All the neurodivergent people shaking their heads so hard from how relatable task paralysis is. Switching the phone call list is such a good idea. I could do *so much* for a friend, but doing the same thing for myself is suddenly nearly insurmountable.
Em, I feel you so hard. My mom recently passed away and the amount of paperwork and people/companies that have to be notified is overwhelming. Like I have absolutely no idea how to tackle it all while also working a full-time job and can't lean on my mom for help. Adulting is for the birds
Moving is definitely stressful! Back in the fall/autumn of 2020, I lost my brother then IMMEDIATELY decided I needed to sell the house I grew up in and move to a whole different area of my state and, as you can tell from the date, that was during the era that shall not be named. Stress upon stress upon stress. That being said, I promise everyone who’s reading this, I believe you can make it through whatever stressful, painful things you’re going through. I believe in you and will be here if you need someone to reach out to. If you don’t feel like you can make it through the stress on your own, I’ll do whatever I can to help you make it through.
I make my “job” cleaning because I struggle with keeping up because of chronic pain. I used to work at Home Depot, so I put on an apron and a podcast and trick myself into thinking I’m on the clock. It’s fab!
Im only two minutes in but the explanation of the episode switch got me. I love how genuine christine and em are. One of the reasons its my favorite podcast.
Christine!! ALL THE RIGHT WORDS to walk your friend through the stress of homeownership! Adulting is SO freaking hard! Around every corner, every success is followed by a learning curve on how to actually feel successful! Em, you are doing better than you feel, and Christine... thank you for normalizing what we all relate so hard to!
Someone told me this the other day and it has helped me SO much after buying a home, getting married, getting a dog, quitting my job, and becoming pregnant all within ONE YEAR….. and being stressed af about all of it.. we are all living life for the first time. No one knows wtf to do in these big situations right off the bat and we are all figuring this shit out as we go😂 don’t beat yourself up when you take “too long” to do something or make a mistake or anything else. Who gives a shit :) you’ll be ok!!!
i used to listen to ATWWD all the time but i eventually got too busy to keep up with episodes. i’ve started listening again and gosh i forgot how much i love this podcast
I used to be a receptionist and I hate having to make my own calls. 😂 I have been sick for almost a year now and was making so many calls to specialists, pharmacies, labs, insurance company, you name it, that I just started pretending I was back in the office greeting potential clients again. Got me through the calls and what felt like house arrest haha (And yes, I am slowly feeling better. No worries. Still highs and lows but I'm alive haha)
Owning your own house can be fun and liberating. I have had fun painting and figuring out what colors to paint rooms. But when something breaks it's up to you to fix it, and it's never a cheap fix.
I can't believe I've been listening for 5 years and I only just this second, caught up to the current episode. What a joyous occasion. To celebrate I may buy the haunted road atlas (part one). I'd love to preorder part two but I dont know how that works with australian stores 😵💫 congratulations friends that live in my phone! I'm so proud of you! (And me!) for 387 episodes and two books!
