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"I've always been a good student, I knew how to get good grades and do well in school because there was a syllabus and homework and guidelines, and I felt like I had the rules set out and I knew how to work within the rules, but when life happened, I was like, there are no rules to life, it's too open-ended that I don't know what to do with my life." GIRL, SAME!!!
I’m in my late thirties and wish I had this advice in my twenties. I am now on a different path and spent many years struggling due to not finding my passion. But one piece of advice for those of you still searching, if you love your job but find that it doesn’t tick all the boxes, you can still have side hustles and hobbies or even volunteering on the side to fulfill other parts of yourself. Especially if you feel like it would be too tough to leave your job completely.
yes .. also one of the encouragement I wish I had received when I was younger would have been to explore side hustles while I had my first job because I think it was after that job that I just became more confused at people throwing jobs, learnerships and studies at me that I had no passion for .. which, I guess had me jumping from job to job .. but also, I probably had to go through those things to learn certain things about myself and the life that I am supposed to live .. thanks for sharing ..!
I am at the beginning of 30s now and I wish I heard these advices earlier. I am trying differnt side hustles. Hope I can figure out what actually align with me soon!
I hate it! Im so stressed and feeling so much pressure to figure out what i want to do. Im 21 and I have absolutely no clue! Feels like everyone around me knows what they want and I cant even figure out what things I like
I find it fascinating when people know at least what makes them feel joy. I tried a lot of things, tried college, tried working, but never found joy. I'm 24 living with my parents and just failed again in life. Not knowing what you like it's frustrating. But seeing time passing with no accomplishments and no money it's even worst.
Same girl. I'm 22 and I'm not working atm but I'm using this time to study spirituality, yoga, meditation, chakras and trying to understand why we're all here. I find myself being at peace and then I started watching martial arts videos and I'm trying to get into "krav maga" (best self defense art for women) and then I'll get a part time job to work around my schedule. I have a feeling it'll bring me joy and take away all this feeling of failure. But I'll stop ranting, maybe you can look for a hobby or volunteer. Goodluck 😘
I hope you're doing better now! But if not, it's alright, because your only real job in life is to figure yourself out. That said, I really think the best advice is to try more things and keep going. There is so many things in the world that obviously we haven't tried them all. So, let's experience more things, new sports or manual activities. Have you ever gone hiking? Did you try pottery ? Sculpture? Learnt a new langage? What about teaching young people, carving wood, scuba diving, planting crops, taking care of animals, decorating a room?
_"How can you be 23, still struggling in life, struggling to make money, struggling to figure out what you're supposed to do."_ To be honest, I'm so happy to hear this. Currently 23, just graduated and in lost. It make me think how if you can do it, I should be able too. I am so glad I found your channel. Been marathoning your lifestyle videos and you've inspired me so much.
I love that you mentioned you were envious of other UA-camrs' lifestyles, but instead of harboring or spewing malice, you saw it as a huge clue as to what you really want for yourself. That's very mature of you on an emotional level. I think people need to learn how to transform that emotion into a positive like you did.
I am 22, recently graduated. I am currently in that situation whereby I'm so confused and even starting to doubt as to whether I did the right course. However, this video has really encouraged me. Thanks Aileen😊❤
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It sounds like such a simple desire but it's so difficult to attain. I feel you. I'm in the same boat right now in college. Hope you find what you're looking for ☺
this was possibly one of my favorite videos of yours! and i love a lot of your videos, it was so personal and engaging and inspirational and informative. :-) ALL AT ONCE!
You're so right Aileen. I'm just 23 but I've been experimenting with my life for quite a years now until I realised what I really want in my life. I started my career as a supervisor in one beauty company and then got promoted as a beautician and MUA in the same company after went to several classes they held. After that I quit and started my music journey. Work in a music class as a tutor. But then quit. Work as a model and quit. Work as an actress and quit. It's just not I want in my life. And then I took over my family business and never been happier. I never realised that all I want is being close with my parents. Even my financial is way more stable compared to all the works I've done before.
Thank you for that! I'm 22 and due to my personal situation I'm just going to Uni this year. I have this weird feeling that it's really late for me because most of my friends are already graduating and I'm just like...trying to figure out what to do with my life, still having Uni to get started... What I know for sure is that I don't wanna work in all those boring, generic places like corporations and so on. I just feel like it's not something for me even if it's a "comfort zone" option. Just always wanted to do something meaningful and well-payed. I know that in my early twenties, I still have time to find myself and figure out what is the best for me, but it feels like everything best around is already running out of time. Trying to convince myself that it's the wrong way of thinking, so despite of it I'm going to buy a guitar this year and start learn to sing as I always wanted (I think so) and will see if it'll work out. Maybe it's not too late ;) If not, well, I'll try something different again. Btw, lately I started listening to your podcast and girl! I'm grateful. People like you gives me hope. Thank you.
Hi, Sherly! I’m glad you’re pursuing your educational goals. People go to university even at their late 40s. Besides, ‘it’s never too late’. Good luck at your beginnings🦋
Hey girl! I’m 21 and also searching for a degree to get at the university. Even though I tried studying linguistics for 1,5 year I dropout because it wasn’t enlightening to me. My goal is to find something finally and leave from Russia but I can’t choose because of the financial situation too. Also, I have a hobby which is singing and that’s great that you decided to try guitar! Go for it ☺️ Maybe you’ll start writing your own songs someday.
