Saturn in the 4th House: Creating a New Relationship With Responsibility

Поділитися
Вставка
  • Опубліковано 11 гру 2024

КОМЕНТАРІ • 99

  • @professordumbledore369
    @professordumbledore369 2 місяці тому +3

    Spot on saturn in 4th house.. Cold upbringing, stricter rules, my mother had to solely raise me, father was away due to work and his family responsibilities, lots of problems due to mother's side relatives and depression and stress... But still I'm grateful and thankful to my mother as she fought against all odds to provide me shelter, food and education. I'm grateful that she did not abandon me in the streets. Yes I was neglected and was not given the right attention, care or love as both my parents had to work hard. but surely I was protected and I thank the universe for it.
    Saturn in 4th house is a very difficult placement and still I'm fighting hard to come to terms with and make peace with my past.
    But I'm healing myself ..I'm my healer and I'm happy to do it alone❤❤.. But wait I have the support of the universe.. Yup I'm not alone..

  • @claireemily1983
    @claireemily1983 Рік тому +57

    My mother was depression all my childhood and emotionally neglected us. She was also unreasonable strict. I left home at 16 to get away from the restrictions. I no longer have contact with my parents

    • @hecatesnightfall9121
      @hecatesnightfall9121 9 місяців тому +1

      Very similar but she was not strict thank goodness. But mine is in pisces.

    • @sushritichatterjee688
      @sushritichatterjee688 8 місяців тому +1

      ​@@hecatesnightfall9121
      Mine also in pisces

    • @crystalasplund6628
      @crystalasplund6628 6 місяців тому

      Miy childhood was similar but it was my father that was depressed and neglectful and my mom was overly strict only with me.

  • @QuantumAlchemist_888
    @QuantumAlchemist_888 Рік тому +24

    Wow. Spot on!!!! My mom was the masculine figure in the home. Very cold upbringing. I’m sure I was loved but no support from my family. I didn’t feel seen or understood. Always worried about how broke we always were. Too much responsibility for such a young age and when I was in college, I remember saying I didn’t want to pursue being a doctor because I didn’t want the responsibility. This is something I need to work on!!!!

  • @Handleitnow933
    @Handleitnow933 2 роки тому +31

    I think like a rock when I’m home. I feel creative and positive when I walk out.

  • @laurentlorenzo4843
    @laurentlorenzo4843 Рік тому +13

    Left home at 16 due to family issues, and literally moved to another country. Age 40 my dad develops a life threatening condition, I loose my job, and have to move back to childhood home. Astrology just blows my mind.

  • @codeman7348
    @codeman7348 Рік тому +18

    Saturn in the 4th Aquarius/Pisces (Vedic/tropical). Abject poverty, POS absent biological father, emotionally unstable Asian mom with BPD. Abandoned us on a farm for a summer. Tried to change the story of what happened as if we weren’t there witnessing everything in our childhood, the abuse, restrictions, etc. home was cold. Mother was cold. I started my life in Saturn Dasha so you could basically say I didn’t have a “childhood.” It was spent studying and practicing classical music. I have many regrets. One is spending the last 10 years in crisis mode ever since leaving the house. 2nd is thinking if I was a perfect child, obedient, disciplined, well-behaved, it would bring peace at home some how. Nope. It didn’t matter.
    No matter how hard I worked, how much I achieved, my mom always had something to say, something to criticize, something to pick apart.
    My friends and I with Saturn in the 4th house (we seem to find each other) realize that going no contact with the disciplinarian parent is doing what’s best for us.
    I wish someone told me earlier in life that trying to be an overachiever was pointless. I’m not here to bring balance to the force, I’m not here to parent my emotionally immature Asian parent. That’s not my job. Not my obligation. My obligation is to the family I created and boy, do I let these little monsters run wild! Watch what you want, play when you want to.
    5th house stellium in Aries right here, baby! Freedom to express, create, and enjoy!!

