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Hi Pea, can you make a video about the mandatory child support in the west while in the east it's not really imposed/forced. How insulting it is for a strong single mom to ask a child support from the biological father of the child.
Pea, in the interest of what Americans call "full disclosure," you should probably report if you receive any support from dating sites or travel agencies, etc. (Not that's there's anything wrong with that.) And you would not have reveal the exact details.
I met my Malay Wife in Singapore. We were both 19 years old. I knew her for 4 days and on the 5th day I asked her to marry me. We eventually married and we have been married for over 50 years. I would not trade my wife for any western woman.
I should probably consider myself lucky by this measure, because my Filipina wife was 7 years my _senior._ I was only 21 when she and I got married after 4 months of dating, and every friend and coworker I knew was convinced that I had made the biggest mistake I will ever make. Well -- one should never underestimate the loyalty and old-world values of a Filipina of _any_ age -- because our marriage lasted 42 years, three kids, and five grandkids before she passed away this year. My wife was as strong as they come - in every way. In the province she grew up in, marriage was forever; and she didn't take my commitment lightly. But because I knew her background, how industrious she was, how courageous she was, and how loyal she was, I knew that she would be a wonderful mother to my children -- and even at 21 that meant everything to me. So we married; I didn't regret a single moment in all our 42 years together. And the last five years were the best of all of them. And I miss her terribly. At my age I really have no desire to marry again, and maybe it's just been too soon after losing the love of my life. But if I were ever to want that companionship again, my guess is I'd gravitate toward a Filipina first. BUT -- it would have to be with a better understanding among her family members that hers and my needs and desires come first. She'd have to be well established either financially or in her career choice, but I won't allow her to be exploited, taken advantage of, and taken for granted by her own family members just because they think they've just hit the lottery. There is that tendency among Filipinos and it is perhaps their least appealing virtue.
Brian, thanks for adding your story here. This is very helpful for us younger men who are trying to find a good-quality woman. I'm honored to hear your story and I hope the happy memories you have with your wife can help ease some of the pain and loneliness.
My heart goes out to you.....so sorry for your loss!!! My son is married to a Filipina & yes she has to learn her family here comes 1st! Constantly sending money to the family then berating my son for not making enough to cover all their own bills!!!
Sorry about your loss Sir. Thank you for sharing. 42 years is one long journey keeping that flame burning and a gift few people get to enjoy. She must have been someone very special. Reaffirming your love after her passing by sharing this with us, a brief snapshot yet leaving us with no doubt that despite the additional challenges an international marriage brings, your dear wife indeed checked all the boxes is a beautiful way of celebrating her life. Be well Sir.
My late Filipina wife of 41 years and I were both in our early 20s when we got married. We grew up together and both put 110 % into making our marriage beautiful through all those years. My wife would always tell her friends that every day was like our honeymoon. And I totally agree.
@@americansfirst1095 That was an unnecessary remark. Cruel and Vicious. You don't even know this man or his late wife. You should be ashamed of yourself. You have an Ugly and Black Heart. Yes, "Americans First" - I am an America and I love America and Americans! We are an amazing people. But many of us reach out with strong, kind hands. We don't say harsh, cruel B*ll $h*t.
A little over 24 hours ago I lost my filipina gf to lung cancer, she fought for 11 months non stop even at her last moments she was still fighting, she never smoked, she was an angel. 32 years old she was to young. Been thru so much during those months, did work overtime far away from her to pay her the best health care she can have, her family did not have money to provide for it, couldnt be there by her side and pay the bill that was to much made the choice to give her all chance to live, wish I could share our story one day if I have the strength, want the world to know who my angel was. I feel so much pain, I don’t know how I will be able to make it without her, I keep asking her to help me going thru this, she is the most amazing woman. I got to watch this channel since the day I met her online 2 years ago, I was gathering some information to get to know more about her life there while she was sleeping she was always amazed when she woke up and I knew so much about it. Im from Canada, she is from Cagayan de oro. I miss her so much, I feel so much unbearable pain 😭
@@TheFilipinaPea thank you for taking the time to read my message, trying to vent the pain that I am carrying. I'm all by myself going through this. Feels good knowing you actually took the time to read, your channel helped our relationship, I got to know her culture watching your videos every time she went to bed, it was daytime for me.
I am a filipina and my bf told me that he's happy with me for i value him and love him unconditionally as compared to his past relationships with western women.
There is no comparison. The Western women don't even know what they are competing with. Not to say Filipinas are trouble free, not even close. But still no comparison, even though the wrath of all women can be a terrible thing.
Thank you as a man appreciate what you do for your boyfriend I hope he marries you I have my own Filipina girlfriend who I’m trying to bring to the states
Pea, you're 100% correct ! I am a citizen of the USA . I met my gf who is a Filipina 4 yrs ago. Yes, we have met in person. We've traveled all over the Philippines enjoying what I as a "westerner " consider normal, everyday fun. She thought was a luxury. That's what I love about her. The appreciation for simplicity. Sure, like all people, she too has her flaws. But nothing so bad to make me leave,, ever. Women here in the Americas are superficial and materialistic. Greedy and more money-hungrey than any Filipina. The first questions they usually ask when remotely interested are.. * What do you do for a living ? * What kind of car do you drive ? * Do you have your own place ? Answer in a way that doesnt satisfy them to any of those and they quickly make a excuse to leave the conversation and never see you again. Oh, and let's not forget how Anerican women want you to be perfect... * Perfect health, * perfect skin tone * perfect facial appearance. * perfect vocabulary * perfect height * perfect weight , the list is never ending. But like you pointed out, Filipina women only want to be loved.. That as well as your loyalty and for you not to be abusive. Where American women, they are always looking for that " bad boy ". The no joke guy who seriously just got out of prison ( seriously). Then they complain and act like they never expected it when. He gets abusive . Please,, how. Can people be so stupid ?! In short, I'd take an Asian women, specifically a Filipina woman over a " western " woman anyday. But I'd never in a million yrs trade my filipina gf. She may not be the richest etc. But shes the best person I ever met.
Pea, thanks for recognizing and " Hearting " My my comment / response. You can see more responses of mine in other videos of yours. However as I mentioned in before, if you wouldn't mind, you can see more of myself as well as my GF if you search " Jey Hey " On youtube. Or you can go to,,, ua-cam.com/channels/5eW7vPovECaw4O2ClW0eXA.html . Neither of us are pros when it comes to UA-cam. We are still getting the hang of it. It's for her so she can get some extra income . As you know, in the Philippines, that extra 18 USD or 900 PHP can feed someone for a week. So even if that's all she gets in a month, it is HUGE! We would appreciate you or anyone that see's this if you would check out her channel. That way Pea, you can also see who I am, what my personality is like, and also get a better feel for what both me and my Filipina are like and how we relate to each other. I hope see see you there, and I look forward to your next video. Take care, " Ted Archer " ( J W )
I just got back from meeting mine for the first time. When I saw how cheap everything was due to the exchange rate, I wanted to spend like a drunken sailor. She refused, saying don't waste money, even if it's not hers. I am hooked for sure, she is an amazing woman.
I married a Thai. Still married after 7 years, and trust me, it's beyond amazing than any of my previous girlfriends. I would never pick a girl over my wife, I am hers, and she is mine.
This is very perceptive. Thank you for this very accurate and informative video. I'm an American male, approaching my 60th birthday. My first wife was an American woman. I was a virgin when I married her, and I was a devout Christian. I was devoted to her, loved her, cared for her, and got metric tons of anger and hostility from her because I didn't make enough money in her eyes. I did my best as a machinist to provide for her and our son. She turned my son against me after the divorce. Oh, I was 30 when I married her. I am not a player. I have offered kindness, commitment, maturity, and love when trying to court American women. But I was treated like crap, with every American woman I ever dated long term. I don't do the Tinder crap. I have always wanted a lifetime marriage, commitment to one woman, and to be a father. And I finally found a wonderful, mature, kind, strong, sweet, loving, and very devoted Filipina woman for my true love in the Philippines. There is no comparison with Filipina and American women. No comparison whatsoever. We are talking different planets folks. If you are an American male, your chance of finding a quality wife in America is very slim. Go to the Philippines to any city or small town, close your eyes, and point in any direction, and chances are you are pointing at a very high quality woman.
Oh my goodness! I can tell you have some healing to do. Not all Western women fall into the same category as your ex. Furthermore, I find it hard to believe she is 100% at fault. There are two sides to every story and until I hear it from her I don’t believe you 100 percent. Sorry
@@OanhSchlesinger I have met some exceptional Western women. But there is an undertow in American culture that results in 50% of marriages failing. I never said I was perfect in my marriage. Marriage is a covenant between two imperfect people. But at least I tried, and gave 100% of my heart to my American ex-wife. As an example, I was a healthy guy (and still am), who had spent many years studying nutrition and health related topics before I met her. When my wife was married to me, she ate fruit smoothies, regular meals, but we avoided fast food, etc. But one of the stipulations of staying married to her was that I had to "eat like normal people." She said she would divorce me if I didn't relax my standards. She weighed 140 pounds when married to me, and after the divorce, she blossomed to over 260 pounds by consuming mountains of fast food. She even got our son hooked on fast food and he became very obese. So, no, I am not perfect, but I tried. On our honeymoon, she gave me a list of all the things she hated about me. Yes, you read that right, on our honeymoon. Helluva time to let someone know you hate them. I'm not judging all American women. I am judging the cultural differences between America and the Philippines. They are night and day. By the way, I don't consider Filipina women to be subservient. On the contrary, if I cross my current Filipina fiancé, she'll put the fear of God in me. And that's why I love and cherish her. I might have stated things harshly. Apologies if I offended you. But American culture is on the decline. Americans are getting angrier, more divided, more hostile, and it has become a dysfunctional society as a whole. And marriage and family and not high priorities, generally speaking, in America, whereas in the Philippines, marriage and family is generally everything. When you hurt your own child to spite your ex, that tells you everything you need to know. My son became morbidly obese from being fed a constant stream of fast food. I provided vitamins to my son, and I found out later my ex-wife had hidden the vitamins in her cabinet and had never given the vitamins to my son. What more can I say?
As an American woman dating a man for 7 years, I agree with this. I've been trying to master the art of femininity, but because I am still unmarried I feel I am doing something wrong. So each bit of knowledge helps.
My advice to you is,appreciate the little things your man gives you,don't take him for granted,treat him well and expect the same in return,surprise him sometimes sexually and non sexual too,walk and talk like a woman, don't try to be like a man and don't put up with too much rubbish from him either,men don't communicate very well so find out things from Google or a male friend when things get confusing.
@@ronaldfitzsimmons9902 I don't think they want to hear what you are saying. What's happened in our country was on purpose and millions of women want it to stay this way. Us men have no choice but to look away from where we are born for true companionship if we are smart. I hear and understand what Story Joy is saying. However do she and others like her understand what's happened to create our divide and willing to reverse it before it's too late.
I have been divorce about13 years or so and i would love to met someone in your country. but don't no where to start . I'm a born again Christian and need to find a caring wife.
This has nothing to do with Filipinas. This has everything to do with reality. This girl GETS it! I love it when people are not afraid to tell it like it is. Great Job!!!
@John M2 I just met a Filipina in the US through a friend . All I know is this , she cleans , cooks , affectionate as hell without even asking . Who knows if she cheats when she’s not around me but all I know when she comes over she does everything lol
My Filipina mom made sure to teach me how to be a lady and be lady-like. I kind of resisted while growing up in the states, I wanted to be like my American friends so much , but thankfully my mom’s teachings and example stuck.
