it's time i got this off my chest...

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 244

  • @AndImShelby
    @AndImShelby  6 днів тому +85

    Wow guys I genuinely didn’t expect this type of feedback. I genuinely was just yapping and didn’t think so many of you would relate as much as you do. I love the words of encouragement and also the fact that I could articulate these thoughts in a way many of you probably didn’t think to. I’m happy the real message didn’t fly over y’all’s heads. I also want to point out that I love my friends dearly and this is no jab at them (they know this). Love my seashells real bad 🥹💛

    • @ashleyboo8676
      @ashleyboo8676 5 днів тому +1

      I feel overwhelmed when u speak about your friends antisocial behavior from people who I love put me in a panic mood and I over think and get very timid. So now my friend Shelby stop jump up for ppl who don't want you to level up and prosper with them on the other side them toxic vibe tells u all about them sometimes silent treatment or first hailings attitude yes i know girl friend it hurts deep.

  • @lifeasanna-kay
    @lifeasanna-kay 6 днів тому +104

    Whew “Stop expecting you from other people” is soo hard to accept.

  • @natz21
    @natz21 2 дні тому +7

    As an only child I can relate to wanting to be alone but not wanting to feel lonely 💛

  • @DreneUpliftingSouls
    @DreneUpliftingSouls 6 днів тому +74

    Adulting is so damn ghetto! I have days when I don’t wanna see anyone in my face. I literally don’t wanna deal with ppl, then I remember I have to get up and go to work and be the best teacher ever 😫😫😫

  • @christiniashearer3351
    @christiniashearer3351 6 днів тому +78

    As an only child that was raised by her single mom, I understand everything you said to the T chile! I started giving people the same energy too babe, and honestly it’s given me a small circle that actually give me the same energy, you’ll be okay fave, love you❤️

  • @shandizille.
    @shandizille. 6 днів тому +74

    Shebly , on behalf of all seashells i must congratulate you on consistently giving us videos!! 💋🎉

  • @MCKNZ
    @MCKNZ 4 дні тому +7

    Oh, this is so real. Yes, this is exactly what you realize the older you get and you not in the same spaces, school or same jobs where it's convenient to be your friend because you gonna see them everyday anyways, so they come n talk. You don't hear from people, they certainly not checking in, worse mek you ask for help, nobody shows up. Even when they said they would.

  • @lisalee9761
    @lisalee9761 6 днів тому +39

    “Stop looking for yourself in other people” lick mi fi 6 I learn this lesson everyday. I appreciate you being real when you’re in this vulnerable headspace. ❤

  • @tammyb9848
    @tammyb9848 6 днів тому +31

    Vent away my girl... it's healing/ cleansing. Good to get things off your chest and not harbor it.. Praying your relationship with friends gets better.🙏💕

    • @AndImShelby
      @AndImShelby  6 днів тому

      Thankful for the ones that are doing well 🩷

  • @ricardolee4668
    @ricardolee4668 5 днів тому +9

    The sooner you learn this the better you'll become, some people will only love you as much as they can use you their loyalty ends when the benefit stops

  • @LifeasShari
    @LifeasShari 3 дні тому +4

    Im a silent watcher but just saying im proud of how far youve come and im one of the supporters coming from 9k days

  • @niadennis4242
    @niadennis4242 5 днів тому +10

    I wont even lie to you …I am not the type to comment on videos but alot of what you said is SOOOO relatable… sometimes i an just like damn even when i am going through it.. I still give people my best … and it really hurts when you see it’s not reciprocated …

  • @BeingB3cca
    @BeingB3cca 6 днів тому +10

    Glad you spoke about it cause "me catch couple pree" but you’ve always remained the bigger person and handled it with grace. Remember you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn’t jump over a puddle for you.