I think if I were in Allison's shoes I'd feel sooo thankful that Em WANTS to do their part. There's so many relationships where one partner doesn't want to do anything at all and expects the other person to do everything. And of course there is still the added stress of these tasks still needing to be done but you all WILL get through this ❤
Guess what.. I have tickets for y’all in November in ATL. ✨✨✨ Aaaand caught Beach Too Sandy at the winery. Been listening for years and this is the first year Im finally seeing the live shows 🤘😁 ❤, Raina
This intro made me feel soooo much better! I turned 30 this year, I'm living on my own in a new place, and I feel like it's so overwhelming to have to figure all of this out on my own. I can't wait to look back that this episode and comment in a few years and see how far we've come in that time!! 🥲
The only way I can do phone calls, in case it helps Em. Write a note of main things I need to communicate, and put on a podcast or UA-cam and convince myself I am doing THAT and then just press the call button so it feels like I'm doing a thing I want to do while the call gets done in the background😅. I write down the answers to the things on the note so I make sure it all gets covered! It creates a nice little situation where I barely feel like I've done a call but it gets done 😆
EM ❤ AND CHRISTINE ❤ right now my boyfriend and I bought a house together and we move in in 3 weeks, its so stressful and the management of emotions and tasks is so difficult!!! I'm so thankful that my boyfriend has stepped up but I do feel similar to Em where theres tasks I need to do but I just CANT get myself to do them. From the outside they seem so simple but getting that push is so difficult. And Christine I have a friend right now whose first baby is 10 months old, she loves being a mom but it's so difficult sometimes and there's ALWAAAAYS something! People who look like they have it together don't always do ❤️❤️❤️ we're all on this awful roller coaster called life
At work I can do phone calls because I have too. But soon as I’m home or it’s a personal call I have a panic attack. Sometimes I do write a script and that’s helpful. But hearing yall talk about it makes me feel less alone thank you ❤
I'm the same with alarms. It's so bad I've looked into this alarm that's on wheels and you have to chase it to turn it off. The problem is, I'm perfectly OK and able to sleep through an alarm in another room 😅
hi hello yes I LOVE seeing BOTH of your beautiful faces in the recording at the same time :’) it helps the show to feel that much more cohesive, if that makes sense??
Listen I’m 50. Lost my job last year so I got assigned with taking care of the house, kids etc. when I tell you I wish I was working, I do. I hate making calls, Hate it! I have to go in my room, drink my water breath, then make the dumb call lol.
The first toilet was installed for Queen Elizabeth l. It was entirely gravity operated. She never used it as she felt the entire castle didn't need to know whenever she used the loo.
My script for calling things for my office (leaving a message edition): "hi my name is xyz calling on behalf of abc, my callback number is 123. Im calling in regards to blah blah blah. Again my name is xyz calling on behalf of abc my number is 123"
When I have to go to get-togethers or meet-ups with people that I'm not familiar with, I pretend that I'm at a work event. I pretend that they are just customers that I have to mingle with. I use my 'work voice' and keep my demeanor really professional. It is honestly the only thing that makes my social anxiety manageable when I am put into really uncomfortable social situations.
I hate making phone calls and either procrastinate the heck out of it or find someone to do it for me. I'm 57...it doesn't go away. However, for some reason I can make them for my kids and my kids, who have the same issue, can sometimes make them for me. And yes, we're all ADHD. You got this! 💪
Haha my fiancé's family is from Newark and Zanesville. I'll have to ask if they've heard anything about the jail working there. There's not a whole lot else going on in Newark 😅
Treating phone calls like a job is such a life hack! I think I kind of unconsciously do that, too. I have phone anxiety, but it's waned over the years because of the tons of phone calls I've had to do to make doctor's appointments for various health issues the past few years. It's still hard for other things, too.
ADHD meds has helped with my phone anxiety in addition to writing notes beforehand. Also calling a friend (or texting them to call you) prior helps build motivation to call a company for BS
I'm building a fence around my new house and needed to know if I needed a permit. I emailed the zoning department and did have to talk to people and now I have it in writing for any Karen neighbors!
Went through moving in with someone for the first time 2+ years ago and now I'm having to figure out how to move out/post breakup for the first time.... Like who keeps what? The cats are mine though, they didnt do crap save for the occasional snuggle.
!Unsolicited advice! If you are gulping drinks, then that means you are dehydrated. Before you have a drink with anything in it, you should just gulp down a cup of water and it usually helps you. You can also add a flavor like lemon and sugar or just a little bite bit of flavor syrup to make it a little bit easier!
