Stop Making Excuses And Put Yourself Out There - Artist Rant

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  • @allie_burris
    @allie_burris 3 роки тому +89

    “You’ve gotta give yourself permission to do the thing badly...”
    This perfectionist needed that 😭

  • @ArtistWizardry
    @ArtistWizardry 3 роки тому +241

    I either have the next 10 years of building up my skills and putting myself out there to look forward to, or ten years of hiding, full of excuses to look back on. Either way, those 10 years are going to go by.

  • @terrybarton1808
    @terrybarton1808 3 роки тому +168

    I have started painting again at the age of 57 and love it, I've posted my art on social media and am getting many positive responses,all thanks to you and your videos

    • @pamelalittlechild2923
      @pamelalittlechild2923 3 роки тому +3

      I have done the same at 64 and wish I had done it years ago,mind you I have the luxury if people like what I do great and if they dont, hey ho x

    • @tammyvanwinkle8870
      @tammyvanwinkle8870 3 роки тому +2

      I'm baby stepping again too! Good luck! Love and light!🙏🏻🦋🌹

    • @heavenlygrandma9992
      @heavenlygrandma9992 3 роки тому +2

      @@pamelalittlechild2923
      I guess it's not too late for me at 62 then! :)

    • @heavenlygrandma9992
      @heavenlygrandma9992 3 роки тому +1

      @@chasecolten5919
      I'm sure your girlfriend would care and not trust you anymore.

  • @jasonbowman9521
    @jasonbowman9521 3 роки тому +15

    " If you want to do something that you never done before. You have to be a different person then you been." -Rafi.

  • @inquisitorlev8456
    @inquisitorlev8456 3 роки тому +135

    Van Gogh had immense talent and incredible drive. However, the legend states that he only sold a single piece when he was alive, and survived almost exclusively on his brother's support. Why? He was bad at relationships, bad at communication--he wasn't able to sell himself. Sometimes I feel a bit like Van Gogh, with only a thimbleful of his talent. Yet, I am hopeful because I know that I will never give up, and part of that means I will have to take myself out of my comfort zone, one step at a time. Van Gogh struggled with that part of putting himself out there, and I think a lot of artists do. But, if you want to do the thing, you have to do the thing, and all of its uncomfortable parts--or stay precisely where you are now.

    • @DarrenPeet
      @DarrenPeet 3 роки тому +3

      I found the letters of Vincent Van Gogh a very interesting read, well worth getting for an insight.

    • @bnibcdcreativemedia9851
      @bnibcdcreativemedia9851 3 роки тому +4

      Well said. Van Gogh is the classic example but even before his time there were many of us who "feared" or not understood "how to". The difference between personality types. Introverts, extroverts, narcissists, alphas, betas, sigmas, rockstars, losers, posers, etc. I hate thinking like this but "some make it, some dont" is the reality. We need to buckle up and enjoy the processes. Im about to leave people behind to pursue deep passions before its too late........

    • @subliminalart.1637
      @subliminalart.1637 3 роки тому +4

      Vincent realised that no matter how good he was as a painter, eventually it would be taken away from him by his creator. We must remember too, no matter how Brilliant we BECOME, what ever talent we have, must return.
      Side note, I believe that Vincent was murdered. 😊

    • @BeauTardy
      @BeauTardy 3 роки тому

      Van Gogh was a bad artist first of all. His work has simply been hyped by investors and auction houses. There were many other better artists at the time: Gauguin for ex. He also was schizophrenic, with a self-destructive, violent streak. Don't use Van Gogh as a marker or an excuse to not sell art.

    • @inquisitorlev8456
      @inquisitorlev8456 3 роки тому +5

      @@BeauTardy Everyone can (and does) have their opinion about art, of course. However, to say that Van Gogh was "a bad artist" is disingenuous (at the very least). Van Gogh is a good example of a person who struggled with people, but was also talented and prolific. Where his struggles came from precisely is beside the point. As far as Gauguin is concerned, he was a great artist too, but problematic in his own way.

  • @btomakart5975
    @btomakart5975 3 роки тому +61

    I've listened to Rafis wise words for years now ..Ironically ,I've become a fulltime artist with work in 4 Countries now.
    Three years ago I quit my job and just went for it .. I was driving a tow truck listening to Rafi .
    What im trying to get at is....He pretty much told me to quit 😆
    Thanks Rafi 💪

    • @BarrySmithviolin
      @BarrySmithviolin 3 роки тому +1

      Congratulations!
      I don’t believe it’s irony you are describing, it’s self belief, courage and drive. 🌹

    • @btomakart5975
      @btomakart5975 3 роки тому +3

      @@BarrySmithviolin I agree .. I had to burn the boat if you know what I mean.. I couldn't have a plan B ..
      You'd be amazed how hard you'd work when it's your only plan.
      For me ,that is .

    • @BarrySmithviolin
      @BarrySmithviolin 3 роки тому +1

      @@btomakart5975 True,
      I am faced with the same urgency now myself.

