I honestly think "the book" is not realistic parenting. Feeding to sleep, co-sleeping and responsive parenting (as opposed to any form of sleep training) are extremely common (and not "by the book") and mothers/fathers/care-givers should not be made to feel guilty or ashamed to openly say that they feed to sleep, co-sleep, refuse to sleep train, etc. I agree with you completely that we need to support each other and accept that we all have different parenting methods and that children and circumstances are different. What works for one family may not work for others and that's ok. Thank you for being brave enough to share your family's experiences with complete honesty. Much love xoxo
I was born in 1997 and I coslept with my parents until elementary school and if I ever had a nightmare I was welcome into their room no questions. I turned out perfectly fine. I don't know why society makes things a problems when it's not. Show your kids love however that looks for you!
Thank you so much for your honesty. I could literally cry right now. I’m currently pregnant with my second child and the last couple of days we’ve been trying to get my 16month old to sleep in her own room. It’s been a roller coaster and sometimes I feel like I’m the only mom out of my friends whose baby isn’t sleeping through the night. Your honesty is so refreshing and reassuring.
My son is 2 and we are tying to break him from co sleeping . He was a medically fragile child and so we had him with us to keep an eye out . But, now he is getting better falling asleep in his bed. I finally get my husband back ❤️
I’m pregnant with my 2nd daughter and also planning sharing room for them and totally agree with you that it will help them bond with each other more. Also I would love to see you showing us boys playroom + toys/books they currently love. 🌸
I’m with you. My 8 month old wakes up once a night and yes I’m tired but I love holding her and comforting her. I tried letting her cry it out once and it broke my heart. You’re right, baby sleep is very personal and I really don’t like moms giving each other a hard time about it. We should be more supportive. We’re all trying our best here! Thank you for sharing and being honest. ❤️
Thank you for being so honest about each child being different and how there is no wrong or right way to do it. it’s about what works for you and your family! 🥰 it’s ok to look for help and tips but don’t get caught up in trying to be something you are not! Love it!
So thankful for how real you are. Yes, I totally agree that so many people are not honest about cosleeping. 😬 I feel like your real talk is way more helpful than any book. When I ask for “advice” it’s not so much that I want to what you recommend and think I should do but more that I want to k ow what worked for you. That gives me real perspective and ideas of tools that I can pick and choose from for me to try with my own kids.
Girl the best thing about all this is that you used all the mom-shamers hate to motivate you even more! You are so right, when it comes to parenting, you do you! Everyone has different ideas and priorities and I can’t believe how much shit you got for that! Love your style (parenting and life!) and so glad to hear how great you guys did with this transition! xo
I really appreciate your honesty here! I feel like when I research sleep for babies, the only results are sleep training or co sleeping and neither of those really suit mine and my husbands parenting style. It’s honestly a relief to hear that you can continue nursing to sleep and the baby can sleep through. This is my second baby but still a relief to hear 😂 I would say that on my first we also did that thing of staying in the room until she fell asleep and it just stopped at the age of 3. I don’t know why but she just didn’t need us. I’ve been trying to tell myself that my sons rough sleep won’t last forever either and I know it won’t. Seeing your video has made that clearer. Thanks so much for sharing 😊 love from Ireland 🇮🇪
The part about being alone with your baby in the middle of the night all quiet and cuddly really got me 🥺 helps me appreciate these middle of the night feedings with my 4 month old
Arlo is literally my baby (1 yo)!! Every time you describe Arlo I’m like “that’s Eiza!” Haha she never took a pacifier and definitely used me as her pacifier! So good to hear someone else going through something similar. Thank you for being honest about what your family has decided to do and how you’re going about it!
Yes for the honesty about co sleeping Australian college of midwives has info on safe co sleeping BECAUSE at some time most people do it and aren’t honest about it because of judgment let’s teach people how to do it safely and get rid of the stigma!!!!!!!
I love you as a mom, you rock! We do so many similar things with our littles and it's so refreshing finding other moms who do things similar, it lets you know your not alone!♡
Love this, I have a 2.5 yo boy and a 8 month old girl and I’m going to be transitioning them to sharing a room soon. They sleep pretty well now but I’m a little nervous about the transition and this video def helped. Thanks 😊
Me too girl. She’s 10 months and I cosleep & breastfeed. We sleep so much better with her versus her waking up and taking hours to go down. Bought a king bed to help lmaoo
I appreciate your honesty! So refreshing from one Mom to another. Working on transitioning my baby to share a room with my toddler too. I’m currently co-sleeping with her so your tips were reassuring to hear. That I’m not alone! Especially half night crib/bed thing.
