tiktok treats disabled people horribly
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
- This week Ben dives headfirst into the topic of TikTok's systematic efforts to deplatform people living with disabilities. After seeing some disheartening videos on the app and researching the issue Ben is ready to bring attention to this important issue and discuss what needs to change.
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The phrase "We need to bring back bullying" pisses me off so bad because like NO WE DON'T???
These are the former bullies who cant move on from the fact that we decided that bullying is OBJECTIVELY BAD! And only leads to more problems than it would "solve" as these idiots would put it
The people who say that are just upset the anybody can have their own interests and passions instead of catering to their specific tastes.
They say that because of delirious people that haven’t had a reality check, not because of disabled/disorderly people. In reality the better future would be one without bullying but with more rational thought
@@infrences No, they say that because of people they find “weird” (people who have different interests from them they don’t try to understand)
as a neurodivergent person who has been terribly bullied in the past, i say "bring back bullying" ALL THE TIMEEE. however, i only ever use it to refer to harmful or hateful people who should have their ego checked a little bit, not just disabled or divergent kids enjoying their lives. idk, that's just my perspective on the phrase
i genuinely hate how tiktok normalised bullying even more
Fr tho
fr, and I swear kids are just more aggressive at my school than they were even just a year ago
So is yt shorts I literally get recommended anti-furry shorts when I'm against it. Like being an anti furry serves 0 point in society, your just bullying people over a hobby. Hell I even saw them saying that a furry that killed himself deserves it and good. I hope those kids get karma.
@@Kewl_Cartman Yes! Those kid's parents didn't give them enough attention
@@Kewl_Cartman people believe being a furry is a coverup for being a zoophile, that's why they bully them relentlessly
It disturbs me that people call disabled people “Ohioans” And “Only in ohio” It is so gross, people shouldn’t meme disabled people. Gross 🤮 🤢
the Ohio meme is just getting repetitive unfunny and kinda boring now :\ it was funny the first time but not now...
@@sc4rlet_32 omg Fr im so tired of it those people with their stupid „only in Ohio😂”
@@badgh0st159 seriously its been months
Nah cause I sit there and I’m like im literally Australian like…
@Monika Soap it's almost as if they're killing the joke.
My brother is 18 and autistic and has been bullied so many times throughout his whole life during school. He would beg every morning to not go. The school was notified about it and they did NOTHING. They straight up told my mom that “he needs to grow thicker skin” and “bullying is a part of life”. He is also allergic to many things and has sensory issues, and kids knew that, so they took it upon themselves to throw a bag of Cheetos in his face (he is deathly allergic to dairy) and my mom wanted to press charges because that’s basically attempted murder. And you know what the school did? Nothing. It makes me sick to my stomach that people think it’s okay to do this shit. I am so sorry if anyone has ever experienced this type of situation. My heart goes out to you ❤️
im so sorry your brother had to deal with all of that, i hope hes doing amazing now :) my little brother has autism aswell, its so sad seeing other people and children like my brother being bullied. no matter if you have a disability or not everyone is the same.
Man that’s fucked up im sorry that happened to him
As a autistic person, This is horrible, How could you bully someone like that
@The Artist well, if he was deathly allergic
@The Artist they probably mean attempted second degree murder
In my school, people call others "disabled", or "down syndrome" when they do something that they don't like, looks stupid to them, or even casually randomly. Not ok
Wowwww…
Same. People call me “The Creature” because I’m autistic??😭😭😭
apparently people call others “caseoh” (the streamer) just because they do something or literally eat no matter how much/what they eat
@@TonyTheTigerManChildwait why would people call you that. people at my school also call people “autists” ????
@@y0yle_st4rz..27 caseoh either eats alot or is just buff.
the amount of normalized ableism has made me ashamed to be autistic and im still trying to be find confidence to be myself and love myself.
same
You shouldn’t be ashamed, someday you will be able to take in pride of yourself to be proud of who you are
I wish you good luck and love along the way soldier
I grew up ashamed of being autistic as well. Whenever I’d be called to the special ed room, I felt immense shame. But, it’s not something that I can change. Autism makes me different and that’s okay. I still really struggle with self-hatred due to being disabled, but I’ve been able to somewhat accept myself. I know how hard it is to be ashamed of something you can’t change. I hope you find a way to accept and love yourself. Have an amazing day!
My OLD best friend now made fun of my autism, everyone is defending her saying she wouldn’t do something like that because she seems innocent. Nobody cares, not even my teacher. My headteacher does though. I only have two remaining friends (one autistic) so now I know my true friends.
Genuinely, I’m autistic and so is my best friend we’ve noticed as soon as autistic ppl join a trend it becomes “cringe” and it’s so upsetting
fr. thats so sad, like how is it even cringe
i'm also autistic, with an autistic best friend and yeah definitely seen as cringe a lot because when people think of autism they think of those people who are self diagnosed on tiktok.
Same. I was diagnosed with autism a few years ago and it makes me sad how normalized it is to bully people off of it
@@GaiaisPupz unrelated but your name is amazing 😂
@@grielauryn Fr- I’m also autistic btw!! ( I’m made of gold titanium sulfur titanium and carbon! )
It’s actually so weird how people normalize BULLYING. !!!!!!! It’s sick and it makes me so angry
Exactly. It seems like bullying has become a normal part of society & it’s awful
yea like why would you bully someone at the first time?? I really don't get it
@@an0606 exactly. Especially with my generation bullying is just something people try to defend now
@@addy-r8z it’s a serious topic ??
@@emmyoftheweek i know
People who use the "bring back bullying" phrase have clearly like never been bullied.
I feel like sometimes they have, but have developed bad coping mechanisms and "moved on" from the bullying by deciding it was a good thing that they deserved or needed to "change for the better" and therefore thinking it should happen to other people. It's kinda like the whole hurt people hurt people thing.
