Now I genuinely feel James love language is words of affirmation… he gets really gassed when something nice is said about him. Patiently awaiting for fuhad appreciation speech to James. I know he would love to have that too ❤❤❤
I think so too. I also think it lines up with someone who is as competitive as he is. Words of affirmation could mean a lot to him while also being a stroke of the ego, which he loves lol. I don't think he recognizes how important it actually is to him. Which I can understand, I feel like I can't choose myself because I view them all very important to me.
But then there are the guys who do all the things they talked about and will say “we’re not even together” the moment they talk to someone else and get caught. Clarification required please and thanks lol
When James said the dick looked like a knuckle? Lolll I heard his laugh and was sooo disappointed we didnt see a clip of him in that very moment. I'm sure we would've have seen him hanging on the side of his chair while laughing, almost falling off sideways 😂😂
Sofia and Cinzia were so awkward in this episode & Fuhad and James never leave their own little world. Made it funny. I wish Sofia and Cinzia opened up a bit more for this one, as they are usually SO funny
@@asura3229well that’s completely different because while both are intimate relationships, they have very different boundaries and expectations. You don’t expect a new friend to prioritise you the way you would from a new girlfriend or boyfriend. And especially nowadays, the lines are blurry af and it’s super easy for someone to overinvest in someone.
LADIES, always ask where you stand. Saves any heartbreak or confusion. Back in the day I had a fwb introduce me to his Mum and little Sister (til this day no idea why). Than I had a guy I was dating for months, months and months. I assumed we were official, but I was very Very wrong. Now, unless someone officially saids that i'm their girlfriend, i'm not assuming nothing.
"Too is not the adjective you want to use" 😂😂😂😂😂 The whole linking arms and hugging bit was so good!!! I am not a hugger of friends like that, and I do love them to bits, so.....
Guys it’s not grown up to not specify what the relationship is! You have to communicate. Wild. I’m suppose to know from VIBES?! no wonder people say the dating scene is cooked. They were trying to put you on
Hearing stuff like that makes me breathe a sigh of relief that I’m already married. My heart goes out to those who want to be married in the year 2024.
This is so cute and thoughtful that you changed it around for them based on who they are etc. so lovely it shows a lot about both of your characters and those are definitely lovely girls too your right
I don't understand how grown men find it cringe asking a woman to establish a relationship with them ? Wow. The emotional intelligence of men in generation is crazy. Semi off putting.
Extremely off putting and makes me breath a sigh of relief that I’m already married. But I feel for the ladies who are looking to be married in the year 2024 😢
@@Trombonegoddess86 like seriously. I'm so glad you are out of this piss pool of dating cause it's actually hard when 90% of the men are unfortunately like this.
To give you an answer as a man, without claiming this is the reason for every man out there, I believe it’s because men like to show reality through their actions. Women on the other hand (not all, but enough in my life to create a pattern) prefer kind words spoken in a nice tone. A personal theory of mine (solely based on hearing others experiences) is this mismatch may be one of the reasons that some women tend to fall for narcissistic men (or men with strong narcissistic tendencies). The problem there is that with those type of partners they get the version they want to hear (highest priority) without the proper actions to back them up. Ps. I’m not writing any of this to be proven right or wrong, or say that you need to adapt to any of it. I just wanted to provide you with an answer, and unfortunately my answer, if true, shows a nuance of how complicated dating in the 2024 can be. Specially for those of us looking for long lasting love.
Nah, there definitely needs to be a moment of "will you be my girlfriend?" It's tradition! How do you know your official anniversary if there isn't a specific moment you upgraded your status to boyfriend-girlfriend?!
That “girlfriend should know” take has got to be the dumbest thing I’ve heard in quite some time. What it sounds like is a plausible deniability of commitment. If everything goes fantastic, you’ve always been my girlfriend. But if at any point, you want to end the relationship or step out on your girl, you can easily say ”who said you were my girlfriend?”. I don’t know what’s so hard about just telling her that she’s your girlfriend lol
Me being the fattest I’ve ever been in my whole life hearing James say “cookie cookie cookie” made me laugh so hard but also I’m going to the gym tomorrow 😂😂😂😂😂😂
It’s so crazy that those girls think real best friends don’t hug. Hunny real best friends love on each other . You hug, you link arms, you show each other love . That’s real best friends….
