@@joycevitecoskisilva luckily my parents split when i was super young, like 3 years old. i had to witness the night one of my friends/neighbors parents decided to get divorced when we were like 12 and that shit was so sad and awkward for me to experience i had to have my mom come pick me up bc they were all crying and the dad dipped out😭
That's for sure. I think that this is the only blink-182 song that has ever brought me to tears. I grew up in a household that was chaotic and very much like what they're describing. I never thought I would be on the other side of that. I never wanted that for my children. My daughter's father decided he does not want to be involved but we're doing fine without him. She's about 10 weeks old now and she is the fattest and cutest little baby I have ever seen. Those cheeks, I just want to eat them lol. Sometimes I feel bad for him because he's missing out but then I remember that he's keeping himself away. This song is helping me cope with this whole thing. It's not about us, I didn't want him anymore. I left him before I found out I was pregnant. I gave him the chance to be in his daughter's life. I told him if he wanted to be, I was not going to stop him at all. Like we wouldn't even have to go through the courts, I wouldn't care. He has chosen his path which is to continue on like nothing happened.something is wrong with him. I really think he's either a narcissist or a sociopath or a little bit of both. Anyway, that's not a digit him, that is really the truth. I found out that he goes through life using whoever will let him. I'm just so glad that music like this exists to help those of us who need the help. I actually read somewhere that people that listen to rock music are more emotionally well-adjusted. This is because it deals with the things in life that aren't so pleasant. IE this song.
My parents separated when I was really really little so I don't remember them ever being together. For years there was fighting, yelling, throwing, crying, etc.. and it never truly got better until I was nine or ten. A broken family is one of the hardest thing to deal with. I can relate to this song.
Hailey Buchanan Happened to me when i was about 10(parents had been together for almost 20 years), my father drove my mother out. She wanted custody but he took us so he didn't have to pay support. That lead to her being so ashamed to have us over in her new apartment one she left cause she couldn't feed us that she told she was busy; this happened until we stopped trying. My father was never around either and i lived in an isolated country in the gulf. I grew up alone and disconnected; I feel you, Hailey Buchanan.
My parents split When I was 9 months old and I have no memories of them ever being together. My Father is in California and my Mother lives in Virginia. I currently live with my mom. The first time I heard of them actually fighting was from my father up until then i thought it was normal for the parents to be split. When i was 8 years old he started talking about her and what a bitch she was and how I should come live with him and one story he told me (Which is true) was that when they were about to split she slammed her own hand into a door, called the cops on him and told the cops that he did it. The only thing that kept my father out of jail was my big sister who told them that he didn't do it. Every summer and winter break from school I fly to California and stay with him. During this period he tells me stories of what it was like living with that "bitch" When I get home it's not as bad. My mom never really talks about my father. At home i have a stepdad who is pretty nice to me and treats me better than I think a stepdad should. But I feel bad for him because my mother is always on his case because he works long hours and she thinks he's cheating on her. Currently in California with dad listening about how mom is a "bitch" and I don't what is real and what he is making up to try and convince me to live with him. Many times (and I know this isn't a problem for most kids) but many times a year when i visit him he tries to give me wayyyy too much money like he once handed me 400$ for doing nothing, and I just feel uncomfortable accepting that money but it's rude to decline it -sincerely confused (I made a funny xD) get it like sincerely confused actually confused which is true? anyway I'm terrible at jokes ahaha
I was 14 when this song came out. My parents were fighting. They finally divorced 3 years later. As a confused teenager, this song made the world feel a bit more normal. Now 35 and happily married. I hope Blink-182 realizes the comfort and outlet their songs provided everyone around my age. This song still gives me goosebumps.
@@keirstinfairclothpetersen3874 It shows that divorce, while in some cases necessary, puts a lot of the burden on the kids. You don't get rid of the actual issues, you just kick the can down the road and tell the kid to deal with a broken home, shared custody, and tons of mental trauma (not to mention the kid's usually 7-10 years old). Relationships are a lot of work and issues will pop up. However, once you're married with kids, you need to work through them and figure out a way to make it work. Otherwise, your kid will have no idea what their doing when they get married themselves.
My mom died of cancer in 2009. Her and my dad always fought. Now I live with my stepmom and my dad who non-stop fight. I have been listening to blink since I was 3 or 4 years old (15 now). I did not realize it then, but this song is pretty much my life. When ever I listen to this, I smile because this is my favorite song, and I can always relate to it. I realize that there are kids way worse off than I am, but this song has a huge soft spot in my heart. It makes me feel like I am not alone.
DoubleJumpDude Yeah, I've kind of figured that out as time went on. You should never lower yourself to anyone else's standards just to fit in. If you feel like you have to do that, than you should not be around those people. Thanks for the support.
"have been listening to blink since I was 3 or 4 years old" - sorry for you mom, but yeah, youve been listening since you started walking, yeah, right :D
"Here's your holiday" Never knew one line alone would make me tear up. Holidays are always a struggle, choosing to spend time with only one of them makes me guilty and I hate that I'm in this situation. This song makes me feel things and I am thankful for that, blink-182.
I could be wrong but I always thought they were referring to the parent having a holiday as in their free time or happiness away from the kids and or the other parent.
My son’s suicide song in 2022 he was 20, fix the problems people or walk away for good. You are still and always my hero Colton, and this song on your playlist before you left sticks with me and made the most sense. Don’t blame yourself anymore, it wasn’t your fault. None of it
Thanks for this. Seriously. There are tons of Colton’s out there. I was almost one of them. All it took for me was a pretty girl to have faith in me and that made me succeed. Not everyone has that champion rooting us on. And then, after my pops passed a month after his 60 birthday, I became vilified b/c I was asking general questions about the family. I was “naturally” supposed to know my own father threw me under the bus see the bus just so he did t have to answer to his bro & sis why his only son has no contact with him. Easy: my dad was the token white boy in the black neighborhoods. Mom represented Queens. Dad’s side represented southern deserters (see creation of WV) & Boston Bhramins. Those northern Irish Protestants were table manners strict. As opposed to my Italian (blended with Ukrainian) American extended madre side.😂
I hope I find that woman that is good for me because his mother isn’t and I’m still suffering in the same ways Colton did and you. Thanks for respecting and appreciating my voice for him and the rest of us whom have had to deal with abuse that turned to depression and giving up.
Both my parents got married three different times. This was my song when I was a kid. Now, two kids in and nine years strong, I'm still with my wife. We fight. We argue. We stay together for each other. We stay together for the kids. Relationships are hard work, and people are lazy.
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The one thing I have learned from both my parents is that people comstantly change. My parents have been divorced for 20 years and i'm only 22. I guess you could say that ai'm lucky becauase i don't remember them ever being together. I still see both of them on a regular basis and I love both of them with all my heart. They have sacrificed so much for me and I'll never be able to repay them. The biggest thing they have ever taught me is how tough it is to work on a relationship. I've seen both sides. My mom has been with several different partners and my dad has been with my step mom for 19 years. I've seen and heard every fight as well as the love they give. I don't think it as simple as people make it out to be. My ex step dad for instance was a one of the nicest and most generous people I know, but there was another side to him that wasn't so nice. He had a rough childhood (He was beaten with chains) and sometimes a different side of him cane out. Ir's funny because he inspiredbi me to persue a career in engineering, but I've seen sides of him that no kid should see. I guess my point is this, it is not as black and white as people make it out to be. I have dealt with stuff that no kid should have to, but it also made me who I am today. You just have to try and make the most out of your situation. Nobody's life is perfect, but the important thing is to do the best you can with what your given.
I'm struggling with my mom and dad right now :/ they divorced before I was born but its a constant custody battle. I lived with my mom for 13 years, then my dad took me for 2 years, now I'm back with my mom :/ I relate to this song.
David Hudson the point of the song is saying its selfish and destructive to divorceinstead of. working things out, marriage is just a game of forgiveness and how much your spouse can be forgiven by you for their mistakes, its basically "how much shit can you take?" For the first 5-10 years
Much love to Mark, prayers for your cancer treatment. You're an absolute legend and the world needs you. I grew up listening to you and will never stop.
Much love from chris and the almighty God we have i know youve asked and he will heal you and you will be cancer free pray for it and it can happen trust me
I used to listen to this song, 20+ years ago as a young teen as I escaped into my room to avoid my parents fighting. Had no friends and got bullied a lot at school. To hear this song now, as a father, is just so eye opening.
The symbolism in this video is haunting, the kids in the video are standing in a broken home that keeps constantly getting wrecked. They star off as kids breaking stuff and acting out, as the video progresses they get older and older but still stand in the broken home, symbolizing them getting older but the scars and the broken home still remain looming over them because no amount of anything can fix those scars, and I can relate so much to that. This song never fails to make me emotional.
Aku meninggalkan usia 40 an , dan lagu ini dari dulu sejak remaja , sekarang dan sampai besok , akan membuat keluarga kecilku HARUS bertahan, apapun ujian dan persoalan yang terjadi, demi anak-anak . Terimakasih Tom, Mark dan Travis.
I always wished i could have his voice. And whe nyou seen people trying to imitate it it's so cringey lol. But yeah, incredibly distinguished/hauntingly-beautiful voice.
my folks divorced twice (yes after 2 marriages to each other) and are now married happy as hell a 3rd time after 40 years together on and off but the damage it did to my brother and i probably will never get repaired. i think today's culture is to blame more then anything, people just don;t realize they HAVE to tough it out when kids are involved if it is at all possible
To all the kids coming here to find solace while their families are falling apart... It's not your fault and you're not alone. Find someone you can talk to about it. Seriously. Do not let embarrassment and shame isolate yourself. It's easy to cling to a song because it echos your pain. That's okay, music is therapy. But there are other forms of therapy and outlets to consider. I was stubborn and waited too long to get help. I thought the memories would fade and life would get better on its own. Trauma will not go away by ignoring it. Don't hold it in. Someone will listen, even if they can't fully relate. I wish someone told me that at when I was a teenager. I'm in my 30s now and still dealing with it.
