What’s Worse A Crazy Step Dad or An Absentee Real Dad |

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  • @akashas6012
    @akashas6012 10 місяців тому +57

    An abusive parent is worst than an absent parent. So people are thanking there lucky stars that their abusive biological parents were absent; they probably turned out better for it.

  • @stephenphillips8669
    @stephenphillips8669 10 місяців тому +33

    Gary, your stories are so authentic, personal, relatable, and just so damn funny! BUT what I love the most is that you present your podcast as if you're just speaking to one viewer. It's so captivating and engaging. That's why you're great at your profession. I'm here for it!

  • @sarahquevedo5933
    @sarahquevedo5933 10 місяців тому +35

    Both Gary. Both. 😂 I’ve got the emotional receipts. They got me coming and going.
    If you read this you are AWESOME.

  • @TexasConnor
    @TexasConnor 10 місяців тому +23

    Nothing better as a kid than making your friends laugh.

  • @Rick-mp8tm
    @Rick-mp8tm 10 місяців тому +13

    I feel for you Gary, I saw many a parent be cruel to their child , I never understood it, my dad was a saint ! You would have loved him , all the kids that didn't have a father in their lives, wanted to hang with me and my dad ! I didn't know how good I had it !!!!

  • @kevin_m110
    @kevin_m110 10 місяців тому +8

    Long brown hair, goatee, white wife beater tucked into jeans and boots. This is what I picture every time I hear a stepdad story from Gary. 😂

  • @llamar6820
    @llamar6820 10 місяців тому +18

    The kids are gonna need you before you need them

  • @TorskiDobsonArnold
    @TorskiDobsonArnold 10 місяців тому +6

    Gary, it's amazing that you used laughter to heal your heart. A many a dude that had dealt with those types of parents could easily end up on 48 Hours. You are operating in your gifts and the world is a better place because of it.❤❤❤❤ As far as your kids go, you maintain authenticity in who you are and your honest feelings about the relationship you desire with them. God's gonna work all that out! Until then, protect your heart and don't allow them to disrepect you, not as a Dad or a human. Everyone deserves that.

  • @deerich7552
    @deerich7552 10 місяців тому +8

    😂🤣😂 No disrepect for laughing at your trauma, Gary...but...these stories are hilarious! Thanks for sharing.

  • @E_Babii420
    @E_Babii420 10 місяців тому +5

    That Irvine show was amazing! I was part of the attentive crowd. 🤣 Best stand-up that I've been to thus far!!!

  • @randydaytona9906
    @randydaytona9906 10 місяців тому +9

    Love your solo pods. Good stuff Gary Owen!!!

  • @tatehill3142
    @tatehill3142 10 місяців тому +6

    Love you man, you have no idea how much your stories help heal my soul

  • @summerfields2792
    @summerfields2792 9 місяців тому +2

    Hell yeah Gary, you’re a mother fuggin Star! ⭐️🔥⭐️
    I made this comment within the first 10 minutes of this podcast but then you start talking about your step dad and the days that were great because he was fishing and the little tv with just an antenna and it’s really crazy because it was almost like you were describing my childhood and I’m just a little shook up right now. I feel ya Gary, like really feel you. 😢

  • @Kingofdabronx
    @Kingofdabronx 10 місяців тому +4

    As a step dad who is tough on my boys I definitely needed to hear this episode. I’m no where near as crazy as your step dad but nevertheless Im sure I can do better.

  • @natinatyoutube
    @natinatyoutube 10 місяців тому +6

    Not me fighting tears while listening to a Gary Owen podcast !!!

  • @robertdracea
    @robertdracea 10 місяців тому +1

    i had both. my dad left when i was 4 and after 2-3 years my mom found a violent alcoholic and i can tell you that i've never hated my real dad for leaving after all the years of abuse from my mom and his new husband.

  • @juvejim
    @juvejim 10 місяців тому +16

    I had an abusive stepdad, and I currently have an absent real dad.
    I'm too grown to worry about my real dad. He has my number.

