I sprained my eyes when Kim said "Usman would make a wonderful father" I was side-eyeing her so hard. Because, nope. He would not. He's not a good brother, son, or boyfriend either.
I believe he feels he would be able to give the child a different experience and opportunity in the USA, but still….. The family is in tact and should leave it be. But this is a common practice in many cultures.
Father raised jamal...and honestly, the fact that he continues to be his mom's soft landing over and over is weird! He has seen SO MANY men screw her over? C'mon....😏
Melicia hits the nail on the head every time. She is smart beautiful witty and proud - I’m always happy to hear her doing voiceovers on other ET celebrity shows. I hope whoever is in her life treats her like the absolute QUEEN she is.
Age really IS more than just a number. And cultural differences matter a lot, too. We adopted a 2 1/2 year old from the Philippines (husband Filipino American) from his friend. The friend knew we wanted to adopt and offered her to us. My husband went back and finished the adoption. I got there two weeks later and her mother had come and taken her back. A week after, her mother came crying and begging us to take her back. We did, but the little girl sat by the window for two weeks waiting for her mom to come back. It was heartbreaking. In the end, things worked out and we are so proud to call her our daughter! She is almost 21 now, in college and doing well. Anyway, when a child is already a toddler, it is very traumatic for them to be taken away from their parents. Little Mahadi would have a very hard time if they went through with this, as would his parents.
Wow my heart REALLY goes out to the biological mom in your story. It sounds like she struggled so much with the decision to relinquish custody of her baby girl to give her more opportunities in life 🥺
It would have been better to allow the child to visit her parents every year so she would know her family an culture that mother did not want to give her child away they may have just needed financial help
I was eight when my dad sent for me and it was very difficult! I was accustomed to a certain life and was spoiled by my mom and to be away from that was hard. I refused to eat the first few weeks. I
@@didilinda100 exactly my thoughts and not strip her off her identity. I’m so glad to see people do open adoptions these days. I grew up in an era where you will never be adopted but you were raised by family so you aren’t to far from your true self.
Melicia nailed it at 15:51. How could Usman adopting Mahadi *possibly* satisfy his mother?? Mahadi's *already* her grandson!!! How would switching his paternity to Usman ever make her happy?!? 🙄🙄🙄
IS TRUE IS REALLY SAD EVERY BODY MAKES MISTAKES IN LIFE BUT KIMBERLEY , SO MANY REACTIONS ARE ON THE MEDIA SIDE GOOD ADVICE AND SO MANY BAD REACTION WHY DON'T YOU AS AN ADULT WOMAN CAN'T UNDERSTAND AND ALSO USE YOUR BRAIN KIMBERLEY YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME HE DOESN'T CARE OFF YOU
THE ONLY THING HE CARES OFF IS THE GREEN CARDS SEE NOW HOW FAR HE WON'T TOO GO HE WON'T TOO ADOPTED HIS BROTHER SON IS NOT NORMAL ONLY FOR THE GREEN CARDS YOU BETTER THINK DO YOU NOW THAT SONG YOU BETTER THINK , WE CAN'T UNDERSTAND YOU KIMBERLEY IAM SORRY
I could see he raised himself. She's definitely the child alway's in trouble gaslighting and saying how she would not but doe's anyway! She's weak ! No moral's or self respect! She's gonna waste her last dime on a man who uses her!
Low key Jenny is trying to isolate Sumit and that’s not healthy at all. She doesn’t want him to go to work, hang out with friends or have any children of his own.
I agree,, Jenny's been in India a long time,yet she does not speak any of the language,,can not shop by herself,, She has just had Sumit 24/7looking after her. Then she is crazy upset If he trys to make a more equal life
As a Nigerian Melicia, I do want to say that it is common for relatives to “adopt” their siblings kids or other families kids. However in this case it’s just wrong cause Usman is clearly doing it for selfish interests as opposed to trying to provide the kid an better life.
Usman and Kimberly are selfish horrible people. How can you ask someone to give you their child! Jamal is such an intelligent caring man and trying to reason with his mother has to be so frustrating for him.
Kimberly is definitely selfish and she pisses me of trying to act like a goody two shoes. she manipulates with gifts. brings a gift to the kid she has a eye for and not the other child for mr. wanna be superstar!
@@gemeyes4845 I'm tired of the gift thing myself. Look at what direction shes forced herself into. Shes not gonna be able to stop this man from doing anything he wants to do.
Knowing how little the importance of his own brothers son means to Usman, I'm not surprised he underestimates how important Jamals opinion and relationship is to Kim.
Considering how Usman keeps implying he has to bend over backwards to keep his mom happy, it's so weird that he thinks Jamal is too involved for caring about his own mom... The hypocrisy is REAL.
My parents left me at 23 months in Africa and I still remember the day they left VIVIDLY ! It was the most traumatic moment in my toddler life. I came to America at 7 and our relationship is still awkward and I am 30+
My mom took me to her country when I was a toddler and my aunt asked my mom to leave me with her because she didn’t have any kids and was struggling after several miscarriages. My mom was also like HUH?? And I thank the good lord every day that she did not leave me with that woman. It’s absolutely absurd to ask a sibling for their child and to rip a child from their parents when there is no actual reason to do it other than your own selfish needs.
I think that it really speaks to how strong Jamal is to talk to Kim with such honesty ,and firmness because i don't think I could've confronted my mother like that in this situation.
I know it’s a different culture but I absolutely hate how they’re planning on this sweet baby’a future as a pawn for their own selfish desires. Usman to appease his mother and Kim to appease Usman. They keep saying “he’s cute”…umm he is a human child not a toy! If his brother for one second thinks the child will get a better life in the U.S. he’s wrong. Kim & Usman are too caught up in their own stuff to prioritize a child. Idk where Jamal got the sense he’s shown us but it certainly isn’t from Kim!
