Hey folks! I'm the Nick in that video! Thanks for the support and especially thanks for answering the question Jackson. I sent in the video about 6 months ago, and Felix has made massive improvements since then. He still bolts if I need to throw things around (like the covers when making the bed), but he lets me get close now. He's a very good boy (doesn't bite or scratch even when I annoy him accidentally) and even lets me use him as a pillow while he and I chill out and play video games together. Trust me, adopt a rescue shelter cat. Any creature that's suffered knows what real love is. Totally worth it.
Good to hear things are improving with Felix! Having PTSD myself, I can tell you it's one tough son-of-a to deal with and rarely (if ever) curable. Some of those triggers have a good chance of staying with Felix for the rest of his life. Regardless, he still knows he's safe with you around, even if the occasional trigger crops up.
For sure. He's still doing the radar ears and going wide eyed from time to time, but he's much better than when he used to be. Hopefully you can recover as much (or more) as Felix has. :)
Aw, that's great to hear! I adopted my little Romy a month and a half ago and she's had some of the same traits. She's getting better every week, but it is a slow go. Just show love and the rest will follow, huh?
Way to be a champion, Russell! I agree with you, the emotional and spiritual bond you form with a rescue animal is something so special. We need more people like you in this world!
Good one, mate! Thank you 🤗 About a year ago I was adopted by a semi-feral cheeky 2y/o boy 🐈. He would have not survived the last winter (malnourished, not neutered.....hence the fighting, bullied by other cats and constantly fighting with them, injured and always so scared of literally anything). And now......a very happy healthy cat. I have never ever seen an animal/pet full of so much love for me, it’s unbelievable! Just unreal stuff! PS. He is currently lying on my bed, spread right across it and snoring his bum off. Love that boy. Ahh, forgot to mention.....I had never had a cat, wasn’t keen on them whatsoever 🤣
Nick: My cat is scared of everything and doesn't trust me. Felix: I was living in this really awful place but this man took me home and gave me a nice tree where I can watch the birdies and sometimes he gives me cheek scritches. He doesn't get mad at me when I get scared by his big hand or the loud noises. I'm so glad he brought me here. You're doing great Nick. Trauma is hard to get over and the fact that he can sit there calmly and let you touch him is huge. I wish you and Felix the best!
Yes go Jacksons Galaxy, Nick & Felix :) There is a very affordable app called Sound Proof Puppy app from app store which sounds like it might be ok to try.
It takes a lot of time. As someone who adopted a seriously abused cat, it took about 2 years for her to get over the abuse. It was a process. She was good with family far more quickly than with guests. Samantha had her spots where she would attack newcomers. She did live to be 18 and became a wonderful cat, but it took a couple years for her to recover.
I was searching on line for some advise. I adopted an abused cat about 5 months ago. Although she seems to be comfortable at home. And we have play time, she loves her sister, she blinks at me, and she already has some safe places where she sleeps (and she seems happy). I can't touch her yet :(. I was just wondering if I Should I work on that? Or should I just let her be. I understand that it has being only few months. And it may take years.. but the question is let it be? Or work on it? Would she let.me.touch her when she is ready?
@@olgablanco6495 I don’t know what your cat is like now, but I would let her lead and also try and figure out what her hard boundaries are, to see if you can push a little bit. But I think she will let you know when she is ready to be pet. And I would go slow with the petting even after she has let you know
Jackson you are a very caring and kind human being who is making a difference in this world for cats and their owners. You have a natural gift for understanding cats and their needs. Your videos are helping others to understand cats because they are very very much misunderstood. Thank you for all the cats you have saved and helped. God bless you. The world needs more people like you. Keep the videos coming! Us cat owners need them.
I fostered many cats with "bad past". And i have to say: when such cat learn what else people can be like, it usually become into incredible sweet and loving kitty.
I have a cat that hates being touched. He never went through anything traumatizing. He came from a loving home to another. But I noticed he really is anxious, and probably get sensory overload when being touched. So I just let him be. Whenever he feels like getting pet and cuddles he will come and get all of them, when he had enough he just leaves. I love him tons, so I don't care, even if he is so cute...
Shiroi Watashinomori, that’s normal. Cat’s ,like humans, are different by personality and likes/dislikes. He probably just doesn’t like being touched much, and when he does he just asks you for it.
My cat is the same. She was a rescue her mom was a feral who we was feeding and she brought us her kitten and we adopted her. She doesn't like comfort or cuddles or touching I bribe her just to see her lol. I wouldn't trade her for the world. The one thing she loves is Elvis she has been listening since a week old lol.
My boy Granpaw likes to be near me, but not on me. Until he wants to be on me, then you better not plan on doing anything for a while! Then, once he's got his cuddles, bye!
I remember how the foster family of my adopted cat were warning me of her. That she has ptsd, aggressive, does not like other cats etc etc. yes first few months were a struggle, especially when we adopted a tiny 6 weeks old kitten, but now - after almost a year, I would never choose any other cat. She is the most loving, gentle giant I can ever wish for ❤️❤️
I heard all the same comments, and witin 24 hours, realized my Little Lotus had an upper respiratory infection, possible sepsis setting in (post-op from hysterectomy), and had been abused by children, a dog, and also physically traumatized. She was just 8 weeks old. I took her because I knew I could help her heal from psychological trauma... It has been a month now and after antibiotics and providing therapy, she's doing great. A big Meow! to Jackson Galaxy and crew! This is my first kitten, as all my other past kitties came to me as adults of at least two years old. Tonight, she was finally able to watch a video with me (on my lap, no less) and didn't hiss at the sound of children or other kittens. ❤
Thanks, Jackson. I have two special needs cats who also have PTSD. Since I also have PTSD, I did most of these things intuitively. It's still helpful to know that I'm doing the right thing. These cats have been through so much and deserve all the love in the world. They heal me just as much as I heal them. We're a great little family.
Earlier this year I adopted a cat who ended up having FIP; he was 7 years old but he acted twice that. The rescue described him as “not cuddly” and he would barely interact with me. As we treated him, he slowly got more and more energetic. It really puts things into perspective, getting so excited about a cat doing normal cat things like running around or looking up. Last week he started sleeping and cuddling in bed with me, and all I have to say is whoever dumped him at the pound because he stopped being cute and cuddly is missing out.
Just commenting to second Jackson's assertion that adopting troubled cats from shelters, or anyplace, is worth all the time and effort that goes into it. These cats make some of the best pets and will reward you many times over for taking a chance on them. So, give a troubled cat a home and you'll both be richer for it. ~ Lisa
Yes - the Ancient Egyptians got it right - that Cats are Divine Creatures and having a Cat in our home is the ultimate wealth. We are truly RICH when loved by a Cat, regardless of financial status. They are wise too - and if you aren't genuinely kind and respectful to them, all the money in the world won't buy the love of a cat. ❤
"Underneath all that is a cat that wants to love and be loved." That one made DH tear up. That's exactly why we keep at it with the little boo. He's IN there and he's a darling wittle soul who deserves a chance to BE a darling little soul.
I've helped an abused cat. My lovely Miko. She trusted me immediately and no one else. Miko was one day in my garden, clearly asking for help. So I took her into my house. She is in my care now for about 4years and to this day she only trusts me and runs away from other people. When I have someone visiting me, she runs upstairs or runs away outside to here own "house" that I've build. The vet and I clearly see that she has been badly abused. But I'm trying to make her live as happy and comfortable as I can. She is still a little bit afraid of the broom and sound off paper and fire. (her whiskers are partly burnt off) and she has been abused horrible with other bad things that the vet discovered but I'm not going into detail more. Also I can't play with her because trying to play with her she seems threated by it. But she plays by herself and loves cuddling, sleeping by my side on the couch. And I know she is happy because she bloomed really open in the years, first time I saw her playing I got tears in my eyes also her first time she dared to do something that she knows isn't allowed but still did it. I was like yes she is feeling completely at home, she drools a lot because of happiness. She adapted living with me and my other 2 cats (who I've resqued also) quickly. And she is defending her outside territory feersly. Yes she is now a very happy cat. We think that Miko is now around 9 years old.
It took my rescued feral cat a year to come round. He was about a year old and was rescued when his back leg got badly bitten and he couldn't run away. After a very long first year (blood - mine, sweat - mine and tears - again mine!) we learnt to live with each other and this gradually grew to love and mutual respect. He is now 12 and I would go through it all again to get to where we are now : )
My boys took about a year to warm up to me. They were old enough of kittens when I got them, that their feral mother had taught them to fear humans. Now after two or three years, they have come to enjoy just cuddling up with me. One is indoor outdoor, because he really enjoys exploring... The other one is indoor only, because he is a scaredy cat and will starve himself hiding until his brother convinces him to come inside... So he has lost outdoor privileges. He doesn't really care about going outside anyways. They both have gotten used to my newest member of the family, Jack... A boxer mix. I thought they would be pissed, and they were at first... But now we can all be on the same couch together. 😁🥰💕 Happiness is when the whole family gets along.
What were some things you tried? I just got my Boy a few days ago and I’ve never had a cat that didn’t take to me immediately. He’s very scared, he’s very skittish, and he even hid under the floorboards (wasn’t stuck tho) for 2 days. He hisses so bad he almost spits. I know he will eventually cave and let me love him but I’m not sure what to do and how to make the process easier for him. I know there’s a sweetheart in there
For me i just had to be calm and patient. I watched where he liked to lay and felt safe (under the bottom bookshelf) and I set up his den there with bedding litter tray scratch post. I wore old t shirts to bed and put them under there so he got used to my smell. I would throw cat treats when I was near him and would just speak in a sing song voice. Slowly treats and his scratch post and litter tray would be closer to me and in the open and his safe space got slowly bigger and eventually included me. It just took time and kindness. I wish you all the luck in the world. Xx
It seems that virtually all of the PTSD desensitization techniques we use with humans apparently may be applied to cats. My little one was also abused by hands (as well as siblings) and this has been a challenge, but I've applied Jackson's technique for invitation to connect. I've worked hard to associate mine with food and she now let's me pet her but I still cannot pick her up. She finally comes to my lap. No more hissing, no more hiding in corners (unless there's a loud sound), and she's responding to love and safety. I'm using her "blanket" to expand her safe territory. We've progressed from the bathroom to the master bedroom too! I will add your concept of placing my clothing with her blanket to "mix" the two. She's also now marking me as hers!
BTW, I finally got Little Lotus to sleep in a real bed and no longer cowering in corners by adding a relatively low scratch tower that has a soft basket on top of it, with one of her blankets in it. She now sleeps there every night, still in the bathroom, where she feels super safe, as that was basecamp for this little traumatized one.
Sounds like you’re really helping her blossom out of her shell and she’s well on her way to be a confident cat. Great job, and thank you for giving a traumatized cat a chance at a much better life!
So glad you brought this up! And I feel like traumatized cats can totally recognized a human who may have traumatization as well. Kind of a bitter sweet moment.
I adopted 2 traumatized cats 11 months ago. Their beloved owner died and the caretaker threw them out. The male is named Michelangelo. He’s doing well. His bonded beloved “wife” is Christina and she’s progressing at a snail’s pace. She doesn’t even let me pet her. She will touch her nose to my finger but won’t lean into it. I offer my finger at meal time and give the plate of food only after the nose touch. She will now sometimes come in the bathroom with me and touch my finger with her nose. I feel so sad for what she had gone through but I’m happy I could give her a home with her beloved “husband”. She loves her cat tree and I’ve discovered her favorite kind of toy so she has 2 of them and is getting a 3rd one for Xmas. I’m going to try your suggestion about leaving something with my scent near her favorite snooze spots which are now out in the open. Thank you for what you do, Jackson. You’ve been a tremendous help in my journey with Michelangelo and Christina.
My girl was attacked by some large dogs as a kitten (she was thrown to them by her owner because they had too many babies in the litter) and it took seven years but now she is completely trusting of me, and even some members of my family, and she'll let strangers touch her as long as I'm holding her! She even let's me give her baths without complaints!!!
I have raised dogs all my life and never really understood or wanted cats so I never got one until the past few weeks. I can’t tell you how much I love cats and I am just amazed with how much I missed growing up wo them. I adopted one and they are just amazing. Thank you so much for your show and tips.. they have helped me greatly! 🐱
Nearly 25 years ago, I went to the SPCA to adopt a dog with my housemate. It was a Monday, the puppies were all gone, and we didn't meet any dogs that really clicked with us. There was this cat wailing, and the rest is history! Jackson often extols the virtues of adopting adult cats, and I gotta say that adopting that 3 year old cat and caring for him until he died at the ripe old age of 20 was one of the best personally transformative experiences I've had in my entire life. Just rescued four kittens this year, and I'm in Kitten Heaven. Glad you made friends with a kitty!
I adopted my two cats 5 years ago. Other than that they were found on the streets of Italy as kittens I know nothing of their past. It has taken YEARS for one of them to become loving towards me. She used to only "tolerate" affection and now she's the definition of a velcro cat! Snuggles all day every day. it took her 5 years. But I always felt loved, i knew she was comfortable in my home and around me. She just needed a lot of time to know that once she gives love, it comes back tenfold.
To all wondering about rescues: it is so worth it. It takes patience and love. My cat, Skittles, was less than 4 lbs and full grown when I got her. Skit knocked over garbage cans for 2 months, and was always trying to take my food, and any food she could get. She also had brain damage and worms when I got her. After 2 months, she realized I adored her, and she was loved and fed here. She is the light of my life. She is my furry little companion. I suggest to everyone to help a cat that has been rescued. It is rewarding, because a formerly abused cat knows where love and home is more than other cats, because they have seen the dark side. I don't know what I would do without my orange little girl. I'm so thankful to have my little blessing by my side. I knew she needed the most love at the rescue league, and my heart melted when I saw her sad face. She now smiles when she sleeps. Please, rescue.
