To any women who are reading this: Men HATE it when women cancel dates on them at the last minute. What it tell us is that you don't value our time or our feelings, and we would much rather you just say no to us when we ask you out than for you to agree to a date and then cancel it at the last minute.
Never be afraid of leaving the ball on her court. Also Never chase, when a woman likes you, she will definitely make time and make it pretty clear she’s into you.
Totally up to you my man. Personally, I give the girl the benefit of the doubt if she cancels and give her the opportunity to make it right. Life happens and sometimes there's a legitimate reason why they can't make it. However, if she cancels last minute or completely stands you up, kick em to the curb.
Yeah I was stood up a couple of weeks ago now despite the last text from her saying she can't wait to meet up. Heard nothing from her on the day or the day after so I left it at that and decided she's not worth my time or effort. Doesn't take much effort on her part to say something, because she didn't she obviously doesn't give a toss about my time. Good riddance.
On the first example, I believe you should NEVER reply, not even "No worries", which implies no consequences for this rude attitude. Actions are a lot more powerful than words. When a girl likes you, she WILL make time for you. The one who cares the least, holds all the power! Those who do not appreciate my presence, will appreciate my absence. I deal with those who deal with me. P.S. Love your videos
Appreciate your input man! The way I see it is, if she cancels and doesn't offer another time to reschedule, the consequence is she isn't going to hear from me anymore after the " No worries" text. She has to contact me and suggest meeting up from there on out if she wants to see me. There will be no more effort on my end. By responding in an indifferent manner like how I mentioned, you are showing that you don't care, whereas a lack of response can indicate that you are angry and do care. However, if a girl cancels last minute without good reason then at that point she does not deserve a response nor a second chance even if she does reach out in the future. It really depends on the context. You can go about it the way you're doing now and can still see results. However, I think no response is more suited for blatantly disrespectful behavior. Thanks for watching!
I would agree say nothing. But it is not easy, there is a big chance she only made a date in the first place simply to stroke her own ego. So she took advantage of us, used us, deceived us just for her own selfish purpose... and if this is the case, she did not like us anyway and will not come back in the future (unless she thinks she can get an ego boost). So it is naturally to feel angry at her, and try to return to her the negative feelings that she caused us.... what, them, is wrong in writing "you are a fool wasting my time, do not text me again"???
Guys relax. Same thing just happened to me last week, and I responded "hey thanks for letting me know! Feel better!" And you know what, she contacted me a few days later and went on a date. We got married soon after.
@@Lana.a_ I say move on pretend that woman didn't even exist and target another person. Life to short for games. There to many women out there to go after. I don't even sweat it
As a man. Don't reply, block and delete their number. I'm sorry, but don't cancel last minute. I was canceled the day of the date after I showered, dressed up, and spritzed on fragrance.
A girlfriend cancelled on a date that she herself set less than an hour before. To make the date, I had to stop working earlier and get up earlier. I'm not going to make myself available at the same time again, as she did not respect the commitment last time. If she wants to contact and make another time it's gonna be when it suits me and no other time. Don't make them a priority when it's not reciprocated.
I had a situation like that recently. She cancelled at the last minute, so I said sure I understand. I wasn't talking to her after that for a day and she asked me If I'm mad the next day. I waited a few hours and then said that I understood she cancelled, but I do not tolerate the behavior, I value my time and I would like the other person to value it as well. I don't think we can make it work. I don't think she will reach out but it felt kind of good.
trust this - just reply "ok". and send it. that's it. she proposes an alternative . ok, good. dont get too excited but its a good sign. there is no reply etc from her - bad sign and clear signal - didn't want to and doesn't want to meet with you. life is simple - pick up techniques make it more complicated that it is.
Yeah so today is her birthday and she said I can’t hangout today, I don’t feel good and am having a bad day. She’s already canceled like 5 different times as well. And Soo those times she ALSO cancelled the same day because of “work” or “having a bad day”. I get the vibe she’s lying straight through her teeth. You can’t use I was called Into work 5 times in a row.
Plus If you truly like someone would you not want them to make you feel better on your birthday? Even if YOU ARE HAVING a bad day you’d say “I still wanna see you and I know my day will be better”
A girl that truly likes, values, and respects you will not do that. She likes the attention and validation that you give her, but she doesn't like you. Girls make time for guys they like. Wish her the best and find someone else that appreciates you. You can and will find someone better.
@@miamitrancemissions6425 I think you’re right. So first off she lives 45 - 50 miles away and I feel like I need someone closer. Also, you think that if she has used work as an excuse multiple times and especially just “a bad day” on her birthday is a lie? And the thing is like you said I HAVE experienced girls that a couple times they said they got called into work. BUT we DID see each other after that the next day off. Vs. This she KEEPS cancelling always on the day of. Then keeps asking again a day we could meet. And then the day comes “hey I got called into work or I’m super tired , I don’t think tonight will work”. I’ve been with a girl plenty of times where it was NOT like this at all. Sooo yeah. Maybe time to find someone a lot closer mile wise and someone who Wants To show up at my house and surprise me and go on dates et.
Look. Overaall it does NOT matter. Man chasing dreams, purpose, goal, advancement, excellence, evolving day by day, will not care if a girl cancels or not. Period. In fact, you should call her out on her flakyness. If she has burning desire she will go along. If not, you had no chance to begin with. simple as that. Do not overcomplicate.
A colleague canceled a date 2weeks ago, 30 mn before saying she was at hospital with her Grandmother over text. I was angry but responded: “ ok I understand, hoping it’s nothing serious “. She didn’t apologize and didn’t called me back to explain what happened. I started acting distant at work. Sometimes I don’t great her. Today we’re not talking to each other. She doesn’t make moves.
