This video deserve a crore likes. Arguably the best video of the channel. 4 hours work system for women is a mind blowing idea. This needs to be reached to the decision makers at the earliest.
Bhai sahab unpractical hai aise suggestions. And actually fertility has reduced bcoz women are marrying late bcoz their priorities have changed and by the time she wants to get married her age would be above 28-30 which you can ask any doctor or gynac or even pull out stats from web women is gone but in opposite to men fertility it lasts for more the age 40 if good care taken it can last till 50 age also. Unfair yes but this is nature women should get married utmost at Age 22 to be fertile and atleast have 2 children which is just replacement of current generation figures otherwise this is going to get worse.
Awesome video 😊👍it's high time ! Govt needs to take serious measures on this matter Working hours should not be more than 4 to 6hrs with 5days working is must . Also baby sitting arrangement should be made mandatory in every locality ,so that can provide employment to all . Also dependency on inlaws will be nil. 😊👍💐🙏
Really good ,4hrs work is nice,difficulty is compratio with husband .in no way she likes less salary when can get more by working 8hrs .There is no satisfaction that is problem .Balance is must. Female in no way is less then men but now she wants to show she is not less then man competion make family life worse. I feel so please Commet.
Tears in my eyes. This is so relatable. I have a 3 year old son with no help from family. Everybody expects us to be perfect everywhere both at work and at home.
Nobody said you to be perfect, the moment you decided what's well for "your" family and "your" Son... You are sorted. I live like this, without any admission of peer pressure from society I am sleeping well, can travel, can save a lot on finances.
Women breakdown because of insensitive family and society. Less educated have more children and are not in favour of educated. You have understood the plight of women very well
I have seen my male colleagues staying in office to have Pizza on office expenses n claiming traveling expenses.I have seen them Playing cards or share market during office hours/Saturday.They try to impress seniors and avoid household responsibility even when their spouse is working too.I had a female team member when she was doing job, house hold work,kids homework n family refused for part time cook as they wanted to eat food cooked only by her
My wife was pregnant and she was working in Good MNC, so she got 6 month of maternity leave. Her coworkers and specially manager behaviour was very bad and not at all coperative. They were jealous of the fact that she is getting 6 month leave. Surprisingly he was married also but couldn't understand what it takes to give birth to a child and what it means to society and country.
Kya hojayega sir baccha karke? Just look around and see if humans are happy with their life or not? Most humans are suffering, wars are taking place, people are depressed due to uncertainty in life regarding health, wealth, spoiled relations, there is less of humanity and more of crimes like rapes, murders daily. Even though humans have brought and invented technologies like mobile phones, airplanes, rockets, 5g networks etc, still the question is to be asked that if humans are happy with their life or if humans quality of life is getting better?? Money and technology jitna marzi ho, it doesn't bring happiness, it only brings comfort. We can really see it's Kali-Yug and people are getting more and more materialistic and can even murder their closed ones for money, human life has no value in today's world.
Sir, I lived in California and worked in tech company from last 10 years. Had 3 kids with in 2.5 yrs( twins). It was so hard to work in office as you mentioned- my WFH was pointed in my year end review . Not promoted being smartest in the group but my kids were discussed by ex boss. It’s just hard here with only 16 weeks of maternity leave. You just touched my ❤. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Bhai ye banda kitna frank hai. The way he is adding value to people's thoughts is Commendable. He is teaching us just like a father. We must listen to his observations and then ponder upon. I am going to be his fan now.
Pehli baat ye banda nhi he....atleast try to show some respect in your language for the minimum that he is an aged man. Pkka Delh ke aspas ke hi hoge - 100% -- Kya hogya he ajkal ke generation ko....😓
I can relate. We are a parent of 10 months kid. But I am lucky that her office is very supportive, she has an option if she wants she can work for 4 hrs with half salary, but we supported her to go for full time job. Yes there is challenges but i am a happy and proud husband. My family is supportive
@@sanskritiagrawal963 may be you don't know about toxic work culture or toxic manager. It's a blessing to have a good and supportive work environment. Family support is required but if you have a tensed office then your mind will always be thinking about your work.. z
Namaste sir! If all the men in India starts thinking and analysing like you. India would really become a role model for rest of the world. Also we will become a much better society. Thank you🙏
All my friends are having only 1 kid and simply not ready for second child due to high education, medication and real estate cost in Mumbai. I shared the example of china's one child policy and how it is backfiring them but still no one wants 2 children. Today's young parents in 30s are having a tough time emotionally and financially to raise kids.
The onus is on government. Kal ko log hi nahi bachenge to desh kaise chalega? It is their responsibility that Japan-like situation never arises in Bharat.
@@Love-dz1um yes i have seen such issues in many homes, but here parents usually have favorite child and hence they are partial in upbriging. Child who stays with parents gets somewhat less respect and the son staying abroad or doing well in career gets more love and respect. Children understand the partial nature right from childhood so the onus is on the parents that there is love care between siblings. On a lighter note your life seems to be like a saas bahu hindi serials with such environment.
@@bourbon646 marrying is difficult today as both girls and guys are very demanding in terms of materialist stuff, they expect the other person should do most of the stuff. true people below 20 may not even like to get married in future, my relatives who are in school have already declared not to get married as they see their parents mostly mother's working a lot. Many see marriage as a burden bits that's just a perspective and it changes with time and life experience.
Every word spoken by you is 100% true…I spent 10yrs of my life to become a specialist…but neither my own parents nor my in laws supported me during most crucial phase of my life ..i.e childbirth….as a result my career suffered…though I have resumed my work but I won’t be able to forget that phase and behaviour of my family
Uncle this is such a revolutionary thought video you have made. Definitely ppl have to understand why they are making girls study if they have to sit at home only. I being Specialized doctor, worked in best institute of India, had to leave my job as no one was there to support me. My parents had washed off their hands, in laws very conveniently said we are traveling and no support from husband at all. 10 years I sulked at home, seeing my batchmates becoming HODs and gaining professional highs. Now after my husband's death I am back to work but it pinches the amount of precious time I lost in between. But it is really hood video everyone should watch as actually female need support else there won't be next generation. Females will either do kids in case of support or won't but they will not sit back. 4 hours job system can solve so many problems of females plus Government too. Great ideas uncle. I am your big fan
Same here madam. I am also a specialised doctor not able to provide my service as l am unable to join any transferable job for the schooling of my kids and no support from my family. There is also no scope in my town to provide my service. Extremely depressing.
Same here madam. I am also a specialised doctor not able to provide my service as l am unable to join any transferable job for the schooling of my kids and no support from my family. There is also no scope in my town to provide my service. Extremely depressing.
Ma'am, I don't understand why you're complaining, think about the lovely time you had with children and husband. Think about what your last memories will be after you retire- will it be about how well you worked or the beautiful moments you got to spend with family. We ladies need to appreciate the lovely moments with our children, they fly by so fast and kids grow up before we realize. And then we sit and whine our children are too busy to spend time with us. Appreciate it.
You are absolutely right sir.. Society don't care about working women in India.. India is busy in glorifying housewives only and treating working women as selfish.. Society needs to change their mindset.. Especially men needs to participate in household chores and to support their wives to do a job... What you are saying is also said by sudha murty.. Thank you for raising this topic 🌸🙏🌸
Working women should consider plumbing,brick laying, electric lines maintenance,road construction,coolie,Uber driver as professions then they will find ample amount of opportunities.
@@SSCCGL-ph9eb first of all its about men and women & not me and women, secondly the derogatory tone in your question sums up your attitude towards labour class And to answer your question i have worked with these people as श्रमदान and have also got some friends still working there. Create some content and get some followers. Cheers
I was fresher at corporate & observed one thing : one day in office call (online WFH) a child (2-4 age) was calling mother (our team-mate) ,she was saying something in meeting . That time I realized it's a mother whom child calls for every problem . I messaged her appreciating her and every other mothers efforts just to make her feel good .
As a working mother I can relate with each word of you. Pressure is high on working moms. Very good idea on part time jobs for women so that they can also contribute while having family and children. In real a woman wants everything - a family, children, home , relations, a meaningful job for her own identity and independence. Man and woman are not equal. Pressure in on women. Women are doing a lot and at the end leaving their job or family means leaving her own identity for the family which is making her empty from inside. This part time solution is great. Also there are cases of suicide or suicidal thoughts in women after baby. This is because of lack of support system at home and work Its become impossible to balance everything on own.
