the “am i a potatoe” moment had me ROLLING!! please put more of those little quirky moments of you just being yourself, as long as you feel comfortable of course :) because i know i’m not the only one who absolutely adores them!!!
We are married and in our 50’s…we work so well together each respecting each others strengths. Communication is so important in a relationship…knowing that the partner is coming from a place of love, this eliminates room for defensive emotions. You two are on the right path. Loving watching these older videos. ~Cara 😊
I can relate to people asking my fiance and I why we waited so long to get engaged. We have been Together for 9 years and we had a great conversation when we first started dating about marriage. For both of, we both have never been married, so we didn't want to end up rushing into it, only to get divorced. I think more people should wait because it isn't just about a ceremony. Its crazy that society puts a timeline on everything. Its like as soon As a person gets married, they ask when are you going to have a baby? Or after you have a kid, when is the next one? I never understood why people want to rush huge life decisions.
Louis, when I met my husband I didn't wanted to get married for the same reason you mentioned. But after living together for 2 years we got married, and we will celebrate 48 years in December, but we've been together for 50 years.
Loved this type of Q&A about couple questions. You two have always put your priorities first and it is so calming to see and watch. I love thinking of a relationship as a team. It’s beautiful ❤️
I loved this conversation! Especially over a woman’s and a man’s role. I’ve really subconsciously been feeling all of what you were talking about. Thank you for voicing that!
You are such a smart and capable women. Since my divorce many years ago, I have taken care of myself and have done quite well. Making your relationship work takes a lot of work, it doesn't just happen, but you are most definitely on the right track. Bless you both.
I was with my late husband for 30 years so know a little bit about love and relationships. My comment would be to keep up the good work! Sounds like you have a great foundation that you work on to maintain/improve on a regular basis which is key for longevity. Regarding baby(s), you must remember more than anything else that the two of you are the Core of your family. You need to keep feeding that relationship as time goes on. The better you are as a couple, the better you will be for your children. Best of luck to you both!
I haven't watched you guys in so many years with just how crazy life as been. So I'm glad this is the video I came back too. Being a woman is so hard and with the abortion bans happening here in the US, I've never felt more devalued. I love hearing your guys' view on equality between you both. 💕
SO much pressure on women in so many ways! Its sad. I am so happy to hear you both talk about this. I too love doing more of the cooking/cleaning and my love is a carpenter by trade, and so he fixes things because he loves doing that. But he is so supportive of equality in our partnership. Such a refreshing video to listen/watch. You guys bring joy to this world! Love you both!
I LOVE your content! I have been with my husband for 26 years, and married for 20 of them. Equity is our daily work within our house and you are so on the right track about communication and giving space. We have an 8 year old, and when he was born it was so hard as it would feel like all the work was falling on me as mom (it wasn't) but I needed to re-learn how to communicate my needs as I was growing into my role as mom. When our baby was finally old enough that I could be off duty for a few hours (he refused to take a bottle), we started swapping bed time nights. My husband was also all in from the moment he was born, and changed diapers, bathed, made doctor appointments, helped interview preschools, etc. It was a task we took on together. As you prepare for parenthood, read the baby books or UA-cam videos that speak to you together. Once you are pregnant, look up the parenting styles to get the lingo, Gentle Parenting, Cry it Out, Baby led weaning, Love and Logic, 1-2-3 Magic, Simplicity Parenting, Explosive Child. Consult your friends, what are they doing that works for them. When it comes to the balance, it is hard, in our house we do every other day is bedtime routine. If one doesn't exist, start a parent support group in your new community. It will save your sanity. After baby is born, give yourself time to heal, like one of the things they don't tell you after baby is born that your butt needs to be couch side for about 3-4 weeks and not doing a whole lot as your body heals. Lean into your community at this time, let them love on you, bring you food, help with daily tasks. As a new mom, be mindful of needing a break . It's tough to balance the work and parenthood on both sides of the equation. Raya you mentioned needing to step away for maternity leave, I want to call out that Louis should be mindful, that he is also going to need to step away from duties so that you both can be all in, soaking in your new roles as parents. Build up a small savings to give you that freedom when kids are born so that you both can take a 4 week break from editing content and just being as a family, it will be so worth it for you both. (In some countries they get a year of familial bonding leave after baby is born or adopted). Parenthood is a full time gig, and scheduling daily breaks so you can remain an awesome parent is key. So that might look like while one parent is showering, the other parent is distracting the kids so their shower time is uninterrupted. Don't forget to schedule your date nights! READ to your baby every DAY!! You should read at minimum 3 books a day as a baby, 5 books by the time they are toddler, etc. If Raya is in charge of meals, Louis you could be in charge of making the doctor appointments, scheduling babysitters or nanny time. Let your kids see you support the other parent, i.e. you know daddy's can cook too, it's just that mommy is such an amazing cook, isn't amazing how much we enjoy her food. Let your kids see you sharing chores, while it may not be perfect, let them see you clean the bathroom or wash the floor, it helps to re-write the patriarchal script. Much love to you both as you journey through this next phase of life
You two are just an absolute inspiration. You both have such beautiful minds. The way you navigate around your relationship is truly beautiful. I wish you all the happiness in the world ! Been a long long time viewer of Louis and remember him meeting raya . Just beautiful 🙏🏽
An important truth that helped me is fact that position and role don't determine worth. In former times, people clearly communicated and acted as if position and role DEFINITELY did determine worth.
As far as 'roles', I think the pressure comes from women to women to do more and be more...the ultimate goal is to be happy 😊 if you are BOTH happy with your "roles" then that is All that matters...♥️ and 🙏🏼 for you both!!
You're right Raya. I see there is more pressure on you in the equality aspect. I'm sorry for that and any criticism you receive! Much love and keep doing you! ❤️
This hit home hard. I did not have children, we have been married for over 30 years. We could not have children and decided that we would adopt if we felt like we couldn’t live without have children. Well we never got to that time. But during my career in Law Enforcement if someone had to work over hours I was always told “well you don’t have children so you can work over”. That used to make me feel less than. So when I promoted up in my career I made sure not to do that to any males or females. Congratulations to you Both on the wedding, it was Beautiful. I watched all of it!💐🤗
I would say you two work very much as a team playing to your strengths. I gave up paid work to raise our son and my husband is the only one working out of the house. Society doesn’t always recognise what I do, but my husband does recognise it. We are equals. We just make different contributions.
What an inspiration! Raya you are completely right about the pressure put on women and thank you for stating it so loudly as a thing that needs to change. Louis, your understanding of the situation and compassion to make a change in your relationship with Raya is something more men need to do. You both are on such a great path… continue and never let negativity change you (easier said than done). As for the honeymoon… I have to suggest Bahamas! I met my wife there and we went back with our family and friends to have a beautiful commitment ceremony. The people are amazing there as well as the sites. Know that wherever you go and whenever that is you both are on the right path together! Sending much love
Such an interesting video! I would love to see you talk more about how you manage both your separate and joint finances in order to both feel secure financially?