    • @btomakart5975
      @btomakart5975 3 роки тому +1

      @@BarrySmithviolin good luck to you my friend .🤘💪

    • @BarrySmithviolin
      @BarrySmithviolin 3 роки тому +1

      @@btomakart5975 Thank you 🌟

  • @jaybartholomew4657
    @jaybartholomew4657 Рік тому +1

    One of your more powerful motivating videos - I don't think this message will ever get old!

  • @holedplot
    @holedplot 3 роки тому +12

    This video should be called: The loveliest rant you'll ever watch on UA-cam
    Rafi, You beautiful human being.

  • @cassierhoads1583
    @cassierhoads1583 3 роки тому +43

    And a shout out to the people on the receiving end of the "oh you were lucky" defense. I have had friends who would throw those kind of lines at my successes to make themselves feel better in their stagnance. It builds and slowly you start feeling guilty for being awesome or second guess your success all together. To those people...remember the effort you put in to your craft and JUST. KEEP. ROCKING. IT!! Cause you're all awesome~!

    • @cmralph...
      @cmralph... 3 роки тому +3

      Yes. I had someone many years ago work really hard to make me feel guilty for being a decent illustrator. It really undermined my self-esteem until my dearest soulmate found out about it and blew a fuse over the fact that ANYONE would go to such lengths to make me "dim my light" and feel bad about myself - Never dim your light for anyone. Shine it as bright as you can and do so without regret or guilt.

    • @firstname713
      @firstname713 3 роки тому +1

      @@jengodwinart Have to agree, beautiful illustration.

    • @firstname713
      @firstname713 3 роки тому +3

      At age 18 i was a pinup artist and designer at Playboy, I did not feel very talented but i was ambitious and had drive. Playboy wanted to partner with me on their new company. Many would consider this "lucky" i chose to consider it evil and walked away. I later in life owned a film studio making music videos for superstars, some of those videos on youtube have over 65 million plays. Many would consider that "lucky" I once again chose to consider it evil and walked away. While i am not telling you to feel guilty for pursuing your dreams, be very aware that the Devil shows up with your wildest dreams on a platter and sometimes being successful is throwing it in the trash where it belongs.

    • @hakfilm
      @hakfilm 3 роки тому +1

      @@firstname713 great comment - wisdom.

    • @firstname713
      @firstname713 3 роки тому

      @@hakfilm Proverbs 9:10 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.

  • @sarahpeck1819
    @sarahpeck1819 3 роки тому +66

    Wow- Rafi you just hit every single note in my head. I'm going to save this when the doubts are overwhelming. Pure golden truth right here!

  • @donnafoster2022
    @donnafoster2022 3 роки тому +18

    Along these same lines-I once attended a little seminar for artists and I will never forget the speaker saying this: “Any dumb thing you make has a buyer. You just have to find him.” That told me it’s not so much about my art, as my ability to market. The sad truth is, so many creatives are clueless about marketing strategy-in addition to being overcome by fear.

    • @Aetila
      @Aetila 3 роки тому

      Yeah, but what if I get too aggressive believing that I'm a big art genius and behave like that? :-))

    • @BarrySmithviolin
      @BarrySmithviolin 3 роки тому

      @@Aetila There’s already many millions on social media doing MUCH worse!

    • @donnafoster2022
      @donnafoster2022 3 роки тому

      @@Aetila I know an artist whose work is, IMO, ordinary, but she believes in herself and I’ve noted that she just seems to INSIST that you buy her work and take her classes, etc. I kind of admire that confidence and see nothing wrong with being bold. I wish I weren’t so darn timid.

  • @darkpoetik5375
    @darkpoetik5375 3 роки тому +14

    I'm a poet and I'm still at after 31 years, I don't care about being rich or famous...i don't care about being published in the New Yorker...i just write and put it out there and see where it goes...

  • @SkyP1e
    @SkyP1e 3 роки тому +2

    Intellectually I agree 100%, but psychological roadblocks are powerful things. I've been sabotaging myself for a few years now which is the last time I uploaded anything to my channel. I just have to blast through some walls first.

  • @KoongYe
    @KoongYe 3 роки тому +23

    I actually thought about this just now. As artists we learn to see art with an artist's eye. It's not easy for some people (me at least) to get a non-artists' pov on their drawing. That's why I value putting my art out there. Sometimes it gets less than minimal likes and sometimes it does great. It's always fascinating to know what the general audiences are into. Art is a great mean of conversation. If you are just keeping it to yourself... then it's pretty much equivalent to mumbling.