I'm in the middle of questioning my life. I want my life to be meaningful. But I don't know where to start. And then I stumble upon your video. It's a mind opening one. At least, I got myself an idea what to do first. I really thank you a lot for this video. Love from Indonesia
I needed this so much.. I just lost my job today.. I haven't been happy there anyways, but I didn't have the gut to leave my comfort zone. This talk is very helpful. Thank you so much. You are achieving your goals and keep inspiring us ❤️
Samar Suwaid something that worked for me after leaving a job I wasn’t happy at was looking at my every day passion (makeup) and doing that commercially at cosmetics counters. I would never get promoted at restaurants bc they could tell I hated it but with makeup I got promoted in less than one year!!!! Look at what you do every day that you don’t notice :) even if it’s something weird like organizing your house or something. There’s a job for that you just need to be creative about it
I agree that often it can be trial and error combined with some deep digging to figure out what your passions really are. Thanks for sharing your inspiring story. The most important thing in life is to truly live your purpose and figure out what you were meant to do! Cheers!
You are so right about trying out so many things to find your true passion. Going through the journey is the scariest and the most exciting part about it.
“Sometimes you don’t know that it’s right for you until you get there…” This hit me hard! I’ve finally accomplished my childhood dream job but now I’m unsure if I fit into this or if it’s even right for me… But I still don’t wanna give up and gonna try find my way to make it best suitable for me. 💫😌
It’s no an accident that I saw this video!!! I’m a creator myself, and a girl sent me a DM saying how much my videos have helped her & told me to check you out as she thought i’d love it. Well, I LOVE YOU, and everything that you talked about resonates with me so much. I went to an acting school & thought it’s the life I wanted , but - shocker - it was not! I’m so committed to building my life as a conscious creator and I want to be a content creator like you. You inspire me SO MUCH, and it’s the only video I’ve seen of you. You’re amazing. THANK YOU.❤️❤️❤️
It's incredible how people from different parts of the world go through the same things , how the sentences resemble with my thoughts is really magical, once again thank you for existing
Thank you! I needed it, because lately I've been stuck with my fear of failure and I didn't know what to do. But now I know what to think "If you failed it means you tried" and the place where I am now feels good, I don't want to give up because my fears hold me back! Thank you, it meant a lot to me ❤️
my goodness I can totally relate. I used to be a dancer then I also tried modelling. Then I worked as an accountant. I tried blogging. Until I end up as a UA-camr. Finally it just feels so right! I know I'm on the right path. Thank you for your message. It encourages me and everyone for sure. ☺🤗
@Simply Pinay I took a quick look at you channel. Even though it isn't the kind of content that I'm into, I just wanted to tell you that everything looks very anesthetic 🤗 Keep going
I’ve been trying to figure out which career path I want to manifest, but you just helped me find the answer. Instead of focusing on one particular career, I should instead focus on the guidelines/criteria I want out of a career. Thank you for the enlightenment ✨
Thank you Aileen! 💕💕 Early morning here in Japan and I’m glad to listen to your words of encouragement and be reminded not to settle for less and not to give up searching for ways to create the life I want and go for the things that really matter to me.
once again your videos always come in good time 😭 I'm in mu early twenties and I'm fretting over my future and I tend to overthink a lot so thank you for sharing with us your points
YOU JUST SOLVED A PROBLEM THAT A 17 YEAR OLD WAS SUFFERING FROM FOR WEEKS. YOU HELPED ME FIGURE IT OUT! THANK YOU! PLEASE TREAT YOURSELF, YOUVE DONE SOMETHING THAT SOLVED WHAT WEEKS OF WATCHING UA-cam COULDNT!
I love how you have kept taking action and testing and expressing your creativity to find what finally clicked for you and felt right. 💛 taking action even if you have no clue if it’s going to work is SO important!
I am so thankful that I found lavendaire. I am really struggling on what course I am going to take for college, but after watching this video, Aileen gave me an idea to explore until I find what I truly love . I love you so much Aileen😘
I couldn’t agree more with trying to find what you really want to do, and experiencing all these jobs until you find what you really want to do. I feel like I’m on the exact same path as an artist and this was so uplifting. I think it’s important to learn how to enjoy the process and actively do what you set yourself out to do!
Thank you for sharing this! 🧡 I think I feel the same when you've just started Lavendaire. Next month it's going to be a year since I left my day job and started to pursue my dream. Same as you, I didn't have any income for a whole year, and a very little proof that I'm doing the right thing for me. So far the only thing that proves that I'm on the right path - is my own feeling of joy when I push my own boundaries and create a new character or a new level. I'm just not ready to give up without a fight, without knowing that I've done everything I could. Thanks for giving me hope!
When I thought no one could understand my struggles when i decided I want to drop everything and pursue my dream and I found you. I cried watching this video AiLeen . I really felt like this video was a recorded message from you to me. i had amnesia for the past weeks because i was panicked that is already June and was afraid because I havent been seeing progression and failing over and over again. i know I should be prepared to faced all of these obstacles and challenges but sometimes i just want to hear some kind words and motivation to get back on track. I want to thank you deeply Ai Leen at least i know I can refer to this video when I need to.
Thank you for your sharing. I've lost for almost 2 years after working restlessly in an agency and been searching for these kind of video to find out what I want to do with my life (yes i'm really desperate). Your video is the most powerful and helpful tbh. Tysm
Literally my life rn!!! 23, a year out of graduating with a music degree, and spent the last year questioning my career path and feeling unfulfilled when I kept thinking about the commitment to music. I love music and I love playing with people, but the lifestyle was something I didn’t want anymore. Now I’m slowly trying out visual art, digital art, illustration, and finding what I like and don’t like about it, and I’m loving this process because I’m learning so many new things about myself, my wants, and my needs.
I’m right now figuring out what I want to do in life and this video is exactly what I needed!! Thank you so much you really are making a positive impact in the world💕
I admire your determination and strength to find where your piece of the puzzle fits in this on growing society. I've been watching your videos for about two or three years now and currently, I'm getting close to a new chapter in my life, college. Watching your content inspires me to better myself and take a step back to look at a bigger picture. This video particularly calmed my fears of entering what they call "the real world."
