0:05: How rude of her MIL to constantly barge in and embarrass her. And her husband takes his mom's side instead of standing up to her. As far as the trauma of being locked in goes, she should find some way to overcome her fear. 2:27: The fact is MIL loves Julissa more than OP and probably wishes her son would have married her instead. I'd bet that marriage isn't going to last long. 6:07: She purchased the seat; she can do what she wants with it. Yes, she could have accommodated the man, but she was under no obligation to. 8:48: Alexa needed to be put in her place. Plus, it sounds like his wife is tired of her shenanigans but doesn't want to cause a rift in their relationship. It also sounds like Alexa's parents and friends are enabling her boorish behavior.
I would've brought out the spray bottle. My niece kept "forgetting" to knock (any attention was good attention to a three year old) so I sprayed her in the face with water a couple times when she'd barged in with me on the toilet. She magically learned knocking is important after a single day.
For the fear of locked doors, I don't think it's necessary for her to get over it if she's living in her own house where she can keep the doors unlocked. Maybe that's also because I'm biased and I was constantly locked in my room by my parents as a form of torment but yeah the MIL is just trying to find something to criticize about her and the husband is a Mama's boy.
Second story: If Shawn isn't a mama's boy and really loves the OP, the marriage might actually last if Shawn calls out on his mother and Julissa's behaviour, sometimes you gotta call out a toxic behaviour even if it comes from your own family and blood.
For the first one: If my future husband EVER takes his mother side over mine, I'll go live with a friend. Because if he doesn't stick up for me ONCE when his mother is CLEARLY THE ONE at fault then there's no point in staying at my own house because it'll just be an endless cycle. And if he keeps taking his moms side, it's divorce. Because I am not gonna stay married to a mamas boy -_-
First story: She should go around telling everyone that her MIL is creeping on her every time she's goes into the bathroom. Second story: Sean did save her a seat, right on his lap. 😜😜 No one had any reason to feel awkward. They're husband and wife. Julissa and MIL made it awkward. Those two should have been better. Third story: Why don't some parents understand the concept of planning? This is the third story this month where a parent thinks the world should accommodate them because they're parents. Book your seats together or sit separately. He could have let his daughter sit on his lap. Fourth story: I have no words for Alexa. Why is the wife a doormat? Doormats upset me even more. The wife should have kicked Alexa out of the house right then and there.
You don't know what happened why they booked the seat last minute. Maybe someone died? This happened to my sister and niece, she was placed next to a stranger and was sexually assaulted!!!! The woman was offered the money back she should have gave the seat. A child that young needs to be next to their parent. Nice of the wife to give up her seat.
@@valeriebrathwaite8541 exactly thank you. I'd rather be uncomfortable than to not give my seat up and a child has to sit elsewhere on a trip somewhere and be fucked with the entire time.
For the last story, I feel like the wife lets everyone step on her. She was basically saying "I appreciate that you told her off but....she is my sister...and that hurt her 🥺"
My MIL used to tell my husband if I did something she didn't like. Like not wearing hose to church in the summer, or if she didn't like my clothes. Finally my husband told his mother if she had something to say to talk to me. She started talking to me and we ended up friends. As to the lady with the airplane problem, good going. I'm over weight and have been fat shamed my whole life. I finally found out it was a health problem and now that it's being taken care of with medication I have went from 250( or there about) and now about a year later I weigh ( the last time I went to the doctor) my weight was 147.
Story 1: Everyone deserves their own privacy, the MIL was wrong for walking in on OP. Also doesn't the husband know about OP's trauma of being locked in a bathroom??? If he did know, why would he still suggest to lock the bathroom door?? Shame on the husband for siding with his mother instead of his wife smh. Story 2: I'm surprised no one told OP to get off her husband's lap and get a chair lmao. Also, why didn't the husband save a seat for his wife? I get that his ex is considered family but he should've at least saved a seat for his wife. Does he really care about his wife or is he a doormat for MIL? I do think this could've been handled better but the MIL and Julissa deserved to feel weirded out since they bullied OP. Story 4: WOW, OP was bold and brutally honest about what he said to Alexa. What he said was harsh, but when you're tired of an entitled and arrogant brat you have to take matters on your own hands. Alexa is in the wrong in confessing her feelings to OP AFTER he got married. She should leave OP and his wife alone.
If my mom kept inviting my ex over, I would tell her that I’m no longer coming over for special occasions and that if she loves him so much he can be there to replace me, and then I would have dinner with my current husband
The one where she sits on her hubby's lap is hilarious. Thankfully my inlaws are awesome but I'd do the same as her in her situation. Also sounds like hubby was all for it to kinda shove it in his mom's face.
In conclusion, the title of "family" gives no one the right to abuse others under that same umbrella and no you don't have to support someone's abusive behaviour based purely on that title
MIL isn't walking into the bathroom to catch OP doing something. She is doing it to intimidate and show OP that she can do whatever she wants and OP has to endure it even in her own home. MIL is queen of the roost, and you'd better get used to it. Story 2: Husband should have gotten up and given his chair to his wife. MIL would have then found him a chair.
About the OP who bought two seats for her flight. I don't think she's wrong. The dad doesn't HAVE to sit with his daughter. I've sat on my own in international flights when I was as young as 11yo. At that age I would even offer my seat sometimes when I saw parents with a younger child who needed to sit together. I'm not saying all kids need to be super independent at that age, but being rude to the OP was uncalled for. Plus, if you're in a plane, not a lot can happen. The kid can't get lost in a plane. I can totally see 12yo me sitting with the OP and playing video games with them. (I totally did something similar at that age). I find it great how the OPs dad found it hilarious and I also found it really hilarious how OP responded to the woman who was being nasty. In the last story, tbh, I'm annoyed at the wife. No need to be harsh??? The person you've been taking care of for years just tried to snatch your husband? Are you kidding me?
