I appreciate that the FL did not help her ex but honored the fact she had a son. Yes, he. her son, rejected her and did not value her but as a parent it is are responsibility to set our children on the right course. I believe she did the right thing paying for his collage. She can move on without guilt. She was partly responsible for his bad behavior, entitlement, and disrespect. She in effect giving him a last chance to prove he could be a good person, grow up be responsible, & the person she hoped he would be. I think this was a good ending she showed that doing the right thing looking for the positive will only make your life better. By making the choice to helped a sick man and put a child through collage can be scene as acts of charity she might do for others with the wealth she now possesses. She had a kind heart but good boundaries.
Instead of paying for her ex and family situation, she should say...what about their prized current wife. Everyone praised her, and yet she's the bad guy to support and finance them. The FL is just too nice.
This lady and her little girl has every right to live their lives and be happy also. Her son is ungrateful and disrespectful like his father. He has his grandparents to love and care for him. As we can see he is very spoiled by them. The lady only needs to concern herself with her little girl and herself. Thank God 😊 for divorce when it's very much needed.
Whilst completely justified, if every mother permanently rejected her bratty and ungrateful teenager, no relationship would ever make it past that point. Kids make bad choices and they have to face consequences p, but that doesn’t mean they will never learn to be better.
There is being a brat and there is trying to force your mother to openly accept a mistress while you non stop verbally abuse her. He needed a hard reality check...
Sometimes separation is needed for someone to appreciate and be grateful for the treasure they don’t realize they have. The mother and son relationship may be distant now but the future they could make up.
Children must be taught to be polite, humble kind, nice, generous with love and fear of God at an early early age so THEY’LL BECOME A DELIGHT BEFORE YOUR EYES . My mum taught us so. 🌈🌈🌈
I think the 7 year old was the most sensible character out of all of them. Mom is caught in the fog of being a dutiful wife and mother and not clearly seeing the whole picture regardless that she heard rumors as early as 5 years ago about her husband's cheating - just didn't see it in person. I wonder how the in-laws were initially or if they became a bigger influence later on. But the little girl was 7 and saw that no one in the family liked her (except the mom, even if she realized she was still not a priority with the mom either), and she realized she wanted a different life. I really like that the little girl helped to prompt the mom to actually evaluate her life and to make a break to leave. Usually the kids are guilting the parents into being together.
Easy for people to judge the heroine for rejecting the son. Totally corrupt at 18? He is an adult! I suppose asians are self sacrificing so think any behaviour is OK from their children. I totally support the lady for having a backbone.
Nice story. ❤🥺 she sacrificed her youth, was betrayed, restarted her life and stood her ground. She is tough yet compassionate, she let her son learned his lesson but did not completely forsaken him. 🎉🎉🎉
Once again, if the mistress knew how to cook and clean, no one would realize the wife/mother/daughter in law was gone and took with her the little girl 😒
This is also a lesson that a family can overcome many things, but if we give way to third parties everything will be ruined in the end so people please 🙏🏽 before anything else check the facts and the reality before making the wrong decision
FL let everything happened she was too weak, but ML is just unfaithful, but I believe her eldest son could still be saved ‘coz he is still young and just need proper guidance and better environment, she lost her son’s respect coz he grew up seeing her mother let her husband and inlaws disrespect her, anyways at least she left after 18 years
Many viewrs may not agree with my comment, but here I post anyways😅: A parent should earn a child's respect, because children are just that - Children. Their brains are still developing and they don't have the cognitive capacity of an adult. Consequently, they are easily influenced by the ideas and opions of others. If he turned out to be a white-eyed wolf (I alao admit he's an AH), but what's your role in it? Second, if you think, cleaning, cooking and running behind them is equal to parenting, you don't have the right to criticize them 😢 Every child wants a mom and dad who respects themselves, and wish to see others respecting their parents. Do you know how proud kids feel when thier parents are treated with respect????? This mom, for years, acts with little self respect- more like a housekeeper than a parent. Even the father doesn't respect her, forget about the outsiders. For instance, she asks the son to be "reasonable" and help make the day a good one when clearly her husband was the one at fault for bringing a mistress along their day out. Why should he be understanding???- because you don't have the ability to manage your marraiage??? Do you know how hurtful it is for a teenager? Usually they show that hurt as anger towards the parent. But she takes no accountability, but accuses him for not being greatful of all her hardwork 😢 39:10 Again she blames the son saying "because of you, I ignored my daughter for ten years and allowed her be abused"- FOR HEAVEN'S SAKE woman, isn't it your CHOICE? You choose to favour your son and ignore your daughter until the mistress turned up at the doorstep to smack some sense into you. 😅 I hope they make films where they show the child's side of the story. And women, please stop playing the victim card and reflect on yourself. Couldn't like the FL 😂
I think there is no problem in giving comments becoz we give comments basing on the cdrama or movie we are watching. Unless you are a mistress yourself , (no offense) am sure you will despise the wife in any action she shows.however teenage kids behavior are molded by the family surrounding him and the school he is going to.
