I wish I would have heard this 10 years ago but I doubt I would have heeded the warning. I ended a 10’year relationship w a man who used me & I didn’t realize it until it ended. I’m now in my mid 40’s and trying to pick up the pieces. Being “ used” is the same as being “pimped” is a hard pill to swallow. I was naive & that naïveté cost me 10 years of my life. Some things you have to learn like you said before through experience. I will NEVER live with another man again. I am living alone for the first time in a decade and a man will never grace my door step. I learned the hard way but I escaped with no children. I have to heal the emotional scars that have been left behind though. Love this message. Thank you.
So I’ve always been a quiet person. As a child I didn’t talk much I just observed everything. I grew up in the 80as and 90s my mom and most her sister were crack addicts. I’ve seen a lot. My aunt has been with a man since she was 14. Had a kid at 15. Over the years I’ve watched this man be a tyrant over my aunt and their kids. I noticed how he favored them based on what they did for him. I watched my female cousins go about trying to buy their dad’s love. He was also a molester so you know what goes with that. Fast forward my cousins get older and they all feel like they have to give a man money. My cousin who is my aunts first born is a prostitute. Before she was all the way in that lifestyle she always gave her boyfriends her money. She was also slow. I don’t know what her diagnosis was but she received a ssi check monthly. Before they started digitizing money. She got a paper check . He would have her cash it and give it to him. He told her he would flip it. This happened every month. He would take her money and disappear. Mind you she had babies. She wouldn’t hear from him until a few days before her check would come. He would love bomb her and be there when the check came. He did this over and over. Every one tried to talk some sense in her but she was dickmatized. That’s all he ever gave her. She thought it was love. She would have to borrow and beg people for money . I’ve seen him pick her up on check day take her shopping and buy her stuff with her own money and she was happy. I was completely flabbergasted. As time went on she left her daughter with her parents. The same people who fucked her up. Her daughters were sexually abused and beat constantly. By this time some pimp done found my cousin no now she’s a prostitute. She thinks these men are her boyfriend. In order to see my cousin I had to go to the hoe stroll. We would sit in my car smoke some weed and chill. I loved my cousin so if this is how I had to see her I would. She would get out the car go turn a truck come back. Her pimp would call and if she didn’t have money he would curse her out. As her daughter became teenagers they ran away from their abusive grandparents and went to their mom. She was living in a hotel with her pimp. She got them a room in the hotel. I will give my cousin credit for what she did shortly after. She’s not that smart but she saw her pimp boyfriend being extra nice to her daughters getting their nails done and stuff, she knew what he was going to try and do. She gathered her daughters and dropped them off at a female family friend and left them there. She couldn’t get out that lifestyle but she wouldn’t allow it to happen to her daughters on her watch. Her daughters all still having a rough life. They’re having babies they can’t afford and getting caught up in abusive relationships. They all live in Vegas and will come to LA get their mom off the streets and try to get her to stay with them. She has 8 grandkids between 3 daughters. She’s now addicted to drugs so she won’t stay long and will become abusive it they don’t take her back to Pomona where her pimp/boyfriend is. Last time I seen her . She made a statement that her boyfriend would never leave her she makes him too much money. I felt so bad for her😢
You are so right auntie. I almost married a man like you are describing when I was 25. Thank God I didn't do it. Love the channel and your wonderful advice.
My brother Ex has 2boys &’1 girl, don’t get me wrong the mom has always worked and had a job but she sat in her kitchen told her oldest son to find a woman that will take care of him. No basic life tools for when he’s alone in the world as a single man.. smh that’s sad he’s gonna grow up depending solely on women.!
@@MONEYAINTATHANG100 99% of anyone who's anyone can be bought. Or do most people not have jobs? Or do most people not work most of their lives away for money?
He acts like he has the money spends on you or flaunt it and then acts like something has come up and he looks at you like his help in a time of need very manipulative.
You are correct. BM do this to BW in relationships. They want to use BWs finances and any resources she has because BM has none. They refuse to work and get an education. Pimps usually die alone and broke and so do men with this mindset. This is why you never do anything for a man whatever he needs he needs to do it himself. It’s not a woman’s job to build a bum man. Black struggle love is detrimental to BW the outcome is always the same. These dusties want a woman that functions as his mother while he benefits from her free labor while providing her nothing, but stress, drama and financial insecurity.
thats why they get you pregnant too...they know that gives them more leverage..and if they don't do anything to help you file for welfare and section 8 and he's good..he eats sleeps and shits free
Building a man is never a good thing at any stage. If he is still building then wait until he is done to get married and live together. A responsible man never looks for a relationship knowing he can't sustain it. If he does, he is impatient, lacks of self control, discipline and has a cheap mindset. All these four are recipes for an exploitative relationship
Thanks for sharing. I am in my 50s with an autistic son in his 20s. His functioning on the mindset of a teenager. He is a dedicated worker. He too knows the importance of hard work. I’m so proud of him.