My 11 year old niece was assaulted on a plane because she was away from my sister! Just because there's people around means nothing. And any flight I was on you had to be with parent until 16. Glad the wife gave her seat.
Story #1 is super fucked up, why do people feel the need to invalidate other people's trauma? She should just divorce him at this point tbh, if he doesn't care about your trauma then he doesn't care about your needs
My mom was actually good friends with one of my dad's ex girlfriend, Dad and the girlfriend only broke up do to schooling issues but stayed friends. Heck the ex was the one that got my parents together. She did come over for Thanksgiving a few times and only one of those was uninvited but was let go since she was fighting with her husband about something and felt in would be better to leave the house before either of them made them Turkey day dinner. Mom was a little ticked off about being at her home uninvited but understood. She only stayed the day and went home to another fight with her husband over something but the 2 did make up. How often are you welcomed at you ex and his wife's table at a holiday meal. But like I said mom did like her. She helped make a evil creature of a woman's life hell to which that woman did deserve it as she got of scot-free of a crime of her husband hurting her daughters )one was my possiable half sister) in a way no man should ever be hurt or touched. Mom made that monster's life hell with my dad's ex's help since she was the lookout so to speak on some of the places that monster worked. The monster never knew it was them. The 2 girls are doing well now. Got the help needed and now have a happy life
To the story with the wife sitting on her husband's lap. We don't even know what happened before the wife arrived. Maybe the husband did try to save a seat for his wife and his ex girlfriend and his mother just didn't care and the ex girlfriend sat on the chair that he actually saved for his wife. Maybe he didn't expect his ex to show up after he was married. Everything could've happened and we still wouldn't know
that's ture cause nobody can "trick or get over me" outside but at home whatever my mom says goes and even if youu do agree she will somehow make seem like you never agreed. Putting this theory here for the story.
Story 1: I'd honestly go further and say the mom's a CREEP. No matter gender anyone can be a creep, and if she's deliberately busting the door down to walk in on her, then she's a creep. Also the husband still suggesting she lock the door which is invalidating her trauma? That is entirely messed up and I would say good enough for a divorce if she has to go through being invalidated all the time. Story 2: Um, sure I get if an ex was previously in a family for a long time, but should she really go to Thanksgiving dinner? It seems like she's on well enough terms that she could hang out with the ex mother-in-law outside of family events. Sure the OP was kinda disrespectful by sitting in her husband's lap at the dinner, but the mother-in-law is disrespectful for favoring someone who is no longer connected to her son over the actual daughter-in-law. I also think OP calling out Julia and saying she should be there is fair, because isn't it disrespectful to the wife for them to be next to each other anyways? Idk, my views on exes in families may be different since when people have divorced in my family, we wouldn't really see the other party anymore lol. Story 3: OP has a medical reasoning for having two seats, and she paid for them. And yeah, it's the father's own fault for not buying an adjacent seat with his daughter? It really isn't that big of deal though anyways, it's a plane ride! It's not like the father and the daughter are on opposite sides of an amusement park and she could be snatched up. It's a seat with a lot of flight attendants around and honestly is a pretty safe place to be in. A few hours not being next to your daughter isn't going to kill you. And the fact he felt entitled to the extra seat she bought? And of course there's always people that think they do the "right thing" (the husband and wife) but they really are just assholes lol. Story 4: I actually think all parties could have handled this one a little differently. It was wrong and very disgusting of Alexa to confess feelings to OP when he's married to her sister. Very disrespectful to the sister and all the years she took care of her and raised her as her own and respected her. OP (obviously) was rightful to reject her, but I will say it's pushing it to say how much you can't stand them during the rejection. Instead he should have rejected and been like, "Don't you give a shit about your sister after all she's done for you? Did you even think about that?" But not just downright insult her to her face. She is 19, and although legally an adult not mentally yet. She has six more years before she is mentally an adult, so it's kinda messed up to say how much you dislike her to her face. I'm not saying OP is in the wrong of course, it's obviously Alexa that's in the wrong! I just think he could have rejected her and been real with her without saying nasty things to her face. And the parents have no right to say anything as it seems like they didn't raise their child in the first place. OP's poor wife though...she clearly is used to being stepped all over and I just feel so bad for her..
For story number 4, I don’t think that the husband telling Alexa that he dislikes her is nasty. Yes, it’s hurtful, but at least he’s being upfront. He ain’t throw insults at her now. But Alexa knows that disrespecting her sister is like disrespecting the husband too🤷🏽It’s not gonna hinder the growth of her mental state; it’ll just change the way she perceives the husband. 19 is for sure old enough. She might not be an adult but she sure isn’t a child.
My niece was sexually assaulted because she couldn't sit next to my sister. Things can and do happen. Don't know why was booked last minute. Maybe someone died. Good on the wife being a bigger person and protecting a child from harm!!!! The woman was offered her money back. I need double seat because if my wheelchair and can not bend my leg, but I would give my seat to a child.
