It is day to day, especially with sorting, organizing & getting rid of lots of items preparing for a cross country move before the end of the year. 😳 I do get to the point where I may literally say out loud "Okay, you've done enough for today." Then maybe relaxing in our Jacuzzi, watching TV, napping...😊❤️. Thank you for this content. I am working on the continuation of this in my life. ❤
I am so grateful to have found this channel. Im so excited I just realized I have entered a new season and I am ready to let go of so much. I had never thought of my life as seasons and it appeals so much. I just went through my clothes I got rid of 3 bags! My closet and dresser are so clean! My brain already feels so much better! I think that the busyness vs true productivity was a really great point. I do feel its just like well if I keep moving I’m being productive.
As a minimalist and a mom to be this October, I absolutely love your channel! I used to struggle with perfectionism and hustle culture, and I am now trying to practice slow and intentional living while I transition into my new season of being a mom. Your videos speak to me so much, thank you!💕
Hurry culture is a great point! Also makes me think of essentialism, not making a crazy, hectic schedule just for the sake of busyness, instead learning to say “no” and do only what matters most.
Sheesh such a good word! I’m a mama of 4 and have struggled with the mentality of thr hustle and hurry culture for sure, but I’ve been praying for God to show me how to slow down. Even my sabbaths were planned out and so hard to just be and be present with my family. I believe this is how we stand apart from this world and it’s extremely encouraging to see someone else live it out and be honest about the journey. Thank you so much for sharing and love the content! I’m here for it ☺️
This video was so wonderful and helpful. I feel like I am exactly the same way and am guilty of doing all the things you mention. I’m really trying to declutter more, slow down and just focus on the one thing that is going on in the moment. So glad I found your channel. I feel like I have a lot in common with you in the sense of people pleasing and constantly rushing through everything just to check off another box on the list. It’s really hard for me to slow down so I loved to hear your tips on things to do to try to change these habits that have been instilled in me.
thank you so much for producing videos like this. I am 23, unmarried, and do not have a boyfriend either. I has been an overachiever for over 3 years. I've accomplished so much and my peers always admire for what I have done so far. However, from the inside, I always wish someone saw me as my pure self, not my professional version. It is hard to completely turn myself back to where I used to be carefree, but I find myself losing productivity pressure over time thanks to videos like yours
THIS VIDEO IS AN ANSWER FROM GOD TONIGHT ...can't thank you enough..I will be sharing with my husband so he can understand what I'm going thru ...pray for me girl...praying for you
I struggled with this as I see other stay at home moms do things from home to make money or a side business or doing things to bring in money as they near empty-nest. My youngest is 17 and I was reaching out to try to do things and nothing was working. I got sad after another shut door. I was crying and my husband came home and said what wrong. I told him how I felt and my struggle and said I don’t know what to do with my life. He said we don’t need more money. Why did I think I needed to bring in more money? Because that’s what other women were doing. 🤦🏻♀️ I have likes and hobbies. I just don’t need to turn them into a money making activity 🙌🏼 I just need to do what I love and invite other women along with me 😊 ❤ Thank you! It’s ok to let go of ideas. To just be.
I really relate to this! I attempted when my daughter was a lot younger and had this moment and a very similar conversation with my husband. It's very easy to feel pressured instead of called to things with comparison
I started copying comments into my journal and then realised I basically just need to add the transcript of this video into it. 😆So many "yes, that's me!!". I realised I was actually making decisions against what I wanted for our family because I felt guilty we were slowly stepping back and making decisions for the health of our family - because what right do I have to do that when others are still hustling and hurrying?! This is quite a journey to still ourselves before our Creator God, isn't it? So many lies to unpick, so many things to discover. I have appreciated this channel greatly, especially the timing with my own journey. Thank you!
