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Five times to be silent: 1) to engine in mindfulness; 2) when in anger; 3) when approached with gossip or slander; 4) during conflict; 5) in times of suffering to others
To whoever is reading this, I hope you heal from the things you don’t speak about. I hope you find peace within your day. If all you did was get out of bed today, have a glass of water, or even just did whatever you could, just know that’s the best you could do at that moment and that’s okay. Everyone sleep well and I hope the waves of relaxation wash over you. Sending love and healing and light to all of you.
Wishing that everyone who watches this video will be safe, healthy, have all their wishes fulfilled, and any prayers answered. May those who feel lonely find comfort, those in poverty escape hardship, and those without daily sustenance have enough to eat and wear.
I wish I would have listen to this video years ago I would have saved myself a lot of grief and self-preservation but in my heart I believe it’s never too late I’m still alive and I will continue to practice silence when necessary. Thank you for this video. I know it will help me
Have no regrets nor wish you did something different. What happened was exactly how it was supposed to happen, we reacted with the tools and knowledge we had at that time. All we have is the present moment, and we can make changes from this moment on. Don't waste energy in regret and things we cannot change. We can use that energy in positive changes from this moment on. You're human and you are going to stumble, and that's okay; dust yourself off, forgive yourself and move forward :) We are not strangers; we are all brothers and sisters dealing with the struggles and challenges of being human. We have all experienced regret, insecurity, fear, anxiety, depression, lost loved ones etc. Most of us have probably experienced loneliness. None of asked to be brought into this world, but here we are :)
00:00 🤫 Silence, often overlooked, holds transformative power in crucial situations, according to Buddhist teachings. 01:10 🌱 Silence isn't mere absence of noise; it's a gateway to inner peace, self-awareness, and mindfulness, offering space for deeper understanding. 02:21 ⚡ Silence when angry is a potent antidote; it allows reflection, preventing impulsive actions, and shields against harming oneself and others. 08:59 🔇 Choosing silence in the face of gossip and slander aligns with right speech principles, preventing harm and fostering compassion in communication. 14:08 🤐 Silence during conflicts encourages empathy, active listening, and mindfulness, aiming for resolution beyond ego-driven desires. 19:21 🤝 Silence, when witnessing others' suffering, communicates empathy and respect, offering a space for solace and compassionate presence. 22:35 🕊 Embracing silence during personal suffering fosters self-compassion, introspection, and the acceptance of pain as part of growth and self-discovery. 25:22 🧘♂ Silent mindfulness in these crucial situations empowers personal transformation, nurturing compassion and contributing to a more harmonious world.
@dameanvil, I’d love for my 2 adult children to read some of what u’ve timestamped, beginning with 14:08 and down to 22:35. I’m the one suffering and they NEVER REALLY LISTEN. There’s major conflict going on right now between both of my kids and me. I’m so tired of trying to just be heard and I finally broke and did more damage, probably destroying any relationship with my son. I didn’t say anything to my daughter as of yet but she’s as bad as my son. I’m always the silent one which they take as my being stupid or weak or whatever and I continue to get belittled until I break. I did break and said a lot of mean things to my son, all I said is true, but he can’t accept any type of criticism, yet I’m supposed to. He never looks at himself (neither does my daughter). I could go on but I won’t, I would just love to know when enough is enough and how to deal with these situations. HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE. Everyone has a breaking point. None of what’s going on wouldn’t have ever began if they just LISTEN and really HEAR ME, and also if they could admit when they’re wrong and stop thinking they know everything and how to do everything. I’m their mother and I hate what’s happened. They, especially he right now, needs to read those timestamps I mentioned!!! Thanks for breaking this video down, and I’m sorry for my rant😢❤
No more wismatic words could be offered. I practice this advice always. I learned this from working in a job where difficult people used confrontation as a tool to get what they wanted and I needed to respect my employer by doing the job of maintaiining a positive relationship without say, giving away the store. Even a pause can be enough time of silence to redirect a conversation. You will develop overtime how much silence is necessary and whether it's for active listening or for preparing your response or a cooling off or calming down period for all parties involved. Silence is golden and it can be like gold for you too. Even when it's time to walk away from a purposeless point. ❤✌️
When these understandings are embraced by a major part of humanity, we can begin to create world peace. Let's each of us who hear these words follow the guidance as best we can every moment. We are the ones we've been waiting for.
