So...did you stop doing the stuff yet? Like yeah life sucks, but typically you just need to put in a shot ton of effort To make it better. Worked great for me so far.
There is only ONE life and after that ETERNITY with Lord Jesus Christ in Heaven or Hell depart from God.. this is NO JOKE!! Repent and believe in Lord Jesus Christ!
Be social, build relationships Don't take things seriously or personally Don't complain, be positive and optimistic Live in the present moment and feel how peaceful it is Go to sleep happy, with good positive thoughts Set SMART goals (specific, measurable, actionable, time-defined) Go out of your comfort zone, realize fear is just an illusion don't let it dictate your life, take risks, don't wait for the perfect moment
We only have one life, we must live it to the fullest. We can’t dwell on the past and we can’t be regretful. We must learn to move on and move forward. We are all only one decision away from bettering or ruining our lives. I choose to try and to be the best version I can possibly become. If I fail, at least I try. And trying is better than doing nothing at all.
socializing isnt that hard, just say more good morning to someone and then they will be friendly, is like magic!! socializing isnt party with your friends, socializing is be a part of that social world, living in society, this will grow you and your mental health
I used to be someone with that kind of thoughts and wanting to kill everyone. Now I have a lot of good friends in school, family, etc. Just don't make enemies, be nice even with horrible people, and be friends with the ones you like
How to be miserable in 5 steps: 1 Isolate yourself 2 Take things seriously, judge everyone, keep your distance and complain alot 3 Live in the past or future 4 Never set goals, if you do ignore the small steps 5 Let fear paralize you and stay in your comfort zone.
I succeed in the described stages of misery mostly because of subconscious decisions - I'm superintroverted and suffer from BPD, feeling threatened by everything and driving on a hellish roller-coaster- God, what have I done to you to be this way????????? 😱😱
It amazes me , yesterday I said that “I want to die and I don’t enjoy things like always...” and unsurprisingly all things said in this video were me .
@@sapnupuas7451 dont stop that from pulling you back from your goals though. You were in a bad place and you didnt know it then but what matters is that you know now, dont give up sapnu puas i bet you can achieve your goals!
@@CryingoverDazaicomau i mean,if i plan something for tomorrow,things won't go as i planned y'know, and then bam my plans are ruined(srry if i'm confusing u, english is not my first language)
@@Lucax_xyz no no your english is fine, i just wanted you to elaborate so i could help in some way. i used to be on the same boat . i used plan so much for the next day but the next day would come and i'd look at the plan list and go 'oh no it's too much i'll do it in the next hour '-- and then an hour passed and i ended up doing nothing. i watched lots of videos on how to stop this and i thought i could share some videos you can watch to feel inspired. ua-cam.com/video/aHDvEfiSipo/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/nHekURJBR0o/v-deo.html the first video was a great help to me. i decided that instead of trying to do 2 hours of study a day for one subject (i have 6 subjects) i decided to break it down into 20 minutes and spread it across the whole week. so far, it's working for me because it's more manageable. so what i do now is write a checklist of all the things i have to do but only spend 20 minutes on it. if i have enough time, i'd spend another 20 minutes. (i do things in chunks of 20 minutes now. because i realised that when i focussed too much on big tasks i'd be like meh i can do it tomorrow or feel overwhelmed and be scared to start. it's a pretty good trick i use to trick my brain into doing work. i tell myself okay just spend twenty minutes. it gets me in the flow and i work productively too.) the second video is good too but i don't really use it cause i don't like scheduling but it might be for you. sorry for the long post, have a nice day.
drugs can also improve, or, ehm, worsen your life :D They can cause you psychosis, you can become a neurothic and very compulsive/impulsive :DDDD yaaaaaaaaay, have a blast!
All these issues are symptoms of traumatized brain-not the root problem. Most people who are stuck in this really don't want to be there and have tried repeatedly to get out of this cycle! They have pains and sadness that they can't rid themselves of and thus their brain is focused on protective measures; isolation, judgment of any threat, anger which gives instantaneous energy, passimissm to avoid further disappointment and loss of hope or as Victor Frankel put it, loss of meaning/purpose for life. Empathy and support by an equipped person be it a wise friend or a trained counselor can help re-adjust a scared brain into a healthy brain willing to explore and grow or, as Freud put it, actualize. All these issues are a symptom and most of the time aren't a choice at all!
1. Use social media less 2.talk people 3.don t take all things seriously 4.never complain 5.never over think about your past and future 6.do new things and improve your self 7.set your goals ,which are clear Have a good day, friend 😊😊😊😊
Wow according to your guide I have literally already mastered misery and I have been honing my skills for such a long time that maximizing misery has become my default state. I SEE THAT NOW THERE IS NOTHING MORE I CAN DO
You know. Most of these things aren't decisions we make. A lot of them just happen slowly. Like becoming more and more socially isolated to the point of not coming back. Becoming depressed. Whatever. It's not that black and white.
That's right, but if you keep reminding yourself to move towards the right direction, this "slow change" will start happening for the best, and not towards unhappiness
it's very unconfortable to watch because it's describe very accurately what led a lot of people to be miserable, me included. It isn't a comforting video, it's kind of a wake-up call, it's disgusting and it makes you react strongly
I literally don’t care, I don’t want to live my life with this perfectionist self improvement attitude. That sounds exausting. I think it’s really unhealthy to chase happiness like that and it’s better to be grateful for what you have in the present moment. This video is good for the most part but I don’t think it’s necessary to set all those goals because it’s just too much. You shouldn’t have to do that much to be happy.
I dont mind complainers once or twice then they get off their butts to do something about it. I dont know about you but I personally cant stand complainers but does nothing about it. I dont do that too coz that is annoying asf to tje people around me.
@@neptunimidie267 relatable to the max and true dat we dont have a life hahahah i lost it and couldnt find it not even in the trashcan imagine the sewers 😂😂😂
you may think your life is in shambles and that you feel robbed the promises of a fruitful life, that is wrong. I see you as unworthy of the life you have desperately clinged onto for the past years and made no attempts to make amends, so i am going to simply advise you to find an appealing car going full speed and plunge forward as it will be your last time crossing the road. when in doubt, only the devil will help you out!
I don’t think enjoying my Own Presence can’t make me miserable???? Just the opposite I feel miserable around how rude, nasty society (other people) are behaving and are now a days! No Thanks nothing good to add to my Life! I hope all of you agreed!
@mooganify,you should also define what type of "happiness" too. If it is coming from progress towards your goals and accomplishing them or fake happiness in the form of impulsive pleasures and which make you feel good in a short term but are making you miserable in the medium to long term life.
I can’t be happy because I keep remembering that I’m gonna have to work my whole life until I retire. What am I gonna be doing for fun at 60. My mom might be dead by then and I’d be getting closer to death. I dropped out of high school due to social anxiety and depression. I’m 18 and need to get a ged to become an electrician or go into a police academy. I promised my mom i wouldn’t be a failure so those jobs are some of the options I have. Also the only 2 friends I have don’t ever wanna hang out with me or at least text. Nature is the only thing that makes me happy. I might just save up a lot of money and live the van life
Sorry to hear that. But what i'm gonna say it might be... I don't know. But all engineer says that "there is no problem but a challenge to be solved." And work is something i don't know.. But there is no work when you are working with things that you love to do. We all hate doing things that we hate. Pessimism is not be a "dumb. Pessimism is: all house there is a door and i just need to find it." Apologize for my english. I hope you have a good one.
it's easy to everybody saying ''do this or that or your life is miserable'' but people know what they live and have to deal everyday of course we have to try our best but c'mon, we'll work till we die on a job we probably will hate at some point and life is becoming more and more unbearable, and no video will change it
@@Mel9188 you're right. That's why we should pick a job that we love to do. It's kind of a culture where people say "pick a job that will give you more money!" Honestly we all are working right now When we play videogames or make a music or write. Then , why working is bad ? Indeed when we work with something that we hate doing is the best way to waste our life.