Thank you for the kind words. My 2 beautiful boys had to witness this. I lost so much time with them due to family court. No one ever wins in a divorce and I now can only imagine what they were thinking. It's been almost 20 year (I'm 41) and I can see the pain my kids felt. Mom and I get along great now but I wish is was always that way. Hell, we were kids ourselves getting a divorce. Love you all.
@@rjenkins79 Hello, my name is Gustavo from Lima, Peru. If you go to a coach, psychologist or psychiatrist, they will advise you on therapy. However, you can start by changing your mindset. If you have a positive and warrior mindset, you will be able to overcome any trauma that life has given you. Hug and be very happy!
This song is why if there is no form of abuse, substance abuse, marital abandonment, or infidelity, you owe it to your children to try to work things out. My parents are still happily married but as a mother, this song just rips my heart out all these years later everytime I hear it. My heart goes out to children that survived ugly divorces.
As a growing guitar player in a broken home , this song struck a chord with me when it released. I covered it in our garage band during a fair, and now 20 years later I'm still singing and playing it in my kitchen. My wife and I have two beautiful boys, and we've been married 14 years. This song is the way I felt back then, and my wife and I have made it our mission to not repeat the sins of my parents. We are staying together for each other, and my kids will never feel this way.
By far it's one of the best songs of blink. On the other hand, i don't angry much with the message of this song. If both parents tried to fix the relationship considering their child's needs and it didnt work out, then it would be better to be apart without neglecting the relationship with their kids. Staying for the kids living a lie as a family isn't a good choice
I think the title isn't meant to be taken literally. This song is told from a kid's perspective, "this house is haunted", "it makes no sense at all" are things a kid would think in a parents divorce situation, not understanding what's happening around. I think "stay together for the kids" is not an imperative sentence, but a description of what means to a kid for his parents to be "together". And I think that's implied in the line "and if it's what he wants, and what she wants, then why there's so much pain?", which I think is the kid showing the real meaning of the song: A son wants his parents to be happy, whatever they are married or not, because he'll be happy too. A divorced couple can raise a healthy kid if they had a friendly break up. But if they aren't happy (as you're saying) there's no point of being together.
Exactly, mark without Tom is too flat and boring and Tom without mark is just too much of that pop punk voice, and many people enjoy that but it’ll never compare to them together
I grew up in a house of nightly screaming battles. I wish they HAD divorced. Everyone in our house was in constant “handle drunk parent” mode after 5pm. The negativity and chaos is more understandable as an adult now, but back then it was all you could do to stay standing under the weight of their anger.
Been a fan of blink 182 since I was some angst driven teen, now I’m 30, got a son with a woman I thought loved me. Yeah we fought and argued but it never got bad. 2 days before Christmas 2020 she said she wasn’t happy anymore, didn’t love me etc. I left instead of fighting. This song helps. Love you Blink and thanks for the music
well, i mean it's better to split if one person isn't happy. obviously it's good to stay together for the kids if they're really young, but if it's a toxic relationship, no sense in being together. i've seen marriages where the love's gone, it's really just a contract, and it's pretty sad.
Oh friend, very hard, it's true no one rules anyone's heart. Who should be in our lives will be and welcome, who does not want to be, then continue long ... Greetings
I was in fighting with my wife last week and suddenly my Spotify play this song. For now on, we promise to listen this song every time we get fights. To remember that our ego will be impacted to our children in the future. The key in the marriage is not about winning the fight but to apologize even if we are not fault.
Apologizing every time doesn't help either. Both sides need to be willing to look at their faults and if one side is always battling and the other is always apologizing the marriage is doomed.
I'm glad to hear that. Something else that may help you guys. It sounds stupid because I heard it on that show How I met your mother. A couple agreed that whenever they're fights would get too heated, they would say pause and come back to it later. I hope that helps. Personally, I'm listening to this tonight because my daughter's father decided he did not want to be involved. He's mad at me for escaping his control. She's almost a month old and we're doing fine without him. I honestly feel like you did me a favor by staying away. I told him either step up now or I'm not going to tolerate you popping in and out of her life whenever it's convenient for you. I'm not going to let him do that to my daughter. My dad wasn't around because of my mom keeping him away from court orders and stuff. It's not that he didn't want to be around, it's that she prevented him from doing so, legally. Am I angry at him? Sure because our daughter doesn't deserve this but like I said, we'll be better off without him.
@@ariskusuma6578I agree with this 100%. Cheating is the one thing I can't come back from anymore. I've started saying, I give somebody one chance to be training and then when they do, that's it. They're gone.
Listening to this song. I feel it's my kids singing this to their mom. She gave it all away and never once thought it was theirs to begin with. Hope you enjoy your life now without us. Going on 2 years since you seen your kids.
I'm also a guitar player, I've been playing guitar since I was 2 years-old, I'm 28 years-old now. As someone who's probably been playing guitar longer, I'd like to share some incredible guitar songs with you; Joe Satriani - If I could Fly, Jeff Beck - Cause We've Ended as Lovers, Yngwie Malmsteen - I'll see the light tonight, Eric Johnson - Cliffs of Dover, Van Halen - Eruption, Matt Rach - Cannon Rock Final, Joe Satriani - Surfing with the Alien & e-mail me if you want to talk more about stuff; Dem0n@gmx.com
IMaDEM0N I'm 28 too! I've been playing consistently since I was 12. Thanks for the song list! There's a lot of good stuff out there and it's great to find people who know good music! Sorry for the late reply.
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I wanted to feel nostalgic and i just saw this and so it had a lot of views and i thought: ''Ohh must be a good song''. Holy crap! I didn't realize this is the song I always listened to when I was little.
One of the most timeless and iconic songs ever made. Resonates to the core, speaks volumes about marriages. But even more so, it speaks volumes about the children involved in that said broken marriage. I wish everybody reading this, after listening to this song for 5 years now, to know that they're going to be okay. I know many won't care about what I have to say, but I mean it. It'll be alright. Stay strong to the kids out there.
It meant something to me. I grew up in a house full of chaos. My daughter's father has decided he doesn't want to be involved but we're doing okay. I honestly think he's a narcissist and I'm glad that he's not going to be around because he did us both a favor. She's almost a month old and I know she'll be better off without him in her life. So many people say, it's a shame that she won't have her father in her life. No, it really isn't. He would do her more harm than good by being in her life. I left him because he was a terrible partner and cheated on me constantly and I was just tired of it. He's mad at me for escaping his control so he thinks he's punishing me but really he's punishing his daughter. Once again he's shown me the kind of person he is and as I said, we'll be better off without him. Thank you for this.
I'm only 15, and once I got to high school I realized just how many kids have divorced parents. I honestly just don't understand how people can get married, have kids, and then just... end it. I guess I'm lucky that my parents are going on 22 years now, but I just don't feel lucky. I don't get why I should be considered lucky when my parents are happily together, everyone's parents should be. Straight respect to people who can make it through a divorce. I know I never could.
Honestly, I'm so sorry to all the children going through all this. No one deserves it but it happens. Criticize me if you must but I'm going through a divorce right now. I tried so hard to keep it going but when only one party wants it, its a losing battle. I can only be the best father I can be and do right by my two children, my everythings. I know one day they're going to have to deal with this and I know its going to be hard. I'll stand beside them the whole time. The pain isn't just for the kids, I feel that pain everyday. I cry just thinking about how these two children, my blood, will have to live in two separate houses. I love my children more than I love anything. I feel for all the kids going through this. I'm sorry.
I would never abuse my children or my ex. My children are my life. I'm so sorry for what you had to go through. I can't even fathom how a father could do that to his family. You and your mother never deserved what you went through but its very brave of you to come out and talk about it so that others going through similar situations know that they're not alone. I hope life has turned around for your mother and yourself. You both deserve the best.
I ask you please just be see your kids don't go months without seeing them phones call aren't the same just please make sure you don't give in and think it'll be easier to just see them next week do it that day even if it means not being able to do things you want to just do it for them
I have joint custody of my children. They're my world. I would never put off being with them for anything. No worries Daric. Thanks for the reply. Thanks for caring.
This song came out the year before my parents divorced. I remember when the video came out about a year later, my family was falling apart. I was 11. I finally understood the song with the video. I related to the people at the end destroying everything. The metaphor of the house in ruins lives inside my head and appears in my dreams. Blink 182's music helped keep me calm during those scary and sad times. It was my source of comfort. I am forever grateful for them.
@@StephenMatrese if by almost you mean five months from now, then yeah, almost - sorry dude, I just had to do it, don't hold it against me ;) for real though, sorry you had to go through that B.S. ✌
@@rodolfotsang4327 A series of events, basically he was being a douche to the other guys, specially to Mark, he created Boxcar racer and invited Travis, and when asked by him about Mark, he told him that Mark refused the invitation, but the reality is he left him out, and when Travis found out, they called him out on his BS, then they got in a hiatus for about 2-3 years, then the next album, the one called Blink-182, had to be produced at Tom´s pace and liking, because reasons, he kept neglcting Blink to focus on Angels and Airwaves, which kept pushing Mark and Travis´s buttons, to the point that they would diss him in interviews, citing him as the reason why albums would take so many years for them to produce and why they would be lacking in quality, he even stopped going on tours, and they had to bring other players in his place, eventually they had a major falling with Tom´s agent, altough Tom claimed he had nothing to do with that. No one is sure if Tom quit or if they kicked him out, the guys claim his agent just told them "Tom.Is.Out" and Tom claims he learned he had been kicked out via the press. But the fact is, it is very evident Tom was being a douche to his supposed best friends, included one who he claimed was like a brother.
My dad died when I was 6, they said he took his own life but I don’t believe them. never had a proper “home” and now fighting with my partner with our two year old daughter watching and I don’t want to end up like my dad
+Destiny Tarver Our civilization has been descending into primitivism for at least the past 60 years. Soon we will be watching naked people chanting around a fire and worshiping magic.