Find out what “getting right” means for you. It’s different for everyone. Meditate on what that’s supposed to look like for you. Is it even a reality you can get to?
Simple, yet profound. These Zen Stories resonate with the essence of life. It's like a guiding light that helps me navigate through the complexities of everyday living with grace and mindfulness.🙏👍
I so wish I heard this before. I was exactly doing all the wrong things and was miserable later. My humor was gone, my peace definitely lost, and really I found fault in everyone especially myself. I am not a Buddhist but a Christian but I am sure God feels all these teachings are correct and God like no matter what you reason. From this minute forward I will adhere to all I learned and I am sure I will be happier, more peaceful and loved because I will promote more love to those around me. Love breeds love. Thank you so very much again ❤
I find solace and comfort when confronted with other people's moods and their anger. I believe in my Lord Buddha who taught us to be calm when we experience this kind of situations. Namo Buddhaya. Thank you for bringing this message of Lord Buddha to the world. The entire world needs how to be always.
Very true. In silence we understand the depth of the world around us and its impact upon us. It allows people to pass thru the hardship of the moment and learn the lessons the hardship provides. There is silence in the void, and it is the void that gives us the opportunity to self-reflect and process the hardship for a harmonious outcome.
It’s a good one. Not the best, though. The best cure for anger is rational thinking. This video actually covers this. Anger is a mask for other emotions. Realizing what’s behind the mask, (sadness, frustration, disappointment), can help to make the answers to them, clearer.
In this crazy world we need to think clearly and self introspection will help us understand and get along with others. Especially in this angry political environment.
*too, not to. Too is used in place of “also” as well as to express excess. “You’re too much” or “I want one, too” “To” is only a direction. “I have to go to work.”
Thank you for sharing this beautiful wisdom.The ego never wants to hear the truth. Eventually it grows up and becomes quite enough to hear and understand it's powerful healing benefits.
Sometimes I repeat sometimes it is good to make a one profound statement. The more I listen to people I realize they are reflecting onto you what they feel about themselves. If you get upset then there is some truth.
As a Christian, I love this. Truth is Truth. I find my challenge is to be silent at times where I have an opinion and when I have the need to be right. I am much more peaceful giving up these attachments, though I also understand there are times to speak up. Discernment is key. Thanks so much!
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When you imagine the destruction anger has inflicted on human race; injury, death, hatred, name it. Very sad. I have circulated this video far and wide
Power of Silence 1) ✅02:07 - Silence in Anger 2) ✅08:44 - Silence in Gossip and Slander 3) ✅13:58 - Silence During Conflict 4) ✅19:09 - Silence in Witnessing Suffering 5) ✅22:33 - Silence in Personal Suffering
Then boom our words mean everything that's why we also have to have control over our emotions as well cause our emotions can really mess us up as well as fear
Not only these five situations to be ovrtcome with the power of silence A wholsome answer to all life situations are gi en in the teachings of Christ in Bible. Bible teaches "To be STILL and experience God" "Be slow to SPEAK" & KEEN TO HEAR" ON THE CROSS JESUS KEPT MUM TO ALL QUESTIONS ABOUT THE ALLEGATIONS" Pleaae read the Bible for a wholsome solutions to all life proems and enlightenment and Diclvine Peace that surpasses all Human Knowledge 🙏
Silence--interpreted and used as a nonaggressive tool--can come back to bite you in the butt. I had two elderly men--one living on either side of me (mobile home park)--and one constantly complained to the other about my behavior to him. That particular elderly man did not like how I ran my life--I did animal rescue and I am a Master Gardener. He finally made me so goofy with his daily complaining, that when I drove into my drive after work, I would hastily stop the car, jump out and rush inside. He started waiting at the drive, for me to drive in. I had to get 'creative'. When I drove into my drive, I RUSHED into my house. Then, I was forced into parking around the corner. The situation was becoming untenable. I was not able to even be in my yard to water, etc. I knew he was probably getting into dementia, possibly Alzheimer's, but his one daughter was part of the problem. The oldest daughter just kept apologizing to me, but couldn't make him or her sister stop. So, one day, I figured the only way to reclaim my boundaries, sanity and space was to completely ignore him. And, ignore him I did. Total silence, as if he was not at my car or at my door or coming around the MH, as I was throwing out my trash bags. Literally, he