When I was in the hospital because of an overdose attempt they just got done with all the tests they needed to do on me and a nurse came in to take some gel things off my chest and as she was taking them off she said "look at all this extra work you've made us all do, next time think before you make rash decisions" and that one sentence hurt me a lot, like of the state I was in it made me think that I failed or that I was stupid, another time when I was in a hospital getting evaluated a nurse came in to draw my blood, I was scared it would hurt and just a little worried and I guess the nurse could tell cause she nodded to my arms and she said "didn't that hurt too" I couldn't tell if she was trying to calm me down or not and if she was that wasn't the way to do it
Woah I’m so sorry you had to go through that :( doctors and nurses should definitely be more educated on this stuff, or AT LEAST learn to have a bit more respect, before choosing a job where what they say can directly harm people
Once I was in hospital, when I was I think 13 yrs. I cut myself bad, could've died..... They placed belts on my waist, arms and legs. That was painful. I don't understand why they did that, I was so weak, wasn't aggressive or anything. I laid there for many hours with securities watching over me all the time...... It's so sad how they treat us...
Wow, they really traumatised a 13 y/o who was already at their wit's end. O,o I'm so sorry, that's awful. Being restrained as somebody who may much more likely have suffered trauma/violence is really a shite idea.
I just started dating a woman who used to self-harm. I really appreciate your videos to help me understand. I feel a lot of compassion for self-harmers.
I've had many worse experiences, but this is one that just really sticks with me. I was going to the university nurse for a prescription, unrelated to self-harm, and she needed to take my blood pressure. I really didn't want to show my arms, but I didn't actually say it out loud. Then when I finally did, she was SHOCKED. She kept saying sorry, then she asked if I had been in a fire. I had to say "no, it's just self-harm", and she said it was the worst she had ever seen. And I KNOW her reaction was just this genuine expression of surprise, I know my scars are severe and most people have never seen anything like that. I don't blame her at all, I actually blame myself for not just saying "I have scars" first - I'm just used to nurses being used to that, I guess. The point is just that it felt really awful. If a nurse has THAT strong of a reaction, then I definitely can't ever show my scars to "normal" people. It felt like all my chances of ever being able to wear short sleeves in public was just instantly washed away.
I went to urgent care because I didn't know if I needed stitches. I had always just harmed very superficially and this was deeper than that. Anyway, I'm pretty sure the doctor thought it was a suicide attempt, which is stupid for so many reasons. She didn't let me leave, wanted me to go to the ER but didn't want me driving, etc. My saving grace was having a psych appointment that day. The doctor literally called there and apparently asked if they thought I was save to drive, and she said yes. Long story short, doctor hardly looks at my arms, says "They're fine" and it's just rebandaged. Fast forward a month or two, and I'm pretty sure I needed stitches. As the time went on the symptoms I was having were like none I've ever had. After that above experience though, I have no intention of ever going anywhere for stitches.
A few times i have started bleeding all over My sheets and i had to stay up all night to wash My sheets and sleep in My wet sheets too. I also spent christmas eve self hamring and panicking. Another time My doctor say My scars by accident and told My mom right away instead of talking to me first, i just sat there crying while he told my mom about My scars. After that we GOT a bad relationship.
bobbel how old were you? Because if you were a minor they always have to tell your parents if you are hurting yourself of planning on hurting yourself, if you were over 18 then I believe that is illegal for them to do that without your permission. Sorry you had to go through that, and sorry your mom doesn’t understand 😔
I'm currently ip, & most nurses & health care assistants are really supportive & understanding when it come to self harm, by this one hca once told me "it's not nice for other people to see all that"... I was kind of just in shock, I hide them anyway bc I'm really self conscious, but him saying that just made me feel guilty. & then a nurse wanted to clean a wound for me once, I wouldn't let him & then he went "when you're older we don't you having really noticeable scars", like fair enough, I'd rather not have have scars but he made it seem like it was really bad thing to have visible scars :/
I've never had any bad experiences, but I have been terrified to tell people about my self harm because of all the terrible stories I've heard. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Most of my experience has just been people asking why and me not being able to give a good answer.