When you get married, or other women get married, at that time itself you need to make us understand this position because we men don't think second hand. Men can help in daily grocery and cleaning. You need to communicate that clearly, because we although we understand, we don't think second hand. We act like captain of a ship but coal workers work more.
@@subhrajitgupta5535its not called 'not able to understand'. Its called being ignorant and insensitive, and also being inhuman towards your wife. Sorry if my words hurt you, but try to think about this objectively.
@@nirupamasharma4389 Most men are atypical when it comes to their work model. They do whats in hand, and other things get left out. We follow day to day routine straight line work and deviations aren't our strength. You need to tell us a little what you want, if neglect of some become insensitive. Nobody's words hurt me. Why would it hurt!
@@subhrajitgupta5535 again i don't get it. What's there to tell? Isn't it a fact that a woman is also a human being and she also needs rest after coming back from work like men do? And even if I agree to your point, that 'men needs to be told as they don't understand by themselves', then also i dont think that your point fits here as most men fail to support their wives even when they are clearly told about it. They just say manage your way out or leave job if you can't handle. That's the point being discussed in this video and comment section as well.
Sir i have not seen a single man talking about women issues in so much depth and understanding women's problems with so much empathy ! My highest regards and respect to you , keep doing this great work .
Either you are lying or you have not observed a single thing in the society .. Because now a days everyone is only talking about the problems that women are facing .. Not only the women but the men also showing concern about this .. But phir bhi tum jaisi ladkiyon ko problem complaints hamesha he rahengi jo rela problem hai naa ki ehat men are facing ? So I think rarely someone is concerned about this and talk on this.. Aacha ye batao gii ki tum ladkiyaan itni nafrat kyu karti ho hum ladko ke parents se ? Problem kya hai tum logo ko aisi ?
@@MohitSingh-gv3gfkoi pbm nahi hai ji, bas sath rehna nahi chahte!! Ab tum reason puchoge to i have another question for you. Are you ready to live in woman's house with her parents?? Agar iska jawab apki taraf se naa hai to ladies se bhi yehi jawaab expect karo, yes nahi!!
*A VERY VERY VERY BIG FAN OF YOU FROM PAKISTAN SANGO UNCLE. WHAT A PERSONALITY YOU HAVE.* 💗💗💗 *Sir I will like to meet with you. Is that possible sir?*
Sir....what you said in the video is absolutely true. !! But there is other side as well. There so many men who support their wives but they have to go through so much abuse from their own family members. In my case, my husband has gone through panic attacks because of physical and mental abuse from his own family members. His family members are deadly against his support for me in household chores..!! He has always supported with me in everything..But he has gone through so much..i feel bad for him.. 😢😢😢😢
Sir, i am the example of this problem, i went to so many organisations and asked them any part time work, but they said do fulltime or no work, i gave them reason of productivity and potentials, but they all refused. I asked in schools also, that why so long time for teachers, keep it alternate days for subject teachers or less time for them or it could be only definite periods,they come and take class, But principal said that is not the way school works, you can't change the system. Management does not want to bring change then how they will retain quality. Thank you that you brought this subject,need for an hour .
I can relate to this video. I left my job when I was pregnant because I didn't get any support from mother and mother-in-law was busy supporting her own daughters. Now I'm inspired by your videos and starting to look for WFH job. What a brilliant idea of half day job options, Sir 🙏🏻 Hope companies introduce such opportunities.
Same case with me,,,but instead of leaving job,,, I took help of maid,,, now both my kids are grown up and I am still in job,,,,,find someone else from relatives who can help you when you need and help them back in other ways later ,,,,,some company has half day work with half salary,,,I guess Infosys has it,,,but not 100%sure,,,
be careful while choosing your next job, some say half day with half pay, but still work assigned is for full day...simlar thing happenned with my friend's wife and she had to again resign.
@@Shadesofwhite_ I get your point. Daycare is an option but I wasn't comfortable leaving my little child with strangers. It's a very difficult choice but you are right. Daycare option is available.
If Elon Musk is richest person that doesn't mean whatever he say or do is correct.. He is having affairs and is thinking about shifting some of earth's population on another planet
Argentina and India is of same size Argentina population is 4.6 crore and India's population is 150 crore 30 times more, We need to reduce population by 30 times to live a nature friendly life.
Sir I am lady. Eyes r non stop watering. Working and worked a lot . Just got support from mother and in token got so many bad rewards. Only thing just worked and worked as I build my carrier with lot of hardship since grade. But u r very sensitive and sensible person try to put the india in right direction. May GOD bless u
Absolutely agree! We need a huge change in society. If the woman in a family is happy and fulfilled the family will be happy too. Support while raising children, flexible work, support for work at home will really help.
Thank you so much for the topic Sir. this is a story of every educated girl who studied and worked passionately to achieve something in life.. got married in a family who never realised her potential or worth.. they just want her be at home and be a servant for them.. I am really thankful to you for bringing out this topic. I am so lucky that my parents specially my father always supported and encouraged me to work.. I have been watching your videos and they are bringing in so much clarity.. looking forward to start my career again..
I am a doctor. Mera IVF hua tha. My mother was there with me since I conceived. She stayed with me at my home for 8 months till my cesarean section. My baby was a preterm. Then again we were at my sasural for almost 2 months. Then I went to my mother's home. I was there for 3 months. She was there with me all this time. Thank you to bahut hi chhota word hoga unke liye
So true Sir. I have been working continuously from the day I finished my education. I got married early so I completed education after my marriage. Initially I got support from my Maa and MIL but now they are either old or have gone to the other world so I have been struggling now. My day starts at 4.30 in the morning and I crash out at 10pm. I raised 2 kids and now my son is working. I feel like giving up. But financial independence is like drugs. Can't quit. I feel I couldn't enjoy my life. It has been a journey of work and only work.
Its a good addiction dear. People get addiction of resting all the time. Its much better than that. Keep taking, breaks from work, like a week long leave sometimes. And try having great time with friends and family. Or may be just a good me time. Jiske paas jo nahi hota wo hi khalta hai, so don't worry i would say. Just be grateful and enjoy life.
It is the effect of capitalism...this tendency has grown in last 20 years... South Korea adopted this culture with this capitalism...which is service oriented...in some fields they want ladies only...good looking...they hire one person...pay for two and get the work done of 3 persons....these MNCs give no time for life.... office is everything....in Mumbai at least 10 hrs service and commuting time of 2-3 hrs .. i don't understand how people especially ladies cope up with work and family....but in Marathi families, mothers support... sometimes mother in law.... still girls go for just 1 child....they don't want breaks in the career two times.... Even housewives want only one child.....but you have taken up very good topic...👍
I was HR manager before marriage but didn't work after marriage due to various reasons like mother in-law, trying for baby and husband working in changing shift. Husband salary was low so didn't plan family. Now I m 41 don't have child,no house, no job no support from inlaws, no parents alive. Sir please can u help me please?
I left my job for my kid because I was underperforming at office and at home too. I felt guilty as a mother. My husband didn't want me to leave my job but I still did. Best decision of my life.
Sir i decided to leave my job and resigned from govt job in may 2022 as my wife was earning threetimes more salary and i decided to take care of my daughter who was small and started schooling, there was nobody who helped us in family, and we mutually decided that i was resign as I was transferred outside Delhi and my household responsibility and my daughter needed me as my wife could not run and manage it without me
Women are very focused. They know what they want to do and what not to. But it is happening in only one community. Some communities want to just reproduce,nothing else
True I am A doctor worked in periphery I have seen muslim women really don't get education they literally marry at 16/15 to 30 yr men and read up to class 7 that's why their fertility rate so high sadly here not a single feminist have raised this question because it's against the narrative 🤡.
2011 census data showed a more than 115% increase in the numbers of never married women age 35 and more. We have missed a decadal census but from my observation the rate of growth in this number will be exponential in the coming decades. I agree with you Sangwan ji, we need public policy intervention for ensuring sharing of women's care burden.
Thank you sir for discussing such a relevant topic. I'm blessed with the best of parents who are extremely supportive regarding my job. Though at office I have come across women who are going through a lot just to keep a job, it's a sad situation for women indeed.
