Well my dear friend I'm going to tell you a very very big secret there isn't no death no you're probably thinking whoa whoa like I said there isn't no death there is life After Life and I am a near death experience I have seen that other world and you or somebody around you must know about near death experiences deathbed visions if you have already passed away that's fine but if you are still here don't be scared there isn't no death at all what you will see you will come out of your body then you will see a white beautiful light it will feel the room it is beautiful then you will feel and see god then a beautiful tunnel send you will be going home your true home I am so sorry if this is so heavy for you or your family or Friends but I can only tell the truth love you all Steve
My husband died of cancer in January. I was his caretaker.He never gave up and he did it for his family! I will always love him for that. JJs story is inspiring! It shows that your quality of life is all about what your living for and the happiness you can have in that time you are here. I’ve seen it. God bless you and your family sweetheart!
"You can't think about assisted suicide in just one situation" Exactly. This goes both ways. I am so unbelievably overjoyed that you had this extra time. It is amazing and truly miraculous. Please know that your situation is unique, as everyone else's is. Do not take this choice away from those who do not have the same gift you have been given.
Agreed. Patients should have the right to choose whether they live out their final days or not. This organisation wants to take away those rights. He made a choice to live out his days, not everyone should be forced to.
@@thompsonmatthew That's true. I just watched Jill Finnegan's farewell party video. She chose to end her life, and everyone around her had time to say goodbye. It was her choice, her power over her life. Life is delicate and it's understandable that people around want the dying person to stay for a bit longer. But that's not their life. They're not going to suffer. I know experience is different for anyone but I hope we don't take away the choice and power over the lives of those who suffer
I’m so happy this popped up in my You Tube. I have been having a terrible time lately and was contemplating taking my life. I was tired of fighting and life felt too heavy. Then I watched this beautiful video and my whole attitude changed in an instant. Thank you J.J. I am as certain as anyone can be that you will be together in Heaven.
Please God, be with Jen. She is hurting and needs more and more signs that her life is valuable. Let her feel that so clearly that nothing can shake her.
@Lucy Heartfilia there's so many new things out there every single day to help those who want to take their own life. I was there. I still struggle and then I look at my kids and my dogs and kitty and I look at the lives of those who want so much to just have one more day. And I realize that today's problems are always fixable. And the people who are dying, they want another day. Something I have. Please get help. Email me. Maybe I can help. I hope so. l.bailey1478@gmail.com you matter. You matter to me and to others.
Please don't take your life. You are loved. There are so many options to help with depression. Please seek out help. If one thing doesn't work for you , something else will. Never give up please.
I lost my mom a few weeks ago. I'm still heartbroken. She had advanced cancer, was in remission for a year and a half, but the cancer came back. She didn't die of the cancer itself, but of sepsis during chemo. She was very clear that if she was told that she was terminal, that she would go for assisted suicide. That wasn't wrong, undignified or selfish of her, and I supported that decision wholeheartedly. It's not about me, or any other of the people that loved her, but offering relief when there was none. While she lay dying in the hospital, God forgive me, but I thought it would have been better for her if they had just ended it. I was very torn between my selfish wish and need to have her with me longer, and what was actually better for her. Please, let everyone decide for themselves what they want to do. It's not an easy decision one way or another.
YOU are the beautiful soul here! Not the liar in the video! I am sorry for your loss. I know it says 2 years ago. I lost my mom too. I get it. But I UNSELFISHLY LOVE my loved ones! Like you! And would NEVER DEMAND tht they SUFFER TO APEASE ME! I cant believe how many are praising this video and the woman in it. I am sorry she suffered such a great loss. But she is pushing an opinion, without true facts! and wanting to make decisios that are not hers ot make!
Been through the same situation 21 years ago when my dad was suffering from cancer. I was torn betweem my wish to be able to hug him one more day and my wish to see his pain end.
EXACTLY! She spewed how she will "also fight to let him go" then regurgitatted how its about HER and not what HE WANTS by saying he would not have a right to say, I cant take anymore. How utterly selfish is that! "my son got to know his dad" Well isnt that special! Not everyone has a small child they need to consider! Not everyone who is terminally ill,will even be COGNIZANT enough to even be AWARE OF THEIR SURROUNDINGS! But hey, as long as the HEALTHY PERSON WANTS YOU TO SUFFER FOR THEIR WELL BEING, WELL, YOU SHOULD JUST DO IT! It is about THEM after all!
correct. JJ Hanson Jr. felt that the memories outweighed the pain and the discomfort. He got to create two beautiful children, and he has left his wife with two young boys, that will leave his wife with some company. He didn't leave her alone, and widowed. He left her widowed, but she has two beautiful kids to still continue to make memories with. Others can't say the same, and every single circumstance is understood. Sometimes assisted suicide is the right move, the individual wants the control, wants to be able to die with dignity, they don't want to die bed ridden and hooked to a bunch of machines.
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Tell this to someone suffering with MND and then come back and try telling the same story. You won’t. Sometimes a pain free exit is a patients right. It’s their body, their decision that should be respected.
@ItIsWhatItIs exactly, for her, her choice/his choice. I can't imagine choosing an assisted death for myself but I know others who would and one that has. Patient's right to choose.
All this video is saying that for this particular family, and their specific circumstances, and their level of comfort, and their understanding, and in their situation, the best option was to keep going. Doctors gave him 4 months- he lived 3 1/2 years, with a very obvious good quality of life. She is not advocating against assisted suicide- she is just showing people that 4 months doesn’t necessarily mean 4 months and to not give up hope- because in their case, it wasn’t 4 months- it was nearly 4 years.
Yes but this is tottaly differed illness. With MND he would not have 4 years the same way he had withn brain cancer. She just said that u have to think it twice. I am sure if he would have MND she would think different way. And even people with MND not all wanna die. It is different from person to person
And that's the beauty of having the right to choose what IS RIGHT FOR YOU. There shouldn't be any shame or guilt associated with having to make an immensely difficult decision like that. There are far too many variables for someone or some entity to have say, one way or another, over what you should do with your life. I only hope that people can truly weigh the positive & negative before deciding.... Rest in Peace, Mr. Hanson.
Your story is amazing but your story is NOT everyone s. Nobody should have to live in pain. He lived 3 good years, others might have suffered for 3 years. That's why it's a personal decision that we all should have.
I too left a comment. Patients choosing the assisted suicide route aren't able to choose that legally until they are only a few months from the end of their life. They too often hope for a miracle but if that miracle does not come and living on is just too unbearable, they have a chance to go peacefully.
This guy had brain cancer, from the looks of it, and its terrible. Only thing I fear more than brain cancer is Alzheimers Disease. I feel that this lady is being selfish by telling everyone not to choose assisted suicide. Sure those moments were a gift, but were they a gift for her husband? How much did he suffer so that the older boy could know his dad or so they could have another kid together? The person suffering from an incurable, terminal disease needs to make the final call. Ill say this, if my husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer, he would get the final say and if he wanted to die early and escape the bullshit I'd make it happen. If he wanted to go through all of it I'd be there with him and make it as peaceful as possible. But it would be his choice and his alone and I wouldn't make a video telling people not to stop their suffering.
