It’s not the first time I hear you talk about step father, however I always shed a tear when you talk about him. I’m just happy for you I grew up with both my parents in the same house & will not shy away to say house not home.
I absolutely enjoyed this conversation. There truly is no substitute for life experience and we, as the younger generation can learn so much from our elders. The part about understanding yourself and looking within to decide who you are in spite of all the influences and pressures - wow! Ive watched the episode twice now. Its truly impactful. Thank you Ntate for gems.
Violence was everywhere when we were growing up, ubethwa eskolweni, ubethwa eNext door or by any elder estratweni and then nasekhaya, respect wasn't earned it was taken, hence this just got out of hand, when you feel disrespected you turn to violence. We need new ways of dealing with this kind of issue
We suffered when we were young. They beat you at school, you try to report that at home and you get beaten because they beat you at school. We had nowhere to run when we had issues and just suffer inside.
This episode is the best one so far in my opinion. All of them are great but this one truly kept me reminding a couple of times just to digest what has been said.
Proud of mr Sello.We shared a room wit his younger brother.Guy Make.we were studying fashion designing.he used to come wit groucery fo us. Most of his traditional shirts are dsigned by Guy.
Honestly where we grew up as children and " ho shapa" was the way to discipline, to sort out things or show out anger, made people to believe thats how issues are solved. I dont believe its about being jealousy or insecurities. This is about culture that has to be cancelled.
I didn't plan to clap my ex husband each time i found out thst he was cheating, it just happened and today im dealing with it, im dealing with knowing that ho shapa motho o mong is not the way to solve issues or to show your anger. Going forward ke sheba motho fela and smile..
What an intelligent conversation! Sello understands the depth and multifaceted nature of gender based violence. And he's right, until we are willing to have real and honest conversations about it, we're far from winning the battle. Interesting that you have considered going into politics. If you happen to read this comment, I'm curious about what your thoughts are regarding Ngugi wa Thiongo's argument regarding art and politics in his book, "Penpoints, Gunpoints, and Dreams." And Augusto Boal"s understanding of representation both in theatre and politics. Truly enjoyed the conversation. And I agree acting is a metaphor for life!😊
Mr I am what I am because of that man who gave a surname Klaas Adrian Nkome I love that you tell the truth am called Nkome because of my stap father I love Mr for your truth ❤❤❤❤❤
As a person who found out that the man who raised me was not my biological father at 13, i am with him on paternity testing being compulsory. Its the most life changing thing ive ever experienced in my life.
So basically Sello doesn't want someone who has the past hang ups but yena he has lots of past hang ups, wow. I really like him but I don't like his statement. He want someone younger so that he can stress her with his past
@@katstix6572Indeed it's a contract hence why you need a court to end it and issue proof that it has indeed ended! Also ppl fight for assets, money etc and NOT memories.
I dare revolutionaries to be as ruthless, opportunistic and self interested as the “west”. All that Floyd is saying may be true, however, you lose nothing by working with, and being friendly with everyone. Small economy, small population, it would make sense to base your relationships on what best serves your interests at any given time. Wasn’t that the point of straddling a mid-line, to extract maximum benefit from everyone?
I'm sure it must have been difficult to do this interview, i think more than anything he just wanted to talk about acting, he ignored most of the questions and diverted the conversation to acting and i think there is huge part of him that does not want to take responsibility for his abusive behavior. He believes that his victims wronged him hence he behaved the way he did. When asked if he is ashamed of his deeds, he says he sleeps very well at night, i am no psychologist but he comes across as a narcist.
I think you didn't go too deep with him an he was willing to open up about everything e.g did he abuse any of the babymamas and is that why they refused him the children?
![I ALWAYS lived on the EDGE of our relationship because of his divorce history - [EXCLUSIVE]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/ceNSF4D4BkE/mqdefault.jpg)
In Kenya we watched him in Generations on KBC. I am enjoying this from Nairobi Kenya.
We love Kenya and Kenyans in South africa❤❤
It’s not the first time I hear you talk about step father, however I always shed a tear when you talk about him. I’m just happy for you I grew up with both my parents in the same house & will not shy away to say house not home.
Stole my lunch time to listen to this conversation. I truly enjoyed
I absolutely enjoyed this conversation. There truly is no substitute for life experience and we, as the younger generation can learn so much from our elders. The part about understanding yourself and looking within to decide who you are in spite of all the influences and pressures - wow! Ive watched the episode twice now. Its truly impactful. Thank you Ntate for gems.
Violence was everywhere when we were growing up, ubethwa eskolweni, ubethwa eNext door or by any elder estratweni and then nasekhaya, respect wasn't earned it was taken, hence this just got out of hand, when you feel disrespected you turn to violence. We need new ways of dealing with this kind of issue
We suffered when we were young. They beat you at school, you try to report that at home and you get beaten because they beat you at school. We had nowhere to run when we had issues and just suffer inside.
Huuu this is deep please😔🥺😭You are sooo right
Thank you so much Sello we need Men like you more of them
This episode is the best one so far in my opinion. All of them are great but this one truly kept me reminding a couple of times just to digest what has been said.
Very insightful and Provoking reflection conversation.
Proud of mr Sello.We shared a room wit his younger brother.Guy Make.we were studying fashion designing.he used to come wit groucery fo us. Most of his traditional shirts are dsigned by Guy.
Honestly where we grew up as children and " ho shapa" was the way to discipline, to sort out things or show out anger, made people to believe thats how issues are solved.
I dont believe its about being jealousy or insecurities.
This is about culture that has to be cancelled.