I have to make two comments: 1. Holy crap! If any western women watched this, you've made enemies of at least half of them. Very good 👍 2. You did not use the word "love" even once. Also very good 👍
@the phoenix reborn That because These American men are seeing them as sex symbols and not loyal and heartfelt that what happens when you dont do your research
I can honestly agree with everything you have said. I have witnessed it with my own eyes. I have many friends who are married to a Pinay. Most are 20-35 years older than their wives. I can honestly say that once some of the culture shock fades .... I have never seen an unhappy man with a pinay. The only down side I have seen is they are still quite young when they lose their mate. I'm closer to the age of most of the wives of my friends. Guess what? They just add you to the family. Here in the US and there. I think that I have 50+ Tita , Tito, Nanay, Lolo , Lola and more kuya and ate than I can count. I keep saying that you don't have Filipino friends. Just a huge family. Just knowing that can bring you happiness beyond your imagination. I go to the Philippines , I have people to see from Cotabato to Tabuk and everywhere in between. For the guys , you are not just getting a lady... You are getting a culture and huge family. Enjoy the blessings brought. Ingat ka and God bless Pea
@@TheFilipinaPea the reactions I sometimes receive from American white women surprises me whenever I tell them I am not interested and that I am going to find an Asian woman to someday Marry after the Pandemic. Some (including my ex-wife) act offended that I would want an Asian woman and value them over an American woman. In summary it seems like some western women are threatened by Asian women and make sarcastic comments about them and their motives. I don’t blame any Filapina for wanting a western man whom can give them some financial security in addition to a stable relationship. Most western men want a woman whom is loyal and loving. It’s really difficult to find that in American women. All of my Asian experiences have been with Thai women but I am beginning to lean toward full time retirement in Cebo. Pea’s videos are very informative and always have a fun ending. 🙏🏽❤️
Not really, Western women are more independent and wealthier therefore they can be more picky (although they're not my type). The vast majority of Filipinas who marry foreigners are poor and very simple girls with little education, work experience, travel or knowledge. It's an escape from a life of just sitting at home on their phone doing nothing. Many Filipina women have multiple foreign men on the go but most Western guys I met when I lived in PH were staggeringly naive and believed everything their girlfriend's said.
@TheOriginalBigShot are you referring to western women? Clearly your choice in women has not been good and your opinion of western women rests solely on your misfortune. I am half Asian and half American. Ironically it was my white father who taught me the value of independence and the right to choose a career path that was closed to women in his era. It is that type of free thinking that shaped me into a strong believer in myself. Call it entitlement or whatever word fits. I just hope that when/if the opportunity comes to mentor someone whether a child or significant other your very narrow belief system doesn’t hold her back from a bright future.
This video was nothing short of an UPPERCUT launched by the Filipina Pea. The subtleties, jabs, historical overview and the end cut aways was an absolute hit! I've never seen the other side of the "liberated women" discussion and this shed light on a lot of blind spots that can be had when you fall into polar opposites. Thanks, Pea. Fantastic job! And the sunken chest comment made my stomach hurt when I laughed!
Yeah, this video was so strongly against what I hate about American dating that it seemed like a trick. Like, it somehow comes across as video brochure in Total Recall.
I personally will never date an American woman again. They put the man below them and treat them bad in many ways. I don't think they realize just how bad they even are. I look forward to going to your country as soon as possible. Thanks for the show Pea.
hi kennith women are the same here in the uk . they treat men as if they are an inconvenient stepping stone. they use the sexual discrimination card when ever they are not getting what they want. they also promote the attitude that they are owed everything in life. sorry The Pea’s video is so on the mark. just in tune with your comment. it’s a shame good guys pay.
I've been married to my Filipina wife for 15 years. I met her when she was 18 (I was 35 at the time). She's an amazing wife, companion and mother of our children, willing to go to hell and back as long as she is at my side. After 15 years, we still hold hands everywhere and enjoy having a good laugh. We look forward to having more adventures in life together.
I had a Filipina girlfriend before I deployed to Iraq in 2004. She was the best relationship I've ever been in, for the short time we were together. I'm definitely interested in settling down with a new Filipino lady at some point in the future, especially after watching your videos. Modern women and me just don't mix.
You called it exactly right about Feminism robbing women of their core values, and damaging men in the process. Filipinas help to right the balance for men. Hope your Tourism officials open the PI up soon! Thank you!
As a man who spent much of his career as a professional public speaker and educator, I'm impressed with your ability to distinguish and make cogent points. You helped me to see this topic more clearly and I appreciate that.
I must agree with you 100%. I am an older American man who is married to a younger Filipina woman for three years now. We are a 'blended family." We are blessed with three children so far. My wife and I were married in the Philippines, in the Catholic Church with a priest who officiated our sacramental wedding. We were married in the presence of my wife's entire family in a crowded church years ago. It is my goal to retire in the Philippines with my wife one day once our kids are raised and educated here in the USA. Marriage to a woman from the Philippines (regardless of her age) is about having a "family." Period. If you decide to do it right, get married in the Church. You won't regret the extra expense and trouble later. Salamat!
1. Once kids are raised and educated here in the states? *What national values do you think they'll learn but American ways of thinking?😳 2. Get married in a church. * Was someone not worth her dowry? IOW, in "The Philippines" were you too cheap to live up to the dowry most families there still demand for their girls?😏
@@jennivelez7777 you sound like a bitter western. Based on your comments here today. You are right about the eduction in the usa, it's a cwncer for young minds to grow up on that tripe. Oh and Dowry is more of a Indian than Filipino thing.
@@jennivelez7777 1. Homeschooling and being involved in expat Filpino communities can help inoculate against some of the worst excesses of American culture. 2. What does a dowry have to do with this? You're just pissed off at a stranger on the internet.
I've had many relationships with westerner women. Been married twice and divorced twice and all of the women I've been with only wanted me for what I had in the bank account then when that started to run thin they would cheat on me with another man. I'm excited about my relationship with my Filipina girlfriend who is 11 years younger than me and I already love her with everything I am
true have philly woman can wait 10 year and live together whit you but someday if you has forget you bank account,car,house papers open at home woman take all sell all and go far and fast. newer not again see this woman. thats have true 99% all philippines womans can do you.
That's a shame you picked the wrong women. I guess I picked the wrong man. I could say the same thing. Mine went and found a new widow to live with once my money was gone. I'm beginning to think the problem might be, men think that women only want money so they wave it in front of their faces to impress them. Once that's accomplished they want to believe in their minds that the woman really loved them but in reality the relationship was based on what you waved in her face. Just like most Filipina's. They are impressed and infatuated with what you have to offer. You need to present yourself not what you have to offer financially. You'll know if she's for real or not.
My hubby escaped when he divorced his American wife..at first he was sad but when we meet he is happy we been together for 8 yrs here in the US we jyst got narried last year. We both live in Georgia.
Life is too short to stay in a bad marriage. I know you will possibly think you can't afford a divorce, what you really can't afford is a unhappy life. Just wrapped up my divorce and met my beautiful, kind, and loving Filipina last week in Palawan. I have never felt so optimistic about life. Wishing you all the best
@@richardtuffnell9886 My wife never listened to a damn thing I told her about. Building credit nope she decided that getting 4 credit cards and maxing them out was great. Until we went to get our , my house. I bought the house for $170,000.00 NO money down with pristine credit because I am a dumbass and don't know what I am talking about. I tried to get her to take one hour off to sign the paperwork on her car NOPE well now the loan and the car are in my name. She pays the loan.
I am in my mid 50's and just got back from a trip to meet my Filipina for the first time, she is early 40's. You are 100% spot on. The age gap is perfect, I can tell you no one could possibly fake the attraction she has for me. She only got mad once, when she perceived another Filipina to be flirting with me. To an average Joe American it is shocking how "in demand" I am in the Philippines even to woman half my age. I could write a book about my experience, but I'll say it was not just about money for her. Prices were so cheap there compared to my USD I was willing to buy anything, but she refused time and time again. She also never left my side, always wanted to hold my hand, treated me like a king. I did my best to treat her like a king. The only downside is now I am missing her so much, can't wait to go see her again.
The solution is indeed crystal-clear: get rid of Twitter first, and all "serious" (LOL!!) social media, so that minorities can't have a so disproportionate sounding board, and then apply the base concept of democracy: the majority decides, the minorities follow quietly - please note that I didn't said "in silence", but "quietly". In most countries, minorities are not even allowed to EXIST. They may even be sentenced to DEATH... We allow them to exist, to be part of a wealthy society, and they still complain to not be the majority? WTF? If this problem is solved, all consequences will be solved quickly: woke ideology, feminism (the 3rd wave, I mean, not regressing to before the 1st wave), and all other annoying - but way too noisy! - minorities and communities. Communitarianism and religious extremists will also have a very, very bad life then.
@@mac_lak Democracy is not going to solve this problem. It's as likely so exacerbate and accelerate it. Democracy, after all, is the political vehicle that got us here.
Yup take the US for example, our current president is a life long plagiarizing fraud and very obvious illegitimate "leader" and nobody, or at least not enough of us, care enough to do anything about it. Oh, but we'll complain about his predictable screw ups (Afghanistan as a recent example) because that's a lot easier than forcing a group of obvious traitors and criminals out of power.
@R B Democracy is the loaded gun that Americans aim at the ground as the bear approaches, then complain the gun does not work and that they have no power.
My dad told me about a situation where a friend of his married a Filipina woman and as soon as enough time passed she left him. I've been happily married to a Filipina woman for 21 years. So, yes the relationship you establish between each other is important.
You just described my marriage. I toughed it out for 33 years but I finally figured out that life is too short to stay in a bad marriage. So now I am single and while very late in the game I ain't dead yet. As soon as the Philippines open up I'm on my way! Just won't take the jab, I think it will happen.
No jab no entry. And I don't blame a poor country like the Philippines either. They literally can't afford to have unvaccinated foreigners coming in while they're trying to fight this virus. Your choice I gues.
I was at first staying for the kids then it was just because I was a coward, after my brother had a heart attack I decided I didn't want to be miserable any more and die next to a woman that didn't even like me anymore. So I jumped, leaving behind too much and loosing more but now I'm free to try and make a new life. Please open the Philippines with out the jab and I'll be there, probably for life
@@ariefraiser140 you may wanna put a chemical in your body but it should be individual choice unless your a commie. As long as you have negative test I don’t see the issue.
@@kevxsi16v of course it is your individual choice to take or not take the jab. But then it's also the individual choice of the Philippines to not let you into the country. It's not a colony, it's a sovereign nation.
Thank you for giving me hope for actually finding love after a broken heart! My last ex (Western) was awful. I would love to date an Eastern woman with more traditional values.
Trust me my friend, you will make the best choice of your life if you find a sweet Filipina woman to marry. I have been to the Philippines. The Filipina Pea is not exaggerating. She speaks the truth. Filipina women are gentle, strong, beautiful, loving, and kind.
Damn pea you hit the nail on the head with one shot I'm going to start calling you professor pea and you graduated from the University of Truth bomb man I love this girl 😊😊😊😊
My favorite video yet I watch it at least five times to bring up my self-esteem and deflated ego to water Western woman just a bit. Thank you Miss pea for letting Western men it's not really them it's her! It's worth the trip to the Philippines to regain our manhood again
Brother, it's difficult as a white man in the usa. Were hated by some minorities and the left wing party which instigates hate towards white men. White men are portrayed in a bad light here in US. That should not change a damn thing about who you know you are. If you have morals, values, and a principled man you are weight in gold to many Asian women. The white woman neither likes or supports in any meaningful way the white man. I never found the white women attractive in a meaningful way. I always loved women of color since I was a teen and specifically Asian women from the Islands. Happily married one 20 years ago with a wonderful son. "Yelow or brown fever?" You are damn right!
@@thomasbaird4200 A LOT to unpack here, but I am sure you're a great person. Leftists point out what is racism and White Privilege in America. Don't paint us so negatively. Hey, all my exes live in Texas, hint-hint.😀 Glad you found happiness.🙏
Do you live with her in the Philippines or in the west? I have heard that if you bring them to the west they change as they don't need you to provide security for her any more?
As a gu from a first world country, if you're gonna marry a woman from another, less affluent country such as the Philippines, you're much better off going to her country than bringing her to yours. Get to know the culture and values as well as her and her family personally. Family is of great importance to these women. You're not just marrying her, you're marrying into her family. By going there, you are able to prove yourself in her environment. And if things don't work out, you can always go home. But if they do work out (and I hope they do!) you'll have the time of your life.
This is true I spent a year living with my girls parents and that's exactly how you prove yourself, plus willing to learn different language and culture is like you said a perk
Thank you so very much for making well thought science based comparisons between western and Philippine culture. I left US women alone two years back, I married a woman from Ghana. I’m very very happy now. Eastern attitudes prevail in Ghana too. Again I love your comparison. Thanks so much😊
Good choice my elder! I must say though, even in Africa, western culture is much more pervasive now, so women in their early-mid 20s, especially those who live in cities and thus have access to social media and the likes are much more similar to "western women", at least in some instances.
This by far the best Filipino Pea video to date. Take it from an American happily married to a Filipino for over 27 years. You hit the nail on the head, driving the point home perfectly. Your words flow quite eloquently, saying many things I have thought but could not put into words. You speak the truth. Keep up your good work. Thank you.
