Because they're too foolish to comprehend the difference between curves, aka bone structure, and genetic fat distribution vs. weight. You can be overweight and have an hourglass figure vs. an apple figure. You can be thin and have no hips or be thin and have fat distribution in your thighs and hips. The issue is this... most of this is genetics, so to blame someone for something they cannot control is ridiculous, ignorant, and wicked. It's like blaming a man for being short or having a small you know what. They're superficial and men of the world vs. men of God. Wicked. This is why women need to love one another and respect our variety vs. add to the superficiality and idealistic expectations.
The best thing you can do for yourself as a black woman is focus on yourself. Build yourself up, love on yourself, take care of your body, work on your mental health, become wealthy. When you get to where you need to be, you will have the ability to choose. Quality men will find you. A woman should never search for a man. When you're where you need to be, they will come.
This sounds really good, however there are many black women who have done these things to perfection snd end up targets for low emotionally intelligent men. There are no guarantees, just do the best you can to be whole by working on your relationship with God and yourself.
Tony I have heard all the relationship coaches online, by far you are the only one who holds women accountable, while showing empathy and putting us on to game. Just like a big brother you help us navigate dating situations. God uses healed men like you ....Good job!
I don't go beyond Tony Gaskins, RC Blakes (who mentioned Tony and the rest is history), and Kingsley Okonkwo (whose message reminds me a lot of Tony's message)
One thing I know is that black women cannot the shield and the target at the same time. Overall, there has to be a balance on these platforms. Thank you for this topic Mr. Gaskins. 🙌🏾
Targeting is for men. It is feminine to shield and ignore these dusties and leave them behind so that we see how successful they are without the BW they complain of
I’m so glad you addressed this Tony. He is speaking specifically on this subject because black women have been degraded by not only white men but by our own skin color for and it’s painful that in turn we are unprotected , disregarded, and disrespected and lets not forget to mention the angry black women label!
Thanks for addressing this. It's really disheartening 😔 . I've determined they are not happy with themselves and mad that women are not accepting garbage.
oohweee, the kids my age have it real bad and it’s sometimes so hard to be a black girl in 2021, let alone being one that doesn’t let the boys have their way. the hate is real.
Don’t let them trick you out of yourself in any way. Don’t let them trick you out of loving yourself. Don’t let them trick you out of what is between your legs. Don’t let them trick you out of the love you have for your black sisters. And don’t let them make you bitter, because it’s one thing that they love to do and that is to taunt us unmercifully and then act like they don’t know why we are upset. Focus on yourself until about 25 and then start dating seriously if you want. And for your sake please please please don’t let them make you a single mother!
They're mad because you refuse to degrade BW. As a married woman, those guys give me serial killer vibes. Edit: I just subscribed. They're into other men. So true!
The bar is so low for black men that we have to thank a black man for not talking negative stuff about black women. If this does not tell black women that they need to leave black men alone and date outside of their race and never look back, I don't know what will.
If someone doesn't like you, it has more to do with that person than you. Never take it personally. God loves you just as you are and His opinion and who He has for you is all that matters. God bless! ❤
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ALSO GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS!( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU IN YR LIFE!) HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! AND ALWAYS! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! KEEP GOD FIRST IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! AND ALWAYS! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JUNE 2021
@MSSUCCESSDRIVEN AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS! ( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU IN YR LIFE!) GOD WILL SEE U THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! AND ALWAYS! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U!TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JUNE2021
Anyone that really watches Tony knows he does not pander, he keeps it real as if he was your father, uncle, or big brother. Keeping it real means you get uplifted when it’s the time to uplift but you also get told what you need to hear.
Perfect timing. I live in a city that majority of our black men are married to or dating other races. I've heard some say we are unattractive. Hahaha... silly rabbits. We are beautiful...It's hard out here for black women. 😒
Our BM? They aren't our men, they've let the entire world know that. It's not just in your city, it's all around America. The blk race is pretty much over in America.
The misconception of growth is not knowing our self worth not the lesson or the teacher. I’ve realized if you’re words or lessons don’t sit right in my spirit then I’m moving on. Women stop drinking from dirty things and get a clean dish meaning a clean and pure hearted man coming from a pure and unbroken soul.. TG your wisdom is God sent
Nothing speaks uglier of a man than him hating, degrading and trying to make women feel less than by every action and word he says. Any evolved human being with noble character can live their life and let others live theirs. So if a man cannot focus on his growth, goals or the beauty of life because he is bothered by the colour, shape, face or social status of women around him and the only time he feels important is when he puts them down, that shows how small-minded and low-character he is. He has yet to find the meaning of what it is to be a man and a real human.
