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I feel lucky. My little guy wakes up early because my husband wakes up for work at 4 and is too loud in the house. But my little guy goes right back to sleep after a snack and a diaper change. And he will stay asleep til 9 or 10 after. And I go right back to sleep too. I feel blessed.
Thank you for this very helpful video. Is there already video about how to teach a baby to fall asleep independently? I don't know how to do it. Thanks 🙏
My 7.5 month old wakes every 2hrs no matter what I do. He's been like this for months 😩 I no longer have to nurse him back to sleep every time, sometimes he falls back asleep as soon as I cuddle him, but if I leave him to go back to sleep himself he gets upset and cries (and I'm not letting him cry it out)
I'd love a video that explains how to get your child to sleep independently! My baby is 18 months and we started co-sleeping when she was 10 months old, it was supposed to be temporary after we moved house, but now I can't get her out of my bed! She wants to fall asleep with us, but I can tell our stirring causes her to stir which prompts us to hand her her pacifier. Before we coslept she would wake up half way through the night and cry endlessly in her crib until I rocked her back asleep and I often fell asleep in my recliner while holding her. I'm now pregnant again and really want good sleep before baby #2 and beyond that I don't want to make the same bad habits for baby # 2. Please help!
Hello Julia, you can train your child to go to sleep without you - but it needs some time. What you can do: - a bedtime ritual (for example a little prayer or a little song) and then you can give the child a kiss and say Goodnight. - the room should be dark - not too many words and excuses and explanations. Use short sentences and always the same words to explain the situation - Trust the child (and God) that your baby can learn this in a few days or weeks - Use white noise to get the child to sleep (for example you can play the sound of the vacuum cleaner. There are some videos with this sound on UA-cam) - You can give the child a piece of clothing that smells like you (for example your t-shirt that you have worn) - Don't panic when your child cries and wants you to come. You wait maybe half an hour and let the child try to fall asleep by himself / herself. Then you go to his / her bed and repeat the sentence you have said to the child: "Now it is time to sleep. I wish you a good night." (or something like that). You smile at the child, wave your hand and then leave again calmly. You repeat this every half an hour or every hour (until the child sleeps). And after a few hours or days or weeks the child learns to sleep at his / her own.
@@ZuerstJesus I'm not sure what god has to do with my baby learning how to sleep? Isn't he busy with other more important things with all the other civilizations across the multiverse? The book "Precious Little Sleep" is a very good resource you should check out for a good guide on sleep management, though, aside from god's assistance, many of the previous commenter's points were valid
@@gw6667 Each little step and all the big things are important for God: "Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows." (Luke 12.6-7)
Omg I didn’t know white noise machines were above the safe noise levels and were risky!! First time I hear about this and my baby’s already almost 4 months 😓😓. Thank you so much for sharing! I hope I didn’t cause him hearing issues
Sear Emma, we tried everything but nothing works. After seeing your video I was like o yes please but guess what .. movineven just 10 min. The feeding time or bed time... he comes earlier! And even when I try to leave him in bed till wake up time he screams like crazy. Even if we are in the room with him he won't calm down and still be shouting as if God nows what... this is so frustrating and we are so tired. Especially to hear parents like " oh our baby sleeps every night trough and till 8 am" 😠 😡 😤
I wached so many chanels about this topic, and this one is far better then any other. Thank you so much for evry video you make 💓 Do you think maybe you can make a video how to remove feeding habits during the night. My baby is 16 months old and still waking 1 or 2 times per night to eat Again thank you soooooo much 💖
Wow wow wow, thank you so much Emma for this video. I have watched your videos since giving birth in 2020. I don't have my mum with me, so you were really there for me through your videos. Thank you so much, you are awesome!!!
Just a week ago my 11.5 m old started waking at 11pm and 3-5am. He goes to sleep at 7pm wakes for the day at 7:30am, usually. He usually only wakes at 1-3 am for a bottle. He only naps at daycare 1-2 hours total. So he should have enough sleep pressure to go back to sleep but doesn't. I put him to bed awake and he puts himself to sleep, even in the middle of the night after a bottle. His hunger is waking him and keeping him awake but he "shouldn't" need to eat in the middle of the night any more. So nothing makes sense 🤷♀
Why shouldn't he need to wake to eat? I know adults who still have to wake for a drink or something to eat at night. My daughter is 17 months old and wakes every 1-3 hours to breastfeed.
Hi my 15 month old seems to wake up crying several times at night especially when she sleeps in her own room. She’ll sleep better when she’s in my bed. I need help
Mine falls asleep independently without an issue, but I feed her to sleep at 1am and 3am, and we are of course dealing with the issue you are describing here. I'm not sure she's actually hungry. SHe is 6 months and very heavy. I think she's waking up out of a habit. I'm not sure how to go about it but I certainly don't want any more 5am wakes.
My baby goes down at 7pm & is wide awake around 5am Is her bed time too early ??? Her last night is around 4.45 till 5.30 Should I extend her wake window before bed ? She wakes at 3.40 then again before 5am
I work second shift so baby and I goto bed around midnight and he sleeps right through 6am no problem, but wakes up at 8-9am which is early morning for me cuz I don’t need to be awake for work until noon lmao
My problem is that our 10-month-old doesn't cry, she shrieks, like a horror movie shriek. She sleeps in her crib next to our bed. My boyfriend gets up for work at 5:30 and his alarm often wakes her up. Our 3-year-old's room is adjacent to ours and the only way to not wake him up is to take her downstairs 😩 Any tips? When she was just born it was kind of cute because back then it was just this cute squeak, like a little dolphin. But she's definitely found her voice over the past few months and her scream is deafening...
Any thoughts or comments regarding an early morning poop and how to maintain a regular schedule? My 10 month old has been pooping every single morning at 5am for the last month. I usually change his diaper and put him back down, but it leads to consistent crying until I get him out of the crib at 7 AM, which is our desired awake time. He usually gets anywhere from 2.5 - 3 hours of nap sleep and about 35 ounces total in 24 hours.
Dear mam, my baby is 4 n half months now. He sleeps night well less waking only.. Could you please tell me how many hours a baby usually need sleep during daytime. What happens if baby not sleeps during daytime? Is that important for their growth,?
Are there any studies supporting these claims, or is this your personal opinion? Seriously asking as the works of Remo H. Largo as an example are based on a lot of research and never make such absolute claims.
Hi Madiha! Unfortunately it is normal for babies to wake up during the night for 1-2 feeds at night when they are 4 months of age. With time your little one will stop needing the night time feeds and sleep through!
I have a 20 month old who sleeps around 8pm and still wakes up to feed at 0330 am and then wakes up at 0600 hungry again. Is this normal. She eats an hour before bed and tops up with milk just before bed. Will she outgrow the early morning feeds and sleep longer? 😭
Any advice for weaning off a pacifier? LO sleeps great first half of the night but second part of the night needs us to replace his pacifier a couple times to fall back asleep
Hey! Just wondering about babies circadian rhythm’s/ melatonin production. I thought I watched an older video of yours where you said that doesn’t actually affect babies? Does this only apply to newborns?
Hey Shel, in newborn's their sleep is driven by sleep pressure. Their circadian rhythm is not mature enough at this point. It doesn't really become mature until 5/6 months of age. That is why at 5/6 months babies generally develop a more predictable routine. Hope that makes sense!
