the older sibling trauma hits different
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the older sibling trauma hits different
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British comedian Greg Davies revisits terrifying dates, manscaping disasters, his father's pranks and more in a savagely funny stand-up special.
I remember in physics class, the teacher was telling us about reaction times. She picked up a ticker tape timer. By the time she turned round to pretend to throw it at me, I was already cowering. She was genuinely shocked. "How on EARTH did you know what I was going to do that quickly?"
Ah: happy families.
My Physics class, the teacher pretended to throw a ball at me and I did not react at all... for about 3 seconds. Then I looked like I was fumbling a catch and fell over the chair.
You see, I'd seen this trick plenty of times and knew exactly what was coming, so I decided to make a comedy out of the lesson.
Mmmhm sounds about right.
When I was younger stuff was so bad my reaction times were priceless.
An art easel in class fell over randomly. Like just SMASHED itself towards the ground at lightning speed.
I was sittin directly next to the open area around it and fucking yeetes outta my seat and caught it with my fingers like an inch or two above the floor, genuinely. I obviously felt like a super fucking cool ass super hero with amazing reflexes.
Now, my reflexes?? Idrk 😂😂
You got a negative reaction time 😂
I'm morbidly obese with fuck all stamina, yet in school I was the king at dodgeball. Couldn't throw for shit, but dodging I was the best at. One day, I get asked how I was able to do it, and I referenced the film "Dodgeball" with "If you can dodge a fork, you can dodge a ball." Looking back on that, it's a good thing the asker wasn't a teacher, due to the implications (Yes I did once have a fork thrown at me).
@@Klekowksii better than a knife..
Finally an older sibling who doesn't have a victim complex that's refreshing
some of us are fr terrified tho, my sis terrifies me it’s concerning, she’s beaten me up multiple times (she’s taller than me)
My fucking oldest sister
for real man, my older sister would pit me and my little sister against each other all the time. but this one time, me and lil sis teamed up and threw snowballs at her and i saw her cry for the first time in her life. like don't dish it out every day if you can't take it just once.
Ah yes, a yt commenter that doesn’t have a younger brother or sister
@@ploppyjr2373 middle child* stay mad though
My older siblings would physically drag me out of the house, down the block and tell me that they were selling me to the neighbors lmao.
Nah bro, they wrong for that💀😂
That is horrific, but also hilarious.
Haha. So funny. NOT.
lol
where the hell were your parents. Or did they join in terrorizing you. Disgusting.
My older sister once gaslit me into thinking I'd stolen a package of gum from the store by hiding the empty packaging under my pillow, pretending to find it, and then running to tell my mom bc we weren't allowed to have gum bc my parents didn't want to even risk dealing with the stickiness at that age. I cried my eyes out because after hours of back and forth questioning I came to the conclusion that I must have stolen it and forgotten and was terrified about what that meant for my sanity.
I WAS SIX
Funny, I have a lil brother n a lil sister n I made my brother's life hell. Never my sister. Always thought he was a prick anyways
@Louis Parfitt he sounds awful
@@louisparfitt7864 from what I understand, sister-sister fighting is a different beast to other sibling dynamics, but from what I also understand, my sister can be genuinely abusive and our relationship is not normal lol
What's wrong with you over there?
For real: What. Is. Wrong. With. You?
I bet you're American.
I know the feeling, except instead of questioning my sanity I just ended up assuming at some point that I apparently do things randomly with bad intentions that I don't realize I have, like that just happens and for some reason I'm more prone to it than most 🤷♂️
It’s crazy how looking back, so many things my brother did to me could be considered abuse, but we a society have totally normalized siblings torturing each other 💀
up to a point. it only gets treated as bad if it crosses to actual important injuries or legit crimes smh
It’s so weird to see Greg doing normal standup after so many seasons of Taskmaster
Exactly!! You mean to tell me this man doesn't just sit on a throne all day?