just had to stand there and speak to himself. I got so I could go about my business and not know he was there or hear a word he said. One day, his friend, the other elderly neighbor, called me over to his house. Like an accommodating and behaving fool, I went. He proceeded to tell me I had a major problem. I asked him what would that problem be? He replied that my 'tactics' using psychology in regards to my neighbor were beneath a 'loving' neighbor (me) and that I needed to cease and desist my efforts. I told him he was going to have to define his use of 'my brand of psychology'. So, he did--it was my use of passive-aggressive behavior towards and against the other elderly man, who was only trying to be a 'good' neighbor. My reply was short, sweet and very terse: "You don't know what the phque you are talking about." At that point, I turned around and calmly walked back home. THAT elderly neighbor spent the next year trying to regain my respect for him, within my now very cold passive-aggressive behavior towards HIM! He did finally ask me to 'forgive' him, but I believe that in the few minutes it took for him to say it, he pulled five teeth out of his own mouth! The very act of silence has myriad responses, some of which, had you known could-would have been implemented against you, you might not have 'done the deed'. But, I promise you, stay strong, quiet, and resolute and you will have Peace--in whatever form that Peace inhabits. STAY STRONG AND PROTECT THE WEAK. (ps: this also works with texting--or not--not answering your fone and errant emails. Press On...) --jana, sun antonio, tejas
I don’t benefit in real-world interpersonal interactions, by being silent. 🔇 Silence only disturbs or manipulates people around me. I’m a big person with a stern face. But I’m also a people person. I have the gift of gab, to make people feel at ease and some have said they like my voice. So, silence; while helpful in mindfulness and inner harmony, is also a weapon to harm people’s expectation of my demeanor. And I can wield it as much or as little as I like.
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Five times to be silent: 1) to engine in mindfulness; 2) when in anger; 3) when approached with gossip or slander; 4) during conflict; 5) in times of suffering to others
Or if you don't have anything nice to say...say nothing at all.
What has your experience been like applying mindfulness in daily life?
To whoever is reading this, I hope you heal from the things you don’t speak about. I hope you find peace within your day. If all you did was get out of bed today, have a glass of water, or even just did whatever you could, just know that’s the best you could do at that moment and that’s okay. Everyone sleep well and I hope the waves of relaxation wash over you. Sending love and healing and light to all of you.
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Blessings in return. 💖
Thank You so very much. Love, Divine and human, Goodness, growth and these profound teachings are what we all need.l
I was getting angry but in silence about your pontification. You can do better. 🙏
Wishing that everyone who watches this video will be safe, healthy, have all their wishes fulfilled, and any prayers answered. May those who feel lonely find comfort, those in poverty escape hardship, and those without daily sustenance have enough to eat and wear.
In other words …..Keep your mouth shut …period.
Please shut up narrator!
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I wish I would have listen to this video years ago I would have saved myself a lot of grief and self-preservation but in my heart I believe it’s never too late I’m still alive and I will continue to practice silence when necessary. Thank you for this video. I know it will help me
Me too
Have no regrets nor wish you did something different.
What happened was exactly how it was supposed to happen, we reacted with the tools and knowledge we had at that time.
All we have is the present moment, and we can make changes from this moment on.
Don't waste energy in regret and things we cannot change. We can use that energy in positive changes from this moment on.
You're human and you are going to stumble, and that's okay; dust yourself off, forgive yourself and move forward :)
We are not strangers; we are all brothers and sisters dealing with the struggles and challenges of being human. We have all experienced regret, insecurity, fear, anxiety, depression, lost loved ones etc. Most of us have probably experienced loneliness. None of asked to be brought into this world, but here we are :)
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@@SFreedberg1your words are so amazing ,thank you 🙏!
What has your experience been like applying mindfulness in daily life?
Indeed! Silent is Gold! It helps makes our world a better place to in
00:00 🤫 Silence, often overlooked, holds transformative power in crucial situations, according to Buddhist teachings.
01:10 🌱 Silence isn't mere absence of noise; it's a gateway to inner peace, self-awareness, and mindfulness, offering space for deeper understanding.
