Natural Hair Looks Good On You But Not Me - Really?
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Biggest excuse I hear front others for not going natural is the upkeep or they tell me they could never get their hair to look like mine. Usually referring to texture. Unfortunately there is still soooo much misinformation out there about natural hair despite the plethora of education available. People seem to focus more on their hair type than anything else.
A Love 4 Me yup! It’s weird that people are obsessed w texture. They also don’t want to accept that their texture isn’t looser. To me it all goes back to loving what was given to you...🤷🏽♀️
Absolutely. It usually comes down to texture or curl pattern. :(
Sadly hair type is a big issue for many naturals and something we may never overcome.
You would think sisters would run from the chemical straighteners etc with all of the damage it’s causing! Brands marketing off of our mishaps with growth aids and edge fixers etc. Embrace you...all of you!❤️
A Love 4 Me I agree. I think we all become so intimidated by what others think. I caught
more criticism about my hair from Black people.
I’ve learned that some people just don’t know their own beauty!
They really don't. We are a beautiful people.
KeeKeeWithSheShe Wow!!!! What a true statement
Absolutely true! Many women have said to me "I'd go natural if I had hair like yours." To which I reply "I didn't know I had hair like this until I went natural! "
So True!
I think women that says “Natural looks good on you & not me...” They really mean:
You have the confidence, motivation, skill and patience to remain natural.
Dearris Somler exactly!!
Dearris Somler NAILED IT!
So what if they don't want natural hair?
Natural hair doesn't look goos on everyone, it's true. It changes your entire look.
Just this weekend I was with my mom and aunt . My mom says aren’t you tired of that by now!! Mind you my sister, several cousins are natural bc of me. A couple of days later she and I are on the phone and she remarks how nice my nephews hair is (he is biracial) and I say to her your daughters and nieces have nice hair too to which she seemed stunned (that there is a fallacy in her thinking)and laughs it off. I think we are so entrenched with euro standards of beauty and what makes everyone else comfortable with us that embracing how you are wondrously made is challenging. I also think bc so few of us grow up not knowing anything about our natural hair that even appreciating how it looks is frightening. What sense does it make to have thin chemically treated hair? Um, none. But we have to have and appreciate our own beauty standards bf we can fully embrace ourselves or our crowns.
Solmom03 Totally agree 👊🖤
Sorry but there's no "thinking" about it. Black people are completely programmed to view eurocentric beaut as the best, and Afrocentric beauty at the very bottom of the bottom. Even though the natural hair movement put a dent in that, black people still gravitate more towards the type 3 hair over 4. It will take many decades to change this as it took many decades to get here. I am glad that now we can have these conversations, and hopefully we can be honest with ourselves.
Say it again for the people in the back!!
I agree that “natural hair” is not a style it’s what you are born with. What you do with it is styling. That being said, I do understand what she is saying. Since growing out my relaxer, I have had those same feelings. For me it’s a matter of head shape. I have an extremely high forehead. Wearing my hair relaxed allowed me to wear bangs to “hide” it. Understand that I was ridiculed my entire childhood about it people who saw it. I’ve even had adults point it out as if I hadn’t noticed. Smh. Wearing my hair natural has limited how far my hair hangs down which I feel is an unflattering look. Couple that with having fine, thin hair, I have few styling options. The back grows faster leaving me with a mullet shape. Adding to that, I’ve developed alopecia areata since being natural, which further limits my options and makes me wonder if I should relax again. So there are any number of reasons someone would say that it’s not for them. If you’ve had thick, fast growing hair, that you can do anything with, I can see why it would be confusing that someone else would not want to experience all the wonderful feelings about being natural. It’s easy to say learn to love what you have but not so easy to do.
mswtaz94 I had the same problems as you but knew I could never relax again. I decided to lock my hair and its the perfect natural hair for me!
carolouann Thank you for the response. I’ve considered that but my dermatologist doesn’t want me too right now. But I’m keeping it in mind!!
This is so relatable - as a young kid in school I was constantly teased and bullied because of my big forehead. I begged my mom to let me relax the front so I could get bangs and hide it. Thank God that as a young adult, I realized that if I was going to continue to hide forehead (and every other thing I didn't like about myself) there would be way too many things to do, haha haha. Surprisingly that helped me to change my outlook in life and just embrace myself as is :)
videosabia Good for you. We all could find something about ourselves that we would like to change, but our flaws make us unique and beautiful. Much love 😊
@mswtaz94 -THANK YOU!