Lol! Last story: I think it's weird how the parents sent their youngest child to live with their oldest child when the youngest was 7-8 years old at the time. There is something very weird here. I've heard of couples getting older and not being up to parenthood alone if one passes on, but they were both still alive because they were mad at the husband for rejecting the youngest so harshly. Why did the sister have to raise her sibling? The age they sent their child away is suspect, too! Most people get rid of their children when they're teenagers (getting more grown and difficult to manage) or when they're in that newborn to toddler stage. Also, raising her sister could have been an obstacle for the sister and husband having children of their own since it's like the sister became her own sibling's parent. It blurs the relationship line even more than they would have been already since the older sister is so much older than her younger sister. I want more details because something is fishy, and this situation is all types of weird. Is the younger sister actually the older sister's daughter??👀🌄
While that is possible, it could also just be that the parents had the younger sister later in life and didn't want to raise her. Some people do have kids that are very far apart in age. I just don't understand why they would send her abroad to get an education. They sent her to the USA? I can't remember, but what was wrong with the education she would have received where she was living? I just think the parents didn't want to raise her and sent the younger sister to live with the older sister and gave the excuse of "educafion" so they didn't have to raise her. That's just my opinion though.
@@PyroWolfofEarth I thought about the education of it all too, but she was 7-8 years old. I could understand university because kids usually move away from home as they get older, but everything was weird about this. The age they decided to send her, the fact that she lived with her sister for over 10 years, etc. I wonder if there was a different, more serious motivator for sending their daughter away. It would also explain why the older sister is such a doormat to her younger sister if she is actually her child. I'm curious about some other theories tho, what do you think? Why wouldn't they want to raise her, and why would the older sister take her? This story has more bones; I just know it.
Depending on the country, it's understandable that some parents send their children to other countries for education (like english or better careers), but you are definitely right that something's wrong here. Most likely they just didn't want to raise her and just gave her money instead of raising her.
TLDR. Feelings are valid again, people are blind again. Story 1. Husband is biased since he ignored his own wife's feelings but when his mum feels the same way suddenly it's a problem. If he wants his wife to act mature then he and his mum should start acting mature first. Story 2. MIL can keep making excuses and blame OP for what happened but I honestly can't see why the rest of the family didn't grab a chair for OP when they saw it was full. Even if OP sat on her partner's lap the whole time, I feel like the main reason it got awkward was that they knew they could have grabbed a chair before OP came in and failed to bring it up in the middle of dinner. Story 3. I agree that OP could've been willing to help out the dad but no one wants to help out a guy who doesn't plan and feels entitled to demand others to bend around him. Poor kid who has to deal with that. Story 4. OP's wife is right, OP was right but the way he said it could've been better. What OP said to her isn't what she wanted to hear but her gratitude probably stems from OP being the "nicer" one who put up with her anyways. Nonetheless it's about time she realises that how she acted did NOT put her in the center of the universe. I'm also curious how she turned out like that at 11/12.
@@flawfuljinx Frr! Also for the 4th story I kinda disagree. Sometimes being harsh is needed, which people like that they won’t take you seriously unless you are harsh. She’s a spoiled little bitch, so it doesn’t shock me that he felt he needed aggression. I’d of reacted the same way. If he was nice about she’s probably “fight for his love” and try to win him over.
I often buy an extra movie ticket seat so as not to have to sit next to anyone. People always try to take my bought seat. I never apologize. If I pay an extra $20 for an empty seat its mine for the duration of the movie. 👏🏽
First story - MIL should learn to knock. Second story - it is the responsibility of the host or hostess to ensure there is enough seating for everyone. Third story - OP is correct - a lack of planning on someone else’s part does not constitute an emergency on OP’s part. OP’s mom is wrong too Fourth story - Alexa needs a wake up call. OP and his wife should go low to no contact until Alexa grows up and acts right.
the MIL barging into the bathroom while her daughter-in-law is in there is creepy AF and the husband should've taken his wife's side, instead of his mother's side. imagine how the MIL would've felt if someone kept barging into the bathroom every time she went into there?? smh to the creepy MIL
hii Ellen I absolutely love the video and hope that you and coco have had a amazing day and that both of you stay healthy and coco is adorable love y'all💜💜💜
One thing I realized ab all these is that all their spouses r pushovers and never stands up to their parents/siblings. Easy solution don’t marry a pushover.
4:40 how is it inappropriate, she’s sitting down? She’s eating? It’s not like she’s sitting on a stranger or a different family member, shes sitting on her husband! Like let her be
Broo i just posted a aita vid now i need opinions the story: I drew a goofy base and my friend drew a funky character on top of that this friend well call her A Im supposed to redraw the character (we called him peronius) so i drew him Then i was like hm looks good but i cant color it in or the pen will leak (also the drawing was like 2cm squared) So i made it on my ipad, i sketched it, twice I showed A the drawing, a work in progress with only a little bit of line-art done She said “bro it looks goofy😂, i like it but the og is best” i say “hmpf bro your lil bro (5yo) my new bestie” Our other friend (if you could call them our “friend) B came in and said “it looks weird fr man, its not good” I was upset since i had spent 1 and a half hour drawing that, so i said “okay well you go try that then this took me so long. You go make this without using a base and do the sketches and all, its hard okay i barely use bases do you know how much time and effort went into this” They/B got mad and was pissed, giving me the side eye and all, i simply added after 3seconds “it took me one and a half hour so far, id like to see you try” and then they kept glaring at me This happened today, which one of us was in the wrong I mean both because what i did was definitely not great but im defending an artwork that i like that i made, finally Feel free to leave your own opinions here😅
First story : just lock the door, that will keep MIL out. I think MIL wants to teach her this. 2nd story: It's weird her husband didn't offer her his chair and drag one from kitchen for himself.
If your spouse is not going to have your back when it comes to mother-in-law, those red flags must have been there before you got married. Why are you still married to these imbeciles? You need to get on with your life and get rid of these nasty people put them in the rear view mirror. These mother-in-law's and their sons are not worth the trouble of sharing a future.