I completely understand that dynamics of equality in a heterosexual relationship. Sadly, I’ve been feeling this. I’ve been having this overwhelming anxiety and stress of being a woman and having to “do it all”. I actually broke down the other day with my significant other. Even after discussing with him and going through the meltdown, I don’t know if he truly understands what I’m feeling. I don’t know. Maybe it’s also an insecurity. But anywho, Thank you for this video. I love you guys! I love your energies. I can absorb your positive energy through your amazing videos! Even on the stressful ones, you both show vulnerability and humility, and it makes me all much more respect you both! Thank you again!
Loved the video! When it comes to pregnancy there is only one „tip“: I recently had two miscarriages, still healing mentally and physically, and I just wanted to make you aware that pregnancy will not always end with a baby in your arms! We had to learn it the hard way and were way to naïve about pregnancy in general. I wish you all the best for this next chapter and hope that everything goes well for you. Love from Germany ❤️
When having your weekly or monthly chats about what may be bothering you also add in some positive ones you may have loved but missed to say or bring up in that moment. Loved this video yet another great open and honest in sight to you both keeping it real .
You two have such a calming, peaceful and loving way about you. I feel like I’m meditating and recharging when I watch you. That’s weird, right? 😂 And the way Louis looks at the camera when Raya’s talking, Oh my God hilarious and adorable!
I can sense the love and admiration for Raya that Louis has in his eyes 🥹🥰 you both make an amazing couple, thank you for sharing not only the ups, but ALSO the downs and just showing REALITY. love how you both are putting in the work to make this work, that's how relationships are supposed to be! love these q&a's and learning more about your perspectives and thoughts, I'm learning and growing a lot from them 😁
You are so wise kind of trying to dissolve the expectations and semi forced roles so that you do what you like and respect each others work/effort etc. Well done!
I love you guys ! I hope to find a relationship this loving and supportive. I recently broke up with my boyfriend over a bunch of the topics you just brought up. He wasn't willing to compromise and work towards a future. You guys give me so much hope for my future ❤️
I just found your page and I loveeeeee it! I love how intentional, real, and present you guys are! This video especially! Your relationship is beautiful and will continue to grow beautifully as you guys embark on this next journey. As a new mom, as of Feb 2/22/22❤ , with a similar relationship foundation- you guys will be great!! Honestly this year has so far been the most self growth I’ve ever had. Being a mom to a baby girl has been the lightest and darkest but in all just so beautiful in all the lessons fulled by love. It’s crazy how much of my heavy weight by programming has come to surface in order for us to not repeat. My advice would be 1.) take time for you as a family!! As much time as you want! We are actually taking a year off from family and friends so that we can totally rebuild our foundation and create our dream life. (Lol doesn’t have to be as long but, ya know just don’t feel pressured to do anything that doesn’t sit right.) 2.) trust your intuition. As a mom in general, watching and caring for your baby but also while your pregnant. I feel like I met my baby before she was born, I knew her so well. 3.) be there to support mom especially if she’s breastfeeding in the first month. Feed her all the food!! Lol and let her sleep as much as she can. 4.) keep having teen meetings! You will be tired and won’t want to but that communication is so important when You both are so tired. 5.) Breastfeeding is the hardest thing I’ve ever done, my advice: eat, drink water, rest, and if your supply goes down pump every 2-3 hours on both even after feedings, and collect your letdown on the other side!! There’s a Hakkaa silicone breast pump that will be your best friend. 6.) still have some sort of date night once a week! A chance to reconnect with each other in more of a happy, chill environment. Much love❤
Interesting thoughts about sharing roles. My partner and I have been together for over 15 years, and when we moved in together we discussed which chores we each preferred, and I have some mobility issues, so there's certain things I'm not physically able to do, and my partner has some memory issues, so he struggles with things like remembering where things go, so we split things based on our strengths and preferences. The main thing that has been a huge help to both of us though is neither of us ever need reminding to do our chosen chores. We have reminders in our calendar or to do lists, and we just do it. I was in a previous relationship where my ex never did anything until I asked him to, and the pressure that put on me, and the negativity of feeling like I was a constant nag, was unexplainable. I have never had that in this relationship and we have literally never argued about getting things done. I should mention we also own a business together and run it the same way successfully.
Bravo you two! Thank you for sharing these incredibly important insights with your viewers. The more we (both men and women) say these things out loud the closer we become a society that values women over men. We should be valued equally are we are not there yet. But with conversations like this one it gives me hope that one day we might. Truly thank you!
I love your discussion on roles. I have stayed home with our kids and now homeschool them. I love it and it’s the roll I have chosen. My husband has always supported me and encouraged me to take the role that I want. I finished my college degree online with a toddler and preschooler because I wanted that accomplished. Chances are I may never use that degree, but I wanted that for myself. While my husband technically makes the money, it is our money. He doesn’t hold any idea that he is in power or control. It seems like you guys will do great because you are on the same page about roles. The only thing I would say is that relationships aren’t 50/50. They should be 100/100. You give all you can to each other never holding back. 🙂
Oh wow. This resonates. When we bought our first house, it was largely with my savings and in my name, however our (older male) mortgage advisor focused all of his attention on my partner. We’re similar to you in terms of I don’t drive, I cook as I enjoy it and my partner is essentially Louis. Since having kids I haven’t worked (in the societal sense) as I wanted to be with them whilst they’re still little, and it took a long time for me to accept that I wasn’t ‘contributing’, that my husband supported me. I’m trying to reverse that ingrained thinking to ‘I support my husband and his career by looking after our kids!’ X
My wife and I have been married for 2 years and our son is 2 months old. I agree with they way your relationship plays out in regards to equality, that's how our marriage works as well - we each play to our strengths. As far as advice, invest well in your marriage and relationship before having a kid. When you're sleep deprived and learning how to take care of a baby, you want to stay on the same team and not be divided.
I love the way you talk about everything together ! Are there any subjects you don’t feel comfortable talking about to one another ? I’ve been with my husband since 13 years, but he never feels comfortable communicating. It often takes a very long time understanding things by myself about him just because he doesn’t know how to open himself to others. He doesn’t talk, he doesn’t know ho to communicate and never ask questions. It’s difficult for me, but I accepted his way of being himself.