@@HelenPadre I agree with your last point 😊 but you don't have to be a mistress to share negative comments about a "wife's role portrayal" in a c-dramas. (No offense, but how does someone immediately go there?🤣). You can be a writer, director or doing something similar to critically evaluate roles in movies. You can also be an activist advocating for realistic and empowering portrayal in the media. You can also be in a profession where you encounter cases like this in real life, so you can't help but share your thoughts in the hope at least a few people learn a pointer or two. I belong to this category. 😁
In this world everyone get chance to choose how they want to life🙂 and he choose being spoiled 😗 it's definitely his fault he was not 3-4 years old kid who can't understand 😒 he doesn't have problem with his father's mistress. Yeah you said why he should responsible for their parent's marriage but i don't think he should support the one who is cheating.he repeatatively disrespecting his mother shouldn't forgiven😢you said parents should too respect children then how should you expect your parents to respect you 😐 isn't is called respect when parents pamper the child support the child.and about favouring boy over girl i think it was more favouring oldest over youngest yeah and family one get a little more pampered.and about being housekeeping she was being housekeeper ..a housekeeper doesn't do your work for free a housekeeper wouldn't care about you..a housekeeper wouldn't listen to your taunts i guess 😑
@@author_radhi_ Please read and understand the comment first- a kind request. But I love to exchange ideas, so thank you. ☺️ As someone with a background in neurocognition (where they study the link between the brain and thinking), I can't agree with your view that a teenager can think out of his upbringing and make a completely rational "choice". Because it takes up to 23 years for a human brain to fully develop. No one can argue one can think like an adult with a developing brain, right! A lay person may believe so, but I can only rely on my educational background as it's not possible for me to erase what I know. Another point, children believe in things that they see and hear growing up. That's why what is normal for some is perceived as abnormal by others. If you grow up believing drinking from a young age is fine, many kids in "thugish" areas start this habit. You may have seen this in your country too. Like the father, the mother is ALSO responsible for disciplining the kids. He didn't become a disrespectful brat by birth. He was raised without discipline, and the mother also played a part in "normalizing" cheating, because she allowed it to happen in front of the kid (if you understand Chinese, the mistress came to the picture five years ago when he was a kid). The dad and grandparents also said it's normal (further, still it's not too uncommon in many villages in China). So the son truly believed that it's normal for his dad to remarry. So understanding old cultural beliefs and practices are important for you to see it from the son's pov. Don't judge from your personal experience. "Like a maid" doesn't mean she IS a maid. Actually, she allowed herself to be treated LOWER than a maid as you pointed out 😅- our maids will quit if we insult them like that. But, in China, if you speak to your parents like that, a normal mom/dad would beat them up until they beg for mercy and remember "proper" language. I was also raised like that. My mom did spoil us like any Asian parent and she was obedient to In-laws. But, she also disciplined us, taught us when we did something wrong and conducted herself in a way that nobody looked down on her. She never allowed others to insult her in front of us. Also, do you know that when parents come poorly-dressed or in old-fashioned clothes, not only kids, even some teachers look down on that child???? Every child wants their mom and dad to be well- dressed, beautiful and cool in others' eyes. As a mom I understand this. A fashion designer wearing retro clothes? 😅 Give me a break. Being 'obedient' in our culture doesn't mean we take insults from husband or in-laws. Finally, in China, many still favour the boy child over girls - maybe you came across it when watching movies. That's what happened in this movie coz the mom herself said so. I don't know if it was missed in subtitles. Let's say you are right and that she favoured "because he was the eldest"- in what universe does it make it right??? In your country, is it common to treat children differently by birth order to the point you allow the younger ones to be abused? In China, it's kind of the other way around. Eldest is expected to take on more responsibilities, not spoiled like this 😅🤣
That's true, people change for good or bad, that's why, never stop, correcting and forgiving and if need be, lend a hand, you children out there don't dispise your parents, they give, so much for you, husbands, cherish your spouse and guide one another 😊
I really like the end❤❤ I've seen some version of this but the mother never forgive her son. And for me that's too much. No mother can let her son suffered.. Specially hs just a teenager and bratty. But doesn't mean he cn never change after all he experience 😢 Thankfully she never ignore hr son ❤❤❤❤
I’m just starting to watch and perhaps the FL character gets stronger but at the beginning i immensely dislike how Weak and pushover she is. Poor little girl. I hope it gets better.