As the youngest sibling, I hated my elder brother as a kid. Having grown up, I lean more towards the mentality of _where were my fcking parents_ 😅
I HATE my younger Sister
I can assure you
No one else's fault but hers
This this this!! Hated my older sister with a burning passion all through childhood, then became a lot closer in adulthood after 1. she realized how fucked up she treated me and apologized (still apologizes) and 2. how not-so-great our parents were at being parents when we really examined it honestly. Nothing brings siblings together more than bonding over how shitty your parents kinda were
The « I don’t want to play anymore » hit a bit too close to home
When people learn im the only girl of 5 siblings they always picture a sheltered girl, protected and loved by her brothers. A picture of my childhood would be me learning to swim with my brothers. We'd play tag and if they caught me they would trap me underwater, finally drag me up for a breath, only to push me back down. The plus side is i was always first in my swimming lessons for being able to hold my breath (Yes, we were suspended from the facility on several occasions and yes I was blamed for it). at the age of 8, I finally became an older sibling and so finally had a target upon which my rage could be unleashed in all its horrific monstrosity. Maybe I was too soft on him cause he wasn't as good of a swimmer.
Oh damn I had 4 older brothers and I didn't know the head under water was an universal thing, I felt like dying everytime and thought they were sociopaths 💀
But I never got a younger sibling later on
I got swimming medals in middle school tho 😭
I have three older brothers who would also do the head under water thing but we have a pretty dope relationship I even got revenge a couple times
shit I failed my younger sister...
I don't have an older brother but older brother kills younger sister is how I imagine that would go.
That's horrid..
When I was really little my older brother told me I was the only person in the world who didn’t have a penis, that my mum had it chopped off. I cried and cried about it. I didn’t even check the facts with anyone, who would I trust? Mum wasn’t going to admit it, right? 😂
Omfg
I am sorry but omggg 😂😂😂😂😂 that’s hilarious
Freud's ghost got stronger after that
I also met somebody without a penis once. It's a rare condition, but there's a few people like that.
Lol, we are trauma buddies stranger on the internet! You were right not the tell anybody, my older brother did the same thing to me but I ran to my mother crying " I don't have one!" and she proceeded to tell every friend/ boyfriend/girlfriend that story for the next 20 years until her passing.
I suppose most people block out that trauma as they grow older. At least I was told it would happen that way. But as the younger sibling I can tell you that the hatred still hasn’t gone away and I’m 24 now. I can’t even remember half the stuff my brother did to me but I hate him so profusely that it is hard to put into words. I feel I grew up being constantly psychologically abused and it fundamentally altered me. No one did anything to stop it and my parents always say they want us to get along not realizing they should have stopped him when I was little. Again, can’t even remember half of all that he did but it impacted me so much that just seeing him makes my blood boil. So, have your sibling fun but know it can go too far. Everyone is human and deserves respect.
You never should have had to deal with any of that. I'm sure you know...but still. Nobody deserves that, esp to be asked to "get along with" someone who abused you. None of that s is normal or okay.
I feel the same. I’m also in my twenties but still am afraid of my older brother
So your parents suck
I feel the same, stopped talking to my older brother for 4 years now because he gaslights me and treated me like a lesser being. He also risked me getting injured to "teach me lesson", had trust issues after that. My parents still try to guilt me into APOLOGIZING to my brother because he kept tabs on how much I owe him (from small favors).
People just expecting trauma to vanish… hilarious. They might block it out but they’re living bound by it anyway. Good on you for facing facts. It sucks when your own family takes part in enabling abuse and doesn’t stand up for you. It’s so interesting to me how hard they can ignore someone’s feelings and experiences and also push so hard for “reconciliation” and “forgiveness” like feelings and experiences suddenly do matter. If your feelings don’t count, who gives a f how your brother feels. Tell him and your parents to get over that you’re over it.
As the youngest of 4, can confirm, I'm still talking about things like these in therapy at 24 years old. 😅
Now that you mention it… yeah I definitely need therapy.
Youngest of only two, but holy sh** the trauma! Also in therapy at 23 lol
Youngest of three, also in therapy but 18! So I'll be done with it early atleast
youngest of four as well, having three older siblings is one hell of an experience indeed 😅
As the youngest by a decade, sometimes my older sister would pick me up from school instead of mum.
“Where’s mum?”
“She died.”
😂
That's horrible. I'm so sorry you were treated like that.
I was the youngest and the only girl, with 3 older brothers. The physical and emotional scars I have, specifically from the brother that was closest in age to me at 4.5 years older, have been lost lasting. Torturing me was his favorite pastime lol. We are 40 and 45 now and still very distant even though we live close to each other.