If she suggests another day/time to meet up then her cancelling was most likely valid. If she doesnt offer another time to meet up after cancelling then delete her number and move on.
Came here to see if I had the right instincts; glad to find out that I did. Everything this video suggested, I already did before seeing this, and it's been 2 days of me not talking to her until she replies with the reschedule I asked for. I said to her "Okay, no problem. Let me know a different date/time that you're free that you'd like to reschedule to." She responded to my first sentence, but not the one about rescheduling. So I left her on read until she messages back literally anything and decides she is interested enough to break my silence. She did cancel long enough in advance (3 hours and 1/2 before the date on a Friday work-day), so I am okay about that, it's not like she totally screwed me over, but I do notice she doesn't seem anxious enough to reschedule on her own...unless she just thinks that's "the man's job."
I got the 3 scenario today. I rescheduled (i thought that was a reasonable thing to do) but she hasnt answered in 8 hours. Probably she wont answer. Women are complicated
so we're talking about an old friend here. Recently, she has shown signs of interest in me via socials (haven't seen her in 3 years). So we met up last week and things went great, as expected she is definitely interested in me. (holding hands etc.) We did make plans to go out today but she cancelled (about 1,5 hours before we were supposed to meet up, AFTER i texted her to tell me when she got on the train) and told me that she can't make it tonight because she has to fill in for somebody at work the next day and had to go to sleep early. However, she said she's sorry and she really wanted to see me again, and asked if i was free next week and she could come to my town. I told her "no worries, just lmk on time when you're free" and left it at that. Did i handle that well enough?
I don't respond at all. I don't even open it. Let her think you already have another date. Women cancel for one reason only. They are meeting another man.
@@kentmarcus1255 please make a video on exercising self control and not reaching out to women from your past that have ignored you, dumped you, or blown you off. I struggle with this.
@@kentmarcus1255 Would you consider it weak and beta to delete a match from an online dating app if she is not responsive or shows a low level of attraction?
I believe you can be close ended when you respond to her flaking . Unless she there and then asks when you're available or tells you what day she can do to make up for it, just respond close ended. As Chris from would say "if a woman flakes, Cut contact "
If you're not boyfriend and girlfriend then you reply... "Right. Well enjoy the other match tonight and best of luck to you," and ninja vanish and cut all contact. 99.9% of the time I've encountered this behavior from girls on OLD and Meetup groups; Or any venue online to "meet" people. If you allow her to flake on you once, then best believe she's prepping to monkey branch onto some other bum in her queue.
Scenerio: woman cancels a second date at the last minute and says she isn't into pursuing a relationship. Then she calls back three weeks later and asks for a second date, which she cancels again at the last minute because she didn't realize that she had to work later that day.
I personally wouldn’t bother scheduling another date and would kick her to the curb. Cancelling two dates last minute, especially if she didn’t try and reschedule either of them, is rude and shows a low level of interest. There’s too many women on this earth to settle for wishy washy, disrespectful behavior like that.
As a woman I do this when I’m bored I set dates but when the time is near I lose interest and don’t feel like going out so cancel date last minute. She is not into you but she is just bored. You need to move on.
I'll tell you what happened, the last minute cancellation suggests something better came up; a better date, a better activity... unfortunately your date was just a placeholder for something better. Happens to all of us.
If she cancels like an hour before the date I usually write that I was really exited to meet them and if something happens then we will have a quick talk and I usually manage to make the date happen,
I acted just like you said (didnt even see video before), when she told me that we can go out to see movie (as i proposed), but first she wants to see how her work schedule will align next week so she will tell me tommorow, and she asked if is it ok with me- i said that sure, let me know when you know schedule. She didnt send anything next day, or day after, so i just deleted her number. I came to conclusion that she is liar, and doesnt have respect, but still it is strange because on first date she was touching me, we were kissing, holding hands, she is playing games for sure, trying to act cold, well i dont need that. But, i dont agree with you that if you say "let me know when you are avaliable and we will make plans" that it will put her in pursue, since you asked for date, which makes you avaliable and open, and she knows if she wants a date she can have it since you told her that she only needs to say when she is free. She is in control that way and feels she has power over outcome.
I'd say that it depends on the way she cancels. If she has a legit excuse with a remorseful apology and also gives a reschedule option, that is when you slow play/re-plan. But if it's a flake with a lame excuse and no genuine remorse/offer to reschedule? The best response is not to respond at all treating it as read only. 1) It shows indifference while also avoiding confirmation you're cool with being flaked on. 2) Any variation of "OK" (no worries, no problem, etc) only gives her permission to do it again.
"No worries, have a great week!" If they ask you again, don't make them a priority right away, I.e. if they ask you out for dinner Friday, suggest coffee on a following Wednesday.
All of this game playing for what...a four or five on the scale? I know looks are subjective, but stepping back and looking at it objectively, she's probably a 2-3 (looks and personality combined) on the scale. Which is why no self respecting man ever put a ring on it.
Two words that definitely work Your dumped I guarantee you’ll get response’s you never dreamed of hahahaha not good responses but it’ll wake her conscious up
What if she canceled day before we should meed ,even if we 2 days back talked about meet and go outside together ... She said .. im giving know you before,that we cant meet together. I hope you wont feel angry . Then i responded just 2 hours about simple : good so, I will make other arrangements then. Was my answer normal correct ? I was feeled little sad that she canceled buti think i gaved hed stoic answer ... In that second she only liked that message and not responded .. did i something wrong? Also forgot that she sended me before that her text photo which shows she sit with someone on mcdonald . But i dont know if girl or boy .. so .. like making me jealous ? Thats why i answered like that
If she cancels but wants a reschedule, then she should be the one to plan the date. I, for one, would not take on the task of planning the date again at that point- its now her responsibility if she actually wants to see me.