    • @lathithan1064
      @lathithan1064 3 роки тому +1

      Damn, that last part hit home😢

  • @GuardImagination
    @GuardImagination 3 роки тому +11

    Spot on! I worked my butt off to get to my story. I followed multiple business courses. My return to art was after a rape and it took me years to get to my website. I was sketching whilst being in a homeless shelter. Tough stuff but I didn't give up!
    My worldview is: it's okay to vent....one day😊 after that find a solution👍. Take responsibility just because being stuck sucks.
    No luck, just preserverence, personal development, asking for help and fighting for a solution.
    Turn envy into motivation just ask why you feel it and focus on changing things. Work with facts it's more likely that people don't respond to your work because nobody sees your posts. Feelings need to be dealt with in therapy & facts inform you to try out untill you see result.
    @Rafi: you are so right about the inner work!!!
    Other people can inspire but we need to walk and get in there. All that energy focused on excuses.....could have been used for connection.
    Last thing; we all have a story🌺

  • @anniekook2787
    @anniekook2787 3 роки тому +18

    If you feel excuses or resistance the only way past that is to DO IT and be BRAVE! Cheers to all of us brave souls, there is a whole tribe of us out there, we are not alone. Thank you Rafi!

  • @LynnViehl
    @LynnViehl 3 роки тому +10

    Fear is something we all face as creatives. Courage is what we do to get past it. Be valiant.

  • @VeronicaRussek
    @VeronicaRussek 3 роки тому +17

    "I saw a sunset. That sunset inspired me and I felt like painting it." Yeah, I operate like that. I see things, things move me, I want to capture them, or capture the feeling they gave me... But I deal a lot with the bullcrap art world, curators, museums, and people who curate the shows, want story... They want you to have a statement, they want you to stay within the statement, they want the statement to be solid! I just wanted to paint a sunset!!!!!
    Yeah, I put myself out there, but not every piece has to be about my childhood trauma, or has to stay within a statement. Some days, I just want to paint what I want! Nothing to it. Not every piece has to be explained, or has to have a story...
    Stepping off my soapbox now. :)

  • @theresaclark6117
    @theresaclark6117 3 роки тому +16

    I’m a storyteller, a scriptwriter. Finally planning on filming for myself...

  • @barbaramadison4397
    @barbaramadison4397 Рік тому +1

    Sharing my art doesn't scare me as much as screwing up the business tax stuff and sales tax stuff. The government scares me.

  • @danielmarlatt3574
    @danielmarlatt3574 3 роки тому +11

    so true about sales , I plant seeds and wait for them to grow , one example I can share is , about 3 years ago I had a show with many visitors and my voice was fading towards the end of the day after talking to everyone , one visitor fell in love with my process however a sale was not to be .....fast forward they came back and purchased a large piece because they were in the financial position to do so , since then they have brought friends and family back and they took pieces home

  • @-liza
    @-liza 3 роки тому +2

    I've never seen a motivational rant before.You are amazing. Thank you for putting yourself out there.

  • @ArtistWizardry
    @ArtistWizardry 3 роки тому +10

    It's true. I am an absolute force to be reckoned with.

  • @rebeccas.murphy.
    @rebeccas.murphy. 3 роки тому +13

    I got started... and it's scary because I have no idea what to expect.

  • @godsservant6649
    @godsservant6649 3 роки тому +7

    Having walked around in the dark and cold in Texas for several days, this is so refreshing! GUILTY! GUILTY! GUILTY!! Spot on!! Inspired to jump out of a warm bed into a cold room and make hot ☕️ coffee. I am a person who studies things to death snd now it is definitely time to DO! THANK YOU!! God bless!!

  • @NotYoEnemy
    @NotYoEnemy 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you brotha! We hear you and love you!

  • @LuneFlaneuse
    @LuneFlaneuse 3 роки тому +4

    Great video!! Also, one thing that I’ve learned recently that I find really useful is to *not* wait for motivation to start - start making stuff anyway, and the motivation will happen too. Some days you might wake up feeling super inspired, other days feeling low. But make an appointment in your day, and make your art, music, whatever it is - just don’t wait for The Muse to knock on your door.
    Then making art becomes a habit and part of your daily life. I wish I had learned this when I was younger, I’ve already wasted so much time but hey. Better late than never.

  • @haviume951
    @haviume951 3 роки тому +1

    This talk is so relatable. I got to the point where I just went "screw it, I'm doing it even if I'm jobless". I realized how fortunate I am with so many opportunities compared to others, yet I spent so long living in fear of not being able to make it. Thank you for sharing!

  • @Pountous
    @Pountous 3 роки тому +4

    This is not a rant, it's the absolute truth! Thanks Rafi!

  • @shoshaka
    @shoshaka 3 роки тому +1

    You are completely right. I was doubting my skills for a very long time but a few days ago a 'ridiculous thought' popped in my head - how about I start handing over my portfolios to a bunch of schools and ask if they were in need for teachers. I did that with a mindset for the laughs, nothing serious.
    A day later I got an offer to teach graphic design online. I haven't decided if I should take the job but you get my point. Just do what you love to do. Overthinking stuff can lead you nowhere. Don't compare yourself with others cause there will always be somebody better than you and that's totally fine.
    Just give it a shot and see what's working and what not. Nobody will give you the ultimate formula on 'how to make it.' That's all you.

