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I think that charming is being flirty in a non compulsive/involuntary way like being fun and yourself, but Liking is more like being charming with intent to have something with someone !
3:50:10 Get him to an autism/ADHD specialist and get him tested. Between that and the hyperfocus on the tandoor, and the excessive empathy (actual autistic people insist that it's overwhelming and paralyzing) I'm very sus of him being neurodivergent. Doesn't change anything about him, just a possible explanation.
I pretty much had that conversation. More about dating than marriage. But it went something like: "I like you. So how do you feel about that?" "The last time someone said that, I couldn't really respond for like 10min." "OK, you can take time to think about it." Then she gave me like 3 days, when 10min would have sufficed, but eh.
@caejones2792 Clearly you were not interested in her romantically. There is no person on this planet who shares someone's romantic interest and will bluff like that (that they need to think. You know if you are attracted straight away) Unless they are a psychopaty of some kind and like to waste their time playing like that with people they are not attracted to.
X: hi father k, it's nice to meet you Dr. K: It IS nice to meet me? IS, you see that? You're stating things in absolutes, this is what we're trying to avoid, X X: ... i play lacrosse :)
GongsunXin its actually a sign of a really healthy functioning couple that he was able to call her out on interrupting him and disrespecting him. She was doing it too much, and he called it at the right point. The fact that twitch chat was freaking out I think, not to judge, shows that a lot of them do not know how to function in a relationship without just trying to constantly please other person despite your own feelings
That’s why I’ve been saying forever that twitch chat everywhere would be the best shit lmao like going to the movies and just seeing twitch chat react to everything would be great.
While they were having their disagreement I felt a lot of anxiety, but it was quickly resolved and everything was ok actually. I was raised to believe that having disagreements always have to lead to fights and be bad so I’m glad you guys showed what a healthy discussion looks like.
@@jamesgentry13 yeah man, I have a friend who is always upset about the behavior of his gf, but he only lets the steam off while talking to me. He doesn't let her know what he feels and that will ruin them.
@@jamesgentry13 that was not an argument whatsoever. It was just him acting like her dad and disciplining her. He literally does the same thing which makes you think he believes he is better than his wife and she needs to submit to his plans and views
@@ja_u Dr.K said both of them communicate like that, that’s why Mrs.K didn’t find it weird or scary. And he also asked her if she felt disrespected later on. It wasn’t a discussion, but it wasn’t an attempt for disciplining her either. It was just him communicating his feelings and setting healthy boundaries.
@@dThapa966 no I commented at the start of the video. I just wanted to make it clear that a healthy relationship isent going to be all perfect and no fights. Because that can be an unhealthy relationship
@@Erik3E Its true, if you aren't willing to argue in a relationship with your partner it could mean that you guys dont even want to prove that you still care are are passionate.
I actually can't express how happy I am to know that there are people out there like Dr. and Mrs. K. And I also can't even discribe how happy I am *for* those people, for the fact that they have found such a fitting partner for themselfes, or rather that they manage to be such a fitting partner to someone. May all those people live a long and beautiful life full of happines and joy! I hope I'll find my other half one day as well!
I personally dislike the idea of "fitting." If you want to be successful with someone else, it has less to do with compatibility and more to do with determination and a mutual willingness to put the other first.
@@MrDrumStikz what u said. Like they were saying, one of you has to be the shoulder to lean on at some point, what alot of people don't realize is they might have needed it long before you guys ever met. So try n help them out to the best of ur abilities. But this takes alot of self building before you can become this person
@@Emerald081 "Fitting" is passive. Actually making a relationship work is waking up every morning and deciding it will work. Hence, I just think the word "fit" invokes an unhealthy notion of what makes a relationship work.
@@MrDrumStikz I get where you are coming from, people for sure have a tendency of idealizing their partner or believing that eventually their soulmate comes along and stuff like that. Yes, it can invoke an unhealthy mindset. But regardless of that, personally there are significantly more girls, even phisically attractive ones who I just honestly cant imagine having a relationship with. Or I just dont really want to. So in that sense I still think "fitting", or finding the right person absolutely makes sense. Its more of a spectrum imo, and the other extreme would be when 2 people stick together in a toxic relationship for way more than they should. That happens too. Your approach basically implies that I could just literally ask out a random girl on the street and with hard work it would for sure work out. I dont think so, I still think that compatibility is a thing. At least for me, it is.
@@funkle2645 what are you talking about? I couldn't imagine a better way to handle that than the way he did. This is exactly what a healthy way of letting your partner know that you are not OK with something looks like. He didn't get angry, he didn't become passive aggressive or started moping like a lot of people do. He also is not afraid at all to put her on the spot (in an adult way), which is unironically alpha as fuck. Watch and learn.
@@funkle2645 The thing that he was able to say this to her and her not being pissed off by it was the most adult and healthy symptoms of their relationship.
Honestly i dont even really think its just gamers that could benefit from this its basically all introverts. But honestly if he didnt advertise towards the gamer demographic he wouldnt be nearly as popular.
@@trippasnippa119 Absolutely. Swap gaming with another activity that is performed alone and is time consuming, like reading/writing books or programming.
@@Theloveinabubble how is he idolizing him "too much"? its pretty amazing to have a harvard degree and be a content creator thats in the gaming community and actually entertaining. LET HIM LIVE HIS LIFE
People in the chat chanting "DIVORCE" don't realise that a lot of couples PAY to LEARN how to have communicate like this in order to strengthen their bond.
4:25 HAHAHA I love this - Dr. K with his cheeky smile: "Your parents loved me before they knew we were dating"... Dr. K clearly thought he was a big man at summer camp and Mrs. K has just shut him down haha F for respects
I love how, when she asked chat for a question, the comments slowed down, and paused at several points, and then the images/emotes turned more girly with a lot of hearts. Meanwhile, with dr k, there was the typical lulz and crap. I love how dr k’s chat changes itself to fit the person in focus. Amazing versatility, and shows they respect the person in question and want to make them comfortable.
Timestamps 00:00 Mrs. K Intro, In-laws, Dealing with parents that disapprove 20:00 Dating and Low Self-Worth 34:40 Are humans supposed to be monogamous 42:20 How do you deal with family problems 48:20 dealing with friendzone 59:45 How to know when to end a relationship 1:10:55 How to feel less like the weak link 1:12:25 How to have an argument with a significant other 1:16:20 how to find people to date 1:20:00 How to find MILFs 1:24:15 PMS mood swings 1:32:10 Different between attachment and love 1:35:00 Autism and relationships 1:39:00 e-dating 1:42:20 Being treated unimportant, emotional connection 1:49:35 What are Red Flags, nice guys 1:55:00 How to keep flame active with Mrs. K 1:59:40 Men/Women always right in a relationship 2:07:11 Coaching spiel, gamers unleashed 2:22:30 Belize vacation 2:30:20 Logotherapy practicalities 2:33:40 Krishna and Radna 2:37:30 How did Mrs. K feel about Dr. K starting on Twitch, retreat/meetup 2:50:00 How to get over someone 2:56:30 Can you love someone without marriage and sex 3:04:19 How to confront conflict in a relationship 3:06:40 Coming to terms with who you are 3:13:20 Moses/French commits to a milestone? 3:14:40 addicted to parasocial relationships 3:24:20 How to stop thinking with your pp 3:30:50 How to deal with an ex who wants to be friends 3:31:30 When did Mrs. K know she would marry Dr. K 3:34:10 Space in a relationship, how to move on from a relationship 3:43:20 Balance relationship between mom and wife 3:46:10 patio furniture vs tandoori debate 3:56:30 how to talk with your crush when you have anxiety
Yeah I didn’t like her take there (it’s kind of a common trope, “fix yourself before you start dating”) but I’ve had 4 relationships and everyone I’ve ever dated has had self esteem issues and so have I. I don’t understand why people give that advice. I’m much less insecure now but my wife has body image issues. So should I just dump her??? lol it’s a wild take it’s like..maybe what you need the most when you feel unlovable is someone to love you and tell you that’s not true
Something that really touched me here is that Doc K said that he probably loved his wife more and rather than being bitter or resentful of the fact, he seemed very proud and it seemed so lovely and healthy
1:29:00 Mrs K said exactly what I was thinking but couldn't out into words, when my ex would have her periods, I wasn't doing more of the general chores and being nice because I felt like I 'had' to 'support' I felt like I was doing those things out of love and the affection was mutual, and after I'd done what needed to be done in our flat, she would just cuddle up to me and we'd watch something together and she would fall asleep on me.
Some of the best relationship advice I’ve gotten was from my girlfriend’s mom. She said men should see PMS as an good opportunity to show their gf/wife that they care and are there to help. I’ll make it smell good in the house or get a hot water bottle ready, etc. Just be nice and ready to help.
PMS is actually not that insanely chaotic as many girls try to make it look like. Not idiotic girls know how to manage it and do not turn into crazy b*tches just because they are on PMS
@@jakejason4333 it affects all women differently you douche xD Some get no cramping and some light spotting, and some are completely debilitated. Who tf are you to tell someone how to react to physical discomfort and pain? Stop treating women like children.
Lába Apád ok i am a woman, and first of all you do need to consider the range of how extreme pms symptoms can be. for me it can be really bad emotionally because i will have a lot of mood swings, but some girls do have it way worse sometimes. but i do know how to manage my emotions sometimes. just treat them how you usually treat them???? like with respect and everything? and if they need a massage or a snack or a little help with something just help me out? it’s not that hard or controversial
Women in general don't make jokes...they expect men to entertain them, including making jokes...women just tend to judge and if their expecations are not met..women critise...hence *unamused*. uh huh...
