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I never understood people who disrespect children all because they're not related to them. Honestly, in this day and age, with over 8 billion people adoption makes more sense. I know OP stated that her husband is against adoption, but that's the thing. Why do so many people despise the idea of adopting a child? Not saying that people have to. I just think it's strange.
That’s what’s so weird about the situation. She was open and willing to adopt. It’s not “emasculating” to adopt a child. Everyone knows it’s not your baby biologically so they can’t whine about how your wife is a “whore”. Plus it’s better on everyone to adopt a child who desperately wants good parents. Even though he was the one who suggested getting a sperm donor 🙄😑 Like, I think he’s just bent out of shape because he can’t have kids.
people should also be informed that children in need of adoption may need time to adjust and may have issues doing so because of the system.
I am an adoptive mom and my child is a wonderful daughter . She is grown and we have a great relationship.
The first one had an update where the wife tries to make husband leave jane and when he refuses she confesses that guys she went on dates with were usually one night things and never caring and loving and she missed what they had before opening
the marriage and wanted that back but op refused
First story: I don't understand open relationships/marriages, to me, that means you want an excuse to step out of your marriage but not suffer the consequences and backlash of cheating. Sarah was probably jealous that her husband found someone who could spend quality time with him (and is probably good in bed), so she wanted to change the rules of the open marriage that SHE proposed because she couldn't get laid.
The second story infuriated me to my core!!! First, this man wanted a child but couldn't have one biologically so HE proposed the idea of having a sperm donor, and then poof he has a baby, he tells his wife not to tell anyone as it'll make him feel emasculated, he gets drunk at a bachelor party and tells his family that he's feeling insecure about his daughter not being biologically his, he lets his mother insult his wife AND HIS BABY!?!?! And then to have the nerve to call the baby "his daughter" after saying that the kid wasn't biologically his? And a bigger nerve to want more kids after that whole ordeal? What kind of man is he? If he was feeling insecure about his daughter not being biologically his, why did he agree to have a sperm donor to begin with? This man is not fit to have a big family if he can't stand up to his mother, he needs to grow a pair. If it were me, I'd ask for a divorce, therapy isn't going to fix this mess.
For open relationships, it's usually fine if it's the set plan from the beginning. Just like how polycules, queerplatonic relationships, etc work just fine when its the known plan from the beginning.
This wife chose to suddenly open the marriage after being a monogamous because she probably cheated and didn't want to get caught, she got bored and found her husband uninteresting in bed. Now that he's happier and has another woman just like she's had other men, she can't accept it because she probably was convinced it'd be a one sided thing. "I can do it but if a man does it it's bad" mentality because now she's jealous he's getting action. 😭
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The second story made me more upset tbh, OP needs to leave that sorry fo a excuse man/father. ''I wasn't raised disrespectully like you''' the fact he said that to his wife.... OLD AHH MINDSET, I agree divorce is the only solution! Big family, he will get one in the f'eing grave now.
@@justacupcake1656 me too. I was really mad just hearing about MiL's wrongdoings.
That guy cannot have it both ways. What a jerk.
Op needs to ditch his husband. She has stated that she can take care of the baby, he's useless. Does he even love her?
1 & 2: Get. A. Divorce.
1) She's the one who asked for a divorce in the first place. Give it to her.
2) Mama's boy. What a PoS of a husband. They shouldn't have gone through with the sperm donor, but I can see why they did. Still, the MiL is awful, too.
Exactly. The audacity the MiL had, calling an innocent little girl a "filthy bastard", all because she wasn't biologically related to them.
I somewhat disagree about not going through with the sperm donor. If she wanted to be a mother, I don't think she should've decided to not go through with it.
It's great if a guy loves his mother, but if he's not going to stand up to her if she's mistreating me, buh-bye.
Only one answer for both:ahem... DIIIVVVVOOORRRRCCCEEEE!!!!!!!
Open marriage is a tough situation and I honestly don’t understand why people do it- why not stay with the one person you love?
right?! try work things out and if it doesn't work out, go your separate ways!!
@@Kyutie. exactly! that’s so much easier than trying to be open to multiple people at once, I feel like that would just cause even more problems if anything!
When your partner suggests an open marriage it either means they are cheating on you or thinking about cheating on you.
@@Nameless82284 this makes sense, I suppose they use “open marriage” to make it seem like a legitimate thing and excuse it for not cheating
@@js8303 Well duh, they usually say something like this "I love you very much. You are my soulmate but I want an open marriage. It's just going to be sex, okay but I love you." Like NO! If you love someone they would only want you and just you. Here was this jerk suggesting his girlfriend has an open relationship, he explained it like this "You are the love of my life. You are like my favorite ice cream. I love it very much but sometimes I want to try other flavors and there is nothing wrong with that. I love vanilla but sometimes I want pistachio or cookies and cream that doesn't mean that I still don't love vanilla because I do and I will always love it. But it's nice to have other flavors." She dumped him right away, Seriously, he is comparing her to ice cream? That's how little she means to him.