My older brother made up a game when I was 8 called...wait for it...kidnap. Yep, he tied up my hands and feet with dressing gown cords and put parcel tape over my mouth and then left me in the wardrobe for what felt like hours (probably only a few minutes realistically). 😂 When my mum finally freed me and it was my brother's turn suddenly he didn't want to play anymore.
I literally did this to my lil brother💀😂
This is evil lmao
This isn't the same but reminds me of my older brothers saying they'll really play with me outside this time, then just lock me out of the house.
oh ua
Why does it seem like I'm the only person who has a functional relationship with my brother?
When I was a kid and walking on the road my 3 years older brother would run around behind me to make sure I don't run into traffic. He did burn me once when I was a baby when he turned on scalding hot water in the bath but he didn't know at the time and just wanted to help.
Can certify that when I meet someone with a healthy relationship with their sibling, I look at them like they're an alien. And with envy lol
I won’t make assumptions about your home life specifically, but the only people I know who grew up getting along with their siblings had severe parental issues
I know, a lot of the stories I hear are horrible, but I've always gotten along really well with my siblings
I am great with my siblings. Was always very protective of them, beeing oldest of 4.
my older sister bullied me from age 5 to ...present day actually. the difference is I stopped taking her shit once I was 16. She is very good at manipulating others and making them think she is an angel. my parents understood too late. but a lot of people know her true character now. I have demanded an apology from her more than twice, but she tries to gaslight me saying I'm lying and it is all in my head. But I know the truth and my mom goes quiet because she witnessed my breakdowns several times. I have distanced myself from her now. we have little to no relationship and i don't intend to have one.
I feel so lucky to have a nice brother who never has been an asshole to me and my sister
I'm so jelly
I have two older sisters and the trauma I got from them is unbelievable.
Same from one pshychopathic older sister
My sister experimented on me, she wanted to know if you really couldn't eat things like soap, washing powder and my mother's medication which were locked in a cupboard, she managed to feed me all of these things when I was 18 months old (my sister was 3 at the time) and i had to get my stomach pumped, I was okay, my sister and I are super close and I love her so much but man she could be evil ahahah
If she was three, that wasn't evil, it was human curiosity 😅
My sister in law sat on her younger sister's face when they were 3 yrs old and 11 months old. They're very close now lol
@@EmmarainePink Idk there's curiosity and feeding your infant brother poison
@@EmmarainePink Children until age of five at least are pretty much evil anyway
No offense, but how does a 3 year old get medication from a locked cupboard? Was there no one watching an 18-month-old?
So apparently I am weird. I never tortured my younger siblings treated them like kings and queens
Same
Younger siblings dream of an older sibling like you
Meanwhile I was beaten by my younger sibling.
Yeesh, did your parents treat you equally or something.
thank u lol. *some* of us developed empathy and weren't little villains
Finally an older sibling admitting that it wasn't easy sunshine and roses for us younger siblings. My life was never easier than my older siblings!
Okay nobody said your life wasn't easier. We admit the older siblings treat younger siblings like crap. That does not change the fact that parents treat older siblings like crap
@@shireads2954 everyone says that parents never hurt us or tell us off and it completely invalidates them
@@depressoesspresso Yeah, and that's dependent on experience. It's not that deep.
My younger sibling tortured me instead and knew he vould get away with everything, sometimes it's the other way around sadly.
My older brother was straight-up abusive. We don’t talk.
Same here, my older brother is not invited to family gatherings anymore because last time he was there, police had to drag him outside and forbid him to enter my parent's apartment for a day or two I think
Yh unfortunately because it is so well established that elder siblings can be mean (taunting, teasing) outright abuse is oftentimes dismissed as a phase or simple squabbling. Kid bullies can and do grow into adult bullies or just outright dysfunctional humans. Parents need to do better.
@Kai he doesn't sound like the nicest person. What did he have to do for the police to show up, must've been very bad
My younger sister is extremely abusive, I’m sorry you had to deal with that. I can’t wait until I go NC with her
Same, sadly my parents are will trying to get me to talk to him (by apologizing to him). He never treated me as an equal but as a lesser being.
As the youngest sister,
thank you.
