3 positions we try when bottoming hurts!
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- Опубліковано 8 лип 2022
- In this video we discuss 3 bottoming positions that we think are great especially if you are a beginner to bottoming. These positions can be great if you are just feeling sensitive down there as well.
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good advice, but I'd be cautions on the numbing gel/cream, I would not recommend it, if it hurts that badly you're doing it wrong. Pain is there for a reason, it is to let our bodies know that something is not ok, do not numb it, it is alerting you of something that is not going right... maybe try a different position, but I am a new bottom, and I found that prep dilatation work is the BEST choice... anyway, my two cents.
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Get a grip....!!! 😲
That seems to be the very best advice.the latter advice about the massage for added dialation would be my pleasureable choice
I have also heard that numbing gel also causes tops to lose their erection And what bottom wants that to happen? 😢 Not me!!
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I personally think In missionary- the eye contact makes such a fantastic communication and is hot AF for me… at the beginning and the end !!
Todd PA-C - There is nothing better than being on my back and watching with anticipation as he positions himself. His naked body fires up all of my senses and emotions. I know that he is about to join himself with me in the most intimate of ways; and, for me, it becomes so much more than just taking a dick...We are taking each other in a union so profound that words alone fail me. The eye contact, and the overall view of his exertions and eventual release, sends me over the top every time.
This is really true, plus the kisses makes it even better for the full love making experience.
Honestly I need someone to hold me tight
I love holding my legs wide open
This was all spot on..so nice to see you being so kind, generous and sharing! On the numbing cream I agree with a partner you already know it can be a valuable enhancement, but with someone new, then perhaps not so much! Also it can be dangerous not to be feeling everything that’s going on down there! Lastly I have found my brain i.e. nervousness, and feeling “unprepared” have always elevated the discomfort factor, and someone willing to take their time to be affectionate, and allowing me to experience my emotions and have a connection make for a happier experience all around - perhaps two! Then again being a Cancer emotion is a hallmark! Hugs, Michael Albuquerque NM USA
Great advice. I don't bottom often, but sometimes get the urge to bottom. I've found sitting on it at first helps me psychologically. It's a control issue. Once I get into it, then any position works.
Another thing I've found that helps is foreplay. It helps if the top uses lube and plays with my hole, fingering and lubing it up. Rimming helps as well.
Wow nice love to have bottam like u
For anyone wanting you to sit on their dick is absolutly revolting.
Working it first really helps
Wow reading ur comment actually turned me on lol.
I heartily agree with you, sitting on it seems to be my preferred starting position.
i'm very glad you're talking about this. it's a very important topic for all gay men. young and old. non experienced and experienced.
Bottoms RUN THE WORLD!!! Once you keep an ALPHA happy the world is your oyster!
Yes they will never trade you in for a younger model after you age. 😂
I wish the internet was a thing when I was 18-23ish.
That is good info. Well presented and will use this advice in the future. I am 100% bottom and only did it once. He was much younger and immense while I am a little guy. LOL. I kept telling him I was ready and he kept telling me I wasn't. As soon as we started, the first thing I said was.... I am not ready! The only position that worked was with me on my stomach and left leg pulled up. It was a cross between being on my stomach and side. He took mercy on me the next morning. Anyway, it has been 16 years and I have yet to do it again for a number of reasons other than that experience. It was good. Yet for me, thinking and talking about it is a lot hotter than the actual act. I think it is more about pleasing, feeling desired, and being submissive. Thank you.
@@HaroldHard-ok4le Awwww. All I would suggest is to do it with someone you want to be with. Don't allow yourself to be pressured by anyone. No rush.
@@HaroldHard-ok4le Thank you. That was sweet
I have always been a courteous gentle lover until they wanted it harder, so this technique/position has worked well for my 1st-time partners. when I have had 1st timers bottoming, I have found that having them lay on their side (whichever one they are most comfortable on...) comfort usually means they relax better and therefore they enjoy it more. I am well above normal in length and slightly thick, so this position has worked well from my times with 1st times. Because of my size, I almost always used my fingers to help prepare their hole, starting with 1 and working up to 3, which is close to my girth measurement. But this is just me and my experiences.
thanks for sharing your techniques with bottoming...
@@ThePoobears My pleasure poobears
@@dricka49221 it helps to know we care on each others well being :)
Wish I had you my first time. He shoved it in and pounded me. Gave me no time to adjust hurt like hell.
@@TheLongjohntim I hear you there supposed to be enjoyable not painful....