I believe this whole thing is planned by Usman family to get the boy to America to give him a better life. And they know that Kim will agree because she is desperate. In there culture, they of to have their own kids, not adopt from a family member who is alive and well. Usman mother is already the boy grandmother, this doesn’t make any sense, other than Usman family is looking for opportunities to come to America.
@@SonjaElizabethTeal Yes it does ...African men are raised like this thinking everything is supposed to be given to them and if you never dated them or dealt with their tribes and families then you wouldn't know. Who said culture wasn't selfish and manipulative many tribes in Africa are. In many cases the women dont get to say a dammm thing while the man says and does whatever he wants and the family sees NO wrong in it.
I think Usman is disgusting honestly and I think the way he's going after his brother's son for his own selfish reasons is predatory. Don't like how he's looking at that sweet little boy. And if things go south with him and Kim and Mahadi is stuck in between in uncertainty, just no. Leave that child with his parents, he is obviously well taken care of.
Love love LOVE that you explained in simple terms, just because someone likes / loves you, doesn't mean you HAVE to force yourself to feel the same for them. Say it again, I am loveable!!! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Kim doesn’t seem to understand that she and Usman are coming at this relationship from two completely different cultures with two completely different expectations. Usman’s culture expects submission, and whether Kim realizes it or not she has been submissive. She starts out saying “No No No, I know my worth!” But Usman knows that if he waits her out and wears her down he will get what he wants. She WOULD HAVE been his second wife if he told her she had to. And I have a feeling that if push comes to shove Kim WILL convert to Islam if Usman says “If YOU want me to marry YOU this is what YOU have to do”. Kim says she has self worth but if Usman doesn’t see her worth and she doesn’t stand up for herself then she might as well lie down at his front door and let him wipe his feet on her.
Thank you. She been accommodating his every need even when it's something she doesn't want to do. Hopefully she'll listen to Jamal and come to her senses.
the grooming is REAL, however, it will turn into a huge fight eventually once he's made it to the U.S and runs loose which he will while there's nothing Kim and her son can do about it resentments will set it. People don't realize that once you bring them into this country and they run all over you ...immigration doesn't give an F..... in fact, they are granted more rights than YOU! I had to learn the hard way! Once he gets here he will be able to trample all over her as long as he's not committing a crime. Theres been many red flags with Usman and Kim is looking past them which is not good because once he get on U.S soil it will get worse and she will feel like she is submitting to trash and her freedom has been taken away believe me she will take her freedom back and he will turn against her to stay in U.S by looking for ways to get around being with her. This shyt is in its early stages.
hes so selfish, he wants to take someone else's child away from his own advantage not even because he wants to give the kid a better life it gets harder and harder trying to watch Kim and usman
They are both desperate, Kim is desperate to be usman wife ,and usman is desperate to get the green can ,they don't care about the child , Kim is disgusting for going along with all this .
Usman: "if you don't understand why you're here, you can pack your bags and go" (because you're here to be MY WAY to America, I don't care about you Kim, you're here to get me to America and that's all I care about. - Usman under his breath)
Every time Usman pushes Kimberly’s limits, she continues to stay with him. The way Usman takes this situation lightly (like he asking to borrow a lawnmower) tells me Kim is going to be the one raising that child. She to start having some respect for herself.
No she won't because as soon as he gets his green card he doesn't have to stay married to her and I 100% tell you he won't and he will take his nefew with him and leave her just like Mohammed left Danielle.
@@Gaby-cq8pr Yep!!!! she gonna learn the hard way! Once he gets here she has no control over him and immigration is not gonna care what he does to her as long as hes not committing crime.
Sometimes that isn't enough unless it comes from a guy she loves and until she realizes it is she'll keep making mistakes. I've been there and I'm learning that loving me is important and God's love is the best. Bit by bit I'm getting better and no longer dealing with things that don't serve me.
She doesn’t dare speak up to him or he threatens to leave. Even after she throws wine in his face, then she’s back apologizing and kissing up again. I’d have been outta there so fast after first meeting him, he’d wonder if I had been an apparition!
Uhm where did he said that 🤔.. I thought this was an older brother, with a very young looking wife to be his first born... I think it's his second wife.
I wish Kimberley would have some self respect and dump his ass cos he keep on lying and it's clear he's using her to go to America and I feel bad for that little boy being dragged into all this mess 🙃
She is in love with the african D, did you forget how she was begging for sex, when he was in her hotel room. This women will everything what this guy is asking for.
Usman is so disappointing and so irresponsible, how can he not discuss this adoption thing with his brother instead of putting him and his family on the spot like that, in all of this mess my heart goes out to Jamal, it’s just too much bull 💩 for nothing Kim need to dump Usman he’s no good for her😕
Usermanis such a joke... he doesn't speak with his brother about this plan to adopt his son, he tells her to buy a cow and then leave sher out to dry when thry say it is bribery...etc. smh
thats how the typical African man thinks ...they are raised like this extremely entitled giving the minimum back. They love the ego too much even when they go into other countries they refuse to change but force their culture or way of life on you.
Kim said she knows Usman loves her if she considers the way he treats her the way he manipulates her calls her old and ugly if she considers that love I would hate see the other men in her life..maybe TLC is paying them a lot of money but no amount of money is her putting herself down
@@lnaph Thank you. He's sitting safe and secure with his parents and smiling because he hears his name. I hope Usman and Kim don't get their grubby paws on that sweet child.
