I bartend. I see lots of over 50 divorced men and women night after night. Very few I would call happy. The men are looking for hookups with literally anyone with a “V” and the women sit and bitch about their lives and go home alone because the men there just want one thing. I work at ground zero when it comes to seeing relationships, if you’re miserable then by all means, end your relationship but don’t for a second think that brings instant happiness. Believe it or not, many times you are actually the problem.
I live by bars. The men are pathetic. Literal grandpa's hitting on girls 25 /30 years younger. Trying to buy them a drink and talk to them. These girls have my blessing to steal their money . These men refuse to date their age and want to screw young women. They want a nurse to take dare of them😂 since most have alot of health problems.
I agree. But sometimes the other spouse has hoarding issues, substance abuse, extreme neglect in the relationship, etc. Sometimes people just want a safe and decent place to live, and divorce is the best way to do it.
@ oh I agree, and to those younger people who may see this I ask that they evaluate their lives and ask if they want to spend the next 30 years dealing with this. Older people have much tougher questions, number one is do I want to spend the rest of my life alone.
I know a female divorce lawyer, she represents a lot of elderly female clients. She always asks Why do you want to get a divorce at this age? The typical answer is I am tired of waiting for him to die, by the time he dies I will be too old to enjoy the money. At first it sounds kind of funny, then it sounds sad.
Don’t compare the reality of gray divorce of celebrities that have a lot of money to the middle class divorce. Often women are left with a very different lifestyle than when they were married. Read the studies before believing it is a ‘better’ life.
Exactly. The average North American female who divorces in middle age will face financial uncertainty unless she planned for this accordingly, has a great career, independent mindset and financial savvy and nest egg. Any major health setbacks can cause even more financial hardship. Women who are widowed fair better usually because they inherit their husband’s estate and not loose half of their net equity in a divorce settlement.
@micclay They could be whomever they want to be. Finances exist without a man. No need to cowtow to a man at the expense of your own happiness and identity.
Freedom is everything!! Marriage is the most unattractive thing to man, knowing that he could lose everything if she decides to pull the plug. The best thing I did was at age 33 to realize I wasn't the marrying kind. Never did it before or since. Loving retirement now. Two cats, a dog and a cockatoo and the 1978 Ford F-150 are my family.
@@axnyslie cars pets and travel isn't profound. I think people yearn for something less superficial My wife and I have the mantra 1+1=3 . But i respect a profound life of a spouse and kids isn't for everyone.. It's just to me a dog licking himself, or another line at TSA or something that goes vroom vroom from point A to point B only goes so far. But I am the marrying type. I liked being a husband even with my divorce. Never got cynical
Yeah I got divorced in my late 40’a and life is way better. In my marriage I was broke and rarely had sex, now I have money , rentals , and I pretty much have sex whenever I want ( gf’s tend to want it way more than wife did , nothing like a ring to shut down a woman’s libido)
@@idx1941you have no clue what marriage is about. Marriage isn’t about happiness. Marriage is literally a contract to hold couples to their word to be responsible and stable people in society in order to bring forth children who can model the same attributes as their parents. Which is why most people divorced when they feel like they have accomplished their duty in marriage. I’m not against divorce, just an advocate for marriage because hook up culture is garbage… nothing good comes from single parent homes.
My parents split up one month before their 50th wedding anniversary. My mother was blindsided at 71. My father wanted to "live his best life" which meant spending them into near bankruptcy and sending money to "women" he met online. He now doesn't think my mother should get any type of settlement. Gray divorce is not trivial and it is not all roses and sunshine and wonderful new lives. It is more often than not devastating, especially for women.
I am a real person. Heaven forbid I only created my account a year ago…what must I ah s been doing with my life not to have a UA-cam account. What an asinine comment. And the story is very real unfortunately. I only wish I didn’t have to deal with the drama surrounding it in real life.
I'm 34 and my parents wonder why I am not married. What is the point when over half of all marriages end in divorce? I don't want to be drained financially and have to work into my 80's because someone has a change of heart 20+ years in.
@@mtgamateurnight absolutly. Marraige is a contract with the state and taxes. It has nothing to do with love. Stand your ground! You dont need to sign a paper to prove love. If you do, it's not love.
Well, you have to choose wisely and choose someone with who you have as much in common as possible and have common goals. You also want a person who values marriage and companionship. Long-term commitment and marriage is not always a bed of roses. You do have to compromise because it is no longer just about you. But there is an element of luck that someone doesn't drastically change and make the partnership unlivable. I have been married many years to a wonderful person and I highly recommend it.
I was widowed at age 35 when my spouse died of cancer. I'm 70 now and remained single ever since. Life was great back when I was a couple but life has also been great single. I totally enjoy doing what I want when I want. I have friends to chum around with at times, but spend most the time alone, vacations alone, events alone and eating alone. It's actually very comfortable, peaceful and enjoyable. I learned to be comfortable with my own thoughts.
Ive been divorced since 35. It’s been a decade and I’ve stayed single. It does get lonely sometimes, but it’s simple and peaceful like you said. I’ve also learned to be comfortable with my own thoughts.
@@MeagRamtheman LOL, no he does not, he just prefers the peaceful and quite life, if marriage is sooo great, we would not have such high divorce rates.
Your comment reminded me of a friend who went to a car shop and asked how long it would be. The mechanic teasingly said 3 hours, then said, "I'm kidding. She replied, "That's OK. I don't have a dog or a husband."😂
nearly 33 years with my man…hope it lasts forever. we spend a lot of time together and hope to continue to do that….we are 62 and 64. I also believe we are a really good example to family, friends and our kids. We love each other and support each other in every facet of life. And by the way, we are opposites in nearly everything.
@@firenze5555you know - my male professor at the university once told me this joke - husband looks at his wife and says - you are so beautiful, great body, best tits, big eyes, wonderful hair, you are so sexy, loving, caring…. If only only if you could be a … stranger. So 😂
I'm halfway-ish to 33 years in, married for 16 years. I love him, more importantly I LIKE him. I pray we stay together forever ❤ we met early in life but knew we were the one for each other.
Unless you are very rich & still looking exceptional in your 60’s, 70’s, you won’t find any man or woman, so get a hobby, engage with your community, learn to live alone.
Who said I want to find a man????? Are you crazy? Maybe a man? My ex husband started dating as soon as we got divorced - 15 minutes it took, adult children and financial stuff done - and he 54 married 38 y old and now they have a child. Men can’t be alone without serious risks to their wellbeing- when I see death certificates of younger men - like 30-45 years old - they are usually bachelors. Sometimes divorced. Very rarely - married. Not so with women. I can’t even imagine moving in with sb. I have books to read and another degree to get. Two languages to learn and one to refresh. Other people has eaten the big portion of my life. I have two sons and it’s more than enough as human connection. Sometimes too much 😂
Agree 100 % …I am 66 ( male ) and still married BUT I have 3-4 friends who are divorced ( 62-68 ) years old and it is according to them MUCH harder in the dating scene than it was back in their twenties. Many reasons …. health challenges…..money issues….children who may frown on their parent dating again ….and mostly some people are so set in their ways trying new experiences is often so difficult for them
@@mr.horse1801 nope, I’ve got a truly good man. He’s a hardworking and a great partner and great parent to our children. I don’t have to be his mommy as he’s a fully functioning adult both intellectually and physically, maybe you should try that.
