Such a great subject, Vivi. I did an enormous declutter about seven years ago which was prompted by my parents passing away and clearing both their homes. Every cupboard, drawer, wardrobe in my home got turned out. It was a huge undertaking and I did it over about 4 months, but it was incredible how much I realised I didn't want or need. A few things that helped me part with things, i.e. expensive items or sentimental items: 1.if it was in the back of a cupboard and I didn't use it or wear it or look at it then I didn't want or need it enough to keep it. 2. even if it was expensive it is a sunk cost. The money has already gone whether you keep it in the back of a cupboard or donate it. 3. am I keeping this for my imagined life where I will be this thin, crafty, artistic, sporty etc, but the reality is that I'm never going to use it. 4. my sentimental items aren't the people who gifted them or I inherited them from. The item is not my memory. If it's not something I use then take a photo and let the item go. 5. All my 'maybe' clothes I hung in the spare wardrobe and over the course of a year if I wore them I brought them back into my bedroom. At the end of the year everything that was left I was ready to let go. I made the conscious choice not to try and sell anything because I didn't want things hanging around and getting in the way. So the local hospice charity shop got probably two thirds of my household items, including furniture. As for my mother's jewelry that came to me and which was sitting unused in a drawer since I don't wear jewelry, I gave it to my sister who wanted it. I have not missed or regretted letting go of a single thing over the years. These days I keep a 'donate' box in the spare bedroom and I put things straight into it as I come across things I no longer use. When the box gets full I take it straight to the charity shop and put a new box in it's place.
So glad you’re on the mend Vivi 🤗 thank you for taking the time to put the videos out while you’ve not been well, they’re really appreciated. I’m needing to declutter, but the guilt of getting rid of things that were sentimental to my mum is awful. I’m really looking forward to the death cleaning video, I think it will give me the boost I need to plough ahead.
Ach, I hear you lovely....that guilt is such a naughty emotion, getting in the way........one way to think of it all, though, is would your Mum want you to be in this dilemma.....would she want you stuck because of her stuff.......almost certainly not......she'd probably tell you to just get rid of it and get on with YOUR life and your stuff. XXX
@@WhatVivididnext …you are so right. She’d be really upset if she knew how her stuff was affecting me. I feel like I’m disrespecting her or something, it’s very hard.
Glad you’re on the mend, Vivi! I started seriously decluttering last winter and made great progress but slowed down with the gardening season, so I’m ready to get going again. I find the best way to start is to tackle the spot that has been annoying me the most, as it’s really motivating, and then move on from there. I also am now doing the ‘onion’ method - I had hit all the rooms and spaces last year and got rid of the obvious and easy items, so now I’m going back and peeling off the next layer of items to declutter.
Thank you! Very useful information 😊. I have been postponing decluttering for a long time, because I feel overwhelmed at the idea, but I really need to declutter as I ran out of space 😅. Looking forward to the next video. Cheerio 😊
I agree with what you say here. I've been helping my friend declutter, and I gave her a box for emotional things that we can come back to at a later date. It is definitely a journey and something to take one step at a time. When my friend feels overwhelmed or deflated, I remind her of how far she has come. I encourage her to see the changes she has made for herself. It's not easy, but it's definitely rewarding 😊❤ Well done, Vivi. 🎉you are getting better. Please remember to rest and not over do things. Everyone here loves you and wants the best for you. ❤😊❤xx
I recently donated a lot to a local charity here. It helps so many. I have been in my home 41 years & need to downsize. It is a long process. Getting repairs done to sell home. Sad but I must. I have bummed my knee & can barely walk & mowing & weedeating 4 acres is too much for me. My daughter & granddaughter are in process of moving out now & i dont need this big house. It's just me as a widow now. So many memories here but I can make new memories at a new place.
I read your comment on Vivi's post and can relate. I also injured my knee this summer and it has been a hard few months getting comfortable just walking again. I have also been in my home for several decades and am mentally ready to move on. fortunately, I just have a city lot not 4 acres to care for, but that is more than enough when you can barely walk or get up from a chair! I am still using a cane more for confidence than necessity. Anyway, thinking of you. one step at a time.
Oh my goodness this topic really hit home. Two,weeks ago my sister in law passed away and she left a MESS for her stepchildren. An entire house full and I mean full. Three entire tubs full of cards she had received. My husband and I said no way are we leaving anything like this for our children. So starting to ruthlessly declutter.