Oh my, I can’t imagine getting stitches without an anesthetic. Both times I had to get stitches, the doctors were very kind and were constantly saying “Let me know if you need more” etc. I’m so sorry you had those experiences, and I’m so sorry to those who have gone through the same thing in the comment section. I wish all doctors were kinder and more understanding.
Thank you for sharing this Malika. Sorry I had to laugh at number 3 for the pure audacity of that so called nurse. I can’t believe how you’ve been treated over the years in your country. In my four IP stays I’ve been treated pretty well in terms of staff talking with me. Some times they’ve been pretty blunt or not kept me informed but they’ve never put me down for my cuts/scars. I’m also glad, that I’m not alone, in the fact I managed to sneak a blade into the ward. I find it interesting how wards here and where you are differ. Again, thank you for sharing this ❤️
I would add that even here it can be super different ! I was in a basic pediatric ward for 3 weeks before that awful ward, and it was way better! The teen ward is pretty much known here to be less than good
Theres only really one place I think I should have gotten stitches. I was 15 and scared to tell my mum. I had a doctor's appointment the week after so ofc they had to tell her I had relapsed, but it was too late to get treatment for that one injury. I still remember her walking into the room when the doctor wasnt there and just begging me to stop doing it and how useless I felt because I knew I couldn't just stop. I think that was one of the lowest points in my life.
I'm training to become a paramedic as someone who has experienced self harm and suicidal attempts in the past, I really hope I can make people in these situations more comfortable and understood
I cannot believe that assholes comment. It is unfortunately so true that many if not most are not trained with self-harm education and it’s detrimental to us patients who do self-harm. I’m so sorry you’ve be treated this way. I’ve been so fortunate in all my hospital stays, programs, and ER/urgent care visits to be treated respectfully. I can’t imagine otherwise, I would surly snap.
I’ve been a self harmer for a little bit over 4 years now and I haven’t had a bad experience because I’ve hid it from everyone. Hardly any people at all know and the ones that do also sh so it’s not like they’re going to say anything (if you know what I mean). As much as people might think this is a good thing it really isn’t, I’m scared almost all the time about what would happen if someone found out
We are not monsters just because we selfharm..People treat us like that,imagine someone is in so much pain,the only thing that can help them is harming their own beautiful body..We are not crazy we need help..
When I was in the Psych ward they thought *wrongly* I’d self harmed, and I proved to them that I didn’t, but they locked me up, took everything of comfort away from me and completely destroyed my soul, let me cry alone and made me write a whole ass test throughout all of that. I’ve never wanted to kill myself THAT much.
My mum told me to not show my friends my cuts cause they will make fun of my and not wanna hang out with me and that my friend's mothers will not want me to hang out with them but I do understand that but I don't understand why she told me that they'd call me a freak if they found out
im so sorry u had to deal with this, some people are so uninformed like just be fucking nice.. one of my shitty experiences with the mental health system is when i attempted suicide the doctor literally said to me "did you have too much homework on school or something" like are you fucking kidding me
Yes, to hide our scars is not right. We have to try to live with them. And it maybe can make sense when you are in a Hospital with people that can be easily triggered. But for me it was hard to see that outside the hospital is not that much care about that. And so I think we have to learn to deal with that outside, so why not inside?