This was really good! I have found your channel not long ago. I love it! When I was pregnant with twins (my 3rd and 4th kids) I was ready to let go of many things and just simplify our small apartment. I felt so overwhelmed all the time. And when the twins were born, and I got stronger again, I started to minimize even more. I got rid of soooo many things. I simplified my wardrobe as well. And my goodness, amazing! My day to day life has been so much easier, less stressful. It takes me less then 5 minutes per room to clean up every room! I love it! Definitely am working on living more intentional and slow tho hehehe
Oh my goodness I want to keep watching this over and over! So. Good. And every bit of it spoke to me...I find that I feel like I need to list off the things I accomplished to my husband to make myself feel good about the day (not in anyway because of him but because of my mindset). I have found myself feeling the need to prove myself to my mom who can't stop working for anything....I'm done with that now. You were spot on with the need to feel productive being tied to people pleasing...I feel that one so much. Thank you for this video. It was such a an encouragement ❤️
This was so good! I am and have always been a Mary but I have been listening to the critical Martha voices that tell me that I'm not doing enough and that I need to do it all the Martha way. I really needed this mindset reset. It's hard to be a Mary in a Martha world.
Yes to this! Also the Proverbs 31 woman has been taunting me in the past. But I heard Paul Washer tell a story when his wife pointed out to him that it’s describing all the different stages in this woman’s life, there is no way she was having small children and going out to do business at the same time. It made a lot of sense.
@@VappuRechardt yes and she also had help and she delegated and managed! But I love that she rolled up her sleeves and was eager to start her work for the day!
I think the entire list applies to me! Been praying for wisdom in all these areas for years but maybe I need to slow down to actually hear His quiet voice. The irony! 😅 Been minimizing for years also but clutter creeps in with 5 kiddos and my hubbie. But giving myself grace and hopefully growing through the process. Less really is more. 💚 Thanks for the content! I've always seen myself as a "Martha striving to be Mary"!
loved the concept of silent todo list as it related to seeing things on social and then being liek oh i need that or oh i need to try that or remember that or buy that - list goes on and on and on
I consume a lot of declutter content and just watched a couple of your vids and they are so concise and nice to listen to! I’m inspired all over again. My fave point was about the silent to do list because I have often heard the phrase ‘a cluttered house is a cluttered mind’ but the silent to do list way better explains that point.
I saw your message yesterday that you were posting a video today…felt like Christmas Eve! Loved the talk about cycles. Also, I always feel so much better when I give up social media, so what you said about taking on other people’s to do lists, makes so much sense!
Can you do a day in the life video where you show how you fit those moments of slowness throughout the day while still getting things done? I’m struggling with every day just being a to-do list and it weighs on my mind all day.
Thank you so much for this ! I have put things in perspective also and stopped rushing around and constantly on the go. I enjoy my time with God first, walks, etc… enjoy the mundane and everything in between. 😊
Beautiful message. I first received this message from The Latest Kate, an encouraging mental health author/illustrator: Rest is productive. 🤯 Not just sleeping. Rest is a key component of productivity. It's backed by studies that overall productivity is higher when regular breaks are included.
This video was so good! I didn't realize just how much I was equating people-pleasing with love, worth, security and control! Especially in my marriage... Some of your other videos helped me really see that and I have been actively reframing those thoughts and expectations. But like you said it's a journey! Thank you so much for the encouragement!
This was amazing and so helpful. Thank you! #2 made me cry lol and I resonated a lot with each tip. Excited to take a look at my life and where I can improve. ❤
Loved this! I see a lot of similarities in my personality and life with how you were before. Any recommendations for students on how to implement these habits? There always seems to be an endless amount of work or studying that I could be doing.
I totally agree. I honestly feel like that doesn't change, in terms of running my home, motherhood, or even youtube. I feel like there will always be the temptation to never stop and keep going, I wish i would have established some of these as a college student, made stricter boundaries for myself etc. Because i thought it would stop when i wasn't a student but it didn't really!
I love this. It’s like getting permission to not be a chicken with my head cut off. I hate wearing too many hats and being busy with things I don’t like.
