I voted for my 2nd time while watching ur video. I paused it went to ur description, bc u totally reminded me, by me watching this video tonight, lol.. I'm Rooting Hard For Penelope! 👍👍🤞🤞💜💜🤍
When you said you don't want two baby dads and just want Penelope's dad to love you and the kids I immediately had to say this, please Vanessa don't go back to that man. I don't know if he's a smooth talker or handsome or what but you can't fantasize about life with him, he's trouble. The right man will come into your life. There are too many good, honest, hard working, loving men to be waiting on him. But a good man isn't going to want to get involved with someone that isn't over her kid's dad. You have to believe in your heart that you are worthy of a good man and worthy of being loved right, because you are. And when you least expect it, you'll meet him. Don't settle.
Im curious why you thought this guy would be around for this child when he hasnt been for Penelope? Did he seem to have changed for the better? I can tell you that normally, people do not change...just get that child support from him. One day, if he ever grows up, he'll regret not being a dad to these kids
@@heyvanessamartinoh I've made my share of mistakes believe me, I was just curious. My step-son is a deadbeat dad has no contact at all with his 12 year old daughter and has never sent his ex one penny in support. It infuriates me but I can't make a grown man do the right thing, sadly
Actually I think a large percentage of people do eventually change for the better, but it's very inconsistent. But their are typically (though not always recognized as such) signs that they are least trying, if sometimes failing, when they are. Regardless, that alone doesn't mean it's worth being around someone when they haven't already changed adequately for the better, -even though they MIGHT or might not in the future.
I have a son and we decided not to circumcise for many reasons, and in many parts of the US more and more people are opting out. Bodily autonomy, the fact that it’s an unnecessary, sometimes risky, and a painful procedure. Many parts of the world, especially Europe are filled with men that aren’t circumcised and they’re all fine. Teaching proper cleaning is all that’s needed in most cases, and a very small percentage some boys might have an issue where it’s medically necessary. But it’s certainly not the norm. Everyone I know that is having children now are not doing it, and I’ve never heard of anyone with older children having any problems. The foreskin itself serves a purpose and males are born with it for a reason.
I feel like it is unnecessary genital mutilation. Males are at no higher risk of infection that a female and we sont remove excess skin from female babies right after birth.
When I volunteered at the hospital nursery I remember the babies who had that done and it wasn’t the best memories. My husband isn’t circumcised and he is extremely clean and has never had an issue. The option is always available to do it later on when they are older,I know in cultures (pacific islanders etc) they usually do it when they are like 12. The best thing is to teach good hygiene.
When I had my son, the male doctor asked me if I'd cut the end of his finger off. He said he views it as the same. It's a body part their born with, and it is not cleaner to be circumcised. He had two sons the oldest was circumcised the younger was not, he said there was no difference to the cleanliness. After having the first son done, he said he would never do it again, he was also not circumcised.
You are doing so well Vanessa. Try not to stress about the baby dad. It’s so much better being lonely than being being with a toxic selfish narcissistic person. You will meet someone when the time is right. When you do meet him make sure he treats you with the respect and love that you and your children deserve. Never settle for second best because you are lonely xx
Just to add, it’s not disgusting if you practice proper personal hygiene, it’s not necessary to avoid infections, it’s personal choice and yours to make. I wish there was more education out there, instead of people relying on one bad experience.
When my son had his the day after he was born he didn’t seemed bothered at all. Slept good and went on as normal newborns do. I cried a little because I saw the little bandage but I kept it clean and changed used the Vaseline and it really didn’t look that bad. Healed very quickly. Getting it done later in life definitely seems risker and much more painful.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
@@arvidyaganegi4538once again, inaccurate information. A quick google search gave me 4 medical organizations that do, in fact, endorse voluntary male circumcision for health related reasons.
I have 2 boys & both were circumsized. It's just the norm from where i grew up. It's to avoid infections mostly bc of the foreskin. I guess it's more of a personal choice & opinion. But i never regretted having my boys circumsized. They did just fine doing the procedure, & yes they do not remember it which is good. It's not as bad of a procedure as people think for there baby boy. It's just not a 2nd thought where I'm from, or even people that's not in my area. I do have a couple cousins who were not circumsized bc my cousin & her husband wasn't for it at all. I think my uncle in law wasn't circumsized so that's why & plus it cost money bc Medicaid won't or wouldn't pay for back in 92' & 2000'. It costed me $100 when my baby boy who's now 24 was born. But u make the decision u feel the best bout with ur baby if it's a boy. 😊
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
Vanessa, please know that there are people who care and are praying for you. Life can be tough, sometimes you have to give yourself permission to let your stress and emotions out. I wish you all the best, give yourself a chance to relax and enjoy your sweet Lil girl along the w🙏❤️
We chose to not circumcise with our boys. My sons paediatrician said majority of people are choosing not to anymore. We are from Canada. I think if we would have chosen to do it, it would have been for aesthetic reasons, which in my opinion is just wrong.
I have two sons, my oldest is circumsized and my younger son isn't. My younger son doesn't have any trouble at all with hygiene and it doesn't bother him. Honestly, I don't find that it's necessary to have baby boys go through it, in my opinion. Don't let anyone pressure you to do anything you're not comfortable with, you know what's best for you and your baby. 😊❤
We have 2 sons, when our first son was born 26 years ago, we thought we would get it done as my husband was, without thinking really but no Dr would do it so we started to think, hang on WHY do we have to do this to our baby! So no both our boys are not.
I asked our doctor about circumcision and he told us he wasn’t allowed to influence our decision in the matter but told us his sons were not circumcised. We decided not to circumcise and I’m glad bc I couldn’t imagine putting my son in pain for cosmetic reasons. We’ve had no issues, it’s been a breeze. The aesthetic is not a big deal. It’s not like they are walking around naked. It’s not hard to clean.
I and my older sister were raised by a single mother who was of Brazilian Portuguese decent so she chose not to have me circumcised. In my late twenties I developed a condition called phimosis which made it difficult to pull back my foreskin. I went to the doctor & tried a steroid cream which didn't help much. After dealing with alot of discomfort urinating & having sex I finally decided to get circumcised. The procedure itself wasn't painful but the recovery was & my glans became hypersensitive for quite awhile but I am happy. I have a grown daughter now but if I did have a son I would probably not have him circumcised & let him choose later in life. My wife is Chinese American & loves that I got circumcised but all the males in her family still have their foreskins.
girl get that baby circumsized my brother in law is a urologist you would not believe how many older men have to go in and get surgery from not being circumcised. i had 3 sons and had them all done . too many problems arise later on in men so don’t do that to ur child .
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
@@amynunya6167 totally wrong, babies go into shock, blood flooded with endorphins. They brains are rewired forever. The MRIs show the levels never go back to baseline. Stop your hate speech against males.
What does your mom think about your children’s father? Moms usually have the best advice. If it were me, I would cut ties with him other than him paying child support. Your are very pretty and have a sweet personality. When you least expect it, God will provide you with a loving man.
I have four boys and they are all circumcised. Had them all pretty young. With the last I knew better but felt pressured because his brothers were. If I could go back I would 100% not do it. Go with your gut instinct. I wish I had followed mine.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
No circumcision. When I had my son in the late 60's I insisted. I made such a fuss that an expert on NOT circumcising, who was writing a book about it, visited me in hospital. He wanted my opinion for his book. My mother had told me that when she was young there was a little boy who cried every time he urinated because his circumcision had become infected. I had four brothers and none were circumcised. My friend's mother had worked in a hospital and she told the horror story of hearing the little babies screaming as they suffered having their little foreskins cut off with sharp scissors. She had eight children and none of her boys suffered that. Pain. The child feels the pain. And it is unnecessary. The most sensitive area of a man's being is exposed and there is no reason for it. Do not make your boy baby suffer such excruciating pain. It is unnecessary surgery done out of habit.
I have two sons and they are not circumcised. I did not want my baby boys to be put through unnecessary pain! I taught them how to clean themselves when they were little. I think circumcision is cruel to babies. I’m sorry you feel lonely. Maybe join some single parent support groups or play groups for Penelope and you’ll meet other people. Be patient, God will send you the right person. Look to God and he will show you.
It is hard to find somebody that would be willing to take on the responsibility of 2 kids that are not theirs. I'm sure there are a few out there but from what I have heard guys say they don't really Want that responsibility from 1 let alone somebody that has 2 kids already from another man
Right you gonna have to wait at least until the kids are grown. I don’t have a picture here, but I am Colombian, consider myself a decent looking woman, own multiple properties, have an amazing job in leadership as an engineer. I have masters. Lots of friends, my son is 11, his dad is involved so they will not have to play daddy for my son. I own a Porsche and still no man wants me. And not I’m not picky, I actually was dating a teacher. Trust me is really hard to find a man now days. Men don’t want to commit specially if you have two babies
I also forgot to mention I’m only 32 and I have a nice body because I work out. Like there is no signs left that I ever had a child. So go figure. Dating now days is terrible
Both my sons are circumcised at the time I thought it was best decision after years and divorced and now with love of my life not married yet he is not circumcised and he is fine cleaning no issues , and no issues otherwise either lol , I heard some have fertility issues but idk . I would not do it if I had the chance to change my mind with my boys now that I’m older and know
I had 2 boys alone you are strong and can do it.. now they are grown and they are the best thing in my life and we are so close.. it’s the dads lost 100%
Both of my sons are circumcised. I would make that same decision again. I don't know if it's better or not, but I would not want them to have it done at an older age. I am so sorry you feel alone. Remember we are all rooting for you and praying for you. Plus, you have the best mom and cutest little daughter. Hugs and love.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
Im in the UK and this just isnt a thing unless for religious reasons. It would never EVER cross my mind to do this to my child (let alone newborn baby) unless for medical reasons. Its just not necessary.
