I am Yeram's older brother. Thank you for making and making a video about my sister. My family and I are still fighting the rest of the fight. I'm tearing up at the fact that they think of and recognize my sister even in a faraway country and know her. I'd like to thank Stephanie for making this video
she was so beautiful and hardworking!! sorry for your family's loss, love. they failed her. how disgusting. i believe you will win the fight. much love.
Thank you and your family for fighting! You are fighting for Yeram and for all the victims out there. We think of you! And we pray for your family to heal and find justice!
Just today in Korea time, a female sergeant in her 40s took her own life by jumping off the hallway of her apt. She was a victim of SA from her colleagues 6yrs ago at the army base she worked at. The perpetrators never got punished. Shits never changed.
@@gummy5862 definitely but with the amount of guilt a victim can feel and with the amount of self respect lost because of it. I don't doubt those women committed suicide unfortunately. It's disgusting how the oppressed is forced to be silent.
Same here, I’m one of the lucky who hasn’t been. But my sister, my sisters mother, my grandma and my best friend have all been at least SA’d. And that’s all I know so far. It’s absolutely heartbreaking
The reason why women are treated this way is because for centuries, women were given the status of objects. We were literally bought and sold by male authority figures. I'm sure it's common knowledge that fathers would sell their daughters to the highest bidder so that his grandchildren would have a higher status in society. But it's pretty uncommon for people to know that wives were sold like cattle at fairs. The silver lining is that if a woman had a lover and her husband was kind, he would sell her to her lover for as cheap as a beer at the pub. But often times these women would be sold to complete strangers and were never checked up on by the people she knew again. This mindset of women being objects is still heavy in modern societies. In the most equal societies, women are still held to a standard of "we must be twice as good to receive half the credit." Social media, fashion industries, and other influential platforms expect women to be a certain shape, weight, and look in order to hold any value. Oftentimes, this is an unhealthy standard for their own models, let alone the consumers. Generational trauma teaches young children that a woman's value is based on her beauty and sexual appeal. Purity culture, which is in nearly every religious setting, puts blame on the woman (or child) if sexual thoughts occur in a man's head. "Having sex is like plucking a petal off of a rose. Don't be a stem for your husband, abstain." "Intercourse is like chewing a piece of gum. Who wants to chew on this piece second?" These are real things still told to children. I truly thought I wasn't deserving of love my whole life because "my gum" was "chewed" by my brother when I was 5. Victims of SA are written about in articles as if they were the cause of the SA. Countless people will immediately jump to "Well, what was she wearing?" As the first question when they are told about someone they don't know being SAed. My own mother claims I am a "rare exception" to being SAed because "i didn't do anything wrong" while implying other survivors did do something wrong. 1 in 4 women will be graped in their lifetime. Everyone knows at least one SA survivor, regardless of if they are aware of that. In America, women do not have contraceptive rights protected federally anymore. Roe v wade was about more than abortion rights. Rvw also protected every woman's right to birth control options. Even under rvw, women found it hard to get hysterectomies for endometriosis. I know several women who were told no to a hysterectomy because the doctor "wanted her husband's permission." One of those women was unmarried. One was a lesbian (so will never have a husband). I was told no to permanent birth control because I "am only 28. I may change my mind about having children." With no questions asked about why I have chosen not to have children. Society was built around misogyny (along with racism, homo/transphobia) and people in power know that if they want to stay in power, they must work against minority groups and women. Misogyny is so engrained in our dialect in ways you probably haven't noticed. Example: infant's clothing. Boy onesies that imply he is a "ladies' man" How we talk to children. To a girl: "Aren't you so beautiful! In your makeup!" Vs to a boy: "oh walk it off champ. A little dirt never hurt anyone." (Teaching girls to only have value if they are beautiful, and teaching boys to not show emotion when they are hurt) I live with my roommate's daughter and she idolizes me. She loves watching me put my makeup on, and with her dad's permission, we bought her makeup. When she shows me her makeup styles I avoid the word beautiful like the plague, instead choosing words like "fancy" or "elegant" but her dad never even considered the long term damage calling her beautiful with makeup on until she asked me (in front of him) if I thought was was beautiful after she had put makeup on and I responded with "I think you are beautiful no matter what you wear. Makeup just makes you fancy."
Well men have lust.. lust that they themselves could not control when they saw women. If there's only one woman who is not even beautiful.. their lust is triggered no matter what. Becoz they're male. Even if they're gay.. they transform into women they can hide their lust. If they said there is no feeling for women.. they're liars with EGO. Becoz men have huge lust n ego. When they can't control their needs.. you, women would be their victims.
You know what I find weird. How when a woman gets SA’d it needs to swept under the rug, but if a woman has consensual casual sex it needs to be exposed and her “value diminishes.” It’s like these types of people view consent as an abomination and it is quite frustrating… I feel so bad for her… stories like this is why I would NEVER join the military…
"Why do women have to die for sexual assaults to be taken seriously?" The fact that even after her death it was still not taken seriously enough is just insane.
I believe, the ONLY way women will be taken seriously in all ways is Women to be in positions of Power .. all power ..all over the World. So, Woman domination. I mean this honestly. No puns. No jokes.
@@zombiasnow15 I agree. Men have failed the world so far. Yes, men, since women weren’t/are not even “allowed” to be responsible for major decisions, besides a mere few. Unfortunately it’ll never happen- unless some condition spreads worldwide that lessens the amount of males born significantly lol.
The fact that an apology reduced a sentence is astounding to me. What is the point of following the law if one can sexually harass, assault, and abuse as long as one apologizes? Justice for Yeram and all the brave, intelligent women whose lives were cut too soon.
Exactly! There’s a saying in Chinese that says “if an apology can take care of everything, what’s the use of the police” and wow they really went ahead and proved this quote literally! It’s absolutely astounding how they weighted her assault that literally ruined her life and reputation (since reputation seems like smt these ppl cared so much about) leading her to her death, equally to an over the text apology that doesn’t even take much time and effort to write and most definitely not even sincere!
I actually think that apologies should be taken into account. The idea of a justice system should be (amongst others) to prevent future danger to the society. So people without guilt insight may need longer sentences. And vice versa. And guilt insight is required for proper apologies. Now I do agree that in this case the apologies are superficial at best. Just made in the hope to get off lightly. And to me that should actually count as a aggravating circumstance, causing higher sentences... So I gues we agree for different reasons?
@@FrederickGrumieaux some crimes are unforgiveable. Someone who steals something, feels bad and apologize can then make reparations for their deed but if you're a rapist how exactly do you aplogize for that? If you look at statistics, sex crimes are disproportionately punished all over the world including the west. Please read and inform yourself before commenting on stories like this one.
@@FrederickGrumieaux You've conjured up an argument on your own. I never said apologies shouldn't be taken into account. I displayed my utter shock and disgust at the fact that an apology somehow mitigated an offense as egregious as sexual assault. Please read before commenting.
Just because Yeram unfortunately took her own life it doesn’t diminish her strength and conviction as a person to go against all of these high ranking cowards and still report the abuse. This woman is so strong and admirable I’m every single way. I hope she’s in peace.
@@neonboy1998 Hello! That's an interesting question. Her brother and father, attacking the man who killed her in court, felt "rage". Additionally, people feel "grief", "loss", and "injustice" while viewing this case. For more information on experiencing empathy, ask your local psychiatrist.
The fact that she even pushed through reporting her assaulter is a show of strength. She didn't back down no matter how pressured she was. Many victims unfortunately wouldn't do the same, afraid of so many things. It could destroy their name or their career or would potentially endanger themselves or their loved ones. So many reasons to be afraid. But Yeram pushed through.
She faced everyone bravely and they literally stonewalled her at every turn. She reached out for and achieved her life dream, and it turned into a nightmare. Like Stephanie said, this is happening in military services around the world.
I believe she took her own life the day she got married because it was the happiest moment she had experienced in a long time. and for people in a depression that deep, she might have thought something like that would never happen again. This story is so gut wrenchingly tragic.
When you're at such a high the lows feel unfathomable. It feels like being on a high beautiful cliff and looking down into the darkest abyss you've ever seen and you know you'll end up there again soon. For her, that abyss was going back to base. And that must have been so scary, heart breaking and world shattering. She just wanted to stay home. She said it herself. And she did.
I’m wondering if it was the wedding night and likely still having PTSD from her assault ruining it with her new hubby and realising it’ll probably always have that guys shadow in their bed for the rest of their marriage.
@ezura4760 It does make it difficult to be intimate. That does lessen after a while though, and that guy would become smaller and smaller until he disappeared and you don't think about it for days at a time, then it becomes weeks, eventually months, and then it's like a dream you had. Idk, some people cannot compartmentalize at all so it's always there.
You know this episode is bad when even UA-cam warns us. This is, I think, the saddest story you've told. I know I cried. She was so young and definitely didn't deserve this.
I’ve watched plenty of criminal related videos & the fact this this one is the first for me to ever come with a warning from UA-cam themselves says a lot. I cried at the end, at Yeram’s family’s messages to her. My younger sister was also born in 1998 and I can’t imagine losing her.
@@StoneOfMoonThat's so strange. Almost every third video about true crime, I watch on YT, comes with a warning. Probably you haven't come across these channels and especially the stories, coz not every story has to have a disclaimer. But if it's your first story with a disclaimer, you haven't seen a lot. Peace ☮️
Extremely sad, heartbreaking for the young woman. I hope she has managed to be at peace. The Sewol Ferry was devastating to listen to due to the amount of lives lost and the heroes who stood up to help. There were no heroes that stood up for Yeram. Such a shame.
I remember talking to a girl who wanted to join Air Force and was declined by one of the officers during the interview for no reason. She confronted him and that’s what he responded: “I see you would make a wonderful pilot,but I just can’t let you be around all these guys who will see you as anything,but a colleague.” That girl became successful in civil aviation field later
OH thank GOD it ended that way >_> we really have to crack down (unfortunately) on children/teens growing up. We need to just not be disgusting, always speak up, always be fair and check all sides, ad respect boundaries. Being a decent human being isn't hard. and if it is hard for you, get help; its better to admit that than to be SHAMED and rightfully so later~ for any evil actions you give into.
If you know a job is mostly male dominated, dont go, no matter what, some men become like animals when they see a womans beauty and it will never change.
How dare they accuse Yeram’s husband! He’s going through hell already. They can’t even treat a MALE sergeant first class correctly. I’m so sorry to her family and husband; this is awful.
@@crystal_kai She holds back tears in a lot of cases, but actually ends up fully crying in this video a bit further in. It must be hard to research and read these stories out, but I'm glad to see some actual emotion unlike some youtubers who seem to not show any empathy. I'm not shocked she's crying and tearing up for this case in specific either, its gutwrenching :(
I served in the United States military and was SA'd more than once. It was terrible and there was zero support. Not-so-veiled threats, intimidation, outright mockery of the situation, not being believed, ordered to protect people who refused to protect me . . . I still struggle to this day with CPTSD from all of that. Thank you for bringing light to this horrible situation that, sadly, happens all too often in probably every military in the world.
I think it's important to mention that I am transgender and at the time presented as female. I don't know what the response would have been if were male because that was not my experience, but I received plenty of "silly girl" or "whiny girl" or "girl seeking attention" kind of comments. Frequently. Absolutely disgusting.
As a rape victim, this story kills me. God this poor woman. My case never even made it to trial. I remember being blamed by many people. I suffered for 7 years afterward. It took me 7 grueling years to finally be okay enough mentally. I don’t think people realize how serious sexual assault is and what effect it has on the minds of victims.
Sending healing and hugs. Mine didn't either and i also have cptsd and panic disorder I really was so scared of reliving it with people who don't know me... It hurts so bad knowing so many of us go through the same thing and looked down on like I was because I went on a date...I'm at least glad you are in somewhat of a better mental state. I'm so sorry it took what felt like forever. I'm still working on myself things that really shouldn't trigger me; do. So be proud you've gotten to a different point in your life. You're amazing.
I cried so much listening to this pod. Imagine ending your life because you’re not respected as a human being all because of your gender. Breaks my heart 😢
Especially in a misogynistic country like Korea, the culture is hostile towards women. This is not something Koreans that grew up overseas can truly understand.
I had to go through a similar experience. I work in aerospace (male dominated as well) building military planes. When working in the old company I worked for I was sexually harassed almost on a daily. When they hot tired of me turning them down they they decided to turn on me and make sexual harassment charges against ME. So I got suspended repeatedly with no real investigation. Eventually got fired on sexual harassment charges. I couldn't take that lying down. Lawyered up and went to bat for myself. They FOUGHT me. Eventually my lawyers thought I couldn't win, but I was dead set on fighting to the end to get my point across and hoping to help future women in this company. Eventually I was able to present evidence on my behalf and won the case. Talking to a friend that still worked there, I was informed that the company really cracked down on ANY sexual harassment claims. So I won in every aspect, and I'm so happy that I help future woman in my feild.
My wife was 14 when she was S/A'd in a drug and alcohol rehab center. The STAFF talked her into not reporting it because she would be "ruining a young man's life. With his charges he could be looking at 10 years before she could even report it." They convinced her that she would be the one whom would carry the guilt if she followed through with it. She blocked it out until recently. I hate the victim blaming that young women are sometimes subjected to.
I was 10 at the time and she was 40~50 something. Apparently SAing a little boy isn’t really a crime if you’re a realtor with a nice husband and his aunt. I was an 11 year old when I tried to report it. I was just a kid, I knew I couldn’t get her in big trouble. My parents said it was just quirky, my old therapist said it wasn’t even traumatic. They said I shouldn’t ruin her life. I couldn’t have done that. I couldn’t have even gotten her a slap on the wrist. All I wanted was to feel like it happened. But that’s too much for this society.
Yeah, it's so disgusting. Worse are the women being straight up murdered in the US and not even getting a chance to decide if they will take their lives or not. There are too many coverups in these places~
Exactly. Yet there are men out here who claim women aren't getting assaulted as much as it's being reported. That the statistics are fake. There's a podcast on UA-cam called fresh and fit, they are still active on UA-cam, they say women lie about assault for attention and even if a woman is assaulted, it's still her fault. It's disgusting. They even had a man come on their channel and brag about how he and his friends drugged and assaulted women and they laughed about it. It's sickening. Women are not safe anywhere. Not even in our own homes. Not even from family members. I was assaulted by my uncle and it happened repeatedly from the age of 4 to 8 years old yet we have men sitting around on podcasts laughing about assault and blaming women for being assaulted. Sickening.
This is true my sister is also have a training. And she got violently physical abuse because they just doesn't want her and feel envy to her boys and girls equally beating her she's just lucky to still can run down to the mountain and they just said its part of BS training to prepare you to surprise attack but it's very personal the way they did that to her and no one care and before they leave the camp site during graduation one of higher up or evil girl officer she's making fun of her like that girl it's so fun beating her while laughing according to her friend she thought she's not close to her like what a psycho mf!!!!!!! Obviously I feel so hurt and I cried when I heard that coz we never physically hurt her sometimes we got argument saying hurtful words because of you know high emotions but after that we say sorry to each other then other people gonna hurt her physically and violently for no reason??! WTF!!! Now sorry, but I'm losing respect in humanity.