We have a small house and I think we just always assumed every kid would have their own room, but realistically if we have a second we don’t have a good solution for where that second bedroom would go. So I appreciate you sharing this because I think it’s one of those things where it’s like duh, kids can share a room, but some people just never talk about it so you forget. Glad it has been going well for you guys ☺️
Thank you Olivia for being so honest and open about what your way of "sleep training" is and that you're doing an approach that is not "traditional". Also, Hi I'm also a human pacifier for my 1yo son Lol not all night but from like 5am until it's time to wake up otherwise my Lil guy will get so mad 😅😅 and momma is tired and I'm okay not doing that anymore. Again thanks for sharing. I feel more encouraged now starting putting my 1yo and 4yo in the same room. I'm looking forward to see them bond even more ❤
Love this! Our boys share a room. I love the bonding that’s brings. I totally u defat and feeling like a pacifier. People don’t talk about that. It can be so hard!
Thank you for sharing your honest experience. Super helpful! Love your “you do you, boo” or “you do you, girl.” because every baby is different and every house is different. I always feel like I’m doing it wrong because my baby is not a textbook baby and the way I’m taking care of my baby is not textbook way. But you help me realize that it’s ok to be different as long as it works for our family. Thank you!
Thank you so much for being open and honest about your real experience!! It is very very similar to my experience. I still feed my 11 month old to sleep. I always feel like I’m doing something wrong or I should have sleep trained. But everyone should just do what works for them and their babies!! No shame or judgment!
Yes! My older son used me as a pacifier too! My pediatrician told us that babies can smell you on top of wanting to be soothed and that’s why they do it
Love your videos! Little different situation for me - expecting twins. But I’ve already had family and friends shocked that I plan to have them share a room for at least the first few years. They laugh and say they’ll wake each other up and everything.
Great video! Love that you share your honest life. Not everyone parents the same way & why should we?! We’re all different & live our lives differently. Why would there be a handbook on parenting? I have so many mom friends that have to have these set schedules & ask “when should they be doing this etc” gets me frustrated. Or they say they’re feeding their child wrong...how??!!! Your the parent, your doing great! Anyway, (end rant lol) this video was helpful to me just in the way that there are no expectations for when my littles start sharing a room. It’ll be a transition on our own time. Thank you! ❤️
Our sons will be sharing a room in the future. We have the same situation that you do where we have 3 bedrooms but the third is the guest bedroom/office and we can't spare it for a second kids room at the moment. This was super helpful in at least showing me that it is possible for them to share a room, it might just take time.
I appreciate your honesty so much!! My daughter is 1.5 and we are still nursing/co sleeping and I’m always SO embarrassed to admit it. She wakes a few times to use me as a pacifier still but not nearly as much. I’m hoping to transition her soon but it hurts my heart to boot her out lol
Love this video! We have the same parenting style and we did the same as you with Arlo in the bed and then transitioning to their own crib in their own room. It has been nice, but I am still getting up in the night and I'm tired haha. Hoping my girl eventually learns to sleep through the night. It's also a great way for me to see how you did room sharing as that's our plan down the road, as well. Thanks for sharing! I think we just gotta worry about what feels right and less about what others think. Every mama is just doing our best!
You sound like my parent twin! I’m currently being used as a pacifier at night lol but the way you’re parenting your kids sounds so nurturing and kind- I want to be like that! Also your make up is so beautiful in this video- love the glow! ❤️
consistency is key with everything! wow Arlo is so cute in that crib pic. we had a noisy crib too but we added a pee pad type of thing that made it quiet.
I feel like we have such similar circumstances it’s crazy! My daughter is almost 8 months and she’s literally Arlo in female form. Millie is our second baby and has been so needy compared to my first. She uses me as a pacifier as well and it’s exhausting. She is seriously getting up every hour to search for the nip and I’m over it 😅 I’m trying to build up the courage to put her in her crib with my three year old and this video is just what I needed! Thanks mama!
Omg I’ve been waiting for this video for so long! Thanks so much for posting it. I’m currently pregnant with my second boy and I really want to try this out too. I appreciate all the advise and in particular the “you do you” part. You’re doing an amazing job momma!
