Just for clarification, psychopathy comes in both genders (male and female). However, female psychopaths often have different traits that allows them to slip through the cracks while the male psychopaths are caught. Learn more in my live chat here: ua-cam.com/users/livei9swwzyFyPg
Tamara: My own mother tried to attack me with a knife. I kid you not. Even I couldn't believe it. My brother told me years later it happened to him too. Still hard to wrap my mind around it decades later.
Omg, this is really a must see for me. I think my Mother was like this, which is a strange realization after thinking she was a nice person most of my life. The reason why I think she was like this? I've found out (sometimes at the time, sometimes later) that she was involved in crimes, usually fraud, but different kinds (auto insurance fraud, workers compensation fraud (she was working while receiving it the 1st time, 2nd time she claimed her rare psychological illness disappeared when the payments ended) knowingly selling defective things second hand, falsifying illness in teenage children for financial gain, falsifying own illness for financial gain). Then there's the unethical stuff, pathological lying, parasitic lifestyle (retired at 55 and got children to pay her bills), ignoring sexual abuse of son by stepfather, turning this story into a story "about a family we know in town" and looking excited/happy when telling the story. Making up lies about family members to try and undermine them (even her favorite child), and she did this with everyone. Took decades to unravel all her lies about family.
Oh my. I'm so sorry. You have put together a picture here that describes the female psychopath. I currently have a family where step-mom is the psychopath. And many of the things you state here is what she does too. ALL female psychopaths have some form of fraudulent activity in their history. Sadly, it isn't easy to catch until you can later put together a laundary list of behaviors to arrive at a conclusion. I will be talking more about this LIVE on Friday too!
Accidents always seemed to happen with my mother when I was growing up. Both my sister and I had traumatic accidents happen to us. My mother would get all kinds of attention when that would happen and she seemed to love always taking us to the doctor. When I had children of my own my husband started noticing how dangerous her back yard and home were and started warning her about the kids being around it, I did as well, but mostly I just stayed closed to my children around grandma house, even her next door neighbor built his own block wall because my mother refused to replace the one she had that was leaning over, he had children too. It seemed my mother didn't care if things were not safe for small children. I never left my children alone with her at her house, never and this upset her, but I was not leaving my children alone knowing how my sister and I grew up. She would get so mad at anyone who would say something negative about anything connected to her and that included her house.
@@cbzzzzzzzzzzz1167 Omg - that's awful. God help us who were raised by these mothers. Your comment sent a chill down my spine - in the few pictures I have of my early childhood I always have a cut lip, or a bruise. I remember my mother insisting that I wear shoes that didn't fit, that were literally painful to walk in. I had a traumatic head injury when I was three that required hospitalization, and I still can feel the scar - years later, my older sister told me that the story that I "feel off the monkey bars" wasn't true, and that she had no idea why my mother lied or what the real story was. I've come to the conclusion that they're demonic. I know that's sound like movie talk - but it's the only way I can wrap my mind around what this woman is. I remember her trying to brainwash me into believing that I was quote - "a juvenile delinquent" - I had no idea what that even meant. I was a totally normal kid. If not for my father - who really was a very sweet man, I don't know how I would've ended up. I didn't mean to leave such a long comment, but it all kind of clicked into place after I read what you wrote. Peace and blessing to you and all of us who've suffered at the hands of mothers who hurt us.
It’s my birthday. This talk is a gift, validating what I understand in hindsight about the woman who my siblings and others believe to be a saint. Im 67 and still actively working on trauma and my relationship with myself.
My dad was fitting this description, but he'd tried to mimick some social type of mannerisms, and I could tell. He was also very creepy. I called him the creeper. Sadly, I'm pretty sure he dated women like this. The last one he dated, I feel, fit this description much more ...like the women he chose got sicker.