How are you doing my dear sweet friend? How are you feeling? In the very first story, why don't she just start locking the door. If I have company over at my house, and I have got to use the facilities, then I am most definitely locking the door. When people become your ex then obviously their your ex for a reason. The mom is big time tripping. If my wife showed up to our Thanksgiving and all of the chairs were taken then I she could easily come sit on my lap because that's my wife, and for all of those who felt awkward bump them. The daughter is 12 year old {a preteen} she can manage sitting in the seat by herself until the plane lands. The dad is right on the same plane with her he's just been assigned to a different seat tho. I believe that he just wanted to hurt her feelings. I love you!! Stay safe!!
First story, I’d buy some of that fart spray & spray it. Let MIL walk into that stench & hope it makes her throw up. I’d spray some into her room too & say I’m sorry but she makes me so nervous walking into the bathroom on me…my stomach just gets so upset. I don’t know what to do. Then I’d cry about being locked in the bathroom when I was 5 & it being so traumatic for me & hold my stomach & run to the bathroom. Be in there for awhile & spray the fart spray before I leave. That will fix both of them… As for the second story, if my husband’s ex kept coming to dinner. I would stop. I already have to deal with her enough. She’s his best friend’s sister. We’ve been together 30 years, married for 25 & she’s STILL a PIA. My MIL while my husband & were just dating made it clear that she was considered the ex. She was riding her bike & stopped to say hi. After about 20 minutes, my MIL said “I guess (my husband) & (me) must’ve gone out after work. It was so nice of you to stop by. I’ll tell them they missed you.” She never just “dropped by” again. She was one of our nieces teachers & would tell her to tell her uncle hi. One day our niece asked if she knew her uncle was married because it was rude to keep saying hi to a married man & not say hi to his wife too. 😅 Even kids could see what she was up to, even though she was married by then too. Some women won’t give up & are just ridiculous.
No, that MIL in the first story has some weird fetish about seeing her daughter in law using the toilet. OP should get one of those door stops you put under the door.
Well he should have told his mom to stop barging in but im getting pissed when people keep saying "oh he took his moms side" like first off yall flex that men should respect us because we give birth to them but expect him to choose you over the ACTUAL woman that gave birth to him. Make that make sense
I don't think it's about "taking her side" in the traditional sense because that is his mom. I think people want him to have a private conversation with his mother since that is his mother, and she's making his partner uncomfortable. If he had the conversation, it would probably go way better than if the wife tried to assert her boundaries with the mom. He is the connection between them, the whole reason for their proximity, so the wife probably wanted her husband not to yell or scream at his mother, but to talk to her and communicate in a way only a child can to their parent vs an outsider. Also, think of it like this: if the wife goes on her own to try to communicate her issue and the mom takes it the wrong way, now there is a problem between her and the mom, and the son may get mad at her or distance himself from his own mother. It would be better solved if he just spoke to his own mother.
U should take the side of whomever is right, whether it be your wife or your mother, in this case the wife was right, she has past trauma about locked doors, MIL is weird for constantly walking in, has she never heard of knocking??
What needs to be made sense is that he downplayed his wife’s feelings after she came to him, telling him that his mother's actions has been making her uncomfortable, and then proceeded to get mad and called her childish after she took matters into her own hands, so that's his fault cause he should've told his mother to stop doing that after she told him about the situation
no. just because someone gives birth doesn't mean they deserve respect. respect has to be earned, and a birth alone won't cover for that. nobody ever chose to be born, it's the parent's decision in the first place. so no, she doesn't deserve to he more respected than the wife just because she's the mother
A parent doesn’t deserve respect just for creating you. They aren’t doing you a service by making you exist. They want a child, they have a child. There’s nothing about that, that requires respect. And that goes for both the parents. A lot of sexists mellow out around their moms anyway so beyond anything I said, it’s just a very strange point to make.
Locking the bathroom door scares her because of past events which is why she doesn’t do it. Also the door is closed and the mil walked in on her multiple of times she should start knocking at that point. The mil is doing it on purpose to catch her doing something embarrassing to use against her or something. I live with my family and we don’t lock bathroom doors ( we do in public) because we’re smart and knock before entering.
We have a security system, but no one here ever uses it. I'm the only one that ever sets it because of one time someone knocked on the door while it was raining and I saw a dark figure that wasn't family. What I noticed after closing it was, the door was unlocked the entire time anyways- so this now sparks me to lock the door and set the alarm after 10, every night. In short, BOTH parties need to do their part to ensure security. She tried addressing it with her husband, but he ignored her originally and then later tells her simply lock it if it's such an issue. Couldn't even be bothered to tell his mother to start knocking on the door
Unless you’re in a dangerous situation then nobody should be forced to lock doors in their own home
0:05: How rude of her MIL to constantly barge in and embarrass her. And her husband takes his mom's side instead of standing up to her. As far as the trauma of being locked in goes, she should find some way to overcome her fear.
2:27: The fact is MIL loves Julissa more than OP and probably wishes her son would have married her instead. I'd bet that marriage isn't going to last long.
6:07: She purchased the seat; she can do what she wants with it. Yes, she could have accommodated the man, but she was under no obligation to.
8:48: Alexa needed to be put in her place. Plus, it sounds like his wife is tired of her shenanigans but doesn't want to cause a rift in their relationship. It also sounds like Alexa's parents and friends are enabling her boorish behavior.
I would've brought out the spray bottle. My niece kept "forgetting" to knock (any attention was good attention to a three year old) so I sprayed her in the face with water a couple times when she'd barged in with me on the toilet. She magically learned knocking is important after a single day.
@@katrinascarlet5637 bahaha I love it
For the fear of locked doors, I don't think it's necessary for her to get over it if she's living in her own house where she can keep the doors unlocked. Maybe that's also because I'm biased and I was constantly locked in my room by my parents as a form of torment but yeah the MIL is just trying to find something to criticize about her and the husband is a Mama's boy.