Actually i know married females who are happy, but they don't seem to have a 9 to 5 job everyday. They seem to be at home more or have time to do things besides work all day everyday.
one of the worst Rx on the market is birth control. These have major side effects including anxiety & depression which obviously causes relationships issues. AVOID rx birth control. In addiction our food & public drinking water is full of toxic man made chemicals that are causing all sorts of hormonal imbalances in men, woman & children. Also causing relationship issues. A good clean diet is the key to keeping your hormones balances for everyone. If your homones are not balances you will not have good relationships. Before you think about filing for divorce get your health in order with a clean diet. Fat no your body stores these man made chemicals causing hormones & heal issues that will cause relationship issues. Get the fat off with a good clean diet & exercise they you will have a healthy body & brain to make good decisions and be happy maybe with your partner if they are healthy & happy too. Learn to READ FOOD LABLES most food in the greocery store is literally poison to the body & brain.
@@figurefour633 I agree and she must be Punished for her Heathenism! Divorce, Single Mothers, should be Punished by Male Society, Not Celebrated like the News Demands!
Worked with a guy. He was a fireman and worked his off days as a union carpenter. The day he retired from the Chicago Fire Department his wife of 25+ years served him with divorce papers. Skip the marriage altogether. It’s bad business And marriage is a business.
When I stayed with mom, dad was evil. Then when I stayed with dad, mom was evil. I was 11 - 16 I guess. Important years. I’ve never been on a date, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, lifetime bachelor at age 60. It fucked me up pretty bad. I’m successful, happy with no regrets though. It is what it is.
It's interesting you say that because I was just telling my mother the other day that I'm soooo glad that she and my dad divorced when I was a little girl instead of staying "for the kids." They've been divorced nearly 30 years after a turbulent marriage and are good friends today. It's common for my dad to come and hang out with me and my mom for holidays and some weekends. I LOVE it this way, and I'm nearly 40 years old. I believe addressing the problem sooner than later is a lot better for "the kids" in the long run.
@@guybeingaguy I wish kids didn't go through that stuff. My son has his issues from our marital mess. We don't have to lead cookie cutter lives, and people who don't marry have energy to be community helpers, life lines for kids, and great uncles/aunts
@@elizabethheyenga9277 I don’t see it as an “issue” because you can’t miss what you never had. Luckily, I KNEW I was emotionally defective before my 20th birthday. There was no way I was going to be an acceptable husband/boyfriend. I removed myself for everybody’s well being, hers mainly. I installed an emotional switch a LONG LONG time ago. It’s always off, probably is broken anyways, but served me well all these years. Do I like it? NO. It’s the cards I was dealt, I’ve done what I thought and think is right. No regrets🍺👍
Married 1st time at 19, divorced 5 years later when the infatuation wore off. Was a lot smarter next time looking for someone who shared the same interests. Been together 45 years, Was it easy? Sometimes yes, others not so much. Came close to divorce once during the midlife crisis after 30 years. Both committed to doing the work and much easier now that we're both retired. Very happy to stay until the lights go out.
57 year old woman here, divorced at 29. Best move I ever made. After a pleasant 9 year relationship after the divroce and subsequent dating I came to the conclusion that going solo was the best choice for me. I am also realistic that men do not want older women and I do not pursue relationships with them. I never thought life could be so content and peaceful.
Yes! Having peace and my sanity is important. Regaining independence and making important decisions. I am not afraid of being alone. I lived alone for 11 years before getting married. I put myself through college when I was single (including graduate school). My finances are good. I don't need a man in my life to make me complete or to support me financially. I did all of this when I was single and I'm still doing it now that I'm divorced. I am a survivor!
I am 68 in Cebu, Philippines. I have college girls fighting over me. I hear sub Saharan Africa is a good place for women my age. Some western women go there and have their pick of young African men that don't have food.
Divorced at 56 after 32 years of marriage. He initiated it and I am grateful. I started online dating about a week later lol. I just wanted to get dressed up and go out, meet new people. It was a blast! Unexpectedly, I met a man with whom I connected and we’ve been together ever since (8 years). Never been happier ❤️
"In marriage, we have a duty to God, our spouses, the world, and future generations. But we are sinners. A husband and wife need to acknowledge that when the Bible speaks of fools, it is not just speaking about other people, but about them as well." - C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity.
Don't bring Santa into this...God, Santa, the tooth fairy! ...and I am a spiritual person, but not by the definition taught by another man/human being of what God is.
Speak for yourself mate. Just because YOU feel like a loser, don't project your low self esteem on the rest of us. You sound like you have a lot of self hate, THAT'S why women can't stand you.
The incredible pain of being faithfully married for 27 years, I was 52 years old, I discovered my husband’s affair with his married coworker. I was in shock. Some days it’s hard. So many triggers of what they did together while ignoring us!
Being cheated on is humiliating and hurtful. Other people don't know the pain unless it's happened to you. I know the pain, but in time, I got on with life and ultimately realized he did me a favor.
I know this pain! I’m 8 years since d day and will tell you, the dark days lessen. My dream is one day we all can come out of the shadows to really discuss this devastation of betrayal trauma. The pain is beyond anything
As a 36 year old Millennial, I've been in a relationship for nearly 8 years. But I will never marry and I have to say nearly half my high school and college classmates have not married at this point. Marriage was once forced upon everyone. Not anymore. Freedom to love is pure.
"What you're supposed to do"?? No, what you *promised* to do. Not once in that 7 and a half minute video did they mention the word commitment, or promise, or vows...all goes out the window in this 'me' era we're in.
I have always believed marriage is good for maybe 5% of the population. Most people are not willing to fulfill any commitments and honor no longer exists. Better to either live together or stay single.
@GBU61 No, for men living together won't be like the Golden Girls, especially in common law states. They'll expect him to provide way more than they are while fixing this and that for free. At that age sex is irrelevant so it's better to huddle up with self-reliant men.
Oh but you see, others DO have to live with your choices! Your children, your family and your community pay the price when you decide to get a divorce. Maybe we can find a balance between personal needs and absolute selfishness.
@@Tourianthe children also pay the price when their parents stay in a loveless and toxic marriage. I speak from experience and witnessing this firsthand. Sometimes (often times) divorce is better than seeing your parents argue constantly. Worry about your own bs and stay out of everyone else’s.
Divorce wouldn’t have made it better.. my parents divorced when I was 18 years old. They still fight to this day and our family never gets together. We aren’t a family it was so toxic. I’m 56 and they are alive but I have nothing to do with them anymore and them me . They actually blame me for their problems. They’ll never stop hating each other. It’s very sick.
@@valeriefromoregon Same age. My mother has resented me since birth. I "ruined" her life. 5 decades and I'm done. Say about 2 words to her each time I am forced to see her. I don't even want to go over there for my birthday. She is a narcissist and the drama is intense. My dad wanted to get mad at me when I said I wanted to go eat with my son and not her. But I said, 'It's MY birthday." He let it go.
This should have been expected; women who entered the workforce and built up their own savings and investments eventually wouldn't want to stay in "shell" marriages. There are, of course, happy empty-nesters, but there are also partnerships where the relationship is on life support. People have to decide what works for their emotional, mental, physical well-being; either stay and work on it or move on. Life is short.
I wish my marriage had lasted. Unfortunately, you can’t maintain a relationship when you have to do all the giving with someone who isn’t present or accountable. He was emotionally abusive and misogynistic. He was vicious and mean. Now, I am in my seventies, poor, and disabled by disease. I chose wrong, and I am paying for it. The isolation is devastating. If I were healthy, it would be different.
No one is perfect. Be kind to yourself and perhaps you can find online communities to connect with like book reading groups, etc. to widen your social circle.
My boss once told me a lot of couples stay together for the sake of the children. Freedom comes once kids go off to college. That’s when older couples decide to get divorced. 🤷♂️🤔🤷♂️
My younger brother has been in a loveless marriage for most of its 36 years and I look for them to divorce now that the youngest kid is grown and in college. I've noticed in the last couple years he's been exercising a lot more freedom than before so I think he couldn't care less if they divorce now.
The irony to interview about how great it is to get divorced - from a woman whose been divorced 3+ times.... Common denominator anyone? Still no accountability.