This is an interesting dynamic for sure. If you want to learn more about psychopathic fathers, try one of my previous videos on this topic: ua-cam.com/video/ISqnKR9nXwg/v-deo.htmlsi=xDr3tCYfpAh6arcI
Yes my dad is a creep and pretends to have a speech impediment to seem more innocent and tries to talk like a child almost, but he;s actually violent and a pervert. He enjoys control and degredation.
@Sproutgoodnight1161 omg my dad seems similar. He didn't do the speech impediment thing but did other weird things also to seem different than he was. I get it.
👋Hi Ta'mara. It seems to me that so many people are like this & no one ever figures it out until they get caught. Hopefully, I'll never have to deal with too much of their drama since leaving toxic relationships behind. See you soon on the next one, Happy🎄🎁🥳🎉 holidays, love, Miss Janine🪐🌴🧸 💅✨️✨️🌌
Excellent video, from start to finish. I didn't expect to watch this whole thing or even listen to it in total at regular speed but the content and delivery was too solid.
I have a question about this topic but like the whole thing. My entire family almost has very toxic or negative traits ranging from physical violence to emotional abuse. Then they just deny everything or get angry with me or shut it down. And I get really angry or really depressed and they act as though I'm mentally ill, but all of the drinking, screaming at people, gossiping, and violence is normal. I hate them, but I'm genuinely confused. They know to lie to other people and to me and deny everything- but at the same time they must know what they're doing. Sexual abuse is wrong. Manipulation is wrong. Picking on one kid for everything is wrong. And they give half-apoligies or insincere ones then will do the same things as before. I was fooled every single time into thinking they had changed and the abuse would eventually end. If someone knows to apoligize or they know to deny what they were doing is that remorse? Can these kinds of people even feel remorse? Why do they do it? Why am I targeted as the mentally ill person in a family where everyone is either an alcholic or talk trash or are violent towards each other and I was literally a kid the entire time while they were all adults!!!!!!!! I get blamed for defending myself. I get blamed for defending my mom. I get blamed for saying how sick and evil they all are. I don't understand do they know what they are doing or not? It kills me are they actually insane and don't understand what they're doing to me or do they know this and do it anyway?! I can't figure out if the evil side is genuine or the apologies. Much love from confused girl
I'm praying that you get as far away from these people as you can, as soon as possible. They do not change. In fact, it all get worse with time. You have the gift of discernment. I know it's hard, but you have to get away from these people and build your own life and create your own future. It doesn't matter how old you are. I know a woman who started over at 65! You can't put a price on peace - and safety should be our number one priority. That means emotional safety! Sending you peace and blessings.
@Sproutgoodnight1161 You are describing a very unsafe and almost institutionally abusive environment. They are giving half baked apologies to cover their tracks and for their benefits and that is probably when calling names does not work. They most likely know that everything they do that is abusive is very wrong and harmful. You are unlucky to be the targeted person. It is not about you asa person but it is very, very unsafe. I hope you can get out of there. Janina Fisher UA-cam The Living Legacy of Trauma may be helpful or anyone trained by her. What you describe is very serious. Much compassion to you
This was very interesting. I don't know why it crossed my mind, but what if a patient with mental health is receiving therapy from a professional with these traits? That's scary knowing they have a degree and experience in these matters. 😱✌🏾
Well, that's a good point Some people in the helping profession are not well enough or compassionate enough to be a healthcare provider but there they are. Sometimes the person doesn't even see they are the problem!
Psychiatry department at Kaiser Permanente in Redwood City is run by them. It’s a culture they internally implement to cut costs and cover their own butts for medical malpractice. The staff goes on strike all the time yet can’t make any progress bc the department is run by both a male and female psychopath with flying monkey imported Doctors
I had heard that psychopaths are born, and sociopaths are made, through their environments (i.e. children growing up in circumstances where gangs offer the only opportunities for community, mentorship and success). Is this not true?
You're right! It just depends on the dynamics for that person. A sociopath and psychopath can be made but they also have the genetic makeup to also become a sociopath or psychopath. Charles Manson, for example, was a "normal" child until his mother began neglecting him, abusing him, and leaving him with strangers. His "makeup" changed over time and he became a cold-hearted individual. www.ranker.com/list/charles-manson-childhood/cristina-sanza. It's quite scary.