This is soooo helpful!! My son just turned a year 2/11 and he still co sleeps with me and his dad and this guy will “snack” literally all night long! I just need to bite the bullet and put him in his own room
Thank you for sharing this input! I’m pregnant with our second boy and we’ll be room sharing when he moves from the bassinet in our room to his crib in our toddler’s room. Pretty sure I’ll reference this video again at that time lol
That is definitely my son! He won’t take a paci, no matter which one it is. We have tried ALL of them. But he wants to nurse often, mostly at night before bed. I’m glad I’m not the only one because it can often be difficult to be a human pacifier 😅
Haha- love that... your honesty is very refreshing!!! Yes-more ppl bed share than admit to it! For sure! I co-slept with all 3 of my kiddos! And- we all LOVED it!!! 💗
What do you do when they are sick and crying throughout the night? Do you still keep them together ? I'm having trouble with room sharing and them being sick
This video was so good, thank you. I’d love to know how you moved away from feeding/rocking to sleep. We’re still rocking our 19 month old to sleep (thankfully he does then sleep through the night, mostly) and I’m not sure how to move forward from here?
We cosleep with our 10 month old. I hated trying to sleep train. I breastfeed so I can put her to sleep so fast versus making her cry at night and we are all stressed. We both work full time jobs, had her in a pandemic no family here so we finally just said whatever she sleeps better and all night in my bed so 🤷🏼♀️
*Great video again, thanks for sharing. We have a similar bedtime routine, we do some reading in the room then we stay next to him and sneak out when he falls asleep. Which is odd for some ppl as they feel he should be sleep trained now that he just turned 2, but indeed everyone should do what works for Them* Due with our second soon and curious how that future room sharing transition will go
Love your encouragement for everyone to do what works best for them👍. I am wanting to transition my kids to the same room but I’m worried about naps. How did napping in the same room go?
I watched this video when you first posted, but I wanted to come back to say how I appreciate this video a lot! (And hope you’ll keep us updated if any new advice pops up.) We are planning to try to have baby #2 soon and they will have to share a room (our east coast townhome is just a 2 bedroom). Your advice helps me believe it’s doable! I’m curious, do you think (if you’d been inclined) that Arlo could have moved in at a younger age? Or do you think 10ish months is probably the soonest it could work?
I’m still bedsharing/nursing my son at 18 months. After how long did you transition Christian to his own crib/room? I feel like it’s harder with the first since they won’t have a sibling with them.
Thanks so much for sharing, you’re a great mom!! Maybe I missed it, but when is bedtime for the boys? It sounds like it could vary from night to night, I’m just curious! Not pregnant now but definitely thinking about room sharing since we only have 2 bedrooms.
Great video, thank you for sharing your experience. My boys are almost the same age and we plan on having them share the room too. How are the naps going for you guys? Do they nap at the same time (#howdidyoudothat)? Our 2yo has one nap and 8mo has two, and usually one goes to bed and the other one wakes up, so that's the only thing that holds us back right now. Also I am totally in the same boat with nursing to sleep, I've done it with my two boys too, we didn't do sleep training either, and they both now sleep through the night! There was a time I felt guilty about doing it and going against all experts advice (not anymore) and it is great to hear that it worked out for you guys too! I'm sure it does for many other moms too!
Um pacifiers were made to be a “nipple”... the boob is the OG paci so perfectly natural he wants it lol!! 😝 we have both our boys in a room together and one thing we do is put baby to bed 20-30 min before the tot. Baby then is in a pretty deep initial sleep when tot storms in to bed! It also gives us a little 1 on 1 with the tot who loves it. 👍 Great honest sharing of your experience.
When we first started room sharing (3yr and 8month boys) We tried to put baby to bed first, but then when we would put the 3yr in their room he would scream until baby woke. We realized that he needs the enteraction of them going to sleep at the same time. Two months in and I am so happy we stuck it out!
The struggles are real my son is 20 months and am trying to make him sleep on his crib so I can sleep more comfortable now that am pregnant again..but it's hard he still breastfeeding or use me as a pacifier haha and he has never sleep through the night... thanks for this video now I don't feel so alone in this 😀❤
Thank you for sharing this with us. I’ve got 2 boys too and thinking about having them share a room too. Quick question...are you thinking about switching Christian to a toddler bed?
My baby will sleep through the night now at 7 months but getting her to fall asleep has been so difficult. She was going to bed every night at 8 but now is up crying until midnight lately. I’ve tried feeding her to sleep, feeding her before bed, cry it out, holding her, singing rocking cuddling. Nothing is working. I put into her crib awake in the day for naps and she goes to sleep so nicely but the night has been challenging.