Les enfants rejettent sa propre mère. Ils ont choisi leur destin. Il faut etre un monstre de rejeter sa mère qui s est occupé lui et aimé pendant 18 ans. Même si c'est notre enfant mais c'est lui qui a choisi son destin. 😂😂😂😂
Y always in these dramas m-i-l says u eat in our family u live in our family.. S she eats n lives in ur family bcoz she is also ur family member... Were u born in this family???? Did u marry ur(mil) own brother???
Son learnt a valuable lesson. Always respect your mother and never hurt her.
HE IS A HORROR,,, JUST LIKE HIS FATHER. IT HURT MY HEART TO SEE HOW HE DEGRADED HIS MOM AND LIFTED UP THE MISTRESS. PAINFUL TO WATCH. 😮
Good ending--appropriate. The son learned a valuable lesson early in life. Strong, independent woman, she deserves the good life.
I appreciate that the FL did not help her ex but honored the fact she had a son. Yes, he. her son, rejected her and did not value her but as a parent it is are responsibility to set our children on the right course. I believe she did the right thing paying for his collage. She can move on without guilt. She was partly responsible for his bad behavior, entitlement, and disrespect. She in effect giving him a last chance to prove he could be a good person, grow up be responsible, & the person she hoped he would be. I think this was a good ending she showed that doing the right thing looking for the positive will only make your life better. By making the choice to helped a sick man and put a child through collage can be scene as acts of charity she might do for others with the wealth she now possesses. She had a kind heart but good boundaries.
Well said
You can love someone, but not like him very much.
Morals: Value those that love you and care for you. Don’t take them for granted. Especially a Mother’s Love.
They miss a servant not a member of the family!!
Instead of paying for her ex and family situation, she should say...what about their prized current wife. Everyone praised her, and yet she's the bad guy to support and finance them. The FL is just too nice.
This lady and her little girl has every right to live their lives and be happy also. Her son is ungrateful and disrespectful like his father. He has his grandparents to love and care for him. As we can see he is very spoiled by them. The lady only needs to concern herself with her little girl and herself. Thank God 😊 for divorce when it's very much needed.
Whilst completely justified, if every mother permanently rejected her bratty and ungrateful teenager, no relationship would ever make it past that point. Kids make bad choices and they have to face consequences p, but that doesn’t mean they will never learn to be better.
@@fibienn250 Thanks for saying this 🙏🏻
There is being a brat and there is trying to force your mother to openly accept a mistress while you non stop verbally abuse her. He needed a hard reality check...
Sometimes separation is needed for someone to appreciate and be grateful for the treasure they don’t realize they have. The mother and son relationship may be distant now but the future they could make up.
Like the saying you don't know what you have till you lose it
Children must be taught to be polite, humble kind, nice, generous with love and fear of God at an early early age so THEY’LL BECOME A DELIGHT BEFORE YOUR EYES .
My mum taught us so. 🌈🌈🌈
Reality of many talented women
I think the 7 year old was the most sensible character out of all of them. Mom is caught in the fog of being a dutiful wife and mother and not clearly seeing the whole picture regardless that she heard rumors as early as 5 years ago about her husband's cheating - just didn't see it in person. I wonder how the in-laws were initially or if they became a bigger influence later on.
But the little girl was 7 and saw that no one in the family liked her (except the mom, even if she realized she was still not a priority with the mom either), and she realized she wanted a different life.
I really like that the little girl helped to prompt the mom to actually evaluate her life and to make a break to leave. Usually the kids are guilting the parents into being together.
But that kind of son no please 🙏🏿 lord help me 😭
Easy for people to judge the heroine for rejecting the son.
Totally corrupt at 18?
He is an adult!
I suppose asians are self sacrificing so think any behaviour is OK from their children.
I totally support the lady for having a backbone.
The little girl was in pain also. Poor baby girl.😢
Let him learn to do his own laundry and take care of himself. He is more than old enough.