After enduring the pain of a broken home and multiple step parents my kids will never experience the mind fuckery it causes. You and your spouse will not like each other all the time but love endures all.
lyric: It's hard to wake up When the shades have been pulled shut This house is haunted It's so pathetic, it makes no sense at all I'm ripe with things to say The words rot and fall away What stupid poem, could fix this home? I'd read it every day So here's your holiday Hope you enjoy it this time You gave it all away It was mine So when you're dead and gone Will you remember this night? Twenty years now lost It's not right Their anger hurts my ears Been running strong for seven years Rather than fix the problems They never solve them, it makes no sense at all I see them everyday We get along so why can't they? If this is what he wants And it's what she wants Then why is there so much pain? So here's your holiday Hope you enjoy it this time You gave it all away It was mine So when you're dead and gone Will you remember this night Twenty years now lost It's not right So here's your holiday Hope you enjoy it this time You gave it all away It was mine So when you're dead and gone Will you remember this night Twenty years now lost It's not right It's not right It's not right It's not right
I remember listening to this daily as a teenager. Suffered 10 years of child abuse and when I was finally taken away I felt even more my world was falling apart around me. Now I know that that pain was the pain of growth for a better life ahead.
27 with a wife and newborn baby. Listened to this again and I didn’t expect for my parents’ divorce to suddenly hit me again. Got literal chills. Thankfully my wife and I are a great team and we both understand that for us to be at our best for our son, our relationship with each other has to be at our best as well.
I remember when this song first came out. Was a teen at the time. My parents stayed together and raised my siblings and I until just a few years ago until my dad decided to divorce my mom. It hurt but now I understand why he did it. He stayed for his children ♡ even though my mom was heavily alcoholic and still is. He didn't give up on us♡ today he's moved on and lives away from us and even though we barely kept in touch. I am thankful he stayed and took care of us. He showed in his actions that we can take care of ourselves aswell and raise our own children and not leave our relationships & responsibilities ♡♡♡♡ miss my dad everyday & still pray my mom will quit drinking ❤
It's different when drinking and self-destructive behaviors are in the picture, but for many, one or both parents were simply selfish and unwilling to functionally work through problems.
I remember Howard Stern really connecting with this song when it first came out because he felt so much grief for his kids b/c of his divorce. Fast forward to 2022; I’m getting divorced and I can’t listen to this without crying for my 3 kids 😢 Divorce is awful; but spousal and child abuse is worse. I did what I had to; but it doesn’t change how hurt my children are feeling.
As a child whose mom didn't leave her abusive partner, thank you. I suffered through over 10 years of abuse because my mom couldn't/wouldn't leave and I still feel the impacts of the abuse now years later when I'm now married and have children.
My son's mother left me after 3 years taking hers 8 year old son (previous relationship/father) who was a huge part of my life and his and my relationship as well as OUR 18 MONTH old son. I've never been hurt by a woman nor hurt so much missing my son. 11 2hour visits since early July '22. Haven't seen him since 30th of October '22. His mother immediately entered a relationship with another man very shortly after she left me. Family court is tough and ongoing. She utilized a family court article 8 family abuse, all hearsay but the court granted a 1 year order of protection for her against me. I am trying to be civil and raise my son with his mother. If I even send a text message, I will be arrested, and she has not made any attempts to make any arrangements for me to see him. This song helps me when I cry. It helps me move forward and make sure that I will always be the best man and father for my son. It helps me put to rest the anger and resentment I have towards my son's mother. It's a great song and I am very grateful for the opportunity to share my situation that involves the importance of this song and that it still has a huge impact on my life as much now as it did years ago. Be well always
SAME! I remember Howard announcing that he and his wife were separating and how it killed him to have to tell each of his three young daughters. He was SO upset and would play this song and get wrecked on-air. He would say he didn't know what it was about but that he was ripped apart by it. When Howard made that announcement, I couldn't get out of bed! It struck me that I was coming to that same decision, and my kids were super young. Ugh...but yeah, I know there are other Howard fans out there that associate this song with his separation and later divorce.
*My parents divorced in 2001 (I was 11) this song hit me a lot but helped me back then, when I was 20 years old I still didn't forgive my dad... I listened to this song and I still hit the same way that year... Now I'm 34 years old woman and I think it was the best that could happen to all of us that they got divorced. Now I know my parents better as people and I get along very well with my mom and dad (I forgave him) and this song feels different now, but it still means a lot today 2024.❤ For the kids…listen to music, and know that everything passes and gets better.
If you fight all the time and the love's gone, don't stay together. Through my entire childhood, I wished my parents would split. I lived in a house with nothing but hate and loneliness. At least I learned not to make their mistake.
I need to do the same for my kids...its not right!! sad there daddy could careless..Time to move on..For good this time.I wish he loved us the way we love him..
Se que no soy la única, al momento de nacer mis padres ya estaban separados, algo realmente difícil, una ausencia paterna, y una madre la cual lucho para tratar de sacarme adelante aun hoy en día, agradezco mucho a esta banda, la cual realmente me a ayudado en todo este duro camino. 🖤
I used to listen to this as a teenager of separated parents and I can still vividly remember how painful the situation was. Today I'm 30 and I still cry like a baby every single time this song pops up. Stay together for the kids. Do it for them
I always thought it was named ironically like you shouldn't stay together for the kids because if your only together for the kids then they will see it and all it will do is make more pain for them hearing you fight idk I watched my family fall apart over and over and over and over it might have been better if it just ended once then to be embarrassed of the front yard fights and being a teen but having to play ref that's what he's saying isn't right putting the kids through war just so they have both parents together
Couple of years after this song released my parents divorced, was long time coming. Neglect and infidelity. The 2000s & early 2010s were one of the worst periods of my life but ironically was also one of the best. This song kept me company all the way till i enlisted. Grew up with Blink 182.
My mom and dad got divorced when I was little, so I don't really remember the actual divorce. But I sure as hell remember not having a mom there to take care of me. Everyone else had such a happy household, then I'd see my household... I've made a promise to myself, I don't ever want to put my kids through the pain I went through.
Foxhound 248 Same here, I'm on my last year of highschool and I was kicked out, finally get a full year plus with my mother for once. Definitely not having kids for this very reason.
Honestly, I wish I was old enough that way I could have experienced when these songs came out because listening to of this stuff now, Blink was the shit Cx
Well it depends on your upbringing. I didn't grow up in the 90s l, but I was exposed to a lot of 90s music due to my cousins being older and exposing me to the music I now love.
I grew up in the early 2000's, so I wasn't far behind but not close enough to hear this music when it all came out. I get a lot of music taste from my parents, soo Cx
It was awesome. I was born in 82, the 80s kicked ass and the 90s just blew up musically, the types of music for every genre was amazing. The early 2ks had some great hits. It was awesome, even pop music was good.
As a kid from a family that tried to stay together for us, my parents had the best intentions, but the arguments at night were hard to hear. As good as the intentions are if the relationship doesn’t work, it can do more harm staying together than leaving each other.
amen, me too, hope you're better now. Fucked me up for 15 years but im over the hurdle id say. I dont blame my parents whatsoever but 10+ years of emotionless marriage and arguments because i was born wasnt the right decision. But whos to say id have made a better choice in their shoes?
@@OwnaDge all good thank you for asking glad to hear you’re doing much better. I totally agree you don’t know how you will handle it until you experience it yourself.
I was 17 when I first heard this song. Now I'm 28 and has a daughter. Everytime me and my wife argues, I scroll down to see the comments as to remind me how painful a divorce brings to a child. Thank you Tom, Mark and Travis for this great reminder.
I guess is more painful for a kid to live in a house where the parents are always fighting than having divorced parents. Just saying. My parents are divorced and I prefer them divorced than living together and always fighting.
I used to listen to this as a kid to try and find peace in the disaster of a divorce... 20 years later, I'm looking down the barrel of the same thing. Heard this today, and had to remind myself of how much harder I can, and should fight. Thank you Blink 182.
Every time i hear this song gives me the chills.. "If this is what he wants and what she wants Then why is there so much pain?" I'm 28 and still hurts.
my fellow peers, my generation! I hope all of you are doing well and are happy in life! Wishing you fellas only the best. Time really flew by didnt it? its already 2024 and im turning 33 this year....
I used to listen to this song with my dad when he and my mom were splitting up. Now he's been dead for several years and damn I miss him every day. This song takes me back 20 years to the time we had it all but didn't realize it. We were too young to appreciate the time we had.
i think this is the problem. When you have it all, mom, dad, and the kids. Sometimes as parents we cant see this, its only after everythings in ruin we see what we had. If only we loved eachother like our kids did us, unconditionally.
I was 13 when this song came out. This is how he expressed our hardships from school and family, listening to these kinds of songs. We survived without social media to express our feelings. Now I'm 34, so I'm glad i grew up with the early 2000s rock music
Having been through a family split in the pre teen years, this song still hits me in the feels. And I’m bordering 50. Timeless. One of the best harmonizing bands of all time to boot.
They say the best music is relatable. So for anyone out there that can relate to this, I’m sorry. Just know you’re not alone and a lot of us are going through/have gone through this. But we’re here for for you. That’s why this song was written. You’re not alone.
This song hits harder now cause both my parents are no longer around...my mom died in 2015, and my dad took his own life back in September 2020...I’m 27 going on 28 now and this song makes much sense as it did when I was a teenager...:(
What a sad yet great song, people don’t realize how blessed we are growing up with both parents in the house. My prayers out to anyone dealing with their parents divorce. ❤️🙏🏼 stay strong!
I grew up with both parents until my mom died after years of drug use. I understand your sentiment but it was hell growing up. My dad did everything he could but all they did was fight and argue throw things. Having both parents isn't always a good thing. I hated my mother. My dad tried his damnedest to help her but he couldn't and it broke him. He never did drugs but you could see him wasting away. He wanted to keep us together he thought he could save her. In the end he couldn't. Some times divorce is the answer. She wasn't like that when they got married but they got married because of me. Then had my siblings. They never would have been together if I wasn't born. But they'd have been better if they'd divorced.