Wow. A youtube video hasn't felt this personal to me before. I really love the way you articulated yourself and it really motivated me. Thank you, I needed this. :)
Omg this is so me. I was always the good student and kid and I still struggle living life. There are no rules and I am lost. Thanks for creating this video. It sparked some ideas
Your words remind me of Steve Jobs’s speech at Stanford -- “keep looking, don’t settle “. Trust your gut, be brave, and keep exploring, as life is a beautiful journey. You are really inspiring, and now I also decide to record my own journey of growing, learning, and succeeding ❤
Yeah, i'm having a hard time to figure out what i want to next at age 35, after 7 years working for a company.After stop, i spent a year basically not doing anything but travel and wander around and doing yoga. I'm still on the way finding my new path, by doing different things like taking course, travel more, meet more people... Dont know if it success to be honest, but i dont regret at all. Just take it on move and see how :).
It's such a perfect timing to see this video since I feel lost and don't no what to do with my life recently. I'm having a pretty good job right now, but it just doesn't make me feel happy and it doesn't give me the life that I want. Thank you for giving me the courage to step out and try to find my own way ❤️ Though it might take some time, I'll still try and listen to my heart. Hope I'll find it soon✨ Thank you again for what you have done, Aileen! ❤️
Hey Lavendaire, just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate this video. I don’t think you’ll ever understand how much this video resonated with me. Every little detail you shared is exactly the same in my life rn to the T, from the love for music/singing/piano, to being at 23 with the life shifts (I’m 23 rn), to personal development and alignment. Thank you so much.
Thank you for this! I am 22 right now and have only figured out everything you mentioned in the video within this year. I wish I had heard this advice when I was in high school, because I have spent so much time in college pursuing things that I thought I "should" do. However, it was through this process that I figured out what I want to do. I've gone back and forth in my head full of doubt about what path I should take in life, but the truth is I had the answer within me all along. I just kept ignoring it and cared too much about what people thought. Now I am fully believing in myself, taking that risk, and not letting what people say or think stop me. I feel so much happier and excited about the future rather than feeling stuck or dreadful of what's to come like I did when I was pursuing the things that felt 70% aligned to the life I want. And you're right. It's definitely about trial and error. I've always been someone that liked having a set a guidelines to follow, but I've realized that I just need to go out there and try different things to figure it out. I've heard a quote somewhere that goes something like, "You can't write your life story by sitting, thinking and planning it out, you have to go out there and just do things in order to write out your life" but with better wording than that lol. Just do what feels right and if it doesn't work out, then at least you tried. There are so many people out there who don't even try at all and the courage to do so is something to be proud about.
Aileen I love how honest and open you are about yourself and life. Your grit and determination is so inspiring and you've achieved so much at such a young age. Lavendaire has been one of the most helpful and life changing places to go to in the past few years for me. Thank you for not giving up on your dream and encouraging all of us to follow ours X
This totally took me back to watching you when your konmari videos first came out and they were just SO good! It really resonated with me that you were cleaning out your old childhood and college stuff.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the path of personal development and finding purpose. I believe I'm in a void but I'm trusting everything will turn out great and I will be guided. At the beginning I was so desperate because I didn't have things figured out but now I'm embracing the moment and knowing that I'm headed in the right direction.
This video is so genuine and I felt all words comes from your heart, it's felt me amazing and so motivated Aileen, thank you! Especially commitment and mental clarity are a must. 🙌
8:15 The fact Aileen made/makes her videos from a perspective of documenting progress, I believe, is one of the exact reasons why Lavendaire is so brilliant and why we connect so much with her! She’s teaching through sharing her own process of growth, overcoming her fears, learning from her failures and celebrating her successes big and small, authentically and in real time. The way she collaborates with and interviews other Artists of Life through her podcast and videos too is beautifully done. As well as the hard work and focus, it surely must require sooo much vulnerability and selflessness to open up like this? Honestly it’s just so special, refreshing and inspiring!
I really needed this video! I told my boss last week that I quit. It was so scary but I couldn't stay in a place that wasn't fulfilling. Right now I have absolutely no idea what to do, what career to pursue etc. But I will try until I find what's mine. Very beautiful message, thank you!
This video was super reassuring. I have always been conflicted about feeling called to help others but not feeling like I have it all together just yet to do it. You mentioning your start and how you didn't know but imagined it as your documentation of the process is exactly what I try to do. Thank you for being open and sharing.
Hey Aileen, loving the car vlogs and vlogs in general so hope to see more of them, love your content videos too. Great share today 👑💖 Keep searching through experimentation and never give up or compromise on being happy 😊
oh my god. This is NOT a messy car vlog. This is the best vlog I've seen on UA-cam. It's very, VERY informative and helpful. At 31, I'm still trying to figure out what I really want in life. I actually thought I had it figured out when I was 26. But things are changing now and I'm lost again. Thank you so much for this, Aileen. Thank you so SO much.
True . Me too I'm 31 and all along I thought I am doing the things I wanna do and I already doing my passion and my purpose but.... I have empty feeling right now.
A shoutout to your video and the right pop ups time to show. This is like acknowledgment for me that trial, error and afraid of failure should be the ways to identify align path towards dream life. Thanks.
This is one of my favorite videos! Love the sunset car vibe and hearing your journey is so helpful to where I am at now. I feel the confidence to take risks to try different things even if they don’t work out
You are so inspiring and so sincere! Thank you for this vlog! I watched a bunch of videos on this topic and didn’t want to spend another 15 minutes for the talk I’ve heard from every video but I am glad I turned on yours! I am in this situation where I was supposed to get a job in tech that I took courses for but realized that I really don’t want to go in that direction... I used to work for a company and I felt the same way as you describe it. I remember coming home drained and disappointed with understanding that I work hard, get almost nothing for it. I did something I don’t like and after all had no energy and time to make a change because of my family situation at that time.... I don’t want to go back...I also feel more like a creative person. I had a couple of jobs in the creative field and enjoyed it so much. So, I want to figure out my way in this direction. Thank you for sharing your story❤️ Wish you the best!
