Teen Parents Get Custody Lesson from Judge Judy | Part 1
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- Опубліковано 21 жов 2024
- Haley claims she has full custody of her baby with Christopher, but she doesn’t have a court order that says that.
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I went to school with her and her “best friend” no longer wants anything to do with her. She treated them horribly and yelled and called them names while they took care of her son. Her “best friend” actually raised her son and she’s actually a really good friend of mine and she told me what Haley did(not getting into details). Haley now lives in another state and doesn’t visit her son while chris(the father) has their son and takes care of him. The little one is now five years old and he is absolutely adorable and happy as can be❤️
Omg I’m so happy for the child. Honestly this girl is so horrible inside, she doesn’t deserve the kid
How can the kid be five if this was filmed less then a year ago? Was she 13 when she had this baby? Do some basic math before you BS people on UA-cam
@@janewoods6937 okay how about you realize that she had her baby in high school and I graduated four years ago. She had him in my junior year. This may have been posted a year ago but that court hearing was years ago girl😂😂 do your research about it if you don’t believe me.
Bull crap none of that is true melody is just upset haley wouldnt date her
@@jonpendragon2066 believe what you want🤷♀️ I’m telling the truth and no, I wouldn’t date her. I’m happily married to my husband and have an eight week old daughter.
Y’all think I’m lying when I’m not😂😂 look up when this court case happened and then the math will add up lol Oliver is five years old now. By the way haley is 22 years old now. Do y’all really go off when something is posted on UA-cam? Jesus y’all need to think before you type🤣🤣
As soon as I heard her say she decides when he sees their baby I knew JJ was about to eat her up. 🤦🏾♀️
For breakfast is a Mom who decides when the father should see his child
@@jenniferbangerter5128 ...WTF?
@@jenniferbangerter5128 weirdo
THE GIRL IS BEAUTIFUL, I hope she knows it.
Every time JJ has a beautiful young blonde she acts extra mean. I guess J.J.'s husband must glance twice at young blondes or redheads.
I like how confidently she said that she has "sole custody" like she knows what she is talking about.
Right 😂 she sounds ridiculous like the child she is 😂
the deep-sigh she makes when JJ starts getting to the bottom of her lie. Priceless
I consider it a bad thing when a place like Burger King doesn't want her
telling your girlfriend that it is not ok to be a drunk and sleep with other guys is NOT "being controlling"!!!!
Right?
of course it is. if you can't deal with a drunken promiscuous partner just move on.
@Crazy Cat Lady you're right on so many levels but speaking as a statistic my experience leads me to believe two incompatible people should move on and let the child grow up with mother or father and a step parent in a nurturing home environment.
@Shelly Sayers it's easy for me to tell others how they should be doing things lol
@@robertschaaf7192 I neither one of them have a stable environment. She never works and he works at a minimum wage job and doesn’t really do his research on being a father
She claims that he's controlling, but she won't let him see his own kid.
Also notice she brings up scenarios to prove he's either controlling or has anger issues when JJ brings up exceptions to fathers having limited access to their kids, like she makes them up on the spot so she'll change her tune and agree with her. None of the stories she tells changes that they don't have an official custody order so she can't dictate whether or not he sees their son
Judge Judy used to preside over family court cases - no surprise she'll tell it like it is.
No surprise at all, Yago. JJ knows her business.
Interesting you mention that. Have you ever seen the Larry King interview of her? Great watch. See talks about her days on family court and says that she found it very frustrating and why she takes the time to educate litigants in her show in these types of cases. She says that at least 3/4 of the family court judges, lawyers and counselors are woefully ignorant or willfully biased when it comes to parental custody cases. That it irritated her when they started with the premise that mom is superior parent and dad is some type of flawed being. That in a society that claims equal rights and protections for all, a court system would actively seek to upend that premise and treat one parent at a disadvantage.
I appreciate the young man dressing appropriately for court.
SMH oh please let's give him accalaids for putting in a suit.
The dressing appropriate for court is a waste of fucking time like people like me who work outside and get dirty and only have dirty work clothes. We don’t have nice things to wear to court just to show up for one fucking day to show our clean clothes for no reason the whole clothing thing about court is absolutely fucking benign to me
lol it's obviously the first suit he's ever tried to wear in his life. Also, combing your hair goes a long way guys, just saying.