I worked for a divorce attorney for 25 years I can tell you this is a fact...most of our clients were married 25-30 yrs or more and once the kids grow up and move out theses couples realize just like they said in the video that they no longer have anything in common
I was only married once for 34 years. I agree that more seasoned women (50 and over) are getting divorced. My life is so much BETTER now. I like the woman that I have become -- I like having MY OWN time... Doing what I want to do. I am a baby boomer with NO children.
@@se_me1756 Childless Boomer.... Sounds like a Feminist Nut Job! What you didn't like Men, just the Boys you Sick Woman! Women are Sickos that need to be Punished!
Not everyone is guaranteed to have a loving spouse by their side. That's the reality. We have all these romantic movies and self proclaimed relationship experts and gurus trying to tell us how to get and keep someone, but no one wants to acknowledge that some people will be alone, by or not by their own choice.
Of course older couples break up for various reasons but most often it is because they have become more roommates than a couple. The passion is gone and let's face it if there isn't a physical relationship to compliment the emotional relationship then it is almost doomed to fail. I have had two close friends who suffered in this sort of relationship and it was sad to see them wasting their lives away without that closeness to their partner. In both cases they loved their spouse too much to leave them but were at the same time miserable.
Here's something I think these people aren't thinking of: How many of them believe their kids are going to set aside their families and jobs to help take care of them when they're old enough they actually need help? You'd be surprised at how many of their kids will not. They will need help. That's the point of partnerships. Being in a nursing home alone and at the mercy of whatever $12 an hour worker has you that shift isn't the business. I've seen it. Find your someone's and do it sooner than later. Time is not on your side.
Ahh, but men die first so women are better off alone anyway. Who wants to marry an old man unless it's for the money and that's not a real relationship. Men might kid themselves into thinking that though. 😅
People can only speak from their experience. Im 50 and husband is 53. Im happily married to my best friend. Marriage is hard but its worth it. Its not for everyone
Married 33 years to my best friend. Praise God. A house full of family and love. It hasn’t always been easy but we’ve got one another and wouldn’t trade it for anything. Fight for your marriage.
The key words are ‘best friend’ 👏- relationships are very serious and I often say that they are ONLY meant for best friends! If not just keep dating and stay single, have fun.
At least you're honest about that. Most people brag about living their "best life," to random strangers on the internet; and Who do they really think that they're kidding? One thing that social media has taught us is that people that are truly happy don't need to spend all this time professing their happiness to anyone that will listen. The internet is all about keeping a facade going - which we all know isn't genuine. So, good on you for taking that first crucial step: facing the reality head-on.
Close to your age. I've been in a relationship for 17 years but I don't ever want to get married again. Signing the legal paper doesn't make the relationship-it just makes it harder to free yourself if it doesn't work out. Plenty of people our age who are still a lot of fun. Remember Gen X is the best generation ever!
There is no butter in the refrigerator, honey I want a divorce!!!! Hey you snore all night, I want a divorce!! The sun is too hot today, babe, I want a divorce!! Kamala Harris lost, I can't do this any more, I wan a divorce. Thats what you get when you build your marriage on emotions and feelings. God instituted marriage based on His design, not your design. Use His design revealed in the Bible and your marriage will work till the day you leave this earth. Pride is thinking you knowing better than your creator. Grab a Bible and start reading....your marriage, children, peace and home depends on you finding the truth of Jehovahs Word. Media always glorifies d@monic agendas. Hoping from one marriage to another like a grasshopper is not what Jesus Christ died to give you. He wants you have a peaceful and joy filled marriage
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
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Divorce is divorce . Some people just grow apart, sone stay in marriages because of children, loneliness, because of pressure, culture etc. Marriage is a beautiful thing with the right person & it takes two people for it to work. Matriage is serious business & not to be taken lightly .
My exwife thought her life was going to be so great taking all she could and live happily ever after but then realized “oh wait “ that is not what I really wanted……too late and my life is exactly what I had always wanted….😊
My ex husband wanted a divorce at 59, I was 54. He thought he met the love of his life and couldn’t wait to discard me. But the younger woman dumped him before our divorce was even finalized. The affair partner is 25 years younger, probably found out he’s broke. 😂 While I am work optional and living my best life with my pre marital assets and retirement savings.
Men don’t understand they lose the love of their lives when they divorce. Mostly anyone they meet after divorce rarely truly loves them. Looks like you got the last laugh.😂
Am 49. Married for 24 years with 11 year olds. Why am I still married? We both work. We both share the chores and errands. Very few problems. Stay at home destroys marriages. Men are lazy in that type of marriage. People give up too early. Also couples who never spend time dating and not spending time going on vacations are the ones who divorce.
I was fortunate to be married to the love of my life, yes we had our tough times, but we loved each other and supported each other. I will never regret being married❤
Marriage is just a contract with an undisclosed agreement where men are expected to pay all of the bills. Women exploit this where and whenever they can.
I don't see how you all can afford to get divorced so old. It takes both our incomes to live even a moderately comfortable life. When we can't work anymore, it would not be good. Poverty sucks.
But you'll notice they conveniently left out any mention whatsoever of socio-economic status. My guess is that it's the upper-income end of the spectrum which is seeing the highest percentage increases in divorce.
People are mostly intolerable. ‘Forever’ made sense when we were lucky to live to age 42. But when folks routinely live into their late 80s, and just get more crotchety and discombobulated as they age, it makes sense to find your own space.
It's true, we go into cognitive decline age 40-45 ish. Thining grey matter. Society is so concerned with longevity, at the expensive of quality of life.
My parents were married until my mom died. Dad met someone online (a very nice woman) and became engaged, but he died before getting married again. I was divorced at 27 and have had NO urge to ever remarry. My ex just keeps trying and is on #4.
I think the happiest people for the most part are married men and single women. I am a 44 year old woman who ended a 10 year relationship (we were engaged) 10 years ago. I am the happiest I have ever been. I love my dogs, my work and hiking and skiing. I knew from a young age that I never wanted to be the marriage + kids type, but I felt so much pressure to "get engaged". I will definitely never marry, but I would like to find a man to partner with again long term. I don't envy friends with husbands and young kids. Their lives just seem so tiring and stressful.
Their lives are full, filled with laughter, wonderous moments, learning, loving, forgiving, growing, and amazement of how incredibly blessed they are to have children and a spouse who loves and supports them. Sadly all of which you will never ever know.
I find it disturbing that they reporting this as a good thing. Personally I think it’s a rise in selfish behavior that leads to these divorces. Divorce affects more than just you. It affects your whole family. People take sides including kids and it’s more than just you two who are separating. I really don’t understand how a 70 year old is lonely in her marriage. Something tells me all the things she is doing now, she could have done married. Some people just get angry when their partners don’t want to participate in the things they want to do, but it doesn’t stop them from doing it. They just get resentful and they end up doing it alone anyway.
Some older people said they feel like the end of their lives were approaching and they wanted to do what they wanted to do, when they wanted to do it, how they wanted to do it. Hopefully, that isn't a fad or something they look back on as a mistake. Do most of these "gray divorcee's end up remarrying? Do they move near, or in with their grown children? Most importantly, once divorced for a couple of years, are they really happy?
@@mattr.1887 I guess it depends on whether you are a Christian or an atheist. Adultery, abandonment, neglect, or abuse are grounds for Christians to divorce. For atheists, whatever floats your boat
I have to laugh at humans who can’t commit and live with one person then can’t figure out they are the problem. Of the two groups, married and not, I find the married ones far more tolerable. As a nurse over 30 years, better hope you have a spouse somewhere. Someone who cares about you more than a paycheck. I love to read comments about “compassion” which few people actually have an ounce of more than platitudes. The less likable humans become the more difficult it is to even fake caring for them. You just do the job. And the narcissism and selfish nature of many make them a real job. Nothing wrong with going solo. If you can face your real flaws and work on them outside a partnership then you may end up with people who care about you.