It’s like my grandma said “ a man needs to have the same thing (materials) you have. If you have a car he needs a car. If you have a tv he needs a tv. If you have a job he needs a job or at least some way of getting his own money. If you have a home or a place to stay, he needs somewhere, that’s not your place, to lay his head.” That sat with me ever since I’ve heard it. Now a lot of times she comes off as a hater but I see now that I’m older she made a lot of since and out of all their grandchildren I’m the only one that’s not a baby mama, other than the ones that’s not old enough to have children. She also said if he has more than one kid or more than you, don’t even deal with him.
I was taught cooking and cleaning, talking care of a husband NOT A BF… I do not take care of grown men, Mom also taught us that God helps those who helps themselves- a man who doesn’t work doesn’t deserve to eat… A man with no shame is dangerous… and my mother also said SEND HIM WHERE YOU GO FOR HELP…. JESUS. The other thin is if a man isn’t ashamed to ask me for money THEN HE IS NOT A MAN. I would rather help a woman than a man. I WOOULD HELP A YOUNG MOTHER OR A SINGLE WOMAN THAN A MAN THAT I AM. NOT MARRIED TO.
New subscriber here. A friend of mine sent me your video and I'm glad she did. I'm going to try to make this go viral because women all over the world really need to not only hear this, they need to listen and apply this message in their lives. Thank you so much 💖🙏😇💖
Yes ma’am thank you because you’d be surprised how many women don’t teach their girls this. I come from a family full of women and didn’t know any of this.. made every mistake possible
The men don't say they are "pimping anymore, because that's a "bad word" for a women to hear. Although it's the same thing as being finessed. These days it's called "finesse." Finesse is when a person agrees to do something that would ONLY benefit one person. Most women naturally like to feel wanted/needed, and validated by men. Women with low self esteem are the main targets 🎯.
The first pimps said they got the game from women and just flipped it on women it's not unlikely considering women get men to pay for many things just by being women and it's considered normal a man who works 9-5 marries a woman pays her bills and all she's expected to do is cook and clean which he could do himself or pay others to do even worse in 2023 alot of those same women don't even want to cook and clean they want to be taken care of financially just to exist no disrespect intended just saying this isn't one sided
No ma’am when u say men don’t say PIMPIN’ anymore bc it’s a bad word, you’re giving them too much credit. They don’t have any feelings they’re NOT empathetic towards you. They don’t use the word PIMPIN’ bc they know that you will catch onto that they’re using you & don’t love you. In the 70’s they called what these men are and have been doing 🫥CANDY PIMPING that’s when a man is pimping a woman and SHE DOESN’T KNOW THAT SHE IS BEING PIMPED❕ That means you can be his girlfriend, his woman, sister EVEN his Mother OR grandmother
True. They do watch women and decide to use her for whatever. My friend dated a guy for a while, and they got married. Three months after wedding he had to have a triple bypass heart ❤️ surgery. After that he could not work, she had to work and take care of him, multiple doctor visits, buying medication, cooking meals, helping with baths etc. This man knew he was ill before the marriage. Just pimping
Growing up my uncles knew males who used to be pimps or friends with pimps. It was forbidden conversations by my parents when i would hang with my uncles. However, i remembered a lot of parts of those conversations.. i hold my wallet like my legs, closed.
Thank you for your knowledge my son is 16 can you also talk about how you raising him to not live off of women? I think that's another learning lesson us mother need to learn how to help vs. enabling
I once had a young man call me a pimp as a compliment. Apparently he was impressed when an attractive, young lady simply asked me for directions. I was aghast of course when he called me that, and I had to let him know that I am in no way a pimp and would never want to be one. The light bulb went off in his face.