The problem I have with the argument around 1:12:00 is that Dr. K has an assumption ("my wife is being disrespectful to me") and immediately verbalizes it without trying to analyse himself first (just as he would encourage his patients to do). Even after his wife explains to him that her intention was to clarify that she will not interrupt him anymore, he basically lectures her as if she was a child by telling her how she should talk next time. Feels very icky to me, and reminds me of how my father used to read too much into everything my mom said and feel extremely "ego bruised" in public. It doesn't feel healthy at all, and Mrs. K remained polite and smiled the entire time, but it surely did affect her a lot, even if she didn't (couldn't?) verbalize it. I feel so bad for all the times women are unjustly patronized by men just because of their fragile egos. I wonder why so many people in the comments compliment Dr. K. for the way he handled it. It wasn't his most glorious moment imo.
I agree, what I find maybe the weirdest part in this is her reaction at first was the same I had, which was „lol ok the joke is over, you’re not serious are you?“ which completely torpedoes his later statement that „this is how we always do it, in the moment“. She clearly was put off by it and it didn’t seem like a normal occurrence (which I guess makes it better in the sense that this isn’t the „normal“ way of interaction between them). I really wonder, I’m sure it was Twitch Chat poking fun at him that conjured this up but still, I wouldn’t expect him to be touched in any way by the „alpha beta male“ type shit.. I will also mention that I already thought the „ive already thought a lot about arranged marriages for the kids“ was a weird one too (the kids are/were babies/toddlers after all) and showed that while he’s good at his job he certainly holds some (if you ask me) questionable values.. The video is 3years old but I do certainly look at him differently after seeing that just now
@@ja_u I also suppose (and hope) that this kind of "argument" isn't a common occurence in their marriage... Glad to know I'm not the only one finding it strange!
Agreed. Her saying "go ahead" meant clearly that she agreed that he should give his perspective, there literally isn't anything else that could've been said by her that wouldn't fit into his idea of "giving permission", so much so that when asked what she should've said he couldn't come up with anything. His response felt controlling and manipulative, might even be some sort of male dominance thing, which is honestly super sad. Just picture how ppl would be reacting in the comments if the genders were reversed: if she was the one reacting like that to him saying "Go ahead". Also in 3:50:30 he tells her "she can go ahead in a second", completely hypocritical. Good to see ppl calling the toxicity out.
absolutely love the long pauses they take before saying or agreeing to anything. it's like life pauses for a moment to just think about whats going on. actually thinking before saying and not drawing conclusions so fast. love it. i think meditation and better understanding can help in this.
Yeah right! That blew my mind. Both parties intelligent enough to keep emotions in check and have a disagreement about something and resolve it in a healthy way.
Seeing her lay her head on him is just so damn sweet. This feels really healthy and I feel very happy for them. It is a beautiful thing to witness something soothing and good
She isn't wrong, lok can actually mean a lot of different things relating to setting. For example, paatal lok is similar to hell (it isn't literally hell because religions differ but many religions share the same idea of good and bad and judgement after death with fire and darkness often being associated with bad but alas that doesn't matter here.) Sanskrit Lok relates to "seeing" although seeing can also be perceiving because it is viewing but not necessarily through sight. Now "loka" is plane of existence and so Dr K isn't wrong either. Of course they are both wrong because Alok actually refers to the god Shiva and is usually referring to light or enlightenment which ties back to the Sanskrit etymology of lok and Alok because lok is about seeing and perception which has everything to do with light and Alok is to see usually in context to religion which ties it back to lord Shiva again but also to see also relates to being enlightened so it is clear to see how over time you could reach the definition of enlightenment from to see. What I'm trying to say here is, one the history of words is cool and two, Dr K knew that his correction was unnecessary there and he got called out and that is healthy and normal.
@@dominic9983 They are absolutely not joking. They have been partners for over a decade, and trust each other. His wife was doing something that bothered him and probably didn't realize it was bothering him, so he brought it up to talk about how he felt the way she was talking was disrespectful and felt a little beyond teasing. So they talked for a second about their feelings in front of chat partly because Dr. K knew it would be fine and be resolved quick, and thought it could be nice for chat to see how emotions can be shared when you're feeling them rather than stewing on them.
@@darlantro Dude, if you've ever been in a long-form relationship you know this isn't how people talk to each other. Chat's reaction wasn't from how "adult" the conversation was, maybe Dr K's relationship is the 1% but the vast majority of partners would feel completely patronised, let along humiliated in front of thousands. I understand this is a guy people idolise but most couples can resolve small irritations without having to resort to "You should ask me permission when you want to speak."
@@dominic9983 Hey, come on dude, don't come swinging at me just because their interaction was played up a bit. I turn 38 this year, and I'm happily married 8 years. We just had a very uncomfortable discussion recently about trying for another kid, covering discussion topics like ovulation cycles, fertility clinics, whether I can make enough $ to be sole provider in the high cost of living place we are at, etc etc. Anyhow,... good luck dude. Maybe don't just watch that clip out of context, because leading up to it she was being a bit dismissive and goofing on him some probably out of her own nervousness about how to act in front of chat.
as a fellow brown man, your wisdom and strength as a couple really reminds me of my own parents who I am proud of. I am glad you are getting so much praise and attention because it means more people are able to benefit from your great minds and souls. Bless you both!
43:15 really is. My study abroad experience was me with 14 women. The only other male was a professor. I came at it with a genuine perspective of, I am not going to try and flirt or get with any of these girls or any at the places I went. Instead, I got a tremendous amount of insight into women. I had interesting conversations with a few individually and as groups. I don't have a sister, so I never really got that perspective growing up. Never had long term female friendships because someone always liked the other, so it wouldn't work out. I only have/had the perspectives of women that are relatives, casual friends, casual dating, and long-term relationships. Honestly really glad I did it. Traveling like that was not an experience I can ever replicate.
52:28 Charming is having an aura that oozes desireability on a regular basis. Flirting is actively engaging in behaviour that will increase desire of you in others. You can definitely be charming without flirting, but if your intention is to increase peoples desire in you, then you are flirting!
So many of these relationships where people are broken by broken people. Almost all of them lack mutual respect and somehow the guys and girls have accepted being lied to, cheated multiple times etc. This has it's origins in childhood, invariably. Basically you lacked healthy boundaries which should have been provided by the adults while growing up. This sometimes leads to desperately holding on to shitty relationships. Let's be aware of ourselves to that we don't have to go through that anymore. It starts with awareness.
Holy monkaS. 1:13:30 I don't know if the two of fought about this later but in my experience there would have been a blow up and it looks like you both handled it so perfectly.
I dont agree lol... I think his toxic masculinity showed up there. She literally didnt do ANYTHING, and he let chat get in his head. THis was painful to watch, and I felt she was being gaslit. Also, the "respectful" thing to do, is NOT fucking do this on livestream. Yuck.
I loved how drk just told his wife what he felt like and i would love for drk to show us how we manages to lower that frustration and commnicate with his wife so directly, i feel like for a person that has been bullied like this would help a lot specially since i feel like no one listens to me. (how do i command respect while being angry?
Trust me, this can backfire. His wife could feel attacked in those moments, whereas you just see a clear spoken and assertive dr. K. Especially given that they’re both talking to an audience (i.e. public facing). She might prefer he raise the issue in a more subtle manner. Appropriate communication style varies widely depending on your partner.
TL;DR: I'm going on a classic rant here, but I don't have any other way to express this at the moment. Hope it makes sense and that you might find it helpful. I think that the anger you speak has roots from the past (bullying and self-loathing for not standing up for yourself or w/e), and needs to be properly processed. I was in a similar situation, where I would hold in my thoughts on annoyances or disrespect from other people, until I eventually couldn't hold it in any longer. This without fail resulted in me coming off as aggressive when I did share my thoughts, spreading a lot of bad energy to situations (coming from my initial bad state of mind). So I started to acknowledge my feelings and thoughts the moment they came to me, or as Dr. K would probably call it: I started "catching" my feelings. Instead of burying them I would start to immediately express myself as these feelings would arise, and address my problem verbally to those involved. I didn't give myself time to be eaten up by the emotion, and so by expressing myself right away I didn't come off as aggressive or angry. In addition, doing so comes with another big trade-off: long-term you will be grateful to yourself for being honest, instead of lowering your sense of self-worth every time you decide to not speak your mind. I also think this is a huge part of what commands respect (knowing who you are and what your values are, and not being afraid to show it). This is in a way confidence in a nutshell, and people respect confident people (read: CONFIDENT, NOT ARROGANT). If you have a lot of pent up anger that leads you to say or do certain things, I don't think it's likely at all to be able to command respect, because the foundation (or state of mind) you are coming from is not confident. You can command fear, sure, but being feared is not the same as being respected. I have had bullies whom I feared a great deal, but I haven't for a single second even remotely respected any of them.
You should only do this with ur significant other. They are able to do it because they talked about it before and agreed that this should be how you react if you ever feel the way you do. Everyones different and you should always know how to approach a problem depending on the person not just seeing something that works for other people and expecting it to be able to replicate their results.
airing my discomforts with people is extremely anxiety-inducing to me, I was really concerned when Dr. K was talking to Kruti about interrupting him because it sounded really serious... how do I learn to not take it so severely? I would have shut down in that sort of situation
Maybe I'm in the minority but I think most people would be anxious if their significant other just turned to them and said "I think you're being disrespectful" out of the blue. I skipped around a bit but it seemed somewhat spontaneous and her reaction is evidence of that. She seemed caught off guard! I think most people would like to avoid these kinds of confrontation and they do so by subtly nudging their concern/discomfort first. You say "I don't need your permission to speak!" in a friendly, joking manner. You say "did I interrupt you? You told me to 'go ahead', do you have more to say?". Polite ways to voice your discomfort with someone's action ("Go ahead" in a snarky tone) before needing to turn to them and say "I find that really disrespectful".