  • @ThreefoldDesigns
    @ThreefoldDesigns 3 роки тому +2

    AGREED!! If you're an artist who wants to sell you work, then you also have to be prepared to talk about yourself ... yes, it's sometimes a vulnerable thing to do, but it's that connection that may make someone want to buy your work! We artists are pretty interesting, after all, lol!!

  • @NiinaSKlove
    @NiinaSKlove 3 роки тому +23

    People talk so much about self love today. - I prefer tough love. Give yourself some tough love. That’s honorable and something to strive for. It’s like doing the work necessary to get to where you would like to be, and then reward yourself. - That is true self care.

    • @AK-df2ve
      @AK-df2ve 3 роки тому +1

      Yep, totally agree. Self care is such an overused hype word.

    • @TheLily97232
      @TheLily97232 2 роки тому

      That is self love though....

  • @geraldpiwowar4088
    @geraldpiwowar4088 3 роки тому +1

    "Nobody is better at being you than you."
    Right on man.

  • @ChickenxBoneless
    @ChickenxBoneless 3 роки тому +8

    I've been in a creative funk for a few months now and I really needed this. Thank you, Rafi!

  • @sherrysoilpaintings
    @sherrysoilpaintings 3 роки тому +3

    I am listening Rafi. I just posted my first video of myself painting on You Tube! Woop woop! Love you guys!!❤️❤️✌️

    • @themysteriousdomainmoviepalace
      @themysteriousdomainmoviepalace 3 роки тому +1

      How did you set it up. I've been experimenting but find the camera doesn't aim right. And my phone does time lapse filmimg, but how can I over several days do that-----I don;t expect you to answer that. I'll go see your video. Congrats!

    • @sherrysoilpaintings
      @sherrysoilpaintings 3 роки тому +1

      @@Rafiwashere really? That is so awesome of you! Give me your honest opinion too. And yes I know the camera moved while filming and I didn't notice. Boooo lol.

    • @sherrysoilpaintings
      @sherrysoilpaintings 3 роки тому +2

      @@themysteriousdomainmoviepalace hi Arlene. Thanks so much for commenting, your awesome too. I bought a phone stand from Amazon. I just clamped it to one of my stools. Then I set my phone on timelapse (x30)! Then started filming. I should have checked more closely to make sure it was in better position when I started. It slide a little and I missed capturing the top right corner. Won't make that mistake again lol. Always a learning curve. Thanks for checking out my video too. Love your Earth!🌎❤️✌️

  • @lisastevens3104
    @lisastevens3104 3 роки тому +7

    I haven't commented in a while But I felt it necessary today. Yeah, I went back and looked to see the comment you are referring to. SMH. Irony... You are always sharing, that's what attracts people to your channel. You share stories about your life, Your businesses, Your art even down to supplies that you use and numerous other tips and suggestions. As a matter of fact you are sharing a part of who you are in this video... giving the encouragement you need/ed throughout your career.
    Unfortunately, There will always be people that want all the answers given to them for all the questions that they have but will never want to do the work. These people always have lame excuses and will point to things like privacy to add validity to their negativity. Today's world doesn't have the climate for people like that. If you want to sell anything people (customers) want a back story or an entertaining haiku along with the piece of art they bought to tell their friends about.
    Rafi, thank you for always being here with encouragement and for always sharing. Blessings

  • @Víviantheartist
    @Víviantheartist 22 дні тому

    as someone who's starting a new channel and only have 3 subs, I love this kind of video cause it's so inspiring and reminds me to not give up. thanks for this video
    (I'm overcoming this fear of showing myself)

  • @CCPShiny
    @CCPShiny 3 місяці тому

    Don’t know if you’re still reading comments on old videos like this one… but thank you for sharing this video, sincerely. I’ve spent the better part of about 3 decades (since realizing around 4 that I wanted to make stuff and write stuff) talking myself out of believing I could or should. I’ll be 34 in a little under a month, and I’m finally getting out of my own damn way, and doing the thing. And really coming around to dedicating myself to this thing that I finally realized is my calling in this silly little life is the most joy and the most hope I’ve felt since I was that little 4 year old kid, stapling pages together to make a “book” and signing my name on the cover so everyone would know I made this thing ❤ so, again… thank you-videos like this one from wonderful folks like yourself are a big part of what helped me finally get to this point in my life

  • @staceytomkinson910
    @staceytomkinson910 3 роки тому +3

    I love this, basically I love making art and I will carry on putting it out there and if people like it or don’t like it I don’t care because you only live once and it’s my life!