I only have faded scars but when I was inpatient we had to wear something similar to gloves but for your arms if we wore a tshirt. I was fine with it and always wore it when needed, we all wore it for sports bcs sports is just more comfortable in a tshirt but one day I needed a new one amd went to a nurse I’ve never asked before and she said "oh you’re one of THOSE people too, lemme see your scars so Ik which size i need to get" I showed them to her and then she said "well that’s barely anything" she still got me one and I wasn’t too affected in the moment but now when I look back at it it really wasn’t a nice experience
this video should be shown to all the peaple, expecially who work in some psycologist area it can't be acceptable self-harming staff treat their "patients" like this. what it happend to you is horrible and i'm so sorry for you (im not english/american, so if i made mistakes writing im sorry, i hope you understand what i wanted to say)
the staff at the m3ntal h0spital i went to were absolute d-bags. they told us that we were walking advertisements for birth control. they were horrible. they also told my freind with tueretts (excuse my spelling) that they could just stop and they were seeking attention
I'm so sorry that you went through that .. no matter the situation, no body should be treated like that. You aren't a slave and you aren't a slaver Times have changed but the past can't be overwritten I hate that anyone should be treated like that
Hi, I'm not a self harmer, but I know someone who is, It breaks me that she is going through that, I know that she doesn't do it for attention, I know that she is in pain. I want to help, she is already going to therapy which makes me a little bit more relaxed. Recently we went on vacation and I saw her scars, I didn't know what to do, I was thinking if I should say something but I didn't know how. I didn't ask about it because I thought she wouldn't want me to but I want her to know that I care about her and that I know is been rough. I'm scared that she might think that I don't care or I'm being weird because I accidentally stared at her scars. I kinda told her that I care but I don't think is enough. Sorry for my long comment, but can someone give an advise, like how do I approach to her without being rude or triggering. Also for everyone who has been sh, I can't understand it completely but I see your pain, I understand that you are not doing it for attention, you are not alone, you will get better
To this day I don't understand the "attention seeking" argument. Honest to god: has anyone ever witnessed a reaction to sh that wasn't harmful, hurtful, shaming or at least horribly awkward and helpless? Has anyone ever gotten "positive" attention for sh? Don't think so, either. PS. I don't blame anyone, teacher or parent for being overwhelmed or helpless with that situation. But it is what you mostly get, even from medical staff, and looking at the comments, that's very common.
Even if someone was ever to do it for attention, that’s a sign that they are asking for help, and if someone is willing to go that far for attention, yeah they need some help ):
I had four stitches when I busted my eyelid when I was about 11-12 with very little anaesthetic. It was crazy painful, they wanted to put me under general (sleeping), but I have a heart condition that would have meant I had to stay overnight for extra monitoring and medications before and after, so I got the rub on anaesthetic over my eyelid. I cannot IMAGINE going through more than that on a bigger injury without anaesthetic.
Wait, you're supposed to get anesthetic when getting stitches? I got 11 in my arm for a self harm wound and it was so uncomfortable I almost passed out. I live in Texas so maybe that has something to do with it but still :(
@Selfharmerproblems is it weird I worry about people seeing my scars when I'm changing out at pe in my middle school since I get made fun of for being bisexual and genderfluid and get called a dog in school for wearing a choker and unsupportive family
that one person who disliked this will probably never understand.
It they were triggered by it
Love how there’s no dislike and how everyone just understands that this is a serious topic that needs to be known for some people.
Well apparently someone saw your text and got triggered 😶
@@crimsonhallow8359 yep I didn't like or dislike I don't want my family to see this video
There are dislikes, UA-cam just hides th
@@artz69420 yeah this was an old comment before they hid them
When I was in the hospital because of an overdose attempt they just got done with all the tests they needed to do on me and a nurse came in to take some gel things off my chest and as she was taking them off she said "look at all this extra work you've made us all do, next time think before you make rash decisions" and that one sentence hurt me a lot, like of the state I was in it made me think that I failed or that I was stupid, another time when I was in a hospital getting evaluated a nurse came in to draw my blood, I was scared it would hurt and just a little worried and I guess the nurse could tell cause she nodded to my arms and she said "didn't that hurt too" I couldn't tell if she was trying to calm me down or not and if she was that wasn't the way to do it
Woah I’m so sorry you had to go through that :( doctors and nurses should definitely be more educated on this stuff, or AT LEAST learn to have a bit more respect, before choosing a job where what they say can directly harm people
wow that's terrible. I hope you are doing better now though
umm you know she could get fiered for that
@@cokezero8510 yeah but at the time nothing really mattered
@@sloansmith1424 much much better thankfully
Once I was in hospital, when I was I think 13 yrs. I cut myself bad, could've died..... They placed belts on my waist, arms and legs. That was painful. I don't understand why they did that, I was so weak, wasn't aggressive or anything.