I am a female pilot in the United States, and listening to this brought me to tears. I cry because Yaram suffered but was so brave in the face of everything she was dealt. We are still battling sexual assault and harassment in the industry in the US too. Myself and so many other women have been the subjects of harassment and ridicule just because we want to fly planes. I dream of a world where little girls can pursue anything they want without fear. I will hold her story close to my heart, thank you for sharing with us.
I’m a veteran, I served in the U.S Marines, this made me cry so much because I was able to relate so much with her experience, I was also sexually assaulted while serving and it’s been almost a year since I made the report, nothing has been done against my assaulter. Hearing how everyone blamed her and judge her and did nothing to him triggered me so much cause I know how infuriating and stressing it is. There’s so many of us that go through this experience in almost every country it sucks, it makes me so angry, no one ever does anything… it doesn’t matter how much we have sacrificed to serve and help others, no one helps us when we need it…I hope her family get some justice I really pray they do.
I served in the US Army. Obviously the Army has its own issues with sexual assault but one that I always found odd was just how openly sexist a lot of male marines are. On multiple occasions I’ll speak to a Marine and as soon as female marines are brought up the guys would go off. They basically talk about how worthless female marines were. It was honestly shocking to hear how open they were about their feelings. In the Army sure guys like that exist but I honestly feel like it’s a lot less. My guess is one of the things that helped was opening the combat MOS’ to females. I only did 4 years but literally every unit I was in I worked with females. You tell me but I assume in the Marines it’s much more separated?
@@tanalopez2590 lol No idea if this is the case but there’s another reason guys often will discourage their ex, gf, etc from joining. So the military is dominated by males. Meaning if you’re even semi attractive then you will get hit on all the time. lol If you’re a pretty girl you basically get to pick. I know at least 4 female friends that joined and 6 months to a year later they pop up with a new boyfriend or engaged. Always an upgrade too. 😂
This is a global issue. I am a 35 yr old female and I work in construction. I’m constantly told a woman as “attractive” as I am can’t be working in construction. I was sexually harassed and border line stalked by a past manager and supervisor. I reported it…. I was demoted for 4 months and the maneuver got promoted to a much higher paying position where he was traveling. The supervisor was moved to manager and made my life hell up until the day I finally quit. The aerial manager literally sat in a meeting with me and the HR director and supervisor (who are both women) and said “you are a very attractive woman… so if you already get a certain amount of attention. If you wear anything revealing it only encourages that attention and we don’t want that for you” I was wearing a v neck shirt that showed no cleavage of my A cup sized boobs…. I am constantly disrespected and cat called. Just the other week I had some guy park behind my work truck and tried to get me to come to him… truck footage shows he actually had a gun. I was just trying to place tags on our poles. I was just trying to work. I am single mom of 4 kids and am just trying to provide a good life for them… and yet everyday I have to put up With some form of harassment
thats lame. I feel like its unique to see someone fulfill your role in the workforce and instead of being shamed or made to feel low i think it should just be like hat tip and move on. weird that ppl feel obligated to berate you or whatever. people are weird af i hope u are doing well
That line, "Why do women have to die for sexual assaults to be taken seriously?" Made me want to cry. From what I know, there's also a lot of sexism against women in the US military and this type of negligence in this case reminds me of the case of LaVena Johnson, except in that case, there is an added layer of racism. I'm also kind of aggravated that heinous criminals in Korea can have anonymity and have their face blurred... like no, let's see that mf's face so they can be seen as the monsters they are!
It's surprising because usually it's the other way around. A woman accuses a man, he loses everything, then it turns out he was innocent and he didn't get what he lost back
@@rizkiramadhan9266 DO YOU EVEN REALIZE HOW SMALL THE PORTION OF THE FALSE ACCUSED IS??! AND HOW MEN WILL ALWAYS GET THE SUPPORT?! DO YOU REALIZE THAT MOST VUCTIMS GET SHUNNED TO THE SIDE BECAUSE YOU MEN KEEP WHINNING AHOUT FALSE ACCUSATION. SHUT UP! OKAY SHUT UP
@@rizkiramadhan9266 Not "usually", yes both women and men can be victims/perpetrators of sexual assault, but women have been subjected to victim-blaming for a very long time after getting sexually assaulted, with people pointing fingers at them, saying that they "should have covered up more", "shouldn't have gone out when it was dark outside", even calling female victims "dirty", "a disgrace to their families", kicking them out of the house and even firing them from their jobs in many countries around the world even up to this day. Yes, there have been quite a number of cases where men have not been taken seriously when they report sexual abuse, and yes it is also an issue that must be addressed, but many women even to this day feel helpless and/or scared to even report sexual abuse due to potential ignorance or victim-blaming from others, even authorities. So yeah, the situation that you have stated can happen, but "usually", innocent female victims have always been the target of ignorance, blame, and criticism for a long time, which is still happening in many cases.
July 2022 A female sergeant was found dead at a dormitory of the 20th Fighter Wing of the Air Force Tuesday morning. The sergeant was part of the same unit as Sergeant Lee Ye-ram, who took her own life in May last year after claiming that she was sexually abused by a male colleague. Military authorities have launched an investigation to determine the exact cause of death of the sergeant. Has anyone followed up on this? Another female sergeant death at the SAME BASE?
For people who prided themselves on serving their country, they were so quick to become the most 'bottom of the barrel' people within it. Thank you for sharing, and my heart goes out to Yeram, her husband, and her family.
You'll be surprised the kind of motives a lot of people signed up to be a soldier. Even though SK has mandatory service, I sincerely doubt the motives would change that much between the countries.
reminds me of that one US soldier who openly stated on twitter that playing hogwarts legacy was comparable and equal to killing a child. they literally openly admitted to participating in killing children when they were deployed (in syria i think) on twitter and tried to defend themself when they were rightfully getting attacked left and right for BEING THAT INSANE and openly advocating the skewed system that the US military has. they acted as if they had no choice but to participate in it, when compulsory conscription does not exist in the US. all this because of a literal game….people really are fucked in the head
Military is most of the time legal criminals they kill when they're told to do even if the others did nothing simply they kill Arzon and destroy civilization for a living and through history you can't separate rxpe and army. So what did you expect the system is f
it’s not often that a case affects me so emotionally like this one did. it was truly disgusting what happened to her and what she had to deal with. her family is so loving the “힘들었지“ really got me. rip yeram we will always remember you
@@cookiedough124 it's what Yeram's brother said at the end the song, “힘들었지“ / "himdeul-eossji" or "it's been hard, right?" It's so emotional the whole story got me 😭😭
It always disgusts me when assulters say things like "dont ruin my life by reporting me..." NO!! They ruiend their OWN life by being a disgusing S**ual assulter and predator. Its SO gross.
It is beyond my comprehension when people actually try claim that simply saying what someone has done is what's ruining their life and not the thing they did 😭
I tried to watch this three times, I've watched all of your other videos. I guess i knew it would hurt. But...to know im not the only one that went through a very similar experience was helpful. I was brutality assaulted by my boyfriend in the Army. He broke several bones in my face and arms. I was made to feel exactly like her. Everyone hated me. I was ostracized from Everyone. The problem girl. I almost almost killed myself in Iraq with my weapon 6 months later. It was the worst thing that I've ever had to do to live through it. Its been almost 20 years, and I still can't move on completely. Thank you for covering her story. Because it's our story.
This is why I tolerate revenge. Justice, sometimes, is against the victim but when the victim becomes the criminal they're punished. What if someone assaults the perpetrator?
You mean law. Not justice. Justice is the much desired yet rarely achieved outcome. That said, I do agree. Not only do I agree with you, I'll take it up a notch and say revenge is needed. We're taught an almost religious ethics when it comes to law, that has no intention to establish justice. Touting revenge as something bad could never bear goodwill and intent, it's all designed to stop people from seeking for their rights in the most effective way. We haven't come this far as a species by turning the other cheek on our way up this evolutionary ladder. No. Revenge is simply backlash that is meant to teach. The one who takes revenge cools down and can move on with their life faster, and this makes them more productive, too. Yes, but that's only an additional outcome. What revenge does is to make the perpetrator pay. And it's when we pay that we learn, unfortunately. That's how it is with all beings, because that's how the brain decides what to learn among a sht ton of stuff to learn. Because learning itself is a very costly endeavor.
This is not an isolated incident. Absolutely tragic for Yeram and disturbing how far things have to go for people to finally see things NEED to change. Thank you for working hard to cover this case so well🙏🏼
At first I thought this was the lavena Johnson case. So sad that the same situation can occur in different places of the world. These women deserved better
Rest in peace to all our fallen sisters in the military. Lee Yeram💞 Vanessa Guillén💓 Ana Basaldua 💕 And the ones we don’t know about 🙏🏼💓 I’m sorry the system failed you.
And for the ones that still alive but suffer in silence for Years 😢 I meet some of them One of then even ... take her own life 😭 I didn't knew her but I saw her everyday and she was in the room next to me 😭
Im a 17 year old who was SAed by my step dad (who i considered my own dadas he raised me since i was babh)when i was 11, and it continued until I was 15 (i made a report with my grandma but its been by passed because "I'm menstruating so it means i know right from wrong" eventho i only said yes because I was afriad). I now live with my mom who still has contact with him because i have 2 younger sisters and he's their dad. When i tell you the feeling of that guilt because you know the person who hurt you is terrible. Im still going through this battle with my mental health regarding this topic and there are still times where i feel bad for even thinking about reporting the incident. This is the SICK world we live in where women's safety and entire life can be overlooked most times because the male dominated society thinks that a women's rights and life is nothing more than their measly "reputation"
I just had this conversation with my brother who's in the army, I brought up what happened to Vanessa Guillen and he said "she shouldn't have slept with a hirer up" like... Wait even if she did it willingly.. that's no excuse to murder her??? And all he had to say was "you make stupid choices stupid things happen". Knowing he's in the military . Hearing him say this broke my heart. He's always been off and a bit odd but this was something I never expected to come out his mouth. Like
@PlasticIsHealthy exactly... That's what I'm saying .. where did I ever say he was innocent? Lol I grew up with this person he's never expressed this opinion before. I've always just assumed he was tough and strong considering we have a good family and raised to be strong and independent. He's a rogue one and now that I'm an adult I can see the corruption. That's EXACTLY my point??? Learn to read.
@@44H44 I shall, but that's the thing I called him suspicious and that I wouldn't be surprised if he was a predator himself and now he wants an apology so .. lol he won't open anything I have. He won't have the conversation. He plays victim too which is double standard so idk I gave up on him.
I will never believe that she killed herself. The military killed her at the new base so the rapists wouldn't be accused of murder. Her own family was probably threatened/ fed false evidence. It was so easy for the military to fake suicides and you're right they have done it all over the world. My prayers and love go out to all the victims and families. The strongest and most brilliant people have been targeted. We've got to make changes. Thank you all for seeking justice and bringing this to light. Bless you all
I truly thought the same thing. She was saying good things to husband the day before. I'm not saying that what she didn't go through wasn't stressful however I do find it weird they would have tht cute text messages exchange then kill herself
I think so too ..from what i listen from this video , she’ s a very strong womann …it’s weird that she shuddenly sui*ide after her happy day . I bet they try to silence her to avoid future problems …. She does not deserve that ..this world is so fked up
@@preciousjohnson1433 most people who commit are usually seen as happy on the day before they do it because they know that they've made their choice. it's morbid, yes, but true. there's also the chance that she wanted her husband to have a fond last memory of her before she did it. but still, I agree that her death is suspicious, im just saying that the option of her committing isn't /that/ unreasonable.
@@Rae-ss1df It's not unreasonable at all however the odds of her making plans with her husband for the next day is slime to none. The statistics of that are practically zero I complete understand why its suspicious but also how it is possible that she did it. I just wanted to add this interesting fact.
Eh I served in the Army and unfortunately this isn’t the 1st time I’ve heard of a female sexual assault victim taking her own life. Think about the position she was in. She publicly accused a superior of sexual assault so I promise the whole unit knew through word of mouth. Meanwhile they’re making her out to be a liar. These are people she has to see all the time. If it’s a regular job then she could just shut out when she gets home. Completely different when you live on base. The whole base including your building is military. The people in her building were probably from her same unit. Also guess what in the military you can’t just quit and leave. She was stuck there no matter what.
The fact that she continued to fight in the military of a country and aid a country which mentally tortured her to the point that she committed suicide
As somebody who was sexually assaulted, impregnated, and forced to go through with the pregnancy and then give up the baby for adoption at just 14 years old, this absolutely broke my heart. I fully understand where she was mentally and how hard that struggle is. My attacker was somebody I thought was a close friend and because he was a star student and soccer player who had a full ride scholarship from a well known and wealthy family in a very small town/county, everybody thought I lied about it and tried to make me stay silent about it. After roughly 2 years of court battles and constant threats and trauma, he was only given a 13 week sentence with leave for college because I was too terrified to testify in front of him and his family in trial. He absolutely destroyed my entire life and the only reason I didn't take my own life after it happened was because I couldn't stand the thought of ending the baby's life because it wasn't their fault. I still to this day have some really rough days years later with my depression and PTSD from everything I've gone through even with the help of therapy. We need to do so much more as a whole to help victims across the board. Not just victims of assault, harassment, murder, or false incrimination, but all victims. With so many terrible obstacles in our paths of justice and recovery, it is nearly impossible to come out on top and live as a normal human being at the end of it all. Yes there are therapies and groups and organizations out there to assist but at the end of the day what happens when the justice system fails the victims? What happens when victims are silenced and shoved to the side and treated like they don't exist? These are questions that we all at least have a good idea of the answers but the terrifying truth that only the victims fully understand is so overlooked. I want to say thank you so very much to everybody who does stand behind victims and supports them through everything. I want to say a huge thank you to Rotten Mango for speaking on these topics and shedding light on the harsh reality of these things. I honestly don't know where I would be right now if I didn't have my close support group who does know everything and have seen it first hand. Please take care of each other and do your best to make sure you understand their situation and do what you can to help. Sending love, peace, and healing to the victim and their family in this case and all victims and families out there suffering.
This is so horrible I mean, I don't understand why this subject of SA is taken so lightly by so many people when it's a really important case which should be investigated and looked through more and instead they just kept making Yeram think she is the villain all this time. But also for ur own situation I am so so happy u didn't take any rapid decisions into taking ur own life because u cared so much for the baby at ONLY 14. I am 14 rn and I seriously think I would have been a whole mess if I was in that situation ur so strong I am so amazed rn ❤️
The worst part about this is that she fought so hard, she was so brave until the very end. She pushed back with all her might yet the world was too cruel to her. I hope she’s at a better place.
