Fifty more expat stereotypes: 51. The Complainer 52. The Curmudgeon 53. The Athlete 54. The Scuba Diver 55. The Extreme Sports Guy 56. The Entitled Guy 57. The Crypto Bro 58. The Digital Nomad 59. The Entrepreneur 60. The Embassy Liaison 61. The Missionary 62. The Polyglot 63. The Recluse 64. The Early Bird 65. The Night Owl 66. The Stepfather 67. The Civil Suit Plaintiff 68. The Civil Suit Defendant 69. The Relationship Expert 70. The Small Age-Gap Guy 71. The Large Age-Gap Guy 72. The I-Got-Married-Too-Quickly Guy 73. The I'm-Never-Getting-Married-Again Guy 74. The I-Always-Have-to-be-in-a-Relationship Guy 75. The We-Met-in-Another-Country-and Retired-Here Guy 76. The Stuck-in-the-Province Guy 77. The Community Projects Guy 78. The Environmental Crusader 79. The Gone-Native Guy 80. The You-Should-Learn-the-Local-Language Guy 81. The Don't-Bother-Learning-the-Local-Language Guy 82. The Everyone-Here-Loves-Me-Guy 83. The Everyone-Here-Hates-Me-Guy 84. The My-Life-Here-is-Perfect Guy 85. The My-Life-Here-Sucks Guy 86. The I-Love-this-Place-and-Will-Die-Here Guy 87. The I-Hate-this-Place-But-Still-Live-Here Guy 88. The I'm-Dead-and-Now-It's-Your-Problem Guy 89. The I'm-Feuding-with-Other Expats Guy 90. The I'm-Moving-to-Another-Island Guy 91. The I'm-Moving-Back-Home-Soon Guy 92. The I-Can't-Afford-to-Move-Back-Home Guy 93. The I-Gave-Money-to-a-Girl-I-Never-Met Guy 94. The I-Understand-the-Culture-Better-than-You Guy 95. The I'm-Friends-with-the-Local-Politician Guy 96. The I'm-Friends-with-the-Local-Police Guy 97. The Thailand-vs-Philippines-Debate Guy 98. The I've-Never-Traveled-to-a-Neighboring-Country Guy 99. The I-Had-a-Passport-but-Never-Used-It Guy 100. The Guy Who Has All the Answers but will Never Travel Abroad
Here in my part of the Philippines, the expats who don't know each other seem to ignore each other. Not even a nod when passing in public. I'm fine with that. Everyone had their reason to leave the West and many don't want to bring it with them. I have some expat friends, but they are people I have met and vetted in social settings. My biggest reason for not speaking much with other Americans is that they invariably bring up politics. I left the US in part because I hated the politics.
Guys try to reinvent themselves when they come here because they didnt like thenselves back home, which i am all for, but then they just make up lies instead of actually improving. So, ive met 36 navy seals, 70 millionairs, and guys with mansions on the beach... when in reality they live in soneones attic and cant afford furniture.. sad reality of the world, having to keep up with the jonses to impress strangers. (I made up those numbers, but you get it)
Haha...where I lived we called the downtown Dunkin donuts "Special Forces Headquarters". But yeah, Philippines doesn't exactly attract the quality expats. There are some, but they keep to themselves or have a tight circle of friends.
It’s ultimately not being happy with your lot and incredible jealousy, maybe you’ve a nice house or nicer car or maybe your partner is the bomb. It will be just an excuse for something for them to pick on…I’ve had run ins, with all my neighbours from them impacting on us. Like for example completely floating rules of where we live and lying openly about it. To digging 1000 sqm plot without any permissions and causing me $1000’s to correct the medium term problem(currently he’s going have a huge fine by the local authority) but these guys are Usually US military with poor Filipina partners ..as stated they cannot do anything to locals so they think it’s ok with other foreigners..downright weird. Most guys here have a jaded passed but hide it.
Most places there's virtually zero foreign women. I've done 6 month stints 100 miles from Manila without seeing a white woman from leaving the airport to getting back to it. The most shared commonality among expats is interest in Filipinas.
@@Ghekko-kw3zz That's because most ex pats are American women rejects. I personally witnessed the mistreatment of Filipinas here by men who had nothing but now all of a sudden they feel like God's gift to the poor Filipina. I love Filipina because she is the greatest woman on earth for me, not because I can't get an American woman. Just my opinion guys.
I had lived in China for eight years as an ESL teacher and two years in Thailand having retired. In China, I think the two biggest issues I had with co-workers and others were foreigner superiority complexes (having to prove themselves as better than others), and cultural/political divides. Here in Thailand, it seems that foreigners just want to keep to themselves and do their own thing. Even to return a pleasant hello or good morning is too much for them. Usually, their heads are facing down to the ground or oblivious to their surroundings due to whatever is being pumped into their head through earphones. On another note in that I see a problem with expats...nationalism. When you hear where someone is from, automatically the stereotypes and prejudices arise. As an American, I get this a lot. As if the other person's home country doesn't have a checkered history and flaws in moral compasses, therefore their country is the best in the world. With that mentality, I have no idea what the hell they are doing traveling the world to escape whatever it is from their home country. One final thing...I seriously believe each and every expat is mentally damaged in some manner. We are all running away from something in our past, or trying to find something that makes us whole. Usually, it is not a place that will fix that emptiness or deficiency, so they continue to wallow in the mud that they brought with them.
@@EasternDreamer615 I agree that life as a whole is better in Asia, minus most of the expats that wind up being a**holes. As long as I keep them out of my life, I am truly blessed in my experiences here.
Dumaguete is an expat drama hub, its very small town vibe, people know each other its a small city of 140k population compared to say Cebu City with a 3million+ population
@Dmanz67 Yeah, but give them a break, most of them grew up riding in cars burning tetra ethyl lead and lived in homes with lead paint everywhere ... And to be fair, there are many expats that volunteer to help their communities here. Doing some really good work
Same here in our otherwise happy, safe and wonderful town in Mexico! We have learned to shy away from a number of others from the States over the years retired. Much happier.
People who pick arguments and fights besides enjoying that kind of behavior, typically have symptoms of BPD (borderline personality disorder), narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, etcetera.