Hi Emma, my husband and I are going to be adoption a baby. Is there a way that I can still download the guides, even though we don't know the date of birth yet?
Hi Rachel, that's wonderful! Yes, you can absolutely still get them. Just enter a rough guess in terms of the date for now. It doesn't have to be accurate at all. If you find later that I'm sending you tips that aren't relevant to your little one you can just reply to any of those emails with their birthdate and we can update it for you :)
Hello Emma, thank you for this video. My little one (almost 5 months) keeps waking up between 5 and 5:30 in the morning. We do keep him in the dark bedroom until 6 but he needs his first nap at 7 then. Following the second step in your video, would we have to push his first nap then by an hour as his desired wake up time would be 6?
My son has always been so easy. We were tought how to deal with naptime when he was born. he's 18 months and sleeps 12 hours at night and about 2-3 during day.
@@Dumogu2031 I don't think I can tell you anything you already know. Be predictsble. Always have the same routine before bed. Like in the evening we put on his pyjama, then we brus his teeth while he watches a cartoon.then we put him in his bed and read a story. And after that I tell him what we will do tomorrow. I finish with a good night,sleep well. Never ask your kid if he's going to sleep well. That apparently leaves options and is confusing for a kid. tell your kid sleep well.
Does Emma have any videos or suggestions on how to get your baby to fall asleep independently? Her point is well taken, but incomplete without further discussion on her part. Also, at what age can a baby be taught to fall asleep independently?
I found waking up at 5am was nice and helpful. It made me feel like I have so much that I can accomplish during the day. I’m saying this knowing that baby went to sleep at 7pm so she got solid ten hours of sleep. Yes, baby does want to take a early nap by 8am or 9am, which is fine. I’m not sure why waking up early is bad. It feels natural. As a mother, I’m an early riser too, so maybe that is why it doesn’t bother me. Obviously, I try to go to bed by 9pm myself so I’m getting enough sleep hours. I also worked night shift for four years in my twenties so my stamina and endurance for intermittent or unconventional sleep is high.
Maybe it is considered as "bad" because for most people 4 am is the middle of the night and they cannot function properly when they wake up sooo early.
I guess all these "bad habits" are a matter of preference really. You should go with what works for you and the baby. :) Most of these videos' target audiences are working parents who have to plan their schedule around their work but I am just guessing.
I have 2 kids one toddler that doesnt find into sleep early but sleeps long and a baby that falls asleep quickly but wakes up early. Doing all my kidsfree chores after toddler is asleep means I am working until 10pm. So waking up with my baby at 5 means a total of 7h sleep. IF i find into sleep right after cleaning. I need a more synchron sleep pattern for my kids..
Early mornings was 6 o'clock with my boys. I do not think it was because of a habit. I have twins and I always fed them at the same time, they slept at the same time and still, one of them waked 2-3 hours earlier than the other one. As hard as I tried to make then wake up at the same time, it didn't work. Now they're 4.5 yo and still one of them tends to wake up earlier ( not 6 anymore) and the other tends to sleep longer. And they are put to bed at the same time.
I would love to know what to do when you’ve done the wrong thing and created an early morning pattern already 😂…? If they wake early do you push them stay awake and nap when they “should” have if they’d slept in, or do you put them down for a nap when tired?
My 3-month old was falling asleep around 10PM and had 1-2 wake ups until 9AM, so like 10 to 5, 5 to 9 (we have blackout blinds so it's still fairly dark in the room until the curtains are opened). I'm quite happy with that bedtime and wake up time and if I'm understanding the sleep guide properly, it should be developmentally appropriate as it's about 10-11 hours of sleep. She is going through a sleep regression right now where she's waking up more often though :( Still following the same bedtime and wake up time, but more frequent wake ups. She falls back asleep easily enough, so she's still getting at least 10 hours, and sometimes she falls back asleep on her own, but I can't wait for this regression to pass because we're in the same room and she's so NOISY when she's self soothing back to sleep! So regardless of whether she needs help or not, I still have to wake up lol.
is this applicable to 2 month old babies? I was under the impression that you should always let babies sleep during the day when they want to sleep at this age. Is that true? My baby doesn’t sleep for long periods of time often anymore during the day, but he does take lots of short naps.
I’d love some advice! My baby goes down at 7pm (12 months old) and usually wakes for the day at 6am (often wakes at 5 and I ignore it, she goes back down and will sleep another 1-1.5 hrs). I’d love it if she’d wake at 7 or 7:30am - how do I achieve this? I find that if I put her to bed later, she still wakes at the same time. Is there an incremental way to do it or something? Thanks!
Thank you for a helpful video Emma! :) If the baby goes down for bedtime at 7PM, is it not natural to want to wake up at 6AM since they have had their 10-11 hours by then?
My baby wakes up at 4 or 5 pm BUT i feed her and put her right back to her bed, dont speak with her, no eye contact, very dimmed light and its a 100% success bc everytime she falls back asleep till i wake her up at around 7 pm❤😊
Thank you for the video! One question: my 11-month-old starts waking every hour, so 5, 6, 7 and 8, when he finally wakes up. Usually he nurses a little and goes back to sleep. We live next to a very busy road, but he sleeps on the opposite side of the house. Is the traffic waking him up or is this normal, like you say at the end?
Same! Mine is 12 months and we just started daycare. He sleeps there from ~12 to 2pm. He falls asleep at night around 7 or 8 pm and he sleeps well until 4-5 am when he starts waking up a lot until I actually wake him up at 7 am...
1:44 Neither of my children were even close to that matrix. My 8 month old has yet to sleep more than 6 hours through the night. She only gets 2-3 hours total for naps during the day. She's still being breast fed so I can't even really help my wife during the nights where she'll just stay up from 2-4am. The good thing is, she's extremely happy when she's awake.
My dad said something that helped me when my first would wake up at night like that. So happy but wide awake! He said, well if she’s happy, just let her be! And he was right 😅 I didn’t need to be up with her for an hour if she wasn’t upset. If she was fed and changed, she was content to just coo away in her crib by herself. It turned out to be a weird short phase 🤷🏻♀️
so what should we do...my little one 9mo wakes up at 5 am almost every day. so i keep her in that darkness, ok, i can do that. but do i force her awake sooner from a nap? how long should they nap for max in your opinion. because on that rare day that my little one doesnt wake at 4/5, so she wakes more at like 6/7 am, no matter what , she is always awake 2 hrs and wants to go to sleep. she cries, rubs eyes, yawns, and gets really irritated if she doesnt get that nap. how do you force them to stay awake 4-5 hrs ? idk what to do with daily naps in that regard
Hi Emma and everyone. Our little one is 12 months old now and he falls asleep around 10:30 pm and wakes up in the morning around 9-9:30am (I know, it's late, but it works for our household as I work 8am-8pm and I cook the food for everyone, then give him a bath, lullaby and put him to sleep). However, he still wakes up twice-thrice and won't go back to sleep until I feed him milk, 6-7 oz each time. He eats well solids during the day, but the night he seems to be still hungry for milk, and the pacifier is not enough. Any help? Thanks!