Really you can’t afford one suit or a dress
@@shroudsshadow9998 raging over clothes in court , your a 🤡
Having only watched this first one, I can't believe how many guys don't understand that without an order you've got just as much a right to the children as the mother. I put my foot down day one and said nope not on weekends, not at your discretion, 50-50 until we have a hearing. I'm now the primary custodial parent. Fathers have equal rights. They're often just too dumb to know what that means.
That's only if you were married. If not the father doesn't have rights until paternity is established. The law does not assume you are the father if you were not married.
Exactly. Men need to know their rights.
I’m a female & yes omg !! 🤞🏽🤞🏽
@@zariaeda007 that's not at all the case in my experience. Could be different state to state perhaps. I was given the paperwork designating that I'm the father right there at the hospital on the day that my kids were born. At that point you can deny parental rights temporarily until a paternity test is done. But if you know it's your kid then you sign. Done deal for the rest of their lives. We were not married.
@@zariaeda007 Well stated, but paternity be established... at the initial hearing.
"I have sole custody so I can decide wether or not he can see the baby".
"Because I say so, there hasn't been a court order or anything", she forgot to add.
How I hate this kind of people who consider themselves so entitled to do whatever they want and decide over other people following their own whims.
💯💯 and they are only hurting the CHILD
If you go check out judge Judy's titok there a lot of people who didn't understand the whole case and it was only a 15 sec clip. Please check it out bc oof there is a lot of them in those comments
@@deena7933 its an infant, it doesn't know a thing.
Two irresponsible sponges.
Why have kids at such young age and waste life away after that. Circle of life keeps repeating.
I wish more dads would fight for their rights
I wish they didn't have to fight so hard.
@@FJ-rh6io They don’t, courts usually favor the father.
@@igotjokesss205 literally the opposite is the case but ok
@@FJ-rh6io but in over 90% of custody cases the only reason women get sole custody is because both parents agreed on it without a family court intervention. So the claim that men need to fight so hard is invalid.
@@igotjokesss205 uh.. Source?
I love when JJ gets family court cases. She’s done it for so long that she is fair, honest and tells it as it is.
Kids having kids. Never a good idea
At least, they chose LIFE as opposed to abortion/murder
@@careylou oh no 🤦♂️
@@careylou yes they choose poverty, ignorance, and suffering. Life is more than just drawing a breath.
@@de4700 If they are incapable of caring for the child, adoption is then the best option - surrender the child to a better home.
@@careylou abortion is health care.
"who gave you sole custody of the child" ....."the town clerk" LOL
Yeah, that's one very powerful town clerk. LOL
I know right ? She’s in contempt of a custody order
May as well have been the guy working at the gas station 😅
@deadspacegrave2219 there is no custody order, which is JJ's point. No order means neither of them can dictate anything about who does what with the child and when, she just thinks because she's the mother she gets to decide everything which is BS
“I have sole custody.”
Yeah, because you took the baby with you! That’s not a custody order.
"There was nothing so you have nothing" 💀🤣🤣🤣 Judge Judy is hilarious!
Perspective from someone who was in this situation: I had a neglectful and emotionally abusive mother, and was only able to get out due to my father being smart and collecting enough evidence to get custody. For some reason, the legal system is very biased toward moms, and she got visitation even after having it proven she left bruises on my older sister’s face. Right by the nose, and on a girl with a heart condition where stress alone could have been potentially fatal.
There are a lot of wonderful, loving mothers in the world (I hope I myself am currently one). But there are also those who treat their child like their property and would alienate their children from a good father for the dumbest of reasons.
Just as all mothers have the right to be assumed competent parents until proven otherwise, so do fathers. And I say this having carried a child myself. It’s not about who gave birth, it’s about what is best for the child.
Kids need a dad and hopefully theirs is a good one. My husband and I divorced and he went from being a so-so dad to completely not interested. I raised her and loved her. She is hurt from his neglect. I curse him silently every day.
As a single mom who loves her son, women like this "mother" truly baffle me!