It's not how you think it's works if you ever been a real lady of the night who belonged to a pimp This shit that they are doing today It's not pimping I'm so Grateful to God to have survived n get away from the real pimps out there an watch som females who died trying period Rip Meco And angel And luscious Alot of pimps who back in the day who Had wen killed women who dis obeyed them hence a lot of missing persons And let me tell you the authorities in that sector DONT CARE LADIES THIS LADY HAS NO IDEA BOUT PIMPING AND HOW IT WORKS THANK GOD I GOT OUT I PRAYED AND WAS SAVED PERIOD OTHER DID THE SAME AND STILL DIED
@@misssaddityone6297 OK I'm sorry don't mean no harm but for some of us it ain't no book that can ever depict the real experience I had to indure doing my whole sex trafficking ordeal
@teeteejamonson5060 I am so sorry you had to endure being sex trafficked. I hope you are getting help, as I can not imagine what it takes to heal from such a traumatic ordeal. I hope that at some point you are able to write about what has happened to you. I for one, would like to hear your story if and when you ever tell it.
@@Godgotmealways how did you get into it? im curious from watching soft white undelly they have pimps and whores on there all the time a lot of them are young asf
Preach, Your not old, you're seasoned:)
I wish I would have heard this 10 years ago but I doubt I would have heeded the warning. I ended a 10’year relationship w a man who used me & I didn’t realize it until it ended. I’m now in my mid 40’s and trying to pick up the pieces. Being “ used” is the same as being “pimped” is a hard pill to swallow. I was naive & that naïveté cost me 10 years of my life. Some things you have to learn like you said before through experience. I will NEVER live with another man again. I am living alone for the first time in a decade and a man will never grace my door step. I learned the hard way but I escaped with no children. I have to heal the emotional scars that have been left behind though. Love this message. Thank you.
I am so glad it helped you.
i agree
Facts 100 precent
Men should be provider
That's one way the other way aboyfriend or husband will be the manager of your career singer or actress anyway to get your resources
So I’ve always been a quiet person. As a child I didn’t talk much I just observed everything. I grew up in the 80as and 90s my mom and most her sister were crack addicts. I’ve seen a lot. My aunt has been with a man since she was 14. Had a kid at 15. Over the years I’ve watched this man be a tyrant over my aunt and their kids. I noticed how he favored them based on what they did for him. I watched my female cousins go about trying to buy their dad’s love. He was also a molester so you know what goes with that. Fast forward my cousins get older and they all feel like they have to give a man money. My cousin who is my aunts first born is a prostitute. Before she was all the way in that lifestyle she always gave her boyfriends her money. She was also slow. I don’t know what her diagnosis was but she received a ssi check monthly. Before they started digitizing money. She got a paper check . He would have her cash it and give it to him. He told her he would flip it. This happened every month. He would take her money and disappear. Mind you she had babies. She wouldn’t hear from him until a few days before her check would come. He would love bomb her and be there when the check came. He did this over and over. Every one tried to talk some sense in her but she was dickmatized. That’s all he ever gave her. She thought it was love. She would have to borrow and beg people for money . I’ve seen him pick her up on check day take her shopping and buy her stuff with her own money and she was happy. I was completely flabbergasted. As time went on she left her daughter with her parents. The same people who fucked her up. Her daughters were sexually abused and beat constantly. By this time some pimp done found my cousin no now she’s a prostitute. She thinks these men are her boyfriend. In order to see my cousin I had to go to the hoe stroll. We would sit in my car smoke some weed and chill. I loved my cousin so if this is how I had to see her I would. She would get out the car go turn a truck come back. Her pimp would call and if she didn’t have money he would curse her out. As her daughter became teenagers they ran away from their abusive grandparents and went to their mom. She was living in a hotel with her pimp. She got them a room in the hotel. I will give my cousin credit for what she did shortly after. She’s not that smart but she saw her pimp boyfriend being extra nice to her daughters getting their nails done and stuff, she knew what he was going to try and do. She gathered her daughters and dropped them off at a female family friend and left them there. She couldn’t get out that lifestyle but she wouldn’t allow it to happen to her daughters on her watch. Her daughters all still having a rough life. They’re having babies they can’t afford and getting caught up in abusive relationships. They all live in Vegas and will come to LA get their mom off the streets and try to get her to stay with them. She has 8 grandkids between 3 daughters. She’s now addicted to drugs so she won’t stay long and will become abusive it they don’t take her back to Pomona where her pimp/boyfriend is. Last time I seen her . She made a statement that her boyfriend would never leave her she makes him too much money. I felt so bad for her😢
Wow, this is terrible
Convincing me to rent or sell my body for a great price and an improvement in my life, no problem. Giving it away to anyone except my kids, No Way!!
She is fire!!!! Very wise. Never be an enabler.
You are so right auntie. I almost married a man like you are describing when I was 25. Thank God I didn't do it. Love the channel and your wonderful advice.