    • @coreyforney6854
      @coreyforney6854 Рік тому

      ,💚💚💚Sounds like my earth family. Sun in Taurus Aries in Venus 5th house.

    • @TFrom58
      @TFrom58 10 місяців тому +1

      Omg my life is so similar to yours!
      Aquarius/Pisces 4the house cusp
      Aries sun that gives me life in 5th house
      Sadly....its true that we have to separate from my parents especially my mom for me. She used me as her little maid, emotional sponge, scape goat basically I was low key responsible for her and my siblings through her many pregnancies.
      I have been crying since Saturn has come close to my natal at 8 Pisces, its forcing me to see my parents for who they really are!
      I can't believe I have to emancipate myself tottally, I'm so sad about it, yet it feels like I can start living finally!! 😭😭😭🤦🏾

    • @Rebellgamers
      @Rebellgamers 3 місяці тому +1

      "if I was a perfect child, obedient, disciplined, well-behaved, it would bring peace at home some how. Nope. It didn’t matter"
      Absolutely..despite being the youngest one my parents and my elder brother put all their responsibility on me without any financial assistance. i accept my fate and did what they want from me till the of 35 yet their behavior gets worse. i spend my childhood and teenage watching those hypocrites expressing their anger,frustration,failures on me without any filter but i am not allowed to reply them back. the moment even i try to defend myself all 3 united in bullying me for days. finally i had enough and realized no matter what i do or how much i tolerate they will be never happy or satisfied. its like everyday they invent a new reason to abuse me and then blame me for it. i leave my home and only then i got little bit of peace in my life but the damage has done.

  • @bewiseandkind9471
    @bewiseandkind9471 Рік тому +13

    On point, roles reversed with parents, raised by baby sitters and grandparents, stayed away from house/parents, nurtured self, lack of nurturing feeling. Had to leave home early.

  • @kezmenflowers8691
    @kezmenflowers8691 Рік тому +6

    Reading these comments make me feel not so alone anymore. I was raised by my grandparents because my parents were drug addicts and were out doing their own thing. My grandparents were very cold towards me and unloving and I had to lick my wounds a lot. Even when my dad committed suicide or when my brother died and even when my mom died I just got cold treatment from my family. I don't care to talk to them anymore because I had to make it on my own and even dealing with homelessness twice and my own mental problems and even my own suicide attempts I couldn't keep begging them to show me love anymore so I just decided to break ties with both sides of my family. Also the physical and mental abuse I got from them added to my trauma as well. Fuck em. Crazy thing is, around my Saturn Return at 28 my mom died. I moved from Florida to California at 26 and ended up moving back to Florida at 27 to be with my ex and then at 28 my mom surprisingly just died from lack of care for herself, then at 29 my ex and i broke up and the reality of how shitty my family truly was hit me and how truly alone i was in the world, so i had a mental breakdown and was hospitilized for 3 months. Im doing way better now being alone to myself.

  • @NamiBurger
    @NamiBurger 5 місяців тому +4

    True. When i was growing up i had no freedom. I never been to a party or sleepover or school dance, not even my own graduation. My mom was a single mother and she worked 2 to 3 jobs to support me at times, but in between all that she loved to garden so she had me working in the front or backyard weeding and shoveling mulch etc from sun up to sun down. My summer vacations were not 'vacations'. I put on sunscreen every day not to go to the beach but to avoid skin cancer while i sat in the blazing heat pulling out weeds... anyway, because i had a stifled childhood i feel emotionally and physically stunted. I dont know how to behave normally in social settings, and people call me "lazy" because im quiet and hesitant to take on certain things. You could say i lack confidence, but i also am aware i avoid things because subconsciously i feel pressured by everyone or every little thing to 'show up and do it' at the cost of my own comfort or joy. This resulted in me turning down higher positions at work, managers saw ton of potential and responsibility in me but i was quick to shut them down because i didnt want to feel chained to something else apart from my own self again...
    I am 28 now and i still dont know who i am, what i really like enough to pursue as a career, and i often feel i am 'supposed to' stay home and not do anything, its hard to explain. My partner may ask me casually 'whatre you going to do tomorrow?' and i am always the practical/'boring' person... i just say "clean, do laundry, take care of the cats, watch something"... as much as i would love to go out and explore new hobbies or new places i feel so stuck in myself and i know its more mental than actual reality. This has caused me a ton of depression...