You made one of the greatest comments towards the end I've heard my mother say it as she abused me and my brothers I heard my sister say it as she destroyed her second son I watch my niece say it and she was screwing her kids up they're my kids I can do whatever I want in essence my property
I can't stand it when women think that they automatically have "sole legal custody" of a child. No, you don't!! I'm glad when Judge Judy mops the floor with these vile women.
Um, they do if they’re ‘unwed’. Legal rights of a second party have to be established through courts and a dna test.
@@R.M.3.14 Not if the man signs the birth certificate.
@@jsmith-u5i Wrong. If he signs the birth certificate, paternity is established.End of story.
@@R.M.3.14 who gave you this advice? Your church?
@@jsmith-u5i who gave you this advice? Your church as well? As the other below stated, if his name is on the birth certificate as the father, you don't need to be wed. Marriage doesn't mean anything in these cases. Marriage is just a legal status, or actually, more on the religious (irrational) side of things.
As usual straight to the point and wiped the floor with people. Love you JJ.
Smmfh very well said so True.😂
"He decided to be controlling" in other words, he put up boundaries and she didn't like that.
Them we find out that she thinks that just because she's the mother, she can determine when the father sees their child. Why am I not surprised?
I have no doubt whatsoever she wanted to still live like a teenager while he went to work to provide and would be annoyed when he came home to find she had just been out with friends and the baby all day getting nothing done and then wanted to go out in the evening when he was home to have their son, thats most likely what she means by 'controlling' - asking her to grow tf up.
@@gRinchY-op5vr sounds about right.
Never get tired of this. I must've watched this case, all four parts, like 10 times.
I had sole custody too, but there was still a visitation order. You cannot withhold visitation because he hasn't paid support or because you feel like it.
I hope this fella gets to see his baby. Kids need their dads... My husband and daughter have such a wonderful bond...❤️
You have no idea how much it means to men to hear a woman say that.
He has sole custody now and has since remarried (or is at least with someone else) with a child of her own. They have a happy, blended family.
Sis, because you have full custody or you thought you did, you cannot hold that innocent baby away from their daddy!! Then that child may grow up and become a repeat teen parent. Both parents are important until one is abusive or an addict of sorts
When someone says I have no documents, pictures or paperwork you know its gonna get good.
The number of cases of this would probably be halved if people stopped having kids before making it out of their formative years
100 💯 no job. place to stay that is stable and still want to party. young people I know it may sound cool but children are a large responsibility. they need stability and love unconditionally. they need you. if you can't give that to them take steps to ensure you don't have them
And the overturning of roe vs wade is going to make all of this worse.
@@ShanaLawson oh maybe try being responsible with your sexuality and have safe sex? You know the sexual repression of the Victorian era was mostly about the epidemic spread of syphilis? Sex is great but too important and have great consequences to use it so casually like this generation
@@MASTER.SON. I’m not speaking of myself, I have two kids and my tubes tied. I am speaking of others. The sexual education in America is beyond ridiculous and people are raped too frequently. There are many reasons people get pregnant, not just from irresponsibility.
@@MASTER.SON. How about anyone be responsible and not HAVE sex until they're married??? God forbid.
Judge Judy just nails them right when wanted. Awesome Judge.
I have full custody so I can decide when he can see his child. No ma'am that's not quite how that works. smh
All children need a father.
Correction - all children need a GOOD father
I’ll never understand why ppl go on JJ knowing they haven’t held a job. It makes it hard to sympathize with them in her eyes. And u know she’s going in if she hears someone doesn’t work 💀💀😂😂
@@snowwhite7704 I think they got a free trip to LA. The show is filmed on the west coast.
"It makes it hard to sympathize with them" in my eyes too.
And who is going to be watching her baby while she's at work? It's not like America has subsidised daycare like every other country. She also doesn't have any family from the sound of things.
@@Ilikefrogs.. Of course there's subsidized daycare in America. They're vouchers you receive if you qualify with your income. It's been around for literally decades. And available and used absolutely everywhere.
Judge Judy gives a compliment😊
I can't imagine kicking your kids out, especially if a daughter is pregnant. I would never have done that to my daughters. My husband and I lost a 3-year-old son, and wish with all our hearts we still had him - children are not "throwaways."
