyone around you...that's how I got promoted everywhere I went

  • @Ultravenom1
    @Ultravenom1 Рік тому

    I like helping people when it the help improves both our skills or allows me to breathe air i havent in a while.

  • @1MinuteFlipDoc
    @1MinuteFlipDoc 8 місяців тому

    " ultimately, the decision will come down to a gut feeling from the team. "
    This is the real truth and you could have put this quote on a repeat loop for 13 minutes.

  • @natnatwisdom
    @natnatwisdom 12 днів тому

    So true about leaving artifacts

  • @IL_Bgentyl
    @IL_Bgentyl Рік тому +1

    For promotions I always bring up I have no issue getting work done right if they are willing to pay. I’m going to be a Indian unless you pay me to be a chief. I hate when jobs want you to be both. Can I? Sure. Will I? No. People need to learn to let the leader lead. Let them sink the boat or get compensated for steering the ship.

  • @barbarosozturk
    @barbarosozturk Рік тому +1

    In terms of monetary value, Steve's videos are provided for free with substantial value-add. Thanks for sharing!

  • @john_doe_2231
    @john_doe_2231 Рік тому +2

    Always love listening to your wisdom , Steve .

  • @askeladd709
    @askeladd709 Рік тому

    Hey Steve! Just dropping some mad respect for your content--and even more your resilience in reading all the comments!

  • @jhors7777
    @jhors7777 Рік тому +2

    Thanks so much Steve for your work and fabulous channel!!

  • @GnomeEU
    @GnomeEU Рік тому +1

    It's all about perception. I've had companies respect me from day one. And for some you're never good enough.
    If someone doesn't respect you after a year or two its time for a change, they will dangle the carrot in front of you forever.
    Remember you can also make 100 bucks an hour coding pascal in home office.
    One company with tell you your pull requests are not tidy enough so you have to skip the promotion this time.
    And in the next company everyone posts memes and fart jokes in their commit messages.

  • @TheCreatorsAttorney
    @TheCreatorsAttorney Рік тому

    Yes I have smart clients. You might be the most brilliant and witty one. Or at least the world’s worst criminal. That is so good! *chef’s kiss*

  • @shazmimain8293
    @shazmimain8293 Рік тому +1

    Hi steve may I know what mic you're using? it sounds rly good

  • @Dxeus
    @Dxeus Рік тому

    Hello,
    As a Senior Solutions Architect (band 9) in a major tech firm, I manage a portfolio of Fortune 100 clients, solving a wide array of challenges without tech stack constraints. The demands of this role have been wearing on me for the past couple of years. I'm contemplating handing in a two-week notice to seek a less taxing position.
    I'd appreciate any advice you could offer.
    Thanks,

  • @Neonb88
    @Neonb88 Рік тому

    Steve always has so many ideas. Easy to see why he's come so far in his life already. His jokes are 🔥, too
    Also, unfortunately people do lose jobs over asking for more. Not usually, but it DEFINITELY helps to have at least 2 offers in hand before negotiating like that. But generally, asking for more is good

  • @FreedomFinanceFun
    @FreedomFinanceFun Рік тому +2

    Great advice for any industry

  • @darthnegativehunter8659
    @darthnegativehunter8659 Рік тому

    i work remotely. i self promote myself. because when i get better i work faster. this i end up working for less time.

  • @N221985
    @N221985 Рік тому

    Hi Steve, if you have been for a long time at your company and have had decent growth, but want to get an idea of your current market worth, is interviewing with other companies a good way to learn where you stand in the market ?

  • @AdrianNaps
    @AdrianNaps Рік тому

    From the perspective of an engineer, what makes a great product or project manager?

  • @fullmastrinio
    @fullmastrinio Рік тому +6

    I was always wondering what was your agenda, because no one truly shares content for free without expecting something in return.
    Was expecting the course drop at some point, which happened now.
    I don't mean this in a negative way, I am verbalising my thought that everyone has an agenda and this reminds me that everyone has the potentiall to develop a skill that can help them outside of their main job to improve their life or the life of others.
    Looking forward to your new program, it better be good.

  • @birthtoolbox
    @birthtoolbox Рік тому

    Hey Steve, It was great to connect with you at VidSummit today. Maybe we should work on a Seattle UA-camr meetup! Alice (the doula)

  • @Stella-se1lg
    @Stella-se1lg Рік тому

    This vid is dope🎉congratulations for making the Q&A video haha. I can definitely relate to many of the questions. 😊

  • @AnonYmous-yu6hv
    @AnonYmous-yu6hv Рік тому

    I got fired multiple times now, I think the common reason was my behavior toward my superiors mostly. What can I do to prevent that in the future? And also how can I reapply again without showing red flags?

    • @curiously-cinnamon
      @curiously-cinnamon Рік тому

      As a fresher who was just laid off from my first company, maybe kiss their ass?

    • @AnonYmous-yu6hv
      @AnonYmous-yu6hv Рік тому

      @@curiously-cinnamon it's really not me... And especially if they're annoying and micro manage

    • @itsdannyftw
      @itsdannyftw Рік тому +2

      What was your behaviour like, what exactly did you do

    • @Neonb88
      @Neonb88 11 місяців тому +1

      ​​@@AnonYmous-yu6hvYeah bud I think if it's happened multiple times, it's unfortunately your fault
      But if you take an honest look at your behavior and make a plan for remedying it, I believe you can turn it around!! Many many engineers I know have been in the same boat, especially early in their careers

    • @AnonYmous-yu6hv
      @AnonYmous-yu6hv 11 місяців тому

      @@itsdannyftw it's too much for a comment in UA-cam but I guess I was annoying and I argued a lot.

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    @muhammedmahmood6045 Рік тому +2

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  • @caracallaavg
    @caracallaavg Рік тому

    Thank you my uncle from another set of grandparents!

  • @LasparkOficial
    @LasparkOficial Рік тому

    Is it my end or the mic sounds... like chippy? I don't really like it, but the content is awesome

  • @i_am_acai
    @i_am_acai Рік тому

    Whats ur mic setup?

  • @redpilljesus
    @redpilljesus Рік тому

    Don't ask for more AFTER getting what you already wanted! Ask for more FIRST! Ask for 10% more than you would be satisfied with. See what happens.

  • @muizzy
    @muizzy Рік тому

    Ok, I was _not_ prepared for that acting jab. Nearly sprayed my keyboard with juice!

  • @tHebUm18
    @tHebUm18 Рік тому

    5:43 Based on your income video, get out of here with that "lean FIRE or barista FIRE existence." Using the 4% rule, you probably are already set for a healthy retirement unless you live a far less down to earth lifestyle than the vibes you give off.

  • @DanHartwigMusic
    @DanHartwigMusic Рік тому

    Why not Livestream your bedroom DJ sets?

  • @montyi8
    @montyi8 Рік тому +1

    The video title seems to suggest the opposite!

  • @leapnlarry
    @leapnlarry Рік тому

    What the hell is barista-fire? I will have to look that one up, haha.

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    @TRoss-ru6sg Рік тому +1

    Did not expect 5:49 🤣

  • @eggxecution
    @eggxecution 2 місяці тому

    nice

  • @andrewcliffe4753
    @andrewcliffe4753 Рік тому

    Problem is, a percentage of those who you help will use it to lever themselves above you

    • @megabyte01
      @megabyte01 Рік тому

      Too true. I trained someone who later pounced on me for an oversight I made in a stakeholder meeting. The bastard still had the gall to thank me for helping him onboard even when I was being fired.

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    @Memorax Рік тому

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    @spencerfunk Рік тому

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    @zelytics Рік тому

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