This also happened in my country. My friend was physically assaulted by her then husband who is in the Army. When she filed for divorce, she was brought to their base, and basically intimidated by his WHOLE friends to drop the charge. They said it will look bad on her husband’s image (D’UH!!!!! 🙄). My friend basically said she doesn’t care. She has prove and will still file the report. The intimidation lasted few hours, my friend was shaking but she’s such a strong badass woman!!! She is now happily divorced, living her life, and thriving in her career ❤❤❤
The justice system failed us again I can’t believe that the abuser barley got any punishment is so disappointing especially the appealed judge lowering the sentence to the other abuser because they “apologized” is absolutely ridiculous may Yeram rest in peace and condolences to her family and her husband❤️
I always think about how easy pedophiles get a slap on the wrist..... And all the men taunting her are all like the assaulters (the ones harassing her). Pisses me off
Justice is the sugarcoated word the government wants its citizen to believe that it runs on. What we have is a legal system and it's a spectrum of sht show across the world.
i sobbed so hard during this case. this is so horrible, and i feel so bad for Yeram. she was a beautiful, strong and intelligent woman. Thank you for making this, Stephanie.
i think the reason why she took her life RIGHT AFTER she got married is because she wanted to stop the suffering with a happy ending to remember. She probably knew she couldn't bare anymore even if her husband will be with her at work, she was too tired and lost in hopes that all she wanted for the end is to spend some time with her loved partner and have good memories so she wont be taking her life with only sadness to think
Yeah, it gave me the vibe that she tried to squeeze as much joy and happiness out of life as she could, but after the high of the wedding was over, the perspective of going back to the "darkness" was too much.
I am a sexual abuse victim. I was raped and molested by my stepfather. I was accused of lying about my abuse by my mother. I completely agree that sexual assault and abuse is looked at like it is not severe. I am still in recovery. Thank you for this video, and informing people about how severe sexual assault is.
I#m so sorry to read your post and i really can relate to that. ... my mother told on the phone shed know everything, and told the police she woudnt know anything. I recorded the call, but coudnt make it an evidence for its not legal to record without letting people know. My stepdad can go on harassing maybe raping others, as a principle of a school full of teens... i didnt do that for me - i did it for them... since then i lost my family, friedns everyone, living alone since 7 years not even going into my own basement alone... I really hope you can recover from what you suffered, and i moreover hope you have friends or relatives, people close to your heart that you can rely on. Please don't loose hope, promise? *hugs*
I definitely cried during this one for sure especially when you were reading her and her husband's last text exchange. What an amazing man for wanting to protect her as much as he could... this poor woman I can't imagine having no support except from her husband and family.
i’m studying aerospace engineering in college and this sort of thing terrifies me. i’m a 17 yr old girl and i’ve already been harassed by my predominately male classmates and to think that women do not escape that behaviour makes me so so sad.
I actually recommend training in a martial art. Being able to physically defend yourself would give you another layer of defense. Just remember to not hold back should you need it
This made me cry so much. I'm a sexual assault victim and I couldn't imagine this having happened with my case. I was so fortunate that my offender was sentenced to 90 years in prison. I pray for Yeram's family.
God i am happy for you that bastard deserved a lifetime prison or even better death sentence! No rapist or abuser deserves to live after giving the victims a lifetime trauma and mental pain
I'm getting very emotional as I imagine Yeram exchanging sweet messages with her husband whilst fighting her own battle. She's having a hard time and so broken inside but still trying hard to be happy and appreciate everything her husband and her family does for her. She's been trying to cope up but failed to hold on. I'm sorry for all the shit you went through, Yeram.
I full on bawled at that part. It absolutely killed me knowing that while she was sending those, she was mentally exhausted to a very extreme extent. i can’t even imagine the pain that woman went through. everyone around her, who were meant to keep her safe, failed her.
This is heartbreaking. How emotional you get telling the stories always brings me back to this channel. You all try hard to get the facts right but also you Stephanie allow yourself to be emotionally invested in these cases. Take care of yourself and thanks for the content! This video helped me get my week's meal prepping done!
i need this as a flag, as a lifestyle, and as a world wide brand. i am getting revoltingly sick of all the evil and lack of positive progression >( we all are. always speak up and seek justice OUT LOUD, blame the perp. zero tolerance for evil, PLEASE.
@@green_hedger_68you’re just being an asshole. i saw your reply under another comment where a woman said the man who assaulted her got sentenced 90 years, that their sentence was “too harsh”. are you a rapist? why are you against it? why are you passive aggressively asking what womanhood means? women standing together offends you because you want us to be weak and take advantage of us
as a victim of rape myself, she is honestly I hero to me. I cannot imagine going through the ridicule she had to endure for so long. she did the best she could and she will always be remembered by people like us❤
As a female US Army Veteran, I totally get this whole case. I can't lie..this case was hard to hear as someone that's been there. The difference I stayed silent and many do because of everything that happened to her. For those on the outside it's exactly and almost 10x worst what she went through because it's the "Good Old Boy" system. Unfortunately some things never changed. My sincere condolences for my sister in arms. I salute you, fly high angel ❤
Those men want to protect a country but cannot even keep their hands of the women that want to protect it with them. Imagine what those men would do once they get the chance to be on forgine ground around forging women to fight a war. Yes Imagine the more vulnerable women and what they would do to them and their children.
@@Danielui817 we know this, but the 'good' men don't speak up enough and continue to make excuses for their buddies. that's why these terrible men are so emboldened to do what they do.
This case is absolutely devastating. I literally can't stop crying right now. Why does being a woman so hard? Why can't people treat us like actual human being? The fact they were more concerned about the perpetrators reputation than her being sexual assaulted is just so so sad. Does every victim need to kill themselves to get justice?
Because the perpetrators are animals. If the males that disrespected her were humans, they wouldn’t have disrespected her, in the first place. Korea needs to understand that it isn’t a respectful country, since they clearly don’t respect women and girls. Even though the male gender is the gender that statistically comm!ts most cr!mes, everywhere, so if a gender deserves to be casually disrespected, then that gender is the male gender. Only a male that is gu!lty of r@pist behavior would find it difficult to treat women with genuine respect. So all those males are exposing themselves for being r@bid r@pists, since they are showing disrespect to their mother’s gender. People, if you agree, scr33nshot and share, for more people to know this
@@ambermoon1401 bro what?? wtf is wrong with you. you act like people can’t be emotional/emotionally connected to something. its called having empathy.
@@ambermoon1401 that’s such a such a weird to say i hope you know that. also, stop assuming things. the op is probably just sympathizing with the victim.
Listening to this bring me back all my trauma and make me wanna cry all over again. I was sexually assaulted by my brother for years and when I finally tell my father what he said to me was “that’s how men are when they go through puberty” i was lost of word, respect, and so disgusted I cried for hours that day till I lost my voice. I can’t believe someone like that is my father. I can’t believe these people even related to my by blood I was so disgustedI wanna die.
I'm so sorry. He should've never said something like that and I'm sorry both your brother and father are not men you could count on. Please take some time to do/watch something that makes you feel uplifted after this
Do we have the same father because that’s EXACTLY what my father said too. Add to that “you’re the older sister, be more understanding” - to being sexually assaulted… ok. Later on I get assaulted by my cousin, and I’ve learned not to tell my father or anyone in my family anymore. Still haunts me to this day.
@@hannardee omg I'm so sorry this happened to you. It shouldn't even matter if you're older or not. They always victim blame and try to make it like our experiences were meaningless and we're overreacting. In my situation, I'm a younger sister, and the power dynamic at the time I couldn't say anything I was just 11. I told my dad when I was 21 and at the time my brother was kicking me out of the house so much happened and yet that's what my dad said. I didn't even wanna hear anyone mention their name anymore.
i’ve watched this video at least four times since it’s came out. it’s genuinely the most heartbreaking story i’ve ever heard-it brings me to tears every single time. yeram, you beautiful soul, i hope you’re resting well. although the ones who were supposed to protect you failed, there are hundreds of thousands of us who support you and think about you. you deserved so much better. you were and are still so loved. rest well❤️
As a sexual assault survivor this hit home on so many levels, I was too afraid to file a policial report because of this very reason, I’m so sorry for Yeram and all the women who lost every hope because of these horrible people. 😔 I can’t believe that Yeram had to die to receive this little justice.
Me too. Yeram was SO strong to do this when she was still around these people constantly. She had a faith in justice that I sadly didn’t have, and it breaks my heart to know how little her faith was rewarded. Also, I hope you doing okay.
This story is so heartbreaking. I cant imagine being in a workplace environment like this and feeling so trapped. Everyone there failed her. Im also empathizing with her husband. He sounds like a great guy and he lost his love. A wonderful woman lost her life and so many people should be in jail over this
I was SA on a air force base by a airman. My first date ever, my first time. He tricked me to go to his barracks and pretended that he had to take a shower. This is after the first two dates of him taking hours to get ready, got a haircut, friends came by- so I’d end up just leaving. I remember telling my sister if he does this BS tonight I’m never going back. After He came out of the shower in a towel he raped me. I was ruined, panic attacks, I quit my summer job, and begged to go home. After going home I kept having attacks, wouldn’t shower, hid under my bed, put tape over my windows, I would freak out whenever I saw holes or like construction work in the ceiling or lights flickering- I think it was because while he raped me I intensely remember staring at the ceiling and it was dark until the tvs lights flashed or flickered. Idk. until finally my then army enlisted boyfriend got me to tell him what happened. My sister and brother in law who serve on the same base called the FBI. They came to my house and recorded him saying he did it. I thought it was over. It wasn’t. The worst part is what’s the Untied states Air Force did to me. They took it to trial with a jury of his peers other servicemen whose sole objective was to not let this get out. They contacted or either just my ex telling his father ,who was a high ranking member of the army- he told his son to not testify bc it would ruin his career, they hazed and bullied my ex to the point he was afraid to testify. He laid in bed with me before the trial and cried and I never knew why. What ever they did or said to him made him get up and say that he didn’t notice a difference after I returned home. Even though the the reason I broke down and told him was because I had declined so fast he begged me to tell. I hated him so much after he was found not guilty. I blamed my ex. Then after he started to get depressed, dropped out of the military, and became an alcoholic- he finally told me whatever they did to him and him not protecting me, ruined him. My lawyer didn’t bring in the military family I worked for that summer as a witness - who actually was a lawyer, they didn’t let my sister or brother in law testify- they are a high ranking military family, no doctors, or my mom who had to clean me up after I’d go into panic attacks so bad when she’d leave I’d crawl in a corner and wet myself, none of my brother in laws friends who were in the military, no one else I told. ONLY my ex- who couldn’t look me in the eyes after. The sad part is I feel bad because I blamed my ex soooooo much- not knowing that something happened to him that was so bad he said he would never tell! He literally dreamed his whole life about being a soldier like his dad! He threw it away and spends his day searching for the bottom of a bottle. He was my first love, I’ve never loved anyone like I loved my ex- we were both ruined by one man. After he was found not guilty my sister and I received over 5 emails or messages from women he did the same thing to. They shipped him to another base overseas where he did it again. Guess what our government did- honorable discharge of a rapist. I have never been the same. Just waking up, smiling, having a child, breathing all hurts. It’s better now but I would be lying to say that I didn’t have many days where I thought about……. Letting go. I rethink it all the time: I did everything right, I wore sweats and a shirt and a jacket. No skin showing, I was inexperienced and didn’t talk about sex, he meet my sister and brother in law, bragged about my crazy ex cop father to scare him, my sister even took a picture of his license plate, I didn’t lay on his bed- just barely sat on the edge. That was it! My mother always said don’t sit on a man’s bed alone in his room. I became obsessed with the idea that I messed up. It was my fault. My mom told me! It doesn’t matter now- it’s been 16 years and I’m still sitting here at my desk crying and blaming myself. He took a part of me and left the rest broken. Then a few years later a family friend destroyed what was left. At least a good splash of makeup, a fake smile, and some well placed bad jokes hides it from everyone. Edit: Thank you all so much for you’re replies and support! I went for years and never shared this with anyone outside of my close family members. Just knowing that there are good people out there and other survivors makes me stronger everyday! 🕊️☮️🫶🏽
So it was your first date and y'all left work together to go straight on the date so he asked you to come to his house so he could shower on your date? Was he going to take you home so you could get ready? Was he planning on being at your house while you showered?
@@keyanddracaryskillua6187 no I spent the summer on my sisters base. I met him at the shop on base. He asked me out. I introduced him to my family and we planned a date for the next night. I actually walked over there and while we are at his barracks the first night his friends came over. I really didn’t notice but it was almost like they were stalling. They were asking weird questions, staring at me, some would come to the door and look in. I thought it was just like a “new girl” type of thing. I had a certain time I had to be home so after I got bored I left. He did This a second night and I believe we met at the basketball court and walked to his barracks for something and he pretended to be to tired to go out. Again I wouldn’t stay past the time I promised my sister I’d be back. The third night I was clearly upset and unhappy because it was kinda feeling weird but I didn’t know why. I initially turned him down but then he offered to pick me up and promised we’d go out. I remember telling my sister if we don’t go out I’m never going back. He picks me up, but In his uniform. He says he has to go back to his barracks and change. He takes a quick shower and walks out in a towel and I’m kinda sitting on the edge of the bed clearly uncomfortable. I kinda get fidgety and say I’ll step outside while you change but he dropped the lights and attacked me. He kept me there for awhile after but I was able to get him to take me home because I kept pushing the idea that my sister and brother in law would come looking for me. They had his license plate, a picture, his address, and knew his commander. He drove me around base explaining to me how to lie to them, how to act, to shower and promised if I didn’t tell we would go out to a really nice place. Come to find out from 2 other soldiers he had actually done the same thing. He would lie about a reason to go to his room, stall and get them to stay late in order for his roommates to leave or be gone and then rape them. They had heard of more civilians this group of fellas would do it to. They would get them drunk sometimes, or if they’d visit multiple times they would tell the girls well you came over here multiple times, you’re drunk, my fellas saw you flirting with me, no one will believe you. I guess it was some kind of sick joke or bet or tally they were keeping.
@@Poetic.rectum thank you for saying that. I come back to this post almost every day and think about removing it! I’ve never told anyone outside of my family. Lately I’ve been commenting under videos like this. It’s my hidden little way to heal. The shame and guilt is the worst part. It’s an endless cycle of feeling bad about what happened and then feeling worse because you’re feeling bad! It’s weird. But I have found that strangers online who you’ve never met can sometimes be a small support group.
I’m really glad that you’re pointing out the misogyny in Korean and some Asian cultures in general. Of course this exists in most cultures and more overtly but it’s something that needs to be talked about. We as people need to recognize the difference between culture and social conditioning. We as women deserve better. And the men who are raised in these types of social conditions deserve better as well.
Absolutely. If misogyny is recognised and accepted as a part of the *culture* - the part that one should be proud of and pass down to future generations - then that culture has been poisoned. Culture should not be at the cost to another person’s life and well-being. This has no place in society.
Right!? Some of the larger creators feel the need to and often do exclude their empathic emotions due to negative comments. Please never change Stephanie! 🙏 🧡
As a survivor of one sexual assault that lasted 7+ months, I feel why she felt the need to take her life. I feel why she felt she had no other way out. The pain feels like it’ll never end. I never had the strength she did to report it though and I think that’s why I didn’t have as hard of a time pushing through. When I admitted another time that a female sexually assaulted me (separate from the first mentioned) and I took police action they gave her a pat on the back and told me to stop being so sensitive. I was 16 with physical disabilities so severe I couldn’t do anything to stop her but scream and cry for help while people watched and laughed until someone outside of the classroom came in because they heard me screaming and dragged her off of me. As I was putting my clothes back together and running to the bathroom my teacher just sat there and laughed at me as I ran away crying
The Korean military failed her, the fact that these people more or less got away with not only the assault but to be bullied to that extent 😭 truly heartbreaking. So vulgar and disgusting, they need to be held accountable on a national stage. I hope they will be exposed and removed from any kinda power.