I laid there for many hours with securities watching over me all the time......
It's so sad how they treat us...
Wow, they really traumatised a 13 y/o who was already at their wit's end. O,o I'm so sorry, that's awful. Being restrained as somebody who may much more likely have suffered trauma/violence is really a shite idea.
@@jazzguitar3441 we really need to fight against some doctors sometimes :/
I just started dating a woman who used to self-harm. I really appreciate your videos to help me understand. I feel a lot of compassion for self-harmers.
I've had many worse experiences, but this is one that just really sticks with me. I was going to the university nurse for a prescription, unrelated to self-harm, and she needed to take my blood pressure. I really didn't want to show my arms, but I didn't actually say it out loud. Then when I finally did, she was SHOCKED. She kept saying sorry, then she asked if I had been in a fire. I had to say "no, it's just self-harm", and she said it was the worst she had ever seen. And I KNOW her reaction was just this genuine expression of surprise, I know my scars are severe and most people have never seen anything like that. I don't blame her at all, I actually blame myself for not just saying "I have scars" first - I'm just used to nurses being used to that, I guess. The point is just that it felt really awful. If a nurse has THAT strong of a reaction, then I definitely can't ever show my scars to "normal" people. It felt like all my chances of ever being able to wear short sleeves in public was just instantly washed away.
I went to urgent care because I didn't know if I needed stitches. I had always just harmed very superficially and this was deeper than that. Anyway, I'm pretty sure the doctor thought it was a suicide attempt, which is stupid for so many reasons. She didn't let me leave, wanted me to go to the ER but didn't want me driving, etc. My saving grace was having a psych appointment that day. The doctor literally called there and apparently asked if they thought I was save to drive, and she said yes.
Long story short, doctor hardly looks at my arms, says "They're fine" and it's just rebandaged. Fast forward a month or two, and I'm pretty sure I needed stitches. As the time went on the symptoms I was having were like none I've ever had. After that above experience though, I have no intention of ever going anywhere for stitches.
If you cant/dont want to get stiches sterilize the wounds and use butterfly bandages (you can get at your local pharmacy) they close the wound
@@lee6228 I have some of those now!
A few times i have started bleeding all over My sheets and i had to stay up all night to wash My sheets and sleep in My wet sheets too. I also spent christmas eve self hamring and panicking. Another time My doctor say My scars by accident and told My mom right away instead of talking to me first, i just sat there crying while he told my mom about My scars. After that we GOT a bad relationship.
bobbel how old were you? Because if you were a minor they always have to tell your parents if you are hurting yourself of planning on hurting yourself, if you were over 18 then I believe that is illegal for them to do that without your permission. Sorry you had to go through that, and sorry your mom doesn’t understand 😔
I love how you link videos incase its triggering so kind x
I'm currently ip, & most nurses & health care assistants are really supportive & understanding when it come to self harm, by this one hca once told me "it's not nice for other people to see all that"... I was kind of just in shock, I hide them anyway bc I'm really self conscious, but him saying that just made me feel guilty.
& then a nurse wanted to clean a wound for me once, I wouldn't let him & then he went "when you're older we don't you having really noticeable scars", like fair enough, I'd rather not have have scars but he made it seem like it was really bad thing to have visible scars :/
I've never had any bad experiences, but I have been terrified to tell people about my self harm because of all the terrible stories I've heard. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Most of my experience has just been people asking why and me not being able to give a good answer.