Hey man hope ur doing well! I tried to follow up a date with this girl from my work (2nd time) but I think she is going to ghost me. I asked her out in person this time and tired to follow up with a set day and time. I’m just going to cut my losses and move on. When I see her at work, should I just completely ignore her or just a “hello” and nothing else be enough? I see this girl once/twice a week at work
What is giving you the impression she is going to ghost you? When you asked her out and tried to set the place and time for the date what did she say? If she does cancel the date or ghost you then when you see her at work just be cordial. I wouldn't ignore her but I wouldn't be going out of your way to talk to her either. If you cross paths you can smile and say hi and that's it. If she wants to start a conversation with you then that's fine, otherwise don't bother.
@@kentmarcus1255 I asked her out on Friday at work in person and she said “yes she’s down.” Then I text her the next day to confirm for this Monday at 2pm and no response since. I’m not going to look at her Instagram stories anymore either, cos I know if I see something I don’t like it will just kill me inside lol.
@@The369Souljaman Well if she didn't respond to your confirmation text then yeah I would take that as a ghost. I would also recommend you watch my video "Subtle Way To Confirm A First Date" so in the future you can use that strategy and not come off as unsure of whether the date is still on or not. Also, I would recommend making dates for the night as those more often lead to romance than having dates during the day like the one you had planned. Regardless, her interest is very low and I wouldn't waste your time investing any more effort or attention on her whatsoever. So continuing to not watch her stories or engage with her social media is a great idea. Start focusing your attention on women who are reciprocating.
@@kentmarcus1255 Yeh I would of set the date for night time but my area is still in lockdown and the only thing you can do just now is go for coffee and a walk. Thanks for the advice my friend 👌🏽
Late to the game here, but yeah, this girl has zero romantic interest in you. Otherwise you wouldn't have had to follow up. This is passive aggressive behavior and trust me, you dodged a bullet. At the beginning you should be operating on a "fuck yes or no" mindset. Just keep it at "hi and bye"
The girl im talking with suddenly moves distant emotionally and comes back. Should I reply normally when she talks back or should I act distant ? Because everytime she moves away and comes back and if im always there, wouldnt she take me for granted ? But if I act distant when she comes back, would I be a cold fish ? Which this coach always advices against. This is a dilemma that I've been going through recently. Kindly help me
How do you reply when she contacts you? You should be mirroring her with texting in terms of length, energy, and time. So for instance, if she takes two hours to respond to your message, I would take at least two hours to get back to her. However, taking longer than her is even better. If she is responding to you with one or two sentences, you shouldn't be sending her paragraph responses. You should be replying close to the same amount in length as she is. Again, less than her is better here too. In terms of energy, if she isn't sending emojis, exclamations, or question marks, then neither should you. In general I would stay away from using emojis, exclamations, and question marks as often as possible unless she uses them frequently. All of the above strategies help you maintain frame and not over-pursue her. It's also important that you aren't trying to have long conversations over text with her. The phone should be for setting dates, so after a few messages back and forth using the strategies I have just provided, you should be trying to make a definite date with her.
I know how frustrating it can be, but you gotta remain cool, calm, and collected. You have to show that you're centered, but if she continues to cancel, especially for bs reasons, kick her to the curb.
Those who don't reply just look butthurt, emotionally weak, and like a kid throwing the toys out of the cot. If the girl had any interest left at all, she definitely doesn't after seeing straight through your passive aggressive behaviour.
You forgot one more scenario Ken: When she cancels a date once the date has started, Let me explain my experience: I picked her up at her place, and just when we were at the gas station, she asked me emphatically to take her back home. Just like that. I didn't know what to do, say or how to react. she insisted and finally I took her home and my night was violently ended by this unexpected situation. Needless to say, we broke up shortly after. So My question is: How should we react or do in this case? Thank you Ken
You should have left her at the gas station. That would have let her possibly get picked up by a group of drunk bikers that could have run train on her all night.
I had THREE girls cancel day of this week. I was happy they did. Lol. I really didn't want to go. Don't know why I even set them up In the first place. They all tried to reschedule. I didn't respond. I would have if I were actually interested I might have rescheduled
“Hi!! I unfortunately can’t hang out tonight and am away starting Thursday, but I’d love to hang out again soon!” This is the exact text I got from a girl. We went on only one date and this is the second time she cancels a second date …
Personally I wouldn’t even bother responding. You aren’t a priority to her, otherwise she wouldn’t have canceled back to back. She didn’t even attempt to reschedule for this one either, and you should want a woman who is as enthusiastic to see you as you are to see her.
@@kentmarcus1255 100% Agree, however I am a very much "nice guy" who cannot possibly ghost a woman even after this behavior, so I did reply, i sort of just said let me know when you figure it out kind of a thing, pretty indifferent sounding text. I honestly dont care if she reaches back out or not. I am just pissed that we had a great first date, we kissed a long time, she was making future plans on the spot, things were really going well. I have no idea if she is playing games, hard to get, or some kind of a test to see how truly interested I am. Like I said ,I do not care any more.
What about when she precedes the cancellation with a warning a day or two that she may need to cancel? She didn't ask to reschedule (it was a special event), but did reach out to me after not hearing from me after a week. Give her another chance, or be done with her?
