I saw this video and screamed into the void for 5 hours straight. I didn't even take a breath, just 5 hours of screaming. SOCIALS: www.tiktok.com... www.instagram....
So, she's not actually suffering from Stockholm syndrome, hopefully? Maybe it's just financial/family circumstances keeping her tied to this absolute albatross of an alopecia afflicted creature to her complete detriment
Oh my God I appreciate you so much. I just happen to find this video. Which made me smile so much. You're a doll!!!!!! Your energy is amazing. I'm definitely subbing
@@--mand0r-- bingo. She made something else because she knew it would be worse if she didn't. I was in a marriage like that, it was AWFUL. I did everything and everything I did was wrong in some way. Nothing was ever enough. Worked full time and did LITERALLY everything around the house, still constant verbal abuse. His abuse was more extreme than this, but of course the fact that he does this on camera makes me believe he's worse behind closed doors. It was so hard to get out, I left 10 or more times but finally left for the last time in March.
Usually it's both the parents, but this time it's only the father and he seriously needs to grow up and wake up to reality. If he doesn't face reality now, he'll never be able to in the future.. when it gets even worse.
I'd say that choosing to be a "family blogger" is pretty congruent with finding the biggest red flag stuffed into a human suit to marry and procreate with, on the shitty-life-choice making spectrum.
i know you didnt mean it this way but, ive known people in hospice who are far more appreciative and kind and receptive to care than this (presumably) healthy dude. he isnt a patient, or in need of extra care due to a disability he just seems ungrateful and entitled, which is where the ick comes from i think👍
@@otherflery3846 it’s not rare per say, especially in certain circles, but it’s not often that a man gets actually triggered by it, and has mini rants and such. It’s an uncommon reaction.
Hate comment: "ur wife does all the work, you never take care of your kids" Him: "What r u talking about, i play with my kids every day." if i play with a puppy everyday and do nothing else with it, guess what, that puppy is going to die. Taking care of your kids and paying attention to them is not just playing with them. edit: I just watched the rest of the video, who tf throws a clearly hard ball at your small child's head while they are turned around and are unable to move and avoid it. Not only that, BUT THEN DESPICABLY LAUGHING AFTERWARDS. WTF????
I love how aggressively supportive and respectful you are to her, instead of blaming her for putting up with his cartilage hoarding demands for nachos.
I have SEVERE sensory issues, and i genuinely cannot eat specific foods. it can cause me physical pain, BUT WHAT THE HELL?! no thank yous? No helping with chores? What a female dog.
Same here! I always just say something along the lines of "Thank you so much, but I can't eat this. I really really appreciate the effort though! I can make myself something else don't worry" and then I do. Like it's not hard to be respectful
SAME HERE! IF HE ACTUALLY HAD THOSE ISSUES, HE SHOULD COMMUNICATE TO HIS WIFE ABOUT WHAT FOODS HE SHOULD OR SHOULD NOT EAT. And don’t make her cook again because you’re too lazy to get chips or something out of the freaking pantry!
@@lisawhereisthecultjam bruv did you not watch the video? She’s a nurse, she wears Nurse’s scrubs, and it’s pointed out in said video. She’s not a SAHM. Even if it’s a bit, it’s disgusting to act like that still. It isn’t even a bit because he flung the fuck out of a ball into the back of his baby’s head. From across the home.
Late, but so glad I clicked on this. I have EDS, a connective tissue disorder that makes my body produce too much collagen and causes hypermobility in my joints. Can confirm these baby wrist allegations. Absolutely adding cartilage coded to my bio on everything - I'm crying
She's an elite nurse, a full time influencer star, the only person raising 3 kids under five, and the cleaner and cook and who knows what else for that household. Meanwhile he's a worse burden than caretaking an elderly bedbound relative who contributed a lifetime of work and love before that point.
Like this dude is such a deck. I say this as someone who gets really bad sensory issues with food and can’t eat seafood at all. If my s/o made me salmon, I would feel so bad for them, apologise profusely and make my own gosh darn food.
That’s so real, I have sensory issues too and even like smelling or seeing certain foods makes me panic. I would cry so hard and apologize for being an inconvenience,but make my own food.Like common?? I hate the people who raise these lazy kids and they grow up like this.
Her constant forced fake laugh is what really gets me, that laugh is a typical ''I don't have the energy for a conflict and I don't know what else to say, let's pretend it's funny even though I'm very uncomfortable'' laugh
its depressing more then anything, nothing hurts more then seeing a person hide just how BADLY they are suffering, like just imagine being married that "man child" who doesn't even care for ANYTHING you do and belittles you on every level while sitting in his man baby crib, the best I can hope for is that his toddler-like posture causes him to slip and fall down some stairs and for him to just break his neck, because lets be real, he wasn't doing much other then consuming oxygen, if anything he would be better suited as fertilizer.
i am so pissed that men in our society are praised to do what a parent MUST DO ON A DAILY BASIS. Like, playing with your kids and take care of them? Dude, you shouldn't get the applause, that's your responsibility as a father of your children
I’m here wrapped in a blanket in my bed because I’m sick and GOD this man makes me want to get up and clean every inch of my house because I don’t like feeling even close to that person.
what also scares me is the internalized misogyny that she's clearly developing in response to his abusive behaviour, trying to justify his incompetent and manipulative actions. putting all the blame on his mom for his lack of maturity is awful, but the fact that she's led herself to think that way to excuse her husband's bullshit and make parenting a fully grown, able-bodied, able-minded adult bearable. so fucking awful to watch :/
She could be one of those people that makes taking care of people and having too many responsibilities their whole personality. I know a few of those people and maaaaan everything is everybody else's fault with them, but they're still out here doing more than too much lmao
Ok, but that video of him hitting hit *EXTREAMLY YOUNG CHILD* is so *SO* disturbing. He laughs while his kid is quite literally screaming. *Thats like abuse, if not it is abuse.*
Her giggles sound like automatic responses to cover her true feelings. She's constantly defending herself, too. Ugh reminds me of one of my past relationships.
@@user-dumby04 it's an attempt to diffuse the situation. like if she laughs and brushes his shitty behaviour off, then he won't be more angry or aggressive towards her.
Fr. I feel like I take up space as a minor who can’t get a job or feed myself and there’s a grown man who actively lets his wife do everything for him.
My ex husband told me that I was a “lazy, disrespectful cat owner” because I asked him to clean the litter boxes three days after I got out of the ER for an infection after my c-section. And then he said my body was a “failure” because I had to have said c-section. *EX* husband. These husbands are so common it’s disgusting.
@@mischievoustactics2710 I struggle with it because while it's not their fault they have it so deeply rooted, their reaction to it IS their fault. In a lot of ways we ALL have internalized bigotry, but we aren't all openly bigoted.
I'm someone with sensory issues, especially with regards to taste and texture. If my S/O made something I didn't like or couldn't physically eat due to said issues, I'd thank them still, before making myself something I can actually stomach. They took time out of their day to make me something, and even if I couldn't eat it, I'd try and thank them another way. The husband just throws a fit like a toddler and doesn't thank his wife when she cooks him a second meal!
Once my EX husband threw away what I made. My son was sitting next to me and he said "how rude." And I just died inside. That was like 15 years ago and it still makes me sad.
lolol my dad would throw the food away and break the plates. now my mom is confused why i don’t do shit for men and why i don’t want to be married lmfaoc
I spent a day tracking down ingredients and made a full blown three course meal for my ex wife, making sure one of them was her favorite food and she just screamed at me because I didn't take her out to dinner like I did every Friday night.
It’s quite sad that a man respecting women is some incredible thing, I am NOT discrediting Cooper, I love that he supports women it’s just so sad that a man respecting women is so rare that when someone actually does it’s this big wonderful thing.
Thank you for you hating on this bad behavior, it is something that should not be normalized. Being a stay at home mom is a full-time job on its own. Mothers shouldn't have to raise their children and their husband/spouse. Thank you for pointing this out.
Also the second he´s of from work shouldn´t the stay at home mom be also. Seems like alot of stay at home moms are working 24/7, still taking care of everything even when the dad is home from work. It is like a trap for women to be put in this role they are expected to do all the work 24/7, also if they don´t work they don´t have any finances in case of emergency or taking a semester from that role.
25:34 what’s concerning is there’s really no other explanation as to why he’s doing whatever he’s doing more than him role playing his 3 year old. If first guy is an example of the ick this is an example of that amplified to 1000
I feel so bad for this woman and now I find out she's a NURSE? As someone in nursing school I say work more on weekends. They pay extra on the weekends and clearly this guy won't even notice as he doesn't get off the couch ever.