Tony, you are out here saving lives. If it wasn’t for you I would have probably wasted years with a grown boy! All Bc I was not aware of the red flags. Thank you for that. Edit: I found out after leaving the grown boy he had an entire family with kids🤦🏾♀️
So God is using Tony when it suits the Black Women narrative? This is the reason why I stopped being a believer. The truth is that we black men aren't checking for y'all. We're desired all over the world and don't need to deal with yall feminist crap no more. The mainstream media ruined you Black Women. Beyoncé got married the same year she made 'Single Ladies' Remeber that
At the end of the day the joke is on the men who follow this clown. It’s a lot of black woman who are out here breaking generational curses, healing, getting their bag, working on getting their bag, working out, and leveling up, but these men will never experience them because they wanna follow advice from an unmarried, middle aged, personal stylist who accepts corporate dollars to divide and degrade his own people. No woman with self worth or sense will ever go near these clowns. These men are truly playing themselves. 😂 Personally, I’m only accepting a man with grit, character, and integrity. Nipsey Hussle never sold out, yet his funeral was at the staple center. Let that sink in… On another note, this video is everything. Our community needs this. ✊🏾
If ANYONE accuses YOU, Tony, of degrading ANYONE, THEY ARE LIARS!! I have not watched a video from you for the entire year that I've been watching where I have ever seen you degrade or debase anyone, male or female.
A very POWERFUL and INFORMATIVE video Tony. When I saw the title, I felt some kind of way. As a black woman it has been very hurtful to see, and hear how our men downgrade and disrespect us. The video was VERY helpful. So, I want to say thank you. You are what is needed, for such a time as this. To God be the Glory.
Mr. Gaskins we appreciate you so much you do not know. If I had a million dollars to sow I would just to show appreciate when I know you don’t need it but, what you are doing I couldn’t repay you enough we couldn’t repay you and we can’t say thank you enough. God is Blessing you and your family you are called from God and I see it and appreciate it from the bottom of my heart. Thank you Mr. and Mrs. Gaskins
I am not against IR relationships neither am I thrilled to pursue one, even when I notice my chances of finding a suitable (equally yoked) Black man is slim. I will never put my life at risk and protest for men who dont protest for Black women
@@Ms__Respect_love Thanks. He’s definitely been a blessing. I’m definitely proud of myself for the growth and strength and determination. Leaving my situation was worth it
I went on hiatus from dating when I went back to get my Bachelor's degree. Graduated in 2014. Stepped back on the dating scene around 2017 and hopped right back in the safety zone! 🙅🏾♀️ lol What in the world is going on around here??? Things had changed so drastically. Dating wasn't dating anymore but I thought it was ME. smh nah I had some emotional growing to do, sure. But my goodness! What was going on with my people made me so sad. I just sent this to someone I dealt with a couple of years ago after I ran across a comment he posted, titled, "Love Hurts Sometimes": 'Love doesn't hurt. When, it's pure, it's the best feeling in the world'. Hands down. That includes love of Self. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth." That's facts.😘🥰😍
"her mind is an asset to me" i teared up. SO many great minds get overlooked or they feel like they need to dominate you or outsmart you. Its so refreshing to see you talk about negative energy and what it does to your spirit. Ive stayed single for that very reason. Thank you Tony. I needed this today!
The 3 Bs - brain, body, brand. I got that 💯. Thanks Tony for the work you do. I'm in a relationship with a strong, focused black man and he treats me like a queen. No grown boy tendencies at all. And I thank God for him. He loves everything about me, braids, natural, weave, wig etc. No judgement. He only wants me to be happy with myself and he encourages me to be the best I can be. We've had hurdles, but maturely handled. Tells the truth in love like Tony says. Not married ( yet) but right now I have peace. There are good black men out there.
Powerful statement's Tony. If some "mis-understood" what you represent before, they should understand very clearly now. On certain things I have a "slightly" different slant on things than how you might express things, but, all in all, most of our core ideals are identical and that's why I'm a fan. Keep up the good positive work my good brother....
Such sad truth! Our people are experiencing severe trauma which stems from the horrific and demonic treatment that our ancestors experienced at the hands of the other nations but most specifically Caucasians and what we are experiencing right now! Such sad truth!
True TG that video was hard to swallow but it was much needed . We as women have to know we are better than this . If a person continue to show you he don’t want you move in. Like my father would say love you don’t begged NO man to be where they don’t want to be. May he RIP it’s been hard but I’m doing it got my own money , degree and buying my house now . Like you say it’s definitely self hate with these men today the older they get the worsen they get. Nothing but God will change them but they have to want to change . Will they still playing games and using women it will be over sooner than they thing . When their bodies start Breaking down and health issues occur. That’s when they will realize I really mess up but it will be too late for some. Don’t give no one more than they giving you FACTS . 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
The vast majority of “advice” that those “dating gurus” give is irrelevant. Their only purpose is to lower women’s self esteem to make it easier for them to sleep with women which is why they’re always moving the goalpost. They are the category of men who aren’t “Chads” so they have to try and bring down women’s self-worth in order to get women to entertain them.
I love that Tony had us, those that are not of the black race, "sit in the room" and listen and learn to this tough message that is absolutely necessary in the area of this world system that is set up for the break down of black families and legacy. This is one of the most intellectually woke messages I have ever heard. Mr. Gaskins is so far ahead of his years. He holds a doctorate in Godly wisdom. Thank you Tony for your time and sacrifice! And blessings, power, grace and strength to the beautiful women of the Blessed Tribe!
What Tony says makes more logically sense compared to the nonsense everyone else is saying. Why would you want to marry the first person you date? It doesnt make any sense. You dont even know what you want in life. People dont even know their own needs or who they are at a young age. You have to be happy with yourself before you are ready for big responsibilities.