Yes we went through similar when my hubbys auntie passed. I right away realised I don’t want my nibblings to ever be in that position. So we are slowly decluttering now. With a few keepsake boxes/ jars that will be labelled Okay to recycle/ get rid of 🖤
Hiya Vivi, appreciated all the tips etc so far. Confession I have a lot of decluttering ahead. First drop off donation is tomorrow. Tis a bit emotional as they were my Cat’s carry cages + a few bits and pieces of theirs that are useable/ new. Kept a wee treasure back for me. No point in keeping and all going to a good cause. Take care glad your on the mend Luv Southern Ontario Canada 🐝🇨🇦
Awwww I feel for you, I know how hard this is. We took a very long time to clear/ move things after the passing of our little old lady 🖤🐈⬛. I needed to take it slow, the last thing we did was place her ashes and last lint roller of her fur in a keepsake jar and it was sad moment but felt the right time to do it. 💕🐾
Totally agree with everything you said. I recently let go of my Grandmas china but kept one tea cup and saucer from the set which now looks lovely on my kitchen shelf whereas before the set was in a box in our garage. Also this summer came to a realisation during the garage clear out that my daughters were not going to be interested in anything I’d kept for sentimental reasons as they themselves have no emotional connection as never met and had pretty much said as much. The amount of stuff we as a family had to sift through after my dad passed was so much that I had decided to go extreme and actually donated things like his wheelchair, mobility scooter, clothes etc and now only left with a few small bits and photographs. I’ve already downloaded the series you suggested as I love these types of programmes and Marie Kondo was one I watched around the time my father passed. Not one for ‘thanking or blessing a house’ as she does but I do feel blessed and thankful for those I had in my life and those I still do and nowt wrong as you say with keeping just a few sentimental items without giving those we will leave behind a full workload clearing out on top of everything else when we are no longer here. I think my girls would be very grateful when the time comes if the less ‘stuff’ they have to deal with the better 🙂
Yay, good on you lovely. I'm all for keeping one or two items (like your teacup/saucer) to see and use everyday rather than a whole lifetime's worth of stuff all stored in boxes in a garage!
Last winter I sorted through 15 bins of old school prints, slides and negatives and got it down to one bin for scanning and saving. The process nearly killed me…I have always been good at purging, it’s the mess that it creates in the doing that bothers me. I hate mess! The closets in my spare room need doing and I am dreading it! Haha. 🤣 You are looking much better Vivi. Take good care. ❤️🌟😘
Hahaha.....I'm with you on the mess. Your purge of prints etc was great! I'm going to do similar with my photos once I've moved.......in the meantime.....get to it on those closets! 😉
@ at your recommendation I watched the tv programme “the gentle art or Swedish death cleaning” I’ve just watched the second episode with the lovely lady who had terminal cancer. We definitely need those conversations and I had a weep while watching it remembering a cherished friend whom I lost to ovarian cancer in 2002, she would never let us talk about death and we had to keep pretending she would get better.
I applaud the Swedish Death cleaning theory and hope someday to do that- mostly for my kids … so they aren’t burdened with it when I’m gone…..but currently I LOVE surrounding myself with ALL MY THINGS….…Open rooms & open spaces make me feel cold and isolated….living in a sparse space depresses me… I have to say there are no dumping grounds or chaos here…that would drive me bonkers.. my things are as organized as they possibly can be…. I don’t lose things 🤷🏼♀️ …a place for everything and everything in its place. I can find most things in the dark 😉… I’ve always recycled things as I’ve gotten bored with things…so I guess I’ve been doing it all along….Still what I have may seem like a lot to some but my home is my little nest and being surrounded by ALL my things gives me comfort ….they are not at all a burden …except if someone has to get rid of them when I’m gone 😏… good luck to all attempting to follow this process.
The thing I struggle with most is the thought of some stuff having to go to landfill. I spend so much of my life avoiding this as far as possible, so it feels absolutely horrible and can stop me making any progress at all. Any advice gratefully received Vivi (or anyone else here who has found a way to process the thought of adding to landfill, which absolutely horrifies me) 🙏!
I hate it too.....it helps, when buying stuff, to think about the end of its life...ie.....can I dispose of it by recycling the parts....or donating etc?