Great Q and A. I’ve been married twice and had totally different ‘roles’ in each. In the first I had to do DIY as he hadn’t a clue but loved cooking. My second husband was very hands on and I got used to being ‘the wife’ doing cooking and cleaning from choice. He died in 2019 and I’m now back to doing all the ‘roles’ and very proud of my achievements so far. I love ironing and no one gets that job, I totally escape this world while ironing. I’m in Scotland and keep hoping I will bump into you if you make it up here 😉
I love to see your adventures together, but my favourite videos from you guys are ones like these where you are so open about your relationship. As a young woman, I have learn so much from you guys over the years (my favourite being that in a relationship you are a team!!) Raya is such an inspirational woman and I feel like you are an older sister to so many of us girls who watched the British youtube gang and met you through louis!I adore you both and can't wait to watch you grow your family together - sending love from Scotland!!! Xx
I'm the same age as Louis and I have nowhere near the amount of energy that guy has! LOL. You two are awesome together. Your chemistry, your passion, your creativity... is amazing. No matter what you do or where you are, you guys always make it feel like you're at home in your element and in your comfort zone. So exciting and lovely to watch you two. Can't wait for more years of awesomeness! ❤️
I loved that your ‘tangent’ touched on such a wise and ethereal concept of how the mind is most comfortable operating in roles, or dualities, I.e., male/female, yes/no, good/bad. You clarify how easy it is to follow previous humanized souls’ behaviors and choices that propagate role-play and gender stigmatization and how the mind tries to distract us (we being a marvelous, gender-free soul, or a drop of the ocean of consciousness first, then a being second. Although why we do not call ourselves a ‘thinking’, instead of a ‘being’, is beyond me.). You then inspire us to redirect that mind play into a neutrally respectful and lovingly supportive awareness. We all should celebrate each other’s efforts and choices more (even those of people we do not know), thank you for the reminder. Raya said it, “Yes to it all!” Also, money IS simply and solely an energy unit. I suggest you combine your energies like you combine love, chores and roles to lessen energetic walls inherent in, as you point out, in just being. 30 years married me says that the financial ‘lead’ switches between us as circumstance dictates and chores automatically get divvied up. Dan shops and I fix things, because of preference, which also changes with time: Never look at you marriage through they eyes of another was very helpful advice to me. You guys are now one, because the path of love is wide enough for one, and the only importance is what you or your partner thinks and feels. And two: Read The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield for wonderful details of human energy exchange. Thank you so much. Also! I get it Raya, but, be assured and KNOW that your potato head is glorious, and would be, even as a pancake! Paz y 💗
You two are so inspiring. Love how thoughtful and intentional you both are. Wondering if you have a video about becoming vegan and what that journey was like. Tips about having babies, raising kids - get ready for major change like you can't even imagine! In the best ways - and some tough too. ❤️
Yay! My question about children made the cut. 😊 Thank you for being so open 🙏🏻 I always walk away from your videos with a better mindset for my relationship.
For our honeymoon we did the North Island together. The most romantic part was Tutukaka. Really were away from people and just had each other, the scenery, tried some new things, really reflected on life when we drove to the tippy top of the island from there... it was great. Hmm advice, I think just make you marriage your own. A lot of people like to say, "You have to..." But you don't. And we include those who think they're unconventional in that grouping. Also, trying to conceive is an adventure, do not rush it but of course be intentional. Think of it this way, this will be the only time you will ever be trying to conceive your first child. Enjoy and embrace that time. Even the frustrating parts haha!
the Im a potato scene was SOOO FUNNY. A real and relatable scene for sure. You may not feel comfortable sharing those kinds of things all of the time and that's okay but I really enjoy them when you do!
Great questioning of yourselves, upbringing, conditioning and feeling for a deeper truer way of being in relationship bravo! We need a lot more of these conversations thank you for being a great and inspiring example.
My husband was a stay home dad and I had a very busy manager job working long hours. A good friend said to us that we look very exhausted, we should take a break. I laughed, taking a break with a Baby, how? Easy she said, give each other a day off once a week! Sleep in, no home duties, no changing nappies, do what ever makes you happy. This was the best advice ever and now I pass it on to you❣
There was this question something like "What do you wish others knew about your partner" - I heard your answers, and there was nothing surprising there 🙂 Even from only knowing you from your videos, I still thought I could recognize those traits in you. (Let me also give you my best wishes for your married life together!)
I love love love this!!!! Yall are so intelligent in a very well rounded amazing way. Thank you for touching on these sensitive subjects. You gave a fantastic belief system & value system. 👏 bravo. Beautifully spoken ❤️
Once kids start coming along, the seasons of parenting obviously change as the children grow and change and then start coming into who they are individually. I’m a mom to 4 boys 23, 21, 15, 10. The mom I was 23 years ago or 20 years ago or a year ago has changed in small ways and I’m some big ways. Your kids will be closer to each one of you at different phases of life because that’s where they are or need at that time. Its ok. Every phase is fun, fulfilling and hard too. As a couple making sure you allow each other to maintain and identify outside of being a mom and/or dad. As well as, making your relationship a priority in growing together after kids come along. The best quote in being parents I still think on everyday, is…. The days are long but the years fly by. The hardest transition for me was going from 1 child to 2. Once you hit 4 it’s just chaos and you just gotta accept that.
it will be 14 years in 3 months time that we've been together, and we just passed our 5 year wedding anniversary and i feel like i have continuously been learning from y'alls relationship.
Oh wow I love what you said about balancing chores and tasks and everyones right to do what works best for them without others judging them 😍 to me, you seem to be such an incredible great couple! Wish you all the best for everything to come ❤️ love and greetings from Germany 🤗
I watched Louis video when you met in New York back in the day.. so been here since the beginning. time flies! You two complement each other in a great way :)
You guys are so awesome! I'm not gonna share because my marriage is not a positive one imo and I am disabled now with barely any family.I wish I had better examples in life prior to my marriage. The moral of this is I hope a lot of young people watch your videos and see what a great example you both are of a solid couple whether before you married or after. You have all this love and respect for each other and it shows so much when you look at each other especially when Louis looks at you Rya whilr you're talking.. It is so sweet! I'm not gonna lie the picture you chose for your thumbnail kind of scared me there for a minute.🤔🤣. Safe travels you guys! Enjoy the time with your families. oxo 🌴🚅 🌊 ✌️💕
Just want to say thanks for always bringing new ways to view things. You both introduced me to what love languages are in a past relationship video which I’ve shared with my partner and it was a huge eye opener for us on how we like to receive and give love. Now hearing you speak about gender roles and how they play into marriage is another eye opener. I love hearing from two people that have respect for each other and their relationship. We don’t often have great examples of how a relationship looks past the “They lived happily ever after” and people need to know that marriage is a project that you manage for the rest of your life…..together. If managed well…..it’s the best project you’ll ever work on! Please keep sharing videos like this……. And Raya - you never look like a potato! Sending love from San Francisco 🫶✌️❤️
I love your thought process on Equality....With couples it is a give and take with finding the balance of home life and work life 👍 Super fun when finding the family aspect 🙃 We have shared finances unmarried for the last 13 years and then 3 kiddos later... We have done amazing ! But, yes, it can get scary! Good luck!! 🥰
Been watching! Subscribed because you two are adorable and I love the commitment and respect you show one another! You are not a potato! You are refreshing and beautifully you!