  • @crickettweeks4417
    @crickettweeks4417 10 місяців тому +3

    My momma was equally crazy Gary. I feel you 😂

  • @kevingalbraith5528
    @kevingalbraith5528 6 місяців тому

    I am so glad I found this. We grew up in very much the same way. My stepdad has been my stepdad for 47 years. I left and went to LA when I was young to get away from him. I was in Indiana. I am now in Phoenix AZ and so is he and my Mom. They came out to be close to my half brother. I spent 7 years homeless after a bad motorcycle accident and have had zero help from them. I am still struggling with homelessness because I can't be around him. I am now 55 years old, 3 years ago he attacked me..choked me then started throwing punches...I didnt hit back. I have health problems now and live in a broken down motorhome that I have to move every 72 hours. I tried to break free...but it didn't work.

  • @stephaniecook416
    @stephaniecook416 10 місяців тому +1

    Gary I commend you for being able to talk about your step dad. What I take from this is hurting people hurt people. I'm convinced he was mistreated as a child and he is jealous of you. Look at it on the bright side. He gave you a ton of material to talk about. Look at you now. In the meantime I'm going to pray that you and your children are able to mend your relationship. Keep professing your love for your children and they will eventually see these podcasts and know how you feel. Plus your kids are young. Once they experience their own relationships, they will understand how relationships really work.

  • @Mercenary-1914
    @Mercenary-1914 10 місяців тому +1

    It's 4 am on a Saturday and i am listening to this classic. Gary's step dad is insane. Hella good stories in this podcast. 😂😂😂

  • @Nun3n
    @Nun3n 10 місяців тому +1

    Love you Gary!! I always looked forward to your Crazy Step Dad stories back during the quarantine. Bring those back along with your 1 verse raps!!

  • @ChanceTalksBusiness
    @ChanceTalksBusiness 10 місяців тому +1

    As someone who grew up without my father around most of the time, I think having an abusive step father would be worse. My mom never remarried or really had a relationship with anyone else.
    I am glad I wasn’t around my dad as much in his younger years. He said the same thing. There are things I wish he was around for, but he struggled with addiction and didn’t want me to see that as much as possible.
    Things got better once my son was born. My dad went to prison a few years before that and calmed down a lot, but he was still an addict and was wild.
    He passed away almost 3 years ago.

  • @ithinkigottalent4047
    @ithinkigottalent4047 10 місяців тому +1

    Patience, Gary. It's not going to happen when you want to, and it WILL HAPPEN!! Keep sharing and you'll reunite with them in due time. I know it's hard though.

  • @bigviewsmallwindow8335
    @bigviewsmallwindow8335 9 місяців тому +4

    Step parents, in my experience, come from hell

  • @APRapMusicVideos94
    @APRapMusicVideos94 10 місяців тому +6

    This will be a great episode

  • @TiffTALKS22
    @TiffTALKS22 9 місяців тому

    Damn Gary that broke my heart hearing how you felt when you saw his picture. That is absolutely ptsd. Praying for true healing for you. And moving on isn't healing. Sending you love.

  • @tashcow90
    @tashcow90 10 місяців тому +1

    ❤❤❤❤ Man. 😢 Fairplay for recognising that your dad was a different person back then. That takes something.

  • @JM-qb2lf
    @JM-qb2lf 10 місяців тому +2

    😔I am sad. 😔 I love you Gary you make me laugh with every little thing you say even listening to your upbringing with your step dad, you made a horrible situation into a laughabale teachable moment. I’m sad because the same days you are coming to Tampa Kat Williams is also coming. I brought tickets to Nate Jackson and Kat Williams. I hope I can make it the Orlando one ☝️. I have to get the in person experience. Watching you on UA-cam is nice but I can only imagine how much more intense it is in person. ❤❤❤❤May this year be the year you get recognized and May your career continue to grow and please keep up the humble spirit. Much Love from JM. ❤❤❤❤

  • @JuanCastillo-nx3oi
    @JuanCastillo-nx3oi 9 місяців тому

    As someone who’s had a dad been there but left. And also had an abusive stepdad. I can tell you the abusive stepdad is way worse.