Try to give water instead of milk. Or give him the amount of milk he drinks at night during the day. Normally Babys tend to wake up more often during the night when they didn't get the amount of milk they needed during the night. That's why BF mamas wean the babys too early because they are exhausted of waking 10 times at night and during the day the BF only 3 times. Babys will need an amount of milk in 24h and when you don't give it during the day, they will wake up during the night for it. But if this still doesn't work put water instead of milk. If the baby has teeth already it's not good at all to give him a bottle during night ---> because decay! The milk spills all over his teeth when he drinks it. With BF Babys it's not the same because the breast goes way back in Babys through and he swallows the milk immediately and nothing comes on the teeth. ( I'm a dentist and did this year a course in early childhood caries)
Haha! No, they’re inevitable! We have one child who sleeps in but the other two will wake at the same time every morning no matter how late they stay up, and we have black out curtains, white noise, they’re independent sleepers, etc. We just generally consider ourselves to be in an “earlier time zone” and deal with it until they’re old enough to wait for their clock to turn green
well my 6mo old has started to wake up earlier after her first teeth came out a month ago and that is waking up at 4-5am instead of 6-7 am (even later sometimes). so i just change and feed her next to her bed without fuss or turning on lights and tbh after her bottle she goes back to sleep until around 7:30 or 8am. I wouldn’t call this a first nap or should I? I put her in bed for the night at 8:30pm after a last bottle of milk and she naps twice a day now which I trained her to do because she is not easy to fall asleep during the day. i follow a three hour gap between naps which basically makes the first nap around 11am and second around 3pm. each nap is of 1h15 - 1h30 max and that has helped establishing the night routine. this and also a bottle/food schedule every 3h30-4h starting at 9am (excluding the early morning one). so it goes 9, 1pm, 5pm and 8:30pm give or take. Hope this helps anyone
Haha 😅 my 9mo wakes up at 2 for a change/feed pretty regularly. He's getting over rhino virus and rvs atm. So hes pretty sleepy for 3 70-90 minute naps during the day, and going to bed at 7pm. If he wakes up earlier and cant self settle i just rock him until he gets back to sleep. If he wakes up after, before 6am, and doesn't self settle, i rock him again. Once hes feeling better ill drop the afternoon nap
I literally follow everything you described, Emma, but my 11 mos old still wakes up at 5 am. I feed him and then he goes back to sleep within 30-45 mins and i end up sleeping in his room till he wakes up at 8 am. I just go to bed early to get my sleep
Hi! Do you have advice for toddlers' parents? My daughter is an active baby and getting her to fall asleep is very very difficult. I have been advised to let her be in a dark room and she'll eventually fall asleep. But I am usually short on time. And I made the mistake of helping her fall asleep, and now she needs my help to fall asleep. And I can't let her be because I have an infant who needs me to get her ready for bed and everything. So, how do I get my toddler to fall asleep faster, and independently. I do take her out for a little exercise, but she needs more of that but she has to do other things on time to have time for outdoor games. Like eating. She is frustrating at lunch table as well. So what do I do, please?
If my baby wakes up at 5:30, and I try to get him back to sleep without success until 6:15, and then finally starts our day at 6:15. From what time should I start the clock for his first awake window? 5:30 or 6:15?
I am going through this with my nearly 1 year old. She wake’s somewhere between 5-6 am and we leave her for about 30 minutes as she doesn’t cry but just babbles to herself. Sometimes she goes back to sleep often I have to go in and feed her and change her nappy and then put her back in bed awake and she falls back asleep until a much more reasonable wake up time. I don’t talk to her and I have a very dim night light on so I can see. We are trying to extend her wake up to at-least 6 am. Is this a good approach?
I love your videos, Emma, and learn so much!! One suggestion is you might consider using stock footage of babies and parents of different skin colors. Most if not all clips are white people.
Thanks for sharing ma'am. Please any further way of my bby sleeping on his back because he prefers to sleep on his stomach .whenever I try to change his position of sleeping pattern he wakes for the day.
My baby always woke up and cried like she had had a nightmare. It was impossible for me and my husband, who are first-time parents to determine when we could actually NOT come in and soothe her. Now she's 19 months and still waking up 3 times per night :(
Hello Emma, thanks for this video. My baby is now 5 months ans half, he was used to sleep all night long (9pm to 7am) but since one week, he awakes at 4-5 and I think because he's hungry. I fed him last night and he ate like half of his normal quantity and fell asleep again until 7am (our alarm clock). There is any chance to make him sleep until at least 6-6.30 and feed him at this moment? We started weaning two weeks ago with dinner at 7.30pm and full bottle of milk ad 9, just before sleep. Thanks!!!
Hi Emma, thank you so much for the tips! My 7 months old wakes up at 5 and after 1 h of awake time wants to sleep again. He usually sleeps 4h during the day. What should I do?
Hi Emma, thanks a lot. This is exactly what I need. I actually want my LO to wake up after 6:30am. Is it okay to leave her in her bed until that time? She's always crying in the morning time when she wakes up.. Is it okay to let her 'cry out' until she falls back asleep?
Leaving her in bed is one thing, but letting her cry no. By letting a baby cry it out you only teach your baby they can't depend on you and they are on their own abandoned. Which has nothing to do with self-soothing. Comfort that baby, they need us and won't understand why mum or dad are not coming to help. You can look up all the negative effects of crying it out and see for yourself. Apart from that I'd never be able to bear and let my LO cry on purpose without trying to console her, that'd break my heart. Really don't understand how anyone could do that and I am a high sleep needs person so it's not like I don't know how hard it can be with night wakings.
Hello Emma, My daughter is 6month old, she sleeps 9 hrs in night but she takes only 2 naps of approx 40mins in day. How should I increase her sleep? Does sleeping less will affect her Brain development? Is this possible that her in built sleep pressure is low?
I had the same problem, but if the room is dark and right for the sleep, I tried to wait about 10 min for my baby to fall back a sleep...of course she tried to cry and everything, but because she was still tired, especially at the first nap, she than gave up and fall back asleep by herself ( 10 min won't kill anybody;) ) ...alternatively i breastfeed back to sleep. Good luck
Once again a great video. But I am a bit confused. Some people say you should do all you can to soothe a baby and babies don’t get spoiled. But also you say that we should not help them a lot with getting back to sleep so that they learn to do it independently. So in the end what should we do?
There are two different schools of thought: one promotes sleep training and the other promotes helping baby get to sleep and allowing them to learn naturally over a developmentally normal time period. Some people think sleep training is damaging, others don’t. Of course, if you do sleep train you shouldn’t do it before baby is four months old. We tried Ferber and I couldn’t do it; I felt like it was damaging to baby’s mental state and I don’t see how babies can learn to sleep when they are in a state of hysteria. We then tried a more gentle method where I would go in after 30 seconds, then a minute, two minutes and then three (never more than three). This helped somewhat and it is easy to put my son down drowsy but awake now, but I’m not sure I would do it again. There are still times when he needs the extra love and affection, like when he is sick or teething, and at the end of the day, babies don’t keep. It also never helped with waking up during the night - He is a heavy wetter and often needs one or two changes, and he also still has one middle of the night feed. I expect he will continue waking until he is ready to night wean, and although it is difficult, I am okay with it. It is developmentally normal for him to do soand he won’t be a baby/toddler forever. I would recommend researching both schools of thought and doing what you think is best for your child and your family.