Hello Jessica! Thank you very much for this wonderful video. I really need to hear this, epecially, the point about the destination mindset. I I am struggling with letting go of this mindset but don’t really know how to go about it. Would you mind sharing some resources that helped you recover from this mindset, please? And thank you so much : )
I feel like de-programming the busyness mindset takes daily practice. What are some small habits or ways you remind yourself to slow down and to be content where you are? ❤
This is such a great questions, I'm thinking of making a video about small ways I slow down and cultivate contentment, my biggest one right now is really resisting rushing. minimizing my schedule so I don't have to rush. It PHYSICALLY makes me go slower, and I find when I am always late or rushing and have too much on my plate it is near impossible for me to live more presently
I love your videos! Can you mention some slow living/minimalism/motherhood books that don’t have a Christian undertone to it. I get that you’re one but can you recommend some neutral ones because I’m of a different religion. I’m ok with a little sometimes it gets overwhelming to me. This happened when I read Boundaries. I really need to learn how to set them but that book I couldn’t finish due to above reason. I’m waiting for your reply ❤
Hi Jessica, I almost never comment on videos. I don't know why, because if I made content I'd want people to engage with it. (I guess I'm too busy listening on 1.5x speed and need to get to the next video.🥴) There's a lot to chew on in this video, I suspect I'll watch it a second and possibly third time! I can't remember what video it was, but you asked the question: do you want information, or transformation? I've been reflecting on this a lot. It's been helpful in determining what content I consume and how I spend my time. When my oldest was a baby and I was fretting about not getting enough done, my mom told me, you're a human BEING, not a human DOING. Some random, rambling thoughts. I really like your channel. God bless you, Katherine
I'm sure you're doing a great job as a mom! Those who are concerned about mothering typically do a better job than average (not a statistic, but it makes logical sense lol). I've been grappling with this concept a lot too. What I noticed that helped is to only surround myself with people (and even people online) that have the same values I do. If I want to center my life around being a wife and mother, then I have to watch only women that center their lives around those things. I'm not perfect at it, but it has helped. I run my own law firm, so I get the go-getter mentality; it's just not the life for me anymore.
I absolutely love this! And the timing is just right. I'm moving to a country with a slower paste and if I am not busy, what will be my purpose? I'm definitely a Martha. I think slow living is going to reveal the true meaning of life.
Any one of these 5 in particular hit home more than the others?
It is day to day, especially with sorting, organizing & getting rid of lots of items preparing for a cross country move before the end of the year. 😳 I do get to the point where I may literally say out loud "Okay, you've done enough for today." Then maybe relaxing in our Jacuzzi, watching TV, napping...😊❤️.
Thank you for this content. I am working on the continuation of this in my life. ❤
The silent to do list gets me every time. I’m extremely overwhelmed every day because of it…
That and the Mary/Martha story… That one really hit home
I understand this! Simplifying my inventory brought a lot more rest than I imagined
I am so grateful to have found this channel. Im so excited I just realized I have entered a new season and I am ready to let go of so much. I had never thought of my life as seasons and it appeals so much. I just went through my clothes I got rid of 3 bags! My closet and dresser are so clean! My brain already feels so much better!
I think that the busyness vs true productivity was a really great point. I do feel its just like well if I keep moving I’m being productive.
3 bags! I LOVE that fresh feeling
“I had a disdain for the journey and process of things”….That was me! I have been changing that and now I so much more enjoy the journey here and now.
I’m so glad I found your channel. Also a recovering people pleaser. It’s one of the hardest things to do imo
agreed!
As a minimalist and a mom to be this October, I absolutely love your channel! I used to struggle with perfectionism and hustle culture, and I am now trying to practice slow and intentional living while I transition into my new season of being a mom. Your videos speak to me so much, thank you!💕
so glad, and congratulations mama!
Hurry culture is a great point! Also makes me think of essentialism, not making a crazy, hectic schedule just for the sake of busyness, instead learning to say “no” and do only what matters most.
yes!