I'm in a long distance with a Filipina. We haven't met yet but once the Philippines allows foreign travel again, I'm gonna make my trip to see her. :D Filipinas are way more nicer than any girls from the West I've ever spoken to. :) One thing I love is how they ask if I have eaten yet. That's just one way of showing how much they care. ^_^
I am the same exact position you are. I was going to get a plane ticket for January but the quarantine once I get there would take the whole visit. Good luck to you! These filipinas are a different story
haha..it's very common here..I'm filipina, married to a filipino but I still ask him if he already ate..even though I want him to lose a bit of weight. Lol
I've been with a Filipina for 5 years and married the last 2 years. She is always concerned about my health, how I feel etc - I wish I would have met her years ago - my Ex wife was from the USA and I didn't realize until I divorced and moved to the Philippines how abusive the relationship was. You get Stockholm syndrome.
I'm in a long distance relationship with a Filipina now too. We haven't met yet as well due to covid and Australia borders being closed (due to open sometime next month) my Filipina wants to come to Australia to see me
I have been highly considering going to the Philippines to find a wife. And I’ve heard it’s a very beautiful country. Thank you Pea! You are very beautiful!❤️
do your research before you go , advice find one that has never been married before as there is no divorce in the Philippines only annulment and that process could take up to 10 years and a whole lot of $$$$$
@@defcon1734 So true. In my younger wild days, I was stationed there. I "Dated" a girl/woman who as in Angeles City, right outside Clark AB. Of the three girls I either seriously dated or lived with, she was the best all around; esp. being kind, sweet & nice personality. I could have married her--YES she had at least one kid back in the province/boonies, and she did tell me so. Not even sure now what/if the husband status was. Next thing I know she's gone back home; just earning some coin I guess. I don't miss her, just a fond memory, that's all.
__ This is my favorite video, as until now, I thought it was me ( Im a guy) that had something wrong with him, as I was seeking all you spoke about with Filipina women. They don't exist here in the west. Most women, are spend thrifts, materialistic and self centered. Most have no desire to even learn how you guys REALLY know how to treat a man. No wonder why American men are flocking to The Philippines, because they have "the real women" there and with no war paint on their faces.
Exactly my thoughts, its same here in UK. Trying to find a woman in UK who can cook is a fete in its self. Money, false appearance, materialistic, augmentative, cheating, overweight and debt reliant are what you find in the West. My friend said hes got a lovely wife its me he said im to picky then BANG hes just got devorsed because of her having an affair.
everybody I know that has met and married a Filipina has never regretted it. Having spent a month on the PI years ago when I was a young, wild, and naive soldier stationed in Okinawa, I wish now I had tried a little harder when I had a chance to meet and interact with the Filipina women I met there. But I was really shy, virginal, and still unsure of what I really wanted and expected from a woman with whom I would want to spend the rest of my life with.
You are spot on! I would never imagine to actually find a girl talking about this. You gave me hope, lately I am so depressed because of what is going here in Quebec (Canada) that I thought I would never even have kids or a wife. Long-term dating and values in relationships are dead over here in the West. But, after seeing this video I have a new objective : making money, finishing my degree and going to live in the Philippines, you are so right and very very smart over there !
I was married to a Filipina for 30 years untill she passed last year. She was awesome. Her values and the way she saw the world was far diffrent from the way I saw the world. She taught me so much. Would I do it again? Only if Miss Pea was an option! ; )
I understand your position. I lost my first wife (Filipina) 5 years ago to cancer. I still miss her but realized that time waits for no man. So I began to seek companionship in PI after giving myself time to grieve. Luckily I found a woman 8 years my junior. She has truly been a blessing. And I never considered a western woman when I began to date again. I wish you well.
normal philippines have sweet and marry and wait when have possiple scam men all money, i know many phiully whore who marry foreign and live together many many year but not true happy only fake, and when husband make fail, mean forget bank book, and credit cards and car papers etc, open in house philly whotre take all and sell and go fast and far thief all men money and broken men life. i know some thief who has sell husband house too and card, thief all bank account money and fly back philly and newer not can found she again.thats made many many philly normal, 100% all phillys do thats if can do, marry 7 year or one men i know marry 20 year but first time forget bank book and papers open and go out wife take all and sell and fly out usa.
"Filipinas know that their youth is fleeting".... But you ladies seem to look great well into old age. Are you sure you're only 30? Because your wisdom goes well beyond your years. Do you feel that your opportunities to live in the west have changed you much? Thanks for another great video
I think I’ve pretty much given up on American women because they are focused on becoming educated and how successful they can be in life. But yet they complain about how they can’t find a man.. Well… you raised your standards so high you won’t give anyone a chance this attributes to the declining birth rate in America also
And here is another point of view. North American meets a woman who wants to marry treat him like a king, work to build together as part of team and you call her a gold digger. Woman decides to give herself the life she wants man still complains hmmmmm......... Sounds to me like the men are confused!
@@suzanneaubin7599 "Treat him like a king"? Hummm.... We obviously don't meet the same Western women. Never seen that in ANY woman during the last 30 years - but with real, genuine gold diggers. The "king" part ends up with the first born, who unfortunately will be used as a weapon against the father/future ex-husband in order to get a HUGE alimony.
@@suzanneaubin7599 She is a gold digger if she demands an expensive lifestyle which creates stress and debt for them both. If she doesn't want too much (i.e., 25 jackets) and endless gifts, and the finances are chill, then she is not a gold digger IMHO
My Filipina Girl Friend and I have been together for over 8 years. OMG Everything has been so beautiful . The only reason we are not married yet is because of U.S & Philippines Immigration. We Have been in the process for 2 years now COVD did not help the situation. I always say we should have completed our marriage papers in South Korea in 2017 when we were there. Overall Pea You hit the NAIL ON THE HEAD. You keep up the wonderful work You are doing. Your information you provide is priceless and so valuable.
yeah, I kinda like a business partner that cares about the business and wants to make sure it doesn't fail. Unlike greedy partners in the west that just want 1/2.
After some dissapointments with Western women I married a Filipina from the provence 35 years ago and I didn't regret it for one single day although at the time friends and family thought I was getting crazy. We are still happy together after all those years although we are different in many ways. I hope we' still have a lot of years together and like in the video we are indeed with a 10 year gap. I could not ask for more in a relationship and I always consider myself very lucky. Respect and love for each other has always been our priority. Thanks for the video.
There is a certain magic in the Philippines. I cannot really describe it. It is an internal joy that shines through all of you. Is it something you get from living in paradise or is it something the west has lost in pursuit of comfort and entertainment? I am not sure, but for all the problems the Philippines suffer from it is a magical place.
Wow, mind… officially…blown ! I fell in love with the Philippines when I was there 40 years ago. After two marriages with American women I now know what I was missing. This video was an epiphany. I have a better understanding about what I “felt” to be true but never had it put into such succinct context. Well done! 👏maraming salamat po, Ate !
My wife was born in Philippines and i have never seen a most beautiful and most kind woman in my life. Im so in Love with her, i wish all man can find a woman like mine. I pray you do! 😎❤
You’re very articulate. All you’ve said is so true. Relationship is all about fulfilling needs. And sad to say but marriage in the west is no longer what it used to be. Even as a younger man i really appreciate the values of Filipinas and see them as potentially better wives. ❤️❤️❤️
No question. I'm not even sure why most Westerners bother with marriage if they're going to be so cavalier with the vows they took that they'd break them for the most transient reasons. It's quite apparent that the focus is on _their_ needs and not their partner's, which is the one thing that defines what love _isn't._ My Filipina wife was raised by strict parents with old-world conservative values where it concerned marriage and family, and so I knew from the outset that she would be a superb mother to my children -- and she was, along with being a very loyal and devoted partner and companion to me. God graced me beyond measure and it was the best decision I've ever made in my life.
@@briane173 I agree with most of what you said. Putting all western females in the same category is not being fair. I am guilty of doing the same thing on occasion and need to remind myself that it’s not right. There are good respectable Christian women in the US that probably won’t be in a bar or on a dating app. Looking in the right place and finding the right one takes time. Can I ask where / how did you find the one you married?
Yup, My wife is Japanese. More mature and realistic than any western woman I ever met. Vote with your feet fellas, leave them “independent” western chicks to discover true “independence” by not validating them one iota and leaving them alone. It is after all what they want, they don’t need no man, so make sure you ain’t around to be needed by them.
This is how every social interaction should go: Woman: "I'm independent. If I marry you, it's because of what you do for ME, how you make ME feel, how you fulfill ME." Man: Good luck with that.
I think Japanese woman are more feminine than western woman. But much more materialistic and extremely cold hearted. Relationship in Japan are nothing to envy as a westerner. And that's coming from personal experience. If you think I'm wrong try a dating app in Japan. In Japan everything is about conformadity and harmony. Not ones personal views. It's not impossible. But it will not be easy to find a woman who is willing to break tradition to marry a foreigner. You will have to find that one in a million.
I would encourage you to discuss a potential downside of the Filipina marriage. When you marry a Filipina you not only marry the woman, but you also marry her entire family. This can be both good and bad as it can be a heavy financial responsibility that does not go away or get any better with time. This can be a real culture shock for those that are not prepared as our family relationships in the USA typically are not that way. Filipinas believe that those that are best able to provide - should provide no matter what. Just my 2 cents.. .
This video should be an advertisement for a relationship agency. Wow, you're blunt and so straight to the point and correct on every single point. I loved it.
Companionship and value, you nailed it again Pea! 😊 and yes, not only a Filipina makes sense, but also She is by far the only best ever wife a man can wish for 🥰 ! And so incredibly beautiful 😻 You have demonstrated those so obvious facts with realism and witticism, as per usual , thank you so much dear Pea ☺️ I can’t wait 😍
You really make me laugh! My last girlfriend was a Filipina and, while our relationship ended, I can say from experience your comments are especially "spot on". Thanks for sharing and helping those curious about The Philippines, your culture, and the sometimes crazy-mixed-up pursuit of international relationships.
love the truth bombs, we need more of them they really hit close to home and reality. When I was younger my father used to say " a womans enemy is another woman, a womans worse enemy is a younger woman". I never thought about the part that everyday lots of young girls turn 18 and officially become competition.
When I was married years ago as a young man, my wife said to me, “sex isn’t a need”. I said, “it feels like a need”. I don’t think some people can understand what it’s like for a person who’s ‘love language’ is physical touch.
Without getting into comparisons, filipinas are the real deal. To a man who has been lonely half his adult life among American women who are way too judgmental and with high expectations (ok, I guess I'm comparing a little), filipinas have been a very sweet Godsend. I am so very thankful for you women. Especially my wife 😍. Ladies like you, filipina pea, keep being you.
@@smotnick judgementalism is a negative, unproductive attitude and having high expectations goes both ways. It's about being less selfish and more selfless.
Very well said . I lived much of what she said at the beginning with my wife who left me after 30 years of marriage. I vowed I’d never marry again but must admit if I found a God fearing Filipino gal I would consider it again. I actually know a Filipino gal who is interested in me . Trust is the big issue for me.
Mark, sorry to hear that brother. Most Filipinas are God fearing, so you’re good there. Get to know her and see where it goes. I married a Filipina. Best. Decision. Ever.
After 22 years I'm a scared man. I was so loyal I would never give another any attention which made me seem odd.. Now after she left, I feel like I'm cheating when I try to now..ugh
I’m in the same position. I’ve been talking to a Filipina lady for a couple of years. She got a work visa and is on her way here soon. I have major trust issues because of my ex. It seems too good to be true that a woman half my age is interested in me. We’ll see how it goes when she gets here.
@@uglycasanova4240 I know the feeling! Been there done that! Married to a Filipina on the 16th 🎉and it’s like inner peace has finally found me. Now it’s up to immigration and time. Good luck! Go get one!
@@ImCopperBear I just met my Filipina in person, she is 40 me 54. I was skeptical as well. How can this younger beautiful and fit woman really find me so attractive as she claims? All I can tell you is if she is faking it, she blows Meryl Streep away as an actress and performs 24/7. She always showed me affection, always wanted to hold my hand, looked at me longingly all the time. Commented on my eyes, hair, nose and Western features. She was particular fascinated by my nose and eyes. I would literally wake up with her staring at me, she would look at me while I am sleeping. If she is faking it for money, she is the best in the world.