That's great!
Oh my, I can’t imagine getting stitches without an anesthetic. Both times I had to get stitches, the doctors were very kind and were constantly saying “Let me know if you need more” etc.
I’m so sorry you had those experiences, and I’m so sorry to those who have gone through the same thing in the comment section. I wish all doctors were kinder and more understanding.
Thank you for sharing this Malika. Sorry I had to laugh at number 3 for the pure audacity of that so called nurse. I can’t believe how you’ve been treated over the years in your country. In my four IP stays I’ve been treated pretty well in terms of staff talking with me. Some times they’ve been pretty blunt or not kept me informed but they’ve never put me down for my cuts/scars. I’m also glad, that I’m not alone, in the fact I managed to sneak a blade into the ward. I find it interesting how wards here and where you are differ. Again, thank you for sharing this ❤️
I would add that even here it can be super different ! I was in a basic pediatric ward for 3 weeks before that awful ward, and it was way better! The teen ward is pretty much known here to be less than good
that one dislike is a karen
Theres only really one place I think I should have gotten stitches. I was 15 and scared to tell my mum. I had a doctor's appointment the week after so ofc they had to tell her I had relapsed, but it was too late to get treatment for that one injury. I still remember her walking into the room when the doctor wasnt there and just begging me to stop doing it and how useless I felt because I knew I couldn't just stop. I think that was one of the lowest points in my life.
I'm training to become a paramedic as someone who has experienced self harm and suicidal attempts in the past, I really hope I can make people in these situations more comfortable and understood
I cannot believe that assholes comment. It is unfortunately so true that many if not most are not trained with self-harm education and it’s detrimental to us patients who do self-harm. I’m so sorry you’ve be treated this way. I’ve been so fortunate in all my hospital stays, programs, and ER/urgent care visits to be treated respectfully. I can’t imagine otherwise, I would surly snap.
I’ve been a self harmer for a little bit over 4 years now and I haven’t had a bad experience because I’ve hid it from everyone. Hardly any people at all know and the ones that do also sh so it’s not like they’re going to say anything (if you know what I mean). As much as people might think this is a good thing it really isn’t, I’m scared almost all the time about what would happen if someone found out
I feel the same way army😢❤️
We are not monsters just because we selfharm..People treat us like that,imagine someone is in so much pain,the only thing that can help them is harming their own beautiful body..We are not crazy we need help..
When I was in the Psych ward they thought *wrongly* I’d self harmed, and I proved to them that I didn’t, but they locked me up, took everything of comfort away from me and completely destroyed my soul, let me cry alone and made me write a whole ass test throughout all of that. I’ve never wanted to kill myself THAT much.
My mum told me to not show my friends my cuts cause they will make fun of my and not wanna hang out with me and that my friend's mothers will not want me to hang out with them but I do understand that but I don't understand why she told me that they'd call me a freak if they found out
Omg I love your hair I wish I had that color
im so sorry u had to deal with this, some people are so uninformed like just be fucking nice.. one of my shitty experiences with the mental health system is when i attempted suicide the doctor literally said to me "did you have too much homework on school or something" like are you fucking kidding me
Yes, to hide our scars is not right. We have to try to live with them. And it maybe can make sense when you are in a Hospital with people that can be easily triggered. But for me it was hard to see that outside the hospital is not that much care about that. And so I think we have to learn to deal with that outside, so why not inside?