This one time I went to my married friend’s house for a week and these TikToks were exactly what her husband was like. The wife cooked, cleaned, worked, and went out, and when we’d get back he’d be on the sofa playing Candy Crush on two different devices simultaneously, with four chat apps open on third device. Every day. She said he had a job but I never saw him do it, and the only warm meal he could make was a ham sandwich. Couch gremlin is such an embarrassing way to live your life
@@HaveAPunch It's often hard for people to see exactly how bad the situation they're in is without outside help. She's in a terrible situation, it's just hard for her to see that.
she blamed his mom for his behavior but she's forgetting he's a grown ass man that is capable of making his own decisions and changing toxic behavior and she needs just as much help as he does
She might only attribute his good traits to him and his bad traits to the people around him. I've seen people do it before. To her point, I do have a friend who won't really eat anything besides standard American food, and she won't eat vegetables, and I do honestly believe it is because her mom never really pushed the subject when she was a kid and didn't want to eat her veggies. And she just never grew out of it. But I think it's also her. So, usually, it's a combination of multiple factors.
not only that, but she’s blaming his mom & then, what ? just gonna let his life go on like that ? when would she start blaming herself ? when his mom hits the can ? tell that grown adult you eat what i make or you make your own food. period. mama may have enabled you but i’m not gonna
I feel like the only good reasons you can deny a meal your significant other made you is if you’re allergic to it (duh) or if you’re so sick you can barely eat in the first place
I think you should be able to deny eating something if you don't like it. You just need to communicate in a healthy way. Both my partner and I cook, but I do the majority of it because I'm a SAHM. I wouldn't want to be serving meals at night that my partner secretly dislikes but is forcing it down for fear of my reaction. He just apologises and explains that he doesn't like what he's eating but appreciates the effort. He would never expect me to make him something else, and I just wouldn't purchase it anymore unless I was making it only for myself. It's a lot easier now that we've been together for so long. We both cook meals that we know our family enjoys. And if one of us wants to try and cook something different, we communicate beforehand. Both of us are open to trying new things, but if one of us doesn't like something after trying it, that's fine too! A thanks and genuine gratitude is needed whether you like something or not, compliment each other on meals, and if you really enjoy it, sing the others' praises. Critism is a lot easier heard when you do that. This husband is trash, though.
As someone with a trash dad, I have wished since I was very young that my mom would leave him. I feel bad for the kids and how their future relationships could end up.
I feel like he's the type of guy to go "life's honestly pretty easy, idk why anybody gets so stressed out. they must be lazy" while his wife handles literally every aspect of their lives
This reminds me of that skit where the husband is like "You don't have to stress about anything though. Look. When I make a mess, it will be magically cleaned when I come home from work. Everytime. I swear. The dishes do themselves. And groceries just spawn in the fridge. I don't know what mysterious force is doing this." (Can't remember it very well. If anyone does, please elaborate.)
What an amazing day to sit down, draw, and watch some cooper vids on my bed with my phone up against a skull decoration. No like actually this dude is my comfort UA-camr- like this man has helped me feel better when I cry it is an amazing day to watch him 😭❤
Oh my god the realization that I wasn’t treated normally in my marriage hits HARD every time. I used to think it was normal that *every* joke my ex husband made was about me being ugly, fat, stupid, etc. He would say “they just don’t get us,” exactly like the video. And I accepted it. It hurt, and I didn’t think it was funny, but I thought it was normal.
As someone with sensory issues, if my SO made a meal I literally COULDNT eat I would still thank them and then make my own food. What the husband does is not acceptable
Plus, I would think that if one partner is often cooking for the other, it wouldn't be unreasonable for the two of you to work out what foods you like and can eat, right?
yeah, I have sensory issues too, and it makes it really hard to try new foods, I don't like it but it's hard to control for me, but I have gotten a little better I guess. but I would still be thankful if someone did make me a meal.
@@shopokefrignugget2027 it is poking fun, but people will also make casual “jokes” about how much their wife makes them do, or hint that they’re unhappy and play it off as a joke. its not really funny, and a but misogynistic lol
Every time he mentions the husband's age, he increases it by a decade, which is such a stealthy way of insulting someone and I love it. By the way, this woman blaming her mother-in-law for how he eats is probably her way of venting about her toxic mother-in-law because a toxic husband and a toxic mother-in-law usually go hand-in-hand.
Yup, can attest to this. Not because I have a toxic husband or a toxic mother in law. I actually loved my mother in law like my own mom before she passed. My little brother though.... is a fucking man child. The HORROR stories my sister in law has from his misadventures in "taking care of himself" are hilarious. He is the way he is though... because of my mom. Who I am fully aware is a "toxic mother in law". She just is. I love my mom to death but she is 1000% that mother in law that treats her son like a little prince. To this day she will try to say she doesn't to me and my sisters and we all give her a raised brow at the very least when she does. My brother has NO idea how to take care of himself and it's because my mom was the kind of mom that when he was a grown ass man he still went to her house every night for dinner and brought his dirty laundry to her house every week FOR HER TO DO till he met my sister in law. My mom would go to his apartment and clean it for him! The hilarious thing though is that HE has started trying to distance himself from her. Not because of how she treats my sister in law, or because he realized that he's a man child because of her. It's because her being intrusive as fuck has started to seep into his life in a negative way, in the fact that she constantly calls him during the day when he's sleeping. She's also not just toxic to my sister in law. She's thrown some toxicity my husbands way in the past, but I shut that down FAST. My little sister? She gets HYPER involved in her love life and gets close enough to some of her boyfriends to start calling them her new sons. Creeps EVERYONE out.
I assumed she was a stay at home mother, but when he mentioned she was a nurse I just stopped because that makes the whole thing _so much worse._ Being a nurse is not easy. Almost every adult in my family works in the medical field, including my parents, both my grandfathers, all six of my maternal aunts + uncles, etc. so I've grown up hearing tons of stories of what it's like, as well as seeing first hand the long hours my parents both worked when I was young. My mother had problems juggling her career and a kid sometimes, such as being late to pick me up (on rare occasions), or being too tired to play with me because of how hard the job alone was. I can't imagine doing that with _three_ kids.
OMG. I had no idea she worked…and not just any old 9-5. I cannot imagine working in the medical field AND having to come home to this “man”. My ICK factor just intensified by a 1000%. Ugh, he literally makes me want to vomit. He is so fucking gross, like a giant blob of flesh that just exists to make her life harder. He is vile to me. I have never wanted to see someone divorce another person in my entire life.
jesus. My aunt works at a hospital as a nurse (she lives with my grandparents/her parents) every time I visit my grandparents id see her leave so early yet return so late (11, I think?) and she always comes back looking tired. Yeah, imagining her with 3 kids to come back home to as well is hard to me as well... the least he could do is appreciate her nachos.
after my mom went from being a full time EMT to being a volunteer she became a nurse for a while starting right before covid and i felt like i never saw her bcs she was so busy and if my father had expected her to run the entire house on top of that i'd have absolutely lost it
Yea so in case you delusional people didn’t know, men upkeep society, you just have bad taste in men if you think that man=bad. You do know that it’s a fact that men run the race and women wait at the finish line. A man has to build himself up, this can take most of his life. But a woman doesn’t need to do a thing and can be a nobody and get with a wealthy man. Do all the work? Are you kidding me. Maybe you mean their mental gymnastics? Cause there BUILT for that for sure. It’s called hypergamy. Women keep women single and this comment section is a testament to that
It's sick how he said that playing with his kids is him participating in their lives. Who wakes them up to school? Who dresses them? Who makes their food? Who bathes when? Who helps them wth homework? Who teaches them what is the appropriate social behavior? Because that's definitely not him. It's their mother. Men really be out there acting as is playing with kids is serious work and not the easiest for a man can to pretend that he's somewhat involved in his child's lives.
Yep, thats basically all my father did too. Like some guys are like "yay toddlers are so fun" but the second these kids need actual support they don't give a shit because its too much work.
Let me tell you... I was a single mom even when I wasn't, if you know what I mean. Now I actually am a single mom and he only does the bare minimum on weekends. I feel like I want to be single forever bc I don't want another stress factor.
this part!! taking ur kids to the park every once in a while is not raising a child. there’s so much more that goes into it and so many men act like they’re father of the year for just playing. then, the mom has to do all the hard stuff and has to be the “bad” parent while the dad gets to be the “nice one” who never actually enforces any rules
@@heathermarie4720 the worst part is raising kids that aren’t yours when you’re supposed to be a sibling. I had to go through that, but thankfully it was just me. My heart truly does go out to you, you deserved a childhood.
This dude carries himself like a lost toddler in a Walmart. Also absolutely loving how this guy has gotten progressively older throughout the video, the man started at 50 and now he’s 87
It seriously annoys me when I hear people talk down on their partners even as a "joke." Calling his wife a basic white girl when she does everything for him and gave birth to his children is infuriating. Maybe she is basic but he shouldn't be saying that!
A teasing jab is one thing. My parents rag on each other from time to time but it's always mutual and never in mean spirits. Genuinely saying belittling and spiteful things to your partner is cruel, hell I accidentally let an errant thought slip out with my girlfriend, it had no basis at all and I thought it was just as stupid but the split second it was there it came out of my mouth because I was highly annoyed and tired and we were arguing. I hated how I made her feel, how I made her act...we worked it out but genuinely hurting someone you love cuts deeper than any insult to your own person and if not, you don't love that person.