If a girl tells you that she may need to cancel, that makes it a “maybe date” which I would not agree to, because what she is telling you is the plans aren’t definite and she can essentially back out at any time. In a case like that I would retract the offer and say something along the lines of” it sounds like your schedule is pretty backed up so how about we do it some other time when you know you’re free?” And leave it at that. If she’s interested she will solidify the plans you made, and if not she will reach out in the future and just use the opportunity to set a definite date. That’s the same thing I would do in this scenario. It’s good that you backed off because you showed her that you aren’t desperate and that she needs to put in the effort since she’s the one who cancelled. Since she reached out first, I would give her one more chance and make a definite date. If she gives you a wishy washy answer again, retract the offer like the way I mentioned, and if she cancels again then move on to the next one.
@@kentmarcus1255 Thank you. She also asked if I'm angry at her. (I am miffed she cancelled, albeit preceded with a 'warning' -- I interpret that as her not making me a top priority.) Tell her the truth that I am somewhat, or play it off as no biggie?
@@helloscammer you definitely don’t want to give the impression that you’re mad at her. She did warn you that she might cancel and you accepted those terms, so you can’t be mad that she did. Just moving forward don’t agree to dates that aren’t definite. I would play it off like it’s no biggie and make a definite date ( ie. definite day, place, and time) since she’s contacted you. Don’t waste too much time texting back and forth. Be decisive and get to the point. If she cancels again I wouldn’t bother with her anymore because then it’s obvious her interest is low.
Fair enough, and that’s why I tell guys to not chase if a date is cancelled, while giving the benefit of the doubt and allowing one more chance as long as she is making an effort to reschedule. However, if you’re not feeling the dude, I would suggest not wasting his time by rescheduling if you plan on cancelling again.
I delete after first flake. First date flake is a no go. I dont care if your mother died and it's a huge tragedy Because even then that only means Dating isn't and shouldn't be your priority in the first place so GO HANDLE DAT! oh well im a gay man but still SAME RULES!
See I take issue with the suggestion (a common one in videos like this) that being annoyed with a girl for flaking on you or ghosting you is a sign of emotional instability. Sometimes, anger is perfectly reasonable and justified in the circumstances. Women, if you don’t like guys getting angry with you for flaking on them, stop flaking on them. Notice that I said “anger” not “aggression”.
Even though this channel is geared more towards men, the principles remain the same. I would use the same strategies I talk about in this video if a guy cancels on you. At the end of the day, a relationship is a two way street. If he cancels a date, it's his job to reschedule. If he doesn't, then he isn't interested and would not waste your time with him.
I got my first date cancelled on me today 😌 we were workmates and we talked about that already last week about the saturday date... and remind her also on friday a day before our date on me picking her up at her place but then on saturday 30 mins before i supposed to pick her up she texted me " i forgot todays my grandmas birthday and we celebrating it i couldn't make it tonight im so sorry" 😔 i did not respond but I read her text message... should i communicate with her or just move on?
Interesting, every time a girl has pulled this garbage and I reply politely they never respond. Funny enough when I don’t respond at all they almost always call back a few days later. Usually I let them reschedule the next date but I insist it’s close to where I live. No hanky Panky intentions, just in case they stand me up. Easy trip back home and not too much effort.
That definitely can work as well. I think it depends on the context and how well you know her. If this is a first or second date and she cancels for what seems like a bogus reason without offering to reschedule, then it’s well within your right to not respond and nowadays is probably what I would do too. If this is someone you’ve been dating for a while and this is the first time it has happened, then it may be legit and you might want to respond differently.
If they like you they will never cancel on you no matter the reason except for DEATH. Why? Because you as a man never canceled on a date with a girl that you really like. That would be insane for you to do so. So it’s insanity to think she’s still interested in you if she cancels on you.
To any women who are reading this: Men HATE it when women cancel dates on them at the last minute. What it tell us is that you don't value our time or our feelings, and we would much rather you just say no to us when we ask you out than for you to agree to a date and then cancel it at the last minute.
Women don’t generally care what impact their actions have on you, particularly once they’ve decided they aren’t interested in sex with you.
Never be afraid of leaving the ball on her court. Also Never chase, when a woman likes you, she will definitely make time and make it pretty clear she’s into you.
the power of your indifference speaks volumes to women.
I just don’t even bother replying back. Nothing. I move on and I delete her number
Totally up to you my man. Personally, I give the girl the benefit of the doubt if she cancels and give her the opportunity to make it right. Life happens and sometimes there's a legitimate reason why they can't make it. However, if she cancels last minute or completely stands you up, kick em to the curb.
I’ve had to delete around 10 numbers btw they suggested me taking their number while we texting on one of the various apps
Amen to that
Best way mate.
Yeah I was stood up a couple of weeks ago now despite the last text from her saying she can't wait to meet up. Heard nothing from her on the day or the day after so I left it at that and decided she's not worth my time or effort. Doesn't take much effort on her part to say something, because she didn't she obviously doesn't give a toss about my time. Good riddance.
On the first example, I believe you should NEVER reply, not even "No worries", which implies no consequences for this rude attitude. Actions are a lot more powerful than words. When a girl likes you, she WILL make time for you.
The one who cares the least, holds all the power!
Those who do not appreciate my presence, will appreciate my absence. I deal with those who deal with me.
P.S. Love your videos
Appreciate your input man! The way I see it is, if she cancels and doesn't offer another time to reschedule, the consequence is she isn't going to hear from me anymore after the " No worries" text. She has to contact me and suggest meeting up from there on out if she wants to see me. There will be no more effort on my end. By responding in an indifferent manner like how I mentioned, you are showing that you don't care, whereas a lack of response can indicate that you are angry and do care. However, if a girl cancels last minute without good reason then at that point she does not deserve a response nor a second chance even if she does reach out in the future. It really depends on the context. You can go about it the way you're doing now and can still see results. However, I think no response is more suited for blatantly disrespectful behavior. Thanks for watching!