They’re thinking they’ll always be the ones inforcing the bullying, they wouldnt be saying that if they thought it would turn against them
They think bullying is “girl humble yourself” instead of severe psychological damage.
People who say that are much weaker than the people who actually got bullied.
Yeah. I haven't myself, but I know people who have, and bullying is free to LEAVE.
In schools and social media platforms there are people throwing around slurs of all meanings, mostly because people think its 'based' to be ableist, sexist, homophobic and more, it's simply disgusting.
Your the only truly based person
^
They think they're based, but in reality they're simply insecure and they project their insecurities on people different than them. These people need to be educated and get a therapist.
Yeah like it's so annoying to see people be bigoted and be considered "Based" for it, it's so annoying that I'm starting to hate the word based
if accepting peoples differences is considered cringe then i dont wanna be based
I came across a LITERAL INFANT that was disabled and so many comments were hating on an INFANT because he was disabled it is actually so sad
pathetic
Not a disabled infant, but I saw people just bullying some random infant born in 2024... For being born in 2024. Like, wth‽‽‽‽‽
@@C0rner_Dweller are you talking about the “Lil bro was born in 2024😭🙏” video?
@@Soundwave-115 Yeah.
@@C0rner_Dweller I think that's just a harmless joke 😭 people do it with baby animals too like "my phone is older than bro 💀🙏"
There are a LOT of people in my classes that say ableist things and use slurs. They make disgusting comments about down syndrome and autism. I have ASD and these same people make comments about me for no reason. I'm just like you and there's nothing wrong with me or my brain! Keep in mind that these people are on TikTok. If they act like this in real life, I cannot imagine what they're like online.
@Bella J it legally is, but the term disability also doubles as a personal identity for people who legally have those conditions. In terms of what you call yourself really comes down to how you feel about the term disabled. In terms of legal definition, yes.
at my school u could literally do nothing to anyone, never talk, and barely express yourself and ur weird. just bc of autism. like we’re not even that different from you guys.
@Bella J That depends on what you're considering disability. If it's that autism is a "disorder" or can have negative implications in daily life,then yes. At the same time,when people are given accommodations that consistently benefit them,it's similar to pointing out that all people with prescription glasses are visually impaired.
It's a choice based on an individual's situation/personal perception
@@icedqq no it means special ed
@@icedqq not generally but it can be used in a derogatory way. Another thing to consider is that the majority of disabled people find the term special needs offensive, as it’s euphemistic in nature and further perpetuates the expectation that disables are inherently taboo. There’s some articles you can find on google if you wanna know more!
As a disabled person, seeing the title made me really happy ❤️ thank you so much Ben for addressing it
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@@lzzy ❤️❤️❤️
Yo, I hope you have a wonderful day, and I wish you the best
@@HappyLynn thank you so much and I wish the same to you 💓 all the best
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another thing that ive noticed recently is the term “SPED”. me and and friend are both ASD (autism spectrum disorder) and people at our school just love to call us that. or whenever one of their friends is doing something “stupid” or “weird” they say things like “that was so sped” or something along the lines of that. I recently found out that it means “special education”. so people are basically calling people with ASD like us who are in the special education class “stupid” or “weird”. it’s disgusting and way too normalized. But everything you said in this video is so true, its terrible 😐
i fucking hate it when people use the term “sped” like stfu youre not funny, and its from an average andrew tate fan. its so overused and its not even funny
GOD thank you for mentioning this. I’ve been hearing my friends use the term CONSTANTLY and it’s so infuriating!
dude it's all around my school and I hate it. I'm in a more advanced math, and whenever one of the kids in front of me dislikes or thinks that the work we're dong is boring, he'll say something along the lines of 'this is so sped" I want to fucking scream at him to stop saying it, that's how much I hate it. I swear he says it every class, along with the other kids saying it too.
I remember when I used to think "Sped" was a way of calling someone a junkie. I honestly kinda wish I still thought that 😅
@@JewelWildmoon I THOUGHT IT MEANT I WAS SPEEDY AKSJAKCJXJSCKAJDJ
Ikr I think we all need to take a breath and step back and realise that the online world is a cruel dark place that picks on people’s insecurities and disabilities, like a parasite they sink under your skin and get inside your mind and break you down until it’s too late and then you realise u went thru all that just because of a disability
Underrated
fr, they get bullied over something they didn’t choose to have smh 🤦🏽♀️ it’s truly sad because my dad has aspergers and some of my mom’s side of the family dislike him because they think he’s “odd”, particularly one of my aunts. It upsets me because he’s a cool and caring father and he’s very smart.
@@69throatdestroyer69 dont use the word aspergers, it was made by a nazi and is an outdated harmful word, just autism or asd is fine
PERFECTLY describes how I feel about the TikTok platform as a whole. It really took a toll on my confidence 😢 but I’m doing a’lot better now, since I deleted the toxic app.
the real world is like that too
THANK YOU!! i am disabled, i also have a service dog. the things that have been said to me online are insane. ive been told i just need to work out and i dont need my dog, i need to eat better (my own dr said that), someone irl in a store said out loud "thats not a service dog" even though i need him to keep me safe, my own mother said im not disabled, etc. etc. im going to the outer banks this year and im probably going to need a wheelchair. but im afraid my mom will say i dont need one bc i can walk. (most wheelchair users are part time) i have POTS, hasimotos, hypermobility, and ive had back problems sence i was 5. (thats just a small portion of my disabilities) basically ill be so wore out i wont be able to enjoy my vacation if i dont use a wheelchair.
I have spinal cord injury (paraplegia) which is why I use a WC but i also have hEDS (assuming this is what ur referring to) & I can confidently say- don’t be ashamed to use a WC even if ur ambulatory. Whatever helps you is totally fine. 🔥❤️
I relate so much. I have POTS and AMPS which makes me be the medical child since forever. I am also adhd, autsitic, and among other things
I hope everything turns out well! Your mom needs to wise up and support you.