Same. Even my BF and I, who's "love language" is playful sarcasm, don't say belittling or degrading things to each other. Lots of sex jokes and jokes about me being perpetually horny, but that's fine, cause the punchline is usually something like, "Man it's awesome having a GF who can kick my ass at Halo _while_ having sex!" 😂
I hate to bring you the bad news but....Ryland splorged in a cup and it's official; They ARE getting a baby! And they are going to call it....BEARLY (and yes they are going to spell it like that!) I just hope the baby will look more like the mother than Ryland
I remember by dad telling me (10/10 dad, by the way, always ate whatever my mum put in front of him because he knew it wasn't his place to complain when he didn't make it) that my grandfather used to buy Taco Bell every night and just ignore the large meal my grandmother made for everyone. People really need to put more respect on full time mothers.
Yk how when you like go to college or you're away from home as a young adult for a long time and sometimes you don't have the money or time for cooking so you end up eating a ton of Ramen and fast food? All I fucking missed was my mom's cooking. Like a real fucking meal hits so good. Idk how husbands are not liking what their wives are making for them, it seems luxurious for someone to cook for you in comparison to taco bell.
Y’all if my husband did this…….he’s not in the metaphorical ‘dog house’, he would literally be sleeping outside with the animals until he learned to act right 😂 If you want the same dinner every night, find something you can make at home. It’s a waste of money to eat out every night.
Im currently pretty young and watching these types of videos give me a REALLY GOOD idea on what not to be when I’m older (not talking about the creator I’m talking about the people in the video like a husband) and with my generation people need to know what not to be and what to be like
i would have committed several war crimes if a man who looked like THAT told me to go make nachos for him bc he didn’t want the perfectly good dinner i made for him
I'd be an international criminal if I married (or even dated) a dude like this every single article of the Geneva Conventions would be violated plus some
@@Stella-dj8rg a lot of people seriously dislike anything remotely healthy and salmon is one of those things people like that tend to dislike or refuse to ever even try
@@DeMiTriDreams I've always been a really picky eater, but like... I make sure each new partner knows my food preferences in advance, and usually they always try to push me a little, and I do my best to eat whatever they make if they do, in fact, make food. If i was ever with someone who forgot or didn't know a food preference and made something i wouldn't eat, i would simply apologize a lot cause i feel bad and then *make my own goddamn food like a grownup*
Pro tip for emerging adults: whatever you went through as a child, may not have been your fault, in fact, it mostly wasn't.... But when we become an adult, we assume the responsibility to fix the things we carried from childhood. And that is because we don't have the right to subject other people to behavior that is harmful, hurtful or irresponsible. (You'll also feel so much better, promise.)
i love this comment bc its true. it is noones responsibility but your own, and pushing your issues on others is not their responsibility. thank you for this comment, it validates a bit of what im going through right now. makes me not feel as crazy about what i feel when im told otherwise.
THIS! Childhood trauma and toxic behaviors are difficult to surpass, but it is still your responsibility as an adult to become a better person and stop those behaviors. Get a psychiatrist and a therapist if you can, talk to close friends about those behaviors if you can. If not, just try your best with what you have available. The first step is always recognizing you are wrong and trying to change. The problem with people like this man is they don't see their behaviors as wrong or toxic, so they never change. I understand she is trying to cope by taking the blame off of him, but I hope she finds it in herself to stand up for herself.
absolutely. one of the things i always do when i'm around people a lot is try to be understanding of their situation and don't make things worse. do they snap at you? they're probably just tired. skipped in line? it's ok, just tell them they were wrong. most times they didn't know you were a part of the line and apologize. are they tapping their foot in an annoying way? they're probably just stressed. if you sit down and think about it, not everyone is out to get you. they're all just like you, tired and hungry and irritated. they're all trying to get through the traffic or airplane ride or shopping line or even just the day. that of course doesn't mean i excuse some of their more rude behaviors, but it does mean i am more lenient with their situation. the point is, for emerging adults, don't think that everyone's out to get you. there's a sense of responsibility of being nice and understanding to others when you're an adult. if you're nice to them, they'll appreciate it and be nice back. i understand the world is horrible and so are people, but that doesn't mean that you have to be one of the people that make it horrible. edit: and yes, there is a point where your childhood trauma can't save you. there comes a point where you need to sit down and work through it or simply just don't tolerate someone who refuses to fix themself.
my husband makes more money than me (i work minimum wage so duh) but he still manages to praise me when i do something. when i do the laundry, help with dishes, walk our dog. he always thanks me and i always thank him. that man does not deserve his wife!
My husband and I "bully" each other but its always in very good humour and NEVER contains jokes about being ugly, body weight, or anything we know would genuinely hurt one anothers feelings. And its not the only way we communicate either. This guy is such a small ego man its really sad and upsetting she puts up with his bad additude. She deserves better.
All of the jokes me and my partner make about appearance is either pointing at a worm or something and saying look it you or making jokes about me looking like a raccoon bc I'm taking off my makeup. I don't know why anyone would ever make a joke about your weight or something you're actually insecure about unless they literally hate you. Instant break up
My bf and i make jokes about each others autism, but we are just screwing around and we both understand that we are JOKING Nothing we say is personal either, like when we joke its like a vague “haha that store is called spectrum u should work there” not like “haha remember that time when-“ type situation So many couples dig DEEP and throw personal insults as “jokes” Like id NEVER make a joke about my bfs weight or appearance like…. Wtf ? So strange I wish these people well because what a miserable life to live
@@sillybilly2526 unfortunately, they had the example in their home. There’s a reason boomer memes are “wife bad,” and “marriage bad.” They were pressured to marry young, have kids young, and shamed if they dared to have another partner. It’s so depressing.
When I was a toddler I was very picky and sensitive to lots of foods LIKE LOTS but I would try to still eat the parts I liked of it and gave the “yucky” bits a go to make my mum happy and we found many many foods that I still eat today because I tried my best to appreciate my mums work yet this man could somehow go buy a ring, a suit, afford to have a wedding, and got her trust to have children but still can’t appreciate one single plate of food that even HIS KIDS probably are eating and he’s like “ew I don’t want that it looks gross” and btw salmon tastes amazing
by all means do NOT hold back. i’m 23 and can handle most domestic chores on my own, cleaning, mopping, sweeping, vacuuming, laundry and cooking included. there’s NO excuse for a grown man to act like this, my heart goes out to women that have to deal with husbands like this, y’all deserve better!
I'm neurodivergent and I have sensory issues. My partner made me a food that I couldn't eat but I ate as much as I could, however I felt ill that day anyway (later realised I had the flu). I took some home with me and I apologised a lot. He'd put so much care in making that food for me that I felt incredibly ungrateful for struggling to eat it. He's amazing and so is his cooking ❤
It's great that you're appreciative, but don't beat yourself up too much when you can't eat. As someone who likes cooking for people, learning what they dislike is part of the fun😋
I am very very picky and I will try to eat everything I can but it can make me throw up so it's really hard. One thing I just will not eat is cauliflower though
It’s not your fault if you can’t eat it, so it’s not ungrateful! The fact that you genuinely tried to eat it, especially while you were struggling to do so, already shows so much appreciation, respect, and gratefulness to the person who made it. Your partner wouldn’t want you to force yourself to be uncomfortable for their sake, and I’m sure he wouldn’t want you to feel guilty either
I was wondering if anyone was gonna point out how toxic and ablist a lot of the response has been to the guy. A lot of ablist rhetoric being spewed disguised as feminism.
As someone who is autistic and has sensory issues, it is kind of appalling to see someone act this way towards a loved one who is doing something nice, she went out of her way to make something for him after he wouldn’t eat the original meal. My parents usually make me try new food, which I’m not good at, and specific textures, smells and tastes tend to stop me from eating certain things. But even when I don’t eat what they make, they expect me to make something myself, and sometimes they make something else for me, and when they do I don’t act hateful like he did. I’m getting a bit ranty but it’s just difficult for me to see someone being so hateful towards his wife when she goes out of her way to do these things for him
As someone who personally has to send things back due to allergies (i have a minor sesame allergy, (more of a sensitivity) which sometimes I forget to ask about because its not present in a lot of things where i live, and some things I can’t tell just by looking cause oil) even if I ask for food specially made, I do try to be extra polite about it and apologize for the difficulty of getting me a different meal I can’t imagine someone being an asshole about getting something they didn’t like from a loved one among people and then getting a food they liked and still being rude
I'm autistic and can't eat a lot of foods and apologize constantly if someone makes me food and I can't eat it. I can't imagine being this entitled lmao 😭
I'm not in situations where people make me food who don't know what I like, but I will say I am the main cook of my family and also am autistic, so unless my family specifically requests a certain I'm not making it lol. I feel sorta bad that I don't really know how to make sea food cause most of them love it (even my also auDHD sister), but it tastes and smells so gross they'll have to go out and buy that on their own.
My husband was also a picky eater, but he doesn't make me bend backwards to make more food. He hates fish, but he'll still eat the salmon I make. He actually thanks me for making him try new things! He wouldn't eat broccoli, peas, ocra, or a majority of green or Asian food before we dated. Now he asks me to make him all those mentioned foods because I put in the effort to make him try it. Meaning I hold him down and water board him..... JK but there is effort when dealing with a picky eater.