The number one thing to remember when raising your family: the greatest gift you can ever give your children is to keep on loving their father/mother. And on the marriage side, I have to say that the most important thing I’ve noticed from speaking with my fellow long-termers: is really, truly liking your partner. I’ve started asking women if they actually like their partners. And I am gobsmacked at how many are telling me that whilst they love their 30, 40 year long partners, not many at all still like them. I like my husband; I want to be around him and have adventures with him. Don’t just love each other, remember to also like each other! It is much more wonderful!
Love you both! Been following for years! My husband and I have the same age gap. And honestly I felt Rayas words about how she grew up and the role of a man being more aggressive. I grew up in that type of household and I always fear my husband will be like that. But I learned it doesn’t have to be that way everyone is equal and should be treated equally. My husband is very loveing and caring never raises his voice and I see that in Louie a lot! I see myself and my husband a lot in you both. We have two kids and have had a traumatic pregnancy and birth experience. Please don’t expect everything will be nice from pregnancy and birth. Mentally prepare yourself if this happens you need to do this or that. And I highly recommend having like mom or a motherly figure around with more knowledge because you will need it. You will experience feelings and pains you never felt that you will need someone else to validate. Anything can happen and please be well aware! Don’t over think just go with the flow. I highly recommend Raya having the baby in USA or UK especially because u both don’t speak spanish well. Best of wishes to you both! ❤️
Yeah amazing topic. And there's also the concept of unconditional love and compassion in equity. It can't always be 50/50 because we are all unique souls. We may not be able to see or notice fully how we each have contributed to the universe. But wow what a wonder to experience, observe and be carefully aware of what we can. 💐💝
A lot of the things you discussed, in my opinion is rooted in the patriarchal society that we live in. Western culture is still predominantly a masculine world, I don’t mean masculine as in males, but rather masculine energy. Our culture is hyper focussed on science, facts, grinding, hustling, money, being at the top, being the best, competition, material goods, money over our planet, contrasted to the more feminine energy aspects of Life such as art, creativity, emotional expression, softness, rest, self-care, sharing, community, connection, caring for the earth. As a culture we celebrate masculine dominant achievements, over feminine dominant achievements, and I believe all genders suffer the ramifications of this.
Im torn about leaving for the honeymoon right away. So many times family n friends come from so far away to gather in celebration it seems like such a shame to see them for 5 seconds n take off. I always felt like it would be fun to continue celebrations for the remainder of their stay n then take off. It was interesting to here your take on it. A piece of advice i heard that i really like, other than dont go to bed angry 😊, is to serve each other joyfully. What can i do to make your day better honey? Always giving to one another and appreciating one another. And the open marriage thing lol.. 7 years in im like hell no. 17 yrs in im like.. i get it 🤣
Raya the point of pressure at home and work so well said. I always felt so pressured to be a fantastic mum and worker. Love your comment do what you love freedom for all as long as you feel good about it doesn’t matter what anyone says!! Great advice! To me communicating is the key always in any relationship. I love the love and respect you two have for each other so inspiring for many. Sending so much love leisa Western Australia xxx❤️❤️❤️
Man, wait until you guys have kids. I can spend 90% of the day with the baby feeding her, changing her, playing with her, etc. but if my husband takes her out with him in the carrier to mow the lawn, all of the neighbors fawn all over him, saying what a wonderful father he is (which he is, not disputing that). But if I do the same…crickets. I had a neighbor say to my husband once, where is the baby’s mother? 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
Yes 🙌 to freedom to share couple dynamics how fits both best. I’m a SAHM as my main ‘job’ (I’m not sure how else to describe it.) I kind of think it’s rebellious in these times to let the idea of ‘earning our place financially’ go ❤️
Oh I've missed this type of videos! Cheers beauties! I'd really love to hear about your conflict resolution skills and maybe even see a demo a few times (in real life (but I guess it's difficult) or like the aftermath (is it a correct way to say)). And aslo one more invisible job of women - emotional work... I guess in your relationships it's also 50 50 for the relationships. Is it?
I’ve been personally questioning myself about why Louie doesn’t cook more often. I’m glad the topic came up cause now he’ll hold himself accountable it’ll be fun 😊
We had to submit our wedding documents a month after getting married for our marriage to be official. We also had to get our marriage certificate a month before getting married, and that was submitted with the rest of the paperwork. The certificate was only valid to be submitted in the month we got it (the month of our wedding). I hope you had that all sorted out, or you’re going to have to get married again 😬👍.
Yes! Keep the equality and balance convo going! Question on the topic of navigating money and life in your multi-country lifestyle... do you have an affordable private health insurance option that works globally? Or do you both use something else/public system care?
I laughed too when you said am I a potato in that video you are a good sport Raya I love how you don’t make the videos about the perfect shot and the perfect look because you are naturally beautiful anyway you are photographed. You two are great together. ❤️❤️🇦🇺🇦🇺👍👍🥰🥰
This is a a really interesting video regarding family and marriage. And you are two amazing individuals who are joined together by your interests in vanlife and making videos of touring the British Isles and the USA. Thanks for conversation.
the “am i a potatoe” moment had me ROLLING!! please put more of those little quirky moments of you just being yourself, as long as you feel comfortable of course :) because i know i’m not the only one who absolutely adores them!!!
C. S. Lewis said, “The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only - and that is to support the ultimate career.”
i can't help looking at Louis every time Raya speaks! the way he looks at her and smiles every.single.time makes my soul happy :')
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I was thinking about that too. His affection for her really shines.
Thank you for your honesty in your relationship. So many people need to hear this.
We are married and in our 50’s…we work so well together each respecting each others strengths. Communication is so important in a relationship…knowing that the partner is coming from a place of love, this eliminates room for defensive emotions. You two are on the right path. Loving watching these older videos. ~Cara 😊
Thank you, both, for acknowledging the pressure for women to take on traditional and masculine roles.
I can relate to people asking my fiance and I why we waited so long to get engaged. We have been Together for 9 years and we had a great conversation when we first started dating about marriage. For both of, we both have never been married, so we didn't want to end up rushing into it, only to get divorced. I think more people should wait because it isn't just about a ceremony. Its crazy that society puts a timeline on everything. Its like as soon As a person gets married, they ask when are you going to have a baby? Or after you have a kid, when is the next one? I never understood why people want to rush huge life decisions.
Louis, when I met my husband I didn't wanted to get married for the same reason you mentioned. But after living together for 2 years we got married, and we will celebrate 48 years in December, but we've been together for 50 years.