When I retired at 60 there were coworkers that were older and well into a retirement window. Already pulling Social Security at 67 while still working full time. Some of them could not afford to retire because of their wife and some would not retire to avoid their wife. Let that sink in.🤔
57 here, divorced 6 months ago after 25 years of marriage. Just got myself a lovely little bungalow with my two dogs. My beautiful daughters aged 22 and 20 doing great, one at university the other working in childcare and having to live with ex just for a while as her job is in the same town he now lives in. Ex hubby moved his new woman and her 25 year old daughter into his new place 3 weeks after us finally ending everything. This year has been hard but bring it on 2025, time for me to come into my own ❤❤❤❤
She calls it freedom. But she's actually going to die alone. It's very sad to see. I worked in a nursing home and people don't relise that they will be old and helpless one day, with no one to help look out for them.
@@AO-xu6fsActually if you’ll notice, it’s mostly the men dying alone in nursing homes and hospice. Women tend to have children, friends and relatives who visit them.
I don't blame ppl in the age range of 50's for getting divorced. That's like half your life with someone depending on how long one was married for. I'm in my 40's and I feel 40's are left for living. I am divorced and enjoy my single life and want to travel. Ppl are living longer, enjoying their lives, perhaps Thier sex lives. I have noticed I'm my 40's I'm enjoying it like when I was younger... interesting. Live ur life to the fullest ppl
I bartend. I see lots of over 50 divorced men and women night after night. Very few I would call happy. The men are looking for hookups with literally anyone with a “V” and the women sit and bitch about their lives and go home alone because the men there just want one thing. I work at ground zero when it comes to seeing relationships, if you’re miserable then by all means, end your relationship but don’t for a second think that brings instant happiness. Believe it or not, many times you are actually the problem.
But who says married people are so happy.
I live by bars. The men are pathetic. Literal grandpa's hitting on girls 25 /30 years younger. Trying to buy them a drink and talk to them. These girls have my blessing to steal their money . These men refuse to date their age and want to screw young women. They want a nurse to take dare of them😂 since most have alot of health problems.
I agree. But sometimes the other spouse has hoarding issues, substance abuse, extreme neglect in the relationship, etc. Sometimes people just want a safe and decent place to live, and divorce is the best way to do it.
@ oh I agree, and to those younger people who may see this I ask that they evaluate their lives and ask if they want to spend the next 30 years dealing with this. Older people have much tougher questions, number one is do I want to spend the rest of my life alone.
Married people are miserable too. They just hide behind their McMansions and Range Rovers.
I know a female divorce lawyer, she represents a lot of elderly female clients. She always asks Why do you want to get a divorce at this age? The typical answer is I am tired of waiting for him to die, by the time he dies I will be too old to enjoy the money. At first it sounds kind of funny, then it sounds sad.
That is truer than most will admit. I know a whole lot of widowed women that are enjoying themselves now that husband is dead
Idiotic, ignorant and beyond delusional
It’s all about selfish greed plain and simple 😱 If you love your mate it will show and if not it will show after they are gone 🥵
Money is mostly the motive for marriage today but it also was that way 50 years ago, just not as often.
I’m 37, This is going to be every woman in my age group when I get to old age. This is why you don’t get married anymore.
Most relationships last as long as they are tolerated.
So true😂. That's some hard work.
That’s if the couple gets lazy and doesn’t put the hard work in early signs of bumps.
@@DLFfitness1 AMEN!!!!
Nope. I'm not "tolerating" anyone. I want my life to be enriched.
Lol. WTF
Don’t compare the reality of gray divorce of celebrities that have a lot of money to the middle class divorce. Often women are left with a very different lifestyle than when they were married. Read the studies before believing it is a ‘better’ life.
Exactly. The average North American female who divorces in middle age will face financial uncertainty unless she planned for this accordingly, has a great career, independent mindset and financial savvy and nest egg. Any major health setbacks can cause even more financial hardship. Women who are widowed fair better usually because they inherit their husband’s estate and not loose half of their net equity in a divorce settlement.
That's why married women should always maintain some mannerr of individual finances as well maintaining a resume.
@@cinemaclassica492 they could be the type of wife no man in his right mind would leave.
I was gonna say this. Many are left with nothing and having to go work at like 70!
@micclay They could be whomever they want to be. Finances exist without a man. No need to cowtow to a man at the expense of your own happiness and identity.
Now interview their kids.
Good point.
Have a family of their own, most probably.
By the time you're in your 50s, your kids are adults. They've got their own lives.
The kids are probably super relieved!!!!!
They're grown and don't care. They want to see mom happy.
The wife divorced me at 50. Now at 55 I have seen the world for the first time. It's never too late to regain your freedom.
Let freedom ring!
Freedom is everything!! Marriage is the most unattractive thing to man, knowing that he could lose everything if she decides to pull the plug. The best thing I did was at age 33 to realize I wasn't the marrying kind. Never did it before or since. Loving retirement now. Two cats, a dog and a cockatoo and the 1978 Ford F-150 are my family.
@@axnyslie cars pets and travel isn't profound. I think people yearn for something less superficial
My wife and I have the mantra 1+1=3 .
But i respect a profound life of a spouse and kids isn't for everyone..
It's just to me a dog licking himself, or another line at TSA or something that goes vroom vroom from point A to point B only goes so far.
But I am the marrying type. I liked being a husband even with my divorce. Never got cynical
King 👑
Yeah I got divorced in my late 40’a and life is way better. In my marriage I was broke and rarely had sex, now I have money , rentals , and I pretty much have sex whenever I want ( gf’s tend to want it way more than wife did , nothing like a ring to shut down a woman’s libido)
We’re doomed. Family structure in the US is falling apart more and more every year.
It always was falling apart! People just stayed together in unhappy, loveless, lifeless marriages and faked it.
There is no family it’s all about me.
Actually, divorce rates have decreased in recent years.
@@idx1941you have no clue what marriage is about. Marriage isn’t about happiness. Marriage is literally a contract to hold couples to their word to be responsible and stable people in society in order to bring forth children who can model the same attributes as their parents. Which is why most people divorced when they feel like they have accomplished their duty in marriage. I’m not against divorce, just an advocate for marriage because hook up culture is garbage… nothing good comes from single parent homes.
@@idx1941amen.
My parents split up one month before their 50th wedding anniversary. My mother was blindsided at 71. My father wanted to "live his best life" which meant spending them into near bankruptcy and sending money to "women" he met online. He now doesn't think my mother should get any type of settlement. Gray divorce is not trivial and it is not all roses and sunshine and wonderful new lives. It is more often than not devastating, especially for women.
Your dad is going to Hell, for sure
Wow. Your father is something else
Women initiate most of it.
Erinlancaster is a bot account created 1 year ago. Not a real person or story
I am a real person. Heaven forbid I only created my account a year ago…what must I ah s been doing with my life not to have a UA-cam account. What an asinine comment. And the story is very real unfortunately. I only wish I didn’t have to deal with the drama surrounding it in real life.
I'm 34 and my parents wonder why I am not married. What is the point when over half of all marriages end in divorce? I don't want to be drained financially and have to work into my 80's because someone has a change of heart 20+ years in.
@@mtgamateurnight absolutly. Marraige is a contract with the state and taxes. It has nothing to do with love. Stand your ground! You dont need to sign a paper to prove love. If you do, it's not love.
I'm over 50, unhappily married, and I think you are absolutely correct!
@@annjohnson8437 im sorry for you. Nobody should have to accept a lifetime of unhappiness for anyone else.