Nice story. ❤🥺 she sacrificed her youth, was betrayed, restarted her life and stood her ground. She is tough yet compassionate, she let her son learned his lesson but did not completely forsaken him. 🎉🎉🎉
Once again, if the mistress knew how to cook and clean, no one would realize the wife/mother/daughter in law was gone and took with her the little girl 😒
This is also a lesson that a family can overcome many things, but if we give way to third parties everything will be ruined in the end so people please 🙏🏽 before anything else check the facts and the reality before making the wrong decision
Now that's how it should have ended with the son, learning the real value of a mother.
FL let everything happened she was too weak, but ML is just unfaithful, but I believe her eldest son could still be saved ‘coz he is still young and just need proper guidance and better environment, she lost her son’s respect coz he grew up seeing her mother let her husband and inlaws disrespect her, anyways at least she left after 18 years
great plot and actors. It is excellent to do dramas with mature actors and the perpetrators receive due punishment.
Many viewrs may not agree with my comment, but here I post anyways😅:
A parent should earn a child's respect, because children are just that - Children. Their brains are still developing and they don't have the cognitive capacity of an adult. Consequently, they are easily influenced by the ideas and opions of others. If he turned out to be a white-eyed wolf (I alao admit he's an AH), but what's your role in it?
Second, if you think, cleaning, cooking and running behind them is equal to parenting, you don't have the right to criticize them 😢 Every child wants a mom and dad who respects themselves, and wish to see others respecting their parents. Do you know how proud kids feel when thier parents are treated with respect?????
This mom, for years, acts with little self respect- more like a housekeeper than a parent. Even the father doesn't respect her, forget about the outsiders. For instance, she asks the son to be "reasonable" and help make the day a good one when clearly her husband was the one at fault for bringing a mistress along their day out. Why should he be understanding???- because you don't have the ability to manage your marraiage??? Do you know how hurtful it is for a teenager? Usually they show that hurt as anger towards the parent. But she takes no accountability, but accuses him for not being greatful of all her hardwork 😢
39:10 Again she blames the son saying "because of you, I ignored my daughter for ten years and allowed her be abused"- FOR HEAVEN'S SAKE woman, isn't it your CHOICE? You choose to favour your son and ignore your daughter until the mistress turned up at the doorstep to smack some sense into you. 😅
I hope they make films where they show the child's side of the story. And women, please stop playing the victim card and reflect on yourself.
Couldn't like the FL 😂
Absolutely right!!!
I think there is no problem in giving comments becoz we give comments basing on the cdrama or movie we are watching. Unless you are a mistress yourself , (no offense) am sure you will despise the wife in any action she shows.however teenage kids behavior are molded by the family surrounding him and the school he is going to.
@@HelenPadre I agree with your last point 😊 but you don't have to be a mistress to share negative comments about a "wife's role portrayal" in a c-dramas. (No offense, but how does someone immediately go there?🤣).
You can be a writer, director or doing something similar to critically evaluate roles in movies.
You can also be an activist advocating for realistic and empowering portrayal in the media.
You can also be in a profession where you encounter cases like this in real life, so you can't help but share your thoughts in the hope at least a few people learn a pointer or two. I belong to this category. 😁
In this world everyone get chance to choose how they want to life🙂 and he choose being spoiled 😗 it's definitely his fault he was not 3-4 years old kid who can't understand 😒 he doesn't have problem with his father's mistress. Yeah you said why he should responsible for their parent's marriage but i don't think he should support the one who is cheating.he repeatatively disrespecting his mother shouldn't forgiven😢you said parents should too respect children then how should you expect your parents to respect you 😐 isn't is called respect when parents pamper the child support the child.and about favouring boy over girl i think it was more favouring oldest over youngest yeah and family one get a little more pampered.and about being housekeeping she was being housekeeper ..a housekeeper doesn't do your work for free a housekeeper wouldn't care about you..a housekeeper wouldn't listen to your taunts i guess 😑
@@author_radhi_
Please read and understand the comment first- a kind request. But I love to exchange ideas, so thank you. ☺️
As someone with a background in neurocognition (where they study the link between the brain and thinking), I can't agree with your view that a teenager can think out of his upbringing and make a completely rational "choice". Because it takes up to 23 years for a human brain to fully develop. No one can argue one can think like an adult with a developing brain, right! A lay person may believe so, but I can only rely on my educational background as it's not possible for me to erase what I know.