  • @shanakayspringer3953
    @shanakayspringer3953 2 дні тому +1

    You're not alone, adulting is definitely not for the weak.💛

  • @leannas25
    @leannas25 6 днів тому +22

    Two videos in one week?? I feel very spoilt rn.❤❤
    Side note: I totally understand how you're feeling. I've been having those days too but it will be fine.❤

  • @theoriginalpatrece
    @theoriginalpatrece 6 днів тому +10

    Watching this and shaking my head in agreement every sec of the video . Trust me - I totally get it . Sometimes people have you questioning if you are the problem 😞😞😞

  • @lifeasanna-kay
    @lifeasanna-kay 6 днів тому +13

    I felt this. I cut off someone that don’t even know they cut off bcuz one thing I’m not gonna do is tell u what u do wrong either, ima just cut up off bcuz you’re grown enough to do what u do. I be feeling the same and I just don’t care about having friends anymore. I rather be alone. I’m fine with it.

    • @AndImShelby
      @AndImShelby  6 днів тому +12

      I don’t really like silent cut offs tbh. I’ve never been that person 😭 I rather just tell you how it is and then distance myself. Because *sometimes* people don’t realize what they’re doing but a lot of times they absolutely know. So it’s difficult sometimes 🥹

    • @djxn_
      @djxn_ 5 днів тому +3

      @@AndImShelbyI don’t like it either and prefer if people tell me what’s wrong like a grown adult b4 “ghosting” too

    • @lifeasanna-kay
      @lifeasanna-kay 5 днів тому

      @@AndImShelby lol I feel you but that’s just me . Yes people do know what they be doing and that’s why I don’t care to explain myself as to why I don’t want them in my life anymore at times. It’s my life so idc about their feelings after they got me f up.

  • @princessmandi100
    @princessmandi100 4 дні тому +2

    I know exactly how you're feeling. I feel the same way.

  • @SH-qt9rd
    @SH-qt9rd 5 днів тому +4

    The intention behind anything you do is key. If you are a good person then what others do or dont do in return is irrelevant. If you are genuinely kind at heart and no one is kind in return, that should not change the core of who you are. You're gonna be kind regardless.

  • @Angelleka
    @Angelleka 6 днів тому +5

    I can relate, the older I get the more I realize that some people aren't genuine and my circle gets smaller but I try to protect my peace and just pray to God 🙏🏽.

  • @leannas25
    @leannas25 6 днів тому +11

    I wish I could truly express how much I relate to Shelby! When I hear her saying certain things she's experiencing it's like hearing someone reading out my life to me.
    Honestly, to this day there's no one else I watch that I relate to this much. Just know the seashells appreciate you!💛💛💛

    • @AndImShelby
      @AndImShelby  6 днів тому

      🥹🩷🩷 happy you can relate

  • @collburford9873
    @collburford9873 3 дні тому +1

    Facts, I know the feeling.

  • @asley-creestewart5579
    @asley-creestewart5579 5 днів тому +2

    Shelby being real and relatable as always ❤ thanks for being transparent

  • @shaniasworld1178
    @shaniasworld1178 21 годину тому

    I get overwhelmed very often and I'm still trying to understand why...sigh , sometimes I'll just go in a corner and cry. I really do understand what you are saying shelby😢😢
    The real world is so ghetto if you ask me🙄 It is really hard to find authentic people in this day and age and that's a drag💔💔. All I can say is I am just greatful for who's in my corner istg because I swear sometimes i want to😬😬
    But in everything you said, i understand. Just pray to god about it pookie, you'll be okay 😘🫂🫂

  • @ruthyvlogss
    @ruthyvlogss 2 дні тому

    you’re so relatable its insane cs i felt this whole vlog

  • @jamaicanbxbiee
    @jamaicanbxbiee 2 дні тому

    She’s so beautiful 😍

  • @tamikomuschette4541
    @tamikomuschette4541 6 днів тому +5

    This video hit the nail pon d head fi me in so many ways 💛

  • @TiffanyBromfieldK
    @TiffanyBromfieldK 5 днів тому +1

    Shelby you’re not delusional, trust me that’s exactly how I use to feel! & pple will continue to do stuffs fi hurt u!! I can definitely relate girl💯💯💯, a nuh everybody ago show up fi u like u did for them but a life