@mtgamateurnight all I think of is, alright alright alright
Well, you have to choose wisely and choose someone with who you have as much in common as possible and have common goals. You also want a person who values marriage and companionship. Long-term commitment and marriage is not always a bed of roses. You do have to compromise because it is no longer just about you. But there is an element of luck that someone doesn't drastically change and make the partnership unlivable. I have been married many years to a wonderful person and I highly recommend it.
I was widowed at age 35 when my spouse died of cancer. I'm 70 now and remained single ever since. Life was great back when I was a couple but life has also been great single. I totally enjoy doing what I want when I want. I have friends to chum around with at times, but spend most the time alone, vacations alone, events alone and eating alone. It's actually very comfortable, peaceful and enjoyable. I learned to be comfortable with my own thoughts.
Ive been divorced since 35. It’s been a decade and I’ve stayed single. It does get lonely sometimes, but it’s simple and peaceful like you said. I’ve also learned to be comfortable with my own thoughts.
You have no choice to get comfortable with being alone.
@@MeagRamtheman LOL, no he does not, he just prefers the peaceful and quite life, if marriage is sooo great, we would not have such high divorce rates.
Your comment reminded me of a friend who went to a car shop and asked how long it would be. The mechanic teasingly said 3 hours, then said, "I'm kidding. She replied, "That's OK. I don't have a dog or a husband."😂
nearly 33 years with my man…hope it lasts forever. we spend a lot of time together and hope to continue to do that….we are 62 and 64. I also believe we are a really good example to family, friends and our kids. We love each other and support each other in every facet of life. And by the way, we are opposites in nearly everything.
I agree - I also am in a decades long marriage and it has been wonderful. It's very comforting to have someone who knows you so well.
30 years of marriage and don’t see myself with a divorce. Love my husband, hope he loves me as well 😂😂
Wonderful to hear!
@@firenze5555you know - my male professor at the university once told me this joke - husband looks at his wife and says - you are so beautiful, great body, best tits, big eyes, wonderful hair, you are so sexy, loving, caring…. If only only if you could be a … stranger. So 😂
I'm halfway-ish to 33 years in, married for 16 years. I love him, more importantly I LIKE him. I pray we stay together forever ❤ we met early in life but knew we were the one for each other.
Unless you are very rich & still looking exceptional in your 60’s, 70’s, you won’t find any man or woman, so get a hobby, engage with your community, learn to live alone.
Who said I want to find a man????? Are you crazy? Maybe a man? My ex husband started dating as soon as we got divorced - 15 minutes it took, adult children and financial stuff done - and he 54 married 38 y old and now they have a child. Men can’t be alone without serious risks to their wellbeing- when I see death certificates of younger men - like 30-45 years old - they are usually bachelors. Sometimes divorced. Very rarely - married. Not so with women. I can’t even imagine moving in with sb. I have books to read and another degree to get. Two languages to learn and one to refresh. Other people has eaten the big portion of my life. I have two sons and it’s more than enough as human connection. Sometimes too much 😂
I'm forced to do that in my 40s.
There is no dating in the West for 80% of us men. Plenty of demands out there to explain why 🙄
She wont be thrilling the guys anymore so that pastime is gone.
Agree 100 % …I am 66 ( male ) and still married BUT I have 3-4 friends who are divorced ( 62-68 ) years old and it is according to them MUCH harder in the dating scene than it was back in their twenties. Many reasons …. health challenges…..money issues….children who may frown on their parent dating again ….and mostly some people are so set in their ways trying new experiences is often so difficult for them
@@bu5761 If you're a man that's not a "10" that age becomes closer to 30 and below.
After reading all the comments of women that are happy they are divorced, i know all i need to know about ever getting married.
There’s more to relationships than what you see in these comments. Us/we is usually better than I
I am happily married. There, I said it.
💯
Lying is not good.
Yay!!!
@@Tony-Steel64over a decade now. She is my best friend. I was sick and lost my job and she still was by my side. 😅
It is a rare and beautiful thing. It is important that your spouse IS your best friend because a house divided always falls.
3 marriages and out there dating? Run gents.
😂
Definitely
Three marriages? She just wants to hook up. Dating is for the young folks.
Exactly!!!😂
One of her husbands died. She couldn't help that.
Ladies: Don't get married, you're never going to be happy.
Guys: Don't get married, she's never going to be happy.
Yes because the guys want their mommies not a partner.
@@trishayamada807 sorry youre unhappy
@@mr.horse1801 nope, I’ve got a truly good man. He’s a hardworking and a great partner and great parent to our children. I don’t have to be his mommy as he’s a fully functioning adult both intellectually and physically, maybe you should try that.
Actually i know married females who are happy, but they don't seem to have a 9 to 5 job everyday. They seem to be at home more or have time to do things besides work all day everyday.
A man will sacrifice his hobbies and happiness for his family. A women will sacrifice her family to chase her current happieness.
My parents were married 52 years. Society today has killed marriage.
Pretty much
My parents was married for 43 years. They hated each other and made each other sick.
women no longer want to be mens objects or servants. - ask trump (like his men) he disposes of women like trash.
just because people stay together doesn't mean they're happy or healthy
Marriage is for 🏳️🌈people
I was divorced at 50, best decision, found the love of my life and have been married 12 years now.
Can I ask how you found him?
one of the worst Rx on the market is birth control. These have major side effects including anxiety & depression which obviously causes relationships issues. AVOID rx birth control.
In addiction our food & public drinking water is full of toxic man made chemicals that are causing all sorts of hormonal imbalances in men, woman & children. Also causing relationship issues.
A good clean diet is the key to keeping your hormones balances for everyone.
If your homones are not balances you will not have good relationships.
Before you think about filing for divorce get your health in order with a clean diet. Fat no your body stores these man made chemicals causing hormones & heal issues that will cause relationship issues. Get the fat off with a good clean diet & exercise they you will have a healthy body & brain to make good decisions and be happy maybe with your partner if they are healthy & happy too.
Learn to READ FOOD LABLES most food in the greocery store is literally poison to the body & brain.
But now you are living in an adultery.
@ That thing is for moral people not heathens.
@@figurefour633 I agree and she must be Punished for her Heathenism! Divorce, Single Mothers, should be Punished by Male Society, Not Celebrated like the News Demands!
Worked with a guy. He was a fireman and worked his off days as a union carpenter.
The day he retired from the Chicago Fire Department his wife of 25+ years served him with divorce papers.
Skip the marriage altogether. It’s bad business
And marriage is a business.
I feel this.
Using "celebrity couples" as a good example for this news piece is one of the worst examples anyone could have used!!
my parents were 50+ and got a divorce.. they should have gotten one sooner but stayed together "for the kids" 🤪
That never works. It just delays the inevitable.
When I stayed with mom, dad was evil.
Then when I stayed with dad, mom was evil.
I was 11 - 16 I guess. Important years.
I’ve never been on a date, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, lifetime bachelor at age 60.
It fucked me up pretty bad. I’m successful, happy with no regrets though. It is what it is.
It's interesting you say that because I was just telling my mother the other day that I'm soooo glad that she and my dad divorced when I was a little girl instead of staying "for the kids." They've been divorced nearly 30 years after a turbulent marriage and are good friends today. It's common for my dad to come and hang out with me and my mom for holidays and some weekends. I LOVE it this way, and I'm nearly 40 years old. I believe addressing the problem sooner than later is a lot better for "the kids" in the long run.
@@guybeingaguy I wish kids didn't go through that stuff. My son has his issues from our marital mess. We don't have to lead cookie cutter lives, and people who don't marry have energy to be community helpers, life lines for kids, and great uncles/aunts
@@elizabethheyenga9277 I don’t see it as an “issue” because you can’t miss what you never had.
