TSW Young Women's Edition S3/05 - Young Women Successful and Single
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- Опубліковано 8 лют 2025
- Why is it that being single still often seen as second class status or something to be frightened of? In a world that often pressures women to be in relationships, more and more are embracing their independence, prioritising personal growth, careers, and meaningful connections outside of romance.
In this powerful and brutally honest episode of The SHE Word’s Young Women’s Edition, ‘Young Women, Single and Successful’, host Sasha Vella brings together two-time swimming Olympian and free-diver Nikki Muscat, freelance content creator Sarah Grech, and photographer Olha Ruccya - four successful, single women for an open and empowering conversation about what it means to truly choose and embrace a single life.
Between the laughs and shared experiences, the discussion takes a powerful turn, encouraging women to know their worth, refuse to settle, and to demand the love and respect they deserve. These four young powerhouse women tackle questions such as ‘What does it really mean to choose yourself?’ And ‘if the right person has to be worth giving up your independence for, what does that standard actually look like?’ as well as giving their thoughts on the dating scene today.
Watch this episode and share in the conversation of four successful single women diving into what they want, what they refuse to settle for, and why choosing yourself first is the most empowering decision of all.
This podcast brings up some strong points about modern relationships, but also some contradictions and overlooks certain topics central to relationships.
Emotional intelligence in men is important, but so is mutual understanding. Emotional intelligence should not be conflated with emotional labor. Men should not be expected to constantly manage emotional situations. Emotional intelligence is attractive in both partners, but attraction is not solely based on emotional depth; compatibility, chemistry, and life values should play an equal role.
The idea that men must provide something "more" beyond what women already have risks making relationships feel transactional rather than about partnership. A relationship is about shared growth, not just one side proving their worth.
Men also desire companionship, care, and emotional connection. What is the "more" that women should bring to relationships?
The conversation about masculinity can create unnecessary pressure on men to be more masculine rather than simply be authentic. Rather than focusing on masculinity, the conversation should shift towards what makes a partner reliable, stable, and emotionally present.
The theme of “choosing yourself” is empowering, but taken too far, it can lead to hyper-independence where people avoid intimacy altogether for fear of losing personal freedom. This can sometimes become a shield against vulnerability, preventing people from taking necessary risks in love. While it’s true that happiness shouldn’t depend on a partner, relationships require effort and some compromises - which make for a fulfilling relationship, in turn enhancing joy rather than taking it away.
The "bare minimum" discussion is valid but if the “bare minimum” is set too high, people may end up rejecting good partners over minor imperfections.
I say the above respectfully, to all participants and women out there.
Well said. I love watching these videos to get the female perspective but it appears how men and women internalize their relationship experiences is flawed and limiting. It seems incomplete and lacking perspective in the sense that we must not judge the opposite sex to be like us. They are the opposite sex, how can we expect them to be and think like us. If I blame a woman for not thinking like me then it is like I am asking for a man to come to me in a woman’s body and only then I will be happy. I personally also think there can be a lack of reflection on the fault of both men and women that lead to flawed perspectives. As there are women complaining about men, so are there men complaining about men. And both parties do it equally blaming the other sex instead of reflecting on themselves
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As the American comedian Chris Rock once said "only women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally. Men are loved with the condition that they provide something".
This podcast helps prove this point.
They are under valuing the simplicity in life and also making a relationship all about isma what can you offer me. How can you make their life better, their life greater, their life more valuable, when it's supposed to be a beautiful natural harmony and not a spreadsheet of tick boxes.
@@axoltol6054 did you watch the whole show or just the intro? Out of interest
@@theinterviewer_thesheword the whole show. And this is not the only commentator saying it.
Funny you say that but women are only valued if they are attractive, give the family children and aren’t disabled so they can cook and clean etc. If a fat hairy woman was interested in you you wouldn’t love her unconditionally 😂 also more than one in five men leave their wives if they are diagnosed with a serious illness because men cannot love a wife unconditionally if she’s sick in hospital and now he has to actually do things around the house. Men do provide something- negatives- think about it- they’re more violent, stronger/dangerous, and literally removed women’s rights because they’re so selfish. And you talk about wanting to be loved unconditionally??😂That’s why women love being single, we can earn our own money now, and have the peace of not tiptoeing around a dude. it seems men are lost at how to provide now 😢
Funny how you say that, but women are only valued if they’re attractive, able to have children, and not disabled so they can cook and clean. If an unattractive woman showed interest in you, you wouldn’t love her unconditionally. Also, over one in five men leave their wives when they’re diagnosed with a serious illness because they can’t handle taking care of them or doing household work.
Men do provide something-negatives. Think about it: they’re more violent, physically stronger (which makes them more dangerous), and historically stripped women of their rights out of selfishness. And yet, you expect to be loved unconditionally? Women can now earn their own money and enjoy the peace of not having to tiptoe around men. But suddenly, men feel lost about their role? Maybe start by not being jealous that women are loved and actually try being decent.
Haha every time I reply to this my comment gets taken down, I wonder why…
Funny how you say that, but women are only valued if they’re attractive, able to have children, and not disabled so they can cook and clean. If an unattractive woman showed interest in you, you wouldn’t love her unconditionally. Also, over one in five men leave their wives when they’re diagnosed with a serious illness because they can’t handle taking care of them or doing household work.