I didn't know there was a name for the "hand as a nose" thing. I've always done that--and I do the "I'll do the scratchy, and you turn your face where you want it scratched, okay?" thing. I remember playing a version of red-hands with a cat--we sat at cat approved distance and would try to get our hand or paw on top of the other's. No claws, no venturing outside the approved play space. Just each trying to touch the top of the other's hand/paw. His owner was rather startled that I could do this with him because he didn't like new people, and we'd only just met. I offered the game, let him set the terms, and let him finish when he was done. I'm not sure he (the cat) was used to that.
My last cat had a past where she was terrified of people. It took 2 weeks for her to come up to me on her own and I am the only one in this apartment. Even after I won her over she still hated all other people and would hiss and even scream at them (never heard a cat scream before that). If strangers were in my apartment even I could not go near her. She was best left alone. But since it is mainly just her and I she eventually came up to me on her own and rubbed her head to my hand was I sat watching TV. I did not expect that. She had trust issues but we worked together and over time she gradually learned to trust me. I was gentle with her and respectful of her space. I ended up with her as the last owner did not know what to do with her. To get her to be more sociable with their kids they got a kitten but she still stayed to herself and hid. When with me I realized she was not a cat that would ever feel happy around active kids. Her past trauma was just too much. She enjoyed being left alone. As time went on she learned to trust me and even loved my attention. She would come up to me as I was working on crafts or reading or watching TV or eating. She sure loved fish.
I have to say, I took in a very abused scardy cat. . It has been months since she came out of her shell. And I still feel so happy when I get things like, licks, brushing up on my legs, cuddling, etc. Every little victory of gaining her trust is still felt, even though I've had it for a long time. It is so worthwhile.
My baby was so scared of everything when I brought him home. I don’t know about the beginning of his life, but from the types of people and objects and sounds that he was afraid of, I have a feeling he was abused, then thrown out to become a stray. I hate whoever did that to him. But I’m so happy he’s in my life now and that he feels safe and trusts me and is happy and not afraid anymore.
As a feline caretaker that has also taken in special needs cats who have been through trauma, I just wanted to give a HUGE THANK YOU TO NICK for not only giving felix a good home but also taking on the responsibility & spending the time trying to help him overcome his trauma issues. It's definitely not the easiest thing to do & it says alot about your good nature. The world needs more people like you! I wish you & Felix the best of luck!
Just over a month ago I adopted a 1 year old street cat who had three babies to feed. She had it tough in the street with her ovaries covered in cysts (discovered when she was getting desexed, she also needed a tooth removed as it was cracked. When I took her home she was scared but after a few days she realised she was home. And we are best friends now. She is not a fan of being held for too long but will tolerate about 30 Seconds max. But loves when I give her kisses and pats. After about 2 weeks of having her I decided to adopt one of her babies still up for adoption at the rescue. So now I have her baby boy (bout 13 weeks old now). They still have their mother and son bond and it is so beautiful to see. He is not a fan of hands going near him and will run away when he thinks I want to pick him up. He will put his ears back if a hand goes near his head. So I am just keepin it super chill with him. He is not scared of me at all and follows me around and hangs out with me, but even so, if my hand was to move towards him he would run. He is a curious and funny little baby. I never had cats before them but I am so glad I adopted them and able to save them from the street as who knows how they would have ended up. Rescuing cats with traumatic pasts may be a hard job as we all want the kitties to just love us. But I am learning patience and understanding from helping them. And i am just happy knowing they are safe with me.
There is always a way. My wee boy was found as a stray at 6 months I adopted him at 9 months. At first he would come nowhere near me. (He is currently nudging my phone wanting attention. So things have changed alot) He is the sweetest natured cat. Just needed an in, his was tuna that a fed him from a teaspoon. He is now 12 and still plays like a kitten.
I got my cat from the shelter and she was so scared/traumatized. She wouldn’t even sit in the same room with me for the first 6 months. But the longer I’ve had her the more she wants to be around me and now she’s always next to me while I work from home. And sleeps next to me every night :)
Thanks so much for this…I needed it today! I’ve had my rescue 13 months now and I know he has some kind of trauma with hands. I still cannot touch him but if he does crawl up on my lap some day I’m sure I will cry too!
So excited to see this - I just adopted a traumatized, sick little Siamese mix kitten several weeks ago. She's made an amazing transition so far with cat psychotherapy and antibiotics - and I'm open to all the professional advice I can get, Jackson. You rock! Watching the video now! 🐱
Jackson has helped me and my 2 rescued boys get along soooo much better! I watch all of his videos I can! Thanks for adopting! My non-professional advice is lots of TLC!
Jackson and The Kitten Lady will help you in every situation. I also read a lot of articles and materials on how to help feral cats adapt and overcome fears, because abused/neglected cats have a lot of feral tendencies/reactions.
@@jackthecat4924 one thing I've learned about ferals that you take into your home - is let everything be on THEIR terms. I find often times humans are in a hurry to want to make friends with their feral. Some come around quickly, others it seems like they take forever. My little feral took 3 years before she took the initiative to jump into my lap. Don't get me wrong, there were other little points of contact, the Michelangelo Touch, the actual little pettings, but, man, when they take that huge step to make the initiative to jump into your lap, WOW!! You will cry! You have officially "tamed" your first feral, and there's nothing like it. But remember, not all cats are lap cats, so maybe they'll be content to lay right next to you, and that's awesome too!! Good luck to all of us rescuers!🐾🐈❤🤗
I have two street boys, one a tuxedo and the other a beautiful Snowshoe with the most adorable little mustache and sharpie dots on his toes. Something that I think helped a lot was thunder shirts. Not a lot, otherwise they would have been too dependent on that to feel normal, but just when they were feeling particularly stressed or if there was something we anticipated to be upsetting or stressful, such as a vet visit or we were going on vacation, or moving, or construction, or new kittens (only one time), or family staying over (we had everybody from both halves of the family staying including my grampa's dog, during the wedding). Whenever we did put the thunder shirt on, we kept it on for a few weeks for the sake of making it worth the effort to get them into it.
I'm taking this video as a sign to adopt this cat whose previous owner moved house and left the cat in the home for over a week. She's been at the shelter for 18 months 💔
Being at a shelter for 18 months also does a number on a cat. When I volunteered at a shelter, we had a cat that had been there too long and what once was a fairly sweet cat turned into a stressed out beasty. That' why fostering is so vital to the emotional well being of a cat or dog. If you don't think you're ready to adopt, try fostering first. There are a bazillion of foster-fails out there.
@@franciegarneau1651 Thanks for mentioning. In the end I wasn't the best match for the cat I mentioned but I have now registered to foster with two charities. I can imagine the stress animals go through in that environment
I have a cat like this. She was also abused and neglected by a past owner. Blitz is physically handicapped and has PTSD from her past, so there are some things I just cannot do around her. I warn guests about those, but she has in the 6 or so years I've had her completely defrosted toward all contact and since she is very food oriented, I generally have guests bring her an offering of treats when they enter my home to keep her good mojo going. She is an adorable bundle of cuddles.
My cat daughter Kia was rescued by me, back in February, who also had an abusive past. Not long after Christmas (before I adopted her), I saw on a news article that her and her sister, both pretty much kittens at about 6 months old (both were black kittens...), had been thrown out a car window and left to either die or fend for themselves. It was a miracle they even survived, and no one knows about the possible trauma that they probably experienced during their kitten years. Both of them were rescued by my city's local group, and I rushed to meet them. Kia's sister was adopted by another loving family before I could adopt them both (my original plan), but I took in Kia. The moment I met her, I knew I had to have her in my life. She was so small, and so scared and timid. She hid under the bed the moment she got home, and didn't want to be near anyone. She couldn't trust anyone. So I came and slept in the same room as her and never gave up. I was always slow, calm, patient, and kind. We eventually bonded and now she has come such a long way. She LOVES to be with me now, and will snuggle into my arms and fall asleep. She enjoys my whole family and although she is still very cautious, she is also curious and will meet guests on her own terms. I adore her with every ounce of my heart and I'm happy to have her in my life. I would rescue any animal that's been abused, anyday.
I made the decision to adopt a cat from an animal rescue. I was told he was rescued from a hoarder house and the other cats would also pick on him, he arrived at the foster home with scratches all over his face, deep scars on the back of his neck and little chunks taken out of his ears. scared of everything. a couple of surgeries and he was placed for adoption. I didn't want a kitten, I did want a bit more mature cat, he is about 5. First day home he hid behind a couple of rubbermaid totes in his room. I decided I wasn't going to rush anything with him and let him set the pace. A friend build him a magnificent cat tree and we placed it in his room by the window, he can watch the birds in the summer and the little people moving around in the parking lot. In the beginning I had a lot of, what have I done moments, 5 months later, he zooms around the apartment when I get up. he loves his go bird and we play with it a lot, he makes me giggle with his antics, he likes to run and lift up the matt so he can sit under it. He is still very shy with other people, however he likes to sit in front of the door and listen to the goings on of my neighbours. I'm lucky to be working from home and he likes to stop by and get his cheeks scratched and tell me about the dreams he's had :) He's not 100% sure of me - but he's getting there - he's added so much joy to my life! If you are thinking of adopting an animal that's been abused, it will take time, you will need loving kindness and patience - but it's so worth it! - Jackson you have been my safety net!! thank you so much
Almost all my cats came to me: strays, giveaways from friends who could not keep them, etc. which is good, because I know I could not go to the shelter to adopt a kitty. I would spend the next week in tears, and I would want to take them all home with me. But I am hopefully getting them before they end up in a shelter, so all's right with the world.
I have a trauma kitty too, she will let me pet her until she decides enough and bolts, but no one else... Everything is difficult, grooming, medicine when needed and forget about ever willingly being held! Noises and sometimes even a blanket or hair or even dust touching her when she wasn't expecting it sends her darting off, or jumping a foot. I've bought the feli way plugins and tried a natural anxiety treat to help her, she has a hideout etc. but it's still a daily process.... and by that I mean it's been six years.... But I do love her so much, and although it's hard I believe we really are helping these not so easy kitties have a decent quality of life, and one not everyone could handle. Good work Nick! And btw, your rescue trauma kitty actually seems to be a lot more relaxed then mine, so clearly your doing an excellent job!!
Jackson, when my 8 month kitten is panicked he bites and draws blood. Then I cry out 'ow' or begin to cry. These aren't scratches. I love him and he has many beautiful traits. I see how sweet he really is. He was not loved before I adopted him. He also is frightened if any there is any disorder in the house. He loves routine...Messes actually scare him, ex. dirty dishes? Why or more importantly how can I heal this wound? His habits are perfect and he purrs whenever he sees me. I am 74, a shut-in and quiet. He is such good company.
A lack of empathy for a defenseless animal. The fact that they don't surrender animal to a shelter early when they realise that they are not coping with the demands of the animal is the real problem.
I rescued my little 8lb female cat from the city shelter, which can best be described as an animal hell hole. She didn’t have people trauma but being that she was white with blue eyes I was convinced she was deaf for awhile because she wouldn’t react to any noise. Turns out she can hear fine, it was just that the volume was so loud and constant there she had learned to block out all sounds. It took her months to adjust to my home and the quiet serenity of it, but she and I have a really strong bond now. I pet her ever so gently sometimes, just barely moving the fur and it makes her melt. She’s my little shadow and when she doesn’t feel well she becomes glued to me and I know it’s time to take her to the vet. Rescuing an animal, and cat for that matter, is one of the richest experiences life has to offer. It’s totally worth it, even though it will take more of your time, effort, and money.
My little guy was so scared of people that he would try to run up a wall if there was no other place to go. Like The Matrix. Anyway a few years later he comes to me and sits in my lap and follows me from room to room, and loves to play. I fostered him at first but nobody would adopt him so I did adopt him eventually and so glad I did. I have 2 other confident and relaxed cats. I think having other cats where he can see how you treat them well and that they aren’t scared of you helps the scared one to gain confidence. Good luck. You seem to be well on your way.
Sabrina was the same way when I got her. The shelter said a lady dropped her off pregnant, but they could tell she was not a feral. She had been there for months but didn't like other cats or people, but for whatever reason, she made it clear she wanted to go home with me. I thought I made a mistake because she made herself comfy behind the toilet and wanted no pets. So I just sat there in the bathroom on the floor reading a book for a couple of hours each day. Eventually, she was happy to roam around the bedroom ever vigilant for something scary. Over time I could pet her head and soft pets on the back. Now, two years later, she will hang out in bed with me in the morning and will follow me around the house. She gets along with her sister KitCat and will chill in sunbeams together. She still hides under the bed when guests come over and runs away from loud noises... but little steps. I just hope that overall she is happy.
A year ago I took in a semi-feral cat who was being bullied by the other cats in the neighborhood. She was terrified of everyone and everything but I could also tell she was desperate for love from somebody. She's a much more comfortable and happy cat indoors. She still won't let me pick her up but she does demand pettings and play first thing in the morning. Jackson's techniques have been invaluable in helping us along in this journey--I've never had a cat before! Hoping to get her a companion cat next year.