I agree with them lol. I have one solid ride or die. No physical contact ever except for big occasions/celebration. I’m not big on physical touch so maybe that’s why. I wouldnt hug my friends unless I knew this was something important to them. Our way makes cuddles feel special. I prefer showing her love via quality time and gift giving.
I’m not a touchy person and I agree with the girls - I also don’t hug my bestfriend, physical touch is not my love language, acts of service is 🥰 love can be shown in different ways - there’s no right or wrong.
NAAHHHH YOU HAVE TO DEFINE the relationship speaking from experience I thought I was his girlfriend because he was doing boyfriend things… I decided to ask him and he was like no I’m not
With sex as a love language the issue is exactly what you said: he might be annoyed and in a bad mood, because he doesn't feel loved but the more he's in a bad mood and mean to her, the less desire she'll have for any kind of intimacy. Seeing that she's aware of his yearning for this type of affection, he'll need to learn how to approach her in a way she'll also feel loved. And if he really wants sex, to initiate it confidently while respecting her situation and mood in the moment. Flirting, cuddling, help with chores, playfulness, heartfelt compliments... can all be very attractive and help ease into more sexy mood as much as any foreplay. The less expectation of a certain outcome, the better usually, so there's no pressure as in what I want in exchange for this bit of attention and affection I'm showing you now. Feeling loved and appreciated and nice to be around is best libido booster I know. As to the issue of SO getting fat - if you want to be with a person longterm you DO need to accept and love them in different shapes and sizes and to find what remains attractive in them despite the change in appearance of physical abilities or mood predisposition or interests or available free time... Because things change in life and if you want to keep you both to a inflexible standard you'll just end up resenting each other. You can support and encourage each other, especially if one is more intrinsically motivated to exercise and the other one struggles with it. Being active together can be a strong motivation to girls, especially if they start to see gains and you acknowledge them and show them you're proud of them, even if they're small. If they lose interest, because their priorities shift, you can try encouraging them for longterm health reasons. If they feel they have too many more pressing things to hadlel and can't spare time and energy to work out, you could try helping them out with those more pressing burdens. And ultimately if they decide it's not worth it for them, you can either accept the decision and changes in their body or leave the young relationship before it turns into an ugly resentment swamp.
Isn’t “you should just know” the exact sentence men have been upset about for years bc us women are confusing and want men to read our minds 😂 everyone should be communicating clearly in relationships and maybe if ya wanna date someone, ask them. Trust boys it’s the cutest thing ever ❤
I'm gonna be completely honest, the moment you see your partners sibling is their lock screen you should immediately be expecting some sweet home alabama kinda shit imo
I don’t know why some of the comments are being so rude… expected better from this community. It’s always lovely to see unexpected collaborations and these girls clearly don’t have similar experiences to Fuhad and James, hence the expectation for the gf question etc etc. BUT they had a great attitude and kept it fun! Enjoyed the ep!!
I feel like James and Fuhad are the least romantic people ever because everytime they speak about relationships I'm just like WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE GUYS?😭😭
You're not a grown-up if you can't clearly establish your relationship. Being embarrassed to ask a woman to be exclusive is wild. You don't have to use their exact wording, but it needs to be clear.