It used to be a middle-class/upper class thing in the UK, especially in the south. Most of the men in my family were circumcised for this reason until recently. Nothing to do with religion, but because it was believed to be more hygienic.
I have 2 sons and I did not circumcise either. After the birth of my first child (a daughter) I was in a room next to another woman who had a boy and their doctor performed the circumcision in the room next to us. I will never forget the babies cry. Also, it used to be covered by our healthcare because they assumed it prevented uti's and whatnot, but it's no longer covered and it's not seen as necessary.
Both of my sons have circumcisions. Both of them have had the skin to reattach and had to have it redone. My baby is also entered in the cutest baby. If u want to see him lmk and ILl post the link
Why??? Circumcision is a terrible, cruel and unnecessay male gnital mutilation with not benefits. The foreskin is the natural protection of the glans and should not be cut. Retracting the foreskin during every bath or shower achieves the health and hygiene benefits of circumcision, making circumcision absurd, stupid and unnecessary.
I always considered circumcision as better hygiene, lower chance for infections (urinary) and most of all cleanliness. I only had a girl so never had to make that decision. I'm sorry to hear you are struggling. My grandmother used to say to marry a man that loves you MORE than you love them. He will treat you like his queen. And in return you will fall deeper in love with him. Let that man go. He turned his back on his daughter, he has no heart.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
circumcission after birth is fine so you and your son won't have to deal with it later, my hubby didn't have to deal with it bcoz he was circumsized when he was a baby so he didn't suffer when he was in elementary just like his friends lol
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
Being lonely alone is far better than being with someone and feeling that same way. I know that might not make sense yet. Especially with your hormones adding to this. But its worth waiting for the right person than accepting far below what you need and want. Its a different kind of emptiness to just be with somebody but not the right somebody for you.
Nope. The hygienic benefits of circumcision are achieved by retracting the foreskin during every bath or shower, so circumcision for hygienic reasons is absurd, stupid and unnecessary.
@@hannahripler8752 Nope. Retracting the foreskin during every bath or shower achieves the same hygienic benefits as circumcision, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary.
It’s not inhumane. They use sugar water in a pacifier to “sedate” babies…kinda works like morphine in adults, so they don’t feel it and when they’re younger they don’t remember it…it’s also less painful. It can be religious to do it or not do it. It’s best for their hygiene and other possible medical issues.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
@@karaspackman9416 Retracting the foreskin during every bath or shower achieves the same hygienic benefits as circumcision, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary.
@@amynunya6167 it is not opinion but fact that no medical authority in the world supports routine circumcision, it is not opinion but fact that all the so called health benefits are non-existent if the boy can be taught basic washing. To support the non-consensual surgery to remove part of the genitals of baby boys is just a sexist shit show, shame on you.
I thought it was for health reasons and cleanliness. Yes, I would definitely circumcise him as a baby. Girls just don't have all the extra skin to hold in bacteria. I couldn't imagine not having it done. My opinion only. Plus we end up with mammograms, and guys dont.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
It's understandable you should feel this way, but maybe he's not supposed to be in your life. Could he be a narcissist, selfish, irresponsible, bad influence? You fill in the blank! Therapy would help you take control of your happiness. And joining a single Mom's support group? The happiest childhood memories I have are of when my Mum was divorced before she remarried. It was just the two of us and she was able to pour all her love and devotion into me, so it's not all bad!
I had 3 sons and all were circumcised as babies. It was done in hospital. It is for hygiene. My grandchild was born in Europe and they do not circumcise there.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the pnis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary way on minors who cannot defend themselves, consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of gnital mutilation without any benefit. Infant circumcision is the gnital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female gnital mutilation or FGM because the gnital integrity of babies and children is and should be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the pnis healthy and intact by carefully retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual intercourse, so circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases.
We didn't get our son circumcised we didn't feel it was necessary. To me it is genital mutilation. If it becomes medically necessary when they are older then that is a different situation. If he wants to be circumcised when he is an adult he can do that too. Circumcision became a covenant between the Jews and God. As believers in Christ we are fulfilled from the law through Grace, so there is also no religious reason. If you feel bothered by the decision and convicted not to do it, then that's your answer 😊 God's Spirit works in us as believers to guide us. It is also horrendous that medical practitioners still don't believe babies feel pain, it's so sad
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
reasons for circunsizing .. easier hygene. lower risk of infection.. prevention of penile problems lower risk of penile cancer. it is pretty painful if they wait until they are older. i have a son and im so glad i had this done for him as a newborn. my father had it done when he was older and he said it was quiet painful. your such a great mom. God Bless you and your baby girl and expectant new arrival.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
Not a single one of those reason for circumcising is true. It’s been scientifically proven that if you just teach your son how to properly clean himself. There has not been proven that it lowers the cancer risk, it’s a theory but has never been proven. You should probably get some up to date studies on this topic.
@@Livingtheinvisiblelife I am a retired nurse, I know what i am talking about. I dont believe you can teach an infant how to properly clean themself.I have had many many male patients that have had to have medical treatment because they did not have the procedure done when they were an infant.
@@laylalayla-jl4ik they were not properly showed how to clean it then. You’re trying to justify a painful unnecessary surgical procedure by using outdated information. You also say you’re retired so logically you haven’t had recent men who don’t know how to care for themselves. Then you write this shit basically calling every man an idiot who cannot be taught how to clean themselves that’s called sexism Layla. Every man in my life is uncut and not a single one of them have ever had any issues with hygiene, infections, or cancer (that has never had any actual proof of increased risk if uncircumcised. Last point, you might wanna learn how to spell shit before claiming you’re a college educated nurse. Circumcised is how you spell that, hygiene is how you spell that one, it is quite painful not quiet painful, and the correct “your” is you’re short for you are. There’s no way in hell you were ever a practicing nurse but unable to spell words that you would’ve used even if just occasionally used, you still would’ve used in your supposed job. Even as a CNA I regularly used hygiene in my charting. But sure you went to nursing school🥴🙄🤣🤣🤣
I have one son and I didn’t circumcise him and I’m glad I didn’t. My hubby had a penile injury from a bad procedure and now he has hardly no feeling in his penis. Which sucks.
Hello Vanessa, Just a friendly Answer here As to why you would want to circumcise a boy baby. I have 2 boys, my oldest is 20, my youngest is almost 15. I have never dealt with infections from either of my boys. But my sister Inlaw has had quite a few partners to say the least, And she cared to share with me That every Partner That she had been with Who Was uncircumcised Had struggled with infections their whole lives.. Also it is most definitely important to teach personal hygiene, but that is very hard to do through those difficult toddler years. There are so many positive reasons to Circumcise. Please do some more research Vanessa, I think once you do You're a smart girl.. You will understand Both religiously, and for Hygienic purposes why this is so important.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
My mom had me circumcised soon after birth for cosmetic reasons and it did seem shallow at first when she explained to me when I was a teenager but at 31, having seen how a lot of women prefer it, I understand her decision 💙 Moms know best. Stick with your gut!
Circumcision of newborn babies is a terrible, cruel and unnecessary mutilation with no benefits. There are no valid reasons for circumcising newborn babies.
Kinda mute point now that I know you're having a girl, but... it was never a question for me. I looked at pictures of circumsized vs. uncircumcised. I guess it's pretty common in America or North Carolina where im at because I've never seen one not done. I had my son done right after brith with no issues. It looks better, its cleaner...idk though I did receive judgment for doing it, but it is what my family has always done. It is wayyyy better to do when they're young, and I would think my son would want it done when he's older, so I decided to do it for him. Hate to say, but VANITY was my reason. I think the "natural" look is hideous! 😂🥴
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the pnis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary way on minors who cannot defend themselves, consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of gnital mutilation without any benefit. Infant circumcision is the gnital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female gnital mutilation or FGM because the gnital integrity of babies and children is and should be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the pnis healthy and intact by carefully retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual intercourse, so circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases.
My husband and I have one son together. He is going to be 41 in january. When I was pregnant with him I thought about the same thing, whether or not I wanted to choose circumcision or not. In the end my husband made it clear he wanted him circumcised because he didn't want his son looking at him and then looking at himself, and wondering why they were different🤷♀️
I wouldn’t do it so young. You may end up meeting someone special in a few good years and you might end up marrying and want a child together. I’ve watched it happen lots, they tried to have reversal but it never worked.
