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SOCIAL SKILLS YOU WISH YOU KNEW EARLY | REINVENT PRODUCTIVITY SERIES
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- Опубліковано 15 сер 2024
- The ability to strike up connections and network with new people is a very vital to your success in life, and therefore something you ought to improve upon. That is why in this video, I have taken it upon myself to share a couple of tips that will transform your social skills for the better.
00:00- Introduction
6:08- Social skills can and ought to be learnt
7:23 - Why do you need to build your social skills?
9:27 - How do you build/ improve social skills?
9:34 - Smile
9:59 - Be interested but not interesting
10:44- Display empathy and compassion
12:13 - Body language
15:05 - Physical contact (handshakes and hugs)
16:38 - Dress well
17:28 - Practice
18:54 - Invest in knowledge
19:13 - Learn to greet
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I can greeeeettt!😂
In a bus or taxi I’ll greet the person beside me, in an Uber I’ll greet the driver and make small talks, on my street I’ll greet the shop owners, climbing up the stairs I’ll greet a passer by. As an introvert it helps me do so much without doing too much to acknowledge and relate with people
My sister 😂 in the greeting department.❤
A fellow introvert finds this very helpful.
This video helps me realise why loneliness became a lifestyle throughout school.
One other social skills I've recently started practicing and has been helpful is giving gifts especially people I look up to. It doesn't have to be so big.... Just a token of appreciation for their impact
Niceee
Yes! This has saved me at my work place. Also, I became friends with many people in 2022 because I sent them a birthday gift. I recommend
Yes.. I think this is very important too. And many people especially Nigerians need to cultivate the habit of giving. Never go to any occasion or outing empty handed.. No matter how little the gift is.
@@olunugakikelomo9867 so amazing
@@isabellaoyeniyi1612
Wow. I've never ever done this before. I must start practicing this
Pastey does a lot for this generation to be honest.
It's how he goes out of his way to simplify sound knowledge all round.
Things that might be common knowledge suddenly become so profound yet simple to apply.
Personally, I'm grateful for Apostle Emmanuel Iren everyday.
God continue to bless and keep him. Amen.
Honestly, what a well-rounded Man of God🙏🏿
Honestly, he's simply a gift that keeps giving. A truly balanced Man of God ❤🔥🙌
@@KingdomUpdates83 yess
I ask people how their day went, this helps me network with recruiters a lot, cause it makes me sound like I care about them. I do it for evangelism too
Excuse me, when do you do this?
"EVANGELISM"
That's the office I function in for God to do his work, it's really nice meeting similar workers in that regard.
I want to connect with you, also build this sense of community, what are your socials?
Let me know what you think, God bless.
it’s important to know that you’re not “less” than anyone. yes someone might be holding a higher position but that doesn’t make you any less of a human being. He or she is a human being just like you. That is something that has helped me be more confident when addressing people
Noted 🙏🏾
Wisdom
Fantastic points sir! 🙏
Some others that I've learned and practice include:
- Always avoid the urge to judge other people; let people feel like they can be themselves around you.
- Can't remember if Pastor Iren mentioned it, but please smell nice. Wear a nice deodorant/cologne - you'd feel more confident to approach people. It could even be a conversation starter, lol.
- Be ready to add value to people anytime or anywhere. For instance, "oh you're a fashion content creator, you might want to follow so so person to glean some ideas". People open up to givers easily.
Still more, but I can remember these for now. 🙌❤
I love these!👏🏽
@@osatoogiamien1574 🙏
Wonderful points!
@@theskincarenerd4601 🙏
Awesomeee
I love this, nobody talks about this. Your work is not enough and will not speak for you. People will speak for you. In school we are never taught this, all you need is to read your books and pass your exams. We then transfer this into work, we do our job alone but you need to relate, look at the office dynamics, and follow accordingly.
I have noticed that not everyone has the ability to speak while a group discussion is going. Some will just stay muted as if they had nothing to say where as they have a lot to say. When I see my self in a gathering like that I figure out people like that very quickly, ask them very simple questions and I will ensure it makes them smile. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.
I'm kinda guilty of this, staying mute in a group discussion
@@RealJeRi me too
I do that too, sometimes...
@@RealJeRialways try to engage with people! They is happiness in it.
@Wisdom Moon Nice!
One social skill that I keep reminding myself about is practicing my authenticity. Simply being oneself is so powerful in a world loaded with identity crises. So, within any given social space, I remember to be myself, to be genuine in my actions and sincere with every remark. I also consider it really helpful to understand that my way of having fun is legitimate and no one else should try to intimidate me because I don't want to hang out in their own way. Communicating this difference is the tricky part and this is where practice really helps. Thanks for sharing all these useful nuggets PIE. God bless you sir!
Thanks Pastey... I have also learned to be teachable. It's okay to keep quiet when you're not familiar with the subject matter. Also, I try not to argue blindly in a bid to sound knowledgeable. This can frustrate the other party and give irritable vibes. Enquire, ask questions and be actually interested, like Pastey said. And if you know something, confidently and simply lay it out..
Great!