Thank you !!! My son uses me as his human pacifier too i need to transfer him to his bed but with the getting out of bed to get grab him I’m dreading lol haha gosh thank you so much for your honesty. It’s crazy bc before 6 months he slept 6 hours straight in his bed 😭😭 after he started teething sleep went to the garbage and he’s started sleeping with us 😢
I breastfed my children too (still going with my 10 month old) and yes I totally agree about being used a pacifier. I tried with all 3 to give them pacifiers from little babies hoping that will help them and me with their sleep. No, they wanted the boob as a pacifier lol I have done some sleep training with my baby, mainly to teach him to go to sleep on his own. But I still wake up at night (once or twice) to nurse him. I think at this age it’s probably a comfort thing now. But I just wanted to agree with you because I used to wonder and get frustrated about why my baby won’t take a pacifier. Well the answer is he already had one! Haha Or two lol
I feel you is like we grow attached to our babies.. is so hard to put them to sleep in a different place ..sometimes when I put my son in his crib I can't sleep intil he wake up and I put him in bed with me 😥
I LOVE this and love your honesty. Also think it’s so funny how many people hide their co sleeping experience because they don’t want to be shamed when in reality it is normalized and safe for generations. We started cosleeping at 5-6 months after my baby would wake every 20 minutes. I was a zombie! Much more safe for us both me being well rested plus snuggles.🤞🏼 Thank you for your videos 😍
I want to put my 2 and 1 year old together but my 1 year old still wakes up at night. We’ve have them share a room on vacations but it’s like 50/50 my youngest starts crying and my older one wakes up and freaks out crying 😅
This is exactly how we sleep! My baby is 6 months and sleeps with us. You are so right because I nurse him and now that you mention it i think he wakes up a lot because he uses me as a pacifier! Thanks for sharing! @yessi.100 ❤️ (Instagram)
Not gonna lie, when I found out our friends cosleep with their 1.5 year old, I couldn’t believe it and definitely judged them. But after becoming a mom, I totally see why parents do it. It’s so sweet and special. We do not cosleep because I do not trust my husband one bit as sometimes he wakes up literally on top of me but when he leaves for work I quietly bring baby in our bed for some snuggles until he’s ready to wake up for the day. At night when I can’t go to sleep, I reach into my baby’s pick and play and just hold his hand. It’s going to be so hard transitioning to his room.🥺
there is nothing wrong with sharing a room! we had an apartment with 2 bedrooms and 4 kids! i shared a room with my brothers and it wasthe best! were best friends! not everyone has the luxury of having bedrooms and even if they did, parents can do what they choose!
The nursery tour is a whole separate video on my channel (which is why it isn’t advertised as included in this video) ☺️ here’s the link! ua-cam.com/video/OZ9XDs70dtM/v-deo.html
😂😂😂😂 do these people realize that some people don't have a choice but to room share? That's great though! (everyone co sleeps, whoever "doesn't" is lying)
Do people not understand that every child having their own room is a massive luxury that not everyone can afford.
Right. There were 4 of us girls in one room growing up
I honestly think "the book" is not realistic parenting. Feeding to sleep, co-sleeping and responsive parenting (as opposed to any form of sleep training) are extremely common (and not "by the book") and mothers/fathers/care-givers should not be made to feel guilty or ashamed to openly say that they feed to sleep, co-sleep, refuse to sleep train, etc. I agree with you completely that we need to support each other and accept that we all have different parenting methods and that children and circumstances are different. What works for one family may not work for others and that's ok. Thank you for being brave enough to share your family's experiences with complete honesty. Much love xoxo
Very well said!!! 💗 Couldn’t agree more!!!
I was born in 1997 and I coslept with my parents until elementary school and if I ever had a nightmare I was welcome into their room no questions. I turned out perfectly fine. I don't know why society makes things a problems when it's not. Show your kids love however that looks for you!
Thank you so much for your honesty. I could literally cry right now. I’m currently pregnant with my second child and the last couple of days we’ve been trying to get my 16month old to sleep in her own room. It’s been a roller coaster and sometimes I feel like I’m the only mom out of my friends whose baby isn’t sleeping through the night. Your honesty is so refreshing and reassuring.
My son is 2 and we are tying to break him from co sleeping . He was a medically fragile child and so we had him with us to keep an eye out . But, now he is getting better falling asleep in his bed.
I finally get my husband back ❤️
I’m pregnant with my 2nd daughter and also planning sharing room for them and totally agree with you that it will help them bond with each other more. Also I would love to see you showing us boys playroom + toys/books they currently love. 🌸
I’m with you. My 8 month old wakes up once a night and yes I’m tired but I love holding her and comforting her. I tried letting her cry it out once and it broke my heart. You’re right, baby sleep is very personal and I really don’t like moms giving each other a hard time about it. We should be more supportive. We’re all trying our best here! Thank you for sharing and being honest. ❤️
Thank you for being so honest about each child being different and how there is no wrong or right way to do it. it’s about what works for you and your family! 🥰 it’s ok to look for help and tips but don’t get caught up in trying to be something you are not! Love it!