Luckily, I KNEW I was emotionally defective before my 20th birthday. There was no way I was going to be an acceptable husband/boyfriend. I removed myself for everybody’s well being, hers mainly.
I installed an emotional switch a LONG LONG time ago. It’s always off, probably is broken anyways, but served me well all these years.
Do I like it? NO.
It’s the cards I was dealt, I’ve done what I thought and think is right. No regrets🍺👍
I hate to see people divorce…but there are times when it is necessary.
Of course only homosexual and lesbians want to get married right! The people who can’t. People have got very wicket.
It's a blessing. Its starting a whole new life on your terms without asking permission.
@ they will end up dying alone in a cold house.
I think it's the best time to get divorced because you raised your family and your work is done.
Take note fellas. A woman can be “happy” and still leave.
I know A LOT of women and not one happy woman I know ever left her marriage. Only mistreated or abused women typically leave a marriage.
It’s boredom. Same conversations and stories with same person year after year gets old fast
When women wanna leave, they already have someone else. Just never take them back, NEVER.💩
They just want to be " happier ". Worked out great for me. Divorced at 50. Retired at 60. Not having to keep a woman happy saves a lot of money.
Women can never be Happy.
Sometimes, enough is enough. You can only take so much.
Married 1st time at 19, divorced 5 years later when the infatuation wore off. Was a lot smarter next time looking for someone who shared the same interests. Been together 45 years, Was it easy? Sometimes yes, others not so much. Came close to divorce once during the midlife crisis after 30 years. Both committed to doing the work and much easier now that we're both retired. Very happy to stay until the lights go out.
57 year old woman here, divorced at 29. Best move I ever made. After a pleasant 9 year relationship after the divroce and subsequent dating I came to the conclusion that going solo was the best choice for me. I am also realistic that men do not want older women and I do not pursue relationships with them. I never thought life could be so content and peaceful.
Yes! Having peace and my sanity is important. Regaining independence and making important decisions. I am not afraid of being alone. I lived alone for 11 years before getting married. I put myself through college when I was single (including graduate school). My finances are good. I don't need a man in my life to make me complete or to support me financially. I did all of this when I was single and I'm still doing it now that I'm divorced. I am a survivor!
I am 68 in Cebu, Philippines. I have college girls fighting over me. I hear sub Saharan Africa is a good place for women my age. Some western women go there and have their pick of young African men that don't have food.
@micclay They’re fighting over a green card.
Ikr,😂 he is an old fool@@karenmassey8354
If you want to be used….
Divorced at 56 after 32 years of marriage. He initiated it and I am grateful. I started online dating about a week later lol. I just wanted to get dressed up and go out, meet new people. It was a blast! Unexpectedly, I met a man with whom I connected and we’ve been together ever since (8 years). Never been happier ❤️
Funny story. 😂
@ Cynical much?
Good for you! Life's much too short!
That’s awesome! Congrats
How long do you think until you divorce him?
"In marriage, we have a duty to God, our spouses, the world, and future generations. But we are sinners. A husband and wife need to acknowledge that when the Bible speaks of fools, it is not just speaking about other people, but about them as well." - C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity.
Don't bring Santa into this...God, Santa, the tooth fairy! ...and I am a spiritual person, but not by the definition taught by another man/human being of what God is.
Yeah, cause it’s so much fun dating in your 50s. There’s a huge dating pool of other losers.
Speak for yourself mate. Just because YOU feel like a loser, don't project your low self esteem on the rest of us. You sound like you have a lot of self hate, THAT'S why women can't stand you.
It's actually the biggest group of new people with STD's. Think about that.
A marriage license should be renewed like all licenses.
My dad says this all the time. lol.
No.!! The gov doesn't need any more money. They got plenty to send to Ukraine and Israel.!!
The incredible pain of being faithfully married for 27 years, I was 52 years old, I discovered my husband’s affair with his married coworker. I was in shock. Some days it’s hard. So many triggers of what they did together while ignoring us!
Sorry you went through this. Much love.
Being cheated on is humiliating and hurtful. Other people don't know the pain unless it's happened to you. I know the pain, but in time, I got on with life and ultimately realized he did me a favor.
I know this pain! I’m 8 years since d day and will tell you, the dark days lessen.
My dream is one day we all can come out of the shadows to really discuss this devastation of betrayal trauma. The pain is beyond anything
Same situation. It gets better.❤
You deserved better.
I am 63 and blissfully single. Never again will I subject myself to a terrible man
Smells like a feminist here
As usual only one side of the story, he probably thinks the same about you, what but the terrible women.
@@Ronick-Q-46why are you defensive? And how do you know this is a woman? Could be a gay man making this comment. Just say you hate women and go!
women are whiners...constant victims.....every man's an abuser...
I would like to hear HIS side of the story! He probably thinks you’re a terrible woman!
A man is not a plan.
So true
Amen
STOP WITH THIS HATE AGAINST MEN! One sided report only
Womens perspectives
Stop hating on man
Stop hating on men and stop deleting my posts
As a 36 year old Millennial, I've been in a relationship for nearly 8 years. But I will never marry and I have to say nearly half my high school and college classmates have not married at this point. Marriage was once forced upon everyone. Not anymore. Freedom to love is pure.
Most women still want marriage though so I wonder how that would work for you.But hopefully your partner doesn’t want marriage just like yourself.
Why wouldn’t you just marry if you are going to do everything that married couples already do anyway?
Why wouldn’t you just marry if you are going to do everything that married couples already do anyway?
Why wouldn’t you just marry if you are going to do everything that married couples already do anyway?
@@AnonymousC-lm6tc it is easier to part ways when the relationship runs it's course if there is no legal binding.
"What you're supposed to do"?? No, what you *promised* to do. Not once in that 7 and a half minute video did they mention the word commitment, or promise, or vows...all goes out the window in this 'me' era we're in.
I have always believed marriage is good for maybe 5% of the population. Most people are not willing to fulfill any commitments and honor no longer exists. Better to either live together or stay single.
@@GBU61 You might be right.
@GBU61 No, for men living together won't be like the Golden Girls, especially in common law states. They'll expect him to provide way more than they are while fixing this and that for free. At that age sex is irrelevant so it's better to huddle up with self-reliant men.
People lie. People cheat. People want out. People won't pull their weight and take care of their partner.
You might have made the promise but the other person may have changed their mind. Can't force someone to stay.
Married 37 years, she has her house, and i have mine. It works great 👍
Life is short. Do what makes you happy. Who cares what others think? They don’t have to live with your choices, you do.
Amen
Oh but you see, others DO have to live with your choices! Your children, your family and your community pay the price when you decide to get a divorce. Maybe we can find a balance between personal needs and absolute selfishness.
@@Tourianthe children also pay the price when their parents stay in a loveless and toxic marriage. I speak from experience and witnessing this firsthand. Sometimes (often times) divorce is better than seeing your parents argue constantly. Worry about your own bs and stay out of everyone else’s.
@ if you don’t want people replying to comments, don’t publish them
@@Tourian if you don’t want people telling you to stay in your lane then don’t give then a reason to.
My parents should have divorced. They are both gone and I am still here working through the toxicity.
That was there toxins not yours, get help to let that go and enjoy the rest of your own life
Same.
Divorce wouldn’t have made it better.. my parents divorced when I was 18 years old. They still fight to this day and our family never gets together. We aren’t a family it was so toxic. I’m 56 and they are alive but I have nothing to do with them anymore and them me . They actually blame me for their problems. They’ll never stop hating each other. It’s very sick.
@@valeriefromoregon That sounds terrible. Sorry.
@@valeriefromoregon Same age. My mother has resented me since birth. I "ruined" her life. 5 decades and I'm done. Say about 2 words to her each time I am forced to see her. I don't even want to go over there for my birthday. She is a narcissist and the drama is intense. My dad wanted to get mad at me when I said I wanted to go eat with my son and not her. But I said, 'It's MY birthday." He let it go.