So glad you’re feeling better !!🥰 Your bod had taken quite a hit so it will take some time to get back . Love the pitcher behind you ! I agree . Tackle one room at a time to keep from getting overwhelmed. Then move on! I like the tackle -by- object method too . Like how many mugs does one need? How many dishes ? Depends upon how much of each item or mess you have as to which method…Ah ! Yes! I have gifts I’d like to part with but then my guilt kicks in . I think , the person may have shopped hard for hours to find the right thing ! Then I feel badly giving it away ! Now you gave me ‘permission ‘ to think of it in a different way - maybe someone else would buy it from a thrift shop to gift someone . Great chat . ❤xx
You definitely have permission to not feel guilty about passing on stuff you don't like! Everything in my home has a use and pleasure......and a story. That pitcher came from Greece.......I spent a very long night discussing the ancient olympics with the chap whose mother owned the little taverna I was eating and drinking at......about 4am I decided it was time to go and get some sleep but had half a pitcher of wine left (it had been refilled about 5 times!) so asked if I could take it with me......and pay for the pitcher and therefore keep it! A great night, a wonderful memory.....and a lovely useful object in my home. 😁
Timely for me. I always do my spring cleaning in the run up to xmas, because spring is too busy and I spend the entire growing season in the garden (I clean on rainy days honest lol!). A little trickier this year as I've broken my foot, but I can do most things, it just takes longer! I think being realistic is such a good point. It's so easy to put self imposed barriers in the way. Finding a way to overcome those barriers is all about being realistic isn't it. Perhaps instead of thinking 'I can't because..', we should ask ourselves 'How can I do this..' Also, sometimes it's not the items that need to go, but the way they are stored that needs to change. Thanks for the kick up the bum to get going and glad you are on the mend! 😀
Oh ouch! I hope you heal quickly and well. I totally agree re the excuses.....'I can't because...'....and I'm firmly in the camp of 'Ok, how can I do this despite the obstacle'! Hope you manage your 'spring' clean OK on your poor foot! x
@@WhatVivididnext Thanks. It's a very minor fracture, no big deal, just an annoyance really, as the boot is cumbersome, but gives me a good excuse to put off deep cleaning the oven lol! 😆
I'm glad you're on the up, Vivi. Great upload, Vivi. I have decided to do a deep clean on my bedroom this afternoon. It has been bothering me that I get bogged down doing other things. I time my morning routine to 40 minutes daily on cleaning the kutchen and downstaits floors and touch points throughout .
Yay for lists Vivi 😆 So pleased to hear you’re feeling a little better 😊 I love decluttering… it feels good and the results are definitely worth the time and effort 😁
emotional things not hardly any thing now i just got rid of it when my darling husband died after the funeral in 2018 i got rid of loads , However i must say now bad time to do it but Mourning affects some in this way thats when i gave tuns away on face book ❤
With the selling v donating quandary I tend to think along the lines of, I’ve had this x years, it’s done me well, it was worth the money, now it’s time to let it go (freely) to someone else
This exactly... yesterday saw my linen closet emptied. Every sheet, towel and bit of table linen restacked and folded within an inch of their lives!!! Today I'm eyeing the supply cupboards in my studio....
@@WhatVivididnextYour chats, move, remodel, decorating, cooking, reads, container gardening …..will help keep me sane, distracted and engaged while this s#!t show plays out. Have pity on us all. 😢
I was cleaning out and donating items that were worth a bit to a local charity. I found that I was agonizing over the money wasted on an item and began to consider what I was doing was blessing someone else. It takes so much time to sell and try to recoup a few pennies on the dollar.
Exactly! I recently donated a bowl to my fave charity shop......they sold it for £80......I was kicking myself for a few days then thought 'ach, what the heck, they deserve a ton of money'! 😊
I had kept all my love letters from my very first boyfriend, and my big love at university (40 years ago now!). I was with them for 2 years and 3 years respectively, so lots of cards, notes, and letters during time apart were generated. I got rid of them a year ago. It felt hugely painful and incredibly sad, like a final goodbye not just to them, but to the person they had loved, who I long ago ceased to be. (I am a COMPLETELY different person now.) But once the bin I put them in had been emptied (which took a couple of weeks) I quickly recovered, and have never regretted it.
A hint I heard: label boxes Trash (too worn), Cash (donate or resell), and Stash (those last 4 pair of jeans you can’t let go of just yet). Easy to remember! What’s left is what you’re keeping, hopefully well curated.
🤣Jeans got none any more did have one pair but lost a lot of weight had to put them out all cloths i have is second hand falling to bits 🙂 never been a horder of cloths all come from Charity shops never been fashion minded 🥰i remember a friend of my mums she used to buy loads of Shoes 🥰she died many years ago now like my mum and Dad 💞
Problem with decluttering, physical limitations and failing eye sight. Also, if you're a hobbyist and or collector. Third, changing weight, i have been up and down and that 6 month thing doesn't work if you have 10 pair of jeans in 5 different sizes. *** My major clutter is paperwork, I make lists, I jot down notes, I work from home, I do crafts, I get tons of mail...then if someone comes by I toss everything in another room and the jumble is a mess.