@@cheesecake2048 she has, she's a lot better now. it's just hard on her bc i was able to do things like everyone else, but now im not. and i can see how that can effect your parent)s like this
@@ChaseTheServiceMutt I'm glad to hear that and I'm glad your mom got her character development!! wishing you the best
Thank you for talking about this!! i’m disabled, and it’s honestly quite rare to see non-disabled people pointing out the horrible amounts of ableism online. Things like the paralympics account can be such a touchy issue too, because those kinds of jokes are fine so long as *we’re the ones making them*. I joke about my disability all the time! but if a stranger makes a degrading joke about me walking with a cane? that would make me VERY uncomfortable, because they don’t know me or my situation, and i don’t know them or their intentions. silencing disabled people is not the answer, LISTENING to us is.
Agreed. I think what aspect you are joking about matters too. For example, I honestly found the “bop it” joke kinda funny because they aren’t making fun of the disabled person.
I also found that people who are disabled (like myself mentally) make different jokes to those who aren't, and those who aren't are usually more degrading
@@Mx.muffinYeah, bc they're ignorant.
The Paralympics thing is awful.
Not taking their accomplishments seriously or with even a shred of the respect able-bodied people get when, if anything, they should be given even more respect for being capable of feats more grand than anything that was expected of them.
The treatment of disabled people, whether visible or nonvisible is so gross to me.
I see my sister, whose Amblyopia (the more proper term for a 'lazy eye') is ridiculed even by those related to us. She says "sorry" when her eye drifts, and feels bad about it. Her physical difference is something she feels the need to apologize for and it breaks my heart. I cannot fathom the pain others with more distinct differences must go through simply to feel comfortable existing.
I see autistic people like myself being treated as overgrown children who need to be "put in their place". People act like I don't have a brain, since it functions differently from theirs, (to which I'd argue that my brain is better anyway, because I'm not an ableist jerkass who can't accept that the existance of a percieved majority doesn't set the baseline for how humanity "should be".)
It makes me more than just sad, it makes me so angry. Bullying is nasty and needs to die out.
Honestly agree on the better brain thing 🤭 idk about you, but despite sensory issues causing so many problems, I feel like I get an experience with music and nature others don’t. I can hear more birds and crickets that other people don’t even notice sometimes. Nature isn’t usually too loud either. Idk how to describe it lol.
Not trying to justify bullying autists, but sometimes they can sound very blunt and rude (even if they don't mean to be). Most people do not know the intricacies of autistic traits and will interpret it as rude, cuasing them to lash out against the autist.
@@Schizohandlers what I will say is, personally, I get telling someone that they sound rude or stuff like that - even if it’s done rudely (because, from their perspective, someone’s just been unnecessarily rude to them). But, a lot of the bullying of autistic people isn’t about bluntness or rudeness, a lot of the time it’s because of things like stimming (particularly vocal stims and more obvious physical stims like hand flapping), or special interests, or just a sense that there’s something *different* about the person.
Like, while there are plenty of rude autistic people (both intentionally and unintentionally), I vividly remember back when I was like 12 and newly diagnosed, my school did an autism awareness day. For the rest of the week people would over and over again just get in people’s faces say “shutdown or meltdown!! Shutdown or meltdown!!” in this annoying baby voice. I remember being terrified that it would happen to me and I’d accidentally yell in someone’s face over it. Sure, that wasn’t me being bullied, but it was an example of kids being taught about autism and immediately using it to mock people.
@@RedBanana_Chris chan has damaged autistic people's reputation.
my little brother has down syndrome. he’s pretty young, only in 5th grade and he is treated fairly well at his school. they keep him in the special ed room most of the day though and don’t really have him around other kids, but from what i can tell the other kids treat him as an equal and it makes me so happy. however, i’m scared it won’t be like that once he advances to bigger schools that it won’t be like that as much. we had to move him from his old elementary school because the paras (the aids for the special needs classroom) were horrible. they didn’t make sure he was fed and they wouldn’t actually teach him. it was like they thought he was brain dead and couldn’t think or feel any emotion. Needless to say, yes, people treat anyone with some form of disability badly.
i agree, my little brother who has autism is in 1st grade and luckily hes in a classroom with other children just like him but i want him to experience being around other people too, but what scares me like you said, is when he advances to higher grades. im so sorry, ppl are so cruel
@@oliviamaldonado6157 i know!! it’s so sad that we have to worry. i wish people were just better :(
It’s UA-cam too. I was on the shorts fed and this girl was deaf and she was speaking but her voice wasn’t like fully understandable and I looked at the comments and it broke my heart and everyone in the comments was making fun of her and using slurs and the next day her comments we’re turned off and then a couple of days of ago she took it down bc of the hate. It breaks my heart how people are so cruel to people and disabled people too
UA-cam shorts is just toxiw
@@embroideredragdoll not as toxic honestly tho
@@embroideredragdollReels is 10x worse imo
ben is probably the most honest person i'm aware of.
fr 😭
agreed, he's such an ethical youtuber i love it
Fr
you are like a boomer emo arent u
FR
As a mentally disabled person I am very happy that I’m on UA-cam and not seeing any people like this. It’s just so sad to see people just living and being made fun of
Same :)
\(•w•)/ *Here is a hug* \(•w•)/
*hugs*
If you search deep enough you can find some really nasty content and comments (mostly on YT shorts wich is hilarious because it's a direct copy of TikTok) but thank god you actually have to conciously dig between content to find it, not like other platforms were it appears immediately in your face.
Agreed
I get bullied a lot because I have strong prescriptions that make my eyes look huge and I have a lazy eye and my mom has said to me when I told her to not make fun of me that it was "a part of my life" that I just had to deal with.