World in unfair places u can deal with it or kill ur self if u can’t handle the life people say how is sergeant fault but I think she is selfish litter prick girl she kill her self cause she wanna easy escape of life but all she left behind her is pain and suffering to people who know her in real life
I was raped a few months ago and I honestly couldn’t finish this podcast. I was a virgin not that it matters. At the end of the day, being taken advantage of and assaulted without permission really changes you. My heart aches for Yeram. I am in the process of getting justice from my perpetrator but this really is emotionally draining. I can seriously understand her and gosh, her last few texts made me cry. I had to stop listening after and I’m not sure if the perpetrators got any punishment but shit, if I can help the family in any way I want to. Someone lmk if there’s anything out there for her family so I can help.
i'm so sorry that happened to you - my heart aches for you just as it does for Yeram. i hope that you are able to heal, treat yourself with kindness and gentleness, and feel comfortable again. you are so loved.
The system failed her. I hope her family fights for her and every woman who goes through this. Not only did she get assaulted but for everyone to treat like she did and to be reminded of what happened. Condolences to her family.
When Stephanie broke down ....my tear wells bursted..... I'm so glad she had such a strong support system. I especially love the Husband. May her soul rest in peace ❤
The way that this case made me cry and the way that I cried even harder while explaining to my boyfriend what happened..truly this shows how evil people can be that it drives people to that final act. May she rest in peace and may those who failed her be haunted by this incident forever
One of the most bothersome parts is the perpetrators probably aren't bothered unless it's by karma or God or media. Who knows if this is even the first time they did this? Sometimes there are things that restore my faith in humanity, and then there's incidents like this that make me ashamed to be the same species. Changes need to be made and they're not happening fast enough...
As a woman in the U.S. Army being a woman in the military is so tough. When I had a situation happened to me it got swept under the rug. My heart goes out to her family. ❤️🩹
This story is from my sister's friend. She was a medic at army. From her room her macbook and underwears were stolen, no reporting helped, at the end she had to resign to protect herself. I don't know the nitty-gritty of the story but it's disgusting to think men like these are still serving the country
It’s so terrifying to be a woman. I hope your sister’s friend can find some peace and safety after that experience and I hope she knows there’s people who will be there for her and love her. I’m so sorry she went through that, it sounds horrifying.
I wasn't aware of this case thank you for sharing. This problem must be universal. This reminds me of Vanessa Guillen in the U.S. and recently another female soldier Ana Basalda Ruiz who'd complained of being sexually harassed at the same base as Vanessa was found dead too. Then an older case of LaVena Johnson who was found dead but they ruled it a suicide and they found evidence of rape and battery so it may have been a cover-up. I can't imagine the horrors in South Korea where it's even more male dominated since it's mandatory there AND a patriarchy/Confucian hierarchy-based culture too.
i have a male friend who was sexually assaulted in the korean military about a decade ago. Around that time the military shooting happened He's still traumatized, and said it's not rare for men. I can't imagine if it's bad for men what it's like for women
agreed. i really appreciate how she takes time to really delve into the people involved in the stories she shares, giving them their own story rather than painting them as victims and victims only.
A woman don't have the right to say 'no' to her abusers, and a man that is found guilty of abuse has the right to be forgiven and to have his sentence lowered. It's so dystopian, yet this is the reality for all women and girls.
I hope every single person who pulled yeram through dirt, goes exactly what she went through to understand how much they made her suffer. Rest in peace sweet yeram
No matter how many times they are put to justice, they will not realise and regret their mistakes out of the guilt of conscience. They are self righteous, hypocritic, lying, manipulating scum of the earth. The people supporting these kind of trash are just as equal scums. Regret and acknowledgement is only in stories...it's very rare to hear in real life...
As a woman these stories are so utterly heartbreaking and one of the reasons why a lot of SA cases don‘t even get reported because they know nothing will happen and they‘ll be the ones who will be even more criticized, get called liars etc. Men‘s fear of getting falsely accused is so much less likely, it‘s a cruel world
Men are so pathetic that they value false accusations over real cases of sexual abuse, and even then would they victim blame and shame women and even little girls for stuff THEY do.
And today all those “ red pill “ men are on podcasts saying women shouldn’t have the right to vote, cause they’re not in military. But then once women are in the military, not only they’re openly sexist but also sexually abuse those women. I come from a family that all men served/are still serving. Most of my uncles were in the army, one is still in the navy, one was in air force ( I’m Polish btw ). Once I said I want to enlist to airforce all of them told me no. There was not even a discussion for them, they told me “ you’d just be a fresh meat for those animals, they are celebrated and seen as heroes, but you’d be surprised how much suffering they caused to their female colleagues “. And so I didn’t go. One look at their faces and I knew I can’t go. I worked in logistics a couple of years ago. From 21-23. I was not only the youngest ( with huge age gap ), but also the only woman in my team. I left cause of bullying and sexual harassment I went through. 2 years later and I’m still dealing with physical and mental issues all that stress gave me. I’ve won a lawsuit against the company without even going to court, that’s how bad it was. I had so much evidence, medical evidence too, that they just wanted to settle outside of court. With some of the issues this situation gave me, I’ll have to deal with till the end of my life. So it really angers me, when I constantly hear that women should go out there and start doing the job that are men dominated and then demand their rights. Just shows how delusional the people, who preach it are. And yeah, I did report it to my manager and senior manager, HR even multiple times. They didn’t care. They didn’t even fire those men, didn’t suspend them. Nothing. Those men eventually left for other jobs themselves. ( it happened in the UK )
She was so strong. Actually we didn't deserve her. I hope wherever she is, she's happy The song at the end shows how much she was loved by her family She was so precious to them How they're gonna live with such a pain
This is definitely not just a Korea issue, my mother experienced similar treatment when she was in the US military from a group of her superiors. Well into my childhood she used to have nightmares and fear of these men coming after her, and has only found peace after learning her main abuser died in the early 2000s. It’s hard not to resent the system, seeing how it treated her when she was just 21. It’s true that women often have to die for sexual assault to be taken seriously.
This one made me cry too. It feels like there’s not just one victim. Her family, her friends, her fiancé, every assault victim, every woman even. Every step of the way it’s a slap in the face to over half the population.
My father has horrible PTSD from the Korean Army, the disgusting sick evil stories my daad told me about the Korean military ....I can only imagine what she went through ...I would never ever allowed her to join based on what I know about the Korean military...Man, Im sad RIP beautiful one Lee Yeram
Stephanie: you did Yeram justice by raising awareness to her case. I didn’t know about her, but now I do, so thank you very much for that. ||| Stephanie’s Editor: thank you for listening to my previous request about not putting sad music when Stephanie talks about the victim’s SA. You did very well, and were very respectful to beautiful Yeram. Thank you.
I’m gutted for her and her family. This is beyond tragic. She suffered and died needlessly. How on earth is her husband coping? Is he still in the military? I wish they would pass some kind of law and name it after her. She deserves to be honored.
I was SA in high school. It was my sophomore year and it was someone I trusted so much in my military program. He SA me multiple times and no matter how much I told the school or police I was blamed for my “clothing”. It’s been 5 years and I have extreme PTSD to the point where I’m scared of leaving my home. I understand how Lee Yeram feels and why she took her life. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever been through in my life. Rest in Peace to Lee Yeram 🤍 I hope you are healing in heaven.
This poor woman's story reminds me a lot of the way I reacted to the human rights abuses I suffered in my career, just because I'm disabled. I had faith that the institution I respected would act morally and legally, but they didn't. I can attest to the way that breaks your heart. You trust your employer to behave properly and then they don't, they behave illegally and immorally. I have great respect for her for trying to stand up for herself.
Wow I love every content you make and I appreciate all the respect you give to each victim. This is the first time I ever actually cried from listening to your videos what they did to her was unforgivable 😞
I am bawling, it is so unfair how the victim is treated worse than the perpetrators. My heart breaks for Yeram, her family and her husband. Sending them strength and I hope for real Justice.
I rarely cried from a podcast since they usually lack the visual part and this episode really broke me. Especially at the end. I feel that my heart was suffucating from how much Lee Yeram must have feel due to being betray from all side. Thankfully her family and her husband is there at her side to the very end.
“…called the assaulter into his office, didn’t talk to her” I heard this and immediately shook my head. This poor woman stood no chance, even from the moment she got into that car with all of her drunk seniors. It’s so painful knowing that she had so few people on her side that she felt the only way out was to take her own life. EDIT I AM FLOORED “this just happens in life” NO IT DOESNT
You’re not alone, this story had me in literal tears. As a member of the US military, I learned that stories like this are not rare at all, even here where we like to pretend that we are so forward thinking.
I’m actually bawling. She didn’t deserve any of this… she tried to stay strong and to that I applaud her. She would have done such amazing things if only Justice was served the way it should have. Rest in peace Yeram 💜
I am Yeram's older brother. Thank you for making and making a video about my sister. My family and I are still fighting the rest of the fight. I'm tearing up at the fact that they think of and recognize my sister even in a faraway country and know her. I'd like to thank Stephanie for making this video
stay strong! i hope your family recovers from this!!!
I wish your family get the best outcome and find peace after all of these.🍀
she was so beautiful and hardworking!! sorry for your family's loss, love. they failed her. how disgusting. i believe you will win the fight. much love.
Thank you and your family for fighting! You are fighting for Yeram and for all the victims out there. We think of you! And we pray for your family to heal and find justice!
we are supporting yeram and you and your family. we are here for yeram, we are here for you
Just today in Korea time, a female sergeant in her 40s took her own life by jumping off the hallway of her apt. She was a victim of SA from her colleagues 6yrs ago at the army base she worked at. The perpetrators never got punished. Shits never changed.
I wouldn’t be surprised if some of these suicides aren’t really suicides.
😢 what
@@gummy5862 definitely but with the amount of guilt a victim can feel and with the amount of self respect lost because of it. I don't doubt those women committed suicide unfortunately. It's disgusting how the oppressed is forced to be silent.
Wow 😔 I hope her soul finds peace. I can’t imagine
I should not be shocked atp but I am still shocked!! Wtf is wrong with people, why do they never learn?
The amount of women commenting they are a victim of rape kills me. Why is the world like this towards women? So disgusting.
Same here, I’m one of the lucky who hasn’t been. But my sister, my sisters mother, my grandma and my best friend have all been at least SA’d. And that’s all I know so far. It’s absolutely heartbreaking
@@gachacatproductions431 It is. Makes me sick. So sorry your family experienced that ):
The reason why women are treated this way is because for centuries, women were given the status of objects. We were literally bought and sold by male authority figures. I'm sure it's common knowledge that fathers would sell their daughters to the highest bidder so that his grandchildren would have a higher status in society. But it's pretty uncommon for people to know that wives were sold like cattle at fairs. The silver lining is that if a woman had a lover and her husband was kind, he would sell her to her lover for as cheap as a beer at the pub. But often times these women would be sold to complete strangers and were never checked up on by the people she knew again. This mindset of women being objects is still heavy in modern societies. In the most equal societies, women are still held to a standard of "we must be twice as good to receive half the credit." Social media, fashion industries, and other influential platforms expect women to be a certain shape, weight, and look in order to hold any value. Oftentimes, this is an unhealthy standard for their own models, let alone the consumers. Generational trauma teaches young children that a woman's value is based on her beauty and sexual appeal. Purity culture, which is in nearly every religious setting, puts blame on the woman (or child) if sexual thoughts occur in a man's head. "Having sex is like plucking a petal off of a rose. Don't be a stem for your husband, abstain." "Intercourse is like chewing a piece of gum. Who wants to chew on this piece second?" These are real things still told to children. I truly thought I wasn't deserving of love my whole life because "my gum" was "chewed" by my brother when I was 5. Victims of SA are written about in articles as if they were the cause of the SA. Countless people will immediately jump to "Well, what was she wearing?" As the first question when they are told about someone they don't know being SAed. My own mother claims I am a "rare exception" to being SAed because "i didn't do anything wrong" while implying other survivors did do something wrong. 1 in 4 women will be graped in their lifetime. Everyone knows at least one SA survivor, regardless of if they are aware of that. In America, women do not have contraceptive rights protected federally anymore. Roe v wade was about more than abortion rights. Rvw also protected every woman's right to birth control options. Even under rvw, women found it hard to get hysterectomies for endometriosis. I know several women who were told no to a hysterectomy because the doctor "wanted her husband's permission." One of those women was unmarried. One was a lesbian (so will never have a husband). I was told no to permanent birth control because I "am only 28. I may change my mind about having children." With no questions asked about why I have chosen not to have children. Society was built around misogyny (along with racism, homo/transphobia) and people in power know that if they want to stay in power, they must work against minority groups and women. Misogyny is so engrained in our dialect in ways you probably haven't noticed. Example:
infant's clothing. Boy onesies that imply he is a "ladies' man"
How we talk to children. To a girl: "Aren't you so beautiful! In your makeup!" Vs to a boy: "oh walk it off champ. A little dirt never hurt anyone." (Teaching girls to only have value if they are beautiful, and teaching boys to not show emotion when they are hurt)
I live with my roommate's daughter and she idolizes me. She loves watching me put my makeup on, and with her dad's permission, we bought her makeup. When she shows me her makeup styles I avoid the word beautiful like the plague, instead choosing words like "fancy" or "elegant" but her dad never even considered the long term damage calling her beautiful with makeup on until she asked me (in front of him) if I thought was was beautiful after she had put makeup on and I responded with "I think you are beautiful no matter what you wear. Makeup just makes you fancy."
"Men are not superior, they're just as*holes" -someone intelligent.
I think this one speaks everything about history.
Well men have lust.. lust that they themselves could not control when they saw women. If there's only one woman who is not even beautiful.. their lust is triggered no matter what. Becoz they're male.
Even if they're gay.. they transform into women they can hide their lust.
If they said there is no feeling for women.. they're liars with EGO. Becoz men have huge lust n ego.
When they can't control their needs.. you, women would be their victims.
You know what I find weird. How when a woman gets SA’d it needs to swept under the rug, but if a woman has consensual casual sex it needs to be exposed and her “value diminishes.” It’s like these types of people view consent as an abomination and it is quite frustrating…
I feel so bad for her… stories like this is why I would NEVER join the military…
Yet you'd marry a moid
@@ManiyaVinaswtf is a moid
I assume it's a derogatory term to refer to men, just like how incels say foids for women. @DUWANGlai_kangyi
@@ManiyaVinasI hate incels as much as the next guy but it's still not cool to refer someone as a derogatory term. Don't stoop to an incel's level.
@@Acehealer829 Ah, a man-apologist. Keep dreaming, lib-femmie.
"Why do women have to die for sexual assaults to be taken seriously?" The fact that even after her death it was still not taken seriously enough is just insane.
Because they are triangle 📐
I believe, the ONLY way women will be taken seriously in all ways
is Women to be in positions of Power .. all power ..all over the World. So, Woman domination.
I mean this honestly. No puns. No jokes.
@@zombiasnow15 I agree. Men have failed the world so far. Yes, men, since women weren’t/are not even “allowed” to be responsible for major decisions, besides a mere few. Unfortunately it’ll never happen- unless some condition spreads worldwide that lessens the amount of males born significantly lol.
@@zombiasnow15 yesss
@@zombiasnow15totalirsm is never the right option but I do believe that higher ups should be equally divided into both genders
The fact that an apology reduced a sentence is astounding to me. What is the point of following the law if one can sexually harass, assault, and abuse as long as one apologizes? Justice for Yeram and all the brave, intelligent women whose lives were cut too soon.