Just a suspicion. The kid look soooo much like him. I think he did it the other way around. Made his brother adopt his baby because he has an ongoing career as a “single” rapper to keep his reputation but also supports his “kid” from Kimberly’s money. Pretends to “adopt” the child to be with his son.
This little Boy has GOT to be the Cutest, Sweetest little boy I've ever seen.....I hope they don't let Usman & Kim adopt him. He is too precious....❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏
Kim raised her son very well…but it seems like when it comes to men, she loses her mind a little 😅. She also seems like a sweet person, I hope she find someone who will cherish her like she deserves 🥺
What makes you think she raised him? probably her mother she was busy chasing maggots under rocks. thats why Jamal had to raise himself and grow maturity quick. she's an airhead and manipulative. Herman monster is needy!
Kids with parents like these often raise themselves and look at their parents as examples if what not to do. It's not the fact that she "raised him well". He raised himself parents don't deserve all the credit.
If I'm 50 or 60 plus, I do not want to have any boy drama. I stopped crying over a relationship and love the minute I became a mom. I can't add anymore stress and problem in my life.
Can we talk about Jamal making an unexpected appearance on the 3rd part of the Single Life reunion today?? Definitely didn’t expect that side of him lol
I watch YT alot.... I don't have cable TV 😜 ... and I have to say that this woman is literally the most beautiful, funny, relatable and friendly UA-camr ever! I ♥️ this beautiful soul!
Usman is making promises he might not be able to keep. He’s never been to America and he doesn’t know how difficult it is to live and work here. He’s telling his brother that he’ll provide his nephew with the best education and that he’ll want for nothing. What skills does he have aside from singing, because those promises require big money. The entire situation is just terrible.
Love your commentary! Thanks for being genuine. This story gets crazier and crazier. Usman and Kim are delusional. I agree it's extremely disrespectful to his brother to insinuate Usman could be a better parent! Golden words!
Im sorry but I feel like Jenny is selfish and quite delusional. That relationship is never going to work. They have too big of an age gap. Jenny wants a person that is retired and wants to releax in their older days. Meanwhile Sumit is in her prime, still working, still hanging around his friends, having fun, exploring life. And even might want to have kids someday. She is surrprised that he changed his mind about having kids? They met when he was in his early 20s? His brain wasnt even fully developed, ofcourse he can change his mind.
omg kim's son such a good person and looking out for his mom. is it me or all 90 day fiance kids are smart and knows whats right for their parents and have more common sense.
Watching Melicia is always a pleasure! I would love to see more segments from her and when she said “It is normal for people to like me. It is normal for people to love me.” That literally hit my soul. I just love sis 💕
If I was a mother sitting across from another stating she going to take my child to another country, we would be going to the smack down hotel right here and now period.
Kim, I'm Nigerian 🇳🇬 RUN GIRL RUN!!! 🏃🏽♀️💨 PS: PLEASE don't stay in a relationship just because of the time, effort or money you have put into it! Cut your losses and RUN.
THIS is what narcisism looks like. No regard for anyone but himself. Not Kim, but also not his brother and not even a child that happens to be his own nephew. The trauma the child will endure by having to leave his parents and his home to fullfill the selfish needs of Usman and his gf. It probably never crossed Usmans mind what the effects of adopting any child are. And for what? For a freaking greencard and some stupid music career.
Not Kim?? Ur absolving Kim of any responsibility in these decisions she is just going along with? People like that scare me…they are the ones that will sit by & watch someone get hurt & say but I didn’t do it, so I shouldn’t be blamed…No way! She’s older & she should know better! Doing all this bullshit jst so she can have a younger black guy! She is 100% jst as bad as Usman….have u ever seen the show “For my man”…where a woman will do the unthinkable just 4 the guy in her life, no matter how horrible it is
@@jeanakatherine9369 No one is absolving Kim, it is a comment about Usman. Kim is desperate for love and blinded, i actually feel sorry for her. Being desperate sadly makes you lose all senses. Kim looks to me like a nice lady who has raised a wonderful son in Jamal who is a credit to her. Her desperation has made her lose focus on reality and she now vulnerable to exploitation. Usman is an extremely manipulative man.
@@tamaranyasha1830 I don’t feel sorry for a grown woman who chooses to follow a man who’s clearly scamming her…it’s not like she doesn’t hv people around her trying to help her make better decisions…for crying out loud…she won’t listen to anyone else’s advice & now she’s willing to be involved in taking a perfectly good child away from his family solely to please a man! Where does it end then? What if Usman wanted her to commit crimes? She’d go along with it…& then what..she’s willing to hurt other people just for the benefit of having this man…that is not someone to feel sorry for
I believe deep down inside Kimberly knows exactly what happens here, but she seems to be the type of person who gets defensive when someone pointing out their fault. The more other people tell her that she's wrong, and telling her what to do, the more she reject the idea. Sadly ,she needs to snap out of it herself.
Yes ma'am, come on with the 90 Days fan fam!! I look forward to your uploads every week and I miss you when you're gone. You say things that I say and if I don't say them, you say it by the time I finish thinking it. I love you, Melicia, and in my head we are friends. 🙂❤️
What in the matching father and son outfits. Soooooo cute!!! Anyways, the little cutie can stay with his parents. Kim is not ready for this and Usman is delirious. Jamal is an awesome guy. So level headed. Reality man! I know the parents are really traditional, but l respect they keep to their values. They know what they're doing. Sumit wants to have kids no matter what. 10 years obviously has changed things.
