Wife Wants Divorce & Does Not Believe in My Changes (The Paradox of Change)

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  • @GeoffreySetiawan
    @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому +7

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      @peterfichtner1 Рік тому

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    @Mikehighlyfavored 3 роки тому +51

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    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

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      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

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    @sgomez1527 Рік тому +9

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  • @matthewbarrett176
    @matthewbarrett176 2 роки тому +35

    I'm not a rich man, so I can't afford your course but I deeply want to fix my marriage. I have literally watch everyone of your videos.

    • @serveandpleaseiguess
      @serveandpleaseiguess Рік тому +7

      Same. 4 grand is outrageous to ask of desperate men seeking help. I just sat through 1.5 hours of stuff to only realize I can’t afford it providing for myself and my family, staying somewhere else, eating somewhere else every day. It’s not that it’s not that important ,because it is. But my kids have to eat.

    • @Thearchetype12
      @Thearchetype12 Рік тому +1

      Do they not offer payment plans?

    • @matthewbarrett176
      @matthewbarrett176 Рік тому +2

      @Thearchetype12 haha this was 1 year ago, man. I have worked a lot on myself since then. The ex didn't want to come back. She is now with another really low-level guy, and I'm with a smoking hot Italian girl. Good thing I never spent 1c on the ex. 😜

    • @rafydeez2
      @rafydeez2 Рік тому +1

      Yes they offer payment plans

    • @Thearchetype12
      @Thearchetype12 Рік тому +3

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  • @aceshi3173
    @aceshi3173 9 місяців тому +1

    Spoke with Jason Newman,and this guy is LEGIT.Will be calling Jason soon.

  • @MrJeanpaul1988
    @MrJeanpaul1988 Рік тому +4

    Dear people, Everyone should place a reaction under his videos! This channel should be number one in youtube when it comes to relationships issues. Geoffrey thank you for your effort, analytical thinking and great animations!

  • @justdewit
    @justdewit 3 роки тому +15

    Thanks for reassuring me that progress can go downhill. I was making really good progress with my wife and I had a bad evening and said some things. I think the key here is not to throw my hands up and let all of my efforts go to waste. I think I just need to reset and keep going

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

      Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

      I can connect you to someone who helped me attract my ex partner back to me after separation

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    • @Jake.tm_politics
      @Jake.tm_politics 5 місяців тому

      How did it work out?

  • @balupremjith7579
    @balupremjith7579 2 роки тому +11

    Thank you for making this content, I am at this break through. I failed her many times, because of stubbornness, fear, lack of confidence, self esteem you name it. I want to change my self, I can't afford to lose her.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому +1

      Love it! Let's go! If you would like to learn even more please come join me in my free 90 min master class.
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    • @Rbear266
      @Rbear266 2 роки тому

      Man I am going through it and it feels like a minefield… what happened did you guys end up together?

  • @fifis101
    @fifis101 2 роки тому +2

    Coming across as fake and sounding like a therapist is my biggest worry. She's just going to think I'm up to something and shut down even further. You explaination was so good. Such a clear way to put it. It's going to be hard in the valley but just look forward to the incline and improvement.

  • @ebonhawkarmory5531
    @ebonhawkarmory5531 Рік тому +2

    Man, I got her to believe the changes I made. Last night she said she needed a divorce. She said I’d changed, but it was too late. There was just too much pain and resentment to overcome.

  • @rickycarter8892
    @rickycarter8892 8 місяців тому

    I can't even begin to tell you how much just the free information has helped me. Breaking this video down into notes really put alot into perspective for me. It's amazing to me that the information is so challenging. And In a single video.

  • @victoriaoshea4865
    @victoriaoshea4865 Рік тому +1

    This video is very important now I Have a tool to use when my partner puts app external resistance to my new way of being.
    Thank you Geoffrey.

  • @xyzpandit
    @xyzpandit 4 місяці тому

    Every time I watch your video, it always boils down to innate human nature. People want to embrace change, but they have to fight their own natural tendency to resist it. Not only do we all have to go through a valley of resistance, but the only thing that helps us through is not just our own definition of ourselves, but also our strong conviction to change.

  • @millsa99
    @millsa99 8 днів тому

    I love your work but if I play you at 0.75 speed I learn so much more.

  • @gonefishingisbad4758
    @gonefishingisbad4758 2 роки тому +2

    I'm not married but alot of your videos can be used in life and relationships in general, they help me coup and also understand my ex partner more. I'm trying to get them back but if it doesn't work out then i have this new mindset for my next partner.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому +1

      Hi Gonefishingisbad,
      Yes, nearly everything I teach can be applied in life and other relationships in general.
      All of my clients experience better relationships in work, friends, family and in children.
      Check out this amazing interview below with Liam where he expresses learning these very same skills and how it has changed everything in his life, not just his marriage.
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  • @jjmartinez8979
    @jjmartinez8979 3 роки тому +5

    I’m trying to change but failing hard every time things are getting a bit better my controlling mentality takes over and I can’t just let her be, I’m tired of being that person.

