As someone with cerebral palsy and has gone through the exact same thing, I totally understand this and feel it immensely. It isn't about the rejection or even the person that said no, it is about ourselves and feeling worthy enough, period. I have the best parents and they taught me about rejection and being resilient, but you get a rude awakening from society real fast when you get out on your own. When society constantly dismisses you and rejects you, it gets ingrained into your head. That switch that goes off is called internalized ableism, and no amount of education or how you were raised will help you switch it back off by yourself. It is a complex mental struggle and unless you go through it yourself, you cannot to begin to understand. About a year and a half ago, I finally had enough of battling my severe depression and anxiety, and my internalized ableism, and began to bust my butt to get a good grip on it. Even though I have some bad days once in a while yet, life has been much better since.
We were born with special needs, when we are the ones to accomodate the system and our peers, when reality sets in our world and everything we thought was real turns dark. I’m 38 with many complications related to Spina Bifida I was high functioning and smart so got thru grade school with few problems. I learned in college my level of SB was degenerative. I did not graduate came home to dissapointed parents and a few years later around 25 I began to degenerate and response was delayed due negative emotions towards me. Society makes a mockery of people with special needs, keeping up appearances instead of leveling with us.
Its a societal issue, its disrespectful and dishonest for society to put children with special needs thru life thinking everything will be ok and normal. Thats living a lie to keep up appearances
As someone with cerebral palsy and has gone through the exact same thing, I totally understand this and feel it immensely. It isn't about the rejection or even the person that said no, it is about ourselves and feeling worthy enough, period. I have the best parents and they taught me about rejection and being resilient, but you get a rude awakening from society real fast when you get out on your own. When society constantly dismisses you and rejects you, it gets ingrained into your head. That switch that goes off is called internalized ableism, and no amount of education or how you were raised will help you switch it back off by yourself. It is a complex mental struggle and unless you go through it yourself, you cannot to begin to understand.
About a year and a half ago, I finally had enough of battling my severe depression and anxiety, and my internalized ableism, and began to bust my butt to get a good grip on it. Even though I have some bad days once in a while yet, life has been much better since.
thank you for sharing your brother's story. I hope he is doing well.
We were born with special needs, when we are the ones to accomodate the system and our peers, when reality sets in our world and everything we thought was real turns dark. I’m 38 with many complications related to Spina Bifida I was high functioning and smart so got thru grade school with few problems. I learned in college my level of SB was degenerative. I did not graduate came home to dissapointed parents and a few years later around 25 I began to degenerate and response was delayed due negative emotions towards me. Society makes a mockery of people with special needs, keeping up appearances instead of leveling with us.
Molly did nothing wrong (from the information given), but her bothers feelings are still valid.
Its a societal issue, its disrespectful and dishonest for society to put children with special needs thru life thinking everything will be ok and normal. Thats living a lie to keep up appearances
Having a child who has c.p. rejection is a part of life. My daughter knows this.
……….because she said no.
Smh Molly