Loved this type of Q&A about couple questions. You two have always put your priorities first and it is so calming to see and watch. I love thinking of a relationship as a team. It’s beautiful ❤️
Two very good, solid people. I always feel better after watching your videos. Wishing you the very best for your next chapter.
I loved this conversation! Especially over a woman’s and a man’s role. I’ve really subconsciously been feeling all of what you were talking about. Thank you for voicing that!
Yall thanks for sharing these little couples chats. They are super helpful. And we appreciate the honesty!!
You are such a smart and capable women. Since my divorce many years ago, I have taken care of myself and have done quite well. Making your relationship work takes a lot of work, it doesn't just happen, but you are most definitely on the right track. Bless you both.
I was with my late husband for 30 years so know a little bit about love and relationships. My comment would be to keep up the good work! Sounds like you have a great foundation that you work on to maintain/improve on a regular basis which is key for longevity. Regarding baby(s), you must remember more than anything else that the two of you are the Core of your family. You need to keep feeding that relationship as time goes on. The better you are as a couple, the better you will be for your children. Best of luck to you both!
I haven't watched you guys in so many years with just how crazy life as been. So I'm glad this is the video I came back too. Being a woman is so hard and with the abortion bans happening here in the US, I've never felt more devalued. I love hearing your guys' view on equality between you both. 💕
SO much pressure on women in so many ways! Its sad. I am so happy to hear you both talk about this. I too love doing more of the cooking/cleaning and my love is a carpenter by trade, and so he fixes things because he loves doing that. But he is so supportive of equality in our partnership. Such a refreshing video to listen/watch. You guys bring joy to this world! Love you both!
I LOVE your content! I have been with my husband for 26 years, and married for 20 of them. Equity is our daily work within our house and you are so on the right track about communication and giving space. We have an 8 year old, and when he was born it was so hard as it would feel like all the work was falling on me as mom (it wasn't) but I needed to re-learn how to communicate my needs as I was growing into my role as mom. When our baby was finally old enough that I could be off duty for a few hours (he refused to take a bottle), we started swapping bed time nights. My husband was also all in from the moment he was born, and changed diapers, bathed, made doctor appointments, helped interview preschools, etc. It was a task we took on together. As you prepare for parenthood, read the baby books or UA-cam videos that speak to you together. Once you are pregnant, look up the parenting styles to get the lingo, Gentle Parenting, Cry it Out, Baby led weaning, Love and Logic, 1-2-3 Magic, Simplicity Parenting, Explosive Child. Consult your friends, what are they doing that works for them. When it comes to the balance, it is hard, in our house we do every other day is bedtime routine. If one doesn't exist, start a parent support group in your new community. It will save your sanity.
After baby is born, give yourself time to heal, like one of the things they don't tell you after baby is born that your butt needs to be couch side for about 3-4 weeks and not doing a whole lot as your body heals. Lean into your community at this time, let them love on you, bring you food, help with daily tasks. As a new mom, be mindful of needing a break . It's tough to balance the work and parenthood on both sides of the equation. Raya you mentioned needing to step away for maternity leave, I want to call out that Louis should be mindful, that he is also going to need to step away from duties so that you both can be all in, soaking in your new roles as parents. Build up a small savings to give you that freedom when kids are born so that you both can take a 4 week break from editing content and just being as a family, it will be so worth it for you both. (In some countries they get a year of familial bonding leave after baby is born or adopted).
Parenthood is a full time gig, and scheduling daily breaks so you can remain an awesome parent is key. So that might look like while one parent is showering, the other parent is distracting the kids so their shower time is uninterrupted. Don't forget to schedule your date nights! READ to your baby every DAY!! You should read at minimum 3 books a day as a baby, 5 books by the time they are toddler, etc.
If Raya is in charge of meals, Louis you could be in charge of making the doctor appointments, scheduling babysitters or nanny time. Let your kids see you support the other parent, i.e. you know daddy's can cook too, it's just that mommy is such an amazing cook, isn't amazing how much we enjoy her food. Let your kids see you sharing chores, while it may not be perfect, let them see you clean the bathroom or wash the floor, it helps to re-write the patriarchal script.
Much love to you both as you journey through this next phase of life
You two are just an absolute inspiration. You both have such beautiful minds. The way you navigate around your relationship is truly beautiful. I wish you all the happiness in the world ! Been a long long time viewer of Louis and remember him meeting raya . Just beautiful 🙏🏽
An important truth that helped me is fact that position and role don't determine worth. In former times, people clearly communicated and acted as if position and role DEFINITELY did determine worth.
As far as 'roles', I think the pressure comes from women to women to do more and be more...the ultimate goal is to be happy 😊 if you are BOTH happy with your "roles" then that is All that matters...♥️ and 🙏🏼 for you both!!
You're right Raya. I see there is more pressure on you in the equality aspect. I'm sorry for that and any criticism you receive! Much love and keep doing you! ❤️
My husband and I really relate to a lot of the things you guys do and say, it's a beautiful constant work of art
This hit home hard. I did not have children, we have been married for over 30 years. We could not have children and decided that we would adopt if we felt like we couldn’t live without have children. Well we never got to that time. But during my career in Law Enforcement if someone had to work over hours I was always told “well you don’t have children so you can work over”. That used to make me feel less than. So when I promoted up in my career I made sure not to do that to any males or females. Congratulations to you Both on the wedding, it was Beautiful. I watched all of it!💐🤗
I would say you two work very much as a team playing to your strengths. I gave up paid work to raise our son and my husband is the only one working out of the house. Society doesn’t always recognise what I do, but my husband does recognise it. We are equals. We just make different contributions.
What an inspiration! Raya you are completely right about the pressure put on women and thank you for stating it so loudly as a thing that needs to change. Louis, your understanding of the situation and compassion to make a change in your relationship with Raya is something more men need to do. You both are on such a great path… continue and never let negativity change you (easier said than done). As for the honeymoon… I have to suggest Bahamas! I met my wife there and we went back with our family and friends to have a beautiful commitment ceremony. The people are amazing there as well as the sites. Know that wherever you go and whenever that is you both are on the right path together! Sending much love
Such an interesting video! I would love to see you talk more about how you manage both your separate and joint finances in order to both feel secure financially?
I completely understand that dynamics of equality in a heterosexual relationship. Sadly, I’ve been feeling this. I’ve been having this overwhelming anxiety and stress of being a woman and having to “do it all”. I actually broke down the other day with my significant other. Even after discussing with him and going through the meltdown, I don’t know if he truly understands what I’m feeling. I don’t know. Maybe it’s also an insecurity.
But anywho, Thank you for this video. I love you guys! I love your energies. I can absorb your positive energy through your amazing videos! Even on the stressful ones, you both show vulnerability and humility, and it makes me all much more respect you both!