@@bikothrifto that's just preference and has to be negotiated with your partner. she's obviously ok with being explicitly called out. it may surprise her or make her uncomfortable in the moment, but that doesn't mean she has any problem with it. being caught by surprise or being slightly uncomfortable is normal and perfectly healthy. I don't think it's necessarily an absolute ideal model, rather just a very clear example of how to communicate very explicitly. in some cases, including this one, it might be more uncomfortable or weird for them to probe like that, as it could be construed as being passive aggressive. also, I think OP is saying anxious as in literal social anxiety, which is its own thing entirely. I don't have any advice for dealing with it, but that anxiety probably doesn't have anything to do with the appropriateness of this confrontation, but rather a general anxiety associated with any confrontation.
the finale at the end was everything about this video in its essence. i love them both so much, and i hope i can love someone as much as they love eachother some day.
@@lacari0805 No. Being charming does not need to carry romantic/sexual intent. Even though others may perceive it as such it does not have that intent. When it does it's flirting,
Happy Thoughts Exactly, charming is completely innocent yet can make someone feel warm inside and special. As soon as you know that that’s the effect your having on someone and starts to be charming to cause that effect, it becomes flirting. When you act charming at a cafe to get the girl to give you a 10% discount you’re flirting
Dr. K, I'm starting to get my life together. I thought of how I could thank you for your content and I think I'll start by picking up my dharma. I hope that knowing the good you're doing will help you to keep pushing forward.
Dr. K this was so good, I loved when you called out your wife for feeling disrespected. That's how you communicate in a relationship, and although it initially freaked out Twitch Chat, it was something that we all need to realize is actually conducive to a healthy relationship. I think that was a really eye opening moment for a lot of us.
I understand Dr. K's point about communicating something as soon as you feel with, but with all due respect to Dr. K, didn't agree with that portion. I believe there is a time and place to have discussions like that, but I also thought it was a bit nitpicky to feel disrespected over semantics when Mrs. K obviously didn't intend to mean what Dr. K was implying.
@@poopmaster1911 I think Mrs. And Mr. K both understood that neither intended disrespect from that little discussion and that's what allows them to do that. Its evident that they are a constantly evolving, improving couple and that the "nitpicking" of behaviors that they feel disrespected helps them feel more comfortable and overall more respected by eachother on both ends.
I feel the same way. Maybe in Dr K’s mind that little section he said to Mrs K wasn’t meant in any kind of disrespect but to me those words mean more lol. Not criticizing him bc I’m assuming he didn’t mean it this way but it felt like a parent correcting their child rather than a conversation by two equals. I can’t put my finger on exactly what it is. Like based on his stream I expected him to handle it all nice and to just explain how it made him feel and they could decide how to proceed. But here he kinda locked on to her and it felt like “Don’t disrespect me in front of my stream. Got it?” Idk maybe I just didn’t expect Dr K to be bothered by a few interruptions. It just feels kind of fake like that’s not how I imagined he would act based on all the advice he’s given us and other people. No disrespect to anyone just my thoughts
@@Nitodvd I agree. He said go ahead several times in the stream. It was clear that the point of this was just to establish his dominance. He should have waited and not lectured her like a child in public. You could tell she felt awkward.
Wow "You are not responsible for someone else's happiness. Happiness comes from inside the individual." hit hard for me. It explains a lot of problems I have had that i couldnt put my finger on how to explain.
Seriously just want a relationship like this. They feel so comfortable around one another, and this is a perfect example of becoming friends before lovers. They know each other so well, and they have so much fun in their little debates. Both are confident in speaking whatever to each other, and they just look so happy to be together.
Hey I've been there. The good thing is self worth can be increased. If you want to increase your self worth, its possible. The first (and maybe hardest) step is deciding you want to change.
1:12:15 this shit isn't healthy in the slightest. She did absolutely nothing wrong and he stops everything to power trip and treat her like a child in front of a bunch of strangers.
@@funkle2645 that's what I thought at first too but then I thought about it. He speaks about a problem that bothered him in the moment instead of later at some point. He also said after that he was affected by chat and that both of them do it this way when something bothers them. It's better than speaking about it later like "do you know the one thing you said to me 5 hours ago"
@@funkle2645 "she did absolutely nothing wrong". She kept interrupting him over and over again while he was in the middle of a thought. He even pointed out that she made him lose his train of thought and she kept doing it. He addressed it exactly how a mature person would.
@@funkle2645 everyone's different, sometimes you need to be confrontational about how you feel immediately otherwise it's more unhealthy to keep things in your head, and unfortunately many people do that. Besides, they way they immediately settled it is a good example and probably did way more good to the people watching than if it was justified or not
@@funkle2645 you'd know what a healthy relationship is like wouldnt you, you fucking lowlife i doubt you've ever even been in a relationship or cared for in the slightest. Embarrassing
Take responsibility for your choices in relationships and tell people how you will improve your relationship with them. Take the focus off of other people in your life and in terms of friends, family, coworkers, and intimate relationships, try to communicate the importance of the others as issues come up. If you can manage their expectations for you rather than focusing on changing the other people in your life, you save space for people to step up and fill those roles. Its unfortunate that we can not immediately understand and compliment changes that others would like to see in us, but if you keep trying to assert your needs and apologize for you shortcomings, they will find you are capable, appreciative, and adaptable. Don't hope that they will change for you, but do your best with the tools you have and they will try to meet you half way. Don't give up! Part of the reason why we get depressed and anxious is because we recognize talent, but have not yet realized for ourselves the recognition for capacities we note in others. Anything you value in another person can inspire you to invite other perspectives. Even when everyone says you don't understand, you always have something more to contribute. You don't have to fight their opinion to inspire them, just ask yourself what you saw in them and show them. I've had arguments with people I love dearly, but at the end of the day, all we want is to have built something beautiful together. You belong. I'm proud of you.
I love that they had that disagreement it’s a great example of how couples should deal with hinderances in their relationship in a mature and respectful way.
To extend your answer on charming vs flirting(at least in my own terms), I think you can argue that being charming uses subtext that's closer to hyperbole(ie you're seeking to flatter someone in a way that's exaggerated in an obvious way which can therefore be perceived as endearing but not connoting an inappropriate intention) whereas flirting seeks to suggest just a tiny bit more than what is said(which can then convey something in a way that's somehow suggestive of a further engagement or interest without being too candid, the surreptitious nature thereof creating the notion of the unspoken thing being somehow more intimate).
@@braxinIV no the word candid. I understand the difference between flirt and charm just other words like surreptitious and other shit I faze out and would rather have a more down to earth "in the Queen's english" use of words
Watching lilypichu's vid with Dr. K is what got me into it. This has to be the most helpful stuff I've watched. I feel more understood just listening to Dr. K. Thanks so much for all this content. Very wholesome. :)
hmmmm that giving permission talk around 1:12:00 ... I dont know if I liked his assesment. he told her not to say go ahead because it involved giving permission.... but then he told her to ask for permission to speak? isnt that just shifting who is giving who permission?
About relationships and self worth (o more like without it): From experience, I had shit self worth and the reason of it was the loneliness and how hard it is to find friends that are genuinely are interested in you. Years upon years I was depressed, suicidal, basically uninterested in live after so many years of failure. Because of that I gained 20+ kg which, I thought, also contributed to my loneliness (I thought I was disgusting to others). At some point I tried finding some friends online instead (3 years ago) and found some but most importantly I found a guy that I fell in love with and he supported me throughout everything, so many times crying and explaining my hurt. He always supported and loved me nonetheless. In about 6 months or so I started cheering up and actually started looking at the mirror and I saw an attractive girl, I started seeing my worth. 3 years after, I moved to his country and now I am the happiest I have ever been in my life, working on losing the weight I gained (20 kg left to go :D) and just enjoying the moment. I really agree with Dr. K. opinion, you can support them through tough times but it's all up to them to actually improve. but please people, give them a chance. You can potentially change somebodies life completely!!
I love to watch the dynamic between those two. It's so obvious that Mrs. K is able to counter Dr. K's reasoning in a very healthy and powerful way. Sometimes it's even uncomfortable for Dr. K to be put on the spot like that, and to have to face his own biases and arrogance and that seems exactly why he loves her. This is something to look for in a relationship : someone who sees you for what you are, good and bad. Someone who can make you so much better by revealing your weaknesses in a healthy and non-confrontational way.
Thank you for having a small but honest conversation about a behaviour that as bugging you. I think a lot of us (or at least myself) don't or didn't have examples of having that kind of healthy communication about a hurt to model after so it's nice to see how someone could bring up something like that without it being a huge deal that ruins each others' day.
1:12:25 Dr. K bringing up feeling disrespected by Mrs. K; that honestly surprised me, because up until that point, I had been a bit surprised at how disrespectful I thought Dr. K was being _to_ Mrs. K. There were at least 3 times up until that point at which i though, "dude, let her finish, she's barely even halfway through her point." Not saying the disrespect he felt was invalid, just from my point of view, she has more reason to feel that way. Especially since bringing up that kind of sensitive topic is a bit underhanded when the stream knows and trusts Dr. K, and is only getting to know Mrs. K. Like sure, maybe he's modeling how to broach those topics, but imo this isn't a good medium for that. edit for formatting
And then the chat responds with things like CHAD and ALPHA. It was an alpha chad move, but is that really what Dr. K wants people to emulate? idk. This was disappointing.