Literally still realizing the long term effects in therapy to this day.
Yall really acted like I was just the wind? Told me you flushed my comfort items down the toilet? Locked me in my dark closet? Pretended to smother me?
Nah, that's not normal behavior
I actually did not torment my younger sisters. They tormented me. If I played that game with one of my younger sisters I would've been so deep in shit I would still be crawling out of it today.
My older sister taught me that if I annoyed her I'd get a quick smack in the face. I was surprised to find that those rules didn't apply in my kindergarten. She did apologize for her idea of swift justice 30 years later 😂
I'm a younger brother to an older sister, and no one in the world has made me cry as many times as her when we were kids I think.
Yeah haven't spoken to my older sister for more than a year now and still not wanting to. No one can hurt me like she can. My family thinks I'm just exaggerating
Yeah I don't talk to my older brother that much pretty much due to this.
As the youngest in my family I can confirm, siblings growing up are borderline criminals.
Often, not even borderline. Adults would be in jail for most those things. And younger siblings are somehow supposed to not get traumatised by all that 🤦♂️
my older sister was 14 when i was born so i’ve always been her baby brother so i was relieved of older sibling bullying
I'm the middle child, so I always tried to include my younger sibling because I always felt leftout/ignored by my older sibling.
Aww, you are so sweet!
I'm the youngest of 4. An oldest brother and 2 older sisters. Older Brother ignored me most of the time, and would occasionally steal my shit or eat my food without me knowing. My eldest sister treats me like a fucking wage slave, she'd give me money and ask me to buy her things, do her chores, eat her leftovers etc. And for a 8 year old kid, having extra pocket change to buy that new toy, when you only had enough for snacks was heaven. My other sister was the devil. We would always fight, to the point we had multiple indidents, involving knives, scissors, Bats, Apples, watermelons, and books. No one was stabbed, no one was cut open, but there was a lot of running around, and threats of killing. Bruises, definitely a lot of bruises. Still I wouldn't exchange them for anyone else, maybe my other sister, just MAYBE.
Edit: Tl;dr: Brother stole my shit, Eldest sister made me do shit, and other sister is the North Korea to my Southern Korea.
As an older brother, I developed a sinister skill:
It doesn't matter where I am. It doesn't matter what I have in my hands. If I throw something at the general direction of my sister, it will hit her in the head.
Ya 😂 I think my older brother has that power too, coming from his younger sister of course
my younger sister does that too lol
I bet she loves you 🙄
Ok, guys
after watching this and seeing all of your comments I asked my younger brother if I made his life misery when we were younger and he said and I quote:
"You cooked for me, made my bed, helped me with school and always talked mom and dad out of punishing me for stuff. I made YOUR live misery though."
Legit still laughing about that. My little brother is great. Though he's right, I was legit scared of him when we were younger. He packs a mean punch and sometimes he would get really violent for no reason. He was also annoying as all hell. A little shit really. Still'd catch a bullet for him anyway. He's the most supportive person I know. When I came out to him he just said "That's great! Don't steal my girlfriends though. And please think about adoption, I want to be the funny uncle."
Love you little buddy.
I was older by 7 years; he was my birthday gift - arrived home from the hospital 5 days after his birth. I looked after him and he was just a mischivious kind kid with a sense of humor. We never lost contact and had a lot of respect for each other. He gave me small diamond and ruby ear rings to say thank you for caring for him and other family members for my 60th birthday. Mind you thinking back our parents were kind and taught us to be kind. He died several years ago and I miss him very much.
My siblings didn't do this to me. We got along fine.
My little sister is 19 years younger than I am, and who ever would try to hurt her, will be begging for mercy. Nobody hurts my little monster.
I actively worked to make my baby siblings' lives as pain-free as possible, but I also genuinely thought they had been born to be my live-in best friends, so my job as the eldest was to ensure they were ✨ treasured✨. They absolutely tormented each other though. 😂
As the youngest sibling, and victim to many a cruel game, I appreciate your taking responsibility 🤣🤣
I thought my older sister was horrible, now I know it's "normal" to torture your younger siblings. I do know she resented me her entire life. She would cry and tell me things that weren't fair from our childhood but many decades later. Most of them weren't unfair treatment from our parents. It was just the logical way the circumstance had to play out. She also told her best friend how awful I was growing up but all the things she said I did were really things she did. Even as adults she was mean and nasty. Unfortunately I am the only one in the family that still talks to her. My sons have all cut contract because to quote them "she's mean".