Thank you
One thing that has helped me is that when I get to a new space, I take some minutes to observe the persons around, join in on open conversations, and may not talk much but at least I listen or I try to start a conversation with a smile, it works all the time. The little things you do also matter. One day, during my internship at this place, I didn't have enough money on me, so on my way to work, I bought some chocolates and shared them with my colleagues at work. Also, when visiting anyone, no matter how small, I make it a habit to not go empty-handed.
Wow🤗🥰
Wow!
Thankyou pastor iren. I thought being is just limited to greeting people and asking questions but I realize people are willing to learn to ways of socializing these days.
One of the things I am learning to do is, walk up to people and greet them. While I walk towards them, I look for something to honestly compliment them about
One of the social skills I love and has been beneficial to me is saying Thank You!, regardless of the magnitude of the help, favour, assistance I receive from people. It works alot.
Thank you Apostle, you are loved sir✨
One social skill I practice is complimenting people. I won't just say you look good, for instance, I'll say "I really love your hair". People can tell when compliments are genuine, so say it warmly and with a smile.
"Social skills can be learned", that's the comment!!!!! Thank you pastor Iren
One of my goals for this year is to develop my social skills. I'm an introvert and shy person. I'm not so good at initiating a conversation but I can keep it flowing once someone starts it...... Cos after saying 'hi' there's just nothing more to say. Lol
But i smile a lot and I see it is welcoming.
This was a great piece.
I'm going to make a video of myself and initiate a conversation with myself for a start. 😊
Thanks Pastey
This is so me and I am trying to do better and be more social this year, I pray God helps me
Another social skill I have learnt is speaking my native language. I don't form 'big' by trying not to speak my native language. Over the years, it has really helped me to build relationship with people .Thank you Dad for this video ,was very insightful.
Pastey this really was for me. Thank you Sir.
I’m the type to do what that woman did and stay in my lane. But today I’ve learned that I should be a bit more flexible in such situations. Go out of my way to be kind to even difficult people.
Thank you so much Pasteyyyy for this huge insight. As a gen Z😅, greeting people is something I should intentionally practice. I do greet people but there are so many people in this world and greeting almost every seems like a hassle. Having a better quality of life is all about intentionality. We have to be intentional even in the things of the Spirit. I really admire you so much Pastey. You are dispensing great wisdom. You will definitely be rewarded Sir. Thank you!🙇
This was amazing. One way I spark up conversations is by saying something I like on them, like their hair, or dress, and beauty even
Tbvh, most of this things, I don't do it. Thank you Pastor Iren for the insight. I am so blessed to hear this, and I've decided to make changes
Many times people cring on meeting someone for the first time. I believe engaging people first is something that makes them feel comfortable & also smoothen rapport especially when meeting people for the first time.
I've learned to get to know people by their names. It makes people feel loved and shows you care enough. 😊
I think learning how to do small talk will help a lot. I don't know if there is a system to it but I know being good at small talk can open up a path for more meaningful, deeper conversations while still keeping the interaction light.
Thank you Apostle for bringing light to these simple things that make all the difference in the quality of one's life.
A gift that keeps giving🙌❤.
I applied one of the skills thought here after watching and got a gift from my boss in the office last Friday.
It is the simplicity and openness for me.
Thank you, Pastor.
Checking up on people regularly also helps in building relationships and social skills.
Thank you Pastey. These tips are so enlightening am an introvert who doesn't see the need to connect with people. I will definitely work on this.
This was really helpful ❤thank you pastor
Pastey talk to me direct.. This episode was for me, However, I've started practicing, starting with greeting people, even people I don't know, and also complementing peoples dressing, I've learnt so much. God bless you sir.
This video is Timely!
Thank you Pastor Emmanuel
Thank you Pst Iren. The Church needs this!
Thank you so much Sir. All important... another thing in showing interest in others dressing is compliments, even though some don't know how to accept compliments 😂give it courteously still
DRESS WELL O ! Cannot be overemphasized.
Thank you so much for this pastey!
I struggle with my people skills, but this has stirred me up to do better, learn more and put it to practice.
God bless you sir ❤️
From the story, that is what is called Lobbying. Most times people tend to call it corruption but its not ( as i was taught). Its an act of influencing someone. It becomes corruption when there is a demand attached to whatever gesture (gifts, visitations, calls, etc) you give.
Pasteyyyyy exactly what you said is what I do and I have actually been feeling like mine is too much but now i am encouraged to continue sir... Thank you sir🥺🙇♂️
I try to smile a lot and compliment little things like..."your nails are so bright" just something out of the box and more detailed
The next time the person sees me they'll want to say hy to me first
I think being an usher in church and also being involved in campus fellowship has helped me develop my social skills...
You always have to initiate a conversation with strangers or find a polite and respectful way to talk to elders (as a church police) or trying to make an acquaintance with a first timer in the fellowship omo some people's look ehnn😄
God helping me, I will put to practice all I learnt in today's serie.
I have a very poor social skill I have always wanted to improve.
I came across this video and its catchy title caught my interest.
Thank you so much Pastor Emmanuel Iren.
One thing I do that really helps is my smile. I smile a lot and it has attracted some people to me.