Yea I’m 31 now and come to think about it seeing that at 7 did bother me even tho I acted like it didn’t. The late 80s & 90s kids are the generation of divorce and broken families & that’s the truth
There is nothing in music way back then but there is a soul even on a holiday and thats then not felt right but now way back then and now I feel so many soul are here coz of problems they died and this is what symbol to them 🙏🙏🙏 love the music always that vibrates to you and in you untill our heart 😢😢😢😢
All these years later, and my family is even more broken than it was when this came out. I used to listen to this because my parents fought and abused each other....now I'm listening to it while watching them continue to do the same, but also lose their home. This song will always hit hard. I'm just glad I got out of there. 🙂
his voice is shitty coz he sang professionally for 20 years, thatll destroy almost anyones voice, especially with the amazingly awesome whiney voice he had, sucks but yeah
Sometimes I feel like Blink made this song for me. My parents separated just before Covid, we went on a vacation a month before to see if they could rekindle their relationship (it didn’t work) Then a week before they separated, they had a nasty fight at night, and the police were called. Ive always felt caught in the middle and I’ve never been able to tell my side of the story. They are still fighting to this day, and it’s not right
Everyone is nostalgic for their own partucular childhood soundtrack. I personally think the best time to be young and i must emphasize that I only mean music and culture. Anyways the best time i think was the 61-69 era. Real and plentiful LSD everywhere! People expressing themselves, uninhabited to the max. Plus some of the greatest rock musicians of all time came from that era. Im 31 and Blink 182 is the band that got me to pick up the guitar and music in general when I was 13. I never put it down and have been playing ever since. However even though I grew up on the 90s looking back I would love to experience things like woodstock and all the other amazing shows and experiences. Minus Vietnam and the draft of course lol.
Man. When that first chorus hits…. Mixed and mastered to perfection. The guitars are absolutely massive. Jerry Finn was a musical wizard, RIP. What an album, what an era.
Blink-182 is more talented than most critics give them credit for. The chemistry between Tom's edgy vocals and Mark's poignant verses make for a dynamic force to be reckoned with.
My parents divorced when I was 8...It was the best thing they ever did for themselves and for us...Even when you try to fake it, it comes out, the bitterness, the resentment...My Dad was a free spirit..He had no business being with my Mom...If people don't want to be together, then they shouldn't be,,I think it's because of my parents that I haven't married and I don't plan to...
Same here, daughter of divorced parents. I was around 10 and it was their best decision ever. I don't think any kid with divorced parents wish it hadn't happened, at least when they grow up.
@@cpuminerz i'm just glad they didn't stay together if they didn't want to be...too many people in the world that can make you happy...it's not worth being in a relationship if that person is not what you want...
I cried while I was performing this song at the talent show last December of 2014, My parents got divorced four days before the talent show. And right after the performance, my two band mates hugged me and say "it'll be alright, we're you're best friends and we will always be for you" and all of the kids were wondering why I was crying and my two band mates explained it to them and after school I believe 75% came to me and hugged me and comforted me and said all this positive words to me. Divorce really sucks! I wish my parents sees this I haven't seen them both for a year and a half now!
@@11bravo1789 I have the same story bro😏 today I have 32 years and still have the same anger as I was a kid. I have my own family, lovely wife but it's stuck in my mind and never pass away
gotta respect them, they knew their target audience was "troubled" teens and they really helped a lot of those hurting kids with this one.
I was one of them.
@@joycevitecoskisilva luckily my parents split when i was super young, like 3 years old. i had to witness the night one of my friends/neighbors parents decided to get divorced when we were like 12 and that shit was so sad and awkward for me to experience i had to have my mom come pick me up bc they were all crying and the dad dipped out😭
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Facts
That's for sure. I think that this is the only blink-182 song that has ever brought me to tears. I grew up in a household that was chaotic and very much like what they're describing. I never thought I would be on the other side of that. I never wanted that for my children. My daughter's father decided he does not want to be involved but we're doing fine without him. She's about 10 weeks old now and she is the fattest and cutest little baby I have ever seen. Those cheeks, I just want to eat them lol. Sometimes I feel bad for him because he's missing out but then I remember that he's keeping himself away. This song is helping me cope with this whole thing. It's not about us, I didn't want him anymore. I left him before I found out I was pregnant. I gave him the chance to be in his daughter's life. I told him if he wanted to be, I was not going to stop him at all. Like we wouldn't even have to go through the courts, I wouldn't care. He has chosen his path which is to continue on like nothing happened.something is wrong with him. I really think he's either a narcissist or a sociopath or a little bit of both. Anyway, that's not a digit him, that is really the truth. I found out that he goes through life using whoever will let him. I'm just so glad that music like this exists to help those of us who need the help. I actually read somewhere that people that listen to rock music are more emotionally well-adjusted. This is because it deals with the things in life that aren't so pleasant. IE this song.
My parents separated when I was really really little so I don't remember them ever being together. For years there was fighting, yelling, throwing, crying, etc.. and it never truly got better until I was nine or ten. A broken family is one of the hardest thing to deal with. I can relate to this song.
Hailey Buchanan Happened to me when i was about 10(parents had been together for almost 20 years), my father drove my mother out. She wanted custody but he took us so he didn't have to pay support. That lead to her being so ashamed to have us over in her new apartment one she left cause she couldn't feed us that she told she was busy; this happened until we stopped trying.
My father was never around either and i lived in an isolated country in the gulf.
I grew up alone and disconnected; I feel you, Hailey Buchanan.
I'm sorry Carbon Matrix I hope it's better now and if not I hope it gets better for you.
Hailey Buchanan Unfortunatly sometimes divorce is for the best. no child should ever have to hear his parents fight all the time
Thank you but, I'm now better than ever :D
My parents split When I was 9 months old and I have no memories of them ever being together. My Father is in California and my Mother lives in Virginia. I currently live with my mom. The first time I heard of them actually fighting was from my father up until then i thought it was normal for the parents to be split. When i was 8 years old he started talking about her and what a bitch she was and how I should come live with him and one story he told me (Which is true) was that when they were about to split she slammed her own hand into a door, called the cops on him and told the cops that he did it. The only thing that kept my father out of jail was my big sister who told them that he didn't do it. Every summer and winter break from school I fly to California and stay with him. During this period he tells me stories of what it was like living with that "bitch" When I get home it's not as bad. My mom never really talks about my father. At home i have a stepdad who is pretty nice to me and treats me better than I think a stepdad should. But I feel bad for him because my mother is always on his case because he works long hours and she thinks he's cheating on her. Currently in California with dad listening about how mom is a "bitch" and I don't what is real and what he is making up to try and convince me to live with him. Many times (and I know this isn't a problem for most kids) but many times a year when i visit him he tries to give me wayyyy too much money like he once handed me 400$ for doing nothing, and I just feel uncomfortable accepting that money but it's rude to decline it
-sincerely confused
(I made a funny xD)
get it like
sincerely confused
actually confused which is true?
anyway I'm terrible at jokes ahaha
I was 14 when this song came out. My parents were fighting. They finally divorced 3 years later. As a confused teenager, this song made the world feel a bit more normal. Now 35 and happily married. I hope Blink-182 realizes the comfort and outlet their songs provided everyone around my age. This song still gives me goosebumps.
Congrats, my friend!
Awesome buddy, greetings!!!!
we are same age my friend
1987 babies, let’s go!
100% agree, their music got me through some rough times
This is easily one of the most powerful and relatable songs ever written.
you said it brother
@Diego-z1hTheir anger hurts my ears
You said it best brother. See what I did there? Lol
what a dweeb
Just came here from listening to Wonderful by Everclear, now that song hits hard.
Goosebumps at that chorus… EVERY TIME definitely one of the best blink songs ever
Same. Tom DeLong puts it in a way that strongly resonates with me
@@keirstinfairclothpetersen3874 It shows that divorce, while in some cases necessary, puts a lot of the burden on the kids. You don't get rid of the actual issues, you just kick the can down the road and tell the kid to deal with a broken home, shared custody, and tons of mental trauma (not to mention the kid's usually 7-10 years old). Relationships are a lot of work and issues will pop up. However, once you're married with kids, you need to work through them and figure out a way to make it work. Otherwise, your kid will have no idea what their doing when they get married themselves.
When i heard this as a kid i hated my parents. When i hear this in a loveless lonely marriage i love my kid's.
Me too. So much emotion.
Its by far my favorite 182 song because of the insanely powerful chorus. They nailed it
My mom died of cancer in 2009. Her and my dad always fought. Now I live with my stepmom and my dad who non-stop fight. I have been listening to blink since I was 3 or 4 years old (15 now). I did not realize it then, but this song is pretty much my life. When ever I listen to this, I smile because this is my favorite song, and I can always relate to it. I realize that there are kids way worse off than I am, but this song has a huge soft spot in my heart. It makes me feel like I am not alone.
I share a very similar story to you, life's hard so stay strong! Never change for anyone and don't be influenced by anything, be yourself trust me.
DoubleJumpDude Yeah, I've kind of figured that out as time went on. You should never lower yourself to anyone else's standards just to fit in. If you feel like you have to do that, than you should not be around those people. Thanks for the support.
And my mom gone in 2008 this is song and adam song help me :( thanks blink 182 but blink now break up :(
"have been listening to blink since I was 3 or 4 years old" - sorry for you mom, but yeah, youve been listening since you started walking, yeah, right :D
Menah Suvaree in my dads truck maybe? Yeah, there's no way I could do it on my own unless I was super toddler or something.
"Here's your holiday" Never knew one line alone would make me tear up. Holidays are always a struggle, choosing to spend time with only one of them makes me guilty and I hate that I'm in this situation. This song makes me feel things and I am thankful for that, blink-182.
I could be wrong but I always thought they were referring to the parent having a holiday as in their free time or happiness away from the kids and or the other parent.