I say this with all due respect and love! Everyone's situation with diseases and cancer it's different! I choose to leave that choice of assisted suicide to the person who is suffering! I am so very happy and you were blessed to have 3 more years with your husband! Which is a miracle within itself! Everyone's journey is different! And everyone knows what they can tolerate and what they cannot tolerate! I will never go against someone's choice to have assisted suicide! Please accept my condolences on the loss of your amazing husband and the father of your children! May you and your children be blessed always! ❤️
Thank you. I don’t understand why they would even want to take that choice from someone else. Just because it wasn’t right for you, doesn’t mean no one should be able to do it. I imagine he wasn’t in constant, severe pain, but many people who consider euthanasia are. They don’t want to live that way, and they shouldn’t have to.
I do to some people suffer so much pain nothing helps. It's hard to watch them in so much pain. If they want help to die it's there choice they are the that's hurting.
I’m suffering bad ptsd and depression with anxiety, last weekend I wanted to die, JJ your an inspiration for me to keep going. Life is better now because i got help
Glad to hear you got help! And you are doing better, but its also different from what the video is about! And as someone who also had/has PTSD, anxiety, did have a (Drug abuse), OCD I can relate to what you are feeling! But I have thought about it but never even considered it realistically! But if I knew I was going to die in 6 months, when the pain became too much and organs starting to fail! I would also like to have the ability to decide to end it!
Dark Lady It’s not as well documented in places like India because it’s viewed in the exact same way you view it. Mental health and it’s disorders is real, you genuinely are a complete moron if you refuse to believe in scientifically proven disorders. I’m not religious but I pray that no family member of yours ever has to go through depression or something like it, people like you make it that much worse.
I prefer to be able to make my own decisions. Some wish to hang on till the very end, which I find no fault with. Some wish to go with dignity. I also find no problem with that.
Dave Arndt I’m terminal and I feel exactly the same way. Am I ready to go right now? Nope. But when I get to the point I’m ready to go. I want dignity. I don’t want my kids watching me dwindle down to my death one day. I watched my mom draw her last breath. I don’t wish that on anyone
It’s heartbreaking watching someone go through a terminal illness and those who do will all do it differently. For you guys assisted suicide wasn’t what you wanted but for others it is so we should all be mindful of people’s rights to choose. It should be a choice available for the person who is suffering the illness or disease. It’s not about those who are left behind. Sorry for your loss, I am happy for you that you had that time with JJ, it was a blessing.
I have cancer and every night I go to bed I think about assisted suicide via "Dignitas" but every night I find a reason not to go through with it, Cancer not only destroys your body, it affects family and friends, depression sets in and it eats you alive. I just pray that when my time comes I don't feel any pain and that family is by my side.
I hope your body does not suffer any pain and God makes it easier for you to live and recover you with a miracle. It's not impossible, The Creator is GREAT!
I hope that you keep finding your reasons. Just know, if you were my loved one I would not want to be your suffering reason. If it came to that would respect your decision. I wish you no pain💗
Pls don't take ur life , I'm nt here to judge pls BT bcoz I care, just live a day as it comes I knw its hard, BT hang in there God works in miraculous ways, just b positive n don't even think abt it, try to eat healthily avoid meat or processed foods, N ABOVE ALL, MIX BLACK SEEDS POWDER WITH WATER N DRINK DAILY N EAT 5 - 7 DATES DAILY ,,, JUST TRY N DONT IGNORE. GOD BLESS U N HEAL YOU
Wow. I went from a happy mood, listening to upbeat music and made my way here. I’m sooo sorry for your loss, love. You’re an *A M A Z I N G* wife and very supportive. God bless.
I watch this and it make me cry so much, I thankful for so many things . I was diagnosed with colon cancer stage 4 in 2005 and I was told to live life to the fullest that only god knows when I would die, so I did and here I am 2019 . I lost a son put god gave me 5 grandchildren , just want to thank her for her beautiful love story so we can keep our faith . god bless her family
Geeze... I was gonna say that "this needs to be said to my wife" But then, I see these other comments... Why some of you dudes gotta be dick wads tho.?.?..? Dayum
My husband is dying from end stage non-small cell lung cancer that has spread to both lungs, lymph nodes, spine, Right hip and bones in both legs, and the pain is excruciating, even with pain meds. I told him that if he decides to stop treatments, (radiation, chemo & immunotherapy (keytruda) as he has talked to me about, and just the cancer run its course and just let go, that i am at his side. The treatments make him feel worse, causes loss of appetite, weight loss, vomitting, nausea and an INCREASE in pain. If he stops treatments they say he will have 3-7mon, with treatments, maybe a year, possibly more, but who wants to suffer & hurt more like that? No one should have to suffer like this, NO ONE. So no matter what, im here and i support him in whatever he decides.
I understand where you're coming from, but I think most people who are considering assisted suicide are in excruciating pain. I think many people will choose to live as long as they can, but when the pain starts, it's a different story. So please don't take that away from them.
A very brave wife you really were to stand by your man.may god of the heavens keeps taking care of you every single day of your life a big hug and many kisses to you and your two angels.
What a beautiful love story! I feel everyone should be able to choose when the time is right to end their own life! There is enough suffering in the world , why would we want to prolong it? Let people choose how to leave this world with dignity!
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad you had the choice. Whether to continue treatment or to end life with dignity. The Choice was yours...And it should be this way for all...
I understand what she's saying, and I'm glad he had time with his children which is so important for him AND them, but for some end of life with a disease is just too painful and people should have the right to make a choice if they want to consider that path.
That hit me , to see what my mother and sister went through when my father passed away . I was 1 year 3 months when my dad passed away from cancer. Then my mother passed when i was 15 and my son died from duchenne muscular dystrophy at the age of 19. Life is a gift we can share with anyone and everyone. Dont miss a minute of it.
@@teviottilehurst God is good, Always good and they are together now. God knows this man's heart. 🙏 for forgiveness please so one day you too can be with God in Heaven.
I gave my word to honor my husband's wishes. He fought, then decided he was done, he wanted to go home to God. It was truly hard for me, but l had promised him. He chose hospice at home, we got him home on Wed, he died on Friday. God bless the Angel's of hospice. What a great group. I would not have missed a minute with him from diagnoses to the very end. I was reminded there are three ways to heal. Physical, spiritual and pyscologicly. I think he hit two out if three really well. Sometimes there is much healing even with losing your loved one.
I can understand this young man predicament, I am in excruciating pain 24/7, but I don’t have the courage to do this. I wish this family blessings and a happy fulfilling life. God bless.
Look, I was 15 when I watched my bio dad suffer a horrific death from lung cancer. He went from 250 pds to 90 in 6 months. I held his hand as he has last breathe. He was in sever pain, the meds no longer worked. It caused me tremendous amount of stress and sorrow. I developed a drinking problem at 16 because no one helped me deal with it. His good sure didn't go it either. I turned 26 and developed NHL b cell and my kids had to watch me suffer, I almost ended my life then, but I survived by science. Got throat cancer at 32 and again at 43. I did plan on suicide but science has come along way. Life has been a bitch but I fought to survive and it had nothing to do with a god just good treatments. I now suffer from PPMS and pain is a constant and pain meds can not be used for to hypermetabolizing them. I will end my life in my terms and these people saying I don't have a right is nuts. My whole family , husband children parents all agree that I should end it on my chooosing. Humans can only take so much give compassion.