Second story: If Shawn isn't a mama's boy and really loves the OP, the marriage might actually last if Shawn calls out on his mother and Julissa's behaviour, sometimes you gotta call out a toxic behaviour even if it comes from your own family and blood.
Your poor poor hands
I mean...who doesn't do ballerina poses in the bathroom? 😂
its just a normal tuesday!
I mean I do ballet so no one in my family is weirded out by it 💀
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I totally would have sat there, dropped trou and waited on the commode with a can of fart spray for when she walked in.
@@fal4thought same
For the first one: If my future husband EVER takes his mother side over mine, I'll go live with a friend. Because if he doesn't stick up for me ONCE when his mother is CLEARLY THE ONE at fault then there's no point in staying at my own house because it'll just be an endless cycle. And if he keeps taking his moms side, it's divorce. Because I am not gonna stay married to a mamas boy -_-
First story: She should go around telling everyone that her MIL is creeping on her every time she's goes into the bathroom.
Second story: Sean did save her a seat, right on his lap. 😜😜 No one had any reason to feel awkward. They're husband and wife. Julissa and MIL made it awkward. Those two should have been better.
Third story: Why don't some parents understand the concept of planning? This is the third story this month where a parent thinks the world should accommodate them because they're parents. Book your seats together or sit separately. He could have let his daughter sit on his lap.
Fourth story: I have no words for Alexa. Why is the wife a doormat? Doormats upset me even more. The wife should have kicked Alexa out of the house right then and there.
I know you said that the daughter should sit on his lap, but she can’t do that since she’s 12 and needs her own seat :D
You don't know what happened why they booked the seat last minute. Maybe someone died? This happened to my sister and niece, she was placed next to a stranger and was sexually assaulted!!!! The woman was offered the money back she should have gave the seat. A child that young needs to be next to their parent. Nice of the wife to give up her seat.
@@valeriebrathwaite8541 exactly thank you. I'd rather be uncomfortable than to not give my seat up and a child has to sit elsewhere on a trip somewhere and be fucked with the entire time.
For the last story, I feel like the wife lets everyone step on her. She was basically saying "I appreciate that you told her off but....she is my sister...and that hurt her 🥺"
Omg the thumbnail story is amazing. What a power move!
My MIL used to tell my husband if I did something she didn't like. Like not wearing hose to church in the summer, or if she didn't like my clothes. Finally my husband told his mother if she had something to say to talk to me. She started talking to me and we ended up friends.
As to the lady with the airplane problem, good going. I'm over weight and have been fat shamed my whole life. I finally found out it was a health problem and now that it's being taken care of with medication I have went from 250( or there about) and now about a year later I weigh ( the last time I went to the doctor) my weight was 147.
The first paragraph 😂
Story 1: Everyone deserves their own privacy, the MIL was wrong for walking in on OP. Also doesn't the husband know about OP's trauma of being locked in a bathroom??? If he did know, why would he still suggest to lock the bathroom door?? Shame on the husband for siding with his mother instead of his wife smh.
Story 2: I'm surprised no one told OP to get off her husband's lap and get a chair lmao. Also, why didn't the husband save a seat for his wife? I get that his ex is considered family but he should've at least saved a seat for his wife. Does he really care about his wife or is he a doormat for MIL? I do think this could've been handled better but the MIL and Julissa deserved to feel weirded out since they bullied OP.
Story 4: WOW, OP was bold and brutally honest about what he said to Alexa. What he said was harsh, but when you're tired of an entitled and arrogant brat you have to take matters on your own hands. Alexa is in the wrong in confessing her feelings to OP AFTER he got married. She should leave OP and his wife alone.
The mil and julissa were conspiring to try to get julissa back with her son.
That’s what I said!
If my mom kept inviting my ex over, I would tell her that I’m no longer coming over for special occasions and that if she loves him so much he can be there to replace me, and then I would have dinner with my current husband
The one where she sits on her hubby's lap is hilarious. Thankfully my inlaws are awesome but I'd do the same as her in her situation. Also sounds like hubby was all for it to kinda shove it in his mom's face.
In conclusion, the title of "family" gives no one the right to abuse others under that same umbrella and no you don't have to support someone's abusive behaviour based purely on that title
i love your hair ellen! your voice is so sweet! i love your videos! you inspire me sm!
MIL isn't walking into the bathroom to catch OP doing something. She is doing it to intimidate and show OP that she can do whatever she wants and OP has to endure it even in her own home. MIL is queen of the roost, and you'd better get used to it.
Story 2: Husband should have gotten up and given his chair to his wife. MIL would have then found him a chair.
About the OP who bought two seats for her flight. I don't think she's wrong. The dad doesn't HAVE to sit with his daughter. I've sat on my own in international flights when I was as young as 11yo. At that age I would even offer my seat sometimes when I saw parents with a younger child who needed to sit together. I'm not saying all kids need to be super independent at that age, but being rude to the OP was uncalled for. Plus, if you're in a plane, not a lot can happen. The kid can't get lost in a plane. I can totally see 12yo me sitting with the OP and playing video games with them. (I totally did something similar at that age). I find it great how the OPs dad found it hilarious and I also found it really hilarious how OP responded to the woman who was being nasty.
In the last story, tbh, I'm annoyed at the wife. No need to be harsh??? The person you've been taking care of for years just tried to snatch your husband? Are you kidding me?
My 11 year old niece was assaulted on a plane because she was away from my sister! Just because there's people around means nothing. And any flight I was on you had to be with parent until 16. Glad the wife gave her seat.