I was wondering if anyone had been valiant enough to explain hair issues ( alopecia, hormones, hair growth patterns, etc)
which cause your hair to not be full.
It may appear as in the example you mentioned or flat. I wish that mine looked lovely and appealing when worn twisted, loose straighted out or washed and go NOWHERE!
We were born natural, sooooooo natural looks good on us all #JustMyTwoCents #IJS
Karla Butler 👏👏👏
It’s that simple lol
lormisha Exactly!!!!
VVDsoFXNCY inClubEskimo Yasssss Curlfriend!!!
That part!!!
Highly textured hair is a lot of upkeep and many curly women still do not want to take the time to take gentle care of their hair because it is too time consuming for them.
Elemental Forces Awakening You are right. It is very time consuming for me but I still love my 4C hair.
Elemental Forces Awakening It's all relative...because relaxed styles and weaves can also be very time consuming as well. Once you take an hour to an hour and a half to style it at the beginning of the week, then it's actually pretty low maintenance for therest of the week...
Not really...it is because we are still ovwe manipulate our hair.
We are trying to get rid of frizz! Our hair is frizzy.
I missed your videos .. glad to see you back. I have had this comments been made to me. I feel they are talking more about styling options and also maintenance of natural hair.
Awesome and very necessary content. My baby girl hair texture is very similar to yours and one Sunday at church the Pastor made that statement over the congregation that, “natural hair is not for everyone” and his daughter have type 3 hair and she’s close to my daughter and viewed her hair type better with assuming it’s true from the comment the Pastor made. After that comment my baby started hating her hair and wanting me to straighten her hair to look like the Pastors daughter hair. It was disappointing to hear that but more disappointing that he believes it. Along with me rocking my type 4 hair and showing her your vids it’s rebuilding her confidence. Thank you for sharing.❤️
Mila Kibibi might wanna get a new pastor and congregation...lol pastors out here doing this?
JustKenn lol, right? I think that might've been the last day I went to his church.
You should have walked out as soon as he said that!
I would have had some words. Starting with “Jesus’s hair was like lambs wool so I’m sure it wasn’t a type 3.” What does someone’s hair have to do with salvation?? 🧐🧐
On judgment day I would love to here the pastor say that statement to the Universal God.
Jenelle this is why I miss your channel, you give it to us straight, people are so uninformed about what being natural, if they would just stop and think we were born natural until we got introduced to relaxers, understood the damage that it could do and not decide to go NATURAL but go back to our NATURAL TEXTURE. If you don't think Natural looks good on you then you didn't like yourself from the beginning. I've gotten a lot of criticism from FAMILY about wearing my hair Natural, but I said who cares this is my hair, THANK YOU. WELCOME BACK
Girl tell it!
Doretha Mcelliott
Thank you.
I hate it when ppl say they can’t go natural like me. It means they don’t like my hair. My hair texture is 4c and they always say if I go natural I hope my hair is curly 🙄. I no longer give advice about going natural because it’s something they have to accept. I can’t guide the lost 🤷🏾♀️
I think they are jealous of your beautiful natural hair! I would never fix my mouth to say . "I can't do something" You can do anything you want to do! Natural hair is so beautiful, its so versatile. We can wear it straight, kinky, curly, twisted, braided, ponytail. Two strand twist, flat twist. The list goes on! LOL. Its the most healthiest hair ever created by GOD.
I have said this!! Now, I have done the big chop and refuse to think this way ever again. My natural is beautiful too!! I looked at the hairstyles instead of the NATURAL HAIR!
So many people think natural hair us trending and it's just "a thing" were going thru!! Everyone was born natural it's the hair god gave you any if you choose to rock your curly natural texture own it and let it be known!! #AllHairMatters
I totally agree with you. Some women are too afraid to take care of their hair because for them it is time consuming so they hide behind the “it doesn’t look nice on me” tag. I have heard this so many times
Love this video. #Facts
Going natural is not a hair style! I agree with this video.
I dislike hearing that natural looks good on me but not them. I be like, well have you even tried going natural and style your hair to see or get an idea. Don't knock it if you haven't tried it.