My brother Ex has 2boys &’1 girl, don’t get me wrong the mom has always worked and had a job but she sat in her kitchen told her oldest son to find a woman that will take care of him. No basic life tools for when he’s alone in the world as a single man.. smh that’s sad he’s gonna grow up depending solely on women.!
God Bless you Lady. I just found your channel and thank you Queen
You are so welcome
Bless her👍
Women give money for validation. Pimps go after co-dependent or low self-esteem women.
I agree that having high self esteem helps a woman avoid this situation altogether.
as lost as silly males, no one whose anyone can/could be bought.......🤡
@@MONEYAINTATHANG100 99% of anyone who's anyone can be bought. Or do most people not have jobs? Or do most people not work most of their lives away for money?
He acts like he has the money spends on you or flaunt it and then acts like something has come up and he looks at you like his help in a time of need very manipulative.
☝️- ONE OF THE OLDEST CON’S IN THE BOOK
You are correct. BM do this to BW in relationships. They want to use BWs finances and any resources she has because BM has none. They refuse to work and get an education. Pimps usually die alone and broke and so do men with this mindset. This is why you never do anything for a man whatever he needs he needs to do it himself. It’s not a woman’s job to build a bum man. Black struggle love is detrimental to BW the outcome is always the same. These dusties want a woman that functions as his mother while he benefits from her free labor while providing her nothing, but stress, drama and financial insecurity.
thats why they get you pregnant too...they know that gives them more leverage..and if they don't do anything to help you file for welfare and section 8 and he's good..he eats sleeps and shits free
Building a man is never a good thing at any stage. If he is still building then wait until he is done to get married and live together. A responsible man never looks for a relationship knowing he can't sustain it. If he does, he is impatient, lacks of self control, discipline and has a cheap mindset. All these four are recipes for an exploitative relationship
They will also generously provide std's! Don't forget that
💯💯
Thanks for sharing. I am in my 50s with an autistic son in his 20s. His functioning on the mindset of a teenager. He is a dedicated worker. He too knows the importance of hard work. I’m so proud of him.
I love it. Thank you for sharing this
I've never heard the game explained in terms of pimp culture. Thanks for this. Highly appreciated and love your content.
Speak auntie.
Some of these women are beyond desperate for a man. A man that does not work he does not eat.
It’s like my grandma said “ a man needs to have the same thing (materials) you have. If you have a car he needs a car. If you have a tv he needs a tv. If you have a job he needs a job or at least some way of getting his own money. If you have a home or a place to stay, he needs somewhere, that’s not your place, to lay his head.” That sat with me ever since I’ve heard it. Now a lot of times she comes off as a hater but I see now that I’m older she made a lot of since and out of all their grandchildren I’m the only one that’s not a baby mama, other than the ones that’s not old enough to have children. She also said if he has more than one kid or more than you, don’t even deal with him.
I was taught cooking and cleaning, talking care of a husband NOT A BF… I do not take care of grown men, Mom also taught us that God helps those who helps themselves- a man who doesn’t work doesn’t deserve to eat… A man with no shame is dangerous… and my mother also said SEND HIM WHERE YOU GO FOR HELP…. JESUS.
The other thin is if a man isn’t ashamed to ask me for money THEN HE IS NOT A MAN. I would rather help a woman than a man. I WOOULD HELP A YOUNG MOTHER OR A SINGLE WOMAN THAN A MAN THAT I AM. NOT MARRIED TO.
New subscriber here. A friend of mine sent me your video and I'm glad she did. I'm going to try to make this go viral because women all over the world really need to not only hear this, they need to listen and apply this message in their lives. Thank you so much 💖🙏😇💖
I LOVE your videos! Thank you so much!
Great job I'm subscribed and SHARING. OUR YOUNG BLACK WOMEN NEED THIS MESSAGE FROM AS MANY WOMEN AS THEY CAN.
Yes ma’am thank you because you’d be surprised how many women don’t teach their girls this. I come from a family full of women and didn’t know any of this.. made every mistake possible
The men don't say they are "pimping anymore, because that's a "bad word" for a women to hear. Although it's the same thing as being finessed.
These days it's called "finesse." Finesse is when a person agrees to do something that would ONLY benefit one person.
Most women naturally like to feel wanted/needed, and validated by men. Women with low self esteem are the main targets 🎯.