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому +1

      Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

      I can connect you to someone who helped me attract my ex partner back to me after separation

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      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

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  • @christianlamb
    @christianlamb 3 роки тому

    Powerful Geoffrey! Hard enough dealing with this resistance yourself, but when you're trying to help clients through this resistance then this type of clear info is so necessary. Thx!!🔥🔥❤❤

  • @DeoHosa
    @DeoHosa 3 роки тому +4

    Hello, Mr. Setiawan. Thank you for your succinctly put videos, as always.
    It’s been 8 months since my break-up and while I’ve gradually felt and been doing better, more positive such that I even got cleared by my psychiatrist after the whole treatment thing, it didn’t bring her back. It’s okay though, not everything has to go my way. I’m just soldiering on with my life and cherishing the good memories that I have.
    I have to admit though, now I can’t even feel attraction for the opposite sex. I don’t know if this is chemical or psychological related (been off medication for almost a month). It’s been a rollercoaster for the last few months.

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

      Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

      I can connect you to someone who helped me attract my ex partner back to me after separation

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

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    • @joestafford3487
      @joestafford3487 3 роки тому +1

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  • @victoriaoshea4865
    @victoriaoshea4865 Рік тому

    10:53. I think it is easier for me to focus on the reasons why... What makes me change my behavior in the heated moments
    Is the principles , the reasoning
    that works for .
    I can't memorize tactics

  • @victoriaoshea4865
    @victoriaoshea4865 Рік тому

    14:13 VALLEY OF RESISTANCE 😮
    that's tough
    Don't let having get in the way of changing the proper correct behavior

  • @fatboycarnivore8649
    @fatboycarnivore8649 Рік тому

    I tried to join the Facebook group but it did not work.... I packed a bag today to walk out but had a change of heart...I now alot of our issues are my issues alone and he reflecting it back to me....

  • @Thanayreviews
    @Thanayreviews Рік тому +1

    Facebook group is no available now

  • @antoniovega1923
    @antoniovega1923 3 роки тому +3

    My wife left me 6 months ago, shut herself off from all communication and finally contacted me today to let me know she will be filing for divorce papers and expects me to sign them. She refused to talk and when I brought up about the possibility of taking time to try to resolve things she hung up on me....
    I’ve tried the no contact rule... I haven’t spoken with or seen her in months.... I try to reaching out to her to let her know that the door is always open to talk... I’m just so lost... should I just give up and sign the papers?
    I really want to work this out, but what’s the honorable thing to do?

    • @tracyrose8829
      @tracyrose8829 3 роки тому +1

      Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean

    • @tracyrose8829
      @tracyrose8829 3 роки тому

      I can connect you to someone who helped me attract my ex partner back to me after separation

    • @tracyrose8829
      @tracyrose8829 3 роки тому

      What.xap

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      @tracyrose8829 3 роки тому

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    • @tb87670
      @tb87670 Рік тому

      Any update?

  • @victoriaoshea4865
    @victoriaoshea4865 Рік тому

    14:34 Change expectations of growth

  • @edgargrimaldo6665
    @edgargrimaldo6665 3 роки тому +1

    Well I wish I can save mine.. been months haven’t spoke to her Or my kids but once a week ago she completely avoids me and contact with me..says she is to hurt been 4 months she walked out on me we had a home and everything..but my mistake is to big so idk how to come back from it.. I feel good learned to forget and concentrated on myself and how to be better. And had the time to accept my mistakes and what was the landslide of my marriage and we’re it went wrong and why? But my mistake she won’t forgive me she said all that when she left. She still doesn’t wanna see me she avoids me and she says she is still hurt and We haven’t really talked. Let alone I didn’t even talk about meeting or the breakup just said hello when she called and how she been..

  • @jamesevans2286
    @jamesevans2286 6 місяців тому +1

    ❤❤❤❤❤YOU CANT MAKE SOMEONE STAY IN A MARRIAGE IF THE MARRIAGE ONLY INVOLVES AND REVOLVES AROUND 1 SPOUSE ONLY❤❤❤❤❤

  • @INVADETV
    @INVADETV 3 роки тому +1

    I'm finding my wife is at loggerheads of resolving the new me compared to the old me. I had a flight mechanism in me which isn't in me anymore. She wants us to live seperately, but I'm holding strong. We have a 4 y/o daughter. She needs emotional space now so giving space. I'm thinking wait for her to reach out so I'm not pushy or needy. I would love to be involved in your program but Covid has crippled me financially.