I can be a picky eater but if my parents cook me (a grown adult) dinner I will sure as fucking hell eat it even when it is food I do not like because as I am a grown adult the only person who is obligated to feed me is me, everyone else who makes me food is doing it out of the kindness of their heart, it's extra effort they do not have to go to for me but they're doing it so that I don't have to and that is a kindness that I feel genuinely grateful for. I've never had a long term partner but I can 100% guarantee that I could never treat them like this
As someone with really high food sensitivity I understand not being able to eat food people make for you and preferring to starve to avoid distress, but like, just make your own food then?? And if they’re gonna go and make a new dish you need to shower them with a ton of gratitude because they’re working around your issues you need to be grateful for that.
I have food sensitivities and also struggle to cook for myself because of disability stuff, but if someone cooks for me and I can't eat it, you bet your ass I'm making myself a pathetic little microwave quesadilla or something instead of asking them to make me something different.
I see a lot of people pointing out that there are reasons behind them not eating. But i want to point out that this isn't tha situation. He clearly isn't disabled, doesn't have an ed and hes not on the spectrum, he's just a spoiled manchild. Theres so fcking many of those in the world its insane. A Man that thinks gettng married is just aquiring a new mommy
SHE SAW THE VIDEO AND LOVED IT!!! SHE POSTED ON HER TIKTOK!!! GO SHOW LOVE TO HER AND PLEEEASE BE NICE
Yippieee let's go
frrr?????
So, she's not actually suffering from Stockholm syndrome, hopefully? Maybe it's just financial/family circumstances keeping her tied to this absolute albatross of an alopecia afflicted creature to her complete detriment
Oh my God I appreciate you so much. I just happen to find this video. Which made me smile so much. You're a doll!!!!!! Your energy is amazing. I'm definitely subbing
Yayyyy
"If I don't feed him, he won't eat."
Let him starve.
THEN GO AHEAD AND STARVE
- The beast
Fr it's his fault if he starves, he's a grown ass adult
💯
@@--mand0r-- bingo. She made something else because she knew it would be worse if she didn't. I was in a marriage like that, it was AWFUL. I did everything and everything I did was wrong in some way. Nothing was ever enough. Worked full time and did LITERALLY everything around the house, still constant verbal abuse. His abuse was more extreme than this, but of course the fact that he does this on camera makes me believe he's worse behind closed doors. It was so hard to get out, I left 10 or more times but finally left for the last time in March.
Exactly. He can make himself a sandwich or something
Why do family bloggers pop out the most excruciatingly childish husbands ever
Usually it's both the parents, but this time it's only the father and he seriously needs to grow up and wake up to reality. If he doesn't face reality now, he'll never be able to in the future.. when it gets even worse.
Because only excruciatingly horrible parents become family vloggers
I'd say that choosing to be a "family blogger" is pretty congruent with finding the biggest red flag stuffed into a human suit to marry and procreate with, on the shitty-life-choice making spectrum.
@@EmEm78 lmaooo true
Science
I love how when Cooper gets really riled up he HAS to stand up. Probably partially out of anger and partially to flex about how he’s 6’2”
Definitely to flex.. because he s already said everyone thinks he’s short.. 🤔
He’s 6’2”?!?!? 🤤
is he really? How does he not have *_1_* wife?? What is going on in here
@@idunnowhatimdoinhe has a gf
I do that too tbh
I wonder what it's like being a nurse and then coming home to a hospice patient of a husband
i know you didnt mean it this way but, ive known people in hospice who are far more appreciative and kind and receptive to care than this (presumably) healthy dude. he isnt a patient, or in need of extra care due to a disability he just seems ungrateful and entitled, which is where the ick comes from i think👍
You can't just diss hospice patients like that 😭
Nah it's more like a aggressive 83 year old person with senility
It’s refreshing to see a man who is genuinely furious about someone’s wife getting disrespected.
i love film cooper he's such a cool guy
@@Ash-oj3xvfr
we love our baby girl
Is it really so rare to see, cos it’s totally normal think to treat woman with respect for me and my firends and peers (at least most i know)
@@otherflery3846 it’s not rare per say, especially in certain circles, but it’s not often that a man gets actually triggered by it, and has mini rants and such. It’s an uncommon reaction.
I love how cooper keeps subtly aging the dad further and further 💀
there was a father in this video? I didn't realized
@@kprocess9058 HELP LMAO
Don’t you mean baby man LMAO😭💀
Peak comedy, loved that bit
I'll look out for it now ty lmao
why is he acting like playing with his kids and loving them is amazing, lil buddy that’s the BARE MINIMUM 😟
And also his “playing” with his kids is SMACKING THEM IN THE FACE WITH A BALL
Like WHAT!?!?????
our bare minimum king🗣️
Hate comment: "ur wife does all the work, you never take care of your kids"
Him: "What r u talking about, i play with my kids every day."
if i play with a puppy everyday and do nothing else with it, guess what, that puppy is going to die. Taking care of your kids and paying attention to them is not just playing with them.
edit: I just watched the rest of the video, who tf throws a clearly hard ball at your small child's head while they are turned around and are unable to move and avoid it. Not only that, BUT THEN DESPICABLY LAUGHING AFTERWARDS. WTF????
Yeah, strangers on the playground do that, a DAD needs to do the damn work and take care of his kids… just sad
rip x
That man literally is in love with the couch more than he’s in love with his wife💀
Cooper has the strongest bi-wife energy I've ever seen in someone who isn't married...
he just has the vibes that he's bi tbh lol
Guys with bi wife energy are born, not made
So true!
It's the hair
he has the bi haircut, it downloads after u come out
I love how aggressively supportive and respectful you are to her, instead of blaming her for putting up with his cartilage hoarding demands for nachos.
923 comments but no replies? let me fix that
the way you described it LMAOO
That man sucks cartilage.
“Cartilage hoarding demands” xD
what a good "take". agreed lol. also love how you described it 😂
Cartilage hoarding demands for nachos im-
I have SEVERE sensory issues, and i genuinely cannot eat specific foods. it can cause me physical pain, BUT WHAT THE HELL?! no thank yous? No helping with chores? What a female dog.
Same here! I always just say something along the lines of "Thank you so much, but I can't eat this. I really really appreciate the effort though! I can make myself something else don't worry" and then I do. Like it's not hard to be respectful
Me too! Luckily my partner also has near identical sensory issues so we can tell if the other wont eat something.
SAME HERE! IF HE ACTUALLY HAD THOSE ISSUES, HE SHOULD COMMUNICATE TO HIS WIFE ABOUT WHAT FOODS HE SHOULD OR SHOULD NOT EAT. And don’t make her cook again because you’re too lazy to get chips or something out of the freaking pantry!
I love how he just casually keeps adding age to this babyman throughout the video
i hope this is her incognito way of documenting his toxic behavior as she silently prepares to leave him, like HONESTLY
FOR REAL
This.
Probably not, but one can dream.
FRRRRRR I HOPE
It’s for court when she files for full custody
I finally understand and accept the concept of "ick." This woman is too nice, and does too much.
the fairly odd parents “icky vicky” song from that one episode
@@madbryersOmg 😂😂
You don’t think this is their gimmick? She’s a hard working SAHM and he’s an ungrateful jerk. People watch to react at the husband’s assholery.
@@lisawhereisthecultjam bruv did you not watch the video? She’s a nurse, she wears Nurse’s scrubs, and it’s pointed out in said video. She’s not a SAHM. Even if it’s a bit, it’s disgusting to act like that still. It isn’t even a bit because he flung the fuck out of a ball into the back of his baby’s head. From across the home.
I love how Cooper just makes the husband older every time he mentions his age
Late, but so glad I clicked on this. I have EDS, a connective tissue disorder that makes my body produce too much collagen and causes hypermobility in my joints. Can confirm these baby wrist allegations. Absolutely adding cartilage coded to my bio on everything - I'm crying
Eds baby wridt club represent!
No fr my wrists are so floppy
Recently, he forgot their anniversary and he blamed her because SHE DID NOT PUT IT ON THE CALENDAR.
DAMN WHAT THE HELLLLLLLL
WHAT KIND OF-
I would file a divorce asap
NO. FUCKING. WAY.
Really? I hope she understands that she's being taken for granted. If she doesn't want to live her life that way I hope she gets her situation sorted.
She's an elite nurse, a full time influencer star, the only person raising 3 kids under five, and the cleaner and cook and who knows what else for that household. Meanwhile he's a worse burden than caretaking an elderly bedbound relative who contributed a lifetime of work and love before that point.
Even if she dropped his lame ass there would be no financial difference.
@@NACtheMC there would be a small one, less food needs to be bought
@@wolfieisacat13damn lol
@@wolfieisacat13🐝🤳❇️🏧
I would just not feed him lol
Like this dude is such a deck. I say this as someone who gets really bad sensory issues with food and can’t eat seafood at all. If my s/o made me salmon, I would feel so bad for them, apologise profusely and make my own gosh darn food.