Yes Toni! Many Black Men r broken n have dysfunctional relationships with their parents! Many Black women don't like the hatred, but they also continue to perpetuate self hatred by their choices n behavior! The healing n our community is massively needed n goes back generations!
🖤Much appreciated. I used to listen to them actively just to hear them out, but now I just don't listen because I've heard enough. There's much better things to study and entertain yourself. Don't need to take the verbal abuse. We've got to accept not all men feel the way we want them to feel so let them do them. All we can do is be a light by our own behavior
Tony you are awesome! For many years I had a very toxic body image, and my black friends from work would always uplift me with their kind words ( I confided in them with my insecurities). I always admired their strength and kindness, as well as their faith in God. Ladies, you are greatness. Just keep God and Tony in your mind and spirit and things will change for the better. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙌
TG so true that’s the same kinda guy I had . It’s his way or the highway you have no voice with him at all . Smh when you say how insecure he is he turns it back on you and give you the silent treatment. Glad those days are over your NO a good man if you play kiddy games .
I do not watch or listen to these stupid platforms that degrade black women or women period. I was taking out my trash and a nice black man offered to take it out for me. I let him know that was very nice of him. There are still nice respectful black men in this world.
Thank you for clearing this up. First of all only God knows my destiny not a broken black man who has issues.. We appreciate you Tony! Always giving us facts and always on time.
Thanks for addressing this issue. Black women have always had options, we were just to loyal to date outside of our race. That’s changing thanks to the “ high valued black men” who are really grown boys.
I know that it’s hard for black women. Self-hate, lack of love in the home and insecurity contributes to all of the nonsense. Ignoring ignorance is what I do. If I didn’t, I would be mad at the world.
You were definitely one of the first dating coaches on UA-cam. We only see so many Black ones now due to the Census datas showing our marriage stats. People have since purposely perverted the stats to make it seem like marriage doesn't happen in our community, so many opportunists have came out the woodwork promising to give great tips on how to find a man. Kudos to you for staying true to your mission
Bro Tony I truly admire you as a Godly Man of God, thanks for so much of wisdom you give out and this message was so informative on why Black men degrading Black women. God bless you Bro Tony 🙏❤️🕊️
I think at times the self hate black men project on black women automatically puts us in competition mode. There have been a few occasions where a black female, at the beginning would be quite hostile towards me. It usually happens if we’re the only two black females in the workplace but I think it’s a defence mechanism as in there can only be room for one of us. It’s sad that we can’t all uplift each other. We would be unstoppable if we actually stood together as a race.
I put that ish to a halt. I always end up cliquing up with the black women and creating a like minded friend group in my circle. I feel it's worth the extra effort because we are all we got! Haven't had any issues yet. Once I leave a job, it's usually ended sadly because *military* but keeping in touch and ensuring one another's well being is the least we can do.
I put that ish to a halt. I always end up cliquing up with the black women and creating a like minded friend group in my circle. I feel it's worth the extra effort because we are all we got! Haven't had any issues yet. Once I leave a job, it's usually ended sadly because *military* but keeping in touch and ensuring one another's well being is the least we can do.
As a man, I dabble throughout these different spaces on UA-cam and I would advise most people to get off the internet and live a healthy life. One channel may have a man judging a woman's looks. Another will have a woman judging a man's pockets. Each not placing much value on the person at large.
Alot of black men do not appreciate black women. Black women gotta start dating outside of their race. Not to get the attention of black men but to open up your options and experience dating a man and not a grown boy. Ultimately though this will get the attention of black men. They love to date outside their race but will try brow beat black women to only date black men.
You are so right TG people are selfish and selfless PERIOD 💯💯💯💯. Your on point with the whole message and if people don’t get it shame on you . TG you doing what GOD call you to do and if people don’t like it stop looking move around PERIOD.💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
When I tell you, this message is NEEDED right now💯💯💯 An amazing use of your platform. This brings a level of balance to what’s happening in the “MANOSPHERE”.
Better put some RESPECT on uncle Tony name!!! As a child and young lady all of the male figures around were men of no substance tbh, and were representations of what I didn't want! TG has been the ONLY man who has been completely transparent with himself and his messages for healing and transformation for me, and everyday I thank him because hearing the truth of what I allowed and how I truly felt about myself did hurt, but its worth it! I'm still working on my 3B's everyday in every way, trusting the process and loving the progress... I LOVE ME NOW, because I show up for myself to become the greatest version of myself &its been through the words of the Most High through Tony to help me get here! I thank you, value you, and respect you for ALL that you do uncle Tony! May you and your family continue to be protected and gifted in all aspects!
One of the best message from Tony. Perfectly delivered.👌🏾 What I like the most about Tony is his consistency. His message has been the same and when you tell the truth, you do not need to remember it. Thank you Tony 👌🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This is exactly what I have been going through with black men my whole life! I am emotionally and mentally exhausted! Thank you @Tony Gaskins! AMEN,Brother!
I feel Black Mothers need to put their sons in check for disrespecting black women online. Hell, they are black women too. I don't have children. But, if one of nephews was talking trash about black women online or in person. I would rip them apart
I went to a class with an older Black woman. Guess what she did? Berate me everyday. You can't expect these women who hate themselves to teach their sons to love themselves.