  • @subliminalart.1637
    @subliminalart.1637 3 роки тому +7

    There is negativity every where, avoid it and stay positive. 😊

  • @digitalfineart8356
    @digitalfineart8356 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks for the rant but inspiring video. I’m an amateur artist that is just going rogue. 🤔 I’ve been told that you can’t make a living from a hobby. This is the first year I’ve done some vendor events, small events to get a feel for it. I’m looking at it as market research and human interaction opportunity. You talk about the ‘story’ and I failed or floundered when a lady asked about the story of a print I had. I didn’t think anyone would be interested and just put it in the basket because I had it. She ended up buying it and named it after me. I learned something from that. Thanks for putting out videos like this. It’s nice to connect with folks who are artists and creators, which is something I don’t have a lot of exposure to. It has encouraged me to even post a few videos on UA-cam. Super short ones with a narrative over a sped up procreate painting I’ve done, but it’s good practice. Still learning but I am…out here. P. S I also play guitar…like an amateur. 😂

  • @GeorgiaDavisArt
    @GeorgiaDavisArt 3 роки тому +3

    So thankful for these videos! Always got told that I won't get anywhere with my art because of my non verbal autism, but I've been putting myself out there in my own way for just over a year now and slowly finding my people. 💕

    • @julieconnors705
      @julieconnors705 Рік тому +1

      I have a non verbal, for now (selective mutism), autistic daughter who loves art. You have just given me hope for her future! Thank you and good luck to you!!!

  • @kathysterndahl3134
    @kathysterndahl3134 3 роки тому +1

    I wonder if you can even imagine how much I needed to here this at this exact moment in my life! Thank you so much!

  • @BeybladeDad
    @BeybladeDad 3 роки тому

    Thank for making this, it was recommended. Thanks UA-cam 😊 you're right, in many things. Have some fun with it, take care

  • @kandyappleview
    @kandyappleview 2 роки тому +1

    "If you want to do something you're never done before, you have to be a different person than you're been."
    well!...that certainly stopped me in my tracks.

  • @davolyn2807
    @davolyn2807 Рік тому +1

    Rafi, I NEVER--And I mean EVER comment on UA-cam or just about any social media platform. But I want to give my utmost appreciation to you for this video. I've loved drawing since I was basically born but taking it seriously as an profession is a different ballgame. I want to make my passion a profession that also earns me a living but my perfectionism, pessimism, low self-esteem, and general lack of confidence is what drove me away. But watching content creators like you help steer me away from those thoughts and realize that we all start somewhere and it's okay to fail as long as you keep going with an open mind. Thank you for nailing that idea into my head with this video. It motivated me more than any other video to put myself out there and give my art a chance. Thank you Rafi, god bless.

    • @Rafiwashere
      @Rafiwashere  Рік тому +1

      You got this @davolyn2807! You are a champion!

  • @romaroalte2645
    @romaroalte2645 8 місяців тому

    I do "art" and decided that I'm ready to sacrifice a lot (not a typical motivational mood spike as I learn music for 3 years already) and your motivation keeps artists like me more confident as I don't have even one person in my life who makes art so you resolve many inner questions so much needed to be answered.

  • @BonitaLiving
    @BonitaLiving 3 роки тому

    So freaking true!
    I'm currently working on HUMILITY, overcoming FEAR OF REJECTION and NOT PLAYING SMALL.
    Thank you for the message friend.

  • @Sunandshine1234
    @Sunandshine1234 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for the reminder, being told 'very nice darling but it won't set the world alight ' is simply one persons opinion ! What I think matters to me , I will Keep on keeping on !

  • @noreenlatimer8193
    @noreenlatimer8193 3 роки тому

    Thank you. I can say I am a person who does not put myself out there and there are reasons in my head that I fight with often regarding it. But I’ve never felt that someone was lucky to get where they are I’ve always been kind of in awe that the worked so hard to get what they have. And I’ve said to people who have made those kinds of comments, seriously I didn’t know you walked with them in their shoes that has to be so cool that you were able to do that. That usually gets me cursed at but I don’t care, because their ignorance pisses me off. But again thank you. You and Klee provide a wonderful community to us and it is appreciated 💜💜👏👏💜💜 '

  • @jaqstitch
    @jaqstitch Рік тому +1

    I come back to this video every so often when I'm feeling down about things. Thanks Rafi

    • @Rafiwashere
      @Rafiwashere  Рік тому +1

      You got this @jaqstitch761! You are a champion!

  • @beverlyjohnson194
    @beverlyjohnson194 Рік тому +1

    I for one needed to hear this message. My husband and family supports me one thousandth percent. My stalling comes from within. There is so much artwork I have in my studio and my husband keeps asking me if I am going to put them up for sale. Training my brain to release them to their new homes. Good damn rank if I say so myself.

  • @eddieblake4039
    @eddieblake4039 3 роки тому

    So true.
    Research, sketches, turnarounds, etc. it’s so often used as a reason to not start the work.

  • @Aetila
    @Aetila 3 роки тому +1

    What I find interesting is that all I started with (CGI, assemblage, music) went well for a while, sold works here and there, and - despite continuous hard work - I fell back to nothing, lol. I keep making my rare assemblage stuff in order to keep going but despite positive feedback I wasn't really "discovered", (also had some exhibitions with others)...it's a strange feeling that I tasted success and then went back to obscurity, hehe. Many small things changed to the worse, the gallery didn't work well, the buyers disappeared and so on. It's a heavy feeling...but I still work since I noticed that I have a knack for it. Thanks mate for your rant! :-)

  • @ArtJeremiah
    @ArtJeremiah 3 роки тому +70

    Can't "get lucky" unless you continue to put yourself out there. Right?