Great job Alex. People will learn but theres always some who will hate your intelligence. Ignore them. Someone has do this and glad you do. Appreciate you. Thank you.
Some people can get information about a place in a short period of time and if they are not fluent within 5 years of living in a country I think they have no legs to stand on anyway
Very true, I live in cebu Lapu Lapu for 5 years (originally from Canada) and here many expats who don’t know how to communicate with others. There are big group of Dutch guys from different European countries that I know they always stick together and don’t allow others in, I’m sure it’s due to this exact issue. I’ve met many idiots but again there are very small amount of people I respect.
I noticed Ex Pats live in kind of closed in communities over there. They either attract like people or possibly gravitate toward others just for convenience and adopt behaviors of the others. Just some thoughts after living there. The negative bad people.. These guys seem to want to make an impression on others.. almost to make themselves feel better... 1. Scenario Number .. I live here (VS )You are just visiting... Little subtle passive aggression. 2. Do you have a gf here? Seems innocent but some of these guys want to show how dedicated they are so they tell their gf that you are a player so this sick individual makes his poor gf think hes emotionally protecting her. 3. Dysfunctional drinking. After some of these guys see how often ppl drink in the Phils...Its like their permission slip. 4. Avoiding meaningful interactions with locals to the point that they become suspicious or jaded. Trying to learn the language is such a huge plus. 5. I mean this respectfully. A lot of Expats are Ex Military.. Most people would tell you the military culture is often full of heavy drinking and aggression with hazing and abuse built in. Ask them. 6. The heirarchy.. Hottest gf...Little Ford Truck..Own house.... Some of these guys their whole circle and house is their life.....Unhealthy lifestyles surrounded by adventure and a great Ocean and they dont even go to the beach,,, 7. I salute Black people. because at least in the Philippines they still acknowlegde people. White Americans really have nothing in common with Europeans and they often dont speak to us. 8. Youre just trying to live but if youre in ok shape and semi happy and decent looking and enjoy interacting with other people...Some people see that as competition. 9. Jealousy.. 10. Asking questions in the presence of others just to judge or shame you with their plethora of experience.. meanwhile the guy is sitting by his wife in the house he can never leave and every day he dreams to cheat on his Wife...Yah I met these guys..... 11. dating vs budget is trrue
I'm happy to have just a few friends and be very secure. When you know there's alligators in the water, don't go swimming. I don't need a crowd to validate my worth. Confidence comes from within, not from the approval of others.
I am an expat living in the Philippines, but I don't hate other expats. I just don't communicate with them, bcz I am an introvert. I communicate only with my wife and her family.
Many live like you... including myself. Maybe because it seems Americans tend to fight about everything. Just look at the "Man of the year" for evidence.
No, I'm sorry, that's not acceptable. Haha, just kidding. As a former introvert myself I totally understand. And I wish you happiness in whatever form you appreciate it.
I've retired in puerto galera on mindoro-except for accessing services or goods, i rarely interact with flippino's.Same goes for flippina's eg. Short time with out-of-hours bargirls. Expats here are a mixed bunch.But, jealousy is prevalent.
I'm in Vietnam, for around 1.5 years. I've had one foreign person speak to me in that time. Most look away when you walk past them or smile or even cross the road haha.
Maybe expats are prone to hate each other is based on the circumstance that here on the island their circle of friends and acquaintances is suddenly much smaller compared to back home? This is especially true, if the expat has no interest to communicate with locals. So his world has shrunken significantly, which might cause some stress due to loneliness, which translates into more aggressive behavior. Just a hypothesis. Sometimes they call it "food for thought" 😁
Somehow you made this far in life and to Dumaguete on your own... Yah The bad ones do like to one up each other... Great presentation and youre keeping it real.
I'm only going to be able to prove my personality once I'm there. I've already been well educated on Dramaguete. I can say one thing, I don't like any Negativity whatsoever. So my friendship circle will build from that. Retired from the Medical field 45yrs and I'll probably volunteer at the University Hospital it's just in my blood. And I'll definitely contribute to the community. Again boots on the ground February 20th, can't wait. Weather looks awesome in the background, nice. 👍
Sounds great as allot of us expats here like to pay it forward and help out some in the community but be aware their are very specific rules even to volunteer as you can only do so much without stepping on toes as they can consider it taking work away from a Filipino. so research and reach out to organizations you wish to help. I own a contracting business USA but over here I offer consultations and advice about my experience as it is free but if i start doing actual work then i can get my butt in a sling. So reach out to organizations like I did for Habitat to humanity. Enjoy and be open-minded and just take your time, slow down as it takes awhile to adapt, adjust and accept how it can be different here as Patience is tested. And you might also find life is even busier as you deal with "The Learning Curve" aas i refer to it making your best life here and finding out where to go to make that happen. Like where to get foods you like, or the best gym for exercise you like, or even which pizza joint has toppings and sauce you like. Information is power and having Filipino friends to guide you is as important if not more so then some expat who is in a bubble or only has limited knowledge. I can learn more in a afternoon hanging out with my girlfriends Dad then 20 lunch dates with expats.
You might find some occasional paid contract work depending what your specialty is. Training medical staff especially updates in field emergency management for military & police often contract foreigners.
If you come here on a tourist visa, your only right here is to be a tourist. Any form of work or employment is illegal, even if no salary is being paid. If you have the idea of doing some volunteer "work", consult a lawyer or the bureau of immigration first, to keep you out of trouble.
I live where I have seen 3 white guys and 1 black guy in the past 9 months. A head nod was the only thing exchanged. But, as you stand in line at airport immigration, the same demographic numbers, most people in the foreign passport line are indistinguishable from filipinos. So, there are likely many more expats that blend in than white or black people. Anywhose, seeking expats in a foreign country is an unnecessary activity in my opinion. I focus on my woman, my dogs, and the occasionall interaction with people who live around me.
Whenever i visit Japan, there’s always an old American or European trying to be a nosy gatekeeper to other foreigners. Because they reside there, they think they are the authority of other foreigners.
For the life of me..I don't know how your not at 1 million followers..you're very articulate, well spoken & hit every topic perfectly..keep up the great content.