Usman was hoping Kim didn’t have someone in her life that could talk some sense into her. He wanted her weak and insecure with no outside influences but thank GOD for Jamal
Usman is beyond selfish, it's all about him. He's willing to do whatever it takes to come to America, even take his nephew from his home, his culture, just so he can get what he wants. So unbelievable to me. Shame on him. 🤬
I sprained my eyes when Kim said "Usman would make a wonderful father" I was side-eyeing her so hard. Because, nope. He would not. He's not a good brother, son, or boyfriend either.
He's not even a good person
Too self centered
Huh?? He is a good son brother cousin and man how disgusting of you to say that about someone you dont even know
How can he ask to take? his own brother kid her has no respect for him .
@@pritypantee9248 his words and actions tells It all... HE'S DISGUSTING.. WHAT we viewers see is what he puts out, which is DISGUSTING ✌🏾
I love that the dad and son are even dressed alike...and still Usman thinks this is a good idea 🤦🤦🤦
Lmao! Ikr 😭😭😂😂
LMAO, outta his mind. The baby is so cute w his dad. It’s actually sick even though it’s funny
So cute 😂😍🫶🏾
@@eternallyrising1673 That little boy is adorable!
I believe he feels he would be able to give the child a different experience and opportunity in the USA, but still….. The family is in tact and should leave it be. But this is a common practice in many cultures.
Usman laughing in Jamals face is another example of how he has no respect but loves to preach about it being given to him
He will fit right in over there in u.s.
Yup, sounds like an African man
Narcisism
@@fatuma2954 yup
Ok that’s Africans for you. My parents do the same thing.
Jamal is so respectful towards his mom. He’s sucking it up for his mother and even playing with Mahadi. This man is a gem. Not everyone are like that
She did raise a good young man ❤
Father raised jamal...and honestly, the fact that he continues to be his mom's soft landing over and over is weird! He has seen SO MANY men screw her over? C'mon....😏
It's sad he has to be the adult and the voice of reason for her. Real respect for him when he got serious with him @6:09 He's a very good son and man.
Trying to be the person everyone wasn't in his life
I thought so too but then I saw him on tell all single life. He's trash.
It’s Jamal’s business just cause he isn’t allowing his mom to be taking advantage of. We need more of Jamal of this show.
Facts, sis!
Facts !!!💯
say that more
Seen him on the single life tell all. Comes across as a f boy just like usman
Absolutely, He should have her back.
Melicia hits the nail on the head every time. She is smart beautiful witty and proud - I’m always happy to hear her doing voiceovers on other ET celebrity shows. I hope whoever is in her life treats her like the absolute QUEEN she is.
YAAAAS, absolute Queen 👑. I so enjoy this young lady 🥰
Melicia and Jamal ... I keep thinking they would make a beautiful couple!!!
@@resaboutb.9566 Jamal is with Veronica from the other show
I totally agree!
@@leti-o as in Coltee's wife Veronica?
Age really IS more than just a number. And cultural differences matter a lot, too. We adopted a 2 1/2 year old from the Philippines (husband Filipino American) from his friend. The friend knew we wanted to adopt and offered her to us. My husband went back and finished the adoption. I got there two weeks later and her mother had come and taken her back. A week after, her mother came crying and begging us to take her back. We did, but the little girl sat by the window for two weeks waiting for her mom to come back. It was heartbreaking. In the end, things worked out and we are so proud to call her our daughter! She is almost 21 now, in college and doing well. Anyway, when a child is already a toddler, it is very traumatic for them to be taken away from their parents. Little Mahadi would have a very hard time if they went through with this, as would his parents.
Thanks for sharing. I’m glad it all worked out
Wow my heart REALLY goes out to the biological mom in your story. It sounds like she struggled so much with the decision to relinquish custody of her baby girl to give her more opportunities in life 🥺
It would have been better to allow the child to visit her parents every year so she would know her family an culture that mother did not want to give her child away they may have just needed financial help
I was eight when my dad sent for me and it was very difficult! I was accustomed to a certain life and was spoiled by my mom and to be away from that was hard. I refused to eat the first few weeks. I
@@didilinda100 exactly my thoughts and not strip her off her identity. I’m so glad to see people do open adoptions these days. I grew up in an era where you will never be adopted but you were raised by family so you aren’t to far from your true self.
Melicia nailed it at 15:51. How could Usman adopting Mahadi *possibly* satisfy his mother?? Mahadi's *already* her grandson!!! How would switching his paternity to Usman ever make her happy?!? 🙄🙄🙄
Exactly 💯
I thought the samething. Glad someone else said it.
@@genagoldman8229 Agreed
Maybe usman is the real father of the boy you can never tell Nigerian guys lol
Maybe usman is the real father of the boy you can never tell Nigerian guys lol
Jamal is being an amazing son looking out for his mom....she's blessed to have him
And handsome as hell
But he isnt blessed to have her, though..
It's truly a miracle she raised such a smart, mature person, someone she's not 💀
Right , usman is mad as hell that Jamal is smart and level headed. It makes it more difficult for him to take advantage of kim.
@@ARS-fn6px she may be naive but seems like she’s a loving mom.
Jamal’s face during the meeting about the adoption had me screaming. He was looking like “Ma, please be forreal. What’re we doing here?”
Jamal is a very intelligent his mom needs to listen to him. It's sad when the son is the adult and Kim is like a toddler
Jamal is just the same as Usman, did you see the tell all? He is an f-boy. Meeting multiple woman, not serious about anyone.
🤣🤣🤣 Watch the tell All made me change my mind about him!
