In this vlog, I’m looking at a question I’ve been asking myself (and my friends): Is it actually possible to live in two countries at once? also, between the title 'bride therapy' and 'bride rehab' what do you prefer? 😂 🫶🏾
I bet, so freeing! and now with that 2 times a day 60 euro wizzair flight between milan and london👀 once I ALMOST went to london for a day for work but I didn't know there was a train strike in the evening and so I ended up missing my flight back home ... so close to being able to say I did that😂
It is possible if your job and your family situation allow it. It's more difficult when, say, you have kids or you cannot work remotely or you simply can't afford the costs of travels, potentially having two houses, etc. (I too don't wear my wedding ring at home for the same reasons! 😅)
I'm so proud of you! And as a digital nomad (been traveling full-time for the last 4.5 years), it's definitely possible to live in two countries at once.
I have been living between my 3 homes (Italy, London, Greece) plus traveling a lot for the past 2 years and I am absolutely loving it. I currently don't have my own apartment anywhere, that's something to think about for the future, but I strongly believe you can absolutely do this for as long as it makes you happy! ❤ It's expensive and tiring, but until these cons don't overweight the pros (every situations has pros and cons) it is absolutely doable. Of course it also depends on the job as well (I am not a freelancer), because taxes are always the biggest problem for everyone 😂 In my case, I am a resident and a worker in just one country, so if you consider "living somewhere" as "paying taxes and being a resident", then I guess I live in UK and I just spend long periods of time abroad. And I suppose if you have partners/children/pets there's an extra layer of difficulty. But like I said, taxes aside, I find it an amazing way of living, perhaps not suitable for everyone but good for me personally!
I agree with what you said about privacy and mobility becoming the two most valuable things in the coming years. Having said that, would you be willing to elaborate on how you and Enrico handle a month long separation? For me, the biggest problem would be the relationship aspect of it, it's really important that both partners are on the same page about what is their life or work goal in the coming period.
I think it depends on personalities! Enrico and I are both hyper-independent and comfortable with solitude (though, of course, we love being in the same space too). Even in Milan, he has his group of friends, and I have mine. He has his hobbies, and I have mine. We both consciously chose to leave our families to be alone in Milan, so being apart (and so away from each other, our new family) doesn’t really faze us. Maybe it sounds strange to people with different attachment styles, but we’re very okay with being by ourselves. Plus, after living together for 7 years, we’re secure in the fact that we’ve always lived together and always will. When we’re apart, we talk almost every day. For me, time flies in Lagos because I’m in 'founder mode,' and the city is naturally so hectic-it makes a month feel like a week. Right now, we’re both focused on our careers-his in Italy and mine is finding success in Africa-and we want each other to feel fulfilled so the current situation is a necessary compromise. We both agree that things might get more complicated when kids are in the picture, but that’s a few years down the road. Lastly I'll add that of the longer stints, Enrico was either with me in Nigeria for a bit or we took a trip together somewhere else immediately before or after :) It feels very okay.
I live in Italy & USA, until I can move permanently to Italy in Summer. It’s not easy, but not having to pack clothes is a plus. I hate flying so far, so often. It’s expensive, and I can barely stand the long flights. It’s worth it, in the end. I wouldn’t want to do it any longer than I have to.
uff yeah, regardless of where you're coming from that is a far flight and they can be so disorienting too. Hang in there, summer is just around the corner!
@ it sure is disorienting! From where I live, it’s about a 1 hour flight to SFO, then 12 hours, (if nonstop) to a bigger city in Italy, then a flight to Sicilia. I usually spend 16+ hours traveling. It will be 3 years of this, by the time I move, permanently. I’d do it for as long as is needed, even 5-10 years, but I am really glad it’s almost over. I think when you have goals, you just figure it out, and it fuels you to keep going. I’m super happy for you and your accomplishments and can’t wait to see where it takes you! Thanks for sharing with us. 💕
I’ve been living between three countries for the past few years and after having a baby (and pets) it became just too exhausting…the limitations the passport you were born with gives you makes everything a chess game against the bureaucracy systems each country set up. I wish we could just hop on a plane and go wherever we like and stay however long we want 💔
I bet, I know for sure we'd have to completely reevaluate this set up in the case of kids and my friends who live in more than one country with kids all say the same thing..it's tiring. Anyways I so second your last sentence!
"Perfection is the killer of progress", or else: "Strive for progress, not perfection". About your wedding ring, when I was just married, my ring was very large and I was terrified of losing it, so in the end I put it on the middle finger and wore it there until 2-3 years ago, when my hand was enlarged by age and work enough to wear it on my ring finger without fear. I think that until you can do it and it works for you logistically, financially and fiscally, well, then why not living in two country at once? The problem remains of citizenship, that makes you pay taxes in the USA and in Italy, and of the official location of your business, that makes you pay taxes in the country of that location. I think in the end you have to choose based on what suits you best, maybe THREE countries where you pay taxes are not the best solution, but TWO could be manageable.