@@davidnishikawa2293 i thought i was the only one, some things came off as kinda condescending or like he was kind of writing off her opinion in some ways??? idk maybe I just don't know what healthy communication looks like but I literally felt my heart drop
Agreed. Her saying "go ahead" meant clearly that she agreed that he should give his perspective, there literally isn't anything else that could've been said by her that wouldn't fit into his idea of "giving permission", so much so that when asked what she should've said he couldn't come up with anything. His response felt controlling and manipulative, might even be some sort of male dominance thing, which is honestly super sad. Just picture how ppl would be reacting if the genders were reversed: if she was the one reacting like that to him saying "Go ahead". Also in 3:50:30 he tells her "she can go ahead in a second", completely hypocritical.
Wow I've been talking to this girl for a while now and when u guys were talking about the whole self worth thing it really rang true to me. She makes me feel great and i really feel like I've gotten her to find worth in herself alot more
Building a life together and having fun aren't the only two options for a long term relationship. Our society makes it difficult to build a life with more then one other person. Doesn't mean we're "meant" to do that, that's its impossible or that it's rooted in our biology. Not only do the wannabe-naturalistic comparisons not hold up, even history shows us examples of non-monogamy being the norm in some societies. And remember, history is already filtered a lot through the lens of the ones recording it. We now have the amazing opportunity of everyone being able to be independent of each other, so no one has to be in a relationship they don't like (ideally, of course, many people still do, of course). And that gives us a lot of freedom to roam and explore what is right for us. And others do have to at least try to respect and understand it, because no one has to stay together. Some people are happy with monogamy, but seeing as many people break the rules of monogamy, it is apparant that there are people, who aren't fulfilled by that system. We're, of course, still just starting to accept that non-monogamy can be ethical and doesn't have to be cheating. We're just exploring the rules of how to do it in a way that is respectful and fulfilling for everyone involved. We lack exploration of this concept in art and media. Compared to that the concept of the love between two people is pretty much explored back and forth innumerable times, in all it healthy and unhealthy, glorious and disastrous aspects. We've seen and absorbed that knowledge unwittingly all our lives. Sure, there are hiccups and all, but still most people have an idea of how a monogamous relationship has to work. But then again, do we as a society know what relationships are about? Just in 1987 in the German parliament the mostly male audience laughed at the notion of marital s. abuse. People who never married were shunned and living together before marriage - an absolutely normal thing in first world countries today - was a reason to ostrazise people. And I don't even have to start talking about how single parents (and their children) were treated or the criminalisation of anything outside of heterosexual norms. I don't think that people being unhappy in non-monogamous relationships is very surprising as of now. It's not widely accepted, so people have to hide it in many environments. The rules are unclear, so people get hurt. Societies institutions are either for singles or couples, so in many situations - for example, who makes medical decisions on your behalf if you yourself can't - again two people are bound to each other by law. But we, as societies and humans, are changing all the time and learning to be respectful of concepts that we may not incorporate ourselves. Yes, right now non-monogamy is rather difficult, but I think in the future it will be just one of many options.
man, not only is she beautiful and gorgeous but she's also a strong person who is intelligent asf and knows what she wants in life and out of life. Great video, good to see you expanding on your normal content.
I had very low self worth and was very depressed. I was addicted to drugs and had just met a girl who was out of rehab. We’ve been together for 4 years and she’s the reason I love myself now. I always had the self worth somewhere but I didn’t care about myself. Now that I have her I WANT to care about myself. I could see how a person could easily continue living the way I was which would’ve hurt whoever they were dating. If I didn’t get off the drugs she would’ve either relapsed or left me.
Watching through this whole thing almost a year later and I absolutely love these two people. You are amazing. And all the people who donated and contributed! Shoutout to Moses, as well :) Love you both, you're what inspired me to build my own community and try to offer support for people. I remind them that we aren't doctors and where they can seek help, but the nerd community is stronger together!
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dr. k can I get a chance to talk with you? im 30 years old and have no future no friends and family and am just so depressed and lonely.no gf.
Places with tablecloths just don't have that authenticity.
I think that charming is being flirty in a non compulsive/involuntary way like being fun and yourself, but Liking is more like being charming with intent to have something with someone !
3:50:10 Get him to an autism/ADHD specialist and get him tested. Between that and the hyperfocus on the tandoor, and the excessive empathy (actual autistic people insist that it's overwhelming and paralyzing) I'm very sus of him being neurodivergent. Doesn't change anything about him, just a possible explanation.
"Will you marry me?"
"Can I just think for a second?"
I pretty much had that conversation. More about dating than marriage. But it went something like:
"I like you. So how do you feel about that?"
"The last time someone said that, I couldn't really respond for like 10min."
"OK, you can take time to think about it."
Then she gave me like 3 days, when 10min would have sufficed, but eh.
@@caejones2792 so what did she say lol
@@kimutone2970 We will never know, also I'm pretty sure the girl said "I like you" to the guy and he needed time to think
@@spicytee133probably he needed 3 months to think about it before giving an answer
@caejones2792 Clearly you were not interested in her romantically. There is no person on this planet who shares someone's romantic interest and will bluff like that (that they need to think. You know if you are attracted straight away) Unless they are a psychopaty of some kind and like to waste their time playing like that with people they are not attracted to.
Haha, I already feel sorry for future boyfriends :D
Daughter K: "Papa, I like X"
Dr. K: "Interesting. Let's think about that."
@From Maui and also beat him up irl
X: hi father k, it's nice to meet you
Dr. K: It IS nice to meet me? IS, you see that? You're stating things in absolutes, this is what we're trying to avoid, X
X: ... i play lacrosse :)
Is it okey for me to think for a seacond? - Daughter: No.
@Narskii That sounds like a win for them tbh. Teenage boys got a lot of fucked up going on up there.
"I'm gonna drink some water..."
Dr K and Mrs K: **Have slight disagreement**
Chat: DIVORCE
"ALREADY FIGHTING monkaS "
I lost my shit during the stream when Mrs K said something like “the kids don’t like it when mum and dad fight” 😂
this moment was wow
>snubbing his wife in front of thousands of people
>slight disagreement
GongsunXin its actually a sign of a really healthy functioning couple that he was able to call her out on interrupting him and disrespecting him. She was doing it too much, and he called it at the right point. The fact that twitch chat was freaking out I think, not to judge, shows that a lot of them do not know how to function in a relationship without just trying to constantly please other person despite your own feelings
To nobody's surprise Dr. K's wife is absolutely stunning. What a chad.
Theyre both great looking
Theyre gonna make beautiful gamer babies
@@chases7896 whaaat dr k is short , weird nose no beard no muscles
@@snaddle6428 oh no ! Not att all!!!
@@justvibin338 They've already made them, and that is correct
that guy in chat spamming "marry her" lmao
Weirdly sounds like it is you
@@erikzetterlund6997 ?
Guilty
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@@tboistakenvods1175 ye we all know it you bro
i love how no matter how calm a stream is, the chat is always like full caps, LULs, MonkaS's, acting like what's happening is the craziest shit,
that's why you don't read chat
Heyyyy peach pit
That’s why I’ve been saying forever that twitch chat everywhere would be the best shit lmao like going to the movies and just seeing twitch chat react to everything would be great.
@@jaytothelu POGGERS, WHO KILLED DUMBLEDORE??? Lol that'd be great my guy!
I loved the guy who in the beginning typed LORE PogU when Mrs. K was talking about the beginning of their relationship.
"Given his grades." My man. He did it by sheer will and persistence.
im so proud
A man of sheer fucking will,I respect that
Yea he got rejected from medical school hundreds of times, literally. I forget the number.
Hi drakesden. How's the battlefield content going my man?
lol drakesden
While they were having their disagreement I felt a lot of anxiety, but it was quickly resolved and everything was ok actually. I was raised to believe that having disagreements always have to lead to fights and be bad so I’m glad you guys showed what a healthy discussion looks like.
This should be an example thst disagreements or arguments with couples CAN BE HEALTHY. It's actually a giant red flag if you DONT HAVE ARGUMENTS
@@jamesgentry13 yeah man, I have a friend who is always upset about the behavior of his gf, but he only lets the steam off while talking to me. He doesn't let her know what he feels and that will ruin them.
@@jamesgentry13yeah having zero arguments means that either one party or both parties just doesn’t care enough to change anything
@@jamesgentry13 that was not an argument whatsoever. It was just him acting like her dad and disciplining her. He literally does the same thing which makes you think he believes he is better than his wife and she needs to submit to his plans and views
@@ja_u Dr.K said both of them communicate like that, that’s why Mrs.K didn’t find it weird or scary. And he also asked her if she felt disrespected later on. It wasn’t a discussion, but it wasn’t an attempt for disciplining her either. It was just him communicating his feelings and setting healthy boundaries.
I looooove that Dr. K always says "Lets wrap this up" then proceeds to talk for another 30-45 minutes
I think that's kind of how wrapping up should go, especially when it's a 4 hour stream
This is what a healthy relationship looks like.
a healthy relationship also need fights every now and then. Dont believe they never had a fight
@@Erik3E they never said they never fight lol . they literally said they fight a lot all the time . Did you even watch the whole thing ?
@@dThapa966 no I commented at the start of the video. I just wanted to make it clear that a healthy relationship isent going to be all perfect and no fights. Because that can be an unhealthy relationship
@@Erik3E wow you're smart I never knew that
@@Erik3E Its true, if you aren't willing to argue in a relationship with your partner it could mean that you guys dont even want to prove that you still care are are passionate.