I too watched my dad suffer from to til last breath from lung cancer... It was a horrific experience, and I'm still traumatized by having to watch him go out like that. Though I'm glad he went quickly. I don't blame anyone for choosing to end their lives earlier, than to experience such a horrific end. Compassion, and care for quality of life at this point is a must
Death is not the enemy. You fight the disease and when the disease and pain become unbearable you have a choice. But always remember that Death guarantees life and they are opposite sides of the same coin. Every body-form will die (when we do not know) but love and the memory of a loved one never dies. Al
You are so insightful and loving. He chose the right person to speak up for himself and I’m so glad you four experienced those priceless memories. I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. ❤
I'm so sorry for your loss but it blesses my heart to see the love you shared and all the beautiful moments you experienced and can hold in your heart forever
Like you said, every patient is different and so is every scenario. This is up to the patient, not the doctor, not the family, and certainly NOT a political fund!! If a person decides to forego suffering and physical pain, let them!!! I am so happy the choice exists and will continue to exist!!!
It's such a personal decision. One size does not fit all. We need compassion and choices. This was exactly what was right for you but it isn't right for everyone. I send you love and light and I see why this was a good thing for you and your family.
Yes for her what about him I didn't like some of the things she said about how long he has to live what was she doing videoing this is going to make a.movie......
What are you talking about? 3 years is a heartbeat in these times when you're sick. You obviously have no idea about pain and how it can be ruinous. She said she loved him so much. And I believe that.
@@denisepaulsenful I do not understand your comment. I stated 3.5 years with your loved ones is time well spent...assisted suicide is not for everyone. I also know pain can be horrible...but its ones own choice to make.
@@keelinmorris2115 I am confused about what she means...she said 3.5 years is a blink but that blink was well spent with family and having another child together. I am unsure is she watched and listened to the video.
Really random things I was thinking the same thing it’s amazing caused he was told he would passed away in 4 months but ended up living a extra 42 months
Beautiful and touching story! Incredible wife and children! I have end stage congestive heart failure. I now wear a LVAD to assist my heart in pumping. There will be a transplant in my future and it's pretty scary to think about. One day at a time. I hope to be as graceful as JJ! Rest in peace buddy!
My dad is dying from cancer they gave him 4 months to live a month ago I’m finding it so hard to cope and he hasn’t left us yet this story is so inspiring thank you ❤
Respectfully, I disagree. I’m currently 50 years old, 10 days after my 20th birthday I was diagnosed with an extremely aggressive case of Crohn’s disease, and a year later, when my large intestine ruptured, they also found intestinal cancer. Since that point I have had 37 absolutely brutal operations that has removed 95% of my entire gastrointestinal tract, I have Darryl three relapses of cancer, and I live each day just to fight to stay alive, but as the years have gone by, my suffering and pain is beyond words, and I’ve made my intentions clear to everybody that I love, I want to die with dignity, on my terms, before my diseases take me to a vegetative state, or I could stay in that stage for months, possibly years. The moment I am no longer able to get out of bed, into it please try my best to enjoy each day, in my life, as I see it, is over. To simply exist is not enough, for my heart to beat, it’s not enough, if I can’t live my life, then my life will be over. I’ve already made every arrangement necessary legally and personally. I even had a living wake, which was actually a lot of fun, they even step me in a coffin and push it up against the wall as they greeted my guests! Despite the indescribable pain and suffering, I still have not lost my sense of humor, and I can be pretty wild, as my guests found out that day. I think I scared half of them to death! LOL! I warned them that I wasn’t going to go out quietly, and I have no intention of doing so. I’ve already got the drugs necessary To stop my heart, I can take them anytime I wish, but not yet. While each day I deteriorates a little more, when the day comes when I can no longer do everything for myself, and become a burden to my spouse, my family, and all the people I love, I’m taking those pills, and leaving this world behind with grace and dignity, filled with the love and support of the many people I’ve been so blessed to have in my life. Generally it’s not up to us when our time comes, but in my case, and other similar cases, we seem to show our animals more compassion and then we do ourselves. We would never allow our beloved cats or dogs to suffer, and put them down, so what’s so terrible about doing the same for a human being that you love? I know for a fact I am beyond any treatments, I will never ever heal or be cured, can I see no logical reason why I shouldn’t do this. This one thing I’m not telling you, but I will, even though you probably will not believe me. With my colon ruptured, I flatlined for two minutes, and in those two minutes, I had the most beautiful near death experience you could possibly imagine. I went to Paradise, literally, where I saw my family, that had already passed away by that point, and was completely surrounded by the most overwhelmingly wonderful sensations of pure love, pure joy, contentment, happiness, and there was no more pain, no more sorrow, just love. Unfortunately my grandfather told me I couldn’t stay, because I still had work to do, so I awoke in the ICU. Every since that experienced I promised myself one thing, that while I really don’t want to die, if ever I’m in a situation where I face and agonizing and slow death, I would take whatever steps are necessary to end my life with dignity and to return to that beautiful place I once visited all those years ago, and to be with the people I love most. I am so sorry about your husband, I understand your apprehension’s about assisted suicide, And I respect your opinion, I just don’t agree with her, but you have my deepest sympathies, I know that your husband will be in a better place, and out of all pain and suffering forever. And sooner or later when your time comes, you will be reunited together in paradise forever. God bless.
Hardship comes to all of us. If we choose to keep going, it is still our decision. This man understood that his family needed him more than he needed release. Brave.
You are wrong when you say this is the reason assisted suicide is wrong. The people who make that decision do not do so based on the words of doctors of others...it is done based on what they feel and live with every single day. You were given an amazing gift and able to find so much happiness. Unfortunately, your story isn’t the norm for many. I’ve watched loved ones die horrible deaths many, many times. Easing their unending, excruciating pain was what should have been allowed. It should be THEIR choice...no one else’s & none of us should judge another’s choice. I completely support and love your story. I am so thankful you got it... Please don’t believe the same holds true for everyone. I promise you it doesn’t.
@@tonyahemer5314 Not true, what about those that die suddenly in a accident and die on impact? These people don't live for months suffering in pain, so how can you say we should all endure suffering. When he walked the earth he did what he could to end people's suffering, died on the cross so us sinners wouldn't have to spend eternity in hell suffering. Most cancers (if not all) and many other diseases are a result of chemicals we are ingesting or absorbing into our bodies one way or another. Even tobacco, compare it to the tobacco Indians use to smoke and live long lives without developing the ailments now caused from smoking cigarettes. It's the chemicals and additives that wreck havoc on our bodies. The auto-immune disorders, autism, Alzheimer's, and many other disorders that were unheard of before eating foods loaded with chemicals, preservatives, etc. God doesn't put people on earth just to have them endure suffering. We are all Gods children, correct? What parent wants their child to suffer? Wants them to endure pain for months or years without having medication that can relieve their pain. Depending on what is wrong pain medication may not help. Yes God allowed his only son to endure pain and to suffer at the hands of others, but he didn't allow him to live for months or years on the cross either. That's the difference these people are living for years in agony and pain.
yeah whatever a Patient who is terminally ill must under all circumstances be awarded the right to make a descision to assisted suicide or to live his/her life out to the end. This mustn't be up to politicians, doctors, family, caretakers...but the PATIENT only!
Exactly. No one else is going through their pain. How selfish of OTHERS to demand someone in pain live just for everyone else. Absolutely horrible. Assisted suicide should be an option for anyone who has to face that decision, because it’s their deaths and they have a right to make it as comfortable and pain free as possible.