IS TRUE IS REALLY SAD EVERY BODY MAKES MISTAKES IN LIFE BUT KIMBERLEY , SO MANY REACTIONS ARE ON THE MEDIA SIDE GOOD ADVICE AND SO MANY BAD REACTION WHY DON'T YOU AS AN ADULT WOMAN CAN'T UNDERSTAND AND ALSO USE YOUR BRAIN KIMBERLEY YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME HE DOESN'T CARE OFF YOU
THE ONLY THING HE CARES OFF IS THE GREEN CARDS SEE NOW HOW FAR HE WON'T TOO GO HE WON'T TOO ADOPTED HIS BROTHER SON IS NOT NORMAL ONLY FOR THE GREEN CARDS YOU BETTER THINK DO YOU NOW THAT SONG YOU BETTER THINK , WE CAN'T UNDERSTAND YOU KIMBERLEY IAM SORRY
I could see he raised himself. She's definitely the child alway's in trouble gaslighting and saying how she would not but doe's anyway! She's weak ! No moral's or self respect! She's gonna waste her last dime on a man who uses her!
I have the feeling that sumit is having a change of heart. Now he realized he actually wants kids.
And a life
He's a young man; it's not surprising.
I don’t blame him
I get the feeling he wants kids for his parents approval
I feel it's just to get his mom to talk to him.
Low key Jenny is trying to isolate Sumit and that’s not healthy at all. She doesn’t want him to go to work, hang out with friends or have any children of his own.
Bingo
seriously
I have been done with Jenny. She's an old, selfish, spoiled, and very manipulative. She needs to make friends, find something to do.
I agree,,
Jenny's been in India a long time,yet she does not speak any of the language,,can not shop by herself,,
She has just had Sumit
24/7looking after her.
Then she is crazy upset
If he trys to make a more equal life
He could and should tell her before! that he is'nt sure about "to have a child or not".
As a Nigerian Melicia, I do want to say that it is common for relatives to “adopt” their siblings kids or other families kids. However in this case it’s just wrong cause Usman is clearly doing it for selfish interests as opposed to trying to provide the kid an better life.
Americans don't understand this, it's very common in all African countries
Kim's desperation is clouding her judgement.
OMG.
I thought the kid was an orphan. You can not take someone's kid.
This is so weird.
I love you Melicia
There are orphanages in Nigeria with children who would probably love a father. Why can't Usman adopt one of them?
The Mom wants Usman to have a child of his own blood.
Cause they are not blood.
Usman and Kimberly are selfish horrible people. How can you ask someone to give you their child! Jamal is such an intelligent caring man and trying to reason with his mother has to be so frustrating for him.
Kimberly is definitely selfish and she pisses me of trying to act like a goody two shoes. she manipulates with gifts. brings a gift to the kid she has a eye for and not the other child for mr. wanna be superstar!
@@gemeyes4845 I'm tired of the gift thing myself. Look at what direction shes forced herself into. Shes not gonna be able to stop this man from doing anything he wants to do.
I really loved Jamal on this episode. He had mamma's back 100% and believe me, she needs it because she's not thinking straight.
Absolutely
Knowing how little the importance of his own brothers son means to Usman, I'm not surprised he underestimates how important Jamals opinion and relationship is to Kim.
Thats a really good point.
Considering how Usman keeps implying he has to bend over backwards to keep his mom happy, it's so weird that he thinks Jamal is too involved for caring about his own mom... The hypocrisy is REAL.
He doesn’t like that Jamal looks out for Kim and can see right through USEman’s BS!
Jamal knows what’s up that’s why he says he is to much involve in his mom business
You are so right. Us man has to please his mom and Jamal cannot be there for his
Usmen has some nerve saying that Jamal is to much in his mom's business 🙄 and he can't handle it but he has his mother all in smh
Melicia giving relationship advice is everything ❤️❤️❤️ love her
My parents left me at 23 months in Africa and I still remember the day they left VIVIDLY ! It was the most traumatic moment in my toddler life. I came to America at 7 and our relationship is still awkward and I am 30+
I'm so sorry you went thru that. Its not right
That sounds wild! US citizens leave their kid in Africa??
😢
I can't watch the show anymore because it really upsets me
WOW! And your situation was REAL!! This is just reality TV...
My mom took me to her country when I was a toddler and my aunt asked my mom to leave me with her because she didn’t have any kids and was struggling after several miscarriages. My mom was also like HUH?? And I thank the good lord every day that she did not leave me with that woman. It’s absolutely absurd to ask a sibling for their child and to rip a child from their parents when there is no actual reason to do it other than your own selfish needs.
I think that it really speaks to how strong Jamal is to talk to Kim with such honesty ,and firmness because i don't think I could've confronted my mother like that in this situation.
They have matching outfits. That’s adorable. pls don’t take him away from his parents 😢
I know it’s a different culture but I absolutely hate how they’re planning on this sweet baby’a future as a pawn for their own selfish desires. Usman to appease his mother and Kim to appease Usman. They keep saying “he’s cute”…umm he is a human child not a toy! If his brother for one second thinks the child will get a better life in the U.S. he’s wrong. Kim & Usman are too caught up in their own stuff to prioritize a child. Idk where Jamal got the sense he’s shown us but it certainly isn’t from Kim!
This doesn't have a damn thing to do with culture....this is Use-Man being manipulative for entirely selfish reasons.
I believe this whole thing is planned by Usman family to get the boy to America to give him a better life. And they know that Kim will agree because she is desperate. In there culture, they of to have their own kids, not adopt from a family member who is alive and well. Usman mother is already the boy grandmother, this doesn’t make any sense, other than Usman family is looking for opportunities to come to America.
@@SonjaElizabethTeal That little boy sitting there smiling at Userman made me ill. Userman and TLC need to step back with these storylines.