Thank you for sharing these tips! I've just taken in a traumatized 1.5 year old cat who some monster shot in the leg with a shotgun V_V It happened about 4 months ago, and the cat survived by a miracle on his own outdoors. His bone healed and is stable, but there are bullet fragments around the joint and he still limps. It's only been 3 days since we've had him, so we've got him in 2 large connected dog crates covered in a sheet in our master bathroom, with a place to hide inside the crate, and only go in to give food or a treat, and to gently speak to him. The poor little guy....I hope he will be able to over come his trauma with the love and kindness we are giving him
The first rescue was feral. She wasn't abused, but she had to adjust to living inside. She's turned out to be a sweetheart. She's social and loving. The second rescue was horribly abused and neglected. She suffers lasting neurological damage, but has adjusted beautifully. We adore her, and accept her just as she is. I sing Harry Belafonte songs to her, and she's grown to be the dearest little deadly black tarantula. The third rescue is the biological sibling of the second rescue. He arrived malnourished, filthy, and teeming with fleas. He wasn't "fixed", which prompted my son to ask, "Should his litter box smell THAT bad?" Once we got him fixed and cleaned up, he's been my "stinky little teenager". He's a pesky little brother to his sisters, and he's barrelled through an open screened window, but he's a big love bug. As rough as he could be (he arrived with open wounds from fighting with another animal), he can play with me without leaving a scratch. They all are loved and well cared for. The litter boxes are clean and plentiful. There are chin scratches and everyone gets pats and brushing. There are treats and toys, playtime and downtime. Cardboard boxes and paper sacks don't leave the house for at least 2 weeks. There is an acceptance vibe here. I think that's a biggie. I don't give up on my rescues. This is their home. We can't change their beginning, but we can make sure that their forever after is a life filled with love and comfort. Did I mention that my little boy cat has little vampire fangs and little tufts on his ears?
its truely rewarding to see how a scared cat learn to trust us.. I rescued one few months ago...all the docs told me to take her back to the park where i found her. they all told me its almost impossible to tame a wild one. I am so glad i didnt stick with my own belief and that belief proved that i was right and still right about this cute little one. she just needed time and love. she improved so much within these few months! now she would even come to me for attention! there are so many cats and dogs out there waiting for home, they all just need time to learn to love again.
We have a really traumatized cat that joined our home in December. It has taken months to earn his trust and it was rough going at first. In his case his trauma is associated with women so it has taken a LONG time for me to earn his trust. Jackson your videos have been invaluable in getting him to understand that we are a safe space. Thank you! I can now pick him up and give him scritches and he purrs like a motor. I never thought that would happen when I first brought him home. I don't know what this poor guy experienced, but we are dedicated in making him happy. Nick, your kitty looks very relaxed and content so you are doing all the right things!
My husband's cat was abused by his exgirlfriend and it took him a while to get used to having a loving woman around. Took hubby a little bit to get used to it too, no more emotional abuse. It doesn't matter what the abusers gender is or what type of abuse it is, abuse is abuse and those who do it need appropriate punishment and counceling or they will continue their crimes.
Hey Nick. I have adopted many rescued kitties over my lifetime. When a kitty doesn't want or won't allow me to pet him/her, I have discovered that the best way to "gentle" him/her is to brush them. You can use an old Boar Bristle (Not nylon) hairbrush or a Shedmonster (Am-zon) tool, they will love it by the third time you do it. I'l'l bet this will work for you and Felix as well, it has never failed with me. God Bless you both
Thank you! My cat came to me traumatized at 1 year. She’s now 9 and this past summer we went through a trauma together. She regressed back into lots of her anxious, traumatized behaviors that we had worked past. We’re working through what happened over the summer along with the re-triggered older traumas she endured in her first year of life. I’ve found myself discouraged some days when it seems she retreats all the way. But from this video, I can reassure myself that I’m doing all the right things. And I haven’t gotten past last summer yet either. So we’ll get there together.
Thank you Nick for taking in Felix, he looks so content. I had to make a very hard choice earlier this month. Three years ago I adopted a gentle sweet cat named Darling. She was from the humane society. I also at the time had a very old boy that I had from a kitten so I was actually looking for an older cat. Darling stole my heart. I kept her inside for almost a full year. Sadly the people that lived with me would just let her out. Well she decided that she was going to be an outdoor cat. No matter what I did she demanded to be outside. She was taken to the humane society twice and was kept by a neighbor that thought she was a stray for a few months. I was told that I would be fined the next time she goes to the humane society. I tried everything again. I tried keeping her in the basement, she liked being down there and there was only one door. Well one of the people who live here decided that she would let her out. If she didn't then the other guy would. I tried getting her used to being on a halter. That failed so badly. She just wouldn't have it. I wish she would have just froze. She attacked. As soon as I put that on her she went nuts. She was out for blood. Now I had a problem... how to get it off of her. I did after some time, she got me really badly with her claws though. She did have surgery on her back, I don't know why but she does have a long scar on her back. I couldn't get them to say why she had surgery but she hated her back being touched and well the halter just set her off. I didn't have the heart to do it again. If I had kept her in the spring I would have made an outdoor pen for her. Though I don't think she would have been happy with it, she would be outside. A year after the guy moved in she started acting really different. She would jump at sudden movement and she just hated that guy so much. She was so scared of him. Well I caught him in the act, he put his boots on and kicked her. I found out that he had been doing this for awhile. Why? He doesn't like her and she doesn't like the dog. With everything that has happened and the fact that even the coldest day won't keep her inside. I found her a nice home in the country. She is now a barn cat. The family loves her. She's well fed and she has a heated barn to keep her warm. She can now hunt to her hearts content. I still miss her, but she just couldn't be a city cat any longer.
This is heartbreaking to hear, but I'm so glad you did what was right for her in the end. It hurts so much to think of what she had to go through till you found out, and I'm glad you did! It's sickening how people will abuse animals, especially when he takes care of a dog himself. Horrible and despicable behaviour. I hope his dog's okay and so is your older cat.
Before this pandemic really "took off" my daughter and I were volunteering at the cat adoption center at PetSmart. We went in once every week to hang out with the cats and kittens, who had all come from local shelters, and refill their food and water and change the cat litter (well, I changed the litter) . The most difficult part of the job was keeping myself from taking any of the cats home with us. Our apartment is infested with roaches and is no home for a cat that deserves only the best. I miss being able to play with the cats. Stupid pandemic 🙁
11:24 My cat Ripley had a big warning sticker at the shelter that she was aggressive and hard to handle. She attacked multiple volunteers, she scratched two in the face, she had been adopted and returned for being too difficult, and no one wanted her. I have experience with difficult cats and I just fell in love with her right away, so I adopted her. That was 7 years ago, and she’s honestly the happiest cat I’ve ever known. She just needed someone to learn her body language and LISTEN. She has specific things she dislikes and she’ll give you a warning… but only one. Her fight or flight response is always fight, but she’s not a mean cat. I listened to her and she learned to trust me, and now she’s affectionate and loving and we’re both so happy. She’s also an amazing big sister to other rescue cats and is the first one to help the new ones settle in. I’m beyond grateful that she came into my life, worth every second 💜
I have 2 kitties who were severely abused as kittens. One was surrendered to the ASPCA when the "boyfriend" didn't like the cat. When I adopted him he was really reactive to any hand put over him and would attack when a hand resembled a fist. I'm 99.9% sure he was punched. It took six months for me to bring him around. I also came from an abusive relationship so we saved each other. Grisly (my cat) chose Tim (my life partner) and now he has two doting parents and doesn't remember that past life. We also rescued a 7 week old kitten thrown onto the highway during rush hour. He is squirmy if you pick him up and doesn't like car rides. It took awhile to gain his trust, but somehow, after all he went through, there isn't a mean bone in his body. We can't imagine what kind of monster would do that to a kitten... But we get so much joy whenever he reaches milestones like asking for pets or bringing a toy to us to play. It really is so very rewarding.
Thank you, Jackson. I adopted a street cat a little over two weeks ago who was living outside for nearly two years. She is very shy yet we were making remarkable progress with trust. Two weeks ago I had to take her to the vet for an ear infection. Today was her recheck and she was having no part of getting into the carrier. She literally freaked out. Eventually I got her in using a towel but I know it traumatized her. Now I feel like I have destroyed all trust we had built. I'm crying as I write this because I'm so afraid that she will never trust me again. Your video helped but I admit I'm still worried. I'll do what you said and be patient. Still, it's so sad that this happened 😥
Very late replying, so sorry. We have a rescue cat who freaked every time there was a vet visit. Eventually she learned that the carrier would return her home. A little extra attention afterwards helped - a soft toothbrush groom, for example. Bless you for taking on a street cat! They need extra time and care, but experience says she will become more loving and sweet than you could've imagined. All our cats for 20 years have been rescued ferals. The absolute worst case feral 8 years ago now wants nothing more than to snuggle against my shoulder.
I adopted a kitten from a neglectful situation As soon as I got him to my house he completely relaxed. You would not believe it was the same cat! I was told he was hissy,growly,hid all the time,wouldn't let anyone near him. Now he is so sweet and loving,never hear him hiss or growl...I believe cats know good people!!😻
We had 2 cats 6 weeks ago, a middle aged 25 pound former feral tom with some social issues named Circe and a 9 mo old frisky girl named Charlie. They were pretty much normal housecats, and enjoyed the company of my 2 adult sons and I. 5 weeks ago our apartment building caught fire, but we had a plan which included evac'ing the cats, and we all got out safely, even through dangerously smoke filled hallways. Circe was settled down later the same day, and was normal 24 hours later. Charlie has taken a very long time to settle, and is still aggressively scared of some situations that were fine before, although she seems to be getting more secure every week.
I’m new to fostering and started to foster just this year 2021 in Sri Lanka. I got stuck here in Sri Lanka during travelling the country and since I’m seeing all these cats and kittens suffering outside fighting for food and shelter, I decided to help. It makes me so happy. Thank you Jackson for all your work and free education to make it possible for people like me to get into fostering without the fear of not knowing what to do 🙏🏼🐱
ohhhh, that explains so much. Our rescue "You" (We're non English natives) was flown out of greece to a cat shelter in Germany. She'd have very bad chances to be adopted out in Greece, i was told. She needs to command exactly what kind of touch is allowed. And no matter what, she always uses her claws. Even gently prodding to ask for a head rub. Having her on the lap hurts. Yes - it doesn't if her nails are clipped, but we did not regularily do this and now its an absolute fight and traumatizing to her. We regularily get her to the vet where a professional quickly gets it over with... She has the deepest, loudest purr and is very intense about cuddles. She basically crawls into you. But I cannot pick her up and put her next to me, if i want it. (I can pick her up and hold her if necessary) The top of her head is always safe. But everything else gets a pretty painful scratch. Right now she sits next to my head, eyes falling closed, purring. Wanting me to give her head rubs (i oblige). After 9 years with us she's still scared of sudden movement and dislikes any kind of change. If we put down a rucksack at the exact same spot every day, it gets an intense scruteny. We also have a 5 year old. Over his young life he got several scratches - all deserved. He doesn't antagonize the cat, but he does run around and if she's sleeping in a room he rushes through, she's stressed. She has lots of space to escape to. a whole floor and my super comfy buro that's full of cat beds that are always occupied if i am in the room - but she likes being int he same room as we are. And kiddo is also there. I am sure she'd be happier in a household without a kid. But she's not afraid if kiddo is not running. I just love this cat so much. We have another one we got a few months earlier. Also a rescue. She's the kindest cat, very very smart. And sooooo soft. She's awesome. They do not play together or cuddle together, but they're often very close and always interested, what the other does. Thank you for all the info. I'll incorporate some of it into You's life.
I took in a feral fellow a few winters ago. He had been hanging around my place so I "surrendered" him to the local animal shelter and fostered then adopted him. After four years, he's still not the most confident guy but he's the sweetest, calmest little gentleman I've ever known. The shelter recently received a feral with her kittens, and after getting her spayed and adopting out her kittens, they asked me to foster her. I adopted her in the summer and I have yet to be able to touch her. That hand sensitivity is definitely an issue. Thank you, Jackson Galaxy, for teaching that Michelangelo move as I have been attempting it for some time. One time, I got too close and she batted my hand. I try to be very respectful of her while still challenging her. Yup, it's a slow process, but I look at my little guy and know that it's possible and so, so rewarding.
Omg!!! Thank you!! I got some fresh educational ideas. I just rescued a kitten. She as obviously been traumatized. Cats, animals cat suffer from PTSD.. I am seeing it first hand. I feel better now. Thank you for your encouraging words. Sometimes I like, oh no what do I do? But I know she needs love and safe surroundings. 💕😻
Keep at it! My Moses was abused by his 2 previous owners. I've had him for nearly 2 years now (he's in a few videos on my channel). He bit & scratched for the first few months, by God, "don't touch me!" Someone was doing something to him when he tried to sleep because every time I tried to pet him just a little, yowza, bite, scratch, scratch, scratch & HISSSSSSS!! He's pretty calm now.