Words of a mature person who has got the t shirt ,stay strong and be blessed by God .✨️🫂🙏
My son’s suicide song in 2022 he was 20, fix the problems people or walk away for good. You are still and always my hero Colton, and this song on your playlist before you left sticks with me and made the most sense. Don’t blame yourself anymore, it wasn’t your fault. None of it
@@NickWixx thank you brother. Dealing with his mom still trying to get her help. All my love and thanks again means a lot
🙏🏻🙏🏻
you saying these dudes killed yo kid?
Thanks for this. Seriously. There are tons of Colton’s out there. I was almost one of them. All it took for me was a pretty girl to have faith in me and that made me succeed. Not everyone has that champion rooting us on. And then, after my pops passed a month after his 60 birthday, I became vilified b/c I was asking general questions about the family. I was “naturally” supposed to know my own father threw me under the bus see the bus just so he did t have to answer to his bro & sis why his only son has no contact with him.
Easy: my dad was the token white boy in the black neighborhoods.
Mom represented Queens. Dad’s side represented southern deserters (see creation of WV) & Boston Bhramins. Those northern Irish Protestants were table manners strict. As opposed to my Italian (blended with Ukrainian) American extended madre side.😂
I hope I find that woman that is good for me because his mother isn’t and I’m still suffering in the same ways Colton did and you. Thanks for respecting and appreciating my voice for him and the rest of us whom have had to deal with abuse that turned to depression and giving up.
Both my parents got married three different times. This was my song when I was a kid. Now, two kids in and nine years strong, I'm still with my wife. We fight. We argue. We stay together for each other. We stay together for the kids. Relationships are hard work, and people are lazy.
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The one thing I have learned from both my parents is that people comstantly change. My parents have been divorced for 20 years and i'm only 22. I guess you could say that ai'm lucky becauase i don't remember them ever being together. I still see both of them on a regular basis and I love both of them with all my heart. They have sacrificed so much for me and I'll never be able to repay them. The biggest thing they have ever taught me is how tough it is to work on a relationship. I've seen both sides. My mom has been with several different partners and my dad has been with my step mom for 19 years. I've seen and heard every fight as well as the love they give. I don't think it as simple as people make it out to be. My ex step dad for instance was a one of the nicest and most generous people I know, but there was another side to him that wasn't so nice. He had a rough childhood (He was beaten with chains) and sometimes a different side of him cane out. Ir's funny because he inspiredbi me to persue a career in engineering, but I've seen sides of him that no kid should see. I guess my point is this, it is not as black and white as people make it out to be. I have dealt with stuff that no kid should have to, but it also made me who I am today. You just have to try and make the most out of your situation. Nobody's life is perfect, but the important thing is to do the best you can with what your given.
I'm struggling with my mom and dad right now :/ they divorced before I was born but its a constant custody battle. I lived with my mom for 13 years, then my dad took me for 2 years, now I'm back with my mom :/ I relate to this song.
I love you. You do what's right by your kids.
David Hudson the point of the song is saying its selfish and destructive to divorceinstead of. working things out, marriage is just a game of forgiveness and how much your spouse can be forgiven by you for their mistakes, its basically "how much shit can you take?" For the first 5-10 years
Still one of the greatest songs of all time. Used to play this on my 512 mb MP3 player. On my way to school every morning
Cool story man!
me too, but I use Nokia 5320 Xpressmusic
#metoo
Nike 128 mb mp3
And I have had a 8 MB MP3 player!
Much love to Mark, prayers for your cancer treatment. You're an absolute legend and the world needs you. I grew up listening to you and will never stop.
Pop punk will never be the same without mark hope he feels better to
Much love from chris and the almighty God we have i know youve asked and he will heal you and you will be cancer free pray for it and it can happen trust me
amen
Preach brother
Amén
I used to listen to this song, 20+ years ago as a young teen as I escaped into my room to avoid my parents fighting. Had no friends and got bullied a lot at school. To hear this song now, as a father, is just so eye opening.
The symbolism in this video is haunting, the kids in the video are standing in a broken home that keeps constantly getting wrecked. They star off as kids breaking stuff and acting out, as the video progresses they get older and older but still stand in the broken home, symbolizing them getting older but the scars and the broken home still remain looming over them because no amount of anything can fix those scars, and I can relate so much to that. This song never fails to make me emotional.
I was 12 when this song came out :) now im 76. i miss the old blink
JajJzzjkKjsja TIL that this song was released in 1951
Haha wow 76 lmfao
+JajJzzjkKjsja Excuse me!? 76????
WTF HAHAHAHAH
WHAT HAHAHAHAHA
blink-182 is the greatest band ever. any song can speak to you for whatever way you're feeling and its fucking awesome.
i'm not a huge fan, but i relate to this song to much not to hear it every once in a while
I'm obsessed with blink 182
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Aku meninggalkan usia 40 an , dan lagu ini dari dulu sejak remaja , sekarang dan sampai besok , akan membuat keluarga kecilku HARUS bertahan, apapun ujian dan persoalan yang terjadi, demi anak-anak . Terimakasih Tom, Mark dan Travis.
Man, Tom has one of the coolest recording voices ever
I always wished i could have his voice. And whe nyou seen people trying to imitate it it's so cringey lol. But yeah, incredibly distinguished/hauntingly-beautiful voice.
voice perfect
Probably a lot of post production too
@@thenickfoxx mz
I try. Fail
This song hits hard. Especially now that i'm an adult and the lyrics make so much more sense than it did when I was a kid.
Right...
Yup...
I was 15 that summer my parents got divorced. Than this cd dropped. Im 33 now. And love this song but deff hits way harder than it did than.
@@alexwarren4583 I feel ya. I was in third grade when my parents split. That was 1986 I'm 42 now.
my folks divorced twice (yes after 2 marriages to each other) and are now married happy as hell a 3rd time after 40 years together on and off but the damage it did to my brother and i probably will never get repaired. i think today's culture is to blame more then anything, people just don;t realize they HAVE to tough it out when kids are involved if it is at all possible
To all the kids coming here to find solace while their families are falling apart...
It's not your fault and you're not alone.
Find someone you can talk to about it. Seriously.
Do not let embarrassment and shame isolate yourself.
It's easy to cling to a song because it echos your pain.
That's okay, music is therapy.
But there are other forms of therapy and outlets to consider.
I was stubborn and waited too long to get help.
I thought the memories would fade and life would get better on its own.
Trauma will not go away by ignoring it.
Don't hold it in. Someone will listen, even if they can't fully relate.
I wish someone told me that at when I was a teenager.
I'm in my 30s now and still dealing with it.
excellently stated. power through it...
I hope someone who needs this will find it well say.
Thank you for the kind words. My 2 beautiful boys had to witness this. I lost so much time with them due to family court. No one ever wins in a divorce and I now can only imagine what they were thinking. It's been almost 20 year (I'm 41) and I can see the pain my kids felt. Mom and I get along great now but I wish is was always that way. Hell, we were kids ourselves getting a divorce. Love you all.
@@rjenkins79 Hello, my name is Gustavo from Lima, Peru. If you go to a coach, psychologist or psychiatrist, they will advise you on therapy. However, you can start by changing your mindset.
If you have a positive and warrior mindset, you will be able to overcome any trauma that life has given you. Hug and be very happy!
I needed this comment 15 years ago..
This song is why if there is no form of abuse, substance abuse, marital abandonment, or infidelity, you owe it to your children to try to work things out. My parents are still happily married but as a mother, this song just rips my heart out all these years later everytime I hear it. My heart goes out to children that survived ugly divorces.
As a growing guitar player in a broken home , this song struck a chord with me when it released. I covered it in our garage band during a fair, and now 20 years later I'm still singing and playing it in my kitchen. My wife and I have two beautiful boys, and we've been married 14 years. This song is the way I felt back then, and my wife and I have made it our mission to not repeat the sins of my parents. We are staying together for each other, and my kids will never feel this way.
god bless u
@@Vincent-vn7xo God should be capitalized. He deserves no less.
Man i can relate. I also make the same promise to myself that i will become a better parent than my parents ever will. Let's be better yes?
oh god, grammar police!!@@mauser8515
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You better stick around Mark, the world needs you.
100 fucking percent dude !
why u don't call superman.
Will be fine mate he is a tough dude
@@platabluesky37 supergirl
Stick around for the kids
“If some stupid poem could fix this home I’d read it everyday” felt that
Tell me dude. I start to cry everytime I sing that.
Same
Its actually "What stupid poem could fix this home, I'd read it every day"
Same, this song is so impactful
@@arechi3208wow, you’re so cool 🤯stfu
By far it's one of the best songs of blink. On the other hand, i don't angry much with the message of this song. If both parents tried to fix the relationship considering their child's needs and it didnt work out, then it would be better to be apart without neglecting the relationship with their kids. Staying for the kids living a lie as a family isn't a good choice
I think the title isn't meant to be taken literally. This song is told from a kid's perspective, "this house is haunted", "it makes no sense at all" are things a kid would think in a parents divorce situation, not understanding what's happening around. I think "stay together for the kids" is not an imperative sentence, but a description of what means to a kid for his parents to be "together". And I think that's implied in the line "and if it's what he wants, and what she wants, then why there's so much pain?", which I think is the kid showing the real meaning of the song: A son wants his parents to be happy, whatever they are married or not, because he'll be happy too. A divorced couple can raise a healthy kid if they had a friendly break up. But if they aren't happy (as you're saying) there's no point of being together.
“If this is what he wants and this is what she wants, then why is there so much pain?”
Hits me everytime
blink 182, please stay together for my kids. they need to hear you
Mark and Tom really balance each other so well on the versus/chorus in this song
Feeling this is another song where they have a pretty good harmony.
Exactly, mark without Tom is too flat and boring and Tom without mark is just too much of that pop punk voice, and many people enjoy that but it’ll never compare to them together
I grew up in a house of nightly screaming battles. I wish they HAD divorced. Everyone in our house was in constant “handle drunk parent” mode after 5pm. The negativity and chaos is more understandable as an adult now, but back then it was all you could do to stay standing under the weight of their anger.