That’s so real, I have sensory issues too and even like smelling or seeing certain foods makes me panic. I would cry so hard and apologize for being an inconvenience,but make my own food.Like common?? I hate the people who raise these lazy kids and they grow up like this.
Exactly. It’s one thing to have a kid with sensory issues, but once we’re grown it’s time to just make your own alternate meal.
Please, cooper, never tell me i have too much cartilage, ill cry.
Her constant forced fake laugh is what really gets me, that laugh is a typical ''I don't have the energy for a conflict and I don't know what else to say, let's pretend it's funny even though I'm very uncomfortable'' laugh
its depressing more then anything, nothing hurts more then seeing a person hide just how BADLY they are suffering, like just imagine being married that "man child" who doesn't even care for ANYTHING you do and belittles you on every level while sitting in his man baby crib,
the best I can hope for is that his toddler-like posture causes him to slip and fall down some stairs and for him to just break his neck, because lets be real, he wasn't doing much other then consuming oxygen, if anything he would be better suited as fertilizer.
Fr Fr
It's the "I've voiced how I dont like this before" laugh
I love how he says 'I play with my kids everyday' as if that means he's doing a good job and isn't just the bare fucking minimum
and he said he plays with them not that he makes them food or takes care of them. NOT EVEN THE BARE MINIMUM
The one clip of him playing with the kids he’s just pelting them in the back of the head with dodgeballs 💀
@@elisaargueta1663 Ah yes, parenting 101
i am so pissed that men in our society are praised to do what a parent MUST DO ON A DAILY BASIS. Like, playing with your kids and take care of them? Dude, you shouldn't get the applause, that's your responsibility as a father of your children
Fr 😭
I’m here wrapped in a blanket in my bed because I’m sick and GOD this man makes me want to get up and clean every inch of my house because I don’t like feeling even close to that person.
He’s not even sick,he’s literally just fucking sitting there.
I love how the age Cooper assumes the guy is goes from 63 to 77 to 79 and then all the way up to 87 lmao
is that? himeru?? in ur pfp???
@@p5strikerss It is
@@lotussatansonlytruespawn9209 woaaah ur so cool!
what also scares me is the internalized misogyny that she's clearly developing in response to his abusive behaviour, trying to justify his incompetent and manipulative actions. putting all the blame on his mom for his lack of maturity is awful, but the fact that she's led herself to think that way to excuse her husband's bullshit and make parenting a fully grown, able-bodied, able-minded adult bearable. so fucking awful to watch :/
Ding ding ding! 🎯
Very well put
his weaponised incompetence at that...
Thank you!
@Finger it is tho 💀?
She’s a nurse… her entire life is caring for others. I hope she gets taken care of sometimes.
i agree. i hope one day the roles get reversed and the guy gets to know what it feels like to be her.
I have a slight bet those children will treat her a lot better then... Yeah
I hope she at least gets enough sleep tbh
not some times all day long every year every day
Almost all of my family are nurses including my mother. They are sadly treated mostly like crap these days.
She could be one of those people that makes taking care of people and having too many responsibilities their whole personality. I know a few of those people and maaaaan everything is everybody else's fault with them, but they're still out here doing more than too much lmao
Ok, but that video of him hitting hit *EXTREAMLY YOUNG CHILD* is so *SO* disturbing. He laughs while his kid is quite literally screaming. *Thats like abuse, if not it is abuse.*
the baby on his chest with no ear protection on while MOWING THE LAWN???!!! that is sending meeeee
Her giggles sound like automatic responses to cover her true feelings. She's constantly defending herself, too. Ugh reminds me of one of my past relationships.
She is def in an abusive relationship
Real, her husband lowk reminds Me of One of my exes, and that relationship wasn’t exactly healthy-
No bcos i srsly don’t believe that she actually thinks its funny
@@user-dumby04 it's an attempt to diffuse the situation. like if she laughs and brushes his shitty behaviour off, then he won't be more angry or aggressive towards her.
Lit reminds me of my mum and dads relationship
I feel so bad for people who get married for the sake of getting married. bc that woman deserves way better than who she settled for.
exactly
I completely agree with you
I feel worse for their kids who have to grow up with that shitshow as their relationship role-models.
@@EmEm78 yes,that’s what i’m saying
He is an example of why you shouldn't marry the fuck boi or FWB.
I am 16 and I feel spoiled for having a mama to cook and clean for me, this just makes me feel uncomfortable and a little disturbed
Fr. I feel like I take up space as a minor who can’t get a job or feed myself and there’s a grown man who actively lets his wife do everything for him.
Coming to this video while cooper is engaged and has a thriving necklace business. Hes come so far and he deserves it 🥺
My ex husband told me that I was a “lazy, disrespectful cat owner” because I asked him to clean the litter boxes three days after I got out of the ER for an infection after my c-section. And then he said my body was a “failure” because I had to have said c-section. *EX* husband. These husbands are so common it’s disgusting.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with him omg
Sorry you had to deal with someone so awful. I hope you're in a happier place in life now.
i assume he made you clean the litter boxes while pregnant too,,and that can be really dangerous for pregnant women...what a shitbag...
i'm glad for you that you're no longer putting up with his bs 😃
I hope you wern't cleaning them during pregancy. toxoplasmosis could've been the end for you and the baby.
The internalized misogny she has for blaming his mother for not feeding salmon instead of her own husband is really sad. I hope she leaves him
Internalized misogyny sucks :/
@@AllergyAngelXOXO yeah it’s not something you can easily get rid of bc it’s deep-rooted psychologically
@@mischievoustactics2710 I struggle with it because while it's not their fault they have it so deeply rooted, their reaction to it IS their fault. In a lot of ways we ALL have internalized bigotry, but we aren't all openly bigoted.
Omg this damn thread is terryfying.
@@Oliviaandtrina yes i know and i still hope the best for her
19:59 only issue is it doesn’t look like the child has ear protection and when we’re little our ears are more susceptible to damage…
And the baby needs a hat for sun protection ❤
I'm someone with sensory issues, especially with regards to taste and texture. If my S/O made something I didn't like or couldn't physically eat due to said issues, I'd thank them still, before making myself something I can actually stomach. They took time out of their day to make me something, and even if I couldn't eat it, I'd try and thank them another way. The husband just throws a fit like a toddler and doesn't thank his wife when she cooks him a second meal!
what is S/O? also underrated words
@@wolfgirl_adele10 S/O just means significant other, I like all genders so I'm just using a gender neutral term. Also thanks :D
This couple is a perfect example of, "She's everything... and he's just Ken."
But…like less cute? And wayyyy less wholesome!😊
@@MeningitisAAA yeah
That's discount generic Ken.. His name is Ben. XD
I refuse to believe Ken would disrespect Barbie like this
The difference is that Ken LOVES Barbie and he respects her and he always shows his love to Barbie 😭 This guy does not
Once my EX husband threw away what I made. My son was sitting next to me and he said "how rude." And I just died inside. That was like 15 years ago and it still makes me sad.
lolol my dad would throw the food away and break the plates. now my mom is confused why i don’t do shit for men and why i don’t want to be married lmfaoc
I spent a day tracking down ingredients and made a full blown three course meal for my ex wife, making sure one of them was her favorite food and she just screamed at me because I didn't take her out to dinner like I did every Friday night.
@@cuteeater6983 Thats fucking awful, I’m sorry she did that.
@@cuteeater6983 glad you left her that's so disrespectful
@@sybrichx Thanks, luckily it's been years since I last seen her so it's a lot better now.
seeing this when cooper is about to have a wife is refreshing
4:30 all aboard
THE TOXIC GOSSIP TRAIN WE’RE TRAVELING DOWN THE TRACKS OF MISINFORMATION
I had to make that joke.
toxic gossip traaiinnn
got a one way ticket to manipulation station
This guy AGGRESSIVELY respects women and i love it
coopers really nice but so aggressive and it’s amazing
It’s so attractive 😭
@@eleeeee9142 ikrrrr he is my idolll
I just subscribed only for the aggressive support 😂😂😂😂😂😂
It’s quite sad that a man respecting women is some incredible thing, I am NOT discrediting Cooper, I love that he supports women it’s just so sad that a man respecting women is so rare that when someone actually does it’s this big wonderful thing.
Thank you for you hating on this bad behavior, it is something that should not be normalized. Being a stay at home mom is a full-time job on its own. Mothers shouldn't have to raise their children and their husband/spouse. Thank you for pointing this out.
and she's not even one! this poor woman is expected to mother and extra child on her own, perform at her job AND keep the house
It's wayyyyyy too common🤮
Yeah Thank u Coop!😊❤
i agree and also im the thousandth like. yay!
Also the second he´s of from work shouldn´t the stay at home mom be also. Seems like alot of stay at home moms are working 24/7, still taking care of everything even when the dad is home from work. It is like a trap for women to be put in this role they are expected to do all the work 24/7, also if they don´t work they don´t have any finances in case of emergency or taking a semester from that role.