We learn every day indeed... Tankie Ta Zilo for the wisdom of self reflection 🤔👍
I didn't plan to clap my ex husband each time i found out thst he was cheating, it just happened and today im dealing with it, im dealing with knowing that ho shapa motho o mong is not the way to solve issues or to show your anger. Going forward ke sheba motho fela and smile..
Slap* not clap
@ncedisakhewu , I thank you.
Wow, very interesting. If I may ask, was the divorce because the cheating continued or the beating?
@@MissCombs1511 , both. He filed for divorce and stated that it is because of domestic violence from me.
@@pulengphatedi8153 yoh thanks Aus Puleng... he has been speaking of changing like the last time he hit anyone was 40 years ago.
This interview opened my eyes ❤❤❤ Thank you Sir for your honesty and vulnerability for sharing the reality we live in from a man’s perspective
"Character is defined by actions, so what actions are you chosing to do to be the character you want" 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Generations...old series...knew him there ❤ from Kenya...great actor
"Life is beautiful in its ugliness." He has a beautiful voice that reminds me of Joshua Maponga. Insightful conversation.
Enjoyed this so much, can you please interview mam Nakedi Ribane, Sinthawulele assomblief
What an intelligent conversation! Sello understands the depth and multifaceted nature of gender based violence. And he's right, until we are willing to have real and honest conversations about it, we're far from winning the battle. Interesting that you have considered going into politics. If you happen to read this comment, I'm curious about what your thoughts are regarding Ngugi wa Thiongo's argument regarding art and politics in his book, "Penpoints, Gunpoints, and Dreams." And Augusto Boal"s understanding of representation both in theatre and politics. Truly enjoyed the conversation. And I agree acting is a metaphor for life!😊
I appreciate his honesty about the lumping up of GBV! I respect him for that.
Relebogile my twin i lo ed you from the first time I layed my eyes 👀 on you thank you 💐
I loved watching this from start to finish ❤❤❤
Absolutely loved Ta’ Gibson Kente❤
What a conversation thank you ntate Sello.
This conversation was flowing effortlessly😊
🔥🔥💯💯Re ya leboga
Honest conversations, thought-provoking
Pearls of wisdom 👌👌👌.
Very honest conversation
Our own Denzel Washington in SA ...what a powerhouse
Absolutely loved it
This is great....keep it up rele❤
Admire this man
To be honest Sello ìs the best cream de la cream yoh we wish for such legends akusenani
Can you please make your podcast available on digital audio platforms , like you did with UNPACKED.
The link to the full podcast episode on Spotify is in my bio!
Relebogile is a super star
I like this interview
A person can be a GBV activist and still be an abuser. People need to educate themselves.
Stap father's are not all that bad 😢😢😢step fathers are the best 🎉🎉🎉
I would like you to interview Thokozane Timoty Ncala
I'd like you to sit with Ntate Thomas Mokgathi of Amadodana ase wesile
Thank u Rre Sello for giving me some thoughtful inside.
16:08 yoh sisi you just said something ryt there
Mr I am what I am because of that man who gave a surname Klaas Adrian Nkome I love that you tell the truth am called Nkome because of my stap father I love Mr for your truth ❤❤❤❤❤
Can we have Dineo Ranaka tuu 🙏
Sello you're The bast papa😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Daniel Nyathi this one
“Marriage is when the sperm meets the egg! That, no one can put asunder!” #Profound
Relebogile.❤
If i were to choose another father this i would choose like his aura and skhooa
Pisces fathers are the best. Mine was awesome. Very loving, gentle and self aware. ❤
Very interesting interview...
@tselengbotlhole750 yhoo so captivating I was hooked from the beginning to the very end.
54:30 😢
As a person who found out that the man who raised me was not my biological father at 13, i am with him on paternity testing being compulsory. Its the most life changing thing ive ever experienced in my life.
I can only imagine what you went through. Hope that you are doing okay now. ❤❤
🖤
So basically Sello doesn't want someone who has the past hang ups but yena he has lots of past hang ups, wow. I really like him but I don't like his statement. He want someone younger so that he can stress her with his past
🤣😂 SASA material.
"Mkhwenyana yima kancane" 🙄🙄🙄
But he looks like someone who played women😢
No child would recent u 58:59 if u were there
The moment he said moment he said marriage is a contract no sir marriage is a convent
it is a contract involving the law and you put your signature on paper though
@@katstix6572Indeed it's a contract hence why you need a court to end it and issue proof that it has indeed ended! Also ppl fight for assets, money etc and NOT memories.
I dare revolutionaries to be as ruthless, opportunistic and self interested as the “west”. All that Floyd is saying may be true, however, you lose nothing by working with, and being friendly with everyone. Small economy, small population, it would make sense to base your relationships on what best serves your interests at any given time. Wasn’t that the point of straddling a mid-line, to extract maximum benefit from everyone?
I'm sure it must have been difficult to do this interview, i think more than anything he just wanted to talk about acting, he ignored most of the questions and diverted the conversation to acting and i think there is huge part of him that does not want to take responsibility for his abusive behavior. He believes that his victims wronged him hence he behaved the way he did. When asked if he is ashamed of his deeds, he says he sleeps very well at night, i am no psychologist but he comes across as a narcist.
Sibalkhulu
I think you didn't go too deep with him an he was willing to open up about everything e.g did he abuse any of the babymamas and is that why they refused him the children?
Also how bad was the abuse an the political situation, I think you could have asked him his views on mk party,eff an etc
Activist where kutwa he is been violent with his ex enje. Is he trying to be at the forefront of these news breaking out.
Sello is doing damage control but deep down he's a bitter man, only if he could turn back the hands of time.
😂Hai wa hlanya
@nankihoaeane4396 lol
Ai maan
Agreed
One hundred percent
Damn, the procreation topic really hit a nerve.