@ It & its friend did some damage & now cannot get back in. Oddly enough…our neighbor now has a few mice visiting. They feed the birds; and that was the trigger. Kind regards, Vivi. Get well. If you’d ever like to “drop a line”, feel free. You have my address. As you know, I do not have yours. 😳 (That was a “whoops” moment.)
Good to hear you're feeling a bit better but don't push things (I know you know that). A timely subject as we approach Christmas - the time when I seem to be gifted a lot of "stuff". I don't want to be ungrateful and I get that I am "at that age" when I seem to get candles, handcream and ornaments. The trouble is that because I am at that age, I pretty much have everything I want and need. I keep trying to suggest we stop the gift exchange but no-one seems keen on that. Perhaps I am just a bit odd? (No need to answer that🤣). I have had to clear out 2 council houses after family members died (you don't get much time allowed), and both of them were - well, not quite hoarders but maybe disorganised. I really don't want my daughter to have that burden when my time comes, or having to do it in a rush if I need to go into a care home. Anyway, hope the house sale/purchase is progressing and you continue to improve.
Exactly that re the burden of clearing....this is what I'll be exploring more in the Swedish Death Cleaning vid. I think it's a great idea to say 'no more gifts'......and if someone REALLY wants to give a gift let it be a food basket. 😊
Hey Vivi, you've been unwell for a long time. What about visiting your doctor? It would be an immense tragedy if you once again end up in hospital like before when your moving date approaches. Seriously, I am concerned for you.
@@WhatVivididnext True. I didn't watch the one from bed and skipped a lot of the soup one. Good if you are getting medical attention. Like I wrote, it would be awful to be ill and moving at the same time.
I know that you have a nursing background. However, are you sure all that water is good for you? I have never seen anyone drinking so much water..surely it must wash away all your vitamins and minerals?
I drink about 2.5 to 3 litres a day which is perfectly healthy. Plus.....our kidneys are very clever......read about the 'loop of Henle' and the distal convoluted tube and proximal convoluted tube.
Good hydration is absolutely key to wellbeing. Vivi does right to drink as much water as she does. Most don't drink enough so would benefit from following her example. And, as you say, she's a former nurse, so knows very well - better than most of us! - what is and isn't good for her.
i decluttered ages ago got rid of many things 😂got rid most of my furniture got temporary furniture ❤as i am a widow now age 66 ❤no children 😂 need to sort a draw out 😂mostly stuff i gdont youse 😅 never had a lot any way but ❤still needed sorting ❤❤ i try giving away on Freegle trouble is not everything goes
Such a great subject, Vivi. I did an enormous declutter about seven years ago which was prompted by my parents passing away and clearing both their homes. Every cupboard, drawer, wardrobe in my home got turned out. It was a huge undertaking and I did it over about 4 months, but it was incredible how much I realised I didn't want or need. A few things that helped me part with things, i.e. expensive items or sentimental items:
1.if it was in the back of a cupboard and I didn't use it or wear it or look at it then I didn't want or need it enough to keep it.
2. even if it was expensive it is a sunk cost. The money has already gone whether you keep it in the back of a cupboard or donate it.
3. am I keeping this for my imagined life where I will be this thin, crafty, artistic, sporty etc, but the reality is that I'm never going to use it.
4. my sentimental items aren't the people who gifted them or I inherited them from. The item is not my memory. If it's not something I use then take a photo and let the item go.
5. All my 'maybe' clothes I hung in the spare wardrobe and over the course of a year if I wore them I brought them back into my bedroom. At the end of the year everything that was left I was ready to let go.
I made the conscious choice not to try and sell anything because I didn't want things hanging around and getting in the way. So the local hospice charity shop got probably two thirds of my household items, including furniture. As for my mother's jewelry that came to me and which was sitting unused in a drawer since I don't wear jewelry, I gave it to my sister who wanted it. I have not missed or regretted letting go of a single thing over the years.
These days I keep a 'donate' box in the spare bedroom and I put things straight into it as I come across things I no longer use. When the box gets full I take it straight to the charity shop and put a new box in it's place.
Brilliant!!!! Such a great attitude, good on you lovely. 😁
So glad you’re on the mend Vivi 🤗 thank you for taking the time to put the videos out while you’ve not been well, they’re really appreciated. I’m needing to declutter, but the guilt of getting rid of things that were sentimental to my mum is awful. I’m really looking forward to the death cleaning video, I think it will give me the boost I need to plough ahead.
Ach, I hear you lovely....that guilt is such a naughty emotion, getting in the way........one way to think of it all, though, is would your Mum want you to be in this dilemma.....would she want you stuck because of her stuff.......almost certainly not......she'd probably tell you to just get rid of it and get on with YOUR life and your stuff. XXX
@@WhatVivididnext …you are so right. She’d be really upset if she knew how her stuff was affecting me. I feel like I’m disrespecting her or something, it’s very hard.