I never thought I would ever cry tears of joy and relief watching a youtube video. 5 minutes of my life were just enough to realize how miserable I am, but also to determine myself into leaving this state of mind behind, pick up my goals back and slowly, but surely achieve them one by one, like studying to graduate highschool, getting a better sleep schedule, exercising more, now I feel like a can do them
tl;dr - the lesson of this video: 1) Socialize with other people. It is not a problem if you spend time in front of your PC, you can play or do some work, whatever, just remember to socialize from time to time, even if that means going to the store to buy some milk. 2) Don't take things seriously. A lot of things may happen to you, but never be stressed out about things, try to be ignorant, try to care less about other people. Why would YOU worry about OTHER people's problems? 3) Having goals is a good idea. Even small goals can help, like wanting to improve your health by going for a run once or twice a week. 4) You are scared? Good. Be scared, but turn your fear into motivation. You are scared that you will fail an important exam? Use that fear to motivate you to study harder. Unfortunately I already failed life, I am stuck on an island with my PC, but it's not too late for you, so good luck.
Yo , I needed this so much thanks a lot . My life sucks and I know I am not capable of anything and I know I will fail , I already have multiple times . Thanks this help me make my life worse . And now with no irony , literally , thanks
Dude most people are like that so that video is not helping at all. Everybody know self isolation is shit, living in the past too etc. this video should rather tell us how to overcome these barriers that depression
So much so for me brutalized. I come here to the comment section just to have some relief. Commentators did fabulous job and I must say so did the WHIPPER...
Being alone and spend time with yourself is not so bad, you start to know yourself and connect with yourself when you can enjoy being with yourself...Being with other people is not always enjoyable
Solitude is good as long as it is a choice, when your social life is already well developed and you consciously choose to take time alone, even if you could see people. If solitude is unvoluntary, then it can be harmful
At least you need “best friend” or family. Yes you can be introvert and stay alone but not all the time. Spend some time with others maybe one or two hours.
"Heaven knows I'm more miserable now..." I can't be happy if I don't want to exist in this world. I have become awoken, and it's driven me mad. I've gone insane with despair.
@@songwriterscove4515 you sir need Jesus, not the fake fabricated one you succumb to foolishly, seek help from the purest of the pure, or just try attempting a backflip off the bank of america! (i'd prefer you do the second option however)
Better than being who you are is being whoever you want to be. I used to be extremely miserable as well but I crawled my way out of that abyss. It's hard, but possible.
CommentBot You're only miserable if you think you are. You probably have this idea of this amazing life you don't have and the things you're missing out on. The key is to realise what your life looks likes now and try to see something good. After you found it you'll start seeing more good things and eventually you'll realise your life isn't that bad at all. Also stop comparing yourself to others.
This is an eye-opening video showing the things we do in our day-to-day life that makes our life miserable rather we should do things smartly, relationships, communication, positivity, and living in today makes our life happier and fulfilled. 😊
@@viktorijajan9877 When most of the comments are pointing out the same thing, probably it's the author that needs to approach things in a different manner. This dude looks like he hates his life. Since he seems pretty self-aware of it, he shares tips so that he can help us getting better. But this is like someone helping to take out a spine from my eye when he has a timber in his. Take out yours first, and then pass to the others. Or else just share negativity. But I agree on a thing. Even if something looks stupid and nonsense and your instincts tell you to stop, do the opposite. It feels liberating. Just make sure you're not throwing your efforts to the wind and that you're actually talking to someone and not a precasted set of morals.
@Treble Gibbs Yes. Get a psychologist and get out there. Baby steps. I don't want you to solve this problem tomorrow, I want you to solve it in a year or two or five, if that's what it takes, cause five years is better than twenty. But to do that you need to take physical steps forwards.
As for now I'm 29 years old and I been living like this for 12 years. I'm ashamed of myself. Just recently I wanted to make a serious change, but I don't know it feels like it's too late for me and this video hits me so hard and deep.
I do all these things and I feel amazing and happy, I don't need any complicated social situations, having to think when to go out with friends or having to worry about failing at stuff I tried to accomplish. I just lay low on the radar and live a happy, healthy and simple life. I say if you're comfortable with living your life "miserably" and don't fall into depression, its quite cool. Although not to brag but I feel quite emotionally stable and can control my mental quite well so dealing with loneliness isn't a problem at all as well.
I'm not saying I don't have friends or anyone to rely on, quite the opposite actually I've got many people that I can trust with my life and spend time with whenever I ask them to hang out or they ask me, and also there's my family which I keep regular contact with. I'm just the type that not "likes" but prefers to stay alone and entertain myself with gaming, but other hobbies I have are astronomy and street workout, where I've met quite a few cool dudes that I made close friends with around the sport. Then again, I spent most of my time alone at home, watching movies, reading books or mostly gaming and I refuse to go out 95% of the time someone asks me to. Although I'm not socially awkward or lack self confidence, I don't overthink shit and don't feel bad about myself like some people I know that also live a "lonely life", which is probably why I can keep my mental up in an environment where I'm not meeting almost any people outside of my hobby activities. It's not a permanent solution I agree, but it's been working quite well for me for years and If I somehow happen to fall into depression or start to require more social contact, I've many ways to resolve around the problems.
Then you are an introvert just like me. I think this video totally disregards that not everyone is getting energy from people. I think two things are true from the video: goals and the comfort zone, because yeah it kinda sucks if you don't know where you wanna go in life. And you have to leave you comfort zone more often to take action because learning comes with failure and everybody fears failure.
Here's the thing: I'm all about living a happy, fulfilling life...but we don't live in a perfect world. There are things you simply cannot control and you must make life decisions based on what you have in a realistic way. There's a difference between making rational decisions that are realistic to your lifestyle and current circumstances and being a complete and utter bell pot that walks out the door expecting to meet the partner of their dreams, have beautiful kids, have an amazing job that pays exceptionally well and live to well over 100 years old having absolutely no regrets whatsoever. Sure, it CAN be achieved and some people have lifestyles like this, but there's nothing wrong with accepting life for what it really is and being happy with that. You can try to change your mindset so the small things in life make you happy. What's the point in living a life so focused on improvement and reaching this hypothetical end goal that one day you wake up and wonder what you've done with your life because you've never lived in the present moment. Enjoy life, enjoy what you have. Sure, aim to develop and improve, but don't let it control your life completely.
I'd even argue that to be actually happy you HAVE to accept life for what it really is. Chasing happiness never makes one happy. The only way to truly and constantly be happy is being content with life and enjoy the little things.
And like you said, we should aim to develop and improve. Humans are not perfect and never will be, but we ought to try to be better. To be a better person, for our family/friends sake etc etc
If your whole soul isn't aiming at improvement then the likelihood of you attaining it by chance is zero, we humans are aiming creatures, a goal is the only thing that gives you the motivation to do anything, now ofc that goal could be anything from as little and biological need as going to the bathroom, to as big and noble as wanting to reduce the suffering in the world and making a strong person out of yourself. Sure you can enjoy the little things in life as they come but your whole soul and focus should be aimed at the biggest and the noblest goal you can think of (the bigger the more motivation you get) but it still has to be realistic and you need to at least have a theory of how you could attain it. What you are suggesting is complete rubbish... keep enjoying the "little things" without focusing on improvement and see where you end up in a couple of years. It's an appalling long-term strategy. If you don't make the hero journey your number one priority all you get is a meaningless life and endless miserable suffering...
Of course it's true that we should be happy about the little things but meanwhile when starting to exercise, to read books about personal developement (kindness, motivation etc.), to set goals and to go out of your comfortzone you probably are enjoying the present moment, feeling good about yourself rather than you'd do when watching netflix, eating junk-food and knowing that this is an unhealthy lifestyle. And when having accomplished your goals I think your general satisfaction about life is even bigger as you feel comfortable in your body, you don't have everyday-fears such as not wanting to ask people about something, you've learned to play an instrument e.g. what brings you a lot of joy etc.
Couldn't agree more! I have more energy and feel so much more happy when not surrounded by people, who generally just annoy me. The more I see of people/humanity the less I want to see.
You thínk isolation makes you happy/gives you energy because you're not yet used to socializing. Not interacting with other people is the easy way out. I did it for years.
@@musing_wdb "You thínk isolation makes you happy/gives you energy because you're not yet used to socializing." - I used to socialize a lot when I was younger, like every day. Step by step it became a chore. Conversations became tedious. I sometimes still meet people I used to chat a lot 10 years ago. We have nothing to talk about. They have families and children, hence, completely different priorities from mine.