The mention of "painful pleasure" confirmed my initial expectation that they would be aficionados of Jimmy Sommerville's line: "Ooh, it ain't no good 'til it
hurts just a little bit."
As I top, I love the cowgirl position. Btm does the work and my hands to get to play with all kinds of things
Yea Me too bro
I love being on my back with my legs up it makes it feel better
Me too, and when he leans in to kiss me at the same time makes it even better.
I also like it on my back and my leggs over my mans shoulders or him holding my ankles with his hands
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@@josegarza9921lol
Ahh tysm, this helped a ton
Thanks this is informal for me being that I'm a bottom thanks so much for this video I really appreciate this good morning 🌞
Informative video for guys inexperienced with bottoming 🌈
I just love your advice ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Thankyou
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.... though numbing gels could mask an injury and therefore not a healthy suggestion. Don't you guys think??
Riding #1
Spooning #2
Bottom laying on its stomach #3
A live demo would really be helpful :)
Thank you for uploading this video.
Hi guys. Thanks the video its always good to have a healthy discussion about giving and receiving pleasure, especially for the newer viewers. Experiment and see what works best for you but these are good tips to start your journey!
What’s up man, I’m gay, I have cerebral palsy I use a walker and wheelchair, I’m new to y’all UA-cam channel, I’m a gay asexual, I can’t have sex because of my cerebral palsy! I love y’all UA-cam channel!
I don’t really understand what a gay asexual means, but it’s definitely cool that you know you’re gay even if you can’t have sex. You can still love and be loved, right?
@@Lucas-gm3bv yes
Thank you for your obvious objective candour and your kindness
Thanks, guys. You two are charming.
Love you guys and advice
Same here sensitive down there, but very good advice thank you 😊 when I finally get some I will remember to do those tips 😁thank you guys 👍
Maybe I'll please you 😉
@@aboodlifetv778 ahh thank you for your reply very kind of you for the offer 😊
@@terrylampard3892 for real who knows if we were living kinda close to one another it'll be my pleasure to please you. 😘
@@aboodlifetv778 yes that would be awesome , but unfortunately as with most things you are so far away, but thank you for the great reply I appreciate it 😊
@@terrylampard3892 My pleasure darling 😘
why did i get an ad for a prayer app after watching this video?
Goid informative topics . Thank you !
on top is the ONLY way to start.......YOU are TOTALLY in control (but bottoms are always in control really...) but yeah...YOU get to control it....after you are use to it......WATCH OUT!!!!
love the clock! good one guys.
My Favorite is Doggy style with the Top standing. But I do like it hard... LoL 🤣
AFAB here, Bottoming can also become "outercourse" very easily for us(or for many) if we find any part difficult. If he is with me, then sometimes we switch to intercrural (interfemoral, or, thigh-loving) for a little bit or for a step to finish. If you have a discussed plan b it helps. Intercrural was practiced by the Greeks so it's cute as an AFAB I get to enjoy feeling like a lover of the ancient times. lol.. Bottoms, you have the ultimate say! Switch it up
Abe Lincoln's bones showed a lot of thigh sex wear and tear.
As Jimmy Somerville says it hurts so good greetings from Scotland 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
You both have the sexiest smiles
As mostly a top, I always found that rimming a guy will help to relax him and also turn him on most of the time
What was that we buy at amazon? The name was not very clear.
Anal-eze
Gonna give it today hope this works
Gonna give it? 😂
Do numbing cream for hemeroieds help in less pain (if the top wearing a condom)
Another method is the fetal position, which is somewhat similar to the Spooning position. Most medical providers will say the fetal position is the recommended position to comfortably insert an enema. Best method is for the top to be standing at the side of the bed while the bottom placed his ass on the edge of the bed in the fetal position. Best access to full booty.
Very helpful thanks
I am getting the "How to bottom in god honoring ways" vibe from this :)
And relax, relax, relax! Because as soon as you tense up its harder 😊
2:46 doesn't sound like a good advice. a numb * sounds risky, like you can cause some trauma for not stopping something when you should because you weren't feeling it back then
also, if youre sore or ripped you should give your body time to heal, not putting anything inside there 🤦♂ prevent yourself from getting a fisure or somethin worst
We are both fully versatile, and have tried it all (long term monogamous relationship). Never had much problems with pain or hurting for either of us. We are also older (much older 53, 62). At our age the 9 year age gap is …. Pffft, barely noticeable.
Why most people disrespect Bottoms and praising Tops!!!