Another point, children believe in things that they see and hear growing up. That's why what is normal for some is perceived as abnormal by others. If you grow up believing drinking from a young age is fine, many kids in "thugish" areas start this habit. You may have seen this in your country too. Like the father, the mother is ALSO responsible for disciplining the kids. He didn't become a disrespectful brat by birth. He was raised without discipline, and the mother also played a part in "normalizing" cheating, because she allowed it to happen in front of the kid (if you understand Chinese, the mistress came to the picture five years ago when he was a kid). The dad and grandparents also said it's normal (further, still it's not too uncommon in many villages in China). So the son truly believed that it's normal for his dad to remarry. So understanding old cultural beliefs and practices are important for you to see it from the son's pov. Don't judge from your personal experience.
"Like a maid" doesn't mean she IS a maid. Actually, she allowed herself to be treated LOWER than a maid as you pointed out 😅- our maids will quit if we insult them like that. But, in China, if you speak to your parents like that, a normal mom/dad would beat them up until they beg for mercy and remember "proper" language. I was also raised like that. My mom did spoil us like any Asian parent and she was obedient to In-laws. But, she also disciplined us, taught us when we did something wrong and conducted herself in a way that nobody looked down on her. She never allowed others to insult her in front of us. Also, do you know that when parents come poorly-dressed or in old-fashioned clothes, not only kids, even some teachers look down on that child???? Every child wants their mom and dad to be well- dressed, beautiful and cool in others' eyes. As a mom I understand this. A fashion designer wearing retro clothes? 😅 Give me a break.
Being 'obedient' in our culture doesn't mean we take insults from husband or in-laws.
Finally, in China, many still favour the boy child over girls - maybe you came across it when watching movies. That's what happened in this movie coz the mom herself said so. I don't know if it was missed in subtitles. Let's say you are right and that she favoured "because he was the eldest"- in what universe does it make it right??? In your country, is it common to treat children differently by birth order to the point you allow the younger ones to be abused? In China, it's kind of the other way around. Eldest is expected to take on more responsibilities, not spoiled like this 😅🤣
Kowtow, Kowtow, Kowtow. Strong and independent FL character. Amazing drama. Especially love how she delt with her son. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
That's true, people change for good or bad, that's why, never stop, correcting and forgiving and if need be, lend a hand, you children out there don't dispise your parents, they give, so much for you, husbands, cherish your spouse and guide one another 😊
Sometimes these mother let there daughter suffer because of in laws, always want to stay with the scumbag husband.
38:10 not knowing your wife is one thing..
But your daughter?
Where is lawyer when she is verbally assaulted?
I am very thankful I do not live with anyone especially in laws and relatives!! And that son? He's not coming with me!!
I really like the end❤❤
I've seen some version of this but the mother never forgive her son. And for me that's too much.
No mother can let her son suffered..
Specially hs just a teenager and bratty.
But doesn't mean he cn never change after all he experience 😢
Thankfully she never ignore hr son ❤❤❤❤
Any Uganda here 🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬
Short bittersweet and to the point I like it
I’m just starting to watch and perhaps the FL character gets stronger but at the beginning i immensely dislike how
Weak and pushover she is. Poor little girl. I hope it gets better.
Je ne comprends pas pourquoi elle y a toujours une relation avec cette cruelle famille. 😂😂😂😂
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Good ending.
What a joke
The noy will definitely reconcile with his mother, he learnt a l'Essonne at a young age
Les enfants rejettent sa propre mère. Ils ont choisi leur destin. Il faut etre un monstre de rejeter sa mère qui s est occupé lui et aimé pendant 18 ans. Même si c'est notre enfant mais c'est lui qui a choisi son destin. 😂😂😂😂
E esso é o que a ingratidão faz na vida das pessoas
Is the son actor always play same character?😂 saw one drama he is also ungrateful son in that movie
Does her son have an eye infection? 😅
😂😂😂I think it's Bec they put something in there eyes to cry that's how it is😊
Men, tsk tsk... Cheering for wifey...
Y always in these dramas m-i-l says u eat in our family u live in our family.. S she eats n lives in ur family bcoz she is also ur family member... Were u born in this family???? Did u marry ur(mil) own brother???
Unsatisfactory ending.
👍👏👏❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Le fils a appris sa leçon on dirait😅😅
Bicara dalam hati sangat membosan kan
sorry but I feel like she should’ve taken the son back or atleast let him visit
不建议看❌ ，剧情很烂坏人没有被好好的治疗
Don't you know nit to be copy cats with movies Same mivie just different actors its boring
Most dramas use same plots with different actors. It's ok , just entertainment.