@@reflectionsoftheday3894 Thank you! I got a new bed. She took all of her little toys under the bed . Lol!! I plan on blocking off access and replacing with a cat cabana as an alternative home base. Have a Meowy Christmas!🌲😻
We had barely begun building our beautiful little cabln on the river when late one cold night he heard the wailing cries of a single kitten all alone. Shes a beautiful manx and from that moment on they were inseparable. He nicknamed me monkey and she is lil monkey. Our cabin was coming along amazingly and she was more loyal to him than any dog ive ever seen. No matter where he was, cutting trees, working on the cabin, curling up at night, she was right by his side. I would feed her, she would lay on me when I slept but all she wanted was him. One morning, literally out of the blue... our protector, provider and the man we both love so much... just woke up and said he was done with it all. He was being extremely aggressive (completely out of character) and he scared me and ran me off. As i walked away i heard what sounded like a HUGE cannon blast and i looked back and the cabin was in flames. I thought they were in there, dead until he started laughing and told me to get out of there. I didnt know he would leave lil monkey out there, alone, her only home gone, 22 degreea cold and hungry. Luckily when he got arrester he sent the cops to tske me to get her. I didnt think she would come to me but she did. For months we have just been trying to get over the shock and have to stsy with others. We arent each others first choice. She looked for him incessantly and my heart is so broken. I couldnt face what he did to her so i looked for a home. Slowly as we come out of the fog she doesnt only come to me she chooses me. She has to just like i have to choose her. No one will ever undersrand the horror of what we went thru. Today i stopped calling her his kitty. It was very emotional to think of her as my kitty now but I do love her. She is all i have. Thsnk you for rescuing and thanks for the video
I’m fostering a little six year old, long haired tuxedo at the moment. He came from an abusive household where the children of the house ripped his fur out and used him as target practise. Understandably he’s frightened of children and he also has some fear of hands. He’ll flinch and threaten to bite, sort of give me a warning gentle nip. He’s settling well though and is really such a sweet little cat. I was told he has PTSD and that it’ll be a long journey but it’s amazing how far he’s come already. He’s trusting me more and more each day and he just wants love. I don’t think he has as much fear aggression as they thought. I believe he was trying to play and was hurt. He’s quickly learning to play with toys and seems a lot gentler than I was lead to believe
I just adopted Lexxy, she had surgery a few days ago and she’s been severely abused. She jumps when you reach out to pet her…I was told nobody was able to hold her without her freaking out. I spent about 45 mins with her, before I took her home to make she wanted to come home with me, and make sure the feeling is mutual. I even lowered myself to her eye level and laid on the ground to talk to her. It took some time but she allowed me to pet her with one finger and I had to move REALLY slow, so she will know my next movement. I took her to the store and brought her things she needed and some clothes. She purrs, when I hold her but I let her kinda do her own thing around my room so she can get comfortable. I make sure I acknowledge her to make her feel good. I cried at the shelter, I pet every animal. I wish I could take them all… It’s sooo sad. Idk how people could be so cruel. Your pets will love you forever.
Just adopted a shy/wild 1 yr 2mo....she was in the shelter 9 months and was rescued from a kill shelter originally. I am so amazed how much love she wants to give.
Oh my, my cat is so similar to that. Adopted a 3 months old stray with broken in half baby fang and back injury presumably from falling, she still cannot jump high. Howls each time we pick her up. Only after 3 months of loving she finally started to allow me petting her neck&head in small doses. She is a good cat, it is just much more difficult than with home-raised cats.
This is similar to my girl's story. My Joanna came from an abuse home. I took her from there. She wanted to be a loved house pet, but she was very skittish in the beginning. She's become more and more affectionate as she's lived with me, though. We bonded pretty quickly and we've just worked together and figured each other out. She still has some things that scare her, like she is terrified of cages/small spaces and lawnmowers and she can't handle any other animals in the house. But she's a sweet and precious girl who I'm so glad can now be with me and be loved and spoiled and played with as all cats should be.
I just adopted my Basil in July. He was apparently neglected and tossed off the highway. He's also shown signs of abuse -most likely from teenagers- because He gets aggressive around young people. But with me, he is the sweetest, funniest cat! He sleeps like a rock and has the softest meow I've ever heard. I love this cat so much! Adopt from your local shelter, people!
We adopted a cat at 6 months old and wen we took her to our vets he said omg I am so glad you got her!! He said she was severely abused when she came to the shelter. She was terrified of hands and would flinch every time a hand came near her. I swore to her she would never have anything to fear for the rest of her life. It took over a year to get her use to petting but she got her mojo back. She lived for 18 years with FIV and never flinched at a hand again.
My most recent cohort of cats has several who started out as terrified street cats. I don't know that anything specifically bad happened to them because they showed up on my patio with their mom as kittens, but their mom obviously taught them to be frightened of people. When they dashed into my apartment and were happier inside even though I was there than being outside, I had to do a lot of studying so I spent a lot of time sitting there reading books. They would run from me any time I got up to go to the bathroom or fix some food but I just moved slowly and tried not to scare them any more than them just running from me. I already had a cat who I also found on the street as a kitten but who was socialized to people and actually very friendly so I imagine that he did a lot of the work in socializing the others.\ Some of the things I found that helped these shy cats calm down was that I would do yoga every morning and so they would see me in other positions than just standing on two legs. People appear pretty big on our two legs to frightened cats so, if they see us on all fours or lying down, that is less threatening already. Also, when you think of how cats will roll on their backs when they feel trust, then it makes sense that they would feel more relaxed when they see us this way. I was in the hardest part of my classes when these cats decided to live in my apartment with me so I didn't look at them that much because I had to spend most of my time looking at books. They seem to be more threatened when we look at them. I found that I was first able to pet these scaredy cats if I would pet them without looking at them at all. They liked to be petted but they were unsure as to my motives if I was also looking at them. Obviously food is also a big deal, especially for a cat who hasn't always had regular food available. One of the shy cats actually became more socialized when my mom came over and cooked a bunch after I was all messed up in a motorcycle accident. My mom is a half a foot taller than me so she was a bit more threatening than me to the shy cats but they liked the smells of the things she cooked so they got closer both to me and to her. Of course we let them have a taste of the foods too and my mom brought them fish so that made it even more worth it to approach humans even more. One night, I woke up for some reason and felt a cat sleeping right behind my back. I assumed it was one of the cats who wasn't afraid of me but it was the cat who was actually most afraid of me still. I petted him and he did run away but I would almost always find him sleeping by the small of my back if I woke up in the night. Humans may be scary but, at the same time, we sleep relatively more deeply than cats do and we are huge animals which means that cats can sleep more easy near us since we would likely be more threatening to other animals that might harm them and so there's some safety in sleeping next to the big animal. He's still a shy cat but he does purposely hang out nearby people, even the really tall ones like my brother who is 6'7". One of the cats who was extremely afraid of me for quite a while sleeps next to me every night and, just as I took care of her and let her be afraid when she felt like she needed to be, now that I'm older and have more physical problems, she purrs next to me to help me sleep almost every single night. When I contracted COVID-19 and nearly died, she slept right next to me the whole time, even getting a little bit sick herself. She's in my room right now sleeping on my bed and I actually have a closer bond to her than to any of the other cats even though she spent a long time running from me every time I got up from my chair. Even if all you can manage is to coexist in a household with a cat who is frightened, you are still giving them a better life than they came from and that is worth everything. Chances are, they will eventually realize that you're not going to eat them and you're not going to hurt them and then they will probably draw close to you on their own. You just have to be consistently nice to them even if they freak out and give them as much space as they need while still communicating that you care about them. This is absolutely true for humans with PTSD too. Just chill with them at whatever distance they feel comfortable with because that's accepting who they are as living beings and not asking them to be anything they aren't.
Jackson is right; Nick, YA DONE GOOD, kiddo! Felix is definitely getting there. Keep up the love, dear one. You've saved this beautiful life! Well done!
This has made so much sense for my new cat from a shelter. I've never had to deal with a cat that attacks and bites me for a gentle touch or having my hand too close to her body. I'm traumatized by her reactions and makes me fearful by what she has been through. Thanks for the video.
I rescued my cat from under old shed he was there for weeks before I took him and he was shy hated being touched ran at any sound but you could never tell now he is the most loving cat now and am blessed he trust me time heals all same for cats as people.
Don't be discouraged. Keep working on the things he responds to ... Jack had a horrible fear of my, merely, walking, my legs, and feet when he came to live with me, which limited my regular life, severely. Everyday, thanks to Jackson's steady guidance, we increased from walking together to the kitchen, with his food dish, to running together, from the kitchen, to his dish spot. We've done this for over 2 years. Now, he trusts me enough to lay under my desk, while I'm at the computer, and I can put my foot in his tummy, and he'll give it a lick bath, until I burst into giggles and can't take it, anymore. He learned that it's OK to run thru' his apartment, and he does that on his own, every day. Blessings!!!
I adopted Ulysses when he was 9 months old. For 7 months he didn't let himself be touched, then a little at a time I managed to touch him when he ate. We kiss a lot, but he is afraid of being touched with the hands. It's strange!
I adopted my cat a month ago, when she first saw me in the shelter, she hissed at me. Coming home, she didn't eat for days and hid permanently (went to the vet, she was ok). Now just a month later, she is still most active at night, but even at daytime loves to play, climbs my catwalks and sometimes even comes and wants to cuddle. I'm so thankful 💕
Spot on Jackson. I rescue in rural mid Wales UK as a volunteer with a big cat charity and it’s worth every moment to see a traumatised cat start to trust. Luckily we find good caring homes with people willing to give them the time they need. Best feeling ever ❤
My boyfriend and I adopted nola a year ago. She came from a very traumatic home and it’s taken a year for her to open up to us. It’s been extremely rewarding and we can’t imagine life without our sweet baby.
We adopted a pair of rescues, sisters, about two years ago. There was a sign on their cage that said something like "Please help socialize me!" because they were terrified of people and just huddled in the corner and hissed if you put your hand too close. We brought them home, and I used a lot of tips from channels like this one to coax them out. One adapted really quick into an absolute sucker for attention, but the other wouldn't let anyone come near her. She'd vacate a room if anyone entered it. But I was patient with her, and eventually she chose me out of everyone in the house to trust first. It was the most rewarding feeling I've ever had. With my help in teaching my housemates about her needs and behaviours, she's now beginning to warm up to everyone. Couldn't have done it without channels and videos like this one.
Thanks Jackson for posting this type of video. I adopted my tuxedo cat 7 months ago during the beginning of this whole pandemic and it’s been so rewarding. She came from a troubled past - she was from a hoarding situation and had been treated for an upper respiratory infection. She hid in her safe room for 2 months and then in a cat cave in our living room for several months after. I did all the techniques you mentioned and now she spends most of her days on her heated window perch watching birds in the bird feeder and then snuggles against me on the couch at night. She’s a sweet heart and I spoil her to make up for all the bad times!
Adopted a traumatised cat 8yrs ago. Today it's the sweetest most loyal cat i ever had. He learned to accept most people (if they're chill lol) but i will allways remain the only one he fully trusts.
i was just mindless browsing ads for kittens (not thinking I’d get one as I hadn’t had my own pet as a newly out on my own adult) when suddenly I saw a plea for someone to rescue a 4 month old tabby kitten. She was being tormented by the bengal kitten in the home and hid for two months. I saw her little face hiding under a couch and immediately bought a cat carrier and drove over to her that afternoon. She hid for a few days but when she came out she was rolling over and drooling she was so happy. She’s my little mama bear bec she is so kind (I’ve never heard her hiss) and sleeps at my feet every night. I love her more than anything.
Hey folks! I'm the Nick in that video! Thanks for the support and especially thanks for answering the question Jackson.
I sent in the video about 6 months ago, and Felix has made massive improvements since then. He still bolts if I need to throw things around (like the covers when making the bed), but he lets me get close now. He's a very good boy (doesn't bite or scratch even when I annoy him accidentally) and even lets me use him as a pillow while he and I chill out and play video games together. Trust me, adopt a rescue shelter cat. Any creature that's suffered knows what real love is. Totally worth it.
Good to hear things are improving with Felix! Having PTSD myself, I can tell you it's one tough son-of-a to deal with and rarely (if ever) curable. Some of those triggers have a good chance of staying with Felix for the rest of his life. Regardless, he still knows he's safe with you around, even if the occasional trigger crops up.
For sure. He's still doing the radar ears and going wide eyed from time to time, but he's much better than when he used to be. Hopefully you can recover as much (or more) as Felix has. :)
Good job Nick and thanks for the update😀
So glad you & Felix are happy together 😻
Aw, that's great to hear! I adopted my little Romy a month and a half ago and she's had some of the same traits. She's getting better every week, but it is a slow go. Just show love and the rest will follow, huh?
I adopted three "hard to adopt" cats from my shelter. It has been the most rewarding choice I've ever made.
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Way to be a champion, Russell! I agree with you, the emotional and spiritual bond you form with a rescue animal is something so special. We need more people like you in this world!
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Thank you
Good one, mate! Thank you 🤗
About a year ago I was adopted by a semi-feral cheeky 2y/o boy 🐈. He would have not survived the last winter (malnourished, not neutered.....hence the fighting, bullied by other cats and constantly fighting with them, injured and always so scared of literally anything).
And now......a very happy healthy cat.
I have never ever seen an animal/pet full of so much love for me, it’s unbelievable! Just unreal stuff!
PS. He is currently lying on my bed, spread right across it and snoring his bum off. Love that boy.
Ahh, forgot to mention.....I had never had a cat, wasn’t keen on them whatsoever 🤣
Nick: My cat is scared of everything and doesn't trust me.
Felix: I was living in this really awful place but this man took me home and gave me a nice tree where I can watch the birdies and sometimes he gives me cheek scritches. He doesn't get mad at me when I get scared by his big hand or the loud noises. I'm so glad he brought me here.
You're doing great Nick. Trauma is hard to get over and the fact that he can sit there calmly and let you touch him is huge. I wish you and Felix the best!
I love your name "Normal's Way Overrated" and I couldn’t agree more.