Men do provide something-negatives. Think about it: they’re more violent, physically stronger (which makes them more dangerous), and historically stripped women of their rights out of selfishness. And yet, you expect to be loved unconditionally? Women can now earn their own money and enjoy the peace of not having to tiptoe around men. But suddenly, men feel lost about their role? Maybe start by not being jealous that women are loved and actually try being decent.
I'm going to be a bit provacative here. Why is this format nuch different to Andrew Tate's? Of course it's much milder and respectful but ultimately it's the female version of trying to sell single people the idea that they're single because the opposite gender is flawed, weak, not worth your time, and not assuming enough of the typical gender role. I admit to only listening to sporadic parts of the discussion but i hope these shows are also bold enough to bring up self admittance of past mistakes and what one can do better to make a relationship work. Such discussions might ultimately validate 'incels' who adore Andre Tate more and the gender hating continues. Let's all pitch in to help young people work on themselves and their relationships more as thr single culture is dividing us big time.
"choosing to be single" is WILD bc its not a choice when there are no options, and a partner who is intimidated, unsupportive, taking away or not adding joy to your life isnt an option. Love the frankness, maybe men will listen and get over themselves. Xx
If you focus so much on being independent, successful and having a career, and at the same time say something like "why should I date a man that can´t provide more than what I can provide for myself", you are just shooting yourself in the foot.
Also, it´s easy to say "men are intimidated by successful women" and not think about it deeper than that.
For example, I´m interested in a nice, caring, kind, compassionate, nurturing woman, and I want to provide for that woman and feel like a man. This is the way a normal man thinks.
"Successful, independent and career-driven" are not qualities I look for in a woman. In fact they are off-putting because in order to have those qualities you likely have to sacrifice those qualities such as kind, compassionate etc. etc.
And yes, if I would be in a relationship with a woman that is making more money than me, how could I be the provider and feel like a man?
You can say this means I´m "intimidated by a successful woman" but really it just means I´m thinking like any normal man.
Also you mention something about "masculine energy", but are you thinking about the kind of "energy" you exude?
No criticism or offense, do what you want. Just some thoughts on what I heard. Maybe the whole point in the end is you don´t want to be in a relationship. I admit I didn´t listen to the whole thing but picked up some things.
I agree with a lot of the points brought up but not with the one where you said that men are intimidated from succesful woman.
For me, i’m not intimidated from anyone. I hate arguing and hate drama. So I just decided to remain single for the rest of my life.
I’ve been in relationships, i’ve been in love, but as time went on, I realised that it’s better staying single and to focus on loving myself instead of loving someone who only loves you temporarily.
It’s not any womens fault. It is a me thing. I have my own house, my own stuff, my friends, and I enjoy my life as I please. I really am happy and when compared to other 30 year males, I’m quite succesfull. I have my own stuff and do my own things and don’t think I need a woman.
Each time I was in a relationship with a woman, 80% of the time, i felt critized, betrayed, gas lit. If there are no woman now a days that know how to love their men, why is it worth it for a man to be in a relationship? I don’t find being alone scary. I find it peaceful.
But you have to think : is it that women don’t know how to love men, or is it that loving men requires a woman to be submissive and bend over backwards to his will, ultimately feeling as though she’s giving in to the patriarchy? It’s more peaceful to be single as a woman without all the societal expectations and “cook for me clean for me I pay more rent blah blah” that’s just a headache now.
@ I don’t blame women. I don’t blame women at all. I totally blame the system we have nowadays.
Women use to love cooking and taking care of their men and their children, as it was a job which required deep care, done from the heart with love.
Now a days women have to deal with work, arrandes and much more things especially if they have a family, because they won’t have any time left for family. A house without a woman isn’t a home.
So yes, after a day at work dealing with God knows what, a woman doesn’t have time to clean after anyone else so it is easy and deserving for her to find peace at home. Yet there is no one at the house to turn it into a home nowadays.
I may sound old fashioned, and i’m VERY much against any sort of violence or abuse, but if all women stayed at home and halfed the workforce in half, employees would be more hard to find and therefore more valuable. This would mean higher salaries. Salaries that could accomodate families of 3, 4 or 6. Like the golden days. If a woman doesn’t want a family and wants to work instead she still should have the option to do so.
I’m not saying we were perfect. Far from it. But we where much more socially evolved than we are today I feel like. It is also some mens fault for sure. Men who didn’t threat their wives right in the golden days which brought us to nowadays.
A desaster contributed by many…
@@TheChampionofthepeople Are you sure women loved cooking and cleaning though? Women didn’t gain the rights to owning a house, to divorce, to open a bank account, to vote, and to education. Their only education was house work, and brainwashing from the system to love what they are doing. Their husband could and would beat them, multiple times, in that case if they wanted to leave they legally couldn’t divorce and could end up homeless without rights to property. Also relying on one person for all finances is extremely risky, that’s why femininity was invented - smiling even if you don’t want to, sounding sweet and non aggressive all the time- because they had to stick to their husbands for survival. The idea that women loved being treated this way rather than were brainwashed is quite far from truth. When you remove someone’s education, you keep them gullible like a child, they don’t understand the abuse they’re going through. That’s why for example slavery in America lasted like 400years. To say women loved the way they were treated in the past where they had no rights, is similar to saying the slaves must’ve liked their treatment if they let it go on for so long. I hope I’m not sounding rude I just want to explain this.
Life is not perfect. men and women are not perfect. It's a give and take in a relationship. Ego is on a high. Women wanting to 'look' strong. Women have lost some of their femininility. Love and respect seems to be lost in this society. People in relationships need to grow together. Nobody wants to do sacrifices.