For me being natural is a lifestyle because it’s how I was born. It’s how my Creator created me. I don’t wear weaves or makeup. Everything is natural. People need to stop worrying about what everybody’s going to say and do what they feel is right for them. I feel free. I used to worry about what people say so I always wore those enhancements. But my Creator freed me. People are very judgmental and mean. I’ve had people say mean things right to my face (before being natural). As long as my Creator is pleased I will not care what people have to say. I think some women are scared to wear their hair natural because they don’t like their kinky hair. That’s why they say “ it looks good on you but not me”. Free yourselves! The people who run this world are evil. So they put poison in our food, clothing, drinks, air, hair and body products, etc. etc. So yeah those chemical services are laced with killer chemicals. Do your research. ✌🏽
klshufford God bless you
AMEN Sis ✊🏾
I totally agree. I always wonder why someone would prefer to put a harmful chemical on their hair and scalp, instead of just pulling out a flat iron. You can be a straight hair natural. Before I had a desire to really want to learn how to take care of my own hair in it’s textured state, I went to the Dominican’s every 2 weeks for a blowout and I never got heat damage. But if your goal is to always wear your hair straight, then that shouldn’t be a concern anyway. My point is, natural hair is more about your overall health than a hair style.
Joy Deja King I agree, overall health than a trend or hair styles. I too did the blowouts for a while until I transitioned from being a soldier.
id rather buy a straight yaki wig aint putting no flat iron my ma hair i worked so hard to grow no maaaammmm
Hi Jenell, I never comment but this video had me thinking for various reasons. I grew up in a all white city. We were the only blacks and my dad pastored an all white congregation. I thought my mom relaxed my hair for it to be more manageable but as I got older I think she did it because it was just the thing to do to fit in with the white culture. We already stood out as a family why make it any harder. Besides natural hair was always looked upon as not being put together or really unique. Not to mention when dating came around the young men said they liked a natural women but always leaned towards the women with the weaves and wigs and straightened hair. I never thought of natural hair in the way you have described it. I've been natural for 14 years but it was because I got healed from terminal cancer and the relaxer was forbidden. I've come to embrace my natural locs but it took some getting used to and a change of perspective on beauty. Real beauty has always been advertised with the black women and permed hair. I think people equate natural hair with fro,s and twists outs styles, as you mentioned. Anyway, just a thought. Thanks for the vid...Blessings
I agree with you. If you don't want to go natural without bashing natural hair. The World is big enough for all of us. Ijs
I'm so glad you cleared that up! Finally someone clarifies and addresses the importance of not getting your hair chemically processed for health reasons. I color my hair and I may decide to apply heat to it once in a while. I HATE when people say going natural doesn't look good on them. The majority of them say that although they haven't even tried going natural. So that to me is just mere ignorance. It hurts to hear a woman with course hair say those things when we both know that's the way your hair grows out of your skull!! Body shaming at it's core.
First of all your hair is beautiful. I've been natural for 3 years now. I get a lot from people saying my hair is too nappy to go natural. Are they ask why you went natural and they just touch my hair. I say no it will get frizzy and they say it's already frizzy. I love being natural I wear so many styles and straighten on special occasion. Me and my daughters are natural and we don't have any regrets.But at times I really feel judge because we decided to go natural.
Shine Naturally continue to disregard what others think and feel! It's wonderful that you both have the confidence to wear your God-given hair texture. Keep your heads held high.
The only people who can do that to me is family. 😂😂 touch my hair, you getting touched too
When it comes to pwople touching my hair i refer to Samson and Delilah. I be like back all the way up
Shine Naturally The same people that are judging you are more than likely the same people who say only God can judge them, when they are doing what THEY want to do. So you have the same mind set, only God can judge you, after all HE is your creator. Be blessed.
Black women should be celebrated no matter how we choose to wear our hair. I used to hate when people would tell me that if they had hair like mine, they’d go natural. Or, I’d hear that natural doesn’t look good on everyone. I’ve since had a shift in my perspective. Who are we to dedicate someone’s experience in their own skin. Everyone has the right to move through in the matter that suits them.
I’m retired, I workout a lot, I’ve never liked fussing over my hair. My Afro suits my lifestyle
I haven't had a relaxer since May 11th, 2013 however I have had my hair flat ironed 3 times since going natural and my hair reverted immediately and I mean it doesn't stay straight no matter what so this might be why some prefer relaxers over flat ironing 🤷🏾♀️ Not me tho. I'm loving this natural hair life 😊
That sounds like my hair. My hair will revert at the slightest hint of moisture in the air. I have to check the weather reports before I decide whether or not to wear a flat ironed style. I only flat iron my hair when the humidity and the dew points are very low.