I think you're having another girl too, Momma's intuition never lies😅😅😅 I'm having another girl too and that that's what I thought from the beginning.❤
A friend of mine didn't circumsize her son then later when he was 12 years old it became infected and had to have a painful circumcise and it was a horrible experience. Most people do it so it doesn't get infected
all sexist BS, your sons are mutilated, genital integrity should not be female privilege but a basic human right. the boy git an infection due to mom forcing the retraction. Education needed, not abuse of boys
all BS, no males ever needs it done. That 12 yr had a stupid mom you forcibly retracted his prepuce that caused the issue. Infections just don't happen to men, they happen to females yet we don't trim labia. Stop your sexist posts
@amandap8214 you can teach the boys to wash themselves but when they get alittle older that age they of course need to themselves and maybe don't do it correctly.
Circumcision originates in the Western world mainly from England during the 1800 and was based on today's outdated ideas about sexual hygiene. Immigrants brought the practice with them to the United States and Canada where it is still practiced, while circumcision on children in Europe is today mostly prohibited. Most often, things on the body have developed with an evolutionary function. A penis without a foreskin leaves the glans and urethra more exposed to dirt and bacterial attack and the antibacterial and protective function that the sebum under the foreskin provides is missing on a circumcised penis. In newborn boys who are circumcised, the glans may come into continuous contact with urine and feces due to the lack of foreskin.
Sexual hygiene is a big one for sure. So that in the future, they don’t cause issues like STD’s, kidney, bladder, or yeast infections in their partner(s).
I'm pretty sure circumcision has been around for thousands of years. It was practised in ancient Egypt, and is mentioned several times in the bible, and is recognized as a significant religious rite in both Judaism and Islam. I know of a few boys who weren't circumcised at birth, and have had to undergo the procedure in early adolescence due to chronic infections. The recovery was long and painful for both.
@@chelsear.5386 Circumcision for religious reasons of minors who are unable to defend themselves, consent or decide is a terrible, cruel and unnecessary form of genital mutilation that has no benefits and should be rejected and punished in the same way as FGM.
@@chelsear.5386 That's why I wrote "in the wester world" (= Europe, U.S, Canada and other cultures that originates from Western Europe). In wester Europe it has been practiced since the 1800. In other cultures you are absolutely right that circumcision has a longer history for religious resons such as in Judaism and in Islam. You are also right that there may be individual cases where circumcision is medically warranted. However, for the vast majority, circumcision has been shown to involve more risks than benefits, which is why organizations such as the European Association of Urology (EAU), the World Health Organization, and the Canadian Paediatric Society (CPS) do not recommend routine circumcision
@@heyvanessamartin you deserve to find someone who’s actually nice and will be good to you and your kiddos. It will happen. Just don’t give up and give yourself some time. : )
I had two sons twenty years apart, neither one were circumcised. I let them stay in their natural state, I didn't feel like it was my decision to alter them from that. I figured if they wanted to have a circumcision later on then that was their choice, their body. Neither one has had any issues. The US is big on doing it, other countries? Not so much. My friend's son had a botched circumcision and it permanently affected the look of his penis.
Left our kids alone. No problem at all. And we are in the U.S. A lot of parents now don't circumcise. By the way, re: circumcision later in life is painful and can be fatal. Infant circumcision is the same. It's quite painful (if you are in the room and hear them cry, you'll never forget that scream) and babies do die from circumcision. Just putting it out there.
@@nickj6138 EVERYTHING carries risk. It’s our job as adults to mitigate that risk. Not getting a circumcision increases a man’s chances of cancer. YOU do some research.
@@alijane6675 sure thing. tell that to the rest of the world that don't circumcise. sounds like you're a north american who believes in this cancer thing and had your kids circumcised.
it's not hygienic if a man is not circumsized my friend once told me that her bf was not circumsized and it has a smell down there that's the reason why it has to be circumsized coz the pee and dirt will hide in that extra skin
If I had a boy I wouldn't be able to do it. Period. I have many reasons mostly that I would have a hard time cutting a perfect new baby I just couldn't do it, I'm squeamish! My sister had four boy and did it to all of them which is fine and yes it is better to do it for when they get older. It's just better. Major conumdrum! It can also be botched. So hard to make that decision
I definitely agree with a circumcision. Better hygiene and my ex bf was teased at school in the locker rooms. Also, my Dad had to get his done at 5 due to infection.
My husband's brother was circumcised when he was a little bit older also because of infection. I also know of someone who had to have their son circumcised later on because of infection.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
I will preface this by saying that I’m not a mom, but if I had a son I would. I have had sexual partners who were not circumcised and unfortunately I don’t know if there parents taught them how to clean properly and the smell…I could not handle it. I know you would teach them of course but that experience absolutely would influence my decision.
It’s disgusting looking , smells terrible. I dated ONLY one man for only a few weeks in my lifetime decades ago that was not circumcised and that was the last one.. so gross. . My husband and sons are circumcised and wouldn’t have it any other way.
My son and all the men that I know are glad they were circumcised as a baby. For health and cleanliness. I don’t have face book or I would vote for Penelope ❤
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
How would someone know about the feeling? That's medically impossible for someone circomcised and then vice versa to tell you what the other one feels .. ex ...just say you were circumcised, you can't tell another person how it feels to NOT be curcumcised! So how do they know. Don't make sense. And it's wrong if what your saying is true trust me
I have a 6 month old and I chose not to get him circumcised. His dad said he’ll be mad at me when he’s older, but this is why. My nephew isn’t. He never got any infections. He is 10 now. My sister told me she just properly taught him how to clean himself. Despite what other people are saying here you do not need and absolutely shouldn’t “pull back” the skin in infants. It could injure them. It detaches naturally and loosens when they’re older. You only need to clean or wipe what you can see. This was told to me by my pediatrician. I dated a man once who was uncircumcised. He had no problems and was quite happy with what he had. In short, I don’t believe personally it is my right to remove a piece of my son’s body without his consent and he is an infant that cannot do so, especially when it pertains to his genitals. There is no higher risk of infection if cleaned properly. It serves a function protecting the nerve endings of the penis. If it wasn’t meant to be there it wouldn’t be there. If he would like to have it removed in adulthood that will be his decision but I am not making it for him.
My husband and I would choose not too if we had a boy, but we had a girl. I personally think that if it is for 1. The appearance- that is weird. That shouldn't even be a thought. We don't have girls and think we should mutilate their body parts so that it "looks better" that's weird and 2. If it's for hygiene and cleanliness, that's just lazy & silly. Teach your boys to have proper hygiene.....? I honestly don't understand that logic. So do we just chop things off that need to be properly washed or look a certain way? I just don't understand it. Besides that, I mean unless you're Jewish, I don't see the point. But I also am one that since having my daughter 7 months ago, I no longer even want to pierce my daughters ears until she can verbalize the want herself! 🤷♀️ haha. Anyyyway! I'm excited for you in having 2 children close in age! I pray for the same. ❤ God bless you & your family.
If he chooses to not be in your child’s life then that’s his loss and that’s his problem not yours !!! He needs to get his s… together and stop being so stubborn!!!! I’m so sorry that p won’t know who her father is
You should ask grown men their opinion on circumcision instead. Ive worked with MULTIPLE men who decided to get circumcised as an adult and they wish they had it done as babies but i honestly dk.
stop the lies, only men who want part of their dick removed are fools or live in body shaming society like the USA where mutilation of males is normal. same arguments used for FGM in Africa, stop being sexist.
that is all BS, you live in a primitive country where brainwashed females like you promote preference for mutilated penis. If you all stopped this barbaric practice these men would not feel pressured to getting circumcised. Women in Africa feel the same pressure where cut vagina is the norm. Stop your sexist hate speech.
I don't have a son. I dated someone years ago who had the procedure done at age 13. He said it was horrific and his future sons would have it done at birth so they don't remember. There are many religious reasons. I am not 100% for or against any way, both sides have some good points.
all brainwashed and sexist BS. No boy ever needs it done. In the USA the stupid moms forcibly retract the prepuce, that causes all the issues, civilised countries know not to do that.
I'm surprised you automatically think you'd circumcise them bc as a fellow Canadian most guys I've been with aren't. Circumcision is common in usa, jewish and muslim relgions. No where else.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
It's barbaric! I work with many urologist and asked pediatricians. The risk of infection is more like people are lazy and don't want to deal with the extra cleaning. They are straddled to a wooden board, given a little tylenol a clamp is placed on the baby and the incision it's made. That is a huge risk for infection there!!! No more risky to have done at an older age than for a woman to have gynecological surgery. You do you there no right or wrong. It's a personal decision keep researching ❤ i didnt do that to my son and he's never had any issues!
Your going to regret it my friend had to get her son circum. At age 16 bc of repeated urinary tract infections. It's filthy and without there dad to teach them to keep it clean and such, you will be in trouble. They will also be upset with you once he starts to mature , possible get made fun of. Get it done!!