In this day and age surely there’s nothing stopping a woman asking the man to be exclusive though no? I also like to think if I felt that the person I was seeing was keeping me in limbo, I’d confront them straight up mostly out of pride lol. I get what you and the ladies were saying as security and clarification are really important, but I don’t think it comes from a necessarily immature position. For me, introducing a girl to my friends and family, spending loads of time together etc is a HUGE thing and I don’t think it’s the most absurd thing to believe that those actions are way more indicative and meaningful than a playground style “Will you be my girlfriend”. I think it just comes down to individuals, some people need that clarification and validation and other people can just read each others signals and it’s no biggie🤷🏻♂️
@benspiers2604 nothing stopping a woman at all, but I was specifically addressing the embarrassment that it seems to cause for the guys to even think of doing so. While actions are very important, in my opinion, in a situation such as this, communication and clarity are quite important. Taking someone to meet family/ friends isn't a monumental step for everyone. They could do that with multiple other people, and their family/ friends wouldn't bat an eye. Mature adults should be able to have a clear conversation about who they are to each other and the significance of the relationship. It doesn't have to be dripping with romance, just honest and open. Many people have gotten a broken heart from reading 'signals' and making assumptions.
@@Jolie12Fillespot on. I don’t do ambiguity. If clarification is needed, I ask. When I was seeing my husband, I asked him, “What is this?” before we went to meet my parents. I don’t have any shame in being tactfully direct. Less drama.
All this "cant ask her, she should just know" is how a lot of people end up in "I never said you were my girlfriend. Next thing you know you're getting a wedding invitation as a "good friend" 😂😂😂. Never assume what hasn't been explictly said.
You can't convince me that James is ever happier in his life than when he receives a genuine compliment from Fuhad. Bro loves him
One day he’ll be true to himself and let it all out without shame.
Now I genuinely feel James love language is words of affirmation… he gets really gassed when something nice is said about him. Patiently awaiting for fuhad appreciation speech to James. I know he would love to have that too ❤❤❤
I think so too. I also think it lines up with someone who is as competitive as he is. Words of affirmation could mean a lot to him while also being a stroke of the ego, which he loves lol. I don't think he recognizes how important it actually is to him. Which I can understand, I feel like I can't choose myself because I view them all very important to me.
I said the same thing. Couldn’t believe he didn’t say Words of Affirmation.
38:30 he expresses it again when fuhad compliments his analegy very wholesome
29:00
Fuhad: That can't be me
James: IT HAS TO BE YOU
Fuhad: Well then, it's never going to happen
James: ... Dear Diary
Lmaooo 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Why is this so funny and accurate 🤣
😂😂😂
funny thing is, they did some sneaker vid a while back and the first clip is james linking arms with fuhad 😭😭😭
James face at the end goes bright red after Fuhad's compliment..... so so cute. You can tell he looks up to Fuhad and thrives off his approval ❤
Ncwaaa that's so true, I think his love language is words of affirmation from Fuhad
“Do you two tickle each other?”
“Good question”
😭😭😭
Thats crazy
"welcome back guys, its Monday......”
"Its Tuesday" 😭😭
Women
@@FlowerPxwer93 ☕
“Too tall “ got me laughing so much my jaw is vibrating😭
Timestamp?
29:20
@@StephanieIhejirika thank you 😊
I know someone who would like to see this😋
@@samistheone6108 chunkz and filly? 😂
Man said “you should just know by the vibes” oh no no no 😂😂😂
Mans asking for trouble with that one 😂😂
@@fishnutz5196 like seriously 😂😂😂 I’m not assuming I’m your girl so you can turn around and tell me I’m not 😤
I love their innocence. “What’s Brazzers?” 😂
That’s peak
That shit hit different. A couple years ago I wouldn't of gotten what they meant but these days it killed me. 😂😂😂
I did not know what "brazzers” was either, until it was explained and I am a 61 year old female!
No way, I got it straight away, but I'm Irish and it's used a lot over here @@G254611
i even lost it more when i heard "Whats Brazzers"🤣🤣
2:59 james is so sassy “its literally fine” while sipping his monster 😂
Back to back best friend quiz losses at this point James and Fuhad have been demoted to work associates
Throwback to the infamous, "you see me for money!" 😂
The girls have been best friends since PRIMARY SCHOOL… That’s a loooooong time! They CANNOT lose….
Well, we just sadly found out that James is closer to Jay anyway right now
The main issue is James knows more about Fuhad than Fuhad knows about himself.