I think that kids should be introduced to a variety of people in media so that they don't grow up bullying people who look "strange" or "different"
Bullying is not a necessary part of life, an the people who say it is need to seriously rethink their lives, because they may not see it, but it has a great impact on someone's mental health and self esteem.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. If someone is getting made fun of it's never something that should be normalized at all (also our last names twin ❤)
5:22 The Paralympics and Olympics ARE NOT AFFILIATED!!! They are separate and make it very clear. The Paralympics ban Olympic logos at their events because they are so salty.
salty about what
@@sysyteplus2622 Salty that people think that the Olypmics run the Paralympics on the side/as an extra competition
@@ohgodohgodhelp6152 yeah i guess they have a right to be mad over that
hey! im a physically disabled person (70% deaf & partially wheelchair bound because of connective tissue disorder), and this means the entire world to me that someone is finally speaking out about the horrific ableism on tiktok, thank you so so so much ❤️
Ben is actually funny and relevant while still standing up for people with disabilities- A lot of people on UA-cam and tiktok make jokes about sexuality, disabilities etc because that ‘humour’ is what gets them their views. Thank you Ben
i hate the way tiktok treats people with disabilities. it’s influencing people in the real world too. so many people in my school use the r slur regularly and make fun of the students who are visually impaired and autistic and it is so normalized. it makes me feel sick. our generation is supposed to be “woke” but this is just disgusting.
Shit like tiktok has genuinely brought us back like 20 years in terms of bullying
“we need to bring back bullying” & theyve never been ostracized. never been excluded for having the audacity to exist as yourself. never alone.
As someone who is disabled myself, I bet there are at least 2 people watching Ben that have bullied someone for being disabled. It is so common it's not even funny. I was literally told I should've died back in school after being hit by a truck & losing all feeling in one of my legs (I am also mentally disabled & I was hit cause I wanted to end it because of bullying). They made fun of me for failing.
Luckily high school came around & the new high school I went to alongside my glow up really helped. I was able to have a friend group & now I have a boyfriend I am still with even after high school.
But bullying is literally the worst.
That’s fucking horrible holy sh, :(
2 is very low tbh
@@mrpickles-hb6zx that's why I said there's at least 2 people. There's clearly more but I don't have an actual number for that
that's horrible, im so sorry and i hope you're doing better mentally
I’m autistic, and when I got diagnosed I didn’t want to tell anyone because I didn’t want to be treated differently. I refused help in school, as to not draw attention, I never told any of my friends and just went on as I usually did. But over the course of the next five or six years, I burnt myself out and couldn’t do anything anymore without exhausting myself. I was burnt out at 15, and it probably could have been avoided if I accepted help, and I would have probably accepted help if I didn’t think I would get picked on for it. There’s so many different consequences from ableism, and it’s just so sad that it’s still so common.
As a disabled teen, thank you for raising awareness. It means so much ❤
Just enable yourself
@@mr.poopybuttholebuttbutt6034 wdym by that😭
SAMEEE
A girl in my middle school, an ex-friend of mine actually, used to bully a boy with special needs and tried to justify it by saying that her sister is autistic so “its okay”.
why is a lack of empathy so normalized. its so disgusting.
YOUR PFP 😭
@@miayoung8679 everyone always says that
I’m disabled (deaf) and my “friend” said the r word and I said”please don’t say that” and she literally said “oh, ur one of those people” like bro, you have no place and no right to say that word
howd u hear them say that
@@maki2755 is that a genuine question or are you joking? If u are joking, seriously, get a life.
@FreshyKanal207shut up
I’m autistic and in about fifth grade I was at the water park with my “friend” at the time, and she started making degrading jokes about autistic people, not knowing I’m autistic, and I had to explain to her that I have autism and how rude saying things like that is, the worst part is that isn’t even the only way she was toxic towards me and it got worse after I explained that I have autism :’)
@@iamobsessedwithshadowsight that’s terrible, i hope you’re not friends with her any more
I once saw a youtuber called Pegasus make fun of a autistic girl for stimming in one of his videos, the treatment of disabled people inside and outside the internet is disgusting and needs to stop.
I wouldn't expect any less from people like Pegasus or any "This video will make you cringe" videos.
@@WendyShuhua "cringe" and its a autistic person doing literally anything
@@WendyShuhua me who used to watch Pegasus, thinking he was normal and not a dipshit: 😐
@@ratticusmaximus3710 samee
@@WendyShuhuareal cringe comps are just people enjoying themselves, kids, unconventional ppl, and people who arent kardashians ugh
This is exactly why I want tiktok to be banned. I am autistic and *HIGHLY OFFENDED* by ableism. Bullying someone with a disability, whether it being a learning or a physical disability, will make me vote for ANY ban against a platform if it was a choice to ban said platform.
youd be banning every single platform in existence then. ableism is inescapable. and the law thats gonna get tiktok banned also has horrific implications for privacy and security - people will get jailed for using vpns
tiktok has a horrible algorithm and users but if the law to ban tiktok gets accepted they can ban ANY social media aswell, it's basically a trojan horse pretending they just want to ban tiktok when they actually want to control the internet and your privacy
@@dumbasssupreme4022 "no, guys, stop trying to ban the platforms that spread hate against you! all platforms do that! you'll be banning everything! it's not like on other platforms you have to go actively looking for the hatred, and on this one you have to look for the non-hatred!"
- segregationalists/60's sexists/homophobes/you
@@dumbasssupreme4022ooooh yikes I didn’t know that. But TikTok still is harmful in a lot of other ways that most social media isn’t.
i’m autistic and am basically the laughing stock of the school, it sucks and i’ve been called “sped” and sometimes I wonder if I should flee the country as soon as possible.