So glad!! We love listening to our 4 yo and 2 yo having conversations at night. Waiting for our 6 month old to join the fun :)
So thankful for how real you are. Yes, I totally agree that so many people are not honest about cosleeping. 😬 I feel like your real talk is way more helpful than any book. When I ask for “advice” it’s not so much that I want to what you recommend and think I should do but more that I want to k ow what worked for you. That gives me real perspective and ideas of tools that I can pick and choose from for me to try with my own kids.
Girl the best thing about all this is that you used all the mom-shamers hate to motivate you even more! You are so right, when it comes to parenting, you do you! Everyone has different ideas and priorities and I can’t believe how much shit you got for that! Love your style (parenting and life!) and so glad to hear how great you guys did with this transition! xo
I really appreciate your honesty here! I feel like when I research sleep for babies, the only results are sleep training or co sleeping and neither of those really suit mine and my husbands parenting style. It’s honestly a relief to hear that you can continue nursing to sleep and the baby can sleep through. This is my second baby but still a relief to hear 😂
I would say that on my first we also did that thing of staying in the room until she fell asleep and it just stopped at the age of 3. I don’t know why but she just didn’t need us.
I’ve been trying to tell myself that my sons rough sleep won’t last forever either and I know it won’t. Seeing your video has made that clearer. Thanks so much for sharing 😊 love from Ireland 🇮🇪
The part about being alone with your baby in the middle of the night all quiet and cuddly really got me 🥺 helps me appreciate these middle of the night feedings with my 4 month old
Arlo is literally my baby (1 yo)!! Every time you describe Arlo I’m like “that’s Eiza!” Haha she never took a pacifier and definitely used me as her pacifier! So good to hear someone else going through something similar. Thank you for being honest about what your family has decided to do and how you’re going about it!
Yes for the honesty about co sleeping Australian college of midwives has info on safe co sleeping BECAUSE at some time most people do it and aren’t honest about it because of judgment let’s teach people how to do it safely and get rid of the stigma!!!!!!!
I love how honest you are you don’t sugar coat much!❤️💖 do you mamas!
I love you as a mom, you rock! We do so many similar things with our littles and it's so refreshing finding other moms who do things similar, it lets you know your not alone!♡
Love this, I have a 2.5 yo boy and a 8 month old girl and I’m going to be transitioning them to sharing a room soon. They sleep pretty well now but I’m a little nervous about the transition and this video def helped. Thanks 😊
Mine are the same ages! Right now my baby is sleeping in a pack and play, but I want to move him to a crib in my toddlers room. Good luck!
I have the same situation! best of luck
how did it go mama?
I needed this video soo much! Trying to get my almost 10 month old into her crib and it’s been rough 😅💕
Me too girl. She’s 10 months and I cosleep & breastfeed. We sleep so much better with her versus her waking up and taking hours to go down. Bought a king bed to help lmaoo
@@ClaraBaaabyx yes!! I agree, It’s definitely easier to cosleep and nurse!
I appreciate your honesty! So refreshing from one Mom to another. Working on transitioning my baby to share a room with my toddler too. I’m currently co-sleeping with her so your tips were reassuring to hear. That I’m not alone! Especially half night crib/bed thing.
We have a small house and I think we just always assumed every kid would have their own room, but realistically if we have a second we don’t have a good solution for where that second bedroom would go. So I appreciate you sharing this because I think it’s one of those things where it’s like duh, kids can share a room, but some people just never talk about it so you forget. Glad it has been going well for you guys ☺️
Thank you Olivia for being so honest and open about what your way of "sleep training" is and that you're doing an approach that is not "traditional". Also, Hi I'm also a human pacifier for my 1yo son Lol not all night but from like 5am until it's time to wake up otherwise my Lil guy will get so mad 😅😅 and momma is tired and I'm okay not doing that anymore. Again thanks for sharing. I feel more encouraged now starting putting my 1yo and 4yo in the same room. I'm looking forward to see them bond even more ❤
Love this! Our boys share a room. I love the bonding that’s brings. I totally u defat and feeling like a pacifier. People don’t talk about that. It can be so hard!
Thank you for sharing your honest experience. Super helpful! Love your “you do you, boo” or “you do you, girl.” because every baby is different and every house is different. I always feel like I’m doing it wrong because my baby is not a textbook baby and the way I’m taking care of my baby is not textbook way. But you help me realize that it’s ok to be different as long as it works for our family. Thank you!