If you can trust God for your eternal security, can't you trust God for a good man/ husband? God could be protecting you. Do you really want a man who doesn't want his children? Focus on who he is....not the person you want him to be. ❤
My 3 sons were circumsised. I'm happy with my decision. My oldest son told me once he's happy i did because he doesn't want a turtle neck around his penis lol.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
Oh sweet Vanessa my heart hurts for you 🥹 He’s shown you over & over again that this is not what he wants , he didn’t show up for you & Penelope when she was born and he’s doing the same thing with you & the new baby . He made his choice along time ago and unfortunately he hasn’t changed his mind, do you really want a guy who obviously doesn’t want any part of this or you ? I understand that you love him and you want your family , you want him to want you & your babies , you want him to want you , you want him to love you and to be excited that he’s going to be a Daddy again but that’s not what he wants and nothing you say or do is going to make him change , if this was what he wanted he wouldn’t have left you pregnant and alone the 1st time , PLEASE understand I’m not trying to be mean or hurt your feelings at all I’ve always been a big supporter of you , always 💯 But it really does break my heart for you because I know you are romanticizing this picture in your head & heart of having this beautiful family with him and that you’ll live happily ever after but again if that’s what he wanted then he’d be there right now . He’s absolutely used you , you’re convenient for him when he’s lonely but when he gets what he wants he goes home right ? He knows you’re in love with him so it’s easy for him until he finds what he’s looking for and then he’s gone ! You can’t want a guy who doesn’t want you ? You deserve everything great in life Vanessa , you deserve someone who’s madly in love with YOU , who can’t wait to get off work so he can see you , to send you random “ I love you texts “ who wants to takecare of you , to hold you , a MAN who just wants YOU ! That’s what Vanessa deserves 💯 And one day that man will come and he’s going to love the crap out of you and your beautiful babies. ❤️🙏🏼❤️ I’m always here if you need a shoulder ( BTW you look gorgeous!) 🙏🏼🩷🩷🫶🏼🙏🏼
@@heyvanessamartin ❤️ I’m relieved you’re not angry with me ❤️🙏🏼I just wanted you to know you have so much worth and you & the babes deserve only the best ! 🩷🫶🏼🙏🏼
All I know is if I was having a boy I would circumcise. I worked in health care and it does carry less bacteria once they’re circumcised. I used to assist in circumcisions for baby boys and they hardly felt it. 🤷🏼♀️
@@stephaniewilliams0 hardly felt it?! Are you for real? I heard two babies when I took my kid to his pediatric office those babies were SCREAMING BLOODY MURDER!!
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
There are ways to prevent having kids with someone who doesn't care about you or his offspring. I'm sorry you are unhappy But look in the mirror and you will see who got you there.
Is the money for Penelope or you??? Sadly you’re striking me as what my mom did to me as a mother using me as a cash cow in the industry. Put the money away for her and let it grow and when she’s older has a nest egg for education or a car or home etc. Please don’t use that money for your debt and wants.
I will absolutely use the money towards debt before anything else IF we won. That is directly impacting Penelope’s future and obviously not on my own wants.
@@judithscharf4873exactly. Apparently her debt is Penelope’s job to clear. Again this is why I said what I said to her. My mother did this with me as a child and spend well over 80k I had made as a child. I had nothing to show for years of work from birth till 18. It is her prerogative how she spends these winnings absolutely. Sadly none of this will be put away for this little girl nor the new one. It will go To her credit card debt and other debts and her addiction to shopping.😞 I’m all about women supporting other women. I’m a single mom also and have been for years with disabled children. Doing it solo. I started following Vanessa when I saw her really showing what it can be like to struggle but staying optimistic and fighting through. She has taken down her original videos where she gave hope to those ppl struggling with reassurance that it is okay to need help sometimes. The true essence of what it can be like in our country and around the world as a single parent. Now it’s always about buying and her debt and this man who she allows to keep affecting her in such negative fashion. I’ve watched in her debt journey he pays bi weekly support to her turning around saying zero support to her kinda supports to her doesn’t to he does. She keeps talking words from someone who continually disappoints her. Walk into court file custody and support papers. She wasn’t going to show P any more, a few days later she is. Don’t use your babies on the World Wide Web for views and money. She’s a beautiful little girl but sadly she’s being exploited. And the sick ppl in today’s world have a front row seat. Many may think I’m bashing or coming for Vanessa here. What I’m trying to say to her is, you started a Beautiful Channel, you were showing other single parents the good, the bad the ugly but also the uprise of what happens when you don’t give up. We at some point however and I had to learn this myself, we need to get Humble look at ourselves and stop staying in the victim mentality. I get your pregnant and hormonal but but did you ever think that things happen for reasons for God to have us do a deeper dive into change for ourselves? I urge those voting to understand that again although it’s her choice how she spends this winning money absolutely, but know this money is already spent in her mind. And as quick as it will come it will be gone.😞 It is not Penelope’s burden to pay her mom’s debts off or to carry her. Vanessa I want to tell you this, I do believe you have a good heart. I do think you really could influence many who are walking the same path as you. My hopes for you is to find self love. A deep love where you take steps to climb out of this victim mentality. I see a lot of light in you that’s been very clouded. I send you and your little family LOVE AND PRAYERS!! But again urge you to not use that money for yourself. And to get back to the humbleness you showed in the beginning.
Everyone is too quick to throw opinions on how to live YOUR life at you instead of simply supporting you and your channel. You are a fantastic mumma, Penelope is absolutely beautiful and is thriving, she definitely has all of the love she needs and so will baby number 2 ❤ you got this 💪 sending lots of love and prayers your way xx
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Don’t even think of having more children until you have a committed relationship, stable finances and stable mental health.
When you said you don't want two baby dads and just want Penelope's dad to love you and the kids I immediately had to say this, please Vanessa don't go back to that man. I don't know if he's a smooth talker or handsome or what but you can't fantasize about life with him, he's trouble. The right man will come into your life. There are too many good, honest, hard working, loving men to be waiting on him. But a good man isn't going to want to get involved with someone that isn't over her kid's dad. You have to believe in your heart that you are worthy of a good man and worthy of being loved right, because you are. And when you least expect it, you'll meet him. Don't settle.
@@ashleysalazar2012 Absolutely agree
well said
Im curious why you thought this guy would be around for this child when he hasnt been for Penelope? Did he seem to have changed for the better? I can tell you that normally, people do not change...just get that child support from him. One day, if he ever grows up, he'll regret not being a dad to these kids
Everyone makes mistakes and I just thought he would come around and decide to be a dad to his babies.
@@heyvanessamartinoh I've made my share of mistakes believe me, I was just curious. My step-son is a deadbeat dad has no contact at all with his 12 year old daughter and has never sent his ex one penny in support. It infuriates me but I can't make a grown man do the right thing, sadly
Actually I think a large percentage of people do eventually change for the better, but it's very inconsistent. But their are typically (though not always recognized as such) signs that they are least trying, if sometimes failing, when they are. Regardless, that alone doesn't mean it's worth being around someone when they haven't already changed adequately for the better, -even though they MIGHT or might not in the future.
DON'T HOLD YOUR BREATH!!!
I have a son and we decided not to circumcise for many reasons, and in many parts of the US more and more people are opting out. Bodily autonomy, the fact that it’s an unnecessary, sometimes risky, and a painful procedure. Many parts of the world, especially Europe are filled with men that aren’t circumcised and they’re all fine. Teaching proper cleaning is all that’s needed in most cases, and a very small percentage some boys might have an issue where it’s medically necessary. But it’s certainly not the norm. Everyone I know that is having children now are not doing it, and I’ve never heard of anyone with older children having any problems. The foreskin itself serves a purpose and males are born with it for a reason.
I feel like it is unnecessary genital mutilation. Males are at no higher risk of infection that a female and we sont remove excess skin from female babies right after birth.
When I volunteered at the hospital nursery I remember the babies who had that done and it wasn’t the best memories. My husband isn’t circumcised and he is extremely clean and has never had an issue. The option is always available to do it later on when they are older,I know in cultures (pacific islanders etc) they usually do it when they are like 12. The best thing is to teach good hygiene.
When I had my son, the male doctor asked me if I'd cut the end of his finger off. He said he views it as the same. It's a body part their born with, and it is not cleaner to be circumcised. He had two sons the oldest was circumcised the younger was not, he said there was no difference to the cleanliness. After having the first son done, he said he would never do it again, he was also not circumcised.
I chose to do it for my sons. They are 33 and 21 now and they are happy I did.
You are doing so well Vanessa. Try not to stress about the baby dad. It’s so much better being lonely than being being with a toxic selfish narcissistic person. You will meet someone when the time is right. When you do meet him make sure he treats you with the respect and love that you and your children deserve. Never settle for second best because you are lonely xx
So true ❤️
Just to add, it’s not disgusting if you practice proper personal hygiene, it’s not necessary to avoid infections, it’s personal choice and yours to make. I wish there was more education out there, instead of people relying on one bad experience.