  • @ZarriyaRichards
    @ZarriyaRichards 5 днів тому +1

    And this is exactly why your videos connect all the time. You don't miss a beat, very relatable. Lmao Shelbz, you keep my company at this point 💛

  • @ShanakayCameron
    @ShanakayCameron 6 днів тому +4

    I relate soooo much its crazy , same with me right now i cant quite put my finger on it, caz ive alwys go above n beyond fa my frenz ,but end up get diss n i cant help it but to ques myself 🤔 "maybe im a bad person" n dont know it ,caz suh dem mek mi feel n ive been notn but sweet to them ,but thats not it maybe the ppl u considered dont consider u d same suh i learnt to accept that n move on n stick to those who really consider me even if its your mom/ family in gen caz ppl change n it dont take dem notn at all fa dem to move weird!!!

  • @alesabond7080
    @alesabond7080 5 днів тому +2

    The video quality is sooo nice girl

  • @TaysTales
    @TaysTales День тому

    SHE'S A GOOD PERSON!!! I can attest

  • @nicktoclaaat909
    @nicktoclaaat909 5 днів тому +1

    You got this girl! You're very beautiful, greatness will come your way soon I promise ❤

  • @jamaicangirl1728
    @jamaicangirl1728 5 днів тому

    It's funny that I'm actually doing a course right now on trauma-informed care, which got me thinking if I experienced trauma as an only child as well. A lot of us can relate seashell 💛

  • @chineygymnastic
    @chineygymnastic 6 днів тому +3

    The hair 😍😍

  • @tialaing8145
    @tialaing8145 5 днів тому +3

    It’s a phase Shelby. You will be fine ❤

  • @nnekatoni
    @nnekatoni 6 днів тому +6

    Felt felt felt. Felt. Felt. FELLTTT!

  • @arielbritish9939
    @arielbritish9939 5 днів тому

    Hey Shelby, i understand how you're feeling. Your video is very relatable! The lord will send the right people for you❤ love you,stay in there.

  • @yanahsc
    @yanahsc 6 днів тому +1

    Feel the same way about friends. I had one friend that put my through a lot and talk bad about me . That person is on longer her but may her soul rest in peace.

  • @Diandra_Marcelin
    @Diandra_Marcelin 3 дні тому +2

    The thing about becoming an adult is, you start to realize that the people who you started off with will not continue on the same journey with you. Things change and everyone has to fulfill their own purpose. Focus on finding your purpose and watch how God will begin to send the people you need.

  • @Amoy36114
    @Amoy36114 4 дні тому

    💛💛💛definitely relatable!! Stay strong hun🙏🏾

  • @gabrielleelizabethh
    @gabrielleelizabethh 6 днів тому +1

    Girl I felt this whole video! Trust when I say it’s the best thing learning this now. Pray for more discernment on who to give your energy to and pay attention to who values you more than who you value. Don’t let people dull your sparkle tho ✨✨

    • @AndImShelby
      @AndImShelby  6 днів тому

      Definitely won’t let people change me 🩷🩷

  • @Rihanna.d
    @Rihanna.d 5 днів тому

    I feel you sooooooo much and when you say it’s just not in your character I was like bby woah🥺🥺and I feel this way a lot of times and said the same things but it just nuh inna mi character but girl we love you and we are here for you ,keep ya head up❤❤🙏🙏

  • @Lia._cere
    @Lia._cere 3 дні тому +1

    Thank you for this!🤍💙🫂

  • @majesty1924
    @majesty1924 5 днів тому +1

    Girl it happens to the best of us give out our best to people and them dump we in the dumpster

  • @lookatthat7889
    @lookatthat7889 5 днів тому +2

    Girl be my friend you wouldn’t have to worry about the same energy .