"No, go ahead, let me disagree with you *thoroughly* " that's a real partner
Favorite line of the stream. Haha
Dude laughed Out LOUD to that one
I actually can't express how happy I am to know that there are people out there like Dr. and Mrs. K. And I also can't even discribe how happy I am *for* those people, for the fact that they have found such a fitting partner for themselfes, or rather that they manage to be such a fitting partner to someone. May all those people live a long and beautiful life full of happines and joy! I hope I'll find my other half one day as well!
I personally dislike the idea of "fitting." If you want to be successful with someone else, it has less to do with compatibility and more to do with determination and a mutual willingness to put the other first.
@@MrDrumStikz what u said. Like they were saying, one of you has to be the shoulder to lean on at some point, what alot of people don't realize is they might have needed it long before you guys ever met. So try n help them out to the best of ur abilities. But this takes alot of self building before you can become this person
@@MrDrumStikz I mean you could say that when there IS mutual willingness and determination from both ends, thats when the couple is fitting, no?
@@Emerald081 "Fitting" is passive. Actually making a relationship work is waking up every morning and deciding it will work. Hence, I just think the word "fit" invokes an unhealthy notion of what makes a relationship work.
@@MrDrumStikz I get where you are coming from, people for sure have a tendency of idealizing their partner or believing that eventually their soulmate comes along and stuff like that. Yes, it can invoke an unhealthy mindset. But regardless of that, personally there are significantly more girls, even phisically attractive ones who I just honestly cant imagine having a relationship with. Or I just dont really want to. So in that sense I still think "fitting", or finding the right person absolutely makes sense. Its more of a spectrum imo, and the other extreme would be when 2 people stick together in a toxic relationship for way more than they should. That happens too.
Your approach basically implies that I could just literally ask out a random girl on the street and with hard work it would for sure work out. I dont think so, I still think that compatibility is a thing. At least for me, it is.
They've been together for that long and they still interact like a newly formed couple who is totally in love. They are too cute.
1:12:15 watch this part and tell me everything looks fine lmao
@@funkle2645 what are you talking about? I couldn't imagine a better way to handle that than the way he did. This is exactly what a healthy way of letting your partner know that you are not OK with something looks like. He didn't get angry, he didn't become passive aggressive or started moping like a lot of people do. He also is not afraid at all to put her on the spot (in an adult way), which is unironically alpha as fuck. Watch and learn.
@@funkle2645 the fuck are you on about?
@@funkle2645 The thing that he was able to say this to her and her not being pissed off by it was the most adult and healthy symptoms of their relationship.
@@funkle2645 something so simple like that most females would start a fight off that.
I just found his channel, the fact he's putting his time in helping gamers therapy wise....AND HE HAS A Harvard DEGREE....he's amazing
Honestly i dont even really think its just gamers that could benefit from this its basically all introverts. But honestly if he didnt advertise towards the gamer demographic he wouldnt be nearly as popular.
yessir
@@trippasnippa119 Absolutely. Swap gaming with another activity that is performed alone and is time consuming, like reading/writing books or programming.
Chill out with the "harvard degree" dude, you're idolizing him too much
@@Theloveinabubble how is he idolizing him "too much"? its pretty amazing to have a harvard degree and be a content creator thats in the gaming community and actually entertaining.
LET HIM LIVE HIS LIFE
People in the chat chanting "DIVORCE" don't realise that a lot of couples PAY to LEARN how to have communicate like this in order to strengthen their bond.
Cheer up m8
4:25 HAHAHA I love this - Dr. K with his cheeky smile: "Your parents loved me before they knew we were dating"... Dr. K clearly thought he was a big man at summer camp and Mrs. K has just shut him down haha
F for respects
lmaoooo
That's funny af 😂😂
hahahaho so true! whos the narcissist now Dr. K! XD
Mrs. K recognizing chat is optimal content.
Hotel Motel
I love how, when she asked chat for a question, the comments slowed down, and paused at several points, and then the images/emotes turned more girly with a lot of hearts. Meanwhile, with dr k, there was the typical lulz and crap. I love how dr k’s chat changes itself to fit the person in focus. Amazing versatility, and shows they respect the person in question and want to make them comfortable.
@@witchhunter7652 what does that mean lmao he was saying that too
@@khyati7733 there’s a stereotype of immigrant Patels running hotels and motels in the states
Not just a steriotype
Destiny got destroyed in this debate.
BEYTA
I fucking love Jesse Lee Peterson dude, funniest man on the internet
@Jack Definitely not garbage, he just has a boomer mindset and is very stubborn. I don't think he's a bad person.
@Jack "garbage human being" - things BETAS say. Are you literally shaking rn?
@@dickbison Good one dude you definitely showed him
She seriously don´t look like 35. Happy for them. Best wishes
fr they both look like college students
azn jeans
She does. And 35 is not that old
I'm Indian and she's auntie
@@alexander-jl6cs she's not auntie... She's way gorgeous than any gf you're gotta get in future
Timestamps
00:00 Mrs. K Intro, In-laws, Dealing with parents that disapprove
20:00 Dating and Low Self-Worth
34:40 Are humans supposed to be monogamous
42:20 How do you deal with family problems
48:20 dealing with friendzone
59:45 How to know when to end a relationship
1:10:55 How to feel less like the weak link
1:12:25 How to have an argument with a significant other
1:16:20 how to find people to date
1:20:00 How to find MILFs
1:24:15 PMS mood swings
1:32:10 Different between attachment and love
1:35:00 Autism and relationships
1:39:00 e-dating
1:42:20 Being treated unimportant, emotional connection
1:49:35 What are Red Flags, nice guys
1:55:00 How to keep flame active with Mrs. K
1:59:40 Men/Women always right in a relationship
2:07:11 Coaching spiel, gamers unleashed
2:22:30 Belize vacation
2:30:20 Logotherapy practicalities
2:33:40 Krishna and Radna
2:37:30 How did Mrs. K feel about Dr. K starting on Twitch, retreat/meetup
2:50:00 How to get over someone
2:56:30 Can you love someone without marriage and sex
3:04:19 How to confront conflict in a relationship
3:06:40 Coming to terms with who you are
3:13:20 Moses/French commits to a milestone?
3:14:40 addicted to parasocial relationships
3:24:20 How to stop thinking with your pp
3:30:50 How to deal with an ex who wants to be friends
3:31:30 When did Mrs. K know she would marry Dr. K
3:34:10 Space in a relationship, how to move on from a relationship
3:43:20 Balance relationship between mom and wife
3:46:10 patio furniture vs tandoori debate
3:56:30 how to talk with your crush when you have anxiety
!!! Timestamps !!!
1:44:18 holy shit this is legit my situation almost exactly, thank you for the advice
Flirting is with intent to elicit a reaction and charming is a passive ability. Great stream! You guys are relationship GOALS
2:44:18 overthinking and scaring off girls
You should do a meet up in Europe as half your viewer base is there
"Don't date until you're brimming with confidence"
*year 2057- humanity is coming to an end*
Yeah I didn’t like her take there (it’s kind of a common trope, “fix yourself before you start dating”) but I’ve had 4 relationships and everyone I’ve ever dated has had self esteem issues and so have I. I don’t understand why people give that advice. I’m much less insecure now but my wife has body image issues. So should I just dump her??? lol it’s a wild take it’s like..maybe what you need the most when you feel unlovable is someone to love you and tell you that’s not true
@@awsambdaman
To not have toxic relationships bud
This stream was a gold mine.
Agreed.
Agreed.
The drunken stream was better
Something that really touched me here is that Doc K said that he probably loved his wife more and rather than being bitter or resentful of the fact, he seemed very proud and it seemed so lovely and healthy
The way she looks at Dr. K.
W H O L E S O M E
find you a girl that looks at you the same way you look at bacon
Where does she look at him like that? Which timestamp?
Dr.K is doing an amazing job , his contribution to the mental health perception in the twitch community has been immensely positive .
Im not even on twitch but here i am anyway cause nowhere do you see live therapy, lol
I'm still looking for that other place to add to this ine
"Once my parents knew that I was confide-"
"hehe it's the colour of urine"
😂
Comedy in action I couldnt stop laughing. That type of dumb humor between well educated couples is so wholesome to watch.
Timestamp?
@@phil7081 3:22
1:29:00 Mrs K said exactly what I was thinking but couldn't out into words, when my ex would have her periods, I wasn't doing more of the general chores and being nice because I felt like I 'had' to 'support' I felt like I was doing those things out of love and the affection was mutual, and after I'd done what needed to be done in our flat, she would just cuddle up to me and we'd watch something together and she would fall asleep on me.
Yo their little thing about disrespect honestly freaked me out LMAOOO
right? i was so scared tf
17 years? How old are these people wtf. They both look late 20s
She is 35 I think but I actually don't know how old Alok is.
its called moisturizer. i promise it helps.
that's because they have a healthy relationship
@@mojolotz lmao
Dr. K doesn't look late 20s IMO lol.
Some of the best relationship advice I’ve gotten was from my girlfriend’s mom. She said men should see PMS as an good opportunity to show their gf/wife that they care and are there to help. I’ll make it smell good in the house or get a hot water bottle ready, etc. Just be nice and ready to help.
PMS is actually not that insanely chaotic as many girls try to make it look like. Not idiotic girls know how to manage it and do not turn into crazy b*tches just because they are on PMS
@@jakejason4333 it affects all women differently you douche xD
Some get no cramping and some light spotting, and some are completely debilitated. Who tf are you to tell someone how to react to physical discomfort and pain? Stop treating women like children.
@@SallionMang that is exactly what im doin, treating them like adults instead of little crying children like you
Lába Apád ok i am a woman, and first of all you do need to consider the range of how extreme pms symptoms can be. for me it can be really bad emotionally because i will have a lot of mood swings, but some girls do have it way worse sometimes. but i do know how to manage my emotions sometimes. just treat them how you usually treat them???? like with respect and everything? and if they need a massage or a snack or a little help with something just help me out? it’s not that hard or controversial
Lába Apád also don’t call women idiotic. you have no idea what women go through.