Tony!!! T.G.!!! Mr. Gaskins!! I consider you a big brother, my homie and a respectable & integral man. I appreciate your messages even when I have to look at myself for correction! I love hearing the REAL truth that rest on the foundation of God and His word! Thank you for what you do! And I am so glad you made this video. It’s rough out here dating, meeting grown boys constantly yet still desiring relationship with a grown man (a black king that I know is out there). You have a beautiful family. I want to say, Mrs. Gaskins- I love her spirit and how you describe your relationship with her. I admire your love for each other. I’m listening to your book “A Woman’s Influence”. I appreciate the lessons y’all bring. Be Blessed!!
Tony, thank you for taking your time out to share this message. Your compassion and servants heart doesn't go unnoticed. God bless you and your family.
I don't know what you prayed about before doing this video. Man this has to be one of your best......This was clear for anyone to understand on any level🔥
I’m so glad that you’re speaking on this! I think that UNMARRIED men have no business sitting online giving MARRIAGE or relationship advice period. 💯
Amen to dat!
Excatly💯
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And divorce men too.
Exactly.
Black men. Choosing a different preference does not wash away narcissism and egotistical behavior patterns
And this is why... wait ten years... the divorce rates for these men tell the tale UNLESS they deal with their traumas and egos and narcissism.
Narcissism is thick in the black community. So many of our men suppress their wounds
@@hymnodyhands or they have Been married 3,4,5 times. Smh.
@@pinnakal1 I think Deborah Cooper have a few videos on narcissism within Black men/community
AMEN !!!
They call black women overweight, but when black women are skinny, they say you need to eat more.
Exactly
Because they're too foolish to comprehend the difference between curves, aka bone structure, and genetic fat distribution vs. weight. You can be overweight and have an hourglass figure vs. an apple figure. You can be thin and have no hips or be thin and have fat distribution in your thighs and hips. The issue is this... most of this is genetics, so to blame someone for something they cannot control is ridiculous, ignorant, and wicked. It's like blaming a man for being short or having a small you know what. They're superficial and men of the world vs. men of God. Wicked. This is why women need to love one another and respect our variety vs. add to the superficiality and idealistic expectations.
Other black people say that bs no other community does that ... In mass
Black women you are beautiful and powerful. Never forget your power.
Ase.
We are unstoppable!!
Never
Thnx
@Coach GloriAnn ny lol
The best thing you can do for yourself as a black woman is focus on yourself. Build yourself up, love on yourself, take care of your body, work on your mental health, become wealthy. When you get to where you need to be, you will have the ability to choose. Quality men will find you. A woman should never search for a man. When you're where you need to be, they will come.
This sounds really good, however there are many black women who have done these things to perfection snd end up targets for low emotionally intelligent men. There are no guarantees, just do the best you can to be whole by working on your relationship with God and yourself.
@@annagrace1159 You said it, your relationship with God, is satisfying. There is no pain attached to making God your husband.
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@@annagrace1159 yep, I’ve been that woman.
Tony I have heard all the relationship coaches online, by far you are the only one who holds women accountable, while showing empathy and putting us on to game. Just like a big brother you help us navigate dating situations. God uses healed men like you ....Good job!
I agree 👍👍..wise and sound ✌️
I don't go beyond Tony Gaskins, RC Blakes (who mentioned Tony and the rest is history), and Kingsley Okonkwo (whose message reminds me a lot of Tony's message)
Facts!!! He is one of the FAIREST ones out here!
@@margyiphillips4931 i discovered RC Blake’s first and he literally started the process of changing my life mentally
Amen! Thank you Mr. Gaskins!
One thing I know is that black women cannot the shield and the target at the same time. Overall, there has to be a balance on these platforms. Thank you for this topic Mr. Gaskins. 🙌🏾
Like Megan the stallion be trying to do trying to play superhero but yet objectifying themselves at the same time
Shield and the target… deep 🙌🏾
Targeting is for men. It is feminine to shield and ignore these dusties and leave them behind so that we see how successful they are without the BW they complain of
I’m so glad you addressed this Tony. He is speaking specifically on this subject because black women have been degraded by not only white men but by our own skin color for and it’s painful that in turn we are unprotected , disregarded, and disrespected and lets not forget to mention the angry black women label!
Thanks for addressing this. It's really disheartening 😔 . I've determined they are not happy with themselves and mad that women are not accepting garbage.
👸bingo! perfectly stated😇👏👍🥳
oohweee, the kids my age have it real bad and it’s sometimes so hard to be a black girl in 2021, let alone being one that doesn’t let the boys have their way. the hate is real.
Keep pushing Savannah. It’s gonna pay off big time for you! You have a better mind set than I did at your age.
@@transformationstudio6158 I second that
GO GURL KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!!!!
Same Savannah. But as the above person said just keep pushing forward!
Don’t let them trick you out of yourself in any way. Don’t let them trick you out of loving yourself. Don’t let them trick you out of what is between your legs. Don’t let them trick you out of the love you have for your black sisters. And don’t let them make you bitter, because it’s one thing that they love to do and that is to taunt us unmercifully and then act like they don’t know why we are upset. Focus on yourself until about 25 and then start dating seriously if you want. And for your sake please please please don’t let them make you a single mother!