Haha my fiancé's family is from Newark and Zanesville. I'll have to ask if they've heard anything about the jail. There's not a whole lot else going on in Newark 😅
Omg... EVA!!!! Is this a service that can be called upon if you join a very exclusive and super high Patreon tier?? Or maybe a new business idea? " ™ ™ ™ "
My husband and sister have ADHD and they are the soundest sleepers I've ever met... I'm convinced that people's who have this brain is so overworked and overstimulated all day that at night they literally almost d*e because they are so exhausted from their brains overworking all day lol 😅
what’s the address of the haunted embassy suites? i’m going to a convention in Indianapolis at an embassy suites next week & i sure hope it’s not the haunted one. 😜
Moving is definitely stressful! Back in the fall/autumn of 2020, I lost my brother then IMMEDIATELY decided I needed to sell the house I grew up in and move to a whole different area of my state and, as you can tell from the date, that was during the era that shall not be named. Stress upon stress upon stress. That being said, I promise everyone who’s reading this, I believe you can make it through whatever stressful, painful things you’re going through. I believe in you and will be here if you need someone to reach out to. If you don’t feel like you can make it through the stress on your own, I’ll do whatever I can to help you make it through.
All the neurodivergent people shaking their heads so hard from how relatable task paralysis is.
Switching the phone call list is such a good idea. I could do *so much* for a friend, but doing the same thing for myself is suddenly nearly insurmountable.
Christine plays D&D now? ONE OF US! ONE OF US! :D
I got way too excited when she said this XD
Em, I feel you so hard. My mom recently passed away and the amount of paperwork and people/companies that have to be notified is overwhelming. Like I have absolutely no idea how to tackle it all while also working a full-time job and can't lean on my mom for help. Adulting is for the birds
Just sending some big hugs as someone who's also lost a parent, doing it all while grieving is the hardest thing. ❤
@@firesidethewater it really is. Hugs back as well
Sending you so much love and support! So sorry for your loss 💕
Moving is definitely stressful! Back in the fall/autumn of 2020, I lost my brother then IMMEDIATELY decided I needed to sell the house I grew up in and move to a whole different area of my state and, as you can tell from the date, that was during the era that shall not be named. Stress upon stress upon stress. That being said, I promise everyone who’s reading this, I believe you can make it through whatever stressful, painful things you’re going through. I believe in you and will be here if you need someone to reach out to. If you don’t feel like you can make it through the stress on your own, I’ll do whatever I can to help you make it through.
I make my “job” cleaning because I struggle with keeping up because of chronic pain. I used to work at Home Depot, so I put on an apron and a podcast and trick myself into thinking I’m on the clock. It’s fab!
Im only two minutes in but the explanation of the episode switch got me. I love how genuine christine and em are. One of the reasons its my favorite podcast.
the episodes where Em recounts Ghost Adventures episodes always hit different 😭🙏
The unhinged way Xtine showed the front of her shirt will forever be etched in my brain
LOL SERIOUSLY 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Christine!! ALL THE RIGHT WORDS to walk your friend through the stress of homeownership! Adulting is SO freaking hard! Around every corner, every success is followed by a learning curve on how to actually feel successful! Em, you are doing better than you feel, and Christine... thank you for normalizing what we all relate so hard to!
Someone told me this the other day and it has helped me SO much after buying a home, getting married, getting a dog, quitting my job, and becoming pregnant all within ONE YEAR….. and being stressed af about all of it.. we are all living life for the first time. No one knows wtf to do in these big situations right off the bat and we are all figuring this shit out as we go😂 don’t beat yourself up when you take “too long” to do something or make a mistake or anything else. Who gives a shit :) you’ll be ok!!!
i used to listen to ATWWD all the time but i eventually got too busy to keep up with episodes. i’ve started listening again and gosh i forgot how much i love this podcast
I used to be a receptionist and I hate having to make my own calls. 😂 I have been sick for almost a year now and was making so many calls to specialists, pharmacies, labs, insurance company, you name it, that I just started pretending I was back in the office greeting potential clients again. Got me through the calls and what felt like house arrest haha (And yes, I am slowly feeling better. No worries. Still highs and lows but I'm alive haha)
Owning your own house can be fun and liberating. I have had fun painting and figuring out what colors to paint rooms. But when something breaks it's up to you to fix it, and it's never a cheap fix.
Y'all brought back the name tags!!