I want to make an honest confession: I have worked with mainstream print media and top publishing companies. Too many hard deadlines and lack of social support at home, need for rest, made me give up my career. I am very happy today as a home maker, because at least I can rest whenever I want to.
@@nirupamasharma4389 I did switch to publishing and then freelancing from home for a good 15 years, after giving up my full time job in media and publishing, but it didn't work out well for me. I have lower spine problems because of long hours of freelancing. Now I am taking care of my pets, and resting. I have a dog walker and groomer, also I have a maid and cook.
@@nirupamasharma4389How miserable of you to think that her job as a homemaker is full of rest for her whole life. Didn't your mother worked hard to raise you or did she just rested.
@@berserker9747 my mother was a working woman. So no, i just don't get the idea of being a homemaker. I absolutely don't support financial dependency at all. In this era of having luxury of machines to do so many household tasks much faster than before, and also having maids, i do consider homemaker job, not a job. And i can say that with confidence because I am also married and also have a child. I also have a home to take care of. I still don't consider homemaker as a full time job. May be it all depends on how you are raised.
Sir could you please throw some light on taboo topics of our society like physical relationships before marriage and concern of virginity. What are the impacts of it on our society if the people engages in any above mentioned scenario.
Very sensible vdo. You are absolutely true. Because of the support of my mother and mother in law, I could manage my job as a specialist doctor in all India transferable job and retired after completing 25 yrs. They looked after my children throughout. I worked day and night attending emergencies and went for out station duties without worrying about my kids as they were looked after by their grand parents. Now I am getting handsome pension and my both children are pursuing professional courses. Daily I remember my in laws and parents for their immense support.
Very lucky now a days nobody willing to care for children upbringing neither parents nor in laws. They say that we cared for our Jobs and for you now your child please leave us
True. I am blessed. I looked after my mom in law till her death ( at the age of 94 yrs ) . She was with me for 14 yrs. I looked after her during her illness. Got her 3 major surgeries during those 14 yrs. Left my good paying job to look after her when her health started deteriorating. I feel , in every family, if ladies understand each other's problems and help each other, there won't be any KLESH as Sangili says. Life will be Jinga Lala
Sir mujhe working women is problem kuch nhi hai lekin ye jo baat apne batayi hai naa ki ye cheez sehan nhi ho rahi hai purshu sey at 10:44 minute per wo cheez aap ki itni jyada galat hai naa hadd se jyada .. Aap ne kabhi ye nhi dekha kya ki aaj ke highly competitive generation mai agar ladki ko job mill jaye toh uss ke tevar kese badal jatein hai ?? Aadmi ko kuch nhi smjhati hai apne aap ko independent bol bol kar ?? Aap ne kabhi ye nhi dekha kya ki chahiye toh ladkiyon ko apne se jyada earn karne wala he ?? At the end baki aap ki video mai problem jyada dikhi nhi bss ye he ek part video ki thodi ajjeb lagi kab apne kaha ki purush samaj jealous from women and their success .. Sir aaj ki ladkiyaan waisi nhi hai jaisi aap ki generation mai milti thi .. Jab aap 20 to 25 ke bich mai rahe honge tab .. Uss time ki ladkiyaan sabse upar apne pariwaar ko rakhti thi wo he unn ke liya sab kuch hota thai pyar per believe karti thi ... Lekin aaj ke time mai nhi milti hai aisi ladkiyaan bohot rarely jiski kismat bohot jyada aachi hoti hai uss ko mill jati hai warna nhi milti hai ladkiyaan .. BTW ladke bhi hai lafi bigade hua uss ko deny nhi kar sakta mai ..
I'm from Kolkata, married to an Australian, we have two children and I work part-time. Here there are more options for part-time jobs. India should give more options for part-time employment.
The talks about development seems to be very attractive but in reality Hindu population is decreasing wheras Muslim population is increasing. This is also an issue to be considered.
Another way in which working women are pressurized is by blaming her and making her guilty whenever the kids are unwell or if they fall back in studies
Working women doesn't marry a non-working man or a working man with lower salary than her... Does the society blame or pressurized the women for that 😂😂😂😂
Very true.....my husband left me n daughter for a younger girl.......I asked this question in court...if I also leave child who in society take care...if all women stop taking care of children what will happen to future population.
Ek video aisa bhi banaiye Kaise women apane married hone ka, mother hone ka fayda leti hai aur jin women ki shadi nahi hui hai jinke bacche nahi hai unpe injustice karati hai. This is just another side of coin you may not be aware of. And I am a girl / woman.
Very true. The irony is that when one used to go for school admission of daughters, the school management would frown on working women saying that they have no time for children.
I would be so happy if we could work for 4-5 hours. It would be so satisfying. Working in school was an option earlier but, nowadays working in private schools are horrible. They make you work for 12-13 hrs a day with no weekends. That too at a pittance.
5:00 yeh aapki galat faimi hai. Office mein bhi mahila ko favour kiya jata hai. Purush ko raat ko 11-12 baje tak bithaya jaata hai lekin mhaila ko samay par jaldi chhod diya jata hai. Salary dono ki same hai. Purush ko manager gaali bakta hai aur bura vyavahar karta hai lekin mahila ko sab easy easy milta hai.
7:12 - 7:25, you explained it all. My mother used to be most educated one in her so called sasural. But after having kids, she left working and became housewife. After looking at her, I decided I don't want my life to be like her. Thank God I am not the one who think this way. I used to thought, I am weird.
Names of the next generation should bear both parents surname. Children should learn both parents mother tongue, and religion. Otherwise woman shall always be seen as commodity.
Women, working or non-working, love to raise children. After marriage, a girl gets little or no support from family in raising her children and in maintaining a job. It is enormous pressure on her. Make her life easier, share workload, help her in every possible way. She definitely will have a family blessed with children to be proud of.
sir apke sarre baate sahi h but ek chiz miss ho gaya h . ki ajkal larkiya larko se kam nhi h chahe wo cigarette pine m ho ya daru ya fir oyo . kuch achi h but ajkal sabka raaj kuch months m pata chal jata h , sarafat sirf apne ghar aur muhalle tak h bahar m inki asli pehchan hoti h jaha pe hum log kaam karte h inlogo k sath.
Baki sab to thik hai, sensitivity towards women, women employment, Elon Musk ka logic, S Korea ki halat, par.... I disagree. What incentive do I have to rear a child? I am 40. I am confident whatever catastrophe would come due to decline in population, I would not be here to see. Neither, I run a business or have any farmland. I am service holder. I need no one to manage my property/business. And, I have no expectations of old-age care by children. Are you asking me to do sacrifice for future generations? I can consider your suggestion if government gives me substantial benefit for producing and rearing a child for 20-25 years. And, nothing less a than a pension (equivalent to Gr. C govt employee) would be acceptable. I have nothing to loose if I am childless. And, I am not happy to sacrifice my resources and time for future generations.
@Sourav Dey- you have a point in some countries people have already told govt nothing less of equivalent 1k USD or 1k euro support per month per child besides free education and health as there are many expenses else they will not think of having kids south Korea nursery and schools can 1k to 2k USD if those are free plus support for child care for working parents and adhoc child allowance would be minimum but if govt do this much then they realise it is more cost than what they will get they expect people to toil and then afterwards govt take the benefits in the form of consumers and votes slowly people realizing it only the gulf countries citizens are truly taken care of in real sense everywhere else all govts are working for companies you can leave out Germany as they are quite good but UK is not that good even nowadays
Eye opener video. This issue should be talked at top priority in our society as nowadays working women r necessary but to make them work comfortably we need to learn these points u described in video. I'm also a highly qualified lady of 90s but couldn't do job with non supportive sasural . If this 4 hour job get started in india % of working women will increase tremendously. I also could work for 4 hours .Queen honey bee example was mind blowing to show the importance of a mother.
Half working hours,half salary OMG what a great idea for women Ye idea मानव संसाधन विकास मंत्री के दिमाग में क्यों नही आता। हिंदुस्तान की आधी आबादी अपना आधा वक्त बर्बाद कर रही है उसका सदुपयोग होना चाहिये।
Am amazed 👏 the kind of topics you come up with.. !! So relevant..!! So much needed !! Bang on you target !! 👏 I have almost seen all your videos.. !! And forwarded too.. !! Aankhen..Dil..Dimaag..Aap sab kholte ho.. !! Highly impressed !! :) Regards !!