@@SonjaElizabethTeal Yes it does ...African men are raised like this thinking everything is supposed to be given to them and if you never dated them or dealt with their tribes and families then you wouldn't know. Who said culture wasn't selfish and manipulative many tribes in Africa are. In many cases the women dont get to say a dammm thing while the man says and does whatever he wants and the family sees NO wrong in it.
I think Usman is disgusting honestly and I think the way he's going after his brother's son for his own selfish reasons is predatory. Don't like how he's looking at that sweet little boy. And if things go south with him and Kim and Mahadi is stuck in between in uncertainty, just no. Leave that child with his parents, he is obviously well taken care of.
Love love LOVE that you explained in simple terms, just because someone likes / loves you, doesn't mean you HAVE to force yourself to feel the same for them. Say it again, I am loveable!!! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Kim doesn’t seem to understand that she and Usman are coming at this relationship from two completely different cultures with two completely different expectations. Usman’s culture expects submission, and whether Kim realizes it or not she has been submissive. She starts out saying “No No No, I know my worth!” But Usman knows that if he waits her out and wears her down he will get what he wants. She WOULD HAVE been his second wife if he told her she had to. And I have a feeling that if push comes to shove Kim WILL convert to Islam if Usman says “If YOU want me to marry YOU this is what YOU have to do”. Kim says she has self worth but if Usman doesn’t see her worth and she doesn’t stand up for herself then she might as well lie down at his front door and let him wipe his feet on her.
Thank you. She been accommodating his every need even when it's something she doesn't want to do. Hopefully she'll listen to Jamal and come to her senses.
What you say is very true, she will continue to compromise unfortunately because she doesn't believe she can do better.
the grooming is REAL, however, it will turn into a huge fight eventually once he's made it to the U.S and runs loose which he will while there's nothing Kim and her son can do about it resentments will set it. People don't realize that once you bring them into this country and they run all over you ...immigration doesn't give an F..... in fact, they are granted more rights than YOU! I had to learn the hard way! Once he gets here he will be able to trample all over her as long as he's not committing a crime. Theres been many red flags with Usman and Kim is looking past them which is not good because once he get on U.S soil it will get worse and she will feel like she is submitting to trash and her freedom has been taken away believe me she will take her freedom back and he will turn against her to stay in U.S by looking for ways to get around being with her. This shyt is in its early stages.
"it is a normal experience for people too love me" that spoke volumes 💯
hes so selfish, he wants to take someone else's child away from his own advantage not even because he wants to give the kid a better life it gets harder and harder trying to watch Kim and usman
They are both desperate, Kim is desperate to be usman wife ,and usman is desperate to get the green can ,they don't care about the child , Kim is disgusting for going along with all this .
All usman cares about is his green card and he moves his pieces like a chess player and doesn't care that they are people not chess pieces
@@dianaphillips5631 AGREED
@@dianaphillips5631 I totally agree with you.
The way Usman “sucks teeth” and mocking grin when Jamal tries to explain how much his mom is accommodating him...
Usman: "if you don't understand why you're here, you can pack your bags and go" (because you're here to be MY WAY to America, I don't care about you Kim, you're here to get me to America and that's all I care about. - Usman under his breath)
Melicia is the friend that we all need💯
Yes!
Every time Usman pushes Kimberly’s limits, she continues to stay with him. The way Usman takes this situation lightly (like he asking to borrow a lawnmower) tells me Kim is going to be the one raising that child. She to start having some respect for herself.
Kim is disgusting 😒
No she won't because as soon as he gets his green card he doesn't have to stay married to her and I 100% tell you he won't and he will take his nefew with him and leave her just like Mohammed left Danielle.
@@Gaby-cq8pr he said he want to be the biggest rapper in USA ..
She will convert for him also.
@@Gaby-cq8pr Yep!!!! she gonna learn the hard way! Once he gets here she has no control over him and immigration is not gonna care what he does to her as long as hes not committing crime.
Melicia is becoming one of my most favorite people on the planet! So self aware and smart with a touch of caring.
I just wanna hug Kim and tell her she is loved, she doesn't need him.
Sometimes that isn't enough unless it comes from a guy she loves and until she realizes it is she'll keep making mistakes. I've been there and I'm learning that loving me is important and God's love is the best. Bit by bit I'm getting better and no longer dealing with things that don't serve me.
Kim is different lmao. Sitting there shaking her head knowing it’s a bad idea 😂😂😂 he doing anything for that green card
but she's willing to run with the kid if given to satisfy her maggot.
She doesn’t dare speak up to him or he threatens to leave. Even after she throws wine in his face, then she’s back apologizing and kissing up again. I’d have been outta there so fast after first meeting him, he’d wonder if I had been an apparition!
Good afternoon
Omg I can't believe the parents are considering it! Lol nooo keep your beautiful child
All for the show to push Usman's scam and to keep him on TV.
It’s common in African culture to raise your sibling’s child.
Agreed ! 😩
The fact he asked his brother to give up his first born son 😂
Not that it’s a better choice but asking for the new(er) born baby would make more sense
Uhm where did he said that 🤔.. I thought this was an older brother, with a very young looking wife to be his first born... I think it's his second wife.
@@bellaxin I am confused as to what you’re asking ?
I wish Kimberley would have some self respect and dump his ass cos he keep on lying and it's clear he's using her to go to America and I feel bad for that little boy being dragged into all this mess 🙃
She is in love with the african D, did you forget how she was begging for sex, when he was in her hotel room. This women will everything what this guy is asking for.
I agree 👍 Kim is starting to disgust me now 😒
He doesn't need her to get to America. He's got plenty of women who want him.