Wow, does she really understand the motivations and mindsets of the men and women in this video. Very enlightening and sums things up very accurately in my book. I think she's right on almost every count here. Good for Western men to hear and understand this.
I just met my Filipina in person, she is amazing. One thing that worries me confirmed by this video. In the USA I am just an average Joe, but in the Philippines I am a "hot ticket". I of course like this, not that I am not happy with my girl, but it's a good feeling. If I bring her here, the tides turn. She will be the hot ticket and revert back to average Joe status. It's going to take a long time to build trust to overcome this for me to bring her here. For now, I just enjoy the day and plan my next trip to see her.
@@thomasgee1798 - then look around a bit more; I met LOTS of young Filipinas with no kids before I chose mine. In fact, of the three finalists, two were 22 year old virgins (one of those being an engineer who stayed away from men and dating to get her degree, and the other was a fisherman’s daughter who was very religious), and the other 21 yo had a college degree and had only had two previous partners (which was backed up by her social media history), and did not have any children 🤷♂️. All 3 were VERY beautiful.
Truth. This is a wise young woman. I've watched several of her videos and I've learned quite a bit. Her videos have given me insight that I didn't see coming. I never thought I'd want to go to the Philippines, but she's made some compelling cases.
You hit the nail on its head. I was married 20 yrs and was a good provider, husband, and father willing to work through the hard times, but it wasn't enough. Now I'm 52 and don't feel that I want to risk loving another western women. It seems even Filipinas in the west can be quite the same as other western women once hear too long, but Filipinas still in their country can be the best kind of woman a man could ever meet. A true blessing, a start to being a better man, because of what they bring to the table. I have real experience getting to know them and what I always wanted in relationships with a woman, I can find in a good Filipino woman. They are both strong and loving, smart and humble. When I marry again, it could very likely be to a wonderful Filipina.
Though much of what you discuss in this particular video doesn't apply to me (American happily married to an American one year younger than me for 27 years) I find your overall work and channel brilliant for those interested in this topic. Your detailed no nonsense approach to delivering facts and information, with funny one liners, and clear diction, make your channel exceptional. You don't waste your viewers time but get right to the point delivering information we don't know. Living in Las Vegas I have great friends from Kazakhstan, Phillipines, China, Turkey, Mexico, Ukraine, Taiwan, France, and on and on, because I love learning about other cultures....That said, you are a well spoken intelligent English speaking lady that has a lot to offer anyone from any country. If you ever visit Las Vegas contact me, my wife and I would enjoy showing you around the city and countryside or treating you to dinner.
@@jasonodom7027 So she basically shits all your wife and her values and predicts divorce is in your future sooner rather than later and you congratulate her?
I totally agree with everything you’ve said - with one vital warning. As wonderful as that Filipina is in her country, when you take back to yours, you run a very high risk of her becoming corrupted by western “values” and treating you no differently to all those women you vowed you would always avoid. A good one is a blessing, a bad one a curse, wherever they’ve come from.
Truth at 13:48 It's because in the PH the man can just walk away with no financial consequences. They marry foreigners for a better life, not love. Peace.
Wow, Pea, the first five minutes of this presentation is spot on, "The World According to Pea". You are such an awesome sociologist. I'm your biggest fan. Lets see what else you have to say in the rest of this vlog, "finish me, Pea".
As a HENRY, my biggest fear is that I would prefer to bring her back. While I am on path to retire early, I do want a family sooner rather than later. You always have me on the fence. Maybe you should do a video on how to keep a Filipina from becoming to westernized. But amazing vid as usual.
If I could figure out how to keep a Filipina from becoming too westernized, I’d write a book! But as a very westernized Filipina myself, let me give it some thought 😂
@@ColonelHoganStalag13 Seems like solid advice. If you don't mind me asking did you do LDR? And I fully agree, even though I consider myself to be agnostic, that secularism does little for building healthy relationships.
Henry, if you bring her to the West, then you will be fighting an uphill battle. The feminist, jealous guys, haters, and westernized Filipinas will do their best to ruin her and your relationship.
I don't think I've seen a more accurate assessment and effective sales pitch as this in some time. Also, I obviously agree and may need to consider moving to the Philippines for a better life and a worthwhile relationship since everything here in the U.S. is going cuckoo. I have very little hope for great, stable, reciprocal relationships with a female unafflicted by psychological disorders and overcome with pride here.
It has been a very very long time since a seen a video of a girl caring about men in anyway at all. This video is a gold mine and makes me still believe their are women out there that still think about more than themselves. Filipinas ang maganda! 😍
Thank you so much for videos like this pea! As a young women coming into her 20s it's nice to have information that could really benefit me in the long run. The west is pretty individualistic and people here generally are taught to be selfish. Fortunately I discovered "red pill" a year or two ago and have been able to get valuable information that will help me avoid ending up sad depressed and alone. It's so nice to get the information from a women though, being able to have female role models is important!
Robert Heinlein said "A man doesn't demand physical beauty in a woman who makes him feel loved. After a while, he realizes that she IS beautiful -- he just hadn't noticed it at first." Single Pinay in the US are in high demand, but often have been Westernized and play the game . . .until the morning that she wakes up to discover that at 45 or 50 she is suddenly and rapidly losing that youthful appearance that attracts new guys, and she has driven away the ones who would have been good for her. Your scene with the cats can be more true than some Pinay realize.
Brother you said it all I had a girlfriend is Cebu before and things were supposed to be so much different than what happened the guy she cheated on me with is cheating on her currently her family had told me that she had never made a good decision in her life I think this last one bit her and took a big chunk out of her it hurt but it also turned out best for me because I moved on and found the woman for me I have no guessing about this one she is true to the Bone
A quote from Lazarus Long? My Filipino girlfriend is college educated but she has never read Heinlein before. Sometimes I share e-books with her. Jack London, Bradbury, Simak, Steinbeck, Strugatsky ... She says they are amazing books. I’m Russian and it’s looks a bit strange to me that she hasn’t read this before. And these cats at the end of the video do not imagine that somewhere there is a door into winter )))
I love your educational and well thought out videos. Unlike many UA-cam videos that I have seen, your presentations are well reasoned, logical and precisely articulated. Great job!
As a psychologist, CONGRATS..........this is the best run down I have ever heard on relationships. Very Well done!!!!! You are very wise and well written.
My loving Filipina is 8 years younger than me, she's 30, but looks 22. She said I look late 20s. We talk about long term goals. The one question her mom asked me was: " Will you give me grandchildren " my reply was: Yes, how many do you want"
Funny, cutting, but lots of truth there Pea You nailed it a lot. Value in a relationship is a way I never looked at before. I still think some elements of loving a person are being contented with each other. Growing old together and loving each other more each day. Committment. My filipina taught me what love really is and while sex is maybe a common thing in the west, I think men are coming for some appreciation. So, yeah, I guess that makes you even more right
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Interesting.
Very good subject of today pea it really keep me glue the whole video 📸.
Yep I'm going to share this video to everyone 😄😊
Hi Pea, can you make a video about the mandatory child support in the west while in the east it's not really imposed/forced. How insulting it is for a strong single mom to ask a child support from the biological father of the child.
Pea, in the interest of what Americans call "full disclosure," you should probably report if you receive any support from dating sites or travel agencies, etc. (Not that's there's anything wrong with that.) And you would not have reveal the exact details.
I met my Malay Wife in Singapore. We were both 19 years old. I knew her for 4 days and on the 5th day I asked her to marry me. We eventually married and we have been married for over 50 years. I would not trade my wife for any western woman.
You have no one to compare her to.
Very true 💖
You sound happy. You have already achieved what most can't.
Congratulations sir. And God Bless you both!
@@IvanIvanov-vy7pt pretty much. It is like eating a 1 thing and then tell the world its the best food. I am glad he found a woman for him though.
I should probably consider myself lucky by this measure, because my Filipina wife was 7 years my _senior._ I was only 21 when she and I got married after 4 months of dating, and every friend and coworker I knew was convinced that I had made the biggest mistake I will ever make. Well -- one should never underestimate the loyalty and old-world values of a Filipina of _any_ age -- because our marriage lasted 42 years, three kids, and five grandkids before she passed away this year.
My wife was as strong as they come - in every way. In the province she grew up in, marriage was forever; and she didn't take my commitment lightly. But because I knew her background, how industrious she was, how courageous she was, and how loyal she was, I knew that she would be a wonderful mother to my children -- and even at 21 that meant everything to me. So we married; I didn't regret a single moment in all our 42 years together. And the last five years were the best of all of them. And I miss her terribly.
At my age I really have no desire to marry again, and maybe it's just been too soon after losing the love of my life. But if I were ever to want that companionship again, my guess is I'd gravitate toward a Filipina first. BUT -- it would have to be with a better understanding among her family members that hers and my needs and desires come first. She'd have to be well established either financially or in her career choice, but I won't allow her to be exploited, taken advantage of, and taken for granted by her own family members just because they think they've just hit the lottery. There is that tendency among Filipinos and it is perhaps their least appealing virtue.
Sorry for your loss Brian.
Sorry for your loss, Brian. Your wife was an amazing person and I hope you find happiness and peace in your life.
Brian, thanks for adding your story here. This is very helpful for us younger men who are trying to find a good-quality woman. I'm honored to hear your story and I hope the happy memories you have with your wife can help ease some of the pain and loneliness.
My heart goes out to you.....so sorry for your loss!!!
My son is married to a Filipina & yes she has to learn her family here comes 1st! Constantly sending money to the family then berating my son for not making enough to cover all their own bills!!!
Sorry about your loss Sir. Thank you for sharing. 42 years is one long journey keeping that flame burning and a gift few people get to enjoy. She must have been someone very special. Reaffirming your love after her passing by sharing this with us, a brief snapshot yet leaving us with no doubt that despite the additional challenges an international marriage brings, your dear wife indeed checked all the boxes is a beautiful way of celebrating her life. Be well Sir.
My late Filipina wife of 41 years and I were both in our early 20s when we got married. We grew up together and both put 110 % into making our marriage beautiful through all those years. My wife would always tell her friends that every day was like our honeymoon. And I totally agree.
You achieved something extremely rare that most can only dream of! May your golden years be filled with wonderful memories!
On demand b js is a plus too. You not fooling us any.
Sorry for your loss
I’m sorry you lost your wife after so many years.
@@americansfirst1095 That was an unnecessary remark. Cruel and Vicious. You don't even know this man or his late wife. You should be ashamed of yourself. You have an Ugly and Black Heart. Yes, "Americans First" - I am an America and I love America and Americans! We are an amazing people. But many of us reach out with strong, kind hands. We don't say harsh, cruel B*ll $h*t.
A little over 24 hours ago I lost my filipina gf to lung cancer, she fought for 11 months non stop even at her last moments she was still fighting, she never smoked, she was an angel. 32 years old she was to young. Been thru so much during those months, did work overtime far away from her to pay her the best health care she can have, her family did not have money to provide for it, couldnt be there by her side and pay the bill that was to much made the choice to give her all chance to live, wish I could share our story one day if I have the strength, want the world to know who my angel was. I feel so much pain, I don’t know how I will be able to make it without her, I keep asking her to help me going thru this, she is the most amazing woman. I got to watch this channel since the day I met her online 2 years ago, I was gathering some information to get to know more about her life there while she was sleeping she was always amazed when she woke up and I knew so much about it. Im from Canada, she is from Cagayan de oro. I miss her so much, I feel so much unbearable pain 😭
Im so devastated to hear that, Simon! She was way too young 😢😢😢
If I could take some of your pain, I would 🥺
@@TheFilipinaPea thank you for taking the time to read my message, trying to vent the pain that I am carrying. I'm all by myself going through this. Feels good knowing you actually took the time to read, your channel helped our relationship, I got to know her culture watching your videos every time she went to bed, it was daytime for me.
I am so sorry for your loss! May God keep you during this time.
I am so sorry for your loss. 🙏🙏 Last year I Lost my Filipina wife due to multiple medical issues. We were married almost 38 years.
They weave their way into our lives and our hearts .. sorry for your loss mate
I am a filipina and my bf told me that he's happy with me for i value him and love him unconditionally as compared to his past relationships with western women.
Absolutely wonderful
There is no comparison. The Western women don't even know what they are competing with. Not to say Filipinas are trouble free, not even close. But still no comparison, even though the wrath of all women can be a terrible thing.