I dont know if my mom is a psychopath but she is diagnosed BPD and much of the behavior is parallel. In general they all seem to share conflict ridden relationships and lack of impulse control.
Doctor...how do we normal humans deal with the right female psychopath? in everyday life and social media not in the family but as a coworker please help thank you
1. Avoid completely. If you can. The best thing to do is avoid them altogether. 2. Be polite and lesser than. Basically like a wolf in the wild “tilt your neck”. You don’t have to do everything they say. But just know they ARE the superior species, and leave it at that. Basically, be polite, kind, honest, and treat them like everyone else. Play fair. Don’t try to be superior over them. They don’t like that. You won’t win. Just accept your status on the food chain of life, and they accept yours. I call it “waving my white flag”.
Just for clarification, psychopathy comes in both genders (male and female). However, female psychopaths often have different traits that allows them to slip through the cracks while the male psychopaths are caught. Learn more in my live chat here: ua-cam.com/users/livei9swwzyFyPg
@@TherapistTamaraHill I Wholeheartedly Agree with this
@@TherapistTamaraHill They know they are a peg below men in most cultures.
your mother! sorry to hear, but you can use it to your advantage in your profession. I now know why you understand it so well. God bless
Thank you. Being raised by a mother like this takes quite a toll on an entire family - to put it mildly.
You're welcome! It does take a toll indeed.
Tamara: My own mother tried to attack me with a knife. I kid you not. Even I couldn't believe it. My brother told me years later it happened to him too. Still hard to wrap my mind around it decades later.
My goodness, that must be very hard to process... I feel for you.
Again tonight, my mom and much of my family. Thanks for explaining this topic.
You are so welcome! I'll be talking more about this character in the new year.
Takes time to spot them . But they eventually twist your mind up.
Omg, this is really a must see for me. I think my Mother was like this, which is a strange realization after thinking she was a nice person most of my life.
The reason why I think she was like this? I've found out (sometimes at the time, sometimes later) that she was involved in crimes, usually fraud, but different kinds (auto insurance fraud, workers compensation fraud (she was working while receiving it the 1st time, 2nd time she claimed her rare psychological illness disappeared when the payments ended) knowingly selling defective things second hand, falsifying illness in teenage children for financial gain, falsifying own illness for financial gain).
Then there's the unethical stuff, pathological lying, parasitic lifestyle (retired at 55 and got children to pay her bills), ignoring sexual abuse of son by stepfather, turning this story into a story "about a family we know in town" and looking excited/happy when telling the story.
Making up lies about family members to try and undermine them (even her favorite child), and she did this with everyone. Took decades to unravel all her lies about family.
Oh my. I'm so sorry. You have put together a picture here that describes the female psychopath. I currently have a family where step-mom is the psychopath. And many of the things you state here is what she does too. ALL female psychopaths have some form of fraudulent activity in their history. Sadly, it isn't easy to catch until you can later put together a laundary list of behaviors to arrive at a conclusion. I will be talking more about this LIVE on Friday too!
Accidents always seemed to happen with my mother when I was growing up. Both my sister and I had traumatic accidents happen to us. My mother would get all kinds of attention when that would happen and she seemed to love always taking us to the doctor. When I had children of my own my husband started noticing how dangerous her back yard and home were and started warning her about the kids being around it, I did as well, but mostly I just stayed closed to my children around grandma house, even her next door neighbor built his own block wall because my mother refused to replace the one she had that was leaning over, he had children too. It seemed my mother didn't care if things were not safe for small children. I never left my children alone with her at her house, never and this upset her, but I was not leaving my children alone knowing how my sister and I grew up. She would get so mad at anyone who would say something negative about anything connected to her and that included her house.
Oh yes… sounds very familiar. Unfortunately.
And no one believes you because she’s so superficially charming.