  • @uc95nu51
    @uc95nu51 10 місяців тому +2

    I was NFL bound until them Sebring Lightning bolt boys took out my knees in the Heartland Championship game of the 7th grade Junior high school round of 64 in 1997. Them good ole days as the running back for them Hardee Junior High Wildcats.

  • @ChanceJolivette
    @ChanceJolivette 10 місяців тому +3

    i know u probably wont see this and it doesnt matter much but so sorry u had to go thru that man

  • @elexis3728
    @elexis3728 9 місяців тому

    Gary’s giggle that he does mid sentence when he’s basically laughing at himself is probably more funny than whatever it is he’s actually saying 🤭

  • @floracallejas9505
    @floracallejas9505 9 місяців тому

    Gary, I can relate to your childhood stories about your stepfather. Mine was an asshole too.

  • @terrib5262
    @terrib5262 10 місяців тому +3

    Man, comedians have lived some of the toughest lives 😢

  • @Baylorgrad
    @Baylorgrad 9 місяців тому

    Unfortunately, Moms have been guilty of turning the kids against very good, very present fathers for generations! 😡😡😡
    All we can do is KEEP SHOWING UP! 👊🏾
    #SaluteToTheGoodDads 🫡

  • @lakersin556
    @lakersin556 10 місяців тому +2

    Kids shouldn't pick sides. Hopefully with time y'all can repair the relationships. 🙏✌

  • @DjSkyy17
    @DjSkyy17 10 місяців тому +1

    Your podcast episodes help me throughout the week bro. A great way to reflect on your stories help me out figure shyt out. I went through my divorce when you did, and your breakfast club interview was insightful on how to move. 💯🤙

  • @errickblash-pt7qz
    @errickblash-pt7qz 9 місяців тому

    Stay strong and vigilant. Your children are gonna need u one day

  • @nategreen5484
    @nategreen5484 9 місяців тому

    Damn the marriage Gary...you need a show based off your childhood 😂

  • @nowintroducinghertome
    @nowintroducinghertome 10 місяців тому +2

    As a fatherless... 👀.. ive been adopted by my husbands dad and trying to get jesus to adopt me too 🙏

  • @cherylbudd655
    @cherylbudd655 9 місяців тому

    It's a trip you maintained any kind of relationship with step dad or Mom fr. I would've left & never turned back

  • @AntonioUrbano
    @AntonioUrbano 9 місяців тому

    Appreciate you for sharing your story, G.

  • @_TheAtticTapes_
    @_TheAtticTapes_ 10 місяців тому +1

    I know your Stepdad rocked a mustache too 😂 🔥

  • @mikegold4559
    @mikegold4559 9 місяців тому

    Man Gary I love you mannnn………u are hilarious. 😂 come to Atlanta. I’m there

  • @gregjohnson7666
    @gregjohnson7666 10 місяців тому +1

    Me too Gary none of my teams won till San Francisco beat the lions and I'm from Michigan

  • @bellcox5986
    @bellcox5986 9 місяців тому

    Not being happy as a kid really affects you years later. As a parent you try so hard to not let year children feel what u felt as a child.

  • @naeperhaps2330
    @naeperhaps2330 10 місяців тому

    Gary
    I pray you and your children heal & reconnect soon.

  • @akashas6012
    @akashas6012 10 місяців тому +2

    Good story, thanks for sharing

  • @RR-sp2op
    @RR-sp2op 9 місяців тому

    Gary ur mental is very important and ur happiness. U deserve peace and happiness. Pls talk to a therapist and hopefully ur kids will come around. I don’t know both sides of the story with Corey, 2 different dynamics.❤️🇯🇲🇺🇸 can’t wait until u hit East coast, caught Flame Monroe tonight.