The last one, sis just divorce him
Double standard in the first story. Divorce Sarah
First story: Sarah got what she wanted and now that she has it she doesn’t like it. If you’re gonna be stupid you better be tough. Second story: The husband is a wimp and an overgrown mama’s boy. His loyalty should be to his wife, not his mother. Wife needs to think very carefully about her future with this man.
If you want an open marriage ur not happy, either talk it out or find a way because that is not okay, it's like saying u guys r okay with cheating on each other. Idk tho, it's my opinion.
Also I feel like whoever wants she open marriage wants to feel better about being with someone else and not cheating, and they get mad when their partner does better than them. Its crazy tho.
Yeah no, you’re not really informed much about consensual open marriages and good ones. You only have a negative look towards them and believe it’s the truth. You only hear about the bad situations on Reddit because that’s more entertaining and no one would pay attention to stories about good stories. There’s plenty of open marriages that work. Usually open marriages should be started/stated BEFORE hand to let each other know and has to be a mutual thing. Those who want open marriages are able to still love and ultimately want to stay with their partner but do want new experiences with others. It may sound bad to you, but let’s respect others relationships and stop calling it cheating simply because you don’t know much about it. I personally wouldn’t have an open relationship, but I still understand and get that people can be mutually happy with it.
Another way to possibly think of it is like this: Married couples who have been together for 10, 20, 30+ years have been together for a long time. They have the same dates, same sex, same everything for decades. To many people, it can sort of become a routine and become tiring. Lots of people in marriages or relationships can have no issue whatsoever with their partner, but can sometimes lose the spark or passion they once had. There’s many couples who used to have sex more often and later have sex like once every couple of months or even once a year. If the couple both come up with the idea and agree that they want an open relationship to experience new things, that is fine and their own relationship to deal with. It’s not something others can shame. You may think that those who may get bored like that would be better off divorcing, but imagine doing so but the couple not being able to ever forget each other and end up wanting each other still- it’s better to just have an open relationship where everyone is happy.
Hey poly person here, currently in a poly relationship and with a wedding coming. They do work and I'm madly in love with both my partners, it's just that most people aren't even mature enough for a romantic relationship and instead of talking about their issues and spending quality time together they mentally check out as soon as there's a problem or in some cases cheaters want a hall pass, but open marriages aren't a bad thing, they're just a different relationship than what people are used to
I was nodding profusely throughout the 2nd story.
If people want an open marriage they can, because communication is key. But if you lack communication, your relationship will fall apart regardless if it is monogamous or polyamorous. If your monogamous relationship is failing, it won’t necessarily help to have an open marriage. It’s okay if you want to, but it’s better to actually figure out the real issue, and work that out
i feel like open marriage doesn't make sense, but it can be done IF all parties involved are clear on the expectations. however, why not just be poly or discuss adding additional partners or swinging or something? as long as all parties don't mind and actually truly like the arrangements, that's fine. everything definitely depends on the couples.
second story: divorce babe, DIVORCE!!
Shes better off without him and so is the baby
I love your videos about the povs they are really enjoyable to listen to.
To throw someone under the bus, Ok, 、、is "jemanden ausnutzen" in German xD
And to salvage someone is " jemanden retten" in German, "to save someone" xD
What I have to say about the second Story is: 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
Story 1: Hand her the divorce papers
Last story: Divorce him!
Awesome video as always!
As a polyamourus person, that wife sucked. That is NOT how that works. She basically forced him into it and should've mentioned she was poly BEFORE they got married. Open relationships are supposed to be 100% consensual on all ends. I personally couldn't do an open ended relationship (the closest I'll get is open-ended fwb) but i at least know it's supposed to be completely consensual
Fr, I made it clear to both of my partners that I was poly before we even discussed having a relationship and to be honest I wasn't even expecting to have anything come from them being aware, they did know I had feelings for both and they eventually told me they had feeling for me too and I almost broke from all the nerves 😅 but hey communication is key to any kind of relationship. They both wanted me, I wanted them both, they wanted to get closer to each other and here we are today
How are you doing sweetie? How are you feeling? I hope just great!! In the very first story, their marriage was really over when the wife suggested that their marriage be open because that just means that she wants to cheat. I feel really bad for him. Now Sarah is mad because she see that his life has improved for the better and she doesn't like it at all, but she was the one who came up with this whole open marriage thing in the first place so what's different now. He just should go ahead and divorce her because the love that they once use to share is no more. In the second story, your husband has got a low sperm count and that's nothing to be embarrrassed about, but going around lying to other people is though. Bump all of Owen's family members who are against adoption because they don't even know how joyful that is. Why in the world is Owen even struggling with connecting to his daughter? That just doesn't make any kind of sense at all. She should divorce him immediately because he is completely spineless for not even sticking up for his wife. It's not her fault at all that your sperm count is low. She most definitely needs to divorce him because her mother-in-law is completely toxic. I love you!! Have a great day!! Stay safe!!