02:21 ⚡ Silence when angry is a potent antidote; it allows reflection, preventing impulsive actions, and shields against harming oneself and others.
08:59 🔇 Choosing silence in the face of gossip and slander aligns with right speech principles, preventing harm and fostering compassion in communication.
14:08 🤐 Silence during conflicts encourages empathy, active listening, and mindfulness, aiming for resolution beyond ego-driven desires.
19:21 🤝 Silence, when witnessing others' suffering, communicates empathy and respect, offering a space for solace and compassionate presence.
22:35 🕊 Embracing silence during personal suffering fosters self-compassion, introspection, and the acceptance of pain as part of growth and self-discovery.
25:22 🧘♂ Silent mindfulness in these crucial situations empowers personal transformation, nurturing compassion and contributing to a more harmonious world.
Thank you 🙏 so much ❤😘❤️🥰🌻🙏😘❤️🥰🌻🙏
Thank you
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Thank you very much! 🦭
@dameanvil, I’d love for my 2 adult children to read some of what u’ve timestamped, beginning with 14:08 and down to 22:35. I’m the one suffering and they NEVER REALLY LISTEN. There’s major conflict going on right now between both of my kids and me. I’m so tired of trying to just be heard and I finally broke and did more damage, probably destroying any relationship with my son. I didn’t say anything to my daughter as of yet but she’s as bad as my son. I’m always the silent one which they take as my being stupid or weak or whatever and I continue to get belittled until I break. I did break and said a lot of mean things to my son, all I said is true, but he can’t accept any type of criticism, yet I’m supposed to. He never looks at himself (neither does my daughter). I could go on but I won’t, I would just love to know when enough is enough and how to deal with these situations. HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE. Everyone has a breaking point.
None of what’s going on wouldn’t have ever began if they just LISTEN and really HEAR ME, and also if they could admit when they’re wrong and stop thinking they know everything and how to do everything.
I’m their mother and I hate what’s happened.
They, especially he right now, needs to read those timestamps I mentioned!!!
Thanks for breaking this video down, and I’m sorry for my rant😢❤
No more wismatic words could be offered. I practice this advice always. I learned this from working in a job where difficult people used confrontation as a tool to get what they wanted and I needed to respect my employer by doing the job of maintaiining a positive relationship without say, giving away the store. Even a pause can be enough time of silence to redirect a conversation. You will develop overtime how much silence is necessary and whether it's for active listening or for preparing your response or a cooling off or calming down period for all parties involved. Silence is golden and it can be like gold for you too. Even when it's time to walk away from a purposeless point. ❤✌️
When these understandings are embraced by a major part of humanity, we can begin to create world peace. Let's each of us who hear these words follow the guidance as best we can every moment. We are the ones we've been waiting for.
Thank you so much for this sound of silence God bless us all
Thanks for listening
Thank you for teaching us. My soul,body,and brain is in peace through silence
I feel so empty and it has been decades
I just can’t get right
I hope we all find peace
Good luck
I hope you find peace!
Peace
You don’t have to get it right. Just be kind to yourself. ❤
Yes, kind to ourselves. I have found that to be so hard for me.
Find out what “getting right” means for you. It’s different for everyone. Meditate on what that’s supposed to look like for you. Is it even a reality you can get to?
Simple, yet profound. These Zen Stories resonate with the essence of life. It's like a guiding light that helps me navigate through the complexities of everyday living with grace and mindfulness.🙏👍
Well said!
I so wish I heard this before. I was exactly doing all the wrong things and was miserable later. My humor was gone, my peace definitely lost, and really I found fault in everyone especially myself. I am not a Buddhist but a Christian but I am sure God feels all these teachings are correct and God like no matter what you reason. From this minute forward I will adhere to all I learned and I am sure I will be happier, more peaceful and loved because I will promote more love to those around me. Love breeds love. Thank you so very much again ❤
Thank you so much about teachings I will try my best. When do you know when 5o be silent? Not being defensive all the time?
These teachings are so calming. It brings so much peace to be silent.
I find solace and comfort when confronted with other people's moods and their anger. I believe in my Lord Buddha who taught us to be calm when we experience this kind of situations. Namo Buddhaya. Thank you for bringing this message of Lord Buddha to the world. The entire world needs how to be always.