@@hc507 Agreed! And Heroin should be legalized in the U.S. for palliative care, it has way better medical properties for this than morphine.. Why waste it on drug-addicts.
@Cool Breeze not a know it all, my partner didn't have a living will, I made the decisions. But it is something people should do. Also calling someone a know it all is rude.
I realize this video was from 4 years ago, but my heart goes out to you. I’m so glad you and your children were able to have that time with him. I was diagnosed with cancer in July of 2020. I can’t even begin to explain how it has affected me physically, mentally and emotionally. No one will understand how the chemotherapy creates what is referred to as “brain fog” and how severely the combination with the radiation affects your cognitive ability. I try very hard to continue to move forward everyday, but of late I feel like it’s time for me to move on so to speak. Both my sister and my brother live in other areas of the country and are not close by. I do have a handful of cousins in the area who have remained close and very helpful. This actually the first time I have expressed these feelings. I have not told my family my current thoughts and I’m not sure that I will. I know in my heart this is a decision I will have to make alone. My mom died of cancer and when she went through treatment I thought I knew what she was going through. Trust me, you really don’t know until you are going through it yourself. Believe me, it’s a whole different ball game. Consequently I don’t expect others to truly understand. I wish you all the best!
Well if you treat a woman right , not cheat, value all she does, and respect her fully put her first and kids before your family and respect your home , tjis is what a husband will receive in a wife!! A loving caring wife
We all deserve someone like this at our side when we are dying. How awesome are these heroes that give of themselves like this woman andu beautiful sister who literally let my father died in her arms. 👌❣️
I am living . Diagnosed with Stage 4 Melanoma in April of 2020 . When I was told the oncologist was upset to tell me .. I lowered my head and said " His Will Be Done " .. A few months ago I was told " We didn't expect you to still be here " and even as of yesterday was told " You have been one of the most joyful patients " .. I am here for A reason .. No matter the pain that has been laid upon me .. The Lord covers me and for The Glory of God ..My heart beats to Hope . . I will go when I am called
I am sorry this is a personal choice, end of life when faced with a huge illness, is not something you can paint with a wide brush. Each person needs to make this choice with their families and their own faith. I am so happy you were able to spend those precious years with your husband. But, this is a personal choice.
Thank you for sharing. I’m dying as well, and l just would like to say “l love you” to my ex wife and kids.
we love u
I love you ❤
Peace and respect to you..I'm in tears...
Well my dear friend I'm going to tell you a very very big secret there isn't no death no you're probably thinking whoa whoa like I said there isn't no death there is life After Life and I am a near death experience I have seen that other world and you or somebody around you must know about near death experiences deathbed visions if you have already passed away that's fine but if you are still here don't be scared there isn't no death at all what you will see you will come out of your body then you will see a white beautiful light it will feel the room it is beautiful then you will feel and see god then a beautiful tunnel send you will be going home your true home I am so sorry if this is so heavy for you or your family or Friends but I can only tell the truth love you all Steve
We love you...
I love this woman. She is the epitome of a wife.
Amen. She is not only the perfect wife she is an inspiration to us all.
World needs more ppl like her! It would be a better place!!
Lol
@@omgthekitty1676 why are you laughing?
scarlette536 She’s the strongest woman I’ve ever seen.
My husband died of cancer in January. I was his caretaker.He never gave up and he did it for his family! I will always love him for that. JJs story is inspiring! It shows that your quality of life is all about what your living for and the happiness you can have in that time you are here. I’ve seen it. God bless you and your family sweetheart!
God bless you too
Bless you
The point is though, that it is NIT for you or JJ's sweet wife to choose for others what THEY need.
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"You can't think about assisted suicide in just one situation"
Exactly. This goes both ways.
I am so unbelievably overjoyed that you had this extra time. It is amazing and truly miraculous. Please know that your situation is unique, as everyone else's is. Do not take this choice away from those who do not have the same gift you have been given.
Well said
Assisted suicide gives patients their power back. And is a merciful way to be let to compared to suffering
Agreed. Patients should have the right to choose whether they live out their final days or not. This organisation wants to take away those rights. He made a choice to live out his days, not everyone should be forced to.
@@thompsonmatthew That's true. I just watched Jill Finnegan's farewell party video. She chose to end her life, and everyone around her had time to say goodbye. It was her choice, her power over her life. Life is delicate and it's understandable that people around want the dying person to stay for a bit longer. But that's not their life. They're not going to suffer. I know experience is different for anyone but I hope we don't take away the choice and power over the lives of those who suffer
Agreed.
Very well said. It's important to always remember not everyone is the same, even when it comes to dying.
When I watched this I realized I have NO problems in my life. And then I cried.
Mark Forquer you can say that again.
I've had a tear in my eye for this woman and her 2 sons
SAME HERE. FUCK THAT CRYBABY SHIT LIFE IS FUCKING BEAUTIFUL
Enjoy it because tommorow can be totally different
Not true every One have problems,Not Just because someone Is about to diyng means we have no problems
I’m so happy this popped up in my You Tube. I have been having a terrible time lately and was contemplating taking my life. I was tired of fighting and life felt too heavy. Then I watched this beautiful video and my whole attitude changed in an instant. Thank you J.J. I am as certain as anyone can be that you will be together in Heaven.
Jen Blossom Things will get better
How wonderful.....Hope your ok Jen ....God Bless you cc
Please God, be with Jen. She is hurting and needs more and more signs that her life is valuable. Let her feel that so clearly that nothing can shake her.
@Lucy Heartfilia there's so many new things out there every single day to help those who want to take their own life. I was there. I still struggle and then I look at my kids and my dogs and kitty and I look at the lives of those who want so much to just have one more day. And I realize that today's problems are always fixable. And the people who are dying, they want another day. Something I have. Please get help. Email me. Maybe I can help. I hope so.
l.bailey1478@gmail.com you matter. You matter to me and to others.
Please don't take your life. You are loved. There are so many options to help with depression. Please seek out help. If one thing doesn't work for you , something else will. Never give up please.
*"We love each other, and always."* -JJ
*"Always and forever."* -Kristen
Love Is a fake thing
I lost my mom a few weeks ago. I'm still heartbroken. She had advanced cancer, was in remission for a year and a half, but the cancer came back. She didn't die of the cancer itself, but of sepsis during chemo. She was very clear that if she was told that she was terminal, that she would go for assisted suicide. That wasn't wrong, undignified or selfish of her, and I supported that decision wholeheartedly. It's not about me, or any other of the people that loved her, but offering relief when there was none.
While she lay dying in the hospital, God forgive me, but I thought it would have been better for her if they had just ended it. I was very torn between my selfish wish and need to have her with me longer, and what was actually better for her.
Please, let everyone decide for themselves what they want to do. It's not an easy decision one way or another.
Ny heart goes out to you at this difficult time. 🙏🏼
YOU are the beautiful soul here! Not the liar in the video! I am sorry for your loss. I know it says 2 years ago. I lost my mom too. I get it. But I UNSELFISHLY LOVE my loved ones! Like you! And would NEVER DEMAND tht they SUFFER TO APEASE ME! I cant believe how many are praising this video and the woman in it. I am sorry she suffered such a great loss. But she is pushing an opinion, without true facts! and wanting to make decisios that are not hers ot make!