@@cbzzzzzzzzzzz1167 Omg - that's awful. God help us who were raised by these mothers. Your comment sent a chill down my spine - in the few pictures I have of my early childhood I always have a cut lip, or a bruise. I remember my mother insisting that I wear shoes that didn't fit, that were literally painful to walk in. I had a traumatic head injury when I was three that required hospitalization, and I still can feel the scar - years later, my older sister told me that the story that I "feel off the monkey bars" wasn't true, and that she had no idea why my mother lied or what the real story was. I've come to the conclusion that they're demonic. I know that's sound like movie talk - but it's the only way I can wrap my mind around what this woman is. I remember her trying to brainwash me into believing that I was quote - "a juvenile delinquent" - I had no idea what that even meant. I was a totally normal kid. If not for my father - who really was a very sweet man, I don't know how I would've ended up. I didn't mean to leave such a long comment, but it all kind of clicked into place after I read what you wrote. Peace and blessing to you and all of us who've suffered at the hands of mothers who hurt us.
Thank you for speaking on this.
you're welcome!
It’s my birthday. This talk is a gift, validating what I understand in hindsight about the woman who my siblings and others believe to be a saint. Im 67 and still actively working on trauma and my relationship with myself.
My dad was fitting this description, but he'd tried to mimick some social type of mannerisms, and I could tell. He was also very creepy. I called him the creeper. Sadly, I'm pretty sure he dated women like this. The last one he dated, I feel, fit this description much more ...like the women he chose got sicker.
This is an interesting dynamic for sure. If you want to learn more about psychopathic fathers, try one of my previous videos on this topic: ua-cam.com/video/ISqnKR9nXwg/v-deo.htmlsi=xDr3tCYfpAh6arcI
Yes my dad is a creep and pretends to have a speech impediment to seem more innocent and tries to talk like a child almost, but he;s actually violent and a pervert. He enjoys control and degredation.
@@TherapistTamaraHill ok thank you.
@Sproutgoodnight1161 omg my dad seems similar. He didn't do the speech impediment thing but did other weird things also to seem different than he was. I get it.
you're welcome @debbiekillewald8384
Now I'm going to pay more attention to head movement...
You can learn more here: www.psypost.org/psychopathic-women-tend-to-move-their-heads-very-little-when-talking-to-other-people/
👋Hi Ta'mara. It seems to me that so many people are like this & no one ever figures it out until they get caught. Hopefully, I'll never have to deal with too much of their drama since leaving toxic relationships behind. See you soon on the next one, Happy🎄🎁🥳🎉 holidays, love, Miss Janine🪐🌴🧸 💅✨️✨️🌌
You're right Mss Janine! I agree. See and Merry Christmas to you too 💖
Even when "caught" they typically have a whole community of people enabling them. Very hard to get others to hold them accountable.
Excellent video, from start to finish. I didn't expect to watch this whole thing or even listen to it in total at regular speed but the content and delivery was too solid.
Thank you so much!! Glad this was helpful.
Thank you tamara! Merry Xmas and hope you feel better! ❤
Thanks so much!! Merry Christmas to you!!
I'll see you in the new year!
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I admire, respect you and the work that you do! God bless you Tamara Hill😊♥🌹
Thank you so much!🙏God bless you too for this kind comment.
@@TherapistTamaraHill 😊🙏
I have a question about this topic but like the whole thing. My entire family almost has very toxic or negative traits ranging from physical violence to emotional abuse. Then they just deny everything or get angry with me or shut it down. And I get really angry or really depressed and they act as though I'm mentally ill, but all of the drinking, screaming at people, gossiping, and violence is normal. I hate them, but I'm genuinely confused. They know to lie to other people and to me and deny everything- but at the same time they must know what they're doing. Sexual abuse is wrong. Manipulation is wrong. Picking on one kid for everything is wrong. And they give half-apoligies or insincere ones then will do the same things as before. I was fooled every single time into thinking they had changed and the abuse would eventually end. If someone knows to apoligize or they know to deny what they were doing is that remorse? Can these kinds of people even feel remorse? Why do they do it? Why am I targeted as the mentally ill person in a family where everyone is either an alcholic or talk trash or are violent towards each other and I was literally a kid the entire time while they were all adults!!!!!!!! I get blamed for defending myself. I get blamed for defending my mom. I get blamed for saying how sick and evil they all are. I don't understand do they know what they are doing or not? It kills me are they actually insane and don't understand what they're doing to me or do they know this and do it anyway?! I can't figure out if the evil side is genuine or the apologies. Much love from confused girl
They say they love me but nothing they do feels like love. Even when they say that they love me it feels weird I don't know why.