Been a fan of blink 182 since I was some angst driven teen, now I’m 30, got a son with a woman I thought loved me. Yeah we fought and argued but it never got bad. 2 days before Christmas 2020 she said she wasn’t happy anymore, didn’t love me etc. I left instead of fighting. This song helps. Love you Blink and thanks for the music
Stay strong brother just focus on yourself and your kid.
Oh man! That story... I give u some of My force!
well, i mean it's better to split if one person isn't happy. obviously it's good to stay together for the kids if they're really young, but if it's a toxic relationship, no sense in being together. i've seen marriages where the love's gone, it's really just a contract, and it's pretty sad.
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Oh friend, very hard, it's true no one rules anyone's heart. Who should be in our lives will be and welcome, who does not want to be, then continue long ... Greetings
Damn, being the parent in this situation really puts this in a whole other perspective.. thanks blink, y’all got me through everything.
I was in fighting with my wife last week and suddenly my Spotify play this song. For now on, we promise to listen this song every time we get fights. To remember that our ego will be impacted to our children in the future. The key in the marriage is not about winning the fight but to apologize even if we are not fault.
You obviously haven't been married for too long!
@@EdwardCBurton as long as its not cheating, everything can be forgive even not forget bro. No matter how long ur marriage.
Apologizing every time doesn't help either. Both sides need to be willing to look at their faults and if one side is always battling and the other is always apologizing the marriage is doomed.
I'm glad to hear that. Something else that may help you guys. It sounds stupid because I heard it on that show How I met your mother. A couple agreed that whenever they're fights would get too heated, they would say pause and come back to it later. I hope that helps. Personally, I'm listening to this tonight because my daughter's father decided he did not want to be involved. He's mad at me for escaping his control. She's almost a month old and we're doing fine without him. I honestly feel like you did me a favor by staying away. I told him either step up now or I'm not going to tolerate you popping in and out of her life whenever it's convenient for you. I'm not going to let him do that to my daughter. My dad wasn't around because of my mom keeping him away from court orders and stuff. It's not that he didn't want to be around, it's that she prevented him from doing so, legally. Am I angry at him? Sure because our daughter doesn't deserve this but like I said, we'll be better off without him.
@@ariskusuma6578I agree with this 100%. Cheating is the one thing I can't come back from anymore. I've started saying, I give somebody one chance to be training and then when they do, that's it. They're gone.
Listening to this song. I feel it's my kids singing this to their mom. She gave it all away and never once thought it was theirs to begin with. Hope you enjoy your life now without us. Going on 2 years since you seen your kids.
You should have made better decisions.
My parents are splitting up.
This song is a therapy.
Thanks blink 182 :3
+Aelita sry to hear that! :/
Thx honey. These things happen sadly :(
+Aelita You'll get over it, trust me i did.
thx :) Im already feeling better its been 2 weeks and I happy to see them happy again.
So everything is better.
+Aelita Don't let it define your life.
I remember when I learned how to play this song on guitar. The chorus is so powerful, esp. that low F# man. That low F# will tear a hole thru ur soul!
I'm also a guitar player, I've been playing guitar since I was 2 years-old, I'm 28 years-old now. As someone who's probably been playing guitar longer, I'd like to share some incredible guitar songs with you; Joe Satriani - If I could Fly, Jeff Beck - Cause We've Ended as Lovers, Yngwie Malmsteen - I'll see the light tonight, Eric Johnson - Cliffs of Dover, Van Halen - Eruption, Matt Rach - Cannon Rock Final, Joe Satriani - Surfing with the Alien & e-mail me if you want to talk more about stuff; Dem0n@gmx.com
You are so damn right!
yea first song i learned to play when i started...well other than seven nation army but thats cake
IMaDEM0N I'm 28 too! I've been playing consistently since I was 12. Thanks for the song list! There's a lot of good stuff out there and it's great to find people who know good music! Sorry for the late reply.
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I wanted to feel nostalgic and i just saw this and so it had a lot of views and i thought: ''Ohh must be a good song''. Holy crap! I didn't realize this is the song I always listened to when I was little.
One of the most timeless and iconic songs ever made. Resonates to the core, speaks volumes about marriages.
But even more so, it speaks volumes about the children involved in that said broken marriage.
I wish everybody reading this, after listening to this song for 5 years now, to know that they're going to be okay. I know many won't care about what I have to say, but I mean it. It'll be alright. Stay strong to the kids out there.
It meant something to me. I grew up in a house full of chaos. My daughter's father has decided he doesn't want to be involved but we're doing okay. I honestly think he's a narcissist and I'm glad that he's not going to be around because he did us both a favor. She's almost a month old and I know she'll be better off without him in her life. So many people say, it's a shame that she won't have her father in her life. No, it really isn't. He would do her more harm than good by being in her life. I left him because he was a terrible partner and cheated on me constantly and I was just tired of it. He's mad at me for escaping his control so he thinks he's punishing me but really he's punishing his daughter. Once again he's shown me the kind of person he is and as I said, we'll be better off without him. Thank you for this.
I'm only 15, and once I got to high school I realized just how many kids have divorced parents. I honestly just don't understand how people can get married, have kids, and then just... end it. I guess I'm lucky that my parents are going on 22 years now, but I just don't feel lucky. I don't get why I should be considered lucky when my parents are happily together, everyone's parents should be. Straight respect to people who can make it through a divorce. I know I never could.
Pick a good one friend. ;)
One of the best comments I've ever read. Faith in humanity is strong.
Same here :S
Same for me. It would be amazing if it wasn't so crest-fallen.
Keep your naivety. Just wait until you realize how many stupid stupid adults there are in the world.
Honestly, I'm so sorry to all the children going through all this. No one deserves it but it happens. Criticize me if you must but I'm going through a divorce right now. I tried so hard to keep it going but when only one party wants it, its a losing battle. I can only be the best father I can be and do right by my two children, my everythings. I know one day they're going to have to deal with this and I know its going to be hard. I'll stand beside them the whole time. The pain isn't just for the kids, I feel that pain everyday. I cry just thinking about how these two children, my blood, will have to live in two separate houses. I love my children more than I love anything. I feel for all the kids going through this. I'm sorry.
I would never abuse my children or my ex. My children are my life. I'm so sorry for what you had to go through. I can't even fathom how a father could do that to his family. You and your mother never deserved what you went through but its very brave of you to come out and talk about it so that others going through similar situations know that they're not alone. I hope life has turned around for your mother and yourself. You both deserve the best.
I've been living through this for 13 years. is sucks. 4.5 years till I'm out of this hell.
I ask you please just be see your kids don't go months without seeing them phones call aren't the same just please make sure you don't give in and think it'll be easier to just see them next week do it that day even if it means not being able to do things you want to just do it for them
I have joint custody of my children. They're my world. I would never put off being with them for anything. No worries Daric. Thanks for the reply. Thanks for caring.
+Chad Searles I know you'll do good :)
This song came out the year before my parents divorced. I remember when the video came out about a year later, my family was falling apart. I was 11. I finally understood the song with the video. I related to the people at the end destroying everything. The metaphor of the house in ruins lives inside my head and appears in my dreams. Blink 182's music helped keep me calm during those scary and sad times. It was my source of comfort. I am forever grateful for them.
"Twenty years now lost" from when this song was made 2001-2021.
it's not roight
Makes me so glad my Mum had a great taste in music back in 2001
Jeez has it been that long I was barely twenty years old man I used to love this song ❤️ Tom's voice Punk Rock TV 🤩 miss those days.
fuck, my parents' legally separated 9/11/01, almost exactly 20 years
@@StephenMatrese if by almost you mean five months from now, then yeah, almost - sorry dude, I just had to do it, don't hold it against me ;) for real though, sorry you had to go through that B.S. ✌
Toms voice is legendary
I wish he was still with Blink 182
Jordan S what happen to him?
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@@rodolfotsang4327 became an alien hunter and conspiracy theorist.
@@rodolfotsang4327 A series of events, basically he was being a douche to the other guys, specially to Mark, he created Boxcar racer and invited Travis, and when asked by him about Mark, he told him that Mark refused the invitation, but the reality is he left him out, and when Travis found out, they called him out on his BS, then they got in a hiatus for about 2-3 years, then the next album, the one called Blink-182, had to be produced at Tom´s pace and liking, because reasons, he kept neglcting Blink to focus on Angels and Airwaves, which kept pushing Mark and Travis´s buttons, to the point that they would diss him in interviews, citing him as the reason why albums would take so many years for them to produce and why they would be lacking in quality, he even stopped going on tours, and they had to bring other players in his place, eventually they had a major falling with Tom´s agent, altough Tom claimed he had nothing to do with that. No one is sure if Tom quit or if they kicked him out, the guys claim his agent just told them "Tom.Is.Out" and Tom claims he learned he had been kicked out via the press. But the fact is, it is very evident Tom was being a douche to his supposed best friends, included one who he claimed was like a brother.
My dad died when I was 6, they said he took his own life but I don’t believe them. never had a proper “home” and now fighting with my partner with our two year old daughter watching and I don’t want to end up like my dad
Stay strong brother 💪
"We get along so why can't they?" Hits home 💔
So true
I can't believe this song is fourteen years old already.
***** im glad im not 14 anymore though
Cyan Junkie I cant believe I missed these awesome songs when I was still a TEEN damn
Cyan Junkie lol I remember jamming to this when I was a fetus. reminds me so much of gestation
Cyan Junkie I was 4 years old when this came out.
Cyan Junkie I was 15 - 16 years old when this was on MTV. The channel itself has gone to shit and at no return. It should be nuked!
OMG! I remembering listening to this when I was in 3rd grade. Now I'm in the 3rd gear of my uni.
Good old days when MTV played songs like these.
Miss Anonymous now its all about the booty butt cheeks lol xD
+Destiny Tarver IKR juft fuck off Nicki Minaj! XD
+Miss Anonymous Me too!! Good old days.