When my son had his the day after he was born he didn’t seemed bothered at all. Slept good and went on as normal newborns do. I cried a little because I saw the little bandage but I kept it clean and changed used the Vaseline and it really didn’t look that bad. Healed very quickly. Getting it done later in life definitely seems risker and much more painful.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
He might have passed out.
@@user-nt1bg5rj3t he was in shock, you had him mutilated because your society is primitive
Just do what you as the mother feel is right. Circumcision has been a debate for years! No one will ever agree on what is best.
This is so true and probably the best advice!
no medical society in the world advocates for it, just ignorance keeps the debate alive
@@arvidyaganegi4538once again, inaccurate information. A quick google search gave me 4 medical organizations that do, in fact, endorse voluntary male circumcision for health related reasons.
abuse of young boys should not be a choice
I have 2 boys & both were circumsized. It's just the norm from where i grew up. It's to avoid infections mostly bc of the foreskin. I guess it's more of a personal choice & opinion. But i never regretted having my boys circumsized. They did just fine doing the procedure, & yes they do not remember it which is good. It's not as bad of a procedure as people think for there baby boy. It's just not a 2nd thought where I'm from, or even people that's not in my area. I do have a couple cousins who were not circumsized bc my cousin & her husband wasn't for it at all. I think my uncle in law wasn't circumsized so that's why & plus it cost money bc Medicaid won't or wouldn't pay for back in 92' & 2000'. It costed me $100 when my baby boy who's now 24 was born. But u make the decision u feel the best bout with ur baby if it's a boy. 😊
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
all sexist BS, your sons are mutilated, genital integrity should not be female privilege but a basic human right.
your sons were abused
Vanessa, please know that there are people who care and are praying for you. Life can be tough, sometimes you have to give yourself permission to let your stress and emotions out. I wish you all the best, give yourself a chance to relax and enjoy your sweet Lil girl along the w🙏❤️
Thank you ❤️❤️
We chose to not circumcise with our boys. My sons paediatrician said majority of people are choosing not to anymore. We are from Canada. I think if we would have chosen to do it, it would have been for aesthetic reasons, which in my opinion is just wrong.
I have two sons, my oldest is circumsized and my younger son isn't. My younger son doesn't have any trouble at all with hygiene and it doesn't bother him. Honestly, I don't find that it's necessary to have baby boys go through it, in my opinion.
Don't let anyone pressure you to do anything you're not comfortable with, you know what's best for you and your baby. 😊❤
We have 2 sons, when our first son was born 26 years ago, we thought we would get it done as my husband was, without thinking really but no Dr would do it so we started to think, hang on WHY do we have to do this to our baby! So no both our boys are not.
I asked our doctor about circumcision and he told us he wasn’t allowed to influence our decision in the matter but told us his sons were not circumcised. We decided not to circumcise and I’m glad bc I couldn’t imagine putting my son in pain for cosmetic reasons. We’ve had no issues, it’s been a breeze. The aesthetic is not a big deal. It’s not like they are walking around naked. It’s not hard to clean.
I and my older sister were raised by a single mother who was of Brazilian Portuguese decent so she chose not to have me circumcised. In my late twenties I developed a condition called phimosis which made it difficult to pull back my foreskin. I went to the doctor & tried a steroid cream which didn't help much. After dealing with alot of discomfort urinating & having sex I finally decided to get circumcised. The procedure itself wasn't painful but the recovery was & my glans became hypersensitive for quite awhile but I am happy. I have a grown daughter now but if I did have a son I would probably not have him circumcised & let him choose later in life. My wife is Chinese American & loves that I got circumcised but all the males in her family still have their foreskins.
girl get that baby circumsized my brother in law is a urologist you would not believe how many older men have to go in and get surgery from not being circumcised. i had 3 sons and had them all done . too many problems arise later on in men so don’t do that to ur child .
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
all myth and BS, your brother was poorly trained, your sons are mutilated, genital integrity should not be female privilege but a basic human right.
And it's very painful when circumcised when older.
@@amynunya6167 totally wrong, babies go into shock, blood flooded with endorphins. They brains are rewired forever. The MRIs show the levels never go back to baseline. Stop your hate speech against males.
@@amynunya6167 that is a sexist lie and men don't need it done, how stupid and sexist
What does your mom think about your children’s father? Moms usually have the best advice. If it were me, I would cut ties with him other than him paying child support. Your are very pretty and have a sweet personality. When you least expect it, God will provide you with a loving man.
I have four boys and they are all circumcised. Had them all pretty young. With the last I knew better but felt pressured because his brothers were. If I could go back I would 100% not do it. Go with your gut instinct. I wish I had followed mine.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
you are a wonderful person xx
Also, voted for Penelope, cutest baby ever!
Thank you!!!! 💖💖💖💖
No circumcision. When I had my son in the late 60's I insisted. I made such a fuss that an expert on NOT circumcising, who was writing a book about it, visited me in hospital. He wanted my opinion for his book. My mother had told me that when she was young there was a little boy who cried every time he urinated because his circumcision had become infected. I had four brothers and none were circumcised. My friend's mother had worked in a hospital and she told the horror story of hearing the little babies screaming as they suffered having their little foreskins cut off with sharp scissors. She had eight children and none of her boys suffered that. Pain. The child feels the pain. And it is unnecessary. The most sensitive area of a man's being is exposed and there is no reason for it. Do not make your boy baby suffer such excruciating pain. It is unnecessary surgery done out of habit.
I have two sons and they are not circumcised. I did not want my baby boys to be put through unnecessary pain! I taught them how to clean themselves when they were little. I think circumcision is cruel to babies. I’m sorry you feel lonely. Maybe join some single parent support groups or play groups for Penelope and you’ll meet other people. Be patient, God will send you the right person. Look to God and he will show you.
It is hard to find somebody that would be willing to take on the responsibility of 2 kids that are not theirs. I'm sure there are a few out there but from what I have heard guys say they don't really Want that responsibility from 1 let alone somebody that has 2 kids already from another man
100%
Right you gonna have to wait at least until the kids are grown. I don’t have a picture here, but I am Colombian, consider myself a decent looking woman, own multiple properties, have an amazing job in leadership as an engineer. I have masters. Lots of friends, my son is 11, his dad is involved so they will not have to play daddy for my son. I own a Porsche and still no man wants me. And not I’m not picky, I actually was dating a teacher. Trust me is really hard to find a man now days. Men don’t want to commit specially if you have two babies
I also forgot to mention I’m only 32 and I have a nice body because I work out. Like there is no signs left that I ever had a child. So go figure. Dating now days is terrible
And she has said she wants four children, preferably with this man
Being a single Mom isn't easy. It can be lonely. I hope things can get easier.
Both my sons are circumcised at the time I thought it was best decision after years and divorced and now with love of my life not married yet he is not circumcised and he is fine cleaning no issues , and no issues otherwise either lol , I heard some have fertility issues but idk . I would not do it if I had the chance to change my mind with my boys now that I’m older and know
I had 2 boys alone you are strong and can do it.. now they are grown and they are the best thing in my life and we are so close.. it’s the dads lost 100%
Both of my sons are circumcised. I would make that same decision again. I don't know if it's better or not, but I would not want them to have it done at an older age. I am so sorry you feel alone. Remember we are all rooting for you and praying for you. Plus, you have the best mom and cutest little daughter. Hugs and love.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
What reason?
your sons are mutilated, genital integrity should not be female privilege but a basic human right.
no older men need it done, these are myths, your sons are mutilated, Google 16 functions of the foreskin
Ahhhh yes getting pregnant by an already deadbeat father and then coming online to ask complete strangers for medical advice 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Im in the UK and this just isnt a thing unless for religious reasons. It would never EVER cross my mind to do this to my child (let alone newborn baby) unless for medical reasons. Its just not necessary.
It used to be a middle-class/upper class thing in the UK, especially in the south. Most of the men in my family were circumcised for this reason until recently. Nothing to do with religion, but because it was believed to be more hygienic.
Penelope has my vote for the next 9 days! You are the best vanessa you deserve to win!
Yayyyy thank you so much!! 💖💖🎀🎀
I have 2 sons and I did not circumcise either. After the birth of my first child (a daughter) I was in a room next to another woman who had a boy and their doctor performed the circumcision in the room next to us. I will never forget the babies cry. Also, it used to be covered by our healthcare because they assumed it prevented uti's and whatnot, but it's no longer covered and it's not seen as necessary.
Omg 🥺🥺
Babies won’t remember. My uncle had it done in his 40s for medical reasons and wished it was done as a baby.
so my aunt had breasts removed so lets remove breast buds of baby girls, they won't remember. How sexist of you
Both of my sons have circumcisions. Both of them have had the skin to reattach and had to have it redone.
My baby is also entered in the cutest baby. If u want to see him lmk and ILl post the link
ur sons are mutilated
Yes for circumcision. For sure. I have 2 sons that are grown men and they are glad I had them circumcised.