@@UTF016 Hmm...interesting. Would you say your old social circle didn't interest you anymore? It's a big world. Maybe your interest lies somewhere else?
From tomorrow I’m gonna come out of the house and run & bark on the streets of my city until something extraordinary happens that will change me forever and take me out of my current miserable self for good. Amen
Sk8LovesSweet, he is either talking about failing in love with a beautiful woman who you can never have, because they are way out of their league or he is talking about getting into a relationship with a one, but realizing that she knows that she is very good looking and therefor thinks that she is entitled to do whatever the fuck she wants to do because she is a fucking "princess" in her mind like OH LOOK AT ME IM SO PRETTY now I can treat you like SHIT, because what r u gonna do, huh? Break up with me HAHA im too pretty you cant do it so I can keep fucking with your head, lying, taking your money, flirting with other guys while going mental if another female even comes 2 meters to you, complain about EVERYTHING WITH NO EXCEPTIONS. Oh fuck its too hot, its too cold ME HEAD ACHES NO SEX TODAY FUCK YOU YOU FUCKING BITCH AND YOU EXPECT ME TO MARRY YOU? WHAT THE FUCK IF I GET YOU PREGURS IM GONNA KILL MYSELF BITCH FUCK YOU AND DIIIIEEEEEEEEE
Sk8LovesSweet because you'll be miserable when it's inevitably over. When you don't have it you wish you could and you're miserable. When you finally get it you fear losing it and you're miserable. When you do lose it, something inside you breaks apart and it's emotionally excruciating. Repeat.
These kinds of videos are more effective than the normal ones. Saying the opposite makes the people realizing how bad they are turning in an ironic way, while saying in the normal way can not change someone because that person who's watching may have such a ego that he thinks he doesn't need it or he's already doing it. Keep going with this idea. Probably it might change people's minds.
I have been bullied in school and have never quite learned to interact with other people. I spend a lot of time on my own, and I do kind of like it! It is difficult for me to be with strangers because of what I've gone through in my childhood. I am a loner and I sure don't know how to loosen up and maybe get some friends.
Ironically, I like groups and am less thrilled when it's just 1 other person. I either like a lively party or chilling at home on my computer. Not a huge fan of just being with 1 other person. Their quirks can overwhelm me, especially if it's bad spending habits (so, 99.9% of the U.S. population). I'm a stock trader and nothing peeves me off more than someone buying something at 5000% markup, when I damn well know what the thing is actually worth. I think a group setting distracts me enough to alleviate that.
Nah, after he devalued people who are interested in politics, I couldn't take him seriously anymore. ;) One sure way to be miserable: Pretend as if you have no impact in life, or as if politics are only for the stupid, and never address anything real or meaningful for fear of being judged by people who don't care much about the world.
I am exactly like the misery person you describe in the video. How wonderful... I'll secretly tell you smoking weed can greatly enhance feelings of powerlessness and even induce some paranoia, in social situation it would help me to act like there was nobody but me in a completely silent, dark room. In fact when I used weed I would sit in the corner, isolate myself and be paranoid, worried about near future - all of that next to a group of people. It was incredibly difficult to say a sentence and not mispronounce it. Highly recommended for people who are in miserable homeostasis.
The problem with me and with everyone else is : Watching many videos , many advise , many tips and steps , until we get disturbed and confused of what should we do .. Even if we knew we're too lazy to apply 🐸 I feel bad for my life .. RIP 😞
Just start doing something and that's it. Care about your health both mental and physical and do what you like or what gives you opportunity to do what you like (aka earning money)
When the pain is great enough you'll have 2 choices that will determine if your life's gonna be hell or heaven: 1. Doing everything described in this video. 2. Doing the opposite. I chose number 2 and I feel like and act as if nothing is impossible. Maybe this helps too... FEAR = False Expectations Appearing Real
I remember probably the best day of my life this year. I was so confident at work. Actually enjoying work even though it had not changed and I was making the same low wages. It all started one night when I had an idea. An experiment if you will. I decided that the following morning as soon as I got out of bed I was going to take care of everything that I set my eyes on instead of leaving it until an undetermined day. So I woke up the next morning and I've got to say the hardest part was not the doing it. It was making up my mind to do it even if caused me discomfort, even if I had to give up playing with my phone before work. So I thought for a second about what I could do. It didn't take long for me to realize that I could clean and organize the house, a task that I was putting off every day for MANY days. So I started cleaning and doing dishes and organizing and of course a thought occurred to me "What if I'm just wasting my time" "What if my life is going to be just the same weather I clean my house or not" but I was curious to see if there was any benefit to it so I continued. Now after getting up and actually starting the first task I had to admit it was not nearly as difficult a task as I was making it out to be in my mind. But right after finishing the jobs I was able to do before work I didn't notice anything special. I felt about the same as always but as soon as I started to work (at McDonald's that time) I noticed Working was easy and effortless because my self discipline and confidence had been raised without me immediately noticing it. By the end of that night I was about to go to sleep and for the first time in a while I felt content anf even happy to lay down and sleep. I then realized that doing things that can only be good for you; especially thing's that you keep putting off for no good reason can mean a whole lot more to you than you could ever realize by the end of the day. You see I did this because I was lacking purpose in my life and the normal things that I was doing; as small as they were , were purpose enough to my mind and emotions. Enough to give me new hope. So I challenge you all to do the same. Maybe you clean your house immaculately everyday. In that case cleaning will not help you. But I guarantee you that if you wake up tomorrow or this morning and make you your mind that for just ONE day. Not two days. Not a week or a month because that's too overwhelming. But for one day your going to take care of things as soon as you realize they ought to be done. I challenge you to do this because I suspect that a good amount of you all will find purpose in doing this and if you want, you can continue to do it if you find that it's that beneficial.
"All you have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to you." -Gandalf The Grey "The future is not set. There is no fate but what we make for ourselves." -John Conner "Tell the truth, all the time." -Dr. Randy Pausch
This video is so so awesome! The irony of hearing how obvious that living in such a way can make you unhappy and yet we still do it anyways. Almost like an antiphrasis. Incredible job brother!
Alone=/=Lonely I find strength in self suficiency and it made me more independent than ever. Spending time with people is important but just as important is to anlyze our interactions and grow. Not every social medium or interaction is beneficial for our mental health. That's why I think this is video is way too broad and I think this is where pseudo intelectual hipsters step in, watch overly simplified videos and form strong opinions on ideas. Also, maybe stepping out of your confort zone requires from a highly sociable pearson to spend time alone or change toxic social circles, and enjoy a more silent and content happines.
Wow, I didn't think I was good at anything before watching this video but now I know I'm the best at wasting my life and being miserable! I've become a pro at this!
Its not about needing a lot of people. its about being able to communicate and being able to form lasting relationships with a few of them. We still are a social species, and we should cater to that need. Unless your a catholic priest. Oh wait...
Words can’t express how AWESOME this video is! I really loved the animations. They were in perfect sync with the script which was well written. Super enjoyable to watch! You sure have put a lot of time and effort and into creating this one. Great job Daniel! Keep it up!
I had the exact same thought the other day. If we're all gonna die what's the point? But in the exact same question is the answer. We're all gonna die anyway. But your offspring will continue to live and carry your DNA. You want your DNA to be in top condition before passing it onto your children. That's the essence of growth. To evolve. It could be good or bad DNA, good or bad karma, good or bad faith, destiny or whatever. You need to play the hand that you're dealt in the best way possible. As long as you don't give up, you'll eventually win the game of life.
I am LITERALLY every single thing on that list... how the fuck did I even end up with this universally worst set of life choices I could ever make... I need some kind of reward
How it was for me: - normal life - *gets cancer* - 80% of your previous normal life people can't deal/cope with the situation they grow distant and vanish - *you feel miserable* - the remaining 20% people try to help but they got their(normal) lives to live so it's unluckily not enough, at least theyre here to talk. - i'd like to grow out of the "miserable" state but cancer left his marks and i feel like i used most of my resiliance to get through that, i just lack the strenght to push myself out of the rabbit hole alone.
Claudiu Lucian complaining & self pity = being stagnant, always look forward, at how things will be better. If something is making you unhappy, CHANGE it! You can. You can do everything, including of course counter productive things. You decide what you do. But if you have dreams, Id chase after them. Whenever you are being negative, you dont understand the game of life. You can repair & achieve absolutely everything. Good luck!