@@dianaphillips5631 me too. She needs to snap out of the Usman love spell, and get out of there!
But he can’t get a nice person like kim she has a good heart
Usman's nephew is absolutely gorgeous!
Yes he is the Cutest little boy ever🥰🥰
Usman is so disappointing and so irresponsible, how can he not discuss this adoption thing with his brother instead of putting him and his family on the spot like that, in all of this mess my heart goes out to Jamal, it’s just too much bull 💩 for nothing Kim need to dump Usman he’s no good for her😕
USMAN IS FULL OF CRAP HE IS NEVER GOING TO BE SERIOUS WITH NOBODY ❤ HE JUST GET OLDER WHITE WOMEN TOO TAKE CARE OF HIM!!!!💯
Usermanis such a joke... he doesn't speak with his brother about this plan to adopt his son, he tells her to buy a cow and then leave sher out to dry when thry say it is bribery...etc. smh
Because it's his son
thats how the typical African man thinks ...they are raised like this extremely entitled giving the minimum back. They love the ego too much even when they go into other countries they refuse to change but force their culture or way of life on you.
Kim said she knows Usman loves her if she considers the way he treats her the way he manipulates her calls her old and ugly if she considers that love I would hate see the other men in her life..maybe TLC is paying them a lot of money but no amount of money is her putting herself down
You're one of the best presenter's I've ever seen. Your energy is so captivating 👌
The way the child is looking the whole time...sooooo innocent, and then that smile when Usman asked to have him was so precious
🤗🤗🤗
Mahadi is adorable. 🥰💕
Kid doesn't understand English. Lol. He just thears his name. He doesn't know what's going on there. He looks happy in his mamma's arms.
@@lnaph Thank you. He's sitting safe and secure with his parents and smiling because he hears his name. I hope Usman and Kim don't get their grubby paws on that sweet child.
Just a suspicion. The kid look soooo much like him. I think he did it the other way around. Made his brother adopt his baby because he has an ongoing career as a “single” rapper to keep his reputation but also supports his “kid” from Kimberly’s money. Pretends to “adopt” the child to be with his son.
@@lnaph usman was not speaking english lol
This little Boy has GOT to be the Cutest, Sweetest little boy I've ever seen.....I hope they don't let Usman & Kim adopt him. He is too precious....❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏
He has two parents. He isn't isn't orphan. Let him grow up with his mom and dad.
@@lnaph Exactly 💯
@@lnaph She said I hope they DON'T let Usman & Kim adopt him
@@daisysunshine7852 ah okay. :) adjusted my comment accordingly.
Not going to happen. This show is fake
Kim raised her son very well…but it seems like when it comes to men, she loses her mind a little 😅. She also seems like a sweet person, I hope she find someone who will cherish her like she deserves 🥺
What makes you think she raised him? probably her mother she was busy chasing maggots under rocks. thats why Jamal had to raise himself and grow maturity quick. she's an airhead and manipulative. Herman monster is needy!
Kids with parents like these often raise themselves and look at their parents as examples if what not to do. It's not the fact that she "raised him well". He raised himself parents don't deserve all the credit.
If I'm 50 or 60 plus, I do not want to have any boy drama. I stopped crying over a relationship and love the minute I became a mom. I can't add anymore stress and problem in my life.
Not only is Jamal soo fine😍but also soo wise😊
Kimberly is not done she wants love so bad that she is neglecting her own needs!! I need Jamal to take her to get counseling ASAP!!!
Can we talk about Jamal making an unexpected appearance on the 3rd part of the Single Life reunion today?? Definitely didn’t expect that side of him lol
I adore you and look forward to your recaps every week. Your real life infusions are powerful AF
I watch YT alot.... I don't have cable TV 😜 ... and I have to say that this woman is literally the most beautiful, funny, relatable and friendly UA-camr ever! I ♥️ this beautiful soul!
Leave Mahadi alone!!!!
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Justice for Mahadi !
I don’t trust usman.
Can we pause for a moment and appreciate Melicia and her commentary - she is so relatable (ha! - and the shout out to her mom… I felt that 😅)
8:10, that look, he looks worried for his mom
Usman is making promises he might not be able to keep. He’s never been to America and he doesn’t know how difficult it is to live and work here. He’s telling his brother that he’ll provide his nephew with the best education and that he’ll want for nothing. What skills does he have aside from singing, because those promises require big money. The entire situation is just terrible.
“We were thinking”. Lol he got a lot of nerve!
I really love the matching outfits with Mohammad and his son.
It's common in Nigeria
Love your commentary! Thanks for being genuine. This story gets crazier and crazier. Usman and Kim are delusional. I agree it's extremely disrespectful to his brother to insinuate Usman could be a better parent!
Golden words!
Damn Jamal is hitting every point fr . I commend him for trying to protect his Momma heart 🫶
Im sorry but I feel like Jenny is selfish and quite delusional. That relationship is never going to work. They have too big of an age gap. Jenny wants a person that is retired and wants to releax in their older days. Meanwhile Sumit is in her prime, still working, still hanging around his friends, having fun, exploring life. And even might want to have kids someday. She is surrprised that he changed his mind about having kids? They met when he was in his early 20s? His brain wasnt even fully developed, ofcourse he can change his mind.
😳😳😳Usman is just too much🤦♀️ Jamal take your Mom home
Jamal sees something his mom doesn’t
Kimberly,you deserve so much better.
omg kim's son such a good person and looking out for his mom. is it me or all 90 day fiance kids are smart and knows whats right for their parents and have more common sense.
It is definitely not you lol.
We are just thankful that thier apples fell FAR from their trees!