Sheesh such a good word! I’m a mama of 4 and have struggled with the mentality of thr hustle and hurry culture for sure, but I’ve been praying for God to show me how to slow down. Even my sabbaths were planned out and so hard to just be and be present with my family. I believe this is how we stand apart from this world and it’s extremely encouraging to see someone else live it out and be honest about the journey. Thank you so much for sharing and love the content! I’m here for it ☺️
I see this so hard! It's been a long journey, well worth it.
"living life like a series of destinations is such a trick" yes.
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This video was so wonderful and helpful. I feel like I am exactly the same way and am guilty of doing all the things you mention. I’m really trying to declutter more, slow down and just focus on the one thing that is going on in the moment. So glad I found your channel. I feel like I have a lot in common with you in the sense of people pleasing and constantly rushing through everything just to check off another box on the list. It’s really hard for me to slow down so I loved to hear your tips on things to do to try to change these habits that have been instilled in me.
I'm so glad it was helpful!
thank you so much for producing videos like this. I am 23, unmarried, and do not have a boyfriend either. I has been an overachiever for over 3 years. I've accomplished so much and my peers always admire for what I have done so far. However, from the inside, I always wish someone saw me as my pure self, not my professional version. It is hard to completely turn myself back to where I used to be carefree, but I find myself losing productivity pressure over time thanks to videos like yours
I am so glad it spoke to you!
THIS VIDEO IS AN ANSWER FROM GOD TONIGHT ...can't thank you enough..I will be sharing with my husband so he can understand what I'm going thru ...pray for me girl...praying for you
praying for you Jillian (love your name, it's my sis name:)
SO helpful!!! thank you!! I have lots to work on (not work on??) haha
also the "idol of busyness" shewwwwwwwww 🔥🔥🔥
I struggled with this as I see other stay at home moms do things from home to make money or a side business or doing things to bring in money as they near empty-nest. My youngest is 17 and I was reaching out to try to do things and nothing was working. I got sad after another shut door. I was crying and my husband came home and said what wrong. I told him how I felt and my struggle and said I don’t know what to do with my life. He said we don’t need more money. Why did I think I needed to bring in more money? Because that’s what other women were doing. 🤦🏻♀️ I have likes and hobbies. I just don’t need to turn them into a money making activity 🙌🏼 I just need to do what I love and invite other women along with me 😊 ❤ Thank you! It’s ok to let go of ideas. To just be.
I really relate to this! I attempted when my daughter was a lot younger and had this moment and a very similar conversation with my husband. It's very easy to feel pressured instead of called to things with comparison
I started copying comments into my journal and then realised I basically just need to add the transcript of this video into it. 😆So many "yes, that's me!!". I realised I was actually making decisions against what I wanted for our family because I felt guilty we were slowly stepping back and making decisions for the health of our family - because what right do I have to do that when others are still hustling and hurrying?! This is quite a journey to still ourselves before our Creator God, isn't it? So many lies to unpick, so many things to discover. I have appreciated this channel greatly, especially the timing with my own journey. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing:)
This was really good! I have found your channel not long ago. I love it!
When I was pregnant with twins (my 3rd and 4th kids) I was ready to let go of many things and just simplify our small apartment. I felt so overwhelmed all the time. And when the twins were born, and I got stronger again, I started to minimize even more. I got rid of soooo many things. I simplified my wardrobe as well. And my goodness, amazing! My day to day life has been so much easier, less stressful. It takes me less then 5 minutes per room to clean up every room! I love it! Definitely am working on living more intentional and slow tho hehehe
I love the simplicity!!
Fantastic - this resonated so deeply, thank you ❤
Oh my goodness I want to keep watching this over and over! So. Good. And every bit of it spoke to me...I find that I feel like I need to list off the things I accomplished to my husband to make myself feel good about the day (not in anyway because of him but because of my mindset). I have found myself feeling the need to prove myself to my mom who can't stop working for anything....I'm done with that now. You were spot on with the need to feel productive being tied to people pleasing...I feel that one so much. Thank you for this video. It was such a an encouragement ❤️
I'm so glad it was encouraging!