Note to add: we only really tried sleep training because we had to send him to daycare and we knew it would make it easier for him to nap if he could already self-settle since most daycares seem to expect them to do this. Though it isn’t my preference I recognise you need to do what you have to when there are four babies to every one carer.
It really comes down to choosing your battles… you can’t spoil a NEWBORN but you can definitely spoil a child. You really have to know where your child is at, developmentally speaking. 😅
My baby doesn't sleep 9 hours at night. He'll sleep maybe (if I'm lucky), from 8pm to 11pm then midnight to 3 am, then 4 am to seven am. On average. So I guess that is 9 hours of nighttime sleep, more or less. Last night however, he was awake from midnight to 4am, and that happens often that he'll be awake for a really long time. I wonder what's wrong?
Emma- your videos are so relevant and helpful! Thank you for sharing another great video just as I’ve been struggling with early morning wakings. I was also wondering, is it possible to make a video talking about how to get your baby allow your to brush their teeth? My baby is very resistant to me even putting the toothbrush in her mouth and I thought “I know Emma would have some great tips for making it fun for the baby and not a fight!” I am trying to keep it positive and not turn it into a fight also.
Thanks! So glad you're finding them helpful 😀. I hope this one helps with the early wakes! Haha that is a great suggestion. It's something I'll consider doing! I've already got a big backlog of videos prepared and ready to record before I give birth in October so I can't promise anything in terms of timing though 😀
@@EmmaHubbard how exciting the due date is approaching soon! An early congrats to you. I can imagine what a busy time this is right now. I’ll keep an eye out for a possible tooth brushing video at some future time. Until then I’m sure I’ll enjoy many more excellent Emma Hubbard videos in the meanwhile. 😃
I haven't started brushing my little ones teeth yet but will soon. One thing I find with my almost 1 year old is that he is easier to do things to -like nappy change, getting into pram or car seat, getting dressed, ect - when he originally doesn't want to comply by singing silly songs I just make up on the spot. Trying to make normal things a bit silly & fun tends to make them much more doable for us & I imagine teeth time will probably be the same. Another thing I would think is I will brush my teeth as well at the same time as babies love to mimic what we are doing. One last thing I have seen are little brushes you put on your finger which seem interesting. I imagine sticking a finger in their mouth would be far easier then angling the brush around.... & again wiggling it like a little finger puppet or something while singing might be funny for them.
Loving your videos Emma! Just as a bit of feedback, the many unsafe sleep spaces featured in your video make me a bit uncomfortable. Would love for the recommended safe spaces to be featured instead so that pillows, blankets, soft mattresses etc. aren’t normalised.
I have done all these for months and my baby still wakes early. It's also a hormonal thing... sleep hormones. With babies they can drop too much between 4 and 6. This is what a sleep consultant told me.
Here up at high latitude we need to be able to go to sleep when the sun is up and when you get up, also you go to sleep when the sun is down and wake up before the sun gets up. It might be got to learn this early. at midsummer the night is about 5 hours but at midwinter it around 18 hours.
My baby is 9month old and her sleep duration is less than 10hours at night and her nap times are shorter during the day like half an hour etc. Is it common?
Hi Pooja it really depends on lots of different things. Some bubs are happy with less sleep and some are not. If you find your baby is generally unsettled after a nap then she may need more sleep. It also depends on how many naps she is having during the day and how she is falling asleep. If she requires help to fall asleep (like a dummy, a feed, rocking etc) then she is more likely to wake after napping for 30 minutes because this is the length of a sleep cycle. Did you manage to download the New Parent's Guide to Naps PDF? In this PDF I outline what you can generally expect at each age.This might be a helpful resource.
Hello Emma, your videos have helped me through out my babys journey,he's nine months now but he is not gaining weight properly and hates solids....please help me out
Hi Lydia, it's so nice to hear you have found these videos helpful. As a parent it is always difficult if the little one dislikes having solids. In this video I cover some tips on how to help babies enjoy eating solids: ua-cam.com/video/XfB3rUjFWvI/v-deo.html. Hopefully it helps! If these tips don't work, then I recommend you pop into a pediatric speech pathologist who specialises in feeding. They will be able to assess why your little one is disliking solids and give you specific recommendations to help.
emma i needed this! i’ve been dealing with early morning wakings with my toddler as well as going through a sleep regression and it’s been rough! thank you for the helpful information! Do you have any sleep training videos?’💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
If your baby wakes up early in the morning, try delaying their bedtime. Easy. 7pm is too early to expect a baby to go to sleep. Ideally, both of you go sleep at around 10 or 11pm.
Thanks for watching! Is your little one waking too early? Don't forget to get your free New Parent's Guide to Naps here: brightestbeginning.com/nap-guide/.
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I feel lucky. My little guy wakes up early because my husband wakes up for work at 4 and is too loud in the house. But my little guy goes right back to sleep after a snack and a diaper change. And he will stay asleep til 9 or 10 after. And I go right back to sleep too. I feel blessed.
Your videos have been so helpful throughout this year for me as a new mum. Thank you 😊
Happy to help!
I literally do all these things and my 16 months old daughter still wakes up at 5.30am... so I have found a "solution": I go to bed earlier 🤣
Same here
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Does it really work? I’m desperate my baby is 17 months
yuppp still brutal though lol
Thank you for this very helpful video. Is there already video about how to teach a baby to fall asleep independently? I don't know how to do it. Thanks 🙏
I read ‘Babywise’ it helps with getting a good routine with feeding sleeping and nap times and a few other things too
Becca campbell sleep training program.
Thank you 🙂
I found the practical tips in The Gentle Sleep Book by Sarah Oakwell-Smith really helpful.
Wait it out...
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My girl from the day 1 wokes up the same time I will...So about 9 -10 o'clock in the morning 😁 She is 19 months now
My 7.5 month old wakes every 2hrs no matter what I do. He's been like this for months 😩 I no longer have to nurse him back to sleep every time, sometimes he falls back asleep as soon as I cuddle him, but if I leave him to go back to sleep himself he gets upset and cries (and I'm not letting him cry it out)
I'd love a video that explains how to get your child to sleep independently! My baby is 18 months and we started co-sleeping when she was 10 months old, it was supposed to be temporary after we moved house, but now I can't get her out of my bed! She wants to fall asleep with us, but I can tell our stirring causes her to stir which prompts us to hand her her pacifier. Before we coslept she would wake up half way through the night and cry endlessly in her crib until I rocked her back asleep and I often fell asleep in my recliner while holding her. I'm now pregnant again and really want good sleep before baby #2 and beyond that I don't want to make the same bad habits for baby # 2. Please help!
Hello Julia,
you can train your child to go to sleep without you - but it needs some time.
What you can do:
- a bedtime ritual (for example a little prayer or a little song) and then you can give the child a kiss and say Goodnight.
- the room should be dark
- not too many words and excuses and explanations. Use short sentences and always the same words to explain the situation
- Trust the child (and God) that your baby can learn this in a few days or weeks
- Use white noise to get the child to sleep (for example you can play the sound of the vacuum cleaner. There are some videos with this sound on UA-cam)
- You can give the child a piece of clothing that smells like you (for example your t-shirt that you have worn)
- Don't panic when your child cries and wants you to come. You wait maybe half an hour and let the child try to fall asleep by himself / herself. Then you go to his / her bed and repeat the sentence you have said to the child: "Now it is time to sleep. I wish you a good night." (or something like that). You smile at the child, wave your hand and then leave again calmly.
