The "bowling night" group thing is a great example of what we lose in the fast pace of modern life where people may be very busy, but very isolated. Growing up, you do get to know families, see people in all kinds of social situations so that's a great time to find the right person who you know enough to at least have a foundation. As we get older and life is no longer in the "home town" and moving around a lot, the town events, church functions, backyard BBQ's all change to very "put on" superficial club life, etc.. So getting to really know a person is a forced thing were you have to go on a date to figure that out, which puts very artificial pressure on being "on" and best behavior rather than seeing someone in the group being themselves. And for adults, this is even more complicated. It is an uncomfortable category for this podcast, but divorced, annulled, widowed have an even harder time figuring this out. Growing up in a small town or neighborhood is clearly one of the best times to find someone, but after that trying to find or create social gatherings (NO or very limited Alcohol!) with no or low pressure for relationships and just easy, relaxed interaction seems like a great idea.
All my best friends have been men, women have always turned out to be too catty and gossipy. And yes, it's understood that future relationships are off the cards. Most of us are now married, and our friendships have continued.
Yes they can. One is not restricted to only friends of one's own gender.
The "bowling night" group thing is a great example of what we lose in the fast pace of modern life where people may be very busy, but very isolated. Growing up, you do get to know families, see people in all kinds of social situations so that's a great time to find the right person who you know enough to at least have a foundation. As we get older and life is no longer in the "home town" and moving around a lot, the town events, church functions, backyard BBQ's all change to very "put on" superficial club life, etc.. So getting to really know a person is a forced thing were you have to go on a date to figure that out, which puts very artificial pressure on being "on" and best behavior rather than seeing someone in the group being themselves.
And for adults, this is even more complicated. It is an uncomfortable category for this podcast, but divorced, annulled, widowed have an even harder time figuring this out. Growing up in a small town or neighborhood is clearly one of the best times to find someone, but after that trying to find or create social gatherings (NO or very limited Alcohol!) with no or low pressure for relationships and just easy, relaxed interaction seems like a great idea.
Love all your videos, Jason! God bless! My prayers are with you and your family.
Always love anything from the Swaffords!
Great video, but the audio was too quiet!
I do better with men when we're just friends.
All my best friends have been men, women have always turned out to be too catty and gossipy. And yes, it's understood that future relationships are off the cards. Most of us are now married, and our friendships have continued.
Does anyone else struggle with the sound in this video? Even at maximum volume on my laptop, the Swaffords speak softly.
yes the volume is very low, and when the commercials would come on it was so loud I had to press mute :/
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