No fleeing out of country won't do anything since u can always find these type of people everywhere in the world. A human is a human no matter what country shitty human or nice human they are everywhere and in ur country too u just have to find the right surrounding with the right people. Honestly if I were u I would've switched schools cuz I'm the person that fights for my self and life
You probably should because this country gives fat people free extra seats on plains because they can’t fit in just one
I have Asperger’s syndrome. The fact that stuff like this is normalised makes me legitimately fear for my safety.
My worst choice, possibly in my entire life, was telling someone at school that I was diagnosed with Asperger’s. That was 6th grade. I’m in high school now and people still treat me horribly and call me slurs. I can’t even do anything because my school district acts like everyone is trustworthy, so when they say they’re just joking they get away with it. Neurotypicals are impossible to interact with without being used as their laughing stock.
Keep in mind that this is the same platform that has tried to normalize theft, contamination, reckless driving, vandalism, etc.
Correction: the world treats disabled people horribly, not just online
Sadly true, though people often feel more inclined to say awful stuff online more than in person, as they can hide behind the screen and not receive consequences 😕
Not only is being disabled in America absolutely exhausting mentally and physically, but it drains you financially. You can be disabled but not qualify for disability. You can spend your life savings and still be too poor to treat your illness. Your credit is absolutely ruined for nothing you did. If you live in a rural area (like myself) and need a car to get to appointments, you are out of luck just because you can't qualify; let alone an apartment. It's just ridiculous. So thank you for this. It's one of the good algorithm choices UA-cam did.
It rlly says something when the UA-cam community is nicer to disable ppl than TikTok ☠️
I have ASD (formerly Asperger's) and i find the normalisation of Bullying in the modern era horrifying, and i worry for the mental wellbeing of the next generation growing up around this stuff.
this is so true because people are so rude and despicable on the internet to the point where it's like wtf be normal, every human should be treated equally, whether your disabled or not tbh the internet is very cruel and i wish people could be more nice and treat people like how they wanna be treated. it annoys me so much that people think laughing at others will make it better like no stay put !
i agree.
They only do this crap because they know they have no punishment when they do it on the internet
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*video of someone doing slightly out of the ordinary, but looking extremely happy and content*
all the comments: "is he restarted?" "bros acoustic"
People claim to be a disability advocate until they actually see a disabled person.
My friends always talked about how it was so stupid how autistic people are treated, but the second I got diagnosed, they started treating me differently. Started treating me like a toddler.
Thank you for talking about this. Ableism runs rampant everywhere and nobody tries to stop it. It's such a breath of fresh air to see someone speak up about it.
Not to mention that video of a disabled woman being fed sparked the “I'm sorry for looking into your eyes without permission” trend.
I’m autistic, I’ve experienced stuff like this where like people will say “autistic people are so silly!!” Like no I’m not silly I struggle to do average things
Yeah. I’m so tired of hearing people use autism as an insult. That’s ableist. I don’t care if it’s a “joke among friends” or whatever, it’s not okay. Same with the r slur. I’m tired of it.
literally. same, i feel you. They think, we are like stupid or something, idek what they think about us, and i dont even wanna know. it just kills me how horrible and heartless people are
"Autistic people are so quirky and silly lolllll so random look at how clumsy this character/person is theyre literally sooo autistic 🥺🥺🥺" like omg shut the fuck up
@@stingrae919 I've heard autism used as a joke like "That's so autistic" but in a clearly sarcastic way
It weirds me out as someone with autism bc I feel like I'm being attacked (despite the fact I never tell anyone bout my diagnosis) and/or I feel bad and horrid inside
So stupid honestly man
whenever people (in real life, i'm sure online this would not work) pull out the r slur i usually disclose that i'm autistic. shuts them up quickly and they apologize profusely 😂
If yall think tiktok calling disabled people “ohioans” then yall are SERIOUSLY not ready for Instagram reel comments 💀
the sad fact is that people have always been horrible to disabled ppl, at some points there have been regulations that limited the spaces/public places that disabled people could go to so people didn’t have to see them.
ableism should not become a normalized thing.
Normalize bullying TikTok users back
Yeah lets fight back
As an autistic human, which means I’m disabled. I have been HORRIFICALLY bullied at school because I’m autistic and have what people may class as “unconventional” interests. And the amount of sh** i get for literally just BEING MYSELF is utterly ridiculous. I used to have a TikTok account where I posted about being autistic and I deleted the account and left TikTok because SO many people in the comments were joking about how I was a “r**ard” and should’ve been aborted!
THANK YOU for making this video. We need more mainstream content creators like you spreading awareness about this!
I'm hyperfixated on a random undertale ytp that was probably made with free 3d models
@@Silly_dude_xdI also hyperfixate on Toby fox content or inspired content.
This is why you don't go onto TikTok, or Reels, or Shorts, all you're going to see there is just straight radioactivity. You're going to see people like these everywhere, but at least on platforms like Tumblr it's way smaller and sparser.
I mean, Shorts are far less rancis; it depends on what you watch. Mine are filled with Tumblr posts and cute animals
I'm a physically disabled person I have spastic cerebral palsy and I don't even have TikTok and this is probably one of the reasons why I don't have one, either way I agree the way disabled people are treated online is messed up. thank you for talking about this, this was a much-needed topic to talk about, thanks Ben ❤
I have a disability that affects my connective tissue, and that often shows up in my knees bending weird and me walking strangely. My tiktoks don't often break 500 views, but one of the very few times I've got over 1000 most of the comments were just people @ ing others with the 🤣 emoji, or just making fun of how I was walking.
Comments like that have discouraged me from putting any videos of my cosplays out recently, and I've barely even gone on TikTok since. The way TikTok treats disabled people is so hurtful and there needs to be something done about it.
I remember when EDS/HEDS was a trend bro
@@arny625 a trend?