Story #1 is super fucked up, why do people feel the need to invalidate other people's trauma? She should just divorce him at this point tbh, if he doesn't care about your trauma then he doesn't care about your needs
My mom was actually good friends with one of my dad's ex girlfriend, Dad and the girlfriend only broke up do to schooling issues but stayed friends. Heck the ex was the one that got my parents together. She did come over for Thanksgiving a few times and only one of those was uninvited but was let go since she was fighting with her husband about something and felt in would be better to leave the house before either of them made them Turkey day dinner.
Mom was a little ticked off about being at her home uninvited but understood. She only stayed the day and went home to another fight with her husband over something but the 2 did make up.
How often are you welcomed at you ex and his wife's table at a holiday meal. But like I said mom did like her. She helped make a evil creature of a woman's life hell to which that woman did deserve it as she got of scot-free of a crime of her husband hurting her daughters )one was my possiable half sister) in a way no man should ever be hurt or touched.
Mom made that monster's life hell with my dad's ex's help since she was the lookout so to speak on some of the places that monster worked. The monster never knew it was them.
The 2 girls are doing well now. Got the help needed and now have a happy life
To the story with the wife sitting on her husband's lap. We don't even know what happened before the wife arrived. Maybe the husband did try to save a seat for his wife and his ex girlfriend and his mother just didn't care and the ex girlfriend sat on the chair that he actually saved for his wife. Maybe he didn't expect his ex to show up after he was married. Everything could've happened and we still wouldn't know
that's ture cause nobody can "trick or get over me" outside but at home whatever my mom says goes and even if youu do agree she will somehow make seem like you never agreed. Putting this theory here for the story.
Story 1: I'd honestly go further and say the mom's a CREEP. No matter gender anyone can be a creep, and if she's deliberately busting the door down to walk in on her, then she's a creep. Also the husband still suggesting she lock the door which is invalidating her trauma? That is entirely messed up and I would say good enough for a divorce if she has to go through being invalidated all the time.
Story 2: Um, sure I get if an ex was previously in a family for a long time, but should she really go to Thanksgiving dinner? It seems like she's on well enough terms that she could hang out with the ex mother-in-law outside of family events. Sure the OP was kinda disrespectful by sitting in her husband's lap at the dinner, but the mother-in-law is disrespectful for favoring someone who is no longer connected to her son over the actual daughter-in-law. I also think OP calling out Julia and saying she should be there is fair, because isn't it disrespectful to the wife for them to be next to each other anyways? Idk, my views on exes in families may be different since when people have divorced in my family, we wouldn't really see the other party anymore lol.
Story 3: OP has a medical reasoning for having two seats, and she paid for them. And yeah, it's the father's own fault for not buying an adjacent seat with his daughter? It really isn't that big of deal though anyways, it's a plane ride! It's not like the father and the daughter are on opposite sides of an amusement park and she could be snatched up. It's a seat with a lot of flight attendants around and honestly is a pretty safe place to be in. A few hours not being next to your daughter isn't going to kill you. And the fact he felt entitled to the extra seat she bought? And of course there's always people that think they do the "right thing" (the husband and wife) but they really are just assholes lol.
Story 4: I actually think all parties could have handled this one a little differently. It was wrong and very disgusting of Alexa to confess feelings to OP when he's married to her sister. Very disrespectful to the sister and all the years she took care of her and raised her as her own and respected her. OP (obviously) was rightful to reject her, but I will say it's pushing it to say how much you can't stand them during the rejection. Instead he should have rejected and been like, "Don't you give a shit about your sister after all she's done for you? Did you even think about that?" But not just downright insult her to her face. She is 19, and although legally an adult not mentally yet. She has six more years before she is mentally an adult, so it's kinda messed up to say how much you dislike her to her face. I'm not saying OP is in the wrong of course, it's obviously Alexa that's in the wrong! I just think he could have rejected her and been real with her without saying nasty things to her face. And the parents have no right to say anything as it seems like they didn't raise their child in the first place. OP's poor wife though...she clearly is used to being stepped all over and I just feel so bad for her..
For story number 4, I don’t think that the husband telling Alexa that he dislikes her is nasty. Yes, it’s hurtful, but at least he’s being upfront. He ain’t throw insults at her now. But Alexa knows that disrespecting her sister is like disrespecting the husband too🤷🏽It’s not gonna hinder the growth of her mental state; it’ll just change the way she perceives the husband. 19 is for sure old enough. She might not be an adult but she sure isn’t a child.
My niece was sexually assaulted because she couldn't sit next to my sister. Things can and do happen. Don't know why was booked last minute. Maybe someone died. Good on the wife being a bigger person and protecting a child from harm!!!! The woman was offered her money back. I need double seat because if my wheelchair and can not bend my leg, but I would give my seat to a child.
Lol! Last story: I think it's weird how the parents sent their youngest child to live with their oldest child when the youngest was 7-8 years old at the time. There is something very weird here. I've heard of couples getting older and not being up to parenthood alone if one passes on, but they were both still alive because they were mad at the husband for rejecting the youngest so harshly. Why did the sister have to raise her sibling? The age they sent their child away is suspect, too! Most people get rid of their children when they're teenagers (getting more grown and difficult to manage) or when they're in that newborn to toddler stage. Also, raising her sister could have been an obstacle for the sister and husband having children of their own since it's like the sister became her own sibling's parent. It blurs the relationship line even more than they would have been already since the older sister is so much older than her younger sister. I want more details because something is fishy, and this situation is all types of weird. Is the younger sister actually the older sister's daughter??👀🌄
While that is possible, it could also just be that the parents had the younger sister later in life and didn't want to raise her. Some people do have kids that are very far apart in age.