I can't believe I've been listening for 5 years and I only just this second, caught up to the current episode. What a joyous occasion. To celebrate I may buy the haunted road atlas (part one). I'd love to preorder part two but I dont know how that works with australian stores 😵💫 congratulations friends that live in my phone! I'm so proud of you! (And me!) for 387 episodes and two books!
Em, I think the fact that you're so worried about upsetting Allison and the way it's weighing on your mind shows everything that needs to be shown. ❤
I think if I were in Allison's shoes I'd feel sooo thankful that Em WANTS to do their part. There's so many relationships where one partner doesn't want to do anything at all and expects the other person to do everything. And of course there is still the added stress of these tasks still needing to be done but you all WILL get through this ❤
I am anticipating my time traveling next week! Thanks Em and Christine 😊
Lots of love from Spain ❤ you guys make my Sunday mornings.
Guess what..
I have tickets for y’all in November in ATL. ✨✨✨
Aaaand caught Beach Too Sandy at the winery.
Been listening for years and this is the first year Im finally seeing the live shows 🤘😁
❤,
Raina
This intro made me feel soooo much better! I turned 30 this year, I'm living on my own in a new place, and I feel like it's so overwhelming to have to figure all of this out on my own. I can't wait to look back that this episode and comment in a few years and see how far we've come in that time!! 🥲
Yes! Finally! Split screens 🎉🎉.
Did you also expect them to be on opposite sides, though? 😂 Don’t know why but I always imagined Em on the other side. Lol
@@dropthyname it didn't even occur to me, but yes makes sense. Em should be on the left and Christine on the right haha
The only way I can do phone calls, in case it helps Em. Write a note of main things I need to communicate, and put on a podcast or UA-cam and convince myself I am doing THAT and then just press the call button so it feels like I'm doing a thing I want to do while the call gets done in the background😅. I write down the answers to the things on the note so I make sure it all gets covered! It creates a nice little situation where I barely feel like I've done a call but it gets done 😆
I already pre-ordered the book, but now I may have to get the audiobook too. 😂😂
Christine’s story 1:21:37
EM ❤ AND CHRISTINE ❤ right now my boyfriend and I bought a house together and we move in in 3 weeks, its so stressful and the management of emotions and tasks is so difficult!!! I'm so thankful that my boyfriend has stepped up but I do feel similar to Em where theres tasks I need to do but I just CANT get myself to do them. From the outside they seem so simple but getting that push is so difficult. And Christine I have a friend right now whose first baby is 10 months old, she loves being a mom but it's so difficult sometimes and there's ALWAAAAYS something! People who look like they have it together don't always do ❤️❤️❤️ we're all on this awful roller coaster called life
At work I can do phone calls because I have too. But soon as I’m home or it’s a personal call I have a panic attack. Sometimes I do write a script and that’s helpful. But hearing yall talk about it makes me feel less alone thank you ❤
I'm the same with alarms. It's so bad I've looked into this alarm that's on wheels and you have to chase it to turn it off.
The problem is, I'm perfectly OK and able to sleep through an alarm in another room 😅
I just bought tickets for Tarrytown, NY!! On Friday the 13th hehehehe I’ve been listening since 2019 and I’ve never been to a show I’m so excited
hi hello yes I LOVE seeing BOTH of your beautiful faces in the recording at the same time :’) it helps the show to feel that much more cohesive, if that makes sense??
Call the city = call city hall
Listen I’m 50. Lost my job last year so I got assigned with taking care of the house, kids etc. when I tell you I wish I was working, I do. I hate making calls, Hate it! I have to go in my room, drink my water breath, then make the dumb call lol.
The first toilet was installed for Queen Elizabeth l. It was entirely gravity operated. She never used it as she felt the entire castle didn't need to know whenever she used the loo.
My script for calling things for my office (leaving a message edition): "hi my name is xyz calling on behalf of abc, my callback number is 123. Im calling in regards to blah blah blah. Again my name is xyz calling on behalf of abc my number is 123"
When I have to go to get-togethers or meet-ups with people that I'm not familiar with, I pretend that I'm at a work event. I pretend that they are just customers that I have to mingle with. I use my 'work voice' and keep my demeanor really professional. It is honestly the only thing that makes my social anxiety manageable when I am put into really uncomfortable social situations.