☝️- ALL OF THIS 😢😮🫣🫠
The first pimps said they got the game
from women and just flipped it on women
it's not unlikely considering women get men to pay for many things just by being women and it's considered normal a man who works 9-5 marries a woman pays her bills and all she's expected to do is cook and clean which he could do himself or pay others to do even worse in 2023 alot of those same women don't even want to cook and clean they want to be taken care of financially just to exist no disrespect intended just saying this isn't one sided
@@BigCthe1 Lies!!! There's no truth in people like you.
No ma’am when u say men don’t say PIMPIN’ anymore bc it’s a bad word, you’re giving them too much credit. They don’t have any feelings they’re NOT empathetic towards you. They don’t use the word PIMPIN’ bc they know that you will catch onto that they’re using you & don’t love you. In the 70’s they called what these men are and have been doing 🫥CANDY PIMPING
that’s when a man is pimping a woman and SHE DOESN’T KNOW THAT SHE IS BEING PIMPED❕ That means you can be his girlfriend, his woman, sister EVEN his Mother OR grandmother
My ex husband thought I was going to be his surrogate momma. Answer no. I freed myself of him over 20 years ago and couldn’t be happier.
True. They do watch women and decide to use her for whatever. My friend dated a guy for a while, and they got married. Three months after wedding he had to have a triple bypass heart ❤️ surgery. After that he could not work, she had to work and take care of him, multiple doctor visits, buying medication, cooking meals, helping with baths etc. This man knew he was ill before the marriage. Just pimping
Single and proud. I not nursing no man
Excellent job with your son. I can't stand a lazy brother.
The Vast majority do. Thus isn't a some game. Statistics proves this.
this is the aunt we as black people need in our lives who shares her knowledge with us and explains the game to us❤❤❤
Ladies, young and old, best 11 mins of information in your life. Listen. Thank you for this. 🧡
Even Iceberg Slim was quoted as saying: "Nothing good ever came from pimpin!"
Growing up my uncles knew males who used to be pimps or friends with pimps. It was forbidden conversations by my parents when i would hang with my uncles. However, i remembered a lot of parts of those conversations.. i hold my wallet like my legs, closed.
🤣🤣🤣
Thank you for your knowledge my son is 16 can you also talk about how you raising him to not live off of women? I think that's another learning lesson us mother need to learn how to help vs. enabling
This has been going on for centuries !
Lord protect her at all cost
It's true. Men should take care of themselves
This is great content. Keep it up
Thanks, will do!
A darn shame but a man will use you like that if you let them.
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TEACH!!!!!!!
AND EVERYBODY ELSE.....LISTEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Excellent points Queen!
Aunt no way
Miss lady what you are describing is finesse not pimping
Cool lady
I once had a young man call me a pimp as a compliment. Apparently he was impressed when an attractive, young lady simply asked me for directions. I was aghast of course when he called me that, and I had to let him know that I am in no way a pimp and would never want to be one. The light bulb went off in his face.
Hey; 👋 let ya conscious be yo guide,,,🙏,,,💯 ❤️ ,,,,,🌹
Teach us Auntie
Miss Saddity,
Awesome🤣🤣🤣
Nothing but Truth!!
It's not how you think it's works if you ever been a real lady of the night who belonged to a pimp
This shit that they are doing today
It's not pimping
I'm so Grateful to God to have survived n get away from the real pimps out there an watch som females who died trying period
Rip Meco
And angel
And luscious
Alot of pimps who back in the day who
Had wen killed women who dis obeyed them hence a lot of missing persons
And let me tell you the authorities in that sector DONT CARE
LADIES THIS LADY HAS NO IDEA BOUT PIMPING AND HOW IT WORKS
THANK GOD I GOT OUT I PRAYED AND WAS SAVED PERIOD
OTHER DID THE SAME AND STILL DIED
I only talk about what I have heard about in books. I am no expert.
@@misssaddityone6297 OK I'm sorry don't mean no harm but for some of us it ain't no book that can ever depict the real experience I had to indure doing my whole sex trafficking ordeal
@teeteejamonson5060 I am so sorry you had to endure being sex trafficked. I hope you are getting help, as I can not imagine what it takes to heal from such a traumatic ordeal.
I hope that at some point you are able to write about what has happened to you. I for one, would like to hear your story if and when you ever tell it.
@@misssaddityone6297 can't even 23 years later it's still very dangerous for details because of the folks involved in high places
@@Godgotmealways how did you get into it? im curious from watching soft white undelly they have pimps and whores on there all the time a lot of them are young asf
Pimping ain’t easy
Finesse=pimping. Same thing for different generations. Thank you for the content.
UNCLE S..
Nothing wrong with 50/50 partnership
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