Dr K *thinking he's hilarious*: hotelmotel
Mrs K *unamused*: uh huh...
WHEN?
@@christinechang780 8:50
Rohan Iyer THANK YOU
Women in general don't make jokes...they expect men to entertain them, including making jokes...women just tend to judge and if their expecations are not met..women critise...hence *unamused*. uh huh...
@SweetPotatoFries You know exactly WTF I am talking about...
The problem I have with the argument around 1:12:00 is that Dr. K has an assumption ("my wife is being disrespectful to me") and immediately verbalizes it without trying to analyse himself first (just as he would encourage his patients to do). Even after his wife explains to him that her intention was to clarify that she will not interrupt him anymore, he basically lectures her as if she was a child by telling her how she should talk next time. Feels very icky to me, and reminds me of how my father used to read too much into everything my mom said and feel extremely "ego bruised" in public. It doesn't feel healthy at all, and Mrs. K remained polite and smiled the entire time, but it surely did affect her a lot, even if she didn't (couldn't?) verbalize it. I feel so bad for all the times women are unjustly patronized by men just because of their fragile egos. I wonder why so many people in the comments compliment Dr. K. for the way he handled it. It wasn't his most glorious moment imo.
I agree, what I find maybe the weirdest part in this is her reaction at first was the same I had, which was „lol ok the joke is over, you’re not serious are you?“ which completely torpedoes his later statement that „this is how we always do it, in the moment“. She clearly was put off by it and it didn’t seem like a normal occurrence (which I guess makes it better in the sense that this isn’t the „normal“ way of interaction between them).
I really wonder, I’m sure it was Twitch Chat poking fun at him that conjured this up but still, I wouldn’t expect him to be touched in any way by the „alpha beta male“ type shit..
I will also mention that I already thought the „ive already thought a lot about arranged marriages for the kids“ was a weird one too (the kids are/were babies/toddlers after all) and showed that while he’s good at his job he certainly holds some (if you ask me) questionable values..
The video is 3years old but I do certainly look at him differently after seeing that just now
@@ja_u I also suppose (and hope) that this kind of "argument" isn't a common occurence in their marriage... Glad to know I'm not the only one finding it strange!
Agreed. Her saying "go ahead" meant clearly that she agreed that he should give his perspective, there literally isn't anything else that could've been said by her that wouldn't fit into his idea of "giving permission", so much so that when asked what she should've said he couldn't come up with anything. His response felt controlling and manipulative, might even be some sort of male dominance thing, which is honestly super sad. Just picture how ppl would be reacting in the comments if the genders were reversed: if she was the one reacting like that to him saying "Go ahead". Also in 3:50:30 he tells her "she can go ahead in a second", completely hypocritical. Good to see ppl calling the toxicity out.
absolutely love the long pauses they take before saying or agreeing to anything. it's like life pauses for a moment to just think about whats going on. actually thinking before saying and not drawing conclusions so fast. love it. i think meditation and better understanding can help in this.
1:12:00 was the most adult disagreement i have ever witnessed in my life. I wish to achieve such maturity.
Yeah right! That blew my mind. Both parties intelligent enough to keep emotions in check and have a disagreement about something and resolve it in a healthy way.
i wish my parents could reach that maturity and theyre in their 60s ffs
To me it would have been more mature to do this privately.
i was shaking
I would have died and not opened my mouth again. Even if what he's saying is true
Seeing her lay her head on him is just so damn sweet. This feels really healthy and I feel very happy for them. It is a beautiful thing to witness something soothing and good
1:24:03 My favourite quote/interaction -
"Alok means 'this world' "
Dr K's correction - "This plane of existence"
"Whatever" 😂😂😂
She isn't wrong, lok can actually mean a lot of different things relating to setting. For example, paatal lok is similar to hell (it isn't literally hell because religions differ but many religions share the same idea of good and bad and judgement after death with fire and darkness often being associated with bad but alas that doesn't matter here.) Sanskrit Lok relates to "seeing" although seeing can also be perceiving because it is viewing but not necessarily through sight. Now "loka" is plane of existence and so Dr K isn't wrong either. Of course they are both wrong because Alok actually refers to the god Shiva and is usually referring to light or enlightenment which ties back to the Sanskrit etymology of lok and Alok because lok is about seeing and perception which has everything to do with light and Alok is to see usually in context to religion which ties it back to lord Shiva again but also to see also relates to being enlightened so it is clear to see how over time you could reach the definition of enlightenment from to see. What I'm trying to say here is, one the history of words is cool and two, Dr K knew that his correction was unnecessary there and he got called out and that is healthy and normal.
@@hj2479 "whatever"
@@conor7187 you are hilarious
😂😂😂😂
@@sloop4440 whatever
1:12:00 is pretty fun. Chat flipping out with the realness of this super-adult conversation is awesome. "mom dad I'm scared"
I’m tearing my hair out trying to work out whether they’re joking or not. Like it’s really fucking weird otherwise
@@dominic9983 They are absolutely not joking. They have been partners for over a decade, and trust each other. His wife was doing something that bothered him and probably didn't realize it was bothering him, so he brought it up to talk about how he felt the way she was talking was disrespectful and felt a little beyond teasing. So they talked for a second about their feelings in front of chat partly because Dr. K knew it would be fine and be resolved quick, and thought it could be nice for chat to see how emotions can be shared when you're feeling them rather than stewing on them.
@@darlantro Dude, if you've ever been in a long-form relationship you know this isn't how people talk to each other. Chat's reaction wasn't from how "adult" the conversation was, maybe Dr K's relationship is the 1% but the vast majority of partners would feel completely patronised, let along humiliated in front of thousands. I understand this is a guy people idolise but most couples can resolve small irritations without having to resort to "You should ask me permission when you want to speak."
@@dominic9983 Hey, come on dude, don't come swinging at me just because their interaction was played up a bit. I turn 38 this year, and I'm happily married 8 years. We just had a very uncomfortable discussion recently about trying for another kid, covering discussion topics like ovulation cycles, fertility clinics, whether I can make enough $ to be sole provider in the high cost of living place we are at, etc etc. Anyhow,... good luck dude. Maybe don't just watch that clip out of context, because leading up to it she was being a bit dismissive and goofing on him some probably out of her own nervousness about how to act in front of chat.
@@dominic9983 he literally said "im serious" and you were wondering if he was joking?
as a fellow brown man, your wisdom and strength as a couple really reminds me of my own parents who I am proud of. I am glad you are getting so much praise and attention because it means more people are able to benefit from your great minds and souls. Bless you both!
fellow brown man lmao
@@caralho5237what now
"weve been together 17 years so since 2003" stop reminding me how old i am D:
43:15 really is. My study abroad experience was me with 14 women. The only other male was a professor. I came at it with a genuine perspective of, I am not going to try and flirt or get with any of these girls or any at the places I went. Instead, I got a tremendous amount of insight into women. I had interesting conversations with a few individually and as groups. I don't have a sister, so I never really got that perspective growing up. Never had long term female friendships because someone always liked the other, so it wouldn't work out. I only have/had the perspectives of women that are relatives, casual friends, casual dating, and long-term relationships. Honestly really glad I did it. Traveling like that was not an experience I can ever replicate.
You can tell in a lot of comments that people didn't hang out with women as you can see from their reactions to this: 1:12:15
52:28
Charming is having an aura that oozes desireability on a regular basis.
Flirting is actively engaging in behaviour that will increase desire of you in others.
You can definitely be charming without flirting, but if your intention is to increase peoples desire in you, then you are flirting!
I just love how calmly they handled disagreements.
So many of these relationships where people are broken by broken people. Almost all of them lack mutual respect and somehow the guys and girls have accepted being lied to, cheated multiple times etc. This has it's origins in childhood, invariably. Basically you lacked healthy boundaries which should have been provided by the adults while growing up. This sometimes leads to desperately holding on to shitty relationships. Let's be aware of ourselves to that we don't have to go through that anymore. It starts with awareness.
Holy monkaS. 1:13:30 I don't know if the two of fought about this later but in my experience there would have been a blow up and it looks like you both handled it so perfectly.
BigBad my brain fucking froze
@@hichtwo this girls too lol. she didnt realize what was going on
I knooow right. I felt so uncomfortable
I dont agree lol... I think his toxic masculinity showed up there.
She literally didnt do ANYTHING, and he let chat get in his head.
THis was painful to watch, and I felt she was being gaslit.
Also, the "respectful" thing to do, is NOT fucking do this on livestream. Yuck.
@@SilverishKitten yea lol any man having any shred of self respect is toxic, got it
I loved how drk just told his wife what he felt like and i would love for drk to show us how we manages to lower that frustration and commnicate with his wife so directly, i feel like for a person that has been bullied like this would help a lot specially since i feel like no one listens to me. (how do i command respect while being angry?
Yeah I’d love to find out the other side as well.. how can someone put the other person at ease
I've had the same thoughts recently. I relate a lot.
Trust me, this can backfire. His wife could feel attacked in those moments, whereas you just see a clear spoken and assertive dr. K. Especially given that they’re both talking to an audience (i.e. public facing). She might prefer he raise the issue in a more subtle manner.
Appropriate communication style varies widely depending on your partner.
TL;DR: I'm going on a classic rant here, but I don't have any other way to express this at the moment. Hope it makes sense and that you might find it helpful.