  • @asiaprendergast9709
    @asiaprendergast9709 6 днів тому +1

    Our girl is on her zoommm🤍

  • @omigosh2627
    @omigosh2627 6 днів тому

    This is exactly why I connected with your content. Feels like you're talking about certain situations in my life and how I feel the exact same way especially in your visual diaries. Something is just so genuine and refreshing about you that I adore💛🐚🌊

  • @kaceyrae8946
    @kaceyrae8946 6 днів тому

    I got emotional watching this because same. 💛

  • @oksanalewis4826
    @oksanalewis4826 5 днів тому +1

    Boiii i can atest to this soooo much true words.

  • @francinethegreat7273
    @francinethegreat7273 6 днів тому +1

    ❤️🫶🏽….love the makeup. Everything you said hit in that vid

  • @driellesincity6738
    @driellesincity6738 День тому

    You are enough Shelbz❤

  • @joelmcintyre375
    @joelmcintyre375 5 днів тому

    “Let me brush this hair outta my face” proceeds to use a comb ❤, as a seashell

  • @brokehalo101
    @brokehalo101 5 днів тому

    We love u girl!!! Keep shining

  • @jaydeemiller4561
    @jaydeemiller4561 6 днів тому

    Shelby I totally love these videos keep it up and post more ❤ one love.

  • @johannahendricks8588
    @johannahendricks8588 5 днів тому

    Everything you said.... same!! Felt!

  • @aleisharampasard6592
    @aleisharampasard6592 2 дні тому +1

    So we're all in this phase🤧

  • @allthingsnyny5129
    @allthingsnyny5129 6 днів тому

    It’s you venting for me as welllll!!!! I can relate soooo much!!

  • @moniqueroberts3120
    @moniqueroberts3120 5 днів тому

    💛 sometime we just need a little rant session

  • @rujuandawes
    @rujuandawes 6 днів тому

    It’s okay I can relate to what your going through you got this ❤

  • @shaniasworld1178
    @shaniasworld1178 20 годин тому

    Your hair is in a bob now!!!!oh my gawdd 🎉🎉🎉 Nobody cae talk to you now😂😂

  • @Candyespn588
    @Candyespn588 6 днів тому

    I appreciate you bringing us consistent videos💗💞
    Side note: people are a disappointment guard your heart.

  • @shadhailhenry7601
    @shadhailhenry7601 6 днів тому +1

    One thing Shelby ago do it post when I’m pmsing too and the two a we ago siddung n bawl together🤣🤣🤣

  • @Jahdeeen
    @Jahdeeen 6 днів тому +1

    I know the feeling all too well you want to know that your favorite people are available to you but not necessarily always in your face

  • @lexitv3017
    @lexitv3017 6 днів тому +3

    Skin and hair 🔥 ❤

  • @deannawilliams6217
    @deannawilliams6217 5 днів тому

    I loved this video i relate so much so I only give 100 to those who actually their for me

  • @ccmade10
    @ccmade10 6 днів тому

    Loving the consistency ❤❤

  • @jamaicanbxbiee
    @jamaicanbxbiee 2 дні тому

    Hopefully one day we can be friends I’m loyal to a fault & very supportive 😐😂 not a Leo but was almost one (Cancer-Leo cusp) & I relate to you a lot. A lot of people don’t seem to value friendships at all.

  • @rawminimalist9043
    @rawminimalist9043 6 днів тому +1

    Sending virtual hugs shelby, im the same but Fortunately I have a few great friends who really nurture me.

    • @AndImShelby
      @AndImShelby  6 днів тому

      Thank you! I actually do too! Love them real bad

  • @PumPumPav
    @PumPumPav 6 днів тому +2

    ☀️ As a consistent Shelbert!