I would agree say nothing. But it is not easy, there is a big chance she only made a date in the first place simply to stroke her own ego. So she took advantage of us, used us, deceived us just for her own selfish purpose... and if this is the case, she did not like us anyway and will not come back in the future (unless she thinks she can get an ego boost). So it is naturally to feel angry at her, and try to return to her the negative feelings that she caused us.... what, them, is wrong in writing "you are a fool wasting my time, do not text me again"???
Guys relax. Same thing just happened to me last week, and I responded "hey thanks for letting me know! Feel better!" And you know what, she contacted me a few days later and went on a date. We got married soon after.
I agree, no worries sounds weak
I AGREE NEVER REPLY NO WORRIES
Basically women dont Give a F bout our feelings and we need to learn how to take emotional abuse
what woman hurt you damn 😭
"Who's this?"...."Yeah. Whatever."
@@Lana.a_ I say move on pretend that woman didn't even exist and target another person. Life to short for games. There to many women out there to go after. I don't even sweat it
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No problem. But actually it's my way of saying I'm not asking her out ever again.
Lmfao i said that to her today, "no problem" to her cancelling the date
As a man. Don't reply, block and delete their number.
I'm sorry, but don't cancel last minute.
I was canceled the day of the date after I showered, dressed up, and spritzed on fragrance.
Just tell her to hit you up when she's ready, and leave it there
A girlfriend cancelled on a date that she herself set less than an hour before. To make the date, I had to stop working earlier and get up earlier. I'm not going to make myself available at the same time again, as she did not respect the commitment last time. If she wants to contact and make another time it's gonna be when it suits me and no other time. Don't make them a priority when it's not reciprocated.
Everything he laid out was perfect!
I had a situation like that recently. She cancelled at the last minute, so I said sure I understand. I wasn't talking to her after that for a day and she asked me If I'm mad the next day. I waited a few hours and then said that I understood she cancelled, but I do not tolerate the behavior, I value my time and I would like the other person to value it as well. I don't think we can make it work. I don't think she will reach out but it felt kind of good.
trust this - just reply "ok". and send it. that's it. she proposes an alternative . ok, good. dont get too excited but its a good sign. there is no reply etc from her - bad sign and clear signal - didn't want to and doesn't want to meet with you. life is simple - pick up techniques make it more complicated that it is.
If a girl cancels the date the day before or the same day, just block her and her number and move on. Never reply to the text.
Yeah so today is her birthday and she said I can’t hangout today, I don’t feel good and am having a bad day. She’s already canceled like 5 different times as well. And Soo those times she ALSO cancelled the same day because of “work” or “having a bad day”. I get the vibe she’s lying straight through her teeth. You can’t use I was called Into work 5 times in a row.
Plus If you truly like someone would you not want them to make you feel better on your birthday? Even if YOU ARE HAVING a bad day you’d say “I still wanna see you and I know my day will be better”
A girl that truly likes, values, and respects you will not do that. She likes the attention and validation that you give her, but she doesn't like you. Girls make time for guys they like. Wish her the best and find someone else that appreciates you. You can and will find someone better.
@@miamitrancemissions6425 I think you’re right. So first off she lives 45 - 50 miles away and I feel like I need someone closer. Also, you think that if she has used work as an excuse multiple times and especially just “a bad day” on her birthday is a lie? And the thing is like you said I HAVE experienced girls that a couple times they said they got called into work. BUT we DID see each other after that the next day off. Vs. This she KEEPS cancelling always on the day of. Then keeps asking again a day we could meet. And then the day comes “hey I got called into work or I’m super tired , I don’t think tonight will work”. I’ve been with a girl plenty of times where it was NOT like this at all. Sooo yeah. Maybe time to find someone a lot closer mile wise and someone who Wants To show up at my house and surprise me and go on dates et.
Don’t block her. That’s an emotional reaction and Then she knows you’re emotional about it. Just ghost them and speak to a new chick
I like how u give examples
Look. Overaall it does NOT matter. Man chasing dreams, purpose, goal, advancement, excellence, evolving day by day, will not care if a girl cancels or not. Period. In fact, you should call her out on her flakyness. If she has burning desire she will go along. If not, you had no chance to begin with. simple as that. Do not overcomplicate.
No response is required for scenario 1, 2 or 4.
A colleague canceled a date 2weeks ago, 30 mn before saying she was at hospital with her Grandmother over text. I was angry but responded: “ ok I understand, hoping it’s nothing serious “. She didn’t apologize and didn’t called me back to explain what happened. I started acting distant at work. Sometimes I don’t great her. Today we’re not talking to each other. She doesn’t make moves.
Don’t worry man. She is a bad person. There are real people who recognize this. Shun these people who act this way.
If she suggests another day/time to meet up then her cancelling was most likely valid. If she doesnt offer another time to meet up after cancelling then delete her number and move on.
Correct
Came here to see if I had the right instincts; glad to find out that I did. Everything this video suggested, I already did before seeing this, and it's been 2 days of me not talking to her until she replies with the reschedule I asked for. I said to her "Okay, no problem. Let me know a different date/time that you're free that you'd like to reschedule to." She responded to my first sentence, but not the one about rescheduling. So I left her on read until she messages back literally anything and decides she is interested enough to break my silence. She did cancel long enough in advance (3 hours and 1/2 before the date on a Friday work-day), so I am okay about that, it's not like she totally screwed me over, but I do notice she doesn't seem anxious enough to reschedule on her own...unless she just thinks that's "the man's job."