Exactly! There’s a saying in Chinese that says “if an apology can take care of everything, what’s the use of the police” and wow they really went ahead and proved this quote literally! It’s absolutely astounding how they weighted her assault that literally ruined her life and reputation (since reputation seems like smt these ppl cared so much about) leading her to her death, equally to an over the text apology that doesn’t even take much time and effort to write and most definitely not even sincere!
If they are truly apologetics they would have turn themselves in, not to be busted then now cry ang beg for mercy.
I actually think that apologies should be taken into account. The idea of a justice system should be (amongst others) to prevent future danger to the society. So people without guilt insight may need longer sentences. And vice versa. And guilt insight is required for proper apologies. Now I do agree that in this case the apologies are superficial at best. Just made in the hope to get off lightly. And to me that should actually count as a aggravating circumstance, causing higher sentences... So I gues we agree for different reasons?
@@FrederickGrumieaux some crimes are unforgiveable. Someone who steals something, feels bad and apologize can then make reparations for their deed but if you're a rapist how exactly do you aplogize for that? If you look at statistics, sex crimes are disproportionately punished all over the world including the west. Please read and inform yourself before commenting on stories like this one.
@@FrederickGrumieaux You've conjured up an argument on your own. I never said apologies shouldn't be taken into account. I displayed my utter shock and disgust at the fact that an apology somehow mitigated an offense as egregious as sexual assault. Please read before commenting.
Just because Yeram unfortunately took her own life it doesn’t diminish her strength and conviction as a person to go against all of these high ranking cowards and still report the abuse. This woman is so strong and admirable I’m every single way. I hope she’s in peace.
Are you getting the "female rage"
@@neonboy1998 Hello! That's an interesting question. Her brother and father, attacking the man who killed her in court, felt "rage". Additionally, people feel "grief", "loss", and "injustice" while viewing this case.
For more information on experiencing empathy, ask your local psychiatrist.
The fact that she even pushed through reporting her assaulter is a show of strength. She didn't back down no matter how pressured she was.
Many victims unfortunately wouldn't do the same, afraid of so many things. It could destroy their name or their career or would potentially endanger themselves or their loved ones. So many reasons to be afraid. But Yeram pushed through.
She faced everyone bravely and they literally stonewalled her at every turn. She reached out for and achieved her life dream, and it turned into a nightmare. Like Stephanie said, this is happening in military services around the world.
@@keventy6114 But she still offed herself. In the end she was still a generic female who couldn't compete with men.
I believe she took her own life the day she got married because it was the happiest moment she had experienced in a long time. and for people in a depression that deep, she might have thought something like that would never happen again. This story is so gut wrenchingly tragic.
When you're at such a high the lows feel unfathomable. It feels like being on a high beautiful cliff and looking down into the darkest abyss you've ever seen and you know you'll end up there again soon. For her, that abyss was going back to base. And that must have been so scary, heart breaking and world shattering. She just wanted to stay home. She said it herself. And she did.
I’m wondering if it was the wedding night and likely still having PTSD from her assault ruining it with her new hubby and realising it’ll probably always have that guys shadow in their bed for the rest of their marriage.
@@linmanese620this is the perfect way to explain it
@ezura4760 It does make it difficult to be intimate. That does lessen after a while though, and that guy would become smaller and smaller until he disappeared and you don't think about it for days at a time, then it becomes weeks, eventually months, and then it's like a dream you had. Idk, some people cannot compartmentalize at all so it's always there.
You know this episode is bad when even UA-cam warns us. This is, I think, the saddest story you've told. I know I cried. She was so young and definitely didn't deserve this.
I’ve watched plenty of criminal related videos & the fact this this one is the first for me to ever come with a warning from UA-cam themselves says a lot.
I cried at the end, at Yeram’s family’s messages to her. My younger sister was also born in 1998 and I can’t imagine losing her.
@@StoneOfMoonsame..I was taken aback 😔
@@StoneOfMoonThat's so strange. Almost every third video about true crime, I watch on YT, comes with a warning. Probably you haven't come across these channels and especially the stories, coz not every story has to have a disclaimer. But if it's your first story with a disclaimer, you haven't seen a lot.
Peace ☮️
Extremely sad, heartbreaking for the young woman. I hope she has managed to be at peace.
The Sewol Ferry was devastating to listen to due to the amount of lives lost and the heroes who stood up to help. There were no heroes that stood up for Yeram. Such a shame.
Probably because she isn’t censoring words like “sexual assault”
I remember talking to a girl who wanted to join Air Force and was declined by one of the officers during the interview for no reason. She confronted him and that’s what he responded: “I see you would make a wonderful pilot,but I just can’t let you be around all these guys who will see you as anything,but a colleague.”
That girl became successful in civil aviation field later
OH thank GOD it ended that way >_> we really have to crack down (unfortunately) on children/teens growing up. We need to just not be disgusting, always speak up, always be fair and check all sides, ad respect boundaries. Being a decent human being isn't hard. and if it is hard for you, get help; its better to admit that than to be SHAMED and rightfully so later~ for any evil actions you give into.
If you know a job is mostly male dominated, dont go, no matter what, some men become like animals when they see a womans beauty and it will never change.
@@Azula524 Especially in a very closed place/industry like being in the army.
I was told the same thing when i applied to join the police in Calgary Alberta Canada
Why would you not want to be seen as a colleague? What's wrong with that?
How dare they accuse Yeram’s husband! He’s going through hell already. They can’t even treat a MALE sergeant first class correctly. I’m so sorry to her family and husband; this is awful.
They expect her husband to be into ntr shit......
Is Stephanie crying btw-
I feel like she was holding back tears..-
@@crystal_kai She holds back tears in a lot of cases, but actually ends up fully crying in this video a bit further in. It must be hard to research and read these stories out, but I'm glad to see some actual emotion unlike some youtubers who seem to not show any empathy. I'm not shocked she's crying and tearing up for this case in specific either, its gutwrenching :(
@@yulana990 me too!! I also cried hearing this story
@@yulana990yea fr
I served in the United States military and was SA'd more than once. It was terrible and there was zero support. Not-so-veiled threats, intimidation, outright mockery of the situation, not being believed, ordered to protect people who refused to protect me . . . I still struggle to this day with CPTSD from all of that.
Thank you for bringing light to this horrible situation that, sadly, happens all too often in probably every military in the world.
I think it's important to mention that I am transgender and at the time presented as female. I don't know what the response would have been if were male because that was not my experience, but I received plenty of "silly girl" or "whiny girl" or "girl seeking attention" kind of comments. Frequently. Absolutely disgusting.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Life is too short to waste time near horrible people. I'm so glad you left and have a better life now.
I'm so sorry, it's just unbelievable how much women are still treated as less than in just about every society 😭
OH MY , may the lord bless you and heal you , we as a society has failed people like u . hope ur doing well love ❤
I hope you get help! And it’s important to bring awareness and voice your voices. I hope you heal! Wish you the best in life.
As a rape victim, this story kills me. God this poor woman. My case never even made it to trial. I remember being blamed by many people. I suffered for 7 years afterward. It took me 7 grueling years to finally be okay enough mentally. I don’t think people realize how serious sexual assault is and what effect it has on the minds of victims.
Sending u a warm hug sis 🤗
Hugs to you! It took me 10 years to get over another type of trauma, but yes trauma takes so long to heal, I am glad you are ok now! ❤️
Bless you for reporting it. You're so strong!❤
So real on the last sentence my “bff” openly and excitingly told me she’s gonna try and get with my sa’er and I’m not the same since
Sending healing and hugs. Mine didn't either and i also have cptsd and panic disorder I really was so scared of reliving it with people who don't know me... It hurts so bad knowing so many of us go through the same thing and looked down on like I was because I went on a date...I'm at least glad you are in somewhat of a better mental state. I'm so sorry it took what felt like forever. I'm still working on myself things that really shouldn't trigger me; do. So be proud you've gotten to a different point in your life. You're amazing.
I cried so much listening to this pod. Imagine ending your life because you’re not respected as a human being all because of your gender. Breaks my heart 😢
Right it like they don’t see us as human beings smh it scary
Me too, my eyes bawling 😭
Omg what did I arrive to 😭😭😭
Especially in a misogynistic country like Korea, the culture is hostile towards women. This is not something Koreans that grew up overseas can truly understand.
@@daevastafford I hope she never changes and keeps her emotions and cultural context to her videos... we need more real humans like her here on YT ✌️
I had to go through a similar experience. I work in aerospace (male dominated as well) building military planes. When working in the old company I worked for I was sexually harassed almost on a daily. When they hot tired of me turning them down they they decided to turn on me and make sexual harassment charges against ME. So I got suspended repeatedly with no real investigation. Eventually got fired on sexual harassment charges. I couldn't take that lying down. Lawyered up and went to bat for myself. They FOUGHT me. Eventually my lawyers thought I couldn't win, but I was dead set on fighting to the end to get my point across and hoping to help future women in this company. Eventually I was able to present evidence on my behalf and won the case. Talking to a friend that still worked there, I was informed that the company really cracked down on ANY sexual harassment claims. So I won in every aspect, and I'm so happy that I help future woman in my feild.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
if only this could be possible for everyone..
People are sick
thank you so much!!!
so proud of you love !!!🎉❤
My wife was 14 when she was S/A'd in a drug and alcohol rehab center. The STAFF talked her into not reporting it because she would be "ruining a young man's life. With his charges he could be looking at 10 years before she could even report it." They convinced her that she would be the one whom would carry the guilt if she followed through with it. She blocked it out until recently. I hate the victim blaming that young women are sometimes subjected to.
I hope she’s able to find peace, it’s a hard thing to even begin to get over
I was too young to call it guilt, but the only thought that keeps me awake at night is "what if I wasn't his last victim?"
Hope you and your wife live happily :)
I was SA'd when I was 12 and that fully grown man convinced me to stay quiet because I would ruin their marriage.
I was 10 at the time and she was 40~50 something. Apparently SAing a little boy isn’t really a crime if you’re a realtor with a nice husband and his aunt. I was an 11 year old when I tried to report it. I was just a kid, I knew I couldn’t get her in big trouble. My parents said it was just quirky, my old therapist said it wasn’t even traumatic. They said I shouldn’t ruin her life.
I couldn’t have done that. I couldn’t have even gotten her a slap on the wrist. All I wanted was to feel like it happened.
But that’s too much for this society.
Even as trained military members, women still aren't safe from violent predators! My heart goes out to all of yall out there, stay safe ladies 🙏❤️
It appears to be the case for all servicewomen, no matter which country. It’s so tragic
Yeah, it's so disgusting. Worse are the women being straight up murdered in the US and not even getting a chance to decide if they will take their lives or not. There are too many coverups in these places~
Exactly. Yet there are men out here who claim women aren't getting assaulted as much as it's being reported. That the statistics are fake. There's a podcast on UA-cam called fresh and fit, they are still active on UA-cam, they say women lie about assault for attention and even if a woman is assaulted, it's still her fault. It's disgusting. They even had a man come on their channel and brag about how he and his friends drugged and assaulted women and they laughed about it. It's sickening. Women are not safe anywhere. Not even in our own homes. Not even from family members. I was assaulted by my uncle and it happened repeatedly from the age of 4 to 8 years old yet we have men sitting around on podcasts laughing about assault and blaming women for being assaulted. Sickening.
This is true my sister is also have a training. And she got violently physical abuse because they just doesn't want her and feel envy to her boys and girls equally beating her she's just lucky to still can run down to the mountain and they just said its part of BS training to prepare you to surprise attack but it's very personal the way they did that to her and no one care and before they leave the camp site during graduation one of higher up or evil girl officer she's making fun of her like that girl it's so fun beating her while laughing according to her friend she thought she's not close to her like what a psycho mf!!!!!!! Obviously I feel so hurt and I cried when I heard that coz we never physically hurt her sometimes we got argument saying hurtful words because of you know high emotions but after that we say sorry to each other then other people gonna hurt her physically and violently for no reason??! WTF!!! Now sorry, but I'm losing respect in humanity.
I am a female pilot in the United States, and listening to this brought me to tears. I cry because Yaram suffered but was so brave in the face of everything she was dealt. We are still battling sexual assault and harassment in the industry in the US too. Myself and so many other women have been the subjects of harassment and ridicule just because we want to fly planes. I dream of a world where little girls can pursue anything they want without fear. I will hold her story close to my heart, thank you for sharing with us.
God bless you and may give you good winds
Yeram*
Never gonna happen because men are men. Sad but true.
How can you feel loyalty towards a country that treats you like this and how can you still want to marry if you see the true colors of men
@@ManiyaVinas Not all men are bad
I’m a veteran, I served in the U.S Marines, this made me cry so much because I was able to relate so much with her experience, I was also sexually assaulted while serving and it’s been almost a year since I made the report, nothing has been done against my assaulter. Hearing how everyone blamed her and judge her and did nothing to him triggered me so much cause I know how infuriating and stressing it is. There’s so many of us that go through this experience in almost every country it sucks, it makes me so angry, no one ever does anything… it doesn’t matter how much we have sacrificed to serve and help others, no one helps us when we need it…I hope her family get some justice I really pray they do.
i hope u get justice. i’m so sorry love:(.
I served in the US Army. Obviously the Army has its own issues with sexual assault but one that I always found odd was just how openly sexist a lot of male marines are. On multiple occasions I’ll speak to a Marine and as soon as female marines are brought up the guys would go off. They basically talk about how worthless female marines were. It was honestly shocking to hear how open they were about their feelings.
In the Army sure guys like that exist but I honestly feel like it’s a lot less. My guess is one of the things that helped was opening the combat MOS’ to females. I only did 4 years but literally every unit I was in I worked with females. You tell me but I assume in the Marines it’s much more separated?
This makes a lot more sense why my ex told me not to join
@@tanalopez2590 lol No idea if this is the case but there’s another reason guys often will discourage their ex, gf, etc from joining. So the military is dominated by males. Meaning if you’re even semi attractive then you will get hit on all the time. lol If you’re a pretty girl you basically get to pick. I know at least 4 female friends that joined and 6 months to a year later they pop up with a new boyfriend or engaged. Always an upgrade too. 😂
Huuugggg. Hold in there, you have all of us with you
I don’t normally cry when it comes to true crime cases. But this, genuinely brought me to tears. May Yeram fly high and rest peacefully.
This is a global issue.
I am a 35 yr old female and I work in construction. I’m constantly told a woman as “attractive” as I am can’t be working in construction.
I was sexually harassed and border line stalked by a past manager and supervisor. I reported it…. I was demoted for 4 months and the maneuver got promoted to a much higher paying position where he was traveling. The supervisor was moved to manager and made my life hell up until the day I finally quit.
The aerial manager literally sat in a meeting with me and the HR director and supervisor (who are both women) and said “you are a very attractive woman… so if you already get a certain amount of attention. If you wear anything revealing it only encourages that attention and we don’t want that for you”
I was wearing a v neck shirt that showed no cleavage of my A cup sized boobs….
I am constantly disrespected and cat called. Just the other week I had some guy park behind my work truck and tried to get me to come to him… truck footage shows he actually had a gun.
I was just trying to place tags on our poles. I was just trying to work.