Silence is the fruit of tranquility...😊
My Peace be with you in your practicing silence
Very true. In silence we understand the depth of the world around us and its impact upon us. It allows people to pass thru the hardship of the moment and learn the lessons the hardship provides. There is silence in the void, and it is the void that gives us the opportunity to self-reflect and process the hardship for a harmonious outcome.
I love listening to these videos because they teaches the same. Be kind, love each other etc.
These are profoundly good and hard thinking advice ❤ I thank you lord god 🙏amen 🙏
Glad you like them!
Silence is the best cure for anger
Exactly ❤
It’s a good one. Not the best, though.
The best cure for anger is rational thinking. This video actually covers this.
Anger is a mask for other emotions. Realizing what’s behind the mask, (sadness, frustration, disappointment), can help to make the answers to them, clearer.
In this crazy world we need to think clearly and self introspection will help us understand and get along with others. Especially in this angry political environment.
It’s Never to late to Follow the Principles of SILENCE 🎉😊
Well said!
*too, not to.
Too is used in place of “also” as well as to express excess. “You’re too much” or “I want one, too”
“To” is only a direction. “I have to go to work.”
Thank you for sharing this beautiful wisdom.The ego never wants to hear the truth. Eventually it grows up and becomes quite enough to hear and understand it's powerful healing benefits.
Silence in the best way when we are angry
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE WONDERFUL VIRTUE
OF SILENCE...
BLESS YOU ❤
Our pleasure!
I need the healing from things that accure when I had no knowledge and I hope that everyone else will have early teachings and enjoy abundance
^🙏🏾Blessings to you! May this year be filled with joy, good health, and wealth!
Thank you! Namasté! 🕉🙏🙏🙏🕉❤❤❤💐🕉
There not enough silence in the world!
Sometimes I repeat sometimes it is good to make a one profound statement. The more I listen to people I realize they are reflecting onto you what they feel about themselves. If you get upset then there is some truth.
I find my peace in Jesus 🙏🏾
Me too. These are also His teachings. Truth is Truth.
Silence is a bliend love it's make relationship hard to hard. ❤.
Take a trip to go see Sittata Guttama, Buddha's place, number one place on earth!
Thank you for mentioning.
THANK YOU for allowing me to voice my view, now my time to be silent.😊
You’re welcome 😊
Thank you so much for this needed dharma gift, may all find peace.
what a great message...I listened twice and took notes...surely will pass it on.
thank you for this
Glad it was helpful and thank you for sharing.
As a Christian, I love this. Truth is Truth. I find my challenge is to be silent at times where I have an opinion and when I have the need to be right. I am much more peaceful giving up these attachments, though I also understand there are times to speak up. Discernment is key. Thanks so much!
THANK YOU VERY MUCH AMEN AMEN 🙏
Your most welcome
Great video filled with true wisdom on the power of silence. ✌🏽
We appreciate that!
The 36th Chamber of Shaolin. 🙏
Thank you for all the videos.
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I love Buddhism....
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I really learned a lot from this. Thank u
I am learning and improving the more I learn from budism. Thany you gor these videos
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Thank you for this video ❤....I appreciate your efforts.
Thanks for watching!
Silence is not only golden, it is essential.
Well said!
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I shared, hit like before u even spoke ❤. Very true words inspiration. Thank you love it. Less is more ❤❤
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I learn alot....always
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Who would have thought words hold so much power never knew
That’s why we’re here to remind these crucial lessons to society!
Another time I once heard is when you want to learn something.
"Silence is the language of God" Rumi
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Silence..no comment.tq 4 sharing
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When you imagine the destruction anger has inflicted on human race; injury, death, hatred, name it. Very sad. I have circulated this video far and wide
Power of Silence
1) ✅02:07 - Silence in Anger
2) ✅08:44 - Silence in Gossip and Slander
3) ✅13:58 - Silence During Conflict
4) ✅19:09 - Silence in Witnessing Suffering
5) ✅22:33 - Silence in Personal Suffering
Thank you same to you dear God bless you .🙏🫶❤️🌹
Thank you too
Very informative.
Glad you liked it
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Such a good content. Thank you so much ❤
Who loves ur parents❤❤❤❤😊
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There's no one I would like to pair up with to commit slander. ❤
excellent information
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you for this. Happy New Year!