Considering she resented you her entire life it's funny you're the only one who still talks to her.
@anoushkanautiyal5555 I couldn't just abandon her. Everyone except her best friend did and she was nasty to her also.
@@blanchekonieczka9935 You're a really nice person to do that. She doesn't deserve it and you shouldn't feel obligated to do so but you're a very kind person.
@anoushkanautiyal5555 thank you, but she is my family. Other than my sons and grandchildren, she's my only living family.
@@anoushkanautiyal we can't abandon our siblings. My sibling is like this too but making someone feel alone is not the solution. Just saying that I can't be as cruel as her. But I have learnt to not pay heed to any of her verbal abuses and manipulations anymore.
I'm glad I wasn't a menace like that to my lil bro. He's annoying and we beat each other up equally but this is next level shit 😂
Honestly. The oldest one turned out the sweetest brother ever after time, but I sure was treated like crap before it. The other gave me life-long trauma and I try to forget they exist.
I wish this was true but my younger sister terrorised me 😂
My younger brother tells me horror stories of the terrible things that I would do to him that I apparently have blocked out of my memory. That's not to say I don't remember all of the things I did... like lock him out of the house or punch him randomly in the arm, but there's definitely some I don't remember. All that being said, I have profusely apologized to him now that we're adults in our 30s.
Good on you for apologising. If you have enough empathy to apologise, you weren't that bad. My older sister subjected me to all types of abuse (literally all types including s*xual). No apology from her, and I'm not holding my breath.
My brother and I didnt meet until we were 21 and 23 so luckily we didn't torment each other and just get to be best friends
Um...How?
@@fe5018 Estranged siblings from a different parent perhaps?
@@sophieasha9069, possible. Or surrogate / sperm donor babies?
When I was little, I grew out my nails and gave my two older sisters scars when they tormented me. I still keep them longer than average out of habit, and whenever I see their arms I feel immense triumph.
Our relationship is better now that I see them only a few times a year.
I wish I did that
I'm autistic and according to my younger siblings I never tortured them and always protect them. My mom said I never tried to be nice to kids my age but always sweet to my siblings.
My brother was an absolute arsehole - We haven't spoken since before COVID. I realised a few years back that every male friendship I've ever had fits into one of two categories:
1. Someone I look up to and admire like an older brother, usually more than I should.
2. Someone I can take under my wing and protect like a younger brother, the way I wish my brother had done for me.
The way my brother treated me fundamentally changed the way I form relationships with people.
I pulled out a tray of cookies and my sister watched me put it on the counter... she was just staring at the pan, so I said "touch it...." and as she started to reach for it, my mom ran over, smacked her hand and yelled "WHY WOULD YOU TELL HER THAT!!!??" 😂 I didn't think she'd do it 😂
As a normal and sane older sibling, this is genuinely concerning 😨
That's a normal and sane reaction. Thank you for being this way
I never treated my little sister badly. I just manipulated her into giving me the cooler toys when playing together and I cut her hair into awful bangs but she loved it (my parents not so much hehe). She was always by my side tho and was even invited when I threw birthday parties. She was always a little sickly and I had to do more chores bc of that and listen to my moms problems bc I was the older responsible sibling but I don't hold a grudge against her bc I'm grateful that I'm now a functioning adult while she is very spoiled and still somewhat sickly. What I mean by that is: you don't have to grow up with a victim complex just bc you're the older sibling and had stricter rules and more responsibility bc it's very useful as an adult
I demand another Greg Davies standup special or something. We need more of him in our lives. At this point I’m watching reruns of Taskmaster for the 30th time just for a fix. 😅
My brother managed to skip a grade and was bragging, so in a typical shitty older sister fashion I convinced him mom and dad lied about his age because he got held back in preschool and that he actually just caught up. He cried for HOURS.
We’re now to that sibling stage where we’re cool, but I definitely overcompensate trying to make up for torturing him when we were kids.