I am single mom of 4 kids and am just trying to provide a good life for them… and yet everyday I have to put up
With some form of harassment
I feel so bad for you, stay strong, YOU are a powerful Woman Warrior!
U are a strong woman and a mother you didn’t deserve any of that. I’m so sorry you have/had to go through that, I wish you and your kids the best.🤍
Honestly,I don't think women should work in male dominated fields, too many hayenas
What country is this?
thats lame. I feel like its unique to see someone fulfill your role in the workforce and instead of being shamed or made to feel low i think it should just be like hat tip and move on. weird that ppl feel obligated to berate you or whatever. people are weird af i hope u are doing well
That line, "Why do women have to die for sexual assaults to be taken seriously?" Made me want to cry. From what I know, there's also a lot of sexism against women in the US military and this type of negligence in this case reminds me of the case of LaVena Johnson, except in that case, there is an added layer of racism. I'm also kind of aggravated that heinous criminals in Korea can have anonymity and have their face blurred... like no, let's see that mf's face so they can be seen as the monsters they are!
It's surprising because usually it's the other way around. A woman accuses a man, he loses everything, then it turns out he was innocent and he didn't get what he lost back
@@rizkiramadhan9266 DO YOU EVEN REALIZE HOW SMALL THE PORTION OF THE FALSE ACCUSED IS??! AND HOW MEN WILL ALWAYS GET THE SUPPORT?! DO YOU REALIZE THAT MOST VUCTIMS GET SHUNNED TO THE SIDE BECAUSE YOU MEN KEEP WHINNING AHOUT FALSE ACCUSATION. SHUT UP! OKAY SHUT UP
@@rizkiramadhan9266 that happens more in countries like the US imo
@@friedalien1351 probably, thanks to backwards ideas like feminism
@@rizkiramadhan9266 Not "usually", yes both women and men can be victims/perpetrators of sexual assault, but women have been subjected to victim-blaming for a very long time after getting sexually assaulted, with people pointing fingers at them, saying that they "should have covered up more", "shouldn't have gone out when it was dark outside", even calling female victims "dirty", "a disgrace to their families", kicking them out of the house and even firing them from their jobs in many countries around the world even up to this day. Yes, there have been quite a number of cases where men have not been taken seriously when they report sexual abuse, and yes it is also an issue that must be addressed, but many women even to this day feel helpless and/or scared to even report sexual abuse due to potential ignorance or victim-blaming from others, even authorities. So yeah, the situation that you have stated can happen, but "usually", innocent female victims have always been the target of ignorance, blame, and criticism for a long time, which is still happening in many cases.
July 2022
A female sergeant was found dead at a dormitory of the 20th Fighter Wing of the Air Force Tuesday morning.
The sergeant was part of the same unit as Sergeant Lee Ye-ram, who took her own life in May last year after claiming that she was sexually abused by a male colleague.
Military authorities have launched an investigation to determine the exact cause of death of the sergeant.
Has anyone followed up on this? Another female sergeant death at the SAME BASE?
this is so messed up.... omfg
WTF? And the corruption continues
Holyshyiieeet
It will never change if the consequences are so lenient to the perpetrators. Military criminal cases are heart wrenching
Is there an article for this? and name of the soldier?
47:31 it’s hurts seeing Stephanie cry she’s usually so strong on these cases but seeing her breaking into tears just makes me hate cases like this
For people who prided themselves on serving their country, they were so quick to become the most 'bottom of the barrel' people within it. Thank you for sharing, and my heart goes out to Yeram, her husband, and her family.
That's so true. So very true. Their suppose to be clean cut people with morals to guide them. They have none of that.
You'll be surprised the kind of motives a lot of people signed up to be a soldier. Even though SK has mandatory service, I sincerely doubt the motives would change that much between the countries.
@@liltunwin The US doesn't and look how many creepy men are infested there.
reminds me of that one US soldier who openly stated on twitter that playing hogwarts legacy was comparable and equal to killing a child. they literally openly admitted to participating in killing children when they were deployed (in syria i think) on twitter and tried to defend themself when they were rightfully getting attacked left and right for BEING THAT INSANE and openly advocating the skewed system that the US military has. they acted as if they had no choice but to participate in it, when compulsory conscription does not exist in the US. all this because of a literal game….people really are fucked in the head
Military is most of the time legal criminals they kill when they're told to do even if the others did nothing simply they kill Arzon and destroy civilization for a living and through history you can't separate rxpe and army. So what did you expect the system is f
it’s not often that a case affects me so emotionally like this one did. it was truly disgusting what happened to her and what she had to deal with. her family is so loving the “힘들었지“ really got me. rip yeram we will always remember you
every case effects me which is why i never really listen to cases
what does that korean word mean?
@@cookiedough124 it's what Yeram's brother said at the end the song, “힘들었지“ / "himdeul-eossji" or "it's been hard, right?" It's so emotional the whole story got me 😭😭
😢❤Rip😢❤
It always disgusts me when assulters say things like "dont ruin my life by reporting me..."
NO!! They ruiend their OWN life by being a disgusing S**ual assulter and predator. Its SO gross.
It is beyond my comprehension when people actually try claim that simply saying what someone has done is what's ruining their life and not the thing they did 😭
Are you getting the "female rage"
@@neonboy1998 incel 🫵
@@neonboy1998 ew
@@Alenasmusic-g3m ikr why would she even let him touch her no wonder you don't get the female rage
I tried to watch this three times, I've watched all of your other videos. I guess i knew it would hurt. But...to know im not the only one that went through a very similar experience was helpful. I was brutality assaulted by my boyfriend in the Army. He broke several bones in my face and arms. I was made to feel exactly like her. Everyone hated me. I was ostracized from Everyone. The problem girl. I almost almost killed myself in Iraq with my weapon 6 months later. It was the worst thing that I've ever had to do to live through it. Its been almost 20 years, and I still can't move on completely. Thank you for covering her story. Because it's our story.
💔💔
This is why I tolerate revenge. Justice, sometimes, is against the victim but when the victim becomes the criminal they're punished. What if someone assaults the perpetrator?
Exactly especially when you go to people for help and they all turn you away you deserve justice you should get it no matter what
I do see your point on revenge but disagree about justice. Justice is not against the victim the system wearing a mask pretending to be justice is.
I would’ve fully supported her had she decided that his life was better to take rather than her own
Sorry to the family of someone who will assault me because it won’t go to trial, it will be straight to the assailant’s funeral.
You mean law. Not justice. Justice is the much desired yet rarely achieved outcome. That said, I do agree. Not only do I agree with you, I'll take it up a notch and say revenge is needed.
We're taught an almost religious ethics when it comes to law, that has no intention to establish justice. Touting revenge as something bad could never bear goodwill and intent, it's all designed to stop people from seeking for their rights in the most effective way. We haven't come this far as a species by turning the other cheek on our way up this evolutionary ladder. No. Revenge is simply backlash that is meant to teach. The one who takes revenge cools down and can move on with their life faster, and this makes them more productive, too. Yes, but that's only an additional outcome. What revenge does is to make the perpetrator pay. And it's when we pay that we learn, unfortunately. That's how it is with all beings, because that's how the brain decides what to learn among a sht ton of stuff to learn. Because learning itself is a very costly endeavor.
This is not an isolated incident. Absolutely tragic for Yeram and disturbing how far things have to go for people to finally see things NEED to change. Thank you for working hard to cover this case so well🙏🏼
At first I thought this was the lavena Johnson case. So sad that the same situation can occur in different places of the world. These women deserved better
Rest in peace to all our fallen sisters in the military.
Lee Yeram💞
Vanessa Guillén💓
Ana Basaldua 💕
And the ones we don’t know about 🙏🏼💓
I’m sorry the system failed you.
😔❤️ en Paz descansen
It’s truly heart wrenching …
I’m the military too bro… aren’t y’all’s jobs meant to protect the people?
Non-Muslim system... ☕
And for the ones that still alive but suffer in silence for Years 😢
I meet some of them
One of then even ... take her own life 😭 I didn't knew her but I saw her everyday and she was in the room next to me 😭
Im a 17 year old who was SAed by my step dad (who i considered my own dadas he raised me since i was babh)when i was 11, and it continued until I was 15 (i made a report with my grandma but its been by passed because "I'm menstruating so it means i know right from wrong" eventho i only said yes because I was afriad). I now live with my mom who still has contact with him because i have 2 younger sisters and he's their dad. When i tell you the feeling of that guilt because you know the person who hurt you is terrible. Im still going through this battle with my mental health regarding this topic and there are still times where i feel bad for even thinking about reporting the incident. This is the SICK world we live in where women's safety and entire life can be overlooked most times because the male dominated society thinks that a women's rights and life is nothing more than their measly "reputation"
U are brave please stay strong, I hope he gets locked up. His daughters aren’t safe with him
So sorry you have to endure this type of pain. I hope you fly high baby girl.
Hey I hope you're doing okay ... If you need a friend tell me
I feel so bad for her she worked so hard to build her career just for these sick men to end it :(
Very sick men and a sick world we live in
I just had this conversation with my brother who's in the army, I brought up what happened to Vanessa Guillen and he said "she shouldn't have slept with a hirer up" like... Wait even if she did it willingly.. that's no excuse to murder her??? And all he had to say was "you make stupid choices stupid things happen". Knowing he's in the military . Hearing him say this broke my heart. He's always been off and a bit odd but this was something I never expected to come out his mouth. Like
Show him this video
Right, so in this case “stupid things happen” = being murdered. Yeah, tell your brother that he’s a cunt ✌🏽 (no offense to you)
@PlasticIsHealthy exactly... That's what I'm saying .. where did I ever say he was innocent? Lol I grew up with this person he's never expressed this opinion before. I've always just assumed he was tough and strong considering we have a good family and raised to be strong and independent. He's a rogue one and now that I'm an adult I can see the corruption. That's EXACTLY my point??? Learn to read.
@@44H44 I shall, but that's the thing I called him suspicious and that I wouldn't be surprised if he was a predator himself and now he wants an apology so .. lol he won't open anything I have. He won't have the conversation. He plays victim too which is double standard so idk I gave up on him.
@PlasticIsHealthy you can suspect someone's weird and still be surprised by their actions. its not that deep bruh
I will never believe that she killed herself. The military killed her at the new base so the rapists wouldn't be accused of murder. Her own family was probably threatened/ fed false evidence. It was so easy for the military to fake suicides and you're right they have done it all over the world. My prayers and love go out to all the victims and families. The strongest and most brilliant people have been targeted. We've got to make changes. Thank you all for seeking justice and bringing this to light. Bless you all
I truly thought the same thing. She was saying good things to husband the day before. I'm not saying that what she didn't go through wasn't stressful however I do find it weird they would have tht cute text messages exchange then kill herself
I think so too ..from what i listen from this video , she’ s a very strong womann …it’s weird that she shuddenly sui*ide after her happy day . I bet they try to silence her to avoid future problems …. She does not deserve that ..this world is so fked up
@@preciousjohnson1433 most people who commit are usually seen as happy on the day before they do it because they know that they've made their choice. it's morbid, yes, but true. there's also the chance that she wanted her husband to have a fond last memory of her before she did it. but still, I agree that her death is suspicious, im just saying that the option of her committing isn't /that/ unreasonable.
@@Rae-ss1df It's not unreasonable at all however the odds of her making plans with her husband for the next day is slime to none. The statistics of that are practically zero I complete understand why its suspicious but also how it is possible that she did it. I just wanted to add this interesting fact.
Eh I served in the Army and unfortunately this isn’t the 1st time I’ve heard of a female sexual assault victim taking her own life. Think about the position she was in. She publicly accused a superior of sexual assault so I promise the whole unit knew through word of mouth. Meanwhile they’re making her out to be a liar. These are people she has to see all the time. If it’s a regular job then she could just shut out when she gets home. Completely different when you live on base. The whole base including your building is military. The people in her building were probably from her same unit. Also guess what in the military you can’t just quit and leave. She was stuck there no matter what.
The fact that she continued to fight in the military of a country and aid a country which mentally tortured her to the point that she committed suicide
As somebody who was sexually assaulted, impregnated, and forced to go through with the pregnancy and then give up the baby for adoption at just 14 years old, this absolutely broke my heart. I fully understand where she was mentally and how hard that struggle is. My attacker was somebody I thought was a close friend and because he was a star student and soccer player who had a full ride scholarship from a well known and wealthy family in a very small town/county, everybody thought I lied about it and tried to make me stay silent about it. After roughly 2 years of court battles and constant threats and trauma, he was only given a 13 week sentence with leave for college because I was too terrified to testify in front of him and his family in trial. He absolutely destroyed my entire life and the only reason I didn't take my own life after it happened was because I couldn't stand the thought of ending the baby's life because it wasn't their fault. I still to this day have some really rough days years later with my depression and PTSD from everything I've gone through even with the help of therapy.
We need to do so much more as a whole to help victims across the board. Not just victims of assault, harassment, murder, or false incrimination, but all victims. With so many terrible obstacles in our paths of justice and recovery, it is nearly impossible to come out on top and live as a normal human being at the end of it all. Yes there are therapies and groups and organizations out there to assist but at the end of the day what happens when the justice system fails the victims? What happens when victims are silenced and shoved to the side and treated like they don't exist? These are questions that we all at least have a good idea of the answers but the terrifying truth that only the victims fully understand is so overlooked.
I want to say thank you so very much to everybody who does stand behind victims and supports them through everything. I want to say a huge thank you to Rotten Mango for speaking on these topics and shedding light on the harsh reality of these things. I honestly don't know where I would be right now if I didn't have my close support group who does know everything and have seen it first hand. Please take care of each other and do your best to make sure you understand their situation and do what you can to help. Sending love, peace, and healing to the victim and their family in this case and all victims and families out there suffering.
I’m so sorry. I will keep you in my prayers
This is so horrible I mean, I don't understand why this subject of SA is taken so lightly by so many people when it's a really important case which should be investigated and looked through more and instead they just kept making Yeram think she is the villain all this time.
But also for ur own situation I am so so happy u didn't take any rapid decisions into taking ur own life because u cared so much for the baby at ONLY 14. I am 14 rn and I seriously think I would have been a whole mess if I was in that situation ur so strong I am so amazed rn ❤️
I’m sorry
Do you wish you had kept the baby yourself?
Did you check on the baby ? Or looked what's he's/she's doing ?
the conversation with her husband made me cry. It really shows how its all about gender, status, and power and not because she’s human .
Yeah ton of pic female s xually ha rassed nak ed boy on circum (since ww1 at many country) doesn't matter
Only ton of male thief been str ip nak ed were female jokes, photos (female pe d0 can relax)
The worst part about this is that she fought so hard, she was so brave until the very end. She pushed back with all her might yet the world was too cruel to her. I hope she’s at a better place.
An apology without any action (like quitting your job) isn't "apologetic." It's hypocritical.
This also happened in my country. My friend was physically assaulted by her then husband who is in the Army. When she filed for divorce, she was brought to their base, and basically intimidated by his WHOLE friends to drop the charge. They said it will look bad on her husband’s image (D’UH!!!!! 🙄).
My friend basically said she doesn’t care. She has prove and will still file the report. The intimidation lasted few hours, my friend was shaking but she’s such a strong badass woman!!!