Why??? Circumcision is a terrible, cruel and unnecessay male gnital mutilation with not benefits. The foreskin is the natural protection of the glans and should not be cut. Retracting the foreskin during every bath or shower achieves the health and hygiene benefits of circumcision, making circumcision absurd, stupid and unnecessary.
I always considered circumcision as better hygiene, lower chance for infections (urinary) and most of all cleanliness. I only had a girl so never had to make that decision. I'm sorry to hear you are struggling. My grandmother used to say to marry a man that loves you MORE than you love them. He will treat you like his queen. And in return you will fall deeper in love with him. Let that man go. He turned his back on his daughter, he has no heart.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
genital integrity should not be female privilege but a basic human right.
I would choose not to circumcise..its there for a reason. My bf is 60..hes never had issues
circumcission after birth is fine so you and your son won't have to deal with it later, my hubby didn't have to deal with it bcoz he was circumsized when he was a baby so he didn't suffer when he was in elementary just like his friends lol
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
genital integrity should not be female privilege but a basic human right.
Seems like you knew what you wanted and regardless he was always with the other women. Can't force childish men to stay when they won't
Being lonely alone is far better than being with someone and feeling that same way. I know that might not make sense yet. Especially with your hormones adding to this. But its worth waiting for the right person than accepting far below what you need and want. Its a different kind of emptiness to just be with somebody but not the right somebody for you.
Circumcised is definitely the more hygienic option 💖
Nope. The hygienic benefits of circumcision are achieved by retracting the foreskin during every bath or shower, so circumcision for hygienic reasons is absurd, stupid and unnecessary.
for brainwashed people in barbaric societies, otherwise best not to be mutilated
they say that about girls in Africa, I suppose your society is just as primitive
@@hannahripler8752 Nope. Retracting the foreskin during every bath or shower achieves the same hygienic benefits as circumcision, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary.
It’s not inhumane. They use sugar water in a pacifier to “sedate” babies…kinda works like morphine in adults, so they don’t feel it and when they’re younger they don’t remember it…it’s also less painful. It can be religious to do it or not do it. It’s best for their hygiene and other possible medical issues.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
it is mutilation, pure and simple
@arvidyaganegi4538 that's your opinion. OP is entitled to theirs, as well.
@@karaspackman9416 Retracting the foreskin during every bath or shower achieves the same hygienic benefits as circumcision, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary.
@@amynunya6167 it is not opinion but fact that no medical authority in the world supports routine circumcision, it is not opinion but fact that all the so called health benefits are non-existent if the boy can be taught basic washing. To support the non-consensual surgery to remove part of the genitals of baby boys is just a sexist shit show, shame on you.
I thought it was for health reasons and cleanliness. Yes, I would definitely circumcise him as a baby. Girls just don't have all the extra skin to hold in bacteria. I couldn't imagine not having it done. My opinion only. Plus we end up with mammograms, and guys dont.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
getting cut is bad for health these are all sexist myths, leave baby boys alone.
It's understandable you should feel this way, but maybe he's not supposed to be in your life. Could he be a narcissist, selfish, irresponsible, bad influence? You fill in the blank! Therapy would help you take control of your happiness. And joining a single Mom's support group? The happiest childhood memories I have are of when my Mum was divorced before she remarried. It was just the two of us and she was able to pour all her love and devotion into me, so it's not all bad!
I had 3 sons and all were circumcised as babies. It was done in hospital. It is for hygiene. My grandchild was born in Europe and they do not circumcise there.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
cleaner for brainwashed people in barbaric societies, otherwise best not to be mutilated
sons were abused, brainwashed moms
NOT
I did for my son its so much easier to keep them clean
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the pnis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary way on minors who cannot defend themselves, consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of gnital mutilation without any benefit. Infant circumcision is the gnital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female gnital mutilation or FGM because the gnital integrity of babies and children is and should be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the pnis healthy and intact by carefully retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual intercourse, so circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases.
We didn't get our son circumcised we didn't feel it was necessary. To me it is genital mutilation. If it becomes medically necessary when they are older then that is a different situation. If he wants to be circumcised when he is an adult he can do that too. Circumcision became a covenant between the Jews and God. As believers in Christ we are fulfilled from the law through Grace, so there is also no religious reason. If you feel bothered by the decision and convicted not to do it, then that's your answer 😊 God's Spirit works in us as believers to guide us. It is also horrendous that medical practitioners still don't believe babies feel pain, it's so sad
Fulfilled from the law. Yes!
I circumcised my son and I’m still happy decided to, that’s just me though. I know we all have our own views.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
It is your decision, but my opinion is to not circumcise the baby... it is natural to have that skin.
I notice a lot of moms the past few years are choosing to not circumcise.
reasons for circunsizing .. easier hygene. lower risk of infection.. prevention of penile problems lower risk of penile cancer. it is pretty painful if they wait until they are older. i have a son and im so glad i had this done for him as a newborn. my father had it done when he was older and he said it was quiet painful. your such a great mom. God Bless you and your baby girl and expectant new arrival.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
Not a single one of those reason for circumcising is true.
It’s been scientifically proven that if you just teach your son how to properly clean himself. There has not been proven that it lowers the cancer risk, it’s a theory but has never been proven. You should probably get some up to date studies on this topic.
@@Livingtheinvisiblelife I am a retired nurse, I know what i am talking about. I dont believe you can teach an infant how to properly clean themself.I have had many many male patients that have had to have medical treatment because they did not have the procedure done when they were an infant.
@@laylalayla-jl4ik they were not properly showed how to clean it then. You’re trying to justify a painful unnecessary surgical procedure by using outdated information. You also say you’re retired so logically you haven’t had recent men who don’t know how to care for themselves. Then you write this shit basically calling every man an idiot who cannot be taught how to clean themselves that’s called sexism Layla. Every man in my life is uncut and not a single one of them have ever had any issues with hygiene, infections, or cancer (that has never had any actual proof of increased risk if uncircumcised. Last point, you might wanna learn how to spell shit before claiming you’re a college educated nurse. Circumcised is how you spell that, hygiene is how you spell that one, it is quite painful not quiet painful, and the correct “your” is you’re short for you are. There’s no way in hell you were ever a practicing nurse but unable to spell words that you would’ve used even if just occasionally used, you still would’ve used in your supposed job. Even as a CNA I regularly used hygiene in my charting. But sure you went to nursing school🥴🙄🤣🤣🤣
@@laylalayla-jl4ikStill a child doesn't need it
Hello 👋 here watching ❤❤, your not alone up you have us .
You’re awesome Vanessa. Keep it up. I’m so excited to see your next video and the gender reveal!!!!! :D I wonder what it is, a boy or a girl?
I have one son and I didn’t circumcise him and I’m glad I didn’t. My hubby had a penile injury from a bad procedure and now he has hardly no feeling in his penis. Which sucks.
My friend's son had a bothced circumcision leaving his penis looking odd. My sons were not circumcised, no issues.
Hello Vanessa, Just a friendly Answer here As to why you would want to circumcise a boy baby. I have 2 boys, my oldest is 20, my youngest is almost 15. I have never dealt with infections from either of my boys. But my sister Inlaw has had quite a few partners to say the least, And she cared to share with me That every Partner That she had been with Who Was uncircumcised Had struggled with infections their whole lives.. Also it is most definitely important to teach personal hygiene, but that is very hard to do through those difficult toddler years. There are so many positive reasons to Circumcise. Please do some more research Vanessa, I think once you do You're a smart girl.. You will understand Both religiously, and for Hygienic purposes why this is so important.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
all sexist BS, your sons are mutilated, genital integrity should not be female privilege but a basic human right.
My mom had me circumcised soon after birth for cosmetic reasons and it did seem shallow at first when she explained to me when I was a teenager but at 31, having seen how a lot of women prefer it, I understand her decision 💙 Moms know best. Stick with your gut!
Circumcision of newborn babies is a terrible, cruel and unnecessary mutilation with no benefits. There are no valid reasons for circumcising newborn babies.
brainwashed society
Kinda mute point now that I know you're having a girl, but... it was never a question for me. I looked at pictures of circumsized vs. uncircumcised. I guess it's pretty common in America or North Carolina where im at because I've never seen one not done. I had my son done right after brith with no issues. It looks better, its cleaner...idk though I did receive judgment for doing it, but it is what my family has always done. It is wayyyy better to do when they're young, and I would think my son would want it done when he's older, so I decided to do it for him. Hate to say, but VANITY was my reason. I think the "natural" look is hideous! 😂🥴
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the pnis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary way on minors who cannot defend themselves, consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of gnital mutilation without any benefit. Infant circumcision is the gnital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female gnital mutilation or FGM because the gnital integrity of babies and children is and should be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the pnis healthy and intact by carefully retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual intercourse, so circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases.
My husband and I have one son together. He is going to be 41 in january. When I was pregnant with him I thought about the same thing, whether or not I wanted to choose circumcision or not. In the end my husband made it clear he wanted him circumcised because he didn't want his son looking at him and then looking at himself, and wondering why they were different🤷♀️
I wouldn’t do it so young. You may end up meeting someone special in a few good years and you might end up marrying and want a child together. I’ve watched it happen lots, they tried to have reversal but it never worked.