Yes. I consciously made the decision that when I went natural, I would not be straightening my hair often, if at all. Because the amount of heat required to get my hair straight is no joke. It is much less of a process when dealing with relaxed hair. I can't just be out here in the summertime with my straight hair... doesn't work! It just reverts like POOF!
I don't straighten my hair that often either. Only once or twice a year. If I do straighten, it's only during the winter months and only during very dry conditions.
Yes, she’s back... missed your presence🤗.
I love this video! I completely agree that natural hair does not equate textured styling! Thanks for clarifying this so eloquently! I don't like when people say that natural hair won't/doesn't look good on them! In my opinion and experience, the women who say that have not attempted a natural hair journey in their adult life OR they have, but didn't invest in educating themselves on THEIR OWN HAIR and because they were discouraged by the work involved in maintaining their natural texture, especially in the beginning, they have up! Again, this is why it's so important to not confuse natural hair with textured styling. God, the Creator, didn't just make you fearfully and wonderfully but mess your hair up. Lol. Your hair is perfect the way it was made! The styles you prefer are your prerogative though! Have fun with it, explore, express your individuality! Just understand that harsh chemicals are not necessary to make your hair look good!
"Going natural is NOT a hair style" so very true!!! I have been natural since 1999. I had a time in between that I thought having a relaxer was a better option because I was doing hot yoga often. What a mistake that was. As soon as I washed it out and looked in the mirror, it was an immediate regret situation. NEVER AGAIN. I have never straightened my hair with heat, only a soft blowout. Thank you for making this video!! Love your content as always!!!
Thank you girl tell it, I agree 💯 this is the truth natural is natural they are afraid to ware there hair natural worried about what people think. I find that people around me Black people tell me I'm brave to ware my hair natural. I say look how much my hair has grown, and their hair is falling out age range is 50-60 becaus they put chemicals in your hair breaks your hair off so some will go natural and some won't I'm proud of my natural hair I don't care what nobody says.
Your hair looks beautiful, very healthy!
Notification Squaaaad! Where you at!??!!?
BlakIzBeautyful I’m here I’m here 👍🏽
Interesting video. I have relaxed hair, for me it is bit easy to manage my hair that way. From 2017, I have been trying to reduce the amount of time I have my my relaxed. By Doing alot of braids. Had 2 relaxers last year in total. I haven't relaxed my hair as yet for 2018, but may do it later this month. Since managing my hair in its current state is a bit stressful for me. Haven't taught about going natural because of this reason.
I'm in here!
Would you consider wearing your hair straight with out the relaxer?
BlakIzBeautyful, I may not, cause I try to avoid using a lot of heat in my hair.
To me that 's like when people said African American natural hair is unprofessional but they don't sat that about other cultures
i Almost Married My Best Friend right! It amazes me that women in other cultures can be (or look like) who they were born to be....but not us?!
I sometimes wonder why women get relaxers when they stay weaved up. If you're weaved up, your hair isn't even showing, right? So why relax it? It's a much healthier option to let it be natural while under the weave, right?? #justwondering
They want their leave outs straight. And of course that can be achieved with natural hair.
Yes, of course! I was recently watching an episode of Bridezilla. For the majority of the video, the bride was wearing a wig or weave. I didn't know she was natural until she went to a salon to relax her hair and put it back under a wig or weave! I was like, "but why??" LOL
They straighten it so "the exposed hair", it can look "more beweavable". Still, it look just like is.. fake hair.
I don't give a. . . whew I caught myself. But I have lived long enough to know that you can't please everybody. If you relax your hair to please one group of folk, given time and fickleness, then they will want you to be natural. You go natural then they question why you aren't wearing a relaxer. I wear my hair the way I see fit to please me. I keep it clean and healthy. Anybody that don't like it. . . can go jump!!! Love your content. Keep it coming.
Your hair is everything!!!
I respect their choice.
I loved this. I agree 100%. Natural is a texture not a style. Manipulating said texture into a braid out, twist out or whatever is the style. I've never had anyone say that to me but if it ever happens I feel prepared to respond thanks to you ♥️
Thank you for talking about this subject & making a distinction being natural & wearing a natural hairstyle.
I have always had very thin eyebrows and my hair is very thick. Just saying... I can't imagine where she got the idea of thick eyebrows, thick hair. Lol
Anyway I agree many of us don't realize the versatility we are blessed to have with our hair. We can wear it silky straight, or use rods and have curls then wash it and get our kink back. We are fortunate to have so many options. For some of us change is not easy. Even when we know those chemicals are not good for us.