Growing up and realizing the other isn’t your enemy is fun 😅
apparently when i was 3-ish i would hold my hand on my younger brothers head to keep him in place while he tried to run at me. this is what my parents remember of our relationship as children and conveniently not the years of him exploiting my misophonia and relentlessly bullying me… yes, my younger brother. both my parents were youngest children and the shit they let him get away with… he actively tried to murder me while we were in primary school more than once. he wasn’t very good at it but it’s the thought that counts isn’t it.
when he became a teenager he also magically became a normal human being and our relationship improved dramatically, we’re… i wouldn’t call us friends but we get on.
as a point i will just say that i was the kind of kid that would spend all of my birthday savings on a gift to buy for my brother for christmas because i knew he wanted a thing and i wanted to give it to him. i still am… his birthday is next week and i took him to the games shop and spent $100+ on puzzles because he’s wanted to do them lately. apparently when we each gained consciousness i chose kindness and he chose to be hellspawn for a decade.
I treated my 5 years younger brother as if he’s my child. I still do, and I’m 40 now. I treat him as an adult, of course, but he’ll always be my baby bro.
I'm the younger sister. Yes, my brother made my life miserable (sometimes), but I got back at him equally. It's just a sibling's job to annoy the other sibling to death. But hell will be raised if anyone else tries the same.
My sister, 5 years older was a master of torture. She liked to suffocate me until I lost consciousness. Punch and kick me until I begged. But her apex skill was psychological. I learned never to think well of myself. If I accidentally smiled at the wrong time I knew what to expect. It's a relief to write it down w
That seems...crazy. I hope you're alright.
This is far beyond childhood games, that’s straight up abuse. Have you considered talking to a professional to work through this?
I’ve been through sibling abuse too, the worst thing is parents don’t believe how bad it is until they see it for themselves. Wishing you help and healing❤
@@anoushkanautiyal yep. I'm good. Thanks for asking 🙂
@GMG S it was horrible abuse. I failed I'm life my sister prospered. It's all OK with me. Maybe it was in my karma. I guess Karma will be there for her next life lol. I have a great marriage and contentment. It was good writing it down. I've always kept it to myself. Blessings to you.
Honestly... I have an older brother who pushed me into a brick fireplace. Scar in my eyebrow 😂 He also used to ram me and my twin brother into the fridge when we were sat in a little pulley trailer thing
Tell me what's so funny about it.
@@AlexandraVioletta It was like 10 years ago, so we laugh about it now
genuinely feel like my sister and I were the only functional siblings
I guess it’s just another way I’m a weirdo. I’ve always loved my brother, and we rarely fought or hurt each other. He’s two years younger than me, and I’m so proud of him I could explode.
I’ve had a theory about this for awhile…..I feel like these traumatizing “games” we made our younger siblings play weren’t necessarily from malice. Rather, we were curious. Our younger siblings learned about the world by watching us. We, had nobody of our stature to look up to and observe. So we ran “tests” on our siblings to see what would happen if we smashed that ball in her face? What would happen if we made him eat a lemon? At least, that was my experience.
As the youngest kid, my parents treated me better than my oldest sis (my brother was the favourite but nonetheless), but that only resulted in this 9 years older, grown-ass teenager slapping me across the face for fun. I get that we get better treatment from parents because they're terrified of losing us, but jesus christ, some older siblings act like martyrs, completely disregarding how they treat their sibs
I have younger cousins who may still be traumatized by my younger brother and I. I think we learned it from our older step-brothers.
It was a two-person job. One to hold the young'n down on the ground, and the other one to fart directly in their face.
I hadn't thought about it for decades... until my cousin brought it up as a trauma from her childhood.
I’m going to hell for laughing at this💀😂
If my mum hadn't slapped me for putting soap on my little brother's toothbrush, I know, I would have done even worse
For real tho….it’s like my brother makes it his life mission to make my childhood miserable lol
Keep true to yourself. It will be over one day.
Lmao just grow up
I convinced my younger brother I was possessed. We shared a room at that time.The poor guy talked to the ghost inside of me for days begging it to let his sister go.
I might go to hell.
For some reason my sister never did this kind of thing to me, like the worst she did was apparently almost give me a terrible haircut when I was like 3 years old and she was 5, she apparently only got 3 easily fixable cuts in
As the younger sibling I was treated like shit by my sister. She also was the favorite child which was just wonderful...