  • @candicegayle519
    @candicegayle519 5 днів тому

    Bro this is sooo real ❤ love you queen! Really, I absolutely love you. God got you, I promise 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛 #ToooRelatable

  • @Rochelleburrell
    @Rochelleburrell 6 днів тому

    Love you shell!! ❤🫶🏼

  • @tashekajohnson4688
    @tashekajohnson4688 6 днів тому

    Love you Shelby❤

  • @slymting3173
    @slymting3173 6 днів тому

    I can relate 💯 to everything you said. ☀️

  • @djxn_
    @djxn_ 5 днів тому +3

    I hate adulting. That’s y tbh I do what I can manage instead of trying to keep up with society.

  • @sheka9205
    @sheka9205 4 дні тому

    Good yap sesh❤

  • @thelifestylexoxo
    @thelifestylexoxo 3 дні тому

    As Long As Your Happy With Yourself These Days!! Nothing Else Matters!!
    2:42 we get make tutorial too 😂😂

  • @lexitv3017
    @lexitv3017 6 днів тому +2

    You have a good heart but you can’t let ugly make you ugly. Continue to be who you are but also guard your heart because everything you do flows from it (Proverbs 4:23) ❤

  • @kickitwithme1899
    @kickitwithme1899 6 днів тому

    We love you!

  • @Shaniquebeckfor
    @Shaniquebeckfor 5 днів тому +1

    The older you get the less you go out especially when you’re working towards home ownership car ownership and building a relationship and family. You end up having friends that may not be there as often

  • @shaniasworld1178
    @shaniasworld1178 21 годину тому

    Don't stop being you pookie💯💯 Just stop showing up to people who wouldn't do the same

  • @serikaclarke1116
    @serikaclarke1116 6 днів тому

    Let mi just do as Shelby say sit back relax and enjoy let me go and grab some snacks ❤❤❤❤

  • @roniqueswrld
    @roniqueswrld 6 днів тому

    ly shelby💛

  • @Itsjustshande
    @Itsjustshande 6 днів тому

    Girl just gwaan be that friend fi yoself till the right one show up or maybe ur that friend for urself

  • @itzsher
    @itzsher 6 днів тому

    🌞🌞🌞🌞proud of the consistency

  • @Shaniquebeckfor
    @Shaniquebeckfor 5 днів тому +1

    I am now a home body girl because everyone is working out their lives. I have very good friends but we don’t even talk for days sometimes or even a whole week but we are still great friends. Adulting is lonely or maybe I don’t have real friends either lol

  • @hyacinthdaley3047
    @hyacinthdaley3047 6 днів тому +1

    Hey Shelby❤❤❤ oh I'm seashell 👋 👋 👋

  • @_josh_andy
    @_josh_andy 6 днів тому

    Yesss my skin been acting up of late too 😢

  • @dameshahenry8887
    @dameshahenry8887 5 днів тому

    Story of my life!

  • @fmgamer5589
    @fmgamer5589 6 днів тому

    Hold up uh head girly💯

  • @momosjourney5751
    @momosjourney5751 6 днів тому

    I totally understand

  • @tashthompson3361
    @tashthompson3361 6 днів тому +2

    Did you know that you have an interesting voice when you’re reading, have you ever thought about making a kids book then do the actual audio versions they would love it!!!

  • @DreneUpliftingSouls
    @DreneUpliftingSouls 6 днів тому +1

    Made it ❤❤❤

  • @Jlow19
    @Jlow19 6 днів тому

    This is sooooo meeeeee😫😫😫

  • @jamaicanbxbiee
    @jamaicanbxbiee 2 дні тому

    Yellow is your color 🥰💛🧡

  • @Summer15
    @Summer15 5 днів тому +1

    People know exactly what they are doing.

  • @JustDemani
    @JustDemani 6 днів тому +1

    Be my friend girl I won’t hurt you 😂❤

  • @RenishaBrown-i9x
    @RenishaBrown-i9x 19 годин тому

    ⭐️💛

  • @majesty1924
    @majesty1924 5 днів тому

    Like other day I saw u alone in your new apartment mi feel like cry because whatttttt Cho

  • @nigelfuller6738
    @nigelfuller6738 2 дні тому

    Shelby .... I understand