  • @Queenofpentacles1
    @Queenofpentacles1 9 місяців тому

    Pleasantly surprised at how good this podcast is - Gary is good story teller

  • @jenniferspencerrichards2449
    @jenniferspencerrichards2449 10 місяців тому

    Gary brilliant pod. I love hearing your stories about you growing up
    It's sad what you went through

  • @stephaniecook416
    @stephaniecook416 10 місяців тому

    Your dad probably does feel guilty for not being there for you, but he was young. He was being the best parent he knew how to be at that time. I often say rejection is protection. Who knows how you would have turned out if he was in your life. I'm a firm believer that the steps we've been ordered is what made us who we are today. I'm also praying for healing with your relationship with your real dad.

  • @chafrajayfra32
    @chafrajayfra32 9 місяців тому

    When Gary tells stories about his stepdad it hurts my heart.

  • @beggasbutter3491
    @beggasbutter3491 10 місяців тому

    Gary, This is so sad, I pray you and your kids reunite. I'm so glad your childhood hasn't made you bitter.

  • @ckinn5462
    @ckinn5462 10 місяців тому +1

    Man! Gary grew up in some real-life Joe Dirt shiggedy.

  • @iain6882
    @iain6882 10 місяців тому +1

    We'll be at the 7pm Tampa show Saturday. Can't wait!

  • @brucesvt96
    @brucesvt96 9 місяців тому

    Love this pod cast. Keep it up

  • @empressdealkebulan5427
    @empressdealkebulan5427 9 місяців тому

    Unfortunately I can relate to your story regarding your step dad. I had a bad experience with my mother's husband as a child! Thank God, I turned out just fine!

  • @marieford7787
    @marieford7787 10 місяців тому

    While I do empathize with your childhood traumas, the story about your father and Stepdad is hilarious. 🤣🤣

  • @rakelbmarkaosdaughter7244
    @rakelbmarkaosdaughter7244 9 місяців тому

    I hate to tell you this but you and your kids’ relationship may never recover. My grandfather (on my mother’s side) left my grandmother on their 15 year anniversary. He said he couldn’t live a lie anymore and wanted to marry the woman he was having an affair with for a few years. In his mind he did nothing to his 6 children. In his mind he “tried” to communicate with his kids but they feel differently. He lived 15 minutes from us and in those 12 years he lived 15 minutes from us (and until the time he died when I was 23), I saw him twice. We called him Grandpa Frank. My grandmother’s 2nd husband was my grandfather to me.
    When you cheat on the mother and hurt her, you hurt the kids too. My mother never really forgave her father and he was like you focusing on I’m the dad, I cheated but I paid child support and I was there but had to leave. He never apologized or felt the need to. He dissed the family a few times because no one was comfortable with his 2nd wife. As far as my family was concerned, she was whore that broke up our family and that he cared more about her than his own children and grandchildren.

  • @dominiquecobb5856
    @dominiquecobb5856 10 місяців тому +1

    My top 5 is Dave, Eddie griffin, Katt, Gary, Martin.....That order. GOATS!!!!

  • @orbitgaming2294
    @orbitgaming2294 9 місяців тому

    Lmao the tv story you told my pops and your step dad me be twins

  • @MRFINCHMRFINCH
    @MRFINCHMRFINCH 9 місяців тому

    Let’s get down has me in tears 😭

  • @MRFINCHMRFINCH
    @MRFINCHMRFINCH 9 місяців тому

    My ex lied and did her best to ruin my relationship with my kids. I kept letting them know I loved them. Stay prayed up about your kids and just keep letting them know your here for them. God answered my prayers and he will answer your also.