    • @Rebellgamers
      @Rebellgamers 3 місяці тому

      i am 39 now. trust me worst will come when you are around 35-36.

    • @portiadefleur7818
      @portiadefleur7818 3 місяці тому

      I teared up cause I completely understand this. My life was so similar to this. Sorry you went through this.

  • @janerittenhouse8253
    @janerittenhouse8253 2 місяці тому

    Barbara this was so affirming to listen to! I have many Capricorn placements in my Fourth house, including my Moon and my Saturn. A lot of neglect growing up because I had a single Mom and a Dad in jail plus three other siblings all close in age. Our grandparents and Aunts played an absolutely enormous role in raising us. In my opinion their attention saved us from becoming garbage humans. We’re all mostly alright morality-wise, just very traumatized from many things. Anyways, at 29 years old I moved back into my Mother’s house to get well from alcohol use disorder, which I had used to help me open up and soften the traumas. I spent half a year there in the house, and then four and a half more years in my hometown being sober and trying to become close to my family and sort through mannny different family issues. I’m further ahead now than I was, and at 35 I’ve been sober for going on 6 years. Alcoholism runs in *both* sides of my family tree. I believe one of the only reasons I have been able to stay sober is my Capricorn Saturn, helping me find the strength and power to keep breaking the generational curses. ❤💪🏻 Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

  • @milagroslinares7428
    @milagroslinares7428 2 роки тому +18

    It's true. There was poverty when I was growing up, and we had to live with my grandparents for maaaany years, too! My family on the side of my dad is really strict, they're part of an ancient line of lawyers and are very conservative, and I've always been very creative and don't agree with them. My economic situation improved a lot as of the age of 24 aprox.

    • @kezmenflowers8691
      @kezmenflowers8691 Рік тому

      Similar situation. My financial situation improved around 24 as well and my dad's side comes from politicians, judges, business owners and lawyers. I don't talk to those people because they are a stick in the mud.

  • @ceruleandusk
    @ceruleandusk Рік тому +15

    I have been binge watching your videos regarding my natal chart and this one is the most frighteningly accurate yet to the point that it feels like a one-to-one reading.
    My parents were kinda absent and my grandparents had to take care of me but I never really graduated the childhood stage in a certain sense and I still feel like home/family life is my biggest restriction. This is tough no joke 😅

  • @billiemoon
    @billiemoon Рік тому +7

    i never stop being suprised over and over by the accuracy of astrology! i did have a more masculine cold mother who is very restrictive about many things especially small details like dust cleaning and perfect orginazations because she also has ASC virgo, and i was being taken care by my amazing grandparents most of my childhood (which my grandpa is a capricorn my grandma is sag) which gave me the love and warmth i was so missing in my inner family/ home
    also because i have saturn in gemini in the 4th house the biggest traumas i had in life was learning disabilities and my parents getting frusturated and angry at me not being able to understand and sitting with me doing homework from morning till midnight each day and because of thier frusteration of me not understanding it used to sometimes turn into violent situations, mostly verbely but sometimes phisically too, it's incredble how you can see all of that accurately in astrology !
    thank you for the video!