I just wanted to check if im doing it right..
im glad i satisfy all the points, so proud!
Hahahahah
Indeed ha ha ha
Daayum same dude. It seems that I do it perfectly
I am in the same queue as you🤣
For the first time I've actually mastered everything suggested in one of your videos.
Haha, that's kinda good but also kinda bad....
The exact video that i wanted to see thanks a lot.This an Epitome for me and i have all that kind of mentality.
Welcome brother
Same
I was just typing something similar and thought "there's no way this comment isn't written already", lol.
_"You wanna learn how to waste your life and be as miserable as you can?"_
Nah. I've perfected it already
Why does life suck ?
@@geetown3485 It's a sorrowful state of affairs.
I already Mastered this 🤣
I always feel sad;(
@@geetown3485 it doesn't. Approximately 3 million people wished they had a life like u. Don't say life it sucks. Grow up!
I wasn't expecting this video to literally list EVERYTHING I do, I think I need to just go to sleep now this has actually made me die a little inside
Me either
Same
Детерминизм это Свобода 🤙 🤙
So...did you stop doing the stuff yet? Like yeah life sucks, but typically you just need to put in a shot ton of effort To make it better. Worked great for me so far.
it's 2 years later now, hope you're dealing with things better now :)
Finally, I'm succeeding in something
Same here
🥳
Here we are
Same
yea yea 😂
This video is pretty accurate how I’m currently living. Feels like hell.
Same
yup! while thinking about the fastest, least painful ways to die! got to love creativity!
Welcome in the club mate. :D
Me too =(
Same here, very deadly life
This motivated my depression.
Exactly
It cured mine
I just exactly discover why am I in a depression
Eric the Viking
Bullshit, real depression can’t just be cured by some shitty video miss understanding complex issues
then you’re* better off being depressed
I have been doing every single thing for years ......no wonder why I am so successful
....
At destroying my life
Same but i have excuses. Mental stuff!
Who else got a psychosis last year? Nobody? Well, then i'm actually good at something
Детерминизм это Свобода 🤙 🤙 🤙
@@cobalius hey are you better now?
I love the ending, "maybe you 'll do better in the next life."
Buddists be like
We do not exist even we live our lives.
There is only ONE life and after that ETERNITY with Lord Jesus Christ in Heaven or Hell depart from God.. this is NO JOKE!! Repent and believe in Lord Jesus Christ!
@@snicfeelthelove2069 yawn
Haklısınız kardeşimmm
this is a five minute roast for me
Same here..ouch
Same here...
Same
Yup same here
LMAO
This video saved my life, I was becoming too successful and happy. Thank you very much🙏🏽
Sensei Mattto wow.. Keep on going!
😂😂😂😂😂
Go down you will get dizzy up there with low O2
lol
Be social, build relationships
Don't take things seriously or personally
Don't complain, be positive and optimistic
Live in the present moment and feel how peaceful it is
Go to sleep happy, with good positive thoughts
Set SMART goals (specific, measurable, actionable, time-defined)
Go out of your comfort zone, realize fear is just an illusion don't let it dictate your life, take risks, don't wait for the perfect moment
We only have one life, we must live it to the fullest. We can’t dwell on the past and we can’t be regretful. We must learn to move on and move forward. We are all only one decision away from bettering or ruining our lives. I choose to try and to be the best version I can possibly become. If I fail, at least I try. And trying is better than doing nothing at all.
>have a goal
>live in the moment
Literally pick one or the other
@@mooganify this
Thank you ❤️
@@mooganify lmao ikr
I already know how to waste my life I don't need advice thanks
Czqhn 87 same 😂😂
Czqhn 87 well depends on what you want out of life what isn't a waste for someone might be for someone else
lmao
Damn, I see you’re using the advice
Wasting my time and my life, lol that's why I'm here haha
Nothing to learn here. I already do all these things
@@cringe_shattles69 then be my friend 😢
@@infinitybeyond4577 I can be your friendo
@@infinitybeyond4577 urhm sure dude
@@kostas9006 No County For Old Mendo
Your profile pic says it all
Socializing is good but with the right people and they are hard to find.
True, but you just find them by socializing :)
trust in Lord Jesus Christ to guide you and you will find the right people.
socializing isnt that hard, just say more good morning to someone and then they will be friendly, is like magic!! socializing isnt party with your friends, socializing is be a part of that social world, living in society, this will grow you and your mental health
I used to be someone with that kind of thoughts and wanting to kill everyone. Now I have a lot of good friends in school, family, etc.
Just don't make enemies, be nice even with horrible people, and be friends with the ones you like
Even though they are hard to find, it doesn't change the fact that it is miserable not having someone there for you.
How to be miserable in 5 steps:
1 Isolate yourself
2 Take things seriously, judge everyone, keep your distance and complain alot
3 Live in the past or future
4 Never set goals, if you do ignore the small steps
5 Let fear paralize you and stay in your comfort zone.
Oh boy, I sure don't want to kill myself right now.
Moises Soto i see youre trying hard to become miserable, good job !
Attaboy.
Why not?!?
Damn, u failed
What is wrong with you? why wasting time to live when can die and be done with it
I just saw the reflection of my everyday life in here. Thanks for the video.
We r on the same page then
I'm doing most of the things in this video, I don't know what bring it...but I know that I want to change
Same 😞😥😢
yea, just dont forget to keep complaining and do nothing about it! proud of ya ma boys!
I succeed in the described stages of misery mostly because of subconscious decisions - I'm superintroverted and suffer from BPD, feeling threatened by everything and driving on a hellish roller-coaster- God, what have I done to you to be this way????????? 😱😱
2020 pandemic:
"Iscolate yourself, isolation is one of the biggest forms of misery"
Quarentine: CHECK
I didn't need quarentine for this step though :)
@@neptunimidie267 me too bro
@John Jr Derbyshire neurosis
I isolated my self even before covid
I legitimately want to die at this point I can’t take it
It amazes me , yesterday I said that “I want to die and I don’t enjoy things like always...” and unsurprisingly all things said in this video were me .
I don't remember when I actually had a goal in my life.
what is goals?
Goala is something which you want deep inside and suceeding to get it. But how can have goals if not perception and pure happines inside of yourself.
Thats my problem
And I think drugs and lifestyle ruined my life
@@sapnupuas7451 dont stop that from pulling you back from your goals though. You were in a bad place and you didnt know it then but what matters is that you know now, dont give up sapnu puas i bet you can achieve your goals!
my life has come to a point where if I start making plans for tomorrow they start to go wrong today.
Same
Maybe ask your butler Maeda. Jk but wdym by going wrong today?
@@CryingoverDazaicomau i mean,if i plan something for tomorrow,things won't go as i planned y'know, and then bam my plans are ruined(srry if i'm confusing u, english is not my first language)
@@Lucax_xyz no no your english is fine, i just wanted you to elaborate so i could help in some way. i used to be on the same boat . i used plan so much for the next day but the next day would come and i'd look at the plan list and go 'oh no it's too much i'll do it in the next hour '-- and then an hour passed and i ended up doing nothing. i watched lots of videos on how to stop this and i thought i could share some videos you can watch to feel inspired.
ua-cam.com/video/aHDvEfiSipo/v-deo.html
ua-cam.com/video/nHekURJBR0o/v-deo.html
the first video was a great help to me. i decided that instead of trying to do 2 hours of study a day for one subject (i have 6 subjects) i decided to break it down into 20 minutes and spread it across the whole week. so far, it's working for me because it's more manageable. so what i do now is write a checklist of all the things i have to do but only spend 20 minutes on it. if i have enough time, i'd spend another 20 minutes. (i do things in chunks of 20 minutes now. because i realised that when i focussed too much on big tasks i'd be like meh i can do it tomorrow or feel overwhelmed and be scared to start. it's a pretty good trick i use to trick my brain into doing work. i tell myself okay just spend twenty minutes. it gets me in the flow and i work productively too.)
the second video is good too but i don't really use it cause i don't like scheduling but it might be for you.
sorry for the long post, have a nice day.
@@CryingoverDazaicomau ur so sweet,thanks😔✊🏻♥️✨🌻
I've been doing this for 22 years and I can confirm that it works
I feel like this is a 5 min roast session for all of us INFPs out there...