@@GRGxJngl to be fair rem set them up with these question the girls got "what's her favorite color" and they got "what's his confort movie"
James has forgotten he was the linker in the kicks video when him and Fuhad entered the shop. He strolled in like a proud baddie of Fuhad’s arm 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
I know he ain't forgot he just playing. That was the best day of his life
A proud baddie 🤣🤣
I need to see the video!😂
@@jojofilippa 🤣🤣🤣Me too
''This isn't the response I usually receive.'' This had me wheezing😂😂
This may be the calmest episode the daddies have had. I thoroughly enjoyed it!
Them answering these questions of girl trivia made me love them more! It’s wild, but I love when guys actually take the time to understand women!
“Transcend into relationships” is the simultaneously the wildest yet most accurate statement I’ve ever heard in my life😂
and guys complain that WE'RE the ones who expect them to read our minds -_-
But then there are the guys who do all the things they talked about and will say “we’re not even together” the moment they talk to someone else and get caught. Clarification required please and thanks lol
Ellis you’re actually a mastermind do you kno how good that Patreon clip was 🥺❤️
Rems laugh in the background gets me all the time😂😂😂
When James said the dick looked like a knuckle? Lolll I heard his laugh and was sooo disappointed we didnt see a clip of him in that very moment. I'm sure we would've have seen him hanging on the side of his chair while laughing, almost falling off sideways 😂😂
The hug part:
Yes it's a thing with most girls, best friends and girl siblings. Never hugged my sister in my life 😂😂😂😂😂
Sofia and Cinzia were so awkward in this episode & Fuhad and James never leave their own little world. Made it funny. I wish Sofia and Cinzia opened up a bit more for this one, as they are usually SO funny
Assuming im your girlfriend without asking me to be your girlfriend is bonkers to me and vise versa.
Its like, do you have to ask your friends to be your friends, or are they just are your friends. You just know, having to ask makes it sound fake.
@@asura3229friendships and relationships are not the same lol
But friends is definitely different than boyfriend girlfriend @asura3229
@@asura3229well that’s completely different because while both are intimate relationships, they have very different boundaries and expectations. You don’t expect a new friend to prioritise you the way you would from a new girlfriend or boyfriend. And especially nowadays, the lines are blurry af and it’s super easy for someone to overinvest in someone.
My heart can't take your friendship. Love to see you two lifting eachother up.
James & Fuhad will learn vulnerability when they're confronted with the woman they love. Cause they're responding like they're still in Uni.
LADIES, always ask where you stand. Saves any heartbreak or confusion.
Back in the day I had a fwb introduce me to his Mum and little Sister (til this day no idea why). Than I had a guy I was dating for months, months and months. I assumed we were official, but I was very Very wrong.
Now, unless someone officially saids that i'm their girlfriend, i'm not assuming nothing.
“It looks like a knuckle” is soo- omfg 😭😩 insane! That would literally terrify me plss! Lmaoooo
If James was a girl he would want a guy to extravagantly ask “please will you be my girlfriend” 🤣😂
"Too is not the adjective you want to use" 😂😂😂😂😂 The whole linking arms and hugging bit was so good!!! I am not a hugger of friends like that, and I do love them to bits, so.....
Guys it’s not grown up to not specify what the relationship is! You have to communicate. Wild. I’m suppose to know from VIBES?! no wonder people say the dating scene is cooked. They were trying to put you on
Hearing stuff like that makes me breathe a sigh of relief that I’m already married. My heart goes out to those who want to be married in the year 2024.
LOOOOOOOOVE how just happy you guys looked in that Log Cabin clip! The energy was everything. 🥰😍🤩
This is so cute and thoughtful that you changed it around for them based on who they are etc. so lovely it shows a lot about both of your characters and those are definitely lovely girls too your right
These girls’ lives could be an ADORABLE Mary Kate and Ashley type movie
They’re too innocent for our toxic bois 🤣
“3 pound a month, 10 P a daaayyy” gets me every time 😂
Not James talking about how he is "TOO" much taller and would hurt his neck but in the merch store the picture says different. 😅😅😅
“Nah, we hug tha FUUUQ out of each other” is BRAZYYYYYY 😂
26:30 grown men tickling each other is crazy
Definitely outta pocket
What if she says you gained weight. "She needs to tell me, Stern." That shit took me out , so true 😂😂
The "coming up" part is already sending me to the floor laughing
The Brazzers comment got to me because I immediately got it 🤣🤣 … love this episode ❤
What’s brazzers was the most wholesome thing ever said on this pod 😂😂😂
I don't understand how grown men find it cringe asking a woman to establish a relationship with them ? Wow.