Yes go Jacksons Galaxy, Nick & Felix :) There is a very affordable app called Sound Proof Puppy app from app store which sounds like it might be ok to try.
the video itself already made me cry, and now your comment is making me cry even more! so happy felix has finally found a home :')))
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@@mEmklat I cried too
Skittles runs from everyone but me. She won't let me hold her, but she curls up on me. Hands scare her. I am so mad at her former abusers.
My cats where in a hoarding home :(
And one of the cats IS also like yours very hand sensitive, so sad 😞
Cats are precious how can someone abuse them 😭
Thank you for caring for her. It must be wonderful knowing that she’s trusting and loving you
Thanks, guys. Its terrible what cats in bad situations go through. Its sickening.
It takes a lot of time. As someone who adopted a seriously abused cat, it took about 2 years for her to get over the abuse. It was a process. She was good with family far more quickly than with guests. Samantha had her spots where she would attack newcomers. She did live to be 18 and became a wonderful cat, but it took a couple years for her to recover.
Indeed. We’ve had cats that didn’t come out if their shell for 10 years! But then they were attention freaks (to be nice lol)
I was searching on line for some advise. I adopted an abused cat about 5 months ago. Although she seems to be comfortable at home. And we have play time, she loves her sister, she blinks at me, and she already has some safe places where she sleeps (and she seems happy). I can't touch her yet :(. I was just wondering if I Should I work on that? Or should I just let her be. I understand that it has being only few months. And it may take years.. but the question is let it be? Or work on it? Would she let.me.touch her when she is ready?
@@olgablanco6495 I don’t know what your cat is like now, but I would let her lead and also try and figure out what her hard boundaries are, to see if you can push a little bit. But I think she will let you know when she is ready to be pet. And I would go slow with the petting even after she has let you know
Jackson you are a very caring and kind human being who is making a difference in this world for cats and their owners. You have a natural gift for understanding cats and their needs. Your videos are helping others to understand cats because they are very very much misunderstood. Thank you for all the cats you have saved and helped. God bless you. The world needs more people like you. Keep the videos coming! Us cat owners need them.
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Yes, do work on that, but take it slow. Find reasons for her to come to you, while you sit still on the ground.
Jackson having a Carol Baskin fashion moment here
STOP! Hahahahahahahaha!
I'll cry if he starts his next video with "hey all you cool cats and kittens"
I fostered many cats with "bad past". And i have to say: when such cat learn what else people can be like, it usually become into incredible sweet and loving kitty.
This is so true! Same with humans
I have a cat that hates being touched. He never went through anything traumatizing. He came from a loving home to another. But I noticed he really is anxious, and probably get sensory overload when being touched. So I just let him be. Whenever he feels like getting pet and cuddles he will come and get all of them, when he had enough he just leaves. I love him tons, so I don't care, even if he is so cute...
That's really kind of you! So many people try to "fix" cats like this. I'm so glad you let him be himself :)
Shiroi Watashinomori, that’s normal. Cat’s ,like humans, are different by personality and likes/dislikes. He probably just doesn’t like being touched much, and when he does he just asks you for it.
My cat is the same. She was a rescue her mom was a feral who we was feeding and she brought us her kitten and we adopted her. She doesn't like comfort or cuddles or touching I bribe her just to see her lol. I wouldn't trade her for the world. The one thing she loves is Elvis she has been listening since a week old lol.
My boy Granpaw likes to be near me, but not on me. Until he wants to be on me, then you better not plan on doing anything for a while! Then, once he's got his cuddles, bye!
My cat was like this when she was younger, and now that she’s 9, she’s all about the snuggles.
I remember how the foster family of my adopted cat were warning me of her. That she has ptsd, aggressive, does not like other cats etc etc. yes first few months were a struggle, especially when we adopted a tiny 6 weeks old kitten, but now - after almost a year, I would never choose any other cat. She is the most loving, gentle giant I can ever wish for ❤️❤️
I heard all the same comments, and witin 24 hours, realized my Little Lotus had an upper respiratory infection, possible sepsis setting in (post-op from hysterectomy), and had been abused by children, a dog, and also physically traumatized. She was just 8 weeks old. I took her because I knew I could help her heal from psychological trauma... It has been a month now and after antibiotics and providing therapy, she's doing great. A big Meow! to Jackson Galaxy and crew! This is my first kitten, as all my other past kitties came to me as adults of at least two years old. Tonight, she was finally able to watch a video with me (on my lap, no less) and didn't hiss at the sound of children or other kittens. ❤
I love your triumphant story of love. ❤
Thanks, Jackson. I have two special needs cats who also have PTSD. Since I also have PTSD, I did most of these things intuitively. It's still helpful to know that I'm doing the right thing. These cats have been through so much and deserve all the love in the world. They heal me just as much as I heal them. We're a great little family.
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What an amazing person you are; it's so hard when you also have PTSD, it sort of slows things down.🥰🥰
My cat to helping me heal too.
Earlier this year I adopted a cat who ended up having FIP; he was 7 years old but he acted twice that. The rescue described him as “not cuddly” and he would barely interact with me. As we treated him, he slowly got more and more energetic. It really puts things into perspective, getting so excited about a cat doing normal cat things like running around or looking up. Last week he started sleeping and cuddling in bed with me, and all I have to say is whoever dumped him at the pound because he stopped being cute and cuddly is missing out.
Just commenting to second Jackson's assertion that adopting troubled cats from shelters, or anyplace, is worth all the time and effort that goes into it. These cats make some of the best pets and will reward you many times over for taking a chance on them. So, give a troubled cat a home and you'll both be richer for it. ~ Lisa
Yes - the Ancient Egyptians got it right - that Cats are Divine Creatures and having a Cat in our home is the ultimate wealth. We are truly RICH when loved by a Cat, regardless of financial status. They are wise too - and if you aren't genuinely kind and respectful to them, all the money in the world won't buy the love of a cat. ❤
That is the best thing I've heard all year, and no truer words have been spoken.
"Underneath all that is a cat that wants to love and be loved." That one made DH tear up. That's exactly why we keep at it with the little boo. He's IN there and he's a darling wittle soul who deserves a chance to BE a darling little soul.
Its so true! Theyre there they might hide it but they just want to loved and they want to love you :) just like Nick Said :)
I've helped an abused cat. My lovely Miko. She trusted me immediately and no one else. Miko was one day in my garden, clearly asking for help. So I took her into my house.
She is in my care now for about 4years and to this day she only trusts me and runs away from other people. When I have someone visiting me, she runs upstairs or runs away outside to here own "house" that I've build. The vet and I clearly see that she has been badly abused. But I'm trying to make her live as happy and comfortable as I can.
She is still a little bit afraid of the broom and sound off paper and fire. (her whiskers are partly burnt off) and she has been abused horrible with other bad things that the vet discovered but I'm not going into detail more.
Also I can't play with her because trying to play with her she seems threated by it. But she plays by herself and loves cuddling, sleeping by my side on the couch. And I know she is happy because she bloomed really open in the years, first time I saw her playing I got tears in my eyes also her first time she dared to do something that she knows isn't allowed but still did it. I was like yes she is feeling completely at home, she drools a lot because of happiness. She adapted living with me and my other 2 cats (who I've resqued also) quickly. And she is defending her outside territory feersly. Yes she is now a very happy cat. We think that Miko is now around 9 years old.
May you be abundantly blessed and rewarded for taking care of and loving Miko.
It took my rescued feral cat a year to come round. He was about a year old and was rescued when his back leg got badly bitten and he couldn't run away. After a very long first year (blood - mine, sweat - mine and tears - again mine!) we learnt to live with each other and this gradually grew to love and mutual respect. He is now 12 and I would go through it all again to get to where we are now : )
My boys took about a year to warm up to me. They were old enough of kittens when I got them, that their feral mother had taught them to fear humans. Now after two or three years, they have come to enjoy just cuddling up with me.
One is indoor outdoor, because he really enjoys exploring... The other one is indoor only, because he is a scaredy cat and will starve himself hiding until his brother convinces him to come inside... So he has lost outdoor privileges. He doesn't really care about going outside anyways.
They both have gotten used to my newest member of the family, Jack... A boxer mix. I thought they would be pissed, and they were at first... But now we can all be on the same couch together. 😁🥰💕 Happiness is when the whole family gets along.
What were some things you tried? I just got my
Boy a few days ago and I’ve never had a cat that didn’t take to me immediately. He’s very scared, he’s very skittish, and he even hid under the floorboards (wasn’t stuck tho) for 2 days. He hisses so bad he almost spits. I know he will eventually cave and let me love him but I’m not sure what to do and how to make the process easier for him. I know there’s a sweetheart in there
For me i just had to be calm and patient. I watched where he liked to lay and felt safe (under the bottom bookshelf) and I set up his den there with bedding litter tray scratch post. I wore old t shirts to bed and put them under there so he got used to my smell. I would throw cat treats when I was near him and would just speak in a sing song voice. Slowly treats and his scratch post and litter tray would be closer to me and in the open and his safe space got slowly bigger and eventually included me. It just took time and kindness. I wish you all the luck in the world. Xx
Perfect. Thank you, my cat has severe trauma from a badly former abusive home. My poor baby.
Same 😞😓❤️
@@Lombreee , poor animals that get abused.
same 😥🙏❤🐈❤
My dog was traumatise begining scared thunderstorm firework abandon in cemetary karma hit the previous owner
It seems that virtually all of the PTSD desensitization techniques we use with humans apparently may be applied to cats. My little one was also abused by hands (as well as siblings) and this has been a challenge, but I've applied Jackson's technique for invitation to connect. I've worked hard to associate mine with food and she now let's me pet her but I still cannot pick her up. She finally comes to my lap. No more hissing, no more hiding in corners (unless there's a loud sound), and she's responding to love and safety. I'm using her "blanket" to expand her safe territory. We've progressed from the bathroom to the master bedroom too! I will add your concept of placing my clothing with her blanket to "mix" the two. She's also now marking me as hers!
BTW, I finally got Little Lotus to sleep in a real bed and no longer cowering in corners by adding a relatively low scratch tower that has a soft basket on top of it, with one of her blankets in it. She now sleeps there every night, still in the bathroom, where she feels super safe, as that was basecamp for this little traumatized one.
Sounds like you’re really helping her blossom out of her shell and she’s well on her way to be a confident cat.
Great job, and thank you for giving a traumatized cat a chance at a much better life!
@@barbarawarren9443 Bless you for letting your little Lotus blossom! The two of you will have a very special relationship!🐾🐈❤🤗
So glad you brought this up! And I feel like traumatized cats can totally recognized a human who may have traumatization as well. Kind of a bitter sweet moment.
I adopted 2 traumatized cats 11 months ago. Their beloved owner died and the caretaker threw them out. The male is named Michelangelo. He’s doing well. His bonded beloved “wife” is Christina and she’s progressing at a snail’s pace. She doesn’t even let me pet her. She will touch her nose to my finger but won’t lean into it. I offer my finger at meal time and give the plate of food only after the nose touch. She will now sometimes come in the bathroom with me and touch my finger with her nose.
I feel so sad for what she had gone through but I’m happy I could give her a home with her beloved “husband”. She loves her cat tree and I’ve discovered her favorite kind of toy so she has 2 of them and is getting a 3rd one for Xmas.
I’m going to try your suggestion about leaving something with my scent near her favorite snooze spots which are now out in the open.
Thank you for what you do, Jackson. You’ve been a tremendous help in my journey with Michelangelo and Christina.
My girl was attacked by some large dogs as a kitten (she was thrown to them by her owner because they had too many babies in the litter) and it took seven years but now she is completely trusting of me, and even some members of my family, and she'll let strangers touch her as long as I'm holding her! She even let's me give her baths without complaints!!!
I have raised dogs all my life and never really understood or wanted cats so I never got one until the past few weeks. I can’t tell you how much I love cats and I am just amazed with how much I missed growing up wo them. I adopted one and they are just amazing. Thank you so much for your show and tips.. they have helped me greatly! 🐱
Nearly 25 years ago, I went to the SPCA to adopt a dog with my housemate. It was a Monday, the puppies were all gone, and we didn't meet any dogs that really clicked with us. There was this cat wailing, and the rest is history! Jackson often extols the virtues of adopting adult cats, and I gotta say that adopting that 3 year old cat and caring for him until he died at the ripe old age of 20 was one of the best personally transformative experiences I've had in my entire life. Just rescued four kittens this year, and I'm in Kitten Heaven. Glad you made friends with a kitty!
@Tumble Bug - That is such a heartwarming story! ❤
I have a theory that people who claim to not like cats have never owned a cat. Once they do, INSTANT cat people.
I've only been wrong on this 1 time.
@@MissReneeMichelle yea right
@@ESPN5150 So...what are you doing here on a Jackson Galaxy cat video?? ...
Seems kinda counterintuitive to me?? 😂
I adopted my two cats 5 years ago. Other than that they were found on the streets of Italy as kittens I know nothing of their past. It has taken YEARS for one of them to become loving towards me. She used to only "tolerate" affection and now she's the definition of a velcro cat! Snuggles all day every day. it took her 5 years. But I always felt loved, i knew she was comfortable in my home and around me. She just needed a lot of time to know that once she gives love, it comes back tenfold.
Velcro-cat. I love that. Good work and love to you and your velcro.
To all wondering about rescues: it is so worth it. It takes patience and love. My cat, Skittles, was less than 4 lbs and full grown when I got her. Skit knocked over garbage cans for 2 months, and was always trying to take my food, and any food she could get. She also had brain damage and worms when I got her. After 2 months, she realized I adored her, and she was loved and fed here. She is the light of my life. She is my furry little companion. I suggest to everyone to help a cat that has been rescued. It is rewarding, because a formerly abused cat knows where love and home is more than other cats, because they have seen the dark side. I don't know what I would do without my orange little girl. I'm so thankful to have my little blessing by my side. I knew she needed the most love at the rescue league, and my heart melted when I saw her sad face. She now smiles when she sleeps. Please, rescue.