She is now happily divorced, living her life, and thriving in her career ❤❤❤
I'm glad for your friend, she had to endure so much
This is infuriating.
I hope her husband is doing ok. I can imagine him being bullied by his seniors too.
The justice system failed us again I can’t believe that the abuser barley got any punishment is so disappointing especially the appealed judge lowering the sentence to the other abuser because they “apologized” is absolutely ridiculous may Yeram rest in peace and condolences to her family and her husband❤️
It always has
I always think about how easy pedophiles get a slap on the wrist..... And all the men taunting her are all like the assaulters (the ones harassing her). Pisses me off
@Ashley Marie all the people who have wronged her will face their karma one day. Every one of them.
Totally agree! So "suspish" ~Bailey Sarian 🤔
Justice is the sugarcoated word the government wants its citizen to believe that it runs on. What we have is a legal system and it's a spectrum of sht show across the world.
i sobbed so hard during this case. this is so horrible, and i feel so bad for Yeram. she was a beautiful, strong and intelligent woman. Thank you for making this, Stephanie.
i think the reason why she took her life RIGHT AFTER she got married is because she wanted to stop the suffering with a happy ending to remember. She probably knew she couldn't bare anymore even if her husband will be with her at work, she was too tired and lost in hopes that all she wanted for the end is to spend some time with her loved partner and have good memories so she wont be taking her life with only sadness to think
Her new husband would also now be able to get her death benefits and any inheritances. So sad.
Yeah, it gave me the vibe that she tried to squeeze as much joy and happiness out of life as she could, but after the high of the wedding was over, the perspective of going back to the "darkness" was too much.
I am a sexual abuse victim. I was raped and molested by my stepfather. I was accused of lying about my abuse by my mother. I completely agree that sexual assault and abuse is looked at like it is not severe. I am still in recovery. Thank you for this video, and informing people about how severe sexual assault is.
I believe you. qq
I#m so sorry to read your post and i really can relate to that. ... my mother told on the phone shed know everything, and told the police she woudnt know anything. I recorded the call, but coudnt make it an evidence for its not legal to record without letting people know. My stepdad can go on harassing maybe raping others, as a principle of a school full of teens... i didnt do that for me - i did it for them... since then i lost my family, friedns everyone, living alone since 7 years not even going into my own basement alone...
I really hope you can recover from what you suffered, and i moreover hope you have friends or relatives, people close to your heart that you can rely on.
Please don't loose hope, promise? *hugs*
I hope you find peace and know you are strong
i believe u i hope karma gets to him and u find peace 🌱
@@Laghagua promise
I definitely cried during this one for sure especially when you were reading her and her husband's last text exchange. What an amazing man for wanting to protect her as much as he could... this poor woman I can't imagine having no support except from her husband and family.
Ugh the tears 😭. The passion you have for these stories truly makes you the best at what you do! The ending had me bawling!
i’m studying aerospace engineering in college and this sort of thing terrifies me. i’m a 17 yr old girl and i’ve already been harassed by my predominately male classmates and to think that women do not escape that behaviour makes me so so sad.
Are you alright, both physically and mentally? I’m a victim of S/A as well, so I understand the fear. ❤
Please make sure to document everything if u can
Quit the army before you too get SA. Many men in the army are sick in the head.
I actually recommend training in a martial art. Being able to physically defend yourself would give you another layer of defense. Just remember to not hold back should you need it
@@TheSuicune7 i’m trained in martial arts and boxing, this just absolutely chills me about the aerospace industry and military.
This made me cry so much. I'm a sexual assault victim and I couldn't imagine this having happened with my case. I was so fortunate that my offender was sentenced to 90 years in prison. I pray for Yeram's family.
DAMNNN 90 YEARS IM SO HAPPY FOR UUU
i wish every rapist got 90 years
90 years??? GOOD, as they should always get tbh. I hope you're healing dude 💙
God i am happy for you that bastard deserved a lifetime prison or even better death sentence! No rapist or abuser deserves to live after giving the victims a lifetime trauma and mental pain
@@jazzspider8569 very slowly
I'm getting very emotional as I imagine Yeram exchanging sweet messages with her husband whilst fighting her own battle. She's having a hard time and so broken inside but still trying hard to be happy and appreciate everything her husband and her family does for her. She's been trying to cope up but failed to hold on.
I'm sorry for all the shit you went through, Yeram.
That part broke me too.
I full on bawled at that part. It absolutely killed me knowing that while she was sending those, she was mentally exhausted to a very extreme extent. i can’t even imagine the pain that woman went through. everyone around her, who were meant to keep her safe, failed her.
This is heartbreaking. How emotional you get telling the stories always brings me back to this channel. You all try hard to get the facts right but also you Stephanie allow yourself to be emotionally invested in these cases. Take care of yourself and thanks for the content! This video helped me get my week's meal prepping done!
She’s not my sister by blood but my sister through womanhood, I hope the evil individuals involved remember how they failed her!
What is womenhood?
Knowing the culture, I wouldnt be surprised if they think good riddance
i need this as a flag, as a lifestyle, and as a world wide brand. i am getting revoltingly sick of all the evil and lack of positive progression >( we all are. always speak up and seek justice OUT LOUD, blame the perp. zero tolerance for evil, PLEASE.
@@green_hedger_68you’re just being an asshole. i saw your reply under another comment where a woman said the man who assaulted her got sentenced 90 years, that their sentence was “too harsh”. are you a rapist? why are you against it? why are you passive aggressively asking what womanhood means? women standing together offends you because you want us to be weak and take advantage of us
@@green_hedger_68. If you have to ask, your either a male or clueless. If you honestly don’t know, I apologize.
as a victim of rape myself, she is honestly I hero to me. I cannot imagine going through the ridicule she had to endure for so long. she did the best she could and she will always be remembered by people like us❤
😭this is heartbreaking. Can ANY era just treat women like living beings?!!
You are a hero as well that you are here supporting other women. You are a survivor ♥️♥️♥️
As a female US Army Veteran, I totally get this whole case. I can't lie..this case was hard to hear as someone that's been there. The difference I stayed silent and many do because of everything that happened to her. For those on the outside it's exactly and almost 10x worst what she went through because it's the "Good Old Boy" system. Unfortunately some things never changed. My sincere condolences for my sister in arms. I salute you, fly high angel ❤
I salute you too.
“44 Days Of Hell”
“20-22 Days Of Hell”
“81 Days Of Hell” .
Me: *crying*
Those men want to protect a country but cannot even keep their hands of the women that want to protect it with them. Imagine what those men would do once they get the chance to be on forgine ground around forging women to fight a war. Yes Imagine the more vulnerable women and what they would do to them and their children.
Ugh, men🤢🤮, I swear their just 🤡
this is so true. if they can do it to women in their ranks, what more to women who have never gone training, in short, vulnerable women.
@@Danielui817 we know this, but the 'good' men don't speak up enough and continue to make excuses for their buddies. that's why these terrible men are so emboldened to do what they do.
@Rishi Kailash
Ya but it’s enough women to end their life, and now have severe mental and physical scars.
Don’t have to imagine. It’s happened in every war
This case is absolutely devastating. I literally can't stop crying right now. Why does being a woman so hard? Why can't people treat us like actual human being?
The fact they were more concerned about the perpetrators reputation than her being sexual assaulted is just so so sad. Does every victim need to kill themselves to get justice?
Because the perpetrators are animals. If the males that disrespected her were humans, they wouldn’t have disrespected her, in the first place. Korea needs to understand that it isn’t a respectful country, since they clearly don’t respect women and girls. Even though the male gender is the gender that statistically comm!ts most cr!mes, everywhere, so if a gender deserves to be casually disrespected, then that gender is the male gender. Only a male that is gu!lty of r@pist behavior would find it difficult to treat women with genuine respect. So all those males are exposing themselves for being r@bid r@pists, since they are showing disrespect to their mother’s gender. People, if you agree, scr33nshot and share, for more people to know this
@@ambermoon1401 bro what?? wtf is wrong with you. you act like people can’t be emotional/emotionally connected to something. its called having empathy.
@@ambermoon1401 that’s such a such a weird to say i hope you know that. also, stop assuming things. the op is probably just sympathizing with the victim.
@@ambermoon1401 what an idiotic and baseless thing to say 😂🙄
@@ambermoon1401 so being empathetic automatically equals depression?
Listening to this bring me back all my trauma and make me wanna cry all over again. I was sexually assaulted by my brother for years and when I finally tell my father what he said to me was “that’s how men are when they go through puberty” i was lost of word, respect, and so disgusted I cried for hours that day till I lost my voice. I can’t believe someone like that is my father. I can’t believe these people even related to my by blood I was so disgustedI wanna die.
I'm so sorry. He should've never said something like that and I'm sorry both your brother and father are not men you could count on. Please take some time to do/watch something that makes you feel uplifted after this
Do we have the same father because that’s EXACTLY what my father said too. Add to that “you’re the older sister, be more understanding” - to being sexually assaulted… ok. Later on I get assaulted by my cousin, and I’ve learned not to tell my father or anyone in my family anymore. Still haunts me to this day.
@@aquarius489 Thank you so much I continue watching Stephanie videos instead lol
@@hannardee omg I'm so sorry this happened to you. It shouldn't even matter if you're older or not. They always victim blame and try to make it like our experiences were meaningless and we're overreacting. In my situation, I'm a younger sister, and the power dynamic at the time I couldn't say anything I was just 11. I told my dad when I was 21 and at the time my brother was kicking me out of the house so much happened and yet that's what my dad said. I didn't even wanna hear anyone mention their name anymore.
@@Whosthisbyul Hey as long as it makes you happy lol
i’ve watched this video at least four times since it’s came out. it’s genuinely the most heartbreaking story i’ve ever heard-it brings me to tears every single time. yeram, you beautiful soul, i hope you’re resting well. although the ones who were supposed to protect you failed, there are hundreds of thousands of us who support you and think about you. you deserved so much better. you were and are still so loved. rest well❤️
As a sexual assault survivor this hit home on so many levels, I was too afraid to file a policial report because of this very reason, I’m so sorry for Yeram and all the women who lost every hope because of these horrible people. 😔 I can’t believe that Yeram had to die to receive this little justice.
Ditto
Ok now stf*
Me too. Yeram was SO strong to do this when she was still around these people constantly. She had a faith in justice that I sadly didn’t have, and it breaks my heart to know how little her faith was rewarded.
Also, I hope you doing okay.
Gentle hugs dear survivor sisters. ❤️
@@AlyceMalyce🥰😘
Going from a 15 year sentence to a 2 year sentence is the craziest thing ever
Typical SKorea judges. It is repeated over and over.
This story is so heartbreaking. I cant imagine being in a workplace environment like this and feeling so trapped. Everyone there failed her. Im also empathizing with her husband. He sounds like a great guy and he lost his love. A wonderful woman lost her life and so many people should be in jail over this
Stephanie please cover the Preston Lord case! Citizens think local PD isn’t doing enough! Bring some attention to Preston’s story.
I was SA on a air force base by a airman. My first date ever, my first time.
He tricked me to go to his barracks and pretended that he had to take a shower. This is after the first two dates of him taking hours to get ready, got a haircut, friends came by- so I’d end up just leaving. I remember telling my sister if he does this BS tonight I’m never going back.
After He came out of the shower in a towel he raped me.
I was ruined, panic attacks, I quit my summer job, and begged to go home.
After going home I kept having attacks, wouldn’t shower, hid under my bed, put tape over my windows, I would freak out whenever I saw holes or like construction work in the ceiling or lights flickering- I think it was because while he raped me I intensely remember staring at the ceiling and it was dark until the tvs lights flashed or flickered. Idk. until finally my then army enlisted boyfriend got me to tell him what happened. My sister and brother in law who serve on the same base called the FBI. They came to my house and recorded him saying he did it. I thought it was over. It wasn’t. The worst part is what’s the Untied states Air Force did to me. They took it to trial with a jury of his peers other servicemen whose sole objective was to not let this get out. They contacted or either just my ex telling his father ,who was a high ranking member of the army- he told his son to not testify bc it would ruin his career, they hazed and bullied my ex to the point he was afraid to testify. He laid in bed with me before the trial and cried and I never knew why. What ever they did or said to him made him get up and say that he didn’t notice a difference after I returned home. Even though the the reason I broke down and told him was because I had declined so fast he begged me to tell. I hated him so much after he was found not guilty. I blamed my ex. Then after he started to get depressed, dropped out of the military, and became an alcoholic- he finally told me whatever they did to him and him not protecting me, ruined him.
My lawyer didn’t bring in the military family I worked for that summer as a witness - who actually was a lawyer, they didn’t let my sister or brother in law testify- they are a high ranking military family, no doctors, or my mom who had to clean me up after I’d go into panic attacks so bad when she’d leave I’d crawl in a corner and wet myself, none of my brother in laws friends who were in the military, no one else I told. ONLY my ex- who couldn’t look me in the eyes after. The sad part is I feel bad because I blamed my ex soooooo much- not knowing that something happened to him that was so bad he said he would never tell! He literally dreamed his whole life about being a soldier like his dad! He threw it away and spends his day searching for the bottom of a bottle. He was my first love, I’ve never loved anyone like I loved my ex- we were both ruined by one man.
After he was found not guilty my sister and I received over 5 emails or messages from women he did the same thing to. They shipped him to another base overseas where he did it again.
Guess what our government did- honorable discharge of a rapist.
I have never been the same. Just waking up, smiling, having a child, breathing all hurts.
It’s better now but I would be lying to say that I didn’t have many days where I thought about……. Letting go.
I rethink it all the time: I did everything right, I wore sweats and a shirt and a jacket. No skin showing, I was inexperienced and didn’t talk about sex, he meet my sister and brother in law, bragged about my crazy ex cop father to scare him, my sister even took a picture of his license plate, I didn’t lay on his bed- just barely sat on the edge. That was it! My mother always said don’t sit on a man’s bed alone in his room.
I became obsessed with the idea that I messed up. It was my fault. My mom told me!
It doesn’t matter now- it’s been 16 years and I’m still sitting here at my desk crying and blaming myself.
He took a part of me and left the rest broken. Then a few years later a family friend destroyed what was left.
At least a good splash of makeup, a fake smile, and some well placed bad jokes hides it from everyone.
Edit: Thank you all so much for you’re replies and support! I went for years and never shared this with anyone outside of my close family members. Just knowing that there are good people out there and other survivors makes me stronger everyday!
🕊️☮️🫶🏽
I'm so sorry that happened to you 🥺 you will overcome this. Trauma doesn't go away but you learn to cope
So it was your first date and y'all left work together to go straight on the date so he asked you to come to his house so he could shower on your date? Was he going to take you home so you could get ready? Was he planning on being at your house while you showered?
@@keyanddracaryskillua6187 no I spent the summer on my sisters base. I met him at the shop on base. He asked me out.
I introduced him to my family and we planned a date for the next night.
I actually walked over there and while we are at his barracks the first night his friends came over. I really didn’t notice but it was almost like they were stalling. They were asking weird questions, staring at me, some would come to the door and look in. I thought it was just like a “new girl” type of thing. I had a certain time I had to be home so after I got bored I left.