The emotional intelligence of men in generation is crazy.
Semi off putting.
Extremely off putting and makes me breath a sigh of relief that I’m already married. But I feel for the ladies who are looking to be married in the year 2024 😢
@@Trombonegoddess86 like seriously. I'm so glad you are out of this piss pool of dating cause it's actually hard when 90% of the men are unfortunately like this.
To give you an answer as a man, without claiming this is the reason for every man out there, I believe it’s because men like to show reality through their actions. Women on the other hand (not all, but enough in my life to create a pattern) prefer kind words spoken in a nice tone.
A personal theory of mine (solely based on hearing others experiences) is this mismatch may be one of the reasons that some women tend to fall for narcissistic men (or men with strong narcissistic tendencies).
The problem there is that with those type of partners they get the version they want to hear (highest priority) without the proper actions to back them up.
Ps. I’m not writing any of this to be proven right or wrong, or say that you need to adapt to any of it. I just wanted to provide you with an answer, and unfortunately my answer, if true, shows a nuance of how complicated dating in the 2024 can be.
Specially for those of us looking for long lasting love.
Nah, there definitely needs to be a moment of "will you be my girlfriend?" It's tradition! How do you know your official anniversary if there isn't a specific moment you upgraded your status to boyfriend-girlfriend?!
16:04 in South Africa, sending all my love xx
16:5 faammm
Love love love from Scotland. I hope you're having a lovely day 🙂
One of James' top love languages is DEFINITELY words of affirmation. He might not see it, but we definitely do lbvs
That’s exactly what I said! 😂 I was shocked he didn’t say it.
All that was missing in this episode was James and Fuhad trying the menstrual pain machine ahaha i would love to see that
I need to see that 😂
Lmaooo just sitting their quiet and they keep talking 😂 he called it lmao😂
She had me at "Imagine life-size". You're not alone fellas 🤣🤣. It took everything for James and Fuhad not to react
James: sometimes I go to a legitimate site *explaining tumble dryer 🌽*
Been best friends over 20yrs….we hug 😂
23:10 “and if you’re undecided, then you’re not her.” 🫠
😂😂
That “girlfriend should know” take has got to be the dumbest thing I’ve heard in quite some time. What it sounds like is a plausible deniability of commitment. If everything goes fantastic, you’ve always been my girlfriend. But if at any point, you want to end the relationship or step out on your girl, you can easily say ”who said you were my girlfriend?”.
I don’t know what’s so hard about just telling her that she’s your girlfriend lol
‘That’s the one thing I wish guys could do, link arms’ was the fruitiest comment 😂😂😂
Imagine having to soft launch your Willy 😂😂
Idk who these girlies are but they are soooooo adorable😭
James be checking out cinzia all the time❤😂 so cute
Liked before watching cause I just know Zaddy and James never fail to deliver 😍😍
Pull up😢
I know of another zaddy who never fails to delivier😔
@@donkeykong12352😭 double messages on UA-cam replies is insane
👀
@@donkeykong12352 never seen double texts on UA-cam
Me being the fattest I’ve ever been in my whole life hearing James say “cookie cookie cookie” made me laugh so hard but also I’m going to the gym tomorrow 😂😂😂😂😂😂
"What a shame" n the eye contact with james was brazyyyyyyyyy
That Brassers part took me owt!!😂😂😂but then again why did i get it immediately and screaaamed😂😂😂
I love when they said, “it’s our favorite thing in the world”. That’s awesome! I’m definitely going to follow their channel!