Sad the kids are basically raising the parents nowadays.
Like Darcy daughters
Did you see Jamal on the single life tell all? Lol
So far, all the kids have more sense than their crazy parents.
Watching Melicia is always a pleasure! I would love to see more segments from her and when she said “It is normal for people to like me. It is normal for people to love me.” That literally hit my soul. I just love sis 💕
@travonna T. Them gems she gave hit my soul too.
Loveeeee you girl you're recaps are always the best
Always
If I was a mother sitting across from another stating she going to take my child to another country, we would be going to the smack down hotel right here and now period.
It's the surprise on his brother's to face me 🤣🤣🤣
Kim’s “absolutely not” today, will be an “Im considering it” tomorrow, and a “yes” in about two weeks..
Wow, solid advice from Melicia! Honestly going to start using those affirmations!
Oh thanks for clarifying about the sister wives part in the USA.
Much appreciated with thanks.
Hugs from the country of Singapore ❤️❤️❤️
Kim, I'm Nigerian 🇳🇬 RUN GIRL RUN!!! 🏃🏽♀️💨
PS: PLEASE don't stay in a relationship just because of the time, effort or money you have put into it! Cut your losses and RUN.
I swear i look forward to Melicia comments every time lol love her
Melicia is hilarious😂😂😂. like talking with a friend each episode.
THIS is what narcisism looks like. No regard for anyone but himself. Not Kim, but also not his brother and not even a child that happens to be his own nephew. The trauma the child will endure by having to leave his parents and his home to fullfill the selfish needs of Usman and his gf. It probably never crossed Usmans mind what the effects of adopting any child are.
And for what? For a freaking greencard and some stupid music career.
Fantastic comment. So selfish and hurting so many people including an innocent child.
Not Kim?? Ur absolving Kim of any responsibility in these decisions she is just going along with? People like that scare me…they are the ones that will sit by & watch someone get hurt & say but I didn’t do it, so I shouldn’t be blamed…No way! She’s older & she should know better! Doing all this bullshit jst so she can have a younger black guy! She is 100% jst as bad as Usman….have u ever seen the show “For my man”…where a woman will do the unthinkable just 4 the guy in her life, no matter how horrible it is
@@jeanakatherine9369 No one is absolving Kim, it is a comment about Usman. Kim is desperate for love and blinded, i actually feel sorry for her. Being desperate sadly makes you lose all senses. Kim looks to me like a nice lady who has raised a wonderful son in Jamal who is a credit to her. Her desperation has made her lose focus on reality and she now vulnerable to exploitation. Usman is an extremely manipulative man.
@@tamaranyasha1830 I don’t feel sorry for a grown woman who chooses to follow a man who’s clearly scamming her…it’s not like she doesn’t hv people around her trying to help her make better decisions…for crying out loud…she won’t listen to anyone else’s advice & now she’s willing to be involved in taking a perfectly good child away from his family solely to please a man! Where does it end then? What if Usman wanted her to commit crimes? She’d go along with it…& then what..she’s willing to hurt other people just for the benefit of having this man…that is not someone to feel sorry for
Melicia I do feel like we're friends. Hey girl hey🙋🏾♀️. Am I the only one that just watches these recaps to keep up with the show??
Thank you, Melicia, for the wisdom you shared near the ending!
I would of said “are you outta your damn mind?! “
Great recaps alway melcia your honesty ,and thought is one of best the reasons we love you bestie ❤.
If Jamal had burst out laughing in Usman's face when they were sitting by the pool, it'd have been perfectly reasonable.
Mahadi face @ 0:32 like "hell naw ninja"😂😂😂
You are the best Melicia ... Hugs and love from Australia 🇦🇺
Jamal should be added to the wall of 90 day MVPs!
Melicia, you say what we are all thinking. Spot on. Oh btw Usman is 💯% using her for green visa🥴
Remember he said he want to become the biggest rapper in USA
I believe deep down inside Kimberly knows exactly what happens here, but she seems to be the type of person who gets defensive when someone pointing out their fault. The more other people tell her that she's wrong, and telling her what to do, the more she reject the idea. Sadly ,she needs to snap out of it herself.
The kid have parents. How dare you to ask that.
Yes ma'am, come on with the 90 Days fan fam!! I look forward to your uploads every week and I miss you when you're gone. You say things that I say and if I don't say them, you say it by the time I finish thinking it. I love you, Melicia, and in my head we are friends. 🙂❤️
Mahadi is too cute! He deserves a whole dish of banana pudding!
Jamal is definitely the voice of reasoning. He's so mature. I hope he makes more appearances in the show.
What in the matching father and son outfits. Soooooo cute!!!
Anyways, the little cutie can stay with his parents. Kim is not ready for this and Usman is delirious. Jamal is an awesome guy. So level headed. Reality man!
I know the parents are really traditional, but l respect they keep to their values. They know what they're doing. Sumit wants to have kids no matter what. 10 years obviously has changed things.
Love your speech on self love in here !! Needed to hear that today ! 🙌🏼
At this point, Kim is watching the same show we are watching firsthand. She chose this dude. She has a whole lot more tears to cry unfortunately.
Usman was hoping Kim didn’t have someone in her life that could talk some sense into her. He wanted her weak and insecure with no outside influences but thank GOD for Jamal
Definitely trouble in paradise with Sumit and Jenny🤔
Usman is beyond selfish, it's all about him. He's willing to do whatever it takes to come to America, even take his nephew from his home, his culture, just so he can get what he wants. So unbelievable to me. Shame on him. 🤬
I want Melicia to be my life coach!! She drops gems every episode!!!
U are so smart Melicia.. Always hitting the point right!