You repeat this every half an hour or every hour (until the child sleeps).
And after a few hours or days or weeks the child learns to sleep at his / her own.
@@ZuerstJesus I'm not sure what god has to do with my baby learning how to sleep? Isn't he busy with other more important things with all the other civilizations across the multiverse?
The book "Precious Little Sleep" is a very good resource you should check out for a good guide on sleep management, though, aside from god's assistance, many of the previous commenter's points were valid
@@gw6667 Each little step and all the big things are important for God:
"Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows."
(Luke 12.6-7)
Omg I didn’t know white noise machines were above the safe noise levels and were risky!! First time I hear about this and my baby’s already almost 4 months 😓😓. Thank you so much for sharing! I hope I didn’t cause him hearing issues
I never knew that either and both my boys had loud sound machines. So far their hearing is fine after checkups.
@@annarocha3254 oh thank God.
Any recommendation on that independent sleeping without the cry it out approach?
Sear Emma, we tried everything but nothing works. After seeing your video I was like o yes please but guess what
.. movineven just 10 min. The feeding time or bed time... he comes earlier! And even when I try to leave him in bed till wake up time he screams like crazy. Even if we are in the room with him he won't calm down and still be shouting as if God nows what... this is so frustrating and we are so tired. Especially to hear parents like " oh our baby sleeps every night trough and till 8 am" 😠 😡 😤
I wached so many chanels about this topic, and this one is far better then any other. Thank you so much for evry video you make 💓
Do you think maybe you can make a video how to remove feeding habits during the night. My baby is 16 months old and still waking 1 or 2 times per night to eat
Again thank you soooooo much 💖
Thanks so much!❤️
Also thanks for the video suggestion. Hopefully I can do this video topic soon!
Thank you 💓
Wow wow wow, thank you so much Emma for this video. I have watched your videos since giving birth in 2020. I don't have my mum with me, so you were really there for me through your videos. Thank you so much, you are awesome!!!
Thank you so much for the kind words! I’m so glad my videos have been helpful 😀
Cannot download the sleep guide. The download button on the site isn't doing anything :(
Do you have any tips to help the baby fall asleep independently? I find it very hard to do for my baby..
Thank you so much for this tip Emma. But how do I train my baby to fall asleep on his own?
I am so impressed with your video editing. Can you tell me what program you use, and especially what transitions package you use too? LOVE IT!
Hi! Sorry I don't know the answer to this question as we have video editors who do this for me. Glad you like them though!
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I see! Who’s we? Is this channel a part of an organization?
@@MommyAnswerLady our company
Just a week ago my 11.5 m old started waking at 11pm and 3-5am.
He goes to sleep at 7pm wakes for the day at 7:30am, usually. He usually only wakes at 1-3 am for a bottle. He only naps at daycare 1-2 hours total. So he should have enough sleep pressure to go back to sleep but doesn't.
I put him to bed awake and he puts himself to sleep, even in the middle of the night after a bottle. His hunger is waking him and keeping him awake but he "shouldn't" need to eat in the middle of the night any more.
So nothing makes sense
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Why shouldn't he need to wake to eat? I know adults who still have to wake for a drink or something to eat at night. My daughter is 17 months old and wakes every 1-3 hours to breastfeed.
Hi my 15 month old seems to wake up crying several times at night especially when she sleeps in her own room. She’ll sleep better when she’s in my bed. I need help
Your teenager (15 years old) needs you to fall asleep, seriously? 😱
@@veronikah1 thanks for pointing it out. I obviously meant month not year but I fixed it already
Mine falls asleep independently without an issue, but I feed her to sleep at 1am and 3am, and we are of course dealing with the issue you are describing here. I'm not sure she's actually hungry. SHe is 6 months and very heavy. I think she's waking up out of a habit. I'm not sure how to go about it but I certainly don't want any more 5am wakes.
My baby goes down at 7pm & is wide awake around 5am
Is her bed time too early ??? Her last night is around 4.45 till 5.30
Should I extend her wake window before bed ?
She wakes at 3.40 then again before 5am
What about early waking while teething? Is there anything I can do to help?
Hi Emman, how can one train a baby to sleep on his own? My baby is two months old.
I work second shift so baby and I goto bed around midnight and he sleeps right through 6am no problem, but wakes up at 8-9am which is early morning for me cuz I don’t need to be awake for work until noon lmao
My problem is that our 10-month-old doesn't cry, she shrieks, like a horror movie shriek. She sleeps in her crib next to our bed. My boyfriend gets up for work at 5:30 and his alarm often wakes her up. Our 3-year-old's room is adjacent to ours and the only way to not wake him up is to take her downstairs 😩 Any tips? When she was just born it was kind of cute because back then it was just this cute squeak, like a little dolphin. But she's definitely found her voice over the past few months and her scream is deafening...
Any thoughts or comments regarding an early morning poop and how to maintain a regular schedule? My 10 month old has been pooping every single morning at 5am for the last month. I usually change his diaper and put him back down, but it leads to consistent crying until I get him out of the crib at 7 AM, which is our desired awake time. He usually gets anywhere from 2.5 - 3 hours of nap sleep and about 35 ounces total in 24 hours.
Dear mam, my baby is 4 n half months now. He sleeps night well less waking only.. Could you please tell me how many hours a baby usually need sleep during daytime. What happens if baby not sleeps during daytime? Is that important for their growth,?
Are there any studies supporting these claims, or is this your personal opinion? Seriously asking as the works of Remo H. Largo as an example are based on a lot of research and never make such absolute claims.
My baby is 4 months old he wakes up after eveery 3-4 hours at night for feed ..
I just want to sleep uninterrupted..
Please share guidance..
Hi Madiha! Unfortunately it is normal for babies to wake up during the night for 1-2 feeds at night when they are 4 months of age. With time your little one will stop needing the night time feeds and sleep through!
@@EmmaHubbard thank you for your kind response
I have a 20 month old who sleeps around 8pm and still wakes up to feed at 0330 am and then wakes up at 0600 hungry again. Is this normal. She eats an hour before bed and tops up with milk just before bed. Will she outgrow the early morning feeds and sleep longer? 😭
Any advice for weaning off a pacifier? LO sleeps great first half of the night but second part of the night needs us to replace his pacifier a couple times to fall back asleep
Get dreamland weighted sleeping sack❤
Hey! Just wondering about babies circadian rhythm’s/ melatonin production. I thought I watched an older video of yours where you said that doesn’t actually affect babies? Does this only apply to newborns?
Hey Shel, in newborn's their sleep is driven by sleep pressure. Their circadian rhythm is not mature enough at this point. It doesn't really become mature until 5/6 months of age. That is why at 5/6 months babies generally develop a more predictable routine. Hope that makes sense!
Yes thank you! Binging all your newborn videos atm. Your tips and suggestions have been so helpful 😊
In these modern times, parents have you workand our babies will be sent to child care. we can't control this. Sadly....
Hi Emma, my husband and I are going to be adoption a baby. Is there a way that I can still download the guides, even though we don't know the date of birth yet?