Thank you again!
Loved the video! When it comes to pregnancy there is only one „tip“: I recently had two miscarriages, still healing mentally and physically, and I just wanted to make you aware that pregnancy will not always end with a baby in your arms! We had to learn it the hard way and were way to naïve about pregnancy in general. I wish you all the best for this next chapter and hope that everything goes well for you. Love from Germany ❤️
When having your weekly or monthly chats about what may be bothering you also add in some positive ones you may have loved but missed to say or bring up in that moment. Loved this video yet another great open and honest in sight to you both keeping it real .
You two have such a calming, peaceful and loving way about you. I feel like I’m meditating and recharging when I watch you. That’s weird, right? 😂 And the way Louis looks at the camera when Raya’s talking, Oh my God hilarious and adorable!
Love your open conversation about "roles" its great for everyone to think about, thank you
Love watching you ❤️
I can sense the love and admiration for Raya that Louis has in his eyes 🥹🥰 you both make an amazing couple, thank you for sharing not only the ups, but ALSO the downs and just showing REALITY. love how you both are putting in the work to make this work, that's how relationships are supposed to be! love these q&a's and learning more about your perspectives and thoughts, I'm learning and growing a lot from them 😁
Thank you so so much Kristina! ❤️
You guys could honestly be couple councillors. Love your views and opinions around all the topics covered !
You are so wise kind of trying to dissolve the expectations and semi forced roles so that you do what you like and respect each others work/effort etc. Well done!
I love you guys ! I hope to find a relationship this loving and supportive. I recently broke up with my boyfriend over a bunch of the topics you just brought up. He wasn't willing to compromise and work towards a future. You guys give me so much hope for my future ❤️
I just found your page and I loveeeeee it! I love how intentional, real, and present you guys are! This video especially! Your relationship is beautiful and will continue to grow beautifully as you guys embark on this next journey. As a new mom, as of Feb 2/22/22❤ , with a similar relationship foundation- you guys will be great!! Honestly this year has so far been the most self growth I’ve ever had. Being a mom to a baby girl has been the lightest and darkest but in all just so beautiful in all the lessons fulled by love. It’s crazy how much of my heavy weight by programming has come to surface in order for us to not repeat. My advice would be 1.) take time for you as a family!! As much time as you want! We are actually taking a year off from family and friends so that we can totally rebuild our foundation and create our dream life. (Lol doesn’t have to be as long but, ya know just don’t feel pressured to do anything that doesn’t sit right.) 2.) trust your intuition. As a mom in general, watching and caring for your baby but also while your pregnant. I feel like I met my baby before she was born, I knew her so well. 3.) be there to support mom especially if she’s breastfeeding in the first month. Feed her all the food!! Lol and let her sleep as much as she can. 4.) keep having teen meetings! You will be tired and won’t want to but that communication is so important when You both are so tired. 5.) Breastfeeding is the hardest thing I’ve ever done, my advice: eat, drink water, rest, and if your supply goes down pump every 2-3 hours on both even after feedings, and collect your letdown on the other side!! There’s a Hakkaa silicone breast pump that will be your best friend. 6.) still have some sort of date night once a week! A chance to reconnect with each other in more of a happy, chill environment.
Much love❤
Love your philosophy! I can truly relate! I am very much looking forward to future episodes. 🙂
Interesting thoughts about sharing roles. My partner and I have been together for over 15 years, and when we moved in together we discussed which chores we each preferred, and I have some mobility issues, so there's certain things I'm not physically able to do, and my partner has some memory issues, so he struggles with things like remembering where things go, so we split things based on our strengths and preferences. The main thing that has been a huge help to both of us though is neither of us ever need reminding to do our chosen chores. We have reminders in our calendar or to do lists, and we just do it. I was in a previous relationship where my ex never did anything until I asked him to, and the pressure that put on me, and the negativity of feeling like I was a constant nag, was unexplainable. I have never had that in this relationship and we have literally never argued about getting things done. I should mention we also own a business together and run it the same way successfully.
Bravo you two! Thank you for sharing these incredibly important insights with your viewers. The more we (both men and women) say these things out loud the closer we become a society that values women over men. We should be valued equally are we are not there yet. But with conversations like this one it gives me hope that one day we might. Truly thank you!
I love your discussion on roles. I have stayed home with our kids and now homeschool them. I love it and it’s the roll I have chosen. My husband has always supported me and encouraged me to take the role that I want. I finished my college degree online with a toddler and preschooler because I wanted that accomplished. Chances are I may never use that degree, but I wanted that for myself. While my husband technically makes the money, it is our money. He doesn’t hold any idea that he is in power or control. It seems like you guys will do great because you are on the same page about roles. The only thing I would say is that relationships aren’t 50/50. They should be 100/100. You give all you can to each other never holding back. 🙂
Raya, I’ve never seen what I thought was a bad angle of you on Louis videos for what it’s worth.❣️ :p
I love this video! Such a powerful message on relationships. You both are so inspiring. Keep being the amazing couple you are ❤️
Oh wow. This resonates. When we bought our first house, it was largely with my savings and in my name, however our (older male) mortgage advisor focused all of his attention on my partner. We’re similar to you in terms of I don’t drive, I cook as I enjoy it and my partner is essentially Louis. Since having kids I haven’t worked (in the societal sense) as I wanted to be with them whilst they’re still little, and it took a long time for me to accept that I wasn’t ‘contributing’, that my husband supported me. I’m trying to reverse that ingrained thinking to ‘I support my husband and his career by looking after our kids!’ X
My wife and I have been married for 2 years and our son is 2 months old. I agree with they way your relationship plays out in regards to equality, that's how our marriage works as well - we each play to our strengths.
As far as advice, invest well in your marriage and relationship before having a kid. When you're sleep deprived and learning how to take care of a baby, you want to stay on the same team and not be divided.
I love the way you talk about everything together !
Are there any subjects you don’t feel comfortable talking about to one another ?
I’ve been with my husband since 13 years, but he never feels comfortable communicating. It often takes a very long time understanding things by myself about him just because he doesn’t know how to open himself to others. He doesn’t talk, he doesn’t know ho to communicate and never ask questions. It’s difficult for me, but I accepted his way of being himself.
Great Q and A. I’ve been married twice and had totally different ‘roles’ in each. In the first I had to do DIY as he hadn’t a clue but loved cooking. My second husband was very hands on and I got used to being ‘the wife’ doing cooking and cleaning from choice. He died in 2019 and I’m now back to doing all the ‘roles’ and very proud of my achievements so far. I love ironing and no one gets that job, I totally escape this world while ironing.