I'm praying that you get as far away from these people as you can, as soon as possible. They do not change. In fact, it all get worse with time. You have the gift of discernment. I know it's hard, but you have to get away from these people and build your own life and create your own future. It doesn't matter how old you are. I know a woman who started over at 65! You can't put a price on peace - and safety should be our number one priority. That means emotional safety! Sending you peace and blessings.
@Sproutgoodnight1161 You are describing a very unsafe and almost institutionally abusive environment. They are giving half baked apologies to cover their tracks and for their benefits and that is probably when calling names does not work. They most likely know that everything they do that is abusive is very wrong and harmful. You are unlucky to be the targeted person. It is not about you asa person but it is very, very unsafe. I hope you can get out of there. Janina Fisher UA-cam The Living Legacy of Trauma may be helpful or anyone trained by her. What you describe is very serious. Much compassion to you
This was very interesting. I don't know why it crossed my mind, but what if a patient with mental health is receiving therapy from a professional with these traits? That's scary knowing they have a degree and experience in these matters. 😱✌🏾
Well, that's a good point Some people in the helping profession are not well enough or compassionate enough to be a healthcare provider but there they are. Sometimes the person doesn't even see they are the problem!
Psychiatry department at Kaiser Permanente in Redwood City is run by them. It’s a culture they internally implement to cut costs and cover their own butts for medical malpractice. The staff goes on strike all the time yet can’t make any progress bc the department is run by both a male and female psychopath with flying monkey imported Doctors
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊
Thank you Tamara!
You're welcome!! And thanks for watching.
Queen Bee. I always wondered what this referred to.
Is it possible they operate under the radar. Very Covert?
I had heard that psychopaths are born, and sociopaths are made, through their environments (i.e. children growing up in circumstances where gangs offer the only opportunities for community, mentorship and success). Is this not true?
You're right! It just depends on the dynamics for that person. A sociopath and psychopath can be made but they also have the genetic makeup to also become a sociopath or psychopath. Charles Manson, for example, was a "normal" child until his mother began neglecting him, abusing him, and leaving him with strangers. His "makeup" changed over time and he became a cold-hearted individual. www.ranker.com/list/charles-manson-childhood/cristina-sanza.
It's quite scary.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Interesting. Thanks for the explanation!
I dont know if my mom is a psychopath but she is diagnosed BPD and much of the behavior is parallel. In general they all seem to share conflict ridden relationships and lack of impulse control.
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lol and these are the people calling everyone psychos and narcissists. I’d be careful who is calling who what it’s such weird bs with people
A lot of this is just weird stuff going on people act out in toxic environments too
Doctor...how do we normal humans deal with the right female psychopath?
in everyday life and social media
not in the family but as a coworker
please help thank you
1. Avoid completely. If you can. The best thing to do is avoid them altogether.
2. Be polite and lesser than. Basically like a wolf in the wild “tilt your neck”.
You don’t have to do everything they say. But just know they ARE the superior species, and leave it at that.
Basically, be polite, kind, honest, and treat them like everyone else.
Play fair.
Don’t try to be superior over them. They don’t like that.
You won’t win. Just accept your status on the food chain of life, and they accept yours.
I call it “waving my white flag”.
..my Mother,her sister ,her daughter
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My mom is and she is an Aries they have alot of evil fire in them
Horrific people who affect peoples lives
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