You are a breath of fresh air!🤍 especially when it comes to baby sleep
Thank you so much!!
Thank you so much for being open and honest about your real experience!! It is very very similar to my experience. I still feed my 11 month old to sleep. I always feel like I’m doing something wrong or I should have sleep trained. But everyone should just do what works for them and their babies!! No shame or judgment!
If we have another, we want our kiddos to room share. We got weird responses when sharing that so thank you for this video!
Yes! My older son used me as a pacifier too! My pediatrician told us that babies can smell you on top of wanting to be soothed and that’s why they do it
Love your videos!
Little different situation for me - expecting twins. But I’ve already had family and friends shocked that I plan to have them share a room for at least the first few years. They laugh and say they’ll wake each other up and everything.
Thanks for sharing! Totally agree with you on each family doing what works best for them. Good vibes from Belgium to you and your cute family!
Thank you so much for being honest! It makes me feel less alone. I didn’t do cry it out, and felt like one of the boy ones.
Great video! Love that you share your honest life. Not everyone parents the same way & why should we?! We’re all different & live our lives differently. Why would there be a handbook on parenting? I have so many mom friends that have to have these set schedules & ask “when should they be doing this etc” gets me frustrated. Or they say they’re feeding their child wrong...how??!!! Your the parent, your doing great! Anyway, (end rant lol) this video was helpful to me just in the way that there are no expectations for when my littles start sharing a room. It’ll be a transition on our own time. Thank you! ❤️
Our sons will be sharing a room in the future. We have the same situation that you do where we have 3 bedrooms but the third is the guest bedroom/office and we can't spare it for a second kids room at the moment. This was super helpful in at least showing me that it is possible for them to share a room, it might just take time.
Planning to transition to room sharing soon. Thank you so much for making this!
I appreciate your honesty so much!! My daughter is 1.5 and we are still nursing/co sleeping and I’m always SO embarrassed to admit it. She wakes a few times to use me as a pacifier still but not nearly as much. I’m hoping to transition her soon but it hurts my heart to boot her out lol
Love this video! We have the same parenting style and we did the same as you with Arlo in the bed and then transitioning to their own crib in their own room. It has been nice, but I am still getting up in the night and I'm tired haha. Hoping my girl eventually learns to sleep through the night. It's also a great way for me to see how you did room sharing as that's our plan down the road, as well. Thanks for sharing! I think we just gotta worry about what feels right and less about what others think. Every mama is just doing our best!
Great video! I was hoping for a vid like this. Sleep is so important and it's nice to hear experiences thT are so similar!
You sound like my parent twin! I’m currently being used as a pacifier at night lol but the way you’re parenting your kids sounds so nurturing and kind- I want to be like that! Also your make up is so beautiful in this video- love the glow! ❤️
consistency is key with everything! wow Arlo is so cute in that crib pic. we had a noisy crib too but we added a pee pad type of thing that made it quiet.
I really appreciate your honesty.
Do you! Best advice of this video ❤️. Love your videos!
I feel like we have such similar circumstances it’s crazy! My daughter is almost 8 months and she’s literally Arlo in female form. Millie is our second baby and has been so needy compared to my first. She uses me as a pacifier as well and it’s exhausting. She is seriously getting up every hour to search for the nip and I’m over it 😅 I’m trying to build up the courage to put her in her crib with my three year old and this video is just what I needed! Thanks mama!
Omg I’ve been waiting for this video for so long! Thanks so much for posting it. I’m currently pregnant with my second boy and I really want to try this out too. I appreciate all the advise and in particular the “you do you” part. You’re doing an amazing job momma!
This is soooo helpful!! My son just turned a year 2/11 and he still co sleeps with me and his dad and this guy will “snack” literally all night long! I just need to bite the bullet and put him in his own room
You do you, and what works for your family 🤎🤎🤎
Thank you for sharing this input! I’m pregnant with our second boy and we’ll be room sharing when he moves from the bassinet in our room to his crib in our toddler’s room. Pretty sure I’ll reference this video again at that time lol
That is definitely my son! He won’t take a paci, no matter which one it is. We have tried ALL of them. But he wants to nurse often, mostly at night before bed. I’m glad I’m not the only one because it can often be difficult to be a human pacifier 😅
Haha- love that... your honesty is very refreshing!!! Yes-more ppl bed share than admit to it! For sure! I co-slept with all 3 of my kiddos! And- we all LOVED it!!! 💗
Thank you so much! I really needed this video👏🏾
Surprised at the hate mentioned. Having mine share a room as two bedroom house but once move to larger still plan to have them together
What do you do when they are sick and crying throughout the night? Do you still keep them together ? I'm having trouble with room sharing and them being sick
Thank you for sharing your experience. Having baby number 2 in March and my plan for rooming sharing is to go into it with no expectations. 😂
Completely relate to the pacifier boobs! Almost 13 months later and our son just slept through the night for the first time🙌
I hope you can share your night time routine with both, I would love to just chill and wait for them to go to bed then sneak out lol loved this video!