That's it! When I only had my wedding band, which is slim and comfortable, I wore it every day for everything. But when we added the diamond ring, it became uncomfortable to sleep with since it moves around, so I started taking it off before bed. In the US, the diamond ring is worn before the wedding band, so for convenience, I ended up just taking them both off. Eventually, I also learned about diamond ring maintenance, so now I typically don’t wear them at home. I only put them on when I’m going out-or filming, lol. As for living in two countries, I totally agree-it’s all about 'structuring' in your mind!
This was such an interesting take, just following in case you do want to elaborate. I never thought about it this way, but on a whim I would say it's the opposite for me - logistically it is always going to be hard and expensive, but emotionally I will never be able to choose a home over another? 🤔
Forse è semplicistico, ma vivere in due paesi contemporaneamente mi sembra un po' come avere una relazione a distanza sana, ma level up: una situazione che sembra complessa e "impossibile", insostenibile sul lungo periodo, finché non ti ritrovi a viverla in prima persona e nel quotidiano. Allora ti impegni per trovare un modo per farla funzionare, finché un giorno non ti rendi conto che per te questa "gestione" della complessità è diventata normale e ti ritrovi a chiederti perché all'inizio ti sembrava così strano, perché mettevi in dubbio la possibilità di poter vivere in un modo del genere. Non significa che la complessità e le difficoltà spariscono, ma semplicemente diventano parte della quotidianità, mentre noi come esseri umani impariamo a gestirle sempre meglio. Ha senso?
In this vlog, I’m looking at a question I’ve been asking myself (and my friends): Is it actually possible to live in two countries at once? also, between the title 'bride therapy' and 'bride rehab' what do you prefer? 😂 🫶🏾
Bride therapy!!
@@unwanastidbitsthank you😄 I was leaning that way too but my Italian friends liked rehab 🙈
@@misstiataylor_They’re both great! But rehab gives me chaotic energy and therapy gives me calm haha
@@unwanastidbits it is a bit chaotic though 😂🤣 you guys know me
I've been living betweek London and Italy for the past 4 years and I love it! It's challenging but so satisfying and freeing!
I bet, so freeing! and now with that 2 times a day 60 euro wizzair flight between milan and london👀 once I ALMOST went to london for a day for work but I didn't know there was a train strike in the evening and so I ended up missing my flight back home ... so close to being able to say I did that😂
I’ve been watching you for years and I’m so happy to see you in Nigeria. Well done on your achievements babe 👏🏾
thank you so much! I think this new chapter will be really interesting!!
It is possible if your job and your family situation allow it. It's more difficult when, say, you have kids or you cannot work remotely or you simply can't afford the costs of travels, potentially having two houses, etc.
(I too don't wear my wedding ring at home for the same reasons! 😅)
I'm so proud of you! And as a digital nomad (been traveling full-time for the last 4.5 years), it's definitely possible to live in two countries at once.
Thank youuu! And how has that been, do you still like it?
I have been living between my 3 homes (Italy, London, Greece) plus traveling a lot for the past 2 years and I am absolutely loving it. I currently don't have my own apartment anywhere, that's something to think about for the future, but I strongly believe you can absolutely do this for as long as it makes you happy! ❤ It's expensive and tiring, but until these cons don't overweight the pros (every situations has pros and cons) it is absolutely doable. Of course it also depends on the job as well (I am not a freelancer), because taxes are always the biggest problem for everyone 😂 In my case, I am a resident and a worker in just one country, so if you consider "living somewhere" as "paying taxes and being a resident", then I guess I live in UK and I just spend long periods of time abroad. And I suppose if you have partners/children/pets there's an extra layer of difficulty. But like I said, taxes aside, I find it an amazing way of living, perhaps not suitable for everyone but good for me personally!
I love that for you and sounds like a great three to be between! I definitely agree and thank you for adding an additional perspective!
I agree with what you said about privacy and mobility becoming the two most valuable things in the coming years.
Having said that, would you be willing to elaborate on how you and Enrico handle a month long separation?
For me, the biggest problem would be the relationship aspect of it, it's really important that both partners are on the same page about what is their life or work goal in the coming period.
I think it depends on personalities! Enrico and I are both hyper-independent and comfortable with solitude (though, of course, we love being in the same space too). Even in Milan, he has his group of friends, and I have mine. He has his hobbies, and I have mine. We both consciously chose to leave our families to be alone in Milan, so being apart (and so away from each other, our new family) doesn’t really faze us.