Only respect !! 🙇♀️Your points across this discourse are just untenable, sir! Seriously I don't know why no one talks about increasing women's contribution to GDP when women make up almost half of the population. Reservation parliament me increase to kya karni atleast iss direction me e women supporting measures lele govt. That would go a long way. And indeed everyone is selfish when it comes to supporting women in their work.Even our news channels are fraught with senseless, stupid discussions & nothing of real stuff that really affects our society. Keep it up sir! 🙏🏻 Repect for you!
Low birth rate is not a bad thing. Human population is too high and even 10% of population of current population is not going to be low. Post industrialization, humans are atleast 10-20 times more expensive species in terms of natural resource burden.
Absolutely Sir. There is no support for working women. I am professional qualified. But as I got married, my mother in law expected me to cook 3 times a day and take care of when cushions are changed or poocha ache se lga...if me and my husband are sick, she expects me to cook but serves food to his son...it hurts you mentally and this ultimately reduces your productivity. I never wanted to live alone and came from a loving and supportive joint family but the way I get treated by my mother in law has led me to depression
This is a good point. With a 4 year old child I’ve tried to find part time jobs and work from home jobs but they are too hard to find. It’s better to stay home and pursue my hobbies.
if you are doing ok financially, better to spend time with your kid and start doing what you enjoy like hobbies/ join woman groups and have good time. some of us got so occupied in work that we missed out totally on family part and now no family and golden time is also gone
You are right. Sir I was working and earning high salary as software engineer, my mother who was working in school used to take care of my daughter as her timings were fixed but mine was not. But I suffered a lot can't even write here. Now I have no interest in my daughters marriage and her kids at all.
I would add something here, workplaces should be made child friendly. If there is a baby/toddler care area in the work building or next door, then women won't have to depend on their senior parents, maid, elderly in laws, or call the house multiple times to ask if their kid is okay.
The reason girls are scared of marriage in many communities.But also, another part of story....women in India in nany cases, also go to work to escape the toxic environment at home too
This video is a must watch for all indians...such clarity on a sensitive issue presented with such compassion....a social reform has been initiated with this video ..hope the msg reaches everyone..mass and policy makers
here they are not granting us to use our own leaves, they are gettign lapsed... we feel so bad when our team in other countries take back to back off while we are idiots working day-day... hope this toxic work culture changes,
@Seema - that is Germany where everyone pays tax and also Germany makes higher technology products which they can sell to all countries and hence they have a free very good school and even college education Germany is a unique country with good and sensible politicians while our politicians cannot make India even economically like china in a 1000 years
Very true, I m an astrologer,now Women come to me to match kundali with women . Not one or two. It's a list. They simply deny to marry man by saying "kaun sab kre unka jab value nahi hai with girls we get emotional security tht only we want". It's true ... M not lying or saying mann se
Nice topic sir and very true..there should be balance between having kids and also work, both extremes are not going to beneficial in long run. Women who have kids and leave job later feel depressed and same with women who decides to not have kids for career later regrets. This idea would be win-win situation
Very good suggestion, 50% pay, half working hours. This will be true welfare of women and would restore their self respect also. Family and child welfare will be achieved.
Sir..same story..I had to leave my job after 13 years coz I was in a 9 to 9 job framework and was not able to give time to my two kids of 7 yrs and 3 yrs.. although I had support of my husband but felt bad for my kids...I totally relate to what you say that my male colleagues used to comment if I left early from office and I was v good at work..due to inflexible work conditions I had to leave my job
This govt needs to think about it! Make common work timelines laws. Only 6-7hrs work (add 1-2 hrs travel time). Currently 9hrs working plus travel time becomes atleast 11hrs! People are living a fanily lofe only on weekends! This is pathetic!
100 % Agreed. I have 100 % same situation My wife wake up at 5 give tea to my parents. Then prepare some lunch for herself and sabji for others. Comeback at 4:30 then her mother in law give tea to him. Then she just sit for dinner planning. Then she prepare dinner do some school work as she is a teacher. Where I get a chance to help her i try to help her like some dusting and kapde sukhne dalna kind of. But seriously i have a so so soft corner for her as you said ki vo kissi bhi boy se 3 Guna kaam karti hai. Love you as you are saying this thing socially. ❤️
This is an Indian problem those who want to drink tea/coffee should make it on their own not trouble others else they should stop drinking anyways it does not do any good
@@arpanmadrecha946 As a wife she is giving Tea and other members are taking care our 5 year child through out the day and giving breakfast and lunch to me. I am washing clothes and taking care of other household work. So that she can take a rest after coming back to the office. Then she also does some dinner stuff and all. So it's easy to say ki jisko chai pine ho vo khud bnaye.. But not a good ethics.
This video deserve a crore likes. Arguably the best video of the channel. 4 hours work system for women is a mind blowing idea. This needs to be reached to the decision makers at the earliest.
abe yeh buddha bahut bada feminist hai sala
Bhai sahab unpractical hai aise suggestions. And actually fertility has reduced bcoz women are marrying late bcoz their priorities have changed and by the time she wants to get married her age would be above 28-30 which you can ask any doctor or gynac or even pull out stats from web women is gone but in opposite to men fertility it lasts for more the age 40 if good care taken it can last till 50 age also.
Unfair yes but this is nature women should get married utmost at Age 22 to be fertile and atleast have 2 children which is just replacement of current generation figures otherwise this is going to get worse.
Awesome video 😊👍it's high time ! Govt needs to take serious measures on this matter Working hours should not be more than 4 to 6hrs with 5days working is must . Also baby sitting arrangement should be made mandatory in every locality ,so that can provide employment to all . Also dependency on inlaws will be nil. 😊👍💐🙏
@@hindguy shame on you using such words
Really good ,4hrs work is nice,difficulty is compratio with husband .in no way she
likes less salary when can get more by working 8hrs .There is no satisfaction that is problem .Balance is must. Female in no way is less then men but now she wants to show she is not less then man competion make family life worse.
I feel so please Commet.
Tears in my eyes.
This is so relatable. I have a 3 year old son with no help from family. Everybody expects us to be perfect everywhere both at work and at home.
😒😒😒oh..we can't hire maid also..they don't work or dot work acc to us
True
Ab yeh sir ko bolo sambhal ne..
Kon bola tha fir itne bache karne ko? Dimag use kiya karo thoda. Now that you have had a kid love him and don't hate him take care of him.
Nobody said you to be perfect, the moment you decided what's well for "your" family and "your" Son... You are sorted. I live like this, without any admission of peer pressure from society I am sleeping well, can travel, can save a lot on finances.
Women breakdown because of insensitive family and society. Less educated have more children and are not in favour of educated. You have understood the plight of women very well
Nowdays girls had 2 boyfriend before marriage and in office they had 10 boyfriend
"Naukariyaan kam hain, KAAM kam nahi hai." That was Best. Clap clap. 👍
Because men don't work. Why they cannot work at home?
Awesome dk
I have seen my male colleagues staying in office to have Pizza on office expenses n claiming traveling expenses.I have seen them Playing cards or share market during office hours/Saturday.They try to impress seniors and avoid household responsibility even when their spouse is working too.I had a female team member when she was doing job, house hold work,kids homework n family refused for part time cook as they wanted to eat food cooked only by her
Rightly said 💯
Sir Ji...
If we want women to work then men must contribute to household work. As a men, we must support our women.
My wife was pregnant and she was working in Good MNC, so she got 6 month of maternity leave. Her coworkers and specially manager behaviour was very bad and not at all coperative. They were jealous of the fact that she is getting 6 month leave. Surprisingly he was married also but couldn't understand what it takes to give birth to a child and what it means to society and country.
Right it happened with me too
Kya hojayega sir baccha karke? Just look around and see if humans are happy with their life or not? Most humans are suffering, wars are taking place, people are depressed due to uncertainty in life regarding health, wealth, spoiled relations, there is less of humanity and more of crimes like rapes, murders daily. Even though humans have brought and invented technologies like mobile phones, airplanes, rockets, 5g networks etc, still the question is to be asked that if humans are happy with their life or if humans quality of life is getting better?? Money and technology jitna marzi ho, it doesn't bring happiness, it only brings comfort. We can really see it's Kali-Yug and people are getting more and more materialistic and can even murder their closed ones for money, human life has no value in today's world.