They're mad because you refuse to degrade BW. As a married woman, those guys give me serial killer vibes.
Edit: I just subscribed. They're into other men. So true!
The hate they spew their is no way theyre into women left alone black women..I think they are confused with their sexuality
@Bjl Bear so stop b*tchin when we abort yall babies.
@@sdneytaco2226 I reported him do not waste your energy these folks doing bad in real life thanst why they come on the interent with nonsense
Yea
Welcome ♥️
It's so refreshing to hear a black man speaking positively about black women while encouraging us to level up! Thank you for all you do!
The bar is so low for black men that we have to thank a black man for not talking negative stuff about black women. If this does not tell black women that they need to leave black men alone and date outside of their race and never look back, I don't know what will.
If someone doesn't like you, it has more to do with that person than you. Never take it personally. God loves you just as you are and His opinion and who He has for you is all that matters. God bless! ❤
I lastly want to say you don't have to put up with anybody's mess! real talk! 🥰❤️🤗🎇
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ALSO GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS!( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU IN YR LIFE!) HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! AND ALWAYS! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! KEEP GOD FIRST IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! AND ALWAYS! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JUNE 2021
@MSSUCCESSDRIVEN AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS! ( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU IN YR LIFE!) GOD WILL SEE U THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! AND ALWAYS! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U!TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JUNE2021
Anyone that really watches Tony knows he does not pander, he keeps it real as if he was your father, uncle, or big brother. Keeping it real means you get uplifted when it’s the time to uplift but you also get told what you need to hear.
100%
this nigga 100% be pandering sometimes lmaoo
Tony you got integrity and credibility, therefore you will have longevity.
Perfect timing. I live in a city that majority of our black men are married to or dating other races. I've heard some say we are unattractive. Hahaha... silly rabbits. We are beautiful...It's hard out here for black women. 😒
Are you in Austin, TX?
What city are you in?
@Joyful n Blessed I was gonna guess somewhere in Minnesota or California
@@rosellajoseph5307 San Antonio
Our BM? They aren't our men, they've let the entire world know that. It's not just in your city, it's all around America. The blk race is pretty much over in America.
Ladies, guard your minds. We FEEL words, so don't listen to the enemy seeking to kill your soul.
Tony: I'm fin to go.
Me: taps video and sits back..."almost an entire hour left" 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Facts 🤣
That’s how you know it’s about to get good!! 🙌🙌🙌
@@nacoyarussell185 this message had me hype 🙌🏾
So true 😂😂😂 but it was cool with me 😉
- Jesus loves all and wants to save all. Romans 10:9-10✌️
The misconception of growth is not knowing our self worth not the lesson or the teacher. I’ve realized if you’re words or lessons don’t sit right in my spirit then I’m moving on. Women stop drinking from dirty things and get a clean dish meaning a clean and pure hearted man coming from a pure and unbroken soul.. TG your wisdom is God sent
Nothing speaks uglier of a man than him hating, degrading and trying to make women feel less than by every action and word he says. Any evolved human being with noble character can live their life and let others live theirs. So if a man cannot focus on his growth, goals or the beauty of life because he is bothered by the colour, shape, face or social status of women around him and the only time he feels important is when he puts them down, that shows how small-minded and low-character he is. He has yet to find the meaning of what it is to be a man and a real human.
They have self hate fa real Tony!
Very true!
FACTS!!! Very well said 💯💯💯
@@aleciamoten6867 Thank you ! Self-hate + bitterness, people who don't even know to enjoy life.
@@GoodGrief101 Thank you very much !
Tony, you are out here saving lives. If it wasn’t for you I would have probably wasted years with a grown boy! All Bc I was not aware of the red flags. Thank you for that.
Edit: I found out after leaving the grown boy he had an entire family with kids🤦🏾♀️
Yuck 🤢 Omg Im glad God shielded you from that and u found this channel to help u see red flags 🚩 !
This is the realest message I've heard. Following you now.
“You will attract what you become when it is your season” that was a word
Word
Well said Tony! God is definitely using you. We as black people HAVE to break these generational curses!
So God is using Tony when it suits the Black Women narrative? This is the reason why I stopped being a believer.
The truth is that we black men aren't checking for y'all. We're desired all over the world and don't need to deal with yall feminist crap no more. The mainstream media ruined you Black Women.
Beyoncé got married the same year she made 'Single Ladies' Remeber that
I tell u..this is what is affecting the black/African race and our relationships. Generational curses that needed to be broken
At the end of the day the joke is on the men who follow this clown. It’s a lot of black woman who are out here breaking generational curses, healing, getting their bag, working on getting their bag, working out, and leveling up, but these men will never experience them because they wanna follow advice from an unmarried, middle aged, personal stylist who accepts corporate dollars to divide and degrade his own people. No woman with self worth or sense will ever go near these clowns. These men are truly playing themselves. 😂
Personally, I’m only accepting a man with grit, character, and integrity. Nipsey Hussle never sold out, yet his funeral was at the staple center. Let that sink in…
On another note, this video is everything. Our community needs this. ✊🏾
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Tony always speaks the truth, you gotta respect it.