This should have been expected; women who entered the workforce and built up their own savings and investments eventually wouldn't want to stay in "shell" marriages. There are, of course, happy empty-nesters, but there are also partnerships where the relationship is on life support. People have to decide what works for their emotional, mental, physical well-being; either stay and work on it or move on. Life is short.
"I was the first generation to have the pill". Therefore sleeping around and getting married multiple times just made sense.
I wish my marriage had lasted. Unfortunately, you can’t maintain a relationship when you have to do all the giving with someone who isn’t present or accountable. He was emotionally abusive and misogynistic. He was vicious and mean. Now, I am in my seventies, poor, and disabled by disease. I chose wrong, and I am paying for it. The isolation is devastating. If I were healthy, it would be different.
No one is perfect. Be kind to yourself and perhaps you can find online communities to connect with like book reading groups, etc. to widen your social circle.
Hugs ❤❤❤❤
I'm so sorry
ask GOD to bring you the right nice person for you; i did that aftermy divorce, now married almost 50 happy years.
Was he misogynistic or were you misandranistic to him and he reacted that way. You women act like you are never responsible for your shyt
Kids are grown & gone. Why spend your remaining years in a miserable, unhappy marriage?
My boss once told me a lot of couples stay together for the sake of the children. Freedom comes once kids go off to college. That’s when older couples decide to get divorced. 🤷♂️🤔🤷♂️
My younger brother has been in a loveless marriage for most of its 36 years and I look for them to divorce now that the youngest kid is grown and in college. I've noticed in the last couple years he's been exercising a lot more freedom than before so I think he couldn't care less if they divorce now.
The irony to interview about how great it is to get divorced - from a woman whose been divorced 3+ times....
Common denominator anyone?
Still no accountability.
To be fair, I think she killed one and divorced two, but I might be wrong. But yeah, I think I know where the problem lies….
Thanks for saying it, never any accountability.
😂@@scooter5940😂😂😂
Yup she already took half from 3 men she don’t need a man no more she’s set for life. Men need to wake up. Marriage is a risk to successful men
@@scooter5940Why did you say it that way??!! 😂😂😂 She said she was widowed… but that doesn’t mean it was her fault.
I worked for a divorce attorney for 25 years I can tell you this is a fact...most of our clients were married 25-30 yrs or more and once the kids grow up and move out theses couples realize just like they said in the video that they no longer have anything in common
I was only married once for 34 years. I agree that more seasoned women (50 and over) are getting divorced. My life is so much BETTER now. I like the woman that I have become -- I like having MY OWN time... Doing what I want to do. I am a baby boomer with NO children.
You can be married and have your own time and do things you enjoy…..
@@se_me1756 Childless Boomer.... Sounds like a Feminist Nut Job! What you didn't like Men, just the Boys you Sick Woman! Women are Sickos that need to be Punished!
Not everyone is guaranteed to have a loving spouse by their side. That's the reality. We have all these romantic movies and self proclaimed relationship experts and gurus trying to tell us how to get and keep someone, but no one wants to acknowledge that some people will be alone, by or not by their own choice.
Of course older couples break up for various reasons but most often it is because they have become more roommates than a couple. The passion is gone and let's face it if there isn't a physical relationship to compliment the emotional relationship then it is almost doomed to fail. I have had two close friends who suffered in this sort of relationship and it was sad to see them wasting their lives away without that closeness to their partner. In both cases they loved their spouse too much to leave them but were at the same time miserable.
For the average person, divorce is financially crushing. Especially gray divorce.
Reminds me of that line about someone who has been divorced three times: "I'm starting to think it might be me."
I don't know why divorce is somehow spun into something positive. I work in family courtrooms and it is not something to be taken lightly
Here's something I think these people aren't thinking of: How many of them believe their kids are going to set aside their families and jobs to help take care of them when they're old enough they actually need help? You'd be surprised at how many of their kids will not. They will need help. That's the point of partnerships. Being in a nursing home alone and at the mercy of whatever $12 an hour worker has you that shift isn't the business. I've seen it. Find your someone's and do it sooner than later. Time is not on your side.
Ahh, but men die first so women are better off alone anyway. Who wants to marry an old man unless it's for the money and that's not a real relationship. Men might kid themselves into thinking that though. 😅
You didn’t love them when you were younger, but societal pressures caused a lot of people to get married too young.
People can only speak from their experience. Im 50 and husband is 53. Im happily married to my best friend. Marriage is hard but its worth it. Its not for everyone
This is evil and it seems these people are celebrating this irresponsible and selfish attitude towards marriage.
Exactly
🤷🏻♀️ People have been unhappy for decades and decided to finally stop faking.
If a spouse is truly unhappy they should leave, but many wives divorce their husbands because they're bored even if they are great guys.
@@patriot925 Women leave when men don't change, men leave when women change.
Married 33 years to my best friend. Praise God. A house full of family and love. It hasn’t always been easy but we’ve got one another and wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Fight for your marriage.
The key words are ‘best friend’ 👏- relationships are very serious and I often say that they are ONLY meant for best friends! If not just keep dating and stay single, have fun.
When the God of the bible is not at the center of marriage of course then it means nothing.
I am 58...have financial freedom...never married...wont say never say never but it would be nice to have companionship...
At least you're honest about that. Most people brag about living their "best life," to random strangers on the internet; and Who do they really think that they're kidding? One thing that social media has taught us is that people that are truly happy don't need to spend all this time professing their happiness to anyone that will listen.
The internet is all about keeping a facade going - which we all know isn't genuine. So, good on you for taking that first crucial step: facing the reality head-on.
Close to your age. I've been in a relationship for 17 years but I don't ever want to get married again. Signing the legal paper doesn't make the relationship-it just makes it harder to free yourself if it doesn't work out. Plenty of people our age who are still a lot of fun. Remember Gen X is the best generation ever!
There is no butter in the refrigerator, honey I want a divorce!!!!
Hey you snore all night, I want a divorce!!
The sun is too hot today, babe, I want a divorce!!
Kamala Harris lost, I can't do this any more, I wan a divorce.
Thats what you get when you build your marriage on emotions and feelings.
God instituted marriage based on His design, not your design.
Use His design revealed in the Bible and your marriage will work till the day you leave this earth.
Pride is thinking you knowing better than your creator. Grab a Bible and start reading....your marriage, children, peace and home depends on you finding the truth of Jehovahs Word.
Media always glorifies d@monic agendas. Hoping from one marriage to another like a grasshopper is not what Jesus Christ died to give you. He wants you have a peaceful and joy filled marriage
Oh, God did all that??? Well, whatever, if you say so.
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
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Divorce is divorce . Some people just grow apart, sone stay in marriages because of children, loneliness, because of pressure, culture etc. Marriage is a beautiful thing with the right person & it takes two people for it to work. Matriage is serious business & not to be taken lightly .
My exwife thought her life was going to be so great taking all she could and live happily ever after but then realized “oh wait “ that is not what I really wanted……too late and my life is exactly what I had always wanted….😊
My ex husband wanted a divorce at 59, I was 54. He thought he met the love of his life and couldn’t wait to discard me. But the younger woman dumped him before our divorce was even finalized. The affair partner is 25 years younger, probably found out he’s broke. 😂 While I am work optional and living my best life with my pre marital assets and retirement savings.
Men don’t understand they lose the love of their lives when they divorce. Mostly anyone they meet after divorce rarely truly loves them. Looks like you got the last laugh.😂
Am 49. Married for 24 years with 11 year olds. Why am I still married? We both work. We both share the chores and errands. Very few problems. Stay at home destroys marriages. Men are lazy in that type of marriage. People give up too early. Also couples who never spend time dating and not spending time going on vacations are the ones who divorce.