Thank you as a man appreciate what you do for your boyfriend I hope he marries you I have my own Filipina girlfriend who I’m trying to bring to the states
I'm convinced too. I have found someone that I want to be with also but getting her here is not easy.
@@nickanderson55 Don't take her to the states unless for a very short visit. Otherwise, she will become Americanised and you will lose her.
Pea, you're 100% correct ! I am a citizen of the USA . I met my gf who is a Filipina 4 yrs ago. Yes, we have met in person. We've traveled all over the Philippines enjoying what I as a "westerner " consider normal, everyday fun. She thought was a luxury. That's what I love about her. The appreciation for simplicity. Sure, like all people, she too has her flaws. But nothing so bad to make me leave,, ever. Women here in the Americas are superficial and materialistic. Greedy and more money-hungrey than any Filipina. The first questions they usually ask when remotely interested are..
* What do you do for a living ?
* What kind of car do you drive ?
* Do you have your own place ?
Answer in a way that doesnt satisfy them to any of those and they quickly make a excuse to leave the conversation and never see you again. Oh, and let's not forget how Anerican women want you to be perfect...
* Perfect health, * perfect skin tone * perfect facial appearance. * perfect vocabulary * perfect height * perfect weight , the list is never ending.
But like you pointed out, Filipina women only want to be loved.. That as well as your loyalty and for you not to be abusive. Where American women, they are always looking for that " bad boy ". The no joke guy who seriously just got out of prison ( seriously). Then they complain and act like they never expected it when. He gets abusive . Please,, how. Can people be so stupid ?! In short, I'd take an Asian women, specifically a Filipina woman over a " western " woman anyday. But I'd never in a million yrs trade my filipina gf. She may not be the richest etc. But shes the best person I ever met.
Pea, thanks for recognizing and " Hearting " My my comment / response. You can see more responses of mine in other videos of yours. However as I mentioned in before, if you wouldn't mind, you can see more of myself as well as my GF if you search " Jey Hey " On youtube. Or you can go to,,, ua-cam.com/channels/5eW7vPovECaw4O2ClW0eXA.html . Neither of us are pros when it comes to UA-cam. We are still getting the hang of it. It's for her so she can get some extra income . As you know, in the Philippines, that extra 18 USD or 900 PHP can feed someone for a week. So even if that's all she gets in a month, it is HUGE! We would appreciate you or anyone that see's this if you would check out her channel. That way Pea, you can also see who I am, what my personality is like, and also get a better feel for what both me and my Filipina are like and how we relate to each other. I hope see see you there, and I look forward to your next video. Take care, " Ted Archer " ( J W )
I love your comment & feedback
Your absolutely right
I just got back from meeting mine for the first time. When I saw how cheap everything was due to the exchange rate, I wanted to spend like a drunken sailor. She refused, saying don't waste money, even if it's not hers. I am hooked for sure, she is an amazing woman.
Perfect commentary
I married a Thai. Still married after 7 years, and trust me, it's beyond amazing than any of my previous girlfriends. I would never pick a girl over my wife, I am hers, and she is mine.
I married a Thai, 9 years ago. Win win!
This is very perceptive. Thank you for this very accurate and informative video. I'm an American male, approaching my 60th birthday. My first wife was an American woman. I was a virgin when I married her, and I was a devout Christian. I was devoted to her, loved her, cared for her, and got metric tons of anger and hostility from her because I didn't make enough money in her eyes. I did my best as a machinist to provide for her and our son. She turned my son against me after the divorce. Oh, I was 30 when I married her. I am not a player. I have offered kindness, commitment, maturity, and love when trying to court American women. But I was treated like crap, with every American woman I ever dated long term. I don't do the Tinder crap. I have always wanted a lifetime marriage, commitment to one woman, and to be a father. And I finally found a wonderful, mature, kind, strong, sweet, loving, and very devoted Filipina woman for my true love in the Philippines. There is no comparison with Filipina and American women. No comparison whatsoever. We are talking different planets folks. If you are an American male, your chance of finding a quality wife in America is very slim. Go to the Philippines to any city or small town, close your eyes, and point in any direction, and chances are you are pointing at a very high quality woman.
Oh my goodness! I can tell you have some healing to do. Not all Western women fall into the same category as your ex. Furthermore, I find it hard to believe she is 100% at fault. There are two sides to every story and until I hear it from her I don’t believe you 100 percent. Sorry
@@OanhSchlesinger I have met some exceptional Western women. But there is an undertow in American culture that results in 50% of marriages failing. I never said I was perfect in my marriage. Marriage is a covenant between two imperfect people. But at least I tried, and gave 100% of my heart to my American ex-wife. As an example, I was a healthy guy (and still am), who had spent many years studying nutrition and health related topics before I met her. When my wife was married to me, she ate fruit smoothies, regular meals, but we avoided fast food, etc. But one of the stipulations of staying married to her was that I had to "eat like normal people." She said she would divorce me if I didn't relax my standards. She weighed 140 pounds when married to me, and after the divorce, she blossomed to over 260 pounds by consuming mountains of fast food. She even got our son hooked on fast food and he became very obese. So, no, I am not perfect, but I tried. On our honeymoon, she gave me a list of all the things she hated about me. Yes, you read that right, on our honeymoon. Helluva time to let someone know you hate them. I'm not judging all American women. I am judging the cultural differences between America and the Philippines. They are night and day. By the way, I don't consider Filipina women to be subservient. On the contrary, if I cross my current Filipina fiancé, she'll put the fear of God in me. And that's why I love and cherish her. I might have stated things harshly. Apologies if I offended you. But American culture is on the decline. Americans are getting angrier, more divided, more hostile, and it has become a dysfunctional society as a whole. And marriage and family and not high priorities, generally speaking, in America, whereas in the Philippines, marriage and family is generally everything. When you hurt your own child to spite your ex, that tells you everything you need to know. My son became morbidly obese from being fed a constant stream of fast food. I provided vitamins to my son, and I found out later my ex-wife had hidden the vitamins in her cabinet and had never given the vitamins to my son. What more can I say?
@@OanhSchlesinger I believe John C
@@OanhSchlesinger I believe Jon C and by your immediately defensive reply, something hit a nerve.
@@econdude3811 Same!
“She was never yours, it’s was just your turn.” You are wiser than your years.
I’ve heard that so much, I thought I’d add it in there 😂
@@TheFilipinaPea I’ve found that to be the truth. 😁👍
@@TheFilipinaPea yup
Red pill talk
That sounds disgusting. Marrying a virgin is the way to go.
'She was never yours, it was just your turn'
Very well spoken !
1ST time I've ever heard that said by a woman, This lady isn't afraid to speak up.
Tha truth
Western life
yup, been there done that.
As a Westerner and married to a Filipina, this video was just right.
Thanks Mario - glad you concur 👍❤️
I am a Westerner Filipino, Married to a Filipina.."
She's an oracle of truth this chick
am from south-western filipino married to a south-western filipina
As an American woman dating a man for 7 years, I agree with this. I've been trying to master the art of femininity, but because I am still unmarried I feel I am doing something wrong. So each bit of knowledge helps.
My advice to you is,appreciate the little things your man gives you,don't take him for granted,treat him well and expect the same in return,surprise him sometimes sexually and non sexual too,walk and talk like a woman, don't try to be like a man and don't put up with too much rubbish from him either,men don't communicate very well so find out things from Google or a male friend when things get confusing.
Just by you recognizing it is a huge plus for you! If we were a couple I would be happy to help you become more feminine.
Simple get rid of Modern Day Feminism and family law courts.
Mark Gungor (Pastor/Comedian) has plenty of advice via youtube videos to assist you.
@@ronaldfitzsimmons9902 I don't think they want to hear what you are saying. What's happened in our country was on purpose and millions of women want it to stay this way. Us men have no choice but to look away from where we are born for true companionship if we are smart. I hear and understand what Story Joy is saying. However do she and others like her understand what's happened to create our divide and willing to reverse it before it's too late.
As an American man, this video illustrates well why more & more of us in this internet age are looking overseas for love.
I've got my all seeing eye on you! Lol 😎😀
I have been divorce about13 years or so and i would love to met someone in your country. but don't no where to start . I'm a born again Christian and need to find a caring wife.
This has nothing to do with Filipinas. This has everything to do with reality. This girl GETS it! I love it when people are not afraid to tell it like it is. Great Job!!!
As long as gougle (communist) appoves of it.
This has everything to do with
Filipina women...
It's buy a Filipina, about Filipinas...it's Filipino.
@John M2 I just met a Filipina in the US through a friend . All I know is this , she cleans , cooks , affectionate as hell without even asking . Who knows if she cheats when she’s not around me but all I know when she comes over she does everything lol
It has EVERYTHING to do with Filipinas.
@John M2 you don't want a city girl, you want a province girl.
My Filipina mom made sure to teach me how to be a lady and be lady-like. I kind of resisted while growing up in the states, I wanted to be like my American friends so much , but thankfully my mom’s teachings and example stuck.
Happily married to my Filipina wife. She has adapted amazingly to farm life in Tanzania, my only regret is that I did not meet her earlier in my life.
I have to make two comments:
1. Holy crap! If any western women watched this, you've made enemies of at least half of them. Very good 👍
2. You did not use the word "love" even once. Also very good 👍
Of course, because they don't like the truth, but if they want it, then this would be a good video to find it on.
Thanks Stone! I promised to leave the mushy stuff out of it 😂
@the phoenix reborn those people treat women like crap anywhere they are.
@@TheFilipinaPea Pea, mushy is one thing, but years ago there was a famous saying in the USSR = Love is a capitalist scam to get free sex.
@the phoenix reborn That because These American men are seeing them as sex symbols and not loyal and heartfelt that what happens when you dont do your research
I can honestly agree with everything you have said. I have witnessed it with my own eyes. I have many friends who are married to a Pinay. Most are 20-35 years older than their wives. I can honestly say that once some of the culture shock fades .... I have never seen an unhappy man with a pinay. The only down side I have seen is they are still quite young when they lose their mate. I'm closer to the age of most of the wives of my friends. Guess what? They just add you to the family. Here in the US and there. I think that I have 50+ Tita , Tito, Nanay, Lolo , Lola and more kuya and ate than I can count. I keep saying that you don't have Filipino friends. Just a huge family. Just knowing that can bring you happiness beyond your imagination. I go to the Philippines , I have people to see from Cotabato to Tabuk and everywhere in between. For the guys , you are not just getting a lady... You are getting a culture and huge family. Enjoy the blessings brought. Ingat ka and God bless Pea
Thanks so much for sharing your story, William! ❤️👍
wonderful comment !! thanks so much
That's right is true
@@TheFilipinaPea the reactions I sometimes receive from American white women surprises me whenever I tell them I am not interested and that I am going to find an Asian woman to someday Marry after the Pandemic.
Some (including my ex-wife) act offended that I would want an Asian woman and value them over an American woman.
In summary it seems like some western women are threatened by Asian women and make sarcastic comments about them and their motives.
I don’t blame any Filapina for wanting a western man whom can give them some financial security in addition to a stable relationship. Most western men want a woman whom is loyal and loving. It’s really difficult to find that in American women.
All of my Asian experiences have been with Thai women but I am beginning to lean toward full time retirement in Cebo. Pea’s videos are very informative and always have a fun ending. 🙏🏽❤️
Great
“They’ve been sold a lie…”
You’re so honest, and I love that about you! Keep speaking the truth, Pea:-)
She right so many American women kill themselves in their 30s and later ages
@@youngsavagefury7138 A lifetime of negativity destroys their will to live.
Not really, Western women are more independent and wealthier therefore they can be more picky (although they're not my type). The vast majority of Filipinas who marry foreigners are poor and very simple girls with little education, work experience, travel or knowledge. It's an escape from a life of just sitting at home on their phone doing nothing. Many Filipina women have multiple foreign men on the go but most Western guys I met when I lived in PH were staggeringly naive and believed everything their girlfriend's said.
@TheOriginalBigShot are you referring to western women? Clearly your choice in women has not been good and your opinion of western women rests solely on your misfortune. I am half Asian and half American. Ironically it was my white father who taught me the value of independence and the right to choose a career path that was closed to women in his era. It is that type of free thinking that shaped me into a strong believer in myself. Call it entitlement or whatever word fits. I just hope that when/if the opportunity comes to mentor someone whether a child or significant other your very narrow belief system doesn’t hold her back from a bright future.