I hate making phone calls and either procrastinate the heck out of it or find someone to do it for me. I'm 57...it doesn't go away. However, for some reason I can make them for my kids and my kids, who have the same issue, can sometimes make them for me. And yes, we're all ADHD. You got this! 💪
Haha my fiancé's family is from Newark and Zanesville. I'll have to ask if they've heard anything about the jail working there. There's not a whole lot else going on in Newark 😅
Treating phone calls like a job is such a life hack! I think I kind of unconsciously do that, too. I have phone anxiety, but it's waned over the years because of the tons of phone calls I've had to do to make doctor's appointments for various health issues the past few years. It's still hard for other things, too.
ADHD meds has helped with my phone anxiety in addition to writing notes beforehand. Also calling a friend (or texting them to call you) prior helps build motivation to call a company for BS
I'm building a fence around my new house and needed to know if I needed a permit. I emailed the zoning department and did have to talk to people and now I have it in writing for any Karen neighbors!
Em, get tested for sleep apnea! I also used to sleep through fire alarms all the time and fall asleep in class.
Went through moving in with someone for the first time 2+ years ago and now I'm having to figure out how to move out/post breakup for the first time.... Like who keeps what? The cats are mine though, they didnt do crap save for the occasional snuggle.
I’m moving into my first apartment and I’m STRESSED I can only imagine moving into a house
Don't be sorry. We are with you!
There is always something that needs to be fixed :(((( I feel yall 14:13
Em don't worry Allison wouldn't put you in something if she didn't think your can do it.. and Cristina is right you are not alone .. you can do it😊😊
!Unsolicited advice!
If you are gulping drinks, then that means you are dehydrated. Before you have a drink with anything in it, you should just gulp down a cup of water and it usually helps you. You can also add a flavor like lemon and sugar or just a little bite bit of flavor syrup to make it a little bit easier!
25:39 is where Em's story starts.
1:18:54 is where Christine's story starts.
Haha my fiancé's family is from Newark and Zanesville. I'll have to ask if they've heard anything about the jail. There's not a whole lot else going on in Newark 😅
26:19 - Em story starts
Kong PB ball!! Yes.
Omg... EVA!!!! Is this a service that can be called upon if you join a very exclusive and super high Patreon tier?? Or maybe a new business idea? " ™ ™ ™ "
The audiobook is available now on audible? Not September? I just got it & it’s playable.
Our first audiobook is available! The audiobook for A Haunted Road Atlas: Next Stop (book 2) will be available in September when the book is released!
shouts out to Michelle XD
Ok but did you talk to the medium on your headset ???
Frog and Toad are canonically gay just FYI 🥰🥰🥰
Where did em say they found the episode of ghost adventures because now I gotta watch it 😂 and what season episode is it ?
Old Licking County Jail
Ghost Adventures: Season 12, Episode 15
My husband and sister have ADHD and they are the soundest sleepers I've ever met... I'm convinced that people's who have this brain is so overworked and overstimulated all day that at night they literally almost d*e because they are so exhausted from their brains overworking all day lol 😅
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what’s the address of the haunted embassy suites? i’m going to a convention in Indianapolis at an embassy suites next week & i sure hope it’s not the haunted one. 😜
The earliest I’ve been to a video! I’m exciteeddddd 🥳🫶🏻
Moving is definitely stressful! Back in the fall/autumn of 2020, I lost my brother then IMMEDIATELY decided I needed to sell the house I grew up in and move to a whole different area of my state and, as you can tell from the date, that was during the era that shall not be named. Stress upon stress upon stress. That being said, I promise everyone who’s reading this, I believe you can make it through whatever stressful, painful things you’re going through. I believe in you and will be here if you need someone to reach out to. If you don’t feel like you can make it through the stress on your own, I’ll do whatever I can to help you make it through.