15:04 HER LITTLE GIGGLE IS SO ADORABLE I CAN’TTTT😭
25:34 what’s concerning is there’s really no other explanation as to why he’s doing whatever he’s doing more than him role playing his 3 year old. If first guy is an example of the ick this is an example of that amplified to 1000
I feel so bad for this woman and now I find out she's a NURSE? As someone in nursing school I say work more on weekends. They pay extra on the weekends and clearly this guy won't even notice as he doesn't get off the couch ever.
This one time I went to my married friend’s house for a week and these TikToks were exactly what her husband was like. The wife cooked, cleaned, worked, and went out, and when we’d get back he’d be on the sofa playing Candy Crush on two different devices simultaneously, with four chat apps open on third device. Every day. She said he had a job but I never saw him do it, and the only warm meal he could make was a ham sandwich. Couch gremlin is such an embarrassing way to live your life
@@daughterphoenix how my stimulation does one dude need, like i got adhd and need a lot of stimulation to exist but thats wild
WDYM? dude. its her choice.
@@HaveAPunch It's often hard for people to see exactly how bad the situation they're in is without outside help. She's in a terrible situation, it's just hard for her to see that.
@@cynister7384 but what if she just wants to do that?
she blamed his mom for his behavior but she's forgetting he's a grown ass man that is capable of making his own decisions and changing toxic behavior and she needs just as much help as he does
She's willfully forgetting. It's called a cope
It's a coping mech. She'll make excuses for him
She might only attribute his good traits to him and his bad traits to the people around him. I've seen people do it before. To her point, I do have a friend who won't really eat anything besides standard American food, and she won't eat vegetables, and I do honestly believe it is because her mom never really pushed the subject when she was a kid and didn't want to eat her veggies. And she just never grew out of it. But I think it's also her. So, usually, it's a combination of multiple factors.
I think it was actually just a joke....
not only that, but she’s blaming his mom & then, what ? just gonna let his life go on like that ? when would she start blaming herself ? when his mom hits the can ? tell that grown adult you eat what i make or you make your own food. period. mama may have enabled you but i’m not gonna
Dude I have LOCATED A WOMAN RESPECTER
I feel like the only good reasons you can deny a meal your significant other made you is if you’re allergic to it (duh) or if you’re so sick you can barely eat in the first place
I think you should be able to deny eating something if you don't like it. You just need to communicate in a healthy way.
Both my partner and I cook, but I do the majority of it because I'm a SAHM. I wouldn't want to be serving meals at night that my partner secretly dislikes but is forcing it down for fear of my reaction.
He just apologises and explains that he doesn't like what he's eating but appreciates the effort. He would never expect me to make him something else, and I just wouldn't purchase it anymore unless I was making it only for myself.
It's a lot easier now that we've been together for so long. We both cook meals that we know our family enjoys. And if one of us wants to try and cook something different, we communicate beforehand. Both of us are open to trying new things, but if one of us doesn't like something after trying it, that's fine too!
A thanks and genuine gratitude is needed whether you like something or not, compliment each other on meals, and if you really enjoy it, sing the others' praises. Critism is a lot easier heard when you do that.
This husband is trash, though.
As someone with a trash dad, I have wished since I was very young that my mom would leave him. I feel bad for the kids and how their future relationships could end up.
me too, girl :/
Same. Just cause he's present and pays the bills, doesn't mean it's a good thing
same
I'M SO SORRY, I READ THAT AS "TRANS DAD" AND I WAS SO DISSAPOINTED THAT A TRANSPHOBIC COMMENT WOULD GET SO MANY LIKES LMAO
@@wolfbyte2468 hahaha nooooo!
I feel like he's the type of guy to go "life's honestly pretty easy, idk why anybody gets so stressed out. they must be lazy" while his wife handles literally every aspect of their lives
But he mowed the lawn that one time!
@@msjkramey lmao
“Hey! I remembered to drive the kids back from school that one time 😡”
More like “I walked to the fridge myself that one time!”
This reminds me of that skit where the husband is like "You don't have to stress about anything though. Look. When I make a mess, it will be magically cleaned when I come home from work. Everytime. I swear. The dishes do themselves. And groceries just spawn in the fridge. I don't know what mysterious force is doing this."
(Can't remember it very well. If anyone does, please elaborate.)
It is so easy for men to be perceived as a "good dad" just for doing the bare minimum...
What an amazing day to sit down, draw, and watch some cooper vids on my bed with my phone up against a skull decoration.
No like actually this dude is my comfort UA-camr- like this man has helped me feel better when I cry it is an amazing day to watch him 😭❤
Oh my god the realization that I wasn’t treated normally in my marriage hits HARD every time. I used to think it was normal that *every* joke my ex husband made was about me being ugly, fat, stupid, etc. He would say “they just don’t get us,” exactly like the video. And I accepted it. It hurt, and I didn’t think it was funny, but I thought it was normal.
Sorry you had to go through that ❤
I'm very glad he's an ex now. Please be kind to yourself - the way he treated you is a HIM problem, and not a failing on your part❤
Im happy you got out of that shithole. You deserve a much better partner who will appreciate what Aphrodite gave you
I’m so glad you’re away from that weirdo
I’m sorry 😞
As someone with sensory issues, if my SO made a meal I literally COULDNT eat I would still thank them and then make my own food. What the husband does is not acceptable
Same. I'd try it just to be sure I can't eat it and also to show some respect.
SAME everything someone has made that i dont like i still thank them eat it
Plus, I would think that if one partner is often cooking for the other, it wouldn't be unreasonable for the two of you to work out what foods you like and can eat, right?
I'm honestly glad I don't have any allergies bc I could never refuse food that someone cooked for me.
yeah, I have sensory issues too, and it makes it really hard to try new foods, I don't like it but it's hard to control for me, but I have gotten a little better I guess. but I would still be thankful if someone did make me a meal.
I love how the husband just slowly starts getting older and older as the video progresses
Cooper's hatred for this guy and indignance toward everything he says and does is an absolute VIBE 😂❤
I never have and never will understand the "i hate my spouse" humour...
Exactly Ik it’s a “joke” and all but it’s just never funny
Wait it's a humour type? I thought the "I hate my wife" memes I've been seeing around were memes prodding at boomers who actually hate their wives.
@@shopokefrignugget2027 it is poking fun, but people will also make casual “jokes” about how much their wife makes them do, or hint that they’re unhappy and play it off as a joke. its not really funny, and a but misogynistic lol
for real!! i would never treat my partner like that!
same, it always struck me as odd. Like its a ‘joke’ but its just not funny at all
Every time he mentions the husband's age, he increases it by a decade, which is such a stealthy way of insulting someone and I love it. By the way, this woman blaming her mother-in-law for how he eats is probably her way of venting about her toxic mother-in-law because a toxic husband and a toxic mother-in-law usually go hand-in-hand.
bad parenting can turn someone into a bad person, if they allow it to. it’s always possible to break the cycle
Yup, can attest to this. Not because I have a toxic husband or a toxic mother in law. I actually loved my mother in law like my own mom before she passed. My little brother though.... is a fucking man child. The HORROR stories my sister in law has from his misadventures in "taking care of himself" are hilarious. He is the way he is though... because of my mom. Who I am fully aware is a "toxic mother in law". She just is. I love my mom to death but she is 1000% that mother in law that treats her son like a little prince. To this day she will try to say she doesn't to me and my sisters and we all give her a raised brow at the very least when she does.
My brother has NO idea how to take care of himself and it's because my mom was the kind of mom that when he was a grown ass man he still went to her house every night for dinner and brought his dirty laundry to her house every week FOR HER TO DO till he met my sister in law. My mom would go to his apartment and clean it for him!
The hilarious thing though is that HE has started trying to distance himself from her. Not because of how she treats my sister in law, or because he realized that he's a man child because of her. It's because her being intrusive as fuck has started to seep into his life in a negative way, in the fact that she constantly calls him during the day when he's sleeping.
She's also not just toxic to my sister in law. She's thrown some toxicity my husbands way in the past, but I shut that down FAST. My little sister? She gets HYPER involved in her love life and gets close enough to some of her boyfriends to start calling them her new sons. Creeps EVERYONE out.
Cool vid, but why so many mirrors
They're decorative. He might like the frames.@@aminionsmadness
Preach!!!
13:17 The kid wasn't even looking at him, and there was also still a bright ass smile on his face as all of us hears their child start sobbing
dude i love coopers laugh/smile, it always makes me smile, i am so close to making a Compilation of his smile/laugh.
I assumed she was a stay at home mother, but when he mentioned she was a nurse I just stopped because that makes the whole thing _so much worse._
Being a nurse is not easy. Almost every adult in my family works in the medical field, including my parents, both my grandfathers, all six of my maternal aunts + uncles, etc. so I've grown up hearing tons of stories of what it's like, as well as seeing first hand the long hours my parents both worked when I was young. My mother had problems juggling her career and a kid sometimes, such as being late to pick me up (on rare occasions), or being too tired to play with me because of how hard the job alone was. I can't imagine doing that with _three_ kids.