I just don't understand why they would send her abroad to get an education. They sent her to the USA? I can't remember, but what was wrong with the education she would have received where she was living? I just think the parents didn't want to raise her and sent the younger sister to live with the older sister and gave the excuse of "educafion" so they didn't have to raise her. That's just my opinion though.
@@PyroWolfofEarth I thought about the education of it all too, but she was 7-8 years old. I could understand university because kids usually move away from home as they get older, but everything was weird about this. The age they decided to send her, the fact that she lived with her sister for over 10 years, etc. I wonder if there was a different, more serious motivator for sending their daughter away. It would also explain why the older sister is such a doormat to her younger sister if she is actually her child. I'm curious about some other theories tho, what do you think? Why wouldn't they want to raise her, and why would the older sister take her? This story has more bones; I just know it.
Depending on the country, it's understandable that some parents send their children to other countries for education (like english or better careers), but you are definitely right that something's wrong here. Most likely they just didn't want to raise her and just gave her money instead of raising her.
@@dayit6260 I have heard many stories tho about Indian parents of Asian parents sending their child to abroad to study (any country ethnicity tbh)
Lmao I love story 2 she was brilliant 😂😂
When she said Alexa my Alexa kept going off😭
TLDR. Feelings are valid again, people are blind again.
Story 1. Husband is biased since he ignored his own wife's feelings but when his mum feels the same way suddenly it's a problem. If he wants his wife to act mature then he and his mum should start acting mature first.
Story 2. MIL can keep making excuses and blame OP for what happened but I honestly can't see why the rest of the family didn't grab a chair for OP when they saw it was full. Even if OP sat on her partner's lap the whole time, I feel like the main reason it got awkward was that they knew they could have grabbed a chair before OP came in and failed to bring it up in the middle of dinner.
Story 3. I agree that OP could've been willing to help out the dad but no one wants to help out a guy who doesn't plan and feels entitled to demand others to bend around him. Poor kid who has to deal with that.
Story 4. OP's wife is right, OP was right but the way he said it could've been better. What OP said to her isn't what she wanted to hear but her gratitude probably stems from OP being the "nicer" one who put up with her anyways. Nonetheless it's about time she realises that how she acted did NOT put her in the center of the universe. I'm also curious how she turned out like that at 11/12.
Dont you mean tldl (to long didnt listen) or tldh (to long didnt hear)
I’m guessing with story 2 MIL is actually trying to get Julissa and Shaun back together
@@xyreniaofcthrayn1195 My bad, I meant that my comment is too long but overall I said the same thing for all each story
@@Gigglehoundz I wouldn't be surprised since "she's famillyyyy"
@@flawfuljinx Frr! Also for the 4th story I kinda disagree. Sometimes being harsh is needed, which people like that they won’t take you seriously unless you are harsh. She’s a spoiled little bitch, so it doesn’t shock me that he felt he needed aggression. I’d of reacted the same way. If he was nice about she’s probably “fight for his love” and try to win him over.
The first two MILs...
I often buy an extra movie ticket seat so as not to have to sit next to anyone. People always try to take my bought seat. I never apologize. If I pay an extra $20 for an empty seat its mine for the duration of the movie. 👏🏽
People taking seats instead if their ASSIGNED ones? Damn🤦🏾♀️
I love you so much Ellen you're amazing and a queen.
Thanks for the upload ❤ love your videos 🎉
First story - MIL should learn to knock.
Second story - it is the responsibility of the host or hostess to ensure there is enough seating for everyone.
Third story - OP is correct - a lack of planning on someone else’s part does not constitute an emergency on OP’s part. OP’s mom is wrong too
Fourth story - Alexa needs a wake up call. OP and his wife should go low to no contact until Alexa grows up and acts right.
So they are trying to make him feel bad BECAUSE she was rejected He did the right thing. He is in a no win situation 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
the MIL barging into the bathroom while her daughter-in-law is in there is creepy AF and the husband should've taken his wife's side, instead of his mother's side. imagine how the MIL would've felt if someone kept barging into the bathroom every time she went into there?? smh to the creepy MIL
i always watch these while doing homework :))
yeah, someone should've got another chair...then put between husband and the other chick
hii Ellen I absolutely love the video and hope that you and coco have had a amazing day and that both of you stay healthy and coco is adorable love y'all💜💜💜
First story: I would let her open the door three inches then scream and SLAM that door shut! "I'm easily startled Ma'am".
The first family is crazy..
One thing I realized ab all these is that all their spouses r pushovers and never stands up to their parents/siblings. Easy solution don’t marry a pushover.
I just now realized after multiple years that these are r/aita stories 😭
Lol story 3 you are most definitely NTA 😂
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4:40 how is it inappropriate, she’s sitting down? She’s eating? It’s not like she’s sitting on a stranger or a different family member, shes sitting on her husband! Like let her be
the first story - i don't know if it is deliberate, she might be dementing
Lock the door!
hey girl how’s your day been?
Broo i just posted a aita vid now i need opinions the story:
I drew a goofy base and my friend drew a funky character on top of that this friend well call her A
Im supposed to redraw the character (we called him peronius) so i drew him
Then i was like hm looks good but i cant color it in or the pen will leak (also the drawing was like 2cm squared)
So i made it on my ipad, i sketched it, twice
I showed A the drawing, a work in progress with only a little bit of line-art done
She said “bro it looks goofy😂, i like it but the og is best” i say “hmpf bro your lil bro (5yo) my new bestie”
Our other friend (if you could call them our “friend) B came in and said “it looks weird fr man, its not good”
I was upset since i had spent 1 and a half hour drawing that, so i said “okay well you go try that then this took me so long. You go make this without using a base and do the sketches and all, its hard okay i barely use bases do you know how much time and effort went into this”
They/B got mad and was pissed, giving me the side eye and all, i simply added after 3seconds “it took me one and a half hour so far, id like to see you try” and then they kept glaring at me
This happened today, which one of us was in the wrong
I mean both because what i did was definitely not great but im defending an artwork that i like that i made, finally
Feel free to leave your own opinions here😅
First story : just lock the door, that will keep MIL out. I think MIL wants to teach her this.