I think that the anger you speak has roots from the past (bullying and self-loathing for not standing up for yourself or w/e), and needs to be properly processed. I was in a similar situation, where I would hold in my thoughts on annoyances or disrespect from other people, until I eventually couldn't hold it in any longer. This without fail resulted in me coming off as aggressive when I did share my thoughts, spreading a lot of bad energy to situations (coming from my initial bad state of mind).
So I started to acknowledge my feelings and thoughts the moment they came to me, or as Dr. K would probably call it: I started "catching" my feelings. Instead of burying them I would start to immediately express myself as these feelings would arise, and address my problem verbally to those involved. I didn't give myself time to be eaten up by the emotion, and so by expressing myself right away I didn't come off as aggressive or angry. In addition, doing so comes with another big trade-off: long-term you will be grateful to yourself for being honest, instead of lowering your sense of self-worth every time you decide to not speak your mind.
I also think this is a huge part of what commands respect (knowing who you are and what your values are, and not being afraid to show it). This is in a way confidence in a nutshell, and people respect confident people (read: CONFIDENT, NOT ARROGANT). If you have a lot of pent up anger that leads you to say or do certain things, I don't think it's likely at all to be able to command respect, because the foundation (or state of mind) you are coming from is not confident. You can command fear, sure, but being feared is not the same as being respected. I have had bullies whom I feared a great deal, but I haven't for a single second even remotely respected any of them.
You should only do this with ur significant other. They are able to do it because they talked about it before and agreed that this should be how you react if you ever feel the way you do. Everyones different and you should always know how to approach a problem depending on the person not just seeing something that works for other people and expecting it to be able to replicate their results.
airing my discomforts with people is extremely anxiety-inducing to me, I was really concerned when Dr. K was talking to Kruti about interrupting him because it sounded really serious... how do I learn to not take it so severely? I would have shut down in that sort of situation
Same - I take things to heart way too much
Maybe I'm in the minority but I think most people would be anxious if their significant other just turned to them and said "I think you're being disrespectful" out of the blue. I skipped around a bit but it seemed somewhat spontaneous and her reaction is evidence of that. She seemed caught off guard! I think most people would like to avoid these kinds of confrontation and they do so by subtly nudging their concern/discomfort first. You say "I don't need your permission to speak!" in a friendly, joking manner. You say "did I interrupt you? You told me to 'go ahead', do you have more to say?". Polite ways to voice your discomfort with someone's action ("Go ahead" in a snarky tone) before needing to turn to them and say "I find that really disrespectful".
@@bikothrifto that's just preference and has to be negotiated with your partner. she's obviously ok with being explicitly called out. it may surprise her or make her uncomfortable in the moment, but that doesn't mean she has any problem with it. being caught by surprise or being slightly uncomfortable is normal and perfectly healthy. I don't think it's necessarily an absolute ideal model, rather just a very clear example of how to communicate very explicitly. in some cases, including this one, it might be more uncomfortable or weird for them to probe like that, as it could be construed as being passive aggressive. also, I think OP is saying anxious as in literal social anxiety, which is its own thing entirely. I don't have any advice for dealing with it, but that anxiety probably doesn't have anything to do with the appropriateness of this confrontation, but rather a general anxiety associated with any confrontation.
Is there a timestamp for this?
@@jildert. 1:12:00
Dr "ok lets think about this for a second" K
I don’t know if I’ve ever seen 2 people so perfect for each other before.
Faith in love restored.
That look Dr K gives the cam when she says she's the happiest married person she knows
the finale at the end was everything about this video in its essence. i love them both so much, and i hope i can love someone as much as they love eachother some day.
1:09:07 Look at chat's reaction when Mrs. K acknowledges them and says they're funny
They're both so articulate. How wonderful
This is the longest video I have ever actively watched on UA-cam
"I think it freaks the kids out when mom and dad fight"
Mrs K: *talks about how she met Dr K*
Chat: LORE
Flirting is with romantic/sexual intent. Charming can be without said intents.
Charming has the effect of flirting without you having to do anything
So much flirting in this stream
@@lacari0805 No. Being charming does not need to carry romantic/sexual intent. Even though others may perceive it as such it does not have that intent. When it does it's flirting,
Happy Thoughts Exactly, charming is completely innocent yet can make someone feel warm inside and special. As soon as you know that that’s the effect your having on someone and starts to be charming to cause that effect, it becomes flirting. When you act charming at a cafe to get the girl to give you a 10% discount you’re flirting
@@lacari0805 Agreed. However I believe we have to make a distinction for natural charm and people's misinterpretation of it.
Dr. K, I'm starting to get my life together. I thought of how I could thank you for your content and I think I'll start by picking up my dharma. I hope that knowing the good you're doing will help you to keep pushing forward.
He needs to bring her on stream way more often
Dr. K this was so good, I loved when you called out your wife for feeling disrespected. That's how you communicate in a relationship, and although it initially freaked out Twitch Chat, it was something that we all need to realize is actually conducive to a healthy relationship. I think that was a really eye opening moment for a lot of us.
I understand Dr. K's point about communicating something as soon as you feel with, but with all due respect to Dr. K, didn't agree with that portion. I believe there is a time and place to have discussions like that, but I also thought it was a bit nitpicky to feel disrespected over semantics when Mrs. K obviously didn't intend to mean what Dr. K was implying.
@@poopmaster1911 I think Mrs. And Mr. K both understood that neither intended disrespect from that little discussion and that's what allows them to do that.
Its evident that they are a constantly evolving, improving couple and that the "nitpicking" of behaviors that they feel disrespected helps them feel more comfortable and overall more respected by eachother on both ends.
I feel the same way. Maybe in Dr K’s mind that little section he said to Mrs K wasn’t meant in any kind of disrespect but to me those words mean more lol. Not criticizing him bc I’m assuming he didn’t mean it this way but it felt like a parent correcting their child rather than a conversation by two equals. I can’t put my finger on exactly what it is. Like based on his stream I expected him to handle it all nice and to just explain how it made him feel and they could decide how to proceed. But here he kinda locked on to her and it felt like “Don’t disrespect me in front of my stream. Got it?” Idk maybe I just didn’t expect Dr K to be bothered by a few interruptions. It just feels kind of fake like that’s not how I imagined he would act based on all the advice he’s given us and other people. No disrespect to anyone just my thoughts
Twitch chat will break anyone even Dr k he underestimated them they will trigger u it's just a matter of time.....
@@Nitodvd I agree. He said go ahead several times in the stream. It was clear that the point of this was just to establish his dominance. He should have waited and not lectured her like a child in public. You could tell she felt awkward.
people in chat typing "Pegging" during the keeping the flame segment had me dying
Wow
"You are not responsible for someone else's happiness. Happiness comes from inside the individual." hit hard for me. It explains a lot of problems I have had that i couldnt put my finger on how to explain.
i just love their dynamic. now wonder they’ve been together for 17 years
Seriously just want a relationship like this. They feel so comfortable around one another, and this is a perfect example of becoming friends before lovers. They know each other so well, and they have so much fun in their little debates. Both are confident in speaking whatever to each other, and they just look so happy to be together.
You'll never be like that because you dont have the insight to be this way to begin with, you are a flawed being, you will never acheive this
A great time to be alive where a resource like this can exist
Chat was so immature but this was a really fun episode.
I was there for this and this was the greatest drunk stream ever
The twitch notification woke me up at like 5am and listened to most of the stream half awake half asleep, was amazing
Who was drunk?
"don't date someone who has low selfworth" WELP I'll be alone forever
welcome to the club!
Hey I've been there. The good thing is self worth can be increased. If you want to increase your self worth, its possible. The first (and maybe hardest) step is deciding you want to change.
fix yoself den man you can do it
this is bait
not what she meant. if youre aware of your low selfworth, at least try to avoid codependancy, making use of your knowlegde
Never seen such a healthy relationship in my life, I love it
1:12:15 this shit isn't healthy in the slightest. She did absolutely nothing wrong and he stops everything to power trip and treat her like a child in front of a bunch of strangers.
@@funkle2645 that's what I thought at first too but then I thought about it. He speaks about a problem that bothered him in the moment instead of later at some point. He also said after that he was affected by chat and that both of them do it this way when something bothers them. It's better than speaking about it later like "do you know the one thing you said to me 5 hours ago"
@@funkle2645 "she did absolutely nothing wrong". She kept interrupting him over and over again while he was in the middle of a thought. He even pointed out that she made him lose his train of thought and she kept doing it. He addressed it exactly how a mature person would.
@@funkle2645 everyone's different, sometimes you need to be confrontational about how you feel immediately otherwise it's more unhealthy to keep things in your head, and unfortunately many people do that. Besides, they way they immediately settled it is a good example and probably did way more good to the people watching than if it was justified or not
@@funkle2645 you'd know what a healthy relationship is like wouldnt you, you fucking lowlife i doubt you've ever even been in a relationship or cared for in the slightest.
Embarrassing
Take responsibility for your choices in relationships and tell people how you will improve your relationship with them.
Take the focus off of other people in your life and in terms of friends, family, coworkers, and intimate relationships, try to communicate the importance of the others as issues come up.
If you can manage their expectations for you rather than focusing on changing the other people in your life, you save space for people to step up and fill those roles.
Its unfortunate that we can not immediately understand and compliment changes that others would like to see in us, but if you keep trying to assert your needs and apologize for you shortcomings, they will find you are capable, appreciative, and adaptable.
Don't hope that they will change for you, but do your best with the tools you have and they will try to meet you half way.
Don't give up! Part of the reason why we get depressed and anxious is because we recognize talent, but have not yet realized for ourselves the recognition for capacities we note in others. Anything you value in another person can inspire you to invite other perspectives.