All of them! Thank you so much for posting this. This plagues me....
This was so good! I am and have always been a Mary but I have been listening to the critical Martha voices that tell me that I'm not doing enough and that I need to do it all the Martha way. I really needed this mindset reset. It's hard to be a Mary in a Martha world.
ain't that the truth!
Yes to this! Also the Proverbs 31 woman has been taunting me in the past. But I heard Paul Washer tell a story when his wife pointed out to him that it’s describing all the different stages in this woman’s life, there is no way she was having small children and going out to do business at the same time. It made a lot of sense.
@@VappuRechardt yes and she also had help and she delegated and managed! But I love that she rolled up her sleeves and was eager to start her work for the day!
I think the entire list applies to me! Been praying for wisdom in all these areas for years but maybe I need to slow down to actually hear His quiet voice. The irony! 😅 Been minimizing for years also but clutter creeps in with 5 kiddos and my hubbie. But giving myself grace and hopefully growing through the process. Less really is more. 💚 Thanks for the content! I've always seen myself as a "Martha striving to be Mary"!
I resonate with that!
loved the concept of silent todo list as it related to seeing things on social and then being liek oh i need that or oh i need to try that or remember that or buy that - list goes on and on and on
yes it really never ends!
Just finished the book The Perfectionists Guide to Losing Control. She touches on some of what you spoke of here. So good 👌🏻👏🏻 ❤
Ohh I haven't heard of that one!
#5... destination was it. And then I forgot to enjoy the moment. Even the yucky moments.
I consume a lot of declutter content and just watched a couple of your vids and they are so concise and nice to listen to! I’m inspired all over again.
My fave point was about the silent to do list because I have often heard the phrase ‘a cluttered house is a cluttered mind’ but the silent to do list way better explains that point.
Yes his book had a lot of wisdom in it!
I saw your message yesterday that you were posting a video today…felt like Christmas Eve! Loved the talk about cycles. Also, I always feel so much better when I give up social media, so what you said about taking on other people’s to do lists, makes so much sense!
Can you do a day in the life video where you show how you fit those moments of slowness throughout the day while still getting things done? I’m struggling with every day just being a to-do list and it weighs on my mind all day.
I get that, I'm gonna start including more vlog style homemaking tasks to hopefully show more of this!
That's a great idea! How to practise pausing but not laziness?!
Thank you so much for this ! I have put things in perspective also and stopped rushing around and constantly on the go. I enjoy my time with God first, walks, etc… enjoy the mundane and everything in between. 😊
So good. This was for me! Thank you
Beautiful message. I first received this message from The Latest Kate, an encouraging mental health author/illustrator: Rest is productive. 🤯
Not just sleeping. Rest is a key component of productivity. It's backed by studies that overall productivity is higher when regular breaks are included.
yes it really is! I think we often think rest is just sleeping. But rest is so much bigger than that, and imperative for all of us
Thank you for being so relatable. I always feel so encouraged from your videos and that your advice is attainable.
I'm so glad to hear it!
You're so wise! ❤
The narrative portion really has my wheels turning. Thank you for putting thoughts together well.
This video was so good! I didn't realize just how much I was equating people-pleasing with love, worth, security and control! Especially in my marriage... Some of your other videos helped me really see that and I have been actively reframing those thoughts and expectations. But like you said it's a journey! Thank you so much for the encouragement!
Oh that's amazing! it is a journey, a million tiny decisions and increasing in awareness
this whole video is an answer to prayer
This was amazing and so helpful. Thank you! #2 made me cry lol and I resonated a lot with each tip. Excited to take a look at my life and where I can improve. ❤
So much wisdom here. Thank you 🙏
I don't know that I've considered busyness productivity and hurriedness as an idol but I think you nailed it! 😮❤
What a beautiful video, thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you ✨✨💖
This came at the perfect time 🧸really needed those tips, thank you!🌺
Dang girl this was goooood 🔥
Loved this! I see a lot of similarities in my personality and life with how you were before. Any recommendations for students on how to implement these habits? There always seems to be an endless amount of work or studying that I could be doing.