Glad you’re on the mend, Vivi! I started seriously decluttering last winter and made great progress but slowed down with the gardening season, so I’m ready to get going again. I find the best way to start is to tackle the spot that has been annoying me the most, as it’s really motivating, and then move on from there. I also am now doing the ‘onion’ method - I had hit all the rooms and spaces last year and got rid of the obvious and easy items, so now I’m going back and peeling off the next layer of items to declutter.
Oh I love the idea of tackling it like an onion - yes, so helpful!
Thank you! Very useful information 😊. I have been postponing decluttering for a long time, because I feel overwhelmed at the idea, but I really need to declutter as I ran out of space 😅. Looking forward to the next video. Cheerio 😊
Cheers lovely.....hopefully this has helped you feel inspired to get stuck in. 😊 The next video on the subject will be out this afternoon. 😊
I agree with what you say here.
I've been helping my friend declutter, and I gave her a box for emotional things that we can come back to at a later date.
It is definitely a journey and something to take one step at a time.
When my friend feels overwhelmed or deflated, I remind her of how far she has come. I encourage her to see the changes she has made for herself.
It's not easy, but it's definitely rewarding 😊❤
Well done, Vivi. 🎉you are getting better. Please remember to rest and not over do things. Everyone here loves you and wants the best for you. ❤😊❤xx
Yay, good on you lovely....it sounds like you are being the perfect friend with practical help and encouragement. 😁
What a lovely friend you are 🤗
Such an emotive, challenging topic. But we're in safe hands, with you guiding us through the process, Vivi.
I always enjoy the changing display of books on the shelves behind you!
Thank you.....I enjoy changing them. 😁
I always think this 📚 💕
My 2 bits on decluttering….put Vivi’s vids on repeat in the background. Her calm sweet chatter
will keep you company and on task😉. From experience!
Awww, I love that! Thank you! 😊
I recently donated a lot to a local charity here. It helps so many. I have been in my home 41 years & need to downsize. It is a long process. Getting repairs done to sell home. Sad but I must. I have bummed my knee & can barely walk & mowing & weedeating 4 acres is too much for me. My daughter & granddaughter are in process of moving out now & i dont need this big house. It's just me as a widow now. So many memories here but I can make new memories at a new place.
Hear, hear for making new memories. Good luck dealing with the next phase. X
I read your comment on Vivi's post and can relate. I also injured my knee this summer and it has been a hard few months getting comfortable just walking again. I have also been in my home for several decades and am mentally ready to move on. fortunately, I just have a city lot not 4 acres to care for, but that is more than enough when you can barely walk or get up from a chair! I am still using a cane more for confidence than necessity. Anyway, thinking of you. one step at a time.
Take lots of photographs as reminders of the memories would be my suggestion.
@@carolwhite6979 Thinking of you also!
Oh my goodness this topic really hit home. Two,weeks ago my sister in law passed away and she left a MESS for her stepchildren. An entire house full and I mean full. Three entire tubs full of cards she had received. My husband and I said no way are we leaving anything like this for our children. So starting to ruthlessly declutter.
Yay, good on you lovely.....this is exactly why Swedish Death Cleaning is so brilliant.....and necessary! 😊
Yes we went through similar when my hubbys auntie passed. I right away realised I don’t want my nibblings to ever be in that position. So we are slowly decluttering now. With a few keepsake boxes/ jars that will be labelled Okay to recycle/ get rid of 🖤
Hiya Vivi, appreciated all the tips etc so far. Confession I have a lot of decluttering ahead. First drop off donation is tomorrow. Tis a bit emotional as they were my Cat’s carry cages + a few bits and pieces of theirs that are useable/ new. Kept a wee treasure back for me. No point in keeping and all going to a good cause. Take care glad your on the mend Luv Southern Ontario Canada 🐝🇨🇦
Good stuff lovely! That was probably a really hard one to tackle so give yourself credit for getting it done. XXX
Awwww I feel for you, I know how hard this is. We took a very long time to clear/ move things after the passing of our little old lady 🖤🐈⬛. I needed to take it slow, the last thing we did was place her ashes and last lint roller of her fur in a keepsake jar and it was sad moment but felt the right time to do it. 💕🐾
But you are probably blessing another owner and their cat who couldn't afford these items, how kind of you.
@@lynnoorman2144 this is so true 💕🐾
I’m decluttering our shed and my quilting books/supplies. It feels so good to be more minimal and give to others.