  • @godsingodsin8408
    @godsingodsin8408 10 місяців тому

    Anyone who says their biological parent made them who they are , didn’t have enough hate or anger pure enough to see clearly enough to learn they have to be better people than their parents. It take a special kind of anger to want to be better than your parents in every way imaginable. And in a good way. The kind of anger to confront a bully or to protect loved ones from a bigger danger and no way to survive. The anger gives 🔥 and strength to do things

    • @TiffTALKS22
      @TiffTALKS22 9 місяців тому

      Anger is the secondary emotion. The primary is usually hurt/pain. The mistreatment does make you better because it teaches you who you DON'T want to be. But you don't have to get to angry or hateful in order to decide to be better than what you lived.

  • @TheGangstaz3000
    @TheGangstaz3000 10 місяців тому

    Lmao about the dad and step dad story

  • @ChelleB65
    @ChelleB65 10 місяців тому

    Enjoy your pod story time Gary, your kids will come around. Remember you've had them since birth, let them have their moment, again they'll come back. They know you're a good dad.

  • @Queeney75
    @Queeney75 9 місяців тому

    🔥🔥🔥 dis pod was fye

  • @kaywired2004
    @kaywired2004 10 місяців тому

    That’s sad 😢but I understand so glad you made a better life for yourself ❤

  • @juvejim
    @juvejim 10 місяців тому

    Listening to the podcast I remembered when I was a kid, my stepdad shot my real dad.
    My dad lived.
    They were fighting because my dad wanted us to stay with him, and my stepdad wasn't having it.

  • @samisworld13
    @samisworld13 10 місяців тому +1

    Man this podcast is genuine. 🤌🏾🤌🏾

  • @aking1196
    @aking1196 10 місяців тому

    Yeah your real dad didn't want no parts of that step dad. Sorry you went through that, but I pray that your kids will come around and come back into your life before it's too late.

  • @The_Gr8Pre10der
    @The_Gr8Pre10der 9 місяців тому

    this episode broke back some buried memories

  • @betsymcnally
    @betsymcnally 10 місяців тому

    Tri County North. Haven’t heard that in a while. Is that Winton Woods? Wow

  • @garymartinez1460
    @garymartinez1460 10 місяців тому

    This why Gary was looking for Richard Pryors approval and he found it. 🎭😏🙏🏽🌎🇪🇨

  • @muchograssyarse
    @muchograssyarse 9 місяців тому

    The football story is giving ME trauma😂

  • @JusBlackTV
    @JusBlackTV 10 місяців тому

    You know Gary this may sound Crazy but this story just made me realize that both your father and Stepfather both LOVEd you … they just weren’t GOOD AT IT… and sometimes it happens … they just didn’t know how to..

  • @thrizzle4105
    @thrizzle4105 10 місяців тому +3

    Bro I’m so sorry you had shit for dads bro

  • @aesha6120
    @aesha6120 10 місяців тому +1

    I met my father once but he never interacted with me although I spent a summer with him and my grand dad and grandma I had fun being with them 😂

  • @MimiMhair
    @MimiMhair 9 місяців тому

    you crack me up about your bets on sport's i laughed so hard i farted lol 😅

  • @TiffTALKS22
    @TiffTALKS22 9 місяців тому

    Damn Gary that story about your step and your football career made me SO SAD. That man was SOOO misersble about who he was or had become as an adult, he didn't want YOU to feel good about yourself. It's VERRRRY sad. Your MOM for allowing that in HER dysfunction. It's soooo sad. Says sooo much about YOUR character because of how you turned out, DESPITE everything you dealt with as a child that was meant to BREAK you. When I say generational curse breakers, this is what I mean. YOU ARE THAT!❤

  • @byronholmes2496
    @byronholmes2496 10 місяців тому

    Gary, that was fun and for you really, I laughed. I hope it was good for you,

  • @NotJoeFriend
    @NotJoeFriend 10 місяців тому

    Never knew my biological father, in my childhood I thought my step father was my real father until he found me after I ran away from doing laps around our apartment building. He told me right there I'm not your real fucking dad. My world was shook. But made since on why I was being treated like shit compared to my lil brother

  • @ChanceTalksBusiness
    @ChanceTalksBusiness 10 місяців тому

    See you in Nashville!! Any idea who will be opening?