I’m in Scotland and keep hoping I will bump into you if you make it up here 😉
We love the dynamics between you two and how committed you are to growing together ♥️
I love to see your adventures together, but my favourite videos from you guys are ones like these where you are so open about your relationship. As a young woman, I have learn so much from you guys over the years (my favourite being that in a relationship you are a team!!) Raya is such an inspirational woman and I feel like you are an older sister to so many of us girls who watched the British youtube gang and met you through louis!I adore you both and can't wait to watch you grow your family together - sending love from Scotland!!! Xx
I'm the same age as Louis and I have nowhere near the amount of energy that guy has! LOL. You two are awesome together. Your chemistry, your passion, your creativity... is amazing. No matter what you do or where you are, you guys always make it feel like you're at home in your element and in your comfort zone. So exciting and lovely to watch you two. Can't wait for more years of awesomeness! ❤️
Ahh thank you so so much! ❤️
You two really have your heads together on the various things you discussed. Good on you.
I loved that your ‘tangent’ touched on such a wise and ethereal concept of how the mind is most comfortable operating in roles, or dualities, I.e., male/female, yes/no, good/bad. You clarify how easy it is to follow previous humanized souls’ behaviors and choices that propagate role-play and gender stigmatization and how the mind tries to distract us (we being a marvelous, gender-free soul, or a drop of the ocean of consciousness first, then a being second. Although why we do not call ourselves a ‘thinking’, instead of a ‘being’, is beyond me.). You then inspire us to redirect that mind play into a neutrally respectful and lovingly supportive awareness. We all should celebrate each other’s efforts and choices more (even those of people we do not know), thank you for the reminder. Raya said it, “Yes to it all!” Also, money IS simply and solely an energy unit. I suggest you combine your energies like you combine love, chores and roles to lessen energetic walls inherent in, as you point out, in just being. 30 years married me says that the financial ‘lead’ switches between us as circumstance dictates and chores automatically get divvied up. Dan shops and I fix things, because of preference, which also changes with time: Never look at you marriage through they eyes of another was very helpful advice to me. You guys are now one, because the path of love is wide enough for one, and the only importance is what you or your partner thinks and feels. And two: Read The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield for wonderful details of human energy exchange. Thank you so much. Also! I get it Raya, but, be assured and KNOW that your potato head is glorious, and would be, even as a pancake! Paz y 💗
I completely enjoyed this video, love and light to you both !!
You two are so inspiring. Love how thoughtful and intentional you both are. Wondering if you have a video about becoming vegan and what that journey was like.
Tips about having babies, raising kids - get ready for major change like you can't even imagine! In the best ways - and some tough too. ❤️
Yay! My question about children made the cut. 😊 Thank you for being so open 🙏🏻 I always walk away from your videos with a better mindset for my relationship.
For our honeymoon we did the North Island together. The most romantic part was Tutukaka. Really were away from people and just had each other, the scenery, tried some new things, really reflected on life when we drove to the tippy top of the island from there... it was great. Hmm advice, I think just make you marriage your own. A lot of people like to say, "You have to..." But you don't. And we include those who think they're unconventional in that grouping. Also, trying to conceive is an adventure, do not rush it but of course be intentional. Think of it this way, this will be the only time you will ever be trying to conceive your first child. Enjoy and embrace that time. Even the frustrating parts haha!
the Im a potato scene was SOOO FUNNY. A real and relatable scene for sure. You may not feel comfortable sharing those kinds of things all of the time and that's okay but I really enjoy them when you do!
Think you expressed the equality part just right! 😀
Thank you for sharing so much of your relationship. You two are the sweetest, loving, amazing couple :)
Great questioning of yourselves, upbringing, conditioning and feeling for a deeper truer way of being in relationship bravo! We need a lot more of these conversations thank you for being a great and inspiring example.
My husband was a stay home dad and I had a very busy manager job working long hours. A good friend said to us that we look very exhausted, we should take a break. I laughed, taking a break with a Baby, how? Easy she said, give each other a day off once a week!
Sleep in, no home duties, no changing nappies, do what ever makes you happy. This was the best advice ever and now I pass it on to
you❣
Love y’all!! Glad to find your channel.
Thank you for sharing you lives every week. Cheers!
Take care of both of your masculine and feminine energy within yourself and each other. Keep up the amazing communication and openness!
There was this question something like "What do you wish others knew about your partner" - I heard your answers, and there was nothing surprising there 🙂 Even from only knowing you from your videos, I still thought I could recognize those traits in you.
(Let me also give you my best wishes for your married life together!)
I loveee these sit down QnA's that you both do. Please do them more often. Love you both ❤
I love love love this!!!! Yall are so intelligent in a very well rounded amazing way. Thank you for touching on these sensitive subjects. You gave a fantastic belief system & value system. 👏 bravo. Beautifully spoken ❤️
Once kids start coming along, the seasons of parenting obviously change as the children grow and change and then start coming into who they are individually. I’m a mom to 4 boys 23, 21, 15, 10. The mom I was 23 years ago or 20 years ago or a year ago has changed in small ways and I’m some big ways. Your kids will be closer to each one of you at different phases of life because that’s where they are or need at that time. Its ok. Every phase is fun, fulfilling and hard too.
As a couple making sure you allow each other to maintain and identify outside of being a mom and/or dad. As well as, making your relationship a priority in growing together after kids come along. The best quote in being parents I still think on everyday, is…. The days are long but the years fly by. The hardest transition for me was going from 1 child to 2. Once you hit 4 it’s just chaos and you just gotta accept that.
the "am i a potato?" in the camping video was one of my favorite moments because it reminded me of moments with my partner
it will be 14 years in 3 months time that we've been together, and we just passed our 5 year wedding anniversary and i feel like i have continuously been learning from y'alls relationship.
Loved this guys
Such beautiful & wise words coming from the both of you guys. You're such inspirational people.
Oh wow I love what you said about balancing chores and tasks and everyones right to do what works best for them without others judging them 😍 to me, you seem to be such an incredible great couple! Wish you all the best for everything to come ❤️ love and greetings from Germany 🤗
I watched Louis video when you met in New York back in the day.. so been here since the beginning. time flies! You two complement each other in a great way :)
You guys are so awesome! I'm not gonna share because my marriage is not a positive one imo and I am disabled now with barely any family.I wish I had better examples in life prior to my marriage. The moral of this is I hope a lot of young people watch your videos and see what a great example you both are of a solid couple whether before you married or after. You have all this love and respect for each other and it shows so much when you look at each other especially when Louis looks at you Rya whilr you're talking.. It is so sweet! I'm not gonna lie the picture you chose for your thumbnail kind of scared me there for a minute.🤔🤣. Safe travels you guys! Enjoy the time with your families. oxo 🌴🚅 🌊 ✌️💕
Loved this video and the cover sati on about feminine and masculine roles it definitely needs to be spoken about more
Just want to say thanks for always bringing new ways to view things. You both introduced me to what love languages are in a past relationship video which I’ve shared with my partner and it was a huge eye opener for us on how we like to receive and give love. Now hearing you speak about gender roles and how they play into marriage is another eye opener. I love hearing from two people that have respect for each other and their relationship. We don’t often have great examples of how a relationship looks past the “They lived happily ever after” and people need to know that marriage is a project that you manage for the rest of your life…..together. If managed well…..it’s the best project you’ll ever work on! Please keep sharing videos like this……. And Raya - you never look like a potato! Sending love from San Francisco 🫶✌️❤️
I love your thought process on Equality....With couples it is a give and take with finding the balance of home life and work life 👍 Super fun when finding the family aspect 🙃 We have shared finances unmarried for the last 13 years and then 3 kiddos later... We have done amazing ! But, yes, it can get scary! Good luck!! 🥰
Been watching! Subscribed because you two are adorable and I love the commitment and respect you show one another! You are not a potato! You are refreshing and beautifully you!