Been through the same situation 21 years ago when my dad was suffering from cancer. I was torn betweem my wish to be able to hug him one more day and my wish to see his pain end.
@@wordswritteninred7171 What a horrible comment to make. I'm truly amazed at your insensitivity. You should be ashamed of yourself.
God will forgive you if you only ask Him.
Assisted suicide is about when THEY are ready to end the suffering. It's THEIR choice and THEIR right!!!
Amen. Not a lot of us have a person like this in their lives.
Shut your mouth ya moron, your opinion means nothing. Get off the internet.
EXACTLY! She spewed how she will "also fight to let him go" then regurgitatted how its about HER and not what HE WANTS by saying he would not have a right to say, I cant take anymore. How utterly selfish is that! "my son got to know his dad" Well isnt that special! Not everyone has a small child they need to consider! Not everyone who is terminally ill,will even be COGNIZANT enough to even be AWARE OF THEIR SURROUNDINGS! But hey, as long as the HEALTHY PERSON WANTS YOU TO SUFFER FOR THEIR WELL BEING, WELL, YOU SHOULD JUST DO IT! It is about THEM after all!
@@jasoncatron1039 ah yes the toxic troll makes their appearance
@cyber warrior,
Hi
Only the person dealing with the pain and bodily problems should be able to make that decision. Quality of life at some point does matter.
She was saying that for them it was better to keep making memories~
Maybe not for everyone, though💝...
correct. JJ Hanson Jr. felt that the memories outweighed the pain and the discomfort. He got to create two beautiful children, and he has left his wife with two young boys, that will leave his wife with some company. He didn't leave her alone, and widowed. He left her widowed, but she has two beautiful kids to still continue to make memories with.
Others can't say the same, and every single circumstance is understood. Sometimes assisted suicide is the right move, the individual wants the control, wants to be able to die with dignity, they don't want to die bed ridden and hooked to a bunch of machines.
@@Royalsprincess1 I truly understand and so does everyone in my family that the same goes for me. 🙏
Guys, HERE is The TRUE Savior
YaH The Heavenly FATHER HIMSELF was Who they Crucified for our sins and “HERE IS THE PROOF”
From the Ancient Semitic Scroll:
"Yad He Vav He" is what Moses wrote, when Moses asked YaH His Name (Exodus 3)
Ancient Semitic Direct Translation
Yad - "Behold The Hand"
He - "Behold the Breath"
Vav - "Behold The NAIL"
@@Praise___YaH all I can say is
.. Lacking empathy and love. Seek first to understand and to speak little.
Rest In Peace JJ. Kristen, You are a Beautiful person inside and out. Hugs
Tell this to someone suffering with MND and then come back and try telling the same story. You won’t. Sometimes a pain free exit is a patients right. It’s their body, their decision that should be respected.
I totally agree
I do know how it feels to lose someone who means the absolute then have to let go.......
@ItIsWhatItIs exactly, for her, her choice/his choice. I can't imagine choosing an assisted death for myself but I know others who would and one that has. Patient's right to choose.
All this video is saying that for this particular family, and their specific circumstances, and their level of comfort, and their understanding, and in their situation, the best option was to keep going. Doctors gave him 4 months- he lived 3 1/2 years, with a very obvious good quality of life.
She is not advocating against assisted suicide- she is just showing people that 4 months doesn’t necessarily mean 4 months and to not give up hope- because in their case, it wasn’t 4 months- it was nearly 4 years.
Yes but this is tottaly differed illness.
With MND he would not have 4 years the same way he had withn brain cancer.
She just said that u have to think it twice.
I am sure if he would have MND she would think different way.
And even people with MND not all wanna die. It is different from person to person
Any person, suffering from an incurable illness, has the right to leave this world in peace and with dignity.
Well said
Yes. On their own terms.
AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Exxxaaccttllyyy
No
I am in awe and speechless at the pure love, grace, joy, beauty, and goodness of this family.
And that's the beauty of having the right to choose what IS RIGHT FOR YOU. There shouldn't be any shame or guilt associated with having to make an immensely difficult decision like that. There are far too many variables for someone or some entity to have say, one way or another, over what you should do with your life. I only hope that people can truly weigh the positive & negative before deciding.... Rest in Peace, Mr. Hanson.
Your story is amazing but your story is NOT everyone s. Nobody should have to live in pain. He lived 3 good years, others might have suffered for 3 years. That's why it's a personal decision that we all should have.
I agree with you I left a comment she's selfish and why show it all in a video she's ...........
I too left a comment. Patients choosing the assisted suicide route aren't able to choose that legally until they are only a few months from the end of their life. They too often hope for a miracle but if that miracle does not come and living on is just too unbearable, they have a chance to go peacefully.
Appreciate their story, but in the end, this should be an INDIVIDUAL choice, no one else’s.
This guy had brain cancer, from the looks of it, and its terrible. Only thing I fear more than brain cancer is Alzheimers Disease. I feel that this lady is being selfish by telling everyone not to choose assisted suicide. Sure those moments were a gift, but were they a gift for her husband? How much did he suffer so that the older boy could know his dad or so they could have another kid together? The person suffering from an incurable, terminal disease needs to make the final call. Ill say this, if my husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer, he would get the final say and if he wanted to die early and escape the bullshit I'd make it happen. If he wanted to go through all of it I'd be there with him and make it as peaceful as possible. But it would be his choice and his alone and I wouldn't make a video telling people not to stop their suffering.
@@BeautifulEnigma83 life is suffering
I love how he stares at his wife and kids with such love omg im in tears he was a such a lovely man r.i.p xx
I say this with all due respect and love! Everyone's situation with diseases and cancer it's different! I choose to leave that choice of assisted suicide to the person who is suffering! I am so very happy and you were blessed to have 3 more years with your husband! Which is a miracle within itself! Everyone's journey is different! And everyone knows what they can tolerate and what they cannot tolerate! I will never go against someone's choice to have assisted suicide! Please accept my condolences on the loss of your amazing husband and the father of your children! May you and your children be blessed always! ❤️
Thank you. I don’t understand why they would even want to take that choice from someone else. Just because it wasn’t right for you, doesn’t mean no one should be able to do it. I imagine he wasn’t in constant, severe pain, but many people who consider euthanasia are. They don’t want to live that way, and they shouldn’t have to.
I do to some people suffer so much pain nothing helps. It's hard to watch them in so much pain. If they want help to die it's there choice they are the that's hurting.
I’m suffering bad ptsd and depression with anxiety, last weekend I wanted to die, JJ your an inspiration for me to keep going. Life is better now because i got help
Glad to hear you got help!
And you are doing better, but its also different from what the video is about!
And as someone who also had/has PTSD, anxiety, did have a (Drug abuse), OCD I can relate to what you are feeling!
But I have thought about it but never even considered it realistically!
But if I knew I was going to die in 6 months, when the pain became too much and organs starting to fail! I would also like to have the ability to decide to end it!
@@commonsense31 somebody dying of cancer would love to trade places with you in a second.
I hope u will get well soon
Dark Lady It’s not as well documented in places like India because it’s viewed in the exact same way you view it. Mental health and it’s disorders is real, you genuinely are a complete moron if you refuse to believe in scientifically proven disorders. I’m not religious but I pray that no family member of yours ever has to go through depression or something like it, people like you make it that much worse.