Even when everyone says you don't understand, you always have something more to contribute. You don't have to fight their opinion to inspire them, just ask yourself what you saw in them and show them.
I've had arguments with people I love dearly, but at the end of the day, all we want is to have built something beautiful together.
You belong. I'm proud of you.
I always wondered what Mrs. K’s personality was like, and it’s very compatible with Dr. K.
This was great. Didn't find myself questioning the authenticity of the stories, emotions, laughs, disagreements etc. Wholesome as heck. Loved this.
I learned A LOT about what a healthy monogamous relationship is. Thank you 🙏
I love that they had that disagreement it’s a great example of how couples should deal with hinderances in their relationship in a mature and respectful way.
"I think it freaks the kids out when mom and dad fight" Lmao it's true.
To extend your answer on charming vs flirting(at least in my own terms), I think you can argue that being charming uses subtext that's closer to hyperbole(ie you're seeking to flatter someone in a way that's exaggerated in an obvious way which can therefore be perceived as endearing but not connoting an inappropriate intention) whereas flirting seeks to suggest just a tiny bit more than what is said(which can then convey something in a way that's somehow suggestive of a further engagement or interest without being too candid, the surreptitious nature thereof creating the notion of the unspoken thing being somehow more intimate).
I need a dictionary but I see what you mean
Blue basically, flirting is when you’re trying, charming is when you’re not.
@@braxinIV no the word candid. I understand the difference between flirt and charm just other words like surreptitious and other shit I faze out and would rather have a more down to earth "in the Queen's english" use of words
@@Blue-mr7fei read down to earth as clown to earth and honestly that made me bust a gut 😂
@@eline7214 💀
Appreciate for a second that this video is part of our reality. Mankind did create something this cool. F'ing awesome.
emotional intelligence comes with complicated emotional conversations. thanks guys for being an example of healthy vulnerability!
Watching lilypichu's vid with Dr. K is what got me into it. This has to be the most helpful stuff I've watched. I feel more understood just listening to Dr. K. Thanks so much for all this content. Very wholesome. :)
hmmmm that giving permission talk around 1:12:00
... I dont know if I liked his assesment. he told her not to say go ahead because it involved giving permission.... but then he told her to ask for permission to speak? isnt that just shifting who is giving who permission?
I also didn't like it...
Me neither his demeanor completely changed..
I stumbled across this guy’s UA-cam channel, and I love watching/listening to him. Thanks Dr.K!
It's cute how just by calling each other by name you're kinda saying "you're my world" and "you're my universe/existence"
About relationships and self worth (o more like without it): From experience, I had shit self worth and the reason of it was the loneliness and how hard it is to find friends that are genuinely are interested in you. Years upon years I was depressed, suicidal, basically uninterested in live after so many years of failure. Because of that I gained 20+ kg which, I thought, also contributed to my loneliness (I thought I was disgusting to others). At some point I tried finding some friends online instead (3 years ago) and found some but most importantly I found a guy that I fell in love with and he supported me throughout everything, so many times crying and explaining my hurt. He always supported and loved me nonetheless.
In about 6 months or so I started cheering up and actually started looking at the mirror and I saw an attractive girl, I started seeing my worth. 3 years after, I moved to his country and now I am the happiest I have ever been in my life, working on losing the weight I gained (20 kg left to go :D) and just enjoying the moment.
I really agree with Dr. K. opinion, you can support them through tough times but it's all up to them to actually improve. but please people, give them a chance. You can potentially change somebodies life completely!!
This could have been written by me :) I have a similar story. Super proud of you for doing better and being happy ❤️
I love to watch the dynamic between those two. It's so obvious that Mrs. K is able to counter Dr. K's reasoning in a very healthy and powerful way.
Sometimes it's even uncomfortable for Dr. K to be put on the spot like that, and to have to face his own biases and arrogance and that seems exactly why he loves her.
This is something to look for in a relationship : someone who sees you for what you are, good and bad. Someone who can make you so much better by revealing your weaknesses in a healthy and non-confrontational way.
Thank you for having a small but honest conversation about a behaviour that as bugging you. I think a lot of us (or at least myself) don't or didn't have examples of having that kind of healthy communication about a hurt to model after so it's nice to see how someone could bring up something like that without it being a huge deal that ruins each others' day.
honestly, what a god send this channel is to twitch. much appreciated!
I think flirting requires effort, being charming is something that comes naturally
1:12:25 Dr. K bringing up feeling disrespected by Mrs. K; that honestly surprised me, because up until that point, I had been a bit surprised at how disrespectful I thought Dr. K was being _to_ Mrs. K. There were at least 3 times up until that point at which i though, "dude, let her finish, she's barely even halfway through her point."
Not saying the disrespect he felt was invalid, just from my point of view, she has more reason to feel that way. Especially since bringing up that kind of sensitive topic is a bit underhanded when the stream knows and trusts Dr. K, and is only getting to know Mrs. K. Like sure, maybe he's modeling how to broach those topics, but imo this isn't a good medium for that.
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And then the chat responds with things like CHAD and ALPHA. It was an alpha chad move, but is that really what Dr. K wants people to emulate? idk. This was disappointing.
@@davidnishikawa2293 i thought i was the only one, some things came off as kinda condescending or like he was kind of writing off her opinion in some ways??? idk maybe I just don't know what healthy communication looks like but I literally felt my heart drop
@@davidnishikawa2293 "Alpha" males are so exhausting with their fragile ego and all
Agreed. Her saying "go ahead" meant clearly that she agreed that he should give his perspective, there literally isn't anything else that could've been said by her that wouldn't fit into his idea of "giving permission", so much so that when asked what she should've said he couldn't come up with anything. His response felt controlling and manipulative, might even be some sort of male dominance thing, which is honestly super sad. Just picture how ppl would be reacting if the genders were reversed: if she was the one reacting like that to him saying "Go ahead". Also in 3:50:30 he tells her "she can go ahead in a second", completely hypocritical.
Can i just say that you and your partner are honestly just relationship goals its really nice seeing people in love
I officially fell in love with doctor K. He has mastered the art of communication.
Wow I've been talking to this girl for a while now and when u guys were talking about the whole self worth thing it really rang true to me. She makes me feel great and i really feel like I've gotten her to find worth in herself alot more
“WAAAAAH”
😂🤣 Will take this concept as official relationship advice thank you very much
The self-worth chat hit me so hard in the feels. I really needed it.
Building a life together and having fun aren't the only two options for a long term relationship.
Our society makes it difficult to build a life with more then one other person. Doesn't mean we're "meant" to do that, that's its impossible or that it's rooted in our biology. Not only do the wannabe-naturalistic comparisons not hold up, even history shows us examples of non-monogamy being the norm in some societies. And remember, history is already filtered a lot through the lens of the ones recording it.
We now have the amazing opportunity of everyone being able to be independent of each other, so no one has to be in a relationship they don't like (ideally, of course, many people still do, of course). And that gives us a lot of freedom to roam and explore what is right for us. And others do have to at least try to respect and understand it, because no one has to stay together.
Some people are happy with monogamy, but seeing as many people break the rules of monogamy, it is apparant that there are people, who aren't fulfilled by that system.
We're, of course, still just starting to accept that non-monogamy can be ethical and doesn't have to be cheating. We're just exploring the rules of how to do it in a way that is respectful and fulfilling for everyone involved. We lack exploration of this concept in art and media.
Compared to that the concept of the love between two people is pretty much explored back and forth innumerable times, in all it healthy and unhealthy, glorious and disastrous aspects. We've seen and absorbed that knowledge unwittingly all our lives.
Sure, there are hiccups and all, but still most people have an idea of how a monogamous relationship has to work.
But then again, do we as a society know what relationships are about?
Just in 1987 in the German parliament the mostly male audience laughed at the notion of marital s. abuse. People who never married were shunned and living together before marriage - an absolutely normal thing in first world countries today - was a reason to ostrazise people. And I don't even have to start talking about how single parents (and their children) were treated or the criminalisation of anything outside of heterosexual norms.
I don't think that people being unhappy in non-monogamous relationships is very surprising as of now. It's not widely accepted, so people have to hide it in many environments. The rules are unclear, so people get hurt. Societies institutions are either for singles or couples, so in many situations - for example, who makes medical decisions on your behalf if you yourself can't - again two people are bound to each other by law.
But we, as societies and humans, are changing all the time and learning to be respectful of concepts that we may not incorporate ourselves. Yes, right now non-monogamy is rather difficult, but I think in the future it will be just one of many options.
28:40 Love this. I feel this is true and so many people get hung up on being equal.
Your wife is so beautiful, inside and out.
@john doe LOOL
@john doe I know right.
lmao
wait what
that could be taken so wrong my god
man, not only is she beautiful and gorgeous but she's also a strong person who is intelligent asf and knows what she wants in life and out of life. Great video, good to see you expanding on your normal content.
I’m sorry I was not ready for 1:12:38 like that took for me a whole whirl I’ve never seen confrontation put out in that complete of a way ahhhhhg
I had very low self worth and was very depressed. I was addicted to drugs and had just met a girl who was out of rehab. We’ve been together for 4 years and she’s the reason I love myself now.
I always had the self worth somewhere but I didn’t care about myself. Now that I have her I WANT to care about myself.
I could see how a person could easily continue living the way I was which would’ve hurt whoever they were dating.
If I didn’t get off the drugs she would’ve either relapsed or left me.
Watching through this whole thing almost a year later and I absolutely love these two people. You are amazing. And all the people who donated and contributed! Shoutout to Moses, as well :) Love you both, you're what inspired me to build my own community and try to offer support for people. I remind them that we aren't doctors and where they can seek help, but the nerd community is stronger together!