  • @empressdealkebulan5427
    @empressdealkebulan5427 9 місяців тому

    Greetings Gary, I'm sorry I missed you here in Irvine! Yes, we have the best weather here in Cali! I hope to see you do your thing soon! I love the Prince , Sign of the Times shirt! Peace 🙏🏾💜

  • @keionbrown8888
    @keionbrown8888 10 місяців тому

    Your daughter is going to come around eventually, she just hurt by you right now for destroying her world which is you and her mom being together,but with time, she will reach out to you, your a great father and the universe going to bring her back to you, stay patient and positive

  • @GB-di1st
    @GB-di1st 10 місяців тому

    I think your kids will come around eventually gary just keep your head up

  • @aesha6120
    @aesha6120 10 місяців тому

    WOW your kids should makeup with you. You sound like a great father and husband. Many people don’t know how to count their BLESSINGS 😇😎🙏🏽

  • @stevenpmurphy9963
    @stevenpmurphy9963 10 місяців тому

    Yo gary your life always reminds me of the book "demon Copperhead".. it's a great read if your into books n stuff

  • @kle5129
    @kle5129 9 місяців тому

    Even though you smiling and laughing it off Gary, I know you're really hurting inside because of your kids. But as you know from experience with you family sometime you talk and sometimes you don't. It suck that it your kids but I hope that the can see the videos ,see you're hurting and reach out. Take care and never give up, cause that will make it worst.

  • @EdSkiZm
    @EdSkiZm 10 місяців тому

    When’s the Australian tour?? Love ya work gaz, always rib splitting brother, love ya from Australia

  • @edwinalonso5403
    @edwinalonso5403 10 місяців тому +1

    Big FAN LOVE FROM TXAS

  • @valrice817
    @valrice817 10 місяців тому

    Thanks for the therapy, Gary! 😊

  • @AB_Jax
    @AB_Jax 10 місяців тому

    The problem now is that parents actually care, and the kids don't have to take any ownership of what they bring to the demise. Back in the day, adults didn't gaf.....especially dads.

  • @izanagi_999
    @izanagi_999 10 місяців тому

    "yo, have you've seen Purple Rain?"

  • @boleg98
    @boleg98 10 місяців тому

    Anyone who says Cali has the best weather has never been to Hawaii. Hawaii is paradise and has THE ABSOLUTE best weather in the U.S.

  • @godsingodsin8408
    @godsingodsin8408 10 місяців тому

    A stepmom or stepfather is worse. A kid will always gravitate to someone to have fun with and get away with things like all kids. Usually using it as training to communicate with older people instead of the parents the child can’t really talk to friendly because th are scared to be in trouble usually. A stepdad or mom who is mean to child will teach the child you can’t even trust other adults kids usually go to for help if they can’t find help. It’s a double curse not trusting men or woman at an early age or other people at a young age because who supposed to sacrifice everything for you didn’t treat the kid good. A child can look at his father not being around and can figure out for themselves by looking and watching what kind of father they are or more importantly what the mother is like for the dad to not want to be around. The father isn’t near to influence the child in a negative way . The mother usually influences a child terribly and they enjoy not taking care of kids unlike fathers. (In nature the mom usually sleeps around and the father raises the kids) human mothers use the kids as weapons against the fathers usually based on a hotter gf or jealousy or being spiteful. The father has a chance to show the kid” hey , that’s not how you act” the crazy stepfather or mother is by far more dangerous

    • @godsingodsin8408
      @godsingodsin8408 10 місяців тому

      Only 10/100 belong on the battlefield of deserve being a parent . Those 10 fathers will teach the child and those 10 kids will learn not to be like their parents . Anyone who blames the parents for being they are , never tried to be better than their parents

  • @JP-fq2qj
    @JP-fq2qj 10 місяців тому

    Gary im here for your take on the Em and Benzino beef. Who ya got

  • @ggabc9479
    @ggabc9479 10 місяців тому

    Luv u such a good dude the best