God bless you and guide you, may Jesus Christ be your lord and take away your pain.
I prefer to be able to make my own decisions. Some wish to hang on till the very end, which I find no fault with. Some wish to go with dignity. I also find no problem with that.
Dave Arndt amen
People who “hang on to the very end” die with massive dignity.
You are clearly sucide prone. Thx for letting us know.
Dave Arndt
I’m terminal and I feel exactly the same way.
Am I ready to go right now? Nope.
But when I get to the point I’m ready to go. I want dignity. I don’t want my kids watching me dwindle down to my death one day. I watched my mom draw her last breath. I don’t wish that on anyone
Paige Marshall I’m so sorry, Paige.
It’s heartbreaking watching someone go through a terminal illness and those who do will all do it differently. For you guys assisted suicide wasn’t what you wanted but for others it is so we should all be mindful of people’s rights to choose. It should be a choice available for the person who is suffering the illness or disease. It’s not about those who are left behind. Sorry for your loss, I am happy for you that you had that time with JJ, it was a blessing.
I don't think people do assisted suicide upon hearing they are terminal. They usually wait until they are incapacitated.
It would ideally be before they get to that point, probably once they start to feel the true impact of their illness or condition.
@@annsturtevant1684 amen .Go away with dignaty intact
It's a final celebration of life for the person leaving it gives them and who's left here closure and better memories
@Amanda Charlebois yes.
They need to be aware and able to do it themselves.
Part of the laws is that they have to do it with sound body and mind.
It is absolutely tragically sad that he had to die and leave his kids behind in this world. Im broke for this family r.i.p....🙏
Thank you. Still here. Still in chronic pain even after multiple and treatments. Hope you're all safe and well
Jay Cee - Hope you are safe and well now. May God be with you. ❤️
Jay Cee sending you hugs and much love
yo Jay bird
@@sandraguzmanmontes6290KEYTRUDA..
@@cullenandkericaldwell5951KEYTRUDA
What an amazing man and woman. Positivity and love gives hope. She is an angel.
I believe in choices. So glad your choice worked for you all. Much love to you all.
I have cancer and every night I go to bed I think about assisted suicide via "Dignitas" but every night I find a reason not to go through with it, Cancer not only destroys your body, it affects family and friends, depression sets in and it eats you alive. I just pray that when my time comes I don't feel any pain and that family is by my side.
I hope your body does not suffer any pain and God makes it easier for you to live and recover you with a miracle. It's not impossible, The Creator is GREAT!
I hope that you keep finding your reasons. Just know, if you were my loved one I would not want to be your suffering reason. If it came to that would respect your decision. I wish you no pain💗
i love you
Pls don't take ur life , I'm nt here to judge pls BT bcoz I care, just live a day as it comes I knw its hard, BT hang in there God works in miraculous ways, just b positive n don't even think abt it, try to eat healthily avoid meat or processed foods, N ABOVE ALL, MIX BLACK SEEDS POWDER WITH WATER N DRINK DAILY N EAT 5 - 7 DATES DAILY ,,, JUST TRY N DONT IGNORE. GOD BLESS U N HEAL YOU
Make sure the blood of Christ washes over you so you are saved. May God bless you and be with you beyond the end.
Wow. I went from a happy mood, listening to upbeat music and made my way here. I’m sooo sorry for your loss, love. You’re an *A M A Z I N G* wife and very supportive. God bless.
🤩
Happy in what way
I watch this and it make me cry so much, I thankful for so many things . I was diagnosed with colon cancer stage 4 in 2005 and I was told to live life to the fullest that only god knows when I would die, so I did and here I am 2019 . I lost a son put god gave me 5 grandchildren , just want to thank her for her beautiful love story so we can keep our faith . god bless her family
This is real. This is life. Heartbreaking. Rest in peace, my brother.
It broke my heart and made me smile at the same time you could see the love they shared and fill it in your heart
To all men take note. The love you give is the love you will get back.
@Michael Bing I like that and so true it is a two way street a
You sad bitter woman
Geeze... I was gonna say that "this needs to be said to my wife"
But then, I see these other comments...
Why some of you dudes gotta be dick wads tho.?.?..? Dayum
Mary Potter
One can certainly hope so, but this is an imperfect life, so expectations should be nil.
Whats the point of saying this in this type of video? Most reasonable men already knew that.. Sigh
This brought me in tears. Life is indeed a gift😁
My husband is dying from end stage non-small cell lung cancer that has spread to both lungs, lymph nodes, spine, Right hip and bones in both legs, and the pain is excruciating, even with pain meds. I told him that if he decides to stop treatments, (radiation, chemo & immunotherapy (keytruda) as he has talked to me about, and just the cancer run its course and just let go, that i am at his side. The treatments make him feel worse, causes loss of appetite, weight loss, vomitting, nausea and an INCREASE in pain. If he stops treatments they say he will have 3-7mon, with treatments, maybe a year, possibly more, but who wants to suffer & hurt more like that? No one should have to suffer like this, NO ONE. So no matter what, im here and i support him in whatever he decides.
Rest easy James 💜
we will all see each other at the end 🙏🏼
I understand where you're coming from, but I think most people who are considering assisted suicide are in excruciating pain. I think many people will choose to live as long as they can, but when the pain starts, it's a different story. So please don't take that away from them.
Virginia Keim thank you for those kind and understanding words. Xxxx
Perfect words.
Yes. ❤️
How do you know he wasn’t in pain?
@@VABee59 I pray that he wasn't. It was his choice to live and die as he wanted. I just want the same choice.
Amen! Praise Jesus! This family is a gift to the world! Thank you for sharing your story.
God bless his soul. May his love bring you peace . Bless your family💕🙏
What a amazing tribute to your husband and to all of us watching!! God Bless!!
Heart breaking and what a beautiful perspective she has .Glad they got that extra time to share making loving memories.
R.I.P
A very brave wife you really were to stand by your man.may god of the heavens keeps taking care of you every single day of your life a big hug and many kisses to you and your two angels.
What a beautiful love story! I feel everyone should be able to choose when the time is right to end their own life! There is enough suffering in the world , why would we want to prolong it? Let people choose how to leave this world with dignity!
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad you had the choice. Whether to continue treatment or to end life with dignity. The Choice was yours...And it should be this way for all...
I understand what she's saying, and I'm glad he had time with his children which is so important for him AND them, but for some end of life with a disease is just too painful and people should have the right to make a choice if they want to consider that path.
Watching this, these people- I am so deeply humbled, and so deeply grateful. Thank you.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Now is rest no more pain 💕💕💕💕
Ss
That hit me , to see what my mother and sister went through when my father passed away . I was 1 year 3 months when my dad passed away from cancer. Then my mother passed when i was 15 and my son died from duchenne muscular dystrophy at the age of 19. Life is a gift we can share with anyone and everyone. Dont miss a minute of it.
I believe that everyone should have the right to make these difficult decisions that doctors can't/won't make for their patients. 😔
What works for some doesn't work for others. WE ALL SHOULD HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE, without issue.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve been an RN a long time, but always remain amazed and inspired by people’s strength when facing death.
😭😭😥😥 So encouraging. Love each other as if it's your last. God bless your family.🙏🏽
May he Rest In Peace May god give you strength,,, god bless you lady and your kids!
The god who took his life away then. No God.