Thanks, you too!
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Then boom our words mean everything that's why we also have to have control over our emotions as well cause our emotions can really mess us up as well as fear
You got it correct, glad you learned something!
Thanks u
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I which country this aal is in practice thanks very much
I have major anger issues and I act impulsively
I am😊 working on myself
Well said!
Thank you
Powerful video
Thank You for listening 🙏
Superb reality silent all sale all problem thanks u
Your Welcome
Beautiful ❤️
Thank you! 😊
As an introvert this is easy
would be a lot better if a human voice were reading the text
Thank you sir
What a wisdom of utmost significance for introspection n personal growth. Jussojuan
What has your experience been like applying mindfulness in daily life?
Thanks for the advice!
Happy to help!
Not only these five situations to be ovrtcome with the power of silence
A wholsome answer to all life situations are gi en in the teachings of Christ in Bible.
Bible teaches "To be STILL and experience God"
"Be slow to SPEAK" & KEEN TO HEAR"
ON THE CROSS JESUS KEPT MUM TO ALL QUESTIONS ABOUT THE
ALLEGATIONS"
Pleaae read the Bible for a wholsome solutions to all life proems and enlightenment and Diclvine Peace that surpasses all
Human Knowledge 🙏
Wonderful video
Glad you enjoyed it
Kind of long-winded for a testament to silence. What are the five situations?
Not just Buddhism . Christ taught us this also
Silence--interpreted and used as a nonaggressive tool--can come back to bite you in the butt.
I had two elderly men--one living on either side of me (mobile home park)--and one constantly complained to the other about my behavior to him.
That particular elderly man did not like how I ran my life--I did animal rescue and I am a Master Gardener. He finally made me so goofy with his daily complaining, that when I drove into my drive after work, I would hastily stop the car, jump out and rush inside.
He started waiting at the drive, for me to drive in. I had to get 'creative'.
When I drove into my drive, I RUSHED into my house. Then, I was forced into parking around the corner.
The situation was becoming untenable. I was not able to even be in my yard to water, etc. I knew he was probably getting into dementia, possibly Alzheimer's, but his one daughter was part of the problem. The oldest daughter just kept apologizing to me, but couldn't make him or her sister stop.
So, one day, I figured the only way to reclaim my boundaries, sanity and space was to completely ignore him.
And, ignore him I did. Total silence, as if he was not at my car or at my door or coming around the MH, as I was throwing out my trash bags.
Literally, he just had to stand there and speak to himself. I got so I could go about my business and not know he was there or hear a word he said.
One day, his friend, the other elderly neighbor, called me over to his house. Like an accommodating and behaving fool, I went. He proceeded to tell me I had a major problem.
I asked him what would that problem be?
He replied that my 'tactics' using psychology in regards to my neighbor were beneath a 'loving' neighbor (me) and that I needed to cease and desist my efforts.
I told him he was going to have to define his use of 'my brand of psychology'.
So, he did--it was my use of passive-aggressive behavior towards and against the other elderly man, who was only trying to be a 'good' neighbor.
My reply was short, sweet and very terse: "You don't know what the phque you are talking about."
At that point, I turned around and calmly walked back home.
THAT elderly neighbor spent the next year trying to regain my respect for him, within my now very cold passive-aggressive behavior towards HIM! He did finally ask me to 'forgive' him, but I believe that in the few minutes it took for him to say it, he pulled five teeth out of his own mouth!
The very act of silence has myriad responses, some of which, had you known could-would have been implemented against you, you might not have 'done the deed'.
But, I promise you, stay strong, quiet, and resolute and you will have Peace--in whatever form that Peace inhabits.
STAY STRONG AND PROTECT THE WEAK.
(ps: this also works with texting--or not--not answering your fone and errant emails. Press On...)
--jana, sun antonio, tejas
I don’t benefit in real-world interpersonal interactions, by being silent. 🔇 Silence only disturbs or manipulates people around me. I’m a big person with a stern face. But I’m also a people person. I have the gift of gab, to make people feel at ease and some have said they like my voice. So, silence; while helpful in mindfulness and inner harmony, is also a weapon to harm people’s expectation of my demeanor. And I can wield it as much or as little as I like.
Thích Nhất Hạnh (not Teak Nuthan) 1:07
Interesting
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