This video is just the worst of all IxxPs rolled into one, especially when paired with enneagram types 4 or 6.
as an infp, i agree.
As an INTP i have to agree, too.
INFP Problems. 😫
INFJ too. We have goals but they are often so big we lose hope and motivation 😞
Did already all scenarios... Is there some Kind of DLC for this game?
chase hot women bro
drugs can also improve, or, ehm, worsen your life :D They can cause you psychosis, you can become a neurothic and very compulsive/impulsive :DDDD yaaaaaaaaay, have a blast!
This made me laugh.. out loud
Yea, it's called Free Roam: Do what makes you happy
Thank yall this is by far my favorite thread btw👍🏾
All these issues are symptoms of traumatized brain-not the root problem. Most people who are stuck in this really don't want to be there and have tried repeatedly to get out of this cycle! They have pains and sadness that they can't rid themselves of and thus their brain is focused on protective measures; isolation, judgment of any threat, anger which gives instantaneous energy, passimissm to avoid further disappointment and loss of hope or as Victor Frankel put it, loss of meaning/purpose for life. Empathy and support by an equipped person be it a wise friend or a trained counselor can help re-adjust a scared brain into a healthy brain willing to explore and grow or, as Freud put it, actualize. All these issues are a symptom and most of the time aren't a choice at all!
Finally, the right answer 🖒👌
This deserves a thousand likes.
@CUTIE SANA Sure but I'm a gynaecologist.
@@Guerrilla727 loooooooooooool
@@redrosey7829 ;)
1. Use social media less
2.talk people
3.don t take all things seriously
4.never complain
5.never over think about your past and future
6.do new things and improve your self
7.set your goals ,which are clear
Have a good day, friend 😊😊😊😊
not that easy
Its not easy to do for sure but, i didnt have a list so thanks mate
Naaaahhh
Thank you soo much for list
Thanks
Wow according to your guide I have literally already mastered misery and I have been honing my skills for such a long time that maximizing misery has become my default state. I SEE THAT NOW THERE IS NOTHING MORE I CAN DO
I'll be right back, my toaster says it wants to take a bath with me
GAGANDEEP SINGH 😆😆
hahaha!!!
Ki hoya prawa🤣
Auch my stomach =D
Make sure to plug it in first
so... being unsocial... check.
being negative and complain... check..
next is getting anxiety... shouldn't be too hard.
haha! I'm ahead of you! I winnnn!...oh wait... >.
I don't need anxiety it makes me plan out what I have to do, to lazy to do that man.
ANGRY SPACE MARINE just turn into a dickhead. Honestly i’ma just give people a reason to hate me
Trauma from an last year incident check
CRINGE
I feel attacked
Alienh Hel hahahaha😂😂
Same 😂
True though
lol
Ikr 🤣 somehow me too a bit
this sounds like the most sarcastic mom lecture ever
You know. Most of these things aren't decisions we make. A lot of them just happen slowly. Like becoming more and more socially isolated to the point of not coming back. Becoming depressed. Whatever. It's not that black and white.
RCmies true...
But at the same time, neither is the decision to change them.
That's right, but if you keep reminding yourself to move towards the right direction, this "slow change" will start happening for the best, and not towards unhappiness
This video made me depressed as fuck because I'm terrified that I'm doing all of these things. I'm so scared
Andres Noriega good luck with that.
naturally, we humans do everything the wrong way before we find out that's wrong
This video is actually scary
Because it makes one realize, where they are heading.
it's very unconfortable to watch because it's describe very accurately what led a lot of people to be miserable, me included. It isn't a comforting video, it's kind of a wake-up call, it's disgusting and it makes you react strongly
Wow now I see why I tried suciced attempt yesterday. 🤔
@@luckycharm1395 You are not alone who tried it at 6th dicember 2018.
No it is not
This video just tore me apart. Who else watched this in horror
Me. This video is like a mirror
let's build each other up, we can do it! let's get out of this rut we are in!
@@theBakinNoob yeah, when we feel like it
But we can do something about it, can´t we ?
@@wladynosz1565 yes
I literally don’t care, I don’t want to live my life with this perfectionist self improvement attitude. That sounds exausting. I think it’s really unhealthy to chase happiness like that and it’s better to be grateful for what you have in the present moment. This video is good for the most part but I don’t think it’s necessary to set all those goals because it’s just too much. You shouldn’t have to do that much to be happy.
Ugh..... I can’t believe I’m not supposed to complain.
WHERE'S THE MANAGER OF MY LIFE?! I WANNA TALK TO HIM!
Potato lol
The ironyyy
I dont mind complainers once or twice then they get off their butts to do something about it. I dont know about you but I personally cant stand complainers but does nothing about it. I dont do that too coz that is annoying asf to tje people around me.
lmao the irony
To be honest, if you've got a life you wouldn't be watching this video. Blissful unreflectiveness is the way to go.
Same thing you can say about the guy who made the video you watched
Is it worst if it was on my recommandation lol
@@neptunimidie267 relatable to the max and true dat we dont have a life hahahah i lost it and couldnt find it not even in the trashcan imagine the sewers 😂😂😂
now during covid-19 and quarantine its not possible to get a life lol
Well shit, no wonder I'm lonely and miserable.
You blame government
you may think your life is in shambles and that you feel robbed the promises of a fruitful life, that is wrong. I see you as unworthy of the life you have desperately clinged onto for the past years and made no attempts to make amends, so i am going to simply advise you to find an appealing car going full speed and plunge forward as it will be your last time crossing the road. when in doubt, only the devil will help you out!
I don’t think enjoying my Own Presence can’t make me miserable???? Just the opposite I feel miserable around how rude, nasty society (other people) are behaving and are now a days! No Thanks nothing good to add to my Life!
I hope all of you agreed!
yh this comment is top im telling you 👏
Agreed
I don't enjoy myself or the company of others.
@@GhostSamaritan ok that’s a problem now when u mentioned you don’t enjoy yourself ? Why?
@@darkbionic1044 because he knows he is miserable and antisocial and dont have strenght and happines inside of himself.
"To maximise your misery, think about all that before bed, then go to sleep. *Good luck with that.* " 🤣😆
😂😂😂😂
It works
Jesus the Messiah blesd you!
Living Waters youtube channel
this is actually really sad because I never even thought that I was living a miserable life.
Well if you’re happy with who you are then don’t let some UA-cam video tell you otherwise
@mooganify,you should also define what type of "happiness" too. If it is coming from progress towards your goals and accomplishing them or fake happiness in the form of impulsive pleasures and which make you feel good in a short term but are making you miserable in the medium to long term life.
@@menghao4576 i completely agree. There's a difference between being happy and being comfortable
“Improve yourself, stop being average” um by definition if everyone improved themselves everyone would still be average
This is meme worthy, well done.
yeah but there’s always dat motivation to strive and improve yo self
ight you can stay the same then
@Doodle Noodle Everyone faces their own challenges, and it's not fair to compare them is what i've gathered from this.
Oh well that means the average would be raised, which would be better for everyone?
I can’t be happy because I keep remembering that I’m gonna have to work my whole life until I retire. What am I gonna be doing for fun at 60. My mom might be dead by then and I’d be getting closer to death. I dropped out of high school due to social anxiety and depression. I’m 18 and need to get a ged to become an electrician or go into a police academy. I promised my mom i wouldn’t be a failure so those jobs are some of the options I have. Also the only 2 friends I have don’t ever wanna hang out with me or at least text. Nature is the only thing that makes me happy. I might just save up a lot of money and live the van life
Sorry to hear that. But what i'm gonna say it might be... I don't know.
But all engineer says that "there is no problem but a challenge to be solved."
And work is something i don't know.. But there is no work when you are working with things that you love to do. We all hate doing things that we hate.
Pessimism is not be a "dumb. Pessimism is: all house there is a door and i just need to find it."
Apologize for my english. I hope you have a good one.
ua-cam.com/video/WPPPFqsECz0/v-deo.html
It might be helpful
it's easy to everybody saying ''do this or that or your life is miserable'' but people know what they live and have to deal everyday
of course we have to try our best but c'mon, we'll work till we die on a job we probably will hate at some point and life is becoming more and more unbearable, and no video will change it
@@Mel9188 you're right. That's why we should pick a job that we love to do. It's kind of a culture where people say "pick a job that will give you more money!"