Maybe it sounds strange to people with different attachment styles, but we’re very okay with being by ourselves. Plus, after living together for 7 years, we’re secure in the fact that we’ve always lived together and always will. When we’re apart, we talk almost every day. For me, time flies in Lagos because I’m in 'founder mode,' and the city is naturally so hectic-it makes a month feel like a week.
Right now, we’re both focused on our careers-his in Italy and mine is finding success in Africa-and we want each other to feel fulfilled so the current situation is a necessary compromise. We both agree that things might get more complicated when kids are in the picture, but that’s a few years down the road.
Lastly I'll add that of the longer stints, Enrico was either with me in Nigeria for a bit or we took a trip together somewhere else immediately before or after :) It feels very okay.
Congratulations on the business expansion to Nigeria!!! 🇳🇬
I totally believe you can live between 2 countries. I might be doing that soon, but for different reasons.
I live in Italy & USA, until I can move permanently to Italy in Summer. It’s not easy, but not having to pack clothes is a plus. I hate flying so far, so often. It’s expensive, and I can barely stand the long flights. It’s worth it, in the end. I wouldn’t want to do it any longer than I have to.
uff yeah, regardless of where you're coming from that is a far flight and they can be so disorienting too. Hang in there, summer is just around the corner!
@ it sure is disorienting! From where I live, it’s about a 1 hour flight to SFO, then 12 hours, (if nonstop) to a bigger city in Italy, then a flight to Sicilia. I usually spend 16+ hours traveling. It will be 3 years of this, by the time I move, permanently. I’d do it for as long as is needed, even 5-10 years, but I am really glad it’s almost over. I think when you have goals, you just figure it out, and it fuels you to keep going. I’m super happy for you and your accomplishments and can’t wait to see where it takes you! Thanks for sharing with us. 💕
Go Tia! Lagos is one of the most rapid growing cities in the planet, surely you'll enjoy it
Thank youuuu, its been mostly fun, excited to share the vlogs!
I’ve been living between three countries for the past few years and after having a baby (and pets) it became just too exhausting…the limitations the passport you were born with gives you makes everything a chess game against the bureaucracy systems each country set up. I wish we could just hop on a plane and go wherever we like and stay however long we want 💔
I bet, I know for sure we'd have to completely reevaluate this set up in the case of kids and my friends who live in more than one country with kids all say the same thing..it's tiring. Anyways I so second your last sentence!
"Perfection is the killer of progress", or else: "Strive for progress, not perfection".
About your wedding ring, when I was just married, my ring was very large and I was terrified of losing it, so in the end I put it on the middle finger and wore it there until 2-3 years ago, when my hand was enlarged by age and work enough to wear it on my ring finger without fear.
I think that until you can do it and it works for you logistically, financially and fiscally, well, then why not living in two country at once? The problem remains of citizenship, that makes you pay taxes in the USA and in Italy, and of the official location of your business, that makes you pay taxes in the country of that location. I think in the end you have to choose based on what suits you best, maybe THREE countries where you pay taxes are not the best solution, but TWO could be manageable.
That's it! When I only had my wedding band, which is slim and comfortable, I wore it every day for everything. But when we added the diamond ring, it became uncomfortable to sleep with since it moves around, so I started taking it off before bed. In the US, the diamond ring is worn before the wedding band, so for convenience, I ended up just taking them both off.
Eventually, I also learned about diamond ring maintenance, so now I typically don’t wear them at home. I only put them on when I’m going out-or filming, lol.
As for living in two countries, I totally agree-it’s all about 'structuring' in your mind!
logistically yes, but emotionally no?
Feel free to elaborate 😌
This was such an interesting take, just following in case you do want to elaborate. I never thought about it this way, but on a whim I would say it's the opposite for me - logistically it is always going to be hard and expensive, but emotionally I will never be able to choose a home over another? 🤔
I see you have it on now
yeah, I mention why you don't always see it in the video😅
Hi tia, why you not wearing your ring? Are you and rico still together?
Forse è semplicistico, ma vivere in due paesi contemporaneamente mi sembra un po' come avere una relazione a distanza sana, ma level up: una situazione che sembra complessa e "impossibile", insostenibile sul lungo periodo, finché non ti ritrovi a viverla in prima persona e nel quotidiano. Allora ti impegni per trovare un modo per farla funzionare, finché un giorno non ti rendi conto che per te questa "gestione" della complessità è diventata normale e ti ritrovi a chiederti perché all'inizio ti sembrava così strano, perché mettevi in dubbio la possibilità di poter vivere in un modo del genere. Non significa che la complessità e le difficoltà spariscono, ma semplicemente diventano parte della quotidianità, mentre noi come esseri umani impariamo a gestirle sempre meglio. Ha senso?
@@hesfra ha tanto senso 🥹 I don’t know if it’s because you wrote it in Italian or what but this these seems so poetic…sono d’accordo
Impegnativo = draining/tiring
i guess the best translation i've seen is 'demanding'