    • @scrappysinger
      @scrappysinger 3 роки тому +3

      😆 Right!

    • @apothecareyarts4076
      @apothecareyarts4076 3 роки тому +3

      And keep oneself dangling out there on the post for all to gawk at until lucky happens!!

  • @UnSung_Studio
    @UnSung_Studio 3 роки тому

    I appreciate the image of standing next to someone, who might be interested in your work...and not saying anything. As someone who was UTTERLY committed to being invisible for the entire first half or more of my life, I have been finding that putting myself out there is something I deeply mis-understood, convoluted, ran through my Virgoean perfectionisms, feared and shredded myself over. Ultimately I have had to do a lot of self-cross-examination of to unhook some very old and deeply imbedded ideas about (essentially) the DANGER of being seen and becoming known.
    It has been really challenging and lonely for a lot of years...and I understand (most of the time) that I needed all of it. Then, almost suddenly, a couple of months ago, I began recognize or see through all of the false obstacles and unnaturally gargantuan expectations I was creating for myself. Simple ways that I actually want to and am eager to connect with people are beginning to appear. Finding vocation: where innards meet the phenomenal outtards is such a personal journey, (that a lot of people don't choose to make) if it were easy, it wouldn't be as rewarding. But making excuses, indeed makes things needlessly more difficult - making excuses is voluntarily giving away power and responsibility.

  • @yvonneli2744
    @yvonneli2744 3 роки тому +1

    Accidentally open this video which is exactly what I need right now, thank you so much.

  • @cindydiel4324
    @cindydiel4324 3 роки тому +2

    Thanks great words to think on! Fighting through some of my own fears...but I am not letting them stop me. Take care.

  • @charmainemiller8292
    @charmainemiller8292 5 місяців тому

    Thank you so much. It’s so crazy that I came across this video today even though it’s three years old, but I am an artist who felt like giving up. I had no passion or desire to even continue to draw and the universe for some reason, brought this video to me, and I’ve actually watched a couple of your videos and gave me the inspiration to keep moving forward and I really appreciate that. Thank you.

  • @beckybaker3549
    @beckybaker3549 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you Rafi. Your rants are great and so spot on. Watched a Brene Brown video today with close the same subjects. Putting yourself into the arena being vulnerable as it’s a tough and tumble stumble for us all but that’s the only way to do it is to just get ourselves out there. And good grief I know just for myself if I can have one excuse not to get out there I can find ten thousand others. Ty for your positivity, the world needs more of you and of course Klee. You guys are awesome.

  • @elizabethhestevold1340
    @elizabethhestevold1340 3 роки тому

    Been there, done that, immensly. And encouraged others. Lock Down good time to explore, no one looking over your shoulder. Right on.🇩🇰🇺🇸👀🖌️🎨❤️📬

  • @lisalovelylpa
    @lisalovelylpa 3 роки тому

    I love when I start something new ... I can fumble with it and still make something good of it ... when I get good at it ... that’s when I really worry I gonna screw it up !
    Thanks for the video.

  • @BarbaraMerryGeng
    @BarbaraMerryGeng 2 роки тому +1

    I’m so glad I found this channel. Every video is a big vita boost in helping me understand & appreciate myself as a human who likes doing aRT !!!
    > Much appreciation to Rafi & Clee 🍊💛🤗❤️🌷👍

  • @daisiesandsunflowers5587
    @daisiesandsunflowers5587 3 роки тому +1

    Well said, and that's really the point isn't it? To get it out of your head and out in the world, cause it'll just shrivel and die if you never share it...it needs the light of the world to be alive! Thank you Rafi. Great rant!

  • @holdmyhand9573
    @holdmyhand9573 3 роки тому +3

    Love you for doing this "Rant" Rafi.
    It felt more like tough Love.
    Thank you for saying it,
    I needed that.

  • @terriepannell7043
    @terriepannell7043 3 роки тому +1

    I got commissioned to illustrate a childrens book for a non profit when the writer saw a drawing I did.
    It was an animal drawing which is way out of my comfort zone.
    This book is full of animals and I thought about turning down the offer but I didn't.Instead I'm practicing and drawing over and over and over.
    So far the writer is pleased so I'm so glad I decided to do this even though it scares me.

  • @symbologee
    @symbologee 3 роки тому +3

    LOL...I was lazy at crafting my story per work of art. I'm going to implement that part of the process. I like your rant.

  • @DabblebagTheArtofAnnaBarnhart
    @DabblebagTheArtofAnnaBarnhart 3 роки тому +2

    1. It took me this long to see the paint on your sleeves. :D 2. So glad this came out just hours after I launched my online shop; it was a "HECK WITH THIS" moment, because I've tried to make it perfect, etc, etc. But with all of the virtual shows-- who are also looking at my site to get accepted into the show (!) I said heck with this, let's go! You can't learn to row a boat unless you leave the shore.