I was fortunate to be married to the love of my life, yes we had our tough times, but we loved each other and supported each other. I will never regret being married❤
I think women get unhappy in marriage as they age.
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100% of divorces start with a marriage.
Marriage is just a contract with an undisclosed agreement where men are expected to pay all of the bills. Women exploit this where and whenever they can.
Why get married again once you're free?? No way!
I don't see how you all can afford to get divorced so old. It takes both our incomes to live even a moderately comfortable life. When we can't work anymore, it would not be good. Poverty sucks.
But you'll notice they conveniently left out any mention whatsoever of socio-economic status. My guess is that it's the upper-income end of the spectrum which is seeing the highest percentage increases in divorce.
This video is basically a promotional of sorts from the Leftists and feminists, a public "anti-service" message.
Married 35 years. Takes a lot of work.
30 years for us. We like being married. Married late. We both know what is and is not out there. Grateful and still in love.
Dating is rigged today
Who wants to swipe on Tinder or Grindr and just "hook up"? Sounds pretty shallow.
People are mostly intolerable. ‘Forever’ made sense when we were lucky to live to age 42. But when folks routinely live into their late 80s, and just get more crotchety and discombobulated as they age, it makes sense to find your own space.
It's true, we go into cognitive decline age 40-45 ish. Thining grey matter. Society is so concerned with longevity, at the expensive of quality of life.
"Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold," Matthew 24:12
Because iniquity shall abound.. the love of many shall waxed cold. KJV. One of my favorite text. ❤
My parents were married until my mom died. Dad met someone online (a very nice woman) and became engaged, but he died before getting married again. I was divorced at 27 and have had NO urge to ever remarry.
My ex just keeps trying and is on #4.
Advice from a woman with 3 marriages, with supporting "evidence" from actors and movies...
She mentioned she was made a widow in one of those marriages.
Still multiple divorces.
I think the happiest people for the most part are married men and single women. I am a 44 year old woman who ended a 10 year relationship (we were engaged) 10 years ago. I am the happiest I have ever been. I love my dogs, my work and hiking and skiing. I knew from a young age that I never wanted to be the marriage + kids type, but I felt so much pressure to "get engaged". I will definitely never marry, but I would like to find a man to partner with again long term. I don't envy friends with husbands and young kids. Their lives just seem so tiring and stressful.
Their lives are full, filled with laughter, wonderous moments, learning, loving, forgiving, growing, and amazement of how incredibly blessed they are to have children and a spouse who loves and supports them. Sadly all of which you will never ever know.
I think I I’ve seen an article about this!!!! Married men and single women are the most happiest people.
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No guarantee. You don’t know their lives.
Being a skier, you'll find a partner very easily. If you really want to stack the odds in your favour, relocate to a ski town.
@@kayi2140 Sounds like a Hollywood production.
Left my covert narcissist husband at 54 . Nothing but peace and freedom now !
Seems like that’s all that’s left anymore. Selfish people. Also if you’re too nice to someone and treat them like gold, they just use you.
The word narcissist is so overused for any man who has a spine
I'm sorry, but nobody that's actually happy has to advertise their happiness to strangers on the internet.
Oh Yes, I am sure he was a Narcissist, and Not You.... Sarcasm, clearly you were the Narcissist!
Good for you. Was married to 2. Absolutely the worst.
this sounds like a bad idea. why start a family if u didnt want it to last?
This couple was my neighbors about 50 years ago, and they were in their 60s married over 40 years, and one day they just split up and divorced.
It really shows how people don't know their neighbors and don't know what goes on behind closed doors.
I think that this is horrible.
Also if your a widow and married for at least Ten years you can collect your deceased spouse Social Security at 60 as long as your single! 👍
I find it disturbing that they reporting this as a good thing. Personally I think it’s a rise in selfish behavior that leads to these divorces. Divorce affects more than just you. It affects your whole family. People take sides including kids and it’s more than just you two who are separating. I really don’t understand how a 70 year old is lonely in her marriage. Something tells me all the things she is doing now, she could have done married. Some people just get angry when their partners don’t want to participate in the things they want to do, but it doesn’t stop them from doing it. They just get resentful and they end up doing it alone anyway.
Divorce even affects friends. i know that's not important. Just saying...
Why will I give legal and moral authority over me to a man at my age? I’m 63 years old. That stupid!!!
From a grandmother, his first day of retirement was the beginning of my worst days.
Why? Because he wanted to stay in the house he paid for?
@@jagenau6334 I bet every time you look into a mirror you just want to punch it.
What a horrible thing to say about someone who has helped to provide for you for a lifetime. You should be ashamed.
@@kris10capulet48 Exactly. Typical attitude though.
Some older people said they feel like the end of their lives were approaching and they wanted to do what they wanted to do, when they wanted to do it, how they wanted to do it. Hopefully, that isn't a fad or something they look back on as a mistake. Do most of these "gray divorcee's end up remarrying? Do they move near, or in with their grown children? Most importantly, once divorced for a couple of years, are they really happy?
Don't say "I do" if you don't mean it, say "as long as I'm happy"
What if your spouse is violent towards you? Has substance abuse issues? Just stay in no matter what?
@@mattr.1887 I guess it depends on whether you are a Christian or an atheist. Adultery, abandonment, neglect, or abuse are grounds for Christians to divorce. For atheists, whatever floats your boat
I have to laugh at humans who can’t commit and live with one person then can’t figure out they are the problem. Of the two groups, married and not, I find the married ones far more tolerable. As a nurse over 30 years, better hope you have a spouse somewhere. Someone who cares about you more than a paycheck. I love to read comments about “compassion” which few people actually have an ounce of more than platitudes. The less likable humans become the more difficult it is to even fake caring for them. You just do the job. And the narcissism and selfish nature of many make them a real job. Nothing wrong with going solo. If you can face your real flaws and work on them outside a partnership then you may end up with people who care about you.
They leave once the house is paid off so they get the most equity
Relationships take work. Life isn't a game.
Many of them are very wealthy and don't have to worry about living under a bridge .
To all you woman haters making comments…if you listen to the story, the husband is the one who initiated the divorce.
its funny too, because there is more than one woman's story being talked about in the video
@@te9238 there's more men haters than women haters ironic
Who hates women?
Midlife crisis is more commonly acted out by men 😂
That’s Because they’re now the ones with more options at this age .
When I retired at 60 there were coworkers that were older and well into a retirement window.
Already pulling Social Security at 67 while still working full time.
Some of them could not afford to retire because of their wife and some would not retire to avoid their wife.
Let that sink in.🤔
57 here, divorced 6 months ago after 25 years of marriage. Just got myself a lovely little bungalow with my two dogs. My beautiful daughters aged 22 and 20 doing great, one at university the other working in childcare and having to live with ex just for a while as her job is in the same town he now lives in. Ex hubby moved his new woman and her 25 year old daughter into his new place 3 weeks after us finally ending everything. This year has been hard but bring it on 2025, time for me to come into my own ❤❤❤❤
She calls it freedom. But she's actually going to die alone. It's very sad to see. I worked in a nursing home and people don't relise that they will be old and helpless one day, with no one to help look out for them.
@@AO-xu6fsActually if you’ll notice, it’s mostly the men dying alone in nursing homes and hospice. Women tend to have children, friends and relatives who visit them.
Exactly
I don't blame ppl in the age range of 50's for getting divorced. That's like half your life with someone depending on how long one was married for. I'm in my 40's and I feel 40's are left for living. I am divorced and enjoy my single life and want to travel. Ppl are living longer, enjoying their lives, perhaps Thier sex lives. I have noticed I'm my 40's I'm enjoying it like when I was younger... interesting. Live ur life to the fullest ppl