Honestly we all are working right now When we play videogames or make a music or write.
Then , why working is bad ? Indeed when we work with something that we hate doing is the best way to waste our life.
This video is exactly the kind of kick up the backside I needed
:)
Same lol
Naw you're ready to be even more miserable
Same goes for me
re-kick!
I never thought I would ever cry tears of joy and relief watching a youtube video. 5 minutes of my life were just enough to realize how miserable I am, but also to determine myself into leaving this state of mind behind, pick up my goals back and slowly, but surely achieve them one by one, like studying to graduate highschool, getting a better sleep schedule, exercising more, now I feel like a can do them
So a year has passed I am pretty sure u haven’t done anything and are still miserable? Pls give me an update
@@William.Williams who cares op forgot his comment
How did you do man
Yeah I also think I'll do better in my next life.
so i can kill everyone at school nice
This is my "next life"
oh....
SamE.....
@@goldenbutterfly1933 sadist. That is what you are.
for some reason my brain kept being like: *hm yes lets take notes here*
tl;dr - the lesson of this video:
1) Socialize with other people. It is not a problem if you spend time in front of your PC, you can play or do some work, whatever, just remember to socialize from time to time, even if that means going to the store to buy some milk.
2) Don't take things seriously. A lot of things may happen to you, but never be stressed out about things, try to be ignorant, try to care less about other people. Why would YOU worry about OTHER people's problems?
3) Having goals is a good idea. Even small goals can help, like wanting to improve your health by going for a run once or twice a week.
4) You are scared? Good. Be scared, but turn your fear into motivation. You are scared that you will fail an important exam? Use that fear to motivate you to study harder.
Unfortunately I already failed life, I am stuck on an island with my PC, but it's not too late for you, so good luck.
Bada Bing Bada Boom t
It is never too late.
Where there is life, there is hope
' It's never too late. Oh, unless your dead! ' - exurb1a
Hence why I said where there is life there is hope.
If you’re dead you are fucked alright.
You forget one important factor, never give up.
This is the epitome of reverse psychology.
Yes.
not really, since I don't see anything wrong with the "advice" in the video
Yo , I needed this so much thanks a lot . My life sucks and I know I am not capable of anything and I know I will fail , I already have multiple times . Thanks this help me make my life worse . And now with no irony , literally , thanks
Seriously, though, this is EXACTLY how I've been living :(
Same 😅
Dude most people are like that so that video is not helping at all. Everybody know self isolation is shit, living in the past too etc. this video should rather tell us how to overcome these barriers that depression
@@TranceMatzl15 welll I get your point but I see this as a wake up call
@@nibbax7772 yeah I didn't consider that but you make a good point
Man, you just slapped me so freaking hard
So much so for me brutalized. I come here to the comment section just to have some relief. Commentators did fabulous job and I must say so did the WHIPPER...
With a piece of ham
Being alone and spend time with yourself is not so bad, you start to know yourself and connect with yourself when you can enjoy being with yourself...Being with other people is not always enjoyable
Solitude is good as long as it is a choice, when your social life is already well developed and you consciously choose to take time alone, even if you could see people. If solitude is unvoluntary, then it can be harmful
At least you need “best friend” or family. Yes you can be introvert and stay alone but not all the time. Spend some time with others maybe one or two hours.
"Heaven knows I'm more miserable now..."
I can't be happy if I don't want to exist in this world. I have become awoken, and it's driven me mad. I've gone insane with despair.
Maybe thats why they woke us,,,
Oh my god SAME
@o. t. i means you were sleeping beforehand
@@songwriterscove4515 you sir need Jesus, not the fake fabricated one you succumb to foolishly, seek help from the purest of the pure, or just try attempting a backflip off the bank of america! (i'd prefer you do the second option however)
@@offbrandfiji6487 evidently your religion thinks it's okay to suggest that people commit suicide, no thanks. You sir, are of your father the devil.
This video just reminded me about how I'll be miserable forever because its just who I am. I don't know what I was expecting.
you gotta level up to advanced miserable.
Better than being who you are is being whoever you want to be. I used to be extremely miserable as well but I crawled my way out of that abyss. It's hard, but possible.
CommentBot You're only miserable if you think you are. You probably have this idea of this amazing life you don't have and the things you're missing out on. The key is to realise what your life looks likes now and try to see something good. After you found it you'll start seeing more good things and eventually you'll realise your life isn't that bad at all. Also stop comparing yourself to others.
I can approve that this will make you extremely miserable because I'm actually doing all of without wanting to :(
Well... Nick.. I guess it's time for a change.
Without wanting not too, also..
Arr you clinically depressed
Project Better Self you cant control youre live called destiny
Yoeri Hengeveld if my destiny is to live like shit then i don't want that no no
Why am I watching this???
I have freaking exam tomorrow
person How as it lmao ??
😂😂😂😂
Lol😂😂
How'd it go?
Fucking me too
This is an eye-opening video showing the things we do in our day-to-day life that makes our life miserable rather we should do things smartly, relationships, communication, positivity, and living in today makes our life happier and fulfilled. 😊
Tutorial: How to create anxiety and depression
*_applause_*
How to: start defending yourself when a simple video points out your resposability for your own actions that turned into long term habits.
@@viktorijajan9877 yea true
@@viktorijajan9877 When most of the comments are pointing out the same thing, probably it's the author that needs to approach things in a different manner. This dude looks like he hates his life. Since he seems pretty self-aware of it, he shares tips so that he can help us getting better. But this is like someone helping to take out a spine from my eye when he has a timber in his. Take out yours first, and then pass to the others. Or else just share negativity.
But I agree on a thing. Even if something looks stupid and nonsense and your instincts tell you to stop, do the opposite. It feels liberating. Just make sure you're not throwing your efforts to the wind and that you're actually talking to someone and not a precasted set of morals.
Are you feeling it now Mr krabs
Nexus I’m crying 😂
Nexus GET OFF OF ME
- Harold the blue fish
Art though feeling it now, Mr Krabs?
OMG! 😂😂😂
Nexus 😂😂😂😂 favorite comment ever
You have finally convinced me to get my first job, I’ve been putting it off for so long!
😅 so true! Now let's try to do the opposite!
Hahah same
no thank you.
i just come here to see what i am not going to do.
Good point 🤘
That’s what I was thinking!
My thoughts: Finally, someone who is smart and wants to enjoy life.
Any one else with social anxiety? 😐
@Treble Gibbs Yes. Get a psychologist and get out there. Baby steps. I don't want you to solve this problem tomorrow, I want you to solve it in a year or two or five, if that's what it takes, cause five years is better than twenty. But to do that you need to take physical steps forwards.
I may have some Social Anxiety.
It sucks :/
I sure do. I think it has to do with fapping.
@@NGEternal Psychologist doesn't help. Go exercise, eat healthy, meditate and do exposure therapy.
Yes i guess
This was so depressing to me.. felt he was narrating my life story 🙂🙂🙂
Life is teaching us about life and life is wasting everything everyday.
It's alright, I'll decompose anyway.
I mastered all of them. Thanks for the reminder
you didn't ask to be born
@@orerecise6540 🙃🙃 true
Aww you're do pretty ❤🌸
@@AlbertJaron thank you😊❤
oh my god... its like he described my life... I feel so naked lmfao
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Thanks for the video 😊 I'll keep what he said in mind.
Lucre Bem - Empreendedorismo I know... it just felt rude not to say something so yeah...
Imfao means
As for now I'm 29 years old and I been living like this for 12 years. I'm ashamed of myself. Just recently I wanted to make a serious change, but I don't know it feels like it's too late for me and this video hits me so hard and deep.
Nice bro, but make a change and to the better
I do all these things and I feel amazing and happy, I don't need any complicated social situations, having to think when to go out with friends or having to worry about failing at stuff I tried to accomplish. I just lay low on the radar and live a happy, healthy and simple life. I say if you're comfortable with living your life "miserably" and don't fall into depression, its quite cool. Although not to brag but I feel quite emotionally stable and can control my mental quite well so dealing with loneliness isn't a problem at all as well.
Yay for you! It's the "Live and let live" motto.