  • @LavenderFieldsForever
    @LavenderFieldsForever Рік тому +8

    Very true! Home was cold and I moved out at 15 to another country lol

  • @HoangNguyen-zn9ef
    @HoangNguyen-zn9ef Рік тому +14

    Just want to add my comments as someone with Saturn in 4th, hope it’ll give everyone some insights. Indeed I grew up in poverty. My family business went bankrupt when I was 5, and we have to run to a different city and start everything again, basically disconnected from my hometown. I have to work from the age of 6, slowly taking up responsibilities as I get older. I spent my weekends on the street doing manual labor with my father, and when I was 12-15 I spent all summer working 12 hours a day. It was hard work, although my family did show their love for me. It’s getting better as I have my own stable job now, but I can see that once my Saturn returns, something crazy is going to happen again with my family (me and my Dad have Saturn return in the same year). I don’t know what it will be, just hope for the best. Wish all of the Saturn in 4th out there the best, too

    • @AlinaMilaya
      @AlinaMilaya Рік тому +4

      You should not really worry about Saturn return, I did it fine and actually inherited some good money (unfortunately, I blue them out lol but I did make almost all my childhood dreams to come true, including skydiving lol and visiting Europe).
      Yes, it started (I assume) with breaking up with my bf of 5 years and indeed it was hard, but that was my decision bc I did not feel like we are happy together :) So now I can say “thank you, Saturn!!” Lol

    • @ladye2818
      @ladye2818 3 місяці тому

      Which sign is your Saturn in?

  • @jpeg_light_
    @jpeg_light_ 11 місяців тому +3

    This was the most accurate description of my family ever. Growing up I watched a video about an orphan boy, and I cried so much, now tha I think about it - i related so much to that boy. Orphan in a full family😢

  • @theLunaMystic
    @theLunaMystic Рік тому +11

    I’m looking at my daughters chart and seeing this scares me. She’s only 1 right now. I’m so sorry baby girl I’m doing my best, I’m not sure what to do about this.

    • @aliahspirituality
      @aliahspirituality 8 місяців тому +2

      My niece has it in her chart and it scares me too! She’s so loved I don’t want her to ever feel badly about her childhood 😢

  • @muchgoodisgiven1517
    @muchgoodisgiven1517 2 роки тому +6

    This made we want to cry 😢. Aqua in the 4th house.

    • @barbarajsc
      @barbarajsc  Рік тому +1

      ♥️🌟♥️

    • @ladye2818
      @ladye2818 3 місяці тому

      Was her analysis of Saturn in the 4th House 100% accurate for you? Are your parents still together?

  • @helenanayanar33
    @helenanayanar33 18 днів тому

    All your words are so true 😢😢😢

  • @thatojessica888
    @thatojessica888 Рік тому +5

    Damn! This was deeply spot on… I’m balling 😭

  • @eyesea123
    @eyesea123 Рік тому +5

    I could go on with personal info but you pretty much nailed them all.

  • @sakh86
    @sakh86 Рік тому +5

    4th house in Sagg. A lot of changing home place, now it will be 8th time and not last. Family home was cold, restricted like in army, helping my parents with theirs work as a child etc. Both parents work a lot, literraly I was carrying myself since age 4.

  • @Maria-fm2cg
    @Maria-fm2cg Рік тому +2

    Wow. This is SO accurate. Thank you for sharing this 💛

  • @vineshen3599
    @vineshen3599 3 місяці тому

    This is so spot on, you are 100% accurate

  • @prateekk388
    @prateekk388 Рік тому +6

    you blew up my mind when you talked about the Erricson's theory...I have saturn in aquarius in 4th house....being a psychology student I was also reading this theory...about a couple of months ago...and I realized that my earlier stages were not fulfilled (crisis) and I am not able to satisfy the next stages....but as soon as I turned 27 this year...my saturn returned 4th house again...I unintentionally started to resolve all those crisis...one by one...your reading was spot on....