This video was nothing short of an UPPERCUT launched by the Filipina Pea. The subtleties, jabs, historical overview and the end cut aways was an absolute hit! I've never seen the other side of the "liberated women" discussion and this shed light on a lot of blind spots that can be had when you fall into polar opposites. Thanks, Pea. Fantastic job! And the sunken chest comment made my stomach hurt when I laughed!
Yeah, this video was so strongly against what I hate about American dating that it seemed like a trick. Like, it somehow comes across as video brochure in Total Recall.
Yep
@@paulligatto8476Great reference!
This woman is Red Pilled! Very wise!
I personally will never date an American woman again. They put the man below them and treat them bad in many ways. I don't think they realize just how bad they even are. I look forward to going to your country as soon as possible. Thanks for the show Pea.
hi kennith women are the same here in the uk . they treat men as if they are an inconvenient stepping stone. they use the sexual discrimination card when ever they are not getting what they want. they also promote the attitude that they are owed everything in life.
sorry The Pea’s video is so on the mark. just in tune with your comment. it’s a shame good guys pay.
You won't regret going there. I went there for 6 months and loved it.
Facts
It’s not only in the USA brother. Well said
@@mikeburns6603 May I ask where you lived? Did you rent a house or condo? Retired recently and thinking about moving to Cebu.
I've been married to my Filipina wife for 15 years. I met her when she was 18 (I was 35 at the time). She's an amazing wife, companion and mother of our children, willing to go to hell and back as long as she is at my side. After 15 years, we still hold hands everywhere and enjoy having a good laugh. We look forward to having more adventures in life together.
Best of luck to you both 👍❤️
Beautiful. Wish you all the best. ❤️❤️❤️
Same here, I found my Rosey in Mindanao, and her family are all good; that she so adores her simple honest parents, is a thing of beauty !!
@@TheFilipinaPea where can get a woman like this lol
Me also
I had a Filipina girlfriend before I deployed to Iraq in 2004. She was the best relationship I've ever been in, for the short time we were together. I'm definitely interested in settling down with a new Filipino lady at some point in the future, especially after watching your videos. Modern women and me just don't mix.
You called it exactly right about Feminism robbing women of their core values, and damaging men in the process. Filipinas help to right the balance for men. Hope your Tourism officials open the PI up soon! Thank you!
You must be unfamiliar with Camile Paglia.
I will never get a vaccine
whY, your hoping to get a filipina wife?
@@ragheadand420roll its this sort of thinking that keeps covid alive and well.
@@bhing1483 you really believe anything and everything your government/media tells you.
As a man who spent much of his career as a professional public speaker and educator, I'm impressed with your ability to distinguish and make cogent points. You helped me to see this topic more clearly and I appreciate that.
Married 35 years to my Filipina. She’s three years older. God has given us the opportunity to raise two bright kids, their spouses and our grandkids.
I must agree with you 100%. I am an older American man who is married to a younger Filipina woman for three years now. We are a 'blended family." We are blessed with three children so far. My wife and I were married in the Philippines, in the Catholic Church with a priest who officiated our sacramental wedding. We were married in the presence of my wife's entire family in a crowded church years ago. It is my goal to retire in the Philippines with my wife one day once our kids are raised and educated here in the USA. Marriage to a woman from the Philippines (regardless of her age) is about having a "family." Period. If you decide to do it right, get married in the Church. You won't regret the extra expense and trouble later. Salamat!
Nice to hear.. think its a Good idea leave US.
1. Once kids are raised and educated here in the states?
*What national values do you think they'll learn but American ways of thinking?😳
2. Get married in a church.
* Was someone not worth her dowry? IOW, in "The Philippines" were you too cheap to live up to the dowry most families there still demand for their girls?😏
@@jennivelez7777 you sound like a bitter western. Based on your comments here today.
You are right about the eduction in the usa, it's a cwncer for young minds to grow up on that tripe.
Oh and Dowry is more of a Indian than Filipino thing.
@@jennivelez7777 1. Homeschooling and being involved in expat Filpino communities can help inoculate against some of the worst excesses of American culture.
2. What does a dowry have to do with this? You're just pissed off at a stranger on the internet.
I've had many relationships with westerner women. Been married twice and divorced twice and all of the women I've been with only wanted me for what I had in the bank account then when that started to run thin they would cheat on me with another man. I'm excited about my relationship with my Filipina girlfriend who is 11 years younger than me and I already love her with everything I am
Whoa... slow your roll player 😂
Been there, done that, so true!!
@the phoenix reborn I met my Filipina on Facebook in a group called Filipinas looking for Foreigners
true have philly woman can wait 10 year and live together whit you but someday if you has forget you bank account,car,house papers open at home woman take all sell all and go far and fast. newer not again see this woman. thats have true 99% all philippines womans can do you.
That's a shame you picked the wrong women. I guess I picked the wrong man. I could say the same thing. Mine went and found a new widow to live with once my money was gone. I'm beginning to think the problem might be, men think that women only want money so they wave it in front of their faces to impress them. Once that's accomplished they want to believe in their minds that the woman really loved them but in reality the relationship was based on what you waved in her face. Just like most Filipina's. They are impressed and infatuated with what you have to offer. You need to present yourself not what you have to offer financially. You'll know if she's for real or not.
If only I had heard this 8 years ago. I need a beautiful Filipina to save me from my terrible marriage. Everything she said is true.
My hubby escaped when he divorced his American wife..at first he was sad but when we meet he is happy we been together for 8 yrs here in the US we jyst got narried last year. We both live in Georgia.
Life is too short to stay in a bad marriage. I know you will possibly think you can't afford a divorce, what you really can't afford is a unhappy life. Just wrapped up my divorce and met my beautiful, kind, and loving Filipina last week in Palawan. I have never felt so optimistic about life. Wishing you all the best
Western women are unbearably ENTITLED, my Filipina wife is so Golden Hearted. What a Prize!
Sexual market is only when a woman is young value!!
i agree
Married a filipina, one of the best decisions ive ever made. Willing to meet you halfway in a relationship.
@@richardtuffnell9886 My wife never listened to a damn thing I told her about. Building credit nope she decided that getting 4 credit cards and maxing them out was great. Until we went to get our , my house. I bought the house for $170,000.00 NO money down with pristine credit because I am a dumbass and don't know what I am talking about. I tried to get her to take one hour off to sign the paperwork on her car NOPE well now the loan and the car are in my name. She pays the loan.
unbearably!!
I am in my mid 50's and just got back from a trip to meet my Filipina for the first time, she is early 40's. You are 100% spot on. The age gap is perfect, I can tell you no one could possibly fake the attraction she has for me. She only got mad once, when she perceived another Filipina to be flirting with me. To an average Joe American it is shocking how "in demand" I am in the Philippines even to woman half my age. I could write a book about my experience, but I'll say it was not just about money for her. Prices were so cheap there compared to my USD I was willing to buy anything, but she refused time and time again. She also never left my side, always wanted to hold my hand, treated me like a king. I did my best to treat her like a king. The only downside is now I am missing her so much, can't wait to go see her again.
To be fair the entire west is broken, not just women. Our society is a well covered up failure and we're proud of it.
The solution is indeed crystal-clear: get rid of Twitter first, and all "serious" (LOL!!) social media, so that minorities can't have a so disproportionate sounding board, and then apply the base concept of democracy: the majority decides, the minorities follow quietly - please note that I didn't said "in silence", but "quietly".
In most countries, minorities are not even allowed to EXIST. They may even be sentenced to DEATH... We allow them to exist, to be part of a wealthy society, and they still complain to not be the majority? WTF?
If this problem is solved, all consequences will be solved quickly: woke ideology, feminism (the 3rd wave, I mean, not regressing to before the 1st wave), and all other annoying - but way too noisy! - minorities and communities. Communitarianism and religious extremists will also have a very, very bad life then.
@@mac_lak Democracy is not going to solve this problem. It's as likely so exacerbate and accelerate it. Democracy, after all, is the political vehicle that got us here.
Yup take the US for example, our current president is a life long plagiarizing fraud and very obvious illegitimate "leader" and nobody, or at least not enough of us, care enough to do anything about it. Oh, but we'll complain about his predictable screw ups (Afghanistan as a recent example) because that's a lot easier than forcing a group of obvious traitors and criminals out of power.
@R B Democracy is the loaded gun that Americans aim at the ground as the bear approaches, then complain the gun does not work and that they have no power.
@@edwhatshisname3562 Joe Biden?
My dad told me about a situation where a friend of his married a Filipina woman and as soon as enough time passed she left him. I've been happily married to a Filipina woman for 21 years. So, yes the relationship you establish between each other is important.
Nice.. Thats variance, some realstions Hold some dont whatever country she is from.
You just described my marriage. I toughed it out for 33 years but I finally figured out that life is too short to stay in a bad marriage. So now I am single and while very late in the game I ain't dead yet. As soon as the Philippines open up I'm on my way! Just won't take the jab, I think it will happen.
33 years? I’m so sorry …… 😔
No jab no entry. And I don't blame a poor country like the Philippines either. They literally can't afford to have unvaccinated foreigners coming in while they're trying to fight this virus. Your choice I gues.
I was at first staying for the kids then it was just because I was a coward, after my brother had a heart attack I decided I didn't want to be miserable any more and die next to a woman that didn't even like me anymore. So I jumped, leaving behind too much and loosing more but now I'm free to try and make a new life. Please open the Philippines with out the jab and I'll be there, probably for life
@@ariefraiser140 you may wanna put a chemical in your body but it should be individual choice unless your a commie. As long as you have negative test I don’t see the issue.
@@kevxsi16v of course it is your individual choice to take or not take the jab. But then it's also the individual choice of the Philippines to not let you into the country. It's not a colony, it's a sovereign nation.
Thank you for giving me hope for actually finding love after a broken heart! My last ex (Western) was awful. I would love to date an Eastern woman with more traditional values.
Trust me my friend, you will make the best choice of your life if you find a sweet Filipina woman to marry. I have been to the Philippines. The Filipina Pea is not exaggerating. She speaks the truth. Filipina women are gentle, strong, beautiful, loving, and kind.
All I can say is go where you are appreciated. It really is that simple.
I don't think I've ever heard a more honest analysis of the relationship dynamic between the sexes. This woman tells it like it is.
Its nice to see that there are still cultures of sanity around the globe.
Amen to that
Yep! Sanity is exactly what certain women don't have.
Clearly you havn't heard of the npa communists recruiting and brainwashing children In the phillipines.
Damn pea you hit the nail on the head with one shot I'm going to start calling you professor pea and you graduated from the University of Truth bomb man I love this girl 😊😊😊😊
Thanks, and yes I’m a graduate of UTB 👍😂
@@TheFilipinaPea Graduate of humanity you mean :O
Professor Sweet Pea.
@@TheFilipinaPea the most passionate women
I like the way that sounds.
Professor Pea.
My favorite video yet I watch it at least five times to bring up my self-esteem and deflated ego to water Western woman just a bit. Thank you Miss pea for letting Western men it's not really them it's her! It's worth the trip to the Philippines to regain our manhood again
actually, it's not her, its you.
@@vyan7258 in
Brother, it's difficult as a white man in the usa. Were hated by some minorities and the left wing party which instigates hate towards white men. White men are portrayed in a bad light here in US. That should not change a damn thing about who you know you are. If you have morals, values, and a principled man you are weight in gold to many Asian women. The white woman neither likes or supports in any meaningful way the white man. I never found the white women attractive in a meaningful way. I always loved women of color since I was a teen and specifically Asian women from the Islands. Happily married one 20 years ago with a wonderful son. "Yelow or brown fever?" You are damn right!
Does seeing Western women being favored negatively BOOST your self-esteem?😰
@@thomasbaird4200 A LOT to unpack here, but I am sure you're a great person. Leftists point out what is racism and White Privilege in America. Don't paint us so negatively. Hey, all my exes live in Texas, hint-hint.😀 Glad you found happiness.🙏
I married a Filipina 3 years ago and that was the best decision i ever made!!! #thankgodforflipinas
Good for you, sir.
Filipino women, are the BEST!!
How long did it take ? How much did it cost ? Im still saving fer one :(
@@heartbroken715 Do not buy and import one. Go over there yourself and watch your value rise.
Do you live with her in the Philippines or in the west? I have heard that if you bring them to the west they change as they don't need you to provide security for her any more?