If a girl likes you, she won't miss the date. And even still, she definitely will text you to make plans if the first date didn't work out
I got the 3 scenario today. I rescheduled (i thought that was a reasonable thing to do) but she hasnt answered in 8 hours. Probably she wont answer. Women are complicated
They are complicated if you listen to their words. If you pay attention to their actions very easy. She is just not into you.
so we're talking about an old friend here. Recently, she has shown signs of interest in me via socials (haven't seen her in 3 years).
So we met up last week and things went great, as expected she is definitely interested in me. (holding hands etc.)
We did make plans to go out today but she cancelled (about 1,5 hours before we were supposed to meet up, AFTER i texted her to tell me when she got on the train) and told me that she can't make it tonight because she has to fill in for somebody at work the next day and had to go to sleep early. However, she said she's sorry and she really wanted to see me again, and asked if i was free next week and she could come to my town.
I told her "no worries, just lmk on time when you're free" and left it at that.
Did i handle that well enough?
Awesome video.
Thanks Jason!
Good advices
I don't respond at all. I don't even open it. Let her think you already have another date. Women cancel for one reason only. They are meeting another man.
Please upload more often!
Work is busy so I only have some much time to record and edit, but I'll do my best man!
@@kentmarcus1255 please make a video on exercising self control and not reaching out to women from your past that have ignored you, dumped you, or blown you off. I struggle with this.
@@kentmarcus1255 Would you consider it weak and beta to delete a match from an online dating app if she is not responsive or shows a low level of attraction?
Yes and very underrated
If you upload often the algorithm starts to like you
Good video.
I believe you can be close ended when you respond to her flaking . Unless she there and then asks when you're available or tells you what day she can do to make up for it, just respond close ended.
As Chris from would say "if a woman flakes, Cut contact "
What if she says maybe we should do it when I'm not so busy but didn't say specific date.
If you're not boyfriend and girlfriend then you reply...
"Right. Well enjoy the other match tonight and best of luck to you," and ninja vanish and cut all contact. 99.9% of the time I've encountered this behavior from girls on OLD and Meetup groups; Or any venue online to "meet" people. If you allow her to flake on you once, then best believe she's prepping to monkey branch onto some other bum in her queue.
That screams insecurity. Not a good response. The video has a better one
If a girl cancels the date the day before or the same day, just block her and her number and move on. Never reply to the text.
I felt lonely when she didn't even text she couldn't make it but she did text me making a stupid excuse
If she gave you a bs excuse then I wouldn’t even bother responding.
She isnt interested just move on delete
Scenerio: woman cancels a second date at the last minute and says she isn't into pursuing a relationship. Then she calls back three weeks later and asks for a second date, which she cancels again at the last minute because she didn't realize that she had to work later that day.
I personally wouldn’t bother scheduling another date and would kick her to the curb. Cancelling two dates last minute, especially if she didn’t try and reschedule either of them, is rude and shows a low level of interest. There’s too many women on this earth to settle for wishy washy, disrespectful behavior like that.
As a woman I do this when I’m bored I set dates but when the time is near I lose interest and don’t feel like going out so cancel date last minute. She is not into you but she is just bored. You need to move on.
I would just say, AMF!
@@jonahsulaiman2935you’re a woman called Jonah?
I'll tell you what happened, the last minute cancellation suggests something better came up; a better date, a better activity... unfortunately your date was just a placeholder for something better. Happens to all of us.
If she cancels like an hour before the date I usually write that I was really exited to meet them and if something happens then we will have a quick talk and I usually manage to make the date happen,
I acted just like you said (didnt even see video before), when she told me that we can go out to see movie (as i proposed), but first she wants to see how her work schedule will align next week so she will tell me tommorow, and she asked if is it ok with me- i said that sure, let me know when you know schedule. She didnt send anything next day, or day after, so i just deleted her number. I came to conclusion that she is liar, and doesnt have respect, but still it is strange because on first date she was touching me, we were kissing, holding hands, she is playing games for sure, trying to act cold, well i dont need that.
But, i dont agree with you that if you say "let me know when you are avaliable and we will make plans" that it will put her in pursue, since you asked for date, which makes you avaliable and open, and she knows if she wants a date she can have it since you told her that she only needs to say when she is free. She is in control that way and feels she has power over outcome.
I'd say that it depends on the way she cancels. If she has a legit excuse with a remorseful apology and also gives a reschedule option, that is when you slow play/re-plan.
But if it's a flake with a lame excuse and no genuine remorse/offer to reschedule? The best response is not to respond at all treating it as read only.
1) It shows indifference while also avoiding confirmation you're cool with being flaked on.
2) Any variation of "OK" (no worries, no problem, etc) only gives her permission to do it again.
"No worries, have a great week!"
If they ask you again, don't make them a priority right away, I.e. if they ask you out for dinner Friday, suggest coffee on a following Wednesday.
All of this game playing for what...a four or five on the scale? I know looks are subjective, but stepping back and looking at it objectively, she's probably a 2-3 (looks and personality combined) on the scale. Which is why no self respecting man ever put a ring on it.
If a girl cancels the date the day before or the same day, just block her and her number and move on. Never reply to the text.
Two words that definitely work
Your dumped I guarantee you’ll get response’s you never dreamed of hahahaha not good responses but it’ll wake her conscious up
lol its never all of a sudden :D she just does it last minute.
What if she canceled day before we should meed ,even if we 2 days back talked about meet and go outside together ... She said .. im giving know you before,that we cant meet together. I hope you wont feel angry .