OMG. I had no idea she worked…and not just any old 9-5. I cannot imagine working in the medical field AND having to come home to this “man”. My ICK factor just intensified by a 1000%. Ugh, he literally makes me want to vomit. He is so fucking gross, like a giant blob of flesh that just exists to make her life harder. He is vile to me. I have never wanted to see someone divorce another person in my entire life.
jesus. My aunt works at a hospital as a nurse (she lives with my grandparents/her parents) every time I visit my grandparents id see her leave so early yet return so late (11, I think?) and she always comes back looking tired. Yeah, imagining her with 3 kids to come back home to as well is hard to me as well...
the least he could do is appreciate her nachos.
after my mom went from being a full time EMT to being a volunteer she became a nurse for a while starting right before covid and i felt like i never saw her bcs she was so busy and if my father had expected her to run the entire house on top of that i'd have absolutely lost it
not to mention all the mental and physical stress (and sometimes literal abuse) nurses go through omg
Women do all the work and still get blamed for everything. It’s insane
Yeah... that's unfortunate
So true.
Generalising a little, but I agree.
After all, who has the time to write out an entire essay about misogyny in a UA-cam comment
As a gay man I want to apologize to straight women for having to put up with men - even though I have to as well.
Yea so in case you delusional people didn’t know, men upkeep society, you just have bad taste in men if you think that man=bad. You do know that it’s a fact that men run the race and women wait at the finish line. A man has to build himself up, this can take most of his life. But a woman doesn’t need to do a thing and can be a nobody and get with a wealthy man. Do all the work? Are you kidding me. Maybe you mean their mental gymnastics? Cause there BUILT for that for sure. It’s called hypergamy. Women keep women single and this comment section is a testament to that
I would be cooking the next five meals if i made someone put in the effort to cook me something new 😭
Deadass😭
"I don't even have 1 wife" 1 year later Sophia's his wife
Hes diminishing her to drop her own standards to fit him. It's genuinely saddening.
He’s talking about how sucky her husband is, and he does seem like an awful husband. I see where you come from though.
he looks like homeless ed sheeran 💀💀💀
@@madbryers this is brutal and I love it 😭😭😭
i wqs Söö sleep deprivedd when i wröté this but i Meann the husband not Cooper
@@ant1504 oh- that makes sense
Cooper respecting his non-existent wife is my kink
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If he didn’t like salmon, he should’ve told her that before she put her time into making it
1:36 the missed opportunity of getting rid of this man withouth needing to go through the divorce paperwork and the sharing of assets.
It's sick how he said that playing with his kids is him participating in their lives. Who wakes them up to school? Who dresses them? Who makes their food? Who bathes when? Who helps them wth homework? Who teaches them what is the appropriate social behavior? Because that's definitely not him. It's their mother. Men really be out there acting as is playing with kids is serious work and not the easiest for a man can to pretend that he's somewhat involved in his child's lives.
Yep, thats basically all my father did too. Like some guys are like "yay toddlers are so fun" but the second these kids need actual support they don't give a shit because its too much work.
Came here to say that 🎉 you're spot on
Let me tell you... I was a single mom even when I wasn't, if you know what I mean. Now I actually am a single mom and he only does the bare minimum on weekends. I feel like I want to be single forever bc I don't want another stress factor.
this part!! taking ur kids to the park every once in a while is not raising a child. there’s so much more that goes into it and so many men act like they’re father of the year for just playing. then, the mom has to do all the hard stuff and has to be the “bad” parent while the dad gets to be the “nice one” who never actually enforces any rules
@@heathermarie4720 the worst part is raising kids that aren’t yours when you’re supposed to be a sibling. I had to go through that, but thankfully it was just me. My heart truly does go out to you, you deserved a childhood.
I love that every time Cooper mentions husbands age, he puts 10+ years to it lol
SAME I ALMOST PEED MYSELF LAUGHING
@@echotheneko7346 SHUT UP I DON’T EVEN HAVE A WIFE!!!!
I personally never liked salmon but if my partner put actual EFFORT just to give me food you know darn well I’m eating it
6:11 I love how he progressively ages the guy 😂
cooper and i agree on how to treat ur non-existent wife, cooper and lesbian alliance stays strong🤞
🤞we are the strongest army
Lesbian alliance stays strong I agree I agree 🤞
Lets go lesbians🤞🤞
#lesbians4cooper
real
This dude carries himself like a lost toddler in a Walmart. Also absolutely loving how this guy has gotten progressively older throughout the video, the man started at 50 and now he’s 87
Absolutely love the compassion you have for this woman who bust her butt for an unappreciative person. Very wholesome 😊😊
me watching this after he and Sophia got engaged knowing how well he treats her
It seriously annoys me when I hear people talk down on their partners even as a "joke." Calling his wife a basic white girl when she does everything for him and gave birth to his children is infuriating. Maybe she is basic but he shouldn't be saying that!
A teasing jab is one thing. My parents rag on each other from time to time but it's always mutual and never in mean spirits. Genuinely saying belittling and spiteful things to your partner is cruel, hell I accidentally let an errant thought slip out with my girlfriend, it had no basis at all and I thought it was just as stupid but the split second it was there it came out of my mouth because I was highly annoyed and tired and we were arguing. I hated how I made her feel, how I made her act...we worked it out but genuinely hurting someone you love cuts deeper than any insult to your own person and if not, you don't love that person.
Same. Even my BF and I, who's "love language" is playful sarcasm, don't say belittling or degrading things to each other. Lots of sex jokes and jokes about me being perpetually horny, but that's fine, cause the punchline is usually something like, "Man it's awesome having a GF who can kick my ass at Halo _while_ having sex!" 😂
@@sluttyMapleSyrup thats not a mean joke
It’s fine if it’s consensual and in good fun, but her reaction tells me its not
@@cjboyo wdym?
If shane dawson and ryland adams had a child, it would look like Briannas husband💀
I literally thought it was Dylan’s from the thumbnail 😭😭
Stoooop it actually does 😷
This is horrifically accurate😂
Omg i literally was thinking that her husband looks like ryland 🤮
I hate to bring you the bad news but....Ryland splorged in a cup and it's official; They ARE getting a baby! And they are going to call it....BEARLY (and yes they are going to spell it like that!) I just hope the baby will look more like the mother than Ryland
This genuinely feels like a cry for help from the wife
I like how the husband kept progressively getting older and older
I remember by dad telling me (10/10 dad, by the way, always ate whatever my mum put in front of him because he knew it wasn't his place to complain when he didn't make it) that my grandfather used to buy Taco Bell every night and just ignore the large meal my grandmother made for everyone. People really need to put more respect on full time mothers.
Full time mom AND a nurse
Yk how when you like go to college or you're away from home as a young adult for a long time and sometimes you don't have the money or time for cooking so you end up eating a ton of Ramen and fast food? All I fucking missed was my mom's cooking. Like a real fucking meal hits so good. Idk how husbands are not liking what their wives are making for them, it seems luxurious for someone to cook for you in comparison to taco bell.
Y’all if my husband did this…….he’s not in the metaphorical ‘dog house’, he would literally be sleeping outside with the animals until he learned to act right 😂
If you want the same dinner every night, find something you can make at home. It’s a waste of money to eat out every night.
Im currently pretty young and watching these types of videos give me a REALLY GOOD idea on what not to be when I’m older (not talking about the creator I’m talking about the people in the video like a husband) and with my generation people need to know what not to be and what to be like
Not Cooper adding years to the husbands age with each mention of it 😂
i would have committed several war crimes if a man who looked like THAT told me to go make nachos for him bc he didn’t want the perfectly good dinner i made for him
I'd be an international criminal if I married (or even dated) a dude like this every single article of the Geneva Conventions would be violated plus some
Especially because salmon is delicious and so versatile how could you not like something salmon related?
@@Stella-dj8rg a lot of people seriously dislike anything remotely healthy and salmon is one of those things people like that tend to dislike or refuse to ever even try
@@DeMiTriDreams I've always been a really picky eater, but like... I make sure each new partner knows my food preferences in advance, and usually they always try to push me a little, and I do my best to eat whatever they make if they do, in fact, make food. If i was ever with someone who forgot or didn't know a food preference and made something i wouldn't eat, i would simply apologize a lot cause i feel bad and then *make my own goddamn food like a grownup*
@@DeMiTriDreams my dad associates pink with raw, so unless you 'finish' cooking it he won't touch it lmao
Pro tip for emerging adults: whatever you went through as a child, may not have been your fault, in fact, it mostly wasn't.... But when we become an adult, we assume the responsibility to fix the things we carried from childhood. And that is because we don't have the right to subject other people to behavior that is harmful, hurtful or irresponsible. (You'll also feel so much better, promise.)
i love this comment bc its true. it is noones responsibility but your own, and pushing your issues on others is not their responsibility. thank you for this comment, it validates a bit of what im going through right now. makes me not feel as crazy about what i feel when im told otherwise.
THIS! Childhood trauma and toxic behaviors are difficult to surpass, but it is still your responsibility as an adult to become a better person and stop those behaviors. Get a psychiatrist and a therapist if you can, talk to close friends about those behaviors if you can. If not, just try your best with what you have available. The first step is always recognizing you are wrong and trying to change.