That's easy to explain. Because he is well spoken, erudite, thorough, and doesn't rely on bleeps and flippin' gimmicks. Look at the culture of the USA, his biggest target audience. A large % of those people are completely morons. You can predict with precision which film at a movie theater they will select. You have an idea of their diet and what their homes look like inside. They're dolts. Dumbphuques. He's not part of their culture.
I'm not sure why foreigners should adopt The Filipino. Way of taking care of your mental health and be healed while in PH. It's not only for Filipinos but anybody!
Though very elementary your advice is sound. What astonishes me is there are expats there that need this advice. Seems like a lot of expats are running away from something. I am there to enjoy retirement with my Philippine family. Videos like this reaffirm my decision to walk the direction when I see an expat.
They are just "Karen's and Ken's." People that feel entitled and it goes on everywhere. It's a common phenomenon, especially for American people, less so in my opinion from other Western nationalities. Definitely here it's predominantly a male issue as relatively few Western females come to the Philippines by my observation so far. Just my observations.
They will cancel the work visa and then give some days to go back. Happened with my friend. I didn't ask the reason, but helped him to settle and drive around where he needed. I don't think it was a right decision because living abroad comes with challenges. I hope he didn't think bad about my country. So, I disagree with this visa thing and you don't expect everyone in Rome to do as Romans do.
Wow you hit this one on the nose. I have most definitely noticed this.they’ll say anything about a fellow expat. I’m so glad you bought this up. I’m a start telling people to take people to the baranga captain or who ever to get them for slander. Thanks brother I get tired of seeing this
As a general rule I avoid other expats. A nod and cursory “howzit” is the extent of my acknowledgement. I concentrate on navigating the nuances of the local culture.
Just look at it this way...in America, everyone sues everyone...in the PI, there is no malpractice insurance for medical diagnosis errors, and so on. Lots of folks from other countries find this amusing. Americans LOVE conflict. This does not mean the PI is perfect. For example, I saw a recent UA-cam on foreigners being scammed on home build projects and this made me very sad. Also, foreigner price is a reality. Today, I made an inquiry on a price and the Filipino said 150K PHP, but 250K PHP for you. "Take it or leave it." What rational person would expect this approach to result in an exchange or yield a profitable outcome? I have been here 5 months and do not really have any foreigner that I would consider a close friend. Spending almost 100% of my time with my Filipina and some time with her family. Very wonderful! I thought I met a fellow foreigner I could call a close friend, but he is arrogant and an "exploder" and treats his Filipina horribly, yelling "f*ck you" at her all the time, so I stay in touch, but tend to maintain a safe distance. He actually did this in front of me a few times. Very sad. She spent the day with us today and use us as a release valve, I guess. She is a nervous wreck and walking on eggshells. I am not a psychologist and do not understand many of the behaviors I observe. Anyway, stay well.
@@AnthonyCataldo-ez5ej the stupidest version of this I saw was a pair of American style houses, deceased estate for rent, 4.5k & 5k per month. A friend's wife & mine went to negotiate, got to 9k for the pair, with a 10 year lease. When it came time to contract, we showed up & the price went up immediately by 5k. They would not budge. 10 years later those houses are still vacant, never leased.
Finding your tribe is the key to happiness as I tend to like hanging out with Filipinos 90% of the time and only have a handful of expats I communicate with. I don't drink or watch sports and as i cook my own food including my new thing is learning to cook some Filipino dishes. Call me crazy because i actually like their food and then add my own flair. It's what you make it.. Like I was buying this mix of lettuce, cabbage and veggies and loved it as a base for salads only to find out it was being sold to Filipinos for them to make pancit and soup. My Filipino girlfriend laughed so hard when she saw me doing it; i was embarrassed and then once she tried my concoction she actually liked it then invited me over for a Fish soup and her Dad made his homemade soup so i ended up leaving with a new recipe. haha.. I like your touching on more in depth thoughts and attitudes as it is something that isn't talked as much about as I bet you'd be an interesting person to hang out with.
I think some of it is cultural. If I see an American who is acting too loud or too entitled, I feel that reflects badly upon me. And I would avoid that person.
You just earned a sub and holy god I hope this video blows up. This need to be talked about morel. I'm glad you're not part of the same UA-cam expat vlogger plagiarism culture (same recycled topics, identical thumbnails, misrepresentation of western expat life in Asia). You hit the nail on the head near the beginning. Just like 2000s era reality tv (and today's full time social media influencers) attracted the most narcissistic and greedy from the general population to participate, I'd love to see a study comparing rates of personality disorders among expats vs. the general pop (back in their home countries). If there's one item where my lived experience has been different from yours (I'm currently in Thailand), it's how so many entitled western expats look down on and are rude to locals. And the most entitled people I've seen give off total losers/toxic back home. I get the feeling their home countries eventually got tired of their act, they had no more bridges to burn or people to use, so they booked a one way ticket to a country where their lack of social or job skills could still let them live on $1000/mo (especially if they churn out low quality clickbait content on the regular to keep the electricity on). Of course not all expats are like this. For some it's just geo arbitrage when they have a stable online career with western salaries (their personalities can be anywhere on the spectrum). Others are responsible retirees who saved up decent nest eggs. But at the cost of making my own stay in these countries more restrictive, I hope southeast Asia someday does a better job screening out a lot of these losers coming just to exploit the local population while demanding to be treated like royalty.
Life in the US is not real, as in we have lived with certain protections from situations that will no longer be there in a third world country. The culture is delusional because of this. There are a lot of adjustments and learning to do, and us old people are a bit slow at this, so TAKE YOUR TIME to adjust. Give it THREE years. Don't make hasty decisions like buy a house or get MARRIED! You've got a LOT of adjusting to do. Slow down and enjoy it.
I think expats are too nice to each other. They need to speak up when their expat friends are dating the wrong Filipina. It'll save their friends time and money not having to do a solo motobike trip to get away from their crazy ex.
Before watching I’m assuming that too many expats will undoubtedly skyrocket prices up. El Nido restaurants are super expensive bc of tourists so expats living there is just gonna hurt more. I also believe maybe a lot of expats are more type a personality and do not integrate with Filipinos and adopt the culture, or they want to get away from last culture and don’t want them foreignizing the local scene
I don't think it's Type A necessarily, I think many of them have some kind of social dysfunction. Successful Type A people are typically managers at large companies. Some of these guys couldn't run a coffee kiosk.