Speaking of eye contact, some cultures, like Yoruba, consider it rude if children look into the eyes of elders when they are talking to them, especially when they are rebuking or scolding a child. They get beaten for keeping eye contact. Even as a grown woman, on the 4th floor, I still struggle with eye contact but I'm more intentional now. God bless you pastor Iren for this
This!!
Thank you, Pastey. Having to say 'Good morning' has been the foundation of some of my relationships.
Amazing. Thank you, sir
I'm watching this at the perfect time. Apparently I set a big goal to talk to 15 ladies that I don't know yesterday Sunday. I was scared for a while but I canceled the feeling of fear by having a conversation with myself. Abi is it not just to talk with babes?😅😅. One lady didn't give me a favourable response though - she gave me elbow 😭. Lastly, i actually spoke with a group of 3 and 4 ladies that were together. This helped me achieve my goal faster. And by the way, the ladies were pretty 😍
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Ive got to work on these. Ive lost beautiful friendships because of lack of Social Skills
Personally, to establish confidence, I get comfortable with whatever it is, topic, behaviour, choice of action etc, just be sure to be open to learn otherwise, you'll just look stubborn and ignorant. Also this may be complex but creation of mental images in the mind of the person you're talking to using choice of words, That first statement (Opener) matters alot and even through out the conversation. For example, Just by greeting this way 'bros welldone o' I can create a conducive atmosphere with say a mechanic, taxi driver and so on, If I say 'good afternoon, how are you' In an office (while dressed appropriately), I'll be accorded much respect and perhaps even mistaken for a highly placed person in the company. Along side other subtle but asertive statements and much practice, you'll pretty much be at the top of your game.👍
Thank you Apostle ❤ You're always teaching us to be better versions of ourselves🔥
Thank you, Pastey. Learnt a lot from this video and the comments too.
I receive grace to practice them! Amen. 😅🙏
God bless you, sir.
Thank You Greatly For This Sir🙏
I was really like this in my school days and I had alot of friends, I don't even know how I fell off, but this is indeed a great reminder. I appreciate Pastey
I’m waiting patiently for the dressing episode. I will be opening my youtube at hourly intervals until you post it 😭🙏🏽 I must not miss it😭🙏🏽
Thank you Pastor. Your videos has inspired so much in me lately and I am following.... I really need to build my social skills....
I start conversations with a smile or trying to help with the current situation at hand
Thank you sir for this Lecture
Thank you sir, I will put my social skills to work....
Thank you so much Pastor Iren. I didn't even know how much I needed this.
I love this topic because I feel it comes naturally to me 😅
One thing I do is to give compliments to people. Everytime I compliment someone, they give me a very bright smile because they aren’t expecting it.
Thank you sir for this
I use to be shy talking to people and most especially with ladies, but with time started working on my social skill. like you mentioned complementing people and smiling at them actually still working on myself thanks PST iren
Awesome section pastey🔥🔥
Sure going to put this to work
Greeting,Smiling and eye contact have helped me a lot and are still HELPING ME. I’m trying to improve on my handshake and dressing mehnnnn! Thank you 🙏.
Thank you so much, Pasteyy. I really needed it!
I really needed this.. just today I was saying to someone that I really need to improve on my social skills then I found this
I cant wait for the live to start, i am excited!
Thank you sirr
Thank you sir. GOD bless you
❤
This was very helpful, Thank you, Sir
The part of eye contact is always awkward for me, I find it difficult to maintain eye contact, especially with those much older than me
I love you Emmanuel Iren.
Thank you for this🤗
Thank you sir!, God bless you for these tips, and for the entire re-invent series🙏
I think the second social skills speaks to me. I always do not remember people's name the second time I meet them. Like I'm literally very poor at keeping names in my head
Greeting back!
Sometimes I don't just get it 😂
Someone will greet you, you'll just snub
Thank you so much Apostle, you're a blessing to our generation Sir.
Good social skills will improve your quality in life.
God bless you Sir ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you pastor, thanks for sharing
Thank you so much Pastey 🙏🏾❤️
How to win friends and influence people. Dale Carnegie
Thank you so much Pastey- for the effort you put into this.
One habit, I want to be more intentional about this year is giving of gift. 🎁
You are a blessing sir…God bless you
Thank you so much sir for sharing all of this.
It's really amazing how one should be intentional about Simple things that really do matter.
Very profound. Thank you so much for sharing.
This is profound. Thanks Pastey
I was blessed
Thank you Sir for this series
This video came in really handy. Thank you PI
Thank you pastey❤❤ this is so so impactful 😊
Very insightful Sir.
Well appreciated Sir!
I'm actually looking forward to the dressing episode! Sounds like so much fun
Thank you so much sir for this❤️
A lot of helpful tips here! Thank you Pastey ❤️
This was so helpful.Will practice them.Thank you Pastor
More grace sir
I’m blessed
Thank you, Dad.....this was very helpful🥰🥰
Thank you for these tips, Sir.🔥
God bless you Paastey🤲🏾🥺❤️❤️❤️
This is helpful and impactful. Many thanks to you, Pastor Iren.
It's the superstory in the background for me loool
Thank you pastor. This was insightful!!!