Gosh! How amazing you really are!! After going through an actually not-at-all-wanted semester... I badly needed some practical inspirations and thankfully I got to come across Lavendaire!! ❤❤❤ I just wanna thank you for being such an amazing source of Healing the mental scars and wounds!!
@Doris Schäfer I am sorry to hear it. This is a serious illness. I hope You have taken the treatment. There is nothing to be ashamed of..... You are still very young. Remember that regardless of everything there will be a New Day and New Possibilities.
@Doris Schäfer It's nice that you are fighting for yourself. The ending of a toxic relationship requires courage. When you understand what you are wise and strong everything will change. Good luck
Just wanted to say thank you for being so open and honest in sharing your personal experiences. I can relate to so many things that you've said. Thank you for inspiring
You have no idea how much I needed this 💚 thank you. Thank you for remaining authentic and remaining loyal to intuition. So much love and appreciation gurrrrl xxx
Thank you for following your dreams! - maybe you should make a second channel showcasing how people can get started on UA-cam and tips\courses we can do to get started and become better - all from your perspective of course 😘
I’ve had a lot of talks with mentors also and they never gave me the answer I wanted. I just wanted them to tell me what I should be doing with my life bc I was lost with what I should do. I think it all comes with experience. Don’t be scared to put yourself out there try out new jobs etc.
Today I had an extremely stressful day. Everyone came to me and all the pressures just flooded over me. Then I watch this video. When I saw the last sentence in the video: I am worthy. I am enough. My tears just flood over my eyes... So happy and so moved that you let me know that I am worthy and enough. Thank you!
Hi Aileen! Thank you so much for creating this video. I've been feeling really lost lately with no idea as to what I want to do in life, and it's been giving me a lot of anxiety. Hearing that you also went through this stage and that you simply have to go through a lot of trial and error makes me feel a lot better. I don't feel so alone in this struggle anymore. Thank you.
I am experiencing the same thing which you said that just helping other people to get money in the office and it wasn't meaningful to you. Thank you so much for this meaningful video, you're so sweet ☺️
It's so nice to see your vedio ..it's always leaves my mind with positive vibes...You're so positive,happy soul and beautiful inside out...Keep going...love you.
Thank you so much! I was working hard these weeks and in my university deliveries..and now I was really exhausted but thanks to you I know what to do next, thanks Aileen!
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"I've always been a good student, I knew how to get good grades and do well in school because there was a syllabus and homework and guidelines, and I felt like I had the rules set out and I knew how to work within the rules, but when life happened, I was like, there are no rules to life, it's too open-ended that I don't know what to do with my life."
GIRL, SAME!!!
Yes. What scares me the most. Life have no rules or instruction manual for us to follow. You yourself need to figure it out.
SAME!!!!
True 💯😭
exactly this is so relatable
That kinda reminds me of Kafka's little fable
feeling of failure is way more bearable than regretting not doing something and continue wondering what if i did it what could have happened
Abd Rahman 👏👏👏👏❤️
really grateful for this, this quote really made my day
It’s still taking me a while to learn that
THANK YOU, I NEED THIS! Was looking for a sign until I stumbled upon this. ❤️
needed to hear this !!
I’m in my late thirties and wish I had this advice in my twenties. I am now on a different path and spent many years struggling due to not finding my passion. But one piece of advice for those of you still searching, if you love your job but find that it doesn’t tick all the boxes, you can still have side hustles and hobbies or even volunteering on the side to fulfill other parts of yourself. Especially if you feel like it would be too tough to leave your job completely.
yes .. also one of the encouragement I wish I had received when I was younger would have been to explore side hustles while I had my first job because I think it was after that job that I just became more confused at people throwing jobs, learnerships and studies at me that I had no passion for .. which, I guess had me jumping from job to job .. but also, I probably had to go through those things to learn certain things about myself and the life that I am supposed to live ..
thanks for sharing ..!
I'm 29yrs. But age doesn't matter,keep on moving and be positive.❤
Thank you for this comment !
Thanks, we'll never stop learning til the day we die.
I am at the beginning of 30s now and I wish I heard these advices earlier. I am trying differnt side hustles. Hope I can figure out what actually align with me soon!
“your failures will lead you to where you’re meant to go” 🙏🏼🙏🏼 ty aileen!
yes!!
Lynne Zhang ❤️🦋
What if you're meant to go to a bad place? Lol
Lynne Zhang amen yes!!!!
I failed my college entrance exams today
Unrelated but I just want to say I love your makeup in this video. The way the sun is hitting your cheekbones is just beautiful.
aw thank you 😊
Hey guys!!
What’s up?
It’s your favourite 😍
Bald headed 👩🏾🦲
Bit*h✌️
*Don’t worry about figuring it out...*
Figuring life out is the fun part!
Truth!
Fun? I'm not finding it that much fun tbh...
I hate it! Im so stressed and feeling so much pressure to figure out what i want to do. Im 21 and I have absolutely no clue! Feels like everyone around me knows what they want and I cant even figure out what things I like
I find it fun but im not sure how to explain why I find it fun to people that don’t find it fun 😕 can’t seem to find the words
i hate it
"passion is the result of action, not the cause of it" - one of my favorite quotes, which seems to fit very well with this video!!
Nicole Leary this is so true! I feel like that’s where the true potential lays within people, the power to Do
I find it fascinating when people know at least what makes them feel joy. I tried a lot of things, tried college, tried working, but never found joy. I'm 24 living with my parents and just failed again in life. Not knowing what you like it's frustrating. But seeing time passing with no accomplishments and no money it's even worst.