You're describing a kind of person a little bit psychopath in his behaviour, person who don't care about anyone, you're right they bring theirs troubles in Philippines.
Great topic, the problem is most are simply not happy with their lot and are incredibly jealous, it’s 10x worse than back in the west and your dealing with a lot of guys that have Walter Mittey’s syndrome 😂. I’m sorry to say alot of very low class individuals with poor Filipina..maybe running away from the west. The amount of guys that have absconded from their responsibilities back in their home countries, you can see that from the many UA-camrs that have a similar situation. Just something you have to deal with here ..the green eyed monster.
This is one thing i've noticed in my 20 yrs of expat exp. Seems to me as ppl age, MANY go into "negative mode". The term "grumpy old man/women" would apply here. Im guessing its due to one or a combo of various characteristics/criteria/etc: 1) Aging causes health/vitality problems (sure, it can be minimized by doing fitness, eating right, no smoking, none to little alcohol, etc), but we all still age, and will eventually die. its a 100% fact. thus it brings a "withering away" psychological/spiritual aspect to living. 2) Assumption of being given respect simply b/c one is older, lived there longer in the country, etc. Many fail to learn that respect is EARNED, not given. (e.g. I simply wont respect some foul mouthed, boozer, who is elderly simply because he/she is older than me. Not Happening). 3) Ego. Self-centered/ self serving. (self explanatory). 4) "Boo-mer Mentality" Im better than you in every aspect. I deserve to be treated like royalty, while I treat you like cr-ap....AND I expect you to simply grin and bear it. (ties in with others on list.)
People generalise too much on these comment pages, you would think that Dumaguete is this hellhole on earth, been here 10 years and never had an altercation with anyone, have a beautiful wife and everything is fine. A lot depends on YOUR personality..
i was in an expat program in Thailand and i warned another expat that the roads do not work the same way in Vietnam as they do in Thailand but they insist on crossing the street dangerously. they looked at me funny and thought i was an idiot when i was just looking out for them
Unfortunately it’s a human trait that we will do bad things if we think there are no consequences, coupled with the fact that most expats are not the cream of the crop to start with. Many have all the issues you mention as well as being financially strapped, unable to have a good lifestyle in their home country (let’s be honest, we are talking about Americans, despite their super strong currency)
Re "sense of dominion", it's quite legitimate in some cases. Yeah the house & farm are in the wife's name, but as long as they are together they are treated as one person by the tax code, 13a visas, balikbayan privileges. Some of these guys are seriously dangerous to mess with, armed, connected & know who to pay how much to get rid of a problem. There's a dark underbelly you may avoid by luck or a guardian angel, but it's there & some guys walk the line.
Is it an american expat thing? I'm not saying all americans are like this, but to me it's always an american. There's just this combative element to the personality i've seen that echos what I see in the politics over there. Everyone not in my tribe is an enemy.
@@EasternDreamer615Most of the tourists and expats are American, Chinese or Korean. I'm guessing you can't speak Korean or Mandarin, so that leaves you to talk to mostly Americans, or Pinoys who will probably be asking you for money somewhere down the line :)
As much as possible Filipinos try to avoid argument or trouble but if a foreigner insist on it, FAFO. you've seen in news how americans tried to mess with Filipinos and how it turns out.
In other words your free to be an asshole here but you may not be here long if your reported by anyone your days could be numbered its not fair but you don't want to go to court here even if your right lol yes theres a chance you could be treated fairly is it the chance you want to take IDK
Fifty more expat stereotypes:
51. The Complainer
52. The Curmudgeon
53. The Athlete
54. The Scuba Diver
55. The Extreme Sports Guy
56. The Entitled Guy
57. The Crypto Bro
58. The Digital Nomad
59. The Entrepreneur
60. The Embassy Liaison
61. The Missionary
62. The Polyglot
63. The Recluse
64. The Early Bird
65. The Night Owl
66. The Stepfather
67. The Civil Suit Plaintiff
68. The Civil Suit Defendant
69. The Relationship Expert
70. The Small Age-Gap Guy
71. The Large Age-Gap Guy
72. The I-Got-Married-Too-Quickly Guy
73. The I'm-Never-Getting-Married-Again Guy
74. The I-Always-Have-to-be-in-a-Relationship Guy
75. The We-Met-in-Another-Country-and Retired-Here Guy
76. The Stuck-in-the-Province Guy
77. The Community Projects Guy
78. The Environmental Crusader
79. The Gone-Native Guy
80. The You-Should-Learn-the-Local-Language Guy
81. The Don't-Bother-Learning-the-Local-Language Guy
82. The Everyone-Here-Loves-Me-Guy
83. The Everyone-Here-Hates-Me-Guy
84. The My-Life-Here-is-Perfect Guy
85. The My-Life-Here-Sucks Guy
86. The I-Love-this-Place-and-Will-Die-Here Guy
87. The I-Hate-this-Place-But-Still-Live-Here Guy
88. The I'm-Dead-and-Now-It's-Your-Problem Guy
89. The I'm-Feuding-with-Other Expats Guy
90. The I'm-Moving-to-Another-Island Guy
91. The I'm-Moving-Back-Home-Soon Guy
92. The I-Can't-Afford-to-Move-Back-Home Guy
93. The I-Gave-Money-to-a-Girl-I-Never-Met Guy
94. The I-Understand-the-Culture-Better-than-You Guy
95. The I'm-Friends-with-the-Local-Politician Guy
96. The I'm-Friends-with-the-Local-Police Guy
97. The Thailand-vs-Philippines-Debate Guy
98. The I've-Never-Traveled-to-a-Neighboring-Country Guy
99. The I-Had-a-Passport-but-Never-Used-It Guy
100. The Guy Who Has All the Answers but will Never Travel Abroad
Here in my part of the Philippines, the expats who don't know each other seem to ignore each other. Not even a nod when passing in public. I'm fine with that. Everyone had their reason to leave the West and many don't want to bring it with them. I have some expat friends, but they are people I have met and vetted in social settings. My biggest reason for not speaking much with other Americans is that they invariably bring up politics. I left the US in part because I hated the politics.
You can't like everybody, but you can be civil.
True!