Sir, I lived in California and worked in tech company from last 10 years. Had 3 kids with in 2.5 yrs( twins). It was so hard to work in office as you mentioned- my WFH was pointed in my year end review . Not promoted being smartest in the group but my kids were discussed by ex boss. It’s just hard here with only 16 weeks of maternity leave. You just touched my ❤. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hats off to you to give birth to 3 kids and raising them while working
You are a pro. Let go of short term promotions. Raise kids well. Job can be switched but future can't be. Family wealth and health is more important.
@@sreyanshuchaterjee3962 ❤️
@@princeofheaven19 ❤️
@@mp47753 will show your comments to my wife, nice to know about superwomen among us
Bhai ye banda kitna frank hai. The way he is adding value to people's thoughts is Commendable. He is teaching us just like a father. We must listen to his observations and then ponder upon. I am going to be his fan now.
Love this idea of having ladies work for 4 hours a day. This shall make them independent.
Pehli baat ye banda nhi he....atleast try to show some respect in your language for the minimum that he is an aged man.
Pkka Delh ke aspas ke hi hoge - 100% --
Kya hogya he ajkal ke generation ko....😓
@@ScrorpionBloodbhai 40s mai hai ye uncle
Aur jisko tumne comment kra hai wo bhi 30s mai hai. To wo uncle ko banda bol skta hai.
I can relate. We are a parent of 10 months kid. But I am lucky that her office is very supportive, she has an option if she wants she can work for 4 hrs with half salary, but we supported her to go for full time job. Yes there is challenges but i am a happy and proud husband. My family is supportive
Her office does not have to be supportive if you do your part of the job at home.
@@sanskritiagrawal963 may be you don't know about toxic work culture or toxic manager. It's a blessing to have a good and supportive work environment. Family support is required but if you have a tensed office then your mind will always be thinking about your work.. z
@@anurag040891 that is true for all genders. Toxic work culture is also an outcome of a status based, hierarchical society.
Namaste sir! If all the men in India starts thinking and analysing like you. India would really become a role model for rest of the world. Also we will become a much better society. Thank you🙏
All my friends are having only 1 kid and simply not ready for second child due to high education, medication and real estate cost in Mumbai. I shared the example of china's one child policy and how it is backfiring them but still no one wants 2 children. Today's young parents in 30s are having a tough time emotionally and financially to raise kids.
Exactly, very high costs in Hyderabad are dissuading people from having 2 kids.
@@rohitsoni9325 it may be practical financially but at a emotional level one child feels very lonely especially after parents death.
The onus is on government. Kal ko log hi nahi bachenge to desh kaise chalega? It is their responsibility that Japan-like situation never arises in Bharat.
@@Love-dz1um yes i have seen such issues in many homes, but here parents usually have favorite child and hence they are partial in upbriging. Child who stays with parents gets somewhat less respect and the son staying abroad or doing well in career gets more love and respect. Children understand the partial nature right from childhood so the onus is on the parents that there is love care between siblings.
On a lighter note your life seems to be like a saas bahu hindi serials with such environment.
@@bourbon646 marrying is difficult today as both girls and guys are very demanding in terms of materialist stuff, they expect the other person should do most of the stuff.
true people below 20 may not even like to get married in future, my relatives who are in school have already declared not to get married as they see their parents mostly mother's working a lot. Many see marriage as a burden bits that's just a perspective and it changes with time and life experience.
Every word spoken by you is 100% true…I spent 10yrs of my life to become a specialist…but neither my own parents nor my in laws supported me during most crucial phase of my life ..i.e childbirth….as a result my career suffered…though I have resumed my work but I won’t be able to forget that phase and behaviour of my family
I met one women who had 2 boyfriend after married
Uncle this is such a revolutionary thought video you have made. Definitely ppl have to understand why they are making girls study if they have to sit at home only. I being Specialized doctor, worked in best institute of India, had to leave my job as no one was there to support me. My parents had washed off their hands, in laws very conveniently said we are traveling and no support from husband at all. 10 years I sulked at home, seeing my batchmates becoming HODs and gaining professional highs. Now after my husband's death I am back to work but it pinches the amount of precious time I lost in between. But it is really hood video everyone should watch as actually female need support else there won't be next generation. Females will either do kids in case of support or won't but they will not sit back. 4 hours job system can solve so many problems of females plus Government too. Great ideas uncle. I am your big fan
Same here madam. I am also a specialised doctor not able to provide my service as l am unable to join any transferable job for the schooling of my kids and no support from my family. There is also no scope in my town to provide my service. Extremely depressing.
Same here madam. I am also a specialised doctor not able to provide my service as l am unable to join any transferable job for the schooling of my kids and no support from my family. There is also no scope in my town to provide my service. Extremely depressing.
So sad to learn. And happy that u r back on track. All the best 🎉
All the best to you maam
Ma'am, I don't understand why you're complaining, think about the lovely time you had with children and husband. Think about what your last memories will be after you retire- will it be about how well you worked or the beautiful moments you got to spend with family.
We ladies need to appreciate the lovely moments with our children, they fly by so fast and kids grow up before we realize. And then we sit and whine our children are too busy to spend time with us. Appreciate it.
You are absolutely right sir.. Society don't care about working women in India.. India is busy in glorifying housewives only and treating working women as selfish.. Society needs to change their mindset.. Especially men needs to participate in household chores and to support their wives to do a job... What you are saying is also said by sudha murty.. Thank you for raising this topic 🌸🙏🌸
Completely agree
Working women should consider plumbing,brick laying, electric lines maintenance,road construction,coolie,Uber driver as professions then they will find ample amount of opportunities.
@@varadpatil4926 Y nhi Bolenge ise
@@SSCCGL-ph9eb first of all its about men and women & not me and women, secondly the derogatory tone in your question sums up your attitude towards labour class
And to answer your question i have worked with these people as श्रमदान and have also got some friends still working there.
Create some content and get some followers.
Cheers
Who said? Don't you see women working. Stop the blame game and take advantage of Being a woman.. You people have mastered playing VICTIM CARD...
I was fresher at corporate & observed one thing : one day in office call (online WFH) a child (2-4 age) was calling mother (our team-mate) ,she was saying something in meeting . That time I realized it's a mother whom child calls for every problem . I messaged her appreciating her and every other mothers efforts just to make her feel good .
As a working mother I can relate with each word of you. Pressure is high on working moms. Very good idea on part time jobs for women so that they can also contribute while having family and children. In real a woman wants everything - a family, children, home , relations, a meaningful job for her own identity and independence. Man and woman are not equal. Pressure in on women. Women are doing a lot and at the end leaving their job or family means leaving her own identity for the family which is making her empty from inside. This part time solution is great. Also there are cases of suicide or suicidal thoughts in women after baby. This is because of lack of support system at home and work Its become impossible to balance everything on own.
When you get married, or other women get married, at that time itself you need to make us understand this position because we men don't think second hand.
Men can help in daily grocery and cleaning. You need to communicate that clearly, because we although we understand, we don't think second hand. We act like captain of a ship but coal workers work more.
@@subhrajitgupta5535its not called 'not able to understand'. Its called being ignorant and insensitive, and also being inhuman towards your wife. Sorry if my words hurt you, but try to think about this objectively.
@@nirupamasharma4389 Most men are atypical when it comes to their work model. They do whats in hand, and other things get left out. We follow day to day routine straight line work and deviations aren't our strength. You need to tell us a little what you want, if neglect of some become insensitive. Nobody's words hurt me. Why would it hurt!
@@subhrajitgupta5535 again i don't get it. What's there to tell? Isn't it a fact that a woman is also a human being and she also needs rest after coming back from work like men do? And even if I agree to your point, that 'men needs to be told as they don't understand by themselves', then also i dont think that your point fits here as most men fail to support their wives even when they are clearly told about it. They just say manage your way out or leave job if you can't handle. That's the point being discussed in this video and comment section as well.
@@nirupamasharma4389 Well Ill gift her and take care of her. She will be amazing.
