If you want to spend SGD2,500 or more per table, it’s fine if you can afford it. But do NOT expect your guests to “ang pow” you at an average of SGD250 per pax. Foot the shortfall willingly since you book the wedding dinner with your eyes wide open in the first place. Most importantly, do not go into debts when choosing and organizing your weddings!
Nice topic! I had never look back on my simple wedding without throwing dinner. Everyone happy is most important. I was lucky that both my parents and in law support my decision. So, i will do the same when my kid turn comes 😊
Manage expectation most important, I had my wedding at a restaurant was a big wedding with all the relatives involved. The food was good and the pricing of the restaurant was not so taxing on my relatives. We were able to be save up the extra money then and go for a nice honeymoon. I believe if my kids were to get married, I think will go with their decision on how they wan to run their show (the wedding).
I held my wedding dinner at Plaza Hotel (Beach Road) in 1990. The cost per table was between SGD330 and SGD380. I chose the SGD380. So, the price has gone up by 5X in 44 years..😮
The norm of a wedding dinner is $1500-$2000/table. Think of your guests financial capabilities in general first. If they doesn’t belong to the higher end class, don’t expect them to folk out that much to cover ur expenses. Everyone have their end s to meet.
No point having a lavish wedding if it's gonna end up in a "lavish divorce" (at least for the guy cos of Women's Charter) Yeah, Adam Khoo speaking at / hosting CK's wedding would be hilarious & awesome! lol
Had a micro wedding in sentosa before covid times. And it was only about $2500 per table. Managed to get a lot of great deals from the hotel. And we had 15 tables. Times are just crazy now lol
It's really the guests who are paying for it. Guests who give very little or insufficient to cover the table are few, so most couples don't actually fork out alot. They just exaggerate it.
i did not spend on wedding. Me and my wife wedded 2 yrs ago. We did not have a banquet. But we have food together with 16 family members from both sides at a nice chinese restaurant and the chef gave us a off-menu traditional dish. We did not even have wedding dress/gowns/suits We decided not for the wedding as we wanted to put the money into renovation and the flat. I also did not buy her a engagement ring, although we had wedding bands. I bought her a rolex daytona instead. I will advice young couples to go for things that add value to your life. If a wedding banquet adds value to you - sure pls do. But for most of us, wedding banquets, photoshoots, etc are something which goes off after the moment goes off.
I usually give 80 for dinner regardless of the location. 80 for good luck. I believe my friends invite me for wedding because they want me to witness and bless their happiness.
it is at least once in a lifetime like a commissioning parade! do it at the grand MBS cos $$$ can earn back later but time wont come back. the number of tables will be a bequest from the bride's parents and is not up to the broom side to decide or offer. kelvin can give CK $20 for sentosa...next time CK will give back to kelvin's kid $10 next time if he were to invite him.
The big rah-rah show of wedding dinner, then expecting red packets to cover the costs, should be stopped and this is within our powers as new parents. Want people to come attend your wedding ceremony and then go 5-star hotel for dinner? Sure, but please pay for it, and tell your guests to just come and enjoy, without needed any red packets. No money to do that? then stick to something within your budget. Don't burden your relatives, friends and colleagues.
Wedding is a waste of resources for all .getting married and and bring another generations to suffer in this crazy and greedy world that are already so messy and chaos , every fighting for jobs with foreigners. Their parents already have gone thru their hard way struggling to bring their children up yet the younger generations still never learn, especially in small island Singapore h d b unit are many times higher than big countries landed houses. H d b are building everywhere but prices still the world highest
This is the culture I cannot take it in Malaysia and Singapore or Chinese culture in general. I migrated out of the country to Western culture. Here u can just stay together (as a couple and start a family cheaply) and not even to spend for such ridiculous price. This will discourage a lot of new generations to get such an inflationary lifestyle marriage. And to make matter worst most of marriages just end up being divorce and what a waste of spending so much just to get marriage.
Kelvin, pls be more generous as a person. If not, just don’t accept the invitation if you are not willing to cover the cost because based on experiences, MOST ppl will. And yes, the couple will unavoidably judge you based on your capability and income level to the wedding angbao you gave.
I disagree. I think if you want to have a wedding banquet at an expensive place then don't expect your guest to know or to cover it. Otherwise get somewhere more affordable or don't invite guest and have a micro wedding! Remember, we the guest don't owe you anything so stop being so entitled!
@@xxxcool2565 you don’t get the point. If the wedding cost $200 per pax( which is the norm and not considered expensive at all) but you are only willing to give $50. Then just don’t accept the invitation. That will just sour the relationship. This like nth to do with being entitled or not. If you are a true friend, you won’t be giving an angbao rate which is way below the market rate. This shows your character. Period
@@raydenstar6191 nonsense. You don't "expect" your guest to pay you a certain amount. More so if you are a good friend. Expecting your good friend to pay you a certain amount really brings into question what qualities you deem a friend. Money? I would lose such a friend who cares more about money
If you want to spend SGD2,500 or more per table, it’s fine if you can afford it. But do NOT expect your guests to “ang pow” you at an average of SGD250 per pax. Foot the shortfall willingly since you book the wedding dinner with your eyes wide open in the first place. Most importantly, do not go into debts when choosing and organizing your weddings!
Nice discussion. Was fortunate that my spouse was agreeable and we hosted a micro-wedding (
Nice topic! I had never look back on my simple wedding without throwing dinner. Everyone happy is most important. I was lucky that both my parents and in law support my decision. So, i will do the same when my kid turn comes 😊
Manage expectation most important, I had my wedding at a restaurant was a big wedding with all the relatives involved. The food was good and the pricing of the restaurant was not so taxing on my relatives. We were able to be save up the extra money then and go for a nice honeymoon. I believe if my kids were to get married, I think will go with their decision on how they wan to run their show (the wedding).