Hi Rachel, that's wonderful! Yes, you can absolutely still get them. Just enter a rough guess in terms of the date for now. It doesn't have to be accurate at all. If you find later that I'm sending you tips that aren't relevant to your little one you can just reply to any of those emails with their birthdate and we can update it for you :)
My 2month old baby takes 30seconds nap and is ready to conquer 5hours of wake time 💪🏽
😂 sounds like your little one is keeping you busy.
Hello Emma,
thank you for this video.
My little one (almost 5 months) keeps waking up between 5 and 5:30 in the morning. We do keep him in the dark bedroom until 6 but he needs his first nap at 7 then. Following the second step in your video, would we have to push his first nap then by an hour as his desired wake up time would be 6?
My son has always been so easy. We were tought how to deal with naptime when he was born. he's 18 months and sleeps 12 hours at night and about 2-3 during day.
Tips pleaseeee?
@@Dumogu2031 I don't think I can tell you anything you already know. Be predictsble. Always have the same routine before bed. Like in the evening we put on his pyjama, then we brus his teeth while he watches a cartoon.then we put him in his bed and read a story. And after that I tell him what we will do tomorrow. I finish with a good night,sleep well. Never ask your kid if he's going to sleep well. That apparently leaves options and is confusing for a kid. tell your kid sleep well.
Does Emma have any videos or suggestions on how to get your baby to fall asleep independently? Her point is well taken, but incomplete without further discussion on her part. Also, at what age can a baby be taught to fall asleep independently?
I found waking up at 5am was nice and helpful. It made me feel like I have so much that I can accomplish during the day. I’m saying this knowing that baby went to sleep at 7pm so she got solid ten hours of sleep. Yes, baby does want to take a early nap by 8am or 9am, which is fine. I’m not sure why waking up early is bad. It feels natural. As a mother, I’m an early riser too, so maybe that is why it doesn’t bother me. Obviously, I try to go to bed by 9pm myself so I’m getting enough sleep hours. I also worked night shift for four years in my twenties so my stamina and endurance for intermittent or unconventional sleep is high.
Maybe it is considered as "bad" because for most people 4 am is the middle of the night and they cannot function properly when they wake up sooo early.
I guess all these "bad habits" are a matter of preference really. You should go with what works for you and the baby. :) Most of these videos' target audiences are working parents who have to plan their schedule around their work but I am just guessing.
I have 2 kids one toddler that doesnt find into sleep early but sleeps long and a baby that falls asleep quickly but wakes up early. Doing all my kidsfree chores after toddler is asleep means I am working until 10pm. So waking up with my baby at 5 means a total of 7h sleep. IF i find into sleep right after cleaning.
I need a more synchron sleep pattern for my kids..
Early mornings was 6 o'clock with my boys. I do not think it was because of a habit. I have twins and I always fed them at the same time, they slept at the same time and still, one of them waked 2-3 hours earlier than the other one. As hard as I tried to make then wake up at the same time, it didn't work. Now they're 4.5 yo and still one of them tends to wake up earlier ( not 6 anymore) and the other tends to sleep longer. And they are put to bed at the same time.
I would love to know what to do when you’ve done the wrong thing and created an early morning pattern already 😂…? If they wake early do you push them stay awake and nap when they “should” have if they’d slept in, or do you put them down for a nap when tired?
Not even 20 nor planning to create a family, this just seems generally usefull to know
My 3-month old was falling asleep around 10PM and had 1-2 wake ups until 9AM, so like 10 to 5, 5 to 9 (we have blackout blinds so it's still fairly dark in the room until the curtains are opened). I'm quite happy with that bedtime and wake up time and if I'm understanding the sleep guide properly, it should be developmentally appropriate as it's about 10-11 hours of sleep.
She is going through a sleep regression right now where she's waking up more often though :( Still following the same bedtime and wake up time, but more frequent wake ups. She falls back asleep easily enough, so she's still getting at least 10 hours, and sometimes she falls back asleep on her own, but I can't wait for this regression to pass because we're in the same room and she's so NOISY when she's self soothing back to sleep! So regardless of whether she needs help or not, I still have to wake up lol.
Thanks so much for sharing! I agree babies can be so noisy! Luckily I can sleep through anything but my husband finds it challenging!
So do you let the baby cry it out if he or she wakes up before let’s say 3am?
is this applicable to 2 month old babies? I was under the impression that you should always let babies sleep during the day when they want to sleep at this age. Is that true? My baby doesn’t sleep for long periods of time often anymore during the day, but he does take lots of short naps.
I’d love some advice! My baby goes down at 7pm (12 months old) and usually wakes for the day at 6am (often wakes at 5 and I ignore it, she goes back down and will sleep another 1-1.5 hrs). I’d love it if she’d wake at 7 or 7:30am - how do I achieve this? I find that if I put her to bed later, she still wakes at the same time. Is there an incremental way to do it or something? Thanks!
My 18 month has maybe slept through the night 10 times. How do i fix that. Even with no nap all day and up at 7 am and asleep at 930 pm
Thank you for a helpful video Emma! :) If the baby goes down for bedtime at 7PM, is it not natural to want to wake up at 6AM since they have had their 10-11 hours by then?
My baby wakes up at 4 or 5 pm BUT i feed her and put her right back to her bed, dont speak with her, no eye contact, very dimmed light and its a 100% success bc everytime she falls back asleep till i wake her up at around 7 pm❤😊
Thank you for the video! One question: my 11-month-old starts waking every hour, so 5, 6, 7 and 8, when he finally wakes up. Usually he nurses a little and goes back to sleep.
We live next to a very busy road, but he sleeps on the opposite side of the house. Is the traffic waking him up or is this normal, like you say at the end?
Hi @maybug88 when you say 5, 6 7 and 8 do you mean in am or pm?
@@EmmaHubbard Oh, sorry, AM :)
Same! Mine is 12 months and we just started daycare. He sleeps there from ~12 to 2pm. He falls asleep at night around 7 or 8 pm and he sleeps well until 4-5 am when he starts waking up a lot until I actually wake him up at 7 am...
My 5 month old does exactly the same. I really hope Emma replies!
Thanks for this great info. Would love more info about helping a baby to soothe themself back to sleep
1:44 Neither of my children were even close to that matrix. My 8 month old has yet to sleep more than 6 hours through the night. She only gets 2-3 hours total for naps during the day. She's still being breast fed so I can't even really help my wife during the nights where she'll just stay up from 2-4am. The good thing is, she's extremely happy when she's awake.
My dad said something that helped me when my first would wake up at night like that. So happy but wide awake! He said, well if she’s happy, just let her be! And he was right 😅 I didn’t need to be up with her for an hour if she wasn’t upset. If she was fed and changed, she was content to just coo away in her crib by herself. It turned out to be a weird short phase 🤷🏻♀️
so what should we do...my little one 9mo wakes up at 5 am almost every day. so i keep her in that darkness, ok, i can do that. but do i force her awake sooner from a nap? how long should they nap for max in your opinion. because on that rare day that my little one doesnt wake at 4/5, so she wakes more at like 6/7 am, no matter what , she is always awake 2 hrs and wants to go to sleep. she cries, rubs eyes, yawns, and gets really irritated if she doesnt get that nap. how do you force them to stay awake 4-5 hrs ? idk what to do with daily naps in that regard
But not at fucking 3am
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My 10 month old sleeps 7:30-7:30 and I have you wake her.
During the day she sleeps 9:30-10:30 & 1:30-3:30p
Hi Lindsey that's great!