I dont hang out with other Americans. I've done enough of that in my life.
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I stay away from other expats, because I left my home country fed up with leaving the house
I’m starting to feel the same way Tim
Same here. There are some I get along with, but I ignore the ones I don't know.
Guys try to reinvent themselves when they come here because they didnt like thenselves back home, which i am all for, but then they just make up lies instead of actually improving. So, ive met 36 navy seals, 70 millionairs, and guys with mansions on the beach... when in reality they live in soneones attic and cant afford furniture.. sad reality of the world, having to keep up with the jonses to impress strangers. (I made up those numbers, but you get it)
Sadly true
Haha...where I lived we called the downtown Dunkin donuts "Special Forces Headquarters". But yeah, Philippines doesn't exactly attract the quality expats. There are some, but they keep to themselves or have a tight circle of friends.
It’s ultimately not being happy with your lot and incredible jealousy, maybe you’ve a nice house or nicer car or maybe your partner is the bomb. It will be just an excuse for something for them to pick on…I’ve had run ins, with all my neighbours from them impacting on us. Like for example completely floating rules of where we live and lying openly about it. To digging 1000 sqm plot without any permissions and causing me $1000’s to correct the medium term problem(currently he’s going have a huge fine by the local authority) but these guys are Usually US military with poor Filipina partners ..as stated they cannot do anything to locals so they think it’s ok with other foreigners..downright weird. Most guys here have a jaded passed but hide it.
As a Canadain, l have vacationed 4 times in the Philippines with my Canadian wife.
We commented all the time how unfriendly other foreigners are.
Most places there's virtually zero foreign women. I've done 6 month stints 100 miles from Manila without seeing a white woman from leaving the airport to getting back to it. The most shared commonality among expats is interest in Filipinas.
This is a great point John
@@Ghekko-kw3zzAnd it's so refreshing!
@@Ghekko-kw3zz That's because most ex pats are American women rejects. I personally witnessed the mistreatment of Filipinas here by men who had nothing but now all of a sudden they feel like God's gift to the poor Filipina. I love Filipina because she is the greatest woman on earth for me, not because I can't get an American woman. Just my opinion guys.
This guy is spot on, he's speaking the truth.
Thank you eddie :)
I've spent about 3 months a year in Cuenca, Ecuador since 2018. Most of these observations seem to apply there as well. You make valid points.
It seems to be a worldwide thing! Interesting.
Thanks for the video brother. Extremely informative
Glad you found it helpful :)
I had lived in China for eight years as an ESL teacher and two years in Thailand having retired. In China, I think the two biggest issues I had with co-workers and others were foreigner superiority complexes (having to prove themselves as better than others), and cultural/political divides. Here in Thailand, it seems that foreigners just want to keep to themselves and do their own thing. Even to return a pleasant hello or good morning is too much for them. Usually, their heads are facing down to the ground or oblivious to their surroundings due to whatever is being pumped into their head through earphones. On another note in that I see a problem with expats...nationalism. When you hear where someone is from, automatically the stereotypes and prejudices arise. As an American, I get this a lot. As if the other person's home country doesn't have a checkered history and flaws in moral compasses, therefore their country is the best in the world. With that mentality, I have no idea what the hell they are doing traveling the world to escape whatever it is from their home country. One final thing...I seriously believe each and every expat is mentally damaged in some manner. We are all running away from something in our past, or trying to find something that makes us whole. Usually, it is not a place that will fix that emptiness or deficiency, so they continue to wallow in the mud that they brought with them.
I found a better life overseas, thank you for sharing your thoughts
@@EasternDreamer615 I agree that life as a whole is better in Asia, minus most of the expats that wind up being a**holes. As long as I keep them out of my life, I am truly blessed in my experiences here.
Dumaguete is an expat drama hub, its very small town vibe, people know each other its a small city of 140k population compared to say Cebu City with a 3million+ population
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If I were to venture a guess I'd say there's probably less than half a dozen bad eggs who lack the judgment or restraint to not do stupid things.
I wouldn't be so sure, there's a local commission formed to discuss and handle bad expat behavior due to the prevalence of issues.
Most of them are Trumpsists aswell, whilst being immigrants themselves!😂
@Dmanz67 Yeah, but give them a break, most of them grew up riding in cars burning tetra ethyl lead and lived in homes with lead paint everywhere
... And to be fair, there are many expats that volunteer to help their communities here. Doing some really good work
Same here in our otherwise happy, safe and wonderful town in Mexico! We have learned to shy away from a number of others from the States over the years retired. Much happier.
It's a shame
People who pick arguments and fights besides enjoying that kind of behavior, typically have symptoms of BPD (borderline personality disorder), narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, etcetera.
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Great job Alex. People will learn but theres always some who will hate your intelligence. Ignore them. Someone has do this and glad you do. Appreciate you. Thank you.
Thank you so much Fender :)
Some people can get information about a place in a short period of time and if they are not fluent within 5 years of living in a country I think they have no legs to stand on anyway
Very true, I live in cebu Lapu Lapu for 5 years (originally from Canada) and here many expats who don’t know how to communicate with others. There are big group of Dutch guys from different European countries that I know they always stick together and don’t allow others in, I’m sure it’s due to this exact issue. I’ve met many idiots but again there are very small amount of people I respect.
Very cliquey behavior
I noticed Ex Pats live in kind of closed in communities over there. They either attract like people or possibly gravitate toward others just for convenience and adopt behaviors of the others.
Just some thoughts after living there. The negative bad people..
These guys seem to want to make an impression on others.. almost to make themselves feel better...
1. Scenario Number .. I live here (VS )You are just visiting... Little subtle passive aggression.
2. Do you have a gf here? Seems innocent but some of these guys want to show how dedicated they are so they tell their gf that you are a player so this sick individual makes his poor gf think hes emotionally protecting her.
3. Dysfunctional drinking. After some of these guys see how often ppl drink in the Phils...Its like their permission slip.
4. Avoiding meaningful interactions with locals to the point that they become suspicious or jaded. Trying to learn the language is such a huge plus.
5. I mean this respectfully. A lot of Expats are Ex Military.. Most people would tell you the military culture is often full of heavy drinking and aggression with hazing and abuse built in. Ask them.
