When you mention the word "normal", what came to mind is when one of my kids asks me if what they are feeling or if their behavior is " normal", I say to them, " You do you", another wards, what you are comfortable with and what is right for you in your life may not be right for someone else, so do not compare yourself with anyone else.
That is great advice Terry and I think you get the point of what I am talking about with "normal" as being a "red flag." We should even be non-judgmental about being judgmental, so it's fine to wonder about normal and fine to decide you want to be it, but realize it's an outside standard, not one that comes from the inner self.
When you mention the word "normal", what came to mind is when one of my kids asks me if what they are feeling or if their behavior is " normal", I say to them, " You do you", another wards, what you are comfortable with and what is right for you in your life may not be right for someone else, so do not compare yourself with anyone else.
That is great advice Terry and I think you get the point of what I am talking about with "normal" as being a "red flag." We should even be non-judgmental about being judgmental, so it's fine to wonder about normal and fine to decide you want to be it, but realize it's an outside standard, not one that comes from the inner self.
Thank you