All that, plus the bond you'll form with your new friend will be incredible! I know mine is. Love these 2 little rascals!
@@estibon3872 , they are a blessing.
Only rescue if you have the patience though.
I have tears of joy reading this. You are truly blessed, as is your little orange angel.
@@barbarawarren9443 , thankyou. She is everything to me.
This dude is such a sweetie. I’m not crying, you’re crying.
I didn't know there was a name for the "hand as a nose" thing. I've always done that--and I do the "I'll do the scratchy, and you turn your face where you want it scratched, okay?" thing. I remember playing a version of red-hands with a cat--we sat at cat approved distance and would try to get our hand or paw on top of the other's. No claws, no venturing outside the approved play space. Just each trying to touch the top of the other's hand/paw. His owner was rather startled that I could do this with him because he didn't like new people, and we'd only just met. I offered the game, let him set the terms, and let him finish when he was done. I'm not sure he (the cat) was used to that.
My last cat had a past where she was terrified of people. It took 2 weeks for her to come up to me on her own and I am the only one in this apartment. Even after I won her over she still hated all other people and would hiss and even scream at them (never heard a cat scream before that). If strangers were in my apartment even I could not go near her. She was best left alone. But since it is mainly just her and I she eventually came up to me on her own and rubbed her head to my hand was I sat watching TV. I did not expect that. She had trust issues but we worked together and over time she gradually learned to trust me. I was gentle with her and respectful of her space. I ended up with her as the last owner did not know what to do with her. To get her to be more sociable with their kids they got a kitten but she still stayed to herself and hid. When with me I realized she was not a cat that would ever feel happy around active kids. Her past trauma was just too much. She enjoyed being left alone. As time went on she learned to trust me and even loved my attention. She would come up to me as I was working on crafts or reading or watching TV or eating. She sure loved fish.
I have to say, I took in a very abused scardy cat. . It has been months since she came out of her shell. And I still feel so happy when I get things like, licks, brushing up on my legs, cuddling, etc. Every little victory of gaining her trust is still felt, even though I've had it for a long time. It is so worthwhile.
My baby was so scared of everything when I brought him home. I don’t know about the beginning of his life, but from the types of people and objects and sounds that he was afraid of, I have a feeling he was abused, then thrown out to become a stray. I hate whoever did that to him. But I’m so happy he’s in my life now and that he feels safe and trusts me and is happy and not afraid anymore.
As a feline caretaker that has also taken in special needs cats who have been through trauma, I just wanted to give a HUGE THANK YOU TO NICK for not only giving felix a good home but also taking on the responsibility & spending the time trying to help him overcome his trauma issues. It's definitely not the easiest thing to do & it says alot about your good nature. The world needs more people like you! I wish you & Felix the best of luck!
Nick's video with Felix made me cry. Really glad that someone is giving that cat the love and patients he needs
Just over a month ago I adopted a 1 year old street cat who had three babies to feed. She had it tough in the street with her ovaries covered in cysts (discovered when she was getting desexed, she also needed a tooth removed as it was cracked. When I took her home she was scared but after a few days she realised she was home. And we are best friends now. She is not a fan of being held for too long but will tolerate about 30
Seconds max. But loves when I give her kisses and pats. After about 2 weeks of having her I decided to adopt one of her babies still up for adoption at the rescue. So now I have her baby boy (bout 13 weeks old now). They still have their mother and son bond and it is so beautiful to see. He is not a fan of hands going near him and will run away when he thinks I want to pick him up. He will put his ears back if a hand goes near his head. So I am just keepin it super chill with him. He is not scared of me at all and follows me around and hangs out with me, but even so, if my hand was to move towards him he would run. He is a curious and funny little baby. I never had cats before them but I am so glad I adopted them and able to save them from the street as who knows how they would have ended up. Rescuing cats with traumatic pasts may be a hard job as we all want the kitties to just love us. But I am learning patience and understanding from helping them. And i am just happy knowing they are safe with me.
you're a special lady. Thank you for being a furry mom for these two.
There is always a way. My wee boy was found as a stray at 6 months I adopted him at 9 months. At first he would come nowhere near me. (He is currently nudging my phone wanting attention. So things have changed alot) He is the sweetest natured cat. Just needed an in, his was tuna that a fed him from a teaspoon. He is now 12 and still plays like a kitten.
I got my cat from the shelter and she was so scared/traumatized. She wouldn’t even sit in the same room with me for the first 6 months. But the longer I’ve had her the more she wants to be around me and now she’s always next to me while I work from home. And sleeps next to me every night :)
Give time time. We adopted Penny a year ago, she's come on so much since then. Last month she claimed onto a lap for the first time, I cried.
Thanks so much for this…I needed it today! I’ve had my rescue 13 months now and I know he has some kind of trauma with hands. I still cannot touch him but if he does crawl up on my lap some day I’m sure I will cry too!
So excited to see this - I just adopted a traumatized, sick little Siamese mix kitten several weeks ago. She's made an amazing transition so far with cat psychotherapy and antibiotics - and I'm open to all the professional advice I can get, Jackson. You rock! Watching the video now! 🐱
Jackson has helped me and my 2 rescued boys get along soooo much better! I watch all of his videos I can! Thanks for adopting! My non-professional advice is lots of TLC!
Such a beautiful gift- having a loving pet parent that does what she can to help her kitty heal ❤️
Jackson and The Kitten Lady will help you in every situation. I also read a lot of articles and materials on how to help feral cats adapt and overcome fears, because abused/neglected cats have a lot of feral tendencies/reactions.
@@jackthecat4924 one thing I've learned about ferals that you take into your home - is let everything be on THEIR terms. I find often times humans are in a hurry to want to make friends with their feral. Some come around quickly, others it seems like they take forever. My little feral took 3 years before she took the initiative to jump into my lap. Don't get me wrong, there were other little points of contact, the Michelangelo Touch, the actual little pettings, but, man, when they take that huge step to make the initiative to jump into your lap, WOW!! You will cry! You have officially "tamed" your first feral, and there's nothing like it. But remember, not all cats are lap cats, so maybe they'll be content to lay right next to you, and that's awesome too!! Good luck to all of us rescuers!🐾🐈❤🤗
I have two street boys, one a tuxedo and the other a beautiful Snowshoe with the most adorable little mustache and sharpie dots on his toes. Something that I think helped a lot was thunder shirts. Not a lot, otherwise they would have been too dependent on that to feel normal, but just when they were feeling particularly stressed or if there was something we anticipated to be upsetting or stressful, such as a vet visit or we were going on vacation, or moving, or construction, or new kittens (only one time), or family staying over (we had everybody from both halves of the family staying including my grampa's dog, during the wedding). Whenever we did put the thunder shirt on, we kept it on for a few weeks for the sake of making it worth the effort to get them into it.
I'm taking this video as a sign to adopt this cat whose previous owner moved house and left the cat in the home for over a week. She's been at the shelter for 18 months 💔
@@Kitty_Sakura Awww that's really sweet of you, I'm glad they're in good hands now. I have a lot of love to give and I'm willing to take it slow
Being at a shelter for 18 months also does a number on a cat. When I volunteered at a shelter, we had a cat that had been there too long and what once was a fairly sweet cat turned into a stressed out beasty. That' why fostering is so vital to the emotional well being of a cat or dog. If you don't think you're ready to adopt, try fostering first. There are a bazillion of foster-fails out there.
@@Kitty_Sakura Awww I'm sorry. I'm sure you did amazingly with looking after them and loving them x
@@franciegarneau1651 Thanks for mentioning. In the end I wasn't the best match for the cat I mentioned but I have now registered to foster with two charities. I can imagine the stress animals go through in that environment
I have a cat like this. She was also abused and neglected by a past owner. Blitz is physically handicapped and has PTSD from her past, so there are some things I just cannot do around her. I warn guests about those, but she has in the 6 or so years I've had her completely defrosted toward all contact and since she is very food oriented, I generally have guests bring her an offering of treats when they enter my home to keep her good mojo going. She is an adorable bundle of cuddles.
My cat daughter Kia was rescued by me, back in February, who also had an abusive past. Not long after Christmas (before I adopted her), I saw on a news article that her and her sister, both pretty much kittens at about 6 months old (both were black kittens...), had been thrown out a car window and left to either die or fend for themselves. It was a miracle they even survived, and no one knows about the possible trauma that they probably experienced during their kitten years. Both of them were rescued by my city's local group, and I rushed to meet them. Kia's sister was adopted by another loving family before I could adopt them both (my original plan), but I took in Kia. The moment I met her, I knew I had to have her in my life. She was so small, and so scared and timid. She hid under the bed the moment she got home, and didn't want to be near anyone. She couldn't trust anyone. So I came and slept in the same room as her and never gave up. I was always slow, calm, patient, and kind. We eventually bonded and now she has come such a long way. She LOVES to be with me now, and will snuggle into my arms and fall asleep. She enjoys my whole family and although she is still very cautious, she is also curious and will meet guests on her own terms. I adore her with every ounce of my heart and I'm happy to have her in my life. I would rescue any animal that's been abused, anyday.
I made the decision to adopt a cat from an animal rescue. I was told he was rescued from a hoarder house and the other cats would also pick on him, he arrived at the foster home with scratches all over his face, deep scars on the back of his neck and little chunks taken out of his ears. scared of everything. a couple of surgeries and he was placed for adoption. I didn't want a kitten, I did want a bit more mature cat, he is about 5. First day home he hid behind a couple of rubbermaid totes in his room. I decided I wasn't going to rush anything with him and let him set the pace. A friend build him a magnificent cat tree and we placed it in his room by the window, he can watch the birds in the summer and the little people moving around in the parking lot. In the beginning I had a lot of, what have I done moments, 5 months later, he zooms around the apartment when I get up. he loves his go bird and we play with it a lot, he makes me giggle with his antics, he likes to run and lift up the matt so he can sit under it. He is still very shy with other people, however he likes to sit in front of the door and listen to the goings on of my neighbours. I'm lucky to be working from home and he likes to stop by and get his cheeks scratched and tell me about the dreams he's had :) He's not 100% sure of me - but he's getting there - he's added so much joy to my life! If you are thinking of adopting an animal that's been abused, it will take time, you will need loving kindness and patience - but it's so worth it! - Jackson you have been my safety net!! thank you so much
My eyes are watering.
I'm not crying, you're crying!
Cats are the most amazing animals to ever walk the earth. My heart breaks for any cat that has been traumatized.
Almost all my cats came to me: strays, giveaways from friends who could not keep them, etc. which is good, because I know I could not go to the shelter to adopt a kitty. I would spend the next week in tears, and I would want to take them all home with me. But I am hopefully getting them before they end up in a shelter, so all's right with the world.
I have a trauma kitty too, she will let me pet her until she decides enough and bolts, but no one else... Everything is difficult, grooming, medicine when needed and forget about ever willingly being held! Noises and sometimes even a blanket or hair or even dust touching her when she wasn't expecting it sends her darting off, or jumping a foot. I've bought the feli way plugins and tried a natural anxiety treat to help her, she has a hideout etc. but it's still a daily process.... and by that I mean it's been six years.... But I do love her so much, and although it's hard I believe we really are helping these not so easy kitties have a decent quality of life, and one not everyone could handle.
Good work Nick! And btw, your rescue trauma kitty actually seems to be a lot more relaxed then mine, so clearly your doing an excellent job!!
Jackson, when my 8 month kitten is panicked he bites and draws blood. Then I cry out 'ow' or begin to cry. These aren't scratches. I love him and he has many beautiful traits. I see how sweet he really is. He was not loved before I adopted him. He also is frightened if any there is any disorder in the house. He loves routine...Messes actually scare him, ex. dirty dishes? Why or more importantly how can I heal this wound? His habits are perfect and he purrs whenever he sees me. I am 74, a shut-in and quiet. He is such good company.
This makes me so sad. Like I want to cry. Why do people abuse animals?
A lack of empathy for a defenseless animal. The fact that they don't surrender animal to a shelter early when they realise that they are not coping with the demands of the animal is the real problem.
These people will do the same for humans if we remove laws
I rescued my little 8lb female cat from the city shelter, which can best be described as an animal hell hole. She didn’t have people trauma but being that she was white with blue eyes I was convinced she was deaf for awhile because she wouldn’t react to any noise. Turns out she can hear fine, it was just that the volume was so loud and constant there she had learned to block out all sounds. It took her months to adjust to my home and the quiet serenity of it, but she and I have a really strong bond now. I pet her ever so gently sometimes, just barely moving the fur and it makes her melt. She’s my little shadow and when she doesn’t feel well she becomes glued to me and I know it’s time to take her to the vet. Rescuing an animal, and cat for that matter, is one of the richest experiences life has to offer. It’s totally worth it, even though it will take more of your time, effort, and money.
My little guy was so scared of people that he would try to run up a wall if there was no other place to go. Like The Matrix. Anyway a few years later he comes to me and sits in my lap and follows me from room to room, and loves to play. I fostered him at first but nobody would adopt him so I did adopt him eventually and so glad I did. I have 2 other confident and relaxed cats. I think having other cats where he can see how you treat them well and that they aren’t scared of you helps the scared one to gain confidence. Good luck. You seem to be well on your way.