Same girl. I'm 22 and I'm not working atm but I'm using this time to study spirituality, yoga, meditation, chakras and trying to understand why we're all here. I find myself being at peace and then I started watching martial arts videos and I'm trying to get into "krav maga" (best self defense art for women) and then I'll get a part time job to work around my schedule. I have a feeling it'll bring me joy and take away all this feeling of failure. But I'll stop ranting, maybe you can look for a hobby or volunteer. Goodluck 😘
I hope you're doing better now! But if not, it's alright, because your only real job in life is to figure yourself out.
That said, I really think the best advice is to try more things and keep going. There is so many things in the world that obviously we haven't tried them all. So, let's experience more things, new sports or manual activities. Have you ever gone hiking? Did you try pottery ? Sculpture? Learnt a new langage? What about teaching young people, carving wood, scuba diving, planting crops, taking care of animals, decorating a room?
@@ame_vagabonde thank you, this helped me a lot!
I'm 26 and I relate so much to what you say! I just dont know what I would like or have passion in...
_"How can you be 23, still struggling in life, struggling to make money, struggling to figure out what you're supposed to do."_
To be honest, I'm so happy to hear this. Currently 23, just graduated and in lost. It make me think how if you can do it, I should be able too. I am so glad I found your channel. Been marathoning your lifestyle videos and you've inspired me so much.
i am 23 and i am currently unemployed. i feel so so lost
"Your failure will lead you where to go" love that part.
your aesthetics of your videos and how they have a great purpose is amazing
love you so much 💜
thank u & love u dear
I love that you mentioned you were envious of other UA-camrs' lifestyles, but instead of harboring or spewing malice, you saw it as a huge clue as to what you really want for yourself. That's very mature of you on an emotional level. I think people need to learn how to transform that emotion into a positive like you did.
your envy is really telling :) it's a clue of what you desire, and instead of letting it be negative, you can let it fuel your growth!
@@lavendaire Definitely! If you ever find yourself jealous, it is better to use that person as an inspiration for what you want!
I am 22, recently graduated. I am currently in that situation whereby I'm so confused and even starting to doubt as to whether I did the right course. However, this video has really encouraged me. Thanks Aileen😊❤
debra mayisela same! What did you do about this x
Lavendaire is like an amalgamation of art, an open journal, a book club, a mentorship, a peaceful retreat, taking tea and chatting with your amazing bestie and so much more all at once dressed in love, beauty and empathy! It’s hard to express how proud and grateful I am... Thank you so much Aileen. We love you! 😍
Aww I appreciate this. Thank you & love you!!
Awwh. This is so sweet. I feel the same way but you said it eloquently
Her hair is giving me life ..and so is her message.
M. Jenkins haha YESSS!
Your videos are just pure magic✨
My main struggle is to work and make money but also love what I do😧
It sounds like such a simple desire but it's so difficult to attain. I feel you. I'm in the same boat right now in college. Hope you find what you're looking for ☺
Nadeen Rajab you and the rest of the world ):
this was possibly one of my favorite videos of yours! and i love a lot of your videos, it was so personal and engaging and inspirational and informative. :-) ALL AT ONCE!
Aw thank you Amy!!
You're so right Aileen. I'm just 23 but I've been experimenting with my life for quite a years now until I realised what I really want in my life. I started my career as a supervisor in one beauty company and then got promoted as a beautician and MUA in the same company after went to several classes they held. After that I quit and started my music journey. Work in a music class as a tutor. But then quit. Work as a model and quit. Work as an actress and quit. It's just not I want in my life. And then I took over my family business and never been happier. I never realised that all I want is being close with my parents. Even my financial is way more stable compared to all the works I've done before.
Thank you for that! I'm 22 and due to my personal situation I'm just going to Uni this year. I have this weird feeling that it's really late for me because most of my friends are already graduating and I'm just like...trying to figure out what to do with my life, still having Uni to get started... What I know for sure is that I don't wanna work in all those boring, generic places like corporations and so on. I just feel like it's not something for me even if it's a "comfort zone" option. Just always wanted to do something meaningful and well-payed. I know that in my early twenties, I still have time to find myself and figure out what is the best for me, but it feels like everything best around is already running out of time. Trying to convince myself that it's the wrong way of thinking, so despite of it I'm going to buy a guitar this year and start learn to sing as I always wanted (I think so) and will see if it'll work out. Maybe it's not too late ;) If not, well, I'll try something different again.
Btw, lately I started listening to your podcast and girl! I'm grateful. People like you gives me hope. Thank you.
Hi, Sherly! I’m glad you’re pursuing your educational goals. People go to university even at their late 40s. Besides, ‘it’s never too late’. Good luck at your beginnings🦋
Hey girl! I’m 21 and also searching for a degree to get at the university. Even though I tried studying linguistics for 1,5 year I dropout because it wasn’t enlightening to me. My goal is to find something finally and leave from Russia but I can’t choose because of the financial situation too. Also, I have a hobby which is singing and that’s great that you decided to try guitar! Go for it ☺️ Maybe you’ll start writing your own songs someday.
I did my degree at 40 and Masters at 50! You are never too late 🧡
Hey are you me ? Each and every thing resonates with me.
It's so depressing.
But now it's been 2 years. How r u and things ?