@@arny625 what do you mean a trend dude
@@pericatt like people made EDs/HEDS into a quirky trend seeing who can do the “coolest” party trick
@@arny625 huh. Weird, I mean it is fun to freak out people with the flexibility of it, but it's not all that healthy
this is absolutely disgusting. i cannot believe this is what tiktok and even the world has come to.
They say the world is progressing. I think it's still the same except now we have social media and we can hide behind a screen.
I agree.
There’s a lot worse stuff that happens. It’s the culture of the commenters on TikTok videos
The way videos about people with brain damage are filled with "it happened because they got bit by an animatronic" and the way physically disabled people get comments like "ok but can you beat goku?" Like. Jesus christ, ablebodied people are wayyyy too comfortable making light of strangers' struggles, life threatening conditions and disabilities, holy shit.
I MISINTERPRETED THE TITLE AS "(TIKTOK TREATS) DISABLED PEOPLE HORRIBLY" AND I THOUGHT IT WAS ANOTHER SCANDAL WHERE SOME INFLUENCER RELEASED A BRAND OF TREATS AND THEY MANAGED TO ACTUALLY DISABLE PEOPLE GBFSHSFYG
HFHVV HELP
LMAOO
THIS SOUNDS LIKE SOMETHING OUT OF A MATT ROSE VIDEO LMAOOO💀💀💀
@@makeandbreakgames1791 YEAHH MATT ROSE SKHULLEMOJIII
@@makeandbreakgames1791 the icon of neurodivergents: a very loud British man
As a disabled person, I’ve been bullied all my life and called slurs for all my disabilities. This video was amazing, great job❤
I'm so sorry God bless ❤
I'm disabled, don't use tiktok and don't support any form of the olympics or similar(horse abuse).
Sometimes I'm glad I live under a rock.
Ben is the only UA-camr in his right mind I swear
no fr
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@@NebulaBubblesagree to disagree
And then they wonder why people get charged for hate crimes
One day these dumb kids will learn that their actions do infact have Consequences
thank you for talking about this ben. my little brother has autism and it annoys me so much listening to jokes not only on social media but even nowadays in person about not only people with autism but other disabilities. im tired of people normalizing/ thinking its humorous to joke about disabilities. so many people now self diagnose themselves, or literally call each other autistic. i really hope my little brother never gets treated poorly when he gets older, and no body else should either. a disability does not define who somebody is!
self diagnosis isn’t inherently bad! as long as you’ve done research it’s okay (and by research i don’t mean just looking on the first page of google), a lot of the time people turn to educated self diagnosis because it can be incredibly hard to get a diagnosis in some cases! no hate, just trying to educate :)! sorry if you meant something else
@@cherrypawz678 no i understand for those who probably cannot afford it or have parents who wont take them to get diagnosed etc. but i came across a insta post saying that it was an option to call yourself/define as ‘autistic’ and they made a whole flag for it and everything i was absolutely so confused. and a lot of people i come across in school are always like “oh sorry its my autism kicking in” and people ask them if they actually know if they have it and they completely dont know how to respond to it, but yes i understand what u meant
@@oliviamaldonado6157 ohh okay i see what you mean
People like that will say that they respect everyone, but when someone is TOO different, then they suddenly dont respect everyone. I see this even with other disabled people. It's like their empathy only goes so far before they start bullying people.
Most bullies are insecure themselves
The meanest girl in my school claims she has autism as an excuse for her manipulative and borderline psychotic behavior!! Mental illness should not excuse people from acting out but it’s an explanation for sure.
I think sometimes about how my high school had its own specialized ableist slur. I went to a Catholic school and we had a specific special ed curriculum called the Cuvily Program, and the Edgy Guys in my grade called people “cuvs” if they thought they were stupid
i’m autistic, disabled, and i have a job where i work with disabled clients. clients who are of the most bright, smart, and lovable people i have ever met. learning about, understanding and loving every single person i work with is the light of my life. u have to be the biggest peice of trash in the world to instantly hate and have a grudge against someone just cuz of how they were born
I’m physically disabled as well as mentally. Some guy actually harassed me for *weeks* bc he thought I was somehow faking, despite me walking with a limp, having to take a lot of time off from school and taking meds at the nurse. I was also often called slurs and nearly knocked over- it just. Sucked. I’m out of school now but MAN it sucked
This needs to be talked about it more. It's horrifying. I'm autistic and the amount of times I've heard people talk like this so casually about disabled people is so painful. It's gotten to the point where the 10 year olds at the summer camp I volunteer for are making fun of autistic people and don't see what's wrong with it. 10 YEAR OLDS. Don't even get me started on how much I hear the r word used, or "acoustic (even from people who I considered friends)." People think that just because I don't "look autistic" that it won't offend me. I'm sick of it. When did the internet decide that disabled people are less than and therefore okay to make fun of??? WHEN DID WE FORGET HOW TO BE DECENT PEOPLE
12:15 random fact: an occurrence where the victim is being blamed or punished for the attack is called victim blaming! it commonly happens in SA/r@pe scenarios and is described as: “[putting] the responsibility of a crime, trauma, or hardship on the victim and not the perpetrator.” this is what tiktok has done by limiting viewing of disabled people in order to “stop bullying” instead of actually filtering comment sections to not send horrendous comments like i know they can do, as seen in ‘privacy settings’: ‘comments’: ‘filter spam & offensive comments’ or ‘filter keywords.’ so the fact that tiktok refuses to do so even though they can is just terrible. ANYWAY, sorry about the rant, just thought it was interesting.
tiktok: lets normalize bullying and decrepit our moral code even more
Something i wish more people talked about is the growing popularity of those cringe discord mod or band kid skits. Originally, the joke was "weird incel who's entitled, sexist, lives in their parents basement, yada yada yada" but over time its evolved into just laughing at people who are socially inept, behave "strangely" or like things "too much" (be it minecraft or anime or whatever else people deem cringe). And whenever a disabled person gets hurt by these videos or points out that the so called "weirdo characteristics" displayed in the skits are just making fun of neurodivergent traits, they get called a snowflake or whatever...