Did you train her?
Hi Emma and everyone. Our little one is 12 months old now and he falls asleep around 10:30 pm and wakes up in the morning around 9-9:30am (I know, it's late, but it works for our household as I work 8am-8pm and I cook the food for everyone, then give him a bath, lullaby and put him to sleep). However, he still wakes up twice-thrice and won't go back to sleep until I feed him milk, 6-7 oz each time. He eats well solids during the day, but the night he seems to be still hungry for milk, and the pacifier is not enough. Any help? Thanks!
Try to give water instead of milk. Or give him the amount of milk he drinks at night during the day. Normally Babys tend to wake up more often during the night when they didn't get the amount of milk they needed during the night. That's why BF mamas wean the babys too early because they are exhausted of waking 10 times at night and during the day the BF only 3 times. Babys will need an amount of milk in 24h and when you don't give it during the day, they will wake up during the night for it. But if this still doesn't work put water instead of milk. If the baby has teeth already it's not good at all to give him a bottle during night ---> because decay! The milk spills all over his teeth when he drinks it. With BF Babys it's not the same because the breast goes way back in Babys through and he swallows the milk immediately and nothing comes on the teeth. ( I'm a dentist and did this year a course in early childhood caries)
@@angheldee6562wow thanks for the info! Very useful! ❤
The guides on her website dont work for me when i click the links 😢
Hi! If you'd like to drop my team an email at support@brightestbeginning.com they'll help you out.
Haha! No, they’re inevitable! We have one child who sleeps in but the other two will wake at the same time every morning no matter how late they stay up, and we have black out curtains, white noise, they’re independent sleepers, etc. We just generally consider ourselves to be in an “earlier time zone” and deal with it until they’re old enough to wait for their clock to turn green
Why did you only just come out with this video!!! 😂
well my 6mo old has started to wake up earlier after her first teeth came out a month ago and that is waking up at 4-5am instead of 6-7 am (even later sometimes). so i just change and feed her next to her bed without fuss or turning on lights and tbh after her bottle she goes back to sleep until around 7:30 or 8am. I wouldn’t call this a first nap or should I?
I put her in bed for the night at 8:30pm after a last bottle of milk and she naps twice a day now which I trained her to do because she is not easy to fall asleep during the day. i follow a three hour gap between naps which basically makes the first nap around 11am and second around 3pm. each nap is of 1h15 - 1h30 max and that has helped establishing the night routine. this and also a bottle/food schedule every 3h30-4h starting at 9am (excluding the early morning one). so it goes 9, 1pm, 5pm and 8:30pm give or take. Hope this helps anyone
Haha 😅 my 9mo wakes up at 2 for a change/feed pretty regularly. He's getting over rhino virus and rvs atm. So hes pretty sleepy for 3 70-90 minute naps during the day, and going to bed at 7pm. If he wakes up earlier and cant self settle i just rock him until he gets back to sleep. If he wakes up after, before 6am, and doesn't self settle, i rock him again. Once hes feeling better ill drop the afternoon nap
I literally follow everything you described, Emma, but my 11 mos old still wakes up at 5 am. I feed him and then he goes back to sleep within 30-45 mins and i end up sleeping in his room till he wakes up at 8 am. I just go to bed early to get my sleep
Hi! Do you have advice for toddlers' parents?
My daughter is an active baby and getting her to fall asleep is very very difficult. I have been advised to let her be in a dark room and she'll eventually fall asleep. But I am usually short on time. And I made the mistake of helping her fall asleep, and now she needs my help to fall asleep. And I can't let her be because I have an infant who needs me to get her ready for bed and everything. So, how do I get my toddler to fall asleep faster, and independently. I do take her out for a little exercise, but she needs more of that but she has to do other things on time to have time for outdoor games. Like eating. She is frustrating at lunch table as well. So what do I do, please?
If my baby wakes up at 5:30, and I try to get him back to sleep without success until 6:15, and then finally starts our day at 6:15. From what time should I start the clock for his first awake window? 5:30 or 6:15?
I am going through this with my nearly 1 year old. She wake’s somewhere between 5-6 am and we leave her for about 30 minutes as she doesn’t cry but just babbles to herself. Sometimes she goes back to sleep often I have to go in and feed her and change her nappy and then put her back in bed awake and she falls back asleep until a much more reasonable wake up time. I don’t talk to her and I have a very dim night light on so I can see. We are trying to extend her wake up to at-least 6 am. Is this a good approach?
I love your videos, Emma, and learn so much!! One suggestion is you might consider using stock footage of babies and parents of different skin colors. Most if not all clips are white people.
Thanks for sharing ma'am. Please any further way of my bby sleeping on his back because he prefers to sleep on his stomach .whenever I try to change his position of sleeping pattern he wakes for the day.
my 9 months old keeps turning 90 degrees in his sleep and smacking his head in his crib and waking up every 2 hours; any tips?
My baby always woke up and cried like she had had a nightmare. It was impossible for me and my husband, who are first-time parents to determine when we could actually NOT come in and soothe her. Now she's 19 months and still waking up 3 times per night :(
My 5 month old doesn’t wake up very early in the morning bur she wakes up at 2-3 in the night and doesn’t want to go to sleep
My granddaughter wakes up at 4, takes her pillow and teddy bear, amd goes to sleep with her mom in her moms bed
Ok lets say it's the case and we have to rehabilitate the sleeping pattern that means that if he wakes up I have to leave him in bead even if crying?
Emma,thanks for the useful video.my baby is so much addicted to cradle.suggest me how to change it so that he will sleep in bed
My 11 week old will only contact nap during the day, how do I get him to sleep in his cot during the day?
Hello Emma, thanks for this video. My baby is now 5 months ans half, he was used to sleep all night long (9pm to 7am) but since one week, he awakes at 4-5 and I think because he's hungry. I fed him last night and he ate like half of his normal quantity and fell asleep again until 7am (our alarm clock). There is any chance to make him sleep until at least 6-6.30 and feed him at this moment? We started weaning two weeks ago with dinner at 7.30pm and full bottle of milk ad 9, just before sleep. Thanks!!!
Our nursery is small. Is there a decibel range you can recommend to measure from the crib?
Can you please let me know the safe level of white noise for continuous use?
Mine is under 2 weeks so there's no early or late haha just all over the place 🤪
Hi Emma, thank you so much for the tips! My 7 months old wakes up at 5 and after 1 h of awake time wants to sleep again. He usually sleeps 4h during the day. What should I do?
Hi Emma is it normal for 5 months old baby to sit
It looks like you know what topic we need. We just started to have problems with too early wake up 3 days ago.
Hi Emma, thanks a lot. This is exactly what I need. I actually want my LO to wake up after 6:30am. Is it okay to leave her in her bed until that time? She's always crying in the morning time when she wakes up.. Is it okay to let her 'cry out' until she falls back asleep?
Leaving her in bed is one thing, but letting her cry no. By letting a baby cry it out you only teach your baby they can't depend on you and they are on their own abandoned. Which has nothing to do with self-soothing. Comfort that baby, they need us and won't understand why mum or dad are not coming to help. You can look up all the negative effects of crying it out and see for yourself. Apart from that I'd never be able to bear and let my LO cry on purpose without trying to console her, that'd break my heart. Really don't understand how anyone could do that and I am a high sleep needs person so it's not like I don't know how hard it can be with night wakings.