The problem with people like this man is they don't see their behaviors as wrong or toxic, so they never change. I understand she is trying to cope by taking the blame off of him, but I hope she finds it in herself to stand up for herself.
This^^
absolutely. one of the things i always do when i'm around people a lot is try to be understanding of their situation and don't make things worse. do they snap at you? they're probably just tired. skipped in line? it's ok, just tell them they were wrong. most times they didn't know you were a part of the line and apologize. are they tapping their foot in an annoying way? they're probably just stressed.
if you sit down and think about it, not everyone is out to get you. they're all just like you, tired and hungry and irritated. they're all trying to get through the traffic or airplane ride or shopping line or even just the day. that of course doesn't mean i excuse some of their more rude behaviors, but it does mean i am more lenient with their situation.
the point is, for emerging adults, don't think that everyone's out to get you. there's a sense of responsibility of being nice and understanding to others when you're an adult. if you're nice to them, they'll appreciate it and be nice back. i understand the world is horrible and so are people, but that doesn't mean that you have to be one of the people that make it horrible.
edit: and yes, there is a point where your childhood trauma can't save you. there comes a point where you need to sit down and work through it or simply just don't tolerate someone who refuses to fix themself.
my husband makes more money than me (i work minimum wage so duh) but he still manages to praise me when i do something. when i do the laundry, help with dishes, walk our dog. he always thanks me and i always thank him. that man does not deserve his wife!
The way that this man got older every time he mentioned his age 😂
My husband and I "bully" each other but its always in very good humour and NEVER contains jokes about being ugly, body weight, or anything we know would genuinely hurt one anothers feelings. And its not the only way we communicate either. This guy is such a small ego man its really sad and upsetting she puts up with his bad additude. She deserves better.
All of the jokes me and my partner make about appearance is either pointing at a worm or something and saying look it you or making jokes about me looking like a raccoon bc I'm taking off my makeup. I don't know why anyone would ever make a joke about your weight or something you're actually insecure about unless they literally hate you. Instant break up
My bf and i make jokes about each others autism, but we are just screwing around and we both understand that we are JOKING
Nothing we say is personal either, like when we joke its like a vague “haha that store is called spectrum u should work there” not like “haha remember that time when-“ type situation
So many couples dig DEEP and throw personal insults as “jokes”
Like id NEVER make a joke about my bfs weight or appearance like…. Wtf ?
So strange
I wish these people well because what a miserable life to live
@@mjg-98 the spectrum joke has me dead😭 but we do the same too, why do people marry individuals they hate bruh😭😭
@@sillybilly2526 unfortunately, they had the example in their home. There’s a reason boomer memes are “wife bad,” and “marriage bad.” They were pressured to marry young, have kids young, and shamed if they dared to have another partner. It’s so depressing.
@@urgae9125 you're absolutely right. it's very sad to witness:/
My baby wrists and baby fingers feel called out right now 🤣 I didn't even realize it was a thing until you pointed it out lmao
When I was a toddler I was very picky and sensitive to lots of foods LIKE LOTS but I would try to still eat the parts I liked of it and gave the “yucky” bits a go to make my mum happy and we found many many foods that I still eat today because I tried my best to appreciate my mums work yet this man could somehow go buy a ring, a suit, afford to have a wedding, and got her trust to have children but still can’t appreciate one single plate of food that even HIS KIDS probably are eating and he’s like “ew I don’t want that it looks gross” and btw salmon tastes amazing
by all means do NOT hold back. i’m 23 and can handle most domestic chores on my own, cleaning, mopping, sweeping, vacuuming, laundry and cooking included. there’s NO excuse for a grown man to act like this, my heart goes out to women that have to deal with husbands like this, y’all deserve better!
Or men that deal with wives like his, although less common, or just people with bad spouses like this in general
You are a men for sure
@@randomnumber27knew someone would add that -
@@randomnumber27I get the point you’re trying to make but this is undeniably a trend with men towards their wives
@OK-bg2px yes I know, I'm just saying
I'm neurodivergent and I have sensory issues. My partner made me a food that I couldn't eat but I ate as much as I could, however I felt ill that day anyway (later realised I had the flu). I took some home with me and I apologised a lot. He'd put so much care in making that food for me that I felt incredibly ungrateful for struggling to eat it. He's amazing and so is his cooking ❤
It's great that you're appreciative, but don't beat yourself up too much when you can't eat. As someone who likes cooking for people, learning what they dislike is part of the fun😋
I am very very picky and I will try to eat everything I can but it can make me throw up so it's really hard. One thing I just will not eat is cauliflower though
It’s not your fault if you can’t eat it, so it’s not ungrateful! The fact that you genuinely tried to eat it, especially while you were struggling to do so, already shows so much appreciation, respect, and gratefulness to the person who made it. Your partner wouldn’t want you to force yourself to be uncomfortable for their sake, and I’m sure he wouldn’t want you to feel guilty either
been there, you try really hard cause you know they put effort into it and then you feel bad that you even have to try 😭
I was wondering if anyone was gonna point out how toxic and ablist a lot of the response has been to the guy. A lot of ablist rhetoric being spewed disguised as feminism.
respect for cooper for respecting women a lot , and respect to everyone who respects men and women equally , have an amazing day guys!
Ngl the cartilage joke cought me of guard that it was actually funny 😂😂😂
As someone who is autistic and has sensory issues, it is kind of appalling to see someone act this way towards a loved one who is doing something nice, she went out of her way to make something for him after he wouldn’t eat the original meal. My parents usually make me try new food, which I’m not good at, and specific textures, smells and tastes tend to stop me from eating certain things. But even when I don’t eat what they make, they expect me to make something myself, and sometimes they make something else for me, and when they do I don’t act hateful like he did. I’m getting a bit ranty but it’s just difficult for me to see someone being so hateful towards his wife when she goes out of her way to do these things for him
Me with ADHD being the same way-
I'm the same with my husband. He cooks a lot and I've eaten everything even it I makes me wanna be sick. He's being nice and trying really hard.
As someone who personally has to send things back due to allergies (i have a minor sesame allergy, (more of a sensitivity) which sometimes I forget to ask about because its not present in a lot of things where i live, and some things I can’t tell just by looking cause oil) even if I ask for food specially made, I do try to be extra polite about it and apologize for the difficulty of getting me a different meal
I can’t imagine someone being an asshole about getting something they didn’t like from a loved one among people and then getting a food they liked and still being rude
@@marchingflute5181same
@@marchingflute5181same
I'm autistic and can't eat a lot of foods and apologize constantly if someone makes me food and I can't eat it. I can't imagine being this entitled lmao 😭
True
I'm not in situations where people make me food who don't know what I like, but I will say I am the main cook of my family and also am autistic, so unless my family specifically requests a certain I'm not making it lol. I feel sorta bad that I don't really know how to make sea food cause most of them love it (even my also auDHD sister), but it tastes and smells so gross they'll have to go out and buy that on their own.
Her life would be profoundly easier as a single mother.
My husband was also a picky eater, but he doesn't make me bend backwards to make more food. He hates fish, but he'll still eat the salmon I make. He actually thanks me for making him try new things! He wouldn't eat broccoli, peas, ocra, or a majority of green or Asian food before we dated. Now he asks me to make him all those mentioned foods because I put in the effort to make him try it.
Meaning I hold him down and water board him..... JK but there is effort when dealing with a picky eater.
As a picky eater, who my mom has to deal with yes also i like salmon too!
I can be a picky eater but if my parents cook me (a grown adult) dinner I will sure as fucking hell eat it even when it is food I do not like because as I am a grown adult the only person who is obligated to feed me is me, everyone else who makes me food is doing it out of the kindness of their heart, it's extra effort they do not have to go to for me but they're doing it so that I don't have to and that is a kindness that I feel genuinely grateful for. I've never had a long term partner but I can 100% guarantee that I could never treat them like this
@@butasimpleidiotwizard and if i really can't eat something I'm sure as hell gonna say thanks and shut up, not request a different meal
You think this is a flex but you talk about it as if he was a kid 😭😭😭😭
@@el-maiki He used to act like one but I shaped him into a wonderful young man 🫄🤱
As someone with really high food sensitivity I understand not being able to eat food people make for you and preferring to starve to avoid distress, but like, just make your own food then?? And if they’re gonna go and make a new dish you need to shower them with a ton of gratitude because they’re working around your issues you need to be grateful for that.
word.
I have food sensitivities and also struggle to cook for myself because of disability stuff, but if someone cooks for me and I can't eat it, you bet your ass I'm making myself a pathetic little microwave quesadilla or something instead of asking them to make me something different.
@@Naixatloz real
Yeah exactly!!
I see a lot of people pointing out that there are reasons behind them not eating. But i want to point out that this isn't tha situation. He clearly isn't disabled, doesn't have an ed and hes not on the spectrum, he's just a spoiled manchild. Theres so fcking many of those in the world its insane. A Man that thinks gettng married is just aquiring a new mommy