Exactly... It actually made me feel miserable to watch this video telling me that I am miserable, when I never considered myself to be so lol
I’m telling you, when day you’ll feel hella lonely and would want to make friends and relationships. I’m telling u this
by experience.
I'm not saying I don't have friends or anyone to rely on, quite the opposite actually I've got many people that I can trust with my life and spend time with whenever I ask them to hang out or they ask me, and also there's my family which I keep regular contact with. I'm just the type that not "likes" but prefers to stay alone and entertain myself with gaming, but other hobbies I have are astronomy and street workout, where I've met quite a few cool dudes that I made close friends with around the sport. Then again, I spent most of my time alone at home, watching movies, reading books or mostly gaming and I refuse to go out 95% of the time someone asks me to. Although I'm not socially awkward or lack self confidence, I don't overthink shit and don't feel bad about myself like some people I know that also live a "lonely life", which is probably why I can keep my mental up in an environment where I'm not meeting almost any people outside of my hobby activities. It's not a permanent solution I agree, but it's been working quite well for me for years and If I somehow happen to fall into depression or start to require more social contact, I've many ways to resolve around the problems.
Then you are an introvert just like me. I think this video totally disregards that not everyone is getting energy from people. I think two things are true from the video: goals and the comfort zone, because yeah it kinda sucks if you don't know where you wanna go in life. And you have to leave you comfort zone more often to take action because learning comes with failure and everybody fears failure.
Here's the thing: I'm all about living a happy, fulfilling life...but we don't live in a perfect world.
There are things you simply cannot control and you must make life decisions based on what you have in a realistic way. There's a difference between making rational decisions that are realistic to your lifestyle and current circumstances and being a complete and utter bell pot that walks out the door expecting to meet the partner of their dreams, have beautiful kids, have an amazing job that pays exceptionally well and live to well over 100 years old having absolutely no regrets whatsoever. Sure, it CAN be achieved and some people have lifestyles like this, but there's nothing wrong with accepting life for what it really is and being happy with that. You can try to change your mindset so the small things in life make you happy.
What's the point in living a life so focused on improvement and reaching this hypothetical end goal that one day you wake up and wonder what you've done with your life because you've never lived in the present moment. Enjoy life, enjoy what you have. Sure, aim to develop and improve, but don't let it control your life completely.
I'd even argue that to be actually happy you HAVE to accept life for what it really is. Chasing happiness never makes one happy. The only way to truly and constantly be happy is being content with life and enjoy the little things.
And like you said, we should aim to develop and improve. Humans are not perfect and never will be, but we ought to try to be better. To be a better person, for our family/friends sake etc etc
Who else completely skip the second paragraph
If your whole soul isn't aiming at improvement then the likelihood of you attaining it by chance is zero, we humans are aiming creatures, a goal is the only thing that gives you the motivation to do anything, now ofc that goal could be anything from as little and biological need as going to the bathroom, to as big and noble as wanting to reduce the suffering in the world and making a strong person out of yourself.
Sure you can enjoy the little things in life as they come but your whole soul and focus should be aimed at the biggest and the noblest goal you can think of (the bigger the more motivation you get) but it still has to be realistic and you need to at least have a theory of how you could attain it.
What you are suggesting is complete rubbish... keep enjoying the "little things" without focusing on improvement and see where you end up in a couple of years. It's an appalling long-term strategy. If you don't make the hero journey your number one priority all you get is a meaningless life and endless miserable suffering...
Of course it's true that we should be happy about the little things but meanwhile when starting to exercise, to read books about personal developement (kindness, motivation etc.), to set goals and to go out of your comfortzone you probably are enjoying the present moment, feeling good about yourself rather than you'd do when watching netflix, eating junk-food and knowing that this is an unhealthy lifestyle. And when having accomplished your goals I think your general satisfaction about life is even bigger as you feel comfortable in your body, you don't have everyday-fears such as not wanting to ask people about something, you've learned to play an instrument e.g. what brings you a lot of joy etc.
Isolation makes me happy, not unhappy..
Couldn't agree more! I have more energy and feel so much more happy when not surrounded by people, who generally just annoy me. The more I see of people/humanity the less I want to see.
You thínk isolation makes you happy/gives you energy because you're not yet used to socializing. Not interacting with other people is the easy way out. I did it for years.
I thought the same thing. Apparently this guy has never heard of introverts.
@@musing_wdb "You thínk isolation makes you happy/gives you energy because you're not yet used to socializing." - I used to socialize a lot when I was younger, like every day. Step by step it became a chore.
Conversations became tedious. I sometimes still meet people I used to chat a lot 10 years ago. We have nothing to talk about. They have families and children, hence, completely different priorities from mine.
@@UTF016 Hmm...interesting. Would you say your old social circle didn't interest you anymore?
It's a big world. Maybe your interest lies somewhere else?
From tomorrow I’m gonna come out of the house and run & bark on the streets of my city until something extraordinary happens that will change me forever and take me out of my current miserable self for good. Amen
If you want to be miserable, fall in love with a beautiful woman.
You nailed it in a sentence
Sk8LovesSweet, he is either talking about failing in love with a beautiful woman who you can never have, because they are way out of their league or he is talking about getting into a relationship with a one, but realizing that she knows that she is very good looking and therefor thinks that she is entitled to do whatever the fuck she wants to do because she is a fucking "princess" in her mind like OH LOOK AT ME IM SO PRETTY now I can treat you like SHIT, because what r u gonna do, huh? Break up with me HAHA im too pretty you cant do it so I can keep fucking with your head, lying, taking your money, flirting with other guys while going mental if another female even comes 2 meters to you, complain about EVERYTHING WITH NO EXCEPTIONS. Oh fuck its too hot, its too cold ME HEAD ACHES NO SEX TODAY FUCK YOU YOU FUCKING BITCH AND YOU EXPECT ME TO MARRY YOU? WHAT THE FUCK IF I GET YOU PREGURS IM GONNA KILL MYSELF BITCH FUCK YOU AND DIIIIEEEEEEEEE
Sk8LovesSweet because you'll be miserable when it's inevitably over. When you don't have it you wish you could and you're miserable. When you finally get it you fear losing it and you're miserable. When you do lose it, something inside you breaks apart and it's emotionally excruciating. Repeat.
Plutarch who hurt you
Get out
I've mastered everything, now let's do the contrary 😂😂
You forgot to add this one- "avoid things that you enjoy."
Yeap thats the prime one mate.
But you enjoy being miserable
@@spacial1857 sounds like psychological masochism.
@@user-ow2cs7fb5l or just being comfortable
These kinds of videos are more effective than the normal ones.
Saying the opposite makes the people realizing how bad they are turning in an ironic way, while saying in the normal way can not change someone because that person who's watching may have such a ego that he thinks he doesn't need it or he's already doing it.
Keep going with this idea. Probably it might change people's minds.
I have been bullied in school and have never quite learned to interact with other people. I spend a lot of time on my own, and I do kind of like it!
It is difficult for me to be with strangers because of what I've gone through in my childhood. I am a loner and I sure don't know how to loosen up and maybe get some friends.
Plysdyret1 Sounds like me XD
Friends are vastly over-rated, stay alone.
Depends on your interests. Try something social but not gaming.
astrophonix Oh come on don’t make such terrible advice. It’s always better to have friends than to be alone.
It's difficult to be social when you feel insecure among strangers and don't how neither to behave nor interact with them...
You lost me at spending time in groups. I love being alone and I hate socializing.
TheLHShowChannel That's ok. In my experience you don't miss out on anything because most people are fools who have no goals in their life
TheLHShowChannel Me too, most people are idiots anyway talking bout the weather & just mindlessly following base biological urges.
You guys are naive. . Socializing doesn't necessarily mean to stay in groups...
Ironically, I like groups and am less thrilled when it's just 1 other person. I either like a lively party or chilling at home on my computer. Not a huge fan of just being with 1 other person. Their quirks can overwhelm me, especially if it's bad spending habits (so, 99.9% of the U.S. population). I'm a stock trader and nothing peeves me off more than someone buying something at 5000% markup, when I damn well know what the thing is actually worth. I think a group setting distracts me enough to alleviate that.
@tvoy batya
Calm down there, Charlie. We're just sharing our experiences to see how they line up with the vid.