As a gu from a first world country, if you're gonna marry a woman from another, less affluent country such as the Philippines, you're much better off going to her country than bringing her to yours. Get to know the culture and values as well as her and her family personally. Family is of great importance to these women. You're not just marrying her, you're marrying into her family. By going there, you are able to prove yourself in her environment. And if things don't work out, you can always go home. But if they do work out (and I hope they do!) you'll have the time of your life.
This is true I spent a year living with my girls parents and that's exactly how you prove yourself, plus willing to learn different language and culture is like you said a perk
Thank you so very much for making well thought science based comparisons between western and Philippine culture. I left US women alone two years back, I married a woman from Ghana. I’m very very happy now. Eastern attitudes prevail in Ghana too. Again I love your comparison. Thanks so much😊
Good choice my elder! I must say though, even in Africa, western culture is much more pervasive now, so women in their early-mid 20s, especially those who live in cities and thus have access to social media and the likes are much more similar to "western women", at least in some instances.
This by far the best Filipino Pea video to date. Take it from an American happily married to a Filipino for over 27 years. You hit the nail on the head, driving the point home perfectly. Your words flow quite eloquently, saying many things I have thought but could not put into words. You speak the truth. Keep up your good work. Thank you.
A lot of truth in this video. Especially how the government has taken the role of the husband. Spot on! Well done Pea!
I'm in a long distance with a Filipina. We haven't met yet but once the Philippines allows foreign travel again, I'm gonna make my trip to see her. :D Filipinas are way more nicer than any girls from the West I've ever spoken to. :) One thing I love is how they ask if I have eaten yet. That's just one way of showing how much they care. ^_^
I am the same exact position you are. I was going to get a plane ticket for January but the quarantine once I get there would take the whole visit. Good luck to you! These filipinas are a different story
haha..it's very common here..I'm filipina, married to a filipino but I still ask him if he already ate..even though I want him to lose a bit of weight. Lol
I've been with a Filipina for 5 years and married the last 2 years. She is always concerned about my health, how I feel etc - I wish I would have met her years ago - my Ex wife was from the USA and I didn't realize until I divorced and moved to the Philippines how abusive the relationship was. You get Stockholm syndrome.
A ticket to the west is all they want. Careful.
I'm in a long distance relationship with a Filipina now too. We haven't met yet as well due to covid and Australia borders being closed (due to open sometime next month) my Filipina wants to come to Australia to see me
I have been highly considering going to the Philippines to find a wife. And I’ve heard it’s a very beautiful country. Thank you Pea! You are very beautiful!❤️
do your research before you go , advice find one that has never been married before as there is no divorce in the Philippines only annulment and that process could take up to 10 years and a whole lot of $$$$$
@@onestep4ward1965 Sagely advice Sir!
@@onestep4ward1965 Of greater concern should be finding out whether she's hiding kids in the province which so many of them are haha.
@@defcon1734 So true. In my younger wild days, I was stationed there. I "Dated" a girl/woman who as in Angeles City, right outside Clark AB. Of the three girls I either seriously dated or lived with, she was the best all around; esp. being kind, sweet & nice personality. I could have married her--YES she had at least one kid back in the province/boonies, and she did tell me so. Not even sure now what/if the husband status was. Next thing I know she's gone back home; just earning some coin I guess. I don't miss her, just a fond memory, that's all.
@@defcon1734 yes that too .good point !
__ This is my favorite video, as until now, I thought it was me ( Im a guy) that had something wrong with him, as I was seeking all you spoke about with Filipina women. They don't exist here in the west. Most women, are spend thrifts, materialistic and self centered. Most have no desire to even learn how you guys REALLY know how to treat a man. No wonder why American men are flocking to The Philippines, because they have "the real women" there and with no war paint on their faces.
Exactly my thoughts, its same here in UK. Trying to find a woman in UK who can cook is a fete in its self. Money, false appearance, materialistic, augmentative, cheating, overweight and debt reliant are what you find in the West. My friend said hes got a lovely wife its me he said im to picky then BANG hes just got devorsed because of her having an affair.
everybody I know that has met and married a Filipina has never regretted it. Having spent a month on the PI years ago when I was a young, wild, and naive soldier stationed in Okinawa, I wish now I had tried a little harder when I had a chance to meet and interact with the Filipina women I met there. But I was really shy, virginal, and still unsure of what I really wanted and expected from a woman with whom I would want to spend the rest of my life with.
You are spot on! I would never imagine to actually find a girl talking about this. You gave me hope, lately I am so depressed because of what is going here in Quebec (Canada) that I thought I would never even have kids or a wife. Long-term dating and values in relationships are dead over here in the West.
But, after seeing this video I have a new objective : making money, finishing my degree and going to live in the Philippines, you are so right and very very smart over there !
I hope you find a good woman. Good luck and just hang on there.
Gabriel, you are NOT alone! Many of us are experiencing this along with you!
So you are saying Canada dating sucks like American dating?
I was married to a Filipina for 30 years untill she passed last year. She was awesome. Her values and the way she saw the world was far diffrent from the way I saw the world. She taught me so much. Would I do it again? Only if Miss Pea was an option! ; )
That’s so sweet of you to think of her in that way, Gregg ❤️
I understand your position. I lost my first wife (Filipina) 5 years ago to cancer. I still miss her but realized that time waits for no man. So I began to seek companionship in PI after giving myself time to grieve. Luckily I found a woman 8 years my junior. She has truly been a blessing. And I never considered a western woman when I began to date again. I wish you well.
normal philippines have sweet and marry and wait when have possiple scam men all money, i know many phiully whore who marry foreign and live together many many year but not true happy only fake, and when husband make fail, mean forget bank book, and credit cards and car papers etc, open in house philly whotre take all and sell and go fast and far thief all men money and broken men life. i know some thief who has sell husband house too and card, thief all bank account money and fly back philly and newer not can found she again.thats made many many philly normal, 100% all phillys do thats if can do, marry 7 year or one men i know marry 20 year but first time forget bank book and papers open and go out wife take all and sell and fly out usa.
Thank You for this from the USA! I’m getting my passport- Youre video was Spot On.
"Filipinas know that their youth is fleeting".... But you ladies seem to look great well into old age. Are you sure you're only 30? Because your wisdom goes well beyond your years. Do you feel that your opportunities to live in the west have changed you much? Thanks for another great video
Thanks Jeremy, and my exposure to the west has changed me profoundly, yes 👍
Dude…Filipinas follow the international law of female aging. They stop having birthdays at 29. ;-)
@Mike Tummon bingo 🤙🏾
I'm 7 years older than my Filipina wife, we married when I was 32 and we've had a pretty good life, now retired here in the Philippines.
Congrats, and best of luck and love to you both 👍❤️
If there is a perfect age gap, that would be it!
Tell me how Phillipines is different in comparison??
I think I’ve pretty much given up on American women because they are focused on becoming educated and how successful they can be in life. But yet they complain about how they can’t find a man.. Well… you raised your standards so high you won’t give anyone a chance this attributes to the declining birth rate in America also
And here is another point of view. North American meets a woman who wants to marry treat him like a king, work to build together as part of team and you call her a gold digger. Woman decides to give herself the life she wants man still complains hmmmmm.........
Sounds to me like the men are confused!
@@suzanneaubin7599 "Treat him like a king"? Hummm.... We obviously don't meet the same Western women. Never seen that in ANY woman during the last 30 years - but with real, genuine gold diggers. The "king" part ends up with the first born, who unfortunately will be used as a weapon against the father/future ex-husband in order to get a HUGE alimony.
Hypergamy is a plague on the western societies. The cause of the plummeting birth rates.
@@suzanneaubin7599 She is a gold digger if she demands an expensive lifestyle which creates stress and debt for them both. If she doesn't want too much (i.e., 25 jackets) and endless gifts, and the finances are chill, then she is not a gold digger IMHO
Yeah that's true man and then when they hit The wall she's ready to settle down
My Filipina Girl Friend and I have been together for over 8 years. OMG Everything has been so beautiful . The only reason we are not married yet is because of U.S & Philippines Immigration. We Have been in the process for 2 years now COVD did not help the situation. I always say we should have completed our marriage papers in South Korea in 2017 when we were there. Overall Pea You hit the NAIL ON THE HEAD. You keep up the wonderful work You are doing. Your information you provide is priceless and so valuable.
Any update?
When a relationship becomes living together it's much more a business relationship than romantic. You want a good business partner.
Absolutely! 👍
yeah, I kinda like a business partner that cares about the business and wants to make sure it doesn't fail. Unlike greedy partners in the west that just want 1/2.
This sounds like advice for selfish and tight self seeking individuals.
Hard too see an articulated video like this. This channel will blow eventually. Good work and all the best!
Well I’m still waiting for it ……. 😂
Thanks 👍
After some dissapointments with Western women I married a Filipina from the provence 35 years ago and I didn't regret it for one single day although at the time friends and family thought I was getting crazy. We are still happy together after all those years although we are different in many ways. I hope we' still have a lot of years together and like in the video we are indeed with a 10 year gap. I could not ask for more in a relationship and I always consider myself very lucky. Respect and love for each other has always been our priority. Thanks for the video.
There is a certain magic in the Philippines. I cannot really describe it. It is an internal joy that shines through all of you.
Is it something you get from living in paradise or is it something the west has lost in pursuit of comfort and entertainment?
I am not sure, but for all the problems the Philippines suffer from it is a magical place.
Wow, mind… officially…blown !
I fell in love with the Philippines when I was there 40 years ago. After two marriages with American women I now know what I was missing. This video was an epiphany. I have a better understanding about what I “felt” to be true but never had it put into such succinct context.
Well done! 👏maraming salamat po, Ate !
So refreshing to hear the truth.
"They have been sold a lie"
You are a treasure Pea.
All so spot on 👌
She definitely did her homework on this one.
My wife was born in Philippines and i have never seen a most beautiful and most kind woman in my life. Im so in Love with her, i wish all man can find a woman like mine. I pray you do! 😎❤
That is the sweetest thing ever!!!
People call it Asian fever, I call it not marrying a Karen
I believe the term is "yellow fever".
My neighbors married to karen and tbh this past weekend i went on a road trip with a karen. Literally her name.
*Yellow fever
Edit: I should have expanded the replies haha
@@eelenavarguss yep it exists it's also hand in hand with avoiding marrying a karen
😂 You can find Asian Karen's too
You’re very articulate. All you’ve said is so true. Relationship is all about fulfilling needs. And sad to say but marriage in the west is no longer what it used to be. Even as a younger man i really appreciate the values of Filipinas and see them as potentially better wives. ❤️❤️❤️
No question. I'm not even sure why most Westerners bother with marriage if they're going to be so cavalier with the vows they took that they'd break them for the most transient reasons. It's quite apparent that the focus is on _their_ needs and not their partner's, which is the one thing that defines what love _isn't._ My Filipina wife was raised by strict parents with old-world conservative values where it concerned marriage and family, and so I knew from the outset that she would be a superb mother to my children -- and she was, along with being a very loyal and devoted partner and companion to me. God graced me beyond measure and it was the best decision I've ever made in my life.
@@briane173 I agree with most of what you said. Putting all western females in the same category is not being fair. I am guilty of doing the same thing on occasion and need to remind myself that it’s not right. There are good respectable Christian women in the US that probably won’t be in a bar or on a dating app. Looking in the right place and finding the right one takes time. Can I ask where / how did you find the one you married?
Yup, My wife is Japanese. More mature and realistic than any western woman I ever met. Vote with your feet fellas, leave them “independent” western chicks to discover true “independence” by not validating them one iota and leaving them alone. It is after all what they want, they don’t need no man, so make sure you ain’t around to be needed by them.
This is how every social interaction should go:
Woman: "I'm independent. If I marry you, it's because of what you do for ME, how you make ME feel, how you fulfill ME."
Man: Good luck with that.
Where did you meet your wife
@@petergeramin7195 Altadena California 91001??
Eh... no. Japanese women are similar to "western women". Very carrier oriented
I think Japanese woman are more feminine than western woman. But much more materialistic and extremely cold hearted. Relationship in Japan are nothing to envy as a westerner. And that's coming from personal experience. If you think I'm wrong try a dating app in Japan. In Japan everything is about conformadity and harmony. Not ones personal views. It's not impossible. But it will not be easy to find a woman who is willing to break tradition to marry a foreigner. You will have to find that one in a million.