Then i responded just 2 hours about simple : good so, I will make other arrangements then.
Was my answer normal correct ? I was feeled little sad that she canceled buti think i gaved hed stoic answer ... In that second she only liked that message and not responded .. did i something wrong? Also forgot that she sended me before that her text photo which shows she sit with someone on mcdonald . But i dont know if girl or boy .. so .. like making me jealous ? Thats why i answered like that
If she cancels but wants a reschedule, then she should be the one to plan the date. I, for one, would not take on the task of planning the date again at that point- its now her responsibility if she actually wants to see me.
Hey man hope ur doing well!
I tried to follow up a date with this girl from my work (2nd time) but I think she is going to ghost me. I asked her out in person this time and tired to follow up with a set day and time. I’m just going to cut my losses and move on.
When I see her at work, should I just completely ignore her or just a “hello” and nothing else be enough? I see this girl once/twice a week at work
What is giving you the impression she is going to ghost you? When you asked her out and tried to set the place and time for the date what did she say? If she does cancel the date or ghost you then when you see her at work just be cordial. I wouldn't ignore her but I wouldn't be going out of your way to talk to her either. If you cross paths you can smile and say hi and that's it. If she wants to start a conversation with you then that's fine, otherwise don't bother.
@@kentmarcus1255 I asked her out on Friday at work in person and she said “yes she’s down.” Then I text her the next day to confirm for this Monday at 2pm and no response since.
I’m not going to look at her Instagram stories anymore either, cos I know if I see something I don’t like it will just kill me inside lol.
@@The369Souljaman Well if she didn't respond to your confirmation text then yeah I would take that as a ghost. I would also recommend you watch my video "Subtle Way To Confirm A First Date" so in the future you can use that strategy and not come off as unsure of whether the date is still on or not. Also, I would recommend making dates for the night as those more often lead to romance than having dates during the day like the one you had planned. Regardless, her interest is very low and I wouldn't waste your time investing any more effort or attention on her whatsoever. So continuing to not watch her stories or engage with her social media is a great idea. Start focusing your attention on women who are reciprocating.
@@kentmarcus1255 Yeh I would of set the date for night time but my area is still in lockdown and the only thing you can do just now is go for coffee and a walk.
Thanks for the advice my friend 👌🏽
Late to the game here, but yeah, this girl has zero romantic interest in you. Otherwise you wouldn't have had to follow up. This is passive aggressive behavior and trust me, you dodged a bullet. At the beginning you should be operating on a "fuck yes or no" mindset. Just keep it at "hi and bye"
The girl im talking with suddenly moves distant emotionally and comes back. Should I reply normally when she talks back or should I act distant ?
Because everytime she moves away and comes back and if im always there, wouldnt she take me for granted ?
But if I act distant when she comes back, would I be a cold fish ? Which this coach always advices against.
This is a dilemma that I've been going through recently. Kindly help me
How do you reply when she contacts you? You should be mirroring her with texting in terms of length, energy, and time. So for instance, if she takes two hours to respond to your message, I would take at least two hours to get back to her. However, taking longer than her is even better. If she is responding to you with one or two sentences, you shouldn't be sending her paragraph responses. You should be replying close to the same amount in length as she is. Again, less than her is better here too. In terms of energy, if she isn't sending emojis, exclamations, or question marks, then neither should you. In general I would stay away from using emojis, exclamations, and question marks as often as possible unless she uses them frequently. All of the above strategies help you maintain frame and not over-pursue her. It's also important that you aren't trying to have long conversations over text with her. The phone should be for setting dates, so after a few messages back and forth using the strategies I have just provided, you should be trying to make a definite date with her.
It just happened to me, I’m so angry but I didn’t make her notice.
I know how frustrating it can be, but you gotta remain cool, calm, and collected. You have to show that you're centered, but if she continues to cancel, especially for bs reasons, kick her to the curb.
@@kentmarcus1255 thank you man, I did it, she was crazy
Bro nice Ibanez, i have a Jackson rock on buddy
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Those who don't reply just look butthurt, emotionally weak, and like a kid throwing the toys out of the cot.
If the girl had any interest left at all, she definitely doesn't after seeing straight through your passive aggressive behaviour.
If a woman cancels on you for some Bullshit just ignore her. Then go out to a bar or club and have fun 👏😃🍺
You forgot one more scenario Ken: When she cancels a date once the date has started, Let me explain my experience: I picked her up at her place, and just when we were at the gas station, she asked me emphatically to take her back home. Just like that. I didn't know what to do, say or how to react. she insisted and finally I took her home and my night was violently ended by this unexpected situation. Needless to say, we broke up shortly after. So My question is: How should we react or do in this case? Thank you Ken
Well if you didn't stink or were not a creep, I would have kicked her out of the car.
Leave her there. She does not deserve gentlemanly behavior.
You should have left her at the gas station. That would have let her possibly get picked up by a group of drunk bikers that could have run train on her all night.
I'd just say no, let her get out of the car and walk wherever she needs to go. You ain't her uber
I like that other people have the same advice as me
I had THREE girls cancel day of this week. I was happy they did. Lol. I really didn't want to go. Don't know why I even set them up In the first place. They all tried to reschedule. I didn't respond. I would have if I were actually interested I might have rescheduled
Why are you wasting your time? 😂
“Hi!! I unfortunately can’t hang out tonight and am away starting Thursday, but I’d love to hang out again soon!” This is the exact text I got from a girl. We went on only one date and this is the second time she cancels a second date …
Personally I wouldn’t even bother responding. You aren’t a priority to her, otherwise she wouldn’t have canceled back to back. She didn’t even attempt to reschedule for this one either, and you should want a woman who is as enthusiastic to see you as you are to see her.