It's not a dick; don't take it so hard.
😂 Such an ironically awesome video ♥
Thanks for the awesome comment. Appreciate it a lot!
Nah, after he devalued people who are interested in politics, I couldn't take him seriously anymore. ;)
One sure way to be miserable: Pretend as if you have no impact in life, or as if politics are only for the stupid, and never address anything real or meaningful for fear of being judged by people who don't care much about the world.
GoXR3Plus Studio Such an ironically awesome video*
Makedestiny Greatagain Oouu i see, i fixed it. :)
I am exactly like the misery person you describe in the video. How wonderful...
I'll secretly tell you smoking weed can greatly enhance feelings of powerlessness and even induce some paranoia, in social situation it would help me to act like there was nobody but me in a completely silent, dark room. In fact when I used weed I would sit in the corner, isolate myself and be paranoid, worried about near future - all of that next to a group of people. It was incredibly difficult to say a sentence and not mispronounce it. Highly recommended for people who are in miserable homeostasis.
For the first time i have mastered any self-help video completely.
The problem with me and with everyone else is :
Watching many videos , many advise , many tips and steps , until we get disturbed and confused of what should we do .. Even if we knew we're too lazy to apply 🐸
I feel bad for my life .. RIP 😞
Just start doing something and that's it. Care about your health both mental and physical and do what you like or what gives you opportunity to do what you like (aka earning money)
Yeaaa totally me I need some one to stand me up😫
When the pain is great enough you'll have 2 choices that will determine if your life's gonna be hell or heaven: 1. Doing everything described in this video. 2. Doing the opposite.
I chose number 2 and I feel like and act as if nothing is impossible. Maybe this helps too... FEAR = False Expectations Appearing Real
I remember probably the best day of my life this year. I was so confident at work. Actually enjoying work even though it had not changed and I was making the same low wages. It all started one night when I had an idea. An experiment if you will. I decided that the following morning as soon as I got out of bed I was going to take care of everything that I set my eyes on instead of leaving it until an undetermined day. So I woke up the next morning and I've got to say the hardest part was not the doing it. It was making up my mind to do it even if caused me discomfort, even if I had to give up playing with my phone before work. So I thought for a second about what I could do. It didn't take long for me to realize that I could clean and organize the house, a task that I was putting off every day for MANY days. So I started cleaning and doing dishes and organizing and of course a thought occurred to me "What if I'm just wasting my time" "What if my life is going to be just the same weather I clean my house or not" but I was curious to see if there was any benefit to it so I continued. Now after getting up and actually starting the first task I had to admit it was not nearly as difficult a task as I was making it out to be in my mind. But right after finishing the jobs I was able to do before work I didn't notice anything special. I felt about the same as always but as soon as I started to work (at McDonald's that time) I noticed Working was easy and effortless because my self discipline and confidence had been raised without me immediately noticing it. By the end of that night I was about to go to sleep and for the first time in a while I felt content anf even happy to lay down and sleep. I then realized that doing things that can only be good for you; especially thing's that you keep putting off for no good reason can mean a whole lot more to you than you could ever realize by the end of the day. You see I did this because I was lacking purpose in my life and the normal things that I was doing; as small as they were , were purpose enough to my mind and emotions. Enough to give me new hope. So I challenge you all to do the same. Maybe you clean your house immaculately everyday. In that case cleaning will not help you. But I guarantee you that if you wake up tomorrow or this morning and make you your mind that for just ONE day. Not two days. Not a week or a month because that's too overwhelming. But for one day your going to take care of things as soon as you realize they ought to be done. I challenge you to do this because I suspect that a good amount of you all will find purpose in doing this and if you want, you can continue to do it if you find that it's that beneficial.
"All you have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to you."
-Gandalf The Grey
"The future is not set. There is no fate but what we make for ourselves."
-John Conner
"Tell the truth, all the time."
-Dr. Randy Pausch
"With great power, comes great responsibility." - Uncle Ben.
Simon Dubya: I agree with the 1st two, but tell the truth all the time? Try telling your boss that they are fat!
“Maybe you’ll do better in the next life” Damn that line hits the hardest
This may be the best video I have seen on youtube
This video is so so awesome! The irony of hearing how obvious that living in such a way can make you unhappy and yet we still do it anyways. Almost like an antiphrasis. Incredible job brother!
Alone=/=Lonely
I find strength in self suficiency and it made me more independent than ever. Spending time with people is important but just as important is to anlyze our interactions and grow. Not every social medium or interaction is beneficial for our mental health. That's why I think this is video is way too broad and I think this is where pseudo intelectual hipsters step in, watch overly simplified videos and form strong opinions on ideas.
Also, maybe stepping out of your confort zone requires from a highly sociable pearson to spend time alone or change toxic social circles, and enjoy a more silent and content happines.
Lucian Badarau very well said
i've always thought that the less you need people, the better off you are because it means they have less say and control over your life.
Lucian Badarau
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Do you have a reason to live
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You precisely need a girl
For whom you must numb your mind with MASSES
THIS is the truth.
Your friends are useless bunch
Except very few
hey lucian , i think i need to talk to you cuz i need ur help , can i add you on fb ?
I don't think we need a guide, in my case I'm doing just fine
Everyone does
Wow, I didn't think I was good at anything before watching this video but now I know I'm the best at wasting my life and being miserable! I've become a pro at this!
Sorry, people who need lots of people are often miserable and empty!
Its not about needing a lot of people. its about being able to communicate and being able to form lasting relationships with a few of them. We still are a social species, and we should cater to that need. Unless your a catholic priest. Oh wait...
I'm talking about having people in a social circle, not making my Tshirt!
so sweeet Tom
Words can’t express how AWESOME this video is! I really loved the animations. They were in perfect sync with the script which was well written. Super enjoyable to watch! You sure have put a lot of time and effort and into creating this one.
Great job Daniel! Keep it up!
Thanks for the uplifting comment! It means a lot.
+Project Better Self
Glad to hear that:)
Black Screen Education couldn't have said it better
Yeah great to do that but were going to die anyways so whats the point to work on yourself?
I had the exact same thought the other day. If we're all gonna die what's the point? But in the exact same question is the answer. We're all gonna die anyway. But your offspring will continue to live and carry your DNA. You want your DNA to be in top condition before passing it onto your children. That's the essence of growth. To evolve. It could be good or bad DNA, good or bad karma, good or bad faith, destiny or whatever.
You need to play the hand that you're dealt in the best way possible.
As long as you don't give up, you'll eventually win the game of life.
Congratulations! You just made my depression even more motivated :)
this was actually so useful on everything I'm doing wrong
This video described 99% of people who watched it. Including me.
Wubchii Then I must be the 1%.
I must be the grape.
The Tim Burton style music in the background is perfect for this.
I am LITERALLY every single thing on that list... how the fuck did I even end up with this universally worst set of life choices I could ever make... I need some kind of reward
Don't waste your time or time will waste you
Muse Knights of Cydonia
LoL
@@ЂорђеСарић-ц8г interesting that you say this, because i'm a big Muse fan and I always thought about that lyric 😁
@@herlock2 musers are everywhere around LoL
How it was for me:
- normal life
- *gets cancer*
- 80% of your previous normal life people can't deal/cope with the situation they grow distant and vanish
- *you feel miserable*
- the remaining 20% people try to help but they got their(normal) lives to live so it's unluckily not enough, at least theyre here to talk.
- i'd like to grow out of the "miserable" state but cancer left his marks and i feel like i used most of my resiliance to get through that, i just lack the strenght to push myself out of the rabbit hole alone.
I'm godlike at everything in this video, can I get my misserable crown? It wasn't easy, it took years of practice!!!!!
You can find many people on your situation on this comment seccion, it would be super cool if you start helping each other!
Edgbarra if we start, right?
Claudiu Lucian yes! Thanks, I didn't notice :)
Claudiu Lucian complaining & self pity = being stagnant, always look forward, at how things will be better. If something is making you unhappy, CHANGE it! You can. You can do everything, including of course counter productive things. You decide what you do. But if you have dreams, Id chase after them. Whenever you are being negative, you dont understand the game of life. You can repair & achieve absolutely everything. Good luck!
Nyanator thank you for the supportive comment :)
This is some serious reverse psychology