6. The heirarchy.. Hottest gf...Little Ford Truck..Own house.... Some of these guys their whole circle and house is their life.....Unhealthy lifestyles surrounded by adventure and a great Ocean and they dont even go to the beach,,,
7. I salute Black people. because at least in the Philippines they still acknowlegde people. White Americans really have nothing in common with Europeans and they often dont speak to us.
8. Youre just trying to live but if youre in ok shape and semi happy and decent looking and enjoy interacting with other people...Some people see that as competition.
9. Jealousy..
10. Asking questions in the presence of others just to judge or shame you with their plethora of experience.. meanwhile the guy is sitting by his wife in the house he can never leave and every day he dreams to cheat on his Wife...Yah I met these guys.....
11. dating vs budget is trrue
100% Agreed David
I'm happy to have just a few friends and be very secure. When you know there's alligators in the water, don't go swimming. I don't need a crowd to validate my worth. Confidence comes from within, not from the approval of others.
That's a great perspective!
I am an expat living in the Philippines, but I don't hate other expats. I just don't communicate with them, bcz I am an introvert. I communicate only with my wife and her family.
That sounds like a wonderful life :)
Many live like you... including myself. Maybe because it seems Americans tend to fight about everything. Just look at the "Man of the year" for evidence.
No, I'm sorry, that's not acceptable.
Haha, just kidding. As a former introvert myself I totally understand. And I wish you happiness in whatever form you appreciate it.
I've retired in puerto galera on mindoro-except for accessing services or goods, i rarely interact with flippino's.Same goes for flippina's eg. Short time with out-of-hours bargirls.
Expats here are a mixed bunch.But, jealousy is prevalent.
Expats tend to be real polite in the kickboxing gym
That's a great point hehehe
I'm in Vietnam, for around 1.5 years. I've had one foreign person speak to me in that time. Most look away when you walk past them or smile or even cross the road haha.
I've experienced that too!
Maybe expats are prone to hate each other is based on the circumstance that here on the island their circle of friends and acquaintances is suddenly much smaller compared to back home?
This is especially true, if the expat has no interest to communicate with locals. So his world has shrunken significantly, which might cause some stress due to loneliness, which translates into more aggressive behavior.
Just a hypothesis. Sometimes they call it "food for thought" 😁
Great hypothesis, thank you for sharing as always Rebels :)
Somehow you made this far in life and to Dumaguete on your own... Yah The bad ones do like to one up each other... Great presentation and youre keeping it real.
I appreciate the support!
I'm only going to be able to prove my personality once I'm there. I've already been well educated on Dramaguete. I can say one thing, I don't like any Negativity whatsoever. So my friendship circle will build from that. Retired from the Medical field 45yrs and I'll probably volunteer at the University Hospital it's just in my blood. And I'll definitely contribute to the community. Again boots on the ground February 20th, can't wait. Weather looks awesome in the background, nice. 👍
Sounds great as allot of us expats here like to pay it forward and help out some in the community but be aware their are very specific rules even to volunteer as you can only do so much without stepping on toes as they can consider it taking work away from a Filipino. so research and reach out to organizations you wish to help. I own a contracting business USA but over here I offer consultations and advice about my experience as it is free but if i start doing actual work then i can get my butt in a sling. So reach out to organizations like I did for Habitat to humanity. Enjoy and be open-minded and just take your time, slow down as it takes awhile to adapt, adjust and accept how it can be different here as Patience is tested. And you might also find life is even busier as you deal with "The Learning Curve" aas i refer to it making your best life here and finding out where to go to make that happen. Like where to get foods you like, or the best gym for exercise you like, or even which pizza joint has toppings and sauce you like. Information is power and having Filipino friends to guide you is as important if not more so then some expat who is in a bubble or only has limited knowledge. I can learn more in a afternoon hanging out with my girlfriends Dad then 20 lunch dates with expats.
You might find some occasional paid contract work depending what your specialty is. Training medical staff especially updates in field emergency management for military & police often contract foreigners.
@@AdoboJoeRetire sounds like a plan, make you get a visa that allows you to do volunteer work (not a tourist visa)
When people make detailed plans, God laughs.
If you come here on a tourist visa, your only right here is to be a tourist. Any form of work or employment is illegal, even if no salary is being paid. If you have the idea of doing some volunteer "work", consult a lawyer or the bureau of immigration first, to keep you out of trouble.
I live where I have seen 3 white guys and 1 black guy in the past 9 months. A head nod was the only thing exchanged. But, as you stand in line at airport immigration, the same demographic numbers, most people in the foreign passport line are indistinguishable from filipinos. So, there are likely many more expats that blend in than white or black people. Anywhose, seeking expats in a foreign country is an unnecessary activity in my opinion. I focus on my woman, my dogs, and the occasionall interaction with people who live around me.
I agree with you Brian, thank you for sharing your thoughts
Whenever i visit Japan, there’s always an old American or European trying to be a nosy gatekeeper to other foreigners.
Because they reside there, they think they are the authority of other foreigners.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Yes I agree the behavior is bizarre.
For the life of me..I don't know how your not at 1 million followers..you're very articulate, well spoken & hit every topic perfectly..keep up the great content.
If it was a female it would have many more subs.
@@Mikeyyyy_L I dont listen to women for life advice.
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Thank you for the kind words and support! :)
That's easy to explain. Because he is well spoken, erudite, thorough, and doesn't rely on bleeps and flippin' gimmicks. Look at the culture of the USA, his biggest target audience. A large % of those people are completely morons. You can predict with precision which film at a movie theater they will select. You have an idea of their diet and what their homes look like inside. They're dolts. Dumbphuques. He's not part of their culture.
Expats need to change and relate like Filipinos!
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Great video wisdom beyond your years!
I appreciate that! :)
I'm not sure why foreigners should adopt The Filipino. Way of taking care of your mental health and be healed while in PH. It's not only for Filipinos but anybody!
Great points
Though very elementary your advice is sound. What astonishes me is there are expats there that need this advice. Seems like a lot of expats are running away from something. I am there to enjoy retirement with my Philippine family. Videos like this reaffirm my decision to walk the direction when I see an expat.