@@teviottilehurst God is good, Always good and they are together now. God knows this man's heart. 🙏 for forgiveness please so one day you too can be with God in Heaven.
Thank you for every second of this video, my dream is to be pride and courageous like you. You 're helping to live my life better!
I gave my word to honor my husband's wishes. He fought, then decided he was done, he wanted to go home to God. It was truly hard for me, but l had promised him. He chose hospice at home, we got him home on Wed, he died on Friday. God bless the Angel's of hospice. What a great group. I would not have missed a minute with him from diagnoses to the very end. I was reminded there are three ways to heal. Physical, spiritual and pyscologicly. I think he hit two out if three really well. Sometimes there is much healing even with losing your loved one.
My heart truly goes out to you all, there is a place where Jesus Christ is and there will be no more tears, fear, pain and sorrow. God Bless
What a wonderful brave lady. Thoughts. X
The power of love 💖 what an amazing couple you are RIP JJ x
Looking after others is what makes us human. This Women is the definition of humanity.......
I can understand this young man predicament, I am in excruciating pain 24/7, but I don’t have the courage to do this. I wish this family blessings and a happy fulfilling life. God bless.
I lost my husband in 2009 when our kids were little. My heart goes out to you, who knows? Maybe you'll see him again. That's my hope at least 🤗
Look, I was 15 when I watched my bio dad suffer a horrific death from lung cancer. He went from 250 pds to 90 in 6 months. I held his hand as he has last breathe. He was in sever pain, the meds no longer worked. It caused me tremendous amount of stress and sorrow. I developed a drinking problem at 16 because no one helped me deal with it. His good sure didn't go it either.
I turned 26 and developed NHL b cell and my kids had to watch me suffer, I almost ended my life then, but I survived by science. Got throat cancer at 32 and again at 43. I did plan on suicide but science has come along way. Life has been a bitch but I fought to survive and it had nothing to do with a god just good treatments. I now suffer from PPMS and pain is a constant and pain meds can not be used for to hypermetabolizing them. I will end my life in my terms and these people saying I don't have a right is nuts. My whole family , husband children parents all agree that I should end it on my chooosing.
Humans can only take so much give compassion.
I too watched my dad suffer from to til last breath from lung cancer... It was a horrific experience, and I'm still traumatized by having to watch him go out like that. Though I'm glad he went quickly. I don't blame anyone for choosing to end their lives earlier, than to experience such a horrific end. Compassion, and care for quality of life at this point is a must
@RickReviews Thanks friend. 💪🙏 Wish you all the best.
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Hope you are in a better place now.
Death is not the enemy. You fight the disease and when the disease and pain become unbearable you have a choice. But always remember that
Death guarantees life and they are opposite sides of the same coin.
Every body-form will die
(when we do not know) but love and the memory of a loved one never dies.
Al
Amen
You are so insightful and loving. He chose the right person to speak up for himself and I’m so glad you four experienced those priceless memories. I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. ❤
I'm so sorry for your loss but it blesses my heart to see the love you shared and all the beautiful moments you experienced and can hold in your heart forever
Thank you for posting this!!! It has touched and impacted me.... more than I can say!
Just sending Love and Prayers as I know from experience ~ this holiday season will be a bittersweet one for you... Love is Eternal ~ 💞
Beautiful couple, just broke my heart🙏🏽💖
What a brilliant message. What would have been lost, unknown, has been a beautiful, important gift. What heros you are.
Like you said, every patient is different and so is every scenario. This is up to the patient, not the doctor, not the family, and certainly NOT a political fund!! If a person decides to forego suffering and physical pain, let them!!! I am so happy the choice exists and will continue to exist!!!
It's such a personal decision. One size does not fit all. We need compassion and choices. This was exactly what was right for you but it isn't right for everyone. I send you love and light and I see why this was a good thing for you and your family.
Yes for her what about him I didn't like some of the things she said about how long he has to live what was she doing videoing this is going to make a.movie......
Rip J. J. Sad but a beautiful story. You are wonderful individual. God bless you your children your family and friends. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞
3.5 years is amazing!!! Thank you for sharing your story
What are you talking about? 3 years is a heartbeat in these times when you're sick. You obviously have no idea about pain and how it can be ruinous.
She said she loved him so much. And I believe that.
@@denisepaulsenful I do not understand your comment. I stated 3.5 years with your loved ones is time well spent...assisted suicide is not for everyone. I also know pain can be horrible...but its ones own choice to make.
Denise Paulsen chill out
@@keelinmorris2115 I am confused about what she means...she said 3.5 years is a blink but that blink was well spent with family and having another child together. I am unsure is she watched and listened to the video.
Really random things I was thinking the same thing it’s amazing caused he was told he would passed away in 4 months but ended up living a extra 42 months
Beautiful and touching story! Incredible wife and children! I have end stage congestive heart failure. I now wear a LVAD to assist my heart in pumping. There will be a transplant in my future and it's pretty scary to think about. One day at a time. I hope to be as graceful as JJ! Rest in peace buddy!
My dad is dying from cancer they gave him 4 months to live a month ago I’m finding it so hard to cope and he hasn’t left us yet this story is so inspiring thank you ❤
Respectfully, I disagree. I’m currently 50 years old, 10 days after my 20th birthday I was diagnosed with an extremely aggressive case of Crohn’s disease, and a year later, when my large intestine ruptured, they also found intestinal cancer. Since that point I have had 37 absolutely brutal operations that has removed 95% of my entire gastrointestinal tract, I have Darryl three relapses of cancer, and I live each day just to fight to stay alive, but as the years have gone by, my suffering and pain is beyond words, and I’ve made my intentions clear to everybody that I love, I want to die with dignity, on my terms, before my diseases take me to a vegetative state, or I could stay in that stage for months, possibly years. The moment I am no longer able to get out of bed, into it please try my best to enjoy each day, in my life, as I see it, is over. To simply exist is not enough, for my heart to beat, it’s not enough, if I can’t live my life, then my life will be over. I’ve already made every arrangement necessary legally and personally. I even had a living wake, which was actually a lot of fun, they even step me in a coffin and push it up against the wall as they greeted my guests! Despite the indescribable pain and suffering, I still have not lost my sense of humor, and I can be pretty wild, as my guests found out that day. I think I scared half of them to death! LOL! I warned them that I wasn’t going to go out quietly, and I have no intention of doing so. I’ve already got the drugs necessary To stop my heart, I can take them anytime I wish, but not yet. While each day I deteriorates a little more, when the day comes when I can no longer do everything for myself, and become a burden to my spouse, my family, and all the people I love, I’m taking those pills, and leaving this world behind with grace and dignity, filled with the love and support of the many people I’ve been so blessed to have in my life. Generally it’s not up to us when our time comes, but in my case, and other similar cases, we seem to show our animals more compassion and then we do ourselves. We would never allow our beloved cats or dogs to suffer, and put them down, so what’s so terrible about doing the same for a human being that you love? I know for a fact I am beyond any treatments, I will never ever heal or be cured, can I see no logical reason why I shouldn’t do this. This one thing I’m not telling you, but I will, even though you probably will not believe me. With my colon ruptured, I flatlined for two minutes, and in those two minutes, I had the most beautiful near death experience you could possibly imagine. I went to Paradise, literally, where I saw my family, that had already passed away by that point, and was completely surrounded by the most overwhelmingly wonderful sensations of pure love, pure joy, contentment, happiness, and there was no more pain, no more sorrow, just love. Unfortunately my grandfather told me I couldn’t stay, because I still had work to do, so I awoke in the ICU. Every since that experienced I promised myself one thing, that while I really don’t want to die, if ever I’m in a situation where I face and agonizing and slow death, I would take whatever steps are necessary to end my life with dignity and to return to that beautiful place I once visited all those years ago, and to be with the people I love most. I am so sorry about your husband, I understand your apprehension’s about assisted suicide, And I respect your opinion, I just don’t agree with her, but you have my deepest sympathies, I know that your husband will be in a better place, and out of all pain and suffering forever. And sooner or later when your time comes, you will be reunited together in paradise forever. God bless.