I'm in the middle of questioning my life. I want my life to be meaningful. But I don't know where to start. And then I stumble upon your video. It's a mind opening one. At least, I got myself an idea what to do first. I really thank you a lot for this video. Love from Indonesia
I needed this so much.. I just lost my job today.. I haven't been happy there anyways, but I didn't have the gut to leave my comfort zone. This talk is very helpful. Thank you so much. You are achieving your goals and keep inspiring us ❤️
Samar Suwaid something that worked for me after leaving a job I wasn’t happy at was looking at my every day passion (makeup) and doing that commercially at cosmetics counters. I would never get promoted at restaurants bc they could tell I hated it but with makeup I got promoted in less than one year!!!! Look at what you do every day that you don’t notice :) even if it’s something weird like organizing your house or something. There’s a job for that you just need to be creative about it
Samar Suwaid its all for a reason❤️❤️ something even better is on the way!!!!!
You are so right!!! It is scary to not give up when you’re still finding your calling... but we must continue on- thank you! Love all your content!
yeah I need to figure out what I need to do with my life!😂❤️
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Lavendaire definitely deserves more subscribers! Everytime i watch a video i feel inspired!💖🥰
I agree that often it can be trial and error combined with some deep digging to figure out what your passions really are. Thanks for sharing your inspiring story. The most important thing in life is to truly live your purpose and figure out what you were meant to do! Cheers!
You are so right about trying out so many things to find your true passion. Going through the journey is the scariest and the most exciting part about it.
Thank you so much for this video. Your heart of gold just radiates. I can literally feel how genuine you are about trying to uplift others. Stay you🌸
“Sometimes you don’t know that it’s right for you until you get there…”
This hit me hard! I’ve finally accomplished my childhood dream job but now I’m unsure if I fit into this or if it’s even right for me… But I still don’t wanna give up and gonna try find my way to make it best suitable for me. 💫😌
It’s no an accident that I saw this video!!! I’m a creator myself, and a girl sent me a DM saying how much my videos have helped her & told me to check you out as she thought i’d love it. Well, I LOVE YOU, and everything that you talked about resonates with me so much. I went to an acting school & thought it’s the life I wanted , but - shocker - it was not! I’m so committed to building my life as a conscious creator and I want to be a content creator like you. You inspire me SO MUCH, and it’s the only video I’ve seen of you. You’re amazing. THANK YOU.❤️❤️❤️
It's incredible how people from different parts of the world go through the same things , how the sentences resemble with my thoughts is really magical, once again thank you for existing
Thank you! I needed it, because lately I've been stuck with my fear of failure and I didn't know what to do. But now I know what to think "If you failed it means you tried" and the place where I am now feels good, I don't want to give up because my fears hold me back! Thank you, it meant a lot to me ❤️
my goodness I can totally relate. I used to be a dancer then I also tried modelling. Then I worked as an accountant. I tried blogging. Until I end up as a UA-camr. Finally it just feels so right! I know I'm on the right path. Thank you for your message. It encourages me and everyone for sure. ☺🤗
@Simply Pinay I took a quick look at you channel. Even though it isn't the kind of content that I'm into, I just wanted to tell you that everything looks very anesthetic 🤗 Keep going
@@komorebi3803 ohh thank you! 🤗😍
I’ve been trying to figure out which career path I want to manifest, but you just helped me find the answer.
Instead of focusing on one particular career, I should instead focus on the guidelines/criteria I want out of a career. Thank you for the enlightenment ✨
Best of luck to you. You are wonderful! I am on your course. You deserve all. You bring me so much joy. You radiate light.
Thank you Aileen! 💕💕 Early morning here in Japan and I’m glad to listen to your words of encouragement and be reminded not to settle for less and not to give up searching for ways to create the life I want and go for the things that really matter to me.
I really enjoyed this raw, in-the-moment video - I felt like I was sitting with a caring friend. Thanks, Aileen!
once again your videos always come in good time 😭 I'm in mu early twenties and I'm fretting over my future and I tend to overthink a lot so thank you for sharing with us your points
Grace Lum yes me too! Such perfect timing!!!!
YOU JUST SOLVED A PROBLEM THAT A 17 YEAR OLD WAS SUFFERING FROM FOR WEEKS. YOU HELPED ME FIGURE IT OUT! THANK YOU! PLEASE TREAT YOURSELF, YOUVE DONE SOMETHING THAT SOLVED WHAT WEEKS OF WATCHING UA-cam COULDNT!
You can always give me so much inspiration to continue to figured out who I am, and what to do with my life. Thanks so much! I will keep trying
I finally figure out “be a vblog”is my true passion for my fabulous 50+ life. Thank you for all your inspiration!
I love how you have kept taking action and testing and expressing your creativity to find what finally clicked for you and felt right. 💛 taking action even if you have no clue if it’s going to work is SO important!
yes! action will bring clarity
I am so thankful that I found lavendaire. I am really struggling on what course I am going to take for college, but after watching this video, Aileen gave me an idea to explore until I find what I truly love . I love you so much Aileen😘
I couldn’t agree more with trying to find what you really want to do, and experiencing all these jobs until you find what you really want to do. I feel like I’m on the exact same path as an artist and this was so uplifting. I think it’s important to learn how to enjoy the process and actively do what you set yourself out to do!
Thank you for sharing this! 🧡
I think I feel the same when you've just started Lavendaire. Next month it's going to be a year since I left my day job and started to pursue my dream. Same as you, I didn't have any income for a whole year, and a very little proof that I'm doing the right thing for me. So far the only thing that proves that I'm on the right path - is my own feeling of joy when I push my own boundaries and create a new character or a new level.
I'm just not ready to give up without a fight, without knowing that I've done everything I could. Thanks for giving me hope!
When I thought no one could understand my struggles when i decided I want to drop everything and pursue my dream and I found you. I cried watching this video AiLeen . I really felt like this video was a recorded message from you to me. i had amnesia for the past weeks because i was panicked that is already June and was afraid because I havent been seeing progression and failing over and over again. i know I should be prepared to faced all of these obstacles and challenges but sometimes i just want to hear some kind words and motivation to get back on track. I want to thank you deeply Ai Leen at least i know I can refer to this video when I need to.