If a man doesn’t ask me to be his girl imma assume I’m single 🤷🏾♀️
Nah, that Girls Trivia had me ROLLINGGGG 🤣🤣🤣
It’s so crazy that those girls think real best friends don’t hug. Hunny real best friends love on each other . You hug, you link arms, you show each other love . That’s real best friends….
Yes! I a agree with you. My friends have a name for it- A 'Huggle' . It's a combo of both a hug and a cuddle. What every friendship needs. 🥰
I agree with them lol. I have one solid ride or die. No physical contact ever except for big occasions/celebration. I’m not big on physical touch so maybe that’s why. I wouldnt hug my friends unless I knew this was something important to them. Our way makes cuddles feel special. I prefer showing her love via quality time and gift giving.
I kiss my homies
Crazyyyyy
I’m not a touchy person and I agree with the girls - I also don’t hug my bestfriend, physical touch is not my love language, acts of service is 🥰 love can be shown in different ways - there’s no right or wrong.
🗣Let's not tell them what the can and can't do! 🤣😂 James when I get you! Killing me 💀
“Knuckle” is vile 😂😂😂
loved the girls channel for years and i found your account from your last video with them now you’ve blessed us with a 2 hour podcast of you all
Being apparently too scared to open up and ask to be my boyfriend is such a red flag im sorry😭
my boyfriend just said that when a pregnant woman goes swimming she is a human submarine😂😂😂😂
NAAHHHH YOU HAVE TO DEFINE the relationship speaking from experience I thought I was his girlfriend because he was doing boyfriend things… I decided to ask him and he was like no I’m not
The moment when James is talking about the sex being love language one and they all gasp, love Fuhad’s jaw dropping along with the girls😂😂
Ellis is not in the friendship group? #JusticeForEllis
Another Apology for Ellis ASAP
Ellis is probably in their own group chat. The main group chat is of the 5 friends from Uni for over 10+yrs.
He's a employee. Way younger and didn't go to uni with them 5
I SEARCHED for this comment!!!
With sex as a love language the issue is exactly what you said: he might be annoyed and in a bad mood, because he doesn't feel loved but the more he's in a bad mood and mean to her, the less desire she'll have for any kind of intimacy. Seeing that she's aware of his yearning for this type of affection, he'll need to learn how to approach her in a way she'll also feel loved. And if he really wants sex, to initiate it confidently while respecting her situation and mood in the moment. Flirting, cuddling, help with chores, playfulness, heartfelt compliments... can all be very attractive and help ease into more sexy mood as much as any foreplay. The less expectation of a certain outcome, the better usually, so there's no pressure as in what I want in exchange for this bit of attention and affection I'm showing you now. Feeling loved and appreciated and nice to be around is best libido booster I know.
As to the issue of SO getting fat - if you want to be with a person longterm you DO need to accept and love them in different shapes and sizes and to find what remains attractive in them despite the change in appearance of physical abilities or mood predisposition or interests or available free time... Because things change in life and if you want to keep you both to a inflexible standard you'll just end up resenting each other. You can support and encourage each other, especially if one is more intrinsically motivated to exercise and the other one struggles with it. Being active together can be a strong motivation to girls, especially if they start to see gains and you acknowledge them and show them you're proud of them, even if they're small. If they lose interest, because their priorities shift, you can try encouraging them for longterm health reasons. If they feel they have too many more pressing things to hadlel and can't spare time and energy to work out, you could try helping them out with those more pressing burdens. And ultimately if they decide it's not worth it for them, you can either accept the decision and changes in their body or leave the young relationship before it turns into an ugly resentment swamp.
the guys explaining the tumble dryer was so funny to mee
When they said “propose and ask may I be your boyfriend” and James replied “what fantasy are you living in” I felt that in my soul. So relevant
hahahah this is hilarious. There are some many times the girls just look clueless while the guys are cracking up laughing!
Isn’t “you should just know” the exact sentence men have been upset about for years bc us women are confusing and want men to read our minds 😂 everyone should be communicating clearly in relationships and maybe if ya wanna date someone, ask them. Trust boys it’s the cutest thing ever ❤
Exactly.