I held my wedding dinner at Plaza Hotel (Beach Road) in 1990. The cost per table was between SGD330 and SGD380. I chose the SGD380.
So, the price has gone up by 5X in 44 years..😮
The norm of a wedding dinner is $1500-$2000/table. Think of your guests financial capabilities in general first. If they doesn’t belong to the higher end class, don’t expect them to folk out that much to cover ur expenses. Everyone have their end s to meet.
No point having a lavish wedding if it's gonna end up in a "lavish divorce" (at least for the guy cos of Women's Charter)
Yeah, Adam Khoo speaking at / hosting CK's wedding would be hilarious & awesome! lol
My wedding had 11 immediate family members. Save money to index fund so we can FIRE 🔥
For me & my wife our wedding in the church with buffet thats it after we fly out for honeymoon no headache 🎉😂
Had a micro wedding in sentosa before covid times. And it was only about $2500 per table. Managed to get a lot of great deals from the hotel. And we had 15 tables. Times are just crazy now lol
It's really the guests who are paying for it. Guests who give very little or insufficient to cover the table are few, so most couples don't actually fork out alot. They just exaggerate it.
attended a wedding at jw marriott last year. $300+ per pax.... crazy price
I would flat out tell them i won't go unless it is family
i did not spend on wedding. Me and my wife wedded 2 yrs ago. We did not have a banquet. But we have food together with 16 family members from both sides at a nice chinese restaurant and the chef gave us a off-menu traditional dish. We did not even have wedding dress/gowns/suits
We decided not for the wedding as we wanted to put the money into renovation and the flat. I also did not buy her a engagement ring, although we had wedding bands. I bought her a rolex daytona instead.
I will advice young couples to go for things that add value to your life. If a wedding banquet adds value to you - sure pls do. But for most of us, wedding banquets, photoshoots, etc are something which goes off after the moment goes off.
My friend had a lavish wedding and also divorced within 2 years.
I usually give 80 for dinner regardless of the location. 80 for good luck.
I believe my friends invite me for wedding because they want me to witness and bless their happiness.
it is at least once in a lifetime like a commissioning parade! do it at the grand MBS cos $$$ can earn back later but time wont come back. the number of tables will be a bequest from the bride's parents and is not up to the broom side to decide or offer. kelvin can give CK $20 for sentosa...next time CK will give back to kelvin's kid $10 next time if he were to invite him.
got money or no money, don't buy into the hype of living it up at own expense to make businesses' richer. rather xiasuay and keep money to ownself.
The wedding industry can only make money from you one time. They don't expect you to repeatedly marry and divorce and remarry..
The big rah-rah show of wedding dinner, then expecting red packets to cover the costs, should be stopped and this is within our powers as new parents. Want people to come attend your wedding ceremony and then go 5-star hotel for dinner? Sure, but please pay for it, and tell your guests to just come and enjoy, without needed any red packets. No money to do that? then stick to something within your budget. Don't burden your relatives, friends and colleagues.
Hold wedding at Saizeriya can bo? Tell your guests ahead of time that the menu will be Japanese Italian fusion :)
When the prices are so high, then maybe there is no need unless you are doing big business.
Just register have a luncheon meal with immediate family good enough
We are peasants, not royals. There is no need to have a grand wedding. It should be a manageable and intimate occasion.
Very true , guys ✌️
Wedding is a waste of resources for all .getting married and and bring another generations to suffer in this crazy and greedy world that are already so messy and chaos , every fighting for jobs with foreigners. Their parents already have gone thru their hard way struggling to bring their children up yet the younger generations still never learn, especially in small island Singapore h d b unit are many times higher than big countries landed houses. H d b are building everywhere but prices still the world highest
all eyes on CK because the rest of the BP's already been there, done that
This is the culture I cannot take it in Malaysia and Singapore or Chinese culture in general. I migrated out of the country to Western culture. Here u can just stay together (as a couple and start a family cheaply) and not even to spend for such ridiculous price. This will discourage a lot of new generations to get such an inflationary lifestyle marriage. And to make matter worst most of marriages just end up being divorce and what a waste of spending so much just to get marriage.
Dun wear a hat that's bigger than ur head.....😅😅😅
Balik kampung boleland lah
Go back to china lah 😂
Kelvin, pls be more generous as a person. If not, just don’t accept the invitation if you are not willing to cover the cost because based on experiences, MOST ppl will. And yes, the couple will unavoidably judge you based on your capability and income level to the wedding angbao you gave.
I disagree. I think if you want to have a wedding banquet at an expensive place then don't expect your guest to know or to cover it. Otherwise get somewhere more affordable or don't invite guest and have a micro wedding! Remember, we the guest don't owe you anything so stop being so entitled!
@@xxxcool2565 you don’t get the point. If the wedding cost $200 per pax( which is the norm and not considered expensive at all) but you are only willing to give $50. Then just don’t accept the invitation. That will just sour the relationship. This like nth to do with being entitled or not. If you are a true friend, you won’t be giving an angbao rate which is way below the market rate. This shows your character. Period
@@raydenstar6191 nonsense. You don't "expect" your guest to pay you a certain amount. More so if you are a good friend. Expecting your good friend to pay you a certain amount really brings into question what qualities you deem a friend. Money? I would lose such a friend who cares more about money
@@xxxcool2565 no need to be agitated. You can continue to give your $50 wedding angbao and you shall see it for yourself. Lol good luck
@@raydenstar6191 sure but i kinda pitty your friends who if found out you only value their friendship based on money. Wonder how they feel. Cheers
Kelvin! have Chio aunties like me! ... great sharing I enjoyed it !