I can’t relate bc I breast fed so little, but kudos to you for being brave and speaking about this!
This video was so good, thank you. I’d love to know how you moved away from feeding/rocking to sleep. We’re still rocking our 19 month old to sleep (thankfully he does then sleep through the night, mostly) and I’m not sure how to move forward from here?
Yas sis! I plan on having both my girls share as well! (Our second is due in April 🥰)
My hubby is totally against the kids having their own room lol. So we plan on room sharing also! They are about 20 mo apart
We cosleep with our 10 month old. I hated trying to sleep train. I breastfeed so I can put her to sleep so fast versus making her cry at night and we are all stressed. We both work full time jobs, had her in a pandemic no family here so we finally just said whatever she sleeps better and all night in my bed so 🤷🏼♀️
*Great video again, thanks for sharing. We have a similar bedtime routine, we do some reading in the room then we stay next to him and sneak out when he falls asleep. Which is odd for some ppl as they feel he should be sleep trained now that he just turned 2, but indeed everyone should do what works for Them* Due with our second soon and curious how that future room sharing transition will go
Love your encouragement for everyone to do what works best for them👍. I am wanting to transition my kids to the same room but I’m worried about naps. How did napping in the same room go?
We just started room sharing too!!
OMG 😳 thank you. The same happening to me and my son
Definitely needed this video
I watched this video when you first posted, but I wanted to come back to say how I appreciate this video a lot! (And hope you’ll keep us updated if any new advice pops up.) We are planning to try to have baby #2 soon and they will have to share a room (our east coast townhome is just a 2 bedroom). Your advice helps me believe it’s doable!
I’m curious, do you think (if you’d been inclined) that Arlo could have moved in at a younger age? Or do you think 10ish months is probably the soonest it could work?
Loved this vid!!💙💙💞✨
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My boys will be sharing a room very soon so thank you for this video!!! I have a 2.5 year old and a 10 month old
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10/10 vídeo. Thanks for sharing!!
I’m still bedsharing/nursing my son at 18 months. After how long did you transition Christian to his own crib/room? I feel like it’s harder with the first since they won’t have a sibling with them.
Thanks so much for sharing, you’re a great mom!! Maybe I missed it, but when is bedtime for the boys? It sounds like it could vary from night to night, I’m just curious! Not pregnant now but definitely thinking about room sharing since we only have 2 bedrooms.
Where are your necklaces from? They are gorgeous ❤
Great video, thank you for sharing your experience. My boys are almost the same age and we plan on having them share the room too. How are the naps going for you guys? Do they nap at the same time (#howdidyoudothat)? Our 2yo has one nap and 8mo has two, and usually one goes to bed and the other one wakes up, so that's the only thing that holds us back right now. Also I am totally in the same boat with nursing to sleep, I've done it with my two boys too, we didn't do sleep training either, and they both now sleep through the night! There was a time I felt guilty about doing it and going against all experts advice (not anymore) and it is great to hear that it worked out for you guys too! I'm sure it does for many other moms too!
Um pacifiers were made to be a “nipple”... the boob is the OG paci so perfectly natural he wants it lol!! 😝 we have both our boys in a room together and one thing we do is put baby to bed 20-30 min before the tot. Baby then is in a pretty deep initial sleep when tot storms in to bed! It also gives us a little 1 on 1 with the tot who loves it. 👍 Great honest sharing of your experience.
When we first started room sharing (3yr and 8month boys) We tried to put baby to bed first, but then when we would put the 3yr in their room he would scream until baby woke. We realized that he needs the enteraction of them going to sleep at the same time. Two months in and I am so happy we stuck it out!
The struggles are real my son is 20 months and am trying to make him sleep on his crib so I can sleep more comfortable now that am pregnant again..but it's hard he still breastfeeding or use me as a pacifier haha and he has never sleep through the night... thanks for this video now I don't feel so alone in this 😀❤
Cosleeping - is when they sleep in the same room as you but in their bassinet or crib.
Bed sharing- is when they sleep in the bed with you.