Amit ji no one supports working women, due to their self interest. But my experience bosses are more supporting than immediate family
Yes
Hone do GDP girne do.. tabhi inko samajh aayega.. bas loan lete rehte hai n country ka debt badhate hai…
Sir i have not seen a single man talking about women issues in so much depth and understanding women's problems with so much empathy ! My highest regards and respect to you , keep doing this great work .
Pichle janam me amit peerit[ opressed] aurat tha🤔
@@sandeepsuri7515 kaise bhai???
Because there are infinite number of opportunist feminist who think of women there's no need for a man to think about women's problem..
Either you are lying or you have not observed a single thing in the society ..
Because now a days everyone is only talking about the problems that women are facing .. Not only the women but the men also showing concern about this ..
But phir bhi tum jaisi ladkiyon ko problem complaints hamesha he rahengi jo rela problem hai naa ki ehat men are facing ? So I think rarely someone is concerned about this and talk on this..
Aacha ye batao gii ki tum ladkiyaan itni nafrat kyu karti ho hum ladko ke parents se ? Problem kya hai tum logo ko aisi ?
@@MohitSingh-gv3gfkoi pbm nahi hai ji, bas sath rehna nahi chahte!! Ab tum reason puchoge to i have another question for you. Are you ready to live in woman's house with her parents?? Agar iska jawab apki taraf se naa hai to ladies se bhi yehi jawaab expect karo, yes nahi!!
*A VERY VERY VERY BIG FAN OF YOU FROM PAKISTAN SANGO UNCLE. WHAT A PERSONALITY YOU HAVE.* 💗💗💗
*Sir I will like to meet with you. Is that possible sir?*
Sir....what you said in the video is absolutely true. !! But there is other side as well. There so many men who support their wives but they have to go through so much abuse from their own family members. In my case, my husband has gone through panic attacks because of physical and mental abuse from his own family members. His family members are deadly against his support for me in household chores..!! He has always supported with me in everything..But he has gone through so much..i feel bad for him.. 😢😢😢😢
I hope your videos reach HR heads, policy makers and CEOs
Sir, i am the example of this problem, i went to so many organisations and asked them any part time work, but they said do fulltime or no work, i gave them reason of productivity and potentials, but they all refused. I asked in schools also, that why so long time for teachers, keep it alternate days for subject teachers or less time for them or it could be only definite periods,they come and take class, But principal said that is not the way school works, you can't change the system. Management does not want to bring change then how they will retain quality.
Thank you that you brought this subject,need for an hour .
I completely agree with you. Same happened with me
@@chandan4156 already taking economics and Math tuitions at home.
I have faced this same issue
I will do webinars on this to tell what all can be done
It's a choice of plenty in India. There's so many people to take up your role that they don't care about these situations.
I can relate to this video. I left my job when I was pregnant because I didn't get any support from mother and mother-in-law was busy supporting her own daughters.
Now I'm inspired by your videos and starting to look for WFH job.
What a brilliant idea of half day job options, Sir 🙏🏻 Hope companies introduce such opportunities.
Same case with me,,,but instead of leaving job,,, I took help of maid,,, now both my kids are grown up and I am still in job,,,,,find someone else from relatives who can help you when you need and help them back in other ways later ,,,,,some company has half day work with half salary,,,I guess Infosys has it,,,but not 100%sure,,,
Wfh job is there, just inform
be careful while choosing your next job, some say half day with half pay, but still work assigned is for full day...simlar thing happenned with my friend's wife and she had to again resign.
@@Shadesofwhite_ then forget about kids or you stay at home
@@Shadesofwhite_ I get your point. Daycare is an option but I wasn't comfortable leaving my little child with strangers. It's a very difficult choice but you are right. Daycare option is available.
What if boy does not want to marry. Nai chahiye ladki. Thailand is there
Bhai people don’t marry for sex only kuch to save ka socho… sex se fulfilment mill Rahi hoti to sab yahi karte
If Elon Musk is richest person that doesn't mean whatever he say or do is correct.. He is having affairs and is thinking about shifting some of earth's population on another planet
This happened with me too . I left my job after second child 😢😢
Means?
Argentina and India is of same size
Argentina population is 4.6 crore and India's population is 150 crore
30 times more,
We need to reduce population by 30 times to live a nature friendly life.
Itna suffering hai life mein......kyon bache karein paida sir?
Rone ke liye......
To propagate your gene in future.
@@adash7841 no need for that you are not from some royal family most of us here are from middle or upper middle we are not dynasties
Sir I am lady. Eyes r non stop watering. Working and worked a lot . Just got support from mother and in token got so many bad rewards. Only thing just worked and worked as I build my carrier with lot of hardship since grade. But u r very sensitive and sensible person try to put the india in right direction. May GOD bless u
Absolutely agree! We need a huge change in society. If the woman in a family is happy and fulfilled the family will be happy too. Support while raising children, flexible work, support for work at home will really help.
This world doesn't needs any more Human Child right now.Sorry Sir 🙏 but u r worng in this concept. We don't need any child.
Thank you so much for the topic Sir. this is a story of every educated girl who studied and worked passionately to achieve something in life.. got married in a family who never realised her potential or worth.. they just want her be at home and be a servant for them.. I am really thankful to you for bringing out this topic. I am so lucky that my parents specially my father always supported and encouraged me to work.. I have been watching your videos and they are bringing in so much clarity.. looking forward to start my career again..
In offices, maternity leave is considered as vacations... Hights of insensitivity towards women..
Being a homeopathic doctor ,I always practiced for 2, 3 hours daily. Private practice is good in terms of 3 4 hours ka kaam.
I am a doctor. Mera IVF hua tha. My mother was there with me since I conceived. She stayed with me at my home for 8 months till my cesarean section. My baby was a preterm. Then again we were at my sasural for almost 2 months. Then I went to my mother's home. I was there for 3 months. She was there with me all this time. Thank you to bahut hi chhota word hoga unke liye
So true Sir. I have been working continuously from the day I finished my education. I got married early so I completed education after my marriage. Initially I got support from my Maa and MIL but now they are either old or have gone to the other world so I have been struggling now. My day starts at 4.30 in the morning and I crash out at 10pm. I raised 2 kids and now my son is working. I feel like giving up. But financial independence is like drugs. Can't quit. I feel I couldn't enjoy my life. It has been a journey of work and only work.
But that's great you see. This addiction is nice. Isn't it?
Hats off to you
Its a good addiction dear. People get addiction of resting all the time. Its much better than that. Keep taking, breaks from work, like a week long leave sometimes. And try having great time with friends and family. Or may be just a good me time. Jiske paas jo nahi hota wo hi khalta hai, so don't worry i would say. Just be grateful and enjoy life.
It is the effect of capitalism...this tendency has grown in last 20 years... South Korea adopted this culture with this capitalism...which is service oriented...in some fields they want ladies only...good looking...they hire one person...pay for two and get the work done of 3 persons....these MNCs give no time for life.... office is everything....in Mumbai at least 10 hrs service and commuting time of 2-3 hrs .. i don't understand how people especially ladies cope up with work and family....but in Marathi families, mothers support... sometimes mother in law.... still girls go for just 1 child....they don't want breaks in the career two times.... Even housewives want only one child.....but you have taken up very good topic...👍
Sir ,lost my father in my childhood.. see you as my father . actually you are father of nation
I was HR manager before marriage but didn't work after marriage due to various reasons like mother in-law, trying for baby and husband working in changing shift. Husband salary was low so didn't plan family. Now I m 41 don't have child,no house, no job no support from inlaws, no parents alive. Sir please can u help me please?
I left my job for my kid because I was underperforming at office and at home too. I felt guilty as a mother. My husband didn't want me to leave my job but I still did. Best decision of my life.
Sir i decided to leave my job and resigned from govt job in may 2022 as my wife was earning threetimes more salary and i decided to take care of my daughter who was small and started schooling, there was nobody who helped us in family, and we mutually decided that i was resign as I was transferred outside Delhi and my household responsibility and my daughter needed me as my wife could not run and manage it without me
Women are very focused. They know what they want to do and what not to. But it is happening in only one community. Some communities want to just reproduce,nothing else
Thank God Females like you, exists on this Land...
They have been doing same from last 1400 years
And they will keep doing it for Next 1400 Years
@@slimeforyou2750 Ofc 🤣
True I am A doctor worked in periphery I have seen muslim women really don't get education they literally marry at 16/15 to 30 yr men and read up to class 7 that's why their fertility rate so high sadly here not a single feminist have raised this question because it's against the narrative 🤡.