(Great video btw!)
I am still in school and most of my classes consist of people who weren’t raised properly and are tiktok addicts. They are homophobic, transphobic, and extremely ableist, nor do they have any shame voicing these things. One time I was forced to next to them during a class. I have faced a lot of bullying being an autistic queer person, but this was the first time I have ever been surrounded by people openly talking about how people like me would be better off dead. It genuinely scares me, not because they’d rather have me dead, but because I am so desensitized to it. I just have to accept that these people don’t like me because of things I can’t control and would rather have me dead. I can’t do anything about it. My teachers won’t do anything, these people don’t wanna be educated, I will be outed if I speak up, and the way people treat me will only decline.
ngl some people at my school are like that and they know i have violent outburst during schizophrenia episodes so they avoid saying transphobic ableist shit around me bc they're scared i may stab them. They fear me based on a stereotype? yes. But i love when nasty people are scared
Ong just sounds like the sporty boys in middle school
Whenever im in a group at school and someone is extremely quiet and staring at me weirdly, I expect them to scream slurs at me
At my school I was at least somewhat openly queer (I brought it up sometimes and would say I was if anybody asked). And somebody who was my ‘friend’ said right in front of me that the suicide rate for trans people was 50%, and then began singing the song “Halfway there”. Everybody at the table we were sitting at (the people I had surrounded myself with for two years) all thought that it was funny somebody said all trans people should kill themselves. Luckily it was near the end of the year and I never went back but that is still so disgusting to think about.
very relatable, except that my school seems evenly split between those scum-of-the-earth idiots and people who are very nice and accepting. The fact that we can have such contrasting people in the same rooms, and yet those assholes never learn just shows how far embedded hate is in so many people.
my sister has autism. she's 8 yrs old in first grade rn, and i'm so scared for her to go to middle school. middle schoolers are almost always the shittiest, most unfunny, and most insensitive people i've ever met. i hope the world changes before then 💔
This is the most sane and nicest comment section on UA-cam and I’m happy that people understand that just bullying people for no reason is a horrible thing to do.
So happy about "did I stutter?" Being mentioned as someone who has major issues with word repeating and stuttering :) ❤️
Also thank you for covering this as a whole!! The internet treats us horribly and I've had so many "dark humor" jokes made about me being in a wheelchair online which just makes me feel awful. I've seen so many creators get made fun of just for existing. It's honestly gross and we need more representation
as someone with numerous disabilities & disorders that have and continue to ruin my life i really appreciate you making this
My mom is disabled so like I fully understand that gut wrenching feeling when you see people acting weird around or towards them. I would literally do anything for her and to think people could be rude to people with disabilities is awful and traumatizing
I have autism and a limp (unrelated to my autism), so I have one thing to say; people are cruel. Kids have pushed me downstairs because "I was going too slow!1!!1!". I have been reading a book out loud, and people would whisper underneath my voice to trigger me. People have sent me death threats for talking about normalized ableism (they were reported dw).
I feel like we should give typical people a "disabled experience." Like having people with all their limbs have to tie one to their back, or people who can see a pair of glasses that make their vision blurry; or even handing neurotypical people a paper with jumbled letters/smeared letters and ask them to solve what the nonsense is asking. That was a genuine dream of mine to do- to have typicals experience simulations of what various disabilities do to their bearer.
Does anyone else agree that we should make a disability simulator? For those who seem to never understand how difficult it is for us to navigate the world?
That sounds horrible. Not a good idea. There doesn’t need to be a simulator to teach empathy. We should teach it by using compassion and the objective truth. 👍
It sucks that we have generations of people with no emphanty. It's ironic that we as disabled people show the most emphanty despite our conditions. I personally think everyone needs to use a wheelchair for a week in order to graduate high school.
@@JustCliff That last part seems unnecessary
my drama:
I’ve had a best friend for the past 3-4 years, and she has some mental health issues because of her personal life. I’ve always done as much as I can to support her through this, listening to her rants every single morning about whatever happened last night at her home. I always understood how difficult it was for her, but at the same time, that constant negativity was bringing me down and making me feel miserable. After a while, I just didn’t want to talk to her as much since every single conversation was about her and her issues.
The friendship felt one sided and I was rarely happy when hanging out with her.
So, I started hanging out with two other friends a little more. I didn’t ditch her, we still have lunch together at school and hang out as a friend group, but I’ve been more distant for the sake of my own mental health.
Now, one of my other friends earlier this week said that she had been talking bad about me, saying how I was ‘such a bad friend’ for not hanging out with her as much, and how she has been struggling recently without someone to talk to?! I dislike how all the responsibility is on me to support her through what she’s going through. This is our last year of high school and we’re going to different colleges, so it was inevitable that we would grow apart anyway, but I don’t think she understands this or the fact that I was struggling with how she was acting in our friendship.
Opinions on this?
def talk to her about it, if you talk and she makes excuses you dont believe / agree with, say you want a break as you have your own problems, or as far as just saying you dont wanna b friends
Tldr
I don’t think you’re in the wrong here, BUT you definitely need to talk to her about it
definitely talk to her. she clearly sees u as a comfort. she should think of getting therapy since some people (such as u) cant handle being an outlet
@@Mrsaretz yeah you’re right I can kinda see it from her position as I’ve just randomly stopped talking to her
i get so anxious when i see those dancing videos where there's one skinny girl and one that's slightly bigger, sometimes the girl isn't even fat shes just a little chubby and all the comments are 💃🧌 like omg i feel so angry and so sad seeing them.