Sabrina was the same way when I got her. The shelter said a lady dropped her off pregnant, but they could tell she was not a feral. She had been there for months but didn't like other cats or people, but for whatever reason, she made it clear she wanted to go home with me. I thought I made a mistake because she made herself comfy behind the toilet and wanted no pets. So I just sat there in the bathroom on the floor reading a book for a couple of hours each day. Eventually, she was happy to roam around the bedroom ever vigilant for something scary. Over time I could pet her head and soft pets on the back. Now, two years later, she will hang out in bed with me in the morning and will follow me around the house. She gets along with her sister KitCat and will chill in sunbeams together. She still hides under the bed when guests come over and runs away from loud noises... but little steps. I just hope that overall she is happy.
A year ago I took in a semi-feral cat who was being bullied by the other cats in the neighborhood. She was terrified of everyone and everything but I could also tell she was desperate for love from somebody. She's a much more comfortable and happy cat indoors. She still won't let me pick her up but she does demand pettings and play first thing in the morning. Jackson's techniques have been invaluable in helping us along in this journey--I've never had a cat before! Hoping to get her a companion cat next year.
Thank you for sharing these tips! I've just taken in a traumatized 1.5 year old cat who some monster shot in the leg with a shotgun V_V It happened about 4 months ago, and the cat survived by a miracle on his own outdoors. His bone healed and is stable, but there are bullet fragments around the joint and he still limps. It's only been 3 days since we've had him, so we've got him in 2 large connected dog crates covered in a sheet in our master bathroom, with a place to hide inside the crate, and only go in to give food or a treat, and to gently speak to him. The poor little guy....I hope he will be able to over come his trauma with the love and kindness we are giving him
Thank you for adopting this little angel! I hope everything is going well. ❤❤
Update?
Thank you for helping him and making his life better.
That poor little angel! I sincerely hope he's doing better these days and that you know how wonderful you are for helping him.
The first rescue was feral. She wasn't abused, but she had to adjust to living inside. She's turned out to be a sweetheart. She's social and loving.
The second rescue was horribly abused and neglected. She suffers lasting neurological damage, but has adjusted beautifully. We adore her, and accept her just as she is. I sing Harry Belafonte songs to her, and she's grown to be the dearest little deadly black tarantula.
The third rescue is the biological sibling of the second rescue. He arrived malnourished, filthy, and teeming with fleas. He wasn't "fixed", which prompted my son to ask, "Should his litter box smell THAT bad?" Once we got him fixed and cleaned up, he's been my "stinky little teenager". He's a pesky little brother to his sisters, and he's barrelled through an open screened window, but he's a big love bug. As rough as he could be (he arrived with open wounds from fighting with another animal), he can play with me without leaving a scratch.
They all are loved and well cared for. The litter boxes are clean and plentiful. There are chin scratches and everyone gets pats and brushing. There are treats and toys, playtime and downtime. Cardboard boxes and paper sacks don't leave the house for at least 2 weeks. There is an acceptance vibe here. I think that's a biggie. I don't give up on my rescues. This is their home. We can't change their beginning, but we can make sure that their forever after is a life filled with love and comfort.
Did I mention that my little boy cat has little vampire fangs and little tufts on his ears?
its truely rewarding to see how a scared cat learn to trust us.. I rescued one few months ago...all the docs told me to take her back to the park where i found her. they all told me its almost impossible to tame a wild one. I am so glad i didnt stick with my own belief and that belief proved that i was right and still right about this cute little one. she just needed time and love. she improved so much within these few months! now she would even come to me for attention! there are so many cats and dogs out there waiting for home, they all just need time to learn to love again.
We have a really traumatized cat that joined our home in December. It has taken months to earn his trust and it was rough going at first. In his case his trauma is associated with women so it has taken a LONG time for me to earn his trust. Jackson your videos have been invaluable in getting him to understand that we are a safe space. Thank you! I can now pick him up and give him scritches and he purrs like a motor. I never thought that would happen when I first brought him home. I don't know what this poor guy experienced, but we are dedicated in making him happy. Nick, your kitty looks very relaxed and content so you are doing all the right things!
LOVE LOVE LOVE that shirt on you!
My husband's cat was abused by his exgirlfriend and it took him a while to get used to having a loving woman around. Took hubby a little bit to get used to it too, no more emotional abuse. It doesn't matter what the abusers gender is or what type of abuse it is, abuse is abuse and those who do it need appropriate punishment and counceling or they will continue their crimes.
Thank you Nick for rescuing Felix
Hey Nick. I have adopted many rescued kitties over my lifetime. When a kitty doesn't want or won't allow me to pet him/her, I have discovered that the best way to "gentle" him/her is to brush them. You can use an old Boar Bristle (Not nylon) hairbrush or a Shedmonster (Am-zon) tool, they will love it by the third time you do it. I'l'l bet this will work for you and Felix as well, it has never failed with me. God Bless you both
I agree; ze kittiesh cannot escape teh power of ze brush!
Thank you! My cat came to me traumatized at 1 year. She’s now 9 and this past summer we went through a trauma together. She regressed back into lots of her anxious, traumatized behaviors that we had worked past. We’re working through what happened over the summer along with the re-triggered older traumas she endured in her first year of life. I’ve found myself discouraged some days when it seems she retreats all the way. But from this video, I can reassure myself that I’m doing all the right things. And I haven’t gotten past last summer yet either. So we’ll get there together.
@Sam_Warner Praying that you and your kitty have healed since you wrote this comment. Gentle hugs!
Thank you Nick for taking in Felix, he looks so content.
I had to make a very hard choice earlier this month. Three years ago I adopted a gentle sweet cat named Darling. She was from the humane society. I also at the time had a very old boy that I had from a kitten so I was actually looking for an older cat. Darling stole my heart. I kept her inside for almost a full year. Sadly the people that lived with me would just let her out. Well she decided that she was going to be an outdoor cat. No matter what I did she demanded to be outside. She was taken to the humane society twice and was kept by a neighbor that thought she was a stray for a few months. I was told that I would be fined the next time she goes to the humane society. I tried everything again. I tried keeping her in the basement, she liked being down there and there was only one door. Well one of the people who live here decided that she would let her out. If she didn't then the other guy would.
I tried getting her used to being on a halter. That failed so badly. She just wouldn't have it. I wish she would have just froze. She attacked. As soon as I put that on her she went nuts. She was out for blood. Now I had a problem... how to get it off of her. I did after some time, she got me really badly with her claws though. She did have surgery on her back, I don't know why but she does have a long scar on her back. I couldn't get them to say why she had surgery but she hated her back being touched and well the halter just set her off. I didn't have the heart to do it again.
If I had kept her in the spring I would have made an outdoor pen for her. Though I don't think she would have been happy with it, she would be outside.
A year after the guy moved in she started acting really different. She would jump at sudden movement and she just hated that guy so much. She was so scared of him. Well I caught him in the act, he put his boots on and kicked her. I found out that he had been doing this for awhile. Why? He doesn't like her and she doesn't like the dog.
With everything that has happened and the fact that even the coldest day won't keep her inside. I found her a nice home in the country. She is now a barn cat. The family loves her. She's well fed and she has a heated barn to keep her warm. She can now hunt to her hearts content. I still miss her, but she just couldn't be a city cat any longer.
This is heartbreaking to hear, but I'm so glad you did what was right for her in the end. It hurts so much to think of what she had to go through till you found out, and I'm glad you did! It's sickening how people will abuse animals, especially when he takes care of a dog himself. Horrible and despicable behaviour. I hope his dog's okay and so is your older cat.
Before this pandemic really "took off" my daughter and I were volunteering at the cat adoption center at PetSmart. We went in once every week to hang out with the cats and kittens, who had all come from local shelters, and refill their food and water and change the cat litter (well, I changed the litter) . The most difficult part of the job was keeping myself from taking any of the cats home with us. Our apartment is infested with roaches and is no home for a cat that deserves only the best. I miss being able to play with the cats. Stupid pandemic 🙁
Sprinkle borax to get rid of roaches.
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That poor baby had such a hard life. I am so, so happy he now has a loving human and a safe home.
11:24 My cat Ripley had a big warning sticker at the shelter that she was aggressive and hard to handle. She attacked multiple volunteers, she scratched two in the face, she had been adopted and returned for being too difficult, and no one wanted her. I have experience with difficult cats and I just fell in love with her right away, so I adopted her.
That was 7 years ago, and she’s honestly the happiest cat I’ve ever known. She just needed someone to learn her body language and LISTEN. She has specific things she dislikes and she’ll give you a warning… but only one. Her fight or flight response is always fight, but she’s not a mean cat. I listened to her and she learned to trust me, and now she’s affectionate and loving and we’re both so happy. She’s also an amazing big sister to other rescue cats and is the first one to help the new ones settle in. I’m beyond grateful that she came into my life, worth every second 💜
I have 2 kitties who were severely abused as kittens. One was surrendered to the ASPCA when the "boyfriend" didn't like the cat. When I adopted him he was really reactive to any hand put over him and would attack when a hand resembled a fist. I'm 99.9% sure he was punched. It took six months for me to bring him around. I also came from an abusive relationship so we saved each other. Grisly (my cat) chose Tim (my life partner) and now he has two doting parents and doesn't remember that past life. We also rescued a 7 week old kitten thrown onto the highway during rush hour. He is squirmy if you pick him up and doesn't like car rides. It took awhile to gain his trust, but somehow, after all he went through, there isn't a mean bone in his body. We can't imagine what kind of monster would do that to a kitten... But we get so much joy whenever he reaches milestones like asking for pets or bringing a toy to us to play. It really is so very rewarding.
We adopted a black kitty cameo back in September from a local rescue and so glad we did, she is a beautiful soul and a lot of fun, we love her so much
Thank you, Jackson. I adopted a street cat a little over two weeks ago who was living outside for nearly two years. She is very shy yet we were making remarkable progress with trust. Two weeks ago I had to take her to the vet for an ear infection. Today was her recheck and she was having no part of getting into the carrier. She literally freaked out. Eventually I got her in using a towel but I know it traumatized her. Now I feel like I have destroyed all trust we had built. I'm crying as I write this because I'm so afraid that she will never trust me again. Your video helped but I admit I'm still worried. I'll do what you said and be patient. Still, it's so sad that this happened 😥
Very late replying, so sorry. We have a rescue cat who freaked every time there was a vet visit. Eventually she learned that the carrier would return her home. A little extra attention afterwards helped - a soft toothbrush groom, for example. Bless you for taking on a street cat! They need extra time and care, but experience says she will become more loving and sweet than you could've imagined. All our cats for 20 years have been rescued ferals. The absolute worst case feral 8 years ago now wants nothing more than to snuggle against my shoulder.
I adopted a kitten from a neglectful situation As soon as I got him to my house he completely relaxed. You would not believe it was the same cat! I was told he was hissy,growly,hid all the time,wouldn't let anyone near him. Now he is so sweet and loving,never hear him hiss or growl...I believe cats know good people!!😻
We had 2 cats 6 weeks ago, a middle aged 25 pound former feral tom with some social issues named Circe and a 9 mo old frisky girl named Charlie. They were pretty much normal housecats, and enjoyed the company of my 2 adult sons and I. 5 weeks ago our apartment building caught fire, but we had a plan which included evac'ing the cats, and we all got out safely, even through dangerously smoke filled hallways. Circe was settled down later the same day, and was normal 24 hours later. Charlie has taken a very long time to settle, and is still aggressively scared of some situations that were fine before, although she seems to be getting more secure every week.
It`s Men like You , that keeps society from going over the edge and Dude , I love You because of that .
Nick, my dude... You. Are. Awesome!
I’m new to fostering and started to foster just this year 2021 in Sri Lanka. I got stuck here in Sri Lanka during travelling the country and since I’m seeing all these cats and kittens suffering outside fighting for food and shelter, I decided to help. It makes me so happy.
Thank you Jackson for all your work and free education to make it possible for people like me to get into fostering without the fear of not knowing what to do 🙏🏼🐱
ohhhh, that explains so much.
Our rescue "You" (We're non English natives) was flown out of greece to a cat shelter in Germany. She'd have very bad chances to be adopted out in Greece, i was told. She needs to command exactly what kind of touch is allowed. And no matter what, she always uses her claws. Even gently prodding to ask for a head rub. Having her on the lap hurts. Yes - it doesn't if her nails are clipped, but we did not regularily do this and now its an absolute fight and traumatizing to her. We regularily get her to the vet where a professional quickly gets it over with...
She has the deepest, loudest purr and is very intense about cuddles. She basically crawls into you. But I cannot pick her up and put her next to me, if i want it. (I can pick her up and hold her if necessary) The top of her head is always safe. But everything else gets a pretty painful scratch. Right now she sits next to my head, eyes falling closed, purring. Wanting me to give her head rubs (i oblige).
After 9 years with us she's still scared of sudden movement and dislikes any kind of change. If we put down a rucksack at the exact same spot every day, it gets an intense scruteny. We also have a 5 year old. Over his young life he got several scratches - all deserved. He doesn't antagonize the cat, but he does run around and if she's sleeping in a room he rushes through, she's stressed. She has lots of space to escape to. a whole floor and my super comfy buro that's full of cat beds that are always occupied if i am in the room - but she likes being int he same room as we are. And kiddo is also there. I am sure she'd be happier in a household without a kid. But she's not afraid if kiddo is not running.
I just love this cat so much. We have another one we got a few months earlier. Also a rescue. She's the kindest cat, very very smart. And sooooo soft. She's awesome. They do not play together or cuddle together, but they're often very close and always interested, what the other does.