I meant walk in the other direction when I see expats😮
That’s a good idea in response to many of these expats
They are just "Karen's and Ken's." People that feel entitled and it goes on everywhere. It's a common phenomenon, especially for American people, less so in my opinion from other Western nationalities. Definitely here it's predominantly a male issue as relatively few Western females come to the Philippines by my observation so far.
Just my observations.
Great points Kevin
Remember you can choose your friends.
I agree!
They will cancel the work visa and then give some days to go back. Happened with my friend. I didn't ask the reason, but helped him to settle and drive around where he needed. I don't think it was a right decision because living abroad comes with challenges. I hope he didn't think bad about my country. So, I disagree with this visa thing and you don't expect everyone in Rome to do as Romans do.
Which country?
I live in rural Vietnam, I'm yet to meet another an Expat.
That sounds wonderful!
Wow you hit this one on the nose. I have most definitely noticed this.they’ll say anything about a fellow expat. I’m so glad you bought this up. I’m a start telling people to take people to the baranga captain or who ever to get them for slander. Thanks brother I get tired of seeing this
Thank you so much :)
I am never giving up my American citizenship. We are #1 for some good reasons and one of those good reasons are the Filipinas living in the USA.
Hehehe great point!
As a general rule I avoid other expats. A nod and cursory “howzit” is the extent of my acknowledgement. I concentrate on navigating the nuances of the local culture.
That’s a great way to handle it
I didn't notice much of what you said tbh. I was too busy noticing the behaviour of the locals, which is why i wasn't in the Philippines for too long.
Just look at it this way...in America, everyone sues everyone...in the PI, there is no malpractice insurance for medical diagnosis errors, and so on. Lots of folks from other countries find this amusing. Americans LOVE conflict. This does not mean the PI is perfect. For example, I saw a recent UA-cam on foreigners being scammed on home build projects and this made me very sad. Also, foreigner price is a reality. Today, I made an inquiry on a price and the Filipino said 150K PHP, but 250K PHP for you. "Take it or leave it." What rational person would expect this approach to result in an exchange or yield a profitable outcome? I have been here 5 months and do not really have any foreigner that I would consider a close friend. Spending almost 100% of my time with my Filipina and some time with her family. Very wonderful! I thought I met a fellow foreigner I could call a close friend, but he is arrogant and an "exploder" and treats his Filipina horribly, yelling "f*ck you" at her all the time, so I stay in touch, but tend to maintain a safe distance. He actually did this in front of me a few times. Very sad. She spent the day with us today and use us as a release valve, I guess. She is a nervous wreck and walking on eggshells. I am not a psychologist and do not understand many of the behaviors I observe. Anyway, stay well.
@@AnthonyCataldo-ez5ej the stupidest version of this I saw was a pair of American style houses, deceased estate for rent, 4.5k & 5k per month. A friend's wife & mine went to negotiate, got to 9k for the pair, with a 10 year lease. When it came time to contract, we showed up & the price went up immediately by 5k. They would not budge. 10 years later those houses are still vacant, never leased.
Finding your tribe is the key to happiness as I tend to like hanging out with Filipinos 90% of the time and only have a handful of expats I communicate with. I don't drink or watch sports and as i cook my own food including my new thing is learning to cook some Filipino dishes. Call me crazy because i actually like their food and then add my own flair. It's what you make it.. Like I was buying this mix of lettuce, cabbage and veggies and loved it as a base for salads only to find out it was being sold to Filipinos for them to make pancit and soup. My Filipino girlfriend laughed so hard when she saw me doing it; i was embarrassed and then once she tried my concoction she actually liked it then invited me over for a Fish soup and her Dad made his homemade soup so i ended up leaving with a new recipe. haha.. I like your touching on more in depth thoughts and attitudes as it is something that isn't talked as much about as I bet you'd be an interesting person to hang out with.
I enjoy hanging out with Filipinos too! :) Thank you for your kind words Paul.
Hello Eastern dreamer. I recently purchased a rush sale condo in a new tower in Cebu city.
What is your take on investing in the Philippines?
I generally don’t recommend it
I think some of it is cultural. If I see an American who is acting too loud or too entitled, I feel that reflects badly upon me. And I would avoid that person.
Same here!
You just earned a sub and holy god I hope this video blows up. This need to be talked about morel. I'm glad you're not part of the same UA-cam expat vlogger plagiarism culture (same recycled topics, identical thumbnails, misrepresentation of western expat life in Asia). You hit the nail on the head near the beginning. Just like 2000s era reality tv (and today's full time social media influencers) attracted the most narcissistic and greedy from the general population to participate, I'd love to see a study comparing rates of personality disorders among expats vs. the general pop (back in their home countries).
If there's one item where my lived experience has been different from yours (I'm currently in Thailand), it's how so many entitled western expats look down on and are rude to locals. And the most entitled people I've seen give off total losers/toxic back home. I get the feeling their home countries eventually got tired of their act, they had no more bridges to burn or people to use, so they booked a one way ticket to a country where their lack of social or job skills could still let them live on $1000/mo (especially if they churn out low quality clickbait content on the regular to keep the electricity on).
Of course not all expats are like this. For some it's just geo arbitrage when they have a stable online career with western salaries (their personalities can be anywhere on the spectrum). Others are responsible retirees who saved up decent nest eggs. But at the cost of making my own stay in these countries more restrictive, I hope southeast Asia someday does a better job screening out a lot of these losers coming just to exploit the local population while demanding to be treated like royalty.
Thank you so much atkim :) I greatly appreciate your thoughtful and kind comment.
Life in the US is not real, as in we have lived with certain protections from situations that will no longer be there in a third world country. The culture is delusional because of this. There are a lot of adjustments and learning to do, and us old people are a bit slow at this, so TAKE YOUR TIME to adjust. Give it THREE years. Don't make hasty decisions like buy a house or get MARRIED! You've got a LOT of adjusting to do. Slow down and enjoy it.
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@@bw2442 Thank you :)
I think expats are too nice to each other. They need to speak up when their expat friends are dating the wrong Filipina. It'll save their friends time and money not having to do a solo motobike trip to get away from their crazy ex.
That's a fair point
You will never be thanked for telling someone the truth about their partner. They won't listen.