    • @barbarajsc
      @barbarajsc  Рік тому

      Glad the video resonated !! 😊

  • @wintherace108
    @wintherace108 5 місяців тому

    Nicely explained..🤗🤗

  • @cbgh4637
    @cbgh4637 6 місяців тому

    Saturn in Gemini: Difficulty finding emotional security and establishing a sense of stability within family relationships. Communication may be challenging.
    Very accurate 😊
    Also have sun and pluto conjunct in my 10th house which truly indicates an absent father. Emotionally absent mother and father in childhood:)

  • @suneelrana8331
    @suneelrana8331 Рік тому +1

    Profound for me! Thank you so much! 🌹🔥💛

  • @AMARIS_94
    @AMARIS_94 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you. Now you have answered the question I always ask, even though my solar sign is Virgo, but I am afraid of taking responsibility, as if if I did, this would never end.

  • @JLWs506
    @JLWs506 Рік тому +1

    You are awesome!

  • @solreta_antaria
    @solreta_antaria Рік тому

    Great explanation 🙏💜thank you

  • @katerinasullivan6699
    @katerinasullivan6699 8 місяців тому

    Omg, girl, I just love your videos!❤

    • @barbarajsc
      @barbarajsc  8 місяців тому

      Thank you!!! 🥰♥️

  • @Ammeeeiizing
    @Ammeeeiizing 10 місяців тому

    This is so accurate!

  • @KandKo.
    @KandKo. Рік тому

    Wow wow wow!!! Very accurate and makes so much sense. This is the third time in the last year and a half, almost two that I have ended up back in my mothers home. All different reasons but I have been struggling financially and am doing an immense amount of shadow work and healing lack mentality, and limiting beliefs. This was so helpful!!!

    • @barbarajsc
      @barbarajsc  Рік тому

      Glad it resonated !!! 🥰♥️

    • @ladye2818
      @ladye2818 3 місяці тому

      In which sign is your Saturn in?

    • @KandKo.
      @KandKo. 3 місяці тому

      @@ladye2818 Capricorn

  • @neil_patel
    @neil_patel Рік тому +11

    I was raised by wolves. This makes sense!
    Great content - listen at 0.75 speed once she gets going - you will take more of this valueable info in…🧡

  • @irenemac1545
    @irenemac1545 2 роки тому +1

    This is excellent...and I want to add I LOVE the speed you talk....you could keep up w me in convo!

  • @nandhakarmegam4782
    @nandhakarmegam4782 Рік тому

    Childhood was like military school, little while stayed with my maternal mom but being a Scorpio moon/ taurus asc, then I became the boss of the house. And finally left the house, still have overloaded responsibility and still sponsoring them.

  • @correioanacabral
    @correioanacabral Рік тому

    Saturn in 4th House CAPRICORN. Jesus. Thanks, little doll

  • @theredwitchgirl
    @theredwitchgirl 2 роки тому

    This was very eye-opening, as someone who has this placement. Thank you!

  • @susiesharp2268
    @susiesharp2268 2 роки тому

    Thank you❤

  • @twosongs7396
    @twosongs7396 Рік тому

    I cannot believe how bang on you are, it’s eerie. I definitely would like you to give me a private reading, if you’re available. I’ll look you up on your website.

    • @barbarajsc
      @barbarajsc  Рік тому

      Thank you !! Looking forward to it 🥰

  • @meccamorphosis2782
    @meccamorphosis2782 Рік тому

    you are soooo clear

  • @AlinaMilaya
    @AlinaMilaya Рік тому

    The only UA-camr I had to slow down instead of speed up lollll
    What a wonderful insights!! Especially regarding MC, bc I am a cap in its so hard that at age of 37 I am still could not get into my dreams to become a professional and successful, having a family :(

    • @barbarajsc
      @barbarajsc  Рік тому +2

      😄 I’m so glad you know about that option !! 🌟

    • @AlinaMilaya
      @AlinaMilaya Рік тому

      @@barbarajsc I did not want to miss even a word lol! What’s a wonderful insights!! ❤ thank you!!
      -cap sun 5h, scorp moon, mars, Pluto in 4h, Saturn in 4th in sagg 🤪

    • @miaj5118
      @miaj5118 Рік тому

      ​@@barbarajsc aries placements?