I only have faded scars but when I was inpatient we had to wear something similar to gloves but for your arms if we wore a tshirt. I was fine with it and always wore it when needed, we all wore it for sports bcs sports is just more comfortable in a tshirt but one day I needed a new one amd went to a nurse I’ve never asked before and she said "oh you’re one of THOSE people too, lemme see your scars so Ik which size i need to get" I showed them to her and then she said "well that’s barely anything" she still got me one and I wasn’t too affected in the moment but now when I look back at it it really wasn’t a nice experience
Sorry you had to go through that 😢
this video should be shown to all the peaple, expecially who work in some psycologist area
it can't be acceptable self-harming staff treat their "patients" like this. what it happend to you is horrible and i'm so sorry for you
(im not english/american, so if i made mistakes writing im sorry, i hope you understand what i wanted to say)
Dont allow them to change you because there afraid that you are different just another form of fear
the staff at the m3ntal h0spital i went to were absolute d-bags. they told us that we were walking advertisements for birth control. they were horrible. they also told my freind with tueretts (excuse my spelling) that they could just stop and they were seeking attention
Wow I cannot believe they asked you to hide! That's unreal not helpful at all! Thanks for sharing ! ❤
I need to know how to cover up NOW.
Try bandages and then cover it up with makeup
I'm so sorry that you went through that .. no matter the situation, no body should be treated like that.
You aren't a slave and you aren't a slaver Times have changed but the past can't be overwritten
I hate that anyone should be treated like that
What the heck do I do when summer comes around omg 😭
Hi, I'm not a self harmer, but I know someone who is, It breaks me that she is going through that, I know that she doesn't do it for attention, I know that she is in pain. I want to help, she is already going to therapy which makes me a little bit more relaxed.
Recently we went on vacation and I saw her scars, I didn't know what to do, I was thinking if I should say something but I didn't know how. I didn't ask about it because I thought she wouldn't want me to but I want her to know that I care about her and that I know is been rough. I'm scared that she might think that I don't care or I'm being weird because I accidentally stared at her scars. I kinda told her that I care but I don't think is enough.
Sorry for my long comment, but can someone give an advise, like how do I approach to her without being rude or triggering.
Also for everyone who has been sh, I can't understand it completely but I see your pain, I understand that you are not doing it for attention, you are not alone, you will get better
Thank you for sharing your experience with us!!! ❤️
To this day I don't understand the "attention seeking" argument. Honest to god: has anyone ever witnessed a reaction to sh that wasn't harmful, hurtful, shaming or at least horribly awkward and helpless? Has anyone ever gotten "positive" attention for sh? Don't think so, either.
PS. I don't blame anyone, teacher or parent for being overwhelmed or helpless with that situation. But it is what you mostly get, even from medical staff, and looking at the comments, that's very common.
Even if someone was ever to do it for attention, that’s a sign that they are asking for help, and if someone is willing to go that far for attention, yeah they need some help ):
just subscribed to your youtube, your videos are inspirational and similar content to mine so you’ve given me some inspiration ✨
Zero dislikes yay
Aw so sweet xx
I had four stitches when I busted my eyelid when I was about 11-12 with very little anaesthetic. It was crazy painful, they wanted to put me under general (sleeping), but I have a heart condition that would have meant I had to stay overnight for extra monitoring and medications before and after, so I got the rub on anaesthetic over my eyelid. I cannot IMAGINE going through more than that on a bigger injury without anaesthetic.
I'm so sorry this happened to you
We are what we are ,change because you want to nit because there uncomfortable
At my therapy school we can have visible scars and cuts but not talk about it - interesting how it was opposite for you!
I love your hire
*hair
Wait, you're supposed to get anesthetic when getting stitches? I got 11 in my arm for a self harm wound and it was so uncomfortable I almost passed out. I live in Texas so maybe that has something to do with it but still :(
The humming bird video 🥺
@Selfharmerproblems is it weird I worry about people seeing my scars when I'm changing out at pe in my middle school since I get made fun of for being bisexual and genderfluid and get called a dog in school for wearing a choker and unsupportive family
The one dislike is from one of the worker who did the stitches
10:25 WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
out of curiosity, was the guy from the first story the same guy from the third story??
Do u have anything that can help stop self-harm
I'm so harm
Ima ex self harmer too
the one dislike :/