I think you're having another girl too, Momma's intuition never lies😅😅😅 I'm having another girl too and that that's what I thought from the beginning.❤
A friend of mine didn't circumsize her son then later when he was 12 years old it became infected and had to have a painful circumcise and it was a horrible experience. Most people do it so it doesn't get infected
The cause of infection isn't the foreskin, it's from not cleaning the penis. It's really not that hard to teach your son to wash himself.
all sexist BS, your sons are mutilated, genital integrity should not be female privilege but a basic human right. the boy git an infection due to mom forcing the retraction. Education needed, not abuse of boys
all BS, no males ever needs it done. That 12 yr had a stupid mom you forcibly retracted his prepuce that caused the issue. Infections just don't happen to men, they happen to females yet we don't trim labia. Stop your sexist posts
@amandap8214 you can teach the boys to wash themselves but when they get alittle older that age they of course need to themselves and maybe don't do it correctly.
Circumcision originates in the Western world mainly from England during the 1800 and was based on today's outdated ideas about sexual hygiene. Immigrants brought the practice with them to the United States and Canada where it is still practiced, while circumcision on children in Europe is today mostly prohibited. Most often, things on the body have developed with an evolutionary function. A penis without a foreskin leaves the glans and urethra more exposed to dirt and bacterial attack and the antibacterial and protective function that the sebum under the foreskin provides is missing on a circumcised penis. In newborn boys who are circumcised, the glans may come into continuous contact with urine and feces due to the lack of foreskin.
Sexual hygiene is a big one for sure. So that in the future, they don’t cause issues like STD’s, kidney, bladder, or yeast infections in their partner(s).
I'm pretty sure circumcision has been around for thousands of years. It was practised in ancient Egypt, and is mentioned several times in the bible, and is recognized as a significant religious rite in both Judaism and Islam. I know of a few boys who weren't circumcised at birth, and have had to undergo the procedure in early adolescence due to chronic infections. The recovery was long and painful for both.
@@karaspackman9416 We should all use condoms whether we are circumcised or not.
@@chelsear.5386 Circumcision for religious reasons of minors who are unable to defend themselves, consent or decide is a terrible, cruel and unnecessary form of genital mutilation that has no benefits and should be rejected and punished in the same way as FGM.
@@chelsear.5386 That's why I wrote "in the wester world" (= Europe, U.S, Canada and other cultures that originates from Western Europe). In wester Europe it has been practiced since the 1800. In other cultures you are absolutely right that circumcision has a longer history for religious resons such as in Judaism and in Islam. You are also right that there may be individual cases where circumcision is medically warranted. However, for the vast majority, circumcision has been shown to involve more risks than benefits, which is why organizations such as the European Association of Urology (EAU), the World Health Organization, and the Canadian Paediatric Society (CPS) do not recommend routine circumcision
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@@heyvanessamartin you deserve to find someone who’s actually nice and will be good to you and your kiddos. It will happen. Just don’t give up and give yourself some time. : )
I had two sons twenty years apart, neither one were circumcised. I let them stay in their natural state, I didn't feel like it was my decision to alter them from that. I figured if they wanted to have a circumcision later on then that was their choice, their body. Neither one has had any issues. The US is big on doing it, other countries? Not so much. My friend's son had a botched circumcision and it permanently affected the look of his penis.
Left our kids alone. No problem at all. And we are in the U.S. A lot of parents now don't circumcise. By the way, re: circumcision later in life is painful and can be fatal. Infant circumcision is the same. It's quite painful (if you are in the room and hear them cry, you'll never forget that scream) and babies do die from circumcision. Just putting it out there.
Fatal? It’s day surgery. 😂😂😂
@@alijane6675 true that it's a day surgery (less than half an hour) but infants do die from complications. do some research.
@@nickj6138 EVERYTHING carries risk. It’s our job as adults to mitigate that risk. Not getting a circumcision increases a man’s chances of cancer. YOU do some research.
@@alijane6675 sure thing. tell that to the rest of the world that don't circumcise. sounds like you're a north american who believes in this cancer thing and had your kids circumcised.
@@alijane6675 Sure, tell that to the rest of the world that doesn't circumcise.
it's not hygienic if a man is not circumsized my friend once told me that her bf was not circumsized and it has a smell down there that's the reason why it has to be circumsized coz the pee and dirt will hide in that extra skin
Well then he’s not cleaning himself properly.
This person clearly was not cleaning themselves properly or maybe had some type of infection.
it is worse for women, they collect more bacteria, stop being sexist
If I had a boy I wouldn't be able to do it. Period. I have many reasons mostly that I would have a hard time cutting a perfect new baby I just couldn't do it, I'm squeamish! My sister had four boy and did it to all of them which is fine and yes it is better to do it for when they get older. It's just better. Major conumdrum! It can also be botched. So hard to make that decision
I think if its not medically necessary then there is no good reason to do a procedure.
I definitely agree with a circumcision. Better hygiene and my ex bf was teased at school in the locker rooms. Also, my Dad had to get his done at 5 due to infection.
My husband's brother was circumcised when he was a little bit older also because of infection. I also know of someone who had to have their son circumcised later on because of infection.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
all sexist BS, genital integrity should not be female privilege but a basic human right.
I will preface this by saying that I’m not a mom, but if I had a son I would. I have had sexual partners who were not circumcised and unfortunately I don’t know if there parents taught them how to clean properly and the smell…I could not handle it. I know you would teach them of course but that experience absolutely would influence my decision.
I agree the smells from uncircumcised is repulsive and it looks like a anteater
@@melaniegollin2489 Bahahha an anteater is so accurate 😂😂😂
It’s disgusting looking , smells terrible. I dated ONLY one man for only a few weeks in my lifetime decades ago that was not circumcised and that was the last one.. so gross. . My husband and sons are circumcised and wouldn’t have it any other way.
@@melaniegollin2489 women smell worse, cut them too or are you sexist?
@@megwilliams1218 women look worse, stop being sexist
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My son and all the men that I know are glad they were circumcised as a baby. For health and cleanliness.
I don’t have face book or I would vote for Penelope ❤
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
all sexist BS, your sons are mutilated, genital integrity should not be female privilege but a basic human right.
How would someone know about the feeling? That's medically impossible for someone circomcised and then vice versa to tell you what the other one feels .. ex ...just say you were circumcised, you can't tell another person how it feels to NOT be curcumcised! So how do they know. Don't make sense. And it's wrong if what your saying is true trust me
I have a 6 month old and I chose not to get him circumcised. His dad said he’ll be mad at me when he’s older, but this is why.
My nephew isn’t. He never got any infections. He is 10 now. My sister told me she just properly taught him how to clean himself.
Despite what other people are saying here you do not need and absolutely shouldn’t “pull back” the skin in infants. It could injure them. It detaches naturally and loosens when they’re older. You only need to clean or wipe what you can see. This was told to me by my pediatrician.
I dated a man once who was uncircumcised. He had no problems and was quite happy with what he had.
In short, I don’t believe personally it is my right to remove a piece of my son’s body without his consent and he is an infant that cannot do so, especially when it pertains to his genitals. There is no higher risk of infection if cleaned properly. It serves a function protecting the nerve endings of the penis. If it wasn’t meant to be there it wouldn’t be there. If he would like to have it removed in adulthood that will be his decision but I am not making it for him.
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My husband and I would choose not too if we had a boy, but we had a girl. I personally think that if it is for 1. The appearance- that is weird. That shouldn't even be a thought. We don't have girls and think we should mutilate their body parts so that it "looks better" that's weird and 2. If it's for hygiene and cleanliness, that's just lazy & silly. Teach your boys to have proper hygiene.....? I honestly don't understand that logic. So do we just chop things off that need to be properly washed or look a certain way? I just don't understand it. Besides that, I mean unless you're Jewish, I don't see the point. But I also am one that since having my daughter 7 months ago, I no longer even want to pierce my daughters ears until she can verbalize the want herself! 🤷♀️ haha.
Anyyyway! I'm excited for you in having 2 children close in age! I pray for the same. ❤ God bless you & your family.
If he chooses to not be in your child’s life then that’s his loss and that’s his problem not yours !!! He needs to get his s… together and stop being so stubborn!!!! I’m so sorry that p won’t know who her father is
Do you get support from he's parents? Do you think he'll come around if this baby is a boy?
No and no
You should ask grown men their opinion on circumcision instead. Ive worked with MULTIPLE men who decided to get circumcised as an adult and they wish they had it done as babies but i honestly dk.
stop the lies, only men who want part of their dick removed are fools or live in body shaming society like the USA where mutilation of males is normal. same arguments used for FGM in Africa, stop being sexist.
@@arvidyaganegi4538 you're repulsive.
that is all BS, you live in a primitive country where brainwashed females like you promote preference for mutilated penis. If you all stopped this barbaric practice these men would not feel pressured to getting circumcised. Women in Africa feel the same pressure where cut vagina is the norm. Stop your sexist hate speech.