Yay, good on you lovely......I'm sure any recipients will be delight to have your donations. 😊
So many good ideas there Vivi. Thank you 😊. So pleased you are starting to feel better. Your hair is so pretty and shiny 💕xxx
Thank you lovely. 😊
I think this is probably your best ever vlog Vivi! It's absolutely superb, from start to finish.
Thank you so much. 😁
Totally agree with everything you said. I recently let go of my Grandmas china but kept one tea cup and saucer from the set which now looks lovely on my kitchen shelf whereas before the set was in a box in our garage. Also this summer came to a realisation during the garage clear out that my daughters were not going to be interested in anything I’d kept for sentimental reasons as they themselves have no emotional connection as never met and had pretty much said as much. The amount of stuff we as a family had to sift through after my dad passed was so much that I had decided to go extreme and actually donated things like his wheelchair, mobility scooter, clothes etc and now only left with a few small bits and photographs. I’ve already downloaded the series you suggested as I love these types of programmes and Marie Kondo was one I watched around the time my father passed. Not one for ‘thanking or blessing a house’ as she does but I do feel blessed and thankful for those I had in my life and those I still do and nowt wrong as you say with keeping just a few sentimental items without giving those we will leave behind a full workload clearing out on top of everything else when we are no longer here. I think my girls would be very grateful when the time comes if the less ‘stuff’ they have to deal with the better 🙂
Yay, good on you lovely. I'm all for keeping one or two items (like your teacup/saucer) to see and use everyday rather than a whole lifetime's worth of stuff all stored in boxes in a garage!
Nothing beats a good clear out Vivi!!
Last winter I sorted through 15 bins of old school prints, slides and negatives and got it down to one bin for scanning and saving. The process nearly killed me…I have always been good at purging, it’s the mess that it creates in the doing that bothers me. I hate mess! The closets in my spare room need doing and I am dreading it! Haha. 🤣 You are looking much better Vivi. Take good care. ❤️🌟😘
Hahaha.....I'm with you on the mess. Your purge of prints etc was great! I'm going to do similar with my photos once I've moved.......in the meantime.....get to it on those closets! 😉
Thank you Viv this video is a big help to me ❤
I'm so glad. 😊
So glad you have started to get better and are managing to make videos again x
Thank you lovely.
@ at your recommendation I watched the tv programme “the gentle art or Swedish death cleaning” I’ve just watched the second episode with the lovely lady who had terminal cancer. We definitely need those conversations and I had a weep while watching it remembering a cherished friend whom I lost to ovarian cancer in 2002, she would never let us talk about death and we had to keep pretending she would get better.
That was such a powerful episode......so moving....but also beautiful.
Great vlog Vivi 💕 looking forward to the others. I’m so pleased you are on the mend as-well 😘
Thank you lovely. 😊
I applaud the Swedish Death cleaning theory and hope someday to do that- mostly for my kids … so they aren’t burdened with it when I’m gone…..but currently I LOVE surrounding myself with ALL MY THINGS….…Open rooms & open spaces make me feel cold and isolated….living in a sparse space depresses me… I have to say there are no dumping grounds or chaos here…that would drive me bonkers.. my things are as organized as they possibly can be…. I don’t lose things 🤷🏼♀️ …a place for everything and everything in its place. I can find most things in the dark 😉… I’ve always recycled things as I’ve gotten bored with things…so I guess I’ve been doing it all along….Still what I have may seem like a lot to some but my home is my little nest and being surrounded by ALL my things gives me comfort ….they are not at all a burden …except if someone has to get rid of them when I’m gone 😏… good luck to all attempting to follow this process.
Hahaha......you've just said pretty much everything from the next video. 😉
The thing I struggle with most is the thought of some stuff having to go to landfill. I spend so much of my life avoiding this as far as possible, so it feels absolutely horrible and can stop me making any progress at all.
Any advice gratefully received Vivi (or anyone else here who has found a way to process the thought of adding to landfill, which absolutely horrifies me) 🙏!
I hate it too.....it helps, when buying stuff, to think about the end of its life...ie.....can I dispose of it by recycling the parts....or donating etc?
So glad you’re feeling better !!🥰
Your bod had taken quite a hit so it will take some time to get back . Love the pitcher behind you !
I agree . Tackle one room at a time to keep from getting overwhelmed. Then move on! I like the tackle -by- object method too . Like how many mugs does one need? How many dishes ? Depends upon how much of each item or mess you have as to which method…Ah ! Yes!
I have gifts I’d like to part with but then my guilt kicks in . I think , the person may have shopped hard for hours to find the right thing ! Then I feel badly giving it away ! Now you gave me ‘permission ‘ to think of it in a different way - maybe someone else would buy it from a thrift shop to gift someone .
Great chat .