My two parents are kicking me out for not abandoning my 3yo dog ... I'm 20 still didn't graduate had to drop off college.. get paid 257$ a month and they do not care ..... Happy somebody disagrees with parents like this
Thank you! My husband and I have two little girls and we often discuss how we wouldn’t want our girls to get pregnant young, however if it happens, we won’t ever kick them out. We are their parents and will always have a home for them
"Do you have a document showing that visitation is at your discretion? -No. So you have nothing? -No" Okey so she just does whatever she wants with their child and tells him that legally he can't do anything... What a mess.
As someone who got pregnant and married at 18 I really was to young. I used to think I was old enough and I’m so glad I got my life together but I pray my children don’t follow in my footsteps. So blessed to have my babies though. Wouldn’t change it for anything. I hope they can work out their differences and remember it’s not about them anymore it’s about their child
I had an abortion at 18 and it was the happiest day of my life.
@@DD-d6d3 God said '' I knew you before you were knit together in your mothers womb.'' You have a child but he is in heaven.
@@marilynwillett804 Nobody cares, Marilyn. Let people have abortions and not become parents when they know they can't be parents. And stop forcing your religion on others.
@@marilynwillett804 you sound overweight are you?
God Bless you and your family
That poor child.... Hopefully the baby grows up in a stable environment...
Only if the mother stays away , vile creature
She loves playing the victim to get her way. “He was controlling”. I like when Judge Mathis puts pressure on them to be specific because most of the time it’s lies
Well she is a victim.
I had such an an order, it read " reasonable access for reasonable periods of time with reasonable notice." But such an agreement only works when the custodial parent is a reasonable mature adult. It saddens me to see people ignore how they hurt their children in their pursuit to hurt their ex.
0:13 a rare moment when JJ lets her guard down and you see her nice side come out. Especially when she smiles at the plaintiff’s witness after complimenting her.
We need to stop normalizing having babies at such a young age it’s not even about the parents wanting to have them it’s about the kid nobody thinks about the kid. The kid always ends up neglected because they want to live their youth
That’s the oldest looking 18 year old I think I’ve ever seen , She looks about 30 😂😂
Right she looks as old as her mother
As usual on youtube the beautiful caucasian girl get insults, if she was black there would be compliments.
@@marilynwillett804 Oh please ! I can assure you , if she was black I’d say exactly the same , She looks years older than 18 , probably from having a child too young , I didn’t say she was ugly , I said she looked older than she is , which she does ,Get over your racist self and lose the fake victim mentality , you sound ridiculous
@@marilynwillett804 oh so you’re a racist too. Can’t say I’m surprised.
@@marilynwillett804 not you making it about race🤣🤣
this young man displays the value of knowing where you're at , acting appropriately and coming dressed appropriately and say just the minimum . And win . Never interrupt your enemy when you see them making a mistake ! - Art of War - Sun Tzu
Having sole custody does NOT mean the other parent has no visitation rights.
And you don't even have sole custody. That is a legal designation. Unless a judge says you have sole custody, you don't have sole custody.
But again, even if you did, the dad still has visitation RIGHTS.
Soooooo many parents in this situation don't know this and it causes so many problems
Thanks for posting! I’ve watched them all! Waiting for more.!
People having children when they shouldn’t is a huge problem in this country. These young people have no idea of what responsibilities they should have as young adults and frankly they just don’t care in many instances
Lol she was laughing like she thought JJ was going to be her friend then she realizes JJ isn't sympathetic and her demeanor instantly changes. Also that young man is sooo young he doesn't even fill out his suit.
" I'm the mother so I have full custody." Sounds about right. Typical mindset.
"I have full custody so I can decide he doesn't get to see his child."
"Was this a court order?"
"No, but the baby was in my custody when he asked to see him and I don't want to share."
The father is the better parent clearly
No court order wow.. just to keep him from his child .
I love when Judge Judy gives teenagers especially those who make are parents
what exactly are you attempting to say? or is this a guessing game.
Your comment gave me an Aneurysm 💀
@@marilynwillett804 yeah you’re overweight and bitter
This hurt to read
I'd be calling CPS on this young girl for her own wellbeings as much as the infants. Seems to be/ have been incredibly prone to poor choice after poor choice. Hope she had an epiphany at some point.