Arlene Gilmore me too head full of hair and thin eyebrows and eyelashes for me. It’s runs in certain women of my family.
I'm so glad you are back. Ive had several women to say to me natural is not for them. Mostly, they feel they will not be able to maintain it. A lot of women don't want to take the time to learn their hair and what works for it. So, they use the excuse of continuing to get relaxers as a way to maintain their hair.
Girl you couldn't have worded this video any better!!! I have a storytime for you but I need to email you....too long for comment section, lol.
Hurry up and email honey!
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Your new yawk accent is really poppin in this video!! LOL
good video.
Cheapnista when she started her rant it came all the way through lol
Lowkey I used to say "that would look good on you but not me" but now I don't because I realized it was something else keeping me from doing so. It was really about upkeep( which I realized isn't that bad) and not wanting look like a guy because of big chopping. What's funny is I have been natural now for a few years and I cut my hair very short😂 But people probably say that to avoid some type of internal fear that they haven't confronted about themselves, whether it be their type of hair, looking masculine, upkeep, etc. I'm going to say one thing though going to the salon all the time certainly takes more money than being natural unless you're a product junkie.
I've had that comment before. A longtime friend of my sister saw me in the store she works in and stated, oh you're natural? Girl your hair is looks nice but I just can't do it. I asked her why not? That's the way God grew it from your scalp, you weren't born with a relaxer. I honestly just think it's conditioning. We've been told all our lives that our hair is nappy, unattractive, and not Good Hair. I think some Sistas, if they don't have the looser curl pattern like a type 3 texture, they don't want to wear their hair because they feel it's unflattering. On the flip side, I've encountered a few women that wanted to go natural but their boyfriend and husband preferred their relaxed hair and wasn't supportive. Nothing wrong with being Natural or Relaxed, it's your choice, just be honest about it.
Thanku for taking the time to explain what being natural is...we have choices and preferences...relaxers never agreed with my hair but for others it's great...I flat ironed for years but got tired of worrying about frizzing and reverting...now I style what grows out of my head and I feel a sense of freedom I've never had b4...my only concern is keeping my hair healthy and I love it...never say you can't...try it cuz u might like it..I did!
I have been natural on and off for decades. There was a time when I loved to wear my hair straight, I relaxed it every two months like it was a religion. I loved the fact that I could swim and my hair wouldn’t be a hot mess.
I wore loc’s for 18 years and after my big chop in 2015, I’ve worn my natural hair in crochet styles. You gave me the courage to wear my own hair out, but I’ve only done that on a handful of occasions.
I would love to wear wigs because after years of wearing loc’s I’m too lazy to wear anything I have to style every day.
Black women have the most magical hair ever!!! From a fro to braids to curls to weaves to loc’s and yes, even flat ironed hair.
Just love yourselves ladies.
I believe that being natural is a way of life. When I decided to transition from a texturizer to natural, I became more conscientious of what I am putting into my body and on my body. I eat more natural/organic foods and I used more organic products from skin care to cleaning and laundry products. I still can't get with organic/natural toothpaste. :-) I do believe that some people equate natural hair with a hairstyle. Continue to keep up the great work and abundant blessings.
My girl! Been watching you for quite a while. And we are given great, and positive content from your videos. We are all now on a beautiful journey of refinement. Who would have dreamed we would be as educated as we are today? Not just hair but our culture in general. Thank you sooo much for all the help you continue to give. Im sooo proud of us all. And although we still have a lot to learn we are learning. That's the important thing. And no amount of 'negativity' will stop that from happening! (as we all can see)! So we keep loving ourselves no matter what, because God knows what is best for us all. Thank you guys so much!
👏Yes, overall health needs to be acknowledged. It is often ignored in the dialogue regarding hair care. In 2009, I was sure that I wanted the freedom to scratch my scalp without acquiring a chemical burn during the process. The potential of burns and photos of my grandmother with her afro gave me an incentive to tell my mother that for my birthday, I wanted no more perms! It wasn't until Chris Rock's movie, "Good Hair" that I realized how potent relaxers are! I wish we all knew sooner! 😲 Janelle, you are spot on with your assessment.
Notification squad, Breaux Bridge, Louisiana and yes I agree, they have to much info on having healthier natural hair and it versatility 😜😜😜!!!
So true, you hit the nail on the head. Thanks for sharing....