If ANYONE accuses YOU, Tony, of degrading ANYONE, THEY ARE LIARS!! I have not watched a video from you for the entire year that I've been watching where I have ever seen you degrade or debase anyone, male or female.
Yes this is REALLY sad. If you have no Respect for Black Woman...you have NO Respect for your Mother.
That's true
True but some of you women need to listen to your own message when it comes to respecting BM it goes both ways
"A replica knows an original" -TG 👌🏾💪🏾👌🏾
So happy you're addressing this. It's getting too much now. Just started the video but thank you!
A very POWERFUL and INFORMATIVE video Tony. When I saw the title, I felt some kind of way. As a black woman it has been very hurtful to see, and hear how our men downgrade and disrespect us. The video was VERY helpful. So, I want to say thank you. You are what is needed, for such a time as this. To God be the Glory.
Mr. Gaskins we appreciate you so much you do not know. If I had a million dollars to sow I would just to show appreciate when I know you don’t need it but, what you are doing I couldn’t repay you enough we couldn’t repay you and we can’t say thank you enough. God is Blessing you and your family you are called from God and I see it and appreciate it from the bottom of my heart. Thank you Mr. and Mrs. Gaskins
This needed to be said! It’s hard out here seeing the men we protest for disrespecting us. Thank you Tony 🙏🏾
I am not against IR relationships neither am I thrilled to pursue one, even when I notice my chances of finding a suitable (equally yoked) Black man is slim. I will never put my life at risk and protest for men who dont protest for Black women
I am only pro black women and children ...that's it
@@crystalhairston9584 I agree with you. However, I have 3 black sons. I’m will make sure I engrave in the to respect bw.
Stop doing it!!! We really need to start loving and being true to ourselves
I’m here for the blessings before my Biology class start .
Stay focused on your studies, learn from Tony and many blessings on your journey. You're on the right track!
@@Ms__Respect_love Thanks. He’s definitely been a blessing. I’m definitely proud of myself for the growth and strength and determination. Leaving my situation was worth it
So true in regards to angry men usually do hate self and/or is gay.
This is why I stick to brother Tony & Bishop RC Blakes. These other cats are super wilin. 🤦🏽♀️
@Priscilla he is full of wisdom. He has a similar story to Tony and has a calling to help women from a fatherly perspective.
Amén me too
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I went on hiatus from dating when I went back to get my Bachelor's degree. Graduated in 2014. Stepped back on the dating scene around 2017 and hopped right back in the safety zone! 🙅🏾♀️ lol What in the world is going on around here??? Things had changed so drastically. Dating wasn't dating anymore but I thought it was ME. smh nah I had some emotional growing to do, sure. But my goodness! What was going on with my people made me so sad.
I just sent this to someone I dealt with a couple of years ago after I ran across a comment he posted, titled, "Love Hurts Sometimes": 'Love doesn't hurt. When, it's pure, it's the best feeling in the world'. Hands down. That includes love of Self.
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth." That's facts.😘🥰😍
“The truth will hurt you before it helps you.” TG
"her mind is an asset to me" i teared up. SO many great minds get overlooked or they feel like they need to dominate you or outsmart you. Its so refreshing to see you talk about negative energy and what it does to your spirit. Ive stayed single for that very reason. Thank you Tony. I needed this today!
TONY IS THE TRUTH!
May God continue to use you for this mission. The assignment is so much bigger than YOU!
We appreciate you, coach.
This was needed... Some of these vloggers are really out here trying to tear women down. It's sad
No words for how much healing this video has brought to me. I really couldn’t think you enough. May God Bless you in the nearest days ! 🙏🏾
The 3 Bs - brain, body, brand. I got that 💯. Thanks Tony for the work you do. I'm in a relationship with a strong, focused black man and he treats me like a queen. No grown boy tendencies at all. And I thank God for him. He loves everything about me, braids, natural, weave, wig etc. No judgement. He only wants me to be happy with myself and he encourages me to be the best I can be. We've had hurdles, but maturely handled. Tells the truth in love like Tony says. Not married ( yet) but right now I have peace. There are good black men out there.
Your message was effective . No offense taken. Truth is way better than soft cuddling words.
Yesssss...I wish our coummnity was like u...
Powerful statement's Tony. If some "mis-understood" what you represent before, they should understand very clearly now. On certain things I have a "slightly" different slant on things than how you might express things, but, all in all, most of our core ideals are identical and that's why I'm a fan. Keep up the good positive work my good brother....
God bless u brother
Thank you for speaking to black women and acknowledging our struggle is unique and often most challenging.
We are strong beautiful black Queens.
Such sad truth! Our people are experiencing severe trauma which stems from the horrific and demonic treatment that our ancestors experienced at the hands of the other nations but most specifically Caucasians and what we are experiencing right now! Such sad truth!