Hells Fury I hope you’re doing well 💕
Love your unquenchable spirit. Love your grit & Grace. Love your sense of humor! See you on the other side, brother.
Yo yo yo
Urlegs still kickin brotha?
@@dallas218 always, til I’m 6 feet under!
An amazing couple.
Truly beautiful and special.
I shed tears for you and him, for the greatness of your lives,love and for the greatness of your loss
Thank you and may God bless and your family. I'm 66 and don't have much time. This has helped me. Craig in Alabama.
Hardship comes to all of us. If we choose to keep going, it is still our decision. This man understood that his family needed him more than he needed release. Brave.
You are wrong when you say this is the reason assisted suicide is wrong. The people who make that decision do not do so based on the words of doctors of others...it is done based on what they feel and live with every single day.
You were given an amazing gift and able to find so much happiness. Unfortunately, your story isn’t the norm for many. I’ve watched loved ones die horrible deaths many, many times. Easing their unending, excruciating pain was what should have been allowed. It should be THEIR choice...no one else’s & none of us should judge another’s choice.
I completely support and love your story. I am so thankful you got it...
Please don’t believe the same holds true for everyone. I promise you it doesn’t.
Christ died on the cross for us!!! I'm sure it wasn't pleasant we must all endure suffering!! We are taken when Christ wants us not when we want
@@tonyahemer5314 Not true, what about those that die suddenly in a accident and die on impact? These people don't live for months suffering in pain, so how can you say we should all endure suffering. When he walked the earth he did what he could to end people's suffering, died on the cross so us sinners wouldn't have to spend eternity in hell suffering. Most cancers (if not all) and many other diseases are a result of chemicals we are ingesting or absorbing into our bodies one way or another. Even tobacco, compare it to the tobacco Indians use to smoke and live long lives without developing the ailments now caused from smoking cigarettes. It's the chemicals and additives that wreck havoc on our bodies. The auto-immune disorders, autism, Alzheimer's, and many other disorders that were unheard of before eating foods loaded with chemicals, preservatives, etc. God doesn't put people on earth just to have them endure suffering. We are all Gods children, correct? What parent wants their child to suffer? Wants them to endure pain for months or years without having medication that can relieve their pain. Depending on what is wrong pain medication may not help. Yes God allowed his only son to endure pain and to suffer at the hands of others, but he didn't allow him to live for months or years on the cross either. That's the difference these people are living for years in agony and pain.
@@tonyahemer5314 You're an idiot.
This above me is for Aimee💜
Toolmybass no need be so rude, I can see both sides
That was your choice and it was the best for you guys, so allow others too have their choice no matter what it is. Sending love and light
May his soul rest in peace and may God continue watching over the family
And that is what life and love is all about. Thank you for showing. I wish all the best for you and the children, Kristen, until you all meet again.
Thank you so much for this message. It means more to me than you can imagine!
God bless you. As caretaker for my husband it's very hard. May your husband rest in peace.
Bless you for your strength and committment!
They are such an amazing couple. I find such inspiration in their story. God bless.them.
I couldn't agree more. Thanks for your love.
And YOU were a GIFT for your husband and you are it for these wonderful children!!!!
yeah whatever a Patient who is terminally ill must under all circumstances be awarded the right to make a descision to assisted suicide or to live his/her life out to the end.
This mustn't be up to politicians, doctors, family, caretakers...but the PATIENT only!
Exactly. No one else is going through their pain. How selfish of OTHERS to demand someone in pain live just for everyone else. Absolutely horrible. Assisted suicide should be an option for anyone who has to face that decision, because it’s their deaths and they have a right to make it as comfortable and pain free as possible.
@@hc507 Agreed! And Heroin should be legalized in the U.S. for palliative care, it has way better medical properties for this than morphine.. Why waste it on drug-addicts.
@Cool Breeze living wills are a thing and medical by-proxies
@Cool Breeze not a know it all, my partner didn't have a living will, I made the decisions.
But it is something people should do.
Also calling someone a know it all is rude.
They didn't give like too take god did
Such a powerful beautiful moving couple thank you for sharing your story it opened peoples eye's and showed true love is real and amazing
Condolences to the family
What a wonderful life to share with us. Thank you
I realize this video was from 4 years ago, but my heart goes out to you. I’m so glad you and your children were able to have that time with him. I was diagnosed with cancer in July of 2020. I can’t even begin to explain how it has affected me physically, mentally and emotionally. No one will understand how the chemotherapy creates what is referred to as “brain fog” and how severely the combination with the radiation affects your cognitive ability. I try very hard to continue to move forward everyday, but of late I feel like it’s time for me to move on so to speak. Both my sister and my brother live in other areas of the country and are not close by. I do have a handful of cousins in the area who have remained close and very helpful. This actually the first time I have expressed these feelings. I have not told my family my current thoughts and I’m not sure that I will. I know in my heart this is a decision I will have to make alone. My mom died of cancer and when she went through treatment I thought I knew what she was going through. Trust me, you really don’t know until you are going through it yourself. Believe me, it’s a whole different ball game. Consequently I don’t expect others to truly understand. I wish you all the best!
Dang I was feeling down on myself this morning and this vid was very moving. Rest easy James and thank you to his family for sharing!
Oh you are an angel on earth. JJ is an inspiration! Lots of love.
take notes ladies... this is what a dedicated loving wife looks and acts like.
zestydude87 agreed
Well if you treat a woman right , not cheat, value all she does, and respect her fully put her first and kids before your family and respect your home , tjis is what a husband will receive in a wife!! A loving caring wife
So take notes man!
This is what love looks like.
Easy to be a good woman if you pick a great guy...
We all deserve someone like this at our side when we are dying. How awesome are these heroes that give of themselves like this woman andu beautiful sister who literally let my father died in her arms. 👌❣️
I am living . Diagnosed with Stage 4 Melanoma in April of 2020 . When I was told the oncologist was upset to tell me .. I lowered my head and said " His Will Be Done " .. A few months ago I was told " We didn't expect you to still be here " and even as of yesterday was told " You have been one of the most joyful patients " .. I am here for A reason .. No matter the pain that has been laid upon me .. The Lord covers me and for The Glory of God ..My heart beats to Hope . . I will go when I am called
I am sorry this is a personal choice, end of life when faced with a huge illness, is not something you can paint with a wide brush. Each person needs to make this choice with their families and their own faith. I am so happy you were able to spend those precious years with your husband. But, this is a personal choice.
No one is disputing it is a personal choice but remember Ur a long time dead.😢
@@andreawood991 Death is better than suffering in my opinion.