Thank you for sharing this with us. I’ve got 2 boys too and thinking about having them share a room too. Quick question...are you thinking about switching Christian to a toddler bed?
How did you make a transition from co sleeling to a crib? I have the same problem.
My baby will sleep through the night now at 7 months but getting her to fall asleep has been so difficult. She was going to bed every night at 8 but now is up crying until midnight lately. I’ve tried feeding her to sleep, feeding her before bed, cry it out, holding her, singing rocking cuddling. Nothing is working. I put into her crib awake in the day for naps and she goes to sleep so nicely but the night has been challenging.
My sister used my mom like a pacifier. My mom still talks about it! Good for you and Arlo!
So many people say co sleeping when they mean bed sharing.
Co sleeping means in the same room
My husband and I sit with our kids too until they fall asleep 🤷🏻♀️
Yup. We sit with them too
thanks for the tips... cute babies...
Love this! We share a lot of similar views
Thank you !!! My son uses me as his human pacifier too i need to transfer him to his bed but with the getting out of bed to get grab him I’m dreading lol haha gosh thank you so much for your honesty. It’s crazy bc before 6 months he slept 6 hours straight in his bed 😭😭 after he started teething sleep went to the garbage and he’s started sleeping with us 😢
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I breastfed my children too (still going with my 10 month old) and yes I totally agree about being used a pacifier. I tried with all 3 to give them pacifiers from little babies hoping that will help them and me with their sleep.
No, they wanted the boob as a pacifier lol
I have done some sleep training with my baby, mainly to teach him to go to sleep on his own. But I still wake up at night (once or twice) to nurse him. I think at this age it’s probably a comfort thing now.
But I just wanted to agree with you because I used to wonder and get frustrated about why my baby won’t take a pacifier. Well the answer is he already had one! Haha
Or two lol
My little boy is 10 months old and he is IN OUR BED. Naps in our bed, sleeps in our bed. I am trying to get him out but my heart wont let me.
I feel you is like we grow attached to our babies.. is so hard to put them to sleep in a different place ..sometimes when I put my son in his crib I can't sleep intil he wake up and I put him in bed with me 😥
@@maryestrada9291 i do the exact same thing. I would just be waiting til his 1st cry and Im like okay he needs to be with me.
I LOVE this and love your honesty. Also think it’s so funny how many people hide their co sleeping experience because they don’t want to be shamed when in reality it is normalized and safe for generations. We started cosleeping at 5-6 months after my baby would wake every 20 minutes. I was a zombie! Much more safe for us both me being well rested plus snuggles.🤞🏼 Thank you for your videos 😍
I want to put my 2 and 1 year old together but my 1 year old still wakes up at night. We’ve have them share a room on vacations but it’s like 50/50 my youngest starts crying and my older one wakes up and freaks out crying 😅
Arlo and my son are the same age how sweet 😘
This is exactly how we sleep! My baby is 6 months and sleeps with us. You are so right because I nurse him and now that you mention it i think he wakes up a lot because he uses me as a pacifier! Thanks for sharing! @yessi.100 ❤️ (Instagram)
We co sleep but my son is 2! I’ve been trying to get him in his bed 🤦🏾♀️. It’s not working. Help LOL
Do not worry girlfriend
He will be ready in his own time.
Not gonna lie, when I found out our friends cosleep with their 1.5 year old, I couldn’t believe it and definitely judged them. But after becoming a mom, I totally see why parents do it. It’s so sweet and special. We do not cosleep because I do not trust my husband one bit as sometimes he wakes up literally on top of me but when he leaves for work I quietly bring baby in our bed for some snuggles until he’s ready to wake up for the day. At night when I can’t go to sleep, I reach into my baby’s pick and play and just hold his hand. It’s going to be so hard transitioning to his room.🥺
there is nothing wrong with sharing a room! we had an apartment with 2 bedrooms and 4 kids! i shared a room with my brothers and it wasthe best! were best friends! not everyone has the luxury of having bedrooms and even if they did, parents can do what they choose!
Was Christian ever "jealous" that he wasn't sleeping with you all and Arlo?
My kids will be sharing a room in the future. So... I don’t know why people r throwing fits with you. We don’t have another room so..
Literally a whole actual video long af without ever actually showing the room 😩 😭
The nursery tour is a whole separate video on my channel (which is why it isn’t advertised as included in this video) ☺️ here’s the link! ua-cam.com/video/OZ9XDs70dtM/v-deo.html
😂😂😂😂 do these people realize that some people don't have a choice but to room share?
That's great though!
(everyone co sleeps, whoever "doesn't" is lying)
Boring