That's mostly a cultural issue. Bottoming often means being submissive and most cultures take that as a feminine aspect, and because women are less than men according to those cultures, a passive man got to be something closer to a woman which is disrespectful to manhood.
Age old Gay Culture hypocrisy!
@@ParvaizRaja which is true, bottoms are girls, IAM from the middle east and I can confirm that, tops Always brag about how they ...... Bottoms, on the other hand bottoms don't even talk about it, if people find out you're a bottom it's a disgrace to your whole family , bottoms lose a lot when they get ...... But nothing happens to tops , a man is a man whether he is with a bottom or with a girl , i think you're from the middle east as well , you understand what I mean.
@@levent.a.7280 Yes my friend, exactly.
Cuz bottoms love tops more than tops doe to bottom
One other thing. During rear entry, put pillow under subs hips. Otherwise his back will hurt.
Can’t imagine putting this out there on UA-cam, but then these guys never had to work with a homosexuality clause in their contract.
Pegging is very useful for massaging the prostate in men!
You both are so adorable together sending you both love ❤️ 😍 💖 xo ❤️
The blond guy is so cute !!❤💞💒
I would rather top.
It feels so good!
Thanks for the tips. I wish you can demonstrate. 😉
pls demonstrate how to apply
Between giving and the receiving end * the end receives all the best
what about the risk of hemorrhoids and other lacerations, isn't that also a factor
This video and the comments are better arguments in favor of banning homosexuality than anything I could have done myself. Thanks.
I bottom twice already follow your advice still hurt
Then you ain’t doing it right
Prep is the key!!! Use small vibrator & build up
Build up to it. Lots of practice ahead of time. Use finger, butt plugs from small to medium to large. Watch porn until you really Want it inside. Tell your partner he needs to go at Your pace until you are not only comfortable, but Begging for him to Rail you. Bottom controls the pace. If top wont agree to that, then he gets no booty. Period. End of story.
Girl here so different anatomy, but I found laying on my side like the spooning helps me relax. Dialators too. They are specifically designed to loosen you
I've been super curious about the men's experience. Thanks for sharing.
Yesss laying on my side helps me relax a lot.
afab here. I prefer side the most. He also prefers side. So relaxed and cuddly when it is him with me, it seems to happen by itself and he hardly needs to move at all.
Thanks guys good info
You guys are so handsome yall probably hear that alot.💐
I'm a total top and I love and respect all bottoms no doubt
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New york city
to bad i,m from Ohio@@mauricepeterson5868
Thnx 😊
Speaking of bottoming, the bottom is supposed to "push" penis out to tighten on it. Bottom should not clam up or contract. Relax and gently push sometimes
If sub is fluffed, or buns slapped , dom will enjoy tightness (best defer to subs' preference). Also, intercourse is more pleasing for sub with wood. Intercourse becomes less enjoyable or might even hurt if sub goes soft. Felate sub if possible. Otherwise withdraw and cherish sub during refractory period. I have found that the pushing you describe can help dilate sub for insertion. This negates the need for dom to force it.
Great job
Analyse?
You forgot to explain the prep for bottoming
I prefer what makes the top feels good. Otherwise I am Gay Karma Sutra.💞
This was nice.
Numbing gel is a very bad idea
Hi guys I love you.
I’m just using this video to send to a scammer since he decided to text a master troller.
For bottoms, anal washing (enema) is a must. But, doing it on a regular basis requires a little after care for comfort and regular health of your stomach and digestive tract. I consume a 4 oz cup of yogurt before my evening meal (YoCrunch is delish). You have to replenish your healthy gut bacteria. It breaks down your food for energy and cell repair. Also before dinner, I do 30 to 40 triceps dips. And I have 4oz Orange Juice, before and during meal, i wash it down with a 24oz mug of water and a 10oz Gatorade to replace salts.. Frequent enemas are sometimes advised against because it will rid you intestines of bacteria faster than normal regularity. Oral Antibiotics treatment also kill bacteria. You can also replace them with Cottage cheese, buttermilk and packaged probiotics. Since I began yogurt before meals, my stomach always feels good. No gut pain, no indigestion, no acid reflux, no bad tasting burps, even after eating heavy food like pizza or chili. I keep Tums for stomach acid for when my stomach is empty. Water works to dilute stomach acid too. Happy loving and living.
I dont agree that washing (enema) is a Must. It's a choice, and one that should be approached carefully and know what you are doing. Been doing the deed for 35 years with none of that - and No problems....