JJ caught that lie quick!
cung nhau dao quanh mot vai video judy de biet kenh dao nay the nao, thi truong dao nay ra sao, sao con phai suy nghi ve em
I remember when i was 7 i would watch judge judy with my grandmother so i subscribed to get updates to watch with her.
it made my grandma happy
That mother really WAS young looking enough to have been mistaken for a teenager!
Friend's mother: "No, I'm the mother."
Judge Judy: "... that would be a compliment"
Me: "No, JJ. That is proof that babies having babies is a GENERATIONAL PROBLEM! Like generational poverty, and generational disrespect for education, that is generational stuck-in-my-teen-years-because-I-spawned-too-young."
Yes, I realize that the 17 year old isn't the mother in court, but the mother in court lives with her, her mother had her very young, and I somehow doubt that this is being held up as an example of what NOT to do with her life. So in my mind, this counts.
Exactly what I was thinking. She prob had a kid at 17 too. Horrible
She has a very hard life ahead of her 😥
Judge Judy fails to mention that up until the last few decades, men and women were having children at young ages...that is the conservative position on child bearing. Let's stop pretending this is the new generations fault.
I don't think it's appropriate in any generation to be honest. Most times, it doesn't work out. I don't think that's what you're saying but that's just my take on it.
Young is fine, but until the last few decades those young people were married and there was at least one steady source of income in the home. It is a package deal.
@@paullambert8701 one income doesn't work anymore in our society. That's why women feel resentful because they have to go work outside, come back home to the second shift and then suffer raising the child and balancing everything whilst some men are still stuck on the former way of life and think that just working away from home is enough for them.
Life isn't the same.
Young girls were being hometrained to become wives and mothers. They were used to working hard both boys and girls then get married. I think in that setting marrying young wasn't much of an issue as it is today.
@@peacheskong2245 Boys were taught to be men and handle household and car repairs. Now everyone is supposedly “equal.” Equally incapable of performing any useful, necessary task.
I’m glad Oliver is with his Dad. I’m shocked though that Hayley doesn’t see him.
Why? She never cared.
These people must not know JJ started in the child services. Once she said she chooses when he sees the baby JJ was ready
Little miss wants to play grownup but doesn't work so she can't pay a security deposit, can't pay rent or pay for utilities, purchase diapers, cloths for the baby or food for herself or the baby amiright? The father is the one working while the mother does...what? I'd love to know what happened between the girl and her father. Her friend's mother needs to get little missy up and out on that thingy commonly referred as call a gd job. How many WORKING single mother's are in the US?
Patching things up with the baby’s father might start to look mighty good at that point.
I notice an ongoing theme with female teenagers. For some reason, they think getting pregnant by some guy means that the guy really loves them. There’s no way anybody can possibly know how deep the love is at 17. It’s almost like they want to get pregnant on purpose. Every guy I’ve ever talked to that got a girl pregnant in their teens, they’ve all told me in honesty they cared very little about the girl they got pregnant. They usually say that they didn’t know any better. Maybe if girls knew that they would stop getting pregnant in their teens.
The teen mom shows backfired. Not everyone gets a mansion and a nice car. Here is the result..
Have you ever been a teenage girl? I'm just going to assume that statistically, based on your name and profile picture, you're a cis dude.
The more likely scenario is that society lies about what love is, then also bars kids from sexual education, unhindered access to birth control and abortions, and then people are surprised when teenagers get pregnant and have babies.
Teenage girls don't go around thinking that getting knocked up means their partner loves them. They're thinking their lives are now ruined because nobody taught them how to have safe sex, and now they can't get the abortion they need (or their parents force them to keep the baby, which is so much worse). Then they can't get themselves to put the baby into foster care when it's a broken system, where children are routinely abused, molested and neglected because fostering kids is a profitable business if you don't care about the children.
The mother's prospects for an education? Severely diminished, especially if grandparents aren't able to provide childcare. Prospects of making an actual career versus working random jobs? Severely diminished. The other parent is extremely likely to go on and have a full education and make a career because they get to opt out of being a parent beyond a monetary contribution if they so choose.
Teenage girls don't get pregnant on purpose unless they have been influenced by toxic people in their lives. The average teenager truly isn't looking forward to being pregnant and having a child for the rest of their lives before they're an adult themselves.