True TG that video was hard to swallow but it was much needed . We as women have to know we are better than this . If a person continue to show you he don’t want you move in. Like my father would say love you don’t begged NO man to be where they don’t want to be. May he RIP it’s been hard but I’m doing it got my own money , degree and buying my house now . Like you say it’s definitely self hate with these men today the older they get the worsen they get. Nothing but God will change them but they have to want to change . Will they still playing games and using women it will be over sooner than they thing . When their bodies start Breaking down and health issues occur. That’s when they will realize I really mess up but it will be too late for some. Don’t give no one more than they giving you FACTS . 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
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The vast majority of “advice” that those “dating gurus” give is irrelevant. Their only purpose is to lower women’s self esteem to make it easier for them to sleep with women which is why they’re always moving the goalpost. They are the category of men who aren’t “Chads” so they have to try and bring down women’s self-worth in order to get women to entertain them.
I love that Tony had us, those that are not of the black race, "sit in the room" and listen and learn to this tough message that is absolutely necessary in the area of this world system that is set up for the break down of black families and legacy. This is one of the most intellectually woke messages I have ever heard. Mr. Gaskins is so far ahead of his years. He holds a doctorate in Godly wisdom. Thank you Tony for your time and sacrifice! And blessings, power, grace and strength to the beautiful women of the Blessed Tribe!
Uncle T had TIIIIIMMEEEE today! 😭😭
What Tony says makes more logically sense compared to the nonsense everyone else is saying. Why would you want to marry the first person you date? It doesnt make any sense. You dont even know what you want in life. People dont even know their own needs or who they are at a young age. You have to be happy with yourself before you are ready for big responsibilities.
Great topic ...this needed to be address God Bless you 🙏🏾 and family Mr. Gaskins
Yes Toni! Many Black Men r broken n have dysfunctional relationships with their parents! Many Black women don't like the hatred, but they also continue to perpetuate self hatred by their choices n behavior! The healing n our community is massively needed n goes back generations!
Nobody:
Tony: I'm getting ready to go
*speaks another 55 minutes*
😂😂😂 I always laugh when he says that. I love the hour videos though 😊
Tony you are about to trigger these toxic dudes...lol
🖤Much appreciated. I used to listen to them actively just to hear them out, but now I just don't listen because I've heard enough. There's much better things to study and entertain yourself. Don't need to take the verbal abuse. We've got to accept not all men feel the way we want them to feel so let them do them.
All we can do is be a light by our own behavior
ABSOLUTELY TG these men need to hear this msg 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Tony you are awesome! For many years I had a very toxic body image, and my black friends from work would always uplift me with their kind words ( I confided in them with my insecurities). I always admired their strength and kindness, as well as their faith in God. Ladies, you are greatness. Just keep God and Tony in your mind and spirit and things will change for the better. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙌
The man K.Samuel is a 0. His degrading of BW was dealt with supernaturally.
TG so true that’s the same kinda guy I had . It’s his way or the highway you have no voice with him at all . Smh when you say how insecure he is he turns it back on you and give you the silent treatment. Glad those days are over your NO a good man if you play kiddy games .
I do not watch or listen to these stupid platforms that degrade black women or women period. I was taking out my trash and a nice black man offered to take it out for me. I let him know that was very nice of him. There are still nice respectful black men in this world.
@Bjl Bear Really??? I didn't know that 😆😆😆
@@tonid773 😂there’s always one
@@8lack8erry1 Yes girl🙄🙄🙄
That doesn’t speak for the whole collective. It’s ok to acknowledge the good and bad at the same Tim
I just purchased the Birth Your Book course. Thank you SO MUCH for making it affordable for someone like me!!!
Black men degrading us but we are Rising & our light is Shinning brighter and Brighter👑
@Brandon Wallace see you’re giving off self hate, give your life to Jesus, he will cause you to shine too🤴🏾
This is a phenomenal message, Mr. Gaskins! I applaud you.
a black woman is not going to mess with 5 of your friends,point blank periodt. ijs
It depends
Thank you for clearing this up.
First of all only God knows my destiny not a broken black man who has issues..
We appreciate you Tony! Always giving us facts and always on time.
This is why youre my favorite! Gods work, God bless you Tony! Extremely knowledgeable
Thanks for addressing this issue. Black women have always had options, we were just to loyal to date outside of our race. That’s changing thanks to the “ high valued black men” who are really grown boys.
Well that’s the problem then if BW don’t want to expand there options.. but that’s never been the case for me 🤷♀️
I know that it’s hard for black women. Self-hate, lack of love in the home and insecurity contributes to all of the nonsense. Ignoring ignorance is what I do. If I didn’t, I would be mad at the world.
I ❤️ this
- Jesus loves all and wants to save all! Romans 10:9-10🙏
Man…I wish this could be broadcasted EVERYWHERE!!!
Sending love and positive energy to you all❤️
The truth will set you free.
It's a mental health issue to maintain the chain of your oppressor.
You were definitely one of the first dating coaches on UA-cam. We only see so many Black ones now due to the Census datas showing our marriage stats. People have since purposely perverted the stats to make it seem like marriage doesn't happen in our community, so many opportunists have came out the woodwork promising to give great tips on how to find a man. Kudos to you for staying true to your mission
Bro Tony I truly admire you as a Godly Man of God, thanks for so much of wisdom you give out and this message was so informative on why Black men degrading Black women. God bless you Bro Tony 🙏❤️🕊️
I'm tuned in! This has been a trend for 2021...smh
Tony your the best!!! Thank you 🙏
I think at times the self hate black men project on black women automatically puts us in competition mode. There have been a few occasions where a black female, at the beginning would be quite hostile towards me. It usually happens if we’re the only two black females in the workplace but I think it’s a defence mechanism as in there can only be room for one of us. It’s sad that we can’t all uplift each other. We would be unstoppable if we actually stood together as a race.