I was tired of wearing my hair straight to be mainstream I wanted to be natural not natural and straight but natural and kinky to be who I am my hair is a lifestyle to me not a hairstyle.
I totally agree with your points. I also feel women frequently admire texture and length when they admire natural hair. And relaxers require a little less maintenance from week to week. For women who live in warm climates or who exercise maintaining flat ironed hair could be a challenge.
Funny you posted this video i was just thinking yesterday that going natural meant wearing natural hair styles. My personal preference for hair styles is straight hair even though i Love a good twistout. I was fighting with myself because i wanted to be natural with straight hair. Then finally yesterday it dawned on me that just because i choose to wear my hair straight doesn't mean I'm not natural as long as its chemical free. Thank you for the video.!
I agree 100%! I get this comment made to me so often is frustrating. I'm like...why do you say that? The response...you got good hair etc! No ma am, I have healthy hair. That's is why I'm natural. Sorry to rant with you lol. I can't stand it.
Tell em!!!! Education!!! Thank you Girl!!!
I like your videos your hair always looks Great. I've been natural for 3yrs and it's been a struggle just maintaining my hair and I think its because I watch ALOT of videos like yours and my hair is not as thick. So you definitely will need the confidence to wear your natural hair. For me it's more Hair Envy mainly fullness that I lack. And it will cause you to want to "cover up" or continue to protective style. I like my free feel of my Natural hair once I get it shaped I think I will LOVE it! Based on your video I have an Appt with the Curl whisper... Keep the videos coming!!
I have said that to others. In fact every time I see a natural walking around with her big beautiful hair i always think how good it looks on her but i can't achieve the same. I recognise though that's it's me being unable to accept seing myself natural, rocking my big hair. I've always worn plants. As it happens i decided that I'm going to wear my hair natural and curly and I've used this Easter break to get used to it. Wish me luck. Thanks for this video x
Hi sweetie, oh my. ..... I feel soooo sad for our black women. We are soooo lost. I have been natural for 1 yr now, I did a second big chop. The first time, was 2012 I only lasted appx, four months because I saw a beautiful "relaxed" pixie cut style on UA-cam, and ran to the creamy crack. When I tell you my hair rebelled against me, I mean we were never enemies but, my hair was mad. I say this just to highlight in my opinion, our hair is definitely meant to be natural and to deviate from it will cause opposition. Health, thinning, breakage ect.) I have learned my lesson NEVER will I return to the creamy crack, but natural looks great on all of us, God gave it to us!!! and keep up the great dialogue I love you. I started watching in 2012 with the first big chop you helped me so much.
Jane ll I love your videos, and I agree with you, pple,tried to discarriage me from being natural and rocking my natural hair, but at the end of the day, it's my hair, I went natural for alot of reason, but when I was a.child growing up, my granny always told not to put chemical in your hair, but when I was in high school I got my 1st perm. I wish I could go back in time and change. But I been natural for 3yrs and I love it.
You are such a beautiful sistah and your hair is so healthy! I love your channel! And the whole "it looks good on you, but not me" is one of the saddest things I hear from women of color. It is sad that most of us were not raised to love, understand and take care of our natural hair. I love your content. Thank you for what you do :) ♥
This is awesome . I love my natural hair. So much healthier and thicken
Yay! You are back I hear that all the time and I just look 👀 like oh okay!
It could be the amount of time we think we need to spend on our hair if we were to go natural. I am natural, but I have 5 sisters and 4 of them are relaxed. They would also tell me they are afraid because of what the texture of their hair might be. I went natural around the same time you did, and from what I see from your videos we have similar textures, so watching your videos on products, helped me. And I was willing to research the ways to take care of my hair. And that goes back to the time issue. You can talk to you are blue in the face, but people have to want to do, is what I have learn. But don’t stop putting it out there, because you have people like myself who benefited a great deal from it.
This whole video is A+!!!!! Get understanding at 9:14. When people say natural looks good on me but not on them...I tend to agree with them. "You right. It probably won't. Only YOU can determine that." Chemically modified or Natural, unless you walk around with matty bed head, you are most likely to manipulate your hair before "going into the world". So style it like you want....
As a natural of 5.5 years, I remember the stress that came with how to manage my hair when my braids were removed (wore them for 1 year during transition). I also cried my first day wearing my natural hair for fear of rude comments and being told about my “Afro.” Also, the upkeep was completely different than my wash, deep condition, blow dry and flat iron routine, because simply wrapping my hair every night was a breeze. Learning that I needed more consistent moisturizing and couldn’t use the hair tools I was used to (brushes and small tooth combs), was a big pill to swallow. So, fear and insecurity was my main concern, but once my relaxer started breaking off my hair after 7 years, I had to be willing to try something different. I’m so glad I did!