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#2: Husband started the WHOLE dilemma! But when is all came back he said nothing! When you are married, and you agreed between yourselves, you best hold to that agreement with your spouse. Stand with them on that agreement, you are one in that decision. Doubtful this marriage will last much longer as husband will likely not deal with all the issues that happened here.
I know that if I decide to start a family with someone, we will be using a sperm donor, (or at least not mine, we might get an egg donor, depending on who the other parent is) because I have too many hereditary health issues I don't want to pass on, and I can't imagine viewing the child as any less mine, just because of their DNA. I'm so glad she left him, and then used what his mother said as reason for why he can't justify not letting her leave him with her daughter. I truly hope she ends that marriage, because he's beyond forgiveness.
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Hi kyutie
Story 2, kinda sounds like the husband implied to his brothers that she got pregnant through other ways
Loves let's not be disrespectful in the comments section, polygamy is a thing and as someone in a poly relationship and about to get married I can assure you its not that different from a monogamous relationship and it is very much possible to love more than one personality at once, the difference is most of us (not cheaters wanting a pass) are open about it from the beginning and whether our relationships are open or not is throughly discussed, just like any other relationship good communication is key. In this story's case that's not what polygamy is about, this is not how it should be and we frown upon those kinds of ultimatums just as much as you do, that wasn't a polycule, that was bordering on some kind of abuse, at the very least neglect. Don't be unkind to a whole group of people just because of the actions of a rotten apple
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Am I the only one who actually feels *really* bad for the husband in that "sperm donor" story? It kinda sounds like he'd been manipulated into letting his parents walk all over him for the sake of "respect" and just *never* got help to get out of that unhealthy mindset... So even if he ended up confessing the truth to his brothers, and didn't stand up for his wife and kid when he *should've,* he might not have been able to help it because of that weak mentality... Not saying that he was in the right, but that he *might* be in a bad spot where his wife doesn't understand him and he would probably need help to recover...His *mother,* on the other hand, is a *completely* different story
That's understandable. Not justifying, but understandable 👍
yeah thats what i thought and stuff
Right off the bat, I can tell there's gonna be some issues with both parties in the first story. Polyamory/consensual non-monogamy (whatever you want to call it) is all about trust, and that trust relies on agreed upon boundaries. If you aren't open to any new rules being made, stay monogamous. Depending on the rule, I can understand being opposed to rules on a case-by-case basis.
Edit: This is not healthy. At all. SNOOPING THROUGH HIS PHONE?! Those new rules are horseshit. Those are rules you should start with, if you're gonna have them at all. I truly hope he divorces her. That "no romance, only sex" rule shows her true intentions for this arrangement. She just wants to sleep around while maintaining the perks of being married to her husband. She wanted the divorce when he wasn't living as good of a life, but now that he's able to afford a better life, she wants that. 💰💰💰
Edit 2: I'm proud of him. That type of toxic (I'd even call it psychologically abusive) relationship is hard to get yourself to try to get out of. Idk how divorce trials work in other countries, but if it's the same typical results as in America, it sucks that she's still probably gonna get half of everything that's rightfully his.
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Ngl yours and most of the comments take on open marriages is kind of disgusting. Just because it's not for you doesn't mean it's wrong or disgusting. If everyone is happy then that's all that matters. It can be quite helpful in situations were sex drives are very different and people can still have a healthy relationship with them. In fact for many it can IMRPOVE their relationship.
As for this situation specifically, Sarah does have a couple red flags in the way she was wanting another house etc but there's not much info on that anyway. Wanting to update ground rules is nothing new though. Especially because the situation has changed. He made the decision to not start dating outside of the marriage until now. It's not that shocking that it's only now that she's realised what boundaries she wants to set. She didn't have the chance to know her limits before like he did. Ellen says "it's all about what she wants" when really it's quite the opposite. It was him who didn't want to know about her sex life but that doesn't mean it would work for her. And it wasn't like she was trying to say he had to tell her but she didn't, she said both of them. I think you really let your bias against open relationships shape your opinion on this one. It even said that it was HIM who set the ground rules. Now he is dating around she isn't allowed to set some herself?? Idk about that one...
Edit: It's quite clear that what happened here was she was feeling neglected due to him working so much and since he had those set goals (which they likely have discussed before and he made clear he wouldn't budge on) she knew that he wouldn't cut down on hours to give her the attention she needs so she found another solution. Now he has and so she wants to see if they can rekindle some of the emotional connection now he has the time to do so. It's not that unusual of a situation.
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Lol, in the last story, she should say to him (in a scenario where it fits) “i won’t argue with my mother” or “i won’t argue with my father”, or any other family rly
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