@@nmo3148 muslim women education is so low they marry at 16 that's main reason.
Elon musk say that bcoz he can afford to… for his child work can be optional.
He already hav enough money to afford your whole family also…😝
2011 census data showed a more than 115% increase in the numbers of never married women age 35 and more. We have missed a decadal census but from my observation the rate of growth in this number will be exponential in the coming decades. I agree with you Sangwan ji, we need public policy intervention for ensuring sharing of women's care burden.
Thank you sir for discussing such a relevant topic. I'm blessed with the best of parents who are extremely supportive regarding my job. Though at office I have come across women who are going through a lot just to keep a job, it's a sad situation for women indeed.
Very true sir..i was also suffering this situation...and i stopped my job after 40 because of 14 hours working time
I want to make an honest confession: I have worked with mainstream print media and top publishing companies. Too many hard deadlines and lack of social support at home, need for rest, made me give up my career. I am very happy today as a home maker, because at least I can rest whenever I want to.
Instead you could have tried switching to less stressful job. Everybody wants break and rest in life. But lifelong rest, i just dont get it.
@@nirupamasharma4389 I did switch to publishing and then freelancing from home for a good 15 years, after giving up my full time job in media and publishing, but it didn't work out well for me. I have lower spine problems because of long hours of freelancing. Now I am taking care of my pets, and resting. I have a dog walker and groomer, also I have a maid and cook.
@@nirupamasharma4389How miserable of you to think that her job as a homemaker is full of rest for her whole life. Didn't your mother worked hard to raise you or did she just rested.
@@berserker9747 my mother was a working woman. So no, i just don't get the idea of being a homemaker. I absolutely don't support financial dependency at all. In this era of having luxury of machines to do so many household tasks much faster than before, and also having maids, i do consider homemaker job, not a job. And i can say that with confidence because I am also married and also have a child. I also have a home to take care of. I still don't consider homemaker as a full time job. May be it all depends on how you are raised.
I also think women should be given menstrual leaves...in our home mom never did anything during her menstrual days.
Sir could you please throw some light on taboo topics of our society like physical relationships before marriage and concern of virginity. What are the impacts of it on our society if the people engages in any above mentioned scenario.
Too much feminism
Very sensible vdo. You are absolutely true. Because of the support of my mother and mother in law, I could manage my job as a specialist doctor in all India transferable job and retired after completing 25 yrs. They looked after my children throughout. I worked day and night attending emergencies and went for out station duties without worrying about my kids as they were looked after by their grand parents. Now I am getting handsome pension and my both children are pursuing professional courses. Daily I remember my in laws and parents for their immense support.
you are very lucky to have so much of blessing & support from elders
Very lucky now a days nobody willing to care for children upbringing neither parents nor in laws. They say that we cared for our Jobs and for you now your child please leave us
True. I am blessed. I looked after my mom in law till her death ( at the age of 94 yrs ) . She was with me for 14 yrs. I looked after her during her illness. Got her 3 major surgeries during those 14 yrs. Left my good paying job to look after her when her health started deteriorating. I feel , in every family, if ladies understand each other's problems and help each other, there won't be any KLESH as Sangili says. Life will be Jinga Lala
Sir mujhe working women is problem kuch nhi hai lekin ye jo baat apne batayi hai naa ki ye cheez sehan nhi ho rahi hai purshu sey at 10:44 minute per wo cheez aap ki itni jyada galat hai naa hadd se jyada ..
Aap ne kabhi ye nhi dekha kya ki aaj ke highly competitive generation mai agar ladki ko job mill jaye toh uss ke tevar kese badal jatein hai ?? Aadmi ko kuch nhi smjhati hai apne aap ko independent bol bol kar ??
Aap ne kabhi ye nhi dekha kya ki chahiye toh ladkiyon ko apne se jyada earn karne wala he ??
At the end baki aap ki video mai problem jyada dikhi nhi bss ye he ek part video ki thodi ajjeb lagi kab apne kaha ki purush samaj jealous from women and their success ..
Sir aaj ki ladkiyaan waisi nhi hai jaisi aap ki generation mai milti thi .. Jab aap 20 to 25 ke bich mai rahe honge tab .. Uss time ki ladkiyaan sabse upar apne pariwaar ko rakhti thi wo he unn ke liya sab kuch hota thai pyar per believe karti thi ...
Lekin aaj ke time mai nhi milti hai aisi ladkiyaan bohot rarely jiski kismat bohot jyada aachi hoti hai uss ko mill jati hai warna nhi milti hai ladkiyaan .. BTW ladke bhi hai lafi bigade hua uss ko deny nhi kar sakta mai ..
I'm from Kolkata, married to an Australian, we have two children and I work part-time. Here there are more options for part-time jobs. India should give more options for part-time employment.
Population dekho bhai😂😂
The talks about development seems to be very attractive but in reality Hindu population is decreasing wheras Muslim population is increasing. This is also an issue to be considered.
Another way in which working women are pressurized is by blaming her and making her guilty whenever the kids are unwell or if they fall back in studies
Working women doesn't marry a non-working man or a working man with lower salary than her... Does the society blame or pressurized the women for that 😂😂😂😂
Very true.....my husband left me n daughter for a younger girl.......I asked this question in court...if I also leave child who in society take care...if all women stop taking care of children what will happen to future population.
Lots of Respect for telling out loud the extra mental pressures of women at workplace.
Ek video aisa bhi banaiye
Kaise women apane married hone ka, mother hone ka fayda leti hai aur jin women ki shadi nahi hui hai jinke bacche nahi hai unpe injustice karati hai.
This is just another side of coin you may not be aware of.
And I am a girl / woman.
Very true. The irony is that when one used to go for school admission of daughters, the school management would frown on working women saying that they have no time for children.
Aapke sath ko debate karne wala hona chahaiye .. bcoz apki thinking galat bhi toh ho sakti hai..😝 one side gyaan is dangerous.
I would be so happy if we could work for 4-5 hours. It would be so satisfying. Working in school was an option earlier but, nowadays working in private schools are horrible. They make you work for 12-13 hrs a day with no weekends. That too at a pittance.
5:00 yeh aapki galat faimi hai. Office mein bhi mahila ko favour kiya jata hai. Purush ko raat ko 11-12 baje tak bithaya jaata hai lekin mhaila ko samay par jaldi chhod diya jata hai. Salary dono ki same hai.
Purush ko manager gaali bakta hai aur bura vyavahar karta hai lekin mahila ko sab easy easy milta hai.
7:12 - 7:25, you explained it all. My mother used to be most educated one in her so called sasural. But after having kids, she left working and became housewife. After looking at her, I decided I don't want my life to be like her. Thank God I am not the one who think this way. I used to thought, I am weird.
Sabhayata ka hamne theka le rakkha hai ....
You are telling my own story sir, I wish I would have got support from my parents and husband
I follow you...but here I don't agree to any of your point. Sorry.
Names of the next generation should bear both parents surname. Children should learn both parents mother tongue, and religion.
Otherwise woman shall always be seen as commodity.
So true
Women, working or non-working, love to raise children. After marriage, a girl gets little or no support from family in raising her children and in maintaining a job. It is enormous pressure on her. Make her life easier, share workload, help her in every possible way. She definitely will have a family blessed with children to be proud of.
India will change. Pls do share the mindset
sir apke sarre baate sahi h but ek chiz miss ho gaya h . ki ajkal larkiya larko se kam nhi h chahe wo cigarette pine m ho ya daru ya fir oyo . kuch achi h but ajkal sabka raaj kuch months m pata chal jata h , sarafat sirf apne ghar aur muhalle tak h bahar m inki asli pehchan hoti h jaha pe hum log kaam karte h inlogo k sath.
Baki sab to thik hai, sensitivity towards women, women employment, Elon Musk ka logic, S Korea ki halat, par....
I disagree.
What incentive do I have to rear a child? I am 40. I am confident whatever catastrophe would come due to decline in population, I would not be here to see.
Neither, I run a business or have any farmland. I am service holder. I need no one to manage my property/business. And, I have no expectations of old-age care by children.
Are you asking me to do sacrifice for future generations?