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I normally wake up at 11am, how do I get my baby to wake up after me?
You can’t…. You actually have to wake up before 11 am, my guy.
Hello Emma, My daughter is 6month old, she sleeps 9 hrs in night but she takes only 2 naps of approx 40mins in day. How should I increase her sleep? Does sleeping less will affect her Brain development? Is this possible that her in built sleep pressure is low?
I had the same problem, but if the room is dark and right for the sleep, I tried to wait about 10 min for my baby to fall back a sleep...of course she tried to cry and everything, but because she was still tired, especially at the first nap, she than gave up and fall back asleep by herself ( 10 min won't kill anybody;) ) ...alternatively i breastfeed back to sleep. Good luck
@@sofiatryhub7106 Thank you dear. But I tried these too...it didn't worked
What do you mean treat it like a night time wake?
Just to treat it the same as you would if your baby woke at 11pm or 1am.
Thanks for always coming through for us ma'am Emma
Right from my week preggo
Now we are 4month month+
My twin are doing well😍😍
That is great news!
Once again a great video. But I am a bit confused. Some people say you should do all you can to soothe a baby and babies don’t get spoiled. But also you say that we should not help them a lot with getting back to sleep so that they learn to do it independently. So in the end what should we do?
There are two different schools of thought: one promotes sleep training and the other promotes helping baby get to sleep and allowing them to learn naturally over a developmentally normal time period. Some people think sleep training is damaging, others don’t. Of course, if you do sleep train you shouldn’t do it before baby is four months old. We tried Ferber and I couldn’t do it; I felt like it was damaging to baby’s mental state and I don’t see how babies can learn to sleep when they are in a state of hysteria. We then tried a more gentle method where I would go in after 30 seconds, then a minute, two minutes and then three (never more than three). This helped somewhat and it is easy to put my son down drowsy but awake now, but I’m not sure I would do it again. There are still times when he needs the extra love and affection, like when he is sick or teething, and at the end of the day, babies don’t keep. It also never helped with waking up during the night - He is a heavy wetter and often needs one or two changes, and he also still has one middle of the night feed. I expect he will continue waking until he is ready to night wean, and although it is difficult, I am okay with it. It is developmentally normal for him to do soand he won’t be a baby/toddler forever. I would recommend researching both schools of thought and doing what you think is best for your child and your family.
Note to add: we only really tried sleep training because we had to send him to daycare and we knew it would make it easier for him to nap if he could already self-settle since most daycares seem to expect them to do this. Though it isn’t my preference I recognise you need to do what you have to when there are four babies to every one carer.
It really comes down to choosing your battles… you can’t spoil a NEWBORN but you can definitely spoil a child. You really have to know where your child is at, developmentally speaking. 😅
My baby doesn't sleep 9 hours at night. He'll sleep maybe (if I'm lucky), from 8pm to 11pm then midnight to 3 am, then 4 am to seven am.
On average. So I guess that is 9 hours of nighttime sleep, more or less.
Last night however, he was awake from midnight to 4am, and that happens often that he'll be awake for a really long time. I wonder what's wrong?
This was really helpful, thank you
You're welcome!
Emma- your videos are so relevant and helpful! Thank you for sharing another great video just as I’ve been struggling with early morning wakings.
I was also wondering, is it possible to make a video talking about how to get your baby allow your to brush their teeth? My baby is very resistant to me even putting the toothbrush in her mouth and I thought “I know Emma would have some great tips for making it fun for the baby and not a fight!” I am trying to keep it positive and not turn it into a fight also.
Thanks! So glad you're finding them helpful 😀. I hope this one helps with the early wakes!
Haha that is a great suggestion. It's something I'll consider doing! I've already got a big backlog of videos prepared and ready to record before I give birth in October so I can't promise anything in terms of timing though 😀
@@EmmaHubbard how exciting the due date is approaching soon! An early congrats to you. I can imagine what a busy time this is right now. I’ll keep an eye out for a possible tooth brushing video at some future time. Until then I’m sure I’ll enjoy many more excellent Emma Hubbard videos in the meanwhile. 😃
I haven't started brushing my little ones teeth yet but will soon. One thing I find with my almost 1 year old is that he is easier to do things to -like nappy change, getting into pram or car seat, getting dressed, ect - when he originally doesn't want to comply by singing silly songs I just make up on the spot. Trying to make normal things a bit silly & fun tends to make them much more doable for us & I imagine teeth time will probably be the same. Another thing I would think is I will brush my teeth as well at the same time as babies love to mimic what we are doing.
One last thing I have seen are little brushes you put on your finger which seem interesting. I imagine sticking a finger in their mouth would be far easier then angling the brush around.... & again wiggling it like a little finger puppet or something while singing might be funny for them.
@@vtigzy Those are great ideas-- thanks for sharing!
Babies who are breastfed wake more often and that is 100% normal. And you want that not controlling when your baby wakes up.
Loving your videos Emma! Just as a bit of feedback, the many unsafe sleep spaces featured in your video make me a bit uncomfortable. Would love for the recommended safe spaces to be featured instead so that pillows, blankets, soft mattresses etc. aren’t normalised.
I have done all these for months and my baby still wakes early. It's also a hormonal thing... sleep hormones. With babies they can drop too much between 4 and 6. This is what a sleep consultant told me.
Here up at high latitude we need to be able to go to sleep when the sun is up and when you get up, also you go to sleep when the sun is down and wake up before the sun gets up. It might be got to learn this early. at midsummer the night is about 5 hours but at midwinter it around 18 hours.
My baby is 9month old and her sleep duration is less than 10hours at night and her nap times are shorter during the day like half an hour etc. Is it common?
Hi Pooja it really depends on lots of different things. Some bubs are happy with less sleep and some are not. If you find your baby is generally unsettled after a nap then she may need more sleep. It also depends on how many naps she is having during the day and how she is falling asleep. If she requires help to fall asleep (like a dummy, a feed, rocking etc) then she is more likely to wake after napping for 30 minutes because this is the length of a sleep cycle.
Did you manage to download the New Parent's Guide to Naps PDF? In this PDF I outline what you can generally expect at each age.This might be a helpful resource.
Hello Emma, your videos have helped me through out my babys journey,he's nine months now but he is not gaining weight properly and hates solids....please help me out
Hi Lydia, it's so nice to hear you have found these videos helpful.
As a parent it is always difficult if the little one dislikes having solids. In this video I cover some tips on how to help babies enjoy eating solids: ua-cam.com/video/XfB3rUjFWvI/v-deo.html.
Hopefully it helps!
If these tips don't work, then I recommend you pop into a pediatric speech pathologist who specialises in feeding. They will be able to assess why your little one is disliking solids and give you specific recommendations to help.
@@EmmaHubbard thank you
emma i needed this! i’ve been dealing with early morning wakings with my toddler as well as going through a sleep regression and it’s been rough! thank you for the helpful information! Do you have any sleep training videos?’💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
Sorry to hear that! I know it can be really hard. Hopefully this video helps 💜
@@iamwhoyousayiam6773 oh but i do rock her to sleep! it’s been rough
If your baby wakes up early in the morning, try delaying their bedtime.
Easy.
7pm is too early to expect a baby to go to sleep. Ideally, both of you go sleep at around 10 or 11pm.