Not everyone has coils,curly,highly dense, thick hair . you can't judge someone for doing what they feel comfortable and confident in regards to their hair.
My hair has thin fine density so styling is the worst because any kind of manipulation causes damage if I do the same hair style, so twist, braids, buns, flat ironing I can do only for short periods of time or else my hair get damaged, took me 10 year to figure out what works for my hair. Everyone has their own journey
2damecuteUK If you listened carefully, she specifically said she was NOT judging the lady who made the comment, but to use that comment as a springboard for open conversation. Her intent, as stated, was to have dialogue, not bash those who choose (which is everyone's God-given right) to not wear their hair in its original state.
Ingrid Williams I know I watched the whole video, my comment first comment I gave my opinion on the video, this is my second comment which is directed to some of the comments under the video. So it's about having a discussion even if you don't agree.
Great video! I think its more about having the confidence to wear natural hair. For me, I think I look like a child with natural hair in addition to the fact that i have thin fine hair that really does not like to be touched..at all! So i find that leaving it alone and protecting it under wigs works best. Natural hair is high maintenance! Everyone has a choice and we should do what we are comfortable with!
When I went natural it was one of the most liberating things I have ever done. It is such a great feeling of freedom. I like to keep my hair short & I can truly say I will never go back to a relaxer again 👍🏾🤗
Hello beautiful Queen.. happy mothers day
I have learned so much from your videos please keep them coming
Hi Jenell, my friend and I literally had this conversation last week. I am natural and she is presently wearing some hairstyles and haven’t relaxed in a while so she’s unintentionally going natural. She said to me “natural hair doesn’t fit her as it does me.”🤦🏽♀️ I couldn’t understand it. How can hair we were born with not fit you? It has a lot to do with culture and how we were socialized. What some don’t want to do is to take the time to invest and nurture their hair and do some of these styles. IDK . Thanks for speaking on this topic. It’s appalling some of things we hear about our hair.
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Amen Sister!!!!!
I just recently went natural due to ALL of my edges being taken by micros 😳 The biggest reason for me was the confidence piece...I am still finding it hard to accept my hair in its natural state...I realize that I have been conditioned to think straight hair is just prettier,however I do know better and I'm working on feeling pretty with my natural hair! Thanks for this video! The eye color example really put things in perspective for me!!
You’re so beautiful and I’m a forever subscriber! 😍😍
I was rocking a w n g and a lady complimented me and talked about how she couldn't go natural. So I started encouraging and educating her on natural hair. She said, " you have that good hair." I first explained that we all have good hair. Then I told her that I have thick, coarse, kinky, coily hair. I told her this to make a point that our hair is beautiful no matter the texture. As others have stated, that is what it really boils down to. It's sad but reality.
Your natural hair is beautiful
Amen! I eqaute this recurrence to the levels of ignorance we have in this WORLD...Keep educating! Thank you!
Thanks for sharing about this topic. 😊
I never had that remark. I have inspired a few people to go natural to my surprise 😁
As my hair gets longer I get stopped by strangers asking for tips.
Most of them are either scared of not accepting their hair type, or that it's going to take too long, it's not professional when most open minded people don't really care about it in corporate setting. The more I get to talk to random women the more I realise It's just fear based and fear to be judged and feeling that they don't belong.
And I do have some colleagues that are uncomfortable with my hair and keep telling me "oh it looks better when it's in protective style, buns etc". But those people are not very...cultured.
And to be honest I don't care. If I feel like rocking a textured style or a twist out I will do so. Because I love how my hair looks and I'm feeling myself and it shows 😆
If women feel like they have to go natural and feel uncomfortable/pressured they should not do it but in 2018 there are several options to straighten your hair without relaxers.
If you're not doing it for yourself you're doing it for the wrong reasons.💜
I was natural from 9/2014 until 9/2016. I relaxed my hair because styling and detangling took too much of my time. When my hair was natural and short I loved it. My hair is thick and 4c and it looked good and I often received compliments but I couldn't keep that up when I hair grew long. I big chopped my relaxer at armpit lenghth and when I relaxed 2 years later I was already past shoulder length so I know about healthy hair care. Another issue was the gym. I workout 4 - 5 times a week and straightened hair does not last (for me) after a hard gym workout. I'll probably big chop again but no time soon because having healthy relaxed hair is easy for me.