    • @danielgodwin6263
      @danielgodwin6263 3 роки тому

      If you seriously need your ex back there is a very easy way of getting her back

    • @danielgodwin6263
      @danielgodwin6263 3 роки тому

      I thought i had lost mine forever until i meet someone who helped me

    • @FlawleZ31
      @FlawleZ31 2 роки тому

      How are things now? I'm in a similar situation with a 4 yr old son. :-(

  • @victoriaoshea4865
    @victoriaoshea4865 Рік тому

    13:51. BEING, DOING HAVING

  • @TericoHarper
    @TericoHarper Рік тому

    The ice cube problem really got through to me.

  • @Olalentrepreneur
    @Olalentrepreneur Рік тому

    frameworks, mindset, identity shifting

  • @dr_hannibal_-drh534
    @dr_hannibal_-drh534 3 роки тому +2

    Tried your methods. Turns out she had already moved on to someone new. It was somewhat of a wasted effort on my part. Still sound advice for those with a chance.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому +2

      I am sorry you are guided by your own limiting belief! Most of our clients are in this situation, and they turn out just fine :)

    • @dr_hannibal_-drh534
      @dr_hannibal_-drh534 3 роки тому +4

      @@GeoffreySetiawan I changed for me. So I took your advice. Not saying your methods were bad. She is just a poor human being. Not worth my time.

    • @ddamazona
      @ddamazona 3 роки тому

      @@dr_hannibal_-drh534 Use everything you learned for someone else worth it

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

      @@dr_hannibal_-drh534 Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

      I can connect you to someone who helped me attract my ex partner back to me after separation

  • @Dim4ik2012
    @Dim4ik2012 2 роки тому

    sounds good. too bad I can't afford a personal training. But I will keep changing and bee - do - have

  • @mcdonnellpadraic
    @mcdonnellpadraic 5 місяців тому

    Has the Facebook group been deleted?

  • @cameronjoyce6545
    @cameronjoyce6545 3 роки тому +3

    I’m not able to see her right now just barely able to text with her she said she didn’t want to try with me any more after 3 weeks of no contact later after some questions I asked if she was just done with me and she said I don’t know so there actually was a little improvement through our conversation that was 2 days ago since then I have texted her and she has replied and I’ve kept it pretty light just waiting for the next step to try making her feel safe again

  • @Werewolf0216
    @Werewolf0216 3 роки тому +3

    Why can’t it be both, instead of either/or - that is, I want to change for myself and for her.

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

      Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

      I can connect you to someone who helped me attract my ex partner back to me after separston

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      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

      What.sApp

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      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

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  • @bnewman3712
    @bnewman3712 Рік тому

    what questions do you ask your partner? like what

  • @Youtuber-lv6eh
    @Youtuber-lv6eh Рік тому

    Man. This is good advice. BUT change comes from the inside. Just leave her. Never be depended on someone else.

  • @davidbailey1718
    @davidbailey1718 3 роки тому +1

    Love this guy

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

      Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

      I can connect you to someone who helped me attract my ex partner back to me after separation

    • @obajeomale1545
      @obajeomale1545 3 роки тому

      What.sApp

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  • @joesottilare609
    @joesottilare609 2 роки тому

    Let her make changes

  • @justinclark1182
    @justinclark1182 2 роки тому

    What happens when your wife suffered severe depression and you didn't see it and I was working too hard coz we have sons and she asked for space and immediately slept with someone else, and continues to do do so. 😔😔😔 Suicidal 😔

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому

      Hi Justin Clark,
      Check out this story below. I think you will find it very helpful and it will show you, that you are not alone.
      Many of the students I work with had found themselves in the very same circumstances that you are now facing currently.
      ua-cam.com/video/FoxjQ_NCuVo/v-deo.html

  • @frugalgems5242
    @frugalgems5242 3 роки тому

    I would seriously pay you to coach individually is this an option?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому

      Hi Frugal Gems,
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  • @peymanestalkhi
    @peymanestalkhi 4 місяці тому

    I dont have money to affoed your course.

  • @victoriaoshea4865
    @victoriaoshea4865 Рік тому

    Have to " see" beyond the visible

  • @TheColtonStreeter
    @TheColtonStreeter Рік тому

    I, just, don't like people, at all.

  • @raybo55
    @raybo55 10 місяців тому

  • @obaidsyed5854
    @obaidsyed5854 3 роки тому

    Hey bro need your help she don't wanted to come back am trying my best from last 27 day's but she said that's her final decision...what to do now?

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      @_beanswick2054 3 роки тому +1

      If you’re in it for a quick fix it’s not gonna work like that you need to learn how to do the process and not be a product

    • @obaidsyed5854
      @obaidsyed5854 3 роки тому +1

      @@_beanswick2054 she's a very stubborn person and the other problem is long distance relationship what I do now

    • @davidbailey1718
      @davidbailey1718 3 роки тому +2

      I'm in the program, wife wanted me out of her life and memory 11 months ago. I'm back home and she feels safe enough to tell me everything. The program is foolproof

    • @_beanswick2054
      @_beanswick2054 3 роки тому

      Get some great information from one of his other videos

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