I’m a Christian and I don’t believe God made a mistake creating the male anatomy🤷🏼♀️
I don't have a son. I dated someone years ago who had the procedure done at age 13. He said it was horrific and his future sons would have it done at birth so they don't remember. There are many religious reasons. I am not 100% for or against any way, both sides have some good points.
all brainwashed and sexist BS. No boy ever needs it done. In the USA the stupid moms forcibly retract the prepuce, that causes all the issues, civilised countries know not to do that.
It cuts back on infections.
all myth, genital integrity should not be female privilege but a basic human right.
100% lies
I'm surprised you automatically think you'd circumcise them bc as a fellow Canadian most guys I've been with aren't. Circumcision is common in usa, jewish and muslim relgions. No where else.
No brainer! YES to circumcision!!!
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
clearly you are either sexist or have no brains. men say things like about FGM in Africa, you are as bad as them.
No. Teach them cleanliness. Dont take this the wrong way, but it's dis-forming their manly hood x
You can't make someone love you that doesn't.
It's barbaric! I work with many urologist and asked pediatricians. The risk of infection is more like people are lazy and don't want to deal with the extra cleaning. They are straddled to a wooden board, given a little tylenol a clamp is placed on the baby and the incision it's made. That is a huge risk for infection there!!! No more risky to have done at an older age than for a woman to have gynecological surgery. You do you there no right or wrong. It's a personal decision keep researching ❤ i didnt do that to my son and he's never had any issues!
Also, just so u know. You are beautiful, you are enough and you are doing great!! You got this!! God is writing your story, be patient.
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
Your going to regret it my friend had to get her son circum. At age 16 bc of repeated urinary tract infections. It's filthy and without there dad to teach them to keep it clean and such, you will be in trouble. They will also be upset with you once he starts to mature , possible get made fun of. Get it done!!
If you can trust God for your eternal security, can't you trust God for a good man/ husband? God could be protecting you. Do you really want a man who doesn't want his children? Focus on who he is....not the person you want him to be. ❤
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My 3 sons were circumsised. I'm happy with my decision. My oldest son told me once he's happy i did because he doesn't want a turtle neck around his penis lol.
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
Even don't like the beef lips,
I would get my daughter Circumcised
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Oh sweet Vanessa my heart hurts for you 🥹 He’s shown you over & over again that this is not what he wants , he didn’t show up for you & Penelope when she was born and he’s doing the same thing with you & the new baby . He made his choice along time ago and unfortunately he hasn’t changed his mind, do you really want a guy who obviously doesn’t want any part of this or you ? I understand that you love him and you want your family , you want him to want you & your babies , you want him to want you , you want him to love you and to be excited that he’s going to be a Daddy again but that’s not what he wants and nothing you say or do is going to make him change , if this was what he wanted he wouldn’t have left you pregnant and alone the 1st time , PLEASE understand I’m not trying to be mean or hurt your feelings at all I’ve always been a big supporter of you , always 💯 But it really does break my heart for you because I know you are romanticizing this picture in your head & heart of having this beautiful family with him and that you’ll live happily ever after but again if that’s what he wanted then he’d be there right now . He’s absolutely used you , you’re convenient for him when he’s lonely but when he gets what he wants he goes home right ? He knows you’re in love with him so it’s easy for him until he finds what he’s looking for and then he’s gone ! You can’t want a guy who doesn’t want you ? You deserve everything great in life Vanessa , you deserve someone who’s madly in love with YOU , who can’t wait to get off work so he can see you , to send you random “ I love you texts “ who wants to takecare of you , to hold you , a MAN who just wants YOU ! That’s what Vanessa deserves 💯 And one day that man will come and he’s going to love the crap out of you and your beautiful babies. ❤️🙏🏼❤️ I’m always here if you need a shoulder ( BTW you look gorgeous!) 🙏🏼🩷🩷🫶🏼🙏🏼
Thank you so much! You’re 100% correct and I know that ❤️❤️❤️ 😭😭😭😭❤️❤️
@@heyvanessamartin ❤️ I’m relieved you’re not angry with me ❤️🙏🏼I just wanted you to know you have so much worth and you & the babes deserve only the best ! 🩷🫶🏼🙏🏼
Oh I totally understand you. You’re so sweet!! Thank you for your support ❤️❤️❤️
All I know is if I was having a boy I would circumcise. I worked in health care and it does carry less bacteria once they’re circumcised. I used to assist in circumcisions for baby boys and they hardly felt it. 🤷🏼♀️
@@stephaniewilliams0 hardly felt it?! Are you for real? I heard two babies when I took my kid to his pediatric office those babies were SCREAMING BLOODY MURDER!!
Circumcision is the mutilation of the foreskin, the foreskin being the natural protection of the glans and the best part of the penis. Circumcision should always be performed as a last option and solution to any problem. If circumcision is performed on a whim, for religious/cultural reasons or in a forced and medically unnecessary manner on minors who cannot defend themselves nor can they consent or decide, it is a terrible and cruel form of genital mutilation with no benefits. A genital mutilation that we must reject, prohibit and punish in the same way as female genital mutilation or FGM because the genital integrity of babies and boys is and must be sacred. The benefits of circumcision are also achieved by keeping the penis healthy and intact by retracting the foreskin in every bath or shower and using condoms during sexual relations, which is why circumcision is absurd, stupid and unnecessary in the vast majority of cases. . Circumcision alone does not protect or reduce sexual diseases and infections.
@@sha-sha7665 mmmm no not when they’re newborns. It’s definitely not as sensitive the sooner you get it done.
@@stephaniewilliams0,So,you support taking away their sensitive organ?
all sexist BS, genital integrity should not be female privilege but a basic human right.
There are ways to prevent having kids with someone who doesn't care about you or his offspring. I'm sorry you are unhappy But look in the mirror and you will see who got you there.
Is the money for Penelope or you??? Sadly you’re striking me as what my mom did to me as a mother using me as a cash cow in the industry.
Put the money away for her and let it grow and when she’s older has a nest egg for education or a car or home etc.
Please don’t use that money for your debt and wants.
I will absolutely use the money towards debt before anything else IF we won. That is directly impacting Penelope’s future and obviously not on my own wants.
But your debt is due to your shopping addictions. Thats not her fault.
Most of the people who entered the contest said the money would be used for the child’s college education.
Well Dave Ramsey says to pay off debt first.
@@judithscharf4873exactly. Apparently her debt is Penelope’s job to clear. Again this is why I said what I said to her. My mother did this with me as a child and spend well over 80k I had made as a child. I had nothing to show for years of work from birth till 18.
It is her prerogative how she spends these winnings absolutely. Sadly none of this will be put away for this little girl nor the new one.
It will go
To her credit card debt and other debts and her addiction to shopping.😞
I’m all about women supporting other women. I’m a single mom also and have been for years with disabled children. Doing it solo.
I started following Vanessa when I saw her really showing what it can be like to struggle but staying optimistic and fighting through.
She has taken down her original videos where she gave hope to those ppl struggling with reassurance that it is okay to need help sometimes. The true essence of what it can be like in our country and around the world as a single parent. Now it’s always about buying and her debt and this man who she allows to keep affecting her in such negative fashion.
I’ve watched in her debt journey he pays bi weekly support to her turning around saying zero support to her kinda supports to her doesn’t to he does.
She keeps talking words from someone who continually disappoints her. Walk into court file custody and support papers.
She wasn’t going to show P any more, a few days later she is. Don’t use your babies on the World Wide Web for views and money.
She’s a beautiful little girl but sadly she’s being exploited. And the sick ppl in today’s world have a front row seat.
Many may think I’m bashing or coming for Vanessa here.
What I’m trying to say to her is, you started a Beautiful Channel, you were showing other single parents the good, the bad the ugly but also the uprise of what happens when you don’t give up.
We at some point however and I had to learn this myself, we need to get Humble look at ourselves and stop staying in the victim mentality.
I get your pregnant and hormonal but but did you ever think that things happen for reasons for God to have us do a deeper dive into change for ourselves?
I urge those voting to understand that again although it’s her choice how she spends this winning money absolutely, but know this money is already spent in her mind. And as quick as it will come it will be gone.😞
It is not Penelope’s burden to pay her mom’s debts off or to carry her.
Vanessa I want to tell you this, I do believe you have a good heart. I do think you really could influence many who are walking the same path as you. My hopes for you is to find self love. A deep love where you take steps to climb out of this victim mentality. I see a lot of light in you that’s been very clouded.
I send you and your little family LOVE AND PRAYERS!!
But again urge you to not use that money for yourself. And to get back to the humbleness you showed in the beginning.
Everyone is too quick to throw opinions on how to live YOUR life at you instead of simply supporting you and your channel. You are a fantastic mumma, Penelope is absolutely beautiful and is thriving, she definitely has all of the love she needs and so will baby number 2 ❤ you got this 💪 sending lots of love and prayers your way xx