@Dmanz67 You just have to be subtle and consistent with the backhanded compliments. Parents are masterful with this technique. 😀
These types are failures
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Before watching I’m assuming that too many expats will undoubtedly skyrocket prices up. El Nido restaurants are super expensive bc of tourists so expats living there is just gonna hurt more. I also believe maybe a lot of expats are more type a personality and do not integrate with Filipinos and adopt the culture, or they want to get away from last culture and don’t want them foreignizing the local scene
I don't think it's Type A necessarily, I think many of them have some kind of social dysfunction. Successful Type A people are typically managers at large companies. Some of these guys couldn't run a coffee kiosk.
Interesting topic. So straightforward.
Thanks! Glad you found it interesting.
Indeed, i wonder this too, some people are jealous as well if you have much decent life😅😅 ridiculous.. all i heard is watch out for expats 😅😅
I agree!
You're describing a kind of person a little bit psychopath in his behaviour, person who don't care about anyone, you're right they bring theirs troubles in Philippines.
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No matter where you go, there you are…
Hi Alex..keep it up!
Thanks, I appreciate it :)
Spot on video for any western immigrants going anywhere
Thank you :)
Is this a Dumaguete thing? My experience with expats have been positive so far.
It's absolutely a Dumaguete thing! Not as relevant in other places I've found.
Great topic, the problem is most are simply not happy with their lot and are incredibly jealous, it’s 10x worse than back in the west and your dealing with a lot of guys that have Walter Mittey’s syndrome 😂. I’m sorry to say alot of very low class individuals with poor Filipina..maybe running away from the west. The amount of guys that have absconded from their responsibilities back in their home countries, you can see that from the many UA-camrs that have a similar situation. Just something you have to deal with here ..the green eyed monster.
Absolutely, I agree Eric!
@ Good luck with the channel 🙏
Good Video, lots of dysfunctional men leave the west and choose less than for the sake of affordability, or accountability to social norms.
Thank you! I try to keep it real.
This is one thing i've noticed in my 20 yrs of expat exp.
Seems to me as ppl age, MANY go into "negative mode". The term "grumpy old man/women" would apply here.
Im guessing its due to one or a combo of various characteristics/criteria/etc:
1) Aging causes health/vitality problems (sure, it can be minimized by doing fitness, eating right, no smoking, none to little alcohol, etc), but we all still age, and will eventually die. its a 100% fact. thus it brings a "withering away" psychological/spiritual aspect to living.
2) Assumption of being given respect simply b/c one is older, lived there longer in the country, etc.
Many fail to learn that respect is EARNED, not given. (e.g. I simply wont respect some foul mouthed, boozer, who is elderly simply because he/she is older than me. Not Happening).
3) Ego. Self-centered/ self serving. (self explanatory).
4) "Boo-mer Mentality" Im better than you in every aspect. I deserve to be treated like royalty, while I treat you like cr-ap....AND I expect you to simply grin and bear it. (ties in with others on list.)
I've noticed that too - it's a bummer, but it seems to be a real trend.
People generalise too much on these comment pages, you would think that Dumaguete is this hellhole on earth, been here 10 years and never had an altercation with anyone, have a beautiful wife and everything is fine. A lot depends on YOUR personality..
It’s my first time seeing a “premiere video”. Is this pre-recorded with live chat option?
yes
@@null_value89hmmm. Interesting concept.
Overstay road does it all the time. Love it, way better because you can actually communicate with the content creator when they do it this way.
Omg!!! the White Shirt!!! I missed the white shirt. 😂
Hehehe :)
You should buy l prescription sunglasses.
Will you be paying for them? ;)
@EasternDreamer615 nope, I stopped watching the video after focusing on your eyewear for two minutes,
Let me know if you change your mind
Very good topic you see this a lot in mexico and asia.
Thank you Jerry :)
They only hate you brother.
Not my problem
I treat others badly cause I am a nacississt that lack empathy for others.
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@@EasternDreamer615 whats the question??
Yes there have been quite a number of foreign UA-cam bullies in Dumaguete. And some of them are quite old.
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i was in an expat program in Thailand and i warned another expat that the roads do not work the same way in Vietnam as they do in Thailand but they insist on crossing the street dangerously. they looked at me funny and thought i was an idiot when i was just looking out for them
Odd behavior on their part
Is there more to the story? That's it?
Unfortunately it’s a human trait that we will do bad things if we think there are no consequences, coupled with the fact that most expats are not the cream of the crop to start with. Many have all the issues you mention as well as being financially strapped, unable to have a good lifestyle in their home country (let’s be honest, we are talking about Americans, despite their super strong currency)
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Hey Alex 👋 what's up bud.
Hey Joe 👋
Re "sense of dominion", it's quite legitimate in some cases. Yeah the house & farm are in the wife's name, but as long as they are together they are treated as one person by the tax code, 13a visas, balikbayan privileges. Some of these guys are seriously dangerous to mess with, armed, connected & know who to pay how much to get rid of a problem. There's a dark underbelly you may avoid by luck or a guardian angel, but it's there & some guys walk the line.
Is it an american expat thing? I'm not saying all americans are like this, but to me it's always an american. There's just this combative element to the personality i've seen that echos what I see in the politics over there. Everyone not in my tribe is an enemy.
100% Yes I think it's primarily an American thing
I thinks it's a UK, Aussie, American things lots of nutcase in America. I don't see much issues with other Europeans and other foreigners.
@@axizcorpCan you speak Korean? Mandarin? Spanish?
@@EasternDreamer615Most of the tourists and expats are American, Chinese or Korean. I'm guessing you can't speak Korean or Mandarin, so that leaves you to talk to mostly Americans, or Pinoys who will probably be asking you for money somewhere down the line :)
This video reminds me of this guy called sick granpa. 😂 that dude bases all of his videos on trashing ex pats.
Lol
As much as possible Filipinos try to avoid argument or trouble but if a foreigner insist on it, FAFO. you've seen in news how americans tried to mess with Filipinos and how it turns out.
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I wouldn't talk like that considering the US is the primary destination for Filipino migrants.
In other words your free to be an asshole here but you may not be here long if your reported by anyone your days could be numbered its not fair but you don't want to go to court here even if your right lol yes theres a chance you could be treated fairly is it the chance you want to take IDK
Absolutely, I agree Jerry! 💯
jealousy
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