This was the exact reason why I deleted TikTok, I saw a video on there of a disabled person and everyone in the comments were just calling the person “ugly” and “god forgive me for laughing” and it made me so sick and upset, as a neurodivergent person. And apparently bullying is a trend now???
people can't even post someone in a wheelchair without others going "TIMMAH"
FOR REAL !!! Or comparing Walter Jr. to Timmy
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As a trans disabled person who is a digital content creator on tik Tok I had no idea. Thank you for making this video! 🏳️⚧️♿️
🫵💕💕💕 fistbump 👊
as someone who is disabled i use walking sticks to help me walk. when i went to school the first time with them people just kept making fun of me and screaming “omg it’s jimmy”
Hit them with ur stick
they should not have done that. please consider telling them to stop.
@@aquastartv1895 i have
@@racoonafi5653 did it work?
@@aquastartv1895 no lol
Crazy you spoke on this topic bc just a few days ago I saw a video on Inside edition where a jock Briere, son of a famous hockey player, pushed random girl's wheelchair down the stares with his buddy in some small club while she was in the bathroom carried by a guard there (she's got both of her legs amputated bc of a car accident). When she came back it was broken and she couldn't do anything to move plus those cost a lot, thankfully the cameras caught him. He was forced to apologise but she said it was insincere which...ofc it was.
Idk if he got punished but I'm glad you spoke about the mistreatment of disabled people.
Literally! I myself am autistic/ADHD, and have a very (annoying) breathing condition. It makes me sound like those rubber chicken toys whenever I get stressed or irritated, gives me really bad heartburn.
I constantly get called names for it, teacher yell at me because they think I’m being rude, people frequently record and take pictures of me, and the fact that my school doesn’t really do anything about it. I constantly dread the idea that a video of an overstimulated me is online sounding like an idiot, because people refuse to be fucking decent.
My ex friend spent ALL day on tiktok and when she saw a disabled child and said "bro thinks he timmy"
ew how is she not embarrassed
…….
That's just fucked up
What has tiktok done to people?
As a disabled person (autistic) this is one of the many reasons i hate tiktok
as an invisible disability gal, tiktok is so genuinely ableist, it honestly makes so many people mask more which leads to long term damage and it needs to be dug up (talking abt neurological disorders)
Edit: thanks for showing me y’all appreciated this.
edit: also like… ppl are so rude abt xenogenders, xenopronouns, neopronouns, etc.. like they’re made for disabled ppl.
SAMEEE and then it’s those same people who get pissed when you don’t feel like talking, like a) of course i don’t feel like talking to the one who picks apart every little thing people do as “cringe”, and b) why do you think im so tired of talking?? maybe because i have to act like a totally different (“normal”) person around you in order to avoid being laughed at???
This comment resonated with me a lot. Towards mid to end last year I did some self discovery and realised that I probably have autism (no official diagnosis but I feel confident that I’m not faking it or anything) and the years of me pushing myself to do the absolute best at school because that was what I thought was expected of me, and the amount of stress I put myself under to conform to what the whole system wanted me to be eventually led me to a huge ongoing bout of autistic burnout and depression. I am working on myself and have a very supportive family and friends and am slowly improving. I am so incredibly glad I don’t have TikTok and I never had any social media as a kid because I can’t even imagine how much worse everything could be if I was exposed to that
My twin was born with no left leg. She gets called Timmy everyday at school. The teachers do nothing.
That’s messed up like Timmy is a good character but these people just ruin him
@@hailglitchtrap Often good Characters and Well meant Characters get Turned into Symbols of hate
i'm disabled and it makes me feel sad when I see others making fun of other disabled people, yet they're the same ones who self diagnose :C
Edit: sorry I probably worded this wrong, I meant the people who self diagnose with no research based on one tiktok they saw
Those people are immature and ignorant asf man I hope you're doing well
@@nobodyuknow. I don't see how self-diagnosing is immature and ignorant? Definitely if you make fun of disabled people, but that's just a rule in general.
Self-diagnosing isn't.. bad?? 😭But I'm awfully sorry you have to witness or even be a victim of being made fun of :(
@@CANINETHEROPY Wtf, if you're speculatjng you have autism or adhd then get an expert to diagnose you, not yourself. Also I'm not even neurotypical why would I make fun of people like me💀
@@CANINETHEROPY Haven't you seen people on tiktok with self-diagnosed mental illnesses? There were even ones faking tourettes for clout.
As a person physically and mentally disabled this video made me think there is just a tiny bit of hope and happiness left ☹️
I'm autistic, and I'm absolutely terrified of people in my school finding out. They bullied me horribly for my autistic traits before; and now that I act as normal as possible with the detriment to my well being, I'm mostly left alone. It's not fair that I have to pretend to be someone I'm not just to avoid harassment. Seeing constant constant constant ableism online reminds me every day how unsafe the world is for me and how much everyone hates me. It's not fucking fair.
You’re gonna be fine. Don’t worry.
Who in their good parental ways, would thought it was a good idea to let children surf any internet without any restrictions was a really good idea for them
genuinely like thank you for actually saying something about this because i see people make fun of disabled people EVERY DAY!!!!! even people i used to be friends with and am friends with will actively mock people with autism or the kids at my school who are deaf and use asl, and it makes me so mad! it shows how the hate on tiktok carries outside of just the screen and into the real world.
This is one of the reasons why I don't use Tiktok anymore
as a disabled person i stg ableism is getting way too normalized at this point
I think we'll always have to deal with ableism unless capitalism is abolished, cause ableism stems from thinking someone is deserving of less respect just because they can't contribute "enough" physical labor
I actually have autism (aspergers syndrome) And it’s so infuriating that these people on tiktok pretend to have autism just to get popular. Having autism isn’t fun and alot of my friends also have disorders like ADHD.
I have autism and adhd, (diagnosed) and I wouldn’t nessecarily call it “not fun” but yes it is not enjoyable to not be able to focus for a couple minutes. my patience Has been destroyed by these people.
People who pretend to have autism are psychopaths