Thank you for your sharing. I've lost for almost 2 years after working restlessly in an agency and been searching for these kind of video to find out what I want to do with my life (yes i'm really desperate). Your video is the most powerful and helpful tbh. Tysm
Literally my life rn!!! 23, a year out of graduating with a music degree, and spent the last year questioning my career path and feeling unfulfilled when I kept thinking about the commitment to music. I love music and I love playing with people, but the lifestyle was something I didn’t want anymore. Now I’m slowly trying out visual art, digital art, illustration, and finding what I like and don’t like about it, and I’m loving this process because I’m learning so many new things about myself, my wants, and my needs.
I’m glad I clicked this video! I’m 23 and lost. But you gave me hope that maybe I can find something I like to do!!
Momotan same!!❤️
Thank you for doing this! “Don’t settle for less”
I’m right now figuring out what I want to do in life and this video is exactly what I needed!! Thank you so much you really are making a positive impact in the world💕
I admire your determination and strength to find where your piece of the puzzle fits in this on growing society. I've been watching your videos for about two or three years now and currently, I'm getting close to a new chapter in my life, college. Watching your content inspires me to better myself and take a step back to look at a bigger picture. This video particularly calmed my fears of entering what they call "the real world."
Wow. A youtube video hasn't felt this personal to me before. I really love the way you articulated yourself and it really motivated me. Thank you, I needed this. :)
Omg this is so me. I was always the good student and kid and I still struggle living life. There are no rules and I am lost. Thanks for creating this video. It sparked some ideas
Your words remind me of Steve Jobs’s speech at Stanford -- “keep looking, don’t settle “. Trust your gut, be brave, and keep exploring, as life is a beautiful journey. You are really inspiring, and now I also decide to record my own journey of growing, learning, and succeeding ❤
This video is pure gold, simply put.
Much gratitude. Peace and love!
Yeah, i'm having a hard time to figure out what i want to next at age 35, after 7 years working for a company.After stop, i spent a year basically not doing anything but travel and wander around and doing yoga. I'm still on the way finding my new path, by doing different things like taking course, travel more, meet more people... Dont know if it success to be honest, but i dont regret at all. Just take it on move and see how :).
It's such a perfect timing to see this video since I feel lost and don't no what to do with my life recently.
I'm having a pretty good job right now, but it just doesn't make me feel happy and it doesn't give me the life that I want.
Thank you for giving me the courage to step out and try to find my own way ❤️
Though it might take some time, I'll still try and listen to my heart. Hope I'll find it soon✨
Thank you again for what you have done, Aileen! ❤️
Hey Lavendaire, just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate this video. I don’t think you’ll ever understand how much this video resonated with me. Every little detail you shared is exactly the same in my life rn to the T, from the love for music/singing/piano, to being at 23 with the life shifts (I’m 23 rn), to personal development and alignment. Thank you so much.
Thank you for this! I am 22 right now and have only figured out everything you mentioned in the video within this year. I wish I had heard this advice when I was in high school, because I have spent so much time in college pursuing things that I thought I "should" do. However, it was through this process that I figured out what I want to do. I've gone back and forth in my head full of doubt about what path I should take in life, but the truth is I had the answer within me all along. I just kept ignoring it and cared too much about what people thought. Now I am fully believing in myself, taking that risk, and not letting what people say or think stop me. I feel so much happier and excited about the future rather than feeling stuck or dreadful of what's to come like I did when I was pursuing the things that felt 70% aligned to the life I want. And you're right. It's definitely about trial and error. I've always been someone that liked having a set a guidelines to follow, but I've realized that I just need to go out there and try different things to figure it out. I've heard a quote somewhere that goes something like, "You can't write your life story by sitting, thinking and planning it out, you have to go out there and just do things in order to write out your life" but with better wording than that lol. Just do what feels right and if it doesn't work out, then at least you tried. There are so many people out there who don't even try at all and the courage to do so is something to be proud about.
Thank you for sharing all these positivities with us!!
To everyone reading this: *Hope you have a nice, positive day!* 🌈☀️
Aww you too❤
Aileen I love how honest and open you are about yourself and life. Your grit and determination is so inspiring and you've achieved so much at such a young age. Lavendaire has been one of the most helpful and life changing places to go to in the past few years for me. Thank you for not giving up on your dream and encouraging all of us to follow ours X
This totally took me back to watching you when your konmari videos first came out and they were just SO good! It really resonated with me that you were cleaning out your old childhood and college stuff.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the path of personal development and finding purpose. I believe I'm in a void but I'm trusting everything will turn out great and I will be guided. At the beginning I was so desperate because I didn't have things figured out but now I'm embracing the moment and knowing that I'm headed in the right direction.
Every time I watch your video, I have stronger mind to face with the challenge and the environment. Love you so much~
This was so nice!! I definitely approve of the vlog-in-your-car format :)) and very helpful as well, exactly what i needed!
^_^ glad you liked this chill chat
This video is so genuine and I felt all words comes from your heart, it's felt me amazing and so motivated Aileen, thank you! Especially commitment and mental clarity are a must. 🙌
This is one of my favorite videos from you. I love the casualness and yet the conviction you have in this one. 😊
I don't know how to look for my passion, what to try or how to know when something feels right, do you get me ?
8:15 The fact Aileen made/makes her videos from a perspective of documenting progress, I believe, is one of the exact reasons why Lavendaire is so brilliant and why we connect so much with her! She’s teaching through sharing her own process of growth, overcoming her fears, learning from her failures and celebrating her successes big and small, authentically and in real time. The way she collaborates with and interviews other Artists of Life through her podcast and videos too is beautifully done. As well as the hard work and focus, it surely must require sooo much vulnerability and selflessness to open up like this? Honestly it’s just so special, refreshing and inspiring!