@@kentmarcus1255 100% Agree, however I am a very much "nice guy" who cannot possibly ghost a woman even after this behavior, so I did reply, i sort of just said let me know when you figure it out kind of a thing, pretty indifferent sounding text. I honestly dont care if she reaches back out or not. I am just pissed that we had a great first date, we kissed a long time, she was making future plans on the spot, things were really going well. I have no idea if she is playing games, hard to get, or some kind of a test to see how truly interested I am. Like I said ,I do not care any more.
If she let you kiss her for a long time you should of went for the home run
any update? @@OG823
This is sound and reasonable advice. A guitar-playing Chad? Doubt women are cancelling on ya
Sure they do.
What about when she precedes the cancellation with a warning a day or two that she may need to cancel? She didn't ask to reschedule (it was a special event), but did reach out to me after not hearing from me after a week. Give her another chance, or be done with her?
If a girl tells you that she may need to cancel, that makes it a “maybe date” which I would not agree to, because what she is telling you is the plans aren’t definite and she can essentially back out at any time. In a case like that I would retract the offer and say something along the lines of” it sounds like your schedule is pretty backed up so how about we do it some other time when you know you’re free?” And leave it at that. If she’s interested she will solidify the plans you made, and if not she will reach out in the future and just use the opportunity to set a definite date. That’s the same thing I would do in this scenario. It’s good that you backed off because you showed her that you aren’t desperate and that she needs to put in the effort since she’s the one who cancelled. Since she reached out first, I would give her one more chance and make a definite date. If she gives you a wishy washy answer again, retract the offer like the way I mentioned, and if she cancels again then move on to the next one.
@@kentmarcus1255 Thank you. She also asked if I'm angry at her. (I am miffed she cancelled, albeit preceded with a 'warning' -- I interpret that as her not making me a top priority.) Tell her the truth that I am somewhat, or play it off as no biggie?
@@helloscammer you definitely don’t want to give the impression that you’re mad at her. She did warn you that she might cancel and you accepted those terms, so you can’t be mad that she did. Just moving forward don’t agree to dates that aren’t definite. I would play it off like it’s no biggie and make a definite date ( ie. definite day, place, and time) since she’s contacted you. Don’t waste too much time texting back and forth. Be decisive and get to the point. If she cancels again I wouldn’t bother with her anymore because then it’s obvious her interest is low.
@@kentmarcus1255 in most cases they just go ghost on me/ unmatch
This. If a girl cancels the date the day before or the same day, just block her and her number and move on. Never reply to the text.
Even if i cancel and try to reschedule, i may cancel again because i wasnt that interested to begin with…
Fair enough, and that’s why I tell guys to not chase if a date is cancelled, while giving the benefit of the doubt and allowing one more chance as long as she is making an effort to reschedule. However, if you’re not feeling the dude, I would suggest not wasting his time by rescheduling if you plan on cancelling again.
Then why reschedule in the first place?
@@crisscorreag the same as when a man promise you to see you soon but never does
@@patriciaviii You look like a young Kim Cattrall. However, I disagree with what you are saying.
@@puppy969 im 38. And we agree to disagree…
I delete after first flake. First date flake is a no go. I dont care if your mother died and it's a huge tragedy Because even then that only means Dating isn't and shouldn't be your priority in the first place so GO HANDLE DAT! oh well im a gay man but still SAME RULES!
I hate when women waste my time.
My favorite response when she tries to reschedule: "Who's this?" Lol
Girl canceled on me and didn't give me s reasons why.
See I take issue with the suggestion (a common one in videos like this) that being annoyed with a girl for flaking on you or ghosting you is a sign of emotional instability. Sometimes, anger is perfectly reasonable and justified in the circumstances. Women, if you don’t like guys getting angry with you for flaking on them, stop flaking on them.
Notice that I said “anger” not “aggression”.
how about how to rely when a guy cancels ???
Even though this channel is geared more towards men, the principles remain the same. I would use the same strategies I talk about in this video if a guy cancels on you. At the end of the day, a relationship is a two way street. If he cancels a date, it's his job to reschedule. If he doesn't, then he isn't interested and would not waste your time with him.
@@kentmarcus1255 amen thankyou
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I got my first date cancelled on me today 😌 we were workmates and we talked about that already last week about the saturday date... and remind her also on friday a day before our date on me picking her up at her place but then on saturday 30 mins before i supposed to pick her up she texted me " i forgot todays my grandmas birthday and we celebrating it i couldn't make it tonight im so sorry" 😔 i did not respond but I read her text message... should i communicate with her or just move on?
@@wereallnegan yah we both from california i met her here in dallas texas
Move on. Don’t respond until she reaches out to you. If she doesn’t reach out, she wasn’t that into you. Move on.
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Interesting, every time a girl has pulled this garbage and I reply politely they never respond. Funny enough when I don’t respond at all they almost always call back a few days later. Usually I let them reschedule the next date but I insist it’s close to where I live. No hanky Panky intentions, just in case they stand me up. Easy trip back home and not too much effort.
That definitely can work as well. I think it depends on the context and how well you know her. If this is a first or second date and she cancels for what seems like a bogus reason without offering to reschedule, then it’s well within your right to not respond and nowadays is probably what I would do too. If this is someone you’ve been dating for a while and this is the first time it has happened, then it may be legit and you might want to respond differently.
If they like you they will never cancel on you no matter the reason except for DEATH. Why? Because you as a man never canceled on a date with a girl that you really like. That would be insane for you to do so. So it’s insanity to think she’s still interested in you if she cancels on you.