2nd story: It's weird her husband didn't offer her his chair and drag one from kitchen for himself.
If your spouse is not going to have your back when it comes to mother-in-law, those red flags must have been there before you got married. Why are you still married to these imbeciles? You need to get on with your life and get rid of these nasty people put them in the rear view mirror. These mother-in-law's and their sons are not worth the trouble of sharing a future.
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How are you doing my dear sweet friend? How are you feeling? In the very first story, why don't she just start locking the door. If I have company over at my house, and I have got to use the facilities, then I am most definitely locking the door. When people become your ex then obviously their your ex for a reason. The mom is big time tripping. If my wife showed up to our Thanksgiving and all of the chairs were taken then I she could easily come sit on my lap because that's my wife, and for all of those who felt awkward bump them. The daughter is 12 year old {a preteen} she can manage sitting in the seat by herself until the plane lands. The dad is right on the same plane with her he's just been assigned to a different seat tho. I believe that he just wanted to hurt her feelings. I love you!! Stay safe!!
Did you not here the part when op said she has past trauma after her brother locked her in the bathroom at five, that's why she doesn't lock the door
That’s awkward
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First story, I’d buy some of that fart spray & spray it. Let MIL walk into that stench & hope it makes her throw up. I’d spray some into her room too & say I’m sorry but she makes me so nervous walking into the bathroom on me…my stomach just gets so upset. I don’t know what to do. Then I’d cry about being locked in the bathroom when I was 5 & it being so traumatic for me & hold my stomach & run to the bathroom. Be in there for awhile & spray the fart spray before I leave. That will fix both of them…
As for the second story, if my husband’s ex kept coming to dinner. I would stop. I already have to deal with her enough. She’s his best friend’s sister. We’ve been together 30 years, married for 25 & she’s STILL a PIA. My MIL while my husband & were just dating made it clear that she was considered the ex. She was riding her bike & stopped to say hi. After about 20 minutes, my MIL said “I guess (my husband) & (me) must’ve gone out after work. It was so nice of you to stop by. I’ll tell them they missed you.” She never just “dropped by” again. She was one of our nieces teachers & would tell her to tell her uncle hi. One day our niece asked if she knew her uncle was married because it was rude to keep saying hi to a married man & not say hi to his wife too. 😅 Even kids could see what she was up to, even though she was married by then too. Some women won’t give up & are just ridiculous.
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Wow.. -_-
No, that MIL in the first story has some weird fetish about seeing her daughter in law using the toilet. OP should get one of those door stops you put under the door.
In the last story, can we talk about the parents? WHY are they not raising their own child??
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Well he should have told his mom to stop barging in but im getting pissed when people keep saying "oh he took his moms side" like first off yall flex that men should respect us because we give birth to them but expect him to choose you over the ACTUAL woman that gave birth to him. Make that make sense
I don't think it's about "taking her side" in the traditional sense because that is his mom. I think people want him to have a private conversation with his mother since that is his mother, and she's making his partner uncomfortable. If he had the conversation, it would probably go way better than if the wife tried to assert her boundaries with the mom. He is the connection between them, the whole reason for their proximity, so the wife probably wanted her husband not to yell or scream at his mother, but to talk to her and communicate in a way only a child can to their parent vs an outsider. Also, think of it like this: if the wife goes on her own to try to communicate her issue and the mom takes it the wrong way, now there is a problem between her and the mom, and the son may get mad at her or distance himself from his own mother. It would be better solved if he just spoke to his own mother.
U should take the side of whomever is right, whether it be your wife or your mother, in this case the wife was right, she has past trauma about locked doors, MIL is weird for constantly walking in, has she never heard of knocking??
What needs to be made sense is that he downplayed his wife’s feelings after she came to him, telling him that his mother's actions has been making her uncomfortable, and then proceeded to get mad and called her childish after she took matters into her own hands, so that's his fault cause he should've told his mother to stop doing that after she told him about the situation
no. just because someone gives birth doesn't mean they deserve respect. respect has to be earned, and a birth alone won't cover for that. nobody ever chose to be born, it's the parent's decision in the first place. so no, she doesn't deserve to he more respected than the wife just because she's the mother
A parent doesn’t deserve respect just for creating you. They aren’t doing you a service by making you exist.
They want a child, they have a child.
There’s nothing about that, that requires respect. And that goes for both the parents.
A lot of sexists mellow out around their moms anyway so beyond anything I said, it’s just a very strange point to make.
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If you don't lock the door, you are the problem. That woman needs to seek help. I am sure mil is just trying to use the bathroom.
Locking the bathroom door scares her because of past events which is why she doesn’t do it. Also the door is closed and the mil walked in on her multiple of times she should start knocking at that point. The mil is doing it on purpose to catch her doing something embarrassing to use against her or something. I live with my family and we don’t lock bathroom doors ( we do in public) because we’re smart and knock before entering.
We have a security system, but no one here ever uses it. I'm the only one that ever sets it because of one time someone knocked on the door while it was raining and I saw a dark figure that wasn't family. What I noticed after closing it was, the door was unlocked the entire time anyways- so this now sparks me to lock the door and set the alarm after 10, every night.
In short, BOTH parties need to do their part to ensure security. She tried addressing it with her husband, but he ignored her originally and then later tells her simply lock it if it's such an issue. Couldn't even be bothered to tell his mother to start knocking on the door