  • @paula.nasmith
    @paula.nasmith 3 роки тому +3

    I LOVE this rant. Saving this to watch again later when I feel like don't want to share my art.

    • @paula.nasmith
      @paula.nasmith 3 роки тому

      Also I'm leaving the grammatical error in there to actively rebel against my own perfectionism 😅

  • @mmhnma
    @mmhnma 3 роки тому

    The universe must me talking to me. I was just thinking I need to work on a project but I've been so worried about how it will be received. Then I sat down at my computer and saw this video. Thank you!

  • @_214-
    @_214- 3 роки тому +1

    Thank U for your truth & sharing it . I hear my dad saying this 2 me 💛🌼💛🌼💛🌼

  • @minpeaceandlove4210
    @minpeaceandlove4210 3 роки тому

    Your tittle shook me your words made me laugh! Synchronisity at its best! Right on dude! Thank you for being part of my journey ! 👁🙏👽

  • @BellyCraft
    @BellyCraft 3 роки тому +1

    I wanted to stop this video several times while watching it but didn’t because you’re fu*kin right. You have yourself a new subscriber. Thank you.

  • @KateColors
    @KateColors 3 роки тому

    Thank you for the pep talk. I don't know how many times I've looked back and said, " Why am I not where I wanted to be by now, ten, 15, 20 years ago?" and, it's for all the reasons you just mentioned. I've always wanted to paint, needed to rid myself of my perfectionist's grip and decided to go for it. Additionally, I was given permission by the unemployment office to 'try something new' to distract one's self while waiting for calls about a job interview. This was 1985. This is the third time since that I'm in a similar predicament. I had a couple of years there where I could do my art but I got caught up in the business of it, researching methods, tools and materials, took some classes, and even rented a studio. I joined some art guilds and sold some work through there. There was a lot of socializing and me commiting to help with the guilds; again, the business of art. There has to be a proportionate amount of time spent outside the studio--not all of it. I didn't spend much time creating but when I was, I am the most happiest. If I keep that in mind...
    Thank you. I'm glad I happened upon your channel.
    --KateColors

  • @carolferguson5467
    @carolferguson5467 3 роки тому

    So sweet that you take the time to be an Art Therapist. Love you Rafi 💗👩‍🎨✍️

  • @susantreibs6593
    @susantreibs6593 3 роки тому +1

    Those small canvases I can see 4 or 6 on a kitchen wall or cabinet. They maybe decorations for you new home. I knew an artist that his wife did the selling and he did the art, so maybe for those that find it hard to put yourself out their, find someone to help you. We each have different talents. Though we do need to learn to sell, put ourselves out their, when we are not comfortable with that. Thanks for sharing.

  • @Windsingerful
    @Windsingerful 3 роки тому

    Just came across this video and man oh man did you ring every bell in my book! I’ve gone down the rabbit hole and lost my way (confidence) as an artist, devalued myself and turned away from creating for several years. Fortunately I’ve found my way out of that unhappy, judgmental place, and I’m back to creating with passion in a whole new medium. It does take courage to persist in putting yourself out there. Your words just crystallized my struggle... So glad I’m back to creating again! Subscribed!

  • @RemonaGreen
    @RemonaGreen 2 роки тому +1

    I needed to hear this today. I have heard some of this advice before but I love the way you present it. Tough love and reason! Thanks!!

  • @ninaantchoutine7871
    @ninaantchoutine7871 3 роки тому

    My goodness! Thank you for all that! It’s nice to hear someone positive, even if it is a rant.
    I’ve always been a follow-the-instructions kind of gal, and recently I’ve decided to buy things before knowing how they’re used; otherwise I’d never break out and try something new: I’d be either intimidated, or researching to no end. So charcoal pencils over my acrylics? Acrylic ink? All new to me and only AFTER I experiment would I look more into how it’s used. By that time I’m not intimidated. And even started my own Instagram page (Just._. Objects) - just throwing myself in there! Freed myself. :) Yes, I was the one unsure and embarrassed of my work, used reasons and excuses. This really resonated with me.
    Thank you again!

  • @sjmsutherland
    @sjmsutherland 3 роки тому +2

    Thanks for this video. The painting I shared the other day on discord I felt like it wouldn't be liked, I finally put it out there with a story because I liked it and I finally got brave to show that painting, mainly because I've always had a fear people might think my art is crap!! I paint what I like and I like sharing the story although I'm not a great people person. Art needs a story, if your just selling artwork without background or story to it why would anyone but it!?? I love talking to jewellers/artists about why and where it was created, it helps to feel more connected to the artwork!! Anyone who moans and says they ain't going to talk about their paintings, then they better get used to not selling!! Anyway I'm going to shush rambling 😊 great video!!xx

  • @albertacosta5828
    @albertacosta5828 3 роки тому +1

    Truly appreciate it man, thank you!