I would encourage you to discuss a potential downside of the Filipina marriage. When you marry a Filipina you not only marry the woman, but you also marry her entire family. This can be both good and bad as it can be a heavy financial responsibility that does not go away or get any better with time. This can be a real culture shock for those that are not prepared as our family relationships in the USA typically are not that way. Filipinas believe that those that are best able to provide - should provide no matter what. Just my 2 cents.. .
Yup, I’ve already done that one - and it was BRUTAL
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Had a friend who went to the Philippines for a holiday, loved it that much he sold his business and moved there
This video should be an advertisement for a relationship agency. Wow, you're blunt and so straight to the point and correct on every single point.
I loved it.
Companionship and value, you nailed it again Pea! 😊 and yes, not only a Filipina makes sense, but also She is by far the only best ever wife a man can wish for 🥰 ! And so incredibly beautiful 😻 You have demonstrated those so obvious facts with realism and witticism, as per usual , thank you so much dear Pea ☺️
I can’t wait 😍
😘 Thank you Pea
You really make me laugh! My last girlfriend was a Filipina and, while our relationship ended, I can say from experience your comments are especially "spot on". Thanks for sharing and helping those curious about The Philippines, your culture, and the sometimes crazy-mixed-up pursuit of international relationships.
love the truth bombs, we need more of them they really hit close to home and reality. When I was younger my father used to say " a womans enemy is another woman, a womans worse enemy is a younger woman". I never thought about the part that everyday lots of young girls turn 18 and officially become competition.
When I was married years ago as a young man, my wife said to me, “sex isn’t a need”. I said, “it feels like a need”. I don’t think some people can understand what it’s like for a person who’s ‘love language’ is physical touch.
Touch is one of the best things about marriage.
It's not a need. It's THE need.
Without getting into comparisons, filipinas are the real deal. To a man who has been lonely half his adult life among American women who are way too judgmental and with high expectations (ok, I guess I'm comparing a little), filipinas have been a very sweet Godsend. I am so very thankful for you women. Especially my wife 😍. Ladies like you, filipina pea, keep being you.
You're saying they have a lower bar???
@@smotnick judgementalism is a negative, unproductive attitude and having high expectations goes both ways. It's about being less selfish and more selfless.
@@smotnick No! Hynkel is saying a Filipina will accept you as you are and not make unreasonable demands.
@Brian Behn: being judgmental and having high expectations is way different than being delusional, or unrealistic.
Agreed.
I've been watching and listening and evaluating your videos for a few months now. I've decided you're a pretty smart cookie Pea.
Very well said . I lived much of what she said at the beginning with my wife who left me after 30 years of marriage. I vowed I’d never marry again but must admit if I found a God fearing Filipino gal I would consider it again. I actually know a Filipino gal who is interested in me . Trust is the big issue for me.
Mark, sorry to hear that brother. Most Filipinas are God fearing, so you’re good there. Get to know her and see where it goes. I married a Filipina. Best. Decision. Ever.
After 22 years I'm a scared man. I was so loyal I would never give another any attention which made me seem odd.. Now after she left, I feel like I'm cheating when I try to now..ugh
I’m in the same position. I’ve been talking to a Filipina lady for a couple of years. She got a work visa and is on her way here soon. I have major trust issues because of my ex. It seems too good to be true that a woman half my age is interested in me. We’ll see how it goes when she gets here.
@@uglycasanova4240 I know the feeling! Been there done that! Married to a Filipina on the 16th 🎉and it’s like inner peace has finally found me. Now it’s up to immigration and time. Good luck! Go get one!
@@ImCopperBear I just met my Filipina in person, she is 40 me 54. I was skeptical as well. How can this younger beautiful and fit woman really find me so attractive as she claims? All I can tell you is if she is faking it, she blows Meryl Streep away as an actress and performs 24/7. She always showed me affection, always wanted to hold my hand, looked at me longingly all the time. Commented on my eyes, hair, nose and Western features. She was particular fascinated by my nose and eyes. I would literally wake up with her staring at me, she would look at me while I am sleeping. If she is faking it for money, she is the best in the world.
Wow, does she really understand the motivations and mindsets of the men and women in this video. Very enlightening and sums things up very accurately in my book. I think she's right on almost every count here. Good for Western men to hear and understand this.
I just met my Filipina in person, she is amazing. One thing that worries me confirmed by this video. In the USA I am just an average Joe, but in the Philippines I am a "hot ticket". I of course like this, not that I am not happy with my girl, but it's a good feeling. If I bring her here, the tides turn. She will be the hot ticket and revert back to average Joe status. It's going to take a long time to build trust to overcome this for me to bring her here. For now, I just enjoy the day and plan my next trip to see her.
“ every day a new crop of 18 year old girls have their birthday“
That’s like sending up a FLARE 💥
I do not actually know of a young single Filipino girl who does not have kids.
Hahahahaha
@@thomasgee1798 - then look around a bit more; I met LOTS of young Filipinas with no kids before I chose mine. In fact, of the three finalists, two were 22 year old virgins (one of those being an engineer who stayed away from men and dating to get her degree, and the other was a fisherman’s daughter who was very religious), and the other 21 yo had a college degree and had only had two previous partners (which was backed up by her social media history), and did not have any children 🤷♂️. All 3 were VERY beautiful.
@@parabiology1014
You mean THEY CLAIMED THEY WERE VIRGINS.
Biggest LIE since The magic bullet theory…
@@PassportBrosBusinessClass hahahah yes
Truth. This is a wise young woman. I've watched several of her videos and I've learned quite a bit. Her videos have given me insight that I didn't see coming. I never thought I'd want to go to the Philippines, but she's made some compelling cases.
You're the best, no BS nor sugar coating, just facts. Thank you ma'am !
I have listened to dozens of your videos over the past year and I think this is your best one yet; a philosophy and tradition of value.
You hit the nail on its head. I was married 20 yrs and was a good provider, husband, and father willing to work through the hard times, but it wasn't enough. Now I'm 52 and don't feel that I want to risk loving another western women. It seems even Filipinas in the west can be quite the same as other western women once hear too long, but Filipinas still in their country can be the best kind of woman a man could ever meet. A true blessing, a start to being a better man, because of what they bring to the table. I have real experience getting to know them and what I always wanted in relationships with a woman, I can find in a good Filipino woman. They are both strong and loving, smart and humble. When I marry again, it could very likely be to a wonderful Filipina.
Though much of what you discuss in this particular video doesn't apply to me (American happily married to an American one year younger than me for 27 years) I find your overall work and channel brilliant for those interested in this topic. Your detailed no nonsense approach to delivering facts and information, with funny one liners, and clear diction, make your channel exceptional. You don't waste your viewers time but get right to the point delivering information we don't know. Living in Las Vegas I have great friends from Kazakhstan, Phillipines, China, Turkey, Mexico, Ukraine, Taiwan, France, and on and on, because I love learning about other cultures....That said, you are a well spoken intelligent English speaking lady that has a lot to offer anyone from any country. If you ever visit Las Vegas contact me, my wife and I would enjoy showing you around the city and countryside or treating you to dinner.
Now that’s a compliment, thanks 👍❤️
Truth has the greatest value.
@@jasonodom7027 So she basically shits all your wife and her values and predicts divorce is in your future sooner rather than later and you congratulate her?
I totally agree with everything you’ve said - with one vital warning. As wonderful as that Filipina is in her country, when you take back to yours, you run a very high risk of her becoming corrupted by western “values” and treating you no differently to all those women you vowed you would always avoid. A good one is a blessing, a bad one a curse, wherever they’ve come from.
Truth at 13:48 It's because in the PH the man can just walk away with no financial consequences. They marry foreigners for a better life, not love. Peace.
That’s what happen to me after 26 years of marriage . Headed to Cebu when it opens.
Wow, Pea, the first five minutes of this presentation is spot on, "The World According to Pea". You are such an awesome sociologist. I'm your biggest fan. Lets see what else you have to say in the rest of this vlog, "finish me, Pea".
Hahahahaha
Well Ron, the last time I got that request, I think it had a different meaning 😂
@@TheFilipinaPea Ralph, not Ron. Freudian Slip? lol
@@TheFilipinaPea Isn't it rare for a Filipina to have a "dirty" mind like....
@@TheFilipinaPea 😹😹😂😂😂❤️
My grandpa was 24 and my grandma was 17. They were married for over 70 years.
Their union was blessed by her parents in case anyone was unsure.
As a HENRY, my biggest fear is that I would prefer to bring her back. While I am on path to retire early, I do want a family sooner rather than later. You always have me on the fence. Maybe you should do a video on how to keep a Filipina from becoming to westernized.
But amazing vid as usual.
If I could figure out how to keep a Filipina from becoming too westernized, I’d write a book! But as a very westernized Filipina myself, let me give it some thought 😂
@@ColonelHoganStalag13 Seems like solid advice. If you don't mind me asking did you do LDR? And I fully agree, even though I consider myself to be agnostic, that secularism does little for building healthy relationships.
@@TheFilipinaPea You're western in the fun way! :P
Avoiding westernization if EXTREMELY difficult so I would recommend retire early and move to Philippines 🇵🇭👌
Henry, if you bring her to the West, then you will be fighting an uphill battle. The feminist, jealous guys, haters, and westernized Filipinas will do their best to ruin her and your relationship.
I don't think I've seen a more accurate assessment and effective sales pitch as this in some time. Also, I obviously agree and may need to consider moving to the Philippines for a better life and a worthwhile relationship since everything here in the U.S. is going cuckoo. I have very little hope for great, stable, reciprocal relationships with a female unafflicted by psychological disorders and overcome with pride here.
It has been a very very long time since a seen a video of a girl caring about men in anyway at all. This video is a gold mine and makes me still believe their are women out there that still think about more than themselves. Filipinas ang maganda! 😍
Thank you so much for videos like this pea! As a young women coming into her 20s it's nice to have information that could really benefit me in the long run. The west is pretty individualistic and people here generally are taught to be selfish. Fortunately I discovered "red pill" a year or two ago and have been able to get valuable information that will help me avoid ending up sad depressed and alone.
It's so nice to get the information from a women though, being able to have female role models is important!
Her:I'm not gonna sing the praises of Filipinas
Also her: Spends 15 min explaining why Filipinas are better in every way.
Robert Heinlein said "A man doesn't demand physical beauty in a woman who makes him feel loved. After a while, he realizes that she IS beautiful -- he just hadn't noticed it at first." Single Pinay in the US are in high demand, but often have been Westernized and play the game . . .until the morning that she wakes up to discover that at 45 or 50 she is suddenly and rapidly losing that youthful appearance that attracts new guys, and she has driven away the ones who would have been good for her. Your scene with the cats can be more true than some Pinay realize.
Brother you said it all I had a girlfriend is Cebu before and things were supposed to be so much different than what happened the guy she cheated on me with is cheating on her currently her family had told me that she had never made a good decision in her life I think this last one bit her and took a big chunk out of her it hurt but it also turned out best for me because I moved on and found the woman for me I have no guessing about this one she is true to the Bone
The ones in Manila you want to stay away from.
A quote from Lazarus Long?
My Filipino girlfriend is college educated but she has never read Heinlein before. Sometimes I share e-books with her. Jack London, Bradbury, Simak, Steinbeck, Strugatsky ... She says they are amazing books.
I’m Russian and it’s looks a bit strange to me that she hasn’t read this before.
And these cats at the end of the video do not imagine that somewhere there is a door into winter )))
I love your educational and well thought out videos. Unlike many UA-cam videos that I have seen, your presentations are well reasoned, logical and precisely articulated. Great job!
THANKS, Kenneth ❤️❤️👍
As a psychologist, CONGRATS..........this is the best run down I have ever heard on relationships. Very Well done!!!!! You are very wise and well written.
yup, women want money, men want intimacy .
My loving Filipina is 8 years younger than me, she's 30, but looks 22. She said I look late 20s. We talk about long term goals. The one question her mom asked me was: " Will you give me grandchildren " my reply was: Yes, how many do you want"
Im 57. My filipina is 42 looks 22.
@@johnmagill3072 😯👏
If you're wealthy, of course.
Funny, cutting, but lots of truth there Pea
You nailed it a lot. Value in a relationship is a way I never looked at before.
I still think some elements of loving a person are being contented with each other. Growing old together and loving each other more each day. Committment. My filipina taught me what love really is and while sex is maybe a common thing in the west, I think men are coming for some appreciation. So, yeah, I guess that makes you even more right
So far, this is the best video content Ive ever watch
Thanks, Fire Horse! I hope you like my other content as well 👍❤️