I’m the younger sibling and while my sister wasn’t too bad, I 100% got my revenge when we turned teens to our early adulthood
Because we will make fun of every bad life decision you make after we turn 14, every boyfriend who’s a retard, every failed attempt to get an academic degree, every time we, as 18 year olds (legal driving age in Denmark) had to drive into the middle of nowhere because you were drunk and scared to call dad…
And those are just the ones I remember
Finally a video I can forward to the only child friends who wish they had older siblings 🙂. Finally someone accepting it online.
As a younger sybling, my sister and i have always had a great relationship luckily, unsure why were the exception
It's kinda sickening to me that there are parents out there who think that this would be normal behavior.
I'm Germany and I've never ever met someone who had experienced constant bullying FOR YEARS by their older siblings.
I will never understand that "unwritten rule" that seemingly every American bullies their youngee sibling(s)...
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No, this is not the norm, and parents should’ve intervened. My older sister has never done anything to hurt me, and also the older siblings of my friends were not torturing them. This is just a sign of children not having their emotional needs met by their parents
I'm glad there's a 14 year difference in age between me an my brother, or I'd have trauma as the younger sibling.
AND THEY'RE STILL THE FAVE SIBLING
Its so weird to not see Greg in a suit
My younger sibling was the one making my life a misery
I am the *only* only child in my family that I know of, and I have a big family. everyone else has at least one sibling to bully or be bullied by, while I was just living my life untraumatised (at least by family members)
my mum in particular got screwed over by her older brother, he'd get her on fairground rides until she got sick and then he'd get yelled at by my grandma. I, on the other hand, didn't need someone to make me go on rides until I was sick, because I'd do it myself, wait 10 minutes with my head between my legs, then go straight back on the ride that had made me puke. the reason I didn't have a sibling is because I have so little regard for my own wellbeing, I'm practically my own inbuilt sibling
I invented gay made me rolling before he corrected himself with game.
well...I would have not dared to do that I was seven years older, when she was 7 I was double her size and age...I could have really hurt her...so the worst I've done was call her stupid when she messed with my drawings and paintings...I love the little bugger she was amazing and infuriating 😜
Years later I really felt bad many things I did to my sister. On the other hand she was a devil herself.
Yeah, my younger sister used to do something naughty or mean and I would either shout at her or beat her up just a little maybe a punch on the arm or a smack, because in my mind I was telling her off so that mum didn’t have to, but then she’d cry and I would be told off because I’m older and being a bully
I have a similar story. When we were kids, my sister (who is 3 years younger) and I would grab my moms old yoga ball and play a game I invented called "Mad Grandma". Basically, I would chase her around the house yelling mean stuff at her while trying to throw the yoga ball at her. When she would ask if she could be the grandma, I would either outpace her just enough to not get hit or make up objectives to keep her as the runner. I was also very good at scaring her. Being the oldest is great sometimes.
Oh my sister hated me since she knew of my existence, she'd punch my mom's belly and when I born she couldn't be left alone with me, she'd punch and bite me. Growing up she would humiliate me in front of people, beat me and try to kill me, she tried to kill me with a pillow, with a knife, in a pool, with a rope, a rock...
She only stopped hitting me around 14yo once I beat the shit out of her, which I could've done earlier but I was too dumb.
When my younger sister was born, she wanted to do the same to her but at that point I was over her bs and didn't let her inflict the same trauma to my younger sister.
My sister and I are good terms now that we're adults and she's extremely apologetic about all the sibling crimes she committed, but woooboy.
She was more of a "I'm going to psychologically mess with you so hard you'll feel it even in your 30s" than a physical bully, but she did occasionally like to play games like "putting you in a headlock and slowly dragging you towards the knife block while loudly laughing over your escape attempts" and "accidentally kicking you in the jaw on the swing but only deciding it was an accident after seeing it split your lip open", so you know not the best
Im gonna be straight up abt this
the only reason I treated my younger sibling like that is bcs she never went through the shit that I did with my parents
Its pretty shitty looking back, but my immature self was just rly pissed abt how when I was cleaning or getting yelled at my sister ate ice cream and watched tv
She wasn’t supposed to grow up too fast like I was
I was always just the kid that didn’t work out bcs of my depression, anxiety, and just absolute burn out
I bully my sister, nothing too bad ofc, mostly things like yelling at her. I bullied her because I thought that if I wasn’t happy, she shouldn’t be allowed to be happy either.