@@Tsimy876 You make a very good point. I guess I assume that many will enjoy foreplay and that can sometimes include oral pleasuring. Thanks for keeping us honest.
@@Tsimy876 If it ain't broke don't fix it. I guess I have just been self conscious since the first time a guy licked me.
@patndave4919 understandable, but just like you had to learn bladder and bowel control as a toddler, we continue to grow and learn as adults. You can be hygienic without overdoing it and without taxing your "system"...
Do what's comfortable for You - always - but we now have this Incredible tool - UA-cam - where we can learn from our peers and from medical experts. Wish we had this when i was coming (pun intended) of age. I have been learning so much over the last year - even from people much younger....
What is analyse? I have no idea what you're talking about?🤔
For me it’s kissing that does the work and eases the pain.
Is that Val Kilmer?
Spooning is the position of choice when you get old. As a bottom I tend to cramp up in other positions.
I am an 82 year old bottom . My boyfriend, age 67, fucks me with a strapon about the diameter of a toilet peper roll. Neither of us are very flexible at this point in life, so spooning is what we do.
im 14 but my bf of 15 recomended i watch this so hes comfy so thx i guess
happy for u❤
How is it calles? 2:51 analys?
What the heck is that?!🤔
Lmao just scrolled down and saw this. Wtf lmao
WTF!!! No Visuals!?! damn
3:00 Sumner is hot. But his hair is thinning 😢😢
I never knew there’s this thing that could numb your butthole😮 I’m sure gonna buy it for my partner later. We both are new to bottoming, so this is godsend!
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So I was listening "hard" to this. 😜
I tried the doggy style position for the first time at 37 years old, I was curious, it is very good for beginners
Why couldn’t my woman friends explain it like this. Thank you
Women ☕️
Assholes and vaginas are different …
Take your time! Making love should not be painful !
No judgement but it is beyond my comprehension how anyone could bottom.
The G-spot.
this gave me nervous hiney syndrome :(
I'm a top and there's a position I really like which I don't know it's name. I'd describe it as a modified missionary crossed with cowgirl. The top is kneeling and sitting on his heels (or can have a pillow between upper and lower legs). The bottom is on his back with his legs spread to the side of the top, knees bent, and feet on the bed (or whatever surface their on). The bottom the uses his legs to contol the ride. The really fun part of this to me is if the ton like to suck d*** and the proportions of their bodies and flexibility are good, the top can give he*d while the bottom rides.
I cant even picture that position the way you are describing it. Missionary + cowgirl combination? how's that possible , unless the bottom is hyper flexible ?
@@MrLuis85698 Actually, it's the top who has to be most flexible, though how flexible it determined by the size of both dicks and some other proportions can affect it, too.
It would be so much easier to draw a diagram so that you understand, but I'll see if I can explain it differently and maybe you'll understand.
To help you get an idea of positioning the 2 bodies, think about it starting like your bodies would be in missionary with the bottom's butt overly elevated, but don't penetrate there if you're trying to give the bottom control over how fast the entry is. Think about the arch the hips of both guys will make as the top sits back on his heels (or a pillow btwn calves and thighs. As both come down to position, the bottom's upper legs would go out alongside the waist of the top and the bottom's feet will hit whatever surface they're on behind but to the side of the top. The bottom then uses his legs to lower his butt onto the top's penis. Then he uses his legs to ride the penis. At the same time if the top arches his back and takes the bottom's penis into his mouth to suck it while the bottom take care of the in and out motion. It's almost like a 3 way sensation, esp for the bottom.
Hope that helps clarify the picture for you. The longer both penises are, the easier it is, especially for a not so flexible top. First time I did this was back in the 90s with a well endowed boyfriend. I don't remember where I got the idea, but could have been my own imagination. We experimented with a lot of positions on my live aboard sailboat. Should have had a sign, "If the boat's a-rockin don't come knocking." Thankfully my marina neighbors were cool.
Great tips!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The only thing missing is a top
i wanna seeyour example video
I think face down is the easiest
Nah
Spooning, sometimes leads to face down, if we’re already lying down, but my partner enjoys … I honestly don’t know what it’s called, but when I’m gaming, he’ll just sit on my lap and grind. He’s got his lotions and potions, and when he comes at me with those, he’s planning on “riding”.
The boy’s got me well-trained. I think he’s a power bottom.
I remember when people used to think about important things because something like this was just sort of known and wasn't the sort of stuff that defined the outer limits of a person's intellectual abilities. I guess, now, that people probably need college-level courses on how to bend over.
PackinStan 😂