+Destiny Tarver Our civilization has been descending into primitivism for at least the past 60 years. Soon we will be watching naked people chanting around a fire and worshiping magic.
Stan Darsh so true o.o ... well whats my age again has SEXY naked people ;)
After enduring the pain of a broken home and multiple step parents my kids will never experience the mind fuckery it causes. You and your spouse will not like each other all the time but love endures all.
This is truly a heart-wrenching song. Blink had a way of capturing a particular feeling and putting into words what many people think.
lyric:
It's hard to wake up
When the shades have been pulled shut
This house is haunted
It's so pathetic, it makes no sense at all
I'm ripe with things to say
The words rot and fall away
What stupid poem, could fix this home?
I'd read it every day
So here's your holiday
Hope you enjoy it this time
You gave it all away
It was mine
So when you're dead and gone
Will you remember this night?
Twenty years now lost
It's not right
Their anger hurts my ears
Been running strong for seven years
Rather than fix the problems
They never solve them, it makes no sense at all
I see them everyday
We get along so why can't they?
If this is what he wants
And it's what she wants
Then why is there so much pain?
So here's your holiday
Hope you enjoy it this time
You gave it all away
It was mine
So when you're dead and gone
Will you remember this night
Twenty years now lost
It's not right
So here's your holiday
Hope you enjoy it this time
You gave it all away
It was mine
So when you're dead and gone
Will you remember this night
Twenty years now lost
It's not right
It's not right
It's not right
It's not right
Thank you!
❤
What is that mean? Iam so stupid i cant understand nothing
@Hunter Vonnegut I'll look em up, though I must say.. Crywank is a bit of a great band themselves.
He actually says “it burns strong for seven years”
I remember listening to this daily as a teenager. Suffered 10 years of child abuse and when I was finally taken away I felt even more my world was falling apart around me. Now I know that that pain was the pain of growth for a better life ahead.
proud of u bro :)
27 with a wife and newborn baby. Listened to this again and I didn’t expect for my parents’ divorce to suddenly hit me again. Got literal chills. Thankfully my wife and I are a great team and we both understand that for us to be at our best for our son, our relationship with each other has to be at our best as well.
Just like they thought.
I remember when this song first came out. Was a teen at the time. My parents stayed together and raised my siblings and I until just a few years ago until my dad decided to divorce my mom. It hurt but now I understand why he did it. He stayed for his children ♡ even though my mom was heavily alcoholic and still is. He didn't give up on us♡ today he's moved on and lives away from us and even though we barely kept in touch. I am thankful he stayed and took care of us. He showed in his actions that we can take care of ourselves aswell and raise our own children and not leave our relationships & responsibilities ♡♡♡♡ miss my dad everyday & still pray my mom will quit drinking ❤
It's different when drinking and self-destructive behaviors are in the picture, but for many, one or both parents were simply selfish and unwilling to functionally work through problems.
Amen, sister!!
What a great dad
When youre a kid you like how a song sounds. But now as an adult, the lyrics make it 10x better.
I remember Howard Stern really connecting with this song when it first came out because he felt so much grief for his kids b/c of his divorce.
Fast forward to 2022; I’m getting divorced and I can’t listen to this without crying for my 3 kids 😢
Divorce is awful; but spousal and child abuse is worse. I did what I had to; but it doesn’t change how hurt my children are feeling.
Baba Booey! I remember Howard loving this song as well. This song hits close to home. Tom DeLonge has such a great voice
As a child whose mom didn't leave her abusive partner, thank you.
I suffered through over 10 years of abuse because my mom couldn't/wouldn't leave and I still feel the impacts of the abuse now years later when I'm now married and have children.
My best wishes for you and your kids. Stay strong man.
My son's mother left me after 3 years taking hers 8 year old son (previous relationship/father) who was a huge part of my life and his and my relationship as well as OUR 18 MONTH old son. I've never been hurt by a woman nor hurt so much missing my son. 11 2hour visits since early July '22. Haven't seen him since 30th of October '22. His mother immediately entered a relationship with another man very shortly after she left me. Family court is tough and ongoing. She utilized a family court article 8 family abuse, all hearsay but the court granted a 1 year order of protection for her against me. I am trying to be civil and raise my son with his mother. If I even send a text message, I will be arrested, and she has not made any attempts to make any arrangements for me to see him. This song helps me when I cry. It helps me move forward and make sure that I will always be the best man and father for my son. It helps me put to rest the anger and resentment I have towards my son's mother. It's a great song and I am very grateful for the opportunity to share my situation that involves the importance of this song and that it still has a huge impact on my life as much now as it did years ago. Be well always
SAME! I remember Howard announcing that he and his wife were separating and how it killed him to have to tell each of his three young daughters. He was SO upset and would play this song and get wrecked on-air. He would say he didn't know what it was about but that he was ripped apart by it. When Howard made that announcement, I couldn't get out of bed! It struck me that I was coming to that same decision, and my kids were super young. Ugh...but yeah, I know there are other Howard fans out there that associate this song with his separation and later divorce.
*My parents divorced in 2001 (I was 11) this song hit me a lot but helped me back then, when I was 20 years old I still didn't forgive my dad... I listened to this song and I still hit the same way that year... Now I'm 34 years old woman and I think it was the best that could happen to all of us that they got divorced. Now I know my parents better as people and I get along very well with my mom and dad (I forgave him) and this song feels different now, but it still means a lot today 2024.❤ For the kids…listen to music, and know that everything passes and gets better.
The piano at the end always gives me chills
Same with Adam's Song.
It's really evoking, isn't it?
Been listening since I was 14. I'm 38 now. Blink 182 forever. ✊
18 and 30 now brother 🤟🏼
Exact same.
Started listening to em in 98, when I was 14. Now 38.
Crazy.. where did 24 years go.
I turned 35 on 7th of april bro
Since 14 and im 33 now
If you fight all the time and the love's gone, don't stay together. Through my entire childhood, I wished my parents would split. I lived in a house with nothing but hate and loneliness. At least I learned not to make their mistake.
that's wat this song is about their childhood not saying you should its saying its wat his parents did
I need to do the same for my kids...its not right!! sad there daddy could careless..Time to move on..For good this time.I wish he loved us the way we love him..
Se que no soy la única, al momento de nacer mis padres ya estaban separados, algo realmente difícil, una ausencia paterna, y una madre la cual lucho para tratar de sacarme adelante aun hoy en día, agradezco mucho a esta banda, la cual realmente me a ayudado en todo este duro camino. 🖤
20 years now gone and this song still makes me tear up.
Same! And damn. I can't believe it's been 20 years. I literally blinked (no pun intended) & I woke up as an adult with a mortgage & family.
@@jayde.moonstone.6458 keep it up guys! head high always!
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yeah, I feel you. It gets real shitty when they have both passed
Same 🥲
Blink was my first concert when I was 13. Lost my shit when this song came on. 31 years old and still feeling this song in 2020
Yes
Hell yes. I'm 31 as well. 👍✌️👊
“Felling this” ;)
32. And I was 15 when I first saw them.
I’ll be 31 in October 🤘🏼 This song hits harder now that we’re older.
I used to listen to this as a teenager of separated parents and I can still vividly remember how painful the situation was. Today I'm 30 and I still cry like a baby every single time this song pops up. Stay together for the kids. Do it for them
fuckin" right man!
thought it was only me. this song hits so hard everytime :(
Fuckin A man have the same feelings I did as a 14 year old.
I want ur life
I always thought it was named ironically like you shouldn't stay together for the kids because if your only together for the kids then they will see it and all it will do is make more pain for them hearing you fight idk I watched my family fall apart over and over and over and over it might have been better if it just ended once then to be embarrassed of the front yard fights and being a teen but having to play ref that's what he's saying isn't right putting the kids through war just so they have both parents together
Couple of years after this song released my parents divorced, was long time coming. Neglect and infidelity. The 2000s & early 2010s were one of the worst periods of my life but ironically was also one of the best. This song kept me company all the way till i enlisted. Grew up with Blink 182.
0:50 Tom Voice is Anger !!!!!! Best !!!!
My mom and dad got divorced when I was little, so I don't really remember the actual divorce. But I sure as hell remember not having a mom there to take care of me. Everyone else had such a happy household, then I'd see my household...
I've made a promise to myself, I don't ever want to put my kids through the pain I went through.
Foxhound 248 Same here, I'm on my last year of highschool and I was kicked out, finally get a full year plus with my mother for once. Definitely not having kids for this very reason.
Honestly, I wish I was old enough that way I could have experienced when these songs came out because listening to of this stuff now, Blink was the shit Cx
Well it depends on your upbringing. I didn't grow up in the 90s l, but I was exposed to a lot of 90s music due to my cousins being older and exposing me to the music I now love.
I grew up in the early 2000's, so I wasn't far behind but not close enough to hear this music when it all came out. I get a lot of music taste from my parents, soo Cx
Ashley Nicole XD cool.
It fucking ruled and my peers and I always talk about the awesome music we had grown up!
It was awesome. I was born in 82, the 80s kicked ass and the 90s just blew up musically, the types of music for every genre was amazing. The early 2ks had some great hits. It was awesome, even pop music was good.
100 million views! Well deserved, the music real does hit hard for its age and still holds up to this day I believe.
Stay Strong Mark!! ❤️
We should put this on every vid lol
@@evanbutt2344 😂😂
Hope he reads this.
@@evanbutt2344 I’m working on it lol
:(
As a kid from a family that tried to stay together for us, my parents had the best intentions, but the arguments at night were hard to hear. As good as the intentions are if the relationship doesn’t work, it can do more harm staying together than leaving each other.
amen, me too, hope you're better now.
Fucked me up for 15 years but im over the hurdle id say. I dont blame my parents whatsoever but 10+ years of emotionless marriage and arguments because i was born wasnt the right decision. But whos to say id have made a better choice in their shoes?
@@OwnaDge all good thank you for asking glad to hear you’re doing much better. I totally agree you don’t know how you will handle it until you experience it yourself.