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You definitely have permission to not feel guilty about passing on stuff you don't like! Everything in my home has a use and pleasure......and a story. That pitcher came from Greece.......I spent a very long night discussing the ancient olympics with the chap whose mother owned the little taverna I was eating and drinking at......about 4am I decided it was time to go and get some sleep but had half a pitcher of wine left (it had been refilled about 5 times!) so asked if I could take it with me......and pay for the pitcher and therefore keep it! A great night, a wonderful memory.....and a lovely useful object in my home. 😁
@@WhatVivididnext great story , Viv…maybe do a vid on pieces you love in your home and their stories !
Fun! xx
I am enjoying this video and excited for the future ones on this topic x Thank you so much for doing it.
My pleasure. 😊
Timely for me. I always do my spring cleaning in the run up to xmas, because spring is too busy and I spend the entire growing season in the garden (I clean on rainy days honest lol!). A little trickier this year as I've broken my foot, but I can do most things, it just takes longer! I think being realistic is such a good point. It's so easy to put self imposed barriers in the way. Finding a way to overcome those barriers is all about being realistic isn't it. Perhaps instead of thinking 'I can't because..', we should ask ourselves 'How can I do this..' Also, sometimes it's not the items that need to go, but the way they are stored that needs to change. Thanks for the kick up the bum to get going and glad you are on the mend! 😀
Oh ouch! I hope you heal quickly and well. I totally agree re the excuses.....'I can't because...'....and I'm firmly in the camp of 'Ok, how can I do this despite the obstacle'! Hope you manage your 'spring' clean OK on your poor foot! x
@@WhatVivididnext Thanks. It's a very minor fracture, no big deal, just an annoyance really, as the boot is cumbersome, but gives me a good excuse to put off deep cleaning the oven lol! 😆
@@kitchengardengrows Hahaha....every cloud and all that. 😉
You are such an inspiration Vivi. Tomorrow I'm going to tackle behind and under my bed, cleaning and decluttering. That feels manageable.
Yay, good on you. 😊
I'm glad you're on the up, Vivi. Great upload, Vivi. I have decided to do a deep clean on my bedroom this afternoon. It has been bothering me that I get bogged down doing other things. I time my morning routine to 40 minutes daily on cleaning the kutchen and downstaits floors and touch points throughout .
Yay, good on you lovely. Have fun!
Yay for lists Vivi 😆 So pleased to hear you’re feeling a little better 😊 I love decluttering… it feels good and the results are definitely worth the time and effort 😁
Hear, hear! Mentally and physically so liberating. 😊
glad you are feeling abit better 🤗
Thank you lovely. 😊
emotional things not hardly any thing now i just got rid of it
when my darling husband died after the funeral in 2018
i got rid of loads , However i must say now bad time to do it
but Mourning affects some in this way
thats when i gave tuns away on face book ❤
My sister is the best at helping me declutter! I wish she lived closer and visited more often!
Awww......and you know if I lived closer I'd help too! 😉
I regularly sort drawers out as I hate not being able to find a particular item. Charity shops are always happy to receive donations.
So good to hear that you are feeling better, your hair has grown as usually you wear it up👍♥️🙏🕳️
It's getting a chop very soon. 😊
With the selling v donating quandary I tend to think along the lines of, I’ve had this x years, it’s done me well, it was worth the money, now it’s time to let it go (freely) to someone else
Absolutely! 😊
I’ll be decluttering as a distraction to current US events. 💙
This exactly... yesterday saw my linen closet emptied. Every sheet, towel and bit of table linen restacked and folded within an inch of their lives!!!
Today I'm eyeing the supply cupboards in my studio....
My heart is with you! I haven't watched the news.....and shalln't for the next four years! XXX
@@WhatVivididnext 2026 midterm elections. 🤞
@@WhatVivididnextYour chats, move, remodel, decorating, cooking, reads, container gardening …..will help keep me sane, distracted and engaged while this s#!t show plays out. Have pity on us all. 😢
@@kerrybyers257 Ugh.....I do! I fear his poison will reach farther than just your shores though..... 😢
I was cleaning out and donating items that were worth a bit to a local charity. I found that I was agonizing over the money wasted on an item and began to consider what I was doing was blessing someone else. It takes so much time to sell and try to recoup a few pennies on the dollar.
Exactly! I recently donated a bowl to my fave charity shop......they sold it for £80......I was kicking myself for a few days then thought 'ach, what the heck, they deserve a ton of money'! 😊
I had kept all my love letters from my very first boyfriend, and my big love at university (40 years ago now!). I was with them for 2 years and 3 years respectively, so lots of cards, notes, and letters during time apart were generated.