  • @michellemattaliano8829
    @michellemattaliano8829 3 роки тому

    In the past 2 years I have started drawing and painting to help with my anxiety. I can't get enough of it. I have repurposed and painted skimboarda I did and have just jumped to try and sell them.. your video is spot on. 👌

  • @ericadgueho_mama_art954
    @ericadgueho_mama_art954 3 роки тому

    💚💜💛 Happy Mardi Gras! .... encouraging as always!

  • @pinkyokc
    @pinkyokc Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much for this ,I really needed to hear this,you possibly just saved me from myself!! Lmao!!! I've been scared that I'm not good enough although everyone said they like my art,I stand in my own way from fear.Butbim going to walk through that fear because I know this is my purpose.And I love it.Thank u very much for telling the truth!! Much love❤️😁I am going to do it!!

  • @just_felix_22
    @just_felix_22 3 роки тому +1

    The timing on this was scary.... I’m just starting on “getting myself out there” and was getting a bit overwhelmed and self doubt starting to creep in, so took a breather from painting and this video pops up. Thank You 🙏🏼 seriously thanks ! New to the channel but can’t wait to dive into your videos.

  • @juliaheu
    @juliaheu 3 роки тому

    Thank you. I needed to hear this. UA-cam algorithms are magic, apparently. I was defensive at first, that's how I knew I needed to listen till the end.

  • @PaigeOutLoud
    @PaigeOutLoud 3 роки тому

    I had to listen to this 3 times because it hit differently every time. Thank you for the LIFE reminder.

  • @nerfherder83
    @nerfherder83 3 роки тому +4

    Once again you continue to be so remarkably raw, real, and encouraging.... to ALL. Regardless of whether some may not choose to admit it. Keep these wonderful vids coming, my Bruv! 💪🏽😎.
    Tip on the hat to you, good sir~
    And Thank You.

  • @kavyas5061
    @kavyas5061 3 роки тому +1

    You are so right Rafi ... I have followed your advice and have been posting my work online and started participating in fairs .. initially it was little difficult but now am loving it .. keep inspiring us

  • @peterjosephrivera9345
    @peterjosephrivera9345 3 роки тому +1

    you are strong man... great advice... dont let them get to you... negative people are just desperate for attention

  • @tedioustabs
    @tedioustabs 3 роки тому +3

    I seem to always be making excuses. Thank you for the great advice!

  • @rickystuart9
    @rickystuart9 3 роки тому

    So glad this randomly showed up on my feed. I needed to hear this. Fear constantly holds me back. I am going to keep watching this and I will try to put myself out there. Thank you for the message.

  • @mimi_j
    @mimi_j 3 роки тому +1

    I’ve been doing it! It’s consisting of bad videos rn and somewhat okay blogs but I’ve been doing it and I know I’ll improve! Thank you Rafi for always encouraging us!

  • @timclemons8719
    @timclemons8719 3 роки тому

    Thank you for the shot in the arm bro.. I appreciate the real and no flufff mentality. Thank you for not deluding us with candy canes and lollipops 🍭.

  • @bloomshunt9848
    @bloomshunt9848 3 роки тому

    I ugh...needed to hear this. I’ve been decently tenacious but the passions that make me an artist also sometimes defeat my efforts. To be truly brave consistently is a challenge. Thanks for the reminder. I’ve never seen your channel but it came up in my feed spontaneously to once again shut down the negative voices and put my work further out into the world. Well wishes.

  • @ziraiah
    @ziraiah 3 роки тому

    Thank you for this. I'm a soon graduating art student, and even though I have found the subject to work with, it is scary to put yourself out there. Like you said, you are not going to be good at something right from the start, and you just have to learn, apply the new information to your work, and repeat. At some point I was afraid I have to be somehow ready when I graduate, but now I got more courage to just keep on working and not to worry too much what other people think about my art. The rest will come in time, just got to be patient.

  • @lizjanevski9042
    @lizjanevski9042 3 роки тому

    Love, love, love this -100% straight up with everything you said..I’m one of those people that have waisted years in self doubt & criticism that my ‘talent’ is not good enough - comparing myself to others...so many times I’d say ‘f** it I’m just as good’ but then the voice in my head says otherwise...what you’ve said goes for anything in life - you cut through the bullshit & tell it like it is which is so refreshing ..I wouldn’t call this a rant, but a lesson in life & I thank you for teaching it 😊

  • @lpar1967
    @lpar1967 3 роки тому

    Great advice and very genuine! We've all made excuses and self-sabotage as a defense mechanism to fear.

  • @shoshannahasha7636
    @shoshannahasha7636 Рік тому +1

    Thank you, I love this!!!

  • @kimmir8969
    @kimmir8969 3 роки тому

    From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU for this wonderfully positive msg. THIS IS SOOO what I needed to hear right now. Can you imagine how AMAZING it would be if we all just cheered one another on and wished the best for our fellow man/woman. It's hard for me to even comprehend the negative energy some ppl throw around. I have hope for the future and of the world becoming a better place when I encounter such encouraging soul's like you. THANK YOU again so much. KR