Stuck in the washing machine 😭😭😭😭 and the girls not getting it sent me🤣🤣🤣
Why does everyone think trauma bond means bonding with someone over your trauma 😭 lol trauma bonds are not a good thing
I'm gonna be completely honest, the moment you see your partners sibling is their lock screen you should immediately be expecting some sweet home alabama kinda shit imo
Brilliant episode, their perspective on some things was very interesting, always good to hear the other side of things
I could write an entire 50-page thesis about the semantic misunderstanding of the term “my girl”
48:03 i heard this somewhere « the one who loves you will never leave you but the one who uses you always will »
These sisters live in a fantasy world, made me open my eyes to my own delusions
The brazzers tumble dryer comment was funny but it was even funnier when they didn’t get it 😭😂
Tobi has Fuhad he don't need you James🤣🤣🤣
Best friends don't hug is an INSANE take!! Those are the people I hug more. Glad our Daddies show each other love (pause)
I don’t know why some of the comments are being so rude… expected better from this community. It’s always lovely to see unexpected collaborations and these girls clearly don’t have similar experiences to Fuhad and James, hence the expectation for the gf question etc etc. BUT they had a great attitude and kept it fun! Enjoyed the ep!!
I feel like James and Fuhad are the least romantic people ever because everytime they speak about relationships I'm just like WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE GUYS?😭😭
Loving this episode - one of the more wholesome SNG’s ☺️
These two being disgusted at the idea of asking someone to be their girlfriend is exactly why the black dating scene is in shambles lmao
You're not a grown-up if you can't clearly establish your relationship. Being embarrassed to ask a woman to be exclusive is wild. You don't have to use their exact wording, but it needs to be clear.
In this day and age surely there’s nothing stopping a woman asking the man to be exclusive though no? I also like to think if I felt that the person I was seeing was keeping me in limbo, I’d confront them straight up mostly out of pride lol. I get what you and the ladies were saying as security and clarification are really important, but I don’t think it comes from a necessarily immature position. For me, introducing a girl to my friends and family, spending loads of time together etc is a HUGE thing and I don’t think it’s the most absurd thing to believe that those actions are way more indicative and meaningful than a playground style “Will you be my girlfriend”. I think it just comes down to individuals, some people need that clarification and validation and other people can just read each others signals and it’s no biggie🤷🏻♂️
@benspiers2604 nothing stopping a woman at all, but I was specifically addressing the embarrassment that it seems to cause for the guys to even think of doing so. While actions are very important, in my opinion, in a situation such as this, communication and clarity are quite important. Taking someone to meet family/ friends isn't a monumental step for everyone. They could do that with multiple other people, and their family/ friends wouldn't bat an eye. Mature adults should be able to have a clear conversation about who they are to each other and the significance of the relationship. It doesn't have to be dripping with romance, just honest and open. Many people have gotten a broken heart from reading 'signals' and making assumptions.
@@Jolie12Fillespot on. I don’t do ambiguity. If clarification is needed, I ask. When I was seeing my husband, I asked him, “What is this?” before we went to meet my parents. I don’t have any shame in being tactfully direct. Less drama.
10:40 watching James and Fuhad’s eyes just bouncing back and forth. Hilarious lol
James genuinely looking so happy when Fuhad complimented his personality at the end, so sweet man
I have been waiting for this to upload after listening to it on Spotify this morning- been watching these two for years now
All this "cant ask her, she should just know" is how a lot of people end up in "I never said you were my girlfriend. Next thing you know you're getting a wedding invitation as a "good friend" 😂😂😂. Never assume what hasn't been explictly said.
27:41 that woho was crazy
She ruined the immersion! Lmfaooo nah that was jokes 🤣🤣🤣
I have never been interested in a podcast like this.This is the first time I actually paid attention to one,Good job guys keep it up.love yeah ❤
was waiting all week for another episode because i can't afford patreon. and i can firm that sofia means wisdom in Greek
The girls rocked this episode…. James brotha you came off a little strong on the dark side with the improv 😂