He did This a second night and I believe we met at the basketball court and walked to his barracks for something and he pretended to be to tired to go out. Again I wouldn’t stay past the time I promised my sister I’d be back. The third night I was clearly upset and unhappy because it was kinda feeling weird but I didn’t know why. I initially turned him down but then he offered to pick me up and promised we’d go out. I remember telling my sister if we don’t go out I’m never going back.
He picks me up, but In his uniform. He says he has to go back to his barracks and change. He takes a quick shower and walks out in a towel and I’m kinda sitting on the edge of the bed clearly uncomfortable. I kinda get fidgety and say I’ll step outside while you change but he dropped the lights and attacked me.
He kept me there for awhile after but I was able to get him to take me home because I kept pushing the idea that my sister and brother in law would come looking for me. They had his license plate, a picture, his address, and knew his commander.
He drove me around base explaining to me how to lie to them, how to act, to shower and promised if I didn’t tell we would go out to a really nice place.
Come to find out from 2 other soldiers he had actually done the same thing. He would lie about a reason to go to his room, stall and get them to stay late in order for his roommates to leave or be gone and then rape them. They had heard of more civilians this group of fellas would do it to.
They would get them drunk sometimes, or if they’d visit multiple times they would tell the girls well you came over here multiple times, you’re drunk, my fellas saw you flirting with me, no one will believe you.
I guess it was some kind of sick joke or bet or tally they were keeping.
I’m so sorry you didn’t revive the Justice you deserve. In no way did you do anything wrong. I hope you get some semblance of peace
@@Poetic.rectum thank you for saying that.
I come back to this post almost every day and think about removing it! I’ve never told anyone outside of my family. Lately I’ve been commenting under videos like this. It’s my hidden little way to heal. The shame and guilt is the worst part. It’s an endless cycle of feeling bad about what happened and then feeling worse because you’re feeling bad! It’s weird.
But I have found that strangers online who you’ve never met can sometimes be a small support group.
I’m really glad that you’re pointing out the misogyny in Korean and some Asian cultures in general. Of course this exists in most cultures and more overtly but it’s something that needs to be talked about. We as people need to recognize the difference between culture and social conditioning. We as women deserve better. And the men who are raised in these types of social conditions deserve better as well.
Absolutely. If misogyny is recognised and accepted as a part of the *culture* - the part that one should be proud of and pass down to future generations - then that culture has been poisoned. Culture should not be at the cost to another person’s life and well-being. This has no place in society.
@@Liliarthan 💯% agree.
The level of respect you show is so refreshing. Your ability to story tell is so awesome.... you keep their stories alive.
Right!? Some of the larger creators feel the need to and often do exclude their empathic emotions due to negative comments. Please never change Stephanie! 🙏 🧡
As a survivor of one sexual assault that lasted 7+ months, I feel why she felt the need to take her life. I feel why she felt she had no other way out. The pain feels like it’ll never end. I never had the strength she did to report it though and I think that’s why I didn’t have as hard of a time pushing through. When I admitted another time that a female sexually assaulted me (separate from the first mentioned) and I took police action they gave her a pat on the back and told me to stop being so sensitive. I was 16 with physical disabilities so severe I couldn’t do anything to stop her but scream and cry for help while people watched and laughed until someone outside of the classroom came in because they heard me screaming and dragged her off of me. As I was putting my clothes back together and running to the bathroom my teacher just sat there and laughed at me as I ran away crying
I hope that you are doing better❤
Love from a random stranger
The Korean military failed her, the fact that these people more or less got away with not only the assault but to be bullied to that extent 😭 truly heartbreaking.
So vulgar and disgusting, they need to be held accountable on a national stage.
I hope they will be exposed and removed from any kinda power.
World in unfair places u can deal with it or kill ur self if u can’t handle the life people say how is sergeant fault but I think she is selfish litter prick girl she kill her self cause she wanna easy escape of life but all she left behind her is pain and suffering to people who know her in real life
As much as I want that to happen, I feel like sadly it wouldn’t. Because. The ones that’s really in power can get away so easily
I was raped a few months ago and I honestly couldn’t finish this podcast. I was a virgin not that it matters. At the end of the day, being taken advantage of and assaulted without permission really changes you. My heart aches for Yeram. I am in the process of getting justice from my perpetrator but this really is emotionally draining. I can seriously understand her and gosh, her last few texts made me cry. I had to stop listening after and I’m not sure if the perpetrators got any punishment but shit, if I can help the family in any way I want to. Someone lmk if there’s anything out there for her family so I can help.
I'm so sorry hope you'll able to get yourself the justice you deserve ❤️❤️
So sorry to hear that bout you, i hope you are doing ok now
May uh get Justice in sha Allah
i'm so sorry that happened to you - my heart aches for you just as it does for Yeram. i hope that you are able to heal, treat yourself with kindness and gentleness, and feel comfortable again. you are so loved.
I’m so sorry for you, I hope that her soul rests in peace and I hope you get justice! Sending much love and hugs❤
You were a virgin too , that matters because your innocence were also taken without your consent.. am sorry I wish u peace and justice 🙏
The system failed her. I hope her family fights for her and every woman who goes through this. Not only did she get assaulted but for everyone to treat like she did and to be reminded of what happened. Condolences to her family.
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The system was outright _against_ her. "Failed her" implies they were in some way on her side.
No, the system worked exactly how it’s supposed to. The system is not made in a way that will ever help women.
Her family deserves better 😔
@Lina Aviles
It’s still fucked
When Stephanie broke down ....my tear wells bursted..... I'm so glad she had such a strong support system. I especially love the Husband. May her soul rest in peace ❤
The way that this case made me cry and the way that I cried even harder while explaining to my boyfriend what happened..truly this shows how evil people can be that it drives people to that final act. May she rest in peace and may those who failed her be haunted by this incident forever
One of the most bothersome parts is the perpetrators probably aren't bothered unless it's by karma or God or media. Who knows if this is even the first time they did this? Sometimes there are things that restore my faith in humanity, and then there's incidents like this that make me ashamed to be the same species. Changes need to be made and they're not happening fast enough...
As a woman in the U.S. Army being a woman in the military is so tough. When I had a situation happened to me it got swept under the rug. My heart goes out to her family. ❤️🩹
*woman
*Woman
1=woman singular
2 or more =women plural
??? Smh
@@looking4therealrepairmanjackis the SMH f*cken necessary? Mind you english is not everyones first language. Educate yourself.
So sorry this happened to you 😢.
@@ImBriskiBaby ❤️🩹
@@looking4therealrepairmanjack READ THE ROOM DUM AS
Thank you for all you do to help spread awareness to the continued struggles of women....
This story is from my sister's friend. She was a medic at army. From her room her macbook and underwears were stolen, no reporting helped, at the end she had to resign to protect herself. I don't know the nitty-gritty of the story but it's disgusting to think men like these are still serving the country
We had men stealing breast milk and drinking it in our company. It is pretty sick.
İğrenç bir durum kesin katil olurdum
@@midnull6009Wtf 😢 Korkunç
It’s so terrifying to be a woman. I hope your sister’s friend can find some peace and safety after that experience and I hope she knows there’s people who will be there for her and love her. I’m so sorry she went through that, it sounds horrifying.
What's sick is that men can get jealous of how much women in their field can outwork them, so they purposely harass women to drive them out.
I wasn't aware of this case thank you for sharing. This problem must be universal. This reminds me of Vanessa Guillen in the U.S. and recently another female soldier Ana Basalda Ruiz who'd complained of being sexually harassed at the same base as Vanessa was found dead too. Then an older case of LaVena Johnson who was found dead but they ruled it a suicide and they found evidence of rape and battery so it may have been a cover-up. I can't imagine the horrors in South Korea where it's even more male dominated since it's mandatory there AND a patriarchy/Confucian hierarchy-based culture too.
i have a male friend who was sexually assaulted in the korean military about a decade ago. Around that time the military shooting happened
He's still traumatized, and said it's not rare for men. I can't imagine if it's bad for men what it's like for women
I love how compassionate she is . She speaks as if she knew her personally.
agreed. i really appreciate how she takes time to really delve into the people involved in the stories she shares, giving them their own story rather than painting them as victims and victims only.
31:57 "Don't ruin his life."
SIR YOUR SON RUINED HIS OWN LIFE
A woman don't have the right to say 'no' to her abusers, and a man that is found guilty of abuse has the right to be forgiven and to have his sentence lowered. It's so dystopian, yet this is the reality for all women and girls.
I hope every single person who pulled yeram through dirt, goes exactly what she went through to understand how much they made her suffer.
Rest in peace sweet yeram
No matter how many times they are put to justice, they will not realise and regret their mistakes out of the guilt of conscience. They are self righteous, hypocritic, lying, manipulating scum of the earth. The people supporting these kind of trash are just as equal scums. Regret and acknowledgement is only in stories...it's very rare to hear in real life...
As a woman these stories are so utterly heartbreaking and one of the reasons why a lot of SA cases don‘t even get reported because they know nothing will happen and they‘ll be the ones who will be even more criticized, get called liars etc.
Men‘s fear of getting falsely accused is so much less likely, it‘s a cruel world
Girl shut up women always falsely accuse men of rape
Men are so pathetic that they value false accusations over real cases of sexual abuse, and even then would they victim blame and shame women and even little girls for stuff THEY do.
I’m so glad UA-cam kept this video up it’s definitely something that needs to be talked about this happens way too often no matter the country
And today all those “ red pill “ men are on podcasts saying women shouldn’t have the right to vote, cause they’re not in military. But then once women are in the military, not only they’re openly sexist but also sexually abuse those women. I come from a family that all men served/are still serving. Most of my uncles were in the army, one is still in the navy, one was in air force ( I’m Polish btw ). Once I said I want to enlist to airforce all of them told me no. There was not even a discussion for them, they told me “ you’d just be a fresh meat for those animals, they are celebrated and seen as heroes, but you’d be surprised how much suffering they caused to their female colleagues “. And so I didn’t go. One look at their faces and I knew I can’t go.
I worked in logistics a couple of years ago. From 21-23. I was not only the youngest ( with huge age gap ), but also the only woman in my team. I left cause of bullying and sexual harassment I went through. 2 years later and I’m still dealing with physical and mental issues all that stress gave me. I’ve won a lawsuit against the company without even going to court, that’s how bad it was. I had so much evidence, medical evidence too, that they just wanted to settle outside of court. With some of the issues this situation gave me, I’ll have to deal with till the end of my life. So it really angers me, when I constantly hear that women should go out there and start doing the job that are men dominated and then demand their rights. Just shows how delusional the people, who preach it are.
And yeah, I did report it to my manager and senior manager, HR even multiple times. They didn’t care. They didn’t even fire those men, didn’t suspend them. Nothing. Those men eventually left for other jobs themselves. ( it happened in the UK )
Thank you for sharing your story and I'm so incredibly sorry. I hope you're in a happier, safer place in your life 🫂
so then let them vote but not conscript them, or push more women to conscript with the incentive to get voting privileges
Those men are potential menace to the society IMO.
@pronoybakshi9034 do you have difficulty reading?
She was so strong. Actually we didn't deserve her. I hope wherever she is, she's happy
The song at the end shows how much she was loved by her family
She was so precious to them
How they're gonna live with such a pain
@@Danielui817 probably meaning in the afterlife
This is definitely not just a Korea issue, my mother experienced similar treatment when she was in the US military from a group of her superiors. Well into my childhood she used to have nightmares and fear of these men coming after her, and has only found peace after learning her main abuser died in the early 2000s. It’s hard not to resent the system, seeing how it treated her when she was just 21. It’s true that women often have to die for sexual assault to be taken seriously.
Nobody said it was, ever. It is an issue in Korea. That's your mom's story, not yours to tell.
This one made me cry too. It feels like there’s not just one victim. Her family, her friends, her fiancé, every assault victim, every woman even.
Every step of the way it’s a slap in the face to over half the population.
My father has horrible PTSD from the Korean Army, the disgusting sick evil stories my daad told me about the Korean military ....I can only imagine what she went through ...I would never ever allowed her to join based on what I know about the Korean military...Man, Im sad RIP beautiful one Lee Yeram
Can u PLL tell me some of these stories please.
@@ItikaManhas why would this person live through all of it so you can just ready "juicy stuff"? go get a life
@@merisav4171They could be a child, some are curious. Don’t be so rude.
There’s a drama about this called D.P . I know it’s just a drama but it shows the hardships that they go through in the military
Stephanie: you did Yeram justice by raising awareness to her case. I didn’t know about her, but now I do, so thank you very much for that. ||| Stephanie’s Editor: thank you for listening to my previous request about not putting sad music when Stephanie talks about the victim’s SA. You did very well, and were very respectful to beautiful Yeram. Thank you.
I’m gutted for her and her family. This is beyond tragic. She suffered and died needlessly. How on earth is her husband coping? Is he still in the military? I wish they would pass some kind of law and name it after her. She deserves to be honored.
Her husband is a king. He did everything he could to support her and protect her. This is so heartbreaking. RIP sweet lady, you will be remembered ❤
I was SA in high school. It was my sophomore year and it was someone I trusted so much in my military program. He SA me multiple times and no matter how much I told the school or police I was blamed for my “clothing”. It’s been 5 years and I have extreme PTSD to the point where I’m scared of leaving my home. I understand how Lee Yeram feels and why she took her life. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever been through in my life. Rest in Peace to Lee Yeram 🤍 I hope you are healing in heaven.
I am so so sorry. And amen . May you heal too. May you find peace and may all the abusers get karma
We support you im so sorry hearing this. You have strength and i truly believe you will pull through with all the traumas ♥️💖
I’m sorry you went through those awful and painful things. I’m so proud of you for pushing through this and for being so strong. You’re so loved ❤️
@@Coco56539 thank you so much 🫶 you’re so kind
This poor woman's story reminds me a lot of the way I reacted to the human rights abuses I suffered in my career, just because I'm disabled. I had faith that the institution I respected would act morally and legally, but they didn't. I can attest to the way that breaks your heart. You trust your employer to behave properly and then they don't, they behave illegally and immorally. I have great respect for her for trying to stand up for herself.
They tell you go to work. The irony. You dont work bec of a disability, youre lazy. You work with a disability, they do this shit🙄
the fact she so so so believed that she would get justice just hurts so much more. a failure on the military.
Wow I love every content you make and I appreciate all the respect you give to each victim. This is the first time I ever actually cried from listening to your videos what they did to her was unforgivable 😞
I am bawling, it is so unfair how the victim is treated worse than the perpetrators. My heart breaks for Yeram, her family and her husband. Sending them strength and I hope for real Justice.
I rarely cried from a podcast since they usually lack the visual part and this episode really broke me. Especially at the end. I feel that my heart was suffucating from how much Lee Yeram must have feel due to being betray from all side. Thankfully her family and her husband is there at her side to the very end.
“…called the assaulter into his office, didn’t talk to her”
I heard this and immediately shook my head. This poor woman stood no chance, even from the moment she got into that car with all of her drunk seniors. It’s so painful knowing that she had so few people on her side that she felt the only way out was to take her own life.
EDIT I AM FLOORED “this just happens in life” NO IT DOESNT
You’re not alone, this story had me in literal tears. As a member of the US military, I learned that stories like this are not rare at all, even here where we like to pretend that we are so forward thinking.
I’m actually bawling. She didn’t deserve any of this… she tried to stay strong and to that I applaud her. She would have done such amazing things if only Justice was served the way it should have. Rest in peace Yeram 💜