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I really needed this video! I told my boss last week that I quit. It was so scary but I couldn't stay in a place that wasn't fulfilling. Right now I have absolutely no idea what to do, what career to pursue etc. But I will try until I find what's mine. Very beautiful message, thank you!
This video was super reassuring. I have always been conflicted about feeling called to help others but not feeling like I have it all together just yet to do it. You mentioning your start and how you didn't know but imagined it as your documentation of the process is exactly what I try to do. Thank you for being open and sharing.
Hey Aileen, loving the car vlogs and vlogs in general so hope to see more of them, love your content videos too. Great share today 👑💖 Keep searching through experimentation and never give up or compromise on being happy 😊
oh my god. This is NOT a messy car vlog. This is the best vlog I've seen on UA-cam.
It's very, VERY informative and helpful.
At 31, I'm still trying to figure out what I really want in life.
I actually thought I had it figured out when I was 26. But things are changing now and I'm lost again.
Thank you so much for this, Aileen. Thank you so SO much.
Yes yes yes i feel the same way!!!!!!!
True . Me too I'm 31 and all along I thought I am doing the things I wanna do and I already doing my passion and my purpose but....
I have empty feeling right now.
@@rainahigane5133 same for me
A shoutout to your video and the right pop ups time to show. This is like acknowledgment for me that trial, error and afraid of failure should be the ways to identify align path towards dream life. Thanks.
This is one of my favorite videos! Love the sunset car vibe and hearing your journey is so helpful to where I am at now. I feel the confidence to take risks to try different things even if they don’t work out
Relate 💯. From rules/step in school to no rules in life: the transition is hard.
Yep. 39 and still haven't figured it out
Your story is really inspiring. Got so much practical insights from it. I love to know about journey of successful and inspiring people. Loved it..
You are so inspiring and so sincere! Thank you for this vlog! I watched a bunch of videos on this topic and didn’t want to spend another 15 minutes for the talk I’ve heard from every video but I am glad I turned on yours! I am in this situation where I was supposed to get a job in tech that I took courses for but realized that I really don’t want to go in that direction... I used to work for a company and I felt the same way as you describe it. I remember coming home drained and disappointed with understanding that I work hard, get almost nothing for it. I did something I don’t like and after all had no energy and time to make a change because of my family situation at that time.... I don’t want to go back...I also feel more like a creative person. I had a couple of jobs in the creative field and enjoyed it so much. So, I want to figure out my way in this direction. Thank you for sharing your story❤️ Wish you the best!
Gosh! How amazing you really are!! After going through an actually not-at-all-wanted semester... I badly needed some practical inspirations and thankfully I got to come across Lavendaire!! ❤❤❤ I just wanna thank you for being such an amazing source of Healing the mental scars and wounds!!
I literally watch your videos every morning
Im 40 and naw I need to figure out what I need to do with my life!
Katarzyna K the age doesn’t matter and it’s never too late to take control of your life 😊
@@kpoppearls472 :)
@Doris Schäfer I am sorry to hear it. This is a serious illness. I hope You have taken the treatment. There is nothing to be ashamed of..... You are still very young. Remember that regardless of everything there will be a New Day and New Possibilities.
@Doris Schäfer It's nice that you are fighting for yourself. The ending of a toxic relationship requires courage. When you understand what you are wise and strong everything will change. Good luck
@Doris Schäfer mid 20s here and im the same :(
Just wanted to say thank you for being so open and honest in sharing your personal experiences. I can relate to so many things that you've said. Thank you for inspiring
You have no idea how much I needed this 💚 thank you. Thank you for remaining authentic and remaining loyal to intuition. So much love and appreciation gurrrrl xxx
I relate so much to you, I feel like I could’ve said all that, I so want to do well on here but, keep making excuses. Thanks for the video 😘
Thank you for following your dreams! - maybe you should make a second channel showcasing how people can get started on UA-cam and tips\courses we can do to get started and become better - all from your perspective of course 😘
I’ve had a lot of talks with mentors also and they never gave me the answer I wanted. I just wanted them to tell me what I should be doing with my life bc I was lost with what I should do. I think it all comes with experience. Don’t be scared to put yourself out there try out new jobs etc.
Today I had an extremely stressful day. Everyone came to me and all the pressures just flooded over me. Then I watch this video. When I saw the last sentence in the video:
I am worthy. I am enough.
My tears just flood over my eyes...
So happy and so moved that you let me know that I am worthy and enough.
Thank you!
I am so inspired by you and I watch your videos every day
Just what I needed! Thank you so much for making this video 💕
Srsly wow you always give me inspiration and u always make me wanna cry. the power u have is real 💕
Hi Aileen! Thank you so much for creating this video. I've been feeling really lost lately with no idea as to what I want to do in life, and it's been giving me a lot of anxiety. Hearing that you also went through this stage and that you simply have to go through a lot of trial and error makes me feel a lot better. I don't feel so alone in this struggle anymore. Thank you.
Thank for spreading your positivity & sharing your life journey 🌻🌈🌞
artwork kh 👏👏👏❤️
I needed this, Aileen. Divine timing. Thank you for sharing ya light on us today! 😁
I am experiencing the same thing which you said that just helping other people to get money in the office and it wasn't meaningful to you.
Thank you so much for this meaningful video, you're so sweet ☺️
listening to you comes me down and makes me believe in my self.
More videos like this Aileen! It feels like I am having conversations with a friend. 💕
It's so nice to see your vedio ..it's always leaves my mind with positive vibes...You're so positive,happy soul and beautiful inside out...Keep going...love you.
Thank you so much! I was working hard these weeks and in my university deliveries..and now I was really exhausted but thanks to you I know what to do next, thanks Aileen!