Aw thank you! ❤️
The number one thing to remember when raising your family: the greatest gift you can ever give your children is to keep on loving their father/mother. And on the marriage side, I have to say that the most important thing I’ve noticed from speaking with my fellow long-termers: is really, truly liking your partner. I’ve started asking women if they actually like their partners. And I am gobsmacked at how many are telling me that whilst they love their 30, 40 year long partners, not many at all still like them. I like my husband; I want to be around him and have adventures with him. Don’t just love each other, remember to also like each other! It is much more wonderful!
Great conversation!!
Love you both! Been following for years! My husband and I have the same age gap. And honestly I felt Rayas words about how she grew up and the role of a man being more aggressive. I grew up in that type of household and I always fear my husband will be like that. But I learned it doesn’t have to be that way everyone is equal and should be treated equally. My husband is very loveing and caring never raises his voice and I see that in Louie a lot! I see myself and my husband a lot in you both. We have two kids and have had a traumatic pregnancy and birth experience. Please don’t expect everything will be nice from pregnancy and birth. Mentally prepare yourself if this happens you need to do this or that. And I highly recommend having like mom or a motherly figure around with more knowledge because you will need it. You will experience feelings and pains you never felt that you will need someone else to validate. Anything can happen and please be well aware! Don’t over think just go with the flow. I highly recommend Raya having the baby in USA or UK especially because u both don’t speak spanish well. Best of wishes to you both! ❤️
Yeah amazing topic. And there's also the concept of unconditional love and compassion in equity. It can't always be 50/50 because we are all unique souls. We may not be able to see or notice fully how we each have contributed to the universe. But wow what a wonder to experience, observe and be carefully aware of what we can. 💐💝
i love what you said about gender roles and appreciation in relationships.
You have your priorities straight and that's why I believe in you :')
yall are so wholesome and humble
A lot of the things you discussed, in my opinion is rooted in the patriarchal society that we live in. Western culture is still predominantly a masculine world, I don’t mean masculine as in males, but rather masculine energy. Our culture is hyper focussed on science, facts, grinding, hustling, money, being at the top, being the best, competition, material goods, money over our planet, contrasted to the more feminine energy aspects of Life such as art, creativity, emotional expression, softness, rest, self-care, sharing, community, connection, caring for the earth. As a culture we celebrate masculine dominant achievements, over feminine dominant achievements, and I believe all genders suffer the ramifications of this.
Im torn about leaving for the honeymoon right away. So many times family n friends come from so far away to gather in celebration it seems like such a shame to see them for 5 seconds n take off. I always felt like it would be fun to continue celebrations for the remainder of their stay n then take off. It was interesting to here your take on it. A piece of advice i heard that i really like, other than dont go to bed angry 😊, is to serve each other joyfully. What can i do to make your day better honey? Always giving to one another and appreciating one another. And the open marriage thing lol.. 7 years in im like hell no. 17 yrs in im like.. i get it 🤣
Raya the point of pressure at home and work so well said. I always felt so pressured to be a fantastic mum and worker. Love your comment do what you love freedom for all as long as you feel good about it doesn’t matter what anyone says!! Great advice! To me communicating is the key always in any relationship.
I love the love and respect you two have for each other so inspiring for many. Sending so much love leisa Western Australia xxx❤️❤️❤️
Man, wait until you guys have kids. I can spend 90% of the day with the baby feeding her, changing her, playing with her, etc. but if my husband takes her out with him in the carrier to mow the lawn, all of the neighbors fawn all over him, saying what a wonderful father he is (which he is, not disputing that). But if I do the same…crickets. I had a neighbor say to my husband once, where is the baby’s mother? 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
That would infuriate me!
Maybe because most men don’t stick around to be a father. Were as it’s expected and normal to see mothers with baby’s.
You two are so beautiful. Love your relationship and the obvious love you share. ❤️❤️
Yes 🙌 to freedom to share couple dynamics how fits both best. I’m a SAHM as my main ‘job’ (I’m not sure how else to describe it.) I kind of think it’s rebellious in these times to let the idea of ‘earning our place financially’ go ❤️
I just got married so it’s interesting seeing you going through similar things to us
18:51 We walked down the isle to Queen “You’re my Best Friend”. ❤
Oh I've missed this type of videos! Cheers beauties! I'd really love to hear about your conflict resolution skills and maybe even see a demo a few times (in real life (but I guess it's difficult) or like the aftermath (is it a correct way to say)). And aslo one more invisible job of women - emotional work... I guess in your relationships it's also 50 50 for the relationships. Is it?
I’ve been personally questioning myself about why Louie doesn’t cook more often. I’m glad the topic came up cause now he’ll hold himself accountable it’ll be fun 😊
We had to submit our wedding documents a month after getting married for our marriage to be official. We also had to get our marriage certificate a month before getting married, and that was submitted with the rest of the paperwork. The certificate was only valid to be submitted in the month we got it (the month of our wedding). I hope you had that all sorted out, or you’re going to have to get married again 😬👍.
Yes! Keep the equality and balance convo going! Question on the topic of navigating money and life in your multi-country lifestyle... do you have an affordable private health insurance option that works globally? Or do you both use something else/public system care?
I laughed too when you said am I a potato in that video you are a good sport Raya I love how you don’t make the videos about the perfect shot and the perfect look because you are naturally beautiful anyway you are photographed. You two are great together. ❤️❤️🇦🇺🇦🇺👍👍🥰🥰
This is a a really interesting video regarding family and marriage. And you are two amazing individuals who are joined together by your interests in vanlife and making videos of touring the British Isles and the USA. Thanks for conversation.
One more addition, if your mindset is each of you giving 100% and 100% all the time, there will be true respect and equity. ❤️❤️
There’s no right or wrong, do what works best for you. I have a saying, “I’d rather get it right than be right.”