She was also a rly big baby, crying abt stupid things and getting me in trouble for it even if Im in another room
again, doesn’t justify anything, jist an explanation from me
also shes fine, she doesnt have trauma from it like yall younger siblings do in the comments
As the youngest of 4 and being the only boy, I’ve had it all
I’m the younger sibling… and I always played again 😂and believed it’s gonna be different next time
Finally an older sibling who admits it! My 8 yrs older sister would require my twin brother and I to wrestle for her entertainment. It was impossible for me to say no with any dignity because my brother would immediately tackle for her approval and I'd have to defend myself.
Other things included stabbing my fingers with a pen if I let them rest on the headrest of the car (I was in the middle, she in the back of the van) and my mom says it was okay because technically I was in her space (??!), her giving me clothes then accusing me of stealing when she changed her mind, I mean I could go on all day. Being a middle child was traumatic!
Very comforting. Perhaps my grandson cannot be the 10 year old poop he is forever.... ugh the teen years are yet to come...
Some younger siblings really never get to grips with how common this is even in later adult life. Older siblings make younger siblings lives a misery 9 times out of 10, unless you're one of two or three younger siblings with 1 older sibling, and then you're more likely to form a younger sibling coalition against the older sibling. BUT...younger siblings...the older sibling didn't treat you like shit because he/she didn't love you! They treated you like shit because they were kids! and didn't know wtf they were doing at the time!
Oh? So because it's common, it makes it acceptable? Spoken like a self righteous older sibling to me. Everything is all sparkles and glitter when you can dismiss everything. GOD I HATE YOU!!! Heeeeee jk jk
Beings a kid doesn't excuse terrible and abusive behaviour. I get having fights and things like that but by the look of some of these comments some people were awful to their siblings or had awful siblings
And it happened because of shitty absentee parenting and emotional neglect. You weren’t raised right, commonly or uncommonly. Not every family was like this, and it’s disturbing that you imply that it’s all a-ok because it happened to other people, too. Sounds like you have far more to learn than the traumatized siblings. I was the eldest, by the way.
bruh. i'm the eldest by 6 years, 8 years, and a decade. i hurt one of my siblings ONCE. i was having a shit day at around 10 years old and my little sister was trying to follow me through a maze and i tried to push her away and she fell over and started crying.
the guilt was awful!! i never hurt any of my siblings again.
i think the age gap helps, because my little brothers are both within 18 months of each other and they used to beat the shit out of each other regularly (partly bc one of them got bullied and is now traumatised/in therapy), but christ.
"we were kids", bruh. pls tell me at least some of y'all developed empathy at a young age like a normal person??
Luckily my older sisters never really did this (though the oldest did like to pants us)... but then my little brother was born and I just couldn't resist the urge to squish him. He'd be sitting on the sofa, minding his business, and I'd start backing up as if I couldn't see him. He'd start quietly saying "wait no I'm here" and then I'd loudly declare how tired I am, sit on him, and state how comfy the sofa is 😂 poor kid
My brother was so annoying and wanted attention all the time but jeez he wasn't intentionally cruel. We did play some of the weirdest games sometimes though that would you get send to a psychologist these days.
It did help that though he was years older I was very strong so he couldn't physically dominate me.
As younger brother I can say that’s 100% legit
My brothers were brutal to me when I was younger until I started fighting back 😂
Why is it that it seems like, generally speaking, either the older sibling is an abusive asshole if they're a dude, but parentified if they're female?
I invented two brilliant games called 'Rough Aunty' & 'Mermaids'. Rough Aunty use to have her nephew, my little brother, to visit and he'd be thrown around & ricocheted off the sofa/walls... In Mermaids I was a beautiful Mermaids on my island, sofa, and he was the doorstep 😅😂 obvs I had to jump up & down on the doorstep each time I left the island.
yeah. I did stuff like this...then he started training MMA...and I quickly (painfully) learned that such things no longer worked.
Me and my twin brother would always just hit each other lol
My older sister and i are really close, but when we were kids she knocked my teeth out 😂