@@tgkafg will definitely check out that series thanks for the suggestion
Agreed, after 18 years of being the dodgeball they threw back and forth at each other, I'm honestly relieved mine separated.
Jesus christ, i thought i was the only one in this situation
I was 17 when I first heard this song. Now I'm 28 and has a daughter. Everytime me and my wife argues, I scroll down to see the comments as to remind me how painful a divorce brings to a child. Thank you Tom, Mark and Travis for this great reminder.
👍👍👍👍👍
so do I
I mean .. you should just leave if UA-cam comments are the thing getting you by.....
I guess is more painful for a kid to live in a house where the parents are always fighting than having divorced parents. Just saying. My parents are divorced and I prefer them divorced than living together and always fighting.
Branded Quotes i have 16 years old, and i'm living this moment, and i love this song.
I used to listen to this as a kid to try and find peace in the disaster of a divorce...
20 years later, I'm looking down the barrel of the same thing. Heard this today, and had to remind myself of how much harder I can, and should fight.
Thank you Blink 182.
Every time i hear this song gives me the chills.. "If this is what he wants and what she wants Then why is there so much pain?" I'm 28 and still hurts.
China Ayala that's the truth right there
If this is what he wants/and is what she wants/then why’s there so much pain?!
That always gets me 😭💔
🤣
"If this what he wants and this is what she wants then why's there so much pain?"
No lyrics have ever resonated more of my past and family than this.
my fellow peers, my generation! I hope all of you are doing well and are happy in life! Wishing you fellas only the best. Time really flew by didnt it? its already 2024 and im turning 33 this year....
I used to listen to this song with my dad when he and my mom were splitting up. Now he's been dead for several years and damn I miss him every day. This song takes me back 20 years to the time we had it all but didn't realize it. We were too young to appreciate the time we had.
i think this is the problem. When you have it all, mom, dad, and the kids. Sometimes as parents we cant see this, its only after everythings in ruin we see what we had. If only we loved eachother like our kids did us, unconditionally.
🙏💓
I was 13 when this song came out. This is how he expressed our hardships from school and family, listening to these kinds of songs. We survived without social media to express our feelings. Now I'm 34, so I'm glad i grew up with the early 2000s rock music
Bruh, truth. The fact that the decline of music started with the rise of social media is no coincidence.
Having been through a family split in the pre teen years, this song still hits me in the feels. And I’m bordering 50. Timeless. One of the best harmonizing bands of all time to boot.
This hits hard. I remember listening to this as a kid. Now I’m trying to save my marriage for my son😢
Heartfelt bro
Good luck bro. It’s going to be tough but in the end you will always have your little man
They say the best music is relatable. So for anyone out there that can relate to this, I’m sorry. Just know you’re not alone and a lot of us are going through/have gone through this. But we’re here for for you. That’s why this song was written. You’re not alone.
This song hits harder now cause both my parents are no longer around...my mom died in 2015, and my dad took his own life back in September 2020...I’m 27 going on 28 now and this song makes much sense as it did when I was a teenager...:(
we're here for you buddy. You're not alone
Stay strong!👊
Hurts me so much to read that. Sending much strength your way✨
I'm sorry for your losses, friend. I hope you're doing well. Please reach out for help when you need.
IM here for you stay strong and find help if u need 1❤️
What a sad yet great song, people don’t realize how blessed we are growing up with both parents in the house. My prayers out to anyone dealing with their parents divorce. ❤️🙏🏼 stay strong!
Amen, I'm one of the lucky few, parents still married, grew up with this music and love it and miss it so much
I grew up with both parents until my mom died after years of drug use. I understand your sentiment but it was hell growing up. My dad did everything he could but all they did was fight and argue throw things. Having both parents isn't always a good thing. I hated my mother. My dad tried his damnedest to help her but he couldn't and it broke him. He never did drugs but you could see him wasting away. He wanted to keep us together he thought he could save her. In the end he couldn't. Some times divorce is the answer. She wasn't like that when they got married but they got married because of me. Then had my siblings. They never would have been together if I wasn't born. But they'd have been better if they'd divorced.
cringe
@@Tranquil_Hobbyonly to you.
Yea I’m 31 now and come to think about it seeing that at 7 did bother me even tho I acted like it didn’t. The late 80s & 90s kids are the generation of divorce and broken families & that’s the truth
There is nothing in music way back then but there is a soul even on a holiday and thats then not felt right but now way back then and now I feel so many soul are here coz of problems they died and this is what symbol to them 🙏🙏🙏 love the music always that vibrates to you and in you untill our heart 😢😢😢😢
ah, the good old days.. when songs ACTUALLYYYY HAD MEANING
OMG I KNOW RIGHT
Kills me how absolutly anyone can be famous these days, with such SHIT songs!
hotshot230404 this same band has a song talking about how they wanna fuck a dog so idk... But yeah I get you x)
+Cesar Rodriguez forget about the fuck dog maybe they were joking around but still their songs really had a meaning compares to shitty music now.
You're listening to the wrong people, meaningful songs still exist
not my point, my point is that 80% of the songs these days are shit lol
This song hits hard. 2020 still blaring
I do too
Spaaam
same
Same ❤️👍🏻 💯
Is the bset
All these years later, and my family is even more broken than it was when this came out. I used to listen to this because my parents fought and abused each other....now I'm listening to it while watching them continue to do the same, but also lose their home. This song will always hit hard. I'm just glad I got out of there. 🙂
I love Toms singing. It sounds British or something but I freaking love the voice he has and his singing voice in general!
It's what happen if you're addicted to pain killers
Nick Johnson is that why his voice is shitty now?
Razmáda yes
GingerPowder Yeah but his singing voice and the way he pronounces words with it sounds like an accent.
his voice is shitty coz he sang professionally for 20 years, thatll destroy almost anyones voice, especially with the amazingly awesome whiney voice he had, sucks but yeah
It took a little while…. But now they’re back together for the kids. It’s been a good day.
Obviously known for their goofy "pop," stuff, their heavy/emotional songs are fantastic. Really make ya feel a certain type of way.
That’s what make them special u wouldn’t think 🤔 that they would expose the truth cause when u do they hate u 😢for it
It’s not right
It would fit in box car racer album. I always think of "I Feel So" when hear this
What type of way??
@@charlesparker8805 sehnsucht
Sometimes I feel like Blink made this song for me. My parents separated just before Covid, we went on a vacation a month before to see if they could rekindle their relationship (it didn’t work)
Then a week before they separated, they had a nasty fight at night, and the police were called. Ive always felt caught in the middle and I’ve never been able to tell my side of the story. They are still fighting to this day, and it’s not right
"20 years now lost" Hits way too close to home.
Just wish Mark Travis & Tom Stayed together for the kids :(
Bruh they just made a new album 😐😐
Tom isn`t back.
That's like having a step dad, it aint gonna be the same.
+Heleghen good
Tom will be back.. I hope.
Real music. I am so glad I was alive for this era. Real rap real rock real grunge and every thing else. 1995-2005
2006 had some bangers as well
91-99 for sure though.
Everyone is nostalgic for their own partucular childhood soundtrack. I personally think the best time to be young and i must emphasize that I only mean music and culture. Anyways the best time i think was the 61-69 era. Real and plentiful LSD everywhere! People expressing themselves, uninhabited to the max. Plus some of the greatest rock musicians of all time came from that era. Im 31 and Blink 182 is the band that got me to pick up the guitar and music in general when I was 13. I never put it down and have been playing ever since. However even though I grew up on the 90s looking back I would love to experience things like woodstock and all the other amazing shows and experiences. Minus Vietnam and the draft of course lol.
At 7 I knew too much
1990-2009
Lo mejor de BLINK 182. Hace una reflexión a esos padres que se rindieron y los platos rotos pagan los hijos. NO RENDIRSE y Gracias Blink 182 !
Man. When that first chorus hits…. Mixed and mastered to perfection. The guitars are absolutely massive. Jerry Finn was a musical wizard, RIP.
What an album, what an era.
Amazing 🎉👍
"Man. When that first chorus hits"...I always thought that too. It cranks so hard. Spot on brother
🤝🤝🤝 100%!
This is an unbelievably beautiful Blink song. One of their most emotionally nostalgic.
Blink-182 is more talented than most critics give them credit for. The chemistry between Tom's edgy vocals and Mark's poignant verses make for a dynamic force to be reckoned with.
100% agree. Tom never gets enough credit for his melody writing and his super catchy riffs. One of my top 5 musicians!
Listen to angels and airwaves toms matured and his music just gets better
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This song has hit me really hard because my parents divorced when I was still a baby. I'm 23 now and I get emotional thinking about it.
My parents divorced when I was 8...It was the best thing they ever did for themselves and for us...Even when you try to fake it, it comes out, the bitterness, the resentment...My Dad was a free spirit..He had no business being with my Mom...If people don't want to be together, then they shouldn't be,,I think it's because of my parents that I haven't married and I don't plan to...
Same here, daughter of divorced parents. I was around 10 and it was their best decision ever. I don't think any kid with divorced parents wish it hadn't happened, at least when they grow up.
You’re on point until the last bit, that part is the damage. It’s not your fault
@@cpuminerz i'm just glad they didn't stay together if they didn't want to be...too many people in the world that can make you happy...it's not worth being in a relationship if that person is not what you want...
I cried while I was performing this song at the talent show last December of 2014, My parents got divorced four days before the talent show. And right after the performance, my two band mates hugged me and say "it'll be alright, we're you're best friends and we will always be for you" and all of the kids were wondering why I was crying and my two band mates explained it to them and after school I believe 75% came to me and hugged me and comforted me and said all this positive words to me. Divorce really sucks! I wish my parents sees this I haven't seen them both for a year and a half now!
the song of my youth. I feel you went through the same thing.
@@11bravo1789 I have the same story bro😏 today I have 32 years and still have the same anger as I was a kid. I have my own family, lovely wife but it's stuck in my mind and never pass away