Yes!!! I agree natural hair is not a hairstyle, it is what I was born with; thick and beautiful. I’ve been natural for six years. When I first went natural I thought I couldn’t do it because it took up too much of my time; it was literally an all day process. I think natural hair would look beautiful on everyone for it was for it was given to us by God.
I clicked on this video so fast!! And Yes girl, I 100% agree! People associate being natural with the hair style all the time. But, I particularly hate it when black women say, "your hair is so pretty curly, my hair won't do that, you got that good hair." And all I can think is "have you even tried"? I feel like a lot of women who aren't natural just assume that we get up and go are our curls be popping. NO. Do you know that this wash n go took me 4 hours, and actually a lot longer if you count the pre-poo I did the night before. It takes time, effort, and sometimes frustration to figure out what works for you. I think that's what bothers me the most. Women who look at someone who's been natural for years wearing the finished product of her twist out or wash n go, and say my hair will never do that without even trying!! Drives me crazy, but ok rant over LOL
Sometimes I believe that people are not used to 'seeing' themselves (in the mirror) with Natural hair. I remember when I first went natural in 2007, i knew how to wear my hair in its natural state, but I didn't like 'seeing' my face with Natural hair. Its a look that some have to get used to and the stigma that still comes from wearing natural hair. #loveyourvideo great topic!
They don't sound crazy, they ARE crazy!
I responded with ‘have you tried’ or ‘ok’. I mean come on it is 2018 and clearly we can do whatever we want! I am still trying to find easier methods and ways that I can rock a real wash n’ go! With @Naptural85 newest video showing me how I couldn’t ask for anything better! And the products oh my! The Mane Choice is heavenly...wash day was a breeze today and I am grateful! I didn’t have to wait at ah salon and it was free and I feel accomplished! I will never go back to chemicals....it’s a done deal!
Yup.. I was told the same thing..
Your twist it out is banging & healthy!
I love the new type of videos. I also want black beauty supply owner videos as well.
Thank you, I needed to hear this
I'm relaxed and will probably stay that way unless I get locs. It isn't about straight hair for me. I rarely wear my hair straight. My natural hair hates water, clings together constantly, and is always trying to lock up. There is no way I can have length retention with trying to comb out matts and locs ALL the time. I also have no desire to be a loose natural. I'm 11 months post right now, and I'm trying to decide if I want locs or a relaxer, but I think a relaxer will win. It works best for me.
Great clarification! Natural for 4 years.. People say all the time natural looks better on you
I hate that statement. I just usually ignore it because it is normally followed a compliment on how they like my hair but it's not for them. It is usually from people wearing weaves or hair clearly damaged. I just say to each his own. For me I am loving my natural hair because with heat, excessive styling & chemicals I was headed for baldness.
I also had someone tell me they couldn’t go natural because of their hair texture. Happy Mother’s Day!
missed you and your fabulous
I think a lot of women still say comments like those because they are not comfortable with their texture. It’s sad and not something I like to mention but most people would prefer to have the spiral bouncy hair than kinky hair. It’s still a psychological thing and idk if we will ever get over it as a people. It’s more on an individual basis, you just accepting what you have and finding ways to make it work for you. In regards to “straight naturals” i find the term contradictory if your hair does not grow from your scalp straight and while yes it can be a viable styling option if you stop relaxing only to straighten it constantly I think you still have slight acceptance issues (my opinion)
This is a great topic. I love it
Most women that have said that natural hair looks good on me and not them usually trying to diss my beauty on the sly as if somehow I am ugly or as one woman put it, I have more "ethnic" features than she did and that natural hair "fit" my looks SMH
I agree with you
It's really funny when people say that phrase to me, because PLEASE BELIEVE what I was rockin didn't always "look good on me." We all (well most of us) went through the struggle phase of going natural, but we rocked it and pushed through anyway. I honestly had grown into loving big curly hair, and now my interest in even getting it straightened is just about gone. For me the versatility of styling without getting weaves has been so eye opening, and getting tired of going every 6 weeks for a perm was what led me to go natural. If I were interested in just wearing my hair straight, I probably would have kept getting perms because it's easier for it to remain straight that way. The health benefit (or risk reduction) of no longer getting perms was a bonus for me.
I agree with you 1000%!!! I think education is the key to those who are ignorant to what the natural hair life is really like!