Actually it's most likely the lack of sex Ed. Even if they did have sex Ed, in the US its literally the minium. And honestly, I can understand that as a teen you think you're deeply in love. Oh, and if takes two to get knocked up
@NadrianATRS These girls have no good father example, many times. It's hard to not believe that that's all you are good for, when your own father makes no effort a Daddy.
Takes two to tango my guy
Omg I thought the plaintiff was going to say her child was 5 YEARS lol
DAYUMMMM she just straight up LIEDDD in court at the end! And I would have taken her word for it. 🤦♀️ Holy shit.
Dads need to fight for the rights more so little girls like her (and grown ass women) can understand that men are parents too.
miss bassett-hound. LOL
It's messed up because this Old lady is bored and in the middle of a divorce so she wants to play Grandma with a "non family members" but doesn't realize what she is doing.
This has 4 parts you know it's going to be a shitshow
Judge Judy was stretching a lot when she said the mother looks 17
The sigh at the end 😂😂
Whose court room did she think she was coming into?
lol .... literally the story with my ex and I . My ex tried to use my mental health against me and said I needed to be supervised and couldn't have alone time with our son without a court order . Lol same scenario exactly my ex lawyer said that he has full custody when In fact didn't and there was no court order
So now ... he got told by the judge and we have 50/50
Lol I love when people try to live above the law
3:15 soon as he started talking, I j ew everything I needed to know about him 😂
The entitlement of these witches who keep the father away from their own kids is demonic.
“Ok so Christmas time your father said ‘OUT’”
😂😂😂😂😂😂
So you are not allowing the father to see the child because you feel some type of way about him?
JJ: When did you move out?
Plaintiff: Moved out or moved in?
Me: WTF!
Does anyone know the year this was filmed?
I don't know WHY they try Judy in these Custody cases. She's been a FAMILY COURT JUDGE FOR DECADES!
When she said I live with my 17 yo friend and the camera panned to the mother, I started questioning everything in this vast universe until Judge Judy clarified it 2 seconds later.
18 years old. Worked for couple of weeks.
Has a baby. Cant support herself. Why the fuck do people decide to have children when they cant even support themself lol
The fit of that guys suite is amazing, must of hit the “old uncle’s” closet before the show
At least he has sense enough to dress appropriately for court
I remember this video. These two are from my hometown. I don't know them personally, as they are much younger than me.
Love begins at 'Burger King'.
Why does the defendant look like Mr. Tall Dark and Handsome from Spongebob 💀
Sadly, she does have full custody of the baby. It’s automatically given to the mother at birth if the parents aren’t married. Fathers need to establish parentage, then get court orders for custody and visitation.
When the mothers starts out taking slick jabs at the fathers….MOM IS GOING TO LOSE
"I have full custody"....she will also say, "I went to college"...meaning she visited one on a college tour, but was never a student there!!
Now I want a Whopper (with cheese)!!!
Damn me too😂
I swear I was thinking this😂
So here we have two Burger King 18 year olds playing house. Expect to see more of this.
She makes my head shake so hard…
She gaslit him into thinking he couldn't see his child....wow
She didn't 'gaslit" anything. You don't even know what the word means. Try getting a elementary education instead of living your life on the Internet and social media.
@@broeheemed32 whoa projecting much. I'm not going to argue with you since you obviously know better than me about everything m'lord
Hey everyone stay blessed 🙌 😇
I dont think any of them knows what they're doing. They need good guidance.
I love her hair colouring
Get some box dye and yours will look just like hers lol
@@LiLo-ob3iu naw not a chance I'm old and grey dye goes a dodgy pink colour on grey hair😭
@@sshms414 keep that natural gray, I’m sure it’s gorgeous ❤️❤️
@@LiLo-ob3iu 😘
BABIES HAVING BABIES 😅
Kids having kids scare me, I have no idea how they cope ..
I love you JJ!
Defendant looks like a cartoon character.
The clerck office gave me the order. Now I'm God Ahahahahahaha Ahahahahahaha Ahahahahahaha Ahahahahahaha Ahahahahahaha Ahahahahahaha
If you can't take care of a baby, don't have one! A child is not a pet.
Calling CPS a few times my ex has called OPP over 150 double that for cas phone calls and we've had over 20 CAS workers.
Moms looking straight like sister haha Judy was right about that one