I totally agree. I honestly feel like that doesn't change, in terms of running my home, motherhood, or even youtube. I feel like there will always be the temptation to never stop and keep going, I wish i would have established some of these as a college student, made stricter boundaries for myself etc. Because i thought it would stop when i wasn't a student but it didn't really!
I love this. It’s like getting permission to not be a chicken with my head cut off. I hate wearing too many hats and being busy with things I don’t like.
Hello Jessica! Thank you very much for this wonderful video. I really need to hear this, epecially, the point about the destination mindset. I I am struggling with letting go of this mindset but don’t really know how to go about it. Would you mind sharing some resources that helped you recover from this mindset, please? And thank you so much : )
I have a video on my favorite books and there's gems in there!
Is it possible to have that chocolate chip cookie recipe, please?
I feel like de-programming the busyness mindset takes daily practice.
What are some small habits or ways you remind yourself to slow down and to be content where you are? ❤
This is such a great questions, I'm thinking of making a video about small ways I slow down and cultivate contentment, my biggest one right now is really resisting rushing. minimizing my schedule so I don't have to rush. It PHYSICALLY makes me go slower, and I find when I am always late or rushing and have too much on my plate it is near impossible for me to live more presently
I love your videos! Can you mention some slow living/minimalism/motherhood books that don’t have a Christian undertone to it. I get that you’re one but can you recommend some neutral ones because I’m of a different religion. I’m ok with a little sometimes it gets overwhelming to me. This happened when I read Boundaries. I really need to learn how to set them but that book I couldn’t finish due to above reason. I’m waiting for your reply ❤
I have more books linked in my amazon store front, lots are mixed and I'm going to be updating my storefront here next month!
@@jessicarothley Thanks I'll check them out and also wait for the update ❤️
Edit: Where can I find the Amazon storefront link?
God bless you! Love your videos 🫶🏻 can you do a hair content video? How do you get it so long and healthy, how do you care for it 😍
I answer this question in my Q and A coming next week!
@@jessicarothley thank you so much!! I'll be waiting :D
Wow!!!! I’m so thankful to have found you!!!
Welcome!!
Hi Jessica, I almost never comment on videos. I don't know why, because if I made content I'd want people to engage with it. (I guess I'm too busy listening on 1.5x speed and need to get to the next video.🥴)
There's a lot to chew on in this video, I suspect I'll watch it a second and possibly third time!
I can't remember what video it was, but you asked the question: do you want information, or transformation? I've been reflecting on this a lot. It's been helpful in determining what content I consume and how I spend my time.
When my oldest was a baby and I was fretting about not getting enough done, my mom told me, you're a human BEING, not a human DOING.
Some random, rambling thoughts. I really like your channel.
God bless you, Katherine
I'm sure you're doing a great job as a mom! Those who are concerned about mothering typically do a better job than average (not a statistic, but it makes logical sense lol). I've been grappling with this concept a lot too. What I noticed that helped is to only surround myself with people (and even people online) that have the same values I do. If I want to center my life around being a wife and mother, then I have to watch only women that center their lives around those things. I'm not perfect at it, but it has helped. I run my own law firm, so I get the go-getter mentality; it's just not the life for me anymore.
yes! I've heard this and love this phrase! So glad you're here:)
Check out the copycat chickfla cookie. So yummy ❤❤❤
Mmmm.. revisit the Mary/Martha story and see if you can get more out of it. There's a major piece you've missed.
I absolutely love this! And the timing is just right. I'm moving to a country with a slower paste and if I am not busy, what will be my purpose? I'm definitely a Martha. I think slow living is going to reveal the true meaning of life.