I got rid of them a year ago. It felt hugely painful and incredibly sad, like a final goodbye not just to them, but to the person they had loved, who I long ago ceased to be. (I am a COMPLETELY different person now.)
But once the bin I put them in had been emptied (which took a couple of weeks) I quickly recovered, and have never regretted it.
That's great. 😊
A hint I heard: label boxes Trash (too worn), Cash (donate or resell), and Stash (those last 4 pair of jeans you can’t let go of just yet). Easy to remember! What’s left is what you’re keeping, hopefully well curated.
That shoe sounds hilarious! 😂😂😂
Hahahaha......it was truly ghastly! 😂🤣😂🤣
I love the Swedish death cleaning concept too. Brilliant. Saw the program here in NZ
I thought it was a wonderful series......handled so gently. 😊
I have generations of photos. It will take the rest of my life to scan and document all of it.
I am looking through my stuff make it more manageable in the bedroom cupboard I started to do today,I threw bits of paper away
Good on you lovely....keep at it! 😊
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I need to start with the teenagers and when they are turfed out I'll tackle their stuff and their bedroom😅
Hahahahah....good luck with that! 😉
🤣Jeans got none any more did have one pair but lost a lot of weight had to put them out
all cloths i have is second hand
falling to bits 🙂
never been a horder of cloths all come from Charity shops
never been fashion minded 🥰i remember a friend of my mums she used to buy loads of Shoes 🥰she died many years ago now like my mum and Dad 💞
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Problem with decluttering, physical limitations and failing eye sight. Also, if you're a hobbyist and or collector. Third, changing weight, i have been up and down and that 6 month thing doesn't work if you have 10 pair of jeans in 5 different sizes.
*** My major clutter is paperwork, I make lists, I jot down notes, I work from home, I do crafts, I get tons of mail...then if someone comes by I toss everything in another room and the jumble is a mess.
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This is EXACTLY what we’ve been doing for months now…and add in a mouse visit. 😬😬
Oh dear....did you disturb its home? Hopefully it will find somewhere else to hang out now! 😉
@ It & its friend did some damage & now cannot get back in. Oddly enough…our neighbor now has a few mice visiting. They feed the birds; and that was the trigger. Kind regards, Vivi. Get well. If you’d ever like to “drop a line”, feel free. You have my address. As you know, I do not have yours. 😳 (That was a “whoops” moment.)
Good to hear you're feeling a bit better but don't push things (I know you know that). A timely subject as we approach Christmas - the time when I seem to be gifted a lot of "stuff". I don't want to be ungrateful and I get that I am "at that age" when I seem to get candles, handcream and ornaments. The trouble is that because I am at that age, I pretty much have everything I want and need. I keep trying to suggest we stop the gift exchange but no-one seems keen on that. Perhaps I am just a bit odd? (No need to answer that🤣). I have had to clear out 2 council houses after family members died (you don't get much time allowed), and both of them were - well, not quite hoarders but maybe disorganised. I really don't want my daughter to have that burden when my time comes, or having to do it in a rush if I need to go into a care home. Anyway, hope the house sale/purchase is progressing and you continue to improve.
Exactly that re the burden of clearing....this is what I'll be exploring more in the Swedish Death Cleaning vid. I think it's a great idea to say 'no more gifts'......and if someone REALLY wants to give a gift let it be a food basket. 😊
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Hey Vivi, you've been unwell for a long time. What about visiting your doctor? It would be an immense tragedy if you once again end up in hospital like before when your moving date approaches. Seriously, I am concerned for you.
You obviously haven't watched the previous videos. 😉
@@WhatVivididnext True. I didn't watch the one from bed and skipped a lot of the soup one. Good if you are getting medical attention. Like I wrote, it would be awful to be ill and moving at the same time.
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I know that you have a nursing background. However, are you sure all that water is good for you? I have never seen anyone drinking so much water..surely it must wash away all your vitamins and minerals?
I drink about 2.5 to 3 litres a day which is perfectly healthy. Plus.....our kidneys are very clever......read about the 'loop of Henle' and the distal convoluted tube and proximal convoluted tube.
Good hydration is absolutely key to wellbeing. Vivi does right to drink as much water as she does. Most don't drink enough so would benefit from following her example.
And, as you say, she's a former nurse, so knows very well - better than most of us! - what is and isn't good for her.
i decluttered ages ago got rid of many things 😂got rid most of my furniture got temporary furniture ❤as i am a widow now age 66 ❤no children 😂
need to sort a draw out 😂mostly stuff i gdont youse 😅
never had a lot any way but ❤still needed sorting ❤❤
i try giving away on Freegle trouble is not everything goes
Good on you lovely. 😊