Been there before it's so sad
Lu Ash, I know what you talking about. Unfortunately , Black women do have type of attitude with each other.
Not for me I’m not competing for black males lll
I put that ish to a halt. I always end up cliquing up with the black women and creating a like minded friend group in my circle. I feel it's worth the extra effort because we are all we got! Haven't had any issues yet. Once I leave a job, it's usually ended sadly because *military* but keeping in touch and ensuring one another's well being is the least we can do.
I put that ish to a halt. I always end up cliquing up with the black women and creating a like minded friend group in my circle. I feel it's worth the extra effort because we are all we got! Haven't had any issues yet. Once I leave a job, it's usually ended sadly because *military* but keeping in touch and ensuring one another's well being is the least we can do.
As a man, I dabble throughout these different spaces on UA-cam and I would advise most people to get off the internet and live a healthy life.
One channel may have a man judging a woman's looks. Another will have a woman judging a man's pockets. Each not placing much value on the person at large.
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This is KEY... life is not on these devices... good wisdom, sir!
You are a wise man.
Alot of black men do not appreciate black women. Black women gotta start dating outside of their race. Not to get the attention of black men but to open up your options and experience dating a man and not a grown boy. Ultimately though this will get the attention of black men. They love to date outside their race but will try brow beat black women to only date black men.
Facts.
Wrong.
@@ieshjust16 It is a fact! Mammy be gone.
You are so right TG people are selfish and selfless PERIOD 💯💯💯💯. Your on point with the whole message and if people don’t get it shame on you . TG you doing what GOD call you to do and if people don’t like it stop looking move around PERIOD.💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
When I tell you, this message is NEEDED right now💯💯💯 An amazing use of your platform. This brings a level of balance to what’s happening in the “MANOSPHERE”.
"A replica know an original". - TG
Better put some RESPECT on uncle Tony name!!! As a child and young lady all of the male figures around were men of no substance tbh, and were representations of what I didn't want! TG has been the ONLY man who has been completely transparent with himself and his messages for healing and transformation for me, and everyday I thank him because hearing the truth of what I allowed and how I truly felt about myself did hurt, but its worth it! I'm still working on my 3B's everyday in every way, trusting the process and loving the progress... I LOVE ME NOW, because I show up for myself to become the greatest version of myself &its been through the words of the Most High through Tony to help me get here! I thank you, value you, and respect you for ALL that you do uncle Tony! May you and your family continue to be protected and gifted in all aspects!
Tony,
Thank you for this message. I have to work on myself, meaning do me and then wait for my Boaz.
One of the best message from Tony. Perfectly delivered.👌🏾
What I like the most about Tony is his consistency. His message has been the same and when you tell the truth, you do not need to remember it. Thank you Tony 👌🏾👏🏾👏🏾
We appreciate you Tony. You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free
This is exactly what I have been going through with black men my whole life!
I am emotionally and mentally exhausted!
Thank you @Tony Gaskins!
AMEN,Brother!
I feel Black Mothers need to put their sons in check for disrespecting black women online. Hell, they are black women too.
I don't have children. But, if one of nephews was talking trash about black women online or in person. I would rip them apart
I went to a class with an older Black woman. Guess what she did? Berate me everyday. You can't expect these women who hate themselves to teach their sons to love themselves.
Black moms need to check their sons, period. Black men who disrespect black women often have a black mother who condones the behavior.
Man Tony after this you don’t have to explain yourself no more. We know what you do! You speak the truth
Bro Tony they shock , because it's Nobody but God 🙌🙌🙌👏👏🙏 that has you in the place your at in your life.
Tony!!! T.G.!!! Mr. Gaskins!! I consider you a big brother, my homie and a respectable & integral man. I appreciate your messages even when I have to look at myself for correction! I love hearing the REAL truth that rest on the foundation of God and His word! Thank you for what you do! And I am so glad you made this video. It’s rough out here dating, meeting grown boys constantly yet still desiring relationship with a grown man (a black king that I know is out there). You have a beautiful family. I want to say, Mrs. Gaskins- I love her spirit and how you describe your relationship with her. I admire your love for each other. I’m listening to your book “A Woman’s Influence”. I appreciate the lessons y’all bring. Be Blessed!!
Its crazy because these men that degrade women, that give relationship advice are single and have not been in a successful marriage. Go figure 🤔
Tony, thank you for taking your time out to share this message. Your compassion and servants heart doesn't go unnoticed. God bless you and your family.
Tony…. EVERYTHING YOU’RE SAYING IS TRUE!!!
I don't know what you prayed about before doing this video. Man this has to be one of your best......This was clear for anyone to understand on any level🔥
It's SMOKE in the city.... Tony us the BEST exoressions to get his MESSAGE across! Yes SIR!
Tony is speaking TRUTH!! I appreciate you! Your conner of the internet is refreshing! More blessings to you and your family 💐 💐