I can consider your suggestion if government gives me substantial benefit for producing and rearing a child for 20-25 years. And, nothing less a than a pension (equivalent to Gr. C govt employee) would be acceptable.
I have nothing to loose if I am childless. And, I am not happy to sacrifice my resources and time for future generations.
@Sourav Dey- you have a point in some countries people have already told govt nothing less of equivalent 1k USD or 1k euro support per month per child besides free education and health as there are many expenses else they will not think of having kids south Korea nursery and schools can 1k to 2k USD if those are free plus support for child care for working parents and adhoc child allowance would be minimum but if govt do this much then they realise it is more cost than what they will get they expect people to toil and then afterwards govt take the benefits in the form of consumers and votes slowly people realizing it only the gulf countries citizens are truly taken care of in real sense everywhere else all govts are working for companies you can leave out Germany as they are quite good but UK is not that good even nowadays
half of the things are right half wrong...
Eye opener video. This issue should be talked at top priority in our society as nowadays working women r necessary but to make them work comfortably we need to learn these points u described in video. I'm also a highly qualified lady of 90s but couldn't do job with non supportive sasural . If this 4 hour job get started in india % of working women will increase tremendously. I also could work for 4 hours .Queen honey bee example was mind blowing to show the importance of a mother.
Meri maid 7 bachche aur sharabi juari pati ko akele pal rahi hai apni 5 betiyon ki help se
Half working hours,half salary
OMG what a great idea for women
Ye idea मानव संसाधन विकास मंत्री के दिमाग में क्यों नही आता। हिंदुस्तान की आधी आबादी अपना आधा वक्त बर्बाद कर रही है उसका सदुपयोग होना चाहिये।
Parents after attaining a certain age becomes insensitive or in other words cruel and sadists.
@Roy - because they realized they could have lived life full without their own kids and travelled the world
@@arpanmadrecha946 they realize they wasted their time and money raising ungrateful children
Very true..but some attain it by birth
@@wowser2153bada to unhone Kiya hai na
To unhe sochna chahiye ki hamne kaise sanskaar diye jo bacche ungrateful hain?
@@vibha-ff1ee children make their own decisions when they become adults.
Am amazed 👏 the kind of topics you come up with.. !! So relevant..!! So much needed !! Bang on you target !! 👏 I have almost seen all your videos.. !! And forwarded too.. !! Aankhen..Dil..Dimaag..Aap sab kholte ho.. !! Highly impressed !! :) Regards !!
0.9 replacement rate hua to kya hua tax to equal dete hai 😂it doesn't effect economy in any way.
Only respect !! 🙇♀️Your points across this discourse are just untenable, sir! Seriously I don't know why no one talks about increasing women's contribution to GDP when women make up almost half of the population. Reservation parliament me increase to kya karni atleast iss direction me e women supporting measures lele govt. That would go a long way. And indeed everyone is selfish when it comes to supporting women in their work.Even our news channels are fraught with senseless, stupid discussions & nothing of real stuff that really affects our society. Keep it up sir! 🙏🏻 Repect for you!
Low birth rate is not a bad thing. Human population is too high and even 10% of population of current population is not going to be low. Post industrialization, humans are atleast 10-20 times more expensive species in terms of natural resource burden.
Absolutely Sir. There is no support for working women. I am professional qualified. But as I got married, my mother in law expected me to cook 3 times a day and take care of when cushions are changed or poocha ache se lga...if me and my husband are sick, she expects me to cook but serves food to his son...it hurts you mentally and this ultimately reduces your productivity.
I never wanted to live alone and came from a loving and supportive joint family but the way I get treated by my mother in law has led me to depression
Stay away from her.
@@kaminipatil5195 I so wish I could
Women is women's worst enemy
You hit the nail sir
Matlab sidhi baat no bakwaas.
Your ability to find pain points and express it so well is so amazing 👏
This is a good point. With a 4 year old child I’ve tried to find part time jobs and work from home jobs but they are too hard to find. It’s better to stay home and pursue my hobbies.
if you are doing ok financially, better to spend time with your kid and start doing what you enjoy like hobbies/ join woman groups and have good time. some of us got so occupied in work that we missed out totally on family part and now no family and golden time is also gone
@@diauser3327 Inflation keeps kicking its luxury to have non working partner.
Ab logo ko samaj aa gaya
hoga hamara purana system
kitna sahi tha
You are right.
Sir I was working and earning high salary as software engineer, my mother who was working in school used to take care of my daughter as her timings were fixed but mine was not.
But I suffered a lot can't even write here.
Now I have no interest in my daughters marriage and her kids at all.
I never seen ,any earning girl married any non earning boy ,if they do not have affair.So,women got lots of practical sense only self centered
I would add something here, workplaces should be made child friendly. If there is a baby/toddler care area in the work building or next door, then women won't have to depend on their senior parents, maid, elderly in laws, or call the house multiple times to ask if their kid is okay.
The reason girls are scared of marriage in many communities.But also, another part of story....women in India in nany cases, also go to work to escape the toxic environment at home too
Sach mein 😅
Eye opener
Only elderly can impart these type of knowledge
But many elderly arn't on UA-cam
Thanks for bieng a info giver 🔥🔥
This video is a must watch for all indians...such clarity on a sensitive issue presented with such compassion....a social reform has been initiated with this video ..hope the msg reaches everyone..mass and policy makers
Nowadays companies are providing this concept of reduced hours in Germany, hope this will also start in India soon
here they are not granting us to use our own leaves, they are gettign lapsed... we feel so bad when our team in other countries take back to back off while we are idiots working day-day... hope this toxic work culture changes,
@Seema - that is Germany where everyone pays tax and also Germany makes higher technology products which they can sell to all countries and hence they have a free very good school and even college education Germany is a unique country with good and sensible politicians while our politicians cannot make India even economically like china in a 1000 years
Very true, I m an astrologer,now Women come to me to match kundali with women . Not one or two. It's a list.
They simply deny to marry man by saying "kaun sab kre unka jab value nahi hai with girls we get emotional security tht only we want".
It's true ... M not lying or saying mann se
आपने सही कहा, आदमी जिम्मेदारी नहीं लेना चाहते
Long life is root cause of overpopulation.
@Sachin Javsen- Spot on
Nice topic sir and very true..there should be balance between having kids and also work, both extremes are not going to beneficial in long run. Women who have kids and leave job later feel depressed and same with women who decides to not have kids for career later regrets. This idea would be win-win situation
Very good suggestion, 50% pay, half working hours. This will be true welfare of women and would restore their self respect also. Family and child welfare will be achieved.
Sir..same story..I had to leave my job after 13 years coz I was in a 9 to 9 job framework and was not able to give time to my two kids of 7 yrs and 3 yrs.. although I had support of my husband but felt bad for my kids...I totally relate to what you say that my male colleagues used to comment if I left early from office and I was v good at work..due to inflexible work conditions I had to leave my job
U can take break for couple of years and start again..
This govt needs to think about it! Make common work timelines laws. Only 6-7hrs work (add 1-2 hrs travel time). Currently 9hrs working plus travel time becomes atleast 11hrs! People are living a fanily lofe only on weekends! This is pathetic!
100 % Agreed.
I have 100 % same situation
My wife wake up at 5 give tea to my parents.
Then prepare some lunch for herself and sabji for others.
Comeback at 4:30 then her mother in law give tea to him.
Then she just sit for dinner planning.
Then she prepare dinner do some school work as she is a teacher.
Where I get a chance to help her i try to help her like some dusting and kapde sukhne dalna kind of.
But seriously i have a so so soft corner for her as you said ki vo kissi bhi boy se 3 Guna kaam karti hai.
Love you as you are saying this thing socially. ❤️
@balvinder- this is Indian problem those who want to drink tea/coffee should make it themselves and not trouble others else do not drink t
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This is an Indian problem those who want to drink tea/coffee should make it on their own not trouble others else they should stop drinking anyways it does not do any good
I think each of the family members should contribute to the housework.
@@arpanmadrecha946 As a wife she is giving Tea and other members are taking care our 5 year child through out the day and giving breakfast and lunch to me.
I am washing clothes and taking care of other household work. So that she can take a rest after coming back to the office. Then she also does some dinner stuff and all.
So it's easy to say ki jisko chai pine ho vo khud bnaye.. But not a good ethics.