  • @gloriamiller7504
    @gloriamiller7504 2 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @Mbaliez18
    @Mbaliez18 9 місяців тому

    This is a very painful aspect😢

  • @sanjoydutta5593
    @sanjoydutta5593 Рік тому

    Same here Saturn in 4th house...

  • @dv52528
    @dv52528 Рік тому +1

    That is impressive!
    How can we heal from this?
    What can we do?

  • @specialj6784
    @specialj6784 Рік тому

    Aries saturn 4th house
    Adopted at birth sealed records been tripping that mystery and abandonment
    Whole life. my relationship with my adopted parents was normal they were alchohalics and I grew up to one too.
    Alchohalism is not genetic boys and girls it's learned

  • @soleilsalutations3735
    @soleilsalutations3735 3 місяці тому

    Spot on!
    What Erickson crisis stage would you say Saturn in 4th house is?

  • @joannabarcikowska6409
    @joannabarcikowska6409 Рік тому

    Very important what you said. Can you please explain your view if I have Pluto/Saturn conjuction in Libra?

  • @KaoruOnmyodo
    @KaoruOnmyodo 20 днів тому

    ❤why is the ing ,bacKkk inggg ,please please take care of this in communication
    .i have saturn in the 4th and in cancer ,i can agree with everything ,and i have adhd as well ,mercury retro conjunct that saturn Ic .
    Virgo moon
    ;)

  • @lekhikaprajapati9816
    @lekhikaprajapati9816 6 місяців тому

    It this effects are same for retrograded Saturn in 4th house with highest degree in natal chart?

  • @Bruna7X
    @Bruna7X 11 місяців тому

    Please, could you give me an advice in few sentences. I have a son, 3 year old. He has Jupiter, Pluto and Saturn in Capricorn in 4th house with Jupiter on the lowest degree of 3. Jupiter squares Asc and Mars squares Pluto and Saturn.
    Please..please could you give me an advice or opinion? Thank you so, so much. ❤

  • @LoveLife-gv8jg
    @LoveLife-gv8jg Рік тому

    For whole houses Saturn is in the 4th but in 5th for traditional chart. Which is right?

  • @discopuma
    @discopuma 2 роки тому +1

    Can this also be for Capricorn on the 4th house cusp instead of Saturn in the 4th house? I feel this is VERY much my early life. My Saturn is in the first house in Libra on top of ascendant. I did leave home early on in life...

  • @stellarcleaning9630
    @stellarcleaning9630 10 місяців тому

    My son has saturn in leo 5th for placidus and Saturn in leo 4th for whole signs. Which should we recognize?

  • @milagroslinares7428
    @milagroslinares7428 2 роки тому

    And what about Saturn in the 4th and the Moon in Cancer? (conjunct MC in Leo, by the way)

    • @codeman7348
      @codeman7348 Рік тому

      I have moon in cancer in the 8th house. I’m guessing yours would be the 9th if your MC is in Leo. The hardest part I would say is the abandonment issues, clinginess, and feeling like if you do something wrong, people will leave you, but at the same time you might want your space to yourself, so finding a balance between your space and safely bringing people into your space is a struggle at times. Maybe you’re super creative and hardworking, depending on your sun (is it in the 6th house?) but deep down you might feel insecure and not good enough. That’s just my guess.

  • @katiemckee3334
    @katiemckee3334 Рік тому

    What do you mean by "cancer is the most abandoned sign"?!

    • @barbarajsc
      @barbarajsc  Рік тому +6

      Emotionally, Physically. They are always looking for a family. They also tend to have orphan past lives a lot of the time/or even in this life/or just feel like an orphan because didn’t have the family feel they were looking for when growing up

    • @valeria-militiamessalina5672
      @valeria-militiamessalina5672 8 місяців тому +1

      That's why they are so needy.

  • @netta2188
    @netta2188 Рік тому

    Thank you