Thank you for all the info. I'll incorporate some of it into You's life.
I adopted a six yo kitty who had been in the shelter for 9 mos. the little chap is now 12. We get on quite well.
I took in a feral fellow a few winters ago. He had been hanging around my place so I "surrendered" him to the local animal shelter and fostered then adopted him. After four years, he's still not the most confident guy but he's the sweetest, calmest little gentleman I've ever known. The shelter recently received a feral with her kittens, and after getting her spayed and adopting out her kittens, they asked me to foster her. I adopted her in the summer and I have yet to be able to touch her. That hand sensitivity is definitely an issue. Thank you, Jackson Galaxy, for teaching that Michelangelo move as I have been attempting it for some time. One time, I got too close and she batted my hand. I try to be very respectful of her while still challenging her.
Yup, it's a slow process, but I look at my little guy and know that it's possible and so, so rewarding.
Omg!!! Thank you!! I got some fresh educational ideas. I just rescued a kitten. She as obviously been traumatized. Cats, animals cat suffer from PTSD.. I am seeing it first hand. I feel better now. Thank you for your encouraging words. Sometimes I like, oh no what do I do? But I know she needs love and safe surroundings. 💕😻
Keep at it! My Moses was abused by his 2 previous owners. I've had him for nearly 2 years now (he's in a few videos on my channel). He bit & scratched for the first few months, by God, "don't touch me!" Someone was doing something to him when he tried to sleep because every time I tried to pet him just a little, yowza, bite, scratch, scratch, scratch & HISSSSSSS!! He's pretty calm now.
@@reflectionsoftheday3894 Thank you! I got a new bed. She took all of her little toys under the bed . Lol!! I plan on blocking off access and replacing with a cat cabana as an alternative home base. Have a Meowy Christmas!🌲😻
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It feels like a warm hug when a cat slow blinks at you. It’s the best feeling in the world!
We had barely begun building our beautiful little cabln on the river when late one cold night he heard the wailing cries of a single kitten all alone. Shes a beautiful manx and from that moment on they were inseparable. He nicknamed me monkey and she is lil monkey.
Our cabin was coming along amazingly and she was more loyal to him than any dog ive ever seen. No matter where he was, cutting trees, working on the cabin, curling up at night, she was right by his side. I would feed her, she would lay on me when I slept but all she wanted was him.
One morning, literally out of the blue... our protector, provider and the man we both love so much... just woke up and said he was done with it all. He was being extremely aggressive (completely out of character) and he scared me and ran me off. As i walked away i heard what sounded like a HUGE cannon blast and i looked back and the cabin was in flames. I thought they were in there, dead until he started laughing and told me to get out of there. I didnt know he would leave lil monkey out there, alone, her only home gone, 22 degreea cold and hungry. Luckily when he got arrester he sent the cops to tske me to get her. I didnt think she would come to me but she did.
For months we have just been trying to get over the shock and have to stsy with others. We arent each others first choice. She looked for him incessantly and my heart is so broken. I couldnt face what he did to her so i looked for a home.
Slowly as we come out of the fog she doesnt only come to me she chooses me. She has to just like i have to choose her. No one will ever undersrand the horror of what we went thru. Today i stopped calling her his kitty. It was very emotional to think of her as my kitty now but I do love her. She is all i have.
Thsnk you for rescuing and thanks for the video
I’ve just adopted a shy cat today and she’s stuck to the corner of a box I made up for her. Going to give her lots of space, love, pets, and patience.
I’m fostering a little six year old, long haired tuxedo at the moment. He came from an abusive household where the children of the house ripped his fur out and used him as target practise. Understandably he’s frightened of children and he also has some fear of hands. He’ll flinch and threaten to bite, sort of give me a warning gentle nip. He’s settling well though and is really such a sweet little cat.
I was told he has PTSD and that it’ll be a long journey but it’s amazing how far he’s come already. He’s trusting me more and more each day and he just wants love. I don’t think he has as much fear aggression as they thought. I believe he was trying to play and was hurt. He’s quickly learning to play with toys and seems a lot gentler than I was lead to believe
I just adopted Lexxy, she had surgery a few days ago and she’s been severely abused. She jumps when you reach out to pet her…I was told nobody was able to hold her without her freaking out. I spent about 45 mins with her, before I took her home to make she wanted to come home with me, and make sure the feeling is mutual. I even lowered myself to her eye level and laid on the ground to talk to her. It took some time but she allowed me to pet her with one finger and I had to move REALLY slow, so she will know my next movement. I took her to the store and brought her things she needed and some clothes. She purrs, when I hold her but I let her kinda do her own thing around my room so she can get comfortable. I make sure I acknowledge her to make her feel good. I cried at the shelter, I pet every animal. I wish I could take them all… It’s sooo sad. Idk how people could be so cruel. Your pets will love you forever.
Just adopted a shy/wild 1 yr 2mo....she was in the shelter 9 months and was rescued from a kill shelter originally. I am so amazed how much love she wants to give.
Oh my, my cat is so similar to that. Adopted a 3 months old stray with broken in half baby fang and back injury presumably from falling, she still cannot jump high. Howls each time we pick her up. Only after 3 months of loving she finally started to allow me petting her neck&head in small doses. She is a good cat, it is just much more difficult than with home-raised cats.
This is similar to my girl's story. My Joanna came from an abuse home. I took her from there. She wanted to be a loved house pet, but she was very skittish in the beginning. She's become more and more affectionate as she's lived with me, though. We bonded pretty quickly and we've just worked together and figured each other out. She still has some things that scare her, like she is terrified of cages/small spaces and lawnmowers and she can't handle any other animals in the house. But she's a sweet and precious girl who I'm so glad can now be with me and be loved and spoiled and played with as all cats should be.
I just adopted my Basil in July. He was apparently neglected and tossed off the highway. He's also shown signs of abuse -most likely from teenagers- because He gets aggressive around young people. But with me, he is the sweetest, funniest cat! He sleeps like a rock and has the softest meow I've ever heard. I love this cat so much! Adopt from your local shelter, people!
We adopted a cat at 6 months old and wen we took her to our vets he said omg I am so glad you got her!! He said she was severely abused when she came to the shelter. She was terrified of hands and would flinch every time a hand came near her. I swore to her she would never have anything to fear for the rest of her life. It took over a year to get her use to petting but she got her mojo back. She lived for 18 years with FIV and never flinched at a hand again.
The comment section is making me tear up!! So much love and patience and so many grateful hoomans and kittehs!!
My most recent cohort of cats has several who started out as terrified street cats. I don't know that anything specifically bad happened to them because they showed up on my patio with their mom as kittens, but their mom obviously taught them to be frightened of people.
When they dashed into my apartment and were happier inside even though I was there than being outside, I had to do a lot of studying so I spent a lot of time sitting there reading books. They would run from me any time I got up to go to the bathroom or fix some food but I just moved slowly and tried not to scare them any more than them just running from me. I already had a cat who I also found on the street as a kitten but who was socialized to people and actually very friendly so I imagine that he did a lot of the work in socializing the others.\
Some of the things I found that helped these shy cats calm down was that I would do yoga every morning and so they would see me in other positions than just standing on two legs. People appear pretty big on our two legs to frightened cats so, if they see us on all fours or lying down, that is less threatening already. Also, when you think of how cats will roll on their backs when they feel trust, then it makes sense that they would feel more relaxed when they see us this way.
I was in the hardest part of my classes when these cats decided to live in my apartment with me so I didn't look at them that much because I had to spend most of my time looking at books. They seem to be more threatened when we look at them. I found that I was first able to pet these scaredy cats if I would pet them without looking at them at all. They liked to be petted but they were unsure as to my motives if I was also looking at them.
Obviously food is also a big deal, especially for a cat who hasn't always had regular food available. One of the shy cats actually became more socialized when my mom came over and cooked a bunch after I was all messed up in a motorcycle accident. My mom is a half a foot taller than me so she was a bit more threatening than me to the shy cats but they liked the smells of the things she cooked so they got closer both to me and to her. Of course we let them have a taste of the foods too and my mom brought them fish so that made it even more worth it to approach humans even more.
One night, I woke up for some reason and felt a cat sleeping right behind my back. I assumed it was one of the cats who wasn't afraid of me but it was the cat who was actually most afraid of me still. I petted him and he did run away but I would almost always find him sleeping by the small of my back if I woke up in the night. Humans may be scary but, at the same time, we sleep relatively more deeply than cats do and we are huge animals which means that cats can sleep more easy near us since we would likely be more threatening to other animals that might harm them and so there's some safety in sleeping next to the big animal. He's still a shy cat but he does purposely hang out nearby people, even the really tall ones like my brother who is 6'7".
One of the cats who was extremely afraid of me for quite a while sleeps next to me every night and, just as I took care of her and let her be afraid when she felt like she needed to be, now that I'm older and have more physical problems, she purrs next to me to help me sleep almost every single night. When I contracted COVID-19 and nearly died, she slept right next to me the whole time, even getting a little bit sick herself. She's in my room right now sleeping on my bed and I actually have a closer bond to her than to any of the other cats even though she spent a long time running from me every time I got up from my chair.
Even if all you can manage is to coexist in a household with a cat who is frightened, you are still giving them a better life than they came from and that is worth everything. Chances are, they will eventually realize that you're not going to eat them and you're not going to hurt them and then they will probably draw close to you on their own. You just have to be consistently nice to them even if they freak out and give them as much space as they need while still communicating that you care about them. This is absolutely true for humans with PTSD too. Just chill with them at whatever distance they feel comfortable with because that's accepting who they are as living beings and not asking them to be anything they aren't.
Jackson is right; Nick, YA DONE GOOD, kiddo! Felix is definitely getting there. Keep up the love, dear one. You've saved this beautiful life! Well done!
This has made so much sense for my new cat from a shelter. I've never had to deal with a cat that attacks and bites me for a gentle touch or having my hand too close to her body. I'm traumatized by her reactions and makes me fearful by what she has been through. Thanks for the video.
I rescued my cat from under old shed he was there for weeks before I took him and he was shy hated being touched ran at any sound but you could never tell now he is the most loving cat now and am blessed he trust me time heals all same for cats as people.
Don't be discouraged. Keep working on the things he responds to ... Jack had a horrible fear of my, merely, walking, my legs, and feet when he came to live with me, which limited my regular life, severely. Everyday, thanks to Jackson's steady guidance, we increased from walking together to the kitchen, with his food dish, to running together, from the kitchen, to his dish spot. We've done this for over 2 years. Now, he trusts me enough to lay under my desk, while I'm at the computer, and I can put my foot in his tummy, and he'll give it a lick bath, until I burst into giggles and can't take it, anymore. He learned that it's OK to run thru' his apartment, and he does that on his own, every day. Blessings!!!
I adopted Ulysses when he was 9 months old. For 7 months he didn't let himself be touched, then a little at a time I managed to touch him when he ate. We kiss a lot, but he is afraid of being touched with the hands. It's strange!
I adopted my cat a month ago, when she first saw me in the shelter, she hissed at me. Coming home, she didn't eat for days and hid permanently (went to the vet, she was ok). Now just a month later, she is still most active at night, but even at daytime loves to play, climbs my catwalks and sometimes even comes and wants to cuddle. I'm so thankful 💕
Spot on Jackson. I rescue in rural mid Wales UK as a volunteer with a big cat charity and it’s worth every moment to see a traumatised cat start to trust. Luckily we find good caring homes with people willing to give them the time they need. Best feeling ever ❤
My boyfriend and I adopted nola a year ago. She came from a very traumatic home and it’s taken a year for her to open up to us. It’s been extremely rewarding and we can’t imagine life without our sweet baby.
We adopted a pair of rescues, sisters, about two years ago. There was a sign on their cage that said something like "Please help socialize me!" because they were terrified of people and just huddled in the corner and hissed if you put your hand too close.
We brought them home, and I used a lot of tips from channels like this one to coax them out. One adapted really quick into an absolute sucker for attention, but the other wouldn't let anyone come near her. She'd vacate a room if anyone entered it. But I was patient with her, and eventually she chose me out of everyone in the house to trust first. It was the most rewarding feeling I've ever had. With my help in teaching my housemates about her needs and behaviours, she's now beginning to warm up to everyone.
Couldn't have done it without channels and videos like this one.
Thanks Jackson for posting this type of video. I adopted my tuxedo cat 7 months ago during the beginning of this whole pandemic and it’s been so rewarding. She came from a troubled past - she was from a hoarding situation and had been treated for an upper respiratory infection. She hid in her safe room for 2 months and then in a cat cave in our living room for several months after. I did all the techniques you mentioned and now she spends most of her days on her heated window perch watching birds in the bird feeder and then snuggles against me on the couch at night. She’s a sweet heart and I spoil her to make up for all the bad times!
Adopted a traumatised cat 8yrs ago. Today it's the sweetest most loyal cat i ever had. He learned to accept most people (if they're chill lol) but i will allways remain the only one he fully trusts.
i was just mindless browsing ads for kittens (not thinking I’d get one as I hadn’t had my own pet as a newly out on my own adult) when suddenly I saw a plea for someone to rescue a 4 month old tabby kitten. She was being tormented by the bengal kitten in the home and hid for two months. I saw her little face hiding under a couch and immediately bought a cat carrier and drove over to her that afternoon. She hid for a few days but when she came out she was rolling over and drooling she was so happy. She’s my little mama bear bec she is so kind (I’